You are going to go through some very dark nights my friend. Ive been there. It really hurts right to your soul. But you are stronger than you know. You will overcome this. One step, one hour, one day at a time. Millions of men are going through this abuse and disrespect of fathers.
Yes, he has to stop this. Only Gerald can do it❤!. He is strong but, the son and the doughter are still part of him so if he want to be respected he will have to put the respect ever
I'm praying for you, my dear! I was in this situation 2020, I mean the depression you go through due to my separation, and all I do was sleep and eat for a couple of months. It was horrible, and looking it back after 4 years later, I regret not making that decision sooner in life. I'm am super happy. You will be definitely OK, It's just a matter of time! Stay strong!
Gerald, GET THE F OUT OF THERE!! Your ex and older daughter seem to be a hair trigger away from getting you arrested and jailed! GET THE F OUT OF THERE!! For your own safety.
Yes, that's the usual playbook that women play in this situation. Next thing you know, you are acused of abuse, she gets free lawyers to sue you out of your home, pensions, assets, and possibly even when you can see your own children. This is a very sick and dangerous society now for men. Most women side with the power of the state against you.
Going through his situation is devastating. Five years on I still struggle with it. But atleast I'm free of the stress and the tension of the marriage, as you will be. You'll find a new kind of peace, as I have.
Yes agree. I recognise where he is. I stayed too long trying to fix it and in doing so nearly destroyed myself. It's hard to see that it's all over and time to leave. It hurts so deeply and is incredibly stressful and unsettling. 11 yrs later I can still get triggered and upset, but life did get better. In these situations there is nothing you can do to fix it. Walking away from my children was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I still have scars. But we have to protect ourselves at some point, or the kids end up with no father at all. It's so unfair to men who are good fathers.
@emailsar3282 I do have joint custody of the children, but I still grieve over the break of the family for their sake. I went through hell, as nodoubt you did too. Take care.
Sounds like a mind virus has taken over your family. You need to get your own place, even if it's a bedsit. It's awful that you're not being respected, must be heartbreaking. If one of your kids is threatening to phone the police, you need to be careful bec the police are woke & not fair. I'm so pleased you've found a lovely woman, some do exist ❤
Sorry to see you down. It’s a very hard time you’re going through. It’s natural to feel sad and depressed, especially with your older daughter having no respect. That’s a big shame. It’s unfortunate that your “wife” lets this happen. She probably secretly likes it. She is of bad moral character to turn your daughter against you and is not willing to intervene. If she had any shred of decency she would be doing everything she can to encourage your daughter to have a good relationship with you. She is denying your daughter a father and that is very wrong and selfish of her. Hopefully they both will meet their Karma one day for being so nasty, rude, disrespectful and selfish. Going your separate way from all this stress and toxicity will be better for you. You will be okay. Focus on the things you do have. You still have your son and hopefully your youngest daughter. You will still have a place of your own. You have met a nice lady friend and you have your RUclips channel where you can express yourself and connect with people. Take care of yourself. This awful living in limbo period will soon be over.
I’m sorry you have to go through this, It sounds like they have narcissistic personality’s, I’ve been through this and it really plays on you psychologically, you can’t change them but you can change how you handle their ignorance, hang in there and stay strong ❤
BRUTAL blackpill from a true oldcel. I'll give some "advice" I haven't seen just scrolling through: I suppose I am currently in a similar situation, though with toxic siblings instead of children, and I am much younger. I can't offer any advice but the usual "focus on yourself bro" or "cut the toxicity out of your life" (currently what im trying to do) you are all you have at the end of the day, no one CAN step in your shoes and live your life and vice versa; "Man can do what he wills but he cannot will what he wills." -Schopenhauer. Everyone's desires and prejudices are different, it is a waste of thought to try and understand emotion-driven behaviour, it is not logical after all. There is no thought behind it. Anyway, you aren't alone, just want you to know that. Perhaps your struggle is a little unique but what all men go through we have in common; High divorce rates, dead bedrooms, increased escort demand, 63% of gen Z men single and never dated - its over Focus on what can be changed, your wills and wants, rather than debating those unwilling to consider your view. Social perception of men is mainly influenced by status and attractiveness, not hobbies or personality. Even if you did have a man cave you could retreat to (which like you said is stupid, your man cave should be your house!) they would likely criticise you for doing a hobby less interesting. Human behaviour is more influenced by the subconscious than the conscious, which would mean taking out the earphones and contemplating the situation and the best result you could achieve. A sleepwalking human is not conscious yet can walk, talk and perform complex tasks; the difference is consious humans remeber it and can contemplate it in the present; It feels awful to say, but most humans are barley above animals in their thought processes - moment to moment satisfaction and avoidance of dislikes. Groups of young women often synchronize their periods. This is extremely more common in woman than men. Our economic conditions will only get worse under this system of parasitism; men are the ONLY sex to be discriminated against in 2 laws; the draft and alimony. Real wages have been stagnating and purchasing power is decreasing, housing prices are rising, increasing competition. Young women now earn more and are not stigmatized for being unmarried/independent; hypergamy is unchecked and celebrated as a hallmark of social progress in the 21st century. Most men lucky enough to even get in a relationship are little more than emotional placeholders, they are kot physically desired and are kept around for resources and comfort. Even so these women are just waiting for a better opportunity Also, I'd say go for it when it comes to connecting to your son, you are right it will most likely happen to him in his future Also, word of advice, don't go into MGTOW or the red pill; if you look closely their rhetoric is no more than brainwashing themselves into being proud for being slave boys: "go die in a war, be a REAL MAN, STOP MAKING EXCUSES!!!11" It is nothing but cope and the wrong cope to take at that. They are the equivalent of caribou proudly infested with parasites. Everything is cope. Life turns you into an introvert. People are driven more by hope and are susceptible to cognitive dissonance fueled fantasies to hide from the harsh realities. Solutions will vary greatly depending on individual circumstance; sadly there is no one size fits all fix Wish you well bro, hopefully next time I watch a vid we will both be slowly making our way through this together in our own place and time. Brutal..
Was in your shoes 30 yrs ago Gerald. The sense of loss and emotional pain can be crushing but, by keeping your cool, validating yourself and not relying on others, you will arrive at a ‘new normal.’ Turn the page, it’s a new chapter, children are never yours, they are on loan until become independent. Focus on and look after yourself, your goodness will shine through and those that value it will be part of your life. Still single, but have peace in my life. Good luck!
Protect your mental health at all cost. Brace yourself for the storm. This could be the adventure of a lifetime. Your kids will always love you. You will make it.
Also not to hurt your feelings another perspective is not everyone can be around ill people who are depressed.. after a while it wanes on them and irritates them, there should be support for families
People you call family and children somehow treat you the worst. It’s a crushing type of feeling. Maybe the daughter and mother has some form of depression or unhappiness within, because to be kind and loving and respectful is free and to respect both your parents is not something to think about. I am sorry for this sorrow and loneliness Gerald. There is a song my Nina Simone, simple lyrics really but it’s called ‘Ain't Got No/i Got Life’ Gerald I recommend you get this song and play it in your car and cry or just feel it. The mother has embedded parental alienation into your kids. Hopefully your son will stay close to you. Families should be full of love and care and empathy. I don’t know teenagers are hard work, toddlers are easy in comparison. Gerald I have to say don’t let the negative spirit win. By this I mean please try to write a letter or email to your daughter and tell her how you feel and your hopes and dreams for her future and hopes for how you wish your family to be. She was your baby once. When you live on your own it’s going to be a new beginning for you. I know it’s daunting but your new beginnings I’m feeling good about it
You're the adult. She didn't choose you to be her father or be born. You're a role model on how to resolve conflict in healthy manner. You're either part of the problem or part of the solution. You chose incompatible partners and generalize all woman are liike that. You chose women based on their appearance. What do you expect...Clearly they are not because your friend with cancer is a nice women. So she's not like your usual type. You're seeing a women with depth and a good human. I hope she has recovery. She sounds like a lovely lady. You appear to be mourning the loss of your family and soon your environment, into a new one . That's a lot at once. We grow in crisis, you are processing a lot today. Women are worth it when you choose the right one and not on looks.
I just turned 37 years old not long ago Gerald….. I have never had my own kids or a wife ever. I don’t know what it’s like to have your own children but I’ve experienced ex girlfriends and their wrath when it comes to how they are mentally. I’ve never been physically abused by a women but what I am hearing from you in this video I feel. A lot of the new Generation Z kids are like this. I’m a Millenial man and we all think that the upcoming Generation are a bunch of disrespectful imbeciles. I don’t know if I’m ever going to have kids or a wife after seeing so many men on RUclips having issues with women and how disrespected they feel by their kids.
I am going through the same thing. I am going through the divorce after 28 years. My soon ex wife turned my kids against me and know I live alone. It is very hard. I started to go to church and calling other people for help. Stay strong and get closer to the Lord Jesus.
I think having some peaceful time on your own, with just you and your dogs, will do you good, you'll appreciate the time you do have with your kids even more, and hopefully they will feel the same way. You can watch what you want, listen to what you want, have any guests round that you want, look forward to the positives.
The sooner you get out of that house the better. It’s toxic at the house. Your wife and eldest daughter are standing together against you and quite rightly as you say that none of your family members have respect for you. I know you feel better to “vent”. The only way you will feel better about yourself is when you are away from your present situation. There is nothing you can do to change anything whilst you’re in it. I hear everything you say. You’re not in a good position. Be positive about looking forward to releasing the family and you will eventually feel better and get better. For now you have to put up with the negative, toxic situation. Everything changes eventually. Nothing remains the same. Look towards the future and being happy and being less stressful.
While I am sorry that you are hurting, in all fairness all we are hearing is your side of the relationship with your wife. There are always two sides to things. You have stated that your personality changed when you stopped taking the medication that made you more cheerful and nice to be around. It isn’t easy to live with someone who is always depressed and worried about their health. You also have said that you have a temper at times and that the police had you leave when your wife called. To be fair, we don’t know the actual situation. I hope you can start fresh and work on finding contentment.
Gerald you are Awesome!!! I know what it's like to have toxic family surrounding you!!! I've dealt with this since I was young!!! You mental health is Important!!! Ladies can be terrible Narcissists!!! Stay strong& enjoy your Dogs!!! Much love to you& try to get divorced!!! Honestly Woke people are EVIL!!!🐶🐶
Support from here, across the pond (the Atlantic). Hope the best of outcomes towards your way. You are not alone in that many people face this kind of thing. As you talk, I feel you are feeling estrangement from some of your children. Take time for yourself to reflect, to process, and maybe don't expect everything solved in 1 day or one week or 1 year. Maybe visit a Church when services are not held, and bring a favorite book? Or do some journal writing? Pick some good little things you like to do, and incorporate them into your life. Hang in there and avoid detours and detrimental patterns. Rebuild with the smallest of cherished bricks !
You can not be somewhere you are not appreciated....get yourself a life where you are happy because at the end of the day we only can count on ourselves for our own happiness. I'm finally figuring this out over 50. ❤
Hello my firend ✌️ Totally resonate readjusting is hard but embrace every emotion they make you feel as it makes you stronger the ex will get karma if you wish it Manifest the Renz" off,spring eventually come back to over time perspective is key in our situation agree don't put up with bs behavior learn to be silent when upset,disrespected,disregarded you got this Gerald love to you my brother from N,z🙏🔥💜
I know you may not believe in God , but right now its obvious to me, he has something for you to do and you are not doing it , and you're pushing back against his will and you keep failing and falling further into dispair. This woman you're helping she is a Christian , truly you will be blessed for helping her. you must listen to her , have understanding of what she is telling you. There is something important she is leading you too. Its an understanding that will help you for the rest of your life. Some times we talk to angels without knowing. And when everything gets too much as a Christian I simply tell the Lord Jesus , its in your hands now Lord. I try and fail , try again and fail, now i hand it to you. Then i go about my life no longer worrying about it was , as i gave it over to the Lord. And it works out. It always works out. And another thing i would like you to know , is dont forget to reward yourself. If nobody else is treating you good , then you treat yourself good . Buy yourself something nice , take yourself somewhere youve never been. If you like chocolate, then buy a big block and have some and reward yourself for getting through another day . (Nobody can make you do what you don't want to do). So act accordingly. But have respect for the law of the land. Now go and drink all the milk infront of them , throw the bottle in the bin and walk away without saying anything. You dont owe them anything, even your time is not owed to them.
Well said The universe is guiding you and this Christian good woman you are helping is the universe guiding you away from the evil and towards a better future. Accept the good graces from the universe and turn away from the evil calmly and deliberately.
This is beautiful. I don’t go to church but I believe in god and what you’re saying is right be around people that are trying to follow gods path . Not bible bashers just good spirited people. Well done for looking after your friend cancer is so tough. Good karma is coming back to you. I think this separation is a blessing in disguise.
12 months I've not heard from my 14 year old daughter. I swear if I passed away she wouldn't shed a tear. Was so close until 2 years ago. Her mother is reason, I despise the mother, as my bond with daughter has gone.
Hello My mother she was an alcoholic and my father turned us against her, I was rude and bitter and had no patience with her whatsoever I completely disregarded her requests or efforts to make conversation. In fact she was very fragile, tearful, funny and talented. She was also quite depressed. When she died I realised this and realised how much my father swayed us away from respecting her. I regret this deeply. Is this lady your new love? It is good for you at the end of the day we all lose our looks as we age so we end up all the same I think your car in fact is your man cave a modern version of it. It is your safe space away from aggression and too much estrogen. In fact a man should always have his own space it’s healthy. Your daughter is bold and rude and argumentative I was the same she will regret this one day. Life is good Gerald believe you and me you have not yet begun to live happily on your own. It is coming.
the reason why you make the most of is because wheather you like it or not they moving on. Sad, Sucks, Move on friend the new doors that open will be welcomed. God Bless, so sorry
Gerald!. We are Just human beings. We are not perfect but you are not alone why?. Many followers here!. " la solitudine ". It's a good song in italian by Laura Pausini. Well , you said something about meditation so! , keep on doing ; it is very healthy and relaxing!❤🎉. Thank you and try to be relaxed Sir!.
It might be a good idea to get a radio which will break the silence and can also drown out any unwelcome sounds.In the meantime, work on plans to secure suitable accommodation for yourself and your two youngest whenever they stay over. Remember, whatever decisions you make will have a lasting effect on them.
Treat others as you want to be treated. It's a good said!. Bye Gerald, of course this is not for you because you are so " gentle ". Thank you gentleman for this video 🎉🙌👍😉🫡🫡🫡💚💯👍
All The Best 🍀☘️🩵 I discovered few years back I'm Happiest Alone ,fk the drama ! 5 Adult kids 5 Grandchildren who I see regularly ❤️ Count Your Blessing 🙌 Be Grateful for what You have 🍀 Hope Things Improve for Ye Soon n Take Care 🙏
Gerald, i totally agree. Once the kids grow the woman does not fear being alone anymore and is happy to discard her husband. I am really in the same position. Have not seen my kids in months. No one calls, my wife says she doesnt want me to visit. I had been paying extra child support, but im going to stop that. Why should i pay for people who dont give a shit about me?
Hi Gerald. The only thing that annoys me about you; is you see Women as show ponies. Even beautiful young women turn in to old hags ! This woman friend has come along to teach that beauty is not just skin deep. You will gain strength & new beginnings during this adversity ! Stay strong ❤
What can you do? Make your own plan. Get legal advice. Dont discuss with your wife except the essentials. See if you can get shared custody of your younger children. If your wife refuses, or plays dirty, nothing you can do unfortunately. Protect yourself. Kids can be corrupted by an evil selfish parent and the courts dont lift a finger about that. Its going to be expensive and very stressful for 2 years. You must put your health and sanity first or it will break you. Fight what you can control and learn to let go of what you cant. Write your disrespectful kids out of the will if you want. Ive left mine to my boys. The girls are getting nothing.
I'm sorry for you Gerald being in this pain. But this is a mess. You will gain a lot by being away from them. Your children will learn their own lesson, now you feel invisible but this doesn't mean that they are strong and they are winners. Not at all. Keep strong Gerald and rest a lot. Be kind to yourself and keep going. This will keep your energy vibrate higher and higher...you know this
The environment you live in is very toxic and it is your wife who makes it so toxic. Get them out of your house and take the first step towards divorce. You need to start thinking about yourself and your own happiness. You need to focus on what you can actually do something about and exclude everything that is beyond your control.
Gerald that is down to her mom to correct and be honest about how things have broken down over the years she hadn’t said anything to your daughter to correct her disrespectful behaviour she has done so on purpose know what would happen calculating and very spiteful that’s her way of hurting you making herself look a saint which she is not we are all imperfect be honest with yourself and own up which she will not do till she slowly tries to break you down I know you feel a little relief that you have made that move you will feel like a caged bird set free greatest feeling I had when I asked my ex husband to leave the house he wanted me to leave the house with the kids I was terrified many years of mental abuse I worked 4 jobs treated him like a king had no self esteem but I worked the courage up I paid the mortgage so my heart was pounding the words came out i am not going anywhere with the kids you can leave he was taken aback but he left I have never looked back life does get better you’re daughter will see her mother for who she is eventually keep your love ❤️ for your3 children it’s hard and never easy but keep going love yourself and make sure you look after yourself because that will flipping make her pissed 😂 seeing you ok is not what she wants she wants to destroy you never let that happen imagine what your parents would say and there good advice they would give keep them in you’re thoughts always it helps a great deal a warm smile within you’re heart keep smiling think happy thoughts play good music that lifts your spirits thinking of you lovely Gerald lots of warm love take care ❤️xx
Secure your own income. Are they able to acuse you of things you have not done? Can you get disability income or dole? Money they cant claim. Stay cool and coll3cted. Proces what has happened after you have your own place.
Get your new lady to explain about jezabell spirits ..you will see the black eye moment in both the others very soon . Get rid . Buy a big tent and let her feel abandoned for once , never speak to her. Big love from the 🃏.. narcissist destroying man ❤❤❤
Mate someone very close to me hasn’t spoken to his daughter in 2.5 years as she started to spread dangerous lies about him and went as far as going to police. Police called him in but the story her and her mother cooked up didn’t make sense… next thing you know they were calling him for money and trying to be friendly, even after making wild accusations. It’s a heck of a long story but the mother ended up losing custody for one child and her true colour were revealed and hoarding problems but she and her daughter are like mirrors. They are best of friends and very bitchy but fall out periodically! As hard as it was he moved on with his life. The pain of being estranged from his daughter is painful but it getting easier for him as time goes by..
Your being bullied in your own home by your own family!!! Ridiculous!! The children see the mom disrespect you and allow them to also. Craziness!!!! Sell the house and take most the money. Being nice would be over!!!! Sorry your going through this 😞
Gerald, I’m going through a very similar situation. My 17 year old daughter hates me even though I’ve always loved and supported her. We had a wonderful relationship but now she despises me and I don’t understand what happened. Absolutely no respect for me. I don’t have mental health challenges like you so have been able to work my entire marriage and provided for them all. But it’s not enough. None of them respect me. Only my younger son somewhat. My wife is alienating me from my children. We are separated and heading for divorce. I really feel for you mate and just know you are not alone. God loves you and you’re his son. I am suffering thru a very similar situation and can feel your pain as my own. Don’t give up. Respect and value yourself and be confident because you are in the right. Your thinking is sound. Wokeism and feminism are mind viruses destroying families. It’s pure evil. But God is greater.
Dear old Gerald, you are a goddamn hero. You have no friends and neither do I. Wish that I had a friend like you. Your wife has used you like a breeding stud. She has procreated and now you are on your own.
I know it's difficult for you at the moment. Everything will be fine after divorce, new house. Life will be better. I enjoy your videos, be strong, man, be strong.
Gero have you seeked free legal advice?Your Love as a Father is Needed and Good for them,Gero your presence for your little ones as A Caring Loving Father is a precious Gift in their Lives.Try to live as close as you can so you can spend as much time as you can with them.L'amore del Padre e`importante....E tu`sei il loro Padre importante.Dont let anyone fool you.Your Love for them is their Strength and Yours.I feel for you Boet...😢🙏🏼
This channel is an absolute perfect advert for MGTOW. By all means date casually, but NEVER get serious, NEVER move a female into YOUR home, and NEVER move into her home.
I predict youll move in with ur friend ..and youre family will keep the house. Its never the childs fault..its our duty to stick by them.but teens and young adults are very trying at best of times. U cant give up on them.
the decisions been made by the sound of it you have to just get on with it I know its hard but if you cant get your mind over it you will end up in the grave and I say that as someone who went down this path.
Please let your lady friend, talk to you about God and Jesus. It's no coincidence she has come into your life at this point!! Don't push God away. You need him more then anything in your life. He is the one that hears you the most and cares the most. Believe what Jesus did, dieing for all our sins. He will deliver you out of this and turn things around. But You have truly believe in your heart and allow him into your heart and your head. Praying for you ❤
They are very disrespectful towards you seen as you will be out of there soon Id leave now sooner than later it's just going to get worse I do hope it all passes soon ✨🕊️☘️
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You are going to go through some very dark nights my friend. Ive been there. It really hurts right to your soul. But you are stronger than you know. You will overcome this. One step, one hour, one day at a time. Millions of men are going through this abuse and disrespect of fathers.
Yes, he has to stop this. Only Gerald can do it❤!. He is strong but, the son and the doughter are still part of him so if he want to be respected he will have to put the respect ever
I'm praying for you, my dear! I was in this situation 2020, I mean the depression you go through due to my separation, and all I do was sleep and eat for a couple of months. It was horrible, and looking it back after 4 years later, I regret not making that decision sooner in life. I'm am super happy. You will be definitely OK, It's just a matter of time!
Stay strong!
Gerald, GET THE F OUT OF THERE!!
Your ex and older daughter seem to be a hair trigger away from getting you arrested and jailed!
GET THE F OUT OF THERE!! For your own safety.
Yes, that's the usual playbook that women play in this situation. Next thing you know, you are acused of abuse, she gets free lawyers to sue you out of your home, pensions, assets, and possibly even when you can see your own children. This is a very sick and dangerous society now for men. Most women side with the power of the state against you.
Going through his situation is devastating. Five years on I still struggle with it. But atleast I'm free of the stress and the tension of the marriage, as you will be. You'll find a new kind of peace, as I have.
Yes agree. I recognise where he is. I stayed too long trying to fix it and in doing so nearly destroyed myself. It's hard to see that it's all over and time to leave. It hurts so deeply and is incredibly stressful and unsettling. 11 yrs later I can still get triggered and upset, but life did get better. In these situations there is nothing you can do to fix it. Walking away from my children was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I still have scars. But we have to protect ourselves at some point, or the kids end up with no father at all. It's so unfair to men who are good fathers.
@emailsar3282 I do have joint custody of the children, but I still grieve over the break of the family for their sake. I went through hell, as nodoubt you did too. Take care.
@@adamhughes4442 thanks. I empathise. There is something very very wrong with society now.
Sounds like a mind virus has taken over your family. You need to get your own place, even if it's a bedsit. It's awful that you're not being respected, must be heartbreaking.
If one of your kids is threatening to phone the police, you need to be careful bec the police are woke & not fair.
I'm so pleased you've found a lovely woman, some do exist ❤
Sorry to see you down. It’s a very hard time you’re going through. It’s natural to feel sad and depressed, especially with your older daughter having no respect. That’s a big shame. It’s unfortunate that your “wife” lets this happen. She probably secretly likes it. She is of bad moral character to turn your daughter against you and is not willing to intervene. If she had any shred of decency she would be doing everything she can to encourage your daughter to have a good relationship with you. She is denying your daughter a father and that is very wrong and selfish of her. Hopefully they both will meet their Karma one day for being so nasty, rude, disrespectful and selfish. Going your separate way from all this stress and toxicity will be better for you. You will be okay. Focus on the things you do have. You still have your son and hopefully your youngest daughter. You will still have a place of your own. You have met a nice lady friend and you have your RUclips channel where you can express yourself and connect with people. Take care of yourself. This awful living in limbo period will soon be over.
I’m sorry you have to go through this, It sounds like they have narcissistic personality’s, I’ve been through this and it really plays on you psychologically, you can’t change them but you can change how you handle their ignorance, hang in there and stay strong ❤
You’ll be less alone when you are alone - at which point a whole new life will open up.
@@davidmatthews9088 absolutely great comment, this I agree with Gerald it’s the sour before the sweet
BRUTAL blackpill from a true oldcel. I'll give some "advice" I haven't seen just scrolling through: I suppose I am currently in a similar situation, though with toxic siblings instead of children, and I am much younger. I can't offer any advice but the usual "focus on yourself bro" or "cut the toxicity out of your life" (currently what im trying to do) you are all you have at the end of the day, no one CAN step in your shoes and live your life and vice versa; "Man can do what he wills but he cannot will what he wills." -Schopenhauer.
Everyone's desires and prejudices are different, it is a waste of thought to try and understand emotion-driven behaviour, it is not logical after all. There is no thought behind it.
Anyway, you aren't alone, just want you to know that. Perhaps your struggle is a little unique but what all men go through we have in common; High divorce rates, dead bedrooms, increased escort demand, 63% of gen Z men single and never dated - its over
Focus on what can be changed, your wills and wants, rather than debating those unwilling to consider your view. Social perception of men is mainly influenced by status and attractiveness, not hobbies or personality. Even if you did have a man cave you could retreat to (which like you said is stupid, your man cave should be your house!) they would likely criticise you for doing a hobby less interesting.
Human behaviour is more influenced by the subconscious than the conscious, which would mean taking out the earphones and contemplating the situation and the best result you could achieve. A sleepwalking human is not conscious yet can walk, talk and perform complex tasks; the difference is consious humans remeber it and can contemplate it in the present; It feels awful to say, but most humans are barley above animals in their thought processes - moment to moment satisfaction and avoidance of dislikes. Groups of young women often synchronize their periods. This is extremely more common in woman than men.
Our economic conditions will only get worse under this system of parasitism; men are the ONLY sex to be discriminated against in 2 laws; the draft and alimony. Real wages have been stagnating and purchasing power is decreasing, housing prices are rising, increasing competition. Young women now earn more and are not stigmatized for being unmarried/independent; hypergamy is unchecked and celebrated as a hallmark of social progress in the 21st century.
Most men lucky enough to even get in a relationship are little more than emotional placeholders, they are kot physically desired and are kept around for resources and comfort. Even so these women are just waiting for a better opportunity
Also, I'd say go for it when it comes to connecting to your son, you are right it will most likely happen to him in his future
Also, word of advice, don't go into MGTOW or the red pill; if you look closely their rhetoric is no more than brainwashing themselves into being proud for being slave boys: "go die in a war, be a REAL MAN, STOP MAKING EXCUSES!!!11"
It is nothing but cope and the wrong cope to take at that. They are the equivalent of caribou proudly infested with parasites. Everything is cope. Life turns you into an introvert.
People are driven more by hope and are susceptible to cognitive dissonance fueled fantasies to hide from the harsh realities. Solutions will vary greatly depending on individual circumstance; sadly there is no one size fits all fix
Wish you well bro, hopefully next time I watch a vid we will both be slowly making our way through this together in our own place and time. Brutal..
Gerald you are being mentally, and emotionally abused , sorry this is happening to you ! 😢
Yes, as are many millions of men in the uk. We only ever hear about women being abused. This is a disgrace.
Narc.abuse😢
Was in your shoes 30 yrs ago Gerald. The sense of loss and emotional pain can be crushing but, by keeping your cool, validating yourself and not relying on others, you will arrive at a ‘new normal.’ Turn the page, it’s a new chapter, children are never yours, they are on loan until become independent. Focus on and look after yourself, your goodness will shine through and those that value it will be part of your life.
Still single, but have peace in my life. Good luck!
Protect your mental health at all cost. Brace yourself for the storm. This could be the adventure of a lifetime. Your kids will always love you. You will make it.
Also not to hurt your feelings another perspective is not everyone can be around ill people who are depressed.. after a while it wanes on them and irritates them, there should be support for families
People you call family and children somehow treat you the worst. It’s a crushing type of feeling.
Maybe the daughter and mother has some form of depression or unhappiness within, because to be kind and loving and respectful is free and to respect both your parents is not something to think about.
I am sorry for this sorrow and loneliness Gerald.
There is a song my Nina Simone, simple lyrics really but it’s called
‘Ain't Got No/i Got Life’
Gerald I recommend you get this song and play it in your car and cry or just feel it.
The mother has embedded parental alienation into your kids. Hopefully your son will stay close to you.
Families should be full of love and care and empathy.
I don’t know teenagers are hard work, toddlers are easy in comparison.
Gerald I have to say don’t let the negative spirit win.
By this I mean please try to write a letter or email to your daughter and tell her how you feel and your hopes and dreams for her future and hopes for how you wish your family to be. She was your baby once.
When you live on your own it’s going to be a new beginning for you.
I know it’s daunting but your new beginnings I’m feeling good about it
Your a people pleaser mate ,i know your lost ,don’t panic,keep a cool head
dont forget that super dooper american juicing machine you got in your kitchen, take it to your friend.
You're the adult. She didn't choose you to be her father or be born. You're a role model on how to resolve conflict in healthy manner. You're either part of the problem or part of the solution. You chose incompatible partners and generalize all woman are liike that. You chose women based on their appearance. What do you expect...Clearly they are not because your friend with cancer is a nice women. So she's not like your usual type. You're seeing a women with depth and a good human. I hope she has recovery. She sounds like a lovely lady. You appear to be mourning the loss of your family and soon your environment, into a new one . That's a lot at once. We grow in crisis, you are processing a lot today. Women are worth it when you choose the right one and not on looks.
I just turned 37 years old not long ago Gerald….. I have never had my own kids or a wife ever. I don’t know what it’s like to have your own children but I’ve experienced ex girlfriends and their wrath when it comes to how they are mentally. I’ve never been physically abused by a women but what I am hearing from you in this video I feel. A lot of the new Generation Z kids are like this. I’m a Millenial man and we all think that the upcoming Generation are a bunch of disrespectful imbeciles. I don’t know if I’m ever going to have kids or a wife after seeing so many men on RUclips having issues with women and how disrespected they feel by their kids.
I am going through the same thing. I am going through the divorce after 28 years. My soon ex wife turned my kids against me and know I live alone. It is very hard. I started to go to church and calling other people for help. Stay strong and get closer to the Lord Jesus.
I think having some peaceful time on your own, with just you and your dogs, will do you good, you'll appreciate the time you do have with your kids even more, and hopefully they will feel the same way. You can watch what you want, listen to what you want, have any guests round that you want, look forward to the positives.
The sooner you get out of that house the better. It’s toxic at the house. Your wife and eldest daughter are standing together against you and quite rightly as you say that none of your family members have respect for you. I know you feel better to “vent”. The only way you will feel better about yourself is when you are away from your present situation. There is nothing you can do to change anything whilst you’re in it. I hear everything you say. You’re not in a good position. Be positive about looking forward to releasing the family and you will eventually feel better and get better. For now you have to put up with the negative, toxic situation. Everything changes eventually. Nothing remains the same. Look towards the future and being happy and being less stressful.
While I am sorry that you are hurting, in all fairness all we are hearing is your side of the relationship with your wife. There are always two sides to things. You have stated that your personality changed when you stopped taking the medication that made you more cheerful and nice to be around. It isn’t easy to live with someone who is always depressed and worried about their health. You also have said that you have a temper at times and that the police had you leave when your wife called. To be fair, we don’t know the actual situation.
I hope you can start fresh and work on finding contentment.
Its always a two sides of story . Most of the time , and by this you are right . I see a victime or maybe i am wrong . We will never know . 😊
Gerald you are Awesome!!! I know what it's like to have toxic family surrounding you!!! I've dealt with this since I was young!!! You mental health is Important!!! Ladies can be terrible Narcissists!!! Stay strong& enjoy your Dogs!!! Much love to you& try to get divorced!!! Honestly Woke people are EVIL!!!🐶🐶
Support from here, across the pond (the Atlantic). Hope the best of outcomes towards your way. You are not alone in that many people face this kind of thing. As you talk, I feel you are feeling estrangement from some of your children. Take time for yourself to reflect, to process, and maybe don't expect everything solved in 1 day or one week or 1 year. Maybe visit a Church when services are not held, and bring a favorite book? Or do some journal writing? Pick some good little things you like to do, and incorporate them into your life. Hang in there and avoid detours and detrimental patterns. Rebuild with the smallest of cherished bricks !
You can not be somewhere you are not appreciated....get yourself a life where you are happy because at the end of the day we only can count on ourselves for our own happiness. I'm finally figuring this out over 50. ❤
Hay friend thank you for sharing your amazing your a legend among others xoxo
Lonely man in Japan has the same isseus as you my fellow human being
If we lose everything we then can only win everything 😊 so winning is losing and losing is winning . Carmawheel of life
You've discovered an uncomfortable truth.
Women and children are loved for who they are, men are loved for what they can provide.
Hello my firend ✌️
Totally resonate readjusting is hard but embrace every emotion they make you feel as it makes you stronger the ex will get karma if you wish it Manifest the Renz" off,spring eventually come back to over time perspective is key in our situation agree don't put up with bs behavior learn to be silent when upset,disrespected,disregarded you got this
Gerald love to you my brother from N,z🙏🔥💜
Gerald, you have the power of malocchio. Bloody use it!
Get away from them look after your self protect your health some women are evil
I know you may not believe in God , but right now its obvious to me, he has something for you to do and you are not doing it , and you're pushing back against his will and you keep failing and falling further into dispair.
This woman you're helping she is a Christian , truly you will be blessed for helping her.
you must listen to her , have understanding of what she is telling you. There is something important she is leading you too. Its an understanding that will help you for the rest of your life.
Some times we talk to angels without knowing.
And when everything gets too much as a Christian I simply tell the Lord Jesus , its in your hands now Lord.
I try and fail , try again and fail, now i hand it to you.
Then i go about my life no longer worrying about it was , as i gave it over to the Lord.
And it works out. It always works out.
And another thing i would like you to know , is dont forget to reward yourself.
If nobody else is treating you good , then you treat yourself good . Buy yourself something nice , take yourself somewhere youve never been.
If you like chocolate, then buy a big block and have some and reward yourself for getting through another day .
(Nobody can make you do what you don't want to do).
So act accordingly. But have respect for the law of the land.
Now go and drink all the milk infront of them , throw the bottle in the bin and walk away without saying anything. You dont owe them anything, even your time is not owed to them.
Well said
The universe is guiding you and this Christian good woman you are helping is the universe guiding you away from the evil and towards a better future. Accept the good graces from the universe and turn away from the evil calmly and deliberately.
This is beautiful. I don’t go to church but I believe in god and what you’re saying is right be around people that are trying to follow gods path . Not bible bashers just good spirited people.
Well done for looking after your friend cancer is so tough. Good karma is coming back to you. I think this separation is a blessing in disguise.
12 months I've not heard from my 14 year old daughter.
I swear if I passed away she wouldn't shed a tear.
Was so close until 2 years ago. Her mother is reason, I despise the mother, as my bond with daughter has gone.
the thoughts realizations and home truths of 10000 fathers here ...............................................................
Good to hear you met someone try to just be spend time in nature and breath ✨
God sent you a redeemer…better take her up on that Jesus thing, life is short.
Hello
My mother she was an alcoholic and my father turned us against her, I was rude and bitter and had no patience with her whatsoever I completely disregarded her requests or efforts to make conversation. In fact she was very fragile, tearful, funny and talented. She was also quite depressed.
When she died I realised this and realised how much my father swayed us away from respecting her. I regret this deeply.
Is this lady your new love? It is good for you at the end of the day we all lose our looks as we age so we end up all the same
I think your car in fact is your man cave a modern version of it. It is your safe space away from aggression and too much estrogen. In fact a man should always have his own space it’s healthy.
Your daughter is bold and rude and argumentative I was the same she will regret this one day.
Life is good Gerald believe you and me you have not yet begun to live happily on your own. It is coming.
Don’t lose it now Gerald ! You need all the strength and wits about you’ you can’t afford to come out of this with nothing for you and the Dogs 💗
the reason why you make the most of is because wheather you like it or not they moving on. Sad, Sucks, Move on friend the new doors that open will be welcomed. God Bless, so sorry
Hope your feeling better soon Gerald ❤
Life is an adventure minute by minute you got this
Gerald!. We are Just human beings. We are not perfect but you are not alone why?. Many followers here!. " la solitudine ". It's a good song in italian by Laura Pausini. Well , you said something about meditation so! , keep on doing ; it is very healthy and relaxing!❤🎉. Thank you and try to be relaxed Sir!.
We ❤️ think that your videos are 🔥 really good!. We are learning a lot about some behaviors!.
It might be a good idea to get a radio which will break the silence and can also drown out any unwelcome sounds.In the meantime, work on plans to secure suitable accommodation for yourself and your two youngest whenever they stay over. Remember, whatever decisions you make will have a lasting effect on them.
Treat others as you want to be treated. It's a good said!. Bye Gerald, of course this is not for you because you are so " gentle ". Thank you gentleman for this video 🎉🙌👍😉🫡🫡🫡💚💯👍
You know what we meant!.😉😉👍
I totally understand how you feel 😢
All The Best 🍀☘️🩵
I discovered few years back I'm Happiest Alone ,fk the drama !
5 Adult kids 5 Grandchildren who I see regularly ❤️
Count Your Blessing 🙌 Be Grateful for what You have 🍀
Hope Things Improve for Ye Soon n Take Care 🙏
Gerald, i totally agree. Once the kids grow the woman does not fear being alone anymore and is happy to discard her husband. I am really in the same position. Have not seen my kids in months. No one calls, my wife says she doesnt want me to visit. I had been paying extra child support, but im going to stop that. Why should i pay for people who dont give a shit about me?
Hi Gerald. The only thing that annoys me about you; is you see Women as show ponies. Even beautiful young women turn in to old hags !
This woman friend has come along to teach that beauty is not just skin deep.
You will gain strength & new beginnings during this adversity ! Stay strong ❤
What can you do? Make your own plan. Get legal advice. Dont discuss with your wife except the essentials. See if you can get shared custody of your younger children. If your wife refuses, or plays dirty, nothing you can do unfortunately. Protect yourself. Kids can be corrupted by an evil selfish parent and the courts dont lift a finger about that. Its going to be expensive and very stressful for 2 years. You must put your health and sanity first or it will break you. Fight what you can control and learn to let go of what you cant. Write your disrespectful kids out of the will if you want. Ive left mine to my boys. The girls are getting nothing.
I'm sorry for you Gerald being in this pain. But this is a mess. You will gain a lot by being away from them. Your children will learn their own lesson, now you feel invisible but this doesn't mean that they are strong and they are winners. Not at all. Keep strong Gerald and rest a lot. Be kind to yourself and keep going. This will keep your energy vibrate higher and higher...you know this
The environment you live in is very toxic and it is your wife who makes it so toxic. Get them out of your house and take the first step towards divorce. You need to start thinking about yourself and your own happiness. You need to focus on what you can actually do something about and exclude everything that is beyond your control.
Great advice
the only problem with what you say is its her house as well because he married her,if only it was as easy as chucking them out..lol
Gerald that is down to her mom to correct and be honest about how things have broken down over the years she hadn’t said anything to your daughter to correct her disrespectful behaviour she has done so on purpose know what would happen calculating and very spiteful that’s her way of hurting you making herself look a saint which she is not we are all imperfect be honest with yourself and own up which she will not do till she slowly tries to break you down I know you feel a little relief that you have made that move you will feel like a caged bird set free greatest feeling I had when I asked my ex husband to leave the house he wanted me to leave the house with the kids I was terrified many years of mental abuse I worked 4 jobs treated him like a king had no self esteem but I worked the courage up I paid the mortgage so my heart was pounding the words came out i am not going anywhere with the kids you can leave he was taken aback but he left I have never looked back life does get better you’re daughter will see her mother for who she is eventually keep your love ❤️ for your3 children it’s hard and never easy but keep going love yourself and make sure you look after yourself because that will flipping make her pissed 😂 seeing you ok is not what she wants she wants to destroy you never let that happen imagine what your parents would say and there good advice they would give keep them in you’re thoughts always it helps a great deal a warm smile within you’re heart keep smiling think happy thoughts play good music that lifts your spirits thinking of you lovely Gerald lots of warm love take care ❤️xx
oh man I hear you Kids deciding who they like next level
Secure your own income. Are they able to acuse you of things you have not done? Can you get disability income or dole? Money they cant claim.
Stay cool and coll3cted. Proces what has happened after you have your own place.
Get your new lady to explain about jezabell spirits ..you will see the black eye moment in both the others very soon . Get rid . Buy a big tent and let her feel abandoned for once , never speak to her. Big love from the 🃏.. narcissist destroying man ❤❤❤
Watch the Irish lady called narc con ❤❤❤
Mate someone very close to me hasn’t spoken to his daughter in 2.5 years as she started to spread dangerous lies about him and went as far as going to police. Police called him in but the story her and her mother cooked up didn’t make sense… next thing you know they were calling him for money and trying to be friendly, even after making wild accusations.
It’s a heck of a long story but the mother ended up losing custody for one child and her true colour were revealed and hoarding problems but she and her daughter are like mirrors. They are best of friends and very bitchy but fall out periodically!
As hard as it was he moved on with his life. The pain of being estranged from his daughter is painful but it getting easier for him as time goes by..
Your being bullied in your own home by your own family!!! Ridiculous!! The children see the mom disrespect you and allow them to also. Craziness!!!! Sell the house and take most the money. Being nice would be over!!!!
Sorry your going through this 😞
Gerald, I’m going through a very similar situation. My 17 year old daughter hates me even though I’ve always loved and supported her. We had a wonderful relationship but now she despises me and I don’t understand what happened. Absolutely no respect for me. I don’t have mental health challenges like you so have been able to work my entire marriage and provided for them all. But it’s not enough. None of them respect me. Only my younger son somewhat. My wife is alienating me from my children. We are separated and heading for divorce. I really feel for you mate and just know you are not alone. God loves you and you’re his son. I am suffering thru a very similar situation and can feel your pain as my own. Don’t give up. Respect and value yourself and be confident because you are in the right. Your thinking is sound. Wokeism and feminism are mind viruses destroying families. It’s pure evil. But God is greater.
Dear old Gerald, you are a goddamn hero. You have no friends and neither do I. Wish that I had a friend like you. Your wife has used you like a breeding stud. She has procreated and now you are on your own.
and used you to get british residency
why didn't you see this right off the bat?
Is she foreign? I didn't know that.
I know it's difficult for you at the moment. Everything will be fine after divorce, new house. Life will be better. I enjoy your videos, be strong, man, be strong.
Take care Gerald 👍👍👍
I'm heartbroken for you. This is disgusting behavior from the people closest to you who have the highest ability to inflict emotional harm. 😢
Yes, your son loves you
Gero have you seeked free legal advice?Your Love as a Father is Needed and Good for them,Gero your presence for your little ones as A Caring Loving Father is a precious Gift in their Lives.Try to live as close as you can so you can spend as much time as you can with them.L'amore del Padre e`importante....E tu`sei il loro Padre importante.Dont let anyone fool you.Your Love for them is their Strength and Yours.I feel for you Boet...😢🙏🏼
Get yourself some noise cancelling headphones
This channel is an absolute perfect advert for MGTOW. By all means date casually, but NEVER get serious, NEVER move a female into YOUR home, and NEVER move into her home.
every moment is horrible
I predict youll move in with ur friend ..and youre family will keep the house. Its never the childs fault..its our duty to stick by them.but teens and young adults are very trying at best of times. U cant give up on them.
Don’t leave the house until the divorce is final. Stay safe.
How much longer do you have to stay there? Can you not speed things up? Its awfully dangerous for you there. I dont think you realise that.
the decisions been made by the sound of it you have to just get on with it I know its hard but if you cant get your mind over it you will end up in the grave and I say that as someone who went down this path.
Pain man what ever form it takes is for me mostly devistating I don't feel Im going to make it back, I do just differently true story
Under China's 1 child policy the female was discarded. If you could only have 1 kid it might as well be male with less stress and drama. 👍
Please let your lady friend, talk to you about God and Jesus. It's no coincidence she has come into your life at this point!!
Don't push God away. You need him more then anything in your life. He is the one that hears you the most and cares the most. Believe what Jesus did, dieing for all our sins. He will deliver you out of this and turn things around.
But You have truly believe in your heart and allow him into your heart and your head.
Praying for you ❤
What do you think of the keto diet? I'm trying to cut out carbs and reduce my sugar intake.
Read The Bible. 1000s of years of wisdom.
. This is why Men’s mental health is so fragile.
White working class men
They are very disrespectful towards you seen as you will be out of there soon Id leave now sooner than later it's just going to get worse I do hope it all passes soon ✨🕊️☘️
How you making out gerald?
MGTOW
why are we the ones making youtube channels
get a job bro its not that hard, maybe doordash?