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Your daughter’s behaviour is totally unacceptable Gero . She’s living under your roof and behaving like some female gangster wannabe. You’re a good man.
Focus on your own situation right now. Don't try to help other people if you are not okay at home. I recognize the situation with your daughter. Been there too. It's difficult. But stay in her life, show love, and be patient. My daughter is amazing now. Married and a loving mother of two girls. She will have her own share when they get 16 😅
Sorry to hear about your frightening experience. Your mind can influence your body in a powerful way. If you think of your experience with your Daughter, it was a highly charged argument, which left you feeling frustrated, tensed, and not knowing what to do, this can push up your blood pressure, and cause a change in your breathing pattern, hyperventilation, which leads to many strange symptoms. There’s a great book by a Doctor called Dr Claire weeks “ self help for your nerves” which explains the panic attack in detail, it’s very good. Hope your feeling better
Classic panic/anxiety. Everything you describe Gerald, I have experienced in the same way. We repress so much and then something triggers a release. I've had the shaking, teeth chattering as well. The friendship you have with this lady sounds very healthy and a mutual support.
It’s very difficult when the mother puts that on the daughter. The mother sounds like a right one and narcissists end up being alone. I would stand your ground. Helping a friend who has cancer. Your daughter is being VERY selfish and you need to bring your Italian side out more and take no crap.
You are too nice to even think that your daughter and wife took your phone. We don't have any problem with the video quality, it's just nice to hear you talk.
Earlier this year, I had very bad heart palpitations and chest pain, it was intermittent but was so bad I had to go to the A&E in my local hospital…. After a number of blood tests was inconclusive but the doctor suggested if it was heart burn from gastric problems….. He prescribed proton pumps inhibitors and after a week or so I was ok 👌🏻 But please consult a cardiologist asap, take care Gerald Fellow random middle age guy here
Gerald GOD THE UNIVERSE lives inside you. Cause and effect Take time to meditate you must do this or seek a group near you for your own sanity. 🙏❤️🏴
Someone who has a nice personality, looks don’t come into play, if you are comfortable with them, love can happen organically…50s nowadays is not very old ..
Living like this is going to run you’re Physical Health down as well as Emotionally and Mentally I honestly don’t know what you can do apart from try to take better care of you’re self a bit of TLC good old fashion diet it can become another stress worrying over what you eat get plenty of sleep go for a walk I know it’s hard and I guess you get worn down with it all day after day Health comes first sensibly let the rest roll!! 💗
I don't have children, but at a certain age, they claim their independence, for better and worse. However, the wisdom factor may not be in the cards, until later. Advising your daughter that unplanned pregnancy is a rather easy thing to occur, and that will forever change her life. Freedom that is possible otherwise is gone, because the commitment to a newborn is more than full time. Kind advisory words might be the best. In twenty years, your daughter will say 'you told me so'. They will remember, especially if told calmly. Hang in there! I can imagine its stressful. Its great you can help your friend and that it brings you peace, which is a testament to your character.
NB: When I advised that you apologised to your daughter last week, I thought the daughter was your young teenager - I didn’t know you had an older daughter. An apology there is less advisable. One comment was to talk to your daughter when everything is calm. That seems a good idea. I too had the silent treatment from my daughter when she was about 17. It hurt terribly. Only got over it because my wife helped out. I never talked to my daughter about it. Even now 8 years on I haven’t mentioned it - but I’ve never forgotten it. It was cruel. I could only hope she didn’t know the impact she was making. Such a relief when the daughter started talking to me again. I had an idea we’d be detached forever - and, because I’ve never forgotten what happened, in a way we are. When I first had two daughters I remember thinking how good it was that, in my being a “no one” situation, I would at least (because of the way I treated them) have two people who respected and liked me. Haha. Now they’ve grown up I can see that that thinking was incorrect. Good idea then, just to be ourselves. The offspring will be themselves, so it’s our right to be ourselves. I’m careful not to do or say anything that hurts my daughters but I am who I am. I was also aware of how the wife can create a false narrative. At the time I had a friend. (He’s now dead). My daughters called him “he who shalt not be named” (from the harry potter films). My friend was demonised by the wife. That friend of mine was the most intelligent thinker I’ve known. He was a brilliant mind. He knew exactly what was going on. My children weren’t to blame for the misrepresentation that they accepted, but it didn’t escape my notice that they had been mislead. Sorry for the way you are suffering because of the treatment you’re getting.
Thanks David, If my wife doesn't help its almost impossible, Im in the living room and they are in the kitchen laughing and having a good time, and I'm left out, I choose to be left out some would say, yh I choose not to be a situation that might turn into an argument, she has a tongue of a serpent and talks at 200 miles per hr, I think her mum sees her as her 'friend' or ally, like friends who will soon leave primary school and some will be going to the same secondary school and they get closest to the ones that will be with them in the new school. Or maybe it just seems like this to me.
@ I feel for you. Last month I drove to Wales to see the two daughters. When I got there I rested and slept on the sofa while the wife and two daughters chatted and laughed. I had some terrible negative thoughts. I heard some “slights”. When I woke up I felt a lot better. The family were still laughing and talking. There were reasons for the negative thoughts but essentially what was being said wasn’t as bad as I thought. I was glad that negative time passed and I could be positive with the family. What I’m saying is that there is no doubt you have reason to feel they are against you but at the same time, it might not be as bad as types like us imagine. Maybe make an entrance into the kitchen to do a task when they aren’t on a roll with the laughter and chat and make some nice comments to them so that they don’t think you are upset. Maybe make a special effort with your son. I don’t like giving advice. Who am I to talk? What we need is people who we know are kind and who look after our best interests. So good then you have that lady who is kind to you and you to her.
I see that you go through too much pain and the people who suppose to make you stronger deliver tonnes of suffering. Not acceptable how your own daughter expresses herself , how she reacts; she doesn't deserve your good heart. It is a blessing for you that you are starting new life - you are talented person with good ideas. You need respect and your daughter need to change, tell her that... Greetings Monika
You will feel so much better when all this mess settles down will light a candle you probably experienced a panic attack you should try and meditate and spend time in nature wishing you better days ahead 🥰🕊️☘️
Comment was deleted. My comment was not bad. In essence, you need to protect your younger children and separate them the abusive older daughter. Protect your young children.
Panic attacks???povero Gero.....your nerves are shot!!!!!I'm listening to your experience,seems your toxic conflicts do you no good.Go where you are at peace and feel happy❤
So when we don't drink enough water, our blood gets thicker...and it puts a strain on the system, the heart (the engine i call it) has to work harder. With the ear, if it was me, i think i'd put some tea tree oil into some water and then use a ear water irrigation kit...tea tree oil is incredible stuff and i managed to avoid going to the dentist by using hydrogen peroxide swishing, flossing, tea tea oil swishing when i had really bad gum ache and tooth ache. I only know about tea tree oil because of my wife and her family, but i swear if i'd know about this stuff in the past, i probably could have saved having to get a tooth pulled. But yeah, stress...stress is real bad, I've been told it can kill us.
Honestly mate. You wanting to hang around after your divorce will most likely on cause you more grief. When everything is settled with the sale and such, I would take off far away and start a new life. I know you love you kids but is it worth the constant heartache? When your daughter grows older and matures, she will seek YOU out if she loves you.
My Mum told me the same thing when this happened with my estranged daughter in London, she said if she is good she will come back to you, I have views that are unacceptable to those brainwashed by wokery, I also am not cool, no money, health not good and have mental health problems and taking meds longterm, all these factors I think young women are brainwashed into thinking is really uncool or evil, especially the anti woke way of thinking, boys on the other hand seem harder to brainwash, my son actually wants to be with me and do things together, he is the only one who says good morning Daddy and good night Daddy, even tho the rest see me as a 'problem'. If I didn't have kids I would live in a small house with plenty of land for the dogs and for me to walk and live off the land and practise my weird alchemy experiments, meditate etc. I suppose I could do that and have my son and daughter round for the summer holidays or when its half term, if I live far away, Ive looked for houses in rural areas with some land and they are expensive around here, in Scotland they are cheaper I think, maybe Devon is nicer, you get more sun down south, or maybe go to another country altogether I don't know.
Gerald your daughter is a teenager and hopefully is going through a stage. My daughter just turned 13, and I can't believe the change in her behavior or attitude. Very similar to your daughter so I completely relate. It is like I lost my little girl. What happened to you was a reaction to the stress and trauma of fighting with your daughter. You need to avoid these altercations at all costs even if you have to avoid your daughter for now.
I agree, with stress levels high and having a not much a humble attitude and not being able to forgive has done me in, I going to change and try to dismantle those buttons of mine.
The Music nowadays is really bad , Grime and Drill rap music is the worst crap ever ! I was born in the 80a and remember the good music from the 90s Nirvana , RHCP , Alice in Chains , Queen Freddie Mercury etc but nowadays we have imported that US Detroit Ghetto scene Eminem started it off and its just got worse since the late 90s and nowadays young men and women have no respect at all , the Gang culture is really bad. I do hope your life will get better mate stress is no good as it releases Cortisol which can make people ill.
Gero .... the divisive daughter needs to leave.... no child no matter how old should be so disrespectful , she doesn't have a right to rule YOUR roost.... you are the king of your own castle , she behaves or she gets out .... we all love our kids but we don't have to like them , the blood test shows if your blood has l think enzymes that form if you're having or going to have a heart attack , l was in the acute medical centre for 4 hours , l had a scan a month later and l have Heart block stage 1 when it gets to 4 l have to have a pacemaker fitted , the hospital gave me a heart monitor to wear for a week ... it shows any abnormalities, lm on blood pressure tabs and statins now😢, hope life gets much better for you soon sending a hug xx ( it's sue from Devon by the way) hope doggos are all good too 😊 xx
Your fear of the unknown is causing you to stay attached to your family. And most likely you won't cope alone so you'll probably attach yourself to this new woman in future, thinking a relationship is the way to fix things. The Universe is saying WAKE UP. Pay Attention and stop making excuses.
If you have a panic attack it can feel like heart attack. It has been building up for months. Unfortunetaly I had experience like that. Was in a very stressfull period in my life. Dont know what my bloodpreasure was. Doctor didnt want to come. I went to and slept very long. Dont know about Chinese culture if the man makes the rules in the house and discussing what should be the rules is kind of abdicating your responsibility and authority. Just a hunch how things work in patriarchies.
@ira4600 She does. I'm talking about my eldest that live with me and are from my Chinese wife. I have kids in total 3 with my wife, 1 who lives in London
@@gerofiore9695 I apologise it’s that you’ve only mentioned your youngest daughter who you are close with and your son and your oldest daughter in London
Your physical problems are a manifestation of all the emotional and psychological turmoil you are currently experiencing with the upcoming divorce and sale of the house then to top it off the argument with your eldest daughter as well as the continuing arguments and negativity between your wife and yourself. It’s sounds very exhausting! Your oldest daughter is acting out, because I think deep down she is hurt and disappointed. If I were you I wouldn’t explain your friendship with a lady they don’t know to your children. They have enough on their plate and are too young to understand and don’t need to know anyway. That’s your adult business! I think it would be extremely hard for your teenage daughter to show empathy or sympathy to another unknown woman in the middle of her parents divorce especially since she would feel loyalty to her mother plus you are still all living together under the same roof, they may see the fact that you are driving off every weekend and spending the night at a females house confusing and disrespectful to their mother as your still technically married. I understand that it’s platonic and the lady has health issues etc but I don’t think the children would be able to really process that. They can easily see this as a sort of betrayal to their mother and hence the angry outburst not to mention the frustration of not having the use of the car. The word evil is a very strong and ugly word. Your teenage daughter may be disrespectful and rude but she is also involved in all of these changes and uncertainty that is about to happen and also absorbing all this negative energy. She is not an emotionally mature adult yet. Please be careful with your words. Words are very powerful. I hope everything will settle down later on when everything is finalised. I also think if you find a good counsellor for yourself if possible that could be helpful as well as your eldest daughter may benefit from counselling as well. Maybe not feasible now but even when things settle down. Hopefully you can repair your relationship with your daughter one day.
The less you say to your daughter, the better, when she is being nasty to you. Gerald, be a classy guy. Say nothing instead of reacting. Just kindly walk away, go take a walk. Get yourself away from the venom. The less you react, the better it will be. Stay stoic and poised and neutral. She will tire of flinging mud at you if you refuse to react to her nastiness.
stop trying to make a reason for it with your drugs...its stress due to divorce/losing the house/seeing your kids less/your elder daughter being horrible....these things would make anyone stressed no matter what state their mental health is in. Get out of the situation asap or you will end up having a heart attack and game over.
Nothing just happens, of his in this situation it's because his ment to be here and in a few years he will see why . All we see is just a piece of the puzzle but our higher selves see the full puzzle. Here for the human experience and this is his road
Go to your GP Ger the fluttering are palpitations I experienced the same thing few years ago due to stress try to relax and meditate mind yourself really enjoy your chat nite nite ✨
Your problem may have been due to dehydration. I've been there and the symptoms sound familiar. It's nasty and quite serious. Your messy situation is hard to hear and would have contributed to your health issues. Learn to retreat in silence,not aggressive silence, but the silence of surrender. Surrender the situation to God and WORK on plans to resolve it. How's the packing proceeding !! Just a thought, why did you not call the police for the half-naked,strange young man in your house!! Is there community policing (policing with a softer touch ) in your country? They might be able to intervene in what is becoming an unsettling situation. The young man probably cannot take your daughter to sleep over at his family home ,so he has gone to the home where her mother has put on the red light!
Gerald I have severe panic attacks and like you my blood pressure goes sky high, I take trazadone at night but if im having anxiety attack I have 50mg of trazadone and it takes my blood pressure down quite quickly
That sounds like a scary experience. It sounds like a panic. My panic attacks are like that. I can remember my heart rate being 180 beats when i was having a massive panic attack. I thought that is it i am dying and i will have a cardic arrest but that is just anxiety talking because the body can cope with it. It was just scary but not serious at least in my case.
I was 50 during my divorce and met my present wife in Istanbul She was 26 and spoke perfect English and was sweet as could be Meeting her saved my life I believe Things in NY were terrible for me and it was an escape My exs lawyer stated that I had decamped My lawyer said forget about it irrelevant My advice Get on the next flight to Thailand and forget about all this nonsense
May i ask why didnt u call an ambulance, and say suspected heart attack, if u had an accident with the lady who couldn't see well, u would be in a worse situation.. im glad u feel better though..
Hi Gerald!! I honestly feel Bad for you. Your Daughter is very Disrespectful &Woke!!!Your right,one day she's gonna Annoy the wrong person!! Stay your awesome self. I don't agree with your Daughter swearing at the Dogs. She is very Narcissistic!!My animals are #1 in my world. No swearing 🤬!! Your younger children shouldn't be hearing her Outbursts!!! Take care, 😺😸🇨🇦
If I recall your wife said something along the same lines as your daughter in another video when you told her you needed the car? Sad to hear the females in your life have such a lack of respect for you. I hope they can rearrange their ways in due time.
Im shocked but not surprised. Your daughter is doing what teenagers do and thats copy. The B word has been said ti mysellf as if it's normal. The mother probably does not understand the culture neither. She will grow out if it I think. Hooe your feeling better try not to overthunk her behavior. You used some strong words we all do in those moments all the best.
You're in severe stress because you're NOT MEANT TO BE with your family, but you keep denying the source. Been there done that. Stop all this deflection.
Your daughter is heavily influenced by her mum and peer group . Try not to hold her fully responsible for her behaviour show compassion and patience she’s still a kid who will evolve into better adult . I’ve been there and both my kids have grown into loving humans
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Robin Williams said being alone isn't the worst thing in the world, being with people who make you feel alone is.
Your daughter’s behaviour is totally unacceptable Gero . She’s living under your roof and behaving like some female gangster wannabe.
You’re a good man.
Yep, thanks my friend you got it in one
Focus on your own situation right now. Don't try to help other people if you are not okay at home. I recognize the situation with your daughter. Been there too. It's difficult. But stay in her life, show love, and be patient. My daughter is amazing now. Married and a loving mother of two girls. She will have her own share when they get 16 😅
Nice to see you Gerald talking trully about recent heart breaking stuff
I'm so sorry for you Gerald..... the best thing is to talk to your daughter when she is in a good mood to make her understand that she is hurting you
Sorry to hear about your frightening experience. Your mind can influence your body in a powerful way.
If you think of your experience with your Daughter, it was a highly charged argument, which left you feeling frustrated, tensed, and not knowing what to do, this can push up your blood pressure, and cause a change in your breathing pattern, hyperventilation, which leads to many strange symptoms.
There’s a great book by a Doctor called Dr Claire weeks “ self help for your nerves” which explains the panic attack in detail, it’s very good.
Hope your feeling better
Your lady friend with cancer who took you to the hospital and waited for over ten hours, is a true angel.
How is she ?
She is a true friend to you.
Thank you for asking, the tumour is shrinking :)
Classic panic/anxiety. Everything you describe Gerald, I have experienced in the same way. We repress so much and then something triggers a release. I've had the shaking, teeth chattering as well. The friendship you have with this lady sounds very healthy and a mutual support.
sorry to hear about all that. You need a fresh start
It’s very difficult when the mother puts that on the daughter. The mother sounds like a right one and narcissists end up being alone. I would stand your ground. Helping a friend who has cancer. Your daughter is being VERY selfish and you need to bring your Italian side out more and take no crap.
Sounds like a panic attack
You are too nice to even think that your daughter and wife took your phone. We don't have any problem with the video quality, it's just nice to hear you talk.
Earlier this year, I had very bad heart palpitations and chest pain, it was intermittent but was so bad I had to go to the A&E in my local hospital…. After a number of blood tests was inconclusive but the doctor suggested if it was heart burn from gastric problems…..
He prescribed proton pumps inhibitors and after a week or so I was ok 👌🏻
But please consult a cardiologist asap, take care Gerald
Fellow random middle age guy here
Gerald GOD THE UNIVERSE lives inside you. Cause and effect Take time to meditate you must do this or seek a group near you for your own sanity. 🙏❤️🏴
Giving another person time ,their time is special,it's the best thing this day and age one can do ❤
Someone who has a nice personality, looks don’t come into play, if you are comfortable with them, love can happen organically…50s nowadays is not very old ..
Interesting point, I don't feel properly comfortable with my friend for some reason I can't pinpoint it other than she's quite a cold person
Living like this is going to run you’re Physical Health down as well as Emotionally and Mentally I honestly don’t know what you can do apart from try to take better care of you’re self a bit of TLC good old fashion diet it can become another stress worrying over what you eat get plenty of sleep go for a walk I know it’s hard and I guess you get worn down with it all day after day Health comes first sensibly let the rest roll!! 💗
I don't have children, but at a certain age, they claim their independence, for better and worse. However, the wisdom factor may not
be in the cards, until later. Advising your daughter that unplanned pregnancy is a rather easy thing to occur, and that will forever change her life. Freedom that is possible otherwise is gone, because the commitment to a newborn is more than full time. Kind advisory words might be the best. In twenty years, your daughter will say 'you told me so'. They will remember, especially if told calmly. Hang in there! I can imagine its stressful. Its great you can help your friend and that it brings you peace, which is a testament to your character.
NB: When I advised that you apologised to your daughter last week, I thought the daughter was your young teenager - I didn’t know you had an older daughter. An apology there is less advisable. One comment was to talk to your daughter when everything is calm. That seems a good idea.
I too had the silent treatment from my daughter when she was about 17. It hurt terribly. Only got over it because my wife helped out. I never talked to my daughter about it. Even now 8 years on I haven’t mentioned it - but I’ve never forgotten it. It was cruel. I could only hope she didn’t know the impact she was making.
Such a relief when the daughter started talking to me again. I had an idea we’d be detached forever - and, because I’ve never forgotten what happened, in a way we are.
When I first had two daughters I remember thinking how good it was that, in my being a “no one” situation, I would at least (because of the way I treated them) have two people who respected and liked me. Haha. Now they’ve grown up I can see that that thinking was incorrect.
Good idea then, just to be ourselves. The offspring will be themselves, so it’s our right to be ourselves. I’m careful not to do or say anything that hurts my daughters but I am who I am.
I was also aware of how the wife can create a false narrative. At the time I had a friend. (He’s now dead). My daughters called him “he who shalt not be named” (from the harry potter films). My friend was demonised by the wife. That friend of mine was the most intelligent thinker I’ve known. He was a brilliant mind. He knew exactly what was going on. My children weren’t to blame for the misrepresentation that they accepted, but it didn’t escape my notice that they had been mislead.
Sorry for the way you are suffering because of the treatment you’re getting.
Thanks David, If my wife doesn't help its almost impossible, Im in the living room and they are in the kitchen laughing and having a good time, and I'm left out, I choose to be left out some would say, yh I choose not to be a situation that might turn into an argument, she has a tongue of a serpent and talks at 200 miles per hr, I think her mum sees her as her 'friend' or ally, like friends who will soon leave primary school and some will be going to the same secondary school and they get closest to the ones that will be with them in the new school. Or maybe it just seems like this to me.
@ I feel for you.
Last month I drove to Wales to see the two daughters. When I got there I rested and slept on the sofa while the wife and two daughters chatted and laughed. I had some terrible negative thoughts. I heard some “slights”. When I woke up I felt a lot better. The family were still laughing and talking.
There were reasons for the negative thoughts but essentially what was being said wasn’t as bad as I thought.
I was glad that negative time passed and I could be positive with the family.
What I’m saying is that there is no doubt you have reason to feel they are against you but at the same time, it might not be as bad as types like us imagine.
Maybe make an entrance into the kitchen to do a task when they aren’t on a roll with the laughter and chat and make some nice comments to them so that they don’t think you are upset.
Maybe make a special effort with your son.
I don’t like giving advice. Who am I to talk?
What we need is people who we know are kind and who look after our best interests. So good then you have that lady who is kind to you and you to her.
I see that you go through too much pain and the people who suppose to make you stronger deliver tonnes of suffering. Not acceptable how your own daughter expresses herself , how she reacts; she doesn't deserve your good heart. It is a blessing for you that you are starting new life - you are talented person with good ideas. You need respect and your daughter need to change, tell her that... Greetings
Monika
You will feel so much better when all this mess settles down will light a candle you probably experienced a panic attack you should try and meditate and spend time in nature wishing you better days ahead 🥰🕊️☘️
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My comment was not bad. In essence, you need to protect your younger children and separate them the abusive older daughter. Protect your young children.
Panic attacks???povero Gero.....your nerves are shot!!!!!I'm listening to your experience,seems your toxic conflicts do you no good.Go where you are at peace and feel happy❤
So when we don't drink enough water, our blood gets thicker...and it puts a strain on the system, the heart (the engine i call it) has to work harder. With the ear, if it was me, i think i'd put some tea tree oil into some water and then use a ear water irrigation kit...tea tree oil is incredible stuff and i managed to avoid going to the dentist by using hydrogen peroxide swishing, flossing, tea tea oil swishing when i had really bad gum ache and tooth ache. I only know about tea tree oil because of my wife and her family, but i swear if i'd know about this stuff in the past, i probably could have saved having to get a tooth pulled. But yeah, stress...stress is real bad, I've been told it can kill us.
Honestly mate. You wanting to hang around after your divorce will most likely on cause you more grief. When everything is settled with the sale and such, I would take off far away and start a new life. I know you love you kids but is it worth the constant heartache? When your daughter grows older and matures, she will seek YOU out if she loves you.
My Mum told me the same thing when this happened with my estranged daughter in London, she said if she is good she will come back to you, I have views that are unacceptable to those brainwashed by wokery, I also am not cool, no money, health not good and have mental health problems and taking meds longterm, all these factors I think young women are brainwashed into thinking is really uncool or evil, especially the anti woke way of thinking, boys on the other hand seem harder to brainwash, my son actually wants to be with me and do things together, he is the only one who says good morning Daddy and good night Daddy, even tho the rest see me as a 'problem'.
If I didn't have kids I would live in a small house with plenty of land for the dogs and for me to walk and live off the land and practise my weird alchemy experiments, meditate etc. I suppose I could do that and have my son and daughter round for the summer holidays or when its half term, if I live far away, Ive looked for houses in rural areas with some land and they are expensive around here, in Scotland they are cheaper I think, maybe Devon is nicer, you get more sun down south, or maybe go to another country altogether I don't know.
Gerald your daughter is a teenager and hopefully is going through a stage. My daughter just turned 13, and I can't believe the change in her behavior or attitude. Very similar to your daughter so I completely relate. It is like I lost my little girl. What happened to you was a reaction to the stress and trauma of fighting with your daughter. You need to avoid these altercations at all costs even if you have to avoid your daughter for now.
I agree, with stress levels high and having a not much a humble attitude and not being able to forgive has done me in, I going to change and try to dismantle those buttons of mine.
The Music nowadays is really bad , Grime and Drill rap music is the worst crap ever ! I was born in the 80a and remember the good music from the 90s Nirvana , RHCP , Alice in Chains , Queen Freddie Mercury etc but nowadays we have imported that US Detroit Ghetto scene Eminem started it off and its just got worse since the late 90s and nowadays young men and women have no respect at all , the Gang culture is really bad. I do hope your life will get better mate stress is no good as it releases Cortisol which can make people ill.
Music these days was made by Diddler Freakoff pedos
Ghat's why it is so violent to the ears
I’m my mothers carer, as you know.
But in my breaks , I have something to eat and drink , and put your RUclips video on my breaks
Hugs. Happy you can release your feelings here.
Hi Gerald. I sent you an email last night. Am thinking of you. Vicki
I know the feeling. Im always worrying about that
Gero .... the divisive daughter needs to leave.... no child no matter how old should be so disrespectful , she doesn't have a right to rule YOUR roost.... you are the king of your own castle , she behaves or she gets out .... we all love our kids but we don't have to like them , the blood test shows if your blood has l think enzymes that form if you're having or going to have a heart attack , l was in the acute medical centre for 4 hours , l had a scan a month later and l have Heart block stage 1 when it gets to 4 l have to have a pacemaker fitted , the hospital gave me a heart monitor to wear for a week ... it shows any abnormalities, lm on blood pressure tabs and statins now😢, hope life gets much better for you soon sending a hug xx ( it's sue from Devon by the way) hope doggos are all good too 😊 xx
Go to Dr berg and statins, hope it helps...
Your fear of the unknown is causing you to stay attached to your family. And most likely you won't cope alone so you'll probably attach yourself to this new woman in future, thinking a relationship is the way to fix things.
The Universe is saying WAKE UP. Pay Attention and stop making excuses.
Have you watched a film called scanners? 1980/81 film!! If you haven't have a watch.
If you have a panic attack it can feel like heart attack. It has been building up for months.
Unfortunetaly I had experience like that. Was in a very stressfull period in my life.
Dont know what my bloodpreasure was. Doctor didnt want to come. I went to and slept very long.
Dont know about Chinese culture if the man makes the rules in the house and discussing what should be the rules is kind of abdicating your responsibility and authority.
Just a hunch how things work in patriarchies.
I thought your eldest daughter lived with her mother in London? 🤔
Maybe move in with your friend temporarily until you have your own place?
Exactly.. his stories are catching up with him.
@cece2518 I have my eldest from. A former relationship in London, my eldest with my family with my Chinese wife is what I'm referring to
@ira4600 She does. I'm talking about my eldest that live with me and are from my Chinese wife. I have kids in total 3 with my wife, 1 who lives in London
@@gerofiore9695 I apologise it’s that you’ve only mentioned your youngest daughter who you are close with and your son and your oldest daughter in London
Your physical problems are a manifestation of all the emotional and psychological turmoil you are currently experiencing with the upcoming divorce and sale of the house then to top it off the argument with your eldest daughter as well as the continuing arguments and negativity between your wife and yourself. It’s sounds very exhausting! Your oldest daughter is acting out, because I think deep down she is hurt and disappointed. If I were you I wouldn’t explain your friendship with a lady they don’t know to your children. They have enough on their plate and are too young to understand and don’t need to know anyway. That’s your adult business! I think it would be extremely hard for your teenage daughter to show empathy or sympathy to another unknown woman in the middle of her parents divorce especially since she would feel loyalty to her mother plus you are still all living together under the same roof, they may see the fact that you are driving off every weekend and spending the night at a females house confusing and disrespectful to their mother as your still technically married. I understand that it’s platonic and the lady has health issues etc but I don’t think the children would be able to really process that. They can easily see this as a sort of betrayal to their mother and hence the angry outburst not to mention the frustration of not having the use of the car. The word evil is a very strong and ugly word. Your teenage daughter may be disrespectful and rude but she is also involved in all of these changes and uncertainty that is about to happen and also absorbing all this negative energy. She is not an emotionally mature adult yet. Please be careful with your words. Words are very powerful. I hope everything will settle down later on when everything is finalised. I also think if you find a good counsellor for yourself if possible that could be helpful as well as your eldest daughter may benefit from counselling as well. Maybe not feasible now but even when things settle down. Hopefully you can repair your relationship with your daughter one day.
The less you say to your daughter, the better, when she is being nasty to you.
Gerald, be a classy guy. Say nothing instead of reacting. Just kindly walk away, go take a walk. Get yourself away from the venom. The less you react, the better it will be. Stay stoic and poised and neutral. She will tire of flinging mud at you if you refuse to react to her nastiness.
stop trying to make a reason for it with your drugs...its stress due to divorce/losing the house/seeing your kids less/your elder daughter being horrible....these things would make anyone stressed no matter what state their mental health is in. Get out of the situation asap or you will end up having a heart attack and game over.
Nothing just happens, of his in this situation it's because his ment to be here and in a few years he will see why . All we see is just a piece of the puzzle but our higher selves see the full puzzle. Here for the human experience and this is his road
@@BobBuilder-mq9wr Interesting point
@@Vlad-bu3mr Thank-you my friend
I'm fascinated by your speech inflections. Does that reflect a certain ethnic background?
Maybe my Sicilian upbringing, probably.
I was speculating it was urban black. Or your family was black and you live in London. Ot you've adopted it to fit in in London.
@@adude9882 well you got that completely wrong
Go to your GP Ger the fluttering are palpitations I experienced the same thing few years ago due to stress try to relax and meditate mind yourself really enjoy your chat nite nite ✨
Bruno Uranus lyrics😂
Hehehe
Your daughter sounds like Vicky Pollard from Little Britain!
Hi Gerald.
I sent you a comment but it got deleted immediately by the yt algorithm. It was about adrenaline and fight or flight response..
Why the YT bots do this is a mystery, sorry mate. Yes, Fight/Flight may be triggered after chronic stress I suppose if that is what you meant.
Gerald when I check my blood pressure during a panic attack it is 165/98
I assume it goes higher
You need to look for some peace in your life
Your problem may have been due to dehydration. I've been there and the symptoms sound familiar. It's nasty and quite serious.
Your messy situation is hard to hear and would have contributed to your health issues. Learn to retreat in silence,not aggressive silence, but the silence of surrender. Surrender the situation to God and WORK on plans to resolve it. How's the packing proceeding !! Just a thought, why did you not call the police for the half-naked,strange young man in your house!! Is there community policing (policing with a softer touch ) in your country? They might be able to intervene in what is becoming an unsettling situation. The young man probably cannot take your daughter to sleep over at his family home ,so he has gone to the home where her mother has put on the red light!
Gerald I have severe panic attacks and like you my blood pressure goes sky high, I take trazadone at night but if im having anxiety attack I have 50mg of trazadone and it takes my blood pressure down quite quickly
That sounds like a scary experience. It sounds like a panic. My panic attacks are like that. I can remember my heart rate being 180 beats when i was having a massive panic attack. I thought that is it i am dying and i will have a cardic arrest but that is just anxiety talking because the body can cope with it. It was just scary but not serious at least in my case.
I was 50 during my divorce and met my present wife in Istanbul She was 26 and spoke perfect English and was sweet as could be Meeting her saved my life I believe Things in NY were terrible for me and it was an escape My exs lawyer stated that I had decamped My lawyer said forget about it irrelevant My advice Get on the next flight to Thailand and forget about all this nonsense
the girls have rather large qoks there
Your wife and children didn’t accompany you to ER? Not cool.
May i ask why didnt u call an ambulance, and say suspected heart attack, if u had an accident with the lady who couldn't see well, u would be in a worse situation.. im glad u feel better though..
Have you had cbt. Could be generalised anxiety disorder
Propananol is good for stressful activities
I’ve been ok until two weeks ago when we went to Paris on the Eurostar. My stomach was aching and I have Crohns. Just what I didn’t need to flare
Hi Gerald!! I honestly feel Bad for you. Your Daughter is very Disrespectful &Woke!!!Your right,one day she's gonna Annoy the wrong person!! Stay your awesome self. I don't agree with your Daughter swearing at the Dogs. She is very Narcissistic!!My animals are #1 in my world. No swearing 🤬!! Your younger children shouldn't be hearing her Outbursts!!! Take care, 😺😸🇨🇦
Why didn't you get an ambulance ? Were you not aware of the danger of her driving? TG nothing happened.
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If I recall your wife said something along the same lines as your daughter in another video when you told her you needed the car? Sad to hear the females in your life have such a lack of respect for you. I hope they can rearrange their ways in due time.
Im shocked but not surprised. Your daughter is doing what teenagers do and thats copy. The B word has been said ti mysellf as if it's normal. The mother probably does not understand the culture neither. She will grow out if it I think. Hooe your feeling better try not to overthunk her behavior. You used some strong words we all do in those moments all the best.
can only get better, lol
pfizer vax?
A breakup at older age is brutal , the best transformations come from things like this
I didnt take any
You're in severe stress because you're NOT MEANT TO BE with your family, but you keep denying the source. Been there done that. Stop all this deflection.
Your daughter is heavily influenced by her mum and peer group . Try not to hold her fully responsible for her behaviour show compassion and patience she’s still a kid who will evolve into better adult . I’ve been there and both my kids have grown into loving humans