John you don’t have to preface your thoughts with “in my opinion”. We watch you because your opinion is what we’re looking for. Don’t make any apologies for the people who are disagreeable about everything. You know your stuff on these subjects brother. 👍
I worked picking fruit in the orchards, construction, building houses, digging foundations for houses, and was a roustabout for circus. Somewhere along the way I made the decision to change that life went to school and became an Architect. Never did the thought enter my mind that one job/profession was more or less manly’ than another. It was a decision to make a buck, nothing more than that.
My Dad once told me that a man is not defined by what he does but rather the way he does it. This included how he treats others and his behavior. I've thought about this conversation on numerous occasions over the years as I consider it to be safe advice.
You are always an amazing person. A true legend and a master in your craft. Thank you for all the content that you provide for even guys like me trying to get better at what we do!
Brother, you are spot on with this video. I am not in total agreement with the tee shirt part. Let me explain. I have luxury tee shirts from London that really fit me well. I’m a 62 year old amateur bodybuilder and I love to wear perfect fitting clothes. I have worn these tees with a sports jacket and was able to pull it off! I agree with everything else you said and I appreciate your content. Thank you so much!
What you wear has nothing to do with you being a man or not, nor does it equal or lead to maturity. Maturity is about understanding what is important in following social codes, and what is no. It’s also to keep true to yourself, as long as it does not hurt anything else it’s not wrong, it’s taste and interest. How you dress, does not hurt anyone. Yes, you can use your clothing for first impressions and manage how/what people think of you, managing social code and norm of a certain group of people. But that’s a different story, and has nothing to do with maturity or being a man or boy. It’s exactly this line of thinking which kills innovation, fun and personality, what kills you the person. Adhearing to non-important rules. There are plenty if mature men, wearing tshirts with prints on, or simple other styles of clothing beyond plain tshirts and shirt with a collar. Advicing about keeping a specific style and saying everything else is immature is being oppionate about a topic where there are no set/fixed solution. That is okay if course, it’s your oppinion, but it’s not fact or truth. Widen your view please. 🙂 With all kindness though, you have style and for the ones who likes that kind of clothing your opinion matters. 👍🏼🙂 To be transparent, sometimes I like the style you teach. But I identify being a man of music, and I like a rougher style in general which doesn’t make me less well-dressed, mature or less of a man. It’s just a different style. Keep the styling tips coming, but stay off the oppionated topics if you want to keep the audience that have you as an inspiration but not take you word by word.
@@FranzenCODM I understand your point. What we meant is for some people, having an office job is less manly than a blue collar job. That's why we mentioned the clothes. No one is more or less man because of the job or clothes.
I''m 65 and I enjoy your videos and appreciate your views on age appropriate style but I have a lot of fun with vintage (and vintage appearing) rock band concert tees under a V neck sweater or V-neck cardigan and chinos with nice loafers or drivers, I get a lot of attention(positive!!) from people wondering what is peeking from my sweaters.
Interesting topic and I have to generally agree with all your points. I just turned 62 and for most of my life I tried to dress as casually as I could get away with. In the past year though, I decided that it was finally time to start dressing like an adult. I discovered your channel, and a few others, that have been extremely helpful. I now enjoy dressing better on a consistent basis. At the moment, even though I work from home, I’m wearing a polo shirt and chinos, neither of which I would have worn a couple years ago unless it was required of me.
I have 3 collar and Co. polos and love them. I’m guilty of also loving my graphic tshirts. I had all of them made into a giant quilt but somehow I now have a new big stack. I also wear a tux most weekends for my job as a 62 self employed for 27 years, wedding DJ. I never really grew up.
Hey brother. I’m a retired Navy fighter pilot so the man card is not in question. I love your aesthetic with clothing. I dress similarly, in my early 60s, although I wear tailored untucked shirts as my belly as bigger. Keep rocking your style. You are an icon. Fashion is fleeting. Style is timeless.
Yeah, sorry about that. The reason I didn’t list it in the description is because they’re both no longer available. The blue pair is from Penguin that I got at Nordstrom rack, and the gray pair is from Zara from about three years ago.
Since I've been watching your videos over the last few weeks, I immediatley upgraded my shoes. Amazed by how many women not only noticed and complimented them, but even made comment of my older worn out shoes. Glad I tossed those. Thanks for the advice as always.
I love all your advice and suggestions. Keep up the great work. Just wondering which shirt from Collars and Co. you're wearing in this video and also where you purchase your Chinos? Thank you
Went to a high end steak house recently and couldn’t believe how many men were wearing cargo shorts, T-shirts, and flip flops. The manager came by to ask how we enjoyed our meal. I mentioned the dress of people and he laughed telling me about how people would show up for interviews wearing worse. 😂 He went on to say these people would be puzzled when he told them they should dress better if they expected to serve $150 steaks to his customers!
I enjoyed the intro. There are no duels on fashion advice. At least not in this age demographic. I pretty much agree with just about everything you said. I wear the custom slim Ralph Lauren polo, and skinny jeans because I’m pretty darn thin. Tried a “slim” and it’s baggy on me.
Love these vids, I’m a Brit, a country living Brit, I try to include tweed into everything I wear. I love getting dressed, I love choosing what I’m wearing for the day
I truly follow your advice John, but with a middle aged tire roll, I tend to wear untucked dress shirts to conceal the donut. And at 63, it’s not getting any easier. Great post that I shared with my youngest son!
My dad always would change into a polo and chinos even if it was just to run a quick errand. He could be at home on the weekend in an old T-shirt and shorts, my mom would send him out on an errand, and he'd go and change to head out into public. I want that discipline as well, but most of the time I'm just too lazy and I also have that attitude of who cares what others think. I dress up for work and even if I'm in a T-shirt and shorts, I make sure it looks good together, but I think I want to level up my style and start looking more mature-I just turned 54 last weekend.
Good man! Try this. The next time you’re out and you see a guy roughly your age, and he’s stressed in a T-shirt and shorts and appears sloppy, imagine yourself looking like that to other people. Just a thought.
@@40OverFashion I do look at guys my age and wonder how they left the house wearing what they're wearing, but even if I dress it way down, I feel like I'm at least more put together than most of them. Like you said the bar is set so low. But yeah, just changing my shirt would step it up a notch.
I would suggest finding one that isn’t attached to a dry cleaner. In my experience, those places can do basic stuff, but an actual tailor generally does a better job. Just start searching Google for your area.
Great video, John. A man isn’t defined solely on what he does for work. Quick question relating to collars: How do you feel about Mandarin collar shirts?
I wear black hugo boss sneakers with a light brown cargo pants with a grey blazer kind of jacket with buttons ,i am in the late 30s of age. It does make a difference how people look at you when your are dressed to your age
Find one that specializes in tailoring, not just dry cleaning. The tailor I use is a dedicated tailor that works on military uniforms, and wedding dresses. Try to find someone like that in your area.
I have a question on which I think you may be able to shed some insight. I currently drive a Toyota Tacoma pickup truck. It’s ideal for my lifestyle as I have two big dogs, my family and I love outdoors adventures in all seasons, and my truck accommodates my lifestyle. However, sometimes, when I’m dressed up and taking my wife out for a night on the town, we take her car, because the Tacoma doesn’t fit the “dressy” venues and there seems to be a disconnect between the way I dress and the car I drive. What are your thoughts on driving a car that matches the way you dress vs the general lifestyle you have? By the way, I have a white collar career.
Feels a bit out of place when I show up to a nice winery or restaurant in a rugged off road truck and step up suited and booted! 😂 Perhaps Uber is the answer!
Men don't need to "defend" their manliness to men. Good tips on the fashion, some of us never got that advice growing up. John, are you familiar with "The Good Men Project?" I have a link to an article from 2019 I would like to share, with your permission. The article addresses your intro to your video and I would be curious to hear a review.
Hey there, pls make some videos on how to reduce belly fat at home(infact its not ur subject but then also), and what n how to wear if someone has a belly, which often people around 40's gain a bit.
I agree with you Jhon😀😉is very interesting this topic about how to be a real man, thanks for your sugestions and tips Greetings from the Port of Manzanillo in Mexico😀🇲🇽
John, just sent you an email. Along those lines, how about a focused "Polished Casual" for over 60 types video or maybe a play list? Thanks for posting. Keep up the great work!
Although you taste is somewhat different that mine, I like your general view of style. As I have said before, here in Western Canada, style is extremely casual. Hence, even when I wear an elevated casual style I garner a lot of looks. (Even at 74)
Extra hint content in this video - a collar is called button down and a shirt is called button up. A "button down shirt" is a shirt with a button down collar. Or to be accurate - its a button up shirt with a button down collar.
Yes, exactly! A shirt with a button-down collar, would be called a button-down shirt. If the shirt does not have a button-down collar, it would be a button up shirt. :)
When it comes to work, being a man in my opinion means working hard and with integrity to serve a greater good and purpose beyond one’s self. Ideally in an industry that you’re also passionate about and provides enough income to support basic needs for self and family
Nice video. Polo shirts are more elegant than T-Shirts, but sometimes it's nice to wear T-Shirts, even with a big logo. I like slim fit and skinny fit jeans, even in my fifties. I like Converse sneakers, but I am also wearing loafers if I want to dress well. I am older, but I don't want to wear old man clothes.
How do you define "old man clothes?" My father-in-law (and most of the other people in his nursing home) tend to wear *athleisure* outfits. (Easy to put on and take off, even for those with declining manual dexterity and declining mental faculties.) After that, the next most common trend among the nursing home crowd is wearing ill-fitting clothes (i.e. clothes that used to fit them a decade or more ago when they purchased them, but no longer fit their aging physique).
@@karlr750 Yes althletic/very comfortable outfit could be for older people, especially if they don't wear that for any sporting activity. Too large/baggy clothes could be old man style, but now it's also a trend in fashion. May be very classic without any style is what I mean about old man clothes.
One should dress for the circumstances, and if appropriate, "one level higher." Where "one level higher" is appropriate (and maybe even some lesser circumstances), classic is always in style. Having said that, in the spring, summer, and fall, my everyday remains (short) gym shorts, plain/colored t-shirt, and Keen sandals - maybe when my weight loss goals are met, my out and about will be a bit more classy ;-)
OK, lemme tell you my truth about fashion and this is coming from a man who just turned 40 earlier this year. I wear checkered shirts, vests, causal pants, lots of necklaces, bracelets and rings. Also, there is nail polish, dress-like shoes and a fedora hat. Personally, I avoided hoodies, sneakers and baseball hats not because I am 40 but rather because I NEVER rocked them. I hope all of that is fair but it is my life and business because I know plenty of other men who are 40+ and they still rock out hoodies, baseball hats and sneakers which I respect. Every pathway of fashion for men who are 40+ should be celebrated.
To me, one intuitive way to define manliness is with statistics. There are physical traits and personality traits that are distributed unequally throughout the population - with a skew towards men. For example - most men are taller than most women, and most men are more aggressive than most women. So you might say that the higher you are on the distribution of traits that are more statistically pronounced among men than among women, the manlier you are. Under this definition, the manliest men in the world would be very tall, very strong, very aggressive, very impolite (women tend to be more polite than men), very non-empathetic, and very resistant to negative emotion. This is just to name a few traits. As you can see, most of the traits I described are not positive. Being pathologically resistant to negative emotions such as fear can have you take stupid risks and hurt or kill yourself. Being excessively aggressive will have you always getting into fights and more than likely end up in prison. Being very impolite will obviously give you a hard time in any professional environment. So by the above definition, you might say manliness is a trait that is the product of all those traits, and others that I missed. In other words, it is not a quality. It is not better to be more manly than less manly, in the same way it is not better to be more polite or less polite, or more aggressive than less aggressive. Each comes with advantages and disadvantages, depending on the context and your goals. It's about adapting what you're naturally given so that you can get what you want out of life.
Most people dress like garbage these days. Even see high school kids in oversized hoodies & sweat pants. Only people I ever see wearing suits are lawyers. Everyone looks like an over grown child.
A real man does it God's way and works hard and takes care of his family as for my opinion on office work and physical work I do not consider people that do office work real work
I have so called 'friends' that belittle me every time I see them. Most are labourers."Here's money bags, fellas!" It dies down when I pay for a few rounds. Fuck em! I studied to get three degrees (Politics, Classics English Literature, and Law). I made valuable career contacts. I worked my ass off to learn a marketable discipline that was not in the field of the three degrees I studied (Ethical Hacking, Systems Penetration, and Cyber Security). People that judge and ridicule you feom a lower station in life? They are unhappy with themselves, and you're an easy target for their failures in life.
I think a 40 yr old still can still pull off a very different style than a 50 or 60 yr old this should be mentioned in your videos and examples should be shown to appeal a broader audience. . Just my opinion Great vid
As a 58 year old Catholic, I wear a sport jacket to Mass. I get a lot of looks and comments from people telling me Mass is not a fashion contest. Remember, the only thing differentabout my dressing is the jacket (added to the chinos, dress shoes and dress shirt). You’d think that I was wearing a tux the way people act. Yes, I know a lot of Catholics are very casual in dress (the cargo shorts, t-shirts and flip flops are ridiculous), but it would be nice to be a bit more reverent and respectful when visiting God’s house.
I can’t believe you are supporting Collars & Co. I purchased one of their polo shirts and they are 100% polyester. A stylish gentleman does not wear pollster. The only fabrics a gentleman should wear are wool, cotton, linen and silk. N0 POLYESTER.
With graphic T-shirts I think it really depends on the situation. On one hand you can find yourself going out to eat at a nice establishment. In that case, it might not be appropriate to wear one. On the other hand, you could be taking your motorcycle out for a ride with friends and plan on stopping at some local place. In that case, it might be okay to wear one. In my opinion. It's okay to toss on an old shirt if you have to run down to the store to grab something real quick.
Just based upon my own experience, I can't think of a single situation where a graphic t-shirt would be better than a plain cotton t-shirt (in whatever color I prefer). The plain t-shirt will make me look more grown-up ... and less like a man-child. In addition, the plain t-shirt will cost about 75% less than a graphic t-shirt of similar quality. The only situations where I prefer an (old but still serviceable) graphic t-shirt is when I *know* that I'm going to get the t-shirt filthy. There's no point in ruining the better t-shirt.
@@karlr750 Self promotion. I watched a video on the Beard Brand Alliance channel and Greg Berzinsky, who is over 60, wore a graphic t-shirt with their logo on it. Unity. Some families do this for reunions. Some companies do this for company outings. Some motorcycle riders do this if they're going to a rally or a ride in support of something.
Women absolutely hate graphic t shirts. If possible, they hate them worse than cargo shorts. No upside, nada, nil. Even if you are a rock star or pro athlete, you look better to them NOT wearing a graphic T.
Then people like Beethoven, Tesla, Van Gogh, or Newton are not real men😂…including myself who has worked in McKinsey and Bain & co and I am a published poet. None of them, including myself, were married and had children. Frankly speaking, I’d like to be associated with those unreal men than real men.
U dress according to personal taste mood and physiology! Not sure what dressing like a man is, with endless culture having men wearing skirt (scotland) dresses (many african countries and persian), corset in Europe (France) etc etc, not talking about the romans egyptians till modern days
Being a man has NOTHING to do with your profession. How you earn a living is not your identity, it’s a means to fund your life, nothing more and nothing less. We need to quit glorifying this and instead push for maximum life enjoyment.
My "matter of fact" comment was deleted. Why? An honest and factual opinion that reflected similar thoughts of many other posts here. A turn off to me and other viewers watching your videos, if I cannot agree with you and state blunt facts about todays younger careless male dresser. If I have to be so carful of what I say, why bother posting? I rarely comment on any digital platforms and find it so interesting how one has to be so carful of stating the obvious and having to worry about hurting feelings of others. Pathetic. Be honest and say it like a man to the point. Replies are encouraged..................
If you’re asking me, I didn’t delete anything. The only comments I ever delete contain useless name-calling. RUclips has its own set of filters that will delete comments that contain hate speech. I wouldn’t even see those.
@@40OverFashion That is what I figured. I rarely comment here and follow many channels on fasion, cars, watches, electronics, hi-fi, music, finance, bodybuilding, cycling, water skiing and more. The verbal bantor between posters when they get so heated up, narcististic, insecure or other are really something. To see people get so upset or to have a Facebook algorithm delete or prevent a comment or opinion from being posted is a turnoff. I guess and I know that the 80's were such better times for everything!
No need to pre-defend your content. You consistently put out good content - your subscriber count is evidence of that. Keep up the good work.
I appreciate that!
John you don’t have to preface your thoughts with “in my opinion”. We watch you because your opinion is what we’re looking for. Don’t make any apologies for the people who are disagreeable about everything. You know your stuff on these subjects brother. 👍
I second that!
I worked picking fruit in the orchards, construction, building houses, digging foundations for houses, and was a roustabout for circus. Somewhere along the way I made the decision to change that life went to school and became an Architect. Never did the thought enter my mind that one job/profession was more or less manly’ than another. It was a decision to make a buck, nothing more than that.
Well said!
John knows the best when it comes to clothes and the rest👏🙏.
My Dad once told me that a man is not defined by what he does but rather the way he does it. This included how he treats others and his behavior. I've thought about this conversation on numerous occasions over the years as I consider it to be safe advice.
Well said!
I enjoy these videos. I am 60 and writing the manifesto of my next chapter. In a round about way these videos are informative for that process.
Appreciate you watching!
You are always an amazing person. A true legend and a master in your craft. Thank you for all the content that you provide for even guys like me trying to get better at what we do!
You are very welcome!
Brother, you are spot on with this video. I am not in total agreement with the tee shirt part. Let me explain. I have luxury tee shirts from London that really fit me well. I’m a 62 year old amateur bodybuilder and I love to wear perfect fitting clothes. I have worn these tees with a sports jacket and was able to pull it off! I agree with everything else you said and I appreciate your content. Thank you so much!
Thanks for sharing! I totally understand!
"Luxury" Tshirts? no tshirt should cost more than $10!!!
Thanks for all that you do mate! You help more then you know....
Thank you!
A real man is the one that behaves properly. And yes, dressing for our age is part of the process of achieving maturity
That sounds more like a gent.
Well said!
@@marksimons8861 exactly.
What you wear has nothing to do with you being a man or not, nor does it equal or lead to maturity.
Maturity is about understanding what is important in following social codes, and what is no. It’s also to keep true to yourself, as long as it does not hurt anything else it’s not wrong, it’s taste and interest.
How you dress, does not hurt anyone. Yes, you can use your clothing for first impressions and manage how/what people think of you, managing social code and norm of a certain group of people. But that’s a different story, and has nothing to do with maturity or being a man or boy.
It’s exactly this line of thinking which kills innovation, fun and personality, what kills you the person. Adhearing to non-important rules.
There are plenty if mature men, wearing tshirts with prints on, or simple other styles of clothing beyond plain tshirts and shirt with a collar.
Advicing about keeping a specific style and saying everything else is immature is being oppionate about a topic where there are no set/fixed solution. That is okay if course, it’s your oppinion, but it’s not fact or truth.
Widen your view please. 🙂
With all kindness though, you have style and for the ones who likes that kind of clothing your opinion matters. 👍🏼🙂
To be transparent, sometimes I like the style you teach. But I identify being a man of music, and I like a rougher style in general which doesn’t make me less well-dressed, mature or less of a man. It’s just a different style.
Keep the styling tips coming, but stay off the oppionated topics if you want to keep the audience that have you as an inspiration but not take you word by word.
@@FranzenCODM I understand your point. What we meant is for some people, having an office job is less manly than a blue collar job. That's why we mentioned the clothes. No one is more or less man because of the job or clothes.
Ideas AND inspiration are always appreciated John.
Ha! Thank you Andy!
I''m 65 and I enjoy your videos and appreciate your views on age appropriate style but I have a lot of fun with vintage (and vintage appearing) rock band concert tees under a V neck sweater or V-neck cardigan and chinos with nice loafers or drivers, I get a lot of attention(positive!!) from people wondering what is peeking from my sweaters.
Interesting topic and I have to generally agree with all your points. I just turned 62 and for most of my life I tried to dress as casually as I could get away with. In the past year though, I decided that it was finally time to start dressing like an adult. I discovered your channel, and a few others, that have been extremely helpful. I now enjoy dressing better on a consistent basis. At the moment, even though I work from home, I’m wearing a polo shirt and chinos, neither of which I would have worn a couple years ago unless it was required of me.
Love it! Thanks for sharing!
I have 3 collar and Co. polos and love them. I’m guilty of also loving my graphic tshirts. I had all of them made into a giant quilt but somehow I now have a new big stack. I also wear a tux most weekends for my job as a 62 self employed for 27 years, wedding DJ. I never really grew up.
Hey brother. I’m a retired Navy fighter pilot so the man card is not in question. I love your aesthetic with clothing. I dress similarly, in my early 60s, although I wear tailored untucked shirts as my belly as bigger. Keep rocking your style. You are an icon. Fashion is fleeting. Style is timeless.
Thank you for your service! Appreciate your comment!
John, could you do a video on watches and when to wear different watch types with certain outfits? Thanks!
Noted! Thanks!
Can you say where you got the dress pants from? I know my pleated pants are dated and it's time to upgrade.
Yeah, sorry about that. The reason I didn’t list it in the description is because they’re both no longer available. The blue pair is from Penguin that I got at Nordstrom rack, and the gray pair is from Zara from about three years ago.
Since I've been watching your videos over the last few weeks, I immediatley upgraded my shoes. Amazed by how many women not only noticed and complimented them, but even made comment of my older worn out shoes. Glad I tossed those. Thanks for the advice as always.
My pleasure! Thanks for watching!
Thanks Jon, a man knows who is, and what he wants, and is satisfied with the results. Be the man you want to be.
Love the phrase "polished casual.
Thank you!
I love all your advice and suggestions. Keep up the great work. Just wondering which shirt from Collars and Co. you're wearing in this video and also where you purchase your Chinos? Thank you
The shirt is the Montana style. As with Ginos, I have many different brands. Express, banana Republic, John Henric, perk, and bonobos.
It takes a real man to be a good dad, if you choose to have kids.
Real men to have children?????? What if that man CAN’T have children?? What if that man DOESN’T WANT children??
Went to a high end steak house recently and couldn’t believe how many men were wearing cargo shorts, T-shirts, and flip flops. The manager came by to ask how we enjoyed our meal. I mentioned the dress of people and he laughed telling me about how people would show up for interviews wearing worse. 😂 He went on to say these people would be puzzled when he told them they should dress better if they expected to serve $150 steaks to his customers!
That’s crazy! What happened to style? :)
A terrible trend ... and what's more, they'd never even visit a tailor
Always enjoy your videos. A real man is someone who treats others with respect and kindness.
Always!
I certainly agree with you, John! Talk about men's fragrances again, please, when you have a chance. I enjoyed the video! 💯
Will do! Thank you!
@40OverFashion You're very welcome! Again, Thanks...
I enjoyed the intro. There are no duels on fashion advice. At least not in this age demographic. I pretty much agree with just about everything you said. I wear the custom slim Ralph Lauren polo, and skinny jeans because I’m pretty darn thin. Tried a “slim” and it’s baggy on me.
Appreciate that!
Love these vids, I’m a Brit, a country living Brit, I try to include tweed into everything I wear.
I love getting dressed, I love choosing what I’m wearing for the day
Those were some nice fabrics I liked every one of them..
I truly follow your advice John, but with a middle aged tire roll, I tend to wear untucked dress shirts to conceal the donut. And at 63, it’s not getting any easier. Great post that I shared with my youngest son!
Good on you 👍
I’m 59. You CAN lose that roll. Get a good elliptical and cut back on your calories. I’ve dropped 30 pounds and I have 25 to go. Don’t give up! 👍🏻
@@chuckcribbs3398 thank you! Recent back surgery has caused havoc on my body, but I will get there. Thanks again for your confidence in me!
Thanks for sharing!
Cut the carbs, I don’t mean keto, just half them at least, it’ll amaze you
Are you wearing the slick collar device in this video? I’m still deciding on getting one.
Not today, but they’re worth it!
You needed a Collars & Co shirt in your last video 😂. Burn! Love your videos!!!!
Haha!
My dad always would change into a polo and chinos even if it was just to run a quick errand. He could be at home on the weekend in an old T-shirt and shorts, my mom would send him out on an errand, and he'd go and change to head out into public. I want that discipline as well, but most of the time I'm just too lazy and I also have that attitude of who cares what others think. I dress up for work and even if I'm in a T-shirt and shorts, I make sure it looks good together, but I think I want to level up my style and start looking more mature-I just turned 54 last weekend.
Good man! Try this. The next time you’re out and you see a guy roughly your age, and he’s stressed in a T-shirt and shorts and appears sloppy, imagine yourself looking like that to other people. Just a thought.
@@40OverFashion I do look at guys my age and wonder how they left the house wearing what they're wearing, but even if I dress it way down, I feel like I'm at least more put together than most of them. Like you said the bar is set so low. But yeah, just changing my shirt would step it up a notch.
You mentioned how some of your clothes are at your tailor. Any tips on finding a good tailor?
I would suggest finding one that isn’t attached to a dry cleaner. In my experience, those places can do basic stuff, but an actual tailor generally does a better job. Just start searching Google for your area.
@@40OverFashion Thank You!
Hey John... out of the 4 different collars and co. Collar styles which one is the most common?
I would probably say the button down collar. I also like the spread.
Thank you.
Great video, John. A man isn’t defined solely on what he does for work.
Quick question relating to collars: How do you feel about Mandarin collar shirts?
I like them, although I don’t own any. Maybe I need to look for one.
Great videos and great advice thank you for giving me lots of sensible ideas for upgrading my wardrobe. Keep up the good work 👌
Thank you!
I wear black hugo boss sneakers with a light brown cargo pants with a grey blazer kind of jacket with buttons ,i am in the late 30s of age. It does make a difference how people look at you when your are dressed to your age
I have been following your style advices from Bangladesh since 2018.
Thank you very much!
I enjoy watching your videos. I still have hope!! Thank you for the tips!!
My pleasure!
Good stuff John, thanks!
My pleasure!
John, how did you pick out your tailor?
Find one that specializes in tailoring, not just dry cleaning. The tailor I use is a dedicated tailor that works on military uniforms, and wedding dresses. Try to find someone like that in your area.
@@40OverFashion Thanks!
Totally agree..
I Like your taste.. and videos
Keep it coming 😊
Thank you! Will do!
Great video and tips John!!!
Thank you!
I have a question on which I think you may be able to shed some insight. I currently drive a Toyota Tacoma pickup truck. It’s ideal for my lifestyle as I have two big dogs, my family and I love outdoors adventures in all seasons, and my truck accommodates my lifestyle. However, sometimes, when I’m dressed up and taking my wife out for a night on the town, we take her car, because the Tacoma doesn’t fit the “dressy” venues and there seems to be a disconnect between the way I dress and the car I drive. What are your thoughts on driving a car that matches the way you dress vs the general lifestyle you have? By the way, I have a white collar career.
Yeah, I totally get it. We all can’t have a bunch of cars for a bunch of different occasions, but that would be nice! :)
Feels a bit out of place when I show up to a nice winery or restaurant in a rugged off road truck and step up suited and booted! 😂 Perhaps Uber is the answer!
Was just thinking - have you done anything about hats yet? I'd quite like to see your take on hats.
Actually, no, I haven’t.
Well said intro..
Good stuff as usual John 😊🎉❤💯!
Much appreciated!
Men don't need to "defend" their manliness to men. Good tips on the fashion, some of us never got that advice growing up. John, are you familiar with "The Good Men Project?" I have a link to an article from 2019 I would like to share, with your permission. The article addresses your intro to your video and I would be curious to hear a review.
Absolutely! My email address is inside the info tab on my main RUclips channel homepage
John, just emailed it. Look for "Article link per recent youtube video." Thanks, good sir!
Hey there, pls make some videos on how to reduce belly fat at home(infact its not ur subject but then also), and what n how to wear if someone has a belly, which often people around 40's gain a bit.
Thanks for the suggestion! Search my channel for beer belly. I made a video a while ago. Maybe it’s time to do another one. Thanks again!
I agree with you Jhon😀😉is very interesting this topic about how to be a real man, thanks for your sugestions and tips Greetings from the Port of Manzanillo in Mexico😀🇲🇽
My pleasure!
John, just sent you an email. Along those lines, how about a focused "Polished Casual" for over 60 types video or maybe a play list? Thanks for posting. Keep up the great work!
Thanks for the idea!
Polos with stiffened collars are absolutely where it’s at for polos.
Although you taste is somewhat different that mine, I like your general view of style. As I have said before, here in Western Canada, style is extremely casual. Hence, even when I wear an elevated casual style I garner a lot of looks. (Even at 74)
Yep, totally agree!
Extra hint content in this video - a collar is called button down and a shirt is called button up. A "button down shirt" is a shirt with a button down collar. Or to be accurate - its a button up shirt with a button down collar.
Yes, exactly! A shirt with a button-down collar, would be called a button-down shirt. If the shirt does not have a button-down collar, it would be a button up shirt. :)
"We're not curing cancer." LMAO! 😂😂😂
Haha!
Appreciate your channel
Thank you!
Good video John. Wantt ro be treated like a respected man, start by looking and behaving like one.
Exactly!
John I notice that guys working in cities tend to do the style thing better ..
Good point!
When it comes to work, being a man in my opinion means working hard and with integrity to serve a greater good and purpose beyond one’s self. Ideally in an industry that you’re also passionate about and provides enough income to support basic needs for self and family
Well said!
Nice video. Polo shirts are more elegant than T-Shirts, but sometimes it's nice to wear T-Shirts, even with a big logo.
I like slim fit and skinny fit jeans, even in my fifties. I like Converse sneakers, but I am also wearing loafers if I want to dress well. I am older, but I don't want to wear old man clothes.
How do you define "old man clothes?" My father-in-law (and most of the other people in his nursing home) tend to wear *athleisure* outfits. (Easy to put on and take off, even for those with declining manual dexterity and declining mental faculties.)
After that, the next most common trend among the nursing home crowd is wearing ill-fitting clothes (i.e. clothes that used to fit them a decade or more ago when they purchased them, but no longer fit their aging physique).
@@karlr750 Yes althletic/very comfortable outfit could be for older people, especially if they don't wear that for any sporting activity. Too large/baggy clothes could be old man style, but now it's also a trend in fashion.
May be very classic without any style is what I mean about old man clothes.
Polished casual I found my calling 👍🏽
Yes!!!
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Nice! Thanks!
One should dress for the circumstances, and if appropriate, "one level higher." Where "one level higher" is appropriate (and maybe even some lesser circumstances), classic is always in style.
Having said that, in the spring, summer, and fall, my everyday remains (short) gym shorts, plain/colored t-shirt, and Keen sandals - maybe when my weight loss goals are met, my out and about will be a bit more classy ;-)
I agree 100% with what u said
Thank you!
dope eg6
Ha! Thanks!
Wearing a collars & co polo right now....
Nice!!
Being confident without being cocky, being kind even when dealing with the unkind🧐
OK, lemme tell you my truth about fashion and this is coming from a man who just turned 40 earlier this year. I wear checkered shirts, vests, causal pants, lots of necklaces, bracelets and rings. Also, there is nail polish, dress-like shoes and a fedora hat. Personally, I avoided hoodies, sneakers and baseball hats not because I am 40 but rather because I NEVER rocked them. I hope all of that is fair but it is my life and business because I know plenty of other men who are 40+ and they still rock out hoodies, baseball hats and sneakers which I respect. Every pathway of fashion for men who are 40+ should be celebrated.
Work has nothing to do with being, or not being a man. Being a man is an attitude, a presence.
“Don’t wear a t-shirt anywhere…wear these polo shirts, brought to you by my sponsor” lost you at that one. Cya
Good video
Thank you!
Good video God bless
Thanks, you too!
To me, one intuitive way to define manliness is with statistics. There are physical traits and personality traits that are distributed unequally throughout the population - with a skew towards men. For example - most men are taller than most women, and most men are more aggressive than most women. So you might say that the higher you are on the distribution of traits that are more statistically pronounced among men than among women, the manlier you are.
Under this definition, the manliest men in the world would be very tall, very strong, very aggressive, very impolite (women tend to be more polite than men), very non-empathetic, and very resistant to negative emotion. This is just to name a few traits.
As you can see, most of the traits I described are not positive. Being pathologically resistant to negative emotions such as fear can have you take stupid risks and hurt or kill yourself. Being excessively aggressive will have you always getting into fights and more than likely end up in prison. Being very impolite will obviously give you a hard time in any professional environment.
So by the above definition, you might say manliness is a trait that is the product of all those traits, and others that I missed. In other words, it is not a quality. It is not better to be more manly than less manly, in the same way it is not better to be more polite or less polite, or more aggressive than less aggressive. Each comes with advantages and disadvantages, depending on the context and your goals. It's about adapting what you're naturally given so that you can get what you want out of life.
Good video sir,
Thank you!
Most people dress like garbage these days. Even see high school kids in oversized hoodies & sweat pants. Only people I ever see wearing suits are lawyers. Everyone looks like an over grown child.
True!
A real man does it God's way and works hard and takes care of his family as for my opinion on office work and physical work I do not consider people that do office work real work
I have so called 'friends' that belittle me every time I see them. Most are labourers."Here's money bags, fellas!" It dies down when I pay for a few rounds.
Fuck em! I studied to get three degrees (Politics, Classics English Literature, and Law). I made valuable career contacts. I worked my ass off to learn a marketable discipline that was not in the field of the three degrees I studied (Ethical Hacking, Systems Penetration, and Cyber Security).
People that judge and ridicule you feom a lower station in life? They are unhappy with themselves, and you're an easy target for their failures in life.
Very well said!
I think a 40 yr old still can still pull off a very different style than a 50 or 60 yr old this should be mentioned in your videos and examples should be shown to appeal a broader audience. . Just my opinion
Great vid
Thank you!
I was always taught a real man will take care of his family and be there for them
As a 58 year old Catholic, I wear a sport jacket to Mass. I get a lot of looks and comments from people telling me Mass is not a fashion contest. Remember, the only thing differentabout my dressing is the jacket (added to the chinos, dress shoes and dress shirt). You’d think that I was wearing a tux the way people act. Yes, I know a lot of Catholics are very casual in dress (the cargo shorts, t-shirts and flip flops are ridiculous), but it would be nice to be a bit more reverent and respectful when visiting God’s house.
I agree i think its highly disrespectful to go to church in flip flops etc. they are inwardly threatened and shamed by you , thats their problem
@@noName-kn1lxYes, and I bet that if they were visiting a Congressman at the White House, they would dress up for that. Very odd.
@@jonathanl2748 or their boss about a raise .
Ahem; brother! It is time for all of us to look grown up.
Agreed!
John It's wild to me that you actually have to give a disclaimer before a video like this 🤦🏻♂️
Yep! You’d be surprised :)
I can’t believe you are supporting Collars & Co. I purchased one of their polo shirts and they are 100% polyester. A stylish gentleman does not wear pollster. The only fabrics a gentleman should wear are wool, cotton, linen and silk. N0 POLYESTER.
With graphic T-shirts I think it really depends on the situation. On one hand you can find yourself going out to eat at a nice establishment. In that case, it might not be appropriate to wear one. On the other hand, you could be taking your motorcycle out for a ride with friends and plan on stopping at some local place. In that case, it might be okay to wear one. In my opinion. It's okay to toss on an old shirt if you have to run down to the store to grab something real quick.
Yep, understood!
Just based upon my own experience, I can't think of a single situation where a graphic t-shirt would be better than a plain cotton t-shirt (in whatever color I prefer). The plain t-shirt will make me look more grown-up ... and less like a man-child. In addition, the plain t-shirt will cost about 75% less than a graphic t-shirt of similar quality.
The only situations where I prefer an (old but still serviceable) graphic t-shirt is when I *know* that I'm going to get the t-shirt filthy. There's no point in ruining the better t-shirt.
@@karlr750 Self promotion. I watched a video on the Beard Brand Alliance channel and Greg Berzinsky, who is over 60, wore a graphic t-shirt with their logo on it. Unity. Some families do this for reunions. Some companies do this for company outings. Some motorcycle riders do this if they're going to a rally or a ride in support of something.
Women absolutely hate graphic t shirts. If possible, they hate them worse than cargo shorts. No upside, nada, nil.
Even if you are a rock star or pro athlete, you look better to them NOT wearing a graphic T.
@@michaelblazin4093 I simply love broad statements like this.
Then people like Beethoven, Tesla, Van Gogh, or Newton are not real men😂…including myself who has worked in McKinsey and Bain & co and I am a published poet. None of them, including myself, were married and had children. Frankly speaking, I’d like to be associated with those unreal men than real men.
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Had to unsubscribe. I feel like these videos have become advertisement.
Sorry to see you go. Appreciate the feedback.
How do you think he makes a living? We’re all in sales in one way or another.
@@jonathanl2748 Agreed, maybe not for a full third of the video. Thanks for reaching out
@@40OverFashion didn't leave I was just being petty for a second. Yikes
Sponsored by collard?
feel like loafers are more 60 and up
Quite the opposite actually. Young guys are jumping on board like wildfire.
I guess being a doctor and saving the lives of "real men" makes me less of a man. Dang
I guess you missed the entire first three minutes of the video.
U dress according to personal taste mood and physiology! Not sure what dressing like a man is, with endless culture having men wearing skirt (scotland) dresses (many african countries and persian), corset in Europe (France) etc etc, not talking about the romans egyptians till modern days
Absolutely!
Thick soles are a neo classic
Please don't start making videos just because of sponsors. Like some other channels
Too many men are growing older but not growing up. The silly beards tattoos hat backwards crummy clothes are a dead giveaway
Dress how you want anyone who tells you how to dress as mental health issues its non of there business
Being a man has NOTHING to do with your profession. How you earn a living is not your identity, it’s a means to fund your life, nothing more and nothing less. We need to quit glorifying this and instead push for maximum life enjoyment.
It's sad that you had to waste a few minutes of the video on those with insecurities about themselves.
My "matter of fact" comment was deleted. Why? An honest and factual opinion that reflected similar thoughts of many other posts here. A turn off to me and other viewers watching your videos, if I cannot agree with you and state blunt facts about todays younger careless male dresser. If I have to be so carful of what I say, why bother posting? I rarely comment on any digital platforms and find it so interesting how one has to be so carful of stating the obvious and having to worry about hurting feelings of others. Pathetic. Be honest and say it like a man to the point. Replies are encouraged..................
If you’re asking me, I didn’t delete anything. The only comments I ever delete contain useless name-calling. RUclips has its own set of filters that will delete comments that contain hate speech. I wouldn’t even see those.
@@40OverFashion That is what I figured. I rarely comment here and follow many channels on fasion, cars, watches, electronics, hi-fi, music, finance, bodybuilding, cycling, water skiing and more. The verbal bantor between posters when they get so heated up, narcististic, insecure or other are really something. To see people get so upset or to have a Facebook algorithm delete or prevent a comment or opinion from being posted is a turnoff. I guess and I know that the 80's were such better times for everything!
@@68wrkoyoutube deletions are usually ridiculous and often i bet done by a 23 year old gender studies intern
Don't feed the trolls.