How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch | TED

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  • @remotebuttom5401
    @remotebuttom5401 5 лет назад +32398

    Stuck in between “wanting to feel that kind of love again” and “don’t want to feel that kind of heartbreak again

    • @XuKeiami
      @XuKeiami 5 лет назад +529

      i feel ABSOLUTELY the same.

    • @FuriousFerrell
      @FuriousFerrell 5 лет назад +149

      I feel you on that. Right now I’m leaning towards the latter

    • @robinwalker1021
      @robinwalker1021 5 лет назад +314

      @@FuriousFerrell I'm never trusting again I can't take another heart break

    • @madcatt09
      @madcatt09 5 лет назад +13

      YES

    • @blu_otaku7063
      @blu_otaku7063 5 лет назад +174

      It's the worst feeling....ever. I made myself so stressed about it...I got so sick and I nearly went comatose over him...but hes gone, forever. No getting him back and I dont know if I can be that happy ever again...God I hope so

  • @lagh
    @lagh 5 лет назад +46868

    The feeling of “I’ll never find somebody like them again” is probably the most destructive mindset for me.

    • @vivianmaldonado5175
      @vivianmaldonado5175 5 лет назад +4024

      lagh I feel the same way, but then I have moments where I tell myself... why would I want someone like them, someone that couldn’t love me

    • @brycevaldez4635
      @brycevaldez4635 5 лет назад +2111

      Then that greatest moment you find someone who surpasses them. Why end your world over one person when there’s a billion in this world

    • @lagh
      @lagh 5 лет назад +970

      Bryce Valdez very true. It’s difficult to look at it that way when you invest a lot of time and effort into somebody.

    • @brycevaldez4635
      @brycevaldez4635 5 лет назад +426

      lagh believe me, that’s exactly what I’m going through rn. I was used but I couldn’t see it cause I was so caught up in this girl. But I can’t destroy and pick myself apart of it more than I already have. Everyone will find themselves sooner or later. Just find your release

    • @eval3509
      @eval3509 5 лет назад +526

      lagh I just went through a break up two days ago. And I did nothing wrong but loved him with everything I had. He hurt me twice. But I believe I can find someone better than him. Not someone like him. Because you won’t grow with someone like him. It’s hard I’m not going to lie but remember that. Remind yourself that your feelings are valuable and one day someone better will come.

  • @rory7952
    @rory7952 5 лет назад +18191

    It hurts man. It really hurts.

  • @MaxwellHouse.
    @MaxwellHouse. Год назад +2722

    “There is no break up explanation that will make you feel satisfied”
    DAMN that hit home..

    • @Duck72432
      @Duck72432 Год назад +11

      There all denial accept and face the feelings

    • @mrsniffwell7736
      @mrsniffwell7736 10 месяцев назад +12

      I believe a feasable explanation is better than no explanation.

    • @SubjectiveFunny
      @SubjectiveFunny 7 месяцев назад

      @@mrsniffwell7736 I got no explanation after 7 years..
      Just rejection and blocked instantly from all contact...
      She was cold and heartless, and I still feel like crap.
      The doctor is right, I am going to focus on that entirely, objectively that was a monstrous thing to do.
      No idea why I focus on the good stuff after experiencing that kind of behavior.
      Only up from here!!

    • @rugehenry
      @rugehenry 6 месяцев назад

      Sure did

    • @madhuparnaghosh6254
      @madhuparnaghosh6254 6 месяцев назад +10

      Damn. Yes. I heard. It's my second time I am going through this. I didn't expect I would have to get hurt again, but here I am. All over again. Crying over a man, who broke up saying he doesn't feel that we have a future anymore, and he can't help it. I will have to pick the pieces of my already broken heart, all over again, and mend it. But I guess that's the beauty of life. It will all be worth in few months or a year. And if I live 70 years, 1 year on a wrong person isn't a lot. Isn't it? It's already been few days, and in few more days, it will be months. And I will again be feeling a lil better about my existence. Till then, we fight.

  • @tejuscoulagi9427
    @tejuscoulagi9427 5 лет назад +15900

    Hope is the most dangerous thing ever during a break up

    • @joaqferreira
      @joaqferreira 5 лет назад +133

      indeed....

    • @jasminalums1985
      @jasminalums1985 5 лет назад +612

      Cannot agree more. It seems so rational
      to have that hope when it is so clear the relationship is done and there is no coming back

    • @amincampbell1939
      @amincampbell1939 5 лет назад +42

      Tejus Coulagi so should just give up on ever getting back together with her

    • @tejuscoulagi9427
      @tejuscoulagi9427 5 лет назад +86

      @@amincampbell1939 Well, each time it's ended in disaster and furthering the pain. An important thing is to know when to cut your losses and walk away.

    • @amincampbell1939
      @amincampbell1939 5 лет назад +30

      Tejus Coulagi but there still sum chance we can get back together I don’t believe she’d just end it like this

  • @d0n315
    @d0n315 4 года назад +8060

    A doctor once told me
    *”Because you didn't want to lose them, you lost yourself in the process. Find yourself again and you will find happiness”*

  • @vivianaromo1104
    @vivianaromo1104 4 года назад +6796

    I just want the pain in my chest to go away. This is an update 2 months later and I am so much better.

    • @krimwood6611
      @krimwood6611 4 года назад +11

      Viviana Romo, don't worry, I know of a man that will help you get your ex back and heal your pain

    • @krimwood6611
      @krimwood6611 4 года назад +1

      Contact the man on

    • @krimwood6611
      @krimwood6611 4 года назад +3

      He will help you get your ex and happy again, he get me my ex back last week

    • @topnotch5979
      @topnotch5979 4 года назад +74

      Time is the best healer

    • @47hammer
      @47hammer 4 года назад +36

      Romo you will Heal. It will take time. I felt the way you for a long time. 20 years ago. I still Remember her., But I am over her. Just the Memories that I have..

  • @ShiftDrift-kh6wb
    @ShiftDrift-kh6wb Год назад +834

    I'm here, 6 months later. I didn't think I could ever get to this point again but I have. My heart is healed. I'm never going to take life for granted again. I'm really happy with my life now

    • @sushantkhanal2303
      @sushantkhanal2303 9 месяцев назад +11

      I want to feel that😢

    • @theythinkiamhidinginshadow
      @theythinkiamhidinginshadow 9 месяцев назад +5

      ​@@sushantkhanal2303yeah same man!....it hurts kills....but it need to move on....Just like that....lets hope Together

    • @sttuyishime9066
      @sttuyishime9066 8 месяцев назад +6

      We can do all things through the lord he who strengthens us🙏🏾 we will heal one day

    • @Manusharma__
      @Manusharma__ 4 месяца назад

      Want to skip a year

    • @M3L77
      @M3L77 4 месяца назад

      I wish I can heal as fast it’s been 7 months I saw him again and it’s like day 1 all over again I’m so sad

  • @aishahnoor6742
    @aishahnoor6742 2 года назад +12542

    “Idealizing your ex instead of focusing on how they were wrong for you. Indulging thoughts and behaviors that still give them a staring role in this next chapter of your life, when they shouldn’t even be an extra”
    Writing this so every time someone likes it - it will remind me. Thank you Guy Winch.

    • @asphaltfernandez3995
      @asphaltfernandez3995 2 года назад

      You have to work towards your confession my dear friend i can recommend you to a great relationship restorer from the US that can help you manifest your ex back without any delay in less than 24 hours 😊

    • @asphaltfernandez3995
      @asphaltfernandez3995 2 года назад +22

      He just helped me restore my relationship of 2years with law of attraction manifestation last week and everything is going well between us and I pray the universe grant you your heart desires through the relationship restorer ✅✅💕💕😄

    • @asphaltfernandez3995
      @asphaltfernandez3995 2 года назад

      Whtz>>app him

    • @aishahnoor6742
      @aishahnoor6742 2 года назад +45

      Thank you but that relationship was not healthy for me and I do not wish to restore it.

    • @lottymae271
      @lottymae271 2 года назад +35

      Yup this one really set me straight. The pain in my chest is still heavy. I realize as much I wanted closure he just wasn’t the right man for me.

  • @justingolder4483
    @justingolder4483 3 года назад +4914

    the hardest part is realizing that they are strangers to you again.

    • @Vencleds123
      @Vencleds123 3 года назад +1

      @@paulharry5589 what's his WhatsApp

    • @jeremybennett5547
      @jeremybennett5547 3 года назад +45

      Oooof this hit diffrent, so true

    • @favourdc3952
      @favourdc3952 3 года назад +4

      @favour Lucky thanks alot for your recommendation my ex is back

    • @bjolly8924
      @bjolly8924 3 года назад +4

      Heavy Man, really heavy!🤔

    • @joanasebhor3406
      @joanasebhor3406 3 года назад +30

      The man of my dreams just proposed to another and it feels as if my heart has been ripped out 💔 💔 😪

  • @1eah
    @1eah 4 года назад +4007

    the worst part was, i felt this loss for someone that was never really mine.

    • @leriqdavid1696
      @leriqdavid1696 4 года назад +23

      Do you mind if we have a chat

    • @ollsokolova5840
      @ollsokolova5840 4 года назад +9

      @@arnella3087 omg same, I understand you...

    • @Stopdaan
      @Stopdaan 4 года назад +17

      Arnella don’t worry about how a real relationship will end. If that happens, you wíll manage just fine. Don’t make the fear of a break up stop you from finding love!

    • @walteryoung3555
      @walteryoung3555 4 года назад +2

      Hello everyone if you need your ex back contact Dr.uguel because he has a solution to all your relationship problems.

    • @hennylo68
      @hennylo68 4 года назад +47

      They never really are ever yours. It was just your turn.

  • @thedaxsaga641
    @thedaxsaga641 Год назад +1366

    Watching this again 4 months later after my heartbreak.. I honestly feel way better as compared to before, wayyyy better. Almost fully healed. It just popped up on my feed, and I clicked on it simply for the feeling of nostalgia. A reminder of the lesson I've learnt, and the emotional growth I've experienced.. Ladies and gentlemen believe me you will heal. Just takes time.

    • @Leaveitalone1382
      @Leaveitalone1382 Год назад +21

      I’m in such freakin pain. It didn’t just end. He couldn’t have been meaner and it came from nowhere. I’m determined to do no contact. But I’m shattered and he’s free to be so vicious without consequence

    • @jasonstorey1905
      @jasonstorey1905 Год назад +8

      U said time bro that’s all? It hurts a ton rtnw and I keep thinking there’s no one like her. I get sad reminiscing literally all the things he said not to do. How u been now? Btw we jus broke up today.

    • @Leaveitalone1382
      @Leaveitalone1382 Год назад

      @@jasonstorey1905 I’ve been no contact and he keeps contacting me. I answer and I don’t get excited. Today he text and I cut him short. So he called and I cut him short. Then he showed up at my work and he can see me get flustered. That’s all he wanted to see and he left. fucking jerk

    • @billsmith109
      @billsmith109 Год назад +7

      @@jasonstorey1905 me.. two days ago. it was an affair, she met another guy. didnt want to be the bit on the side anymore, im devastated, cant eat sleep think breath.

    • @JasonChan-Micheals
      @JasonChan-Micheals Год назад +1

      One year out everything is the same

  • @soibeem
    @soibeem 4 года назад +7602

    Never believe someone is better than u nothing last for ever

    • @mathematicalninja2756
      @mathematicalninja2756 4 года назад +128

      They are the crazy ones don’t mind them

    • @TheRealRollerCodster
      @TheRealRollerCodster 4 года назад +16

      Tell me about it 😒

    • @trafficcontrol2420
      @trafficcontrol2420 4 года назад +12

      It really is...

    • @manuel0578
      @manuel0578 4 года назад +14

      it was probably your fault

    • @linamya8692
      @linamya8692 4 года назад +113

      Just because they turned cold on you doesn’t mean they don’t feel anything. I turn cold to protect myself.

  • @mariemwangi819
    @mariemwangi819 4 года назад +5539

    As a 23 year old experiencing heart break for the first time, I had no clue how it actually really hurts.

    • @saffronmarsh7147
      @saffronmarsh7147 4 года назад +11

      The love specialist can be of great help to you, he offers the best solution in restoring and fixing broken relationship.

    • @rachellydy3367
      @rachellydy3367 3 года назад +90

      Aww I am so sorry! I have had my heart broken twice. It's a horrible horrible feeling. The first took years (we were married) and I am still working through the second. I'm in my early 40's and heart broken twice. I need to be with someone who loves me as much as I love them (or more).

    • @jazirkusakabe874
      @jazirkusakabe874 3 года назад +24

      Me to at 20

    • @saffronmarsh7147
      @saffronmarsh7147 3 года назад +1

      @@rachellydy3367 this love specialist can help just give it a try

    • @AtypicalCreator
      @AtypicalCreator 3 года назад +172

      Same here at 23 - been reaching out to my friend group and everybody is saying that everything I'm feeling right now is normal. But damn was I unprepared for the torture and the healing process.

  • @aaliyahkatarina7791
    @aaliyahkatarina7791 5 лет назад +8874

    "If you can love the wrong person that much, imagine how much you can love the right one."
    The quote is obviously not mine, but it definitely helped me a bit so thought I'd share...

    • @agnesangelica4853
      @agnesangelica4853 5 лет назад +26

      :”) me and my bf recently break up... this made me sad

    • @Adrian-yi8fl
      @Adrian-yi8fl 5 лет назад +89

      Then you realize there is no right one

    • @Rent_Free29
      @Rent_Free29 5 лет назад +13

      That definitely helps lol. Thank you.

    • @savannahjones299
      @savannahjones299 5 лет назад +2

      😭💔 thank you

    • @ahrie
      @ahrie 5 лет назад +4

      this is so sad :(

  • @bobsicle8486
    @bobsicle8486 Год назад +734

    I find some comfort knowing people can explain that gut wrenching heart ripping feeling. Eating feels like a challenge, nights are difficult to sleep through and mornings feel like the beginning of battle.

    • @CoachPattyBlueHayes
      @CoachPattyBlueHayes 11 месяцев назад +10

      I can so relate. I felt absolutely broken when my ex left. I didn't have healthy ways of processing, I just wanted to numb the pain. I hope you have a good support system.

    • @Suspended24
      @Suspended24 10 месяцев назад +20

      I feel like I can't make it. Eating,sleeping and going to work and pretending everything is normal is ... I hate the thought of going back home. I dread going to bed every night. I don't have any friends that I am close with and no family. I have to do this solo, in the same house with all the stuff there and no distraction or external support. It's all up to me to make it and I have to make it because otherwise there is no plan B.

    • @Pattybluehayes
      @Pattybluehayes 10 месяцев назад

      ⁠@@Suspended24😢 It’s an awful pain, from the inside out. You need to find support, a group online, a counselor (online options), is there an employee assistance plan at your work?
      Rearrange furniture, remove photos, bring in a new color.
      Try using isochronic tones and binaural beats to help with depressed feelings/anxiety/sadness.
      Start watching videos of people who have survived more intense events (helps for perspective). Heartbreak isn’t permanent 🙏🦋

    • @phaeronika
      @phaeronika 10 месяцев назад +9

      @@Suspended24hey there stranger. i am here, in the same shoes as you. what is helping me is distracting myself and watching RUclips films about dealing with break up. Weve been 10 years together and he dumped me. It Stings but I Think to myself that IF they arę the one we will eventually either come back . OR IF he is actually not the one then nothing to worry about - means its not making space in our life to welcome someone far greater

    • @Feex92
      @Feex92 9 месяцев назад +17

      "Mornings are the beginning of a battle" - spot on

  • @domenicacazar9365
    @domenicacazar9365 4 года назад +2257

    WE ARE GOING TO HEAL

  • @TonyMontana-ne3mw
    @TonyMontana-ne3mw 5 лет назад +3009

    The fact that this video has 4.9 million views is scary so many hearts broken .

    • @jolez_4869
      @jolez_4869 5 лет назад +10

      I am here just in case this happens to me which it probably does.

    • @TonyMontana-ne3mw
      @TonyMontana-ne3mw 5 лет назад +17

      Jolez _ it happens to the best of us my friend .

    • @jolez_4869
      @jolez_4869 5 лет назад +3

      @@TonyMontana-ne3mw Sad truth :(

    • @sierralee5421
      @sierralee5421 4 года назад +61

      but it is also strangely comforting as it reminds us that we are not alone... and all millions of us will be okay eventually :)

    • @thorinhannahs4614
      @thorinhannahs4614 4 года назад +17

      Considering the size of our population I'd think that this would have hundreds of millions of views. Everyone goes through this and some people go through it many many times.

  • @AD_2314
    @AD_2314 6 лет назад +5862

    “Hope can be incredibly destructive when your heart is broken”. Wow.

  • @enjoywithme7440
    @enjoywithme7440 Год назад +403

    You know the comments are actually more comforting than the real videos. This is when your heart breaks the most.

  • @JalaniJohnson
    @JalaniJohnson 5 лет назад +10843

    To all the heartbroken peeps in the comments, I'm with you, and I love y'all. We gonna get through this 💪🏽

    • @yashsrivastava5227
      @yashsrivastava5227 5 лет назад +31

      thanks man u too!

    • @robinwalker1021
      @robinwalker1021 5 лет назад +16

      👑👑😥thank you and the same to you💆🏽‍♀️

    • @chingobling-gi9uw
      @chingobling-gi9uw 5 лет назад +8

      No we're not we cant

    • @Reinbold1500
      @Reinbold1500 5 лет назад +17

      I spent Easter weekend with my girlfriend of 2 years. Things had been going pretty good, she had recently voiced she wasnt thrilled about me being a cop, (I'm a month in the police academy) but Easter weekend was beautiful. We loved on each other and really spent quality time with each other and also got to catch up with each others families. Things were going so good. Even through Sunday night. (She spent the night) the next day she said she wasnt happy any more and didnt want to see me anymore.

    • @JalaniJohnson
      @JalaniJohnson 5 лет назад +9

      @@Reinbold1500 I'm sorry to hear that :/ thanks for opening up though, it takes courage

  • @joeyjoey3955
    @joeyjoey3955 2 года назад +4290

    “Getting over a heartbreak is not a journey, it’s a FIGHT” - Thank you for this

    • @daphnehamatanga9127
      @daphnehamatanga9127 Год назад +6

      True

    • @Sayali312
      @Sayali312 Год назад +6

      That makes sense, cause no one ever wants to go through it. But you do have to face it to live.

    • @wizardofahhhs759
      @wizardofahhhs759 Год назад +10

      A fight that I'm about ready to throw in the towel for. The daily pain is just too much for me to bear.

    • @Sayali312
      @Sayali312 Год назад +4

      @@wizardofahhhs759 I feel you! I’ve been really going through it, I’m a lover not a fighter

    • @gloriouslyaesthetic
      @gloriouslyaesthetic Год назад +1

      ​@wizardofahhhs759 how are you feeling now? Sending lots of love and light ❤️🙌

  • @talesfromprincesajesa
    @talesfromprincesajesa 2 года назад +6145

    For anyone reading this, when your heart breaks and I mean, really breaks, you'll wake up every day for months and they'll be the first thing on your mind. Until one day, they're the second. Then the third. One day, though, you'll wake up and they don't be there at all. Time does make us stronger. I've had my heart splattered on the side of the road, but I know (and you will too) that love is not a finite resource. Look within and there's a wellspring :)

    • @inner_bloom
      @inner_bloom Год назад +96

      That is very true! After two months of pain and depression, today I caught myself thinking that it's been a couple of hours since I woke up, and he pop up in my mind much later than usual!! that also gave me clarity and understanding that it’s over for real, and it’s time to move on. But of course it will take me more months to completely heal, as I know myself, but I had the time to think about how bad he would make me feel a lot of the times, things I didn’t see or just avoid before because love is blindness ❤

    • @Sugarskulls_forever
      @Sugarskulls_forever Год назад +18

      I really needed this♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @philhall759
      @philhall759 Год назад +7

      thank you for writing this

    • @wedontgetalong
      @wedontgetalong Год назад +51

      thank you, going through this right now. I’m scared to go to sleep, it sucks to wake up with my heart pounding and she’s the first thing on my mind, hope this will all go soon, I’ve suffered a lot, may we all find peace.

    • @microtubulina7266
      @microtubulina7266 Год назад +26

      Same here, Im on month 2 and she is still the first thought in my mind when I wake up.
      The pain is unbearable some days like I wonder when is it gonna end, Im starting to realize its gonna be a while until I feel better so Im not comparing to anyones healing journey.
      Its more painful couse we are on good terms and she still likes me but doesnt love me, so Im asking myself why so many times and thinking why it was my fault she fell out of love, but now I know those are just intrusive thoughts.
      Im giving myself distance from her couse we still want to keep in touch, and the only way to do it in a more healthy way is to first heal.
      I only trust time, that this will pass. I really hope it will pass.

  • @JaspreetSingh-bd4zo
    @JaspreetSingh-bd4zo Год назад +591

    Time is key. Whoever is reading this, I want you to know, that it gets better with time. I am writing this after 4 months and I am doing way better than I was before. You have to keep reminding yourself that you are good enough and gotta let the feelings of inadequacy not get to you.

    • @anthony60661
      @anthony60661 Год назад +24

      you're lucky at 4 months! I couldn't feel better for 2 years

    • @sanayalove9194
      @sanayalove9194 Год назад +14

      It has been 1.5 years, my heart is still broken.

    • @yocool9883
      @yocool9883 Год назад +16

      @@sanayalove9194 @anthonychow6061
      It scares me reading ur comments. It's been 2 days and it feels like death. idk how I could survive years. I just don't know how

    • @nya4198
      @nya4198 Год назад

      @@yocool9883 I don't even know the exact months, maybe 3 now, I refuse to know the date of the heartbreak/betrayal.. But it does get better. Even though i'm typing this after not eating all day and getting up late and sobbing for half an hour, it still does get better. I am fighting right now, even still, to love and care for myself, hence why i'm on this video. I have a few set backs, I have to still get my stuff from my partner hence why we are in ocassional contact, which sets me back yards. However, there was a point last month where I didn't even think about her for a few days. I had peace. No contact is key, keeping busy and working towards goals, and 100% what he said about filling the voids. Me and her used to love raves, so I've found someone else to go with now. The key is to just keep pushing. I still often feel like I can't even breathe, but just know you're not alone, and keep getting up and trying again. Much love

    • @faritahuaman-delgado2957
      @faritahuaman-delgado2957 Год назад

      @@yocool9883 ¿how are you doing now friend?

  • @innerufomaker
    @innerufomaker 5 лет назад +3351

    I’m gonna feel better for 3 minutes after watching this.

    • @geovaneandrade9154
      @geovaneandrade9154 5 лет назад +27

      lmao

    • @tuanmach4772
      @tuanmach4772 5 лет назад +73

      I'm gonna make a list now

    • @leilaleon9837
      @leilaleon9837 5 лет назад +18

      SAME

    • @SpicySoulX
      @SpicySoulX 5 лет назад +40

      Unfortunately this kind of videos don't help me at all. It's like they make it worse... My salvation is sharing my feelings in the comment section

    • @Wriggs74
      @Wriggs74 5 лет назад +25

      I totally get it. We only remember the good times and not the bad times. I've made a list but it has pros too because shes not a bad person, just a troubled person. You will find closure ❤

  • @BweezyM615
    @BweezyM615 4 года назад +3270

    I see people talking about “the hardest part” well for me the hardest part is knowing there was still work to be done in the relationship but that person just decides to give up on you. You haven’t exhausted all options, and determined that it just isn’t working, but the other person just won’t put in the necessary work to keep the relationship going. It’s left me hurting so much & confused on why it was so hard to love me when all I asked was for the basic necessities of love. Most of us all deserve better, but we just wish that person was the better. Heartbreak fucking sucks

    • @kerinejonnes5833
      @kerinejonnes5833 4 года назад +4

      Bweezym, yes it is true break up sucks, but don't worry ok I will you to a man that helped me get my ex when I was in a problem like this before

    • @kerinejonnes5833
      @kerinejonnes5833 4 года назад +1

      The man will help you get your ex back, restore your relationship and heal your broken heart

    • @kerinejonnes5833
      @kerinejonnes5833 4 года назад

      Contact the man on WhatsApp to get your ex back as soon as possible

    • @averagejoe6031
      @averagejoe6031 4 года назад +31

      I know how that feels, my relationship was going great for the most part but she dumped me without warning.

    • @kerinejonnes5833
      @kerinejonnes5833 4 года назад

      @@averagejoe6031 don't worry ok you will get your ex back to

  • @medianguy4909
    @medianguy4909 5 лет назад +3381

    Ah, youtube's been hearing me cry. Thank you for this, government.

    • @caroline3206
      @caroline3206 5 лет назад +32

      For real... I'm here trying to figure out how to survive this heartbreak and this comes up.

    • @medianguy4909
      @medianguy4909 5 лет назад +14

      @@caroline3206 you've got this. It sucks, but we're in the same boat

    • @jimidante
      @jimidante 5 лет назад +78

      Shout out to the boys at the FBI

    • @aniyaallen6225
      @aniyaallen6225 5 лет назад +5

      Exactly😂

    • @SheynneDavis7723
      @SheynneDavis7723 5 лет назад +1

      I feel you.

  • @DaCasualMMA
    @DaCasualMMA Год назад +107

    They say heartbreak is like dying but staying alive just to feel the pain

  • @krewrider01
    @krewrider01 4 года назад +2315

    someone please take away this pain in my chest. My heart is damaged.

  • @CDNStarWarsOutpost
    @CDNStarWarsOutpost 5 лет назад +5393

    " A person who values you, wouldn't ever put themselves in a position to lose you."

    • @sahilsaha2879
      @sahilsaha2879 5 лет назад +204

      this is not always true i feel.....

    • @cognitio278
      @cognitio278 5 лет назад +92

      I valued her too much... And she ended things really badly...I don't have any friends or close people left.

    • @sahilsaha2879
      @sahilsaha2879 5 лет назад +40

      @@cognitio278 whatever has happened... don't hold a grudge man....it will just worsen you....i wish that you will get over your tough times

    • @reisnaoranda5998
      @reisnaoranda5998 5 лет назад +61

      my ex valued me so much that he told me to broke up with him because he knew that i deserve way more. I love him and he loves me but I wont put anyone to change for me. He knows that he is different. He suffers a lot for the fact that he cant give me what I want, and to clearify the things all the things were little things.

    • @nahmate2915
      @nahmate2915 5 лет назад +15

      That statement is not entirely true

  • @melistiltskin7889
    @melistiltskin7889 3 года назад +2177

    "Hope is terribly destructive when your heart is broken." This hurts me so much.

    • @JamesSmith-pi5kv
      @JamesSmith-pi5kv 3 года назад

      Message DR TUKU now for any kinds of spell casting

    • @sophiamp.3641
      @sophiamp.3641 3 года назад

      Hello lovely I will introduce you to the same Relationship restorer who attracted my ex back to me within 48 hours.. He can also help you to reunite back with your ex real quick.

    • @sophiamp.3641
      @sophiamp.3641 3 года назад +1

      Whatsapp him

    • @ivykane610
      @ivykane610 3 года назад

      🌹🌹I know of man who can bring back your ex within two days without delay 🌹🌹

    • @ivykane610
      @ivykane610 3 года назад

      🌹🌹He was the one who helped me restore back my ex 3 days ago without delay 🌹🌹

  • @Ambeean
    @Ambeean 11 месяцев назад +174

    Day 1 of healing from my current heartbreak. This isn’t my first one, or this wasn’t my longest relationship. But this break up really hurt because of it being so abrupt after I thought we were so healthy. I mistakenly thought chemistry= compatibility and here I am. This video helped me get up this morning and be intentional about how I heal this time. Sending love and warm wishes to everyone reading the comments❤

    • @esehm6586
      @esehm6586 9 месяцев назад +2

      hi! it's been 2 months and im wondering how you are doing with your heartbreak now

    • @thatonegirl6236
      @thatonegirl6236 7 месяцев назад

      in a very similar situation rn

    • @getbetterdaybyday3958
      @getbetterdaybyday3958 2 месяца назад

      How are you doing now?

  • @InternetExplorerOfficial
    @InternetExplorerOfficial 5 лет назад +2002

    Heart break is truly the worst feeling. I could never wish a heartbreak on anyone.

    • @patrickananas1999
      @patrickananas1999 5 лет назад +2

      you never did heroin withdrawal (neither did I)

    • @romeoromeo7881
      @romeoromeo7881 5 лет назад +36

      A shotgun to the chest would tickle me instead of this pain

    • @hiimi1716
      @hiimi1716 5 лет назад +2

      @Zein Miftah 😂😂

    • @Nick-kb2jc
      @Nick-kb2jc 5 лет назад +9

      I wouldn’t even wish it on my worst enemy.

    • @Taylon245
      @Taylon245 5 лет назад +2

      @Zein Miftah but without IE there wouldn't be other browsers. So thank you IE

  • @solace293
    @solace293 5 лет назад +1716

    _"Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option"_ ~ Mark Twain

    • @eval3509
      @eval3509 5 лет назад +5

      S 0 L 4 C 3 my god this happened to me....

    • @solace293
      @solace293 5 лет назад +6

      Eva L it's exactly what happened to me, which is why i was so dumbfounded when i first read it. i knew i just had to comment it

    • @Nick-kb2jc
      @Nick-kb2jc 5 лет назад +12

      I get it. But it’s so much easier said than done...

    • @sabrinawanderer7560
      @sabrinawanderer7560 5 лет назад +2

      Damn this hurts now😥

    • @ilhamahmed6121
      @ilhamahmed6121 5 лет назад +2

      S 0 L 4 C 3 I think this massage for me

  • @liveinpluto7355
    @liveinpluto7355 3 года назад +3907

    1. Accept that the relationship has ended. Don't looking for any explanations.
    2. Accept that they are not the right person for you.
    3. Focus yourself on your family and friends.

    • @purdusterdoggett3134
      @purdusterdoggett3134 3 года назад +37

      Still doesn’t mean you can’t miss them you can MoveOn but you can still miss them.Why can’t people be friends anymore? I’m friends with most of my ex’sJust the last one I’m not

    • @quartzar
      @quartzar 3 года назад +50

      @@purdusterdoggett3134 yeah, 6 weeks into a breakup right now ( I am the dumpee ), and we both wish to be friends, we just need distance and no contact for now. It can happen! Just needs to be for the right reasons. And right now, I want her back, so being friends at the moment would be unhealthy

    • @isaiahjoseph8502
      @isaiahjoseph8502 3 года назад +12

      @@purdusterdoggett3134 often times its just too hard. Ofc you're gonna miss them. But focussing on that is often extremely painful. That's why its better to focus on yourself, your family, and your friends.

    • @isaiahjoseph8502
      @isaiahjoseph8502 3 года назад +6

      @@quartzar yeah exactly. Sometimes its too hard too early to still be friends

    • @lopstersharks9385
      @lopstersharks9385 3 года назад +10

      I can’t do that I want her so bad

  • @MangoOasis97
    @MangoOasis97 Год назад +393

    If someone could invent a pill that makes you immune to being heartbroken, being broken up with, taken advantage of or forgotten, I'd take it in a heartbeat.

    • @bryonyskelly2487
      @bryonyskelly2487 Год назад +7

      Struggling massively with heart break right now, I feel you!

    • @nwachukwuprosper8430
      @nwachukwuprosper8430 Год назад +7

      Same here too!! And the painful part is suffering for something you didn’t do. All I ever did was to love her. It’s well ooo

    • @Duck72432
      @Duck72432 Год назад +6

      There is something it’s called apathy you never care or trust anyone then you won’t get hurt. Guess what? It worse than heart break it’s a life of dull lonely emptiness.
      Heartbreak is part of love

    • @suez3017
      @suez3017 Год назад

      ​@@Duck72432 it's dull lonely and empty even with the ability to feel and having genuine intentions I'd rather have a medicine and become numb to sadness and happiness by losing the ability to feel anything at all, being a guy and honestly loving someone is a losing game

    • @Duck72432
      @Duck72432 Год назад

      @@suez3017 you can fill your life with love without romance

  • @zimradouglas3365
    @zimradouglas3365 3 года назад +1104

    The feeling of " I'm never gonna connected the same with someone again like that " gets me everytime ..

    • @amelialillian5153
      @amelialillian5153 3 года назад

      Text him via WhatsApp

    • @jerosyvanmostacho5488
      @jerosyvanmostacho5488 3 года назад +2

      This hurts

    • @davidluis6937
      @davidluis6937 3 года назад

      I'm also broken hearted by my girlfriend.
      So I think I can the chance of healing your heart so you heal mine....

    • @Goatman710
      @Goatman710 3 года назад +8

      You’re a baddie walk down the street and you’ll find 5 dudes in love with you already, I’ll be lucky if I get 1 in a year, and a lottery winner if I find someone that stays in love after a week.

    • @frostyib3365
      @frostyib3365 3 года назад +2

      That is My biggest fear….. and it’s comming tru

  • @Checkersss
    @Checkersss 4 года назад +4145

    What’s weird is that after every relationship, you find someone even better. Everyone passes you a puzzle piece, showing you what you want in a partner / teaching you a lesson. I’ve been even more in love in every next relationship I’ve had, even while during the breakup I thought I was never going to love again.
    There’s hope. Your first love isn’t the most important, the last one is. Keep going.

    • @souyette7586
      @souyette7586 4 года назад +54

      Thank you a lot

    • @stephaniereese911
      @stephaniereese911 4 года назад +63

      Thank you darling. I noticed that before. The thought that each partner was better than the last crossed my mind. 💗

    • @retnolarasatiii
      @retnolarasatiii 4 года назад +9

      Wow gotta note this

    • @MrSamoannn
      @MrSamoannn 4 года назад +33

      Damn. I've only been in 3 relationships and recently broke up two weeks ago. And this is so true. Recent ex was amazing but she also had red flags everywhere.

    • @sarangkim6373
      @sarangkim6373 4 года назад +1

      @rea33
      *I think my lover is going to abandon me*
      *I think my business will go wrong*
      *I think my friend will gossip about me*
      This baseless imagination turns on the switch of your anxiety. In this state, a logical approach is meaningless. If you can't calm down this anxiety, your imagination already becomes a reality. That is why you get anxious and impatient
      search youtube "paradox of I can do it"

  • @yichen55423
    @yichen55423 4 года назад +5260

    I'm literally heartbroken after a 6 year relationship. She moved on right away and I'm in a literally empty house with a couch and bed. And the lockdown coronavirus makes it almost unbearable....this video helped a little which I'm grateful for.

    • @annemarie3741
      @annemarie3741 4 года назад +193

      I feel ya... being stuck inside with nothing to do is making everything so much worse

    • @mrfloppy1952
      @mrfloppy1952 4 года назад +185

      It feels like a really weird bad dream we can't seem to wake up from. Stay strong.

    • @SarumanHimself
      @SarumanHimself 4 года назад +112

      Same man. Five years and cheated on before replaced. Was way easier to deal with while going out and drinking than while staying in looking at a wall

    • @SuperMaddyxxx
      @SuperMaddyxxx 4 года назад +136

      Same:( Broke up just before the covid lockdown. Saw him out with the girl he cheated on me with, assume they’re lockdowning together. It feels unbearable.

    • @fluffywhitethecat5627
      @fluffywhitethecat5627 4 года назад +204

      Mate, my girlfriend has just ghosted me: no explanations, no contact - and in the middle of the coronavirus quarantine too. I can't even go out with friends to feel less lonely. Please know that you are not alone. Stay strong mate. We WILL heal 💪

  • @ef366
    @ef366 Год назад +82

    Loneliness is one of the most dangerous emotions to feel. Your impulsiveness is heightened, and you are more prone to making terrible decisions. You also tend to rationalize other people's bad behaviors because you are so lonely that you're willing to put up with it. I like what this guy is saying about making a list of the negative things your partner has and consistently reminding yourself of them. That's what I've done since my divorce and it's helped.

    • @missyelliot6237
      @missyelliot6237 5 месяцев назад

      @@ef366 I went through a breakup a while ago and this was single handedly the reason I never went back. He was toxic. It was a long list lol

    • @missyelliot6237
      @missyelliot6237 5 месяцев назад

      @@ef366 going through a breakup right now though. And I loved this guy. I truly did. I still do. I don’t know if anything I can put on the list except that he didn’t love me back. What should I do? I feel so lost and I’m sobbing as I write this. I know he wasn’t perfect but I can’t think of anything bad. I don’t know what to do. I miss him so much.

  • @susigau8015
    @susigau8015 4 года назад +1193

    Have you ever wanted to cry but no tears came out, so you just stare blankly into space while feeling your heart break into pieces?

    • @HALE-hh2oy
      @HALE-hh2oy 3 года назад +14

      Feeling it right fucking now

    • @Jacky06
      @Jacky06 3 года назад +8

      Yes. I feel your pain . I've been there.

    • @jeremybennett5547
      @jeremybennett5547 3 года назад +12

      Staring at a blank white wall, staring at a steering wheel of my car after coming home from work. I feel it and no not fun. And some reason you want more than anything for them to call.

    • @dianaw.7016
      @dianaw.7016 3 года назад +1

      This is what I'm feeling right now.

    • @hahdb1061
      @hahdb1061 3 года назад +1

      i feel you

  • @mikewazowski2306.-.
    @mikewazowski2306.-. 3 года назад +2659

    It's honestly beautiful seeing a comment section filled with the same emotion, just knowing that I'm not the only one whose experienced this

    • @sophiamick1145
      @sophiamick1145 3 года назад

      Text him on WhatsApp now for help...

    • @isahhannah3803
      @isahhannah3803 3 года назад

      I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤

    • @isahhannah3803
      @isahhannah3803 3 года назад

      He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯

    • @isahhannah3803
      @isahhannah3803 3 года назад

      Whtsaap him**

    • @harunabilikisu337
      @harunabilikisu337 3 года назад

      Dr Frank can make your ex come back to you for a second chance. He was the one who helped me restore back my broken relationship of 3 years by bringing back my ex Also Dr Frank always keep up with his words I strongly Advise you to seek help from him.

  • @ginofoogle6944
    @ginofoogle6944 5 лет назад +1563

    Life truly is too short to care about someone that doesn't care about you...

    • @NaveenKumar-uk8tm
      @NaveenKumar-uk8tm 5 лет назад +4

      Then there is no point in what so called love....Even they don't care we cares...That is love....

    • @Nick-kb2jc
      @Nick-kb2jc 5 лет назад +25

      So much easier said than done...

    • @starlight4086
      @starlight4086 5 лет назад +2

      That hurt

    • @RiaLuna1
      @RiaLuna1 5 лет назад +1

      You’re right! I feel better

    • @skylovermc2146
      @skylovermc2146 5 лет назад

      Sara Wilkinson actually not true

  • @johedges5946
    @johedges5946 11 месяцев назад +77

    I have loved 4 times . When my last loved-one dumped me when I needed him most I landed in a psyche ward. Unresolved childhood trauma resurfaced in my grief of losing this man and I ended up on anti-psychotics. Four years on I am strong, resolute and living an independent life...but I still love the very bones of that man and probably always will.

    • @missyelliot6237
      @missyelliot6237 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@johedges5946 thank you for posting this. It helps a little bit to be honest. I’ve loved twice. This breakup is one of them. I’m broken.

  • @hermz2024
    @hermz2024 5 лет назад +1635

    We all had the person who broke our heart in our mind while watching this video.

  • @louisdulay9404
    @louisdulay9404 3 года назад +2344

    To the people whose broken rn I hope one day you'll be okay and I know someone better is coming for you. You'll comeback stronger than ever before

    • @mindymell1297
      @mindymell1297 3 года назад +1

      Thank you sooo so much!

    • @paulsolon6229
      @paulsolon6229 3 года назад

      Possibly yes
      Possibly no

    • @aarchiksinha9673
      @aarchiksinha9673 3 года назад

      Thank you for your words.. i had the best girl for me and it didn't worked out.. so no one better is coming for me.. its better for me to shut the doors

    • @elduderino1635
      @elduderino1635 3 года назад +1

      @OP: Tell that to all those INCELs out there...

    • @codymartindale4243
      @codymartindale4243 3 года назад +1

      Thank you just getting over 6 year thrown down drian

  • @JoshWomble
    @JoshWomble 4 года назад +1476

    This man said in 5 minutes what 6 months of therapy couldn't tell me...

    • @meysamesfahaniofficialmeys557
      @meysamesfahaniofficialmeys557 4 года назад +3

      #Facts

    • @walteryoung3555
      @walteryoung3555 4 года назад

      Hello everyone if you need your ex back contact Dr.uguel because he has a solution to all your relationship problems.

    • @walteryoung3555
      @walteryoung3555 4 года назад

      Hello everyone if you need your ex back contact Dr.uguel because he has a solution to all your relationship problems.

    • @塵封-p3s
      @塵封-p3s 4 года назад +1

      Gotta keep themself in business.

    • @DrMic2112
      @DrMic2112 4 года назад +1

      I think you mean in 12:25

  • @mr.handsomecoffeecup2406
    @mr.handsomecoffeecup2406 4 месяца назад +25

    This video saved me more times than I care to admit. For anyone going through this today, yesterday, a few months ago. The pain will end. I promise. Keep moving. Even if you have to cry, cry, but keep moving. You're going to be alright.

    • @kartiksharma0705
      @kartiksharma0705 4 месяца назад +1

      Why they are still in our memories?

    • @joycegombarcik4130
      @joycegombarcik4130 15 дней назад

      I hope the pain goes away bc right now I'm just trying to survive each day

  • @javer9706
    @javer9706 3 года назад +1488

    "Love is so short, forgetting is so long". Not mine, but Pablo Neruda's words.

    • @williamjohn8757
      @williamjohn8757 3 года назад

      Hello dear I can recommend you to the same powerful Dr who helped me get my ex back to me permanent with more love and commitment. He can help you and bless your relationship perfectly.

    • @williamjohn8757
      @williamjohn8757 3 года назад

      +19729476208💞⏯⏯⏯⏯.

    • @proudindian9140
      @proudindian9140 3 года назад +1

      Naruda fkd more than 5 chicks

    • @Notreallyxz
      @Notreallyxz 3 года назад +1

      @@proudindian9140 bro why does it matter?

    • @Notreallyxz
      @Notreallyxz 3 года назад +1

      @@proudindian9140 you people sexualize everything.

  • @virtualworldvixen
    @virtualworldvixen 5 лет назад +2184

    Don’t make someone a priority that only sees you as an option.
    They don’t deserve it. ❤️

    • @galxy3067
      @galxy3067 5 лет назад +3

      👏🎯👏🎯EXACTLY

    • @Che-jn9oi
      @Che-jn9oi 5 лет назад +9

      Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn. Put that on a t-shirt 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

    • @David-sq6ep
      @David-sq6ep 5 лет назад

      U right Pixie.
      Thank you

    • @jennyjen3378
      @jennyjen3378 5 лет назад

      I need to believe that every guy i love leaves me

    • @Psycheify
      @Psycheify 5 лет назад

      Yes

  • @sophell
    @sophell 5 лет назад +844

    never give someone hope after a break up. It sets someone back so much more than a clean break.

    • @SilverTongueFox
      @SilverTongueFox 5 лет назад +4

      True

    • @BluesofButterfly
      @BluesofButterfly 4 года назад +24

      He said me he loves me but doesn't want a relationship anymore. He can't prioritise me now so broke up with me. Yet he texts me everyday as if everything were like before and we were together. I feel so lost sometimes, it's really difficult...

    • @floralwood_
      @floralwood_ 4 года назад +5

      @@BluesofButterfly he broke your trust. You need to allow time for you guys to build trust up again

    • @chongbengpaiklok2938
      @chongbengpaiklok2938 4 года назад

      I am very happy to Femi for helping me get my ex lover back and this make me very excited that i came online here to post about his work I make a promise to him that if he got my ex lover to me in 24 hours, i will make a great testimony and bring many people who needs help. His spiritual temple is in Africa and he has been in this work and helped so many people. He is a great spell caster and can help you no matter where you are. My lover is now back with me and this spell caster brought my lover back to me in 24 hours, someone who left me for years contact Dr Femi today and get your problem solved email him on
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    • @brarami84
      @brarami84 4 года назад +1

      She had recently ended things because she didn’t know what she wanted anymore and didn’t want to keep on leading me on cause it would only hurt me more. I recently had asked her if there is an opportunity for us still and she responded with “There is but not now”. Her past relationship had really affected her but our relationship was completely different to her her past one. We didn’t end with hate towards eachother but at times I really get my hopes that she’ll come back. She said there’s still love but I don’t know what I should think or feel.

  • @HexadecimalDump
    @HexadecimalDump Год назад +144

    Focus on yourself, start exercising, start learning something you wanted to. Now you have so much more time. Accept the pain, don't hold it in yourself, cry if you can, it really helps. Continue working through pain, don't spend your time suffering and doing nothing. Even if your brain is not as focused as it used to be, still persist in your beginnings. You have to become in harmony with youtself to overcome this.

    • @jasonstorey1905
      @jasonstorey1905 Год назад +5

      Thank you, we just broke up today . It seems like you went thru it too. I appreciate the words.

    • @HexadecimalDump
      @HexadecimalDump Год назад

      @@jasonstorey1905 it gets easier every week

    • @missyelliot6237
      @missyelliot6237 5 месяцев назад

      @@HexadecimalDump thank you so much for this. It honestly helps. I want to be in harmony with myself. I feel so broken and shattered right now. I just want everything to be better. I guess I can start by fixing myself even tho that makes me sad to write bc I love him and I miss him and this is horrible.

  • @john-ui5ee
    @john-ui5ee 5 лет назад +2800

    im heart broken over someone who was never mine.

  • @Bird.Lover6000
    @Bird.Lover6000 3 года назад +969

    It's crazy how when you see other people going through a break up you look at them and jokingly say *"Ha scrub just move on"* but then when you go through it you think *"So this is how it feels."*

    • @jennykane1854
      @jennykane1854 3 года назад

      Whtsaap him**

    • @maisajetv4768
      @maisajetv4768 3 года назад

      There is a Doctor I'd like you to contact
      He helped me restore my ex back
      Few weeks ago
      He can be of great help to you

    • @frankgregory8924
      @frankgregory8924 3 года назад

      Hello lovely I can Introduce you to the same powerful relationship restorer who helped me recover back my ex. He can also help you to get back with yours with much love .💙

    • @frankgregory8924
      @frankgregory8924 3 года назад

      Whatsapp.him

    • @frankgregory8924
      @frankgregory8924 3 года назад

      + 2 3 4 7 0 4 4 5 0 9 7 9 2;

  • @madidork6051
    @madidork6051 5 лет назад +3858

    Was i in love with him? or was i in love with the romanticized version of him that had no connection to how he was in real life?

    • @alondramontez6982
      @alondramontez6982 5 лет назад +43

      Madi Dork asking myself the same question.

    • @kaseyshay
      @kaseyshay 5 лет назад +40

      I ask myself this all the time... for 13 years I've asked myself this.....

    • @Achilles94627
      @Achilles94627 5 лет назад +94

      Most likely the latter. When we're in love with someone our brain creates this glorified image of the other person which often has little reflection on reality. Love is really an affliction of the mind.

    • @lizzymaria3776
      @lizzymaria3776 5 лет назад +29

      I'm asking this myself. And I came to the conclusion that I romanticized everything with him

    • @kaseyshay
      @kaseyshay 5 лет назад +4

      @@lizzymaria3776 YES! That is exactly how I feel!!

  • @petergabriel9261
    @petergabriel9261 Год назад +254

    I went through a breakup and a serious depression years ago. I used to watch this video all of the time. Now, after a three year relationship, it’s not looking good. It’s likely over. And again, I am here listening to this. This is most on point video on heartbreak I’ve ever seen. I hope we all find our person at the end.

    • @dwaipayanroy3232
      @dwaipayanroy3232 Год назад +1

      i am sorry for u

    • @Matanumi
      @Matanumi Год назад +4

      Sadly its unlikely the case that we will find THAT someone.
      Have to learn to live independently

    • @regularlinuxuser251
      @regularlinuxuser251 Год назад +3

      Same happened to me during 14 years, but even I achieved relief.

    • @jenynz5334
      @jenynz5334 Год назад

      I hope you are doing better today. I'm starting my journey now.

    • @petergabriel9261
      @petergabriel9261 Год назад +4

      @@jenynz5334 I’m doing better but I’m certainly not a 100% over it. It’s been 5 months and I have good days and bad days. I’ve tried to stay busy - it’s the down time (like today actually) that make me sad and think this whole thing could have been avoided/ or is a nightmare. But I’m starting to accept that if she didn’t want to be with me, I can’t force that. It kills me but I’m starting to value myself. I’m really sorry you’re starting your journey. I hope you can get some benefit from this video or from your friends/family.

  • @emilycheng6861
    @emilycheng6861 5 лет назад +1671

    I’m fighting to heal and promise myself that I won’t lose my self-esteem for someone who doesn’t value me.

    • @flyYyify
      @flyYyify 5 лет назад +34

      You're beautiful and never forget that. Don't allow someone to take that confidence from you. They didn't want it? Then they can't have it. Just because they broke it off doesn't mean that you have to feel as if there was something about you that they didn't like. It just means that they're giving you the opportunity to find someone who is better suited for you. ♥

    • @alyssacousino1709
      @alyssacousino1709 5 лет назад +1

      Emily Cheng I’m in the same boat love

    • @jenr874
      @jenr874 5 лет назад +4

      A little progress each day adds up to big results. Time goes on and so will we

    • @brandonfrancey977
      @brandonfrancey977 5 лет назад +4

      YOU deserve more than the world

    • @lempikka
      @lempikka 5 лет назад +4

      Emily Cheng I felt this so hard

  • @teepmuaythai
    @teepmuaythai 5 лет назад +2043

    If someone breaks up with you, take it as a blessing, a favour done for you, that you are not in a relationship with someone who doesn’t want to be there . That person just saved you years of wasted time . Accept and move on

    • @davidbowman10yearsago39
      @davidbowman10yearsago39 4 года назад +60

      The Iron Yogi - Experience Yoga ~ True, but that’s so much easier said than done. That’s why we’re all here watching this heartbreak stuff.

    • @teepmuaythai
      @teepmuaythai 4 года назад +36

      David Bowman yes but you have no other option . It has to be done. So you either do it now or later . I’ve seen friends let heartbreak consume them . There are so many other facets of your life to work on and experience and if you don’t have any, now is the perfect time to explore as much as life as possible . You wake up and the world is your oyster. When I see someone so heartbroken over a failed relationship it tells me that they don’t apply enough worth onto themselves . They have made the other person their world and they don’t value themselves enough to know that there can be so much more to their lives .

    • @greywisdom8536
      @greywisdom8536 4 года назад +1

      @@davidbowman10yearsago39 I feel the video i made on dealing with heartbreak might help you in this regard :)

    • @AleciaWright
      @AleciaWright 4 года назад +1

      Thanks, I needed to hear that.

    • @nastassyafilippovna218
      @nastassyafilippovna218 4 года назад

      Tell us your story.

  • @shazishaikh
    @shazishaikh 4 года назад +1413

    The saddest part is "the love of your life loses interest and moves on while you are still in love with them and there's nothing you can do...!

    • @harrymarkson7971
      @harrymarkson7971 4 года назад +2

      I got back my ex wife with the help of someone who was able to bring back my ex wife and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems too 💎💎💎

    • @harrymarkson7971
      @harrymarkson7971 4 года назад

      + 2 3 4 8 0 7 7 7 5 1 6 9 5 💎💎💎

    • @doroty1299
      @doroty1299 4 года назад +46

      While he's on a journey with his new girlfriend I'm here, still getting through the pain.. it's devastating.. totally got you

    • @shazishaikh
      @shazishaikh 4 года назад +6

      @@doroty1299 i know....it really hurts..going through it....!

    • @soleternobrillante4535
      @soleternobrillante4535 4 года назад

      😔😔😔😔😔😔

  • @jarienillnamit-cho7107
    @jarienillnamit-cho7107 Год назад +56

    This was bookmarked in my PC months ago when I was left by my boyfriend. We got back together and I thought I had no need for this. Months after, he left me and here I am again watching this. Heart break always feels like a new experience. I am just so tired of pain at this moment.

  • @Ortegalikethesalsa
    @Ortegalikethesalsa 5 лет назад +1695

    My FBI agent really cares about me. Thanks, man.

  • @kennethn6811
    @kennethn6811 5 лет назад +1614

    Its painful . One day ur loving, sharing thoughts , kisses and hugs ... the v next day total cold and unfeeling. The change is scary and hurtful.

    • @Nick-kb2jc
      @Nick-kb2jc 5 лет назад +138

      It’s like you’re strangers all over again...it’s the strangest and worst feeling ever. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone 😔

    • @jasonwheeler9357
      @jasonwheeler9357 5 лет назад +46

      this is exactly what happened to me, it came out of no where and everything changed

    • @drosecake
      @drosecake 5 лет назад +7

      This has Gemini written all over it

    • @sean6709
      @sean6709 5 лет назад +9

      Kenneth N happened to me yesterday/today I’m devastated

    • @nicolejasminee
      @nicolejasminee 5 лет назад +17

      i don’t want to have to give my body and be vulnerable to someone else. i don’t want to have to try again but things will get better. it sucks being told you’re not loved

  • @isaiahburns9926
    @isaiahburns9926 5 лет назад +1929

    The hardest part isn’t thinking “I’ll never find someone like her again,” it’s “I’ll never find HER again”

    • @isaiahburns9926
      @isaiahburns9926 5 лет назад +14

      anonymous 20002001 I broke up with my girlfriend 5 days ago.

    • @noncare9079
      @noncare9079 5 лет назад +129

      @anonymous 20002001 then you never loved. Lust is always easy to move on from. The loss of love lasts a lifetime

    • @Losshe
      @Losshe 5 лет назад +14

      My thinking is:"I'll never find someone."

    • @Amiittk
      @Amiittk 5 лет назад +62

      Its like i dont want anyone else other than her!!!

    • @the_player_xd_1520
      @the_player_xd_1520 5 лет назад

      Non Care thank you

  • @sphinxx8881
    @sphinxx8881 Год назад +66

    5 months on and it’s still as fresh as day 1. I really loved her.

    • @Leaveitalone1382
      @Leaveitalone1382 Год назад +7

      Well that’s not reassuring. No way I can handle it

    • @sphinxx8881
      @sphinxx8881 Год назад

      @@Leaveitalone1382 I went on holiday, made some new friends, went on some dates. It gets better my brother. Sending you love.

    • @sphinxx8881
      @sphinxx8881 Год назад

      @@estellaa4672 as above my man✨

    • @layoramirez4993
      @layoramirez4993 Год назад +6

      Man lolll im scared on day 2 now after reading this, but we all heal at different paces. Hope you are all better.

    • @Leaveitalone1382
      @Leaveitalone1382 Год назад

      @@layoramirez4993 Monday I had a good day. Thought I was finally on the right track. Right back to wallowing in pain today. it’s been 2 months and I’m really sick and tired of being sick and tired. But I guess one good day is better than none.

  • @mikemuoio2340
    @mikemuoio2340 4 года назад +4190

    pro tip: watch this every time you catch yourself thinking about your ex.

    • @bakihanma72
      @bakihanma72 4 года назад +186

      Well i'll watch this 20 times a day

    • @theaakashrajput777
      @theaakashrajput777 4 года назад +11

      @@bakihanma72 same

    • @moeron9172
      @moeron9172 4 года назад +44

      People who have been rejected and have turned numb and never been in a relationship - first time?

    • @theaimer8078
      @theaimer8078 4 года назад +3

      Yeah right thing

    • @theaimer8078
      @theaimer8078 4 года назад +3

      Yeah right thing,gives motive to fight back.

  • @MissPeng777
    @MissPeng777 5 лет назад +1123

    I don't love him anymore, I don't want him anymore, it's just the hurt still there. I can't explain.

    • @nuzulamru
      @nuzulamru 5 лет назад +64

      Love is the result of investment, you probably invest so much for him

    • @shanksta14
      @shanksta14 5 лет назад +58

      Completely understand how you feel! I felt horrible and was in denial when my ex decided to walk away after 5 years. I knew it was falling apart, but I tried everything under the sky to make it work. It took time to recover, but you become stronger and much happier without them. Just believe and tell yourself that you deserve someone who loves you.

    • @LaPlaztique
      @LaPlaztique 5 лет назад +4

      Caren R Sabatina I understand more than you know. Xx

    • @bentlleyy5374
      @bentlleyy5374 5 лет назад +6

      I 💯 feel you. Im trying to find an explanation right now no bullshit

    • @tonyj2751
      @tonyj2751 5 лет назад +14

      I feel like that. I have been used , abused and betrayed. Still therez a part of me that needs to hear her voice and see her beautiful green eyes. Its like i need poison.
      My heart is broken , but i dont have anyone that i can talk about ir with.

  • @Reemtosa
    @Reemtosa 6 лет назад +709

    "So if you know someone who is heartbroken, have compassion"

    • @Zorro00444
      @Zorro00444 5 лет назад +15

      Rightly pointed! Such an important aspect of going through heartbreak. We are the chosen ones who are woke emotionally. So much more important is to make sure that if you've ever been heartbroken then not to take it out on your next emotional connection. Be compassionate. Just got heartbroken and deceived myself by this girl who took it to having me meet her parents and ask her hand only to completely back off last min. We had talked about our past heartbreaks and I thought she would be compassionate after going through it. Apparently, she just used me to get over her last ex. I had stayed away from relationships for the last 3 years to completely recover myself from my last.. only to fall into her trap. But I will not turn toxic. I will still open my arms and heart for the right person. I will not carry her baggage and break someone else's heart to fix mine.

  • @johncarter3952
    @johncarter3952 Год назад +179

    23 years old and laying in bed after 7 beers with work in 5 hours. Only a month has passed since my third and most brutal heartbreak because I thought she was the one, but this video really put things in different perspectives for me. For those that seem like your life is empty without your former significant other, leaning on your friends/family or trying new hobbies is what’s making my break up a little bit more bearable. The gym, fishing, going out more with coworkers and then my friends on the weekend. I’m not perfect and I’m still deeply hurt, but I can type this paragraph perfectly after 7 beers and I can say that I will recover and find someone new who loves me for the way I deserve and for me to love in return. Don’t give up and let’s all keep fighting!

    • @pankajsemalti7498
      @pankajsemalti7498 Год назад +3

      How do you feel now it's been almost 2 weeks, hope you feel better

    • @pavelpalavel7372
      @pavelpalavel7372 Год назад +1

      Hope you feel better, these activities and the drinking may lower your pain for the moment, but the problem will just strech out. Like he said, fight the heartbreak!

    • @831Billy
      @831Billy Год назад

      Are you a pilot?

    • @thegreenmed
      @thegreenmed Год назад

      Slow your roll start working out start now or you’ll regret it when you finally start getting the results you want

    • @thegreenmed
      @thegreenmed Год назад

      Drink liquor it’s faster lmao jk

  • @ipostrandomthings6531
    @ipostrandomthings6531 3 года назад +1267

    “Once someone's hurt you, it's harder to relax around them, harder to think of them as safe to love. But it doesn't stop you from wanting them.”
    ― Holly Black, White Cat

    • @iladebicartha4855
      @iladebicartha4855 3 года назад

      I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and who ever you want to manifest within two-days ❤❤❤

    • @iladebicartha4855
      @iladebicartha4855 3 года назад

      He was the person who helped me manifest back my ex three days ago with out delay 💯 💯💯

    • @iladebicartha4855
      @iladebicartha4855 3 года назад

      Whtsaap him**

    • @iladebicartha4855
      @iladebicartha4855 3 года назад

      + 2 3 4 8 1 4 0 7 9 9 3 2 3;

    • @jessicamichelle2652
      @jessicamichelle2652 3 года назад

      +1 9 0 9 4 3 7 4 6 8 9

  • @MylezNevison
    @MylezNevison 5 лет назад +512

    "Noone breaks our hearts, they break our expectations; and by doing so they bring us closer to our hearts." - Kyle Cease

    • @moonstruck562
      @moonstruck562 5 лет назад +10

      That’s beautiful... And closer to God, I will add 🖤

    • @GetGwapThisYear
      @GetGwapThisYear 5 лет назад +1

      Very true

    • @yeahitsalex6821
      @yeahitsalex6821 4 года назад +1

      My heart never been broken by “a girl”. Only family members or friends been able to...but I’m forgiving

    • @giulialivanu885
      @giulialivanu885 4 года назад

      Wow.

  • @gabinomosso80
    @gabinomosso80 3 года назад +1152

    Didn't think I'd need to look up sites and videos on how to get over someone

  • @shreenjandutta
    @shreenjandutta Год назад +51

    It breaks my heart knowing there are so many beautiful souls are there questioning their worth because someone they loved made them feel unlovable.
    😢

  • @tinytiger2463
    @tinytiger2463 4 года назад +3030

    i’m not here because a relationship ended
    i’m here because it never started

    • @thealwayssmileguy9060
      @thealwayssmileguy9060 4 года назад +71

      Same for me:(, it hurts that it never started and that you could act as a boyfriend and not a friend

    • @akiraasmr3002
      @akiraasmr3002 4 года назад +55

      Yup same thing with me and the boy got a new gf and that broke my heart so bad

    • @misbahiram6873
      @misbahiram6873 4 года назад +8

      @@thealwayssmileguy9060 same here🙂

    • @thealwayssmileguy9060
      @thealwayssmileguy9060 4 года назад +7

      @@akiraasmr3002 i feel you..

    • @mrfreshkid0910
      @mrfreshkid0910 3 года назад +45

      Same, the thing is this is a never ending cycle for me, girls always choose other guys over me no matter how good I treat a girl I’m always getting rejected

  • @nataleedenlinger635
    @nataleedenlinger635 5 лет назад +820

    it’s the same feeling as if someone died

    • @savedbygrace5422
      @savedbygrace5422 5 лет назад +23

      Natalee Denlinger they say worse

    • @shadevi
      @shadevi 5 лет назад +72

      Grieve the loss of a person who is still alive

    • @robertdircks6949
      @robertdircks6949 5 лет назад +5

      Yes I list my girlfriend my first love when i was 16 now I'm loosing the person I love again and it's very similar

    • @johnq7505
      @johnq7505 5 лет назад +78

      Worse. When someone dies they’re gone for good. When you get dumped. They’re still out there and your mind goes crazy thinking of all the possible things you could’ve done differently. It’s the worse pain I’ve ever felt.

    • @robertdircks6949
      @robertdircks6949 5 лет назад +3

      @@johnq7505 so true

  • @cantstop21
    @cantstop21 2 года назад +3321

    The toughest part of letting go is realizing the other person already did and the saddest part of is saying goodbye to someone you wish to spend your lifetime with. Heartbreak can strike at any age and like Guy said, it can happen to anybody. If you're going through it just know that you are not alone and it WILL get better. Do something for YOURSELF, take your time, work on YOU and involve actively healing things as much as possible. We got this Kings & Queens, never lose your faith and trust fate.

    • @gabelilyrose00
      @gabelilyrose00 2 года назад +24

      I’m going through a tough time, I needed to hear this!

    • @sekathires9807
      @sekathires9807 2 года назад

      I know a powerful man that can help you to bring back your ex love back to you without delay,he was the one that helps me to bring back my ex love back to me within 3 days

    • @pennelvis1081
      @pennelvis1081 2 года назад +3

      Like you said my brother is head to say goodbye to someone you wish to spend your life with

    • @fallacywrecker4960
      @fallacywrecker4960 2 года назад +4

      @@ivynguyen8583 please take care of yourself. We get into a relationship to be happier in the first place. If that is not being catered due to any reason better to switch back to self-care/self-love mode.

    • @smithashekhar9539
      @smithashekhar9539 2 года назад +1

      @@ivynguyen8583 how about a professional?

  • @polarbear3255
    @polarbear3255 Год назад +23

    A year ago i broke up with my ex and i came across this video and i saved the video thinking i would be back after i heal my broken heart. I remember watching this video with a sour and muded head. Just wanted to remind anyone going through breakups, worry not and give it some times. The pain will go away and you'll look back and think of those silly moments. Cheers!

  • @TheFlauschig
    @TheFlauschig 5 лет назад +853

    Raise your hand, if you watch this crying, surrounded by tons of tissues!

    • @MegaTwist24
      @MegaTwist24 5 лет назад +15

      Am surrounded by tons of drugs but crying is what we have in common

    • @sterix_gg
      @sterix_gg 5 лет назад +11

      Even as a kid I haven't cried as much as I did when she broke up with me...

    • @cuervos69
      @cuervos69 5 лет назад

      💁🏽‍♂️

    • @meganravizza5535
      @meganravizza5535 5 лет назад

      Literally same

    • @sinalopako5032
      @sinalopako5032 5 лет назад +2

      I hope you got well, sweetheart

  • @colin1235421
    @colin1235421 5 лет назад +978

    Cindy Teevens: "You never miss the person, you miss the feelings you mistook them for"

    • @osareafallire
      @osareafallire 5 лет назад +4

      Very accurate.

    • @inspiremotivatekenya2286
      @inspiremotivatekenya2286 4 года назад +2

      Wow u r a genius

    • @sophiaottley7203
      @sophiaottley7203 4 года назад +1

      bless you cindy

    • @juliakent7644
      @juliakent7644 4 года назад +1

      wow

    • @oyau_jsonkuleh182
      @oyau_jsonkuleh182 4 года назад +2

      Men, how I wish I could relate to this. But no. She's still the person I want to be with. She just need to sort her problem. And I understand that. Soo it's not because of hate, or cheating or any of that. She's none of that. And it was a LDR. I know she have problems, some she share, some she doesn't share. I think it's because she don't want to burden me with all that. And I can't do anything to help her. I feel powerless
      And now, even with the broke up, I can't get her out of my mind. I don't know if she is okay or not. I can't get to her. Men, if only I can provide for her. I don't even know if I should call her. Would that make things easier or worse for her.?

  • @Vatt-Ghern
    @Vatt-Ghern Год назад +2021

    The worst pain I've ever felt, was when I realized how quickly my ex got over our relationship.
    How quickly they stopped loving me.
    Being left to wonder, if we ever loved each other the same.
    I would not wish this pain upon anyone.

    • @mmmbbop9351
      @mmmbbop9351 Год назад +7

      You're a guy right?

    • @Vatt-Ghern
      @Vatt-Ghern Год назад

      @@mmmbbop9351 Yeah.

    • @kathymargatines3450
      @kathymargatines3450 Год назад +21

      Ur. Not alone 😢 me 😭 💔♒

    • @S63-y8m
      @S63-y8m Год назад +12

      I can relate to your comment❤️

    • @minervaminavera2347
      @minervaminavera2347 Год назад +19

      Yo I was ready to marry this girl. Making plans to go meet with her homophobic family (I was gonna win them over bc I am a legit person) and I knew she was gonna propose.
      Less than 12 hours she got drunk (I’m in recovery) and sent me messages that crossed my personal boundaries (for the 4th time and 2nd time in 24hrs) and pretended to be me and cancelled my flight while I was taking a nap.
      I said some horrible stuff that I’ve never told anyone in my entire life. I feel bad. I know it’s bc my inner child felt wounded bc I told her and finally admitted to be vulnerable and make a 2 year commitment to her. Yet she wanted to still play high school games. So I reverted back to default mode and was cruel.
      Yet I was only pushed to the end after waking up from what I said before AND her saying she was cutting the chord even tho I said the next time we end it, it will be over bc we go back and forth.
      I feel bad for what I said. I also feel like I need to respect myself and hold true to my word.
      My therapist said this is karma getting me back for all the heartbreak I caused bc this is my first time getting my heartbroken that wasn’t caused by me using and ruining a relationship.

  • @TheKwil
    @TheKwil Год назад +42

    My partner of 5 years broke up last week and I thought she was the one. We disconnected over the last few months and she ended up cheating on me. What he just said resonates so much with me. I'm feeling heartbreak in all its forms right now. I can't even remember who I am. But I'm going to start filling these holes left, pick myself up and move forward.

    • @gippywip3386
      @gippywip3386 11 месяцев назад +2

      Be strong bro. Same situation right now.

    • @estebandelatrinidad1846
      @estebandelatrinidad1846 11 месяцев назад +2

      Same situation, we had problems and she did things I forgave her for but this time we ended because I hurt her. Last few months I felt her getting distant and constantly asked for more effort, it never really showed up. We were together 5 years and I’m on day 5 of the break up with it being day 3 of no contact. I struggle to see the light, but I’m slowly finding it easier to fill that void as the days go. Good luck to you, you owe it to yourself to be the best you can be for yourself and one day you will be able to share that with the right person.

    • @tonymorph3672
      @tonymorph3672 11 месяцев назад +1

      It is still fresh so don’t beat yourself up about how you are feeling. Let yourself grieve and cry if you need too. My partner of four years and the mother of my two year old daughter left me four months ago and is now living with this new guy . She is taking our daughter out with him for the first time tomorrow. That hurts me more than anything. It does get easier over time though I promise.

    • @nygeltzib8905
      @nygeltzib8905 10 месяцев назад

      How are u feeling now brother man. Any progress

  • @lamusic1996
    @lamusic1996 2 года назад +2515

    What a great talk. Thank you.
    “The root of suffering is attachment. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.”

    • @MrStayinyolane
      @MrStayinyolane 2 года назад +6

      Wow. Thank you. I felt an anvil left off my shoulders.

    • @comanchio1976
      @comanchio1976 Год назад +4

      But how do you let yourself fall in love without attachment? I've been in relationships when I've realised I'm not in love and not going to be. I felt it's my obligation to end them because I felt it's unfair to the other person who has feelings I will never have.
      And when I've been in love, and it's always a risk that, my feelings might outlast theirs. To be in love but indifferent. Sounds like the ideal, but it also sounds impossible.

    • @arzhb.4471
      @arzhb.4471 Год назад

      Maybe it really is because of that attachment.

  • @adamfarah2065
    @adamfarah2065 5 лет назад +672

    The hardest part is letting go!! It’s like you have a flashback of every beautiful memories we have done

    • @yeahtbh.161
      @yeahtbh.161 4 года назад +1

      It literally can't let go, even after seeing her profile pic with new guy lol fml

    • @adamfarah2065
      @adamfarah2065 4 года назад

      KingJugganaut19 thank you so much❤️

    • @adamfarah2065
      @adamfarah2065 4 года назад +8

      yeah tbh. It hurts... you know you moved on but seeing the other person with someone else after all that happened still has a control over you.. in time it will be all well.

    • @yeahtbh.161
      @yeahtbh.161 4 года назад

      @@adamfarah2065 thanks man 😃

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      @chongbengpaiklok2938 4 года назад

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  • @QueenQueenly
    @QueenQueenly 4 года назад +1103

    It’s so heartbreaking when the person you love doesn’t love you

    • @jenniferlopez2861
      @jenniferlopez2861 4 года назад

      Dr Frank Love Spell can bring your ex back to you easily. He helped me to get back with my ex 3 Days ago... His love spell works perfectly and he is good

    • @jenniferlopez2861
      @jenniferlopez2861 4 года назад

      Text him on what's app

    • @jefferygrey9424
      @jefferygrey9424 4 года назад

      I got my ex wife back with the help of someone who also solve my relationship problem...

    • @jefferygrey9424
      @jefferygrey9424 4 года назад

      Contact him via what's app...

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      @jefferygrey9424 4 года назад

      + 2 3 4 8 0 7 3 4 0 0 6 9 4...

  • @khanhvan3151
    @khanhvan3151 9 месяцев назад +5

    I find some comfort while reading the comment section, knowing that not only me who has to experience broken heart. IT HURTS, IT IS PAINFUL. Too painful sometimes i just wanna cry my eyes out and go completely insane. When I say i might have depression if I stay painful like this for too long, some people might not understand and think that im overreacting but I'M NOT. I'm in pain. I wish i could find joy as soon as possible. Everyday is a battle in my head to keep myself not going insane. I fight everyday and it's been a month. I hope i can find myself again and being healed. I really hope this day will come soon, I really hope this battle will end soon.

  • @2902sam2902
    @2902sam2902 4 года назад +381

    "Your mind feeds on hopes". That's where the terrifying spiral starts.

    • @trellnba176
      @trellnba176 4 года назад

      I got back my ex wife with the help of someone who was able to bring back my ex and it works very fast and I believe he can solve your relationship problems too 💎💎💎💎💎💎

    • @trellnba176
      @trellnba176 4 года назад

      Contact him via what's app 💎💎💎

    • @trellnba176
      @trellnba176 4 года назад

      + 2 3 4 8 0 7 7 7 5 1 6 9 5 💎💎💎💎

    • @2902sam2902
      @2902sam2902 4 года назад +2

      @@trellnba176 thx for your kindness but years have passed and now she belongs to somebody else and so do I

  • @carolynledesma7187
    @carolynledesma7187 5 лет назад +1288

    Break ups are especially hard when they were your best friend. 😞 I literally have no one to cry to. Hopefully this video helps because I’m tired of feeling this way.

    • @deneverbroncos7126
      @deneverbroncos7126 5 лет назад +34

      Going through this myself. It fucking sucks

    • @angelawellborn839
      @angelawellborn839 5 лет назад +4

      Carolyn Ledesma I hope you feeling much better

    • @angelawellborn839
      @angelawellborn839 5 лет назад +11

      Denever Broncos me too. I feel like I can’t catch my breath

    • @deneverbroncos7126
      @deneverbroncos7126 5 лет назад +17

      @@angelawellborn839 it's been like 7 days and it feels like eternity. she was also my best friend. I dont know if she even cares enough for this to work if she did I feel like she wouldnt have hurt me like this. she has go be hurting tho I feel like the period of being happy that I'm gone has to be hitting her already idk

    • @deneverbroncos7126
      @deneverbroncos7126 5 лет назад +2

      I actually left once b4 ik about this and when I reached out it worked. But it feels so different this time mainly me being the hurt one now

  • @MuniFu6
    @MuniFu6 5 лет назад +1319

    First breakup and it feels like I'm about to die. But everything on the comments is true: if they cherished, valued or loved you more, you both could have worked things out. Even though hope is the worst for this kind of situations, maybe they will understand things and be ready to try again someday. But don't hold onto that: learn to truly, madly, deeply love yourself until you sincerely realize you are happy on your own.
    This too shall pass, I promise.

    • @ovidiucojocarita6019
      @ovidiucojocarita6019 5 лет назад +5

      Move on! Be strong, it will pass. Until, take care of U!
      Trust me, it will pass.
      LE. Still hooked on some pain, sorrow and useless thoughts abt. breakup but better none the less. So, keep moving forward!

    • @shawntal.665
      @shawntal.665 5 лет назад +4

      Im going through my second heartbreak.

    • @splitaone7794
      @splitaone7794 5 лет назад +1

      I cant love myself im disgusting

    • @ovidiucojocarita6019
      @ovidiucojocarita6019 5 лет назад

      @@splitaone7794 No, U are not! I'm positive abt. that.
      Someday U"ll love yourself again and take care of U as it should.

    • @eval3509
      @eval3509 5 лет назад +9

      Phantom Alma me too. First boyfriend and first break up. And yes it’s true, I wish I loved myself more instead of depending on him. I wish I knew better because I gave him so much love, when I didn’t receive the same love. But I’m young. Life moves on, and I’ll move on.

  • @journeym4n-l5s
    @journeym4n-l5s Год назад +6

    "Hope can be incredibly destructive when your heart is broken". True

  • @EmiDucky
    @EmiDucky 4 года назад +789

    I see a lot of people saying that the saddest part is when the other person gives you hope
    For me tho, the saddest part is when I give myself hope, even tho the other person has not nor ever done anything that should give me hope... and now I’m just trapping myself in this delusion that just maybe... he “loves me”...

    • @42cherr
      @42cherr 4 года назад +28

      exactly, never give yourself hope, it killed me every single day. until i had to cut him out completely and find out that he doesn't care about me at all and has moved on. there is no hope when you know that he has moved on and doesn't care anymore

    • @EmiDucky
      @EmiDucky 4 года назад +9

      potatohacker I want to confess to my crush, because Ik he doesn’t like me, but I NEED to confess to him so I can hear him say it, & then maybe I’ll finally face reality...

    • @jessa.r.m.y5657
      @jessa.r.m.y5657 4 года назад +15

      @@EmiDucky I confessed yesterday, I knew for sure he will reject me, but I still confessed and it did happen. But you know what, the good thing is this confession helps with the process of moving on. I still cried, but this time, something's different, I try to find myself once again.

    • @EmiDucky
      @EmiDucky 4 года назад +4

      Jess A.R.M.Y awe stay strong ❤️

    • @aerickajm9298
      @aerickajm9298 4 года назад +4

      True. The fact I know it's all my fault for getting my hopes up makes me hate it even more

  • @Che-jn9oi
    @Che-jn9oi 5 лет назад +491

    Its so refreshing to see a comment section filled with so much positivity and people trying to support others. Sharing advice and experiences. This is dope

  • @mindful-deathcult
    @mindful-deathcult 4 года назад +438

    The worst part is how badly I wanted to stay and how much I wanted it to work, but he gave me no reason to.

    • @lisamaria9434
      @lisamaria9434 4 года назад +1

      Hello Dana Monica Simpson. if you need help, I can recommend you to someone powerful who helped me to bring back my ex after we broke up; he is actually good in spells and treatments,,,,💯💯

    • @okonat5413
      @okonat5413 4 года назад

      Let me recommend Doctor Gab to you. He helped me restore my relationship after 3months of breakup

    • @okonat5413
      @okonat5413 4 года назад

      Contact him on whisper number...

    • @okonat5413
      @okonat5413 4 года назад

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    • @nathaliajavier6937
      @nathaliajavier6937 4 года назад +10

      Same. Felt like I did everything I could to make the relationship works but it got to a point where he stopped caring even though sometimes he told me he did care but didn’t show it. I had to leave 😭

  • @paulhortop2581
    @paulhortop2581 11 месяцев назад +12

    Letting go is the hardest part if you truly valued an loved the person.
    Our minds are so dangerous after a breakup. I have bought some mindfulness books and really trying hard but it’s still really painful 🙏 We have to meet things head on and be strong. Peace and love to everyone who are finding things hard. You will get there!!

  • @jennasmr6280
    @jennasmr6280 3 года назад +2312

    It’s been over a month, but I still think about him everyday. I’m not crying anymore and I can definitely still live my life to the fullest but I can’t help but feel incredibly sad at late hours of the night. It sucks but I hope everyone can get through it!
    Update: I completely forgot I made this comment, but I wanted to give a brief update. Time does fix things. I thought about him everyday, for around 7 months straight but one day, I literally stopped caring. It was the strangest thing ever but I am thankful it happened. I hope everyone can heal from whatever heart break they are going through and just know you deserve someone who will actually cherish you!

    • @okezieuche109
      @okezieuche109 3 года назад

      I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate

    • @okezieuche109
      @okezieuche109 3 года назад

      He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay

    • @okezieuche109
      @okezieuche109 3 года назад

      Whtsaap him"**

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      @okezieuche109 3 года назад

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    • @anthonia2644
      @anthonia2644 3 года назад

      Hello dear I know of a powerful man who can make your ex to come back to you begging you for a second chance.
      He helped me to get back with my ex and we are living happily together so far.

  • @avneetkaur2175
    @avneetkaur2175 4 года назад +585

    Note to self-
    You were never his priority.
    He is in relationship with some other girl.
    Moving to same city does not mean that he will suddenly fall in love with you.
    He told you that consider him to be your brother.
    He never took any stand for you.
    He never accepted that you were in relationship.
    He was telling your friend that you were behind him and he has no feelings.
    It was mutual but then he said that it was always one-sided.
    He never cared about you.
    Don'ts
    Don't have any hopes.
    Don't stalk him.
    Don't listen to love or breakup songs.
    Don't waste so much time on your phone.
    Do's-
    Work hard and become a software engineer like you have dreamt.
    Make your parents feel proud.
    Enjoy your life.

    • @MarkAnthony-de1qh
      @MarkAnthony-de1qh 4 года назад +1

      I got my ex wife back with the help of someone who was able to help me bring back my ex wife back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem❤❤❤❤❤

    • @MarkAnthony-de1qh
      @MarkAnthony-de1qh 4 года назад +1

      You can contact him via WhatsApp❤❤❤

    • @darth3261
      @darth3261 4 года назад +7

      You are not alone, give your best. Good luck.

    • @KyrreEleison
      @KyrreEleison 4 года назад +4

      Good luck, honey!

    • @anuraheja9598
      @anuraheja9598 4 года назад +3

      God bless u...u can fight it

  • @kokidramdan9741
    @kokidramdan9741 5 лет назад +340

    the problem is when everything is going great and you are just genuinely in love and with no fear or doubt, and out of a sudden they "don't love you anymore"

    • @BheaC
      @BheaC 4 года назад +3

      This is me! It was a great momemnt of my life and all of a sudden he left me to reconcile with his ex wife.

    • @Miaosen01
      @Miaosen01 4 года назад +1

      haha this happened to me when she fell out of love

    • @DravenThegloriouscat
      @DravenThegloriouscat 4 года назад +3

      I’m going through that now

    • @pammydeedlomo6580
      @pammydeedlomo6580 4 года назад +2

      @@BheaC 😭😭😭 I'm sorry

    • @princesscheryldeguilmo9047
      @princesscheryldeguilmo9047 4 года назад

      Sooo me..😔

  • @izzizzatii
    @izzizzatii Год назад +12

    Never thought in my life I will face this heartbreaking moment. The feel of lose my other half, my happiness, my love of my life. I thought I'm doing okay. But I already feels so fragile on the fifth day.

  • @herbtenderson7335
    @herbtenderson7335 6 лет назад +3610

    The recovery from a broken heart is worse than heroin withdrawl. I don't wish a broken heart on anyone ever.

    • @jackl6928
      @jackl6928 6 лет назад +148

      Herb Tenderson yes, my heart hurts right now and i can't sleep or eat and it sucks

    • @nathanb7224
      @nathanb7224 6 лет назад +52

      jack Lim me to man. I feel you. We will get through it though day by day.

    • @ronaldsprowal9978
      @ronaldsprowal9978 6 лет назад +102

      When u dream about them is Rough also

    • @isha1006
      @isha1006 6 лет назад +8

      jack Lim exactly what I’m going through right now

    • @justmadeit2
      @justmadeit2 6 лет назад +8

      I had a bad breakup in 2012 with a woman and did all the wrong things and went a bit insane with despair, although its a bit amateur i made something about it, i hoped other guys wouldnt make the mistakes i made. If anyone wants to see it after then just type in the following title in to the search bar above........Some blokes guide to relationship breakups

  • @olliepaige9317
    @olliepaige9317 4 года назад +193

    👏” Don’t indulge in thoughts that give your ex a starring role in the next chapter of your life when they shouldn’t even be an extra.” 👏

  • @garcnik
    @garcnik 5 лет назад +291

    And what I've learned, truth is, so many people are in love but not together, and there's many people that are together but not in love.

    • @noname-jr3qr
      @noname-jr3qr 5 лет назад +1

      jinsoul's blonde hair is my life this is so true wow lol

    • @truthartistic7452
      @truthartistic7452 5 лет назад

      Ik that's Really sad tbh..

    • @mr.authentic2505
      @mr.authentic2505 5 лет назад

      Like your mum and dad

    • @drlola6429
      @drlola6429 5 лет назад

      jinsoul's blonde hair is my life very profound