What really matters at the end of life | BJ Miller | TED

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  • Опубликовано: 23 ноя 2024

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  • @jvyu9628
    @jvyu9628 4 года назад +5569

    His eyes speak of how badly he wants us to understand where he is coming from, and that we, too, will realize the importance of his message. I’m grateful for having the opportunity of watching this today

    • @doloresdrury8018
      @doloresdrury8018 4 года назад +52

      I felt the same way about his eyes...

    • @kbgogh7324
      @kbgogh7324 4 года назад +19

      eyes as on Rebrandt's portraits!

    • @nathanfarr6265
      @nathanfarr6265 4 года назад +10

      The way he speaks really reminds me of Christoph Waltz

    • @Feber2001
      @Feber2001 4 года назад +12

      Me too! Amazing message

    • @priyasharma6980
      @priyasharma6980 3 года назад +34

      Only those will understand the depth and reality of his speech who have lost their loved ones in hospital...hospitals should become more human centric

  • @netsurfer8507
    @netsurfer8507 Год назад +493

    It's truly remarkable how his eyes glisten with emotion while his voice remains steady and unwavering.

    • @DaleMiller-km4fn
      @DaleMiller-km4fn 7 месяцев назад

      Jesus is returning soon the Rapture is near.
      Outer space is fake a hoax. The Earth is flat with a dome called the firmament above the dome is water above the water are the heavens. There are fallen angels imprisoned underground by God. Azazel aka Lucifer is at Area 51. He is where all the technology, systems and lies come from. Jesus is returning soon the Rapture is near.

    • @jieunkim9543
      @jieunkim9543 5 месяцев назад

      0

    • @ChristopherDixon-yy5lg
      @ChristopherDixon-yy5lg 5 месяцев назад

      Very well put

    • @TR-vh1fi
      @TR-vh1fi 5 месяцев назад +1

      I was thinking the same thing

  • @TheSKINNMAN
    @TheSKINNMAN 7 лет назад +7010

    My biggest thing is loneliness
    I am so tired of being lonely
    I have a construction company I am 62. I work about 6 1/2 days a week as many hours as I can. I hate to come home because no one cares if I am home at all
    I have two great sons. Three great grandsons.
    They live there lives way far away.
    So I have been single fir so many years it’s hard to figure out how many. Can’t find someone to care about. They all seem to have so many problems it’s better to be alone
    So there you go I am alone. I give up.
    I have seen so much and been though so much. Both Dude did my family is gone. I have a few distant cousins. It seem I have given up hope to have a relationship
    Do you know how many times I have heard theses words. Well when you stop looking it will happen.
    I spend my soars time helping people. That seem so help me is a lot of ways. Anyway that’s my story
    God bless you all if you read my post
    Peace

    • @FoOtBaLLFrEaK4434
      @FoOtBaLLFrEaK4434 7 лет назад +230

      if you seek, you shall find. The opposite can have an unapproachable effect.

    • @TheSKINNMAN
      @TheSKINNMAN 7 лет назад +249

      Andrew
      I hope and pray that I can find someone to spend the rest of my life with

    • @FoOtBaLLFrEaK4434
      @FoOtBaLLFrEaK4434 7 лет назад +132

      TheSKINNMAN and so you will. When you do, commit like your life depends on it. Not necessarily in a forceful manner, but in a relentless one.

    • @Newofficegirl
      @Newofficegirl 7 лет назад +599

      Adopting a rescue dog will change your life. Save a dog and it will save you.

    • @A-M-F-A
      @A-M-F-A 7 лет назад +346

      Dear friend. If you can adopt either a cat or a dog. Their love and company will change your life. Wish you the best :)

  • @ferdawsnaeemi
    @ferdawsnaeemi 8 месяцев назад +184

    Not only his words are powerful, his entire being is another thing. The world needs more men like him

    • @DaleMiller-km4fn
      @DaleMiller-km4fn 7 месяцев назад

      Jesus is returning soon the Rapture is near.
      Outer space is fake a hoax. The Earth is flat with a dome called the firmament above the dome is water above the water are the heavens. There are fallen angels imprisoned underground by God. Azazel aka Lucifer is at Area 51. He is where all the technology, systems and lies come from. Jesus is returning soon the Rapture is near.

    • @kreator-ys1yz
      @kreator-ys1yz 5 месяцев назад +3

      More People like him.

  • @vairagya108
    @vairagya108 8 лет назад +1369

    His eyes. They indicate wisdom. A wisdom that only comes from having been through a lot of suffering. And also, from having overcome it.

    • @PiseyHean
      @PiseyHean 7 лет назад +11

      Just look his eyes :(

    • @eugenianubia
      @eugenianubia 6 лет назад +18

      his eyes are full of pain.

    • @cHaRrOcK
      @cHaRrOcK 6 лет назад +1

      i don't nook rick... he seems a bit high.

    • @robertbarber7343
      @robertbarber7343 6 лет назад +1

      @Pascal-Olivier Premont looks like he smoked weed just before this.

    • @shubhamdahale1995
      @shubhamdahale1995 6 лет назад +1

      Yeah, it's totally true.

  • @butterfly1889
    @butterfly1889 Год назад +206

    He understood the meaning of life :kindness ,compassion and love in all circumstances

    • @DaleMiller-km4fn
      @DaleMiller-km4fn 7 месяцев назад

      Jesus is returning soon the Rapture is near.
      Outer space is fake a hoax. The Earth is flat with a dome called the firmament above the dome is water above the water are the heavens. There are fallen angels imprisoned underground by God. Azazel aka Lucifer is at Area 51. He is where all the technology, systems and lies come from. Jesus is returning soon the Rapture is near.

  • @luzbuensuceso2916
    @luzbuensuceso2916 3 года назад +699

    What he does not say is more powerful than what he says. His eyes, his pause, his being...

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +18

      thank you luz

    • @umaraghavendran1347
      @umaraghavendran1347 3 года назад +4

      I completely agree
      I can relate to it
      I just love everything about him
      All he said reminded me of the book “ being mortal”.....

    • @user-os1jw1nf4p
      @user-os1jw1nf4p 3 года назад +19

      The power of someone being fully present in the moment

    • @electrictroy2010
      @electrictroy2010 2 года назад +5

      RELIGIOUS PEOPLE have the same earnest eyes, as they tell you about God or gods. It doesn’t make the belief any less imaginary
      .

  • @heytherebarry
    @heytherebarry 2 года назад +727

    This Ted talk is the one that has had the most impact on my life, I return every year to rewatch it and remind myself of what really matters.

    • @radulescuandrei6178
      @radulescuandrei6178 Год назад +12

      i showed this to med students in class, they didn‘t really react but nurses/ nursing school found this amazing

    • @kathleenbillock8479
      @kathleenbillock8479 Год назад +3

      Avery good idea!!! I will follow suit!!! TY!

    • @jedmisty
      @jedmisty 10 месяцев назад +2

      Not for me.

    • @theremnant7497
      @theremnant7497 6 месяцев назад +3

      Dr BJ's authenticity is so notable, and I agree with him about focusing on life all the way to the end. I'm a return viewer as well

    • @bettinarossi7908
      @bettinarossi7908 6 месяцев назад +3

      Me too,friend.🙏💜

  • @thomasj5722
    @thomasj5722 5 лет назад +1131

    I broke my back for 14 years ago, and now i live in constant agonizing pain and can hardly sit down or do anything. Your view of the world change when that happens to you, i don´t have much friends anymore but i appreciate even the smalles little thing i see every day now and i appreciate so much when i spend time with people, i try to find the good in anything

    • @fortheloveofdog5622
      @fortheloveofdog5622 5 лет назад +57

      Don't know why - I just said a prayer for you - wish you had less pain, or no pain

    • @HarshilSarvakar
      @HarshilSarvakar 4 года назад +19

      sorry for your loss. brother. may universe help you.

    • @tatianagrosch7535
      @tatianagrosch7535 4 года назад +17

      Sending love

    • @agnesbajka6784
      @agnesbajka6784 4 года назад +13

      Thomas if you are lonely send me a message.. I am happy to talk to you. @inesbajka

    • @amazingyear9042
      @amazingyear9042 4 года назад +6

      You are a wonderful person❣️

  • @roselaguerre4920
    @roselaguerre4920 3 года назад +1911

    Sir, you spoke with unfettered eloquence, boldness, and poise about a very difficult subject- dying. And you did so with so much grace and empathy. It was brilliant. Thank you.

    • @chandrepinto9316
      @chandrepinto9316 3 года назад +15

      Agreed

    • @normanbates569
      @normanbates569 3 года назад +1

      Nonsense.

    • @sharon21382
      @sharon21382 3 года назад +19

      @@normanbates569 *Stop.*

    • @DR-nh6oo
      @DR-nh6oo 3 года назад +11

      Norman Bates You are showing your projection my friend.

    • @debbiehorn8263
      @debbiehorn8263 3 года назад +11

      Loved This , Dr. Miller is so good at what is true and so knowing . I believe every thing he said was from his heart and not on a piece of paper , Amazing !

  • @senior1110
    @senior1110 8 лет назад +746

    An unusually elegant talk, especially about death.
    God bless this man and all his patients.

    • @nicolainjumsenrregaard7228
      @nicolainjumsenrregaard7228 8 лет назад +5

      The god who gave him missing legs in the first place.. lul

    • @viceliag3916
      @viceliag3916 8 лет назад +11

      Not the time.

    • @annaanderson7042
      @annaanderson7042 8 лет назад +5

      GOD, not "god".

    • @annaanderson7042
      @annaanderson7042 8 лет назад +13

      And everything happens for a reason. Bad turns into good. The accident gave him a wake up and now he's an exceptional doctor.

    • @armandrodriguez8501
      @armandrodriguez8501 7 лет назад +18

      Try actually listening to him before making a jackass of yourself. His legs are missing because of a stupid choice he made as a young man, in much the same way your humanity is missing because you've chosen to reject He who gives life meaning.

  • @sadi6351
    @sadi6351 3 года назад +328

    "What's most important to people who are closer to death? -Comfort, feeling unburdened and unburdening to those they love; existential peace, and a sense of wonderment and spirituality.", well said!

  • @BITTME1030
    @BITTME1030 5 лет назад +361

    Now 36y of age; brought into this world by schizophrenic mother, taken away from her because she abused me (found out recently that someone saved my life by bringing me into the hospital) placed into orphanage, there after transferred into another in Russia. Finally being adopted at 10 years of age by an America mother who mentally and physically abused me until I moved out @ 18. I feel blessed to have gone through my journey to understand and appreciate life for what it is today. I made peace with all my horrors and view my life/world from a beautiful point of view. One day I hope to accomplish something bigger than myself, this will be my biggest dream come true. Life can be a beautiful, heaven on 🌎, all depends on how you look at it, with your ❤️ and mind. May each one of you enjoy your journey. Thank you TED for continued inspiration.

    • @violator2695
      @violator2695 5 лет назад +3

      All the best on your journey

    • @SM-rz9du
      @SM-rz9du 4 года назад +1

      God bless you!

    • @sangellaferro
      @sangellaferro 4 года назад +5

      My life changed dramatically when I was hired to work for Hospice ... back when it was truly hospice & not just a service provided for an unknown patient ... refered one day before death. After 3 years of providing old school hospice care, I couldn't revert back to standardized managed care protocols & be part of the healthcare delivery system in place today. I've helped in a private capacity, and often teach by doing ... it's right livelihood for me. I wish the world ran on the hospice system. I'm grateful to have worked during the "Camelot Days" ... and apply the philosophy whenever & wherever possible. Quality care of human beings should be a priority, but money always trumps.

    • @mullerierabe-taljaard4867
      @mullerierabe-taljaard4867 4 года назад +6

      Oksana Camaret You have already contributed ....the “you” you are today are more than enough to enrich this planet we all share, by your experience of our humanity. Thank you.

    • @jon7708
      @jon7708 4 года назад +2

      Your story gives hope to those whom life is filled with suffering, and your journey led you to where you are today!!! I’m amazed by people circumstances and how you persevered through that, bless your heart!!!

  • @malcolmfigueiredo7018
    @malcolmfigueiredo7018 4 года назад +532

    Why does it feel like he is holding back his tears. His eyes are moist and you can tell he wants to cry. I wish we could all give him a big HUG to tell him we never noticed his disability all through his talk because he was so georgous in every way.

    • @juliamorales6620
      @juliamorales6620 3 года назад +26

      He's the complete package. Beautiful inside and out.

    • @harnooraujla6191
      @harnooraujla6191 3 года назад +25

      He wouldn’t want you to not notice his disability

    • @neatstuff8200
      @neatstuff8200 3 года назад

      @@juliamorales6620 ]] ppp

    • @0911-x7t
      @0911-x7t 3 года назад +6

      I think he looks very handsome. legs fit him (not being mean). he wears em well. obviously sad he got them taken away. life happens ( not being insensitive) we all have cray stories.

    • @rosilovdal8745
      @rosilovdal8745 3 года назад +19

      He's not crying for himself, but rather for all of us, with hope that we will 'see' what he is saying.

  • @minusone5162
    @minusone5162 7 лет назад +350

    The good thing about people like him is that they've got nothing to prove. No pretentiousness, just a relentless drive to squeeze all their human potential and share it to the world.

  • @JamilaMusayeva
    @JamilaMusayeva 3 года назад +46

    What a handsome man! He speaks so eloquently 😍

    • @jayoopatwardhan4040
      @jayoopatwardhan4040 3 года назад +3

      He is evolved and aware . We are all born that way but stop living really artificiality gets in and we get lost to ourselves .

  • @Ryan-jx4vh
    @Ryan-jx4vh 8 лет назад +639

    This guy speaks like an author... very articulate and descriptive. Great talk!!

    • @moffig1
      @moffig1 8 лет назад +29

      Love listening to him

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +7

      Thanks Ryan!

  • @Unzyme
    @Unzyme 3 года назад +330

    I love how he presented the message so calmly. Acceptance is the key to happiness.

  • @christinetemblique1016
    @christinetemblique1016 3 года назад +736

    His empathy is profound because he experienced near death & recovering his life. His talk is so touching.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +11

      thanks Christine!

    • @dwaynejones1555
      @dwaynejones1555 3 года назад +3

      Christine Definitely

    • @Geneattenborough
      @Geneattenborough 3 года назад +7

      His accident gave as much as it took…

    • @dawapeljor8945
      @dawapeljor8945 2 года назад +2

      Even I experienced the death at my workplace at might night alone twice

    • @roshnik5137
      @roshnik5137 2 года назад +2

      Empathetic people suffer a lot in this world.

  • @RedFaceeee
    @RedFaceeee 2 года назад +272

    I’ve seen this in my life. My 3 older brothers died in the last 6 years. They were 27, 28 and 33. They had congenital diseases and I was their primary care giver. We never thought of death, yet we did talk about it’s being. We focused on laughing and thinking of the now. My brothers lived shorts and difficult lives, yet they never frowned. They always thought focused on what little they had and which liberated their souls. They emanated a light form them that attracted everyone towards them.

    • @hydee6018
      @hydee6018 2 года назад +9

      I am truly sorry for your loss. and I have been there..

    • @saminamariani1510
      @saminamariani1510 2 года назад +16

      I cannot begin to imagine how difficult this must have been...or how much courage you and your siblings must have had in dealing with this... it is overwhelmingly tragic. My thoughts are with you

    • @cynthiamarston2208
      @cynthiamarston2208 Год назад

      Oh how hard for you. I lost my brother and sister before their time. I had survivors guilt but at the same time I had a certain courage to go ahead and make selfish choices to live the best I could doing something that was always a thing for me. It required sacrifices. It turned out just fine. Not great or glorious but at least I tried! In their honor that they couldn’t.

    • @sureshvanjani4618
      @sureshvanjani4618 Год назад +1

      Losing near ones that too in a short span of time you must have touched the bed of river called SORROW. This leads to LIBERATION from the ‘SELF’.

    • @oladman9058
      @oladman9058 Год назад

      I cannot even begin to imagine your loss. So heartbreaking. Thanks for the courage to share such a private and monumental story.

  • @Yrhdbsbsddsw
    @Yrhdbsbsddsw 9 лет назад +3502

    his eyes say the real message

    • @kpacuBua
      @kpacuBua 9 лет назад +40

      +harry rudd He's either on drugs or on some strong painkillers. I know the drug sparkle when I see it.

    • @BrandonNZ
      @BrandonNZ 9 лет назад +186

      +kpacuBua I know the troll sparkle when I see it, you sir are twinkling like a disco ball

    • @natural91LC
      @natural91LC 9 лет назад +6

      +harry rudd what message? O.o

    • @Barncore
      @Barncore 9 лет назад +54

      +harry rudd There's some pain behind those eyes

    • @mjoto
      @mjoto 9 лет назад +2

      +harry rudd gay?

  • @McCready12
    @McCready12 7 лет назад +381

    That was like one of the great philosophers giving a Ted talk. He understands things at a very high level.

  • @kellyheard971
    @kellyheard971 4 года назад +147

    For some reason, I cannot find the quote, but this speaker reminds me of it. " through the things that I have suffered, I have learned to ease the suffering of others".

  • @031neezy
    @031neezy 3 года назад +77

    every so often you stumble on something that almost feels like magic. this speech is so much more than the sum of its words, it really is a piece of art.

  • @ruthauma4700
    @ruthauma4700 4 года назад +376

    There are mountains of sorrow that cannot move and one way or another we will all kneel there.
    I felt that

    • @peadog007
      @peadog007 4 года назад +3

      Ruth Auma I love what you said. Where did you get that from? Beautiful!

    • @vaibhavpindikura3841
      @vaibhavpindikura3841 4 года назад +3

      @@peadog007 It was stated in the video.

    • @mdaze9753
      @mdaze9753 3 года назад +4

      @@peadog007 BJ Miller says it @ 17:17

    • @shoneyluvsAmerica
      @shoneyluvsAmerica 3 года назад +2

      I know ! That is just profound and should be etched in stone for posterity.

  • @loverlei79
    @loverlei79 9 лет назад +137

    I still remember the first dog I saw after living in the hospital for a year. he wasn't even a rehab dog. just someone's pet. I cried and cried. I never thought I'd see a dog again.

  • @uma20012
    @uma20012 8 лет назад +3121

    something about his eyes..had its own expression and story.

    • @morpheus909
      @morpheus909 8 лет назад +14

      I know right

    • @kayfischbach5510
      @kayfischbach5510 8 лет назад +35

      no, thats just a tear layer, thats normal, some people have more in the eye off it, thats what let him look so sad, but that hasnt to do anything with his emotion or story
      PS: my english sucs

    • @mynintendobroke
      @mynintendobroke 8 лет назад +7

      +Kay Fischbach Having tears in your eyes makes you look sad? Nah, I don't buy it.

    • @lazyidealist
      @lazyidealist 8 лет назад +13

      Take Keanu Reaves for example.

    • @evanprest6224
      @evanprest6224 8 лет назад +3

      get a room

  • @francoisdavis7254
    @francoisdavis7254 3 года назад +42

    I can literally feel his deeper pain internal suffering by just looking in his eyes....I just want to hug this man

  • @sammyy9223
    @sammyy9223 7 лет назад +341

    His eyes reflect that he has seen and gone through many many things on his life.

    • @lolarushartland9411
      @lolarushartland9411 7 лет назад +2

      Mr Tech Dude Haha - TECH dude indeed ! What his eyes reflect is absolutely nothing to do with 'watery' or not - try a little less TECH and feel into what we mean here?

    • @GiaielPace
      @GiaielPace 6 лет назад +5

      Of course he has been through a lot! He’s been through terrible shocking experience obviously.

    • @joecermak7649
      @joecermak7649 6 лет назад

      Gio Biocampo too soon

    • @HybridSol1221
      @HybridSol1221 6 лет назад +1

      @@GiaielPace not cool

  • @davidjustin4589
    @davidjustin4589 5 лет назад +793

    I didn't think I could watch this all the way through, but I did. I am at or near the end of my journey through life being accompanied by Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis. His talk, in a strange way, at least in my mind, gave me some hope that I will accept my death gracefully. At 74 I have lived a decent life but I wish I would have had a little more time, but that wasn't in the cards. Glad I found this vid.

    • @iamessence6268
      @iamessence6268 5 лет назад +24

      Listen to the book of 'Tao Te Ching' before you go. I also going through a terminal illness. 💗👍

    • @loveofinquiry8067
      @loveofinquiry8067 5 лет назад +7

      I think I would want more time like you❤️

    • @tientrinh6906
      @tientrinh6906 5 лет назад +5

      I hope you’re still hanging in there. We need good people like you.

    • @junerivera4045
      @junerivera4045 5 лет назад +6

      Remember, this is your crescendo! Live fully

    • @leolee4549
      @leolee4549 5 лет назад +2

      @@iamessence6268 Hope you will always have peace in your heart,we will meet up there eventually,Love and Hugsssssssss

  • @jonahzah2698
    @jonahzah2698 3 года назад +838

    The doctor is effective only when he himself is affected. Only the wounded physician heals.” ― C.G. Jung
    Greetings from Ethiopia

    • @dianepaul9846
      @dianepaul9846 3 года назад +12

      Beautiful comment. Btw, I love Ethiopia. I lived there for a couple years as a child. Wishing you peace.

    • @tesstefera6334
      @tesstefera6334 3 года назад +3

      Nice to meet my fellow Ethiopians
      You are right
      Cheers

    • @pikiwiki
      @pikiwiki 3 года назад +2

      Greetings, Ethiopia. How's the weather?

    • @allensandven0
      @allensandven0 3 года назад +2

      Great quote ,on so many levels

    • @Munsjvc2
      @Munsjvc2 3 года назад +3

      Oh. I’ve always believed this, but never heard it said so we’ll!

  • @rodrigogarces2254
    @rodrigogarces2254 2 года назад +40

    I read sadness deep in his eyes, but he is strong & powerful. Glory to him !

  • @InnerResearcher
    @InnerResearcher 6 лет назад +224

    His eyes hold the wisdom of the whole world. Wow....

  • @duartedasilva7171
    @duartedasilva7171 3 года назад +150

    “There are mountains of sorrows that cannot move; and one way of another, we’ll all kneel there.”

  • @petestrat07
    @petestrat07 8 лет назад +131

    What an impressive human being. Imagine having a conversation with him?

    • @MrBlisss1
      @MrBlisss1 8 лет назад +3

      Lets talk about nothing.inc

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +2

      Thanks Pete!

  • @syedjafferimam5789
    @syedjafferimam5789 3 года назад +174

    "A part of me died early on and that's something we can all say one way or another "
    Thanks for such inspirational talk

    • @trafficjon400
      @trafficjon400 2 года назад +1

      Temporary for NO MAN Will convince much longer as we need prove of true love that can control for love and not tricks. or wants and wishing wells.

  • @Stopwars0809
    @Stopwars0809 9 лет назад +173

    'let death be what takes us, not lack of imagination.' You sir, deserved that standing ovation!

  • @hippopond1
    @hippopond1 3 года назад +363

    “Death kills a man, but the idea of death can save him” E.M.Forster. This is a really important TED talk. All disciplines need each other. If we separate them, if we separate techniques from purposes, we lose the meaning of things and of ourselves. Thank you!

  • @gordonsmith8923
    @gordonsmith8923 5 лет назад +71

    What a soft spoken gentleman. Deep, reflective, and heartfelt.

  • @mjtr1970
    @mjtr1970 2 года назад +32

    He spoke from his heart and first hand experience, not something learned through books....world need such people speak often....love him

  • @siyaa3354
    @siyaa3354 4 года назад +445

    Is it just me who loves his pause and intonation? Overall his voice and expression?

  • @Miriam-fk9wr
    @Miriam-fk9wr 3 года назад +192

    I can listen to this gentleman speak his story, he’s a gentle soul.

    • @user199543999
      @user199543999 3 года назад +1

      You mean "soul", not "sole". The sole is on the bottom of a foot.
      (Sorry for being a smartass)

    • @Miriam-fk9wr
      @Miriam-fk9wr 3 года назад +1

      @@user199543999 yes thank you 🌷didn’t take notice.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +5

      thank you Miriam

  • @Coco-pr3rz
    @Coco-pr3rz 4 года назад +55

    'Find beauty and meaning in anything and everything. Love each moments ferociously. Learn to live well not in spite of death, but because of it. Let death be what take us, not lack of imagination.'

  • @EvelineNow
    @EvelineNow 2 года назад +5

    When I decided to join a Paliative Care/Hospice group I learned since the end of life was inevitable I had to switch my
    priorities. I assisted people to their last journey with fun and the juices of their lives. I learned to live my own life as I saw fit for me. What a gift.

  • @audiokechuyenchobe1696
    @audiokechuyenchobe1696 6 лет назад +148

    Undoubtedly, his eyes cry a lot for a long periods of time but he don't give up, overcame it to be stronger.

  • @NerokoMimi
    @NerokoMimi 8 лет назад +136

    "Let death be what takes us, not the lack of imagination."
    This is one of the best speeches I've watched. You can see all these feelings in his eyes and his words are really touchy. We forget how to live today and worry too much about death. Time is precious for sure, but everything that makes us feel worths taking our time.

    • @EndWell
      @EndWell 6 лет назад +1

      He just spoke at our symposium in case you're looking for more, just wonderful! ruclips.net/video/bZrdGijdo4g/видео.html

  • @mangobanana2982
    @mangobanana2982 8 лет назад +38

    I don't understand why we waste our time during our lives to wait for a perfect moment, when as he describes the things we yearn for, these moments that connect us to this earth are right before us. We do not have to wait until death almost upon us. We just need to take a step back from our busy lives and understand the beauty of each day and living moment

  • @-Ibidugoodbye
    @-Ibidugoodbye Год назад +68

    "Making Life more Wonderful,
    rather than just less
    Horrible..."

    • @patriciaibarra2704
      @patriciaibarra2704 6 месяцев назад +4

      Where have I been all this time that I didn't come upon this most life inspiring ted ever? ❤❤

  • @SaffyKaffy
    @SaffyKaffy 3 года назад +234

    I come back to this video, each time I feel sad/depressed/hopeless.... it reminds me to LIVE again.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +21

      I'm glad to read this is helpful, Mona

    • @halcyon_echo42
      @halcyon_echo42 3 года назад +8

      This is an amazing offering to take the time to truly value and appreciate the life we live, the world we share, and the abilities we have to experience wonder. I am in awe of this man

    • @pedroayllon4293
      @pedroayllon4293 3 года назад +1

      I do the same after having my heartbroken after a 7 year relationship. When I feel down and lose hope I watch,too.

    • @motiverendesitater6882
      @motiverendesitater6882 3 года назад

      What really matters at the end of life ? nothing matters......we are just a FLUKE......like worms..many humans take birth and then die........ the big bang was a fluke...the first amoeba was a fluke....everything is a fluke !!! jus dont live a SERIOUS LIFE..or a CARELESS LIFE...just a live a life of acceptance and make sure , you do smart CHOICES IN LIFE...life is nothing but CHOICES !!! cheers !!

    • @p-lit189
      @p-lit189 3 года назад

      Mona H.
      I hope you don't mind my advice.
      Whenever you feel sad or depressed, you must keep yourself busy. Just do any healthy habits or activity that can occupies your mind and make you physically tired in the end of the day.
      (Sorry for my english 😅✌️) I hope it would help u.

  • @mudit5151
    @mudit5151 9 лет назад +156

    the way he delivered this talk, its beautiful.. just amazing

    • @mudit5151
      @mudit5151 9 лет назад

      made my day.. this thought is wonderful

    • @mudit5151
      @mudit5151 9 лет назад +1

      I'd like to secure a "happy death" pack for myself right away.. maybe that would help me to live without fear..

    • @ikergarcia7794
      @ikergarcia7794 8 лет назад +1

      +mudit gupta Living with fear to death is a fault.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад

      thank you mudit!

    • @mudit5151
      @mudit5151 3 года назад +1

      @@BJMillerMD subbed to your channel.. thanks for making an account finally

  • @pinkspiltmilk
    @pinkspiltmilk 8 лет назад +51

    He's so beautiful. I love how he talks in such a real way.

  • @briantimbal8711
    @briantimbal8711 2 года назад +17

    The sincerity in his eyes says a lot

  • @popamaximilian8540
    @popamaximilian8540 4 года назад +27

    This is why the internet is a priceless gift.I am verry happy that I had the chance to learn from this man.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +1

      i'm glad this was helpful, Maximilian

    • @earlybird32
      @earlybird32 5 месяцев назад

      RUclips is a fantastic information source

  • @mr_brown5974
    @mr_brown5974 8 лет назад +378

    "Loss is one thing but regret quiet another"

  • @evanprice5470
    @evanprice5470 3 года назад +869

    This has to be the most beautifully written ted talk I've ever watched

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +25

      thank you Evan!

    • @evanprice5470
      @evanprice5470 3 года назад +10

      @@BJMillerMD No, thank you!

    • @lionel.messi10
      @lionel.messi10 3 года назад +8

      @@BJMillerMD thankyou ❤️

    • @Olhamo
      @Olhamo 3 года назад +6

      yes, I agree. It is diamantine, in the warmest way

    • @carloskleiber8500
      @carloskleiber8500 3 года назад +3

      Sanctimonious sermon

  • @KD-sz5bx
    @KD-sz5bx 3 года назад +10

    Watched this for one of my Psych courses. This put tears in my eyes. The way he spoke, the usage of vocabulary, the utter genius of his presence and the way he evoked the entire room. This was by far the best Ted talk I've came across and everything he said made sense in my own personal understandings. Thank you, thank you, and thank you.

  • @mahamamir9892
    @mahamamir9892 3 года назад +730

    What a beautiful message, conveyed more beautifully. I couldn't stop 'feeling' what he was saying. His every word was filled with empathy, wisdom, and a hidden, accepted pain behind that smile. May God bless his soul and strengthen him more.

    • @Harlem55
      @Harlem55 3 года назад

      You smoke too much weed.

    • @AlphaGeekgirl
      @AlphaGeekgirl 3 года назад +10

      @@Harlem55 You are not human

    • @mahamamir9892
      @mahamamir9892 3 года назад +11

      @@Harlem55 Hahaah. It would have been funny, but I am Muslim, brother. And I am appalled you couldn't relate to this story.

    • @milmac5052
      @milmac5052 3 года назад +1

      Which god?, the one who did this to him?

    • @electrictroy2010
      @electrictroy2010 2 года назад

      RELIGIOUS PEOPLE have the same earnest eyes, as they tell you about God or gods. It doesn’t make the belief any less imaginary
      .

  • @guigondi7671
    @guigondi7671 8 лет назад +111

    I feel like i lack something, perhaps life experience or introspection, to truly comprehend the weight of the words of this man.

    • @giurgindemilan
      @giurgindemilan 6 лет назад

      hold the thought. Carefree or not having major problems aside of work-money-survival-sports etc isn't all that bad for many. Maybe from your comment you wish to understand more.... start giving back, say 10% of your time in volunteering?
      If that is empathy lacking that is another route to dig, yet empathy comes from common experiences and young age generallt gifts you of a smaller amount of them to relate to.

    • @hugoboss9387
      @hugoboss9387 6 лет назад

      You lack nothing but his experience will be quite his own expression of the grief and joy he was dealt. Your experience will be differnet and the same. Hope that explains something to you.

    • @jonasdamion1627
      @jonasdamion1627 6 лет назад +3

      this guy lost 2.5 limbs, works in hospice, and is probably much older than you, so don't worry about it just do what you can do to get more immersed in life every chance you get

    • @patriciarussell5463
      @patriciarussell5463 6 лет назад +1

      So maybe you should consider yourself one of the Lucky Ones, but then again...

  • @naninolovyou6388
    @naninolovyou6388 3 года назад +160

    I LOVE this guy, he’s handsome, smart and just gets it. His voice low and fairly quiet and audience is quiet, listening every word….Good man! We need MORE of this man

    • @mywingedwords
      @mywingedwords Год назад +3

      i agree that he is the quintessential thinking and feeling woman's crush :)

  • @momofschnauzers
    @momofschnauzers 2 года назад +16

    Poignant, eloquent, from-the-heart delivery. His message is one that we ALL need to hear and keep in our hearts as we journey through life to the inevitable time of saying goodbye.

  • @MrAkosFintor
    @MrAkosFintor 4 года назад +727

    This Ted talk sounded and felt like a poem. A beautiful one!

  • @kssthmn
    @kssthmn 3 года назад +133

    "rather than just getting it out of the way, aging and dying can become a process of crescendo through to the end". started tearing up after this part. truly an inspiring line. i'm a huge fan of music and music composition, so this line is just bang on.

    • @dvl889
      @dvl889 2 года назад +8

      “ A crescendo till the end…” Ah yes, I will live happily all through my last days. I’m 83 now so the end is near. I’m curious…what will it be like ❤

  • @reneet5858
    @reneet5858 3 года назад +343

    Thank you. Thank you so very much. My late Husband and I could only get 3 out of our 6 kids to understand his decision to return home, and LIVE whatever time he had left. He was such a good man, so gentle, a mountain of a man, hands so calloused from years of blue collar work, which he never complained about, instead always left work at the door when he got home. He was a Vietnam Vet. He had PTSD. He was a fantastic Papa to 18 Grandchildren. He was also poisoned by Agent Orange. He went through two rounds of what they told us were the harshest Chemo treatments around. They gave him an 8% chance to get to Stem Cell Transplant. He took 2 rounds of Chemo, and we knew at the end of the 2nd one, that all of his major organs were damaged. He made the choice to live out what time he was given here at home, he wished to die here at home. He wanted only to be with me, our dogs, and see the kids & Grandkids as much as he could. What they told us would be 6-8 weeks turned out to be 8 months. We even went on a trip to Colorado for 10 days. If Death can be " Good" ?, he had a " Good Death". He was only Bedbound for 4 days, at the very end of his life. He knew me, and was coherent until 36 hours before he died. He looked at me 48 hours before he died, and said " It's going to happen very soon". His biggest concern? " I don't want to leave you".
    My point is this: We all start dying the day we are born. Death has been made to be enemy even in our old age, and many times the Medical people feel everything must be done to avoid it. What is MOST important, is how we LIVE, even when we are actively dying. After his death our other 3 kids finally understood this, through watching their Dad LIVE, while he was dying. Those 3 are all in various Medical fields.
    I have been by myself ( the kids scattered from Alaska and Tacoma to various parts of the South and here in Kansas) for1.5 years now. I've really struggled with his death. I know they say it takes time to heal. I think...I can only make room, and carry him with me forward, because to ask me to just " get over" this just isn't going to happen.
    Again, Thank You for spreading awareness about the possibility of having a " Good Death". It is so needed. And with the Baby Boomers aging in great numbers, it is vital to get this information out to others.

    • @jagmeetsingh01
      @jagmeetsingh01 2 года назад +9

      Thank you for sharing this :) provides another dimension to his talk. I wish you all the best!

    • @ishughimire9994
      @ishughimire9994 2 года назад +4

      ❤️

    • @anaassis7800
      @anaassis7800 2 года назад +18

      This comment made me tear up. So often we think we know all there is to know in life by the time you've become an adult, and yet I find myself learning that new phases of life bring new knowledge and experiences I did not know I needed to actually understand the realms of life and death. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I hope time has brought you peace

    • @debuhrich4851
      @debuhrich4851 2 года назад +4

      Thank you for sharing this with me.

    • @neildmedia
      @neildmedia 2 года назад +6

      Thank you for your post. It really adds value to the talk itself.

  • @BingoBilingual
    @BingoBilingual Год назад +10

    "Learn to live well not in spite of death, but because of it." Words of wisdom! Thank you! Moved to tears so many times listening to this great speech.

  • @edwardseverinsen5598
    @edwardseverinsen5598 3 года назад +43

    I don't know what it was but him holding back tears made me cry. "You can always find a shock of beauty or meaning in what life you have left. Like that snowball lasting for a perfect moment, all the while melting away." This part in particular struck a chord in me. It's very evident from his face and voice that he's extremely passionate about what he's talking about. Almost a sense of desperation because you can tell he really wants you to understand what he's saying. I love that. Genuineness and not any ego involved. That's beautiful. Thank you for that.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +2

      thank you for the beautiful comment Edward!

    • @electrictroy2010
      @electrictroy2010 2 года назад +1

      RELIGIOUS PEOPLE have the same earnest eyes, as they tell you about God or gods. It doesn’t make the belief any less imaginary
      .

  • @IAmMarsRay
    @IAmMarsRay 8 лет назад +3074

    Is it just me or did anyone else fall in love with this man? lol

    • @buzzweebee8685
      @buzzweebee8685 8 лет назад +87

      haha! TOTALLY! I'll fight you for him.. :)

    • @bookashkin
      @bookashkin 8 лет назад +57

      Sharing is caring :)

    • @mrst0ne495
      @mrst0ne495 8 лет назад +87

      The feelings in those eyes

    • @CindyBellydance
      @CindyBellydance 8 лет назад +46

      Wow! What was not to love about him. :-)

    • @CindyBellydance
      @CindyBellydance 8 лет назад +139

      Gay or straight, it doesn't really matter. He's a beautiful human being.

  • @DavidStrain1953
    @DavidStrain1953 3 года назад +44

    He is holding a river of compassion and living fully in the moment of now.. Eyes wide open. Ananda

  • @nandaacademy
    @nandaacademy 3 года назад +15

    Dr. Miller, you inspire me! The way you talked, the command you had over your voice was beyond words can describe. It was an honor listening to you!

  • @e-spy
    @e-spy 4 года назад +46

    This and all the wonderful comments tell me that we can treat each other more kindly than it appears we do at present.

  • @skandarc2810
    @skandarc2810 8 лет назад +830

    Absolutely beautiful, humble, moving talk. Even if this video was without sound, his eyes alone tell the story of his life and heart.
    Having a mother who passed away from a terrible terminal disease, I completely agree with him on the system and hospitals. There is some amazing healthcare professionals however, mainly nurses. So we took matters into our own hands and following the wishes of my mother. There is nothing, nothing more beautiful and peaceful, then seeing someone you love, leaving this earth with a smile on their face.

    • @robertclark781
      @robertclark781 7 лет назад +1

      Skandar C a

    • @MelissaBrownapt215
      @MelissaBrownapt215 7 лет назад +5

      The eyes have it and he pauses so naturally in the right moments, letting the feeling sink in.

    • @ricardoocampo8586
      @ricardoocampo8586 6 лет назад +2

      Skandar C true

    • @lynndurbin9476
      @lynndurbin9476 6 лет назад +5

      I have seen families fight in hospitals around the death of parents. Very upsetting to everyone.

    • @АртемисФёдоровна
      @АртемисФёдоровна 6 лет назад +5

      My wish for my dad is to be able to return home and die here peacefully. There is nothing more I wish and pray for at this point.

  • @pedroayllon4293
    @pedroayllon4293 3 года назад +407

    I had my heart broken and almost did the unimaginable. Listening to your talk made me realize just how beautiful life could still be after a relationship of 7 years has ended.
    Thank you so much

    • @payday3425
      @payday3425 3 года назад +18

      It will always be okay, remember there is always a positive ending, always. I know. Create your book and make a amazing ending for people to hear, you will find all the good come to your heart :). - Tiaggo

    • @merrybluegirl8930
      @merrybluegirl8930 3 года назад +22

      I'm so sorry you've had that happen to you. It takes some time when our world is flipped upside down to find our footing again and even longer before we can feel happiness again. But from experience, I tell you, although it may not seem like it now, life always has something better in store for us. Live for that day. Just wade through the weeds until that happens. Know that you are NOT ALONE. I'm so happy this message helped you tremendously. Sending out love to you in the universe. May peace and a newfound desire to find out what's around the corner meet you right where you are.🌻

    • @lrhcconrad2230
      @lrhcconrad2230 3 года назад +10

      I'm in the same boat . It feels like it's sinking . Almost 30 years invested and now everything is gone . I can't seem to shake it . I will though ,someday .
      Honestly life is horrible ,today and yesterday . I'm surviving for tomorrow
      Eternally through my Lord Jesus Christ .

    • @a.h.991
      @a.h.991 3 года назад +3

      I am with you on this. Stay strong.

    • @mattgoodmangoodmanlawnmowi2454
      @mattgoodmangoodmanlawnmowi2454 2 года назад +11

      Pedro I was in my mid 40s. 3 divorces. Two once good relationships ended badly. Ready to do the unthinkable. A voice inside told me to wait, my life would change in ways that I could not imagine. That same voice had once saved my life. So I tried. Mostly out of curiosity. Decided if I couldn’t have what I wanted I would rather be alone. Three months later, over thirty years ago, I met the true love of my life & we have a great son. I had to change my attitude and only then was I ready for what came next. Be patient & be accepting that you might not find what you want. Then perhaps the conditions will be right for a new as yet unknown phase in your life. It was for me.

  • @honeycubey3120
    @honeycubey3120 3 года назад +33

    He's so in tune with himself. A really beautiful talk. I can feel the purity of his soul.♥️

    • @Juxtapose76
      @Juxtapose76 Год назад +1

      Thanks for sharing.💖💯

  • @gnrncrue
    @gnrncrue 5 лет назад +382

    Im very grateful for his talk, but his eyes reflect so much pain behind his matter-of-fact way of sharing these important thoughts.

    • @christinahenry8613
      @christinahenry8613 5 лет назад +4

      I see his wisdom and understanding within those eyes...

    • @emwali2154
      @emwali2154 5 лет назад +8

      Truly, if ever I saw a sad pair of eyes which bore sadness out of compassion...... My goodness

    • @miggrodriguez9996
      @miggrodriguez9996 4 года назад

      Oh Wow! So now there's bunch of expert psychologists here eh? Comments should've been disabled.

  • @krissecor2031
    @krissecor2031 5 лет назад +56

    “Turning anguish into a flower...” beautiful words from a beautiful man.

  • @jherico500
    @jherico500 7 лет назад +88

    carpe diem, it's not the destination, but the journey. that's what i am taking from this man. the eyes are the window to the soul, and this guys soul is right with the lord.

  • @mellowe7401
    @mellowe7401 2 года назад +25

    Beautiful. If only more physicians could be as empathetic as this man.
    Yes his eyes speak volumes. Ones of grief, pain, compassion and care.
    Thank you for this wonderful talk.
    Giving hope onto a subject that can seem so hopeless 💜💜.

  • @cmholt2007
    @cmholt2007 9 лет назад +18

    The sadness pouring out of this man is almost inconceivable. I hope nothing but the best for him and others like him.

  • @zahidraza1902
    @zahidraza1902 3 года назад +434

    His eyes say so much about himself....I couldn't listen to him much because his eyes are louder than his voice. Suddenly my life's problem seemed so small.

  • @IrreverentTetrapod
    @IrreverentTetrapod 9 лет назад +32

    Everything about this man is beautiful.

  • @markiewicz77
    @markiewicz77 3 года назад +32

    People like you restore my faith in humanity. It was eye opening experience to listen to you. The most beautiful and true TED I’ve seen. Wish I could have a fraction of your compassion and wisdom.

  • @flufygogogo
    @flufygogogo 4 года назад +36

    His eyes sparkles and radiates a light of wisdom and grace, calm and empathetic. What an example of what humans can achieve

  • @RahulKuntala
    @RahulKuntala 8 лет назад +41

    I couldn't be able to listen to the whole video. I was just awestruck and could feel the agony in his eyes. Such a powerful narrator.

  • @ThePyro3525
    @ThePyro3525 9 лет назад +652

    It's presentations like these that make me love TED

    • @ronmaest
      @ronmaest 9 лет назад +4

      +BaeJ The 6 God Better than female under-privilege, any day!

    • @ThePyro3525
      @ThePyro3525 9 лет назад

      +Ron maest now I wouldn't go that far for the sake of keeping my head attached to my body, but this talk is more universal.

    • @ronmaest
      @ronmaest 9 лет назад +1

      BaeJ The 6 God
      It's because of that type of cowardice that feminists have the sway they have. Remember that. Relax, they can't put a finger on you, it's against the law. Now, I assume there it's only because we're all equal, of course...

    • @ronmaest
      @ronmaest 9 лет назад

      Aviri Char
      Everyone...this ^ is a mangina. Thank you.

    • @ronmaest
      @ronmaest 9 лет назад +1

      Aviri Char
      AAAHAhAhAHAHAHHA! XD

  • @all-caps3927
    @all-caps3927 2 года назад +32

    Too often we see TED talkers share a vision, and us viewers or ‘patients’ look and we wonder “how is their life so perfect?”. The truth it their life isn’t perfect, I really resonated with this talk because you can clearly visualise the price everyone has to pay for their mistakes. This guy, even without legs, literally and metaphorically stood up and got his life back together. Just know that when something goes wrong, as it always does! There is always hope.

  • @CuongNguyen-xw8qu
    @CuongNguyen-xw8qu 7 лет назад +43

    In 2016, I won the Cancer, this videos talks about what I had learnt after 4 months faced against that desease : " Life is hard, but it's simply the most wonderful thing we have, let's love it " :D

  • @arunadissanayake3687
    @arunadissanayake3687 8 лет назад +56

    The best speech I have ever seen. You are such a great human sir . I respect you so much. God bless you always. May the sun rise for you where ever you go.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад

      thank you Aruna

    • @arunadissanayake3687
      @arunadissanayake3687 3 года назад

      @@BJMillerMD You are welcome doc, hope I can meet you one day, I live in Yonkers NY, if you have any upcoming programs I would love to be a part of them, I am a therapist and Palliative care is my passion.

  • @swish6754
    @swish6754 5 лет назад +60

    I could listen to Mr. Miller all day long. He's so eloquent, kind, well-spoken and a beautiful soul overall.

  • @princeshahnawaz33
    @princeshahnawaz33 3 года назад +24

    His eyes tells everything about his life and the sufferings he bear.
    Thank you so much for this wonderful speech🙏

  • @colleenhall3763
    @colleenhall3763 3 года назад +96

    This man challenges me on so many levels. I find myself watching this every few months, to ground me, my fears and anxieties. So thankful for him.

    • @jagmeetsingh01
      @jagmeetsingh01 2 года назад +2

      Wishing you strength and peace, Colleen Hall :)

  • @erickoontz6835
    @erickoontz6835 7 лет назад +12

    What a strikingly beautiful man he is! And yes, I agree with those of you who've said his eyes are telling as much or more than his words.

  • @philc4520
    @philc4520 8 лет назад +49

    Pretty damn inspirational-the guy is the real deal. Nice to see integrity and a compassionate outlook expressed by a member of the medical profession.

  • @VKA00376
    @VKA00376 2 года назад +12

    It is people like you whom inspire me deeply consider my professional goals. As much as I have enjoyed critical care as an RN, I work very closely with palliative because so many just do not want that level of invasive care, the bleeping monitors, the inability to sleep, etc... It seems like a difficult path to walk, but it also appears rewarding to provide a patient with the highest quality of their limited time left on this Earth.

  • @julieeddy2051
    @julieeddy2051 3 года назад +41

    He deserved the standing ovation he received, at the end of his talk. His message was very profound. Enjoy every minute of the time you have on this earth, be not afraid of death, learn to transcend it.

  • @carolhart9812
    @carolhart9812 4 года назад +67

    Thank you, thank you, thank you. At 72 I see my life slowly slipping from me in what I am able to do! You have given me new eyes to look for what is still possible. Not to grieve what is lost, but rejoice in what is still possible and, i will carry this with me the rest of my days. So i thank you for me and my beloved family. God bless you and keep you now and always❤

    • @e-spy
      @e-spy 4 года назад +2

      Thanks, Carol, I hadn't thought of that, and you are right. I'll keep that, if you don't mind.

    • @BJMillerMD
      @BJMillerMD 3 года назад +6

      Dear Carol, thank you for your beautiful comment. I'm glad to know I was able to help.

    • @seattletyler
      @seattletyler 3 года назад +1

      ❤️

    • @taylorhii2074
      @taylorhii2074 3 года назад +1

      Bless you and yours !

    • @beatamichalska6220
      @beatamichalska6220 3 года назад +3

      Thank you for your sharing. I am 60 and little bit boring. Now I have different feeling and a hope

  • @HereForToday42
    @HereForToday42 3 года назад +27

    wow. such a deep and caring soul. you can tell he has felt his own and other's suffering. the Zen Hospice is lucky to have him

  • @erumpervez4454
    @erumpervez4454 Год назад +3

    I have heard so many talks but none stayed with me like this one. You eyes and you face reflects what you experienced and the wisdom you have learned.

  • @arottie4097
    @arottie4097 5 лет назад +868

    While this mans words were comforting & filled with hope of a better way for life to end. I can not help but sence a huge sadness coming from him! I don't think his talk was meant to elicit sadness. However it was hard for me to watch because of the crushing sadness I sensed. Nonetheless, this was a beautifully talk. Given by a beautiful & humble human being!
    Thank you for sharing.

    • @WOWiamTHENOW
      @WOWiamTHENOW 5 лет назад +14

      @ A Rottie, agreed I also sensed a lot of sadness radiating for this man.

    • @TxNursePatti
      @TxNursePatti 5 лет назад +56

      I agree. But, it feels like it comes from a place of knowing - he has seen and experienced so much. But, unfortunately as a physician, he also understands the paradigm that is our current Western healthcare system... The kind of change that is needed will probably not happen any time soon. And it breaks his heart. It breaks all of our hearts.

    • @arottie4097
      @arottie4097 5 лет назад +15

      @@TxNursePatti I agree, the sadness certainly does feel as though it comes from a knowing. I also sense an acceptance in his words. He certainly seems to be @ peace with his understanding. I guess I would call it a surrendered sadness. Something I don't often come across. However, i'm guessing something not so uncommon when working in the healthcare system?

    • @raybassman7536
      @raybassman7536 5 лет назад +7

      See in the Holy Bible romans chapter 10 verses 9,10, and 13 this is the good news he did not mention on stage,

    • @annh227
      @annh227 5 лет назад +6

      I sensed reverance and complicity for and with death...and life. Good talk.

  • @XxXpokemonmasterXxX1
    @XxXpokemonmasterXxX1 9 лет назад +1450

    His eyes tell an extremely difficult and enjoyable story. ;)

    • @pradeeplama1335
      @pradeeplama1335 9 лет назад +14

      Enjoyable? i Don't really think so because no pain is ever enjoyable, whether it's big or small. Inside or out.

    • @daykbd
      @daykbd 9 лет назад +40

      +Jake Tamang he meant the way he told it. It was enjoyable. Obviously the pain isn't enjoyable. Nobody would say a pain is enjoyable

    • @andy4an
      @andy4an 9 лет назад +20

      +Aviri Char indeed.
      "turning anguish into a flower" - BJ Miller
      much of the greatest joy in my life has a root in pain.
      That certainly doesn't mean I want pain, or wish it on anyone of course.

    • @pradeeplama1335
      @pradeeplama1335 9 лет назад +6

      Well guys, those are the facts that made me love ted talks even more. Yeah, obviously, the feelings of overcoming the pain is indeed joyful. Peace ! ;)

    • @SexualPotatoes
      @SexualPotatoes 9 лет назад +5

      +saleh al-humaid Why are you winking

  • @AscendedMasculine
    @AscendedMasculine 8 лет назад +329

    Best speech I have ever seen hands down. Simply magnificent.

  • @buddahflower2424
    @buddahflower2424 3 года назад +11

    i had to watch this for my medical humanities course in college. I was dreading watching a 20-min video at midnight because I was tired but we had to have it watched by tomorrow. Let me just tell you, one of the best videos I've ever viewed. Period. The eloquence and poise of this man...wow. Many of the figures we have learned of are just outstanding role models and Dr. Miller is one of them. I certainly don't regret spending a mere 20 minutes to watch this educational and beautiful video.