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Masculine man, I am trying to be like Jeff I am trying to better myself every day, I want to be the best me that I can be so I can eventually keep a relationship, would it be too much trouble to ask for some advice from you?
Masculine Man I love you're animations but if you want to attract new viewers you have to make more content, you keep putting your channel on hold to focus on you're animations but you need to give us different content while you're at it, like mastar Media, I don't even like him but what he's doing is smart, he's letting his fans know I'll take a long time to make anime war animations but until then he'll post anime review videos to keep them busy, I'm not trying to tell you what to do I'm just saying these days if you keep doing the same old thing eventually people are going to get tired of it and you're gonna keep losing viewers if you have nothing to fall back on and I don't want to see that happened to a channel like yours
no matter what anyone says, there's *no* excuse for cheating. it's a disgusting, heartless, and scummy thing to do. it messes with a person's heart and soul on such a deep level.
MMmmmmm I wonder where I've read about this before.....???? O yeah in the bible! It says not to commit adultery and fornicate or to lust after someone else's stuff. Now it makes sense! Funny how that old book still have all the answers hey?? Don't wonder why!
My friend. I absolutely respect christians and beloved and great prophet Jesus Christ pbuh. But i am a shi'a muslim and i have never read the holy bible. But i agree with you.
Mike Driggs Instead of bashing a whole religion, maybe you should read the bible more, stop watching Fox News and being brainwashed. I’m Sunni Muslim, I believe heaven will be inhabited by humans of all faiths, who are honest, just and god fearing/loving.
I'm in a situation where my girlfriend is the only thing that brings me happiness, and if she ever leaves me or something bad happens to her, I'm going to commit suicide.
Karolis van Houten Never make another person who isn't infinite and is just as flawed as everyone else dictate such impactful and important things in your life such as happiness and very ESPECIALLY your own life itself. It is too valuable and precious and treasurous to be determined by external, temporary things and things that dont level with the great value of you life and your soul
dj direwolfe everyone should live selfishly in a certain aspect. That is do what you love in life, don’t do things for other people but rather for self enjoyment or help yourself be happy before you can help others.
Acceptance is the hardest part. Accepting that the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with doesn't want the same thing, after years of commitment, is extremely difficult.
Totally Bro. The key for getting over someone is acceptance like you said. It won't happen overnight but until you tell your brain SHE AIN'T coming back. Only then you heal with time
7 fucking years and she is my first love. I was planning to marry her this year but she broke up with me, and moving on with someone new. It's been 6 months but it feels like yesterday 💔
27 year old guy here. Just got left by my gf of 6 years. Had proposal plans and all. It can and will happen to you if you aren't careful, and even the careful ones will still get left somehow. It's life.
Hey buddy, I was also left by my 6 year girlfriend when I was 27 (four years ago). I'm also a psychologist and I have some tips from my experience. Would you be willing to talk? I'd love to share them and show you how you can grow stronger and become a better version of yourself from it :)
I dated a girl for over 3 years. When that relationship ended it nearly broke me. Worst breakup ever (it was my first). I can’t even begin to imagine a 10 year relationship ending. Whole ass decade of your life.
This year is unreal. I had a boyfriend 5 years he ended up my heart broke into million pieces.. From this heart brk I experiencing alots to let go.. I feel it not easier but while I'm letting go I cry this tears ll bring me joy oneday.. So heartbreak is a monsters
I can. My wife divorced me. We had been together for 13 years. She started dating someone before she even moved out. The last four months or so have been hell for me.
My bf broke up with me after 6 years together. A year since the breakup and it still hurts like hell. But I moved on and accepted the facts. Nevertheless, it’s still painful.
People... just don't cheat on your partner, have respect for them and above all for yourself. If you feel like you're losing attraction to your partner just leave, end the relationship with a respectful conversation between you two.
I feel like there’s not a lot of people that are willing to be adults and do what you said ... they end up cheating or they do something that just isn’t ok .
If your a celebrity you date loads of people and break up with them and the people you date don’t love you and you don’t love them your just doing it for the miedia
My girlfriend leaving me for another guy was the best thing that ever happened to me. Got in shape, healthier, happier and have a job i love. When you hit rock bottom its only one way to go.
squidwards sinclarinet I know what he means but that shouldn’t be why you do good for yourself. You will just end up in another relationship getting pushed over.
you are absolutely right. I saw my ex about 4 months after broke up because she ran off with someone else and rather than be cold with me, she saw the new me who lost weight and changed up my personal appearance which she had never seen before, and gave me a smile and she was at a loss for words because we both bumped into each other at the store. And its also important to better yourself for YOU not the other person. Another lesson I learned.
@@beckyanna7287 Don’t need to. It only takes a handful of people to see the flaws in a straw man argument such as the argument of advising people to develop the destructive submissive mindset that it’s their fault they got cheated on like “Did I do anything to make her cheat on me?” and call it a bad idea. Bottom line there is never really a reason for a cheater to cheat. Cheaters cheat because they wanted to and because they could.
Bruh if you lose interest in someone then the least you can do is tell them... not cheat on them...tf. And you don't need to change yourself for anyone.
If you're talking about Jeff, I don't think he was changing himself for anyone. He was only trying to find ways to improve his life style and efficiently spend his time by doing productive things.
@@callmealpha7548 Then you just devulge into spite and hatred. You become focused on this person and therefore all your progress is fragile and faulty.
@@aaryanpatel5948 Again. You let that person concume you even years later then you have failed to get over it. I'd rather see no "success" and be happy then to have all the wealth only over pent up aggression and hatred. That's no way to live
You can actually trust someone Dont let the evil majority blind you from seeing that there are still some people that can be trusted And they will trust you too
True. Even if you're in a relationship that is 2 decades old, you still don't know what will happen to your relationship tomorrow, or after a month. A true relationship is a relationship without bull💩 and lies (lies are referred to cheating and so on, BTW) No relationship can be perfect because a perfect relationship is always one of the worst ones, if you know what I mean.
@@Roadglide86 i feel you bro. Once you get to mix with more friends and join certain groups on dating and self improvement, you can get over it sooner than ever.
@@ican3900 yes it is. No worries. I just feel sorry for her that she can't and will never enjoy true happiness. Her perception about love and relationship have been fucked cos of her and her parents. 😇
i got cheated on, we talked about it gave her one more chance only to realize she was talking to someone again that she talked to before when she was cheating on me, it’s hard to break off but with me having a bright future with entrepreneurship and investing i’ll get over it pretty soon. I see that you took a pic with Gary you’re lucky!
@@kaisatoridraws3437 lol... *Guy doing everything* Girl: You are being so clingy, needy, pushy. *Finds another guy* *Guy not making you the center of his life* Girl: You don't love me enough. *Finds another guy*
This video actually changed my life. I cried uncontrollably after watching this video knowing that I reacted like Ben. But later, I continued to work on myself (although I still have a long way to go) and with that momentum eventually ended up going abroad to San Francisco (which feels like Jeff travelling to Italy). Thank you!!!
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You guys gotta realize that walking the same path as Jeff can cause you to become emotionally numb. After breakup I wiped it all out of my mind and considered myself strong minded, up until I began to realize that my actions really doesn't have purpose/goal. Just straight, flat lined days of performing, not being able to sense a single thing in my life. You *need* time to grief and feel. Feelings are such things that you shouldn't consider bad; after 9 months of not crying or laughing you begin to miss the feeling of being sad along with being happy again, let me tell you that much.
It was specifically stated that he DID cry and was angry at his ex for a few months; the only difference is that after a while, he realized that continuing to do this was not beneficial and started working on himself.
I came to this world, under unknown circumstances, in order to experience. My eyes see millions of different nice colors, my brain can understand several intriguing and interesting stuff. Why turn my eyes black and my brain dull for someone who would never understand the depth of this gift. That girl obviously had fuckin as her top value. We are moving towards something more humane. I'm not saying we should forget our instincts, but certainly, we can clarify the FUCK that we lost our interest for a person and do this in a graceful way: -Sorry, I've lost my interest, I was faithful to you, but now I can't be with you. -Ok bye, have a nice life :) THAT IS HUMANE. (and also don't fuck my best friend xDDD)
I watched this video like 4-5 years ago almost every other day because I was so hurt and couldn’t believe this happened to me. She started acting funny towards the end of the relationship and slowly found someone else while we still lived together and boom left me. I was hurt at the time being and thought I would never get over it. It took some years and I’m finally completely over it now but those first few months and 2 years we’re tough. I worked on my self and got fit, got into real estate and even started my RUclips channel which has been growing and having a lot of success and is also a dream job so I have to thank her for what she did to me. My story is like Jeff…I found a mentor started working on a side business then the side business got bigger and eventually became a full time thing which gives me freedom to do what I want when I want…then even moved to another country (Colombia) and been living here since and it’s been beautiful. If I would’ve stayed with my ex I wouldn’t have done none of these amazing things. I cried almost everyday the first and maybe second year but looking back it was the best thing that could’ve happened to me…you don’t see it though at the time being. Hopefully this story inspires someone!
Never trust anyone...Being in a "serious" relationship is like giving someone a gun and telling them not to fire it. They will though. Just have fun and never get attached.
"never get attached" are why guys became assholes and play around women. You could "just have fun" until one person you fall in love with, and you just couldn't fight it off, the heart is already there. that's where your karma takes place. Moral of the story, never create your karma because the pain is far worst than those who were afflicted the same but never did wrong to anyone.
Same. And i lost 10min. This video is so dumb. Yaaaay someone cheated on me so now i can go to the gym, eat healthily and have an online business in italy. What a mercy. And i should talk and ask what went wrong to a thot that instead of break up with me she preferred to bang random dudes in my own bedroom.
Totally agree with you. It is hard to accept that the girl/boy you love, no longer loves you.. but accepting that she/he is cheated on you is on another level imo.. Clearly it is you who have to fight against your demons but mostly other people responsible for the size of these demons..
@@TothBen8 Better to decide which way to take then move. Hate=feelings, no feeling=indifference. So "moving past", "accepting", "cooling down" is actually = burring love. But if there is much hate in both, it can be repaired on condition that destructive aggressiveness is suspended by strong will (no emotions) and not giving up. If partner is indifferent, its impossible. But no hard feelings for moving past either, "good place is never free".
Hello everyone, I dont know if someone will ever watch this video and this comment, but I’d like to share my little story: I’m 18 and, about a year ago, me and my ex-girlfriend broke up after 1,5 beautiful years together. Now we dont talk anymore, even if we are in the same group of friends, and it still hurts to see her laughing with someone else while I’m everyday asking to myself what did I do wrong in our relationship. Also I dont anymore feel part of my historical group I’ve been hanging out with for 10+ years. I feel alone, anyway I’m trying to work hard and to study in order to enter university and to work as a personal trainer in the meantime (meanwhile I see other people having fun at the sea in Instagram stories), and I’m confident about my future, I’m sure I will meet other people and friends and re-build my life. Sorry for my bad english, have a good day
Hey man, I think we're in the same boat. Quite a coincidence, but I am also 18, just entered university and also lost my ex girlfriend of 1,5 years about four months ago. It has been a rough time lately, although I learned many lessons from the relationship along the way. Try to learn from all that happened and see what could've caused the breakup. Don't blame yourself, just try to understand what happened. After that, you can decide which of these things you want to work on. My biggest issue was probably that I barely talked about my feelings because I didn't want to upset her. This turned out to be a big mistake because in the end she didn't understand me, and made assumptions about me as a result. Nowadays I try to talk more to my family and friends, and I'm also becoming more decisive and organised. I see you are heading in the same direction. Keep in mind that it will get better soon. Just keep focusing on whatever makes you happy, that didn't involve your ex. I hope you can share your experience with some of your friends, maybe you can hang out without your ex sometime? I can imagine that would be painful.
The problem is we(as humans) except lot of things from the other person.. Be it your gf or a friend or family! We expect lot from them and that's the reason why we break easily. Soo stop expecting, live your life up-to the mark. I have been through the wrost breakup and also a after a year got rejected by a girl(who was actually my best friend). What I learnt from this , life doesn't go as of our wish. We just have to move with the flow. Stop expecting!
When they give you the “I need space, we need a break, or we are different people right.” They have already found someone else. Wish them the worst in their life and move on.
It's because it is part of a global campaign to fool people into believing polyandrism is something normal in a civilized society. It is not. Polyandrism will be destroyed through pre-natal sex selection.
I was thinking that, lol. Jeff and the gf remain fwb. She then asks if they could be more and he's like "lol, so you can cheat on me too? nah," and then he ignores her and keeps going his way like a boss. 👍
he didn't do the "best" for his partner, he thought he did but, what is best for your female partner, is to concentrate on yourself, not on her. You can read how relationships work in depth from books or internet.
Torm Endor Yeah though still there’s a thing such as discussion or a break-up, you don’t have to cheat just because your partner doesn’t behave how you expect them to.
You cannot lay the blame on the person who didn't cheat. That's ridiculous. Cheating is inexcusable, if she lost attraction then she should have broken up with him first. I agree that you should move on and improve yourself but you cannot absolve the cheater of responsibility.
I’m sorry, but there is never a reason to cheat. The “what did I do to make them cheat” thing is honestly a damaging mindset. Yes, better yourself, find yourself after a break up, but don’t question what you did wrong because you did nothing wrong. You loved them, they cheated. If they didn’t want to be with you anymore then they should have left. That’s like someone asking “why did they abuse me?” Instead of seeing the abuse and growing from it and knowing how to protect themselves for it. No one is perfect and you have to work at relationships to keep it going. Being depressed and grieving are things everyone does differently. You need to know what coping mechanisms work for you. Personally, taking time for myself and realizing who I was as a person again. No person has any reason to cheat. If they are unhappy, they should have the respect for the other person and just break it off.
13 years of what I thought was perfect marriage. Just found out she had been living a double life with another man the entire time. It's an unreal kind of pain
My Evil Ex fiance Cheated on me and got pregnant by another man. I Spent 2 years severely depressed but I took control of my life, accepted that she was a disgusting Harlot and I finished college. Now I am a Police Officer with a degree in criminal justice. I have my own place and I am currently writing a Novel. That disgusting horrible excuse for a woman cheating on me was the best thing to ever happen to me.
A Reese My X cheated on me with a Thai prostitute then went home abuse n kick me n my kid out in freezing cold winter. I understand u are police n got cheated but b mindful that many women got cheated n abused by many men as well
@@tuyetpham128 I totally understand, I don't have a vendetta against women. I just hate women who lie and let me down. I'm sorry that your ex hurt you. You deserve better and I hope you find happiness.
I never get jealous when I see my ex with someone else because my parents always taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate. Always remember that friends 😁
I watched this video when it came out 3 years ago and thought this would never happen to me. Guess what? It did and I am happy to say that 4 months since the breakup I have done things that Jeff in the video did and it gives me hope that I will come out of this on the other side as a better man!
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
"I just lose attraction to you" is never a justification to cheat on your significant other, if you really lose attraction, talk things out and move out, there is no point in staying with someone you are not attracted to other than to hurt yourself and the other person.
Yeah you're right what's the point of being in a relationship if u are not really in love because when u lose your attraction to someone u are not rly in love
"what did I do to cause this?" That's a very very dangerous question. It justifies toxic behavior. It shifts the blame into the victim for the other person's decisions.
Thank you for addressing this. Self improvement is never a bad thing, and always try to find ways to recover from defeat. But never shift the blame onto yourself. It's a ridiculous and toxic idea that only works in certain scenarios. You should always be trying to improve yourself, regardless of a break up.
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True love is the hardest when the feeling you feel is one you can't feel with anyone else it hurts i know this and i know other people feel the same. I love someone and time difference between the countys we are both in means it would work.
9:43 ''from broken relationships, to loved one passing, to getting fired.'' -- I experienced all three at the same time. I fell into depression. I fought for my life to move on. Now years later, I have a new relationship, new life and new (and better) job.
That's great news. Breakup and neutered my cat. Everyone thinks it's funny but that was a double whammy. I finally decided to get him neutered so she could sleep better with him not meowing etc and she let me figure it out in ugly little ways, like complimenting other guys and pushing me away if I go to hold her hand etc. Bad
My name is Ben, I have a girlfriend that I've been dating since 18, we often talk about our future and shit and we are not yet 28 or 30... I'm low key freaking out here
You should have a very open and honest conversation with her about your fears, being vulnerable is a strength. Keep in mind sometimes a separation for a while in a relationship is necessary for personal growth and then you can come back together stronger.
Dr. Phil has a "marriage readiness test" that lists questions that couples should address before getting married. Take a look at that BEFORE you get married.
@@Durka-Durka I put about as much faith in TV doctors as I do Web MD but I appreciate the advice nonetheless. We kinda have a non standard view on marraige anyhow.
@@aDecentBug I understand. But I just want to say for the record, the only reason he's on TV is because he was hired to help Oprah with a legal case against her. She was very impressed with him and decided to have him on her show and it went from there. It wasn't like he planned on having his own show on TV.
@@TCFan30 a lot of people who cheated are destroyed by it because they feel guilty and feel a lot of regrets. It isn't the case for every cheaters but most of them aren't happy after that
Happened to me... I didnt get to see it, luckily, but once I heard it... It ruined me... To this day, after only several months, I rot in pity everyday thinking about how bad I am.. Im never good enough, or anything. I offered and gave everything for her, everything.. She meant the world to me, something I never wanted to see fall apart and I actually thought we were on the same boat sailing to paradise.. But no.. I was cheated on and my emotions were never thought of. All I can say is I never thought I would find myself looking online, or asking my therapist, or anything about how to fix this.. Because honestly, the pain at times is so unbearable not just cause of the betrayal, but what it did to me as a human being. To feel so low about yourself. All I can say honestly, is dont cheat. It leaves someone in unimaginable, neverending pain..
Consideration for your feelings is not priority on a cheaters list. I think it might sporadically cross their minds but only in context of " what if they find out " they do not care about the hurt. Either because they've never felt it or because they're incapable of feeling it
I recommend you to (Dr Steve). He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me, I have b e e n enjoying a perfect Relationship with my ex. I will advice you seek his help thanks.🙏
Hi morris, do u think I can text u somewhere ? if u would be open about it, I would like to speak to someone that went thru same sh*t and is humiliated the same way that I am...
Happened to me severally.With the worst being my ex breaking up our engagement cz of a new girl friend he was talking to.But I have wisened up now and I will not accomodate someone whose feelings towards me are not genuine.I will be more patient for the authentic person to come my way.
They will! Everyone does, people change over the years and meet new people all the time. They'll have crushes on other people, they will lose interest in you, they'll find you annoying. Loving someone requires work. If you find someone who is willing to invest time in you, get to know you not only in the beginning but after every couple of years or so, someone who knows that love has its ups and downs, you'll have found the one!
It's ALWAYS WRONG to cheat. Literally, you cannot justify cheating on someone you're with, there's no way. If you feel like you're losing interest, start a discussion and TALK about it, and if that still doesn't work break up. Don't take the lazy way out so you can keep both your boyfriend/girlfriend and another side-boyfriend/girlfriend. That's selfish and just morally messed up. If it was just a breakup, of course feelings would be hurt. But eventually that would fade away. But if you walk in on your special someone banging someone else, that SHATTERS your heart. Literally, everything just shatters and freezes. Time stops, your heart beats heavy as well and life just seems darker. This feeling would've never happened if you just spoke about it and broke up formally.
@@jaydenhutchinson5419 They're scared to leave which means they get into another relationship which they will be potentially scared to leave and/or can't be open about.
This should be the most upvoted comment. Sadly many people don't abide by morals and logic, and attribute their mistakes to being emotionally overwhelmed, being caught off-guard and confused, whereas they actually simply lack empathy and social responsibility. Luckily this is a good thing since you DON'T want to have people like this in your life. The only real bad part is the time and efforts they make you waste during their deceit.
The heart won't shatter. You'll just want both of them to die a very long-lasting miserably painful death, hearing the words 'I'm so sorry' screamed from pain and guilt. But then you'd want her back alive so you can make her feel bad all over again. Rinse and repeat
@@yourheinness9275 - Another bitter mgtow! Bro, if you make yourself The MAN, you can psychologically dominate women and they will do for you instead of you constantly doing for them!
Yeah, people mix up attraction and love all the time. To love someone is a commitment in your heart and you think about their feelings. Attraction also comes in cycles, over time. I’ve been listening to John Grey (the guy who wrote Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus) and he offers a lot of scientific studies about attraction and relationships that make a lot of sense, and if people don’t know these things they can think there’s a problem when there’s not. I’d avoided his books because I thought it sounded sexist (like we’re from different planets when we’re half of the whole to each other in humanity) but, a lot of his stuff is pure gold. And even the stuff I’m hesitant about doesn’t seem coming from a sexist place but a place of wanting to really connect and nurture/have fun in life with each other 💜
That’s a lie you tell yourself because you’re addicted to the false idea of superiority through false victimhood. Im not saying men can’t be victims. They can. But to extrapolate these toxic ideas to all women is a WHOLE lie.
My ex cheating on my was the best thing ever! Now i moved to japan, have a good job and started hiking and found an amazing partner where we both work on our life goals ( not just Netflix at home) but sport together, enjoy nature and work on our career together. My ex cheating was the best thing ever otherwise I would be stuck with a person that wasn’t 100 % going for me.
Teach me how to pack up everything and move to Japan. That was my original goal 2 months before I met my gf who just broke up with me yesterday. We were together for over 4 years and she left one the week of our anniversary. She packed her bags last night and boarded a plane out of the country immediately. Totally caught me off guard. I thought everything was working even though we've had our qualms and quarrels. She then had the audacity to ask me why am I so mad? I now have a good job, I own my house and car but I've always wanted to just pack everything up and move to Japan. I'm happy to know to somewhere someone else in this world was able to obtain the same dream that I've always wanted. Thanks for giving me hope and motivation!
i totally don't like motivation. Thinking this way best would be if you would never have met your ex....You just changed your life for better because you wanted to improve your life. Being honest you could do it any time -dump your exs before or press him to change himself. It doesnt matter. The fact that he cheated on you is not the best thing in your life-thats just excuse. The best thing is that you can live the way you want....just like you all would not understand cause and effect thing......
Of course. The girl was superwrong. But this Ben was a procrastinator and didn't show real love for her girlfriend. 10 years dating her, a good job, a house and still hasn't married her? I would have left him!
I am 27 years old. And I recently broke up with my FIRST girlfriend 2 weeks ago.Yes first girlfriend because those that don't know me I am very picky. So yes, she was my first everything. I really tried searching for the one and I really thought she was it. That's why I dated her. We called each other soulmates because we had so many things in common. We wanted to be around each other every single day. But by reading these comments i realized that maybe my breakup wasn't even half bad compared to a lot of people's here. We only dated for 8 months but God, we made so many memories in such a short time😓. It felt like more than a relationship bond. We were 1 month away from moving in together. I never cheated on her nor did she (or that I knew of). We were so loyal to each other. But we just had a lot of disagreements on one thing (personal) that kept going from bad to worst. I was in denial all the time about our disagreement because I know not every relationship was perfect and maybe thought that by time, it would change. But it never did. It got to the point to where enough was enough. As much as it hurted me I did what was right. I knew what was good for me and what was good for her. It still hurts today. My soul feels empty and dead. As much as I try to stay distracted I'm always wondering how she's doing or what she's doing. It's such a horrible feeling. One that I wish on nobody. I just really hope I am able to move on soon😞. And I hope you all do too.
I agree to a point. Though it's not nice there might come a time where a partner makes a mistake. The difference is if they own up to it and if they make amends or continue to repeat. A one off might be forgiven, thought hard. But something which was done repeatedly or systematically is just not excusable. And yes, if you "plan" to cheat, you should end it and back the fuck off
Atleast u did something good to ur self instead of wasting time on thinking on why did she cheat lesson for this clip is dont let ur self down when someone cheated on you make it as a motivation in life that u can be a better person even without her
Sadly that was me a few years ago. In contrast to the first guy, I didnt pull myself together. I lost my girlfriend after i caught her cheating on me. I lost my job cuz I fell into self-pity depression and as a consequence I also lost my appartement cuz I couldnt pay for it AND I broke off my studies. Then I went back into my parents basement and played CSGO for around 3000 hours. This all happened a few years ago ... It took me around 1 year until I started acting like Jeff. Nowadays, Im a pretty happy person and everything is fine again ... but reading your comment to me felt like "daaaamn bro, you got me right there" haha
Its all kissy kissy I love you at first. Once you start living together true self blossoms.You become to comfortable with each other.Bad habits fights no need to put up a front or that first impression. Long distance and planning to meet again in a 3rd world country. Through time and talking by Skype you get a sense of something is wrong and you see a post of her and a guy close together with heat emoji. Now you can get broads and the Hedonistic route to the max.
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This is actually true. After i broke up with my girlfriend, i was devastated. So i started working on my side hustle to make more money so i can distract myself. It was heartbreaking, but i know it’s a blessing in disguise
While introspection is good after a break up, there is absolutely no excuse or justification for cheating. It is anti-love and the complete opposite of unconditional love. Cheating is evil, immoral, selfish and always wrong.
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Masculine man, I am trying to be like Jeff I am trying to better myself every day, I want to be the best me that I can be so I can eventually keep a relationship, would it be too much trouble to ask for some advice from you?
Jeff story is kinda cool, but it's too good to be true. Noone would be that Jeff when they're down. That's what I know 🤐
Masculine Man I love you're animations but if you want to attract new viewers you have to make more content, you keep putting your channel on hold to focus on you're animations but you need to give us different content while you're at it, like mastar Media, I don't even like him but what he's doing is smart, he's letting his fans know I'll take a long time to make anime war animations but until then he'll post anime review videos to keep them busy, I'm not trying to tell you what to do I'm just saying these days if you keep doing the same old thing eventually people are going to get tired of it and you're gonna keep losing viewers if you have nothing to fall back on and I don't want to see that happened to a channel like yours
Never got cheated on. But when the shit goes down you gotta - whatever it be - you have to make the best of it. Actually a very Stoic notion:)
I dreamed if working in an art related job or animation. This video restored a little passion in me :)
no matter what anyone says, there's *no* excuse for cheating. it's a disgusting, heartless, and scummy thing to do. it messes with a person's heart and soul on such a deep level.
No, according to this video, its ok if you weren't working out and eating well.
@@79mikeotto This video is trying to simp and white knight by blaming female moral failure on males
@@bigrozo agreed, it certainly comes across that way. Not nearly enough blame for the female.
@@azaquihelify delightfully platitudinous.
Beeby exactly
No matter how many flaws someone might have, nobody deserves being cheated on.
MMmmmmm I wonder where I've read about this before.....???? O yeah in the bible! It says not to commit adultery and fornicate or to lust after someone else's stuff. Now it makes sense! Funny how that old book still have all the answers hey?? Don't wonder why!
My friend. I absolutely respect christians and beloved and great prophet Jesus Christ pbuh. But i am a shi'a muslim and i have never read the holy bible. But i agree with you.
The real "girlfriend" will fix that flaws.
Mike Driggs Instead of bashing a whole religion, maybe you should read the bible more, stop watching Fox News and being brainwashed. I’m Sunni Muslim, I believe heaven will be inhabited by humans of all faiths, who are honest, just and god fearing/loving.
@@koniJnr haha. I think that guy is a troll. He just wanted to stir up some hate. Good thing Jeff ignored
Basically dont let another person be your only source of happiness. You'll just be hurt and disappointed, I promise
dj direwolfe realise your the only one responsible for your happiness
I'm in a situation where my girlfriend is the only thing that brings me happiness, and if she ever leaves me or something bad happens to her, I'm going to commit suicide.
Karolis van Houten Never make another person who isn't infinite and is just as flawed as everyone else dictate such impactful and important things in your life such as happiness and very ESPECIALLY your own life itself. It is too valuable and precious and treasurous to be determined by external, temporary things and things that dont level with the great value of you life and your soul
Great advise
dj direwolfe everyone should live selfishly in a certain aspect. That is do what you love in life, don’t do things for other people but rather for self enjoyment or help yourself be happy before you can help others.
Acceptance is the hardest part. Accepting that the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with doesn't want the same thing, after years of commitment, is extremely difficult.
I'm going through this right now. My 6 years of relationship just ended. I'm dead inside
@@sagargrajput5582 same bro...this is so heartbreaking..
Totally Bro. The key for getting over someone is acceptance like you said. It won't happen overnight but until you tell your brain SHE AIN'T coming back. Only then you heal with time
20 years here...
7 fucking years and she is my first love. I was planning to marry her this year but she broke up with me, and moving on with someone new. It's been 6 months but it feels like yesterday 💔
As soon as I heard the “coming home early” scenario I already knew...
lol yep
MTD Fishing that’s exactly my thought too. It’s sad how true and commonly it happens that you can predict it so far out
same
@@InfamousLuigi ikr why can't lovers just be loyal to each other? This makes me wanna be single throughout my life
It´s always the gardener !
"He learned that he can actually come home early"
Oh boy
Shouldn't have learned that 😂
We all knew what was up after that sentence, lol
@@mandla_on_retro bahahahahahahahaha
I'm probably not the only one who knew where that was headed.
I knew what was coming then lmao
27 year old guy here. Just got left by my gf of 6 years. Had proposal plans and all. It can and will happen to you if you aren't careful, and even the careful ones will still get left somehow. It's life.
Uriah Graves Oh man... 27? Still very young, my guy. Keep your chin up and stay strong, champ. Keep going!!
@@Theodore_VII thanks.
Hopefully this video gives you something to learn from in finding happiness within yourself.. all the best
MGTOW is the answer my man
Hey buddy, I was also left by my 6 year girlfriend when I was 27 (four years ago). I'm also a psychologist and I have some tips from my experience. Would you be willing to talk? I'd love to share them and show you how you can grow stronger and become a better version of yourself from it :)
I dated a girl for over 3 years. When that relationship ended it nearly broke me. Worst breakup ever (it was my first). I can’t even begin to imagine a 10 year relationship ending. Whole ass decade of your life.
This year is unreal. I had a boyfriend 5 years he ended up my heart broke into million pieces.. From this heart brk I experiencing alots to let go.. I feel it not easier but while I'm letting go I cry this tears ll bring me joy oneday.. So heartbreak is a monsters
I can. My wife divorced me. We had been together for 13 years. She started dating someone before she even moved out. The last four months or so have been hell for me.
exact same thing happened... broke up with my first gf.. after 3 years of relationship... in aug 2020... worst year ever.
My bf broke up with me after 6 years together. A year since the breakup and it still hurts like hell. But I moved on and accepted the facts. Nevertheless, it’s still painful.
I'm really sorry, that's really sad
People... just don't cheat on your partner, have respect for them and above all for yourself. If you feel like you're losing attraction to your partner just leave, end the relationship with a respectful conversation between you two.
This is most sensible comment in this comment section
@@smigus212 thank you! ^^
I feel like there’s not a lot of people that are willing to be adults and do what you said ... they end up cheating or they do something that just isn’t ok .
@@zroh_in unfortunately that's true :/
Celtic Revival / Adfywiad Celtaidd especially when its a long term relationship
This just popped up in everybody’s recommendations
The most breakups happen around the Christmas period
Hmmmm...
Ikr! It was so annoying
Yep lol
If your a celebrity you date loads of people and break up with them and the people you date don’t love you and you don’t love them your just doing it for the miedia
My girlfriend leaving me for another guy was the best thing that ever happened to me. Got in shape, healthier, happier and have a job i love. When you hit rock bottom its only one way to go.
Ikr when you hit rock bottom there is only one way to go....
...dig deeper
How I'm tryin to be
ItzEmS he means it’s a motivation to prove her wrong for leaving him. i know what he means
squidwards sinclarinet I know what he means but that shouldn’t be why you do good for yourself. You will just end up in another relationship getting pushed over.
Ole Moy that’s a fact
Morale of the story: Keep moving forward, until the very end.
Brat
Apparently RUclips decided we are all watching this today
Ikr😂
the mazzter fr bruh lmao
Lmaoo
Fr😂😂
Right!?
The best revenge is to be a better version of yourself
Agreed!!!
Yes, but throwing a bit of arson their way every now and then couldn’t hurt.
you are absolutely right. I saw my ex about 4 months after broke up because she ran off with someone else and rather than be cold with me, she saw the new me who lost weight and changed up my personal appearance which she had never seen before, and gave me a smile and she was at a loss for words because we both bumped into each other at the store. And its also important to better yourself for YOU not the other person. Another lesson I learned.
Yup i was going to say that
truth!!!
My wife of 4 years cheated on me last thursday. I found out today... from the man's wife. This helped. Thankyou.
Hey man its ok! You’re a cool guy and you deserve so much better! Work on yourself and you’ll meet someone worth your time!
Wow that must be very hurtful. Just focus on your life goals and move on from the past. #YOLO
I'm so sorry 💔
Sorry bro
well in that case you can do the good ol switcharo and fuck the mans wife and get even boom.
“Did I do anything to make her cheat on me?”
That’s a very flawed and dangerous way to advise people think.
@@beckyanna7287 Don’t need to. It only takes a handful of people to see the flaws in a straw man argument such as the argument of advising people to develop the destructive submissive mindset that it’s their fault they got cheated on like “Did I do anything to make her cheat on me?” and call it a bad idea.
Bottom line there is never really a reason for a cheater to cheat. Cheaters cheat because they wanted to and because they could.
Exactly! I was waiting for a comment like this.
Bruh if you lose interest in someone then the least you can do is tell them... not cheat on them...tf. And you don't need to change yourself for anyone.
If you're talking about Jeff, I don't think he was changing himself for anyone. He was only trying to find ways to improve his life style and efficiently spend his time by doing productive things.
Preach
TOTALY AGREE
@@trashtrash7556 yep exactly he wasn't changing himself for that cheating sack of shit
Ikr?! People these days...
Basically what he wants to say is success is the best revenge
Ir jus being happy w urself
So right. Make that bitch regret
@@callmealpha7548 Then you just devulge into spite and hatred. You become focused on this person and therefore all your progress is fragile and faulty.
Success is not better then revenge.
SUCCESS IS BIGGEST REVENGE
@@aaryanpatel5948 Again. You let that person concume you even years later then you have failed to get over it. I'd rather see no "success" and be happy then to have all the wealth only over pent up aggression and hatred. That's no way to live
You can trust no one...in the end you will always be disappointed if you put your sense of self worth and esteem in the hands of others.
You can actually trust someone
Dont let the evil majority blind you from seeing that there are still some people that can be trusted
And they will trust you too
Mostly true
@@simpsbelongtothegulags3702 "some people left"
Yeah, that sounds like a bad bargain...
True. Even if you're in a relationship that is 2 decades old, you still don't know what will happen to your relationship tomorrow, or after a month. A true relationship is a relationship without bull💩 and lies (lies are referred to cheating and so on, BTW) No relationship can be perfect because a perfect relationship is always one of the worst ones, if you know what I mean.
Especially if it’s someone who is different in personality
My ex gf of 5 years have left me 6 days ago without any closure. I find this really useful for me. Thank you 😇👍
Sorry to hear that it's brutal, I got dumped month and half ago it's torture shit
I'm sorry for this
Is that u with Gary? ??!
@@Roadglide86 i feel you bro. Once you get to mix with more friends and join certain groups on dating and self improvement, you can get over it sooner than ever.
@@ican3900 yes it is. No worries. I just feel sorry for her that she can't and will never enjoy true happiness. Her perception about love and relationship have been fucked cos of her and her parents. 😇
i got cheated on, we talked about it gave her one more chance only to realize she was talking to someone again that she talked to before when she was cheating on me, it’s hard to break off but with me having a bright future with entrepreneurship and investing i’ll get over it pretty soon. I see that you took a pic with Gary you’re lucky!
Lesson of the story:
Dont make your girl the center of your life.
True
Lesson is don't give your girl reason to cheat.
Not really, just learn how to accept things and move on.
So that she feels like you don’t love her so she decides to feel better with someone else!
@@kaisatoridraws3437
lol...
*Guy doing everything*
Girl: You are being so clingy, needy, pushy. *Finds another guy*
*Guy not making you the center of his life*
Girl: You don't love me enough. *Finds another guy*
Just broke up with my girlfriend
Time to get rich.
Just remember, Mark Zuckerberg once had the exact same thought!
Lelouch Lom Perouge same here lol
Hella yeah no point in crying over spilled milk.
Nice
@@roroguapo3 Holy shit, you're right. He might be highly intelligent, possibly an alien, but who caaares. LET'S GET THIS BREAD.
This video actually changed my life. I cried uncontrollably after watching this video knowing that I reacted like Ben. But later, I continued to work on myself (although I still have a long way to go) and with that momentum eventually ended up going abroad to San Francisco (which feels like Jeff travelling to Italy). Thank you!!!
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I hope you are better now 🙏
We were both happy for 6 years until she talked about her future plans and I realized... I wasnt even part of it.
Ouch
fk hurts
Yup. I certainly know how that feels
Ramses Angus Diel
I'm sorry to hear that dude :/
oh shit.!!
You guys gotta realize that walking the same path as Jeff can cause you to become emotionally numb. After breakup I wiped it all out of my mind and considered myself strong minded, up until I began to realize that my actions really doesn't have purpose/goal. Just straight, flat lined days of performing, not being able to sense a single thing in my life.
You *need* time to grief and feel. Feelings are such things that you shouldn't consider bad; after 9 months of not crying or laughing you begin to miss the feeling of being sad along with being happy again, let me tell you that much.
It was specifically stated that he DID cry and was angry at his ex for a few months; the only difference is that after a while, he realized that continuing to do this was not beneficial and started working on himself.
I came to this world, under unknown circumstances, in order to experience. My eyes see millions of different nice colors, my brain can understand several intriguing and interesting stuff. Why turn my eyes black and my brain dull for someone who would never understand the depth of this gift. That girl obviously had fuckin as her top value. We are moving towards something more humane. I'm not saying we should forget our instincts, but certainly, we can clarify the FUCK that we lost our interest for a person and do this in a graceful way:
-Sorry, I've lost my interest, I was faithful to you, but now I can't be with you.
-Ok bye, have a nice life :)
THAT IS HUMANE. (and also don't fuck my best friend xDDD)
Over the past decade I've started to become more and more numb to my emotions...
BloodyFish13 Jeff was also upset for months though, he wasn’t a robot.
Jeff is a man
Cheating is never justified. If you lost attraction to someone, you leave them.
Exactly, every relationship should have that standard.
Agreed. Cheaters dont take responsibility- blame the other person but stay with them 🤷♂️
True. But they rather destroy the other's emotions and trust than actually leave.
People like this is straight up garbage.
True, because if you hurt the innocant real bad then karma will come to you
I watched this video like 4-5 years ago almost every other day because I was so hurt and couldn’t believe this happened to me. She started acting funny towards the end of the relationship and slowly found someone else while we still lived together and boom left me. I was hurt at the time being and thought I would never get over it. It took some years and I’m finally completely over it now but those first few months and 2 years we’re tough. I worked on my self and got fit, got into real estate and even started my RUclips channel which has been growing and having a lot of success and is also a dream job so I have to thank her for what she did to me. My story is like Jeff…I found a mentor started working on a side business then the side business got bigger and eventually became a full time thing which gives me freedom to do what I want when I want…then even moved to another country (Colombia) and been living here since and it’s been beautiful. If I would’ve stayed with my ex I wouldn’t have done none of these amazing things. I cried almost everyday the first and maybe second year but looking back it was the best thing that could’ve happened to me…you don’t see it though at the time being. Hopefully this story inspires someone!
Knew where this was going the moment I heard "He learned he can actually come home early".
Yep. I've seen "Old School"...I knew what was up...lol
MrDrProfessor4 same☹️
The Most Hurt Things Is Being Forgotten By Someone You Can't Forget
Truth
You guys have wrong grammar just saying i dont expect any hate replies
100th like ayee
Truthfully True
amen
Thank god. caught cheaters saves so many years in our rest of life.Never accept cheaters back in your life.
Agreed
Eh idk if she cheated but she’d never give me her phone and would delete things, I left her cuz of it.
@@FramedShots honestly you did the right thing.
Joe T. Thanks buddy I hope so. 🙏
@@FramedShots I can relateto that, something like that happended to me too.
Never trust anyone...Being in a "serious" relationship is like giving someone a gun and telling them not to fire it. They will though.
Just have fun and never get attached.
No strings attached..
You should look into Stan Tatkin.
"never get attached" are why guys became assholes and play around women. You could "just have fun" until one person you fall in love with, and you just couldn't fight it off, the heart is already there. that's where your karma takes place. Moral of the story, never create your karma because the pain is far worst than those who were afflicted the same but never did wrong to anyone.
@@sallylemon5835 can you elaborate more on the karma part? This was certainly an interesting response
1 Thing learned... being single is amazing
But having sex is more amazing
@@spookyquinnie3293 you can be single and having sex bro 👌🏼
Yeah, bruh
No
Maybe is better😂
Are you happy now youtube? I watched it
Recommendation huh? I feel you
Same
I kinda have the same feeling lol
It was a pretty noce reminder though
yeah I felt like i was watching this video for hour, turns out i just had 0.75 speed on.
Same. And i lost 10min. This video is so dumb. Yaaaay someone cheated on me so now i can go to the gym, eat healthily and have an online business in italy. What a mercy.
And i should talk and ask what went wrong to a thot that instead of break up with me she preferred to bang random dudes in my own bedroom.
No excuse for infidelity. Not happy? Leave. Never cheat. Very simple.
Exactly this video shows victim-blaming like it's their fault they got cheated on
Yes it’s simple but people are selfish AF so expect the infidelity anyway because some people think they can have the best of both worlds.
Totally agree with you. It is hard to accept that the girl/boy you love, no longer loves you.. but accepting that she/he is cheated on you is on another level imo.. Clearly it is you who have to fight against your demons but mostly other people responsible for the size of these demons..
@@kiddtaak Yup! Been through this myself. You are perfectly correct.
@@TothBen8 Better to decide which way to take then move. Hate=feelings, no feeling=indifference. So "moving past", "accepting", "cooling down" is actually = burring love. But if there is much hate in both, it can be repaired on condition that destructive aggressiveness is suspended by strong will (no emotions) and not giving up. If partner is indifferent, its impossible. But no hard feelings for moving past either, "good place is never free".
Hello everyone, I dont know if someone will ever watch this video and this comment, but I’d like to share my little story: I’m 18 and, about a year ago, me and my ex-girlfriend broke up after 1,5 beautiful years together. Now we dont talk anymore, even if we are in the same group of friends, and it still hurts to see her laughing with someone else while I’m everyday asking to myself what did I do wrong in our relationship. Also I dont anymore feel part of my historical group I’ve been hanging out with for 10+ years. I feel alone, anyway I’m trying to work hard and to study in order to enter university and to work as a personal trainer in the meantime (meanwhile I see other people having fun at the sea in Instagram stories), and I’m confident about my future, I’m sure I will meet other people and friends and re-build my life. Sorry for my bad english, have a good day
Hope you feel better bro. Even though I’m only 14 life’s hard here and I wish you best of luck on getting in the university
Good:)
Hey man, I think we're in the same boat. Quite a coincidence, but I am also 18, just entered university and also lost my ex girlfriend of 1,5 years about four months ago. It has been a rough time lately, although I learned many lessons from the relationship along the way. Try to learn from all that happened and see what could've caused the breakup. Don't blame yourself, just try to understand what happened. After that, you can decide which of these things you want to work on. My biggest issue was probably that I barely talked about my feelings because I didn't want to upset her. This turned out to be a big mistake because in the end she didn't understand me, and made assumptions about me as a result. Nowadays I try to talk more to my family and friends, and I'm also becoming more decisive and organised. I see you are heading in the same direction. Keep in mind that it will get better soon. Just keep focusing on whatever makes you happy, that didn't involve your ex. I hope you can share your experience with some of your friends, maybe you can hang out without your ex sometime? I can imagine that would be painful.
Why are you not part of your historical group anymore?
Why your friends do not talk to you anymore?
...and Jeff died alone never trusting another woman ever again
Stop searching another mom. Your have to dominate a women calmy. Why trust your whoooooole life to someone else than God anyways? Wimp
He is a gay now
Jack ascended and learned the truth
*If she breathes...*
... from a heroin overdose
...or anything else...
Moral : If you're single, nobody can break you 😁
Yeah bro. Ive realized that too
Doesn’t work like that. People disappoint me each more every day
I was about to say what about if you don't see any people at all, you're invincible 😂
Kleo Zane I’ll find a way to break myself 😂
The problem is we(as humans) except lot of things from the other person.. Be it your gf or a friend or family! We expect lot from them and that's the reason why we break easily.
Soo stop expecting, live your life up-to the mark.
I have been through the wrost breakup and also a after a year got rejected by a girl(who was actually my best friend).
What I learnt from this , life doesn't go as of our wish. We just have to move with the flow.
Stop expecting!
Jeff started smoking weed
I literally just died
OMEGALUL
😆😂😆😂😆😂😆
He actually became gay
LMAO
When they give you the “I need space, we need a break, or we are different people right.” They have already found someone else. Wish them the worst in their life and move on.
This video taught me to never come home early
SourPatchKid 69 Hahahahahaha 😂
No it taught u to never come home
😂😂😂😂😂
You'll be surprised if you try to give surprises.
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Who's here because of the recommendations.
Crazy how many of us feel shit on these days by females.
Prabhat Bhartola 🙋🏽♀️
Me
Me
I'm finally watching thisn
Saddest part of this video is that this is in my recommendation and has been for 3 weeks.
ShotGun 64 Mine too 🤣
ShotGun 64 😬😬😬that's tuff
It's because it is part of a global campaign to fool people into believing polyandrism is something normal in a civilized society. It is not. Polyandrism will be destroyed through pre-natal sex selection.
Real shit.hope you guys are okay
😂 Same
I saw this video almost exactly 2 years ago after a "break up"......now after another "break up"....here we go again.... we are animals of habit....
Me too..n my exs name is Ben
Hhhh you have ressistance
Breakups can be the best thing for you sometimes
Leelz247 yeah I’m sill sad over my breakup ruclips.net/video/NPi4eTt1Ytw/видео.html
*Sometimes*
Daniel Sloss - Jigsaw. Thank me later.
Yes, it can be the one thing that makes you realize that you have more worth that you had even given yourself credit for.
Really?
PLOT TWIST : Jeff is the man whos on the bed with Ben's girlfriend.
LOL
hahaha yeah
I was thinking that, lol. Jeff and the gf remain fwb. She then asks if they could be more and he's like "lol, so you can cheat on me too? nah," and then he ignores her and keeps going his way like a boss. 👍
Karma
Jeez that was epic!
you shouldn't blame yourself for someone cheating on you when you only did the best for your partner.
Exactly. If you're not in love with someone anymore, just leave them. Don't go fucking someone else behind their back.
he didn't do the "best" for his partner, he thought he did but, what is best for your female partner, is to concentrate on yourself, not on her. You can read how relationships work in depth from books or internet.
Torm Endor Yeah though still there’s a thing such as discussion or a break-up, you don’t have to cheat just because your partner doesn’t behave how you expect them to.
@@xabashdog now where did that come from. i didn't talk about how you should behave when you lost interest.
It doesnt matter how awfull your partner is. You should first leave before starting new relationships!!!
"I wanted to give her everything" see, that's what happens when you value others over yourself. Be ruthless, remind them they live of you.
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@@pedroclar5672 gtfo
@@blueflame3531 message him for urgent help
Who also had this in their recommendations?
ya
Me 😂
I had this in my recemendationt
I've never heard of this channel until it went into my recommendation😂
About 4 weeks tops. Seems like everyone has this shit in their recommendations recently.
You cannot lay the blame on the person who didn't cheat. That's ridiculous. Cheating is inexcusable, if she lost attraction then she should have broken up with him first. I agree that you should move on and improve yourself but you cannot absolve the cheater of responsibility.
L
Check out Esther Perel
If she cheats on you once, what makes you think she won't cheat on you again? It's a question of character.
@@MrDrProfessor4 If my girl would cheat on me and say she wouldnt do it again , i would had tossed her out of the window.
You cant trust any women.
i see, u make sense but my thing is, why would she pick me if she didn't find me attractive
I’m sorry, but there is never a reason to cheat. The “what did I do to make them cheat” thing is honestly a damaging mindset. Yes, better yourself, find yourself after a break up, but don’t question what you did wrong because you did nothing wrong. You loved them, they cheated. If they didn’t want to be with you anymore then they should have left. That’s like someone asking “why did they abuse me?” Instead of seeing the abuse and growing from it and knowing how to protect themselves for it. No one is perfect and you have to work at relationships to keep it going. Being depressed and grieving are things everyone does differently. You need to know what coping mechanisms work for you. Personally, taking time for myself and realizing who I was as a person again. No person has any reason to cheat. If they are unhappy, they should have the respect for the other person and just break it off.
wise words Emily Abraham
So true
Emily Abraham 99% you cheated at some point
Good advice. I believe you should just split if you're unhappy. But sometimes they stay until they find something better. Then they leave.
@@businessdulevv8062 99% that's extreme.
13 years of what I thought was perfect marriage. Just found out she had been living a double life with another man the entire time. It's an unreal kind of pain
how are you today sir
This video taught me that if your single you'll live your best life
facts
Balance is the key
Haa no. You just haven't found a soulmate yet
Scarlet Zubaidah I’ve reached the point where I accept that my soulmate is trapped inside a condom
Not really what about when u get old or when u feel lonely, there’s a time in life when u need Someone to be with
My Evil Ex fiance Cheated on me and got pregnant by another man. I Spent 2 years severely depressed but I took control of my life, accepted that she was a disgusting Harlot and I finished college. Now I am a Police Officer with a degree in criminal justice. I have my own place and I am currently writing a Novel. That disgusting horrible excuse for a woman cheating on me was the best thing to ever happen to me.
A Reese 🤘🏻💔
A Reese My X cheated on me with a Thai prostitute then went home abuse n kick me n my kid out in freezing cold winter. I understand u are police n got cheated but b mindful that many women got cheated n abused by many men as well
@@tuyetpham128 I totally understand, I don't have a vendetta against women. I just hate women who lie and let me down. I'm sorry that your ex hurt you. You deserve better and I hope you find happiness.
@S M you'll make it and become a cop. Use the pain you're in now to fuel your desire and show her what she missed out on. You got this buddy 💪
What a bitch, I hate people like that
I never get jealous when I see my ex with someone else because my parents always taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate. Always remember that friends 😁
God bless you!!!!
I really needed this loll
Ha “used toys”
thick assasination THIS MADE MY WHOLE DAY 😂😂😂 THANK THE LORD FOR YOU
Holy crap. Hah! Lol
I watched this video when it came out 3 years ago and thought this would never happen to me. Guess what? It did and I am happy to say that 4 months since the breakup I have done things that Jeff in the video did and it gives me hope that I will come out of this on the other side as a better man!
Hi, get anyone you love or (SP) attracted to you. And also get your EX back coming to you begging you for a second chance through the help of Dr Steve, he helped me restore my 5 years broken relationship. Also Dr Steve always keep up with his words, I will advise you seek his help thanks.
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"I just lose attraction to you" is never a justification to cheat on your significant other, if you really lose attraction, talk things out and move out, there is no point in staying with someone you are not attracted to other than to hurt yourself and the other person.
I would ask more questions of how.
Yeah you're right what's the point of being in a relationship if u are not really in love because when u lose your attraction to someone u are not rly in love
Okay RUclips I've watched it..
Vikendi lol
Lmao I'm here for the same reason 😂
Yeah actually..it was everywhere as recommended
"what did I do to cause this?"
That's a very very dangerous question. It justifies toxic behavior. It shifts the blame into the victim for the other person's decisions.
This....At least someone noticed 👏👏
Not to mention ,in those cases its almost never the man's fault
Thank you for addressing this. Self improvement is never a bad thing, and always try to find ways to recover from defeat. But never shift the blame onto yourself. It's a ridiculous and toxic idea that only works in certain scenarios. You should always be trying to improve yourself, regardless of a break up.
@@ancientgear7192
It is rarely the fault of the victim.
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My eyes, my soul, my beyond, I have seen this video before, I can’t believe it. It was so beautiful
The worst part of love is getting over it
Its not Jaycilina This comment of yours needs more likes😡👏🏿
the worst part of love is love
True love is the hardest when the feeling you feel is one you can't feel with anyone else it hurts i know this and i know other people feel the same. I love someone and time difference between the countys we are both in means it would work.
plot twist, love isn't real
If you get over it then it's not love
9:43 ''from broken relationships, to loved one passing, to getting fired.'' -- I experienced all three at the same time.
I fell into depression. I fought for my life to move on. Now years later, I have a new relationship, new life and new (and better) job.
That's great news. Breakup and neutered my cat. Everyone thinks it's funny but that was a double whammy. I finally decided to get him neutered so she could sleep better with him not meowing etc and she let me figure it out in ugly little ways, like complimenting other guys and pushing me away if I go to hold her hand etc. Bad
Good to hear your on the other side man
you giving me hope
God is good
My name is Ben, I have a girlfriend that I've been dating since 18, we often talk about our future and shit and we are not yet 28 or 30... I'm low key freaking out here
You should have a very open and honest conversation with her about your fears, being vulnerable is a strength. Keep in mind sometimes a separation for a while in a relationship is necessary for personal growth and then you can come back together stronger.
@@amandacooper635 I mentioned it to her and she reassured me. But thank you as well for the advice and reassurance.
Dr. Phil has a "marriage readiness test" that lists questions that couples should address before getting married. Take a look at that BEFORE you get married.
@@Durka-Durka I put about as much faith in TV doctors as I do Web MD but I appreciate the advice nonetheless. We kinda have a non standard view on marraige anyhow.
@@aDecentBug I understand. But I just want to say for the record, the only reason he's on TV is because he was hired to help Oprah with a legal case against her. She was very impressed with him and decided to have him on her show and it went from there. It wasn't like he planned on having his own show on TV.
“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.”
"Decision is the ultimate power".
"this is jeff"
"jeff moves on"
"be like jeff"
Moral of the story , don't get in a relationship .
I applaud you 👏👏👏👏👏
@Edward Foyer lol , just found out about mgtow cuz of your comment .
Mohammed Mohammed if its not with a big bag of cash 😄
salute you my friend
@@MohammedMohammed-bq9jv yeah, MGTOW for life
Okay RUclips I’ll watch it
edit: thanks for the likes oh my
I know right!!!! What the actual fuck!
Literally every video I click its there
not even that fookin good
YES!!!!
I love this and I think it's really important. Uplifting yourself when you are alone after a breakup is THE MOST important thing ever!
A person: 'Your girlfriend cheated on you?'
Jeff: 'Yes, it was one of the best things that could've happened to me.'
Jesse Hol *BRUH*
A person: Your girl cheated on you?
Jeff: Yes i deserved it but i’m improving
@@alisamramail no one deserved to be cheated.
True, you can not feel good with anyone if you can't on your own.
You got me 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👏🏻
Cheaters don’t ever deserve love. How can you betray someone who trusts you?
Well, the story's more sad for the cheater, since they just lost a person that cared for them.
Cheaters don't give a shit anyway. People like that deserve to get taken to the cleaners for good.
@@TCFan30 a lot of people who cheated are destroyed by it because they feel guilty and feel a lot of regrets. It isn't the case for every cheaters but most of them aren't happy after that
yeah atleast break off the relationship beforehand like a decent human being
well my gf cheated me eventhough i done everything for her & im 18
what happened to the dog?
loool asking real questions
@@LaaidiSafia 😅🐾
@@MICKSHRED change the dog to his cheating girlfriend and I'll be fine with what you just said
@@jayvonwebb4864 Don't worry. I reported him.
Fonzo Hernandez LMFAO
Happened to me... I didnt get to see it, luckily, but once I heard it... It ruined me... To this day, after only several months, I rot in pity everyday thinking about how bad I am.. Im never good enough, or anything. I offered and gave everything for her, everything.. She meant the world to me, something I never wanted to see fall apart and I actually thought we were on the same boat sailing to paradise.. But no.. I was cheated on and my emotions were never thought of. All I can say is I never thought I would find myself looking online, or asking my therapist, or anything about how to fix this.. Because honestly, the pain at times is so unbearable not just cause of the betrayal, but what it did to me as a human being. To feel so low about yourself. All I can say honestly, is dont cheat. It leaves someone in unimaginable, neverending pain..
Consideration for your feelings is not priority on a cheaters list. I think it might sporadically cross their minds but only in context of " what if they find out " they do not care about the hurt. Either because they've never felt it or because they're incapable of feeling it
I recommend you to (Dr Steve). He can make your ex come back to you begging you for a second chance, ever since he helped me, I have b e e n enjoying a perfect Relationship with my ex. I will advice you seek his help thanks.🙏
What sApp him
Hi morris, do u think I can text u somewhere ? if u would be open about it, I would like to speak to someone that went thru same sh*t and is humiliated the same way that I am...
There's no security in a relationship. It could all collapse at any time.
@TURD BURGLAR You're right. You can't trust anyone (except your mother, perhaps).
TURD BURGLAR thats sucky to hear damn 😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Like biden going up a staircase
Happened to me severally.With the worst being my ex breaking up our engagement cz of a new girl friend he was talking to.But I have wisened up now and I will not accomodate someone whose feelings towards me are not genuine.I will be more patient for the authentic person to come my way.
"If someone can cheat on Beyonce, no one is safe."
Ikr
Faxx like you gotta be FOOLISH to cheat on Beyonce😗😗
Lol made my day 😂😂
Hahaha always thought the same thing about Eva Longoria
XxKing KamxX perhaps you should get to know her.
They want to cheat on their significant others but don't want to leave them because they have stability.
They want security from you and their sex from a bad boy.
I hope no one touches the like and dislike button here, its perfect
Thank you , for guidence. I really needs this type of motivational contents
One thing Im afraid of:
Someone losing attraction/ineterest of me.
They will! Everyone does, people change over the years and meet new people all the time. They'll have crushes on other people, they will lose interest in you, they'll find you annoying. Loving someone requires work. If you find someone who is willing to invest time in you, get to know you not only in the beginning but after every couple of years or so, someone who knows that love has its ups and downs, you'll have found the one!
Me too
That's Athazagoraphobia. I have it too.
It happened to me. Hits like a truck.
Happened to me 😢
It's ALWAYS WRONG to cheat. Literally, you cannot justify cheating on someone you're with, there's no way. If you feel like you're losing interest, start a discussion and TALK about it, and if that still doesn't work break up. Don't take the lazy way out so you can keep both your boyfriend/girlfriend and another side-boyfriend/girlfriend. That's selfish and just morally messed up.
If it was just a breakup, of course feelings would be hurt. But eventually that would fade away. But if you walk in on your special someone banging someone else, that SHATTERS your heart. Literally, everything just shatters and freezes. Time stops, your heart beats heavy as well and life just seems darker. This feeling would've never happened if you just spoke about it and broke up formally.
i disagree. there are people in emotionally and or physically abusive relationships and they're scared to leave their partner
@@jaydenhutchinson5419 They're scared to leave which means they get into another relationship which they will be potentially scared to leave and/or can't be open about.
This should be the most upvoted comment. Sadly many people don't abide by morals and logic, and attribute their mistakes to being emotionally overwhelmed, being caught off-guard and confused, whereas they actually simply lack empathy and social responsibility. Luckily this is a good thing since you DON'T want to have people like this in your life. The only real bad part is the time and efforts they make you waste during their deceit.
The heart won't shatter. You'll just want both of them to die a very long-lasting miserably painful death, hearing the words 'I'm so sorry' screamed from pain and guilt. But then you'd want her back alive so you can make her feel bad all over again. Rinse and repeat
so true
"I lost my attraction to you" is not love is just pure loving the idea of you have a bf go find a woman that would truly love you
Yeah love has nothing to do with how you look.
That woman/GF dont exits brother. She will always use you for what she can squeeze out of you! and then move on to the next one
@@yourheinness9275 - Another bitter mgtow! Bro, if you make yourself The MAN, you can psychologically dominate women and they will do for you instead of you constantly doing for them!
Yeah, people mix up attraction and love all the time. To love someone is a commitment in your heart and you think about their feelings. Attraction also comes in cycles, over time. I’ve been listening to John Grey (the guy who wrote Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus) and he offers a lot of scientific studies about attraction and relationships that make a lot of sense, and if people don’t know these things they can think there’s a problem when there’s not. I’d avoided his books because I thought it sounded sexist (like we’re from different planets when we’re half of the whole to each other in humanity) but, a lot of his stuff is pure gold. And even the stuff I’m hesitant about doesn’t seem coming from a sexist place but a place of wanting to really connect and nurture/have fun in life with each other 💜
That’s a lie you tell yourself because you’re addicted to the false idea of superiority through false victimhood. Im not saying men can’t be victims. They can. But to extrapolate these toxic ideas to all women is a WHOLE lie.
My best friend betrayed me recently... I cried 12 times in 5 days and I’m on medication that prevents me from crying.
My ex cheating on my was the best thing ever! Now i moved to japan, have a good job and started hiking and found an amazing partner where we both work on our life goals ( not just Netflix at home) but sport together, enjoy nature and work on our career together. My ex cheating was the best thing ever otherwise I would be stuck with a person that wasn’t 100 % going for me.
IOPE YOU GO GIRL!! 😊
Teach me how to pack up everything and move to Japan. That was my original goal 2 months before I met my gf who just broke up with me yesterday. We were together for over 4 years and she left one the week of our anniversary. She packed her bags last night and boarded a plane out of the country immediately. Totally caught me off guard. I thought everything was working even though we've had our qualms and quarrels. She then had the audacity to ask me why am I so mad? I now have a good job, I own my house and car but I've always wanted to just pack everything up and move to Japan.
I'm happy to know to somewhere someone else in this world was able to obtain the same dream that I've always wanted. Thanks for giving me hope and motivation!
Good on you all!
i totally don't like motivation. Thinking this way best would be if you would never have met your ex....You just changed your life for better because you wanted to improve your life. Being honest you could do it any time -dump your exs before or press him to change himself. It doesnt matter. The fact that he cheated on you is not the best thing in your life-thats just excuse. The best thing is that you can live the way you want....just like you all would not understand cause and effect thing......
Japan🙂
Are you happy that I watched it now RUclips?
This is the only reason I watched this, it keeps popping up in my feeds.
Honestly. Like I had no choice.
Omg I thought I was the only one who had that
Pls be happy youtube
Damn, you too?
Guys, it's never your fault if someone cheats on you. It's always their own personal decision.
Thank you :)
Thank you :)
Of course. The girl was superwrong. But this Ben was a procrastinator and didn't show real love for her girlfriend. 10 years dating her, a good job, a house and still hasn't married her? I would have left him!
Paralee Williams shut up they are ...
It's usually both doing something wrong but yes the one who cheats is definitely in the wrong
I am 27 years old. And I recently broke up with my FIRST girlfriend 2 weeks ago.Yes first girlfriend because those that don't know me I am very picky. So yes, she was my first everything. I really tried searching for the one and I really thought she was it. That's why I dated her. We called each other soulmates because we had so many things in common. We wanted to be around each other every single day.
But by reading these comments i realized that maybe my breakup wasn't even half bad compared to a lot of people's here. We only dated for 8 months but God, we made so many memories in such a short time😓. It felt like more than a relationship bond. We were 1 month away from moving in together. I never cheated on her nor did she (or that I knew of). We were so loyal to each other. But we just had a lot of disagreements on one thing (personal) that kept going from bad to worst. I was in denial all the time about our disagreement because I know not every relationship was perfect and maybe thought that by time, it would change. But it never did. It got to the point to where enough was enough. As much as it hurted me I did what was right. I knew what was good for me and what was good for her.
It still hurts today. My soul feels empty and dead. As much as I try to stay distracted I'm always wondering how she's doing or what she's doing. It's such a horrible feeling. One that I wish on nobody. I just really hope I am able to move on soon😞. And I hope you all do too.
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Ben and Jeff now live a happy and for-filling relationship together.
Fulfilling* lol
Buttfilling
@@therealheadshotguy HAHAHAHA
DUDE!!! XD
Jeff Bozos
The problem is the cheater. Never cheat. End that relationship. Don't cheat
Then someone can end the relationship just after a week.
@@masterofalltrades_ that's stupid.Love is love and never ends if its real
Ilmari Korpela the problem is that you don’t have control over other people
Also why would you date the person who cheated on you? if you love her/him don't cheat.
I agree to a point. Though it's not nice there might come a time where a partner makes a mistake. The difference is if they own up to it and if they make amends or continue to repeat.
A one off might be forgiven, thought hard. But something which was done repeatedly or systematically is just not excusable. And yes, if you "plan" to cheat, you should end it and back the fuck off
Even if you're attractive and successful that wont stop somebody from cheating on you
Yep... I always think of Heidi Klum. It even happened to Heidi Klum!! And she’s so beautiful and successful, elegant, ...
Atleast u did something good to ur self instead of wasting time on thinking on why did she cheat lesson for this clip is dont let ur self down when someone cheated on you make it as a motivation in life that u can be a better person even without her
This really deserves a thumbs up!👍
and then there is a third guy
who moves back into parents basement and plays fortnite all day
lol
press f to pay respects to that guy
Sadly that was me a few years ago. In contrast to the first guy, I didnt pull myself together. I lost my girlfriend after i caught her cheating on me. I lost my job cuz I fell into self-pity depression and as a consequence I also lost my appartement cuz I couldnt pay for it AND I broke off my studies.
Then I went back into my parents basement and played CSGO for around 3000 hours.
This all happened a few years ago ... It took me around 1 year until I started acting like Jeff. Nowadays, Im a pretty happy person and everything is fine again ... but reading your comment to me felt like "daaaamn bro, you got me right there" haha
@@kfji2501 Woah, be proud! It's not always as simple as videos like these make it sound. Awesome to hear you're doing better. :D
Victory royale
You were weak when she found you, now your hatred has become your strength.
10/10 reference.
Just don't let Obi-Wan get the high ground.
Damn palpatine
@@717UT true lol
9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. (Roman 10:9)
Title: *MY sad break up story*
Video: *shows two stories of two men*
Lol ik
Click bait this dude probly doesn't know anything about a real breakup
Maybe he is a fusion
Yeah
grotto king maybe he got inspired and that’s why he made the video cuz he could relate to it
Then their relationship was toxic, partners are supposed to be there for each other with their own independence while they grow and create an empire.
Very true
Yes! You should check out Stan Tatkin.
Its all kissy kissy I love you at first. Once you start living together true self blossoms.You become to comfortable with each other.Bad habits fights no need to put up a front or that first impression. Long distance and planning to meet again in a 3rd world country. Through time and talking by Skype you get a sense of something is wrong and you see a post of her and a guy close together with heat emoji. Now you can get broads and the Hedonistic route to the max.
I love how ben types on his computer
Are you available?
@Jirmono Brahma 💙
@@loralove182 I LOVE YOUR LIPS
Oh my god you guys trying to get an girlfriend on youtube. This pic is probably taken from google..
@Jirmono Brahma holy shit you and the other loner tryna pick up a girl on RUclips are fucking SAD!
Conclusion:
Ben: very depressed, doesn’t move on
Jeff: moves on very well, changes life habits
PS ... Be like Jeff.
UG 9076 ok? We know that ! It’s stupid if you don’t! Idk why this comment was needed👌
The walking inside jokes :D he was just saying no need to be a faggot
I love Ben and I relate to him a lot. I will never move and die single
@Jake the Astronaut same bro
Another episode of....
.. Why is this in my recommended?
Bob . 007 probably you tube giving us advice
This shit been on every video I searched recommended
Lmao i love this show
Best comment ever lol
Bob . 007 because the RUclips bots have thinks u r a loser therefore recommending a loser to you, fyi, I am in the same boat, so you are buying the first round of drinks
This is actually true. After i broke up with my girlfriend, i was devastated. So i started working on my side hustle to make more money so i can distract myself. It was heartbreaking, but i know it’s a blessing in disguise
How did you know my heart is broken?youtube. you're creepy.
Personalized Karaoke dude, i know right? Well i hope this helps me
For real though
God knew. Praying for ya ❤️
Probably from the videos you've been watching due to your breakup
You’re *
Coming home early
Why does this never result in the outcome people wanted.
Ikr
It does for me. I live alone.
@@csb2338 get a pet !
@@csb2338 legend hahaha
.....C'est la vie?
While introspection is good after a break up, there is absolutely no excuse or justification for cheating. It is anti-love and the complete opposite of unconditional love. Cheating is evil, immoral, selfish and always wrong.
Morality is bullshit
AGREE WITH UUUUU
Relationship advice: act like a sociopath, just please yourself. Have fun.
Gee great advice
basically. I have seen too much, rather be single than claw my own eyes all the way out🤮😬🤦🏽♀️