Your friends and family are VERY lucky to have someone as honest, strong AND sensitive as you. The partner you haven't met yet would be thrilled if he knew you were in his future. My best, Brad
What a generous thought in your second sentence. I'm sure you had the response I just had, "This man has a great capacity to love honestly, and I hope he and that special man will meet up and recognize each other"--something like that. I'm 4-5 years late in seeing this, but I'm sure his situation has changed for the better. I often feel like I'm allowed to read only the first part of a book.
True!! If being gay was a choice, then why would anyone choose to get killed in hate crimes, get discriminated against, lose their jobs and be shunned by their own parents?
Christopher, the real sin is the hatred that has been imparted upon you through perceived religious dogma, that really does not exist.I cry that you felt that you wanted to change who you really are. praying to be straight is not the answer. The answers are in our own hearts as each one of us has a separate journey to take through life.. No one else's choices for you should control you. Love as you choose. Live as you choose. Laugh as you choose. Be at peace with your choices, no matter what anyone else feels. Peace and love to you my friend I hope to see more videos from you.
Christopher, not a week goes by without me watching one of these " Coming out" videos that touches my soul. Like yourself, I am attracted to men and have been all my life. I don't like labels, so piss on "gay", " straight" or whatever else the judeo/christian society in which we are imprisoned vomits into our brains as truths. My story is literally the same as yours, suicidal ideation and all. I love you brother and you are never alone in this even when you think you are. My question to you is are you into guys that are older than yourself? Because whoever you end up with is the luckiest man in the world. I seriously mean that.
CHRISTOPHER -- Wow, what a powerful story about discovering yourself and transforming your fears. I am a 70-year-old gay American man now living in Great Britain. I love how you spoke so directly and honestly about no longer living a lie but yet terrified of speaking your truth -- yet you did it anyway. This confirms the equation that I have learned -- FEAR + Love = MAGIC. In other words, if we allow ourselves to fear and discover our many fears and fear-based limitations, we can then give ourselves self-love and thereby transform those fears into positive energy. You can take this to the bank. I love your line about "Why can't I love the way I want to." Congratulations, Big Soul. THIS is what spiritual growth is about. Accepting and loving yourself. -- Donald in Wales
Just remember: "Sin is an imaginary disease invented to sell you an imaginary cure." You've come such a long way. The gay community is always out here...for you. The guy who eventually settles down with you...one lucky dude, indeed! Congratulations!
I can completely understand. I too was raised in a Southern Baptist. I am 48 years old and have just now accepted that there is nothing wrong with me. You are a great guy for doing this video. I would love to meet more people like you.
Your video has broken a million hearts - including mine. It's been several years since you posted this. Today, I pray and trust that you've found a man who is completely worthy of you. Bravo.
Christopher, you have a lovely personality and are REALLY good looking. The part where he told us he wants to be able to hold a guy's hand in public, take care of him when he's sick, etc. brought me to tears, it was so genuine and raw. There is some very lucky guy out there who is gonna win your heart.
Very powerful story. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a strong anti-gay message growing up, but it sounds like you have come out the other side and are now on the right path. I hope your family and friends see that you are still you and are still a lovable human being who deserves love himself and that being gay is just a part of who you are. Stay strong, my friend and thanks for sharing your story.
Raised southern Baptist and served as a music director for 37 years in southern Baptist churches. Lived in the same fear and denial as you did but mine was based on suppressed feelings. Attraction to men terrified me and I suppressed those too. Ate to overcome the pain and developed an eating disorder by the age of ten. Did not come out until the age of 63 in 2019. Proud that you had the courage to face your fears at such a young age.
You seem to be such a nice guy, being gay is definitely not a choice. I reckon not having feelings for girls ever since I can remember. Always remember that the Bible and all religious books are just interpretations, people interpret things the way they like and like to discriminate minorities but use the ignorance and hatred of those individuals to keep on improving and being yourself. You are awesome, never change who you are for anyone or anything because thats how you shine best. From Stranger, to another stranger, Love you too :P.
Wow Chris. This was the most heartfelt and sincere coming out I've ever seen. I relived my own experiences with every word you spoke. I can see and feel the apprehension and the weariness in your eyes and in your voice. I think I had to remind myself to breathe a couple of times there. It's a heavy load to bear, trying to live our life to fit the expectations of others, and it only serves to add guilt and shame to our already difficult situation. Once we lift this burden of denial, we can truly begin the journey to happiness. It doesn't make everything instantly good, but it's a start. I think you will be surprised to find how many people in your life will be unaffected by this, as they will know that you are still the same guy they have always known. And those that have a problem with it, you will just have to learn to accept that it is their problem to work through and not yours. And sadly there may be a few that you will just have to let go. I wish you the best in your journey, if the world had more people who value honesty as you do, it would be such a better place for us all.
Christopher, Thank you so much for your story my beautiful man! I admire your intelligence and heart, we LGBT are as worthy as anyone else in this world to be happy, I suffered 33 years before coming out, and even after that I continued living in the straight world like a shadow because of the wounds of shame and rejection when I was young. I find myself at 56 never having experienced love, and living with the pain of feeling I missed out on life. I'm only now reaching out, I want to experience like and not just exist, thank you so much for your inspiration.
I'm writing this the end of June, 2020. So I doubt you'll even see this. But I wanted to sincerely thank you for your honesty, courage and integrity. The pain that you experienced growing up, though horrific, has made you the strong person you are in this video. If you haven't already discovered the deep freedom of non-belief, I encourage you to explore it. No matter how much you try to rationalize or excuse religion, it will always disappoint you, judge you, and remain a shackle around your neck. So let go - you don't need it. And see how much true freedom and deep happiness there is for you to discover in atheism/agnosticism. This "break" may be absolutely necessary for your very survival as a gay person, not to mention your full self-realization. I wish you much love and genuine acceptance in your beautiful gay life, my friend. ❤️
This is when I hear such a heartbreaking story that I am so glad that I've been raised away from religion by parents who taught me from the very start that I am a great person and that I can do whatever I want as long as I lead a life I can be proud of. You look very sincere and seem to be a great guy. I am sure that if it's not already done you will find your soulmate, someone that you can rely on, support and that you will also sometimes want to kill ... hey hey Good luck
I think our society and religious organizations do such damage to us with their misguided views on sex and marriage. To have such a burden placed upon us at the same time as you were going through puberty is too much the bare for some. I am glad you were able to overcome the many obstacles placed in front of you by your family, faith and community to be who you are. I came out to my family at 65 and growing old without a partner is not recommended! Your comment that we all must just remain celibate and can never love anyone, is completely unrealistic and cruel. I can not believe God would give us the power and desire to love and then say we could never have the joy of the gifts love can bring us to the end of life.
All those who sympathise with you (I'm one of them) trust your life has changed for the better. Live your life to the full. We're sure you will find the love of your life! The Best of Luck to You, Christopher!
Absolutely love you back Christopher. You are a legend. Such a strong person. Thanks for sharing your story. I know you’ll find someone to be very happy with. Good luck.
Dear Christopher, I'm very proud of you! I really love your video, it's so honest. You're a wonderful person and I'm sure you'll find a man, who will also see how much love you deserve. Lots of love and hugs from Germany! ♥
Oh man I know this is over 5 years old now and you probably won't see this but I feel this so much, especially coming from such a similar background and family. I've come out to everyone I'm close to, I still get that feeling of sinning or not being worthy but that's slowly improving. Videos like this even tho I've come out still help so much. Glad everything is working out, so happy for you - much love.
Dad gum Christopher ... what a handsome devil u r!!! I'm sure this sincere and heartfelt message has already helped thousands of guys who are in the same, exact position gain courage and self respect. This is one of my favorite coming out videos. I'm sure you are immeasurably happier now than anytime in your hiding years. Thanks for sharing your message and helping others.
Your concerns are what we've all thought. Young man, BE yourself. If you lose a friend, let them go because if they're truly your friend, they will stand by you!
Very brave and mature of you. Many of us have gone through the same steps and experiences that you speak about. Just remember, you are a child of God and he loves you. We all love and support you! Stay strong!
Christopher. Great story, stay strong, stay proud, and stay away from those pathetic people that are so weak they have to believe in some imaginary entity to give meaning to their lives.
Thank you for baring your soul and your humanity. It takes personal courage and integrity to come out. I came out at age 50. So I am a bit envious. But at the same time I celebrate your happiness at being who you are. You deserve to be with your peers in total transparency. Bless you.
Thank you very much, Christopher, for sharing your story with us. You are a beautiful (inside and outside) young man: intelligent, honest, nuanced, tender and friendly. If hell existed, there would absolutely be no room for you in there! I’m so glad you finally dared to love yourself.....it took me even a lot more time than it took you, so I know the horrors that accompany this proces very well. Live long with your future boyfriend and make him happy! I love you Christopher!
You're quite brave!, being gay is not a sin, society transformed it into one, but that doesn't necessarily means God will stop loving you, remember he loves you for who you are!. BEIGN GAY IS NOT AN OPTION.
Well done mate. be strong, keep your head high and never let anyone let you lose control of that power you have. your 1 of a kind, not a copy, or script written by someone else for your life instructions. do what makes you smile, feel warm and fuzzy. Keep your faith and morals and you will be fine. Good Luck in your bright new future you have nothing to hide from anyone.
Hoi, Christopher Stickle: ......Like the man said: "There is nothing to fear. but...:" Well, Christopher, you know the drill. The rest is you living your own real life. The love you are sharing is the most valuable gift this world can have. Thank you Christopher. R.T. Thomes (Amsterdam, The Netherlands)
Hi Christopher, My partner and I have just watched your Coming Out Story and are now wiping away the tears because of the emotion that you shown in telling us about yourself. You are one hell of a guy and as you are moving through the different stages of your life you are discovering some truths. Discovering them and accepting them is paramount. You are Gay, you are worthy of love, giving and receiving, you are normal, you are human etc etc. In my case, I only found peace when I came out. The nervous energy that I used in hiding my secret was now free to flow into things that I loved, not deceit. It Does Get Better, sounds corny, but it is the truth. Warmest wishes to you for a happy and safe life full of love. You've earned it and deserve it.
My favorite coming out video it helped me so much before and now that it just popped up on my screen I just decided to thank you ❤️❤️❤️ I came out one year ago after a BUNCH of problems in my personal life. Everything is way better now but I'm still in a process of acceptance💖🙌 XOXO from Brazil 🇧🇷
This is a real man! You are so wonderful. There is still hope in this world. Your honesty is powerful. It took a great deal of courage to overcome the brainwashings of religion and to emerge from that circumstance. It takes a lot of strength and resolve but you did it. I too was told all about hell being the result of being gay. It damn near did me in. I rejected the whole thing, accepted myself as I was, and have been happy ever since. You are going to make someone a tremendous partner. I think you are even more beautiful on the inside than you are on the outside. I would love to have a friend like you. Good luck with your future.
Christopher, you're a giant who stands on the shoulders of the giants who came before you. I've been out for 40 years. I'm glad to see that you've still got videos coming out in 2020.
Hey Christopher -- Just saw your story. You are amazing and I am proud of you. I love you and I want you to always be yourself. Stay you and stay safe. Keep being strong and yourself. -- David
The friends or family that shun you will lead to you making up your own family, one who acts not based on what is in books but on what human nature is. Don't waste your time on haters, they are not worth a second of your time... let them lose theirs by hating other people as the bigoted frightened and frustated persons they are. Your speech was very moving and shows how big your heart is. Salutations from the north of France. Olivier
I'm so happy for you Christopher, its been over a month now, how has the journey been going? I hope you have recieved some pleasant suprises. Ignore those hypocrite haters that hide behind the church. You get the biggest of hugs from me, i'm sure your story will help a lot of people. thank you so much.
Hey. I am doing well Thank You for your support. It has been a long journey thus far and continues to be. I have been thinking about making another video as a follow up but will probably do so after I graduate in May. The support from friends has been amazing!! My family life is still very rough though. My parents still say its a choice and a sin. My Grandparents have been worse. The night I posted the video they called demanding I take it down and have since left me 2 long nasty emails that are one attack after another. I know it will take time and I am prepared to wait but with every Bible thumping text I get from my mom and other family members that continue to hate it hurts all the more.. If things don't get better soon with them I might have to make the difficult choice to shut them out.. Thank you again for your support.The greatest thing I have gotten out of this is hearing that I have inspired others. That really means alot to me.
Christopher Stickle Christopher, you're fine. Get on with your life. Your parents are brainwashed by the oldest institution on the planet. There's no sin. There's only our lives to live and to love. Best wishes!
Christopher Stickle I just came across your video. It is so important that you follow through with moving on and away from family who are so incredibly ignorant and hateful. Your young, educated and have everything going for you. These family members will tear you down if you let them -- don't. You have grown so much and been able to move away from all the absurd things you have been taught concerning your sexuality. You will find a soul mate who you can love and be loved by and have that marriage and family you want. Congratulations and best wishes.
Thank you for posting this video. I believe it was an act of considerable courage for you to do so, and I believe this video, and others like it, will ease the way for other people struggling with accepting that they are gay and coming out to their friends and family. I hope that your friends and family realized that, in coming out, you're still the same person--it's just that your friends and family now know more about who you have been all along. As you note, you're no longer hiding your true self and lying about who you really are.
Christopher, that was beautiful. Like you, I went through the same Southern Baptist 'guilt-trip'. I caught hell growing up in an insane, abusive environment. I was terrified to admit my sexuality and did not do so for years. I have been in love several times but never managed to find that someone special I really needed to find. I am elderly now and finding that special person is now my number one priority. All the best, my friend.
You're awesome dude. Just know that you are who you are and that is 100% perfect. Being gay doesn't make you any less worthy of love, success, happiness, or anything else.
I feel really bad for that young boy who'd been taught lies merely for religious propaganda. I'm so happy for you!! You can live your truth now. I'm 18 and yet to be free from the closet. You gave me hope :)
Not only are you clearly intellectually intelligent, Christopher but you possess an emotional intelligence that is quite awe-inspiring in one so young - oftentimes, it is the pain and sorrow that we feel - through the ignorance and outrage of others - that becomes the crucible on which our beauty as Gay men and women is wrought. Goodnight, Christopher. Arohanui. x
Your story is amazing. It is difficult hiding who you are as a individual. When I came out, I felt a sense of relief. You will find your soulmate one day.
Emmanuel and Bless you Friend. 60 yrs old here who had the same exact experiences. One thing I learned that changed my life is if you REALLY ANALYSE the scriptures, loving is not the sin. It's the act (which by the way is in effect for M/F relations too). If you could learn to avoid the physical (which actually is one of the main tenants of Christianity), your entire life will change. You can still love anther man. Ask yourself, when is love EVER a sin??? 37 year relationship here, but God called my soul mate home last year. The devistation is indescribable, almost inhumane. It is only my faith that holds me toghether. Please belive in yourself. You are handsome, honest and mature. My prayers are with you, brother.
Her's hugs and love coming your way. Continue to be strong and don't look back. Move forward and be happy each day in the ups and downs of life's journey.
How can loving someone be a "sin". I commend you for your bravery. Remember you are not alone. Your story is so similar to mine. I always prayed to be straight.
Hi Christopher, I just came across your video today. So you are now a year down the road and the sound of things, you have graduated as well. Very proud of people like you and what you did. I'm almost 53, didn't "come out" to my family until I was 30. It didnt' go well at all. I've got a similar background as you just substitute Church of Christ for Southern Baptist. My mom wrote me a very long scathing letter condemning me to hell for the choices I was making and on and on. I lost several friends during the process as well. It took well over a year before my mom & I even spoke again and then for years after the relationship was strained. You know the funny thing, I finally relented and took my then partner, now husband, home to meet the family. I was scared more then than I was about coming out to them. After they met my Andy, almost overnight my relationship with my family was actually stronger than it had ever been. They love Andy as much (i think he is mom's favorite) as they do me. I cry every time I think about how wonderful my family has been to us. They genuinely love him and know without a doubt that he is absolutely the best thing that has ever happened in my life. I still from time to time let my mind fall back onto the religion that I was brought up in, and I have to admit, that those teachings can still haunt me. But in the end, I realize God creates out of love and not hate. I hope at this point in your life you've got that first great post-college job and maybe just maybe someone really close to your heart too. You seem like a great guy, someone I would definitely want to be friends with, someone that people can look up to as a role model. Keep up the good work. ~ John
I have never seen someone come out with class. You did this perfectly and if you loss any friends they really were not' friends. I see a bright future for you as you are honest, censer and will have no trouble finding a great person for you. He will be a very lucky person and better treat you right. As I said perfectly done. I wish you the very, very best and hope you get as lucky as me as my partner have just celebrated our 21 anniversary. All my best to a great guy and great catch.
Christopher...bravo my good man. Proud to have you among us...I didn’t come out til I was 26...I’m now 54, married and wouldn’t have it any other way. You are going to love your life.
Congrats on making this video! It's a huge step. I grew up in a christian home as well and went to a private Southern Baptist University. I prayed hard to become straight until finally I came to realize it was all crap. We were dupe'd into thinking and believing a certain way growing up. We were impressionable kids being force fed junk. Luckily in adulthood, we can really seek and learn the truth. I'm sending love and hugs.
Hey, thank you for sharing this. Haven't come out yet but this is soooo inspiring, I wished I could be the brave. And yes, I want to have a guy to hold hands with, take care when he's sick (and when I am), and marry him and build a little family. Thank you.
How brave, how courageous, how strong !! Stand proud in who you are, I think you need a wonderful warm secure hug, hopefully from your mum and dad. I hope you're honesty brings you great respect and allows to step forward as the wonderful dude you are ! Lots of love.... Melbourne, Australia
Nothing but love for you, dude! I hope you are doing well now! Know that you have support from all over the world (this one is from Germany). Your video is very inspirational and I think that it will be a part of my coming out very soon. And I am scared. But I can't live like this anymore! After so many years I have to start to live eventually. Thank you so much for your video! And I would love to see a follow up ;)
Thanks for sharing this, I know it was difficult for you. I have known all my life that I was different. I never dated girls as such; they were friends. I grew up strict Catholic and was told gays were sinners. I tried to pray the gay away. I suffered depression and tried suicide ((I also have a slight disability and that played a part) thank God - not too seriously). I never acted on it, but I was sorely tested. I went to university and became more assured. I to university quite late, so when I was almost thirty I was ready to come out, but my brother beat me to it; because he came out due to having HIV and AIDS, I went back into the closet. I moved away a number of years later and came out at 40. Today, I am a happy man. I have my faith, but I no longer do the church part (long story but that is how I dealt with the Christian upbringing). Today, I have my faith. I believe God created me for me and that he doesn't make junk and thus I am as I was meant to be. I no longer believe that God hates gays: Love is love. I am not perfect (no one is). I have faith and that is all that matters. You are loved. You are loved by hopefully some family or extended family, you are loved by friends and you are loved by those people you have touched with your story. I hope you have found peace, love and joy that you so richly deserved. Virtual hugs. A "friend". Bob
Chris, you're perfect just the way you are. I have no use for religion, but if it's still important to you to be a part of that environment, find a place that is accepting of you as you are.
That is correct you are still the same person. When I came out I lost all my guy friends but, I found that one guy, together for over 20 yrs. Hold your head up and keep your heart open.
It's nice to see how real, honest and unpretentious you are. A lot of gay people put on a big act to not seem vulnerable. But this kind of honesty is beautiful. I want to know more people like you.
Hi Chris. I just want to say how much I admire you. You are truly a very brave and wonderful person. I can't begin to imagine the guts it took you to make this video. I am so happy and pleased you have come to accept yourself and start the process of telling others. You should be highly proud of yourself. After watching this you have gave me a lot of hope and Imthak you for it. I wish you luck in your meteorology career, I also have a huge interest in meteorology. Would love to talk more to you he he.
Thanks for saying it. "Suicide is not an option"
Your friends and family are VERY lucky to have someone as honest, strong AND sensitive as you. The partner you haven't met yet would be thrilled if he knew you were in his future.
My best, Brad
What a generous thought in your second sentence. I'm sure you had the response I just had, "This man has a great capacity to love honestly, and I hope he and that special man will meet up and recognize each other"--something like that. I'm 4-5 years late in seeing this, but I'm sure his situation has changed for the better.
I often feel like I'm allowed to read only the first part of a book.
True!! If being gay was a choice, then why would anyone choose to get killed in hate crimes, get discriminated against, lose their jobs and be shunned by their own parents?
The questions Christians will never answer, nor will they ever come to terms with the fact that even they never chose to be straight.
Christopher, the real sin is the hatred that has been imparted upon you through perceived religious dogma, that really does not exist.I cry that you felt that you wanted to change who you really are. praying to be straight is not the answer. The answers are in our own hearts as each one of us has a separate journey to take through life.. No one else's choices for you should control you. Love as you choose. Live as you choose. Laugh as you choose. Be at peace with your choices, no matter what anyone else feels. Peace and love to you my friend I hope to see more videos from you.
Christopher, not a week goes by without me watching one of these " Coming out" videos that touches my soul. Like yourself, I am attracted to men and have been all my life. I don't like labels, so piss on "gay", " straight" or whatever else the judeo/christian society in which we are imprisoned vomits into our brains as truths. My story is literally the same as yours, suicidal ideation and all. I love you brother and you are never alone in this even when you think you are. My question to you is are you into guys that are older than yourself? Because whoever you end up with is the luckiest man in the world. I seriously mean that.
he is not alone!
I know I'm 9 years late, but I find this video very relatable to my own life. Thank you for making it!
This coming out was really awesome! No edits and continuous sharing makes it just about perfect.
You're handsome, honest, self-confident and brave. I wish you really the best and I hope all your wishes come true some day. A big hug.
CHRISTOPHER -- Wow, what a powerful story about discovering yourself and transforming your fears. I am a 70-year-old gay American man now living in Great Britain. I love how you spoke so directly and honestly about no longer living a lie but yet terrified of speaking your truth -- yet you did it anyway. This confirms the equation that I have learned -- FEAR + Love = MAGIC. In other words, if we allow ourselves to fear and discover our many fears and fear-based limitations, we can then give ourselves self-love and thereby transform those fears into positive energy. You can take this to the bank. I love your line about "Why can't I love the way I want to." Congratulations, Big Soul. THIS is what spiritual growth is about. Accepting and loving yourself. -- Donald in Wales
I'm 53. I have so been where you were when you made this video. I have no right to be proud of you, but I am anyway.
Just remember: "Sin is an imaginary disease invented to sell you an imaginary cure." You've come such a long way. The gay community is always out here...for you. The guy who eventually settles down with you...one lucky dude, indeed! Congratulations!
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I can completely understand. I too was raised in a Southern Baptist. I am 48 years old and have just now accepted that there is nothing wrong with me. You are a great guy for doing this video. I would love to meet more people like you.
Your video has broken a million hearts - including mine. It's been several years since you posted this. Today, I pray and trust that you've found a man who is completely worthy of you. Bravo.
Congratulations Christopher for doing one of the hardest things in life, being YOU!
It Gets Better!!
Thanks for sharing! Quiet, yet powerful message. Glad you found the strength you needed to live your life. Now this video can inspire others!
If you lose friends because of coming out then they are not friends you need in your life. Be strong and be what makes you happy. Cheers!
You have suffered terribly, and I feel deeply for you. But you have enormous courage, too.
Awesome Job!!! Stand tall, shoulders back and Hold your head high!!!! Be proud that God made you a wonderful man.
+mosichat ---"Mosi" dont you agree too? i so agree with what you said ,,,,god made him a beautiful person and gay man just like he did me too
Christopher, you have a lovely personality and are REALLY good looking. The part where he told us he wants to be able to hold a guy's hand in public, take care of him when he's sick, etc. brought me to tears, it was so genuine and raw. There is some very lucky guy out there who is gonna win your heart.
Very powerful story. I'm sorry you had to deal with such a strong anti-gay message growing up, but it sounds like you have come out the other side and are now on the right path. I hope your family and friends see that you are still you and are still a lovable human being who deserves love himself and that being gay is just a part of who you are. Stay strong, my friend and thanks for sharing your story.
Raised southern Baptist and served as a music director for 37 years in southern Baptist churches. Lived in the same fear and denial as you did but mine was based on suppressed feelings. Attraction to men terrified me and I suppressed those too. Ate to overcome the pain and developed an eating disorder by the age of ten. Did not come out until the age of 63 in 2019. Proud that you had the courage to face your fears at such a young age.
I can see the pain in your eyes Chris, be strong, God loves you! I hope your loved ones too.
You seem to be such a nice guy, being gay is definitely not a choice. I reckon not having feelings for girls ever since I can remember. Always remember that the Bible and all religious books are just interpretations, people interpret things the way they like and like to discriminate minorities but use the ignorance and hatred of those individuals to keep on improving and being yourself. You are awesome, never change who you are for anyone or anything because thats how you shine best. From Stranger, to another stranger, Love you too :P.
Bravo....great leap of faith...you are loved and will be loved...your passion and your heart are perfect!
Be proud and accept who you are and love yourself. Be strong and keep your head up high and....COWBOY UP!
Wow Chris. This was the most heartfelt and sincere coming out I've ever seen. I relived my own experiences with every word you spoke. I can see and feel the apprehension and the weariness in your eyes and in your voice. I think I had to remind myself to breathe a couple of times there. It's a heavy load to bear, trying to live our life to fit the expectations of others, and it only serves to add guilt and shame to our already difficult situation. Once we lift this burden of denial, we can truly begin the journey to happiness. It doesn't make everything instantly good, but it's a start. I think you will be surprised to find how many people in your life will be unaffected by this, as they will know that you are still the same guy they have always known. And those that have a problem with it, you will just have to learn to accept that it is their problem to work through and not yours. And sadly there may be a few that you will just have to let go. I wish you the best in your journey, if the world had more people who value honesty as you do, it would be such a better place for us all.
Christopher, Thank you so much for your story my beautiful man! I admire your intelligence and heart, we LGBT are as worthy as anyone else in this world to be happy, I suffered 33 years before coming out, and even after that I continued living in the straight world like a shadow because of the wounds of shame and rejection when I was young. I find myself at 56 never having experienced love, and living with the pain of feeling I missed out on life. I'm only now reaching out, I want to experience like and not just exist, thank you so much for your inspiration.
You are brave. I am proud of you.
I'm writing this the end of June, 2020. So I doubt you'll even see this. But I wanted to sincerely thank you for your honesty, courage and integrity.
The pain that you experienced growing up, though horrific, has made you the strong person you are in this video.
If you haven't already discovered the deep freedom of non-belief, I encourage you to explore it. No matter how much you try to rationalize or excuse religion, it will always disappoint you, judge you, and remain a shackle around your neck. So let go - you don't need it. And see how much true freedom and deep happiness there is for you to discover in atheism/agnosticism. This "break" may be absolutely necessary for your very survival as a gay person, not to mention your full self-realization.
I wish you much love and genuine acceptance in your beautiful gay life, my friend. ❤️
This is when I hear such a heartbreaking story that I am so glad that I've been raised away from religion by parents who taught me from the very start that I am a great person and that I can do whatever I want as long as I lead a life I can be proud of. You look very sincere and seem to be a great guy. I am sure that if it's not already done you will find your soulmate, someone that you can rely on, support and that you will also sometimes want to kill ... hey hey Good luck
Christopher, you have a very lucky man in your future. Thanks for this. You are enviable.
I think our society and religious organizations do such damage to us with their misguided views on sex and marriage. To have such a burden placed upon us at the same time as you were going through puberty is too much the bare for some. I am glad you were able to overcome the many obstacles placed in front of you by your family, faith and community to be who you are. I came out to my family at 65 and growing old without a partner is not recommended! Your comment that we all must just remain celibate and can never love anyone, is completely unrealistic and cruel. I can not believe God would give us the power and desire to love and then say we could never have the joy of the gifts love can bring us to the end of life.
All those who sympathise with you (I'm one of them) trust your life has changed for the better. Live your life to the full. We're sure you will find the love of your life! The Best of Luck to You, Christopher!
Love, love, love , you are hero :)
Absolutely love you back Christopher. You are a legend. Such a strong person. Thanks for sharing your story. I know you’ll find someone to be very happy with. Good luck.
Dear Christopher, I'm very proud of you! I really love your video, it's so honest. You're a wonderful person and I'm sure you'll find a man, who will also see how much love you deserve.
Lots of love and hugs from Germany! ♥
Be strong. I love you and wish you all the best.
You have a beautiful soul, please never change.
Thanks for posting this!! Best wishes to you.
Oh man I know this is over 5 years old now and you probably won't see this but I feel this so much, especially coming from such a similar background and family. I've come out to everyone I'm close to, I still get that feeling of sinning or not being worthy but that's slowly improving. Videos like this even tho I've come out still help so much. Glad everything is working out, so happy for you - much love.
Dad gum Christopher ... what a handsome devil u r!!! I'm sure this sincere and heartfelt message has already helped thousands of guys who are in the same, exact position gain courage and self respect. This is one of my favorite coming out videos. I'm sure you are immeasurably happier now than anytime in your hiding years. Thanks for sharing your message and helping others.
I feel you Chris.
I'm so happy for you to have this courage and finally came out. I wish one day I have this courage too. Keep strong Chris xoxo
Your concerns are what we've all thought. Young man, BE yourself. If you lose a friend, let them go because if they're truly your friend, they will stand by you!
You are a fine, courageous young man, and deserve only the best. I can't imagine anyone hating you. Certainly not anybody worth your time.
Loved your story. Keep up the way you are. Even being far away from you, you have my support.and love. A big hug. Valdecir, Brasil.
Very brave and mature of you. Many of us have gone through the same steps and experiences that you speak about. Just remember, you are a child of God and he loves you. We all love and support you! Stay strong!
Bless you ! ! Yesterday never was. Tomorrow never will be. There's only Today. So why not LIVE now. All the best to you, Christopher.
Christopher. Great story, stay strong, stay proud, and stay away from those pathetic people that are so weak they have to believe in some imaginary entity to give meaning to their lives.
You're strong, thanks for sharing with the world. hope you're well.
Hi Cris, you inspire me about your story. Thanks for sharing your story.
Such honesty from a beautiful man.
Thank you for baring your soul and your humanity. It takes personal courage and integrity to come out. I came out at age 50. So I am a bit envious. But at the same time I celebrate your happiness at being who you are. You deserve to be with your peers in total transparency. Bless you.
Bravos to you.
Your vulnerability was touching. You seem like a great guy. I'm a conservative Christian, and I would LOVE to be your friend! I hope you accept.
Thank you very much, Christopher, for sharing your story with us. You are a beautiful (inside and outside) young man: intelligent, honest, nuanced, tender and friendly. If hell existed, there would absolutely be no room for you in there! I’m so glad you finally dared to love yourself.....it took me even a lot more time than it took you, so I know the horrors that accompany this proces very well. Live long with your future boyfriend and make him happy! I love you Christopher!
You're quite brave!, being gay is not a sin, society transformed it into one, but that doesn't necessarily means God will stop loving you, remember he loves you for who you are!. BEIGN GAY IS NOT AN OPTION.
Hugs and be strong! You need a friend I am here
Well done mate. be strong, keep your head high and never let anyone let you lose control of that power you have. your 1 of a kind, not a copy, or script written by someone else for your life instructions. do what makes you smile, feel warm and fuzzy.
Keep your faith and morals and you will be fine. Good Luck in your bright new future you have nothing to hide from anyone.
Hoi, Christopher Stickle:
......Like the man said: "There is nothing to fear. but...:" Well, Christopher, you know the drill. The rest is you living your own real life. The love you are sharing is the most valuable gift this world can have. Thank you Christopher.
R.T. Thomes (Amsterdam, The Netherlands)
You are amazing! I support your bravery for coming out, take care and stay safe always.
Hi Christopher, My partner and I have just watched your Coming Out Story and are now wiping away the tears because of the emotion that you shown in telling us about yourself. You are one hell of a guy and as you are moving through the different stages of your life you are discovering some truths. Discovering them and accepting them is paramount. You are Gay, you are worthy of love, giving and receiving, you are normal, you are human etc etc. In my case, I only found peace when I came out. The nervous energy that I used in hiding my secret was now free to flow into things that I loved, not deceit. It Does Get Better, sounds corny, but it is the truth. Warmest wishes to you for a happy and safe life full of love. You've earned it and deserve it.
My favorite coming out video it helped me so much before and now that it just popped up on my screen I just decided to thank you ❤️❤️❤️ I came out one year ago after a BUNCH of problems in my personal life. Everything is way better now but I'm still in a process of acceptance💖🙌 XOXO from Brazil 🇧🇷
This is a real man! You are so wonderful. There is still hope in this world. Your honesty is powerful. It took a great deal of courage to overcome the brainwashings of religion and to emerge from that circumstance. It takes a lot of strength and resolve but you did it. I too was told all about hell being the result of being gay. It damn near did me in. I rejected the whole thing, accepted myself as I was, and have been happy ever since. You are going to make someone a tremendous partner. I think you are even more beautiful on the inside than you are on the outside. I would love to have a friend like you. Good luck with your future.
Christopher, you're a giant who stands on the shoulders of the giants who came before you. I've been out for 40 years. I'm glad to see that you've still got videos coming out in 2020.
Hey Christopher -- Just saw your story. You are amazing and I am proud of you. I love you and I want you to always be yourself. Stay you and stay safe. Keep being strong and yourself. -- David
Thank you for being so brave. Any true friend will stand by you no matter your sexuality.
The friends or family that shun you will lead to you making up your own family, one who acts not based on what is in books but on what human nature is. Don't waste your time on haters, they are not worth a second of your time... let them lose theirs by hating other people as the bigoted frightened and frustated persons they are. Your speech was very moving and shows how big your heart is. Salutations from the north of France. Olivier
So proud of you.
I'm so happy for you Christopher, its been over a month now, how has the journey been going? I hope you have recieved some pleasant suprises. Ignore those hypocrite haters that hide behind the church. You get the biggest of hugs from me, i'm sure your story will help a lot of people. thank you so much.
Hey. I am doing well Thank You for your support. It has been a long journey thus far and continues to be. I have been thinking about making another video as a follow up but will probably do so after I graduate in May. The support from friends has been amazing!! My family life is still very rough though. My parents still say its a choice and a sin. My Grandparents have been worse. The night I posted the video they called demanding I take it down and have since left me 2 long nasty emails that are one attack after another. I know it will take time and I am prepared to wait but with every Bible thumping text I get from my mom and other family members that continue to hate it hurts all the more.. If things don't get better soon with them I might have to make the difficult choice to shut them out.. Thank you again for your support.The greatest thing I have gotten out of this is hearing that I have inspired others. That really means alot to me.
Christopher Stickle
Christopher, you're fine. Get on with your life. Your parents are brainwashed by the oldest institution on the planet. There's no sin. There's only our lives to live and to love. Best wishes!
Christopher Stickle I just came across your video. It is so important that you follow through with moving on and away from family who are so incredibly ignorant and hateful. Your young, educated and have everything going for you. These family members will tear you down if you let them -- don't. You have grown so much and
been able to move away from all the absurd things you have been taught concerning your sexuality. You will find a soul mate who you can love and be loved by and have that marriage and family you want. Congratulations and best wishes.
todd716 sorry you gonna burn in the hell
Thank you for posting this video. I believe it was an act of considerable courage for you to do so, and I believe this video, and others like it, will ease the way for other people struggling with accepting that they are gay and coming out to their friends and family. I hope that your friends and family realized that, in coming out, you're still the same person--it's just that your friends and family now know more about who you have been all along. As you note, you're no longer hiding your true self and lying about who you really are.
Christopher, that was beautiful. Like you, I went through the same Southern Baptist 'guilt-trip'. I caught hell growing up in an insane, abusive environment. I was terrified to admit my sexuality and did not do so for years. I have been in love several times but never managed to find that someone special I really needed to find. I am elderly now and finding that special person is now my number one priority. All the best, my friend.
You're awesome dude. Just know that you are who you are and that is 100% perfect. Being gay doesn't make you any less worthy of love, success, happiness, or anything else.
I feel really bad for that young boy who'd been taught lies merely for religious propaganda. I'm so happy for you!! You can live your truth now.
I'm 18 and yet to be free from the closet. You gave me hope :)
Not only are you clearly intellectually intelligent, Christopher but you possess an emotional intelligence that is quite awe-inspiring in one so young - oftentimes, it is the pain and sorrow that we feel - through the ignorance and outrage of others - that becomes the crucible on which our beauty as Gay men and women is wrought. Goodnight, Christopher. Arohanui. x
Your story is amazing. It is difficult hiding who you are as a individual. When I came out, I felt a sense of relief. You will find your soulmate one day.
Loved your video. Thanks for sharing.
Emmanuel and Bless you Friend. 60 yrs old here who had the same exact experiences. One thing I learned that changed my life is if you REALLY ANALYSE the scriptures, loving is not the sin. It's the act (which by the way is in effect for M/F relations too). If you could learn to avoid the physical (which actually is one of the main tenants of Christianity), your entire life will change. You can still love anther man. Ask yourself, when is love EVER a sin??? 37 year relationship here, but God called my soul mate home last year. The devistation is indescribable, almost inhumane. It is only my faith that holds me toghether. Please belive in yourself. You are handsome, honest and mature. My prayers are with you, brother.
Her's hugs and love coming your way. Continue to be strong and don't look back. Move forward and be happy each day in the ups and downs of life's journey.
Love your heart and soul Christopher ❤
Huge hugs and love
How can loving someone be a "sin". I commend you for your bravery. Remember you are not alone. Your story is so similar to mine. I always prayed to be straight.
Thank you for your amazing post. You are absolutely right in asking for support.
So inspiring! Stay strong, and be yourself ❤
Sending love and warm hugs to you Chris.
I wish you a long and happy life..
It gets better, so long as you love and believe in yourself proud of you x
Hi Christopher, I just came across your video today. So you are now a year down the road and the sound of things, you have graduated as well. Very proud of people like you and what you did. I'm almost 53, didn't "come out" to my family until I was 30. It didnt' go well at all. I've got a similar background as you just substitute Church of Christ for Southern Baptist. My mom wrote me a very long scathing letter condemning me to hell for the choices I was making and on and on. I lost several friends during the process as well. It took well over a year before my mom & I even spoke again and then for years after the relationship was strained. You know the funny thing, I finally relented and took my then partner, now husband, home to meet the family. I was scared more then than I was about coming out to them. After they met my Andy, almost overnight my relationship with my family was actually stronger than it had ever been. They love Andy as much (i think he is mom's favorite) as they do me. I cry every time I think about how wonderful my family has been to us. They genuinely love him and know without a doubt that he is absolutely the best thing that has ever happened in my life. I still from time to time let my mind fall back onto the religion that I was brought up in, and I have to admit, that those teachings can still haunt me. But in the end, I realize God creates out of love and not hate. I hope at this point in your life you've got that first great post-college job and maybe just maybe someone really close to your heart too. You seem like a great guy, someone I would definitely want to be friends with, someone that people can look up to as a role model. Keep up the good work. ~ John
I have never seen someone come out with class. You did this perfectly and if you loss any friends they really were not' friends. I see a bright future for you as you are honest, censer and will have no trouble finding a great person for you. He will be a very lucky person and better treat you right. As I said perfectly done. I wish you the very, very best and hope you get as lucky as me as my partner have just celebrated our 21 anniversary. All my best to a great guy and great catch.
Christopher...bravo my good man. Proud to have you among us...I didn’t come out til I was 26...I’m now 54, married and wouldn’t have it any other way. You are going to love your life.
Christopher, now that you made the leap to what is naturally you, enjoy life.
Congrats on making this video! It's a huge step. I grew up in a christian home as well and went to a private Southern Baptist University. I prayed hard to become straight until finally I came to realize it was all crap. We were dupe'd into thinking and believing a certain way growing up. We were impressionable kids being force fed junk. Luckily in adulthood, we can really seek and learn the truth. I'm sending love and hugs.
Hey, thank you for sharing this. Haven't come out yet but this is soooo inspiring, I wished I could be the brave. And yes, I want to have a guy to hold hands with, take care when he's sick (and when I am), and marry him and build a little family. Thank you.
You are a beautiful young man. Wishing you every happiness. Big HUG.
You're amazing, Christopher. Never forget that. Much love.
How brave, how courageous, how strong !! Stand proud in who you are, I think you need a wonderful warm secure hug, hopefully from your mum and dad. I hope you're honesty brings you great respect and allows to step forward as the wonderful dude you are !
Lots of love....
Melbourne, Australia
Nothing but love for you, dude! I hope you are doing well now! Know that you have support from all over the world (this one is from Germany). Your video is very inspirational and I think that it will be a part of my coming out very soon. And I am scared. But I can't live like this anymore! After so many years I have to start to live eventually. Thank you so much for your video! And I would love to see a follow up ;)
Thanks for sharing this, I know it was difficult for you. I have known all my life that I was different. I never dated girls as such; they were friends. I grew up strict Catholic and was told gays were sinners. I tried to pray the gay away. I suffered depression and tried suicide ((I also have a slight disability and that played a part) thank God - not too seriously). I never acted on it, but I was sorely tested. I went to university and became more assured. I to university quite late, so when I was almost thirty I was ready to come out, but my brother beat me to it; because he came out due to having HIV and AIDS, I went back into the closet. I moved away a number of years later and came out at 40. Today, I am a happy man. I have my faith, but I no longer do the church part (long story but that is how I dealt with the Christian upbringing). Today, I have my faith. I believe God created me for me and that he doesn't make junk and thus I am as I was meant to be. I no longer believe that God hates gays: Love is love. I am not perfect (no one is). I have faith and that is all that matters. You are loved. You are loved by hopefully some family or extended family, you are loved by friends and you are loved by those people you have touched with your story. I hope you have found peace, love and joy that you so richly deserved. Virtual hugs. A "friend". Bob
Chris, you're perfect just the way you are. I have no use for religion, but if it's still important to you to be a part of that environment, find a place that is accepting of you as you are.
That is correct you are still the same person. When I came out I lost all my guy friends but, I found that one guy, together for over 20 yrs. Hold your head up and keep your heart open.
proud proud proud proud proud proud
Awesome video, so happy for you! I just posted my coming out video on my channel as well! :)
It's nice to see how real, honest and unpretentious you are. A lot of gay people put on a big act to not seem vulnerable. But this kind of honesty is beautiful. I want to know more people like you.
Hi Chris. I just want to say how much I admire you. You are truly a very brave and wonderful person. I can't begin to imagine the guts it took you to make this video. I am so happy and pleased you have come to accept yourself and start the process of telling others. You should be highly proud of yourself. After watching this you have gave me a lot of hope and Imthak you for it. I wish you luck in your meteorology career, I also have a huge interest in meteorology. Would love to talk more to you he he.