Funny you saying "Don't let a stranger on the internet talk you out of buying something you need." When influencers are strangers on the internet convincing people to buy stuff they don't need. Your deinfluencing is needed Shawna! Don't doubt yourself. You are a voice of reason!
this is so sweet, thank you! This is true that strangers are influencing us all the time. I'd just hate it if someone really felt like something would be good for them or important ex. the hair loss talk and then went oh, well shawna said don't do it so...
Booktuber here! (A tiny one, anyway.) You’re completely correct-promoting overconsumption is absolutely an issue in the book space, and I personally can’t get behind the idea that buying books is a separate hobby from reading. I’d add that viewers should keep in mind that the big booktubers are sent books from publishers for free (sometimes lots) in order to market them-owning a massive book collection is not the norm, and you’re not less of a reader for using the library or having a small collection 😊
I really love how much withcindy promotes library books and talks about not having many books. We can get taken in by beautiful shelves, but unless it's a rare book, you can usually get it from the library if you ever want to reread
Yes!!! I can find some popular recommendations from reddit at my local library! I love supporting what my taxes go to and it’s free! I also personally don’t like a collection because I would never reread a book so why would I keep the clutter for decoration?🙄😄
I mostly read comics but the same applies, I have a small library and some of the books I've bought I just liked the art and didn't care for he plot or are an actual saga I love and like to collect when I can afford. But most of the books and comics I've read I don't own, I borrowed or read in the library or online.
Sometimes I'll buy new books as a gift for a friend or specifically to financially support a living author that I like. Or sometimes I'll want a copy of a book so that I can foist it upon my friends and lend out a book I really love, like Kissing the Witch by Emma Donoghue or Giovanni's Room by James Baldwin. I've been really into librivox and public domain audiobooks lately; I listened to Anna Karenina and Dracula last year, along with some old timey rom-coms. I got all of the Toni Morrison novels on thriftbooks for $50 for a class, and when I was done reading them, I put them into a local Little Free Library because I lived in Texas and I knew that some people were pushing for her work to be banned from public libraries and schools. I loved those novels, so I gave them away. But I kept my favorite, which was Sula.
Well said! I'm doing a book buying ban for 2024 (although I have caved in four times and bought two books about politics and the impact of MSM, but it's an election year, so I can justify this as self development, one Italian textbook for self development and one fiction book for which I have no excuse). The number of books I have been influenced to buy is absolutely crazy and it got out of control in 2020 to 2023. I am trying to read what I have, not be influenced by new releases and then unhaul the ones I will never read again. I have enough to last 7 or 8 years and I'm not at all proud of that.
There’s something about this type of video that really gets me. It lets me window shop AND gives me a voice of reason so I don’t go through with the impulse. 😂❤
This is really that! I usually don't shop or buy unless I'm actually in the offline store (which thankfully i don't go to very often) so i don't have this problem with online shopping. I wish there could be someone like Shawna talking to me through my offline purchase impulses though 😂😂
I have 5 kids, summer toy purchasing never crossed my mind .I diy mud kitchens when my kids were young, made slip and slides with poly, homemade bubbles, we has garden boxes and the kids enjoyed learning how things grew,they took turns watering and weeding. Then helped with the harvest. We took paper and learned to make kites,went on walks and picnics at the parks. To this day my now young adult kids speak about how amazing summer were. Also great way not to purchase items I say to myself"What if this item did not exist would I still be ok".Have a lovely Day All.
I was usually sent to my grandparents in the summer (they had their own house just outside the city) and we did all the similar things, helping with the garden, helping clean the house for some pocket money, help repair the house/furniture, help grandma cook, tried sewing with grandma's help or just watch tv or play laptop games! We had even played pretend japanese sword fighting dojo woth aluminum sticks lying around or badminton for some activities! It's been many many years since my childhood, but these were interesting things to do for me both when i was 4-5 and 14-16!
When you spoke about hair loss, you hit on a topic that my age group deals with. Perimenopausal & menopausal women are extremely vulnerable to marketing for a thousand products because of our cultural fear of aging. It's almost impossible to not fall prey to it. The message, in short, is that once it becomes apparent that you are no longer young, you are irrelevant. The message is to FIGHT aging, at any cost. It's true. If women understood what they spend on their physical appearance over their lifetime, they would be shocked!🇨🇦♥️
They want old women to feel irrelevant because capitalism considered wisdom from the female perspective a threat. It also considers wisdom from any of the working class experiencing and surviving oppression a threat, which is why capitalism wants its workers to die young or fear aging, so that knowledge of how to avoid exploitation doesn't pass down to younger generations. Meanwhile billionaire men fantasize about how to live to be 200+ and travel through space. The double standards are ridiculous and it's part of why Republican states are trying to prevent laws against child marriage passing as well as lower the ages for child labor.
I really like them too! I particularly like that Shawna is genuine about it...there are a lot of "de-influencing" videos out there that are more geared towards getting you to buy an alternative.
one thing I love to do to help with clothes when I'm not feeling certain items I'll store them away in an old suitcase and dig through it with fresh eyes whenever I feel the need to buy something new
Regarding the book/e-reader thing. I LOVE the Libby app. It's free, you link your county/city library card to it and you have access to a digital library. And if Libby doesn't have what I want in stock, I'll check at the actual library. If they don't have it, then I might buy it used if I really really want to read it. If I go that route, I look at thrift stores.
The best thing is that you can have multiple library cards! Some libraries let you sign up for a card online so you don’t even have to go in person to get another library card and therefore access to more Libby books
You're so right on purchasing the same clothing over and over because "I know this works for my style" and feeling like it's a safe, smart purchase. But the reality is your wardrobe becomes one note and boring, and you feel like you have nothing to wear! So shopping the wardrobe gaps is much more useful!
Since I have started thinking about buying a house in future my mind has deinfluenced itself from buying so many things 😅😅😅. Also a self analysis lead me to realise that I do impulse shopping and working on my emotions and decentering other people from my life has helped a lot.
Love this for you. I just started renting in a very remote area that is hard to move out of, so now I always have to think about whether I will want to sell or somehow move an item when I move (which won't be for a few years, but still) - it's helping me pause a lot more.
@@pasitheathanatosasmr488 yes I am from India but seeing videos from all over the world has made me realise that housing crisis is a global problem in current economy. Me and my husband are worried how will we send our future children to good schools (govt school here are not great) and buy a house too as prices are increasing so so rapidly and even the houses that are too far away from main centers are becoming so unaffordable. And here in india most people are happy with just 2 bedroom and one hall and kitchen houses that are not very big but we are unable to afford even that. We can't even dream of getting big area houses with backyards like americans.
@@bandanarathore I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles. It’s tough knowing the housing crisis is everywhere, not just in India, but at least we’re not alone. Your feelings are valid, and I hope things get better for you and your community. Stay strong!
I need to be talked out of buying new or thrifted clothes. I love new clothes but I don’t need any and I’m now on a strict budget due to paying off debt.
I would absolutely love if you did a video on the addiction of Bath and body Works. I find it so fascinating. If you do some research, you will see the levels. The way they never bring scents back on purpose so people feel like they need to stock up on them, the constant release of new merchandise that people feel that they absolutely need. People have hundreds of body mists but every time they come out with new ones they have to have them. The coupon system, if they have a 10 off of 40 purchase people feel they have to go in and spend that 30 to get the 10 off the people behind-the-scenes at Bath and body Works are marketing geniuses and I think this would be such an interesting video. The amount of people that have hundreds and hundreds of candles and never feel Like it’s enough because they are constantly coming out with new ones that they don’t know if they’ll ever bring back so they have to go get. I have seen people set aside weekly budget for Bath and body Works. So they are paying their light bill, their cable bill, and Bath and body WorksBath and body Works is getting their money on a weekly basis. People who are in this quicksand would benefit from a video like this because they have no idea what’s happening to them.
These 30-60 minutes videos are so great and motivating for my chores power hour!😊 Today I’m folding the laundry and getting the dishes done, and sweeping the floor. What you have to say is IMPORTANT! I admire how you stick to your values even while others try to say they are “judgy”. Well, sometimes we all need the tough love😂 keep deinfluencing!
I totally agree. I think any naysayers who would call this type of content "judgy" would only be doing so because they know she makes good points. Not everyone is ready to look critically at what they're doing in life and make positive changes.
That’s how I like to do chores too. I find a video I want to watch and clean for as long as the video lasts. It really helps with my adhd productivity.
One of the biggest things I did, besides canceling my Amazon Prime account, was to actually buy things in store regardless if it cost me a little more. Physically putting stuff in a cart really put into perspective how much I'm buying. Plus by the time I get to the store and find the item, the desire to buy whatever it was is gone.
When speaking about kids, instead of buying toys and things that they will get bored of and/or will just cause more clutter or chaos in your home, look at family passes for zoos, water parks, children’s museums, or aquariums. If you are looking for free activities, see if your local park or library has weekly activities. Our local park has family movie nights with a projector for free!!! We go to the dollar tree and allow everyone to pick out 1 candy, and then we go and enjoy. We go to book readings every Tuesday during the summer at the library. There are also language classes for kids for free and crafts days. I take my kids to the farmers market and give them $5 to pick out produce and then we cook it together for dinner. Any experiences are going to be more of a memory making opportunity than a toy that will just end up in a landfill. One of our Christmas gifts each year is our family zoo membership, for example!
Not a parent but I do have a cat. I cycle her toys. Every 3 months or so I put up the ones that are out and bring out the ones that were put away. She thinks they are new so it keeps me from buying brand new ones and keeps the excitement going for her.
I love to see comments about people bringing their kids to the library. 🥹 Libraries have so many great programs and attending them is how the library gets to keep putting them on! ❤
This is so true. I remember as a kid some of my favorite summer memories was my mom randomly taking us to 7/11 for Slurpees on a super hot day. We hardly ever got sweets like that and Slurpees still make me reminiscent if I see someone have one/ I get one today.
My grandmother would buy me so many Xmas gifts. The entire living room would be covered. I remember one gift. One. I wish she’d taken us places instead. I remember those few times she did. I’d have more memories and there would be less junk in landfills.
The summer clothes sparked a realization in me - I often justify non-essential purchases because I want seasonal versions. I like cuticle balms so I justify having more than one by having one that has a traditional fall scent, another one that has a traditional summer scent, etc. Same with perfume, candles, purses...ahhh!
I love collecting books, i have for years. I've gotten a lot better at only buying books that I'm actually going to read, and then when I'm done, I give them to friends or put them in my local little free libraries. I love being able to look at books and reference them, but I get so much joy out of giving a book I really love to people I think will appreciate them that it really encourages me to give them up. I also tend to only buy books at thrift stores. Especially if a book is trendy, in 2 or 3 years it'll be all over the thrift store.
One thing about the kitchen items like a waffle maker that helped my family: when we want to make a recipe that necessitates something like a fondue set, we thrift one for about 6$ and when we are done the event, we clean and return it as a donation to the thrift store. We see it as renting an item for 6$ with an unlimited return period so it's nice to know we always have that option and then our kitchen cupboards stay much emptier. Another way to do these is to share these purchases with another home especially like a wafflemaker is something our family doesn't do that regularly so passing it around makes it more realistic and ensures we can have one when needed, and it actually is more encouraging to use it when it's for a limited time. This is even better if the purchase has already been made
Another thing to note about the book buying. I read a lot, like multiple books a week and I prefer to read romantasy. For that circumstance, it is cheaper to use kindle unlimited than it is to wait for books from my 5 library cards or buy them outright. That doesn't work for everyone but it is an option. Another thing, if you read mostly comics, libraries that have hoopla have collections just as good as the amazon comic subscription.
Yo, Mom of one 4 year old daughter. The park, early morning or cooler evening, before the sun sets. Indoor playgrounds, look them up, think Chuck'E Cheese, but without the casino. Family Game Night, make it a contest over the summer amongst the family and include parent vouchers. These vouchers include choice for dinner, one chore mitigated back to the parent, spedning alone time with the parent of choice, getting to choose the next game for family game night. Kids don't want much, but they love getting to have some say in things. Farmers Market, Movie Night at the Park, a water balloon fight at the park, the beach, movies. There is so much to do even at home and you just need to be open to spending time together.
I went through my closer and took out pieces I really liked and put them in a bin in my closet. When I get bored and want new clothes or to shop, I go to the bin and swap some things out. I get the thrill of something new that I enjoy without unnecessary spending. Just an idea😊
In addition to the e-reader and book issue, I'd like to add that you don't even really need to purchase a tablet version of Kindle either. Kindle has a free, legitimate app that works on computers and most phones. I don't know if this solution will help everyone esp. if spending in general is your issue, but I will say this: me personally, I find that looking at how much I'm gonna spend per book makes me second-guess buying any titles I know I won't read as soon as I finish whatever it is I'm in the middle of. My TBR keeps me on track as well, but I also know some people build TBRs for pretty much the same reason that they shop for books they'll never actually read-- simply because they can. Still, I hope this advice helps a few people out. My only other solution for getting digital books is finding online PDF files of titles I either don't want to own in *any* form, have been out of print for decades or aren't available in any other form except like, an expensive hardcover or something.
Love these videos! As far as the spf, I definitely agree that using up what someone has first is the best option. I think the thrill of something new can sometimes keep us fixated on things we haven’t tried before, so using up what we have first is a great option.
Yes, talk me out of buying the new Oden’s Eye blushes and highlighters! But not shampoo and conditioner. I am legit almost out, and will buy new ones! 🤪
I love scarves for both winter and summer. Something I've done the past year is wearing different colored long solid cardigans paired with a seasonal scarf and I highly recommend this as a way to spruce up your wardrobe without overconsumption. For example, I have a green cardigan that I wear with a lightweight floral scarf or a black and white patterned scarf in summer. I also have a black cardigan that goes with everything. Just don't go crazy buying scarves lol.
I was so excited to see you respond to my waffle question! Thank you so much, I love that 100 uses question, I had never heard it before, but it really gives you another way to look at things you want to buy. Thinking about it like that, there’s no way I would probably use it 100 times in my entire life, I tend to fixate and then bounce my attention around to something new shortly after getting or doing something. Thanks again, hope you’re having a great summer!
I'm so happy to hear it was helpful! I do this as well and the 100 uses question has helped me a lot with this too. Thanks so much for being a part of this community
Free kid stuff: playdates, public splash pads, libraries, free museum days, family bike rides, etc. when our kids were little, we did a lot of camping near water during the summer. Relatively cheap family vacation. In the beginning, we borrowed camping gear.
as someone who is not a parent, but was a little kid a lot more recently than most parents, what my mom used to do when I wanted a toy was make me earn it. (unless it was a holiday or my birthday ofc) I would find out how much money whatever it was cost, and then I would do small "jobs" around the house to earn money (weeding, dusting, etc, but specifically things that were not my usual chores. ((probably so that i didn't start asking to be paid to do chores lol))). one good thing about this was that it made me care more about the item when I actually earned it. I would be more careful with it and spend more time with it than i would with something I hadn't earned. [btw I do want to acknowledge that this is only a solution for families/parents who do have the money to spend on stuff like this]
My kindle was $30 on ebay; I use one of the old discontinued 3rd generations with the keyboard since I like to annotate my books. I mostly read fanfiction on it, as a little treat for turning of the screens before bedtime. It doesn't blast my face with blue light so it's really good for bedtime reading. Every few years I do something stupid and break the screen, but I'm able to get a new one since it's only $30. Now that Amazon took the old generations off the kindle store, I have to load books onto it via USB connection to the computer, but I really don't mind doing that. Highly recommend getting a much older e-reader if you're on a budget... they don't need a super powerful core processor to display text, you can hold thousands of books on a few GB of storage, and they're way cheaper. Thanks!
I want to say thank you for your amazing videos Shawna, they are informative and helpful. I'm extremely easy to influence buying stuff, and I have been struggling with a little bit of a shopping addiction lately because in my town the only entertainment is shopping or restaurants (there are barely any third places and most of them are for kids), but your videos always make me think about the stuff I buy. I'm in the process of a no-buy makeup ,shower products, and food cause my pantry is fully stocked . You really helped me a lot. Thank You ❤❤❤
On the topic of books, if they don’t have something in your local library or cloud library, you can request an interlibrary loan. I am reading a series none of my local libraries have but I found it in another county’s library so my local requests it. Only downside is the length of the borrow is short (for me)About 3 weeks most of the time.
this is so cool , I'd love if you talk me out of buying new stationery, stickers and journals. It's just that japanese cute designs are so irresistible!
Listening to this while looking at my cart for a skincare order and thinking more carefully about how much happiness and utility I'd actually get out of each item. I've been going THROUGH it lately and skincare is both my hobby and my stress relief so I'm trying to ease up on the retail therapy that would land me with like 4 of each type of product.
A mom with a small child here. Regarding books and toys - for a solid year and a half after the birth of my child, me and my husband were true minimalists. We only bought what was absolutely necessary and were very picky about the quality and number of stuff. I wish we stayed like that, but we didn’t. When she was a little over a year and a half, something changed. I don’t if it was the pandemic or the loneliness or lack of support or something else or the combination of all of that. We just felt like she was missing out on all the toys that we could afford back then but didn’t buy on purpose. So we started buying everything in sight for her age, all of the toys and all of the books. After some time I noticed 2 things: 1) She got used so fast to getting new things pretty frequently; 2) Every time she got a new toy or a book, she would get bored of it even faster then it was the case with the last thing she got. Not to mention how fast she‘s growing up and how here interests keep changing, like you said in the video. The same thing is with the clothes. Last summer I went ahead and bought her a bunch of cute dresses because I knew how much she loved wearing them. And she did wear them the while sommer but the summer temperatures only last for like 3 months if we are lucky. So before I knew it it was already fall again and I had to store all of her summer clothes in a box and find place for it in our already overfilled tiny one bedroom apartment. And speaking of her dresses- no matter how many she owns, she‘ll always have her favourites and wear them the most. So I learned the hard way that children DON‘T need that much stuff at all. A little bit of clothes, a few toys and a few favourite books are more than enough. All they really need are love, time and attention from their parents. And plenty of imagination, too. 😊
Always love these de-influencing style videos!! It would be cool to see you do an updated video on how/when to decide it's okay to buy things that aren't necessities and how not to overspend. Just a thought ❤
Great topic idea. I’ve seen lots of over consumption videos from RUclipsrs but practical steps are very helpful. Lots of people don’t know how to stop with out a step by step guide especially if they’re trying to change a habit
I'm not a parent, but a "free" thing that my family did during the summer when I was a child was playground hop. My mom (teacher, so not working during the summer) would drive my sister and me around and go to different playgrounds for a day and "test them out." My mom liked it beacuse we were outside in a resonably confined area getting out or energy. When we got bored of a certain area, we would load into the car and drive to a new one. Playgrounds, especially at schools are free to park and enter. The money part is paying for gas and groceries for a picnic lunch. I didn't know until last year that this activiy was set up by my mom as a cheap activity for when we would be living off a single income for a couple months. I always just thought it was a fun things to do. Another free activity was going to the pubic library and reading. We would select books to read while in the library and ones to take home. This is good for days when it's too hot to be outside. Public libraries also might have free or discounted passes to attractions in your area. I know the city where I currentlly live has passes to multiple museams, aquariums, zoos, move theaters, even parking/entry passes for recration areas like the beach or hiking trails. You pay for the library services with tax money, you might as well use all their recources. My sister and I went to Girl Scout camp as a significatly reduced rate beacuse my mom signed up to be a councler at the camp. So if you are a parent (like a teacher) that is able to work at a camp over the summer it's a way to get your kids into camp for cheaper. Becoming a member at a zoo, aquarium, or museum is a significant upfront cost, but once you're a member you can go as much as you want for "free" and get discounts on camps or activities that the facitlity runs. At my local zoo to repay a family (2 adult, 3 kid) membership the family would need to attend the zoo 4 times in a year. They also have free member only events like an advanced opening day for zoo lights, pumpkin displays and even adult only events like a food truck night. That's all I can think of right now, other than the standard run through a sprinkler in the backyard;
Re the Kindle thing: if they already have a smartphone I cannot comprehend why one would want to add another digital device to the mix. I just put the stuff on my phone and then I always have reading material with me wherever I'm going without having to take an extra device. And it's one less battery to have to deal with, one less tech item around designed for obsolescence that needs special recycling when it finally shits the bed.
Now that I have an iPhone that has 256 GB, I can get on board with having books on my phone but previously to this phone my i phones had 8 to 16 GB which is not enough at all to have books on your phone unfortunately. This phone I have now that has lots of storage was 4x more expensive than the other phones I had. So sometimes I think it comes down to cost. Is what im thinking 🤔
I agree that a phone can easily be a good e-reader...but for me I have a hard time with the screen. I change the brightness/color/tint and still feel more eye strain (that leads to migraines) than with a print book. For that reason only I'm thinking of getting a Kindle.
I bought an ereader because it's much lighter than my phone, easier to hold, easier on my eyes and a much much longer battery life. For me it made to much sense and improves my life. I also bought it second hand. I will say ereaders seem immune to the planned obsolescence in other tech. I had one that was more than 15 years old and was still entirely functional, other than certain software updates that were unavailable and made me decide to replace it. I expect mine now to last me a really long time.
Doing a no-buy this month as I have spent far too much recently. I’m a student living with my parents so I have no expenses. Therefore I’ve locked my card so I physically can’t use it 😂 I hope it will give me the chance to really think about what I should spend my money on rather than impulse shopping
Shawna, you have no idea how much I appreciate your videos. I’ve always had a problem with over consuming simply to feel joy for the smallest amount of time. I’ll be honest, I’ve relapsed in overspending but I hope to get better as I watch RUclipsrs like you to help.
during university I actually made waffles nearly 8 times a month for 4 years! Every weekend the dining hall would bring out some waffle makers and batter, and I'd make chocolate chip waffles. It definitely did help that I didn't have to make the batter or wash up xD
I do not buy my kids any new toys for the summer. We go to free splash pads, free pools or beaches. I’m home with them in the summer so we go any day it’s nice out. It is so much cheaper than cold weather activities!
Yep. Mom guilt is the worst. No matter what I do I feel like I am not doing enough, especially in the Summer. My teen son sees other people going on these huge vacations that I can’t afford and also can’t mentally deal with because I have a neurodivergent brain. He tends to bring this up often. He also doesn’t really hang out with friends due to being ASD and it puts a lot of pressure on me. He relies on me socially more than an average teen would.
I really love your vids Shawna ❤ I was in denial about impulse buys. Your vids help me a lot to not buy the next cute thing that I see which I don’t actually need/have use for.
I often joke with my husband about the self care items marketed to women like shampoo. When I am shopping in the hair isle especially I like to say I am trying to find the product that tell me all the right lies. That is essentially what most of the marketing strategy is now for all sorts of things. It isn't just aimed at women either. I am seeing a lot of men's self care that hypes up claims that are completely unrealistic.
I have very fine hair with low porosity. The oils that have worked are Philip B (both oils they sell), organigrowhairco scalp beverage, innate hair life rosemary hair oil, & BUR BUR. Also derma rolling 2x a week. That has helped me with post partum hair loss & overall hair heath. They only help your scalp & hair to its full potential it won’t change your hair to be completely different.
Okay….here for a hot take and giving a truth laugh……I don’t hardly see any of this content anymore cause of other content I watch so now I’m here watching your deinfluencing videos and finding stuff I would love to have and needing to make the conscious decision to NOT go look up these influencers….lol….but I’m liking it :)
About the books, you can read the books in Barnes and Noble, like you can literally walk in pick up a book you want to read and sit down and read it in the store without buying it, I think this is a better way of enjoying books bc you’re creating time to read by being in the store and if you don’t have the time to sit there and read for however long then you wouldn’t have read it in your free time at home
I prefer videos about talking about specific items and why you probably don't need them over videos covering tiktok restock overindulgence because for me it's just very obvious that I don't need to spend $100 on candy and it just feels like the tiktok was made to annoy people lol In other words, I want to be told not to buy specific/popular items instead of gawking at people flaunting their money. Personally. But I still like all your videos (:
I just bought a bunch of old navy shirts bc they fit really well in store. Like 60% polyester and 40% cotton. Jokes on me, they shrunk 1-2 sizes and now they’re too small
for books: i give myself 1 "book credit" for every two books i read, my reading list is mostly old books that are hard to find or not even translated to my language and i keep a list of books i plan to buy and a maximun montly budget that is pretty low (about 20 bucks), so i buy about 3 books per month (i read an average of 6, but sometimes i read 10 or 3, i like to reread books i love). for cosmetics: if i buy a product that gives me allergies i give it to my family, but if i just dont like it i use it with my other products like, if is a moisturizer that i disliked, i use it on an area that needs less moisturizing, if its a hair leave-in i mix it in my deep conditioner.
Analytical chemist with a bit of experience in cosmetic chemistry here. Companies do consumer testing on products. That’s why you get language like “appearance of” or “feel of.” The consumers test the products and answer yes or no questions or give a scale of 1-5 responses. That’s why products can say certain things. It’s when you move into definitive language that the fda has to get involved because those are drug claims and you can’t sell drugs with out them being double blind tested and approved.
To get my girls to play out side more often without purchasing specific outdoor toys, I just tell them to take their toys outside. They've come up with new games for themselves by taking their stuffed animals and animal figurines outside. We've also done picture contests with plastic animals while taking a walk, we all take a photo of the animal during our walk and then choose the best photo at the end. We've also painted rocks and then put them along the hiking paths we were on.
Two things that help me not spend money are: 1. Not physically leaving my house. I tend to spend more money if I go out and about 2. Put your wants and needs in perspective. If I think I want a new designer bag or whatever, I think about me walking in the town of a developing country with that bag. Like, that bag means nothing when the people around me are living in poverty. Can you imagine Paris Hilton or whoever walking around with her fancy clothes and accessories in the outskirts of the Dominican Republic? What an odd world we live in
The point about books interests me - I am an avid reader (I have been since I can remember)! I used to take the maximum amount of books out of the library each week that I was allowed. I have multiple shelves and boxes of books because it’s my passion! It has nothing to do with booktube or booktok (I recognise their worth however for people looking to get into reading)😊 I am curious as to your take about being influenced to buy books because it’s your passion and it’s a sense of self Vs. Buying as a result of being influenced from social media video? Do you think there is a difference between being potentially spur of the moment “influenced” as opposed to an absolute passion? Love the videos ❤
I lost my job last month and decided to retire (I’m in my mid 60’s). I wear mostly black. I tried light colors and I was self conscious. So back to black. Losing my job has deinfluenced me from buying things I don’t need.
I think for the kids toys a good thing would be give them an ability to earn money and then they can take that money to a store and buy those toys they want. They get their toy and they learn financial responsibility!
The reason I buy too many books is because I shop at small and/or used bookstores, and I feel guilty walking out of the place without buying anything. Hooray social anxiety
I know this is kind of the opposite of the point, but what make is your sweatshirt? I have sensory issues and have difficulty finding clothes I like but your sweatshirt looks like a really great contender!!
I have a pile of nine books from the library right now. Will I read all of them before I have to return them? No. Some I don't finish at all and some I'll read some other time. Either way I didn't waste $25/book that I will never read or won't read again. Browsing books on the library site will also satisfy my shopping urges sometimes
Great video again! The 100 times usage was a weird one for my kind of obsession which is physical media - books, blu rays, cd's and vinyls. Do I count them as a category? Since it seems kind of weird to read the same book 100 times. Good video, again! :)
totally agree this doesn't work for everything! I think this question works best for fashion items and potentially electronics and kitchen items. For media, other metrics or considerations are probably better. I personally tend to think about books through re-reads and track records. Do I have a track record of enjoying AND reading this kind of book/author. Or, do I know or believe I'll re-read this book. I know people have a lot of takes or opinions on book ownership so don't take my own application as "the" right way because it's just one way! I personally only strive to own books I believe I'll re-read, which narrows things down considerably. It forces me to rely on libraries for the majority of my reading.
@@shawnaripari True what you said about libraries. I have about one and a half billy ikea bookshelf of books that I reread when I need inspiration (frugaility, finance etc). I figured that everything else I read I'll just read online or on a kindle or something. I know with myself that I won't reread fiction, but I'll rewatch my favourite series on blu-ray. Thanks for the answer. Have a good day!
i dont know, i think our waffle iron gets a justifiable amount of use. it's not every weekend but otoh we have owned it for probably 15 years. i have young kids, we have the same summer toys (some balls, some water toys, some sand toys, stomp rocket, bubble stuff, chalk) for several years in a row now. these are all cheap items and also get reasonable yes, especially when friends visit or making a trip to the lake. i think the harder thing is like keeping my son in a bicycle that is the appropriate size as he grows so fast. that's a higher price issue.
Here's a shocking idea: what if someone buys many books because they like to read and want to have a filled bookshelf? Not everyone that has a hobby is beguiled by tik tok
then they have a good time buying books and enjoying the hobby? This video was specifically made for people asking to be de-influenced. Someone enjoying their reading hobby isn't a problem or one we're discussing here.
With the not buying a bunch in the same style, for me I find safeness in keeping things in the same style, I explore in a bunch of different colours and aesthetics but like to keep similar styles (flowy, nothing super tight and I adore fancy sleeves). I’m autistic so keep certain aspects the same makes me feel safer and more comfortable. 🥰🩷🫶🏻
After watching your videos, I feel like that open my eyes more. Thank you for not only saving me but also my wallet 🙏🏼 I still love Sephora but I started to be more careful on what I really do need. 🩷🎀
Funny you saying "Don't let a stranger on the internet talk you out of buying something you need." When influencers are strangers on the internet convincing people to buy stuff they don't need. Your deinfluencing is needed Shawna! Don't doubt yourself. You are a voice of reason!
this is so sweet, thank you! This is true that strangers are influencing us all the time. I'd just hate it if someone really felt like something would be good for them or important ex. the hair loss talk and then went oh, well shawna said don't do it so...
@@shawnaripariI like you your really cool ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Booktuber here! (A tiny one, anyway.) You’re completely correct-promoting overconsumption is absolutely an issue in the book space, and I personally can’t get behind the idea that buying books is a separate hobby from reading. I’d add that viewers should keep in mind that the big booktubers are sent books from publishers for free (sometimes lots) in order to market them-owning a massive book collection is not the norm, and you’re not less of a reader for using the library or having a small collection 😊
I really love how much withcindy promotes library books and talks about not having many books. We can get taken in by beautiful shelves, but unless it's a rare book, you can usually get it from the library if you ever want to reread
Yes!!! I can find some popular recommendations from reddit at my local library! I love supporting what my taxes go to and it’s free! I also personally don’t like a collection because I would never reread a book so why would I keep the clutter for decoration?🙄😄
I mostly read comics but the same applies, I have a small library and some of the books I've bought I just liked the art and didn't care for he plot or are an actual saga I love and like to collect when I can afford.
But most of the books and comics I've read I don't own, I borrowed or read in the library or online.
Sometimes I'll buy new books as a gift for a friend or specifically to financially support a living author that I like. Or sometimes I'll want a copy of a book so that I can foist it upon my friends and lend out a book I really love, like Kissing the Witch by Emma Donoghue or Giovanni's Room by James Baldwin. I've been really into librivox and public domain audiobooks lately; I listened to Anna Karenina and Dracula last year, along with some old timey rom-coms.
I got all of the Toni Morrison novels on thriftbooks for $50 for a class, and when I was done reading them, I put them into a local Little Free Library because I lived in Texas and I knew that some people were pushing for her work to be banned from public libraries and schools. I loved those novels, so I gave them away. But I kept my favorite, which was Sula.
Well said! I'm doing a book buying ban for 2024 (although I have caved in four times and bought two books about politics and the impact of MSM, but it's an election year, so I can justify this as self development, one Italian textbook for self development and one fiction book for which I have no excuse). The number of books I have been influenced to buy is absolutely crazy and it got out of control in 2020 to 2023. I am trying to read what I have, not be influenced by new releases and then unhaul the ones I will never read again. I have enough to last 7 or 8 years and I'm not at all proud of that.
There’s something about this type of video that really gets me. It lets me window shop AND gives me a voice of reason so I don’t go through with the impulse. 😂❤
Yes!
this is such a fun perspective!
Yes that!!
This is really that! I usually don't shop or buy unless I'm actually in the offline store (which thankfully i don't go to very often) so i don't have this problem with online shopping. I wish there could be someone like Shawna talking to me through my offline purchase impulses though 😂😂
I have 5 kids, summer toy purchasing never crossed my mind .I diy mud kitchens when my kids were young, made slip and slides with poly, homemade bubbles, we has garden boxes and the kids enjoyed learning how things grew,they took turns watering and weeding. Then helped with the harvest. We took paper and learned to make kites,went on walks and picnics at the parks. To this day my now young adult kids speak about how amazing summer were. Also great way not to purchase items I say to myself"What if this item did not exist would I still be ok".Have a lovely Day All.
thanks so much for sharing your experience!
I was usually sent to my grandparents in the summer (they had their own house just outside the city) and we did all the similar things, helping with the garden, helping clean the house for some pocket money, help repair the house/furniture, help grandma cook, tried sewing with grandma's help or just watch tv or play laptop games! We had even played pretend japanese sword fighting dojo woth aluminum sticks lying around or badminton for some activities! It's been many many years since my childhood, but these were interesting things to do for me both when i was 4-5 and 14-16!
When you spoke about hair loss, you hit on a topic that my age group deals with. Perimenopausal & menopausal women are extremely vulnerable to marketing for a thousand products because of our cultural fear of aging. It's almost impossible to not fall prey to it. The message, in short, is that once it becomes apparent that you are no longer young, you are irrelevant. The message is to FIGHT aging, at any cost. It's true. If women understood what they spend on their physical appearance over their lifetime, they would be shocked!🇨🇦♥️
thank you so much for sharing this perspective
it’s so weird to demonize aging. we all age. what’s the point of being born and existing if not to live life?
They want old women to feel irrelevant because capitalism considered wisdom from the female perspective a threat. It also considers wisdom from any of the working class experiencing and surviving oppression a threat, which is why capitalism wants its workers to die young or fear aging, so that knowledge of how to avoid exploitation doesn't pass down to younger generations.
Meanwhile billionaire men fantasize about how to live to be 200+ and travel through space. The double standards are ridiculous and it's part of why Republican states are trying to prevent laws against child marriage passing as well as lower the ages for child labor.
@@Iquey FACTS
@@Iquey i wish i could get every woman on earth to experience class consciousness
I really like these deinfluencing videos, they cover a broad range of stuff and it helps me to describe the consequences of my impulse purchases
I really like them too! I particularly like that Shawna is genuine about it...there are a lot of "de-influencing" videos out there that are more geared towards getting you to buy an alternative.
I like to go shopping in my own jewelry box; there’s always something I have forgotten about that matches the desired vibe perfecty.
I make my own jewelry. Whenever I want a new piece I just whip something up with what I already have.
one thing I love to do to help with clothes when I'm not feeling certain items I'll store them away in an old suitcase and dig through it with fresh eyes whenever I feel the need to buy something new
Regarding the book/e-reader thing. I LOVE the Libby app. It's free, you link your county/city library card to it and you have access to a digital library.
And if Libby doesn't have what I want in stock, I'll check at the actual library. If they don't have it, then I might buy it used if I really really want to read it. If I go that route, I look at thrift stores.
The best thing is that you can have multiple library cards! Some libraries let you sign up for a card online so you don’t even have to go in person to get another library card and therefore access to more Libby books
You're so right on purchasing the same clothing over and over because "I know this works for my style" and feeling like it's a safe, smart purchase. But the reality is your wardrobe becomes one note and boring, and you feel like you have nothing to wear! So shopping the wardrobe gaps is much more useful!
Since I have started thinking about buying a house in future my mind has deinfluenced itself from buying so many things 😅😅😅.
Also a self analysis lead me to realise that I do impulse shopping and working on my emotions and decentering other people from my life has helped a lot.
Love this for you. I just started renting in a very remote area that is hard to move out of, so now I always have to think about whether I will want to sell or somehow move an item when I move (which won't be for a few years, but still) - it's helping me pause a lot more.
this is a really amazing realization!!
@@pasitheathanatosasmr488 yes I am from India but seeing videos from all over the world has made me realise that housing crisis is a global problem in current economy. Me and my husband are worried how will we send our future children to good schools (govt school here are not great) and buy a house too as prices are increasing so so rapidly and even the houses that are too far away from main centers are becoming so unaffordable. And here in india most people are happy with just 2 bedroom and one hall and kitchen houses that are not very big but we are unable to afford even that. We can't even dream of getting big area houses with backyards like americans.
@@bandanarathore I’m so sorry to hear about your struggles. It’s tough knowing the housing crisis is everywhere, not just in India, but at least we’re not alone. Your feelings are valid, and I hope things get better for you and your community. Stay strong!
@@pasitheathanatosasmr488 hope we all be able to secure a house big or small soon.
I need to be talked out of buying new or thrifted clothes. I love new clothes but I don’t need any and I’m now on a strict budget due to paying off debt.
I would absolutely love if you did a video on the addiction of Bath and body Works. I find it so fascinating. If you do some research, you will see the levels. The way they never bring scents back on purpose so people feel like they need to stock up on them, the constant release of new merchandise that people feel that they absolutely need. People have hundreds of body mists but every time they come out with new ones they have to have them. The coupon system, if they have a 10 off of 40 purchase people feel they have to go in and spend that 30 to get the 10 off the people behind-the-scenes at Bath and body Works are marketing geniuses and I think this would be such an interesting video. The amount of people that have hundreds and hundreds of candles and never feel Like it’s enough because they are constantly coming out with new ones that they don’t know if they’ll ever bring back so they have to go get. I have seen people set aside weekly budget for Bath and body Works. So they are paying their light bill, their cable bill, and Bath and body WorksBath and body Works is getting their money on a weekly basis. People who are in this quicksand would benefit from a video like this because they have no idea what’s happening to them.
oh this is a great idea!! thank you for the suggestion
@@shawnaripari I just want people to realize that they don’t ” love Bath and body Works” they are full-fledged addicted to Bath and body Works.
These 30-60 minutes videos are so great and motivating for my chores power hour!😊 Today I’m folding the laundry and getting the dishes done, and sweeping the floor. What you have to say is IMPORTANT! I admire how you stick to your values even while others try to say they are “judgy”. Well, sometimes we all need the tough love😂 keep deinfluencing!
I totally agree. I think any naysayers who would call this type of content "judgy" would only be doing so because they know she makes good points. Not everyone is ready to look critically at what they're doing in life and make positive changes.
That’s how I like to do chores too. I find a video I want to watch and clean for as long as the video lasts. It really helps with my adhd productivity.
One of the biggest things I did, besides canceling my Amazon Prime account, was to actually buy things in store regardless if it cost me a little more. Physically putting stuff in a cart really put into perspective how much I'm buying. Plus by the time I get to the store and find the item, the desire to buy whatever it was is gone.
When speaking about kids, instead of buying toys and things that they will get bored of and/or will just cause more clutter or chaos in your home, look at family passes for zoos, water parks, children’s museums, or aquariums. If you are looking for free activities, see if your local park or library has weekly activities. Our local park has family movie nights with a projector for free!!! We go to the dollar tree and allow everyone to pick out 1 candy, and then we go and enjoy. We go to book readings every Tuesday during the summer at the library. There are also language classes for kids for free and crafts days. I take my kids to the farmers market and give them $5 to pick out produce and then we cook it together for dinner. Any experiences are going to be more of a memory making opportunity than a toy that will just end up in a landfill. One of our Christmas gifts each year is our family zoo membership, for example!
Not a parent but I do have a cat. I cycle her toys. Every 3 months or so I put up the ones that are out and bring out the ones that were put away. She thinks they are new so it keeps me from buying brand new ones and keeps the excitement going for her.
I love to see comments about people bringing their kids to the library. 🥹 Libraries have so many great programs and attending them is how the library gets to keep putting them on! ❤
This is so true. I remember as a kid some of my favorite summer memories was my mom randomly taking us to 7/11 for Slurpees on a super hot day. We hardly ever got sweets like that and Slurpees still make me reminiscent if I see someone have one/ I get one today.
My grandmother would buy me so many Xmas gifts. The entire living room would be covered. I remember one gift. One. I wish she’d taken us places instead. I remember those few times she did. I’d have more memories and there would be less junk in landfills.
The summer clothes sparked a realization in me - I often justify non-essential purchases because I want seasonal versions. I like cuticle balms so I justify having more than one by having one that has a traditional fall scent, another one that has a traditional summer scent, etc. Same with perfume, candles, purses...ahhh!
what a great realization!
I’m a cuticle balm girl too!
I love collecting books, i have for years. I've gotten a lot better at only buying books that I'm actually going to read, and then when I'm done, I give them to friends or put them in my local little free libraries. I love being able to look at books and reference them, but I get so much joy out of giving a book I really love to people I think will appreciate them that it really encourages me to give them up. I also tend to only buy books at thrift stores. Especially if a book is trendy, in 2 or 3 years it'll be all over the thrift store.
One thing about the kitchen items like a waffle maker that helped my family: when we want to make a recipe that necessitates something like a fondue set, we thrift one for about 6$ and when we are done the event, we clean and return it as a donation to the thrift store. We see it as renting an item for 6$ with an unlimited return period so it's nice to know we always have that option and then our kitchen cupboards stay much emptier. Another way to do these is to share these purchases with another home especially like a wafflemaker is something our family doesn't do that regularly so passing it around makes it more realistic and ensures we can have one when needed, and it actually is more encouraging to use it when it's for a limited time. This is even better if the purchase has already been made
Another thing to note about the book buying. I read a lot, like multiple books a week and I prefer to read romantasy. For that circumstance, it is cheaper to use kindle unlimited than it is to wait for books from my 5 library cards or buy them outright. That doesn't work for everyone but it is an option. Another thing, if you read mostly comics, libraries that have hoopla have collections just as good as the amazon comic subscription.
Yo, Mom of one 4 year old daughter. The park, early morning or cooler evening, before the sun sets. Indoor playgrounds, look them up, think Chuck'E Cheese, but without the casino. Family Game Night, make it a contest over the summer amongst the family and include parent vouchers. These vouchers include choice for dinner, one chore mitigated back to the parent, spedning alone time with the parent of choice, getting to choose the next game for family game night. Kids don't want much, but they love getting to have some say in things. Farmers Market, Movie Night at the Park, a water balloon fight at the park, the beach, movies. There is so much to do even at home and you just need to be open to spending time together.
I went through my closer and took out pieces I really liked and put them in a bin in my closet.
When I get bored and want new clothes or to shop, I go to the bin and swap some things out.
I get the thrill of something new that I enjoy without unnecessary spending.
Just an idea😊
Your logic about summer toys is how I talk myself out of all the cute Halloween decor. I know I won’t keep it out for any other time of the year.
In addition to the e-reader and book issue, I'd like to add that you don't even really need to purchase a tablet version of Kindle either. Kindle has a free, legitimate app that works on computers and most phones. I don't know if this solution will help everyone esp. if spending in general is your issue, but I will say this: me personally, I find that looking at how much I'm gonna spend per book makes me second-guess buying any titles I know I won't read as soon as I finish whatever it is I'm in the middle of. My TBR keeps me on track as well, but I also know some people build TBRs for pretty much the same reason that they shop for books they'll never actually read-- simply because they can.
Still, I hope this advice helps a few people out. My only other solution for getting digital books is finding online PDF files of titles I either don't want to own in *any* form, have been out of print for decades or aren't available in any other form except like, an expensive hardcover or something.
Love these videos! As far as the spf, I definitely agree that using up what someone has first is the best option. I think the thrill of something new can sometimes keep us fixated on things we haven’t tried before, so using up what we have first is a great option.
Yes, talk me out of buying the new Oden’s Eye blushes and highlighters! But not shampoo and conditioner. I am legit almost out, and will buy new ones! 🤪
omg yes - single eyeshadows for me @ShawnaRipari !
It’s a pretty release but can it be duped with something in your collection? (I already talked myself out of it!)
@@alice_rabbit8345 I didn’t end up buying it! I’m like, I think I can dupe these colors from my collection! ❤️
I love scarves for both winter and summer. Something I've done the past year is wearing different colored long solid cardigans paired with a seasonal scarf and I highly recommend this as a way to spruce up your wardrobe without overconsumption. For example, I have a green cardigan that I wear with a lightweight floral scarf or a black and white patterned scarf in summer. I also have a black cardigan that goes with everything. Just don't go crazy buying scarves lol.
Oh I had quite a collection of scarves!! Like 3 plastic bins full. I was able to get down to one bin. I realized there were many I didn’t wear.
I was so excited to see you respond to my waffle question! Thank you so much, I love that 100 uses question, I had never heard it before, but it really gives you another way to look at things you want to buy. Thinking about it like that, there’s no way I would probably use it 100 times in my entire life, I tend to fixate and then bounce my attention around to something new shortly after getting or doing something. Thanks again, hope you’re having a great summer!
I'm so happy to hear it was helpful! I do this as well and the 100 uses question has helped me a lot with this too. Thanks so much for being a part of this community
Free kid stuff: playdates, public splash pads, libraries, free museum days, family bike rides, etc. when our kids were little, we did a lot of camping near water during the summer. Relatively cheap family vacation. In the beginning, we borrowed camping gear.
as someone who is not a parent, but was a little kid a lot more recently than most parents, what my mom used to do when I wanted a toy was make me earn it. (unless it was a holiday or my birthday ofc)
I would find out how much money whatever it was cost, and then I would do small "jobs" around the house to earn money (weeding, dusting, etc, but specifically things that were not my usual chores. ((probably so that i didn't start asking to be paid to do chores lol))). one good thing about this was that it made me care more about the item when I actually earned it. I would be more careful with it and spend more time with it than i would with something I hadn't earned.
[btw I do want to acknowledge that this is only a solution for families/parents who do have the money to spend on stuff like this]
My kindle was $30 on ebay; I use one of the old discontinued 3rd generations with the keyboard since I like to annotate my books. I mostly read fanfiction on it, as a little treat for turning of the screens before bedtime. It doesn't blast my face with blue light so it's really good for bedtime reading. Every few years I do something stupid and break the screen, but I'm able to get a new one since it's only $30. Now that Amazon took the old generations off the kindle store, I have to load books onto it via USB connection to the computer, but I really don't mind doing that. Highly recommend getting a much older e-reader if you're on a budget... they don't need a super powerful core processor to display text, you can hold thousands of books on a few GB of storage, and they're way cheaper. Thanks!
I want to say thank you for your amazing videos Shawna, they are informative and helpful. I'm extremely easy to influence buying stuff, and I have been struggling with a little bit of a shopping addiction lately because in my town the only entertainment is shopping or restaurants (there are barely any third places and most of them are for kids), but your videos always make me think about the stuff I buy. I'm in the process of a no-buy makeup ,shower products, and food cause my pantry is fully stocked . You really helped me a lot. Thank You ❤❤❤
thank you so much and congratulation on your progress 💕
On the topic of books, if they don’t have something in your local library or cloud library, you can request an interlibrary loan. I am reading a series none of my local libraries have but I found it in another county’s library so my local requests it. Only downside is the length of the borrow is short (for me)About 3 weeks most of the time.
this is so cool , I'd love if you talk me out of buying new stationery, stickers and journals. It's just that japanese cute designs are so irresistible!
Listening to this while looking at my cart for a skincare order and thinking more carefully about how much happiness and utility I'd actually get out of each item. I've been going THROUGH it lately and skincare is both my hobby and my stress relief so I'm trying to ease up on the retail therapy that would land me with like 4 of each type of product.
About books, I like reading public domain options, it's free!
A mom with a small child here. Regarding books and toys - for a solid year and a half after the birth of my child, me and my husband were true minimalists. We only bought what was absolutely necessary and were very picky about the quality and number of stuff. I wish we stayed like that, but we didn’t. When she was a little over a year and a half, something changed. I don’t if it was the pandemic or the loneliness or lack of support or something else or the combination of all of that. We just felt like she was missing out on all the toys that we could afford back then but didn’t buy on purpose. So we started buying everything in sight for her age, all of the toys and all of the books. After some time I noticed 2 things:
1) She got used so fast to getting new things pretty frequently;
2) Every time she got a new toy or a book, she would get bored of it even faster then it was the case with the last thing she got. Not to mention how fast she‘s growing up and how here interests keep changing, like you said in the video. The same thing is with the clothes. Last summer I went ahead and bought her a bunch of cute dresses because I knew how much she loved wearing them. And she did wear them the while sommer but the summer temperatures only last for like 3 months if we are lucky. So before I knew it it was already fall again and I had to store all of her summer clothes in a box and find place for it in our already overfilled tiny one bedroom apartment.
And speaking of her dresses- no matter how many she owns, she‘ll always have her favourites and wear them the most.
So I learned the hard way that children DON‘T need that much stuff at all. A little bit of clothes, a few toys and a few favourite books are more than enough. All they really need are love, time and attention from their parents. And plenty of imagination, too. 😊
Always love these de-influencing style videos!! It would be cool to see you do an updated video on how/when to decide it's okay to buy things that aren't necessities and how not to overspend. Just a thought ❤
I decided to do just that! Thanks for the comment and video coming probably next week
Great topic idea. I’ve seen lots of over consumption videos from RUclipsrs but practical steps are very helpful. Lots of people don’t know how to stop with out a step by step guide especially if they’re trying to change a habit
I'm not a parent, but a "free" thing that my family did during the summer when I was a child was playground hop. My mom (teacher, so not working during the summer) would drive my sister and me around and go to different playgrounds for a day and "test them out." My mom liked it beacuse we were outside in a resonably confined area getting out or energy. When we got bored of a certain area, we would load into the car and drive to a new one. Playgrounds, especially at schools are free to park and enter. The money part is paying for gas and groceries for a picnic lunch. I didn't know until last year that this activiy was set up by my mom as a cheap activity for when we would be living off a single income for a couple months. I always just thought it was a fun things to do.
Another free activity was going to the pubic library and reading. We would select books to read while in the library and ones to take home. This is good for days when it's too hot to be outside. Public libraries also might have free or discounted passes to attractions in your area. I know the city where I currentlly live has passes to multiple museams, aquariums, zoos, move theaters, even parking/entry passes for recration areas like the beach or hiking trails. You pay for the library services with tax money, you might as well use all their recources.
My sister and I went to Girl Scout camp as a significatly reduced rate beacuse my mom signed up to be a councler at the camp. So if you are a parent (like a teacher) that is able to work at a camp over the summer it's a way to get your kids into camp for cheaper.
Becoming a member at a zoo, aquarium, or museum is a significant upfront cost, but once you're a member you can go as much as you want for "free" and get discounts on camps or activities that the facitlity runs. At my local zoo to repay a family (2 adult, 3 kid) membership the family would need to attend the zoo 4 times in a year. They also have free member only events like an advanced opening day for zoo lights, pumpkin displays and even adult only events like a food truck night.
That's all I can think of right now, other than the standard run through a sprinkler in the backyard;
I'm really excited that your videos are my newest hyper fixation. Love this for me 🥰
Re the Kindle thing: if they already have a smartphone I cannot comprehend why one would want to add another digital device to the mix. I just put the stuff on my phone and then I always have reading material with me wherever I'm going without having to take an extra device. And it's one less battery to have to deal with, one less tech item around designed for obsolescence that needs special recycling when it finally shits the bed.
Now that I have an iPhone that has 256 GB, I can get on board with having books on my phone but previously to this phone my i phones had 8 to 16 GB which is not enough at all to have books on your phone unfortunately. This phone I have now that has lots of storage was 4x more expensive than the other phones I had. So sometimes I think it comes down to cost. Is what im thinking 🤔
I agree that a phone can easily be a good e-reader...but for me I have a hard time with the screen. I change the brightness/color/tint and still feel more eye strain (that leads to migraines) than with a print book. For that reason only I'm thinking of getting a Kindle.
I bought an ereader because it's much lighter than my phone, easier to hold, easier on my eyes and a much much longer battery life. For me it made to much sense and improves my life. I also bought it second hand.
I will say ereaders seem immune to the planned obsolescence in other tech. I had one that was more than 15 years old and was still entirely functional, other than certain software updates that were unavailable and made me decide to replace it. I expect mine now to last me a really long time.
I used to think this, until I got my kindle 😂 It's such a different experience.
Almost 20k. Oh my god. I remember when there was 1k. Keep going girl
Doing a no-buy this month as I have spent far too much recently. I’m a student living with my parents so I have no expenses. Therefore I’ve locked my card so I physically can’t use it 😂 I hope it will give me the chance to really think about what I should spend my money on rather than impulse shopping
Shawna, you have no idea how much I appreciate your videos. I’ve always had a problem with over consuming simply to feel joy for the smallest amount of time. I’ll be honest, I’ve relapsed in overspending but I hope to get better as I watch RUclipsrs like you to help.
during university I actually made waffles nearly 8 times a month for 4 years! Every weekend the dining hall would bring out some waffle makers and batter, and I'd make chocolate chip waffles. It definitely did help that I didn't have to make the batter or wash up xD
ok, this is amazing!
Imagine we could borrow waffle makers from the library just for when we want it. That’s the kind of world I wanna live in. 😝🧇
Hobby projects and holiday decor and home items are my biggest trouble spots.
Oh I'm SO sat for this one 🔥
I do not buy my kids any new toys for the summer. We go to free splash pads, free pools or beaches. I’m home with them in the summer so we go any day it’s nice out. It is so much cheaper than cold weather activities!
My Pink flag is wanting summer to be over so I can pull out all my winter clothes just so I can wear something different LOL
i love your channel
me too
So stoked for you Shawna with all the comments and the subscribers! Way to go! ❤
Yep. Mom guilt is the worst. No matter what I do I feel like I am not doing enough, especially in the Summer. My teen son sees other people going on these huge vacations that I can’t afford and also can’t mentally deal with because I have a neurodivergent brain. He tends to bring this up often. He also doesn’t really hang out with friends due to being ASD and it puts a lot of pressure on me. He relies on me socially more than an average teen would.
I really love your vids Shawna ❤ I was in denial about impulse buys. Your vids help me a lot to not buy the next cute thing that I see which I don’t actually need/have use for.
I often joke with my husband about the self care items marketed to women like shampoo. When I am shopping in the hair isle especially I like to say I am trying to find the product that tell me all the right lies. That is essentially what most of the marketing strategy is now for all sorts of things. It isn't just aimed at women either. I am seeing a lot of men's self care that hypes up claims that are completely unrealistic.
I would love deinfluencing for sales! Some things are so cheap and that really triggers me to buy things
I have very fine hair with low porosity. The oils that have worked are Philip B (both oils they sell), organigrowhairco scalp beverage, innate hair life rosemary hair oil, & BUR BUR. Also derma rolling 2x a week. That has helped me with post partum hair loss & overall hair heath. They only help your scalp & hair to its full potential it won’t change your hair to be completely different.
I love the 10x10 idea, especially using themes!!
Deinfluencing videos is exactly what people on the internet actually need.
Okay….here for a hot take and giving a truth laugh……I don’t hardly see any of this content anymore cause of other content I watch so now I’m here watching your deinfluencing videos and finding stuff I would love to have and needing to make the conscious decision to NOT go look up these influencers….lol….but I’m liking it :)
Not even three minutes in and I've been called out BY NAME 😅
I have a concert wardrobe gap; and have a hissy fit every time just feeling ugly and insecure. I need a repeatable outfit (k-pop!)
About the books, you can read the books in Barnes and Noble, like you can literally walk in pick up a book you want to read and sit down and read it in the store without buying it, I think this is a better way of enjoying books bc you’re creating time to read by being in the store and if you don’t have the time to sit there and read for however long then you wouldn’t have read it in your free time at home
I prefer videos about talking about specific items and why you probably don't need them over videos covering tiktok restock overindulgence because for me it's just very obvious that I don't need to spend $100 on candy and it just feels like the tiktok was made to annoy people lol
In other words, I want to be told not to buy specific/popular items instead of gawking at people flaunting their money. Personally. But I still like all your videos (:
When I was younger, like a kid/teen, I used to LOVE buying purses/bags. Now I use the smallest wallet possible and carry everything in my pockets 😂
I just bought a bunch of old navy shirts bc they fit really well in store. Like 60% polyester and 40% cotton. Jokes on me, they shrunk 1-2 sizes and now they’re too small
for books: i give myself 1 "book credit" for every two books i read, my reading list is mostly old books that are hard to find or not even translated to my language and i keep a list of books i plan to buy and a maximun montly budget that is pretty low (about 20 bucks), so i buy about 3 books per month (i read an average of 6, but sometimes i read 10 or 3, i like to reread books i love). for cosmetics: if i buy a product that gives me allergies i give it to my family, but if i just dont like it i use it with my other products like, if is a moisturizer that i disliked, i use it on an area that needs less moisturizing, if its a hair leave-in i mix it in my deep conditioner.
I love this! This needs to be a staple on the channel!
would love to do more!
I submitted a comment about the kindle, thank you for the advice!
Analytical chemist with a bit of experience in cosmetic chemistry here. Companies do consumer testing on products. That’s why you get language like “appearance of” or “feel of.” The consumers test the products and answer yes or no questions or give a scale of 1-5 responses. That’s why products can say certain things. It’s when you move into definitive language that the fda has to get involved because those are drug claims and you can’t sell drugs with out them being double blind tested and approved.
To get my girls to play out side more often without purchasing specific outdoor toys, I just tell them to take their toys outside. They've come up with new games for themselves by taking their stuffed animals and animal figurines outside. We've also done picture contests with plastic animals while taking a walk, we all take a photo of the animal during our walk and then choose the best photo at the end. We've also painted rocks and then put them along the hiking paths we were on.
Two things that help me not spend money are:
1. Not physically leaving my house. I tend to spend more money if I go out and about
2. Put your wants and needs in perspective. If I think I want a new designer bag or whatever, I think about me walking in the town of a developing country with that bag. Like, that bag means nothing when the people around me are living in poverty. Can you imagine Paris Hilton or whoever walking around with her fancy clothes and accessories in the outskirts of the Dominican Republic? What an odd world we live in
I think a change of seasons gives me an excuse to buy too much but all I need is 3 pairs of shorts.😢
The point about books interests me - I am an avid reader (I have been since I can remember)! I used to take the maximum amount of books out of the library each week that I was allowed. I have multiple shelves and boxes of books because it’s my passion! It has nothing to do with booktube or booktok (I recognise their worth however for people looking to get into reading)😊 I am curious as to your take about being influenced to buy books because it’s your passion and it’s a sense of self Vs. Buying as a result of being influenced from social media video? Do you think there is a difference between being potentially spur of the moment “influenced” as opposed to an absolute passion? Love the videos ❤
you have a gorgeous smile.
I think nowadays what I fall into is buying workout accessories because I THINK that will make me want to workout 😅 but...
I lost my job last month and decided to retire (I’m in my mid 60’s). I wear mostly black. I tried light colors and I was self conscious. So back to black. Losing my job has deinfluenced me from buying things I don’t need.
YAY new reaction videos!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I think for the kids toys a good thing would be give them an ability to earn money and then they can take that money to a store and buy those toys they want. They get their toy and they learn financial responsibility!
this convinced me to buy the things i wanted even if they would make no difference to my life lol
The reason I buy too many books is because I shop at small and/or used bookstores, and I feel guilty walking out of the place without buying anything. Hooray social anxiety
I know this is kind of the opposite of the point, but what make is your sweatshirt? I have sensory issues and have difficulty finding clothes I like but your sweatshirt looks like a really great contender!!
I have a pile of nine books from the library right now. Will I read all of them before I have to return them? No. Some I don't finish at all and some I'll read some other time. Either way I didn't waste $25/book that I will never read or won't read again. Browsing books on the library site will also satisfy my shopping urges sometimes
Awww, I missed the call. Part two, please! I fell down a planner stickers rabbithole… 😢
definitely more coming in the future!
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Great video again! The 100 times usage was a weird one for my kind of obsession which is physical media - books, blu rays, cd's and vinyls. Do I count them as a category? Since it seems kind of weird to read the same book 100 times. Good video, again! :)
totally agree this doesn't work for everything! I think this question works best for fashion items and potentially electronics and kitchen items. For media, other metrics or considerations are probably better. I personally tend to think about books through re-reads and track records. Do I have a track record of enjoying AND reading this kind of book/author. Or, do I know or believe I'll re-read this book. I know people have a lot of takes or opinions on book ownership so don't take my own application as "the" right way because it's just one way! I personally only strive to own books I believe I'll re-read, which narrows things down considerably. It forces me to rely on libraries for the majority of my reading.
@@shawnaripari True what you said about libraries. I have about one and a half billy ikea bookshelf of books that I reread when I need inspiration (frugaility, finance etc). I figured that everything else I read I'll just read online or on a kindle or something. I know with myself that I won't reread fiction, but I'll rewatch my favourite series on blu-ray. Thanks for the answer. Have a good day!
Okay, I have a few comments to make, let me see if I can think of all of them lol...
Your partner dressing you is very sweet. :)
my mom got a lot of sunscreen freebies but don't like the consistency aka gets stuck in my fingernails, so then just donate somewhere?
i dont know, i think our waffle iron gets a justifiable amount of use. it's not every weekend but otoh we have owned it for probably 15 years. i have young kids, we have the same summer toys (some balls, some water toys, some sand toys, stomp rocket, bubble stuff, chalk) for several years in a row now. these are all cheap items and also get reasonable yes, especially when friends visit or making a trip to the lake. i think the harder thing is like keeping my son in a bicycle that is the appropriate size as he grows so fast. that's a higher price issue.
I'm absolutely glad your waffle iron makes sense for your life and it's getting good use!
I used to eat waffles every two days and I miss that. I think I’ll actually get myself a waffle maker cause I love baking
But is it good for my health
watching this after buying myself 2 fugglers (plushies)
Software, apps, and games, please.
i love deinfluencing videos
Here's a shocking idea: what if someone buys many books because they like to read and want to have a filled bookshelf? Not everyone that has a hobby is beguiled by tik tok
then they have a good time buying books and enjoying the hobby? This video was specifically made for people asking to be de-influenced. Someone enjoying their reading hobby isn't a problem or one we're discussing here.
*waffles~
With the not buying a bunch in the same style, for me I find safeness in keeping things in the same style, I explore in a bunch of different colours and aesthetics but like to keep similar styles (flowy, nothing super tight and I adore fancy sleeves). I’m autistic so keep certain aspects the same makes me feel safer and more comfortable. 🥰🩷🫶🏻
After watching your videos, I feel like that open my eyes more. Thank you for not only saving me but also my wallet 🙏🏼 I still love Sephora but I started to be more careful on what I really do need. 🩷🎀