"You're Still Fighting This? Dude, Get Over It."
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- Опубликовано: 21 сен 2015
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Paul Lalonde would watch a homophobic Christian TV personality every Sunday evening. Unexpectedly, he ended up in the same room with his nemesis and had a surprising feeling.
(Gay | Homophobe | Activism | Canada) [TV-PG]
www.imfromdriftwood.com aims to help lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and queer people learn more about their community, straight people learn more about their neighbors and everyone learn more about themselves through the power of storytelling and storysharing.
I simply love this channel.
+Cethem Cattrall Thanks! That means a lot. :)
I do too
Very uplifting!!
Likewise.
My dad is a conservative Baptist preacher and has been my whole life, I was raised in the church and heard it all, it was hard to tell him I was gay and I would have bet anything that he would disown me, I told him in a letter so that we wouldnt argue and I did not see him for almost a week and when I did see him it was awkward at first but now we are good and talk all the time, he was met my boyfriend who I have been with for over 3 yrs and he accepts him and gets along with him, all I can say is the least person you think would accept is may suprise you.
@Duff Clem
Cher, for example.
@Doffy Rob it's always easier to "accept" something when you're just looking at it as some abstract idea, then when it's in your own backyard.
I am very glad for you! I wish you the best of life!
You have a good Dad.
you can thank 50 years of activism for your dad's response.
Thank you. I came out in 1974 at 18 in NY where I grew up. Five years after Stonewall. We were always angry then, because we had to be. If you can be calm and positive, that's always better. But I just want to go on record to say that there were 4 decades before this in which some awesome, angry Gay people had to be out in the streets. We brought down the house, from NY to Toronto, and every place in between. I'm so glad you younger Gay people have it much easier - after all, that's why we fought as hard as we did against the police and the haters. But please never forget the angry Gay people who came before you. XO
Paul, you are a beautiful man, inside and out. I'm an American counselor of LGBTQ youth and I am given so much hope by your articulate presence and mindset. Most of the guys I counsel are a decade younger than you. So, it is so good to see those in your ranks leading those younger. I am so happy for you that you found your voice at a relatively early age. You are doing tremendous good through your life and words. Thank you, bro..............Ray
okimlistening2u would you say that same comment if he was an average looking guy?
okimlistening2u
Really well stated OK. This guy is a WINNER!!!
Rock on! You makecalot of people proud for all the right reasons!! Bravo!
Nikhil Sukumar, I expect not. It's against the teachings of a counselor to judge on the basis of external appearance. They are simply there to listen; to make the client see the good and heal their own negativity which was their self-harm.
Go fuck yourself, Glass
Go fuck yourself, Glass
Hate gets people nowhere. Just be sad for them. That is all they have is hate and it eats up inside of them.
Paul Lalonde: Thank you for speaking out and being a voice for peace & unity.
Great video and great advise. Be positive and stay positive, don't let negative people pull you down. I hope this guy has found love, marriage, has started a family and is happy ... we all deserve that.
Wow. Thanks for this. So articulate. I have spent my whole life afraid of what people think and realizing that those who really matter are the only ones who really matter.
I’m not religious but I am a gay woman and seeing people fight so hard for their rights is beautiful. We truely care about this subject and when we get put down because of who we love of who we, are it’s upsetting. Just respect everyone no matter who they are, who they love or where they’re from.
I have many lgbt friends, but we never really talk about our coming out stories. Maybe because it is just an understood painful history for some...perhaps it's something we all just moved on from.. but we never really talk about these types of stories or other uncomfortable moments in our lives. It is so refreshing to hear these anecdotes from other members of our community. It reminds me that there are other people out there who have gone through similar negative experiences, but who have also overcome them. I really enjoy this channel for it's wide and diverse message and inclusion from all perspectives. Keep it up!
Great story, Paul! I hope this story shares a message of unity to everyone.
I always look forward to these videos
+zack munez Thanks for watching, we're so glad you like them!
You sound just like my husband. He worked so hard day and night for gay rights and marriage. Matthew D'Amario is my husband and a episcopal priest. St. Paul's By The Sea in Ocean City MD. Love. Respect and up front honesty and God topping you cake will set you free for a happy life. Thank you man and if you come to Ocean City come stay with us. Thanks man for all your hard work its very much appreciated.
Bravo... and what a cute guy!
Hell Yeah!!!!!!!
Wow! I was inspired. I don't understand the hate either. The gay community is not going to stop you from living, breathing, working etc... So let them live their lives and you live yours. God Bless!
Thank You for your positive message. Its appreciated!
I am enjoying all of the stories on this channel. What a great channel. I love it.
What a powerful statement and so timely! I felt a sense of pride as I heard a member of MY ‘tribe’ call for compassion and understanding; asking me to set aside those harder emotions, anger, hatred, resentment, and the desire for revenge in favour of a higher consciousness and understanding, acceptance, forgiveness and inclusion. The message of this channel is what is needed now, and spokespersons for this pov what we need. Thank you.
I love this channel so much now that I no longer want to watch any of their videos; I’m so afraid of getting done with them a little too soon. It’s like I want to save them for times which let me down. The moment that opening music falls on my ears a sensation of joy runs through my body and when the same music closes the monologue I’m already soaring in a sky of peace, filling my lungs with nostalgia. Thank you so much :]
I jus love this channel👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👌🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
+prateek guddoo Thanks! Glad you love it. :)
You don’t have to prove someone wrong when you know your right. That’s the power of truth, it’s simply true.
My dad is a Baptist preacher and real conservative and I listened to thousands of sermons thought my life from a child to adulthood about being gay and I am gay, I have seen more Hippocrates in a church than anyplace else.
Hypocrite
Well put young man
For encouragement, In Australia we had a voluntary survey on whether Same Sex Marriage should be legalized. The result was 77.5% YES and 22% No. I was a Baptist Pastor at one time and I am gay. It was great to learn that after all the rhetoric against Same Sex Marriage, in the end they only represented 22% of the population. Same Sex Marriage is now legal in Australia.
I am so happy that millenials are leaving Christianity behind. My love and goodness is equal to anyone else's, and often, even better.
Tory-Aiden Mann Good luck in eternal torment
Yes, your self-righteousness is evident.
Magpie Randoms THOSE WHO DENY GOD HE WILL DENY YOU IN HEAVEN
Joseph Laforsch It's called righteous judgement
Joseph Laforsch God made pie holes for excreting feces/ waste .
NOTHING TO ADD! HE SAID IT ALL, LOVE THE VID. MUCH LOVE*
It should go without saying that "hell", "heaven" and "God" are ancient man-made concepts, imbued with characteristics that were good for men at different times of history. This is not to say that nothing greater than man might exist, but if it exists, it is clearly neutral regarding human diversity.
Good point. If you could use a few arguments, or if you have problems for religious/cultural reasons, this can help you: “On Human Suffering and the Concept of God” - the psychological origin of religious beliefs.
neomodernistpoetry.blogspot.com/2018/11/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
or homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2018/06/on-human-suffering-and-concept-of-god.html
Also homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2013/12/about-patriarch-phil-robertsonduck.html
I'm in love with this dude.
I'm in lust with a lot of then I see on here.
This man's beauty is inside. That is the impression he gives me. And he is also quite attractive.
Love his voice. It is so comforting
Paul, you are a Nobile soul!
Thank You!!! Rock on!
this boy is an excellent role model for the youth of today
Be yourself... live your truth... the ones who have a problem are those who reject, accuse or judge you. Best wishes...
Ah! This was adorable! Great message :)
“The trains won’t be on time” 😂
Great words
Words of great wisdom.
You're Awesome!😊
I love these videos too. Thanks And he is so cute
I'm an atheist, but even I have read the Bible. Neither Jesus nor any of his disciples ever mentioned homosexuality, let alone condemned it. Only Paul, who never met Jesus, never heard a single one of his sermons or parables, mentioned homosexuality. Don't Christians bother to read their own Bible? Or do they consider the words of Paul to be more important than those of their Christ?
Unlike me ≠ bad. Mull it over, world
Most of these videos are great. So inspiring and brave. I wish more people watched this and less people watched some gay youtubers whose videos I find problematic, to say the least.
Let's face it: gay men tend to be very self-centered and narcissistic.
Frank Paya unlike straight guys 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I'm sorry but I can't accept hate, I've dealt with it for way too long.
I'm old enough to remember Anita Bryant and John Briggs. Whatever discrimination we face today, it was worse in the 1970's! But even in 1978, we defeated the Briggs initiative that would have fired any teacher who "promotes homosexuality". We did it because Harvey Milk inspired thousands of gays and lesbians to come out - and this changed public opinion. People who personally know LGBTQ+ become unable to defend discrimination.🌈
im 43 years old and still fighting this feeling.
+Hector Lalalala Why fight it?
+MrJohnsolomon because some ppl hate homosexuals, make fun of them, and reject them. I hate being different
+Hector Lalalala u hate bing different????? well even if ur gay or not u are different u look different than anyone else u sound different u think different unless ur a sheep with no view on life...... ppl make hate agianst anything go watch some feminazi vidios that hate men by ur logic dose that mean u dont want to be a man as that makes u different??? be happy who u are and tell the hater to fuck off they are just jelous simple minded uneducated haters
Hector Lalalala The first thing learned when I decided to be honest with myself was that nobody hated me as much as I hated myself. But that's easy for me to say because I don't live in the USA: Although I do know people from there and they're happy gay men.
im still wrapped up in this emotion. Its not easy
I totally agree with what you said. I was raised in the church (southern bapt), mom was pianist/organist for 35-40 years, so you know where I was raised. I always used to put God first in my life. Then again, I was ALWAYS outside the box. Never belonged to clicks in skool, but wasn't a heilian. Most of my life, I have been alone, except the dogs that always came to me (labs for some reason). At forty, I found the one, and he was exquisite! Ballet dancer... Wuff.
He lasted 4 1/2 years and his parents demanded I take him home so they could look after him... I am in Georgia (Atl) and he was from Scranton, Pa. So I loaded the station wagon with his things and a trailer, and the cat and the dog , & off we went. Stayed there 3, 4 days with the cat stuck in the basement, and the dog tied up in the back yard. I couldn't take it, and I was feeling he would sense it, because they slept with us and they lived in the house. They said well we have a new baby,.... Like they couldn't tell me on the phone ahead of time. They were nice, but real shitheads. I did NOT want to leave HIM there, but he told me to. Long story short, the "kids" came home with me alone, he stayed there, and he called me period I my when he felt like being on the fone. A year later in June, I get a call from his sister telling me he died, and they buried him two weeks ago. I was floored. They did not want me up there, I would have toasted some ears. Heartbroken, I moved, got depressed, struggled to stay alive, the animals my only outlet. Took me 5 1/2 years to get my disability from SS, from a broken back at work, and shit for a settlement. I own a little dump with 1 1/2ac fenced in, where the cat &dog had their yard, and they are buried here. Another black lab came to me 3 years after my white one died. The cat died two months after him, she was raised with him, and couldn't take it without him. I have been alone for27 years, because my other half was the only one who ever took me AS I WAS, or trying to change me, or taking advantage of me or me of him, but I just put here with Shadow Love, on the acre & half, where she has free reign fenced in. She's absolutely the most loving of all, because after the last one (17.5 yrs), I said no more. Heartbreaking to put one down. But here she is. God works in mysterious ways, and I pray to him in the final tally, I won't be "an abomination" before God, as there ARE scriptures to that effect. " Thou shalt not sleep with a man as a woman... ". I don't care about hate mail, cause there is nothing I haven't heard before! Just tired of the restlessness. I have, and will always put God first, but I am what I am, and pray for forgiveness everyday! I repent of my sins like a broken record. There is no malice in my heart, but I've dealt with a great great deal of it. God forgive me of my sins, I thank the Lord for my blessings. Amen. Sermon over.
Just wanted to say my friend has the EXACT SAME MARK ON HER NOSE! I asked her if in her past life she had a nose ring. She laughed it off. I was serious.
This man is a hero.
“Dude, get over it.” I can think of so many situations I can use this! 😎
The gay priests are sadly the unlucky one’s, they didn’t get to where you are now. You took integrity and guts in the face of adversity and did it alone. You’re a bigger man. Be Happy ❤️
Great video, you are very inspiring, would love to have the name of that lgbtq assosc in Canada that you spoke of, it sounded like gate ?? love to learn more about the work they do, have done, take care, Douglas, Portland, oregon
Paul, kudos, good for you… i am glad this helped you know without a doubt, that you’re on the right road. Not every Christian’s agrees with that anti gay opinion…
That hilarious...the catholic church trying to stand on moral high ground.
Absolutely drips with irony!!
Gay rights are civil rights. I cannot understand why some people feel the need to denigrate gay folks when it has no bearing on them. Being gay is just another part of the human experience. Live an let live. It’s absolutely ok. 🇨🇦
Why do people care who we love? Why are people so judgemental? What another person/people do is completely not my business. I believe in God, I have been raised in church, but never experienced the negative part of it that so many do. That being said, at 50 I've seen it all over the years. To this day being religious to me shouldn't be about judging other individuals, I think the ones that do need to remember worry about themselves, what they do on a daily basis through out their life. Telling people your evil, your a sinner, you're going to hell. Well those saying this first you are a sinner for judging, secondly I didn't realize you were holding the keys to heaven. To this day it still blows my mind that everyone worries about what someone else is doing. Take note what are you trying to accomplish? Worry about getting your own keys to the gate; instead of trying to be the landlord.
I admire your courage to go undercover for the cause! There is one thing I’ve learned through decades of observation. Very, very often - I want to say always - at the core of any rabidly anti gay organization you will ultimately find the root cause will turn out to be one or more pathetic old closet cases.
I am still angry against these haters. They attack and hate us for no good reason. There are so much good these people could do with that time and recourses in the world - help starving children, stop environmental destruction, work for decent treatment for animals, help people with serious injuries or handikaps, but instead they focus on doing all they can to prevent us from trying to live our lives and being as happy as we can. God is not on their side regardless of what their bronze-age book is stating!
It seems they've now directed the bulk their efforts against trans people. And using the exact same lies, often word for word, that they once used against gay people. Oof.
note to all straight lawyers out there Divorce is big business think about it . get it?
Why do people think we live in a different world,we all live on the same planet ,don't we?love is the way.🥰
Great story.
I don't know about Canadian law, but I found the following mini-course in U. S. civil-rights law in the Comments of a popular website, and it is so good, I had to post it here:
OMG!!! OH MY GOD!!! BRAD PITT'S MOTHER (Jane Pitt) PENS ANTI-GAY-MARRIAGE LETTER!!! [to Mormon senator and presidential candidate, Mitt Romney]
Well, now we know why Jane's family is known as "the Pitts." (I hereby renounce any inspiration relating to "Pittbullshit".)
Marriage is not "matrimony." "Matrimony" is a religious value/concept which is not shared by all -- not even all Christian churches admit it as a "sacrament" -- and the First Amendment of the United States Constitution provides that a religious concept cannot be imposed by some citizens on others who do not share their religious views. Marriage is a civil status like incorporation -- indeed, it is a kind of incorporation. Through marriage, the state recognizes the common rights and obligations of two people. (The question of more than two has never been addressed constitutionally.) These legalities include the right to shared property and the obligation to honor debts contracted by the couple. And tax breaks and other arrangements with the state are also included. The rights and obligations of marriage are civil rights and therefore they may not be denied to any adult citizens capable of functioning as members of the state. Marriage is a civil right, and people must cease to deny the full exercise of this right to their fellow citizens.
I love this ❤️
I'm not gay myself but it's crazy to me that people are so stringent about things like this. They're almost militant about it. Why does it bother you if two gay guys want to get married? It's something that should be celebrated especially if it's true love. They lose their shit when two gay men want to marry but if a man and a woman married simply for some tax-dodging scheme they'd give it the okay. It's nonsensical. Idk if it's just because I'm from a younger generation (I'm 30) but it really does not bother me in the slightest. I guess because I'm not religious that probably factors in, but isn't the core principle of any religion to be compassionate and non-judgmental? Honestly if one of my sons grows up to be gay I hope he'd feel comfortable enough to tell me and feel comfortable in himself. I'd rather have a gay son than a dead son.
Good tale
it is his own bad that he wanted you put on your sholders....
Oh all I see in you is a beautiful man and lovely guy live ur life God creat everything and everybody so men separate men not God bcz all god need is love so ur are a love
Love this guy 👍
Christianity actually does not have a core of hatred. Its core is love, a set of skills to overcome hatred and to live in peace, justice, and harmony. Jesus spoke only of these, not once of hatred or violence against others.
Ha ha. What a joke!
Christianity = Hate
@@dansanger5340 - I'm sorry for whatever injustice and personal suffering you've had by individuals. Peace is what most people want in this world, but more than peace, love.
"Do you think I came to bring peace on earth? No, I tell you, but division. From now on there will be five in one family divided against each other, three against two and two against three. They will be divided, father against son and son against father, mother against daughter and daughter against mother, mother-in-law against daughter-in-law and daughter-in-law against mother-in-law.” - Luke 12:51
"Do not suppose that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn ‘a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law-
a man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.’" - Matthew 10:34
@@dansanger5340 -- In the Lucan quote Jesus says "divided", as in going down different paths because of belief. There's no suggestion of murderous violence.
Totally cute
I know wedding planners, florists bakers, and family law/ probate attorneys have gained new clientele. Gay folk have more choices to make in their personal lives, but otherwise there is zero impact to same sex marriage. I was hoping to get the right to marry who I wanted, before my eldest son got the right to marry who he wanted. It was close, but he actually turned 18 before Obergefell v Hodges came down.
Don’t ever judge a book by its cover.
One of the bible verses most quoted by those who are anti-gay is Leviticus 20:13, "If a man lies with a male as he lies with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them."
The problem for those supporting the anti-gay verse is that NO ONE follows most verses in Leviticus. People are not being put to death for cursing their mother and father in verse 9, nor for adultery in verse 10. They are not performing animal sacrifices per chapters 1-9, nor are they breaking dishes when someone has a venereal disease per chapter 15.
When we read the new testament gospels we find that those who upheld Mosaic law were the ones out to harm and kill Jesus. Jesus didn't follow all the Mosaic laws, he healed on the sabbath, his disciples weren’t fasting and he didn’t follow Leviticus 20:10 where those caught in adultery are to be killed. He instead said to the scribes and Pharisees, “He who is without sin, let him throw the first stone.”
Jesus introduced new teachings to replace the old. John 13:34 states, “A new commandment I give you, that you love one another; just as I have loved you, that you also love one another.”
Jesus was inclusive, tolerant and accepting of people’s differences and status in life. He spoke with the Samaritan woman at Jacob’s well when Jews were not supposed to socially interact. He ate with tax collectors and sinners. He healed the insane and the Roman centurion’s servant.
People should realize that breaking dishes for venereal disease, opposing LGBTQ+ lifestyles and animal/human sacrifice to appease God should be categorized as primitive, outdated beliefs.
Some so-called religious people claim those who are LGBTQ are going to hell. I have been to hundreds of seances with two of the finest mediums in the US. The spirit guide, Evening Star, talked about heaven and hell. She said they were different for different people. She cited the example of listening to rock n roll music. Some people would feel like they are in heaven while others would think they are in hell. “In my Father’s house are many mansions.” speaks of the variety and diversity in the Spirit World.
Please consider the following words from Rod McKuen, (not an exact quote, but close). "It does not matter who you love or how you love, but that you love. The good in man is God made manifest and loving is the contribution to that good and to that only God. For in the end the act of loving anyone is the act of loving God.”
So ......are you married?
Cool.
the real reason the guy was fighting it was because he was also.
I think I’m gonna stop watching these videos... Make me feel like I want to come out. I’m not ready for that!
Whyyyy is this me??😭😭😭 It would be so much more simple otherwise... 😭😭😭
Hope you are doing well. Did you come out?
Only to my best friend so far
That's the first step. I did the same thing. Hope your friend was supportive.
Ok.I wish everything is going well for you !
My friend was really supportive!
Thank you!
@@theovercomer7032 I'm happy to hear that. All the best my friend. X
❤️
Great point of view. Because. When the people. Thimk that fromthe gay comunity nothink good we can do this opinion is like a amazing point of view.
Let me get this straight (no pun intended): I can be a gay person, which was never a choice, AND I can be a Catholic in good standing but I am not permitted to live a life of committed monogamous love with the person that I've been in a long term relationship unless I somehow decide to what --- live a life as a celibate? I cannot present my parter as my partner but any two random heterosexuals going to Church are certainly free to do so? They can at whatever point they want get married but I am expected to live my life essentially alone? NO THANKS! That's going to be a hard pass. Been there, done that and all I got was a life of misery. Here is a bit of background: I met my partner when we were in our 20s. We converted to Catholicism and became very active in the parish. My partner got ill for several years and then died in 2001. I was told by my priest to keep quiet about my relationship and not to reveal what my partner died from (AIDS) which he contracted before we ever met. I lost someone of 17 years I was actually told to lie about the cause by the priest. He said, " If you tell anyone what _____ died of they'll think badly of you, him, the Church and me (the priest). Until the Church begins to truly recognize the humanity of gay people, I want nothing to do with Her.
You seem to look sad in some parts of this interview......;-(
He is yummy looking
People need to stop calling these people Christian .. The name is give with abandon without any standards .. It is a name that should be reserved for those who abide by the the teaching John 13:35
"By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another"
Shut up
@@BenniStrawberry_RUclips lol .. You proved my point .. Thanks
I’m both gay and Christian and take offense to this. T hi ink before you blurt out your unsupported opinion
@@BenniStrawberry_RUclips you don't understand my comment .. The so called Christians don't live up to the name .. They are just Christian in name like the evangelicals
Religious persecution of gays isn't about gays, it's about $$$$$$$$$$.
Haha, it sounds just like Trump!!!
Will people like him if he was unattractive or average looking?
I'd like him if he were on the radio. It's in his voice that his essential goodness is conveyed.
He looks average to me? Like, he's not ugly, but do you think he's extremely attractive?
Looks average, meaning good but not extraordinary.
The worthwhile people will
His actions in bringing equality makes him even more attractive . You should try being open minded , everyone likes to be accepted as they are
i m a flower of Jesus and you know what i love every one if you fin true love that onw prions you met to me with go for it no one shooed tell you you can love who you love you and your beloved and you wont to get married and have a further with that persona don't let any one tell you your wrong or you can be you and love the one you love God know everything true so am sure he see how coopeted like is in this worlds
At one point not even long ago it was sex is for reproduction and now that is so clinically stupid.
Shut up
Your not a terrible person. You are a broken person. Just like the rest of humanity. Jesus Christ is the great physician (healer).
Trust Him, and He will reveal the Truth to you, and show you the err of your ways. He will heal you
Jesus had 2 dads just saying you homophobic bigot
What beautiful man inside and out
You're Awesome!😊