"You must love your future self, to make sacrifices for them today," was one of the most beautiful things Dr. K ever said - I was finally able to love myself.
This short is kind of weird because it misses his main message I think. Yes the accountability in the present thing is true but I think the flip side for Dr. K, and perhaps more powerful side is how he said every day when you spawn a new, you want to set your future self up tomorrow with the best spawn point possible. And the more you put something off the higher the cost (he talks about how when you delay taking out the trash, the smell increases). So yeah, be accountable for present you, but like he said you're going to wake up tomorrow "a completely different person" so you also have to get inspiration by saying I'm making my future self's life better and I care about that person.
@@TES-541 exactly, his respawning concept has stayed with me since I heard him say it, too bad it was omitted or missed in this coz it would've driven his point home perfectly.
My dad ruined his life holding on to the past. In the 1970s, he built a successful business from nothing, with nothing. The economy tanked for him in 1986, and he gave up at 51. He never worked again, mooched off of everyone around him to survive, and turns 90 this month, still crying about 1986.
It doesn't get magically easy. Effort is something you gotta put in every day of your life; it's just that if you put it in the right places, things work out a lot better.
I’ve been teaching myself this especially when I’ve been hurting. “I don’t wanna brush my teeth. But if u don’t ur not ganna like ur teeth going rotten or get bad cavities. I do my best to be nice to myself. Well if u don’t do this ur ganna regret it a bit later. Gentle parenting loool
Yes, brother, but the fact remains when you are trying to recreate, the people you care around you lag behind and pull you back. It is very difficult to go forward when you know , the people you want to support are behind you. It is easier said than done bro.
as someone who feels the same....I hope you do the hard things that are eventually gud for u. make yourself suffer from all the hard work today.....because if you're still choosing to be comfy by doing the least then that's the bad side of self love...and you don't love yourself in any shape or form so why make yourself comfortable? forgive me if this seems disrespectful. anyways i wish you love.
How to be disciplined… to be disciplined and hate it is to get up and force yourself to do it, which in my mind causes a lot of extra issues How to be disciplined the easy way. Wake up, do it when you can be bothered but keep on at it, improve little by little daily, forgive yourself when you don’t do it but just cause you missed a day doesn’t mean you can’t do it tomorrow, repeat until it’s ingrained in your brain then it’ll be a walk in the park after and you will start enjoying it after a while I hate the idea of discipline, I was so disciplined once I worked myself into a state of psychosis because my brain couldn’t take the stress and other parts of my life fell apart, I like to think of it as a shift of energy, I don’t get better I just prioritise other things and the natural shift occurs where I focus my energy on something else. Discipline is nonsense term, I know if you where truly disciplined to something you would work yourself into a state of psychosis 😂 but don’t listen to me I’ve been in a psychiatric ward so I must not know what I am talking about, by society’s standards I’m a loon ball, even though I am 90-95% recovered although I am learning to deal with little stresses again and I think completely differently to what I once did and now looking back at it I see myself pre psychosis as naive and I do think a lot of people sit in the category of naive, I even see dr K as a little naive, I think he’s doing his best with what he has at his disposal and he is knows what he is talking about kind of, it’s like he’s touching the baseline but doesn’t understand it fully, what I’m trying to say is he knows what he’s read but he doesn’t have the experience of it, which is fair to say Anyway I think some of dr K’s videos are good and very informative and others like this one is just touching baseline but not fully grasping the concept of how these things can destroy someone’s life, although it is partly good information, like anything in moderation
This is really smart. You need to trust you will know tomorrow what you will want to do tomorrow. You don't need to know that now. Now you only need to know want you want now. And that is easy. What you are doing right now is what you want right now. For me in this moment that is: lying in my bed, acknowledging that this remark is smart, writing that in this comment, and enjoying this beautiful insight some more, really feeling it, when I turn of the light.
I think you can boil down every self help video Dr. K makes to "oh so it's just xyz." The point is twofold in my opinion: 1, he's trying to help you understand exactly how it works so you can relate it to your own cognitive processes and 2, you can do some cognitive reframing so you can address the issue more precisely. Sorry for long ass response, but I was thinking the same thing the other day and came to this conclusion.
the problem for me is that I keep identifying different causes to each of my problems, getting confused by not knowing which is the right one and at the end staying the exact same way
The past is the past bro its not gonna go anywhere, but its your duty to yourself to make the present and future matter. Time to leave the old memories and create new ones.
These kind of generic videos should specify that they're addressing Neuroprivileged people in good mental health. Because it makes it sound like a choice- something mentally ill and Neurodivergent people don't have when it comes to being 'disciplined'
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I've called McClains and they wanna give me a list of OCD psychiatrists, but I'm sick of going from one to another. I really wish I could see you. I'm not even sure I have OCD. I feel like these diagnoses are guesses. Please see me.
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Terrible terrible short. Heres the real script... Focusing on the result (i want to workout) will fail if thrbperson you are tomorroe doesnt value that result (meh, i want to sleep im amd eat ice cream) So rather than brute force the result.... Spend your energy each day on becoming the same person you were yeaterday, back when you valued the result. So... Dont wake up as a lazt person amd try tk be diciplined... Wake up as a lazy person... And speedrun thr mental and physical steps that got you to thr mental place of wanting to be disciplined. Then thr actuall workout will be consistent witb who you genuinly are
"You must love your future self, to make sacrifices for them today," was one of the most beautiful things Dr. K ever said - I was finally able to love myself.
This short is kind of weird because it misses his main message I think. Yes the accountability in the present thing is true but I think the flip side for Dr. K, and perhaps more powerful side is how he said every day when you spawn a new, you want to set your future self up tomorrow with the best spawn point possible. And the more you put something off the higher the cost (he talks about how when you delay taking out the trash, the smell increases).
So yeah, be accountable for present you, but like he said you're going to wake up tomorrow "a completely different person" so you also have to get inspiration by saying I'm making my future self's life better and I care about that person.
@@TES-541 exactly, his respawning concept has stayed with me since I heard him say it, too bad it was omitted or missed in this coz it would've driven his point home perfectly.
My dad ruined his life holding on to the past. In the 1970s, he built a successful business from nothing, with nothing. The economy tanked for him in 1986, and he gave up at 51. He never worked again, mooched off of everyone around him to survive, and turns 90 this month, still crying about 1986.
@@lauraland9311 is he a cap or aqua
Ironically he missed decades of good economic growth.
😢 what about holding on to childhood ambition but not disciplined enough to work actively towards it. Is it running my life😮
quote from haikyuu but "i am built by the small things i do every day, and the results are nothing more than a byproduct of that"
True, I'll have to watch the entire stream
i have watched for a ling time and i srsly wonder why they make that much money with it. are they funding sth special?
@@bananaboyTS to earn for a living? extra income? I know rich people charge more for their time
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This is such a great piece of advice.
That's why you don't wait for tomorrow. There's only NOW.
So it will always be hard
As long as you hold onto that mindset, yes.
Thats what she said
It doesn't get magically easy. Effort is something you gotta put in every day of your life; it's just that if you put it in the right places, things work out a lot better.
@@christophertaylorwebb9429 then what are we supposed to do . Dr.K be so confusing with how he explains things.
It's easy to move in a direction as long as you have a purpose to go in that direction. The hard part is finding that purpose.
I’ve been teaching myself this especially when I’ve been hurting. “I don’t wanna brush my teeth. But if u don’t ur not ganna like ur teeth going rotten or get bad cavities. I do my best to be nice to myself. Well if u don’t do this ur ganna regret it a bit later. Gentle parenting loool
Yes, brother, but the fact remains when you are trying to recreate, the people you care around you lag behind and pull you back. It is very difficult to go forward when you know , the people you want to support are behind you. It is easier said than done bro.
This is how i never get anything done. Idgaf about past me decisions and idgaf about future me problems.
i hate every version of myself at every point in time
You can't hate someone without caring deeply about them. So you obviously care about yourself! Now you just have to show yourself that you care.
as someone who feels the same....I hope you do the hard things that are eventually gud for u. make yourself suffer from all the hard work today.....because if you're still choosing to be comfy by doing the least then that's the bad side of self love...and you don't love yourself in any shape or form so why make yourself comfortable?
forgive me if this seems disrespectful. anyways i wish you love.
How to be disciplined… to be disciplined and hate it is to get up and force yourself to do it, which in my mind causes a lot of extra issues
How to be disciplined the easy way. Wake up, do it when you can be bothered but keep on at it, improve little by little daily, forgive yourself when you don’t do it but just cause you missed a day doesn’t mean you can’t do it tomorrow, repeat until it’s ingrained in your brain then it’ll be a walk in the park after and you will start enjoying it after a while
I hate the idea of discipline, I was so disciplined once I worked myself into a state of psychosis because my brain couldn’t take the stress and other parts of my life fell apart, I like to think of it as a shift of energy, I don’t get better I just prioritise other things and the natural shift occurs where I focus my energy on something else.
Discipline is nonsense term, I know if you where truly disciplined to something you would work yourself into a state of psychosis 😂 but don’t listen to me I’ve been in a psychiatric ward so I must not know what I am talking about, by society’s standards I’m a loon ball, even though I am 90-95% recovered although I am learning to deal with little stresses again and I think completely differently to what I once did and now looking back at it I see myself pre psychosis as naive and I do think a lot of people sit in the category of naive, I even see dr K as a little naive, I think he’s doing his best with what he has at his disposal and he is knows what he is talking about kind of, it’s like he’s touching the baseline but doesn’t understand it fully, what I’m trying to say is he knows what he’s read but he doesn’t have the experience of it, which is fair to say
Anyway I think some of dr K’s videos are good and very informative and others like this one is just touching baseline but not fully grasping the concept of how these things can destroy someone’s life, although it is partly good information, like anything in moderation
Much needed ❤👏
This is really smart. You need to trust you will know tomorrow what you will want to do tomorrow. You don't need to know that now. Now you only need to know want you want now. And that is easy. What you are doing right now is what you want right now. For me in this moment that is: lying in my bed, acknowledging that this remark is smart, writing that in this comment, and enjoying this beautiful insight some more, really feeling it, when I turn of the light.
so it all boils down to „just do it“ day after day with the future in mind?
I think you can boil down every self help video Dr. K makes to "oh so it's just xyz." The point is twofold in my opinion: 1, he's trying to help you understand exactly how it works so you can relate it to your own cognitive processes and 2, you can do some cognitive reframing so you can address the issue more precisely. Sorry for long ass response, but I was thinking the same thing the other day and came to this conclusion.
the problem for me is that I keep identifying different causes to each of my problems, getting confused by not knowing which is the right one and at the end staying the exact same way
need a physical person to make me. it's the whole reason gym trainers exist. there needs to be a trainer for every day life.
But the past is the only thing I have 😢 I don't even have the attention for new things anymore.
The past is the past bro its not gonna go anywhere, but its your duty to yourself to make the present and future matter. Time to leave the old memories and create new ones.
Beautiful
Mind blown... But i will wake up new and forget this revelation 😢
I'm now more comfortable telling Conservatives that I'm an atheist, than telling Liberals who I voted for in the last election.
These kind of generic videos should specify that they're addressing Neuroprivileged people in good mental health. Because it makes it sound like a choice- something mentally ill and Neurodivergent people don't have when it comes to being 'disciplined'
O.K. but can we go into a different version of ourselves and still be accountable.
What if the past is holding onto me, but I'm trying to let go and push away
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was this not already viewable for non-members before? i swear i remember Dr. K speaking about this weeks ago.
Feels like more and more of his content is behind a paywall now @@chip_ilon
aaaaaahahaha i have a saying at work "that's a problem for future me/ you"
Such a bad saying!
I want to recreat myself , thank you !!!!!😏🇬🇧
if i decide to do pushups everyday i will just give up in the next day because i am a different person (that realy hapenned)
I gave past me and future me names
What about present you?
Join the Marine Corps. Plenty of discipline ❤❤
What if I hate that guy though 😅
I've called McClains and they wanna give me a list of OCD psychiatrists, but I'm sick of going from one to another. I really wish I could see you. I'm not even sure I have OCD. I feel like these diagnoses are guesses. Please see me.
Dr. K isn't taking new patients right now, we're sorry to say, but we do have a list of resources and directories we like right here: explore.healthygamer.gg/mentalhealthresources
Keep going! It can be frustrating to search for the right fit, but it also might be an important step toward building the life you want. 💚
Future Me sucks. He falls for everything. Past Me is also a jerk… oh. Oh no.
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FIRST!!!!
Terrible terrible short.
Heres the real script...
Focusing on the result (i want to workout) will fail if thrbperson you are tomorroe doesnt value that result (meh, i want to sleep im amd eat ice cream)
So rather than brute force the result.... Spend your energy each day on becoming the same person you were yeaterday, back when you valued the result.
So... Dont wake up as a lazt person amd try tk be diciplined...
Wake up as a lazy person... And speedrun thr mental and physical steps that got you to thr mental place of wanting to be disciplined.
Then thr actuall workout will be consistent witb who you genuinly are