Plus, she said even after she showed them proof she booked the place, they were still extremely rude & treating her like she didn't belong there. They were incredibly dismissive.
I dislike how they dismissed Adrianne. This has happened to me...no one mistook me for a prostitute ... however, they would not let me check in despite leaving my credit card details. Normally in Western Europe, you put your credit card for the booking and then pay at the end of your visit. I did not like the experience.
It's still crazy that people will only leave you alone if you tell them you're with someone, especially a man, rather than just respecting the first no.
@Wilmina Robinson right?? More than once the next thing they've said was "you can still have a friend right?" Ya... If I wanted a friend I wouldn't of lied about having a bf in the first place! 😂🤦♀️
@@zaram3134 I did that a few weeks ago and said "Wheres the ring?" All I could say was "You asked if I was married... not if I was good at it" and kept walking 😂😂😂
K L yes but on top of the fact that they needed her card, they were rude and disrespectful. I’m pretty sure a white woman wouldn’t have gotten that treatment.
K L the UK and the US are two different places. Not every hotel requires you to have the hotel for a prepaid room. Most hotels I book at, I just show my confirmation number and ID like Adrienne was trying to do.
If you replace Tamera then it should be with a dark skin Latina like Amara La Negra or a dark skin Indian woman like Mindy Kaling. They hardly get any representation in the media. Or a hijabi (preferably darker skin) girl like Halima Aden.
Mindy is funny. Amara is also funny but very loud, louder than Adrienne. I don't think Halima would do it. She's Somali Muslim and publicly talking about these kind of topics is taboo in the culture and she wouldn't be able to relate to a lot of the explicit topics
I dont think there's any restrictions about topical contributions to culture. Somali muslims also experience these things in their environments. If its about inclusivity this table deserves a middle eastern or south asian.We need to explore
I completely agree maybe not Mindy Kaling! I would love to see and upcoming POC who doesn’t have as much recognition come to fill tamera’s position but yes agree!!
Good call! However, as a Muslim, I mostly agree with everything Tamara says as she´s always the one who brings the God angle to it. Those who know monotheistic faiths, know how similar our values and outlook are. I really really appreciate Tamara and her Christian values. Although, it´s because she´s a serious Christian. Not someone who just calls themselves something but then does everything like others just to seem cool and "normal". What counts as "normal" today can be pretty messed up in our religious view.
@@Khwaab I agree with you, I have a minor in religions. I understand how beautiful Islam is and agree with you in terms of having similar values. I’m not talking about this show, but often when talking about Christianity, it comes at the expensive of Islam, and it’s often bashed in the media for people who misunderstand it. So it would be nice to have a Muslim on the panel to know that not everything ppl hear on Fox News is true🙄. Similarly about hinduism, white ppl have monetized it like yoga and meditation and have called it “spirituality”, “manifestation” . It would be nice to hear about it’s origins and give credit where it’s due.
So true!!! I can be in a room with 100 guys, and will probably be attracted to only one of them. Maybe 2 at the most. In a span of 5 years, I only been attracted to one person.
javi ruiz I’m shocked & disappointed... sure a pay cut sucks but if it’s so that y’all get equal pay then I’d say that’s worth it! What happened to standing by our sisters 😢
THIS IS SO TRUE. Everyone things a woman is flirting if she’s being friendly. I have a really bubbly personality and I can’t even talk to a guy without being perceived as flirty. It sometimes offends me when people point me out as being a flirt but there’s kind of something empowering about being able to flirt, just sucks that I have to tone down my personality sometimes.
Some girls say thing with love and passion. It's best not to give a guy the time of day if ur not going to put out. When I was pregnant and a lady offered me her set I felt so loved cared for..... the same feeling I got when my husband washed the dishes and cleaned and asked if I was craving anything special ...it was the same feeling the love I had for my husband was the same love I had for this stranger who was showing me love and compassion ....an all she did was stand up and said sit...I don't think she spoke english That's all she did and I felt so much passion for her.
So true, a bunch of men called me a flirt and not a nice person. All I did was being polite and friendly, no extra eye contact or body movement or exchange of name or number. When I found out about it from my bf I felt very offended. On what basis do men create such rumors, it's offensive.
Anytime a woman does anything... a touch of a very kind fellows hands could be taken as a sign of “ oooh she’s interested “ and that’s where it gets weird, someone simply being nice shouldn’t equate to flirting lol
Once in a reunion of my college's graduates this dude I knew from High School sat near me and the people I was talking to, I'll call him Max. Max started talking about how depressed he was and how miserable his life was. When he finished his story I talked to him for a couple of minutes. I told him to try new activities to help improve his depression and to message me in Facebook if he needed someone to talk to. I was simply expressing sympathy for his struggle and being kind because I too suffer from depression. Next week my best friend told me that Max had told him I came on to him at the reunion and that there was *sexual tension* between us. I talked to Max for five minutes at the most, stayed away from him most of the reunion, I never touched him or behaved sexually in any way. Yet he felt free to tell people I came on to him. That's why I rarely talk to men, most of them are desperate and they interpret any sympathy or kindness for sexual interest.
@@lindajohnson8194 If someone I know tells me he/she had been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts I'll tell them to be positive and to send me a message if they feel like talking. How is that a come on? "Hey, boy I heard you'd like to die, give me a call so we can get busy ;)" Now that's a come on and creepy as well.
I really wish they posted the rest of what Jeanie said. I have a friend who is hella flirty and eventually the people in our friend group started calling her out on it because she would flirt with guys we were interested in. Then she flipped out on us because she didn’t think she was flirting and was really offended. She said “I’m not changing who I am for you guys!” Eventually she realized what she was doing and has calmed down a bit.
Elle Plow Plow I’m not 100% sure tbh. She’s a super friendly person and had admitted that she had never actually had anyone openly not like her or criticize her, so she took it to heart to begin with. I think once she realized that we weren’t criticizing her as a person, but rather her behavior she was able to see where we were coming from.
Battle Rifle partly, but we all like attention. She is super friendly and is naturally flirty, so she didn’t realize she was doing it. She had also never had anyone openly criticize her like we did, so she took it as an attack on her rather than her behavior and how it was negatively affecting us.
@@maddie3329 No I'm sick of hearing that. I'm sick of hearing women playing dumb to very obvious situations saying " Oh I had no idea". No you had an idea but you did it anyway. She's the same type of girls who would have a male best friend who is helplessly in love with her but she's trying to tell everyone else that he's just a friend and doesn't see me that way
Women do the same thing. I think we all know those girls who thinks every man is trying to talk to them or like them because they simply are nice and probably playful with them
Yesss I had a friend like that! She even thought the trees in the park were flirting with her because the wind was blowing the leaves in her direction.
I’m nice but men definitely take it as flirting. But when I like a guy, I usually pick on them and am a little mean. Adrienne once said that being mean is how she flirts. Haha. I’m the same way. So if I’m nice, then you should take that as a sign that I’m not flirting!
Im the same way. I tend to ignore somebody when im attracted to them. When I feel no physical chemistry whatsoever, im more outgoing and talkative. I guess because our confidence shows when we talk to people we're not shy around. So men might take that confidence as a sign of flirting. Men also like confident women, so that could be the reason too. When we're attracted to somebody, we tend to be more reserved. As lease thats the case for me.
So, to paraphrase: If a woman is being nice to you it's because she doesn't find you attractive, so don't flirt with her or you'll possibly be accused of sexually harassing her. However, if she's being downright nasty and unpleasant, she's just waiting for you to start flirting and showing an interest in her. Have you ever considered therapy??
Yeeesssss🙌🏽 You can't even BLINK while wearing false eyelashes w/o some men thinking you're batting your eyelashes at them. SMH. I don't really wear them anymore 😂
I'm with Tamara. Dating wasn't my thing and I never paid attention as to whether a guy was interested or not. The direct approach works with me also. Lol
The same. I find myself not interested most of the time. I don't even have a celebrity crush. A dude has to be super upfront for me to understand the whole situation. Even then, in unsure what to do with my and his feelings I find myself really attracted to the guys personality and if I like that I would find myself insanely attracted to him. The man could be a 3 and I'm like 😍😍😍😍😍 If I'm nervous around a conventionally attractive guy, it's really because I'm thinking hmmm can I pull this? Am I attractive enough to pull this?. I think about myself and test myself to confirm if I'm that girl😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yeeaaah Adrienne. If you book through a third party website, like hotels.com, they are gonna need physical proof of payment at the actual front desk. It's not their fault you lost your whole wallet! 😂
Im going to really miss tamera. But can u try getting an indian american on the real. That is a person of colour too and the conversation of the difference in cultures would be beautiful.
I have the opposite problem 😂A woman could give me all the ‘obvious’ signals, and I’ll still assume they’re just being nice so i don’t make them feel uncomfortable. Probably why i’m still single. As long as men are always expected to make the move, you’re gonna have those guys that misread you. Can’t have it both ways!
Many guys mistook my “smiling” and genuine interest in them as flirting. Now, asked my male cousin this and he said well, “men just do not smile in interaction like many women do.” This is from a males perspective. I considered it and noticed women can have the tendency to be more open in conversation, emotive in communication, and men just “aren’t.”
So when women give compliments to men it's just it's not flirty it's just being polite. When a man give a woman a compliment it's sexual harassment because he always mean it in a flirty sexual way. SMH.
I love Adrienne but I agree with the other ladies in regards to her hotel story, they just thought she was broke lol. A lot of hotels want a card on file for incidentals.
if her government issued id match the card that had already paid for the hotel then it doesn’t make sense that they would go through all that. and it would have been a credit card so they did have insurance for incidentals.
Amara Booker I use to work for Booking.com and many hotels would deny a guest check in because the did not physically have a card with them even tho they prepaid for room just in case of damages to the room or any additional charged. They would place temporary hold on the card (depending on what hotel it was it could range from 50 - 200) and the hold would be released once youve checked out.
Ashley Rios not to mention she’s charismatic and she’s a lawyer and she’s also part of “ The Interracials “ that a fan came up with since they all date outside their race lol
Yes! I was being nice to this guy on Facebook in the comment section of a post because we had something in common, and he legit said “man it’s so nice to just have a good old-fashioned flirt with someone and their man doesn’t get mad. I was like ummm who was out here flirting? And my husband read it and was like yeah wtf is he talking about? We both had a good laugh at him and then I blocked him so he didn’t get confused 😂😂😂
The simple thing of telling a woman "I like you." I did that. The woman was disgusted at the thought of ME liking her. The simple approach doesn't work for everybody. Enough said.
In my experience, simply initiating friendly conversation with some men would have them perceive a woman is flirting... Holding a steady gaze, smiling, and keeping up an interesting conversation with questions are also signals a woman is flirting. So is physical proximity. When a woman allows a some men to stand close to her, getting into her personal space, these types of men would perceive this as an invitation. Tone and volume of voice are also significant indicators of interest as perceived by some men. A soft voice is often perceived as seductive. An especially cheery voice can also be perceived as inviting. All it takes is a smile to drive some men wild. So be prudent about the smiles you give, knowing they can lead down many roads.
I offered a man a seat once on the bus and he would not leave me alone after that. Every time I'd get on that bus there he was trying to get my attention.
When I was in middle school to early hs, I used to think guys who were innocently nice to me were flirting, but as I get older I realized majority of the guys were pricks to girls (at least the ppl I went to school with) so if you’re not used to innocent kindness it can easily be mistaken to flirting
Jasmine Riel Look at the strap that goes across the shoulder. You can tell that it’s longer and meant to be that way. If she just pulled a regular strap across, it would be choking her.
I was test driving my car with the mechanic and he was telling me go here then go there.. so I was like JOKINGLY ok where where else do you want me to take you and long story short the next time he saw my mom he was asking her how old i am lol and I was a topic of their conversation. So I guess he thought I was flirting with him? Or maybe It’s not a big deal that he asked how old I am? Idk
Edward DeBrae Im sure that happens to some men. But in my experience, men will pretend to be kind and as soon as you let your guard down, there they are with some type of advancement. They will then attempt to guilt you into whatever it is they want bc “they were a nice guy”. It has happened way too often for it just to be a coincidence.
@@chocolatecuban Hello, Ariel H, guys that pretend to be "Nice Guys" are called "Players" and are wolves in sheep’s clothing. Nice guys are usually faithful and friend zoned for 45 years, so to speak. If your willing, I would recommend watching an older movie called "How To Be A Player " staring Bill Bellamy. It’s a little out there but gives a good idea of what a player is and how he or she operates as a chameleon. Hope you stay safe and healthy.
Yes it is, but most of the time because of male ego, men don't accept the answer no. And imo, both men and women should take the hent when someone let's you know clear as day they're not interested, you need to move on.
Someone’s actions may appear flirty if that person’s cute. Freshman year of hs there was this guy who was innocent cute, and he’d smile, say hi or good morning to girls he sees in the hallway (plus he was a dancer). I’m pretty sure almost all the girls labeled him as a flirt. But throughout the years of hs everyone realized he’s just an extrovert who may appear overly too nice from an outside perspective
@@TiffanyRayneOfficial I agree with Mrs. Tiffany Rayne and with Mrs. Jeannie Mai’s statements. That some people just have magnetic personalities and some are just unconscious flirts, so to speak. However, I would add that Ego and Persistence are two different things. Also, life and people are not as black and white as people would like them to be. Funny thing is “Mr. Wrong” today may become “Mr. Right” tomorrow. However, he may end up telling you “no” because of the way he was previously treated. Being the rejecter is a lot easier than being rejected.
One time I went out to eat with my ex and it was windy outside. With my fingers I was detangling my hair after we had already got to our table and the waiter came up to take our order while I was still messing with my hair and my ex got all mad at me saying I was flirting with the waiter and twirling my hair 🤦🏻♀️ Like first off, if I wanted to flirt, why would I do it in from of my ex? And 2, why would I do it in general while in a relationship? 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Guys really do be clueless 🙄
The real fan base is toxic, y’all be bashing these ladies over their opinions and when they leave or say they’re leaving all of a sudden y’all love them, you’ll miss them. Y’all were bashing Tamera over her husband saying he’s racist, she doesn’t add enough content on race. You did the same with Amanda, oh she hates white people, she’s always talking about race. Now it’s oh “I miss you”. What? Y’all need Jesus tbh.
Happens to me all of the time....it can be a little frustrating when you're just habitually friendly. It's like dude get over yourself, you're not even my type
Let's be real, Adrienne is Latina. If she has experienced *any* stereotypes, it would probably favorable to her. For example, if she is a "Feisty Latina" many men will find that sexy and will put up with it. But if you're a feisty Black woman, you just have a "bad attitude." A Latina can be strong, take charge, and bossy and be considered a boss, but when a Black woman is bossy, she's too independent, emasculating, or manly. GIRL stop trying to relate. And you only had a hard time checking in because YOU FORGOT YOUR WALLET, not because they thought you were a prostitute. If people got turned away for prostitution, hotels would go out of business.
Bruh like I’ve been told so many times that I like someone and I’m flirting when I’m like 1. How can you tell me who I like? And 2. Me being nice and laughing a lot is not me being flirty. I am just a laugher
I used to work at a hotel. The issue was indeed the fact she didn’t have a credit card for incidentals. Regardless of the hotels.com booking and the prepayment they NEED a credit card on file Incase you trash the room so they have a backup because hotels.com hides your credit card info so we technically don’t have any credit card besides the one you give us in person. We aren’t allowed to take a credit card over the phone and it’s policy that the person has the send over a copy of the id and credit card front and bank & also has to fill out the form giving consent of using their card and what for. It’s a huge process so save us the hassle and bring a credit card or don’t come to the hotel 🥰
Never had the problem. No one thinks I am flirting with them hahaha. I have no flirt bone in this body haha. But I did this for a long time. If a guy was nice to me I thought they liked me.
Yea this one guy back in highschool mistook my niceness for flirtiness. He blew up when he saw me with a male friend and tried to spread a rumor about me...
I have this problem a lot. I am a silly person, and I like to think a friendly person. I just like to be nice because life can be tough and I want to be a positive part of people’s days. anyway. Men often take my friendliness as flintiness and I don’t realize it till they start responding to me in a way that feels more than just friendly chat. I smile at people a lot and they even can take that a weird way sometimes. It is really frustrating.
I'm always helpful. I like to help. A lot of times being kind is mistaken for not necessarily flirting but men think I'm giving them special attention. Like no. We are at work. I'm helping you taking out the trash because it's a lot of trash.
I used to work at subway and im alwsys very nice i just make their food and i had a man yell at me i got a wife. I thought wow how random. He was so confident and it was so gross because he was hideous.
in my 40 years in earth I think maybe two times in my life have I ever been complimented by an unknown random woman, I think its its the same for most guys compared to women who probably get hit on everyday I assume
Can Mindy Kaling be brought onto the panel? Since tam tam is going it’d be nice to see a funny character, fresh face on the panel. She’s insightful too.
I love Mindy, but Mindy is too high profile for this show. Plus these ladies are vapid. I was really surprised Amanda lasted so long on this show. This show is very light, easy breezy. Amanda is smart and hard hitting.
My male friend whom I trusted with all my heart, decided to start hitting on me and making me uncomfortable, made me traumatized on ever establishing frienship with male counterparts
Amen to complimenting a man. It’s like seen as flirting. Like the first American man I met in UK elevator in uni he smelt good so I said ‘I like your aftershave, smells good’ and then he stood there and ‘openly’ checked me out! I was like 🤦🏽♂️😂 was nervous then, when he started checking me out. Like he couldn’t believe I was confident in being nice. Can’t we just be nice? 🤷♀️
I've gotta keep it real about the REAL and let me tell you the girl Adrienne bailon is as pretty as a girl can be and it's not just her looks as well she's pretty in the way she comes across that's REAL pretty to me and no man can, would or attempt to tell me different because every man knows a real pretty female when they see one and she is up there with the prettiest no doubt.. ( REAL TALK )
but why are they telling adrienne how SHE was treated.... they weren’t there🙄
I hate when ppl do that when u tell a story
mmhmmm
Plus, she said even after she showed them proof she booked the place, they were still extremely rude & treating her like she didn't belong there. They were incredibly dismissive.
@@wings5211 I know people who exaggerate stories like that and that is even when I was there to witness the entire exchange. Feelings are not facts.
@@thrilla72 Your opinion and personal stories aren't facts either.
I have literally stared into space and a man thought I was looking his way 🙅🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Same
Men are so entitled ugh
😂😂😂
Gurl! Speak to me this happens to me
Right! or if you look at them for like less then 2 seconds and they automatically think you like them 🙄 sweetie please
I dislike how they dismissed Adrianne. This has happened to me...no one mistook me for a prostitute ... however, they would not let me check in despite leaving my credit card details. Normally in Western Europe, you put your credit card for the booking and then pay at the end of your visit. I did not like the experience.
That's when you get loud on their a$$ and cause a scene. You might even get some comp stuff LOL.
People have mistaken me for a hooker. Now I'm in my late 20s I will insult you.
But that’s how it is in conversations lol
It's still crazy that people will only leave you alone if you tell them you're with someone, especially a man, rather than just respecting the first no.
Smh so true
YES YES YES!!! That’s what I always say. Like noooo I just don’t want to. Leave me alone daaamnnnn
@Wilmina Robinson right?? More than once the next thing they've said was "you can still have a friend right?" Ya... If I wanted a friend I wouldn't of lied about having a bf in the first place! 😂🤦♀️
Tell them you’re married. Just saying you have a boyfriend or taken doesn’t work anymore 🤣🤣
@@zaram3134 I did that a few weeks ago and said "Wheres the ring?" All I could say was "You asked if I was married... not if I was good at it" and kept walking 😂😂😂
If you just joke with them or laugh too hard they think you are flirting! It's worse when they get COCKY
Giiiiiiiiiiirl! The worst
some of them need to seriously look in a mirror and re-evaluate their lives
Or when they become total jerks after you tell them straight up you weren't flirting.
Frl
Right.
I’m really going to miss Tamera 🥺
Wait wht why is she leaving
Me too man
Wait what happened to Tamara?
littlemouse91019 she’s focusing on family life
javi ruiz we can’t miss a co host?
I feel like another reason why Adrian was treated that way is because she’s Latina. So many latinas get this type of treatment unfortunately.
No she just didn’t have a card
K L yes but on top of the fact that they needed her card, they were rude and disrespectful. I’m pretty sure a white woman wouldn’t have gotten that treatment.
Arlynn em I’m in the uk and everyone knows you need your card to enter hotel she’s near 40 she should know and maybe
K L the UK and the US are two different places. Not every hotel requires you to have the hotel for a prepaid room. Most hotels I book at, I just show my confirmation number and ID like Adrienne was trying to do.
I also hate that they didn’t believe her, I think Adrienne would know if she’s being discriminated against vs them just wanting her credit card.
I don’t like how they dismissed Adrienne.
I never assume a woman is flirting.
Some women just do things to be nice.
Ikr
Women take men's innocently being nice as flirting
@@cherylnelson5155 I know.
Thank you sir
@@TheBelievinme You welcome!
Me: *Makes eye contact with literally any guy*
Guy: She totally wants me 😎
No
@@vixoa7063 lol I literally said the same thing
If you replace Tamera then it should be with a dark skin Latina like Amara La Negra or a dark skin Indian woman like Mindy Kaling. They hardly get any representation in the media. Or a hijabi (preferably darker skin) girl like Halima Aden.
I would love to see Halima she's so great
Omg Halima is such a good suggestion
Mindy is funny. Amara is also funny but very loud, louder than Adrienne. I don't think Halima would do it. She's Somali Muslim and publicly talking about these kind of topics is taboo in the culture and she wouldn't be able to relate to a lot of the explicit topics
I dont think there's any restrictions about topical contributions to culture. Somali muslims also experience these things in their environments.
If its about inclusivity this table deserves a middle eastern or south asian.We need to explore
I completely agree maybe not Mindy Kaling! I would love to see and upcoming POC who doesn’t have as much recognition come to fill tamera’s position but yes agree!!
I told this guy his gas cap was loose & he asked me out. I’m like sir just trying to make sure you’re safe.
😂😂😂
😂😂 they really be feeinin. Don't even get me started on Brooklyn dudes
😂😂😂😂😂
Omfg 😂😂😂
😂😂😂
Add a Muslim or Hindu to the panel! It would be good to hear their perspectives too!
Good call! However, as a Muslim, I mostly agree with everything Tamara says as she´s always the one who brings the God angle to it. Those who know monotheistic faiths, know how similar our values and outlook are. I really really appreciate Tamara and her Christian values. Although, it´s because she´s a serious Christian. Not someone who just calls themselves something but then does everything like others just to seem cool and "normal". What counts as "normal" today can be pretty messed up in our religious view.
@@Khwaab Mashallah. True. Christians,muslims and Jews are all cousins. Peace be with them.
Right? Someone different
I agree
@@Khwaab I agree with you, I have a minor in religions. I understand how beautiful Islam is and agree with you in terms of having similar values. I’m not talking about this show, but often when talking about Christianity, it comes at the expensive of Islam, and it’s often bashed in the media for people who misunderstand it. So it would be nice to have a Muslim on the panel to know that not everything ppl hear on Fox News is true🙄. Similarly about hinduism, white ppl have monetized it like yoga and meditation and have called it “spirituality”, “manifestation” . It would be nice to hear about it’s origins and give credit where it’s due.
How about getting someone that’s half black half Asian?
Man dating as a guy absolutely sucks. As a guy you're attracted most girls. As a girl you find most men unnattractive.
So true!!! I can be in a room with 100 guys, and will probably be attracted to only one of them. Maybe 2 at the most. In a span of 5 years, I only been attracted to one person.
Mélissa RDJ equality is not the same thing as being different.
Equality is about men and women being equal despite their differences
That’s a little dramatic I think a lot of guys in my classes and work are cute 😂
@@mckenzie.8653 that's right
I disagree with the last part. That’s just how you feel.
So Tamera is really leaving?😭
Yes 😭😭
But why is she leaving tho
AT7 they cut her salary and she knows her worth so she left...,
Ash Wright bro she is legit the best person. On tht show
javi ruiz I’m shocked & disappointed... sure a pay cut sucks but if it’s so that y’all get equal pay then I’d say that’s worth it! What happened to standing by our sisters 😢
THIS IS SO TRUE. Everyone things a woman is flirting if she’s being friendly. I have a really bubbly personality and I can’t even talk to a guy without being perceived as flirty. It sometimes offends me when people point me out as being a flirt but there’s kind of something empowering about being able to flirt, just sucks that I have to tone down my personality sometimes.
Some girls say thing with love and passion. It's best not to give a guy the time of day if ur not going to put out. When I was pregnant and a lady offered me her set I felt so loved cared for..... the same feeling I got when my husband washed the dishes and cleaned and asked if I was craving anything special ...it was the same feeling the love I had for my husband was the same love I had for this stranger who was showing me love and compassion ....an all she did was stand up and said sit...I don't think she spoke english That's all she did and I felt so much passion for her.
So true, a bunch of men called me a flirt and not a nice person. All I did was being polite and friendly, no extra eye contact or body movement or exchange of name or number. When I found out about it from my bf I felt very offended. On what basis do men create such rumors, it's offensive.
Anytime a woman does anything... a touch of a very kind fellows hands could be taken as a sign of “ oooh she’s interested “ and that’s where it gets weird, someone simply being nice shouldn’t equate to flirting lol
Once in a reunion of my college's graduates this dude I knew from High School sat near me and the people I was talking to, I'll call him Max. Max started talking about how depressed he was and how miserable his life was. When he finished his story I talked to him for a couple of minutes. I told him to try new activities to help improve his depression and to message me in Facebook if he needed someone to talk to. I was simply expressing sympathy for his struggle and being kind because I too suffer from depression.
Next week my best friend told me that Max had told him I came on to him at the reunion and that there was *sexual tension* between us.
I talked to Max for five minutes at the most, stayed away from him most of the reunion, I never touched him or behaved sexually in any way. Yet he felt free to tell people I came on to him.
That's why I rarely talk to men, most of them are desperate and they interpret any sympathy or kindness for sexual interest.
Sounds like a come on to me
@@lindajohnson8194 If someone I know tells me he/she had been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts I'll tell them to be positive and to send me a message if they feel like talking. How is that a come on?
"Hey, boy I heard you'd like to die, give me a call so we can get busy ;)" Now that's a come on and creepy as well.
@@dunnotck1 That is a very honorable thing to do. Unfortunately it was misunderstood. Sorry that happen
Why do I relate with Tamera?
I'm such an awkward person... Coy as a bride... Don't know how to speak, what to do , etc 😑😂
Jeannie was just about to say something, damn web people at The Real ya'll need to stop cutting videos.
Ikr
Right I was waiting for it then boom. Cut off. Thanks. Lol.
They chop terribly all the time.
If anyone finds the rest of what Jeannie said can y'all post the link please?
This is why I'm standoffish to most men unless I'm actually attracted to him and I know he's attracted to me.
I really wish they posted the rest of what Jeanie said. I have a friend who is hella flirty and eventually the people in our friend group started calling her out on it because she would flirt with guys we were interested in. Then she flipped out on us because she didn’t think she was flirting and was really offended. She said “I’m not changing who I am for you guys!” Eventually she realized what she was doing and has calmed down a bit.
Maddie Schmidt I wanted to hear it to. It’s foul they cut it. What made your friend realize y’all were right?
Because she's one of those girls that like attention
Elle Plow Plow I’m not 100% sure tbh. She’s a super friendly person and had admitted that she had never actually had anyone openly not like her or criticize her, so she took it to heart to begin with. I think once she realized that we weren’t criticizing her as a person, but rather her behavior she was able to see where we were coming from.
Battle Rifle partly, but we all like attention. She is super friendly and is naturally flirty, so she didn’t realize she was doing it. She had also never had anyone openly criticize her like we did, so she took it as an attack on her rather than her behavior and how it was negatively affecting us.
@@maddie3329 No I'm sick of hearing that. I'm sick of hearing women playing dumb to very obvious situations saying " Oh I had no idea".
No you had an idea but you did it anyway. She's the same type of girls who would have a male best friend who is helplessly in love with her but she's trying to tell everyone else that he's just a friend and doesn't see me that way
there’s nothing wrong with being polite and complementary it’s weird when they think it’s flirting 🤣
Women do the same. My boyfriend is nice in general but some girls take it as flirting when thats not his intention. He's just a nice guy to everyone.
The ladies all look so gorgeous. Plus their makeup 😍
I don't know if I'll be able to watch without Tamera😥😭
So glad Adrienne brought it up that she was flirting in every way and the guy didn't notice 🤣🤣
Women do the same thing. I think we all know those girls who thinks every man is trying to talk to them or like them because they simply are nice and probably playful with them
Yesss I had a friend like that! She even thought the trees in the park were flirting with her because the wind was blowing the leaves in her direction.
@@lighteningsnips there's no way this actually happened lmfao
I’m nice but men definitely take it as flirting. But when I like a guy, I usually pick on them and am a little mean. Adrienne once said that being mean is how she flirts. Haha. I’m the same way. So if I’m nice, then you should take that as a sign that I’m not flirting!
Im the same way. I tend to ignore somebody when im attracted to them. When I feel no physical chemistry whatsoever, im more outgoing and talkative. I guess because our confidence shows when we talk to people we're not shy around. So men might take that confidence as a sign of flirting. Men also like confident women, so that could be the reason too. When we're attracted to somebody, we tend to be more reserved. As lease thats the case for me.
This comment is so relatable.
Same lmao.
And you feel like those are reasonable behaviours of showing interest? Like literally?
So, to paraphrase: If a woman is being nice to you it's because she doesn't find you attractive, so don't flirt with her or you'll possibly be accused of sexually harassing her. However, if she's being downright nasty and unpleasant, she's just waiting for you to start flirting and showing an interest in her.
Have you ever considered therapy??
i love this look on adrienne. like she’s so beautiful.
She looks good in everything she’s been blessed with looks.
Why do they always cut the video off to early!!! I wanted to hear what Jeanie had to say 😩
I know I hope they post part 2
Same!
Kai Lyn Unfortunately, they won’t.
Yesenia Torres they had to go to a break lol
@@MajesticMyronn Oh, so that's what happened. Thanks for always coming to the rescue over here on The Real's pages, Myronn!
I dont like how the other girls were telling Adrienne how to feel about the experience SHE had but they respect their own stories.
Yeeesssss🙌🏽 You can't even BLINK while wearing false eyelashes w/o some men thinking you're batting your eyelashes at them. SMH. I don't really wear them anymore 😂
Fake news is 😹😹😹😹
Dang I wanted to hear the rest of what Jeannie was saying
I'm with Tamara. Dating wasn't my thing and I never paid attention as to whether a guy was interested or not. The direct approach works with me also. Lol
The same. I find myself not interested most of the time. I don't even have a celebrity crush. A dude has to be super upfront for me to understand the whole situation. Even then, in unsure what to do with my and his feelings
I find myself really attracted to the guys personality and if I like that I would find myself insanely attracted to him. The man could be a 3 and I'm like 😍😍😍😍😍
If I'm nervous around a conventionally attractive guy, it's really because I'm thinking hmmm can I pull this? Am I attractive enough to pull this?. I think about myself and test myself to confirm if I'm that girl😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I'm just tired of them saying you're so beautiful when they only saying that because they just want one thing and I'm tired of men playing mind games
I really going to miss tam tam
Yeeaaah Adrienne. If you book through a third party website, like hotels.com, they are gonna need physical proof of payment at the actual front desk. It's not their fault you lost your whole wallet! 😂
I honestly can't see it without Tamera, her purity and love and warmth 💛💛💛
Don’t you dare cut off Jeannie like that. Upload what she was going to say, I was interested. 😑
Im going to really miss tamera. But can u try getting an indian american on the real. That is a person of colour too and the conversation of the difference in cultures would be beautiful.
Great suggestion!
I have the opposite problem 😂A woman could give me all the ‘obvious’ signals, and I’ll still assume they’re just being nice so i don’t make them feel uncomfortable. Probably why i’m still single. As long as men are always expected to make the move, you’re gonna have those guys that misread you. Can’t have it both ways!
Many guys mistook my “smiling” and genuine interest in them as flirting. Now, asked my male cousin this and he said well, “men just do not smile in interaction like many women do.” This is from a males perspective. I considered it and noticed women can have the tendency to be more open in conversation, emotive in communication, and men just “aren’t.”
Really men do go ahead of themselves
🙄🙄🙄
How could they thought she didn't have any money Loni? When she had a Louis duffle bag????
Some people walk around with a $2,500 bag with $0 in it 😭
So when women give compliments to men it's just it's not flirty it's just being polite. When a man give a woman a compliment it's sexual harassment because he always mean it in a flirty sexual way. SMH.
I love Adrienne but I agree with the other ladies in regards to her hotel story, they just thought she was broke lol. A lot of hotels want a card on file for incidentals.
if her government issued id match the card that had already paid for the hotel then it doesn’t make sense that they would go through all that. and it would have been a credit card so they did have insurance for incidentals.
Amara Booker I use to work for Booking.com and many hotels would deny a guest check in because the did not physically have a card with them even tho they prepaid for room just in case of damages to the room or any additional charged. They would place temporary hold on the card (depending on what hotel it was it could range from 50 - 200) and the hold would be released once youve checked out.
What are incidentals?
SupernaturalLove100 if you smoke in the room steal something break something stay past check out.
Linda Michelle Even if they thought she was broke why did they have to be so rude to her.
Consider Rachel Lindsay as a co-host! She’s been on the show before. She’s hilarious, educated, and has string opinions
Great suggestion!
Yes!
Ashley Rios not to mention she’s charismatic and she’s a lawyer and she’s also part of “ The Interracials “ that a fan came up with since they all date outside their race lol
Yass but she lives in Texas and is ok ESPN (permanently?)
Oh pls no. I like her and believe she’s been very important to the Bachelor franchise but no. She can b condescending and judgmental at times
Yes! I was being nice to this guy on Facebook in the comment section of a post because we had something in common, and he legit said “man it’s so nice to just have a good old-fashioned flirt with someone and their man doesn’t get mad. I was like ummm who was out here flirting? And my husband read it and was like yeah wtf is he talking about? We both had a good laugh at him and then I blocked him so he didn’t get confused 😂😂😂
That black woman's (in the audience wearing yellow) hair/twist out is amazing.
The simple thing of telling a woman "I like you." I did that. The woman was disgusted at the thought of ME liking her. The simple approach doesn't work for everybody. Enough said.
I love Jeannies child-like innocence ❤️ she’s so playful and sweet. I love her!
In my experience, simply initiating friendly conversation with some men would have them perceive a woman is flirting... Holding a steady gaze, smiling, and keeping up an interesting conversation with questions are also signals a woman is flirting. So is physical proximity. When a woman allows a some men to stand close to her, getting into her personal space, these types of men would perceive this as an invitation. Tone and volume of voice are also significant indicators of interest as perceived by some men. A soft voice is often perceived as seductive. An especially cheery voice can also be perceived as inviting. All it takes is a smile to drive some men wild. So be prudent about the smiles you give, knowing they can lead down many roads.
I worked for a hotel & we weren’t allowed to check guest in, even with a prepaid reservation, without a card for the incidentals.
I offered a man a seat once on the bus and he would not leave me alone after that. Every time I'd get on that bus there he was trying to get my attention.
When I was in middle school to early hs, I used to think guys who were innocently nice to me were flirting, but as I get older I realized majority of the guys were pricks to girls (at least the ppl I went to school with) so if you’re not used to innocent kindness it can easily be mistaken to flirting
lmfaooooooo jeannie at the end, coming from someone i respect” the shadeeeeeee 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😤
Is Adriennes dress supposed to be worn like that?🥴
Got no problem with it 🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤
Yes, that is the style.
It literally looks like it’s a normal 2 strap dress but they decided to put one strap across haha
Jasmine Riel Look at the strap that goes across the shoulder. You can tell that it’s longer and meant to be that way. If she just pulled a regular strap across, it would be choking her.
It’s fashion.
I was test driving my car with the mechanic and he was telling me go here then go there.. so I was like JOKINGLY ok where where else do you want me to take you and long story short the next time he saw my mom he was asking her how old i am lol and I was a topic of their conversation. So I guess he thought I was flirting with him? Or maybe It’s not a big deal that he asked how old I am? Idk
What if the roles were switched: men’s innocent actions towards women? Could that be seen as flirting?
Edward DeBrae Im sure that happens to some men. But in my experience, men will pretend to be kind and as soon as you let your guard down, there they are with some type of advancement. They will then attempt to guilt you into whatever it is they want bc “they were a nice guy”. It has happened way too
often for it just to be a coincidence.
@@chocolatecuban Hello, Ariel H, guys that pretend to be "Nice Guys" are called "Players" and are wolves in sheep’s clothing. Nice guys are usually faithful and friend zoned for 45 years, so to speak. If your willing, I would recommend watching an older movie called "How To Be A Player " staring Bill Bellamy. It’s a little out there but gives a good idea of what a player is and how he or she operates as a chameleon. Hope you stay safe and healthy.
Yes it is, but most of the time because of male ego, men don't accept the answer no. And imo, both men and women should take the hent when someone let's you know clear as day they're not interested, you need to move on.
Someone’s actions may appear flirty if that person’s cute. Freshman year of hs there was this guy who was innocent cute, and he’d smile, say hi or good morning to girls he sees in the hallway (plus he was a dancer). I’m pretty sure almost all the girls labeled him as a flirt. But throughout the years of hs everyone realized he’s just an extrovert who may appear overly too nice from an outside perspective
@@TiffanyRayneOfficial I agree with Mrs. Tiffany Rayne and with Mrs. Jeannie Mai’s statements. That some people just have magnetic personalities and some are just unconscious flirts, so to speak. However, I would add that Ego and Persistence are two different things. Also, life and people are not as black and white as people would like them to be. Funny thing is “Mr. Wrong” today may become “Mr. Right” tomorrow. However, he may end up telling you “no” because of the way he was previously treated. Being the rejecter is a lot easier than being rejected.
damn Ade took up the whole clip i wanted to hear what jeannie said 🤣🤣
ugh now that TAMAR AND TAMERA ARE GONE I AM TRULY DONE WITH THIS SHOW.
One time I went out to eat with my ex and it was windy outside. With my fingers I was detangling my hair after we had already got to our table and the waiter came up to take our order while I was still messing with my hair and my ex got all mad at me saying I was flirting with the waiter and twirling my hair 🤦🏻♀️ Like first off, if I wanted to flirt, why would I do it in from of my ex? And 2, why would I do it in general while in a relationship? 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ Guys really do be clueless 🙄
The real fan base is toxic, y’all be bashing these ladies over their opinions and when they leave or say they’re leaving all of a sudden y’all love them, you’ll miss them. Y’all were bashing Tamera over her husband saying he’s racist, she doesn’t add enough content on race. You did the same with Amanda, oh she hates white people, she’s always talking about race. Now it’s oh “I miss you”. What? Y’all need Jesus tbh.
Tamera please don't leave the show however i respect your decision though, i really love what you bring to the table💜
she left coz she got a pay cut lol
It’s so annoying when like I tease my guy friends who are like brothers and then my other girl friends think I’m flirting
Happens to me all of the time....it can be a little frustrating when you're just habitually friendly. It's like dude get over yourself, you're not even my type
It happened to me only once.
Damn Adrienne takes so much time from the segment
Let's be real, Adrienne is Latina. If she has experienced *any* stereotypes, it would probably favorable to her. For example, if she is a "Feisty Latina" many men will find that sexy and will put up with it. But if you're a feisty Black woman, you just have a "bad attitude." A Latina can be strong, take charge, and bossy and be considered a boss, but when a Black woman is bossy, she's too independent, emasculating, or manly. GIRL stop trying to relate. And you only had a hard time checking in because YOU FORGOT YOUR WALLET, not because they thought you were a prostitute. If people got turned away for prostitution, hotels would go out of business.
Bruh like I’ve been told so many times that I like someone and I’m flirting when I’m like 1. How can you tell me who I like? And 2. Me being nice and laughing a lot is not me being flirty. I am just a laugher
I used to work at a hotel. The issue was indeed the fact she didn’t have a credit card for incidentals. Regardless of the hotels.com booking and the prepayment they NEED a credit card on file Incase you trash the room so they have a backup because hotels.com hides your credit card info so we technically don’t have any credit card besides the one you give us in person. We aren’t allowed to take a credit card over the phone and it’s policy that the person has the send over a copy of the id and credit card front and bank & also has to fill out the form giving consent of using their card and what for. It’s a huge process so save us the hassle and bring a credit card or don’t come to the hotel 🥰
Never had the problem. No one thinks I am flirting with them hahaha. I have no flirt bone in this body haha. But I did this for a long time. If a guy was nice to me I thought they liked me.
If I think I guy is interested in me I tend to run away from them.haha it sucks.
As a latina, I've definitely been mistaken as a prostitute. Particularly in France and Italy while traveling....
Yea this one guy back in highschool mistook my niceness for flirtiness. He blew up when he saw me with a male friend and tried to spread a rumor about me...
Adrienne's hands drive me crazy 🙄
Tamera's reaction when Adrienne said prostitute 😂
I have this problem a lot. I am a silly person, and I like to think a friendly person. I just like to be nice because life can be tough and I want to be a positive part of people’s days. anyway. Men often take my friendliness as flintiness and I don’t realize it till they start responding to me in a way that feels more than just friendly chat. I smile at people a lot and they even can take that a weird way sometimes. It is really frustrating.
There's a lot of women who think men are flirting with them just cause they smile and say hello.
I'm always helpful. I like to help. A lot of times being kind is mistaken for not necessarily flirting but men think I'm giving them special attention. Like no. We are at work. I'm helping you taking out the trash because it's a lot of trash.
Damn. Finally early for once 😂😂😂
Right? Lol! I made it good time
Why is Adrienne shocked at offering a man a seat? It’s just being kind. A woman giving a male a seat is no different than a man giving a woman a seat.
Tamera😢😢😭😭
It goes the other way too. Sometimes women take innocent actions as flirting. I wish they acknowledged that
They really ended the video so awkwardly. Where can I find the second part?? I really want to hear what Jeannie said
Some Girls are the same way though lol. I knew a lot that would like a guy all because he said hey.
See how much they all talk without Amanda there.
I used to work at subway and im alwsys very nice i just make their food and i had a man yell at me i got a wife. I thought wow how random. He was so confident and it was so gross because he was hideous.
I think the reason males take it for flirting is because they don’t get treated well enough. They are just not used to it. I think that’s why
in my 40 years in earth I think maybe two times in my life have I ever been complimented by an unknown random woman, I think its its the same for most guys compared to women who probably get hit on everyday I assume
Says women who think a man opening a door for you out of courtesy is sexist
damn no one can replace tamera, get her twin sister on 😭
They didn’t mistake Adrienne for a prostitute. It’s just that you can’t check in at any hotel without a card on file.
Can Mindy Kaling be brought onto the panel? Since tam tam is going it’d be nice to see a funny character, fresh face on the panel. She’s insightful too.
I love Mindy, but Mindy is too high profile for this show. Plus these ladies are vapid. I was really surprised Amanda lasted so long on this show. This show is very light, easy breezy. Amanda is smart and hard hitting.
My male friend whom I trusted with all my heart, decided to start hitting on me and making me uncomfortable, made me traumatized on ever establishing frienship with male counterparts
Adrienne... are you making this up?
Yep, she trying to be more interesting
@@namisazulu1372 It happens. People, sadly, mistake Hispanic women for call girls sometimes.
Amen to complimenting a man. It’s like seen as flirting. Like the first American man I met in UK elevator in uni he smelt good so I said ‘I like your aftershave, smells good’ and then he stood there and ‘openly’ checked me out! I was like 🤦🏽♂️😂 was nervous then, when he started checking me out. Like he couldn’t believe I was confident in being nice. Can’t we just be nice? 🤷♀️
Loni's laugh at 4:02 😄😄
I've gotta keep it real about the REAL and let me tell you the girl Adrienne bailon is as pretty as a girl can be and it's not just her looks as well she's pretty in the way she comes across that's REAL pretty to me and no man can, would or attempt to tell me different because every man knows a real pretty female when they see one and she is up there with the prettiest no doubt..
( REAL TALK )
The rest of the video please 🥺
Woman: Glances around & makes uninterested eye contact while continuing to scan the room. Random male: She’s ✨ flirting ✨ with me. Haha.