@@mattr.1887 yep. Most trauma victims cause trauma to others. It's a vicious cycle that takes a lot of awareness and patience to break but most people don't have those things so they react the best way they know how and that's with judgment.
The problem with just removing trash is it does nothing for the underlying condition. Hoarding is a serious mental health Issue. You have to get the hoarder to want to give the stuff. Otherwise they just refill with more hoarding.
My late sister had affordable curbside trash pickup where she lived, but she didn't use it. She was not struggling financially, either. I never understood why. She heated her house with kerosene and piled up the empty cannisters in her back yard. She lived way out of state and never invited anyone up there. We never knew till after she passed away. It's definitely an illness! I'm disorganized myself, but still don't understand why a person would choose to hang onto literal trash.
@@DrTiwade Yes, perhaps for some, true. My sister, though, was very sociable...she was involved in many groups in her community, evidenced by all the mail we got after we had it forwarded to our house. She was often out and about when I or others would call her. From the outside, she seemed to have a busy life. That's why we were so shocked to find how she was living. .
@@luluisfunny I understand that, as I have some issues getting rid of things myself, such as items that belonged to my (now grown) children. But sadly, my poor sister wouldn't even utilize the local dump or recycle things. She simply left trash on the floor or out in her yard. The cement ground floor of her house was covered with literal compost from decomposing garbage. The empty kerosene containers could've been brought back to the nearby Tractor Supply store. I couldn't understand why she'd have a reason to hang onto a mountain of them. If she'd asked, her siblings would have made the trip up there to help. 😢
@@Dylan-b1l hoarding is not an instant thing. it worsens over many years which means anyone can be one. it’s not like you’re buying thousands of items in one go and suddenly “oopsie” your house is a mess. #relatable, am I right? 🤪 if you’re broke and you’re not a hoarder, simply put it’s because you don’t have the hoarder mindset. a lot of hoarders are actually from the working class and they’re hoarding useless cheap items, not anything expensive. in fact if hoarders were rich, don’t you think they could just pay people to always clean up?
My older sister moved out of state many years ago, and never invited us to her home. She'd stay at my house for holidays, etc. I couldn't get ahold of her once 3 years ago, so I called the police and asked them to please do a welfare check. They found her deceased, on top of all her stuff 😢. There wasn't even a path on the floor to walk through. None of us had any idea. It's a tragic illness...
@@apara2005 And you know this, how? Do you know me? It most certainly IS true. That's why I was touched by this video, because I can relate.. I wish I WAS making it up, because then I'd still have my dear sister. Please go troll somewhere else.
@@apara2005why do youtubetards refuse to believe something on the news can happen to another person without it being reported on? do you live in a snowglobe or something?
“Help is out there.” Until you try and get it. Then you find out it’s a circle jerk of phone numbers. Each one telling you they can’t help you but, “call this number. They can.” Until the last agency gives you the number of the first agency you called. Been there. Done that.
That hit home & makes total sense. It happens in the U.K. too. More of a deal should be made of this perfect comment, not just for the reason in the video, but for all the variously dangerous scenarios people are facing from the circle jerk of phone numbers & the ones that do end up dead. Great comment ❤ glad you got through yours without the jerks!
@@msannthrope1863 yeah I'm surprised there aren't more comments like this. It's actually a slap in the face when ppl say "there's help out there, call 221, etc." 211 & other "Resource Hotolines" just exist to give ppl the illusion that there's help. None of that garbage is real. I tried all of them & when it was all said & i just left a review on each one & told ppl to stop wasting their time.
What's sad is that many hoarders see even true garbage as valuable and don't want to part with it. Years ago I had a neighbor in her 90's who was a hoarder. I was worried about her and her husband living like that. My husband and I would go to her house and try to help. We foolishly left the filled trash bags there though, and she'd go through them, then call to bawl us out. We'd tossed some jars of moldy, spoiled jam away, for example, and she was furious, insisting that it was still good. I even offered to go shopping and replace what I'd tossed with fresh jars, but it did no good. She was enraged that I'd thrown away her old broken iron, even though we all knew she probably hadn't ironed in decades. I gave her MY iron but she was still mad. Adult protective services had to step in and send professionals to clean. I was happy that she finally had a decent place to live but, it was so sad that she was like that for so long.
@@SleeplessinOC No, because she was diagnosed with cancer shortly afterwards. She went to live in an assisted living facility, and eventually passed away 😢
@@littleredhen2894 😞 you and your husband were very kind in trying to help her even if it had upset her . I’m guessing she did not really have grown children visiting or looking after her near enough or they had given up on trying to help because of her being stubborn . These stories always kind of nudge me to try to get rid of things that I don’t really need or want anymore just taking up space and collecting dust .
This is very sad but not unusual. Hoarding usually starts due to some kind of life changing event. Maybe his wife died or he got divorced. A famous case in NYC included two brothers who were hoarders and lived in a huge mansion. One of them died in the same way as this man.
I have a hoarding disorder and it’s getting worse. Genuinely not dirty or anything. Just a lot of clutter and light dust. It’s literally so stressful to deal with.
I'm very sorry to hear that ❤ I hope you can get some help from.some professionals ❤ I can be a bit bad at hoarding things but luckily my family stop it getting out of hand.
Even if you can't afford professional help try to find the root of why you hoard. Many times it is undiagnosed ADHD, Autism spectrum or unhealed past trauma/abuse. There is a lot you can help yourself through online for free. Obviously professional therapy would be optimal but not everyone has access. Get to the root for healing and take tiny steps.
I understand how you feel. It can be hard to get motivated. Clutter can make you feel even more depressed. I have several family members (including myself) with mental health issues as well as being on the spectrum. It's difficult. I hope you are able to get help ❤️
There are companies that can help you clean and organize. Google hoarding help or hoarding cleaning in your area. Then get a therapist or someone to talk to about it.
or it’s a matter of trust issues. which that attitude definitely would give someone. I hate more than anything people “trying” to help but going about it the wrong way and then saying that I just must not want help after I tell them they’re not going about it the right way. just in general. not necessarily talking about hoarding.
that's exactly the case with a hoarder in Los Angeles who was recently on the news. The hoarder actually got upset when the city cleaned up tons of trash from his house and multiple cars. It's as if they're stealing his precious property.
Yup. I just turned 70 and my sisters in their 70's are doing the same. I've never been a hoarder and can't stand clutter. So at 70 i'm going thru closets and workshed again to get rid of even the things that "might be useful" but I haven't used in 10 years, lol
@@curiouscat3384 I actually just got rid of a dress a few years ago, that I'd worn to my 10th high school reunion MANY years ago...as if I thought I'd ever fit into it again 😂. It's freeing, getting rid of things. Good for you! 👍
@@littleredhen2894 Ah sweet :) Well I confess I have a small suitcase in which I keep a couple of nostalgic clothes items. One old sailing t-shirt, dancing shoes, a bra just because it amazes me how small I was 30 yrs ago, haha! I'll never wear them again but they bring back memories of my happiest times in the 80's-90's. No big deal for my children to toss it in the goodwill bag. The rest of my closet is practically empty!
People judge hoarders & look down on them, but its a mental disorder. Hoarding (not always) is usually caused by an emotional reauma in their past. It could be divorce, neglect, loss of loved one, etc.
Yes. I grew up with 4 siblings in a crazy house...I can best describe it as the "No wire hangers!" scene from the Mommie Dearest movie. My poor oldest sister got the worst abuse. She was so talented, intelligent, you name it, but she moved far away from the rest of the family and unexpectedly passed away in a situation that would make a Hoarders episode look like Better Homes and Gardens. None of us knew because she never invited us up there, only came to visit us here, and she'd pick up after herself, shower every day, etc. We had no idea until after she passed 😢. People need to understand the harm done by child abuse. I miss her...
But their kids and pets have to live like that too. Why should someone self sacrifice because of a family member's mental illness? The only one who benefits from it is the wacko.
The difference is billions of people go through stresses and traumas and horrible life experiences but they don't all become hoarders. There's something different with hoarders that leads to that. Untold numbers of people go through traumatic life events without becoming hoarders.
@@Lolly1122dooda True. Things impact people differently. My sister was quite a lot older than I, and moved out when I was 8 or so. But, I still remember how she was treated by our mother, and wonder how it impacted her. Maybe I'm just looking for an explanation to make sense of things...
Well sometimes it’s that, but often it stems from trauma. There are even ultra billionaire hoarders. I guess that makes sense though. Hoard money and things.
Yes. My (late) sister had aluminum trash bins all around her yard. She was stockpiling food, like bags of dehydrated fruit and nuts...she'd put them in the bin, then pile brown paper on top so it would look like trash. She was obviously afraid of not having enough someday. I cried when I saw it.
I have a friend whose home is growing with garbage like this, I have talked to her about it and she hears nothing. I don’t know how to help her her car is now growing with garbage and smells like a trash can. I can no longer ride in her car. She won’t get help.😢
I stayed next to a hoarder in my townhouse for 13 years. I know what they went through. He passed away in 2015. I missed him because he was a good person, but I don’t miss the hoarding 😢
When it comes to hoarders there’s just no helping them unless they’re willing to let you help them and if you happen to have a suppressed immunity you need to be very careful if you’re going into their home to help them clean. I became very sick after helping my neighbor dust her living room. After being ill and not getting well for months I googled it to see if you could contract a virus from dust and found out that you definitely can. I was sick for months and I still haven’t gotten over it. It’s July and this was back in the fall
Many hoarder homes are filled with mouse droppings as well, which can make you very sick. Sometimes people who clean wear hazmat suits, it can be that bad. I hope you recover soon...
The fact that a hoarder can hold on to spoiled food, broken glass, soiled newspapers with the rationale that "Its still good, I can still use it for something", is mind boggling. This is very real mental health disorder that should be taken seriously.
Why neighbors need to stay in touch with neighbors. This probably could have been prevented had somebody even notice the overflow of mail. Happy to have been raised in a small town.
Horders will not let you in. They hid it. Then when family intervenes and clear out the place. In short time the place will be hoarded up again. Don’t kid yourself that old Miss Helen will let her pets die. She is not nice.
@@RaccCity55 Hoarding is a mental disorder that needs professional help. The neighbors said they tried to help but when they killed a rat he kicked them out. He was beyond just coming over to help sort and throw trash out. 😢
This is why we need asylums. He needed help and would never have gotten it if he had a choice. He needed to be removed from the situation to get treatment elsewhere for his own well-being.
@@m.e.9418 I agree. It’s doing a disservice to the man and the neighboring community to let this go on for so long like that. I’ll bet he would’ve been relieved to be somewhere clean and to be taken care of. Obviously, he couldn’t do it for himself.
@@margo3367 unfortunately your bet would likely be wrong… one of the reasons people become hoarders is the inability to let go of items due to trauma - if you remove the person from their beloved items (which to most of us would just be rubbish), they’d be very upset because they’d be losing their connection to what they can’t emotionally let go. It’s furthering the trauma. What hoarders need is psychological help, once they overcome their emotional issue(s) and become willing to let items go, then the healing begins. It’s a slow process.
When are people gonna stop saying that. " I dont understand how anyone can live like this". Because its a mental disorder. He didn't randomly decide to live like this
Dosent matter what neighbors say or who they call. The person has a ‘Right to Privacy’ so they will just tell concerned people ‘I’m Fine’ and that’s it….the man chose and it’s not ok that everyone else has to tolerate the hoarding and all the health saftey and obvious toll on the value of homes around it.
@pinchebruha405 My neighbour's garden here in uk is completely overgrown, and the house is almost certainly hoarded. They cannot get out of their back door because of the vegetation. My concern is the fire hazard. Our houses are connected, so if they have a fire, chances are my property will be damaged too. They refuse help and seem to have driven their two adult sons away. The council can do nothing, unless there is evidence of rodent activity.
Sad how HOA's will fine a person for painting their house the wrong shade of brown, but subject the neighbors to living with a rodent infested dwelling next door!
A first cousin died in his massive hoard some years ago. My mom hoarded all my life. My dad cleaned, I cleaned, my brothers cleaned, my mom would cry, and do it again. There are other hoarders in the family, but they try to keep it under control. I love to toss papers, garbage, and recycling every day. Tina, Al's wife
Such a sad reflection of loneliness & isolation in modern western society - all the authorities, neighbours, services, & media that show up after the fact 💔. Condolences to all affected.
Major life events like death/divorce of a spouse, feeling like the things you have are not enough, loneliness, wanting to fill a void in one's life, etc.
My late sister was a hoarder. We grew up in a very abusive home, and being the oldest, I think she got the worst of it. She also had symptoms of being autistic. My late elderly neighbor went through some terrible things during a war, which I think might've contributed to her condition. People react to trauma in different ways, I guess.
Horrible....I wonder what happened to cause that hoarder to lose contact with family? I guess he might have been an only child or a widower? So many questions.
My older sister was a hoarder and sadly, died alone on top of what was literally trash...her house had a cement floor, and there was actually several inches of what had become compost on the floor. She kept contact with our family via phone calls and emails, but had moved way out of state and only wanted to visit if she came down here...we were never invited to her home. After she passed, we understood why. I think oftentimes people like this are ashamed of their situation, and do what they can to conceal it. 😢
My friend hoards, her husband tries to keep it under control. It's very frustrating for me because she wants me to come visit at her house, but when I clear off a spot on the couch to sit and cat litter with waste I just can't anymore. Hers is only 2 get deep tho. She also blames everyone and everything else for it, but she says that hey mother was a hoarder too. Very sad.
I don’t understand why this is called hoarding? We just helped clear out a hoarders home. A huge dumpster was filled with computer parts, bicycles, lawnmowers, fishing tackle….. it was all real stuff that was useable but we had a weekend to clear the crap out of the house. There must have been 50 Budweiser neon signs. All in the dumpster!!!! So where I see garbage and filth piled high that’s not useable stuff…..
I tend to be a bit of a hoarder, I will admit. I keep old unusable paint brushes. I still have about 50 VHS tapes in case I want to watch old episodes of I Love Lucy that I recorded once. And the little box marked “ Pieces of String too short to save “. After flossing, I hesitate to throw away the perfectly good length of floss. I mean, it could be used again. Maybe I could soak it in a bleach solution for re-use another time. My friends rightly shamed me out of that notion. My efforts to declutter are thwarted by one word….Someday ! I am haunted by the fear that someday, I will reach for something I need, something I have been saving for years only to realize that it was among the things that I’d determined in a frenzy of decluttering that I really shouldn’t hold onto any longer. For years, I’ve kept in a draw the left hand leather glove that remained when I’d lost its mate. I cherished those leather gloves. They were soft and thin and they fit my hand like, well, a glove! So, whenever I opened the drawer and saw the one glove lying there, I knew I should toss it but somehow, I just couldn’t. What if the other glove showed up …someday? Even when I’ve finished with a roll of paper towels, I’ll look at the cardboard cylinder and think, “ Hmmm, someday that could be used as a mailing tube !” It’s insane. I see how streamlined and spare the homes of my friends are. “No one uses CD or DVDs anymore”, they cry. They talk about streaming and putting all of their music in the cloud. I don’t trust the cloud. So, I have a thousand or more thin shiny silvery discs piled high on my shelves…music, movies, audiobooks. Friends tell me about the infamous hoarders Homer and Langley Collyer, brothers who, in March 1947, were found dead in their New York apartment house surrounded by over 140 tons of collected items that they had amassed over several decades. “ Do you want to be found dead under tons of DVDs and dental floss ???” my friends scream. I bought Marie Kondo’s book about reducing clutter. On one hand, it is inspiring. On the other hand it feels a bit threatening. I put it away with my collected high school term papers and issues of ‘’The New Yorker’’ that go back to 1967. The book has much useful wisdom. I’m sure I’ll get around to reading it….. someday
My aunt was a hoarder, but believe it or not until she was dying of cancer she kept her house clean. Most of the hoard was in various buildings around her property.
Many of the hoarding shows I’ve watched over the years have the experts warning people of this exact thing. Your stuff is going to cave in on you and you won’t be able to get out. This is the first I’ve actually heard of it really happening.
When someone like this is known, the authorities must have the power to remove the person from their home and hospitalize them to get them the help they need.
Yuck! Hoarding is an awful disease. I help other seniors that are less fortunate than me. A few are hoarders. Its crazy how their mind rationalizes use in everything!
YOU CANNOT HELP ...BECAUSE.... you have to see humans and talk to them-- but you just wanted to clean up the mess.-- and did not see the human --you only saw the trash--so now it is yours.
People think I’m a hoarder, but I’m still finishing my build, alone. Once I finish I can get rid of the rest of these building materials. It’s not really hoarding if it’s usable or worth money. The only trash out there, are people think that garbage is a thing. Everything has a use.
@@armageddonready4071 every hoarder I have met or heard about have that same thing. Everything has a use. No it doesn’t. Things get used up and need to be disposed of properly.
Maybe instead of filling up a toll off, put the usable stuff on a trailer and DONATE IT. There’s probably stuff still in the packaging from purchase or shipping. Keeping used and unusable stuff around, that unsanitary, IS a problem. That not just “hoarding”, it’s some other mental health issue. Like possible frontal lobe brain damage. Some people don’t see the clutter with there eyes, because their brain just sees the same static it always sees.
He was probably reaching to the boddah of the pile for a three-week old piece of toast with a peanut-butter likeness of the Virgin Mary on it when the coffee grounds spilled over & emptied into his mouth
I worked as a cab driver. I witnessed homes in this type of condition at least once a month. It's a lot more common than you think.
I'm not surprised, considering the level of mental illness in this counry.
I heard the same from a contractor.
Wait what that mean?
@@malcriadamedina5358 I'm guessing they mean they'd had fares/ worked on houses where people had hoarding issues...
I drove cab multiple times. Very very few times would you ever be "in a home"
Hoarding is an intense form of OCD and often a response to trauma.
Yes.
Hoarders inflict trauma on others.
@@mattr.1887two things can be real
Hoarding is a form of severe mental illness!
@@mattr.1887 yep. Most trauma victims cause trauma to others. It's a vicious cycle that takes a lot of awareness and patience to break but most people don't have those things so they react the best way they know how and that's with judgment.
The problem with just removing trash is it does nothing for the underlying condition. Hoarding is a serious mental health Issue. You have to get the hoarder to want to give the stuff. Otherwise they just refill with more hoarding.
My late sister had affordable curbside trash pickup where she lived, but she didn't use it. She was not struggling financially, either. I never understood why. She heated her house with kerosene and piled up the empty cannisters in her back yard. She lived way out of state and never invited anyone up there. We never knew till after she passed away. It's definitely an illness! I'm disorganized myself, but still don't understand why a person would choose to hang onto literal trash.
@@littleredhen2894probably loneliness.
@@DrTiwade Yes, perhaps for some, true. My sister, though, was very sociable...she was involved in many groups in her community, evidenced by all the mail we got after we had it forwarded to our house. She was often out and about when I or others would call her. From the outside, she seemed to have a busy life. That's why we were so shocked to find how she was living. .
@@littleredhen2894 it’s not about the item, it’s about the emotional sentiment behind the item
@@luluisfunny I understand that, as I have some issues getting rid of things myself, such as items that belonged to my (now grown) children. But sadly, my poor sister wouldn't even utilize the local dump or recycle things. She simply left trash on the floor or out in her yard. The cement ground floor of her house was covered with literal compost from decomposing garbage. The empty kerosene containers could've been brought back to the nearby Tractor Supply store. I couldn't understand why she'd have a reason to hang onto a mountain of them. If she'd asked, her siblings would have made the trip up there to help. 😢
He didn't live like that , he died like that. That ain't living bro 😢
So true , how sad 😢
@@joannewatts9892 😞
I think it’s very important to comprehend that hoarding is a legitimate MENTAL ILLNESS
Seems like the person sees and believes that having things/anything as contentment. Holding on to stuff appears to be some form of security.
For rich people
Nope. Just lazy and stupid.
@@Dylan-b1l hoarding is not an instant thing. it worsens over many years which means anyone can be one. it’s not like you’re buying thousands of items in one go and suddenly “oopsie” your house is a mess. #relatable, am I right? 🤪 if you’re broke and you’re not a hoarder, simply put it’s because you don’t have the hoarder mindset. a lot of hoarders are actually from the working class and they’re hoarding useless cheap items, not anything expensive. in fact if hoarders were rich, don’t you think they could just pay people to always clean up?
@@LiterallyAllNamesAreTaken they should illegalize that then
My older sister moved out of state many years ago, and never invited us to her home. She'd stay at my house for holidays, etc. I couldn't get ahold of her once 3 years ago, so I called the police and asked them to please do a welfare check. They found her deceased, on top of all her stuff 😢. There wasn't even a path on the floor to walk through. None of us had any idea. It's a tragic illness...
I’m so sorry 😢
And my deepest condolences 💐
@@laurab6418 Thank you very much for your kind words. ...❤️
@@littleredhen2894 why lie to get liked??? This story isn't true!
@@apara2005 And you know this, how? Do you know me? It most certainly IS true. That's why I was touched by this video, because I can relate..
I wish I WAS making it up, because then I'd still have my dear sister. Please go troll somewhere else.
@@apara2005why do youtubetards refuse to believe something on the news can happen to another person without it being reported on? do you live in a snowglobe or something?
“Help is out there.” Until you try and get it. Then you find out it’s a circle jerk of phone numbers. Each one telling you they can’t help you but, “call this number. They can.” Until the last agency gives you the number of the first agency you called. Been there. Done that.
That hit home & makes total sense. It happens in the U.K. too. More of a deal should be made of this perfect comment, not just for the reason in the video, but for all the variously dangerous scenarios people are facing from the circle jerk of phone numbers & the ones that do end up dead. Great comment ❤ glad you got through yours without the jerks!
In Germany we have the same problems, help yourself otherwise nobody will help you! It’s so sad
@@matzmieze464
I'm in Texas. Same problem. "I'll connect you with that number." Then you find yourself back at the original prompt.
@@msannthrope1863 yeah I'm surprised there aren't more comments like this. It's actually a slap in the face when ppl say "there's help out there, call 221, etc." 211 & other "Resource Hotolines" just exist to give ppl the illusion that there's help. None of that garbage is real. I tried all of them & when it was all said & i just left a review on each one & told ppl to stop wasting their time.
I have a friend in Canada who is a hoarder. She told me herself that she has been offered free professional help including therapy and she refuses it
What's sad is that many hoarders see even true garbage as valuable and don't want to part with it. Years ago I had a neighbor in her 90's who was a hoarder. I was worried about her and her husband living like that. My husband and I would go to her house and try to help. We foolishly left the filled trash bags there though, and she'd go through them, then call to bawl us out. We'd tossed some jars of moldy, spoiled jam away, for example, and she was furious, insisting that it was still good. I even offered to go shopping and replace what I'd tossed with fresh jars, but it did no good. She was enraged that I'd thrown away her old broken iron, even though we all knew she probably hadn't ironed in decades. I gave her MY iron but she was still mad. Adult protective services had to step in and send professionals to clean. I was happy that she finally had a decent place to live but, it was so sad that she was like that for so long.
Did she revert back to her old ways though after the clean up ?
@@SleeplessinOC No, because she was diagnosed with cancer shortly afterwards. She went to live in an assisted living facility, and eventually passed away 😢
@@littleredhen2894 😞 you and your husband were very kind in trying to help her even if it had upset her . I’m guessing she did not really have grown children visiting or looking after her near enough or they had given up on trying to help because of her being stubborn . These stories always kind of nudge me to try to get rid of things that I don’t really need or want anymore just taking up space and collecting dust .
They see it as a waste of money somehow, even if you offer replacements...
@@DwightLivesMatter Agreed!
He couldn’t take it with him, but “it” took him….
This is very sad but not unusual. Hoarding usually starts due to some kind of life changing event. Maybe his wife died or he got divorced. A famous case in NYC included two brothers who were hoarders and lived in a huge mansion. One of them died in the same way as this man.
@@marycarter6134 the Collyer brothers
This is so sad,mental health messes our lives up,sorry this man didn't get help before this
He didn’t want it.
I have a hoarding disorder and it’s getting worse. Genuinely not dirty or anything. Just a lot of clutter and light dust. It’s literally so stressful to deal with.
@@cyanidesidesalad your name suggests you’re depressed as well.
I'm very sorry to hear that ❤ I hope you can get some help from.some professionals ❤ I can be a bit bad at hoarding things but luckily my family stop it getting out of hand.
Even if you can't afford professional help try to find the root of why you hoard. Many times it is undiagnosed ADHD, Autism spectrum or unhealed past trauma/abuse. There is a lot you can help yourself through online for free. Obviously professional therapy would be optimal but not everyone has access. Get to the root for healing and take tiny steps.
I understand how you feel. It can be hard to get motivated. Clutter can make you feel even more depressed. I have several family members (including myself) with mental health issues as well as being on the spectrum. It's difficult. I hope you are able to get help ❤️
There are companies that can help you clean and organize. Google hoarding help or hoarding cleaning in your area. Then get a therapist or someone to talk to about it.
People sometimes don’t want help. They’re content where they’re at unfortunately.
or it’s a matter of trust issues. which that attitude definitely would give someone. I hate more than anything people “trying” to help but going about it the wrong way and then saying that I just must not want help after I tell them they’re not going about it the right way. just in general. not necessarily talking about hoarding.
that's exactly the case with a hoarder in Los Angeles who was recently on the news. The hoarder actually got upset when the city cleaned up tons of trash from his house and multiple cars. It's as if they're stealing his precious property.
@@LiterallyAllNamesAreTaken Exactly.
So sad. That's no life. You have to be incredibly sad and hopeless feeling to get like that, and to die that way is heartbreaking.
I have helped a hoarder clear up their clutter before, but they have to want the help.
I have been making myself get rid of anything I do not need. I don’t want my adult children having a bunch of crap to deal with when I pass!
@@TangledNana Same here. Sometimes I watch episodes of Hoarders to try to motivate myself.
@@TangledNana Exactly! What a great,responsible way to look at life.
I don’t have family but I’ve been doing the same.
Yup. I just turned 70 and my sisters in their 70's are doing the same. I've never been a hoarder and can't stand clutter. So at 70 i'm going thru closets and workshed again to get rid of even the things that "might be useful" but I haven't used in 10 years, lol
@@curiouscat3384 I actually just got rid of a dress a few years ago, that I'd worn to my 10th high school reunion MANY years ago...as if I thought I'd ever fit into it again 😂.
It's freeing, getting rid of things. Good for you! 👍
@@littleredhen2894 Ah sweet :) Well I confess I have a small suitcase in which I keep a couple of nostalgic clothes items. One old sailing t-shirt, dancing shoes, a bra just because it amazes me how small I was 30 yrs ago, haha! I'll never wear them again but they bring back memories of my happiest times in the 80's-90's. No big deal for my children to toss it in the goodwill bag. The rest of my closet is practically empty!
People judge hoarders & look down on them, but its a mental disorder. Hoarding (not always) is usually caused by an emotional reauma in their past. It could be divorce, neglect, loss of loved one, etc.
Yes. I grew up with 4 siblings in a crazy house...I can best describe it as the "No wire hangers!" scene from the Mommie Dearest movie. My poor oldest sister got the worst abuse. She was so talented, intelligent, you name it, but she moved far away from the rest of the family and unexpectedly passed away in a situation that would make a Hoarders episode look like Better Homes and Gardens. None of us knew because she never invited us up there, only came to visit us here, and she'd pick up after herself, shower every day, etc. We had no idea until after she passed 😢. People need to understand the harm done by child abuse. I miss her...
But their kids and pets have to live like that too. Why should someone self sacrifice because of a family member's mental illness? The only one who benefits from it is the wacko.
@@littleredhen2894 that is so sad. I can relate. 💗
The difference is billions of people go through stresses and traumas and horrible life experiences but they don't all become hoarders. There's something different with hoarders that leads to that. Untold numbers of people go through traumatic life events without becoming hoarders.
@@Lolly1122dooda True. Things impact people differently. My sister was quite a lot older than I, and moved out when I was 8 or so. But, I still remember how she was treated by our mother, and wonder how it impacted her. Maybe I'm just looking for an explanation to make sense of things...
Might be my worst fear. Hoarding is a terrible mental disorder. Fear of not having enough.
Or it is too good to throw away.
Well sometimes it’s that, but often it stems from trauma. There are even ultra billionaire hoarders. I guess that makes sense though. Hoard money and things.
@@glee_again2594 Oddly they feel safe and comforted surrounded by things. The more things they have the safer they feel.
Yes. My (late) sister had aluminum trash bins all around her yard. She was stockpiling food, like bags of dehydrated fruit and nuts...she'd put them in the bin, then pile brown paper on top so it would look like trash. She was obviously afraid of not having enough someday. I cried when I saw it.
@@littleredhen2894 so sorry
I have a friend whose home is growing with garbage like this, I have talked to her about it and she hears nothing. I don’t know how to help her her car is now growing with garbage and smells like a trash can. I can no longer ride in her car. She won’t get help.😢
@@someoneoutthere2159 wow! That's 😔
I stayed next to a hoarder in my townhouse for 13 years. I know what they went through. He passed away in 2015. I missed him because he was a good person, but I don’t miss the hoarding 😢
When it comes to hoarders there’s just no helping them unless they’re willing to let you help them and if you happen to have a suppressed immunity you need to be very careful if you’re going into their home to help them clean. I became very sick after helping my neighbor dust her living room. After being ill and not getting well for months I googled it to see if you could contract a virus from dust and found out that you definitely can. I was sick for months and I still haven’t gotten over it. It’s July and this was back in the fall
Many hoarder homes are filled with mouse droppings as well, which can make you very sick. Sometimes people who clean wear hazmat suits, it can be that bad. I hope you recover soon...
Same thing happened to me when I moved my Hoarder mom. I got sick & had a hard time breathing for weeks.
It never ceases to amaze me of what we can live without
The fact that a hoarder can hold on to spoiled food, broken glass, soiled newspapers with the rationale that "Its still good, I can still use it for something", is mind boggling. This is very real mental health disorder that should be taken seriously.
Nope
They are emotionally attached to their stuff.
Very sad illness that like secondhand smoke, can be harmful to others in the same domain.
Why neighbors need to stay in touch with neighbors. This probably could have been prevented had somebody even notice the overflow of mail. Happy to have been raised in a small town.
LOL Neighbors hate each other
Some people are private.they don't want people know their Buisness.
Horders will not let you in. They hid it. Then when family intervenes and clear out the place. In short time the place will be hoarded up again. Don’t kid yourself that old Miss Helen will let her pets die. She is not nice.
@@user-qm3jo9os7sright? Five years and I’ve only spoken to my neighbors twice.
Some people don’t want help no matter how friendly the neighbors or loving the family.
Yeah they say help is out there.....but try finding any....they wont help😢
we need to focus on helping Americans with mental and physical health. There are no resources.
Have you tried calling your city government? They usually have programs to help unless you make too much.
Are there any stories of hoarders changing and healing that stop hoarding?
How could someone live like that? They were mentally ill, a hermit, and no one periodically checked on him.
76, physically feeble. No help from stinking city or neighbors except they complain and cry.
@@RaccCity55 Exactamundo .
They only care about themselves.
RIP old chap . ⚘️⚘️⚘️
@@RaccCity55 Hoarding is a mental disorder that needs professional help. The neighbors said they tried to help but when they killed a rat he kicked them out. He was beyond just coming over to help sort and throw trash out. 😢
This is why we need asylums. He needed help and would never have gotten it if he had a choice. He needed to be removed from the situation to get treatment elsewhere for his own well-being.
@@m.e.9418 I agree. It’s doing a disservice to the man and the neighboring community to let this go on for so long like that. I’ll bet he would’ve been relieved to be somewhere clean and to be taken care of. Obviously, he couldn’t do it for himself.
@@margo3367 unfortunately your bet would likely be wrong… one of the reasons people become hoarders is the inability to let go of items due to trauma - if you remove the person from their beloved items (which to most of us would just be rubbish), they’d be very upset because they’d be losing their connection to what they can’t emotionally let go. It’s furthering the trauma.
What hoarders need is psychological help, once they overcome their emotional issue(s) and become willing to let items go, then the healing begins. It’s a slow process.
They asked the City for help ... "Nothing came". Well how shameful.
This is beyond sad. 💔💔
Sad, just sad 😔
He was a lonely man. 😢How sad.
When are people gonna stop saying that. " I dont understand how anyone can live like this". Because its a mental disorder. He didn't randomly decide to live like this
Same thing happened in my town. Hoarder killed by her collapsing hoard. So sad.
Dosent matter what neighbors say or who they call. The person has a ‘Right to Privacy’ so they will just tell concerned people ‘I’m Fine’ and that’s it….the man chose and it’s not ok that everyone else has to tolerate the hoarding and all the health saftey and obvious toll on the value of homes around it.
@pinchebruha405 My neighbour's garden here in uk is completely overgrown, and the house is almost certainly hoarded. They cannot get out of their back door because of the vegetation. My concern is the fire hazard. Our houses are connected, so if they have a fire, chances are my property will be damaged too. They refuse help and seem to have driven their two adult sons away. The council can do nothing, unless there is evidence of rodent activity.
Sad how HOA's will fine a person for painting their house the wrong shade of brown, but subject the neighbors to living with a rodent infested dwelling next door!
@@pinchebruha405 Your empathy and understanding of an obvious mental health issue is so powerful in your comment 😊
I pray for this man’s family, this is sad for anyone to go through.
This is what he wanted, all hoarders want their stuff. Only until they decide to get rid of it will they truly heal.
Yeah, heel up enough to get your stuff back
Sometimes hoarding items is better than feeling alone 😢 rip
@@AllthingsFoodieTX Is it tho?
We live in a sad world where someone can live in this squalor for so long and die alone undiscovered like that for months. It just shouldn't happen.
Sad 😢
This is so sad
A first cousin died in his massive hoard some years ago. My mom hoarded all my life. My dad cleaned, I cleaned, my brothers cleaned, my mom would cry, and
do it again. There are other hoarders in the family, but they try to keep it under control. I love to toss papers, garbage, and recycling every day. Tina, Al's wife
It’s a mental illness. Maybe old alone plus a mental issue. It’s sad. He didn’t hurt anyone. RIP❤
Such a sad reflection of loneliness & isolation in modern western society - all the authorities, neighbours, services, & media that show up after the fact 💔. Condolences to all affected.
Omg, those rats are the size of chihuahua 😮😮😮😮
What causes hoarding?
Major life events like death/divorce of a spouse, feeling like the things you have are not enough, loneliness, wanting to fill a void in one's life, etc.
Trauma essentially
And just being nasty.
Sometimes it is undiagnosed ADHD or autism too.
My late sister was a hoarder. We grew up in a very abusive home, and being the oldest, I think she got the worst of it. She also had symptoms of being autistic. My late elderly neighbor went through some terrible things during a war, which I think might've contributed to her condition. People react to trauma in different ways, I guess.
And now others are forced to clean up the filth and biohazard. Sick.
So sad. 😞
So sad
Horrible....I wonder what happened to cause that hoarder to lose contact with family? I guess he might have been an only child or a widower? So many questions.
My older sister was a hoarder and sadly, died alone on top of what was literally trash...her house had a cement floor, and there was actually several inches of what had become compost on the floor.
She kept contact with our family via phone calls and emails, but had moved way out of state and only wanted to visit if she came down here...we were never invited to her home. After she passed, we understood why.
I think oftentimes people like this are ashamed of their situation, and do what they can to conceal it. 😢
@@littleredhen2894 My deepest condolences.
@@ieattofu68 Thank you...I do miss her very much, but I try to tell myself that at least she's free now from whatever was causing her to be this way 💔
That’s so sad
Wow
Disgusting
Omg just awful
Terribly sad…
some days the hoard will eat you, some days you'll eat the hoard.
This one’s for all the hoarders of the world … so sad RIP
Hoarding is a symptom of mental illness from depression, trauma, OCD and possibly Dementia or Alzheimer’s.
He died in his home steeped in mental illness and no one knew?
This is so sad, it’s an illness. Where’s this man’s family?
How did they end up under the trash? Did it collapse on them?
My friend hoards, her husband tries to keep it under control. It's very frustrating for me because she wants me to come visit at her house, but when I clear off a spot on the couch to sit and cat litter with waste I just can't anymore. Hers is only 2 get deep tho. She also blames everyone and everything else for it, but she says that hey mother was a hoarder too. Very sad.
This is a heath risk to the community disease and fire are severely bad. The fact the state new and left him there is wild
I don’t understand why this is called hoarding? We just helped clear out a hoarders home. A huge dumpster was filled with computer parts, bicycles, lawnmowers, fishing tackle….. it was all real stuff that was useable but we had a weekend to clear the crap out of the house. There must have been 50 Budweiser neon signs. All in the dumpster!!!! So where I see garbage and filth piled high that’s not useable stuff…..
Where do the hoarders find the junk?
I cant wrap my head around how hoarders let it get that bad
Built his little fort and died in it, rest in peace.
He was 76??? Didn't he have any family?
I dont have enough income to be a horder
You can be broke and still be a hoarder and have hoards
I tend to be a bit of a hoarder, I will admit.
I keep old unusable paint brushes. I still have about 50 VHS tapes in case I want to watch old episodes of I Love Lucy that I recorded once.
And the little box marked “ Pieces of String too short to save “.
After flossing, I hesitate to throw away the perfectly good length of floss. I mean, it could be used again. Maybe I could soak it in a bleach solution for re-use another time. My friends rightly shamed me out of that notion.
My efforts to declutter are thwarted by one word….Someday !
I am haunted by the fear that someday, I will reach for something I need, something I have been saving for years only to realize that it was among the things that I’d determined in a frenzy of decluttering that I really shouldn’t hold onto any longer.
For years, I’ve kept in a draw the left hand leather glove that remained when I’d lost its mate.
I cherished those leather gloves. They were soft and thin and they fit my hand like, well, a glove! So, whenever I opened the drawer and saw the one glove lying there, I knew I should toss it but somehow, I just couldn’t.
What if the other glove showed up …someday?
Even when I’ve finished with a roll of paper towels, I’ll look at the cardboard cylinder and think, “ Hmmm, someday that could be used as a mailing tube !”
It’s insane.
I see how streamlined and spare the homes of my friends are.
“No one uses CD or DVDs anymore”, they cry. They talk about streaming and putting all of their music in the cloud. I don’t trust the cloud. So, I have a thousand or more thin shiny silvery discs piled high on my shelves…music, movies, audiobooks.
Friends tell me about the infamous hoarders Homer and Langley Collyer, brothers who, in March 1947, were found dead in their New York apartment house surrounded by over 140 tons of collected items that they had amassed over several decades.
“ Do you want to be found dead under tons of DVDs and dental floss ???” my friends scream.
I bought Marie Kondo’s book about reducing clutter. On one hand, it is inspiring. On the other hand it feels a bit threatening.
I put it away with my collected high school term papers and issues of ‘’The New Yorker’’ that go back to 1967.
The book has much useful wisdom.
I’m sure I’ll get around to reading it….. someday
That’s no way to live that’s for sure
My aunt was a hoarder, but believe it or not until she was dying of cancer she kept her house clean. Most of the hoard was in various buildings around her property.
He died in his own personal heaven? ....he perished in pure bliss?
Many of the hoarding shows I’ve watched over the years have the experts warning people of this exact thing. Your stuff is going to cave in on you and you won’t be able to get out. This is the first I’ve actually heard of it really happening.
When someone like this is known, the authorities must have the power to remove the person from their home and hospitalize them to get them the help they need.
I know it’s from trauma but I don’t understand a person can do this. How can someone let it go that far? How can they not see it? It baffles me.
Dude was living off nuts
😱
Yuck! Hoarding is an awful disease. I help other seniors that are less fortunate than me. A few are hoarders. Its crazy how their mind rationalizes use in everything!
At the end of the day the title just seems so disrespectful for a person who passed away regardless of what they had goin on 😒
Gonna be hard to sell that place.
😢
Eeerrr. Consumerism consumed him. Not uncommon in the west.
Incredibly dad. EACH TIME an episode of hoarders comes on, they bring up this point exactly! Please reach out for help if you need it.!!!
If he is there , he belongs there
The HOA didn't do anything about this
I'm pretty sure it smelled before he died 😞
Is that johnnie sack?
I mean, that was the outcome.... Of this debauchery.
And ignorance and inconsideration is what comes out of your mouth.
@@cyanidesidesalad what do you expect when somebody lives in filth??? It's the outcome of living in the mountains of trash!!!
@@cyanidesidesalad there's nothing ignorant about saying that living in trash is debauchery lol
Why I suffer from reverse hoarding of money, imo
@@DakotaFord592 not all hoarders live in filth. Again, ignorance and inconsideration from you too
Roof over his head
Probably had money
Free country
What you’re expecting is an intervention of some sort.
0:19 they couldn’t live they died dude
Sick 🤢 these poor people having to clean this up. Some ppl just need to kick the bucket sooner.
Metal asf
He was divin'
YOU CANNOT HELP ...BECAUSE.... you have to see humans and talk to them-- but you just wanted to clean up the mess.-- and did not see the human --you only saw the trash--so now it is yours.
This person was mentally ill. They needed professional help and most likely wouldn’t seek that.
@@lorirogers9304 Yes, but you missed my point
@@lorirogers9304 Was 76 and probably not physically fit. 'Professional help" is only for professional salaries.
Sad
Maybe it was a hoarder hoarding hoarders 🤔
People think I’m a hoarder, but I’m still finishing my build, alone. Once I finish I can get rid of the rest of these building materials. It’s not really hoarding if it’s usable or worth money.
The only trash out there, are people think that garbage is a thing.
Everything has a use.
@@armageddonready4071 every hoarder I have met or heard about have that same thing. Everything has a use. No it doesn’t. Things get used up and need to be disposed of properly.
Yes, those are called British thermal units. Like I said, only trash out there are the garbage people that can’t think of a USE then use it.
I have hoarding disorder and you saying that everything has a use it’s worrisome
Maybe instead of filling up a toll off, put the usable stuff on a trailer and DONATE IT.
There’s probably stuff still in the packaging from purchase or shipping.
Keeping used and unusable stuff around, that unsanitary, IS a problem. That not just “hoarding”, it’s some other mental health issue. Like possible frontal lobe brain damage. Some people don’t see the clutter with there eyes, because their brain just sees the same static it always sees.
Sorry, but you're a hoarder...
Could that be a murder? I mean buried under 4 feet of trash?😢
Very unlikely.
@@lesliemcmillan2971 just wondered why he ended up buried underneath the trash. What a horrible thing.
The trash is the murderer
He was probably reaching to the boddah of the pile for a three-week old piece of toast with a peanut-butter likeness of the Virgin Mary on it when the coffee grounds spilled over & emptied into his mouth