I disagree. I HATE being called miss. It’s patronising as a 5 year old girl is also a miss. So I prefer Ms. Soon, the only correct way to address me will be Dr. I think you should always ask. That’s the safest.
abby S I’m Jamaican. The first time we would ever try something like that, we would catch licks. Adrienne is lying because that is not a New York thing. Must be a Bronx, Hispanic or American thing.
I’m English and on the whole we just call older people by their first name. For my biological uncles / aunties, I would say uncle / aunty X until I was a teenager and then just use their name only. They didn’t care. Although I had an elderly Greek neighbour and I called her aunty, because that was her cultural preference. We never use ma’am in the UK.
Yes I agree wholeheartedly. I cant stand when young kids and teenagers call me by my first name..its so disrespectful...and a lot of it has to do with the parents and how they brought up their child
Yes! I live in the South, so most people like to be called Ma’am since it is taught to us since we are little as a form of respect. However, I have come across some women that take offense to it because it makes them feel old. It’s like, what do you do? 🤷🏻♀️😂
I would be so confused by y’all. I mean, is she REALLLY your aunt. It’s like your siblings, and aunts and uncles are always increasing by the day. Like I wanna know your family. I don’t wanna know your fake aunts and uncles and cousin and bro’s and sisters. Or “cousin brother”. Who is your REAL family dude?! 😂🤣
@@Sarah3944 Its our way of showing respect to our elders. And by knowing our real family? Lol, you'll never know unless we're like 'This is my ACTUAL aunt/uncle. Like, by blood' lol
Delenathewriter I guess I don’t like being deceived. And I don’t want to ask “is this your blood”? Lol. That would kind of be rude. But over time I am able to tell who is family and who isn’t. But it does annoy me. Like “call me Sarah”. I don’t need to be aunty. I’m still young. Don’t age me. lol
SarahA Idk dude it’s like when your uncle and dad fall out and don’t speak interact anymore or speak do you still call him uncle? Are you even close to your cousins bro??
I’m like Adrienne I don’t know if it’s an inner city girl thing, but I have never referred to my elders as mam and sir (that’s hella weird tbh). I did and do however say Mr. and Ms. if there is a distinct and noticeable age gap between me and said person.
Depends on what inner city. From Chicago and you have to put a handle the name. Either Ms, Aunt. Sounds same as Loni, my Detroit neighbor. We migrated from the south thanks to JC.
@Kayte Larsen I see calling people "Miss" and "Mr." like @Sasha Kimmy as just as polite as calling them "Ma'am" and "Sir". You were right that it is about how you are raised, but the rest of your comment was so unnecessary. There is not one singular innercity experience ma'am, and every area (urban, rural, suburban) has its issues. Some families are like Adrienne's and very casual, and it has little to do with where they are located.
Same here from Cleveland. We do Ms. and Mr. But didn't grow up with Sor or Ma'am. The military trained ne more on the Sir and Ma'am titles and living in the south now I see people prefer that. My kids friends can call me Mrs. first or last and some just call me mom.
I'm with Adrienne, I was raised in a New York/New England household and you just call people by their first names (except your parents). It wasn't till I met southern people and realized the whole MR and MRS thing is a serious thing they do.
@@aura5944 bitch manners is not the same thing as "reverence" as loni put it. I'm not gonna bow down to you because youre older than me. Being polite and having manners is NOT the same thing. Age doesnt determine respect. I respect everyone equally. Not gonna walk on eggshells avoiding calling someone by their name just because they're old and entitled.
In Spanish you have “usted” and that’s what I usually use for people older than me, unless they specifically tell me not to. In English I try to say ma’am and sir.
Same! I joke with my mom like that sometimes and she doesn’t mind🤣. But any other adults that aren’t in my family, I say “Mr.” “Mrs.” “Ms.” “Ma’am” “Sir”
I'm from Alabama and we do the same. But the only time I called her by her name as a joke was in front of grandma because you can't beat me when she's around!👵💃
I’m just like A. I call my mom “mom” and she doesn’t pay attention to me I’ll call her by her name. I don’t think it’s disrespectful. But with other women I’ll call them miss or aunt
Adrienne, you're fine! It's crazy how formal Tamera, her mama, and Jeannie's family are. LIKE WHY. Not every older person deserves respect. We are all people. We ALL deserve respect, doesn't matter what age you are.
Nah, I prefer how the Australians do it. Everyone calls each other by the first name but it’s not out of disrespect. Instead it’s mutual respect among all, regardless of age. I hate when older people talk to me condescendingly just because I’m younger 🙅🏻♀️
yeah like why is saying someone’s first name disrespectful? you don’t like your first name? then change it but tf that got to do w me calling you MISS or MRS or MR?? absolutely nothing
I don’t get this. I’m English and don’t understand why they need to call you anything? Just be like “is there anything I can help you with?, have a nice day” etc
@@ohitsnotme9056 Not in a school/collage environment no we call teachers Mrs, Mr, Ms or sister(if it's a nun teaching) insert last name(sometimes a teacher will ask or let you call them by their first name but only if they say you can) or if its a male teacher sometime's sir which is a habit that can't be broken even if your gone from school if someone asks about your old school or you meet an old teacher your always calling them that even as an adult. Also if we dont know someone and trying to get their attention we call them Sir or Ms but if we know your first name we are going to call you by your first name everytime. Sorry if its a bad example im not really good at explain our ways someone can correct me if i'm wrong or explain it better to ya.
So get what you all of you are saying. Made us laugh Adrienne when you said you didn't know what to say! Great energy every time. Thanks for inspiring us, ladies
@@quinnquazy876 depends on the tone, really. i called a racist white co-worker in her 30s " yup! mamma of course", with a serious face.i knew i was being extra shady and i also knew that if she argues she'll look loca.
This is me all the way. For me, respect isn't shown the standard stereotypical way. It's more about your attitude rather than your words. Just treat me the way you would treat anybody else. I'm not above you just because I'm older than you. I'm very big on equality.
I love this conversation and hearing about where each of the hosts come from and their culture. I’m happy Adrienne was so real about it even though she was the odd one out.
I did that to my mom once by accident. I just wasn’t thinking bout all of that. I almost got my face smacked. I caught myself and like oh snap, no wajt mommy!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 idk bout y’all but don’t play with an asian mother 😂😂😂😂😂
I asked my mom about that cause we're Hispanic and she said she didn't care. It's just not a big deal to certain people Edit: should have added too that most Hispanic adults I've addressed don't really mind. Unless they state they wanna be called Sr. or Sra. I say their names
I don't think people in the carribean spanish speaking countries emphasize "usted". They really refer to them as "tu" to everyone. For the older one, they have respect but do reallly emphasize "usted".
Really thats stupid I would never call an elder by their first name. I would never call my parents or older relatives by their first names its weird. I don’t get it whats the big deal if some says ma’am it clearly means that they are insecure about their age. You don’t call a teacher or a professor by their first name.
I’m with Adrienne I’m from the east coast and we hardly ever call anybody miss or Mrs. But I can also be because my mom is West Indian and I would call aunty or uncle.
Def can relate to ade here. I grew up in nyc too and not once was taught to answer with yes ma'am/sir etc. I moved to tx when i was in high school and it was such a thing... like you might as well get up and spit in the teacher's face if you don't respond "yes ma'am no ma'am". It still confuses me
Omg Adrienne has be f’n hollering right now like she is legit confused pobrecita 🤣🤣🤣💙. I was raised in the south with a Puerto Rican mom and a Black father so I got used to say ma’am, mr, misses and always the last name of the person.
Same! My family is very informal. My grandma does not let my mom call her mom, she likes to be called by her first name "Betty." When someone wants me to refer to them a certain way, I will. Otherwise, I will just naturally call someone by their name.
Yeah it usually just makes me say, oh you can call me _____, that's my name when people say miss or ma'am to me or I make a joke like I'm not an officer in the military call me by my first name. I kinda hate when taxi/lyft/uber drivers do that.
Brought up in South Africa but my dad is American. When I spoke to my mom and dad, I could say stuff like ‘yes mom’ or ‘yeah dad’ and they were fine with it. All other adults were called Auntie and uncle 😂
Where I’m from it’s very respect to say yes ma’am and no ma’am! People always tell me my manners are great and will take me far in life!! I would never call an adult by their first name.
Yes. But during the great migration in America in the early to mid 20th century, Black people migrated to other regions and a lot kept the way they spoke... like my grandmother. My mom and my sister and I were born and raised in Michigan. Instead of saying yes ma'am to my mom and grandma, I just say yes grandma or yes mom.
Luka Lakicevic she did not go to school in Houston. At least definitely none of her formative years. I’ve never heard her mention Houston and she doesn’t sound like she’s from Houston at all
Luka Lakicevic also I remember her always talking bout growing up in the Detroit projects and how her nickname is Detroit Debby as he stripper name or alter ego or something
Me too Adrienne but I’m from Massachusetts. But I’m with Tam and Jeannie about answering your parents with respect and not calling them by their first names.
Me as a New Yorker like Adrienne, speaking for myself I don’t call people ma’am or sir, doesn’t mean we don’t respect elders, how people in the south view respect is different than how people in NYC view respect because courtesy and verbal communication is different everywhere you go.
I remember the first and last time I said, what!?!?! My lip looked like it swallowed a soft ball! 🤣😂🤣😂 now I get pissed when kids answer, WHAT!?!? to anybody! Lol
I was raised like Adriane. I call my Mom by her first name sometimes, we are very relaxed in our relationship. I will say yes ma'am and no ma'am to her when appropriate though. Everyone's relationships with their parents is different, don't feel bad Adriane! I think these are 2 different situations in my opinion. With others I always pay reverence to my superiors and elders. I will say Miss and their first name if I do not know if they are married and I say yes ma'am and no ma'am everytime.
This is such a interesting conversation to me. Here in Sweden we always call eachother by first name. Our parents and grandparents are the only exception. Like we all have the same ”status”. We show respect to elders in other ways, like behaviour. Its interesting to hear about difference in culture. 😊
😂😂😂 yea I’m def with Adrienne on this one ... in Miami we don’t say ma’am , sir , mr. , ms, mrs none of that ... we just be like el señor,... or la señora,... tu vieja ,tu vijeo would be someone else’s parents 🤷🏻♀️ but we def use their first names mostly .. I’m also like “maaa , mom, madreeeee, Angelaaaaa! “ lol
The “girl you crazy” thing is wild to me. If you’re a fully grown adult with children of your own why is it a big deal? It’s not like you need the discipline. Idk, I hate having to be serious in my own house 🤷♀️
Small confession: When I was younger I thought my mum’s name was mum, I didn’t think she had an actual name and then when other kids did it as well I thought all mothers have the name mum. I learnt, my mum had an actual mum cox she had to be called something else before she had me. I don’t ever call my mum by her a ACTUAL name, that’s be a quick death, HELLLL NAHHHH
JasmineN Williams HAHAHAH that’s kinda how I also realised as well, and it all started to make sense. But for the longest time I didn’t think ‘mum’ was a title
I relate so much with Loni and Tamara. I grew up calling Spanish older folks usted and if people spoke English I would say Ms and yes and no ma’am I learned this in school. I’m from the south New Orleans and then came to Houston
I’m malaysian we call people older than us “uncle” or “aunty” or “abang” (older brother) or “kak” (older sister) Regardless if we’re related by blood or not 😅
I had a man in his 60s get angry with me for using the term ‘“Sir” I was about 19. He wanted me to use his name Dori which I assume was short for Dorian. So that is what I did when I took the bus... I messed up a few times though and he became irritated with me....(he was the driver so I saw him often) It was strange because in southern families the terms sir or ma’am are used. I do think some seasoned people take it to the extreme with their outraged attitudes though....I think some people come off as haughty or elitist which is not ok. it’s as if these people think their age makes them superior or more valuable. However if u read scripture, Jesus seems to have a higher regard for children. Tamera’s mom kind of came off haughty. Tamera didn’t mean to offend her....it was in jest. Tamera knows ur her mom and u are a ‘mama’. It seems to be more of an ego thing and less of a respect issue because respect is in how u treat people, whether u are truthful, kind and considerate not in what titles u use when referring to them.....I can use the term sir or ma’am because u forced me to but that doesn’t mean I respect u as a person. If Jesus answered to His name who am I to be offended when someone uses mine?
Ms. Adrienne, I was born and raised in New York and I was taught to say Mr., Mrs., Ms., etc. Therefore, I think it is all about your upbringing and how you were raised. God bless you, Ms. Adrienne!
Mexicanos are the same we say “USTED” (older you, shows respect) & “TÚ” (younger you) I was raised just like Tamara no “huhs” “what?” & “yeaaaah mom” 😂
Adrieanan and my mother are the same I wasn’t taught yes ma’am no sir until I got to the south and even before then I was always respectful I feel like it’s not that serious as long as you know your manners as thank you ,no thank you ,may I , I appreciate it . Things like that I’ve always don’t even without the formalities and I’ve always been told I’m so respectful
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I think addressing any women as "Miss" is the most universally accepted and the safest!
Or Madam
I say aunty 🤷🏽♀️
Hadi Yazid yes we love to hear Miss
Yes! Bc ma’am makes it feel so old instead of respectful idk
I disagree. I HATE being called miss. It’s patronising as a 5 year old girl is also a miss. So I prefer Ms. Soon, the only correct way to address me will be Dr. I think you should always ask. That’s the safest.
In the Caribbean we are taught to call older people aunty and uncle or Mr. And Ms
Jaelle Dickson over in Africa too
True
Lol I know right
Yep yep
Jaelle Dickson we African’s too
In Spanish we call our elders by “usted”
We also call them Doña and Don followed by their name.
Edit Name doña is mrs. in English so we do the same as they do by calling them mr. and ms.
I know im surprised Adrienne didnt recall that
just me .. does she not know Spanish?
ada soriano well we usually use that when talking with adults in Mexico, And for what I Know Adrienne is not mexican
This is definitely an American thing. I’m African and we definitely don’t call older people by their first name
abby S I’m Jamaican. The first time we would ever try something like that, we would catch licks. Adrienne is lying because that is not a New York thing. Must be a Bronx, Hispanic or American thing.
Roxy I was raised in a Mexican culture we don’t play by people’s first name it’s usted always 😂
I’m English and on the whole we just call older people by their first name. For my biological uncles / aunties, I would say uncle / aunty X until I was a teenager and then just use their name only. They didn’t care. Although I had an elderly Greek neighbour and I called her aunty, because that was her cultural preference. We never use ma’am in the UK.
Facts
We just explained that it is only in certain parts of Amefica
As a Nigerian who was raised in Nigeria, I can’t even imagine calling my parents/aunties/uncles/any adult BY their names 😰
Yes I agree wholeheartedly. I cant stand when young kids and teenagers call me by my first name..its so disrespectful...and a lot of it has to do with the parents and how they brought up their child
I'm from South Africa, and you WOULD NEVER... EVER call an elder by their name. I don't even know their names sometimes the way we be respecting 😹
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FromArmania that’s sad
Exactly 😂 we don’t play like that.
“Who’s the ma’am around here?” was totally me when I was 17 working at McDonnald’s. Kids would be like “Excuse me ma’am can I get some ketchup?” Lol
Yosseline de la Paz sameee 😂😂
That's true I used to feel that way too but I think it's more about respect
Me too! But once I became real grown I appreciate it.
Ma'am has nothing to do with age and everything to do with respect and MANNERS.
😂😂awww idk why this comment was so cute to me haha!
I called my mom "girl" the other day, when telling her a story and boyyyy did she put me in my place! lol I feel Tamera on that one!
Everytime I get really into a story, I say guuurll without realizing who I'm talking to. One time it was a guy lol so I can relate
I did that on accident once and my mom just laughed 😂
@@donuts4680 same🤣
I do tht all the time and my mom nodding but its a whole different if i call her by her first name lile if i say Nuevlyn im dead period
My mom has np with it I been calling her by her name since I was 2 I only call her by her name really to get her attention.but not to disrespect
This older lady got offended because I called her mam she’s like I’m not that old. 😂 okay Karen just trying to be respectful but whatever 🤷🏽♀️
😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Preach
lol probably it's more understood by Southern folks.
Yes! I live in the South, so most people like to be called Ma’am since it is taught to us since we are little as a form of respect. However, I have come across some women that take offense to it because it makes them feel old. It’s like, what do you do? 🤷🏻♀️😂
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In most parts of Africa we call our elders auntie or uncle even if not related❤❤❤
soo true even my parents friends I call them aunty or uncle.
Mum literally met a women at the market one time and I had to call her aunty like my doesn’t even know her name 😂
Co-signed.
Same in Indian culture. Every adult growing up and even now is uncle or aunty
YUPPP everyone is blood 😂
“I ain’t one of your lil friends” 😂😂😂
As a Dominican raised in New York Im with Adrienne 😭 it’s confusing
Fr. My mom is Puerto Rican and I call her mama or ma
@@lizarrington3636 yes
it's iffy, because some adults get offended when you call them ”ma’am” and ”sir”.
I want to hear Tamara's story about her son , but she got interrupted , damn
Yes!
Yes by Adrienne of course
Haven’t you heard enough lol
Tamera is sweet but I am happy others got to talk too
I always feel like these women are going to start fighting any minute. Loni always seems like shes pissed off with the others.
There’s nothing wrong with asking people, “How do you prefer that I address you?”. It’s polite and thoughtful and avoids awkwardness later on. ✨👌🏾
I mean, where's the lie
That’s very classy and thoughtful
My friend did that when she met my mum for the first time and my mum appreciated it so much.
Simple n to the point. Cant be mad at that
I’m honestly like Adrienne. My family is just really informal. Everyone outside of my parents gets called by their name
Same, I don’t have any less respect for my elders when I do. I just call you by your name I mean it’s ya name right!
@@destineeallen88 YES HAHAHA♥️♥️♥️♥️
@@destineeallen88 Wait a minute where are y’all from to the point that you can be like that?
I’m from the south “Texas” and everything Tamera is saying is the truth. My parents don’t play that what or huh. You better say yes ma’am no ma’am.
YES♥️same with mine
“Who’s the Mam around here?!” Lmaaaoooo
"Not I" lmaooo
karanique’s korner 😂 lol
Giiiiirrrrrlllll 🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤣😂😂
If she said to me I would say yes bitchhhhhh
As a 26 yo, I HATE it when people call me ma’am. So I get her reaction lol
To Nigerians, your parents friends are your 'aunty' and 'uncle' even if they aren't related by blood. It's our way of respecting our elders
that's how its in india too
I would be so confused by y’all. I mean, is she REALLLY your aunt. It’s like your siblings, and aunts and uncles are always increasing by the day. Like I wanna know your family. I don’t wanna know your fake aunts and uncles and cousin and bro’s and sisters. Or “cousin brother”. Who is your REAL family dude?! 😂🤣
@@Sarah3944 Its our way of showing respect to our elders. And by knowing our real family? Lol, you'll never know unless we're like 'This is my ACTUAL aunt/uncle. Like, by blood' lol
Delenathewriter I guess I don’t like being deceived. And I don’t want to ask “is this your blood”? Lol. That would kind of be rude. But over time I am able to tell who is family and who isn’t. But it does annoy me. Like “call me Sarah”. I don’t need to be aunty. I’m still young. Don’t age me. lol
SarahA Idk dude it’s like when your uncle and dad fall out and don’t speak interact anymore or speak do you still call him uncle? Are you even close to your cousins bro??
In Sweden you call everyone by their first name even the teachers lmao
Yess
couldn't imagine doing that in india 😵😂
I got a whopping for answering “what?” 😂 to a calling lol
That’s so extreme. Damn, parents need to chill
For West Africans we call everyone who is older than us Aunty or Uncle or Maa if your Ghanaian
same for southern Africans
same with Liberians lol and everyone is your cousin haha
Even Zambia
Eastern Africans too😂
Kezia-Priscilla Valentine dame in Sierra Leone as well.
I’m like Adrienne I don’t know if it’s an inner city girl thing, but I have never referred to my elders as mam and sir (that’s hella weird tbh). I did and do however say Mr. and Ms. if there is a distinct and noticeable age gap between me and said person.
Depends on what inner city. From Chicago and you have to put a handle the name. Either Ms, Aunt. Sounds same as Loni, my Detroit neighbor. We migrated from the south thanks to JC.
@Kayte Larsen I see calling people "Miss" and "Mr." like @Sasha Kimmy as just as polite as calling them "Ma'am" and "Sir". You were right that it is about how you are raised, but the rest of your comment was so unnecessary. There is not one singular innercity experience ma'am, and every area (urban, rural, suburban) has its issues. Some families are like Adrienne's and very casual, and it has little to do with where they are located.
I think it is an inner city thing and there is nothing wrong with that. I’m a Texan so everybody is Miss and mister or sir
Sersabio that’s also true too
Same here from Cleveland. We do Ms. and Mr. But didn't grow up with Sor or Ma'am. The military trained ne more on the Sir and Ma'am titles and living in the south now I see people prefer that. My kids friends can call me Mrs. first or last and some just call me mom.
I was def like Jeannie cause my mom and dad NEVER liked me answering with "WHAT?!"🤣🤣Expect a beat down for sure lol
I'm with Adrienne, I was raised in a New York/New England household and you just call people by their first names (except your parents). It wasn't till I met southern people and realized the whole MR and MRS thing is a serious thing they do.
I’m with Adrienne lol it’s confusing and I’m not trying to over think it all.
Katie Caceres yes!
Same.
Katie Caceres she made that more complicated and deep than need be lol it was no that serious
No manners
@@aura5944 bitch manners is not the same thing as "reverence" as loni put it. I'm not gonna bow down to you because youre older than me. Being polite and having manners is NOT the same thing. Age doesnt determine respect. I respect everyone equally. Not gonna walk on eggshells avoiding calling someone by their name just because they're old and entitled.
Tameras mom seem real strict and stern
Her mom was in the military for many years, her dad followed and joined her becuz he wasn’t so in love! Her mom and dad were both military lol
@@MultiSassy84 my dad was military and i never called him sir or my mom mam,or any of my adult neighbors but we gave all adults much respect
Yeah lol a lil too much
Marcus Martin she sounds like a right bitch
And look how well-grounded, respectful and humble her kids turned out to be.
loni's chi-chi's poppinnnn and adrienne's earrings are sooo cute
auntie jocelyne , yes they are
Doea anyone know where they are from? Love them!
Thank you Janelle Mohan🙏
@@maxineramsy1425 I believe they are actually from Adrienne's jewlery line. Check out her channel/website
my latina mom be like...no se dice “que” se dice “mande”
My grandpa said this to me too! Lol
This dependes on the country. I am from Costa Rica and we don’t say “mande”. I hear that a lot in Mexico.
In Spanish you have “usted” and that’s what I usually use for people older than me, unless they specifically tell me not to. In English I try to say ma’am and sir.
It sounds similar to what arab people call their teachers and anyone with authority..."Ustaz"
Si, usamos “usted”, pero no hablamos por apellidos. En general usamos los nombres de pila
yeah I agree with you
owlie alim yes I was thinking the same
Esteban Aguirre Other countries say it too
I call my mom by her first name as a joke 🤣😂 she doesn’t care. And yes we’re black.
same haha, i'm with adrienne. nothing to do with respect
Yeni Taylor I’m half black & I called my black dad by his first name my whole life. And we’re Southern, too.
Same! I joke with my mom like that sometimes and she doesn’t mind🤣. But any other adults that aren’t in my family, I say “Mr.” “Mrs.” “Ms.” “Ma’am” “Sir”
I'm from Alabama and we do the same. But the only time I called her by her name as a joke was in front of grandma because you can't beat me when she's around!👵💃
Yeni Taylor same
I’m just like A. I call my mom “mom” and she doesn’t pay attention to me I’ll call her by her name. I don’t think it’s disrespectful. But with other women I’ll call them miss or aunt
Adrienne, you're fine! It's crazy how formal Tamera, her mama, and Jeannie's family are. LIKE WHY. Not every older person deserves respect. We are all people. We ALL deserve respect, doesn't matter what age you are.
Nah, I prefer how the Australians do it. Everyone calls each other by the first name but it’s not out of disrespect. Instead it’s mutual respect among all, regardless of age. I hate when older people talk to me condescendingly just because I’m younger 🙅🏻♀️
Girl, its 4:00am.
I thought i was the only one awake 😂
Clara Cabrera i like that. Always wanted to move to Australia too 🤔
yeah like why is saying someone’s first name disrespectful? you don’t like your first name? then change it but tf that got to do w me calling you MISS or MRS or MR?? absolutely nothing
Clara Cabrera Australia’s got it from us British
Are the fires being put out?
Once, a guy at a store called me ma’am and I’m 21. 😂
Daniela he wasn't going to call you by your first name, now was he ?
Lechiffresix six no but it was weird. He could have just said hey miss, that would have sound better.
I don’t get this. I’m English and don’t understand why they need to call you anything? Just be like “is there anything I can help you with?, have a nice day” etc
In Ireland we call everyone by there first name
Even teachers?
@@ohitsnotme9056 Not in a school/collage environment no we call teachers Mrs, Mr, Ms or sister(if it's a nun teaching) insert last name(sometimes a teacher will ask or let you call them by their first name but only if they say you can) or if its a male teacher sometime's sir which is a habit that can't be broken even if your gone from school if someone asks about your old school or you meet an old teacher your always calling them that even as an adult.
Also if we dont know someone and trying to get their attention we call them Sir or Ms but if we know your first name we are going to call you by your first name everytime. Sorry if its a bad example im not really good at explain our ways someone can correct me if i'm wrong or explain it better to ya.
So get what you all of you are saying. Made us laugh Adrienne when you said you didn't know what to say! Great energy every time. Thanks for inspiring us, ladies
Omg I remember I was in tamera’s position when I told my mom “girl you crazy “ 😂 too and she straight up looked at me like :
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I've had ladies be offended with me calling them ma'am 🤷♀️
SAME! i never understood it honestly unless they take it as im calling them old or whatever
Yes me as well. Not ALL old people deserve respect
@@quinnquazy876 depends on the tone, really. i called a racist white co-worker in her 30s " yup! mamma of course", with a serious face.i knew i was being extra shady and i also knew that if she argues she'll look loca.
If they feel gross about aging, that's their own problem. Getting offended over that is a choice, and a petty one at that.
This is me all the way. For me, respect isn't shown the standard stereotypical way. It's more about your attitude rather than your words. Just treat me the way you would treat anybody else. I'm not above you just because I'm older than you. I'm very big on equality.
I love this conversation and hearing about where each of the hosts come from and their culture. I’m happy Adrienne was so real about it even though she was the odd one out.
Seriously? Tam calling her mom girl and she got mad? It's like a term of endearment. Wow it's not that deep 🙄
I don't like saying it is for "reverence". Older people are not Gods or saints. It is to express respect.
That's literally what "reverence" means. 🙄
That’s what reverence means though. To show respect.
@@osimeon00 Reverence means deep respect. There is a difference.
I was raised 100% like Tamera! My dad didn’t play that.
Exactly
I am always so respectful of my elders. I was taught since I could talk to always say yes ma’am yes sir to even my parents. It’s just a southern thing
I just LOOOOOVE how Adrian segways are 😂😂😭😭😂😂 she is hilarious
From my east African culture you have to referee to my elders auntie or uncle. mrs. or mr.
Zulekha Osman u Somali 👀👀
@@user-yy7cw7fl8p yh, how did you know?
@@zulekhaosman7540 your name is so somali lol
Aaiish right
Same
I never say “ WHAT “ to my mom she we’ll kill me 🤣😳
Aaliyah Lopez yeah mine too 😂😂 I say “yes mom”
It's huh? Yeah? What you say? Not just what?
I did that to my mom once by accident. I just wasn’t thinking bout all of that. I almost got my face smacked. I caught myself and like oh snap, no wajt mommy!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 idk bout y’all but don’t play with an asian mother 😂😂😂😂😂
I was raised like Adrienne
It may be a culture difference and I always find it interesting to compare
In Nigeria, Every Older person esp your parent's friends are your aunties and uncles lol....
Adrienne, you never used “usted” vs “tu” when talking to señoras?
Riiiiight i was wondering this the whole time in spanish theres a difference, yes.
Wondered, too. Maybe she spoke more English with her mom.
I asked my mom about that cause we're Hispanic and she said she didn't care. It's just not a big deal to certain people
Edit: should have added too that most Hispanic adults I've addressed don't really mind. Unless they state they wanna be called Sr. or Sra. I say their names
I don't think people in the carribean spanish speaking countries emphasize "usted". They really refer to them as "tu" to everyone. For the older one, they have respect but do reallly emphasize "usted".
Adrienne never spoke Spanish to anyone, por favor. 😂
It is. Its a New York city thing. When my mother isn't responding I call her by her first name! 🤣👍🏼🗽🗽
Some people don’t like to be called ma’am . A lot of people tell me not to call them ma’am because it makes them feel old 🤷🏽♀️
Really thats stupid I would never call an elder by their first name. I would never call my parents or older relatives by their first names its weird. I don’t get it whats the big deal if some says ma’am it clearly means that they are insecure about their age. You don’t call a teacher or a professor by their first name.
@@gathajayan3558 yeah
Adrienne pulled out a Lozada accent when she started talkin to Sonya 😂
*even though (because) i was raised in a household where i was supposed to say “ma’am” & “sir” i’m like adrienne’s mom lol it’s never that deep*
Let me also add that Adrienne is my fashion inspiration all the time.😍 she’s always so cute, I LOVE HER!
I like the adding Mrs before soneone older. Its a sign of reapect and this world could definitely use more of that
I agree with Adrienne I'm also a New Yorker and didn't start saying ma'am or sir til I moved to the South.
I literally love this show
I’m with Adrienne I’m from the east coast and we hardly ever call anybody miss or Mrs. But I can also be because my mom is West Indian and I would call aunty or uncle.
Def can relate to ade here. I grew up in nyc too and not once was taught to answer with yes ma'am/sir etc. I moved to tx when i was in high school and it was such a thing... like you might as well get up and spit in the teacher's face if you don't respond "yes ma'am no ma'am". It still confuses me
Omg Adrienne has be f’n hollering right now like she is legit confused pobrecita 🤣🤣🤣💙. I was raised in the south with a Puerto Rican mom and a Black father so I got used to say ma’am, mr, misses and always the last name of the person.
Really thinking about it, I don't see the disrespect in calling someone by their name. Its their name lol
Same!
My family is very informal. My grandma does not let my mom call her mom, she likes to be called by her first name "Betty."
When someone wants me to refer to them a certain way, I will. Otherwise, I will just naturally call someone by their name.
I know lol Like my mom gave me a name for a reason and she sure as hell didn't name me Ma'am
Yeah it usually just makes me say, oh you can call me _____, that's my name when people say miss or ma'am to me or I make a joke like I'm not an officer in the military call me by my first name. I kinda hate when taxi/lyft/uber drivers do that.
I think the only reason formalities are used is to establish dominance
Brought up in South Africa but my dad is American. When I spoke to my mom and dad, I could say stuff like ‘yes mom’ or ‘yeah dad’ and they were fine with it. All other adults were called Auntie and uncle 😂
Adrienne’s looking fabulous!!! 💪🏾💕🥰🙌🏾
Where I’m from it’s very respect to say yes ma’am and no ma’am! People always tell me my manners are great and will take me far in life!! I would never call an adult by their first name.
“We southern people”? Isn’t Loni from Detroit
Dayz M. Her family is probably from the south like mine
Yes. But during the great migration in America in the early to mid 20th century, Black people migrated to other regions and a lot kept the way they spoke... like my grandmother. My mom and my sister and I were born and raised in Michigan. Instead of saying yes ma'am to my mom and grandma, I just say yes grandma or yes mom.
She was born in Detroit but schooled in Houston
Luka Lakicevic she did not go to school in Houston. At least definitely none of her formative years. I’ve never heard her mention Houston and she doesn’t sound like she’s from Houston at all
Luka Lakicevic also I remember her always talking bout growing up in the Detroit projects and how her nickname is Detroit Debby as he stripper name or alter ego or something
3:10 “who’s the ma’am around here?!?? Like... NOT I !!!” Hahahahahaha Adrienne has me weak
Adrienne is completely correct. It’s def like that here in nyc 😭 you not horrible Adrienne it’s cultural 😂
Me too Adrienne but I’m from Massachusetts. But I’m with Tam and Jeannie about answering your parents with respect and not calling them by their first names.
I’m Mexican and grew up in South Texas and I relate more to Adrienne 😆
I call everyone by their first name lol.
Me as a New Yorker like Adrienne, speaking for myself I don’t call people ma’am or sir, doesn’t mean we don’t respect elders, how people in the south view respect is different than how people in NYC view respect because courtesy and verbal communication is different everywhere you go.
I remember the first and last time I said, what!?!?! My lip looked like it swallowed a soft ball! 🤣😂🤣😂 now I get pissed when kids answer, WHAT!?!? to anybody! Lol
I was raised like Adriane. I call my Mom by her first name sometimes, we are very relaxed in our relationship. I will say yes ma'am and no ma'am to her when appropriate though. Everyone's relationships with their parents is different, don't feel bad Adriane! I think these are 2 different situations in my opinion.
With others I always pay reverence to my superiors and elders. I will say Miss and their first name if I do not know if they are married and I say yes ma'am and no ma'am everytime.
This is such a interesting conversation to me. Here in Sweden we always call eachother by first name. Our parents and grandparents are the only exception. Like we all have the same ”status”. We show respect to elders in other ways, like behaviour. Its interesting to hear about difference in culture. 😊
😂😂😂 yea I’m def with Adrienne on this one ... in Miami we don’t say ma’am , sir , mr. , ms, mrs none of that ... we just be like el señor,... or la señora,... tu vieja ,tu vijeo would be someone else’s parents 🤷🏻♀️ but we def use their first names mostly .. I’m also like “maaa , mom, madreeeee, Angelaaaaa! “ lol
I hollered when Adrienne said NILDAAAA!😂😂😂😂
Man i Agree with Adrianne. I'm from NYC too 😭
Woah, Mama Darlene is strict. It was just a joke bro 💁🏿
Omg I LOVE LOVE LOVE Loni’s hair makeup and dress in this episode! The color is Soooo pretty.
The “girl you crazy” thing is wild to me. If you’re a fully grown adult with children of your own why is it a big deal? It’s not like you need the discipline. Idk, I hate having to be serious in my own house 🤷♀️
I’m with Adrienne 😂 I guess I’m disrespectful af lol but no it’s just how you are raised, not everyone has the same upbringing
Small confession: When I was younger I thought my mum’s name was mum, I didn’t think she had an actual name and then when other kids did it as well I thought all mothers have the name mum. I learnt, my mum had an actual mum cox she had to be called something else before she had me. I don’t ever call my mum by her a ACTUAL name, that’s be a quick death, HELLLL NAHHHH
JasmineN Williams HAHAHAH that’s kinda how I also realised as well, and it all started to make sense. But for the longest time I didn’t think ‘mum’ was a title
@@jwshow you had to hear other people talk to her,they did not call her mom.
I’m obsessed with Tameras laugh 😂♥️
I relate so much with Loni and Tamara. I grew up calling Spanish older folks usted and if people spoke English I would say Ms and yes and no ma’am I learned this in school. I’m from the south New Orleans and then came to Houston
Loni love, I’m am here for it hunnie. I love this look.
I'm from the south and we can not call our parents by the first name we gonna get slapped
I feel Adrienne. That’s how I am with my mom. Must be a New York thing. Although my mom does say Hay is for horses. 😆
As a fellow North American, We calling yo ass by your first name. Not ma’am miss or mrs.
Being Hispanic we would call our aunts and uncles “Tia/Tio *their first name*” but if it was like a teacher I would always call them Mr or Ms/Mrs
And ‘tu’ and ‘usted’
I’m malaysian we call people older than us “uncle” or “aunty” or “abang” (older brother) or “kak” (older sister)
Regardless if we’re related by blood or not 😅
The girls look good! Love your whole look Loni esp makeup. Havent seen it this great in a long time..
Lmao down here in Texas people be calling me mam and i’m only 20 😂😂💁🏽♀️
I had a man in his 60s get angry with me for using the term ‘“Sir” I was about 19. He wanted me to use his name Dori which I assume was short for Dorian. So that is what I did when I took the bus... I messed up a few times though and he became irritated with me....(he was the driver so I saw him often) It was strange because in southern families the terms sir or ma’am are used. I do think some seasoned people take it to the extreme with their outraged attitudes though....I think some people come off as haughty or elitist which is not ok. it’s as if these people think their age makes them superior or more valuable. However if u read scripture, Jesus seems to have a higher regard for children. Tamera’s mom kind of came off haughty. Tamera didn’t mean to offend her....it was in jest. Tamera knows ur her mom and u are a ‘mama’. It seems to be more of an ego thing and less of a respect issue because respect is in how u treat people, whether u are truthful, kind and considerate not in what titles u use when referring to them.....I can use the term sir or ma’am because u forced me to but that doesn’t mean I respect u as a person. If Jesus answered to His name who am I to be offended when someone uses mine?
Y’all know it’s never gonna be on a first name basis especially if you black or African
Ms. Adrienne, I was born and raised in New York and I was taught to say Mr., Mrs., Ms., etc. Therefore, I think it is all about your upbringing and how you were raised. God bless you, Ms. Adrienne!
Adrienne is clueless!! Lol
Mexicanos are the same we say “USTED” (older you, shows respect) & “TÚ” (younger you) I was raised just like Tamara no “huhs” “what?” & “yeaaaah mom” 😂
I’m with Adrienne 😂😂
In the Caribbean if you call an adult by their name they would hold your arm so tight and ask you." Did you and me born the same day"???😂😂
Adrieanan and my mother are the same I wasn’t taught yes ma’am no sir until I got to the south and even before then I was always respectful I feel like it’s not that serious as long as you know your manners as thank you ,no thank you ,may I , I appreciate it . Things like that I’ve always don’t even without the formalities and I’ve always been told I’m so respectful