Assaulted by Famous Rapper
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- Опубликовано: 8 июл 2024
- CW: This episode contains descriptions of SA, DV, and victim-blaming.
Within the music industry, a disturbing reality unfolds as predatory individuals exploit the adoration and vulnerability of young female fans. These cases reveal the dark underbelly of the industry, where the power dynamics between musicians and their admirers are exploited. Young girls, captivated by their idols and entranced by the music, find themselves subjected to the manipulative tactics of those who should be their role models.
This egregious exploitation underscores the urgent need for heightened awareness and protective measures. It serves as a stark reminder of the dangers lurking behind the scenes, highlighting the importance of recognizing and challenging these predatory behaviors. By shedding light on these distressing realities, society can work towards dismantling the harmful power dynamics within the music industry.
Sexual assault cases are often dismissed by law enforcement, perpetuating a culture of indifference and injustice. Survivors face skepticism, victim-blaming, and institutional barriers when seeking justice. This systemic failure allows perpetrators to evade accountability, sending a distressing message that sexual assault is not taken seriously. Comprehensive training for law enforcement, specialized units, improved victim support services, and a shift in attitudes are necessary to rectify this pervasive issue. Society must prioritize the well-being of survivors, hold perpetrators accountable, and dismantle the barriers that prevent justice. Only then can we create a safer and more equitable future.
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00:00 Meeting abuser
01:20 Beginning to talk
05:00 Reaches out to her
06:45 Experience meeting him in LA
10:00 SA
14:00 Social life growing up, isolation
18:20 SA
21:00 Other survivors
22:00 Pregnancy test & gaslighting
24:30 Apology, reconnecting
28:15 He refuses to accept responsibility
31:00 Violence
33:30 SA
35:00 No contact
36:00 Confiding in one of the producers
37:00 Friend makes an advance towards her
39:20 Brother’s lack of support
41:25 Posting about it on TikTok
43:30 Lack of support from mother
45:15 Seeing a lawyer, later dropped
49:30 Law enforcement closed the case without reason
51:30 Familial consequences
53:30 Connecting with other survivors
54:30 Psychological & relationship impacts
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THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A MATURE CHILD. THAT’S THE LANGUAGE OF GROOMING.
As a victim of grooming, I agree 110%. Perfectly worded
It rang so many bells when she said it and didn’t seem to understand what he was doing. He was trying to warp her reality and further groom her by saying she’s “mature for a 15 year old” freaking animal!
Exactly
That’s not necessarily true. I was the most mature out of the ppl I called friends being a teenager. To be called mature at 15 isn’t predatory behavior. Some girls are more mature than other girls at the same age it’s all about mindsets n the way you carry yourself n the way you’re taught.
Teenagers can be mature.
Her familys behavior is so disappointing and concerning…
Sadly, many families protect or make excuses for abusers.
Right. Fuck had brother
@@Merrybandoruffians true. usually in those cases the abusers is close to the family or part of the family. in this case it's extra sad because they aren't.
@@Merrybandoruffians and extremely weird that she is in the family and he isn’t and she’s still not being protected
@@gummibears211 probabbly mommy sees $ and fame in her brothers career, god forbid her daughter being r*ped would ruin it
It horrifies me that her brother was on the side of a 23 year old who had sex with his 15 year old sister: even if it was consensual it’s illegal and as her brother he should protect her. I hope he someday regrets this and knows what it feels like to be not listened to when you experience something traumatic .
there’s no such thing as consensual sex between a 15 year old and 23 year old
??? it wasn’t consensual tf do you mean
@@xterramichigan I said EVEN if it was because he had thought it was ; and I was saying even if that was true why would he be OK with his friend sleepig with his baby sisyer
You are all on the same side here.
It makes me think maybe her brother knew what he was doing but didn’t care enough to say anything since it’s his friend
The extent of her Mother’s commentary on her attack was “ He’s not Jewish, why did you sleep with him”???????? That is insane! Her Mother and Brother are pathetic.
Your pathetic! Her mother wants to keep her family line homogenous, and a genetically Jewish. Not to mention the black culture is one of fatherless homes, and violence.
Exactly what I said!! Mom didn't care she was 15 or that he was a full predator.... just should have been a Jewish one!!!
Yikes. 🫂 Hugs to this young lady's incredible courage from a fellow NY Jew Survivor ❤🙏.
The fact that she was shamed for being groomed and raped is so deeply sad. I can't believe the way her family and the police reacted. People saying that she "wanted it" are also really fucked up like she was fifteen??? I really hopes she knows that none of this was her fault and that she is strong af for speaking out!
right like im about to see red this shit makes me so mad and ik who it is too
@@jas6207 who is it?
@@jas6207 is there a link to the tiktok video please?
😊🎉
@@babyaik0 lil xan
Idc if it was her idea and she begged him. She’s 15.. END OF STORY!
This!!!! Yes yes yes! He was a grown man. She was a 15 year old child.
This !!!! She is a minor
Fr
i never begged him!!! but agreed
@@CherlizCohen Oh no please don’t misunderstand me I absolutely wasn’t trying to say that at all. I’m just saying even if you did it would still be his fault 100%!
THE RAPPER IS LIL XAN BTW. such a sad story i hope he gets held accountable for this 💔
His face talks toxicity
How do you know ?
I literally had a feeling that it was him right away
Proof? 😊
@@HamHamT Cher made a tiktok about it awhile ago!
I believe her. It’s crazy how no one, not even her FAMILY believed her when she had proof of it all. So much respect to her for coming out with her story. What a strong girl
Anyone who says she’s trying to grab clout from lil xan 😂😂😂😂 dude needs more clout than anyone else. There is no clout to grab
@@Amila-ym7ny I didn't even know it was lil xan ofc that nigga did it look at him be so fr rn.
@@Amila-ym7ny no seriously, this gives him more clout then he has if anything tbh.
@@Amila-ym7ny That's besides the point. Why is Becky trying to hang around Rap artist to begin with? Not ready for that conversation yet.
Conflicting life styles that do not match. Suburban girls should not engage individuals from the hood. It's not a reality show. She needs to stay in her lane.
We live in a disgusting world we’re people want to normalize men like this it’s sad 😔
Adults do not need underage friends. I have heard this so much and it is so backward. groomers know the younger person wants that clout, that someone sees them as an adult. ADULTS do NOT need underage friends.
I wish someone had told me this in high school
Hey, genuine question: I'm 17 and I have a close friend who's 13. I met them through their older sibling and basically, they maintain their older sibling's friendships for them because well, older sibling doesn't care much for friends or people in general and younger sibling is very extroverted. So in essence, this friend (younger sibling) adopts me like they do most introverts, it's like they collect introverts like trinkets. And i love spending time with them, i didn't even know they were 13 when we first became friends (they're extremely emotionally mature) and most of their other friends are my age as well, or even older. Being 17, i suppose I'm quite close to becoming an adult, or even already am in some countries. My mother and sister do think it's weird that I'm friends with a 13 year old but i'd hate to lose them and i'm glad that i have them in my life. I'm lucky even. They're so different from me but I see a lot of myself in them and a lot of my younger self as well. So, is this weird? And is it morally wrong?
@@imusedtoitmhm it really depends. there is nothing wrong with hanging with them from time to time but don’t make them your main friends. boundaries also have to be set bc no matter how mature they may seem, y’all have two diff type of mindsets with a huge age gap. which can cause them to grow up too fast or cause you to be going backwards
@@imusedtoit Personally, I don't think it's weird or wrong at all, morally or otherwise, as long as you never ever forget that your friend is underage and don't treat them as an adult either sexually or by drinking or doing other adult things around them, which might tempt them to copy your behaviour and leave them in a vulnerable position. Protect them at all costs and everything will be fine.
@@dannydarkense5500 thanks, I agree wholeheartedly
I just feel like she never should’ve been in this environment at 15. It’s not her fault, there’s no way to know what you don’t know when you’re that young. But her saying she’s traveling coast to coast for events and Ubers herself home like an adult…..I’m not admiring her parents rules/choices AT ALL.
People like to talk about how it's only girls with daddy issues who get trauma, but she said her and her mother didn't have a good relationship ever really.. the way her mother was talking to her... I can't wrap my head around it... I would have ran away so fast 🥺 I don't know what I'd do without my mom, we've had similar fights and she's not from here either.. she's Dominican 3rd world that successfully survives on their own. They didn't believe in mental health either, so untreated ADHD and PTSD from my assault developed OCD... My mom doesn't understand the idea of intrusive thoughts and my fear of the future... She thinks hugs and kisses are enough but it's the understanding that matters. We want to be heard and understood and see offenders unalived. Yes it feels good. Kind of like Cher's dad but her mother's tone.
I see your point, and I do agree with you, but I think the blame for this isn't with the parents, it's with the POS who did this to her. I bet not all of his victims are travelling all over the country unaccompanied.
@@dannydarkense5500 THIS.
@@dannydarkense5500 well, obviously the perp is still the perp. Doesn’t mean parental protection wouldn’t have kept her safe enough to avoid that situation.
In NYC this is literally so common
As a big brother to a little sister, the way her brother treated the situation infuriated me, the fact that he believed him over his own sister is insane to me.
Her brother’s irrational reaction is screaming guilty vibes. He probably is guilty of his own similar crimes.
That's exactly what I thought
Yup!!!
Her brother is so concerned with his lifestyle & image that he put that above his own sister being attacked. Absolutely vile how he treated her. What a pos
Hasn’t considered this. It would explain such a strong reaction!! 🤔
most men are
She was raped and sexually assaulted as a minor. And groomed. Deeply disturbing that society gaslights victims and ignores/undermines their pain. Keep talking and fighting for justice. Just getting on a public podcast gives him some of the karma he deserves. I (willingly) dated a 28 year old man in a position of power over me as a 19 year and it did a lot of mental damage. Much love to you.
19 and 28 is completely normal HAHAHA wtf are you talking about. You Literally had grandparents with that dynamic and for thousands of years and civilizations this dynamic worked, Stop whining so much
do we know who the rapper is? he should be named and shamed
@@jessicahill442 lil xan
I went through similar to you at 18 with a man who was 30+ years older than me. The power dynamic, the grooming and manipulation I experienced. Looking back as a 27yo, it’s messed me up how I got so caught up in it all and couldn’t see it for what it was.
I can totally relate to this. Same age I met my ex and he was also 28 turning 29. Stayed with him for seven years and now I have severe ptsd
As a survivor of SA the emotional damage of your family not believing you truly hurts more than the actual assault. Thank you for speaking out about this ❤
Yup, ruins the relationship
Teens and even early twenties is a time when you are so naive it is the family’s responsibility to protect and guide young people.
Exactly!!!!!
Hard head makes a soft ass at some point the child needs to take responsibility
I’m 21 and I be trying to tell teens but they never listen or care till it’s to late
@@kayythaagoat2161 think of when you were a teen, we didn’t listen either. We just have to try our best
pls fix ur split ends
She has nothing to take accountability for! She was 15! The fact that her family basically disowned her for being raped is so fucked up. My heart breaks for her.
No accountability? Are you saying she never had a choice to meet up with him?
@@KEYTV13 bro that doesn’t fucking matter she could have BEGGED him every minute of every day for months she could’ve sent him sexts on the daily fact is she was a minor there was no responsibility for her to take he’s the adult it’s his responsibility and his alone and even that aside meeting up with someone you think is a friend isn’t a green light to let them fuck you against your wishes the only way she could’ve “asked for it” is if she literally fucking asked for it and was 3 years older
@@KEYTV13Meeting up with someone ≠ consenting to be sexual with them
15 is still an adult in Japan
@@dieauferstehung that’s awful! Good thing this didn’t happen in Japan and rape is rape. Regardless of age but go ahead and defend a rapist. Says a lot about you!
It's shocking to think how many adults were involved throughout and chose to look the other way and allow a 15 year old girl with braces to be alone with a rich aggressive rapper.
You cannot tell me they didn't know.
Sickening when he said, help me inside you, I wanna throw up😡😡🤢🤢🤢😡😡
You act like a 15 year old is a toddler. We treat them that way and don’t TEACH THEM. You older women know how men get down. Savages for vagina. Sad but absolutely true. Feminism came about because enough was enough.
men are not "savages"....
It seems her parents just wanted her with him so they could ride his gravy train. Why else would 2 parents react that way?!?
C.P.S. should have removed her from those deadbeat parents. Yes, I said DEADBEAT PARENTS!!! A 15 year old girl being burned with cigarettes, pinched and hit. He is nothing of a man and I'm so glad Lil Loser isn't successful:)
Lil xan is hardly agressive and scary. Kid is fucked up on xanax most of the time. Im sure a 15yr old teenager can fk him up.
Thank you for giving her a platform, and a thank you to her for being open and speaking about it. This isn’t easy. I haven’t told anyone about my own experiences, maybe one day I’ll heal. Hearing this made me feel so much more less alone, thank you.
You will heal ❤️ sending love and light your way.
I love you 🤍 and we hear you babe, you are not alone.
I hope you heal this is so sick !!!! I feel so bad for this young woman !
This young womens mom and brother should feel absolutely ASHAMED of themselves.
Doesn't matter how or what a 15yo did in the presence if an adult, a wealthy and somewhat 'known' one with access to his pick of potential sexual partners at that!!!
Good luck if you decide to tell anyone. I’m in the same boat, except for my husband, who found out by reading my journal. What really helps with healing is to tell the story or write down the incident(s) over and over and over, until you can do it without having flashbacks or strong emotions. You can tell the story out loud by yourself. There doesn’t have to be someone else there. Basically, your brain needs to process it. The other thing that really helps is to use tapping therapy or EMDR. EMDR requires a therapist, but tapping can be done on your own at home. You can find it on RUclips. I mostly healed one of my trauma triggers with just one at-home session of tapping. It’s good stuff.
Her brother deserves everything bad that happens to him. Absolutely disgusting.
Agreed
Who is her brother?
The sad thing is that no parts of her story are uncommon among people that have been SA. This is why so many people don't report incidents. Repeating your story until you're blue in the face, having people question and shame you, having your loved ones find out and best case scenario hurt for what you went thru, having to see your assailant in court if the case ever gets there... All of that magnifies the trauma exponentially.
My heart goes out to her. Being groomed, rped, the nurse not doing their due diligence in noting they were rped, police not being there for her, family not being there for her. It’s just so much. It takes so much courage to recount this experience. You’re helping so many young girls who come across this video, and even older women in coming to terms with what they dealt with in the past.
the police department screws over sexual assualt victims all the time and its so tiring. lil xan shouldve gone to jail for this. forever.
Still on the beginning of the video, but how do you know it was lil xan?
Thank you for saying his name… let’s say it louder for the people in the back
What’s her TikTok handle?
i had a feeling it was him so disgusting
@@victoriadecker2442 it's in the description of the video
“You’re very mature for your age” has never gone anywhere good for me as a minor, and now as an adult that sentence from any man older than me just feels like a red flag, even though I’m legal now.
100%
I completely believe her. The way her brother and mom treated her was incredibly sad to hear.
I love how you can show a different side of yourself and you’re able to truly listen and engage to your guest. You do a great job at making every part of their story heard. My husband is an fent addict and I’ve related so much to so many of your podcasts. I really appreciate you dev keep doing what you’re doing ❤️
She was deeply failed by her parents, her brother, the nurse at urgent care, LE…literally everyone. Social media (in the last 15-20 years has become a terrifying, groom heavy, vulnerable, demonic place for children/teens ~ both boys and girls alike. She was traveling cross country for an app, ubering by herself, alone in her travels. Ride shares alone are terrifying at any age, let alone for a child. I feel such despair for her young soul and send her continued healing vibes. She is very well spoken especially in terms of her emotions, which is hopeful for her plight of healing.
They all wanted to stay in the good graces of the "#buser."
Her story is so heartbreaking. No child deserves to be harmed. I’m disturbed by the fact that there were always other adults present and they thought it was normal for the rapper to be hanging out with a minor. Everyone around this young lady failed her. I hope she is able to heal from this trauma and continues to be vocal about it so it may help another girl who finds herself in the same situation. My heart goes out to all victims of sexual assault. 🙏🏽❤️
Any adults who knew what was happening & chose to ignore it, are as guilty as the rapist himself. In regard to the cops & the prosecutors' office, they should all be ashamed of themselves for failing to do even the bare minimum under the law. As for her brother & mother, their behavior was inexcusable & I wish them nothing but the worst. This young woman deserves so much better than how these people treated her. Instead of helping her, they turned their backs on her when she needed them the most. I'm happy, though, to see how brave she's become, in spite of those who let her down.
110% FACTS!!!
110%
The only thing I find as upsetting as what was done to her is the fact that crimes just like this are being committed more & more every day. Her story is just one of many that have already happened & many that have yet to take place. Yet, despite improvements in forensic & DNA technology, the prosecution rate for such crimes hasn't improved much, if at all.
The process of reporting SA is still extremely traumatic & time-consuming for the survivor, often resulting in a rape kit that takes months or years to get tested, with many kits never getting tested at all. It's pretty widely known that the cost of getting these kits tested is fairly expensive & a lot of departments simply don't have the necessary funding. In my opinion, this lack of funding is part of a much broader problem, a problem which is rooted in a culture of non-accountabiluty, indifference toward victims & outright victim blaming. Until a large portion of society, as a whole, finally gets their heads out of their collective asses, SA survivors won't receive the acknowledgment, compassion & protection they need & rapists won't receive the punishment they deserve.
@@amber_hates_amber yes i was expecting the police go to his house and take him to the police station.
@I am the daughter of the king Yes. It blew my mind that the cops simply didn't go & question him. Even without a warrant, they could've figured out some way to question him if they really wanted to. The fact that he just ignored the cops & they were like, "OK. There's nothing we can do" is so bizarre to me. I guess if you or I ever get accused of a crime & the cops don't have a search warrant, we should just act like we're not home & wait for them to leave. Problem solved💁♀️
Brother is straight trash for treating her like that
no literally, i have an older brother and im thankful to know and trust that he would have my back no matter what situation im in
I can't imagine how horrible she must felt, my brother is 3 years younger and he's always been my protector without even asking he'll stand up for me and speak up when I can't do it myself he brings me comfort and peace and it breaks my heart knowing her brother betrayed her and didn't help/support her the definition of a trash person
Same! My brother has always been my protector and I literally cannot imagine him treating me like that, he would do the complete opposite and stand up for me.. it’s so sad
There’s always a “reason” that they abuse you. Bad childhood, or alcohol, or stress at work. IT IS NOT A JUSTIFICATION. An origin story doesn’t mean he’s not a villain.
Sometimes there’s not a reason other than opportunity for a disgusting monster.
@@kyliemaree8213 I feel like those who are openly and unapologetically abusive are usually easier to avoid or easier to leave. Not always, though.
You’re trying so hard to justify it
@@Pinky027 you actually have the IQ of my pinky. Can you read?
theres always a reason for literally everything. The reason people rape is because They Want To. not because of a bad childhood, alcohol or stress at work. Those are not reasons for anyone to rape people. Everyone goes through stress at work, and they dont rape people because of that. Millions of people have alcohol problems and dont rape anyone. Billions of people have bad childhoods and dont rape anyone. You cant say "its not a justification" in the same sentence where you try to associate rape with anything other than the rapits's desire to rape someone. There is no reason besides their own disregard for consent. Saying there is, is literally a justification. Saying he raped because of his "origin story" is very weird because i'm sure he had a very similar "origin story" to many men who are not rapists. Stop trying to associate rape with reasons that dont make people rape others.
Her story is the perfect example of why women dont go forward with their experiences. She had all the evidence. She was under age and he was an adult. She was not even believed by her family. I hope she can continue to grow and see that she had no responsibility in this. She was 15 years old, highly impressionable and he was a celebrity she looked up too. I am also pissed at that urgent care person not even making one note about her confession of the rape.
For anyone wondering it’s lil xan such a weird story on how they closed the case with no way of reopening it really makes you wonder who are is connections… and let’s be honest he’s not the most high profil celebrity and he still gets a spécial treatment… imagine what someone high profil can get away with… murder wouldn’t surprise me
He's so disgusting I hope karma takes it's toll on him
Where did she say it was Lil Xan?
Someone said she posted it somewhere, not in the video, but I can’t find it. I can’t even find her name or socials
I literally guessed it! You can piece it together when you Google Lil xan and Noah Cyrus break up
@@zknight4481 i found the post on tiktok but yea its was hard to find via google
Her brother fucked her over for lil xan?? Wtfff
So many people in this story are disgusting. The brother and her own mother are the worst kind of people on this planet.
this is so fucking sad. every single person she reached out to for help let her down so hard.
Her brother is disgusting…he’s the epitome of filth
Yep she should’ve listen to her friends before all of that happened
How her family treated her is appalling. They chose to remain ignorant at best, and victim blamed her at worst. Wow.
I’m pretty sure she was told not date grown men
@@houseofmatrix6174Stop victim blaming. Lowest form of human being.
@@houseofmatrix6174I'm pretty sure the adult man was told to not rape people or be with minors
The man who raped me when I was underage, also tried to gaslight me into thinking that we never did anything. I guess this is common.
Cher you are so strong! I am 18 and I look up to you and I felt very similar to your experience with my own experience with SA. Thank you for being an inspiration to never let others push what happened away. The justice system failed you 1000% and this is so common sadly. I just want to say you make me not feel alone and that I’m not crazy or wrong for what someone else did to me.
Who is that rapper do you know?
I think it’s lil xan, because he had a very public relationship with Noah Cyrus, and they did release a song together and his age and hers does line up.
Yooo
exactly what i was thinking
Exactly who I pictured she was talking about immediately.
I've been trying to work it out but I don't know the younger rappers! This fits though for sure
Or Trippie reddddd
i can"t stop crying. everyone failed her. so happy she's still here to tell the story. 💔
The urgent care employees are mandatory reporters. Disgusting behavior on their part. I am apologizing for them. You are so incredibly brave to speak out loud about this. Your story will make a difference.
I think it's lil xan, I saw an old picture of them together
Where
It is. It’s on her tik tok
@@josiecontreras131 what’s her name
@@josiecontreras131 the year this is from doesn’t match the age he would have been and she said he was from a totally different place
It never fails to blow my fucking mind how quickly the people closest to you, that you thought would always love you and protect you.... just switch up when someone is SA'd.
Their plenty of brothers and families who try to stop their daughter from dating bad guys and older guys but harsh truth is women do whatever they want. She stated her brother would’ve knock him out
@@houseofmatrix6174agreed not only did she hold it in and not tell anyone but at first she didn’t want the guy to get in trouble 🤮
I just have to applaud you on something on your interweaving style/podcasting style. You have a subject in your title and you get straight to the point. That makes me as a listener so much more likely to listen to the full thing. As a person with adhd I have a hard time finish podcast when they talk so much about random things in the beginning and THEN 25 min in to the episode they get to the point of what the episode is about. So good job on that 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
You’re saving countless other girls from becoming his victims by telling your story, thank you
This is so sad. My story is so similar to Cher’s and I’m sure a LOT of other girls… groomed at 15 by a 26 year old who claimed to be 21 at the time… 21 is still horrible but these predators know exactly what to say to vulnerable, young girls. 😔 10 year age difference and I didn’t get any justice when I reported him.
It's so sad that if she had proper support she could have avoided this whole traumatic experience. She had amazing awareness and boundaries at such a young age (which I definitely didn't at 15), meaning if she knew what to do in that situation and had a support system, she would get away long before anything bad happened. My heart goes out to her and I hope she has nothing but great life ahead of her!
She literally did have proper support how about open your ears 👂 she literally turned down the support and now she regrets it
Notice how she didn’t regret it when it was happening
The fact it could be any rapper speaks volumes about the industry… but just to air him out people are saying it’s lil xan.
Omg
The fact her brother dickrides for lil xan knowing that scum raped his sister…
Isn’t a hickey on a kid from an adult male just as bad as a bruise?? Insane !!!
Literally im so confused how he did not get in trouble
This happens to so many girls. Not just the assault but the community abandonment. You’d think what are the odds NO ONE helps but it’s too common.
Xan asking what state she’s from right after asking her age and being told 15 is crazy
Everyone is saying it was him but how do we know? I won’t say he didn’t bc idk who he is but where did u find that
I think one of the worst things about awful stories like this is when the family doesn't believe you. When the cops do nothing. In this story every single person in her life failed her. Not only her mother, her brother, even her father who said he would believe her only if she went to the police...but even the attorney and her friend! It just goes to show that she is a very strong and resilient person ❤
This makes you wonder if her brother knew all along or if he’s the same kinda person. There’s no way in hell my brother wouldn’t believe me if I told him that. Even if he didn’t believe me he’d be on my side no matter what
I believe you I hear you I support you I’m proud of you I’m thankful you told your story it is so important your story matters your voice matters as a fellow survivor, I applaud you for doing this. It’s sad we have to remain calm in order to be heard, while they are straight up animals treating women like pieces of meat, let alone children. You are more than what he did to you, how your family and others discarded you, I am sending so much love and light your way. You will heal from this, this is not and never will be the end for you ❤️
It seems like her brother was more upset about the affect it was going to have on him rather than what it was already having on her.
He was worried about the “contacts”he was going to lose career wise. Sadly his love for his sister wasn’t enough to protect her or at the very least comfort her but there’s plenty of online brothers and sisters here now, who are here for you. 💛
The brother and rapper will reap what they sowed. 🧙🏽♀️
I think you hit the nail on the head her brother didn’t want to lose what he has
The judicial failed her,the police failed her ,her own family failed her... they didnt believe her or ignored her....i hope karma will be extra nasty to each and 1 of them. She deserves better .i do know God will give her justice
So sad urgent care failed her too.
@@iamthedaughteroftheking3704 bro i heard that and was thinking how i would go back to the urgent care and find that employee and tell her what she caused for me. I’m 26 so obv more mature and bold/confident enough to do that but fr F that bih
And people wonder why women don’t report this. She was immediately judged and not believed the second she opened her mouth
@@beccac6812 yes as a freaking woman, I would type it in the computer RAPE. The lady probably was judging or did not care. Doctors notes are important.
As a man listen to this story triggered me deeply I can only empathize with her and learn from the mistakes of others. We really live in a world of trauma
this is sad and gross. how the fuck has lil xan managed to deflect so many allegations?
when you're a rich white man, you can get away with anything 🙃
he's a white man in the music industry, they get away with everything
@@Eeeeyore569 even if he wasn't a millionaire or something, he is still much richer than most people. muuuuch much richer
how could it be lil xan people are always saying hes literally not even mentally there xanned out does his dick even work from all the pills he pops WTF I remember he was on a podcast with Celina Powell and even she said she wouldnt fuck him and they were all low key clowning him for having a xanned limp dick aka ed. Could it be another rapper also her story is a little weird why didn't she uber asap from this creep or run away or complain to a neighbord that she was assaulted? Doctors nurses are mandaded reporters anytime you say its rape they have to report it to the police even if you don't want them to. Im not trying to be mean im just wondering from what i heard ... Also how does a 15 year old have money to pay for ubers and dinners soooo her parents were supporting her did they know what she was spending the money on? They never called to check up on her or her brother on face time to see where she is who she's with Idk they're inconsistency in the story . Why didnt she just block him she seemed to have kept giving him attention over and over
@@roxannemua9350 she was 15, obviously she didn't recognize that he was taking advantage of her. she said it was lil xan. she had money cuz she was popular on social media, did you even watch the video?
The way she talks … she’s so so young 😢 poor girl.
It is lil Xan. He still follows a much of minor girls and the girls don’t follow him back
I was thinking G - Eazy
It can’t be he’s not even 26 yet
MGK??
It is lil xan. She called him “D” and he goes by Diego
@@lovelifelaugh2727 He is 26
As a father of 2 girls, a brother to 2 sisters and a son to a mother Literally infuriating to hear this. The amount of rage i had after hearing her story i want to see this xan guy in person and do god knows what to him. How has he not been held accountable for this 😡
So disheartening how often this happens to almost every young girl. Something’s gotta change
The fact that he still has a following and no one is cancelling him over this... so upsetting.
What following? The "Xanarcist"? 🤣
@@kalondamack339 he has almost 5M followers on IG and 1M on tiktok and nobody is talking about this?
who is it
Who is the rapper?
I feel so bad for her. I’ve been assaulted too. It’s the most disgusting feeling :( also the lawyers and getting her case closed, omg no!!
wouldn’t be surprised if her brother was the same way as her abuser and that’s why he was so mad
So sad nothing came from you speaking out about this and that he is still able to live his life normally while he did this to you.. Sending healing energy your way ❤
@@lindseygaan5415 he's not
Do u know who?
@@myballs2900my guess is lil xan but idk
@@yemilopez1224 yeah that makes sense
@@myballs2900 yeah it's lil xan
Her brother and mom are disgusting humans. I got groomed by brothers best friend, I didn't say anything out of fear. I didn't have a good relationship with my family and feared they'd hate me, call me a liar etc. When it came out that I got groomed and my brother confronted me, I was so scared of how he'd reacted that I could barely stand. He listened, cried and reassured me that he believed me. This really cuts deep. America loves to protect Predators, the sad part is- the people know and just don't care.
Honestly him constantly asking for her age made me think about how he probably was hoping she would change her age and lie to him and he could use those massages to justify himself ‘I thought se was 18’ ‘she lie to me I didn’t know’ and the baby trap part WHAT DO YOU MEAN THAT HAVE HAPPENED BEFORE ??? THERE ARE MORE ??
it's a real shame morally responsible adults were not in her life at this time because she had impressive insight and boundaries at her age and could have avoided this traumatic experience if she had help getting away from that protected pedophile psychopath.
Not sure what legal parameters are protecting him but that's a societal problem. Powerful abusers needs to be held accountable for their crimes and kept away from the public.
My brother doesn't believe me that his best friend assaulted me. I couldn't even admit it to myself for years, I thought it was my fault, that we didnt get that far, so it didnt count as assault. But I was drunk, emotionally broken, and when the guy bit me so hard and I screamed out in pain and told him to stop and even slapped his head to try and get him to stop biting me, and he did it several more times, it WAS ASSAULT. I couldn't even escape, we were in his truck and the passenger door didnt work properly, when I demanded him to let me out, he told me to jump out of the window. But I was too drunk and was scared of falling. When I said stop that hurts, he just kept repeating "I'm a sadist". Then he pretended to be asleep. I dont even remember how I got out. But brothers who are so insecure and pathetic they wont believe their own sisters when this shit happens should go to hell.
Support to you girl ❤️ you did the best you could at the time it happened. People on the internet feel like they can say anything because it’s online, almost dehumanize someone they’ve never met. I’m proud of you for sharing this. This “man” will get what’s coming . Also looked up his pics 🤮🤮
Who is he? I want to know specially because I wanna make sure I am not listening to him I do not want to give my time and money to someone so disgusting
That's actually really sus how they just closed the case... honestly not surprised. Hollywood is crawling with predators, so the rapper probably had some sort of connection. The industry is extremely corrupt smh.
i believe her 100% bc something similar happened to me, not with a rapper but with a person of authority and i can relate to her perspective
I hope you reported it.
@@user-ii3cp7ot3s i did but nothing was done about it unfortunately
God is a God of justice Vicotry will come and he or she will suffer the consequences What Is in the dark shall come to light
Who was it
Love this podcast !!
Can we at least ruin him publicly if they can't get a criminal case started? 🙆♀️
Thats what I'm saying. When the law/government fails, we're all thats left.
nah fr i’m abt to play detective w the info she gave
I feel like the only reason is being sued by said person. Idk🤷🏻♀️. Because I literally can’t see why else you wouldn’t want to shame them so everyone knows.
@@daniellebarden169 but any hesitation would definitely be due to fear of legal repercussions or just the massive hate train that could’ve came when he still had a fan base
@: everyone is implying it's lil xan. I remember a lot of pedo accusations coming against him when he started dating noah cyrus
This was one of the best episodes! I think so many more people have to learn what grooming means. I can’t believe he literally googled it infront of her 💀
What a strange dynamic her family created for her. Influencer “careers” still need some freaking supervision at that age. When her adult brother became volatile in the family home after thinking he found out about her “sleeping” with another adult really just solidified the impression I was getting about that dynamic. And while she says even after the fact dad sent her to CA to press charges, why tf wasn’t HE in the seat next to her. I’d have smashed every oppositional skull between myself and said police station on the opposite coast if it was my kid. I wouldn’t be able to get their fast enough to make sure every doormat and enabling adult surrounding this guy AND this pos wear held accountable. What a disappointing group of people this woman has to share a last name with.
It definitely seems like they were more concerned about their family image. Everyone failed her. This is why so many women don't ever come forward or way after the fact. 💔
She called him D, I wonder if it’s lil xan… Diego
It is
Oh it definitely is lol
lil xan is 26 and she said he was 23 while she was 15. shes 21 so the ages dont align
@@giulianagambinoo she said 21
@@giulianagambinoo she said it was 21 not 23 so it does match up
His behaviour clearly hasn't changed. You can get away with a lot for a long time, but not forever, and he really doesn't seem very smart. He'll mess up and he WILL meet the consequences of his actions. In the meantime, please know that you are believed, respected and admired. I hope you can eventually heal and I hope that one day you will see justice done. Love and respect to you.
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The most hurtful part of the story is her brother blaming her and calling her such DISGUSTING THINGS! My parents blamed me for my similar story and it was re traumatizing. I hope her brother feels r e a l l y bad for the rest of his life. You should never talk to your sister or ANYONE you love like that. Her brother jumped the gun so horrifically. What a POS, and her parents ALSO TERRIBLE REACTION. Shame on all them for handling HER ASSAULT so poorly.
We’ll she definitely needs to take apart of the blame that’s a fact
@@mostblunted_211 not enough for his words or actions to be excusable EVER.
@@Katinahat293keep ya legs closed or shut up
He was asking her age a lot because it excited him, imo.
Either that or he was expecting her to lie to him at some him so he could justify it by saying she lied to him
Wow this is really eye opening about the process of reporting SA/abuser. No wonder some people just don’t say anything. This is a case for cancel culture for sure, when the authorities fail you good Ol fashion public shaming is the only means of Justice.
I’m so happy she’s telling her story & others are coming out as well. It’s hard to really speak your truth due to people not believing you or being scared ❤
I can already hear the victim blamers and the toxic jealous fans finding mental gymnastics to blame this girl and accuse her of chasing clout for even speaking about this. Just because she didn't have a gun to her head, just because this happened over a timespan doesn't mean she wasn't forced into this. Truth is, you never really know what manipulation, grooming and abuse can look like unless you've lived through it.
I love u for this
thank you!!!
So… her brother didn’t wonder one bit why his “friend” was hooking up with a child? And that she’s the slut? This doesn’t even make logical sense to me. My heart is heavy for you Cher 🙏🏼
He’s doing the same thing to girls most likely. Probably doesn’t see a problem in it.
somebody send this to her knucklehead of a brother
It IS LIL XAN because NOAH CYRUS is the girlfriend that he was dating at the time and thats when they had the big break up. AS SOON AS she mentioned the "girlfriend" it all clicked. It is LIL XAN, XANARCHY, DIEGO. Period. I used to listen to him in highschool, Class of 2019. ALL of this is adding up. It's him. This just goes to show that an artist's music is NOT who they are as a person. Look at R.Kelly. 🙄
Can’t be him she’s born in 2001 and the incident took place when she was 15 years old meaning 2016 … and he was 20 and had zero musik out … the Noah Cyrus incident is 2019…. She either lying or it’s not him …
thank you for your courage speaking up
Where were her parents? How is a 15 year old traveling coast to coast, staying in airbnbs etc. Parents job is to keep kids safe until they are old enough to be in these situations.
you are fucking amazing Cher. You ARE the epitome of a Woman. you are changing so many points in history from this moment of vulnerability right here and you will be recognized for your endeavors of conquering this cruel scary concept of the human race.
this happened to me with also a well known rapper and i wrote a song about it called "how could you" by sofia rosa. this happens to so many women, im so happy you've given her a platform n voice. i wish i could bring justice to all of us.
just listened, your voice is beautiful
@@pinksundragon thank u so much!! that means so much!!
@sofiarose4522 where do I find the song you do have a beautiful voice wow
It is on RUclips as well!
Who
It's gotta be Xan.
His name is Diego, hence "D". She says he was 21-22 at the time.
She said soon after he started dating a "famous singer", also known as the sister of a famous singer, Noah Cyrus. She also said the relationship with that famous singer ended quick and publically, which it was.
And mentions this guy was livestreaming all the time and would call her all fucked up and slurred out, classic Xan at that time. Also, no plates on his car at the time? He had massive problems trying to get his G Wagon on the road and was eventually repossessed by his manager, Stat Quo. Done a concert in New Mexico, yep Xan's checked that box. Constantly asking for her age....watch any No Jumper interview during the SoundCloud days and every single time part of the conversations would go to their sex lives and dodging underage girls, including Xan.
There's plenty more things she says points to Xan as well, I couldn't grab anything she said that definitely was Xan, but I can't see it as anyone else. Kid Cali? Not likely since he was murdered in 2016.
made this talk 10x more interesting picturing Lil Xan
it is him
It’s crazy how victims continue to return to their abusers even across states. It’s also weird that the brother would connect her with rappers. Obviously none of that justifies someone who is an abuser.
I have also been groomed by a person in power and no one believed me. Thank you for sharing your story
The adults in her life failed her! The people who where supposed to protect her and believe her after the fact the she opened up about it are also monsters in her story. I hope her healing continues she sounds like a very smart young women
I was groomed too and once I realized it and reported it, the police did nothing because I didn't have any physical evidence. I really hate how many predators get away with shit like this. My heart goes out to her and every other person that was abused and didn't see justice
I'm pretty sure he (Diego/Lil Xan) asked her age every week because the fact that she was a child and a virgin turned him on, so disgusting. This is story is so infuriating. There should be a case investigating her lawer and the cops who didn't do anything. Pretty shure they were given money, and there was corruption and negligence behind her case. Also, her brother is disgusting and pathetic, so full of misogyny and machismo. He is so vain and empaty that cared more about money and fake people instead of caring about how her sister was raped? Could he use his head a little bit more? I really can't believe his reaction and her mom's reaction. Very very disappointing and injust. The only person who's not a lost case is her father. I hope this case becomes viral again, maybe she could try contacting the news so her case becomes more public.
Thank you for nameing him I was wondering who it was
he’s not a rapper. y’all white mfs wanna claim our culture than sexually assault women and paint the genre as worse smh
that can’t be him, she was 15 and he was 25 at the time right? Lil xan is now 25 and she is now 21 so it must have been 6-7 years ago.
@@emberrysno. He was 21-22… she said. She never said he was 25..
This is def Lil Xan
Definitely Lil Xan, I talked to him before he blew up (still just a soundcloud rapper days) when I was 16. Seems like it was a trend for him.
Really?? geez
he’s
from redlands.
not grandada hills
@@rachealfaucher4520 and? They’re only 45 mins apart from eachother.
Did u just wanna be seen or something? Or were you there? 😂
@@Cinnamon666Coca no. i just watched the entire thing she meant grandada hills he lived when she knew him. he grew up in redlands w his parents. so it’s still lil xan. you don’t have to be fucking rude though
For those of you scrolling wondering who it is like I was, I can confirm is LIL XAN LIL XAN LIL XAN LIL XAN EXPOSE HIS ASS
This is insane and very disturbing. She's 15 and that is rape. Guy is a sicko.
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