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  • Опубликовано: 23 фев 2024
  • Iyanla Vanzant heads to Pennsylvania to do the work with a desperate wife and her husband who says he's lied, cheated and led a double life for 20 years. (Original Air Date: June 7, 2024) Watch more of Iyanla Fix My Life on the WatchOWN app and visit: www.oprah.com/app/iyanla-fix-...
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    About Iylana Fix My Life : Author and inspirational speaker Iyanla Vanzant goes behind closed doors and deep inside people's lives for emotional conversations. She helps reveal secrets, uncover truth
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  • @lebobarbie3593
    @lebobarbie3593 3 месяца назад +1982

    5 mins in i feel like pastor is 🌈

    • @KairoK
      @KairoK 3 месяца назад +199

      Likely. I also think he's been watching illegal things

    • @tokyostephens1264
      @tokyostephens1264 3 месяца назад +1

      OMG me to and I wish he would just be honest because you can tell he's not telling the real truth and that's that you like Men

    • @tonyausten2168
      @tonyausten2168 3 месяца назад +12

      😂😂😂

    • @APOTlove
      @APOTlove 3 месяца назад +129

      Definitely viewing some illegal shyt because why can’t you say what it is

    • @jessicajay6142
      @jessicajay6142 3 месяца назад +67

      I was waiting on him to say it!!

  • @JacksQueen.
    @JacksQueen. 3 месяца назад +1353

    Men really can be with you and not even like you. Scary.

    • @KairoK
      @KairoK 3 месяца назад +59

      You missed the part that the wife also was with him out of convenience

    • @toschajeffries8833
      @toschajeffries8833 3 месяца назад +32

      Both was looking for something

    • @Inquisitor2024
      @Inquisitor2024 3 месяца назад

      Men r disgusting 🤢

    • @blackout9519
      @blackout9519 3 месяца назад +26

      Yes. It is called using people

    • @takingitonedayatatime7851
      @takingitonedayatatime7851 3 месяца назад +19

      ​@@blackout9519it's called "trying to paint a perfect picture" so people won't judge you

  • @HMJM777
    @HMJM777 3 месяца назад +871

    A pastor saying he doesn't believe ppl can change....get out of the pulpit ASAP

    • @brittany.381
      @brittany.381 3 месяца назад +27

      Crazy right! Smh

    • @brittany.381
      @brittany.381 3 месяца назад +51

      He definitely needs to get out of ministry though

    • @shenise1294
      @shenise1294 3 месяца назад +33

      My thoughts too. He doesn't even believe in the power he supposedly preaches about. Hurts my soul.

    • @b.schannell747
      @b.schannell747 3 месяца назад +7

      My same response... Crazy

    • @HMJM777
      @HMJM777 3 месяца назад +8

      @@shenise1294 what has this man been up there doing this entire time

  • @zingimazongs274
    @zingimazongs274 3 месяца назад +749

    He ALMOST CAME OUT.... that longest look he gave auntie Iyanla was telling

    • @loveserenity3230
      @loveserenity3230 3 месяца назад +44

      Almost!

    • @lisamareepritchard6375
      @lisamareepritchard6375 3 месяца назад +43

      I was thinking the same & he feels so ashamed

    • @debrastevenson709
      @debrastevenson709 3 месяца назад +134

      @@lisamareepritchard6375 That's why he said to his wife he married her because "he wanted to feel NORMAL"! That was his confession right there that he is into men not necessarily women!

    • @josiegeah5031
      @josiegeah5031 3 месяца назад +26

      Like he said too much at risk to tell the truth.. but I’m sure he did of camera

    • @perpetualannan5738
      @perpetualannan5738 2 месяца назад

      @@lisamareepritchard6375same😢

  • @Roryloves.
    @Roryloves. 2 месяца назад +163

    Iyanla Asked her "with another Woman" and she responded "I don't know"....... She knows, and has ALWAYS known, that he is attracted to men. She kept quiet and dismissed it because she too is hiding her own secret. She sympathizes with him, which is why she stayed with him... Iyanla didn't stay long because she saw right through him. She knew that he is not going to tell the real reason and they both wasted her time.

    • @dahliaherrod4301
      @dahliaherrod4301 2 месяца назад +21

      Hmm... Now there's a thought. I figured it out about him, but didn't consider maybe she's gay too. I can see it

    • @danielawharton3679
      @danielawharton3679 Месяц назад +4

      Definitely so

    • @MJ31579
      @MJ31579 Месяц назад +11

      If he truly is gay. Experiencing molestation as a child and then the brother blaming it on "how he is" is truely painful and probably the reason he can't be honest with himself.

    • @maatx4027
      @maatx4027 14 дней назад

      @@MJ31579bingo

  • @ramonahamm6292
    @ramonahamm6292 3 месяца назад +552

    Pastor is definitely in the DL

    • @meghanmisaliar
      @meghanmisaliar 3 месяца назад

      ​@@tinajackson6875same

    • @meghanmisaliar
      @meghanmisaliar 3 месяца назад +1

      Or he could just be a soft talker

    • @meek2312
      @meek2312 3 месяца назад +32

      @@meghanmisaliar no. It's all in the verbiage and tone. He uses the words "people" and "friends" which are a dead giveaway. He chooses those words very carefully versus using pronoun that of a woman... "she, her" or referring to them as women or terms for women specifically...vwey evasive when speaking around Thai entire situation. Then his emotions regarding the entire situation... His demeanor toward his wife. He interacts with her like a good buddy. No spark, no interest. Yea, his eye may turn for a drop dead gorgeous woman but for how long & because he's actually attracted or he knows he *supposed* to be. You can tell that he's a good manipulator, the soft speach is purposeful. It's meant to disarm. He's very calculated.

    • @meghanmisaliar
      @meghanmisaliar 3 месяца назад +1

      @meek2312 you're reading way too much into it. You have no proof.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад

      Most church pastors are especially youth pastors haven’t met one that wasn’t gay

  • @Naksi247
    @Naksi247 2 месяца назад +226

    Why do i feel that everyone including Iyanla knows what his real 'secret' is but they dont want to say it out loud

    • @pheoliasmith4325
      @pheoliasmith4325 2 месяца назад +47

      Because he needs to own it and speak his own truth.

    • @JenniferBX-NY
      @JenniferBX-NY 2 месяца назад +6

      @@pheoliasmith4325yup!

    • @JenniferBX-NY
      @JenniferBX-NY 2 месяца назад +35

      Because it's not Iyanla’s place or his wife's to “out” him, but trust me, they know.

    • @blakbuttaflyz
      @blakbuttaflyz Месяц назад +2

      Purrrr is all imma say!!!!.. Moms gotta pray heal &Self love ..God rewards to her is aTrue Love

    • @subekennedy9554
      @subekennedy9554 Месяц назад +5

      Because thats for him to say, not anyone else

  • @TheMomentsShow
    @TheMomentsShow 3 месяца назад +229

    "I haven't heard the love story yet" oop 🙃

  • @DoctorJoanieTool
    @DoctorJoanieTool 3 месяца назад +677

    God I miss this show so badly. She was soooooo good at this. I think he was promiscuous with men and Iyanla needs him to be honest with her, with his wife and w himself.

    • @lovely2568
      @lovely2568 3 месяца назад +28

      I myself believe the same as well

    • @taytriggs9065
      @taytriggs9065 3 месяца назад +29

      I think the wife knows it was men. I think she saw something for herself or he didn’t admit it but didn’t deny it either. I think it is a bigger slap in the face for others to know.

    • @DoctorJoanieTool
      @DoctorJoanieTool 3 месяца назад

      @@tinajackson6875 exactly…. I was just left feeling like the true story still was left unsaid. And until everything is out on table and spoken about out loud and in honesty .. there will be no healing and as they posted at the end of the episode …. The divorce will drag on and on and there won’t be a conclusion. That woman won’t be free to get therapy and move on to find a true relationship with someone who desires and respects her in all ways. And the husband will continue with his double life and his lies and his shame and guilt all just to protect this false picture of who he thinks he is supposed to be. I think Iyanla can only push people as far as they are willing to go. But it’s a real shame because they almost got to honest truth but I feel stopped short. And perhaps they did uncover everything with Iyanla but then decided they couldn’t/wouldn’t go public with it and declined to allow the whole truth to be part of the show … maybe trying to protect his pastoral position. Which is why the church is so messed up because there are all these people on power living double lives while preaching what is ‘moral’ to others and everyone knows it’s all a big sham.

    • @trulyworkfromhome6767
      @trulyworkfromhome6767 3 месяца назад +15

      Yeah, I feel the same way. That is what I was feeling in my spirit, he needs to be up front

    • @Black_and_Green
      @Black_and_Green 3 месяца назад +4

      Agree

  • @willamenalos9461
    @willamenalos9461 3 месяца назад +561

    As much as my heart breaks for his childhood trauma it doesn't give him a hall pass to lie, decieve and cheat on her for all those years. That's not love.

    • @debrastevenson709
      @debrastevenson709 3 месяца назад +15

      But his wife was too afraid to walk away which enabled him to continue living the lie. He was not only cheating but was/is on the downlow and too afraid to speak that to his sons who are collateral damage from their broken parents. I pray they all continue with counseling to heal, especially the younger son. It looked as if a part of his soul disappeared because of the profound hurt. My heart breaks for everyone in this family as I can somewhat relate. The only difference is I left when my husband was unfaithful and abusive because I wanted my son to not have to witness the dangerous dysfunction of living in a household full of demons. His father went on to marry someone else and had two more kids along with the one his second wife already had. His kids have suffered and ask my son why he's different from them and he tells them because my mother left and was willing to be a single parent struggling and sacrificing for him than to remain in an unhealthy marriage. Now his father wants him to reach out to his two kids and help them because he still has not become the father needed to pour into their lives. He does what he can to provide them with wise counsel, but their father checked out a long time ago. His father was never there for him and instead of "doing the work" on himself he would rather delegate that to our son. It's so very unfortunate and sad because he had so many gifts that God gave him, and he has squandered them all for nought. Now he is ill from a stroke and unable to do for himself and now his kids and wife now treat him very unkind!

    • @mlm1916
      @mlm1916 3 месяца назад +1

      Kharma

    • @MimiB1974
      @MimiB1974 Месяц назад

      It didn’t seem like he was excusing it… it’s an explanation… that a LOT of people who may be going through this right now need to hear

  • @saucyfaces
    @saucyfaces 3 месяца назад +144

    Lack of sexual discipline and selfishness will ALWAYS break up a family.

    • @variousJnames
      @variousJnames 3 месяца назад +7

      Unhealed trauma almost always manifests itself as lack of sexual discipline and selfishness. And yes, it does usually break or cause great strife in a family FOR GENERATIONS.

    • @saucyfaces
      @saucyfaces 3 месяца назад +1

      @@variousJnames Agreed

    • @fisf.2148
      @fisf.2148 Месяц назад

      Exactly! As soon as I know a man has an appetite for sleeping with everyone who wants him I cut off everything with him

  • @bigheadbarbie3640
    @bigheadbarbie3640 2 месяца назад +37

    When he said he slept with another person instead of another woman I knew why it was so hard for him to tell the truth I hope they’re both feeling better and free.

  • @Yourfavorite-cx6jz
    @Yourfavorite-cx6jz 3 месяца назад +308

    he’s tried to fight against his sexuality with all these women and tbh i think he’s been with men. he’s cruel. he knew he never wanted her and chose to hurt her. I don’t fell bad for him.

    • @Imthatjackie0808
      @Imthatjackie0808 3 месяца назад +31

      I agree. Broken people love to see other innocent people feel crushing pain. He enjoyed leading her on and making her believe he could change and return home. He enjoyed building her up to let her down.
      And NO, he can't blame that behavior on being molested. He intentionally and deliberately did her dirty...... knowing she just wanted to be loved.
      That is EVIL.

    • @meek2312
      @meek2312 3 месяца назад +22

      ​@jacquelinespalding3767 that's the part! He likes her in this position, feeds his ego

    • @Slimsupremacy
      @Slimsupremacy 3 месяца назад +1

      ON POINT 🎯‼️

    • @HappyDove-tb5nq
      @HappyDove-tb5nq 3 месяца назад +12

      I think those women were men.....

    • @catnbird
      @catnbird 2 месяца назад +8

      He is a coward. He is hiding who he really is by playing the victim and hiding behind his family to do it. He is a vicious predator.

  • @ronnawatson724
    @ronnawatson724 3 месяца назад +172

    30 days after marriage he cheats. My mouth fell open after hearing that

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад +10

      Some folks cheat within 48-72 hours

    • @tanganyikarichardson5588
      @tanganyikarichardson5588 3 месяца назад +5

      ​@@helena3631 At the wedding

    • @specialkay4329
      @specialkay4329 2 месяца назад +2

      A man who married a childhood friend told me he first cheated on their honeymoon. The fkn first night they married.

    • @specialkay4329
      @specialkay4329 2 месяца назад +1

      How is it that we can see it. But wifey cannot. Or can she?

    • @specialkay4329
      @specialkay4329 2 месяца назад

      Men dont use us for cover. Srop putting us in danger. If you are not into women. Go getchu a dude. We CAN REPLACE YOU. AND WULL.

  • @OdachiRain
    @OdachiRain 3 месяца назад +283

    i get that he has his problems but at the end of the day hes lied to this woman, wasted her time and energy just because hes scared

    • @dawnlee866
      @dawnlee866 3 месяца назад +15

      The only thing good that came from their marriage are their son’s 🙏🏾

    • @b.schannell747
      @b.schannell747 3 месяца назад +3

      She's his beard

    • @GhislaineMutombo
      @GhislaineMutombo 2 месяца назад

      Also used her body for kids she could have had with a husband that was into her.

    • @thabsmkhize2481
      @thabsmkhize2481 2 месяца назад +1

      Yeah I really feel that he is still being selfish, using her as a shield for his misdeeds and who he really is. Like at the end they wrote he asked her to put her wedding rings back on etc etc like why is he sending these mixed messages as if they’re a normal couple when they’re clearly not?

    • @user-ox1cx8sh2c
      @user-ox1cx8sh2c Месяц назад +1

      He's an imposter...cruel, selfish and he should be let off the hook just like that. LIAR😢😢

  • @Gorgeouschi_
    @Gorgeouschi_ 3 месяца назад +237

    He was joking about his proposal…and confesses 30 years later

  • @teehee83
    @teehee83 3 месяца назад +415

    The symbolism of her placing his removed ring on a chain around her neck speaks volumes.

    • @angelstarfelix29
      @angelstarfelix29 3 месяца назад +15

      Oohh girll

    • @phatphlat
      @phatphlat 3 месяца назад +52

      @@angelstarfelix29 She don't even know! I think we all know what his secret is even a blind person can hear it.

    • @loveserenity3230
      @loveserenity3230 3 месяца назад +5

      It did smh!

    • @josettebassett3734
      @josettebassett3734 3 месяца назад +39

      It's strange that when he first met her he asked her would she love him if he was overweight, now he let it all hang loose.

    • @josettebassett3734
      @josettebassett3734 3 месяца назад +11

      If he sits on that family dog by mistake, it's all over Jack.

  • @joemorgan636
    @joemorgan636 3 месяца назад +301

    Iyanla is so good at her work

  • @vanessagrayman2194
    @vanessagrayman2194 3 месяца назад +106

    Be normal, u know what that means.

  • @mariangreenwood748
    @mariangreenwood748 3 месяца назад +203

    God bless Jennifer and give her the strength to love herself first

    • @keneilwetsieane
      @keneilwetsieane 3 месяца назад +4

      We really need to love ourselves first. In fact, they way you love yourself will teach others how to love you.

  • @GG_60
    @GG_60 3 месяца назад +178

    Much went unsaid

    • @chinadoll5863
      @chinadoll5863 2 месяца назад

      The homosexuality or the sexual desire for children

    • @suebridgett1520
      @suebridgett1520 Месяц назад +1

      It was the unsaid that said a lot, I was wondering how he ended up in ministry? Bc if you know the word, what kind of power did you have to execute it and help others. His priorities were wrong. Jen didn't want to come out of her nest. He was her stability and functioning in dysfunction.

  • @antoniapalmore7494
    @antoniapalmore7494 3 месяца назад +800

    He married her to cover up a lot of lies😢

    • @johnrondeau9222
      @johnrondeau9222 3 месяца назад +56

      He admitted much of it was a lie but not all of it. He wanted to be normal

    • @meghanmisaliar
      @meghanmisaliar 3 месяца назад

      I think he's gey

    • @singularityjackson
      @singularityjackson 3 месяца назад +10

      That’s crazy 😢

    • @Beatrix_Ditto
      @Beatrix_Ditto 2 месяца назад +83

      I reeeaaally believe that he is attempting to cover up his sexuality.

    • @Marstoinfinity
      @Marstoinfinity 2 месяца назад +15

      @@Beatrix_Ditto yea this is sick and becoming a pastor too

  • @daynamiller240
    @daynamiller240 Месяц назад +10

    He’s beyond selfish. To request her friendship after telling her the last 20 years was a lie is insane he’s looking for absolution not real forgiveness

  • @KairoK
    @KairoK 3 месяца назад +344

    I'm not buying it. No man breaks down like that over JUST "Corn". What TYPE of corn was it? Was it legal? Plus, there's also the elephant in the room that he may not just be into women, especially in light of what happened to him as a child

    • @j.g.3719
      @j.g.3719 3 месяца назад +54

      I completely agree. This man has done awful things. He spoke of hatred when speaking on his past trauma and he is very evasive. Idk his vibe is so dark to me he's crying but his eyes are not sad.

    • @johnrondeau9222
      @johnrondeau9222 3 месяца назад +26

      Oh so I'm not the only one

    • @KairoK
      @KairoK 3 месяца назад +2

      Right?! In the beginning, he said there was no bounds to what he would watch, that's what made me think. The way he was saying his life would be over...like, sir, Over basic 'corn' 🧐 and you're so right. It all felt manipulative to me. Bless his wife and kids for real.@@j.g.3719

    • @akusika1393
      @akusika1393 3 месяца назад +22

      Maybe it has to do with children. God help us all.

    • @meek2312
      @meek2312 3 месяца назад +14

      ​@@j.g.3719right, there are tears but his eyes are empty

  • @MrBlackNupe
    @MrBlackNupe 3 месяца назад +196

    Even in his confession he’s still playing the pulpit role.

  • @TalkaboutitNyny
    @TalkaboutitNyny 3 месяца назад +169

    11 minutes in and I know the 🍵 no shade

  • @afunlivelylife
    @afunlivelylife 3 месяца назад +168

    He is only trying to keep her around to continue to toy with her. What a selfish man. I hope she divorced him and moved on with her life.

    • @sawolaja65
      @sawolaja65 2 месяца назад +8

      Sadly she didn't. They both continue in this crazy charade!

    • @libertyviatruth1560
      @libertyviatruth1560 2 месяца назад +1

      ^^^ *This* brought me to the comments!!!!!

    • @_adrian_sean
      @_adrian_sean Месяц назад +2

      ​@@sawolaja65😮😮 staaahhhhppp. He CLEARLY don't want her!

    • @uniquemosdef
      @uniquemosdef Месяц назад

      @@sawolaja65no way! After all of this?!

  • @arogers-zh3nl
    @arogers-zh3nl 3 месяца назад +182

    I want to tell the bank that ten years ago I lied about wanting a house. I don't wanna pay the mortgage anymore...like they care..

    • @abigailzulu1500
      @abigailzulu1500 3 месяца назад +18

      Hahahahaha if you succeed, let me know,they need to come this Mercedes Benz car back.

    • @Amen0507
      @Amen0507 3 месяца назад +2

      😂🙈🙈🙈

    • @maboremotebejane1739
      @maboremotebejane1739 3 месяца назад +3

      😂🤣

    • @kamariaspeakslifestyle5771
      @kamariaspeakslifestyle5771 3 месяца назад +16

      Tell the US Dept of Education they can come get these loans, and Experian can have this credit score. Bring me my 25 year old score back!

    • @arogers-zh3nl
      @arogers-zh3nl 3 месяца назад +4

      @@kamariaspeakslifestyle5771 haha...well, that's how this husband sounds. I guess he can go and apologize to his kids and tell them I never meant to marry 20 years ago and I'm sorry I had you ...

  • @hungrycarrot5614
    @hungrycarrot5614 3 месяца назад +207

    i felt her rage when they had that conversation. men really do not take marriage or anything seriously. they will waste your life until you have nothing left & end it with “just friends” it was definitely more information that he was holding back.

    • @meghanmisaliar
      @meghanmisaliar 3 месяца назад +14

      Not all men

    • @hungrycarrot5614
      @hungrycarrot5614 3 месяца назад +10

      @@meghanmisaliar did i ask? oh okay. & plus did i say all men or do you have a hard time reading? i said “men” not “all men” lets be smart :)

    • @meghanmisaliar
      @meghanmisaliar 3 месяца назад +15

      @hungrycarrot5614 you dont have to ask. Welcome to social media!

    • @hungrycarrot5614
      @hungrycarrot5614 3 месяца назад +4

      @@meghanmisaliar and like i said, next time read before you talk & speak. you need to be welcomed into some comprehension skills, js. good day luv!

    • @MiSSPiNk747
      @MiSSPiNk747 3 месяца назад +7

      Say that louder... No need to defend the truth... It's not ALL.... It's MOST....📍📌‼️​@hungrycarrot5614

  • @user-gg2yx1wo4k
    @user-gg2yx1wo4k 3 месяца назад +153

    What a coward he is

    • @raelchebii
      @raelchebii 2 месяца назад +2

      He wants to remain Pastor and will lose his job if he comes out. Sad

  • @dollskull86
    @dollskull86 3 месяца назад +94

    Iyanla is like FREE therapy 😍🥰💚

    • @Love1010P
      @Love1010P 2 месяца назад +1

      It is for me 😂😂😂

    • @madenee2612
      @madenee2612 12 дней назад +2

      I promise this show on Yt has truly helped me evaluate myself.

  • @pearls.9277
    @pearls.9277 3 месяца назад +75

    HES LYING = My intuition. He's talking in circles.

    • @jazzlee8476
      @jazzlee8476 3 месяца назад +4

      My intuition is going off too. My spirit says this men has an agenda since day one. I don’t think he ever wanted to love this woman.

    • @katorriamorgan4578
      @katorriamorgan4578 2 месяца назад +1

      Yea there was no resolution in this case because he’s still lying.

  • @adhd875
    @adhd875 3 месяца назад +167

    Men were truly cooked from hell, 20 wasted yrs , she could have been happy elsewhere 😮 life ain't fair

    • @Imthatjackie0808
      @Imthatjackie0808 3 месяца назад +11

      20 years is a lot of time. Yes, I hear you!!!!!!
      I think Iyanla helped her to see that she played a big part in that 20 year Lie. Jennifer made excuses for 1+1 equalling 13.
      But, now Jennifer can take authentic control over her life. Tough lessons like this help us to gain DEEP wisdom and discernment. And Truth!

    • @mlw9195
      @mlw9195 2 месяца назад +3

      Ay yo 😂😂 that’s soo funny I’ve never heard that term before

    • @sawolaja65
      @sawolaja65 2 месяца назад +9

      She said yes! And chose to stay even when her own intuition was screaming at her to get out! She bears some responsibility for those twenty wasted years!

    • @CocoNoir2020
      @CocoNoir2020 Месяц назад +3

      No she couldn’t. Something in her is severely broken to stay as long as she did so unhappy. But I get what you’re saying

    • @angelique84057
      @angelique84057 Месяц назад +1

      Cooked from where ??😂😂😂

  • @user-je7qx6ft9i
    @user-je7qx6ft9i 3 месяца назад +141

    The boys love their mother, and the father will have to answer to them for mistreating her once they grow to understand what’s really occurred…

    • @carlawilliams5-26-27
      @carlawilliams5-26-27 2 месяца назад +5

      This comment is truth and the realest.... cause at the end of the day the two sons will have to stand up and grow into men and not mirror their father.. that's the challenge..

    • @partyppl7904
      @partyppl7904 2 месяца назад +1

      adults see this as both need to be held accountable...his energy gave he didn't want her and she chose to stay for 20 yrs just like he did....

  • @LilyRoberts561
    @LilyRoberts561 3 месяца назад +63

    He’s a manipulator through and through. Told Iyanla what she wanted to hear then manipulated his wife into the same exact situation. Living apart, he doesn’t wear a ring, she has hers, not divorced. Scary guy.

    • @kofi444
      @kofi444 26 дней назад

      I don’t even think the “corn” he watches is legal!! It could be gay “corn” and he’s a evil person

  • @TheMomentsShow
    @TheMomentsShow 3 месяца назад +151

    The truth is in his eyebrows.... cause they laid!

    • @ivademus9514
      @ivademus9514 3 месяца назад +14

      😂😂😂

    • @HappyDove-tb5nq
      @HappyDove-tb5nq 3 месяца назад +7

      Omg
      ..... I just this minute said the same thing..... are u a cancerian like me????

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад +5

      Chile lol

    • @daphney8604
      @daphney8604 3 месяца назад +2

      😂

    • @derekwilliams6188
      @derekwilliams6188 2 месяца назад +2

      Lol I see what ur tryna get at but his so are his son's eyebrows so I'm sure that's just how he looks. But you still right though. Lol

  • @tabithaowens8493
    @tabithaowens8493 3 месяца назад +116

    Very handsome sons. What a tragedy of the outcome.

    • @toschajeffries8833
      @toschajeffries8833 3 месяца назад +1

      I dnt think so both of the parents are free now

    • @takingitonedayatatime7851
      @takingitonedayatatime7851 3 месяца назад +14

      ​@@tinajackson6875alot of pastors are hypocrites. Living double lives but judging others.

    • @tanganyikarichardson5588
      @tanganyikarichardson5588 3 месяца назад

      ​@@takingitonedayatatime7851❤

    • @abbywalters4570
      @abbywalters4570 2 месяца назад

      The Sons Look Like Twins 🥰 .

    • @oolalatoyamanasa5130
      @oolalatoyamanasa5130 2 месяца назад +1

      I feel for the sons shame, especially the younger one 😢 He's just gutted! Hopefully, their dad's actions haven't destroyed their manhood and that they can continue to be good, upstanding men in the society they live in! As parents, we really do hurt our children yati, so sad 😞 😔

  • @Fitbody_bysarah
    @Fitbody_bysarah 3 месяца назад +125

    His weight of what he’s holding in speaks volumes

    • @leratoolifant1988
      @leratoolifant1988 3 месяца назад +11

      I thought so too.Its sad.
      I actually feel sad on both of them.

    • @heyitsmyTeeTa
      @heyitsmyTeeTa 2 месяца назад +3

      My thoughts exactly after I saw that picture of them from back in the day.

    • @justinlucas2058
      @justinlucas2058 Месяц назад

      Forgive me, but I just let out a heinous laugh.

  • @Rosalind111
    @Rosalind111 3 месяца назад +56

    That big queen, he is trying to blame her!

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад

      Lol he outside bottoming and voguing and wants a wife waiting for him when he gets home

    • @bb1425
      @bb1425 2 месяца назад +3

      😂😂😂 not big queen

    • @kentthomason6285
      @kentthomason6285 Месяц назад

      Lol

  • @dawnlee866
    @dawnlee866 3 месяца назад +100

    I feel so sorry for her. Living a lie for 20 years😖😢🙏🏾

    • @georgiatenantadvocategroup2822
      @georgiatenantadvocategroup2822 3 месяца назад +4

      What a total waste of 20 years.

    • @fitnessfocused
      @fitnessfocused 3 месяца назад +7

      She has her children snd she loves them. For her, that’s probably not a waste.

    • @mlm1916
      @mlm1916 3 месяца назад +4

      But the tragedy continues. 🤷🏽

    • @queenadventures4258
      @queenadventures4258 3 месяца назад +4

      She is still living a lie. My heart breaks for her. He has already told her that he does not want her as a wife, yet she does not have the strength to love her herself enough.

    • @dawnlee866
      @dawnlee866 3 месяца назад

      @@queenadventures4258 what do u mean? Are they still living together as a married couple? I know the husband said he wanted to be friends.

  • @queenedmab9184
    @queenedmab9184 3 месяца назад +21

    When a man takes off his wedding ring, that means that the marriage is officially over. Don't hold on to a sinking ship. She was in denial the whole time,scared of the unknown. I hope she recovers for those 20yrs of lies.

  • @Knizzle28
    @Knizzle28 3 месяца назад +88

    Iyanla let him off the hook
    Big time.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад +19

      He didn’t want to talk about his sexuality on national tv and that’s okay

    • @JayE425
      @JayE425 2 месяца назад +10

      Not the purpose of her job to make him disclose his sexuality to the world if that's it.

    • @Knizzle28
      @Knizzle28 2 месяца назад

      @@JayE425 so explain why she tried to do it?

    • @JayE425
      @JayE425 2 месяца назад +2

      @Knizzle28 I think it can be assumed she was, and none of us would ever know. However, she was holding him accountable for owning why she was there and stating the problem.

    • @Knizzle28
      @Knizzle28 2 месяца назад +3

      @@JayE425 which is her purpose and she let him off the hook lol. Compared to how hard she went on people the last couple seasons of her show.

  • @SparklyDogs2
    @SparklyDogs2 3 месяца назад +85

    David wants Jennifer to continue to be his beard. Jennifer wants to cling to her fairy tale belief that she is still in a marriage. Sorry Iyanla, nothing changed with the two of them.

    • @WilliamOgletree
      @WilliamOgletree 3 месяца назад +4

      😂😂

    • @shawshank6015
      @shawshank6015 2 месяца назад +4

      You right. I reckon once he tells her his actually 🌈 that's when her brain will click.

    • @aidenosvonderbilt2625
      @aidenosvonderbilt2625 2 месяца назад +8

      They are Enables for each other

  • @DwaneDe
    @DwaneDe 3 месяца назад +108

    Don't be shy. Keep uploading more episodes.

  • @Isis.Energy
    @Isis.Energy 3 месяца назад +45

    We really need guest updates with all these reuploads smh 🤦🏿‍♀️

  • @toschajeffries8833
    @toschajeffries8833 3 месяца назад +92

    I like what iylana stated sometimes 2 ppl are brought together to make beautiful sons. That's so true God dnt make no mistakes.

    • @brittany.381
      @brittany.381 3 месяца назад +11

      That doesn't make sense to me at allll

    • @tanganyikarichardson5588
      @tanganyikarichardson5588 3 месяца назад +1

      ​@@brittany.381agree

    • @ursulajoseph9014
      @ursulajoseph9014 2 месяца назад +6

      The oldest one jaw actual flex when he lookec at his father talk and seeing his mother crying. The youngest one is going to need help later on. Jennifer should take time to enjoy her life and cut contact with him.

  • @butterflyroho6470
    @butterflyroho6470 3 месяца назад +17

    I had forgotten how riveting these true life stories were. I think the demise of this show came when they started to bring on more reality tv “stars”. I think many were there for another “moment” and the paycheck.

  • @marieechante4412
    @marieechante4412 3 месяца назад +48

    This is the type of love that took Wendy Williams out. But they both have to be accountable. She knew that man didn’t want her.

    • @vb593
      @vb593 3 месяца назад +6

      Whew that's a word. This is the kind of love that actually hates you

    • @MJ-vt4nb
      @MJ-vt4nb 2 месяца назад +3

      Once she realized it and accepted it, that's the moment when she gave him the rings back.I understand. Once I get it through my head that a man doesn't want me, that's it. But 20 years later, whew. I'm sure that was very difficult.

  • @user-wn2ry1pt9e
    @user-wn2ry1pt9e 3 месяца назад +49

    Fear paralyzes people. Fear begets anger, begets guilt,begets fear, begets anger, begets guilt, over and over again. Geez! 20 years of this because of a joke?

  • @angelam1817
    @angelam1817 3 месяца назад +64

    She still trying to hold on to him and her marriage.🤔 Should have been divorced him and find her happiness .

  • @danadane5497
    @danadane5497 3 месяца назад +39

    If he moved out we’re done ✔️ sleep with and be with whom ever. I would never beg a man for nothing.

  • @user-ep9vr5ol2g
    @user-ep9vr5ol2g 3 месяца назад +31

    He Was Playing Crazy! Iyanla Knew The Truth When She Said " You Don't Have To Lose Your Dignity, You Just Have To Tell The Truth! The Truth Will Set You Free"!

    • @SIMPSJF
      @SIMPSJF Месяц назад +2

      Some rainbow 🌈 is in her too

  • @nursedavis5653
    @nursedavis5653 3 месяца назад +57

    He looks like exactly what everyone thinks. So someone did that to his brother, and his brother did it to him. Sad

  • @QueensFirst
    @QueensFirst 3 месяца назад +22

    Honey EVERYONE knows when to let go. They just don’t.

  • @t-babyyupressed2906
    @t-babyyupressed2906 3 месяца назад +58

    Their Sons Are Really Handsome Young Men So The Union Of Their Marriage Wasn’t All For Nothing

    • @Driven_by_l.o.v.e
      @Driven_by_l.o.v.e 3 месяца назад +9

      But imagine how broken they must be, so a young lady is going to see the outer beauty and be totally unaware of what’s on the inside. Not saying they are terrible people, but people who grow up in broken homes tend to have toxic unhealthy relationships. Because hurt people, hurt people! I know! I grew up in a toxic environment.

    • @toschajeffries8833
      @toschajeffries8833 3 месяца назад +1

      Right

  • @dion6340
    @dion6340 3 месяца назад +78

    IS IT ME? OR IS HE SLEEPING WITH MEN?

    • @jermainethomas1570
      @jermainethomas1570 3 месяца назад +6

      Of course

    • @vb593
      @vb593 3 месяца назад +3

      Most definitely!!!

    • @thewrongshoes
      @thewrongshoes 3 месяца назад +6

      It's definitely implied though I don't think he ever admitted it

    • @ElizaBeet3129
      @ElizaBeet3129 3 месяца назад

      When he said "I slept with another PERSON" I knew he was gay. No man talks like that, they would say there's another "woman"

    • @madenee2612
      @madenee2612 12 дней назад

      He's sleeping with men.

  • @travelgodess
    @travelgodess 3 месяца назад +57

    I miss Iyanla and her show soooo much. I would loveee to have her back on TV ❤

  • @ashleymatthews259
    @ashleymatthews259 3 месяца назад +21

    They should remain close friends/coparents but they need to divorce. She deserves to find someone who will love her and be as devoted to her as she was to him for 20 years!

  • @DANCINGequalsMYLIFE
    @DANCINGequalsMYLIFE 3 месяца назад +23

    “With another person” = with a man

  • @lovinjahqueen
    @lovinjahqueen 3 месяца назад +43

    Seem like the husband and wife both done dipped and dabbled in the rainbow 🌈

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад

      The wife gives butch they both might be into their respective genders

    • @sdavis2436
      @sdavis2436 2 месяца назад +9

      facts ! the wife seems …a tiny bit masculine in my opinion

    • @cozycorner913
      @cozycorner913 2 месяца назад +2

      yes

  • @shoequeenn01
    @shoequeenn01 3 месяца назад +14

    AHH this was sad She felt she was abandoned as a child, then he basically lied to her and abandoned her all over again. Just wow😢

    • @BrookeKnits
      @BrookeKnits 3 месяца назад +2

      I hope she was able to come back from this bc being lied to for 20 years about the same thing as your core wound is a doozy.

  • @EssenceofCoils
    @EssenceofCoils 3 месяца назад +33

    Ummm... I'm 10 minutes in and wondering why they are having these conversations in front of their children 😒?

  • @user-qe6xt4yg2f
    @user-qe6xt4yg2f 3 месяца назад +50

    I am watching this and he keeps saying that other person? Something tells me by his reference that it ma be a man.

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад

      It’s men that’s why he’s not stating the gender that’s the elephant in the room

  • @sharonmorgan171
    @sharonmorgan171 3 месяца назад +46

    These pastor let me stop attending church , the last time was 2018 , you don't have to enter a building to be a Christian i read my bible and pray at home.

    • @vb593
      @vb593 3 месяца назад +2

      This right here!!! They wonder why people aren't going to church like they used to, we see past the bs our elders couldn't

    • @dahliaherrod4301
      @dahliaherrod4301 2 месяца назад +3

      And you are the very person we need present in fellowship -a truth teller. We are Jesus' body His Church. When you're not present, we can't do everything we're called to do. I pray you will bring your gifts forward and allow us to encourage and strengthen you which is Jesus' commandments to us.

    • @ginadonald9506
      @ginadonald9506 2 месяца назад +2

      You must be guided by God to find a true pastor of God.

    • @user-ox1cx8sh2c
      @user-ox1cx8sh2c Месяц назад +2

      Word❤

  • @seniorpz1969
    @seniorpz1969 3 месяца назад +18

    "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness". James 5:16

    • @janice648
      @janice648 Месяц назад +2

      Yes IF we confess our sins

    • @user-ix3yy9dd2p
      @user-ix3yy9dd2p 17 дней назад +1

      The correct scripture is actually in 1 John

  • @itsme3k
    @itsme3k 3 месяца назад +43

    If he's gay just say that. My goodness.

    • @nqobilezondi4314
      @nqobilezondi4314 2 месяца назад +6

      Exactly like Gawd Damn it!! Just say it and go get yourself some bussy

    • @kimishamadison4005
      @kimishamadison4005 2 месяца назад +5

      I don’t know you but I felt that “my goodness.” 😂😂

    • @momisahoe1849
      @momisahoe1849 Месяц назад +1

      @@nqobilezondi4314screamingggg🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @haylleywest1487
    @haylleywest1487 3 месяца назад +26

    Trama bonds has to be one of the worst things a person could go threw especially when you realize you’ve helped in doing so but your to hurt and scared to even address it 😢 give her guidance

  • @Mimi-eb3sq
    @Mimi-eb3sq 3 месяца назад +17

    Pastor on DL and don’t wanna face the truth.

  • @tmanchu
    @tmanchu 3 месяца назад +22

    Iyanla Vanzant the world needs you! Prophetess! Healer! The world needs you!

  • @royaltii_
    @royaltii_ 3 месяца назад +28

    Even though he could not confess his truth to his wife, I commend him for not perpetuating abuse on to his sons as some stories horribly turn out. I pray they all continue to get the healing they need to thrive and love self and one another.

  • @marciasmith4812
    @marciasmith4812 3 месяца назад +54

    Lawdddddd these SO CALLED " PASTORS" 😮😮🙄🙄😬😬😬 Smh .

  • @shannonmcdaniel3507
    @shannonmcdaniel3507 2 месяца назад +6

    Pastor is PRIDEFUL 🌈🌈

  • @voguefemme05
    @voguefemme05 Месяц назад +3

    When they talked face to face and he told her he didnt want to be married, if you ever been in a situation where you felt RAGE you will understand her whole aura. Her silence is so loud with rage.

  • @Zahrainnit
    @Zahrainnit 18 дней назад +2

    I respect that iyanla wanted to encourage him to be honest rather than “out” him I love that she seeks to see people whole, prepared and with their dignity in tact makes for something truly transformational. I miss her but she has earned her beach lilo and cocktails for life!

  • @queenavery7400
    @queenavery7400 2 месяца назад +4

    He says it all by refusing to say it all
    If he was only cheating with women he could’ve and would’ve just said it. It’s either men or children period

  • @4reel332
    @4reel332 3 месяца назад +33

    Iyanla is such a beautiful soul.
    I can't imagine running head long into the worst storms of life and quieting them with great love and care.

  • @user-pq2nv7lt8n
    @user-pq2nv7lt8n 3 месяца назад +20

    The younger brother made me cry so hard. This is so heartbreaking

  • @sheenasimmons84
    @sheenasimmons84 3 месяца назад +17

    I love her name, beautiful just like her love. You can tell she really wants to help people heal.

  • @naenae5279
    @naenae5279 3 месяца назад +43

    I feel this was too short, they needed more help

    • @maryb.5668
      @maryb.5668 3 месяца назад +6

      Definitely

    • @gorgeouswales9635
      @gorgeouswales9635 3 месяца назад +3

      That’s why this is an old clip it would be nice how they are today in 2024

  • @deewood5127
    @deewood5127 3 месяца назад +9

    Jennifer is so beautiful , loving and kind I hope she realized it and loved herself the way she deserved to be love.

  • @FreedomofSpeech865
    @FreedomofSpeech865 2 месяца назад +5

    What a slap in the face, Who ask someone to get married as a joke?

  • @theadventuresoffatbarbie3021
    @theadventuresoffatbarbie3021 2 месяца назад +5

    I hope she did not be-friend him, this level of manipulation and lies is unconscionable, even though she knew deep down, the fact he wants her to be his friend after he played her for over 20 years… The kids are grown, the door would be closed 💯

  • @melissad7332
    @melissad7332 Месяц назад +5

    Iyanla: secrets and lies
    Me: 🌈 🌈 🌈 🌈

  • @kjayelindsay9931
    @kjayelindsay9931 2 месяца назад +8

    5 mins in, seems like the wife knows he’s DL

  • @jackychela4638
    @jackychela4638 3 месяца назад +58

    Keep them coming 🙏🙏 thankyou OWN network watching from Kenya 🇰🇪 and learning a lot.. much appreciated

  • @JenniferBX-NY
    @JenniferBX-NY 2 месяца назад +5

    Poor lady; her childhood trauma is what makes her want to stay with a man who clearly doesn't like/want her. He's only coming home for “weekly dinners”! For some damn food!!!!! I pray this beautiful lady heals.

  • @DetroitPratt
    @DetroitPratt 3 месяца назад +10

    I know a couple in this exact process right now today. Raising a family that he doesn't want, working his way up through the church.

  • @luvthslf79
    @luvthslf79 2 месяца назад +3

    Every time I watch episodes like this one,no one ever mentions diseases, and it being unsafe.

  • @keneilwetsieane
    @keneilwetsieane 3 месяца назад +9

    Our thinking can be hazardous to our healing 🤔✍🧎

  • @cynthialewis3785
    @cynthialewis3785 2 месяца назад +7

    The saddest thing to me is that he's a false shepherd... he's lying to himself about so many things! He should have just gone to work in a store or an office instead of standing behind a pulpit lying to the congregation. His poor wife.... and children.... 😞

  • @soblessed4844
    @soblessed4844 3 месяца назад +12

    DL DL DL…why would she still want him?! He is not a prize!!!He is a cautionary tail of what can happen when you don’t do your research and don’t follow your gut instinct!

  • @cdgameface
    @cdgameface 2 месяца назад +6

    A selfish man is a dangerous man

  • @ravensnailrehab6920
    @ravensnailrehab6920 2 месяца назад +4

    They intentionally say “people” when talking about him cheating. Ms. Iyanla said y'all not gonna have me up here lying 😂😭

  • @TheRealCcE
    @TheRealCcE 3 месяца назад +16

    Run away from the Narc

  • @SelfishPinoy12
    @SelfishPinoy12 3 месяца назад +45

    I think he doesnt want to admit there was illegality with what hes holding. He keeps saying his life is gonna he over, and i dont think it was sexuality, i think it was an underage situation

    • @johnrondeau9222
      @johnrondeau9222 3 месяца назад +27

      No it was a gay 😮 situation

    • @toschajeffries8833
      @toschajeffries8833 3 месяца назад +12

      I believe he's speaking on his leadership as a Pastor

    • @bippityboppityboo2u
      @bippityboppityboo2u 3 месяца назад +8

      Underage boys, I was saying I hope that's not it in my mind smh😢

    • @lakeofalltrades1453
      @lakeofalltrades1453 3 месяца назад +8

      Yeah it is giving more to the story

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 3 месяца назад +12

      He keeps saying he cheated with a person most men say women he’s leaving it vague because it’s a man he’s not ready to come out the closet

  • @b.schannell747
    @b.schannell747 3 месяца назад +12

    "I Need for you to forgive me" is crazy

    • @smustipher
      @smustipher 3 месяца назад +2

      Exactly. How about "I did you wrong, and I hope you can forgive, not for me, but for yourself" .EDIT: "I was joking when I asked you to marry me". WOW.

    • @katorriamorgan4578
      @katorriamorgan4578 2 месяца назад

      No fr he never admitted to anything she didn’t already know. And she knew he was sweet well before they wrote iyalna

  • @rebeccamock6308
    @rebeccamock6308 2 месяца назад +8

    This man is a liar. He wanted iyanla to help him end his marriage for good and make him look like a victim infront of his sons.

  • @specialkay4329
    @specialkay4329 2 месяца назад +4

    The very second he moved out. Locks change. I change. He woulda needed two jobs to pay my mortage, and his child support.

  • @theajayieffect
    @theajayieffect 3 месяца назад +25

    I wonder where they are now, ten years later.