The foundations of our society are bow built on envy. Not only do people want what everyone wants and few have, they believe not having it right now isn’t fair. This leads to toxicity and plots of self-assured destruction in the act of destroying other people’s happiness or simply becoming bitter.
"Women are never happy with the choice they make and men don't even have a chance" I appreciate that she is honest enough to admit this. So many women want to always play the victim card and will never acknowledge this dynamic. God forbid they admit we have any problems or disadvantages. Ever.
Story starts 29 years ago. We ( she and I ) were on an upward trajectory,things getting better. Her closest gfs marriage was going down ( he was a drunk when she married him, and didn't improve ). I could see that didn't help us, being around her friend's negativity. Then we working near her office,so we visited some on lunch. Her friends ran me down to her, ( we made about the same money ) that I was beneath her because my job had less prestige. I was in construction,she was a counselor ( social worker with the county ). Which was the start of the slippery slope. When we broke up, I said to her " if you keep playing these games you could find the wrong guy and get your head beat in " A year later I was stepping ari her when she saw me and moaned my name in away that made the crowd look at us ( she was with another guy ) he must have wondered or knew what that was about. Several years later I saw her at the art festival. I said to her that " she was the closest to a real love I'd had,and walked away. Several years later, I ran into one of the women who had run mi down. She told me that my ex did run into a bad guy who beat her to death. She said she was sorry they ran me down. I said " lot of good that does,now ". I'm not sure if that was a tale, because I gave her a shirt she'd wanted,while asking nothing of her. The shirt was of limited availability, I never thought it would take that long to be in stock in her size. I've investigated enough to know she is dead,so what her friend said might be true. I haven't and won't investigate further. I don't want to know the particulars. People recognize me and say I look like I'm aging on a much slower schedule than everyone else. I've been very athletic and active all my life. Ps. I've posted and told this story before. I've had some people say " serves her right " I say " it was a waste, I can't agree with you ".
Very few men that I know "locker room talk" about anyone they have been with. Almost no fathers I know share potentially embarrassing things about children under any circumstance. I have seen and heard some women comparing and describing the most intimate details and make public the most private information you could possibly imagine with absolutely no restraint or regret
@@katemiller7874 it's TRUE! However some are more responsible and respectful than others, when doing so. Many do not feel any sense of fidelity and some do not care if they leave their subject vulnerable to shame and even some allow or participate in bullying
I think that they are right on about being a victim. I used to watch channels where the men really painted women as evil. That and I wasn't seeing things they were talking about. That might be in part because I am in the middle of the country. Things might be different in larger cities. But that was why I unsubscribed to all of them. Then by accident weeks later I ran into Rebecca's Barrett channel and subscribed. Even though nothing she was saying was really of any use to me. Then Rebecca was a guest on here. So I subscribed to Courtney's channel as well.
Well that's the thing Michael. Before the modern day there was shaming and actual accountability for misdeeds. Now misdeeds and selfishness is encouraged.
But for men our selfishness is more justified because it's needed for our success because men receive less support from others financially especially and that's why there homeless population is predominantly males.
That was a full-blown crash course in under 20 minutes. I loved the "honey pot options" analogy. Some people weigh their options, choose their honey, and live the rest of their days enjoying it. Some, on the other hand, put their entire left hand in one pot, right one in another, start spooning the third pot as they eat from a forth pot and pour over the fifth pot just because they can and start badmouthing the sixth pot, and they end up hating honey and on top of it they start blaming the honey for being too sweet and too sticky.
I just bought some natural honey for my cough. It's called Alshifa. It's imported from Saudi Arabia. It is more expensive than your generic drug store honey, but it's the real deal.
YES! I clicked on this video so fast. Glad to see you and Casey see eye-to-eye on things. Sad to hear about women shaming other women for being happy and healthy.
I’m with you on that - Trevor! In an ideal world, women would have each other’s back always, because it just seems so hard to be a woman… I’m around women a lot, and I see what they go through on daily basis, it’s a shame… but they’re strong though, I guess they have to be, God bless! Anyway, that’s my two cents.
My friend's sister who was in her late 50s, left her husband and children for another dude, then tried to get all her sisters to divorce their husbands! The dude left her after the fun ran out.
Great video! It truly explains a lot of why I struggle with online dating. With women having so many options, the moment that it gets slightly boring or steady in conversation, the modern girl gets bored of me and goes on to someone else. I feel like I shouldn’t have to jump through so many hoops and that the man I am today is good enough. Like Casey said, it’s really hard to find women that don’t play games like that
Get OFF ONLINE DATING/APPS. It seems so damn destructive to us individually & collectively!!! Let's go back to MEETING IN PERSON. Then all of might have a LOT better chance to find someone to honestly love!
Oh, absolutely! And then when you politely call someone out on their lack of accountability, you're often met with disdain and accused of committing a "microaggression." WTF?
@@jayblomquist3339 unfortunately, in this ever increasing attitude of not taking responsibility for your own problems, it is that hard. I agree with you, though, 100%
Nice to hear a woman agree that generally they hold the cards in the dating world. We hear a lot about male privilege, and I won't deny for a second that it does exist in several incarnations. But there are a handful of areas in our world where men are essentially powerless, and when any of us try to talk about it we get shouted down. Women talking about it doesn't get met with the same level of hostility and the message still gets out there. Thanks, Courtney. Both for helping us do better, and for shedding light on our issues
@@purplelove3666 Yeah , but in Africa and the Arab world women get treated like crap , raped and stoned to death... if that's the upper hand they can keep it..
The wisdom that this young man has, and utilizes is refreshing in today's social environment. Thanks for reviewing this video Courtney. Great work as always!
I like this guy's attitude. Takes charge of himself while recognizing some of the mistakes or bad decisions women make. It's the right balance. I don't like the bitter attitudes some men have towards women in general on the basis of specific bad examples. That's how men have been treated by some bitter women, and we shouldn't be imitating them. Better men will make better women, and better women will make better men. It should be a joint effort. I appreciate your compassion for men Ms Ryan. I'm glad that some women can see how things are on our side, and men should be encouraged to know that there are women who care so as to hopefully care for them in turn.
That is not my experience. I'm not in the top 20% of guys and am below average height. They're not clambering to date me, but I've received help from many. Lots of girls are people-pleasers; they'll often go a bit more out of their way to do things for others so that people will like them. That often means eagerly rendering help to people whom they don't think will mis-interpret the gesture. I can't speak for other people's experiences, but that is mine.
A woman's response: I REALLY like your observation that "Better men will make better women and better women will make better men." ALL of us should be working to become our best selves.
"[Some] men don't have a chance." This is so true, especially if men are average-to-good looking, smart, respectful and courteous. [Some] women behave as if a man who is average-to-good looking, smart, respectful and courteous is a weird man.
I could not agree with you more. Creepy!! They love that one. They enjoy to simmer in their ignorance and just label perfectly fine good men. They have the worst taste, they have no class & enjoy men across the board with no class whatsoever.
@@lur3950 You need to watch some Reddit-RUclipsrs and Hashtag-specialized Tubers, so that you can get the bigger picture and the 'real Ratios' here, if you know what i mean.
That “Be what you want to attract” is the most difficult pill to swallow in this age of entitlement. Everybody gets a trophy mindset has practically ruined dating for an entire generation. Swallow the pill, quit complaining and do the work. Great vid Courtney.
That’s so true, having too many options is such an issue for a lot of people… they cannot handle it! I’ve seen people ruin a perfectly good thing simply because they have options. And nowadays, it’s even worse, but what can you do? You can’t control other people, it’s a losing battle… Just do what’s right for you, and keep it moving! Anyway, that’s my two cents.
Its social media and online dating at the root of the issue! It gives women a simply unfathomable amount of options and validation...which in turns starts to warp their perception of dating and men. It also creates a 'grass is greener' mentality where someone better could be just one swipe away.
Ignore them. The very thing she is against. When you ignore, you don't validate. Implicitly you are saying loud and clear: "You are not worth my effort & or attention. You are toxic" The Western woman
That man talks a lot like an Incel; noticed that? He talks about Power and he literally used the laughable word ‚Game’, didnt he? I think he hides some incel-tendencies here.
You made a good point that people want instant gratification. It’s definitely a big issue amongst today’s society. I look forward to your video on this topic.
I've had the opportunity to hear women talk to each other at my first job and they said things my group of male friends would never say to one another. It blew my mind.
Yes.! Nice shout-out to Teaching Men's Fashion.! By the way last week I commented saying I went on a date. We went to a haunted house and it was great and we had date number two this past Tuesday at a coffee shop.! Thank you for all that you do and helping us.! 😁💙👊🙏🔥
"The woman you chose to spend your life with is the most important decision you will ever make" - from someone who married young into a blended family and is now divorced, please heed her words gents, and ladies. I was young and naive and we bought into the terrible deception that "if it doesn't work out, we'll just divorce". I wouldn't wish divorce on my worse enemy. Choose wisely my friend.
@@jkshallinheritearth3883 definitely a great way to see things Raj, if it is something that has happened, don’t get stuck in it, use it as an opportunity to focus. Thanks my friend!
MEN hold the key to there own happiness. What Casey was describing is a classic thing called misery loves company. I have lived through this in a marriage where what everyone else was doing in a marriage was happening in our marriage. Her friends all had miserable marriages and she decided that it was also happening in ours. In the end which I was happy about , she cheated and left. She left her 3 month old child and didnt care about what happened to him. The new boyfriend used her and dumped her within a week of course she wanted to come home but got herself in a situation where she couldnt, Misery loves company is a true term in this day and time. What people dont seem to understand is human behavior doesnt change wiith generations is just manifest itself in a different form,
Women do not see it. I tell girls misery loves company. Asked her to ask men for advice vs ask her guy friends. Men's advice is always morecaustic but what you need to hear. Girl's advice almost always is about feel good and what they want to hear. Once I opened a friends eyes. She noticed how her friends always conspired to keep their tribe the same.
People feel like they made the wrong decision because they have a fear of missing out on something greater. The key here is to be satisfy with your decision and ignore the other options.
"Close your heart to their desperation. Close your heart to their suffering. Do not allow yourself to feel for them, they will not feel for you." - Kratos, The God Of War (2018)
That man talks a lot like an Incel; noticed that? He talks about Power and he literally used the laughable word ‚Game’, didnt he? I think he hides some incel-tendencies here.
@@notproductiveproductions3504 Sorry, but that is a baseless assumption and a rude one at that, so it has very little value but a lot of meaning in the sense of 'tells a lot about you, Not Productive Productions'.
Courtney: "Be like Casey!" Me: Is striving to be like Casey at all worth the time, effort, and risk? Especially when "women are never happy with the choice they make and men don't even have a chance." I'm a five-percenter and not the worst-looking male. If I put in the effort, I could get maybe one date every couple of months. Women will always believe they are settling, so why go out of my way to be with someone who will chronically think I'm second best or less? Especially with a dozen other relational risks that weren't even mentioned in this video?
Casey is a Chad lite, so he gets play enough to just assume "all men can do what I can do." Courtney is striving to be altruistic, which is a noble cause, but she has never been sub 6 or sub 8, so her male audience is the upper tier of men 20%'ers. Both people here still push the Plantation model of Know your place (Alpha, beta, sigma, Omega) and divine your partners thinking. It's still play the Game...men must sacrifice, women must judge harshly, and be rewarded handsomely. Or, walk away from a rigged game, and develop yourself. This is a broken system, and is unjust, especially towards men. It's not an opinion, it's based on facts and data. While I can appreciate Courtney trying to resell the dream that relationships could work, she continues to ignore the cultural state of the west, and most importantly, the legal and government policy that holds men to an extreme level of accountability, and holds women to an extreme LACK of accountability. Their inability to truly empathize with the plight of men is a result of being not able to suffer, by merely existing as a man. While it's important to not "hang out" with people of a certain temperament, it is even more important to not accept the "good news" of Courtney to, as 'michelle' Obama stated on an interview with Oprah, "...Just do better, men !" "Be like Casey!" It's a sweet sentiment, and Courtney is smart, and pretty, but a blind man knows what condescension is. Courtney was, inadvertently, condescending.
@@tomz1daful Men are adjusting to the legal reality. The saying "girlfriends are better than wives" becoming popular among men is a direct result of the legal system punishing men for committing to women. In states where common law marriages are a thing, men are even refusing to cohabitate to avoid that hook onto their wallet. Men are seeing their fathers, uncles, cousins, friends get their wallet yanked out through their noses to benefit the women they committed to, and are like, "nope - not going to put myself in that situation". I would and will advise my sons to find themselves a Courtney Ryan or Rebecca Barret if they can, but _do not commit to them_ unless it's in a state like South Carolina, where at-fault divorce is still a thing - and even then, they probably shouldn't, because the law changes are still trending in the direction of favoring women. It's not that a woman will make their lives miserable later, it's that they _can,_ at any point, choose to do so. It's too late for me, I passed the magic 14 year mark in Illinois over 9 years ago - if my wife chooses to pull a grey divorce after the kids move out, there is little I can do about it - _legally._
Only way I would want my boys considering marriage would be if they find a young conservative woman who was raised right, hasn’t internalized the modern narrative, hasn’t been a sloot, and they want kids together.
One date every few months? Son, you should be having at least one per week as a 5%er You are the sovereign of your life, looks are only a small part of it. If you're a 5%er then looks shouldn't even be a factor. Get dating boy!
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH! IVE BEEN WATCHING YOU EVERYDAY SINCE FEBRUARY. I SEPARATED AFTER 12 YEAR RELATIONSHIP. THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE: CASEY Z IVE REALIZED JUST RECENTLY THROUGH THIS VIDEO. HES OPENING MY EYES, I CANT STOP WATCHING HIS VIDEOS WITH LOVE AND RESPECT COURTNEY, DONT EVER STOP BEING YOURSELF
There's a lot of people who date just for the validation of attracting others. They prove they are attractive, it feels good, and eventually they move on.
To be honest, men really don't like sharing the intimate details of their romantic lives. It might feel natural to assume that men must gossip this way, since women do it, but in my experience men tend to keep these kinds of details private.
Exactly my mother I overheard saying really hurtful things about me and my brother outside that anyone walking by could hear. Women make everyone miserable, my mother single handedly killed her marriage with my dad, but they are still together even though divorce is frowned upon since they are Christians and divorce is expensive as all hell.
I hear women talk about the good and bad experiences with each other all the time. Men at most say nothing and at least say one or two words to describe it.
@@co-bruh1423 It depends on who you are dealing with. Men talk more with another and more detailed about it if it's with someone that's already trusted. A man's words coming out and not half assed is a privilege. I've had the unique privilege of watching other men cry but only because he was surrounded by another trusted and I who he knew wouldn't mind.
1:20 - I saw a Reddit post about this topic. I will not go into details, but the moral was that women often have deep conversations about men (specifically in a relationship with one of the said women, whether good or bad) and believe that men have similar conversations with other men. However, *most* men don't, believing that women aren't having these conversations either. I had no idea this was an issue until recently, and now I can't forget it.
Up until just 100 years ago, most people grew up, lived, married and died within 10 miles of where they were born. There were no planes, roads were dirt, tv didn't exist etc. Not only was there much less choice but also less illusion of choice. So our innate tendencies weren't as much of an issue. Modern communication and travel technology has imposed a new evolutionary pressure. I say illusion of choice because a full inbox is not an inbox full of guys who are compatible and who will propose marriage. Each guy is only a potential, and statistically even for a fabulous girl, most won't be right. For a less fabulous girl, it's an inbox of once and done guys who may temporarily boost self esteem but at the expense of long term growth.
Exactly. And that one connection that girl living 100 years ago developed with that one boy from her village who she knew for years, then grew closer with and got married to, will have been infinitely more fulfilling than an inbox of 100 different 'hot guys' that your average girl of nowadays has. Quantity isnt quality. Modern dating gives women a multitude of options, but how fulfilled actually is she by any of these?
@@harrypike5140 yes exactly and people still think there is no manipulation from the elites. They understand human psychology better than anyone. The only way to fix this short of societal collapse is to go back to that village township setup. Where you have a tight nit community and strong social bonds. Goods and services are handled together at a local level and therefore not as impacted by the mainstream supply chain. It's cheaper and far more convenient to plug into the mainstream supply chain but comes with the surrender of your sovereignty and Independence. The township village setup will always work better in the ways that matter because everyone takes a vested interest in the well being of the children
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh yeah precisely. The issue is that this will never happen whilst we have a globalist capitalist consumer system in place with the likes of Amazon, Google, Apple etc. These corporations have more power than many whole countries and they have a vested interest in keeping people individualistic and atomised, because people make better consumers then. Close, tight-knit communities of people with shared values are the biggest threat to elites and globalists. That's why they make a conscious effort to facilitate the dissolution of the family unit and traditional gender roles. It's not a coincidence. The mainstream media, TV and film, pop culture and governmental policy are all interlinked
I was shopping with a female friend. I was looking for a shirt to go to a wedding. She was in the same boat and because we were both looking, we decided to go shopping together. Now unless it's tools I really hate shopping. I actually don't shop for tools either I know what I want and get it. In and out done, finished. I will window shop for tools though. So we head over to the men's section and I go through the racks of shirts. My friend is also checking out what is on offer. I finish my pass and go back to a shirt that caught my eye. Not that there was that much to choose from but I don't hum and ha over these sort of decisions. I grab the shirt and say to my friend that I'm ready to go. She stands there stunned that I have taken all of 5 min to make my purchase. So now we head to a female clothing shop. Big W department store won't cut it. I sigh and shrug my shoulders. This is where I find out that she has been looking for months with her girlfriends to find her outfit. She's not part of the wedding entourage so she just wants to look good, fair call. So here we are in this dress shop with 10 time the variety to choose from. That I find is the first problem women have. If they had 2 outfits to choose from it'd make their shopping so much easier. In the end I'm sitting aside trying not to yawn when she come up to me in tears. I ask her what the problem is and she says she can't find anything she likes. I look around and shake my head. I ask her if she would like me to find something. She almost laughed at me but shrugged and said that I couldn't do any worse. I asked her what colour range and she said bone. That says it all. Men have brown blue and grey and black, women have too many options and it only confuses them. So I did my normal thing by looking for a bone/light brown outfit, I ignore all other colours. I know she wants a skirt, blouse and jacket, so I ignore all other styles. It takes me about ten minutes to select an outfit that she is really happy with, I also pick out a bra for her because the blouse is a little see through. I guessed what cup size and for the first time in the history of man I got it right. Off to the shoe department and I have a pair of stylish and comfortable matching 2in heels for her. Also ....bone! lol We get to the checkout counter and the sales lady is gobsmacked. She then tell me that she never wants to shop with me. I ask her, isn't the outfit nice? She says it's gorgeous, but that I take all the fun out of shopping. When you have one option your life is good, and it gets more complicated the more options you are presented with. Just Sayin
Man driving car across long bridge is focused on goal of getting to the other side. Woman in passenger seat is focused on the gorgeous view of water, boats, and sunset. Facts.
Yes sir, those people are in a mess of a thought process. They comfortably arrive to a level of psychosis. The departments that run Their priorities, what's important are messed up. They have no integrity. Sick to the point where they truly don't know what they truly need or want just like a 4 year old.
That's because men put the cart before the horse a man must become then you flip the script. If you invest 300 a month for 8 years in even modest stock or mutual fund with 8 percent return you'll have well over 1 million dollars due to compounding interest. It's ok to deal with women a little while your on your grind but if they take your focus off of your purpose too much it's not worth it. Once you got a home and a stable environment your ready to find someone on your terms. Although admittingly I still would not recommend getting married through the state and living together where there is no common law marriage. At least you'll have access to women 😂
Love your common sense approach of breaking down important parts of a video that other wise may have been passed over with only minimal significance. You in-depth but simply rephrase things that really help people/me absorb the information. Thank you for what you do.
When your tool is manipulation, you are anxious before every situation, defensively distracted by your devious presentations, and if called to account while on the brink of desperation, we'll witness your hyperventilation.
We need more Courtney Ryan's in the world I think this video confirms the 50 percent of women having a back up while in a relationship stat I told u about several videos ago lol
@4:42 that's what I call "Paralysis of the Analysis " when you have too many options, you never pick one, or may not even be happy when you do pick one. It's absolutely true. Human minds are funny.
In sales, it is best if you give the client the 3 best options for them, and then tell them which of those 3 you'd pick if it were for you (or a family member).
Eh, I don't know about that. I would like to have the success of Warren Buffett or Bezos but wouldn't want to BE either of them. Buffett due to being old and ugly and having the personality and fun factor of a wet dishrag and Bezos for looking like the Keebler elf and dating mediocre women.
If you have no problem getting dates then you are inherently more attractive than the majority of men. A significant number of young men today are unable to even get dates (unless with some genuinely low-value women e.g. obese, single mums, psycho etc), let alone a relationship with a feminine women with good values who they vibe with.
Great video! What never fails to make me laugh are the women in their early to even mid 40s who think they STILL have time to have children and turn down otherwise good guys like me, simply because we don't want children.
@Nidhi Roy AND some couples just don't want children but want to be married, nonetheless, especially the woman, because (and they tell me this), "it gives them more security in the relationship." I personally disagree, because all a legal marriage does is make harder to get out of it, but it doesn't prevent a divorce if someone really wants a divorce. And then there are people like me. I don't want children, and I have been married, but I would still get married again if it meant that much to the woman I was with, especially if she had never been married. If I could find someone who was happy to just live together, of course, that would be ideal, but most women I've dated, even if they were ok without having kids, still wanted to get married, especially if they had never been married
@Nidhi Roy if it were up to me, I'd make "legal" marriage a thing of the past, so that people (generally men) don't get financially ruined by a divorce, especially with such a high divorce rate in my nation. I would simply make marriage a personal contract between the 2 parties with agreements ahead of time of how things will be divided if the marriage fails
Both sexes go crazy... "boys will be boys and women will be women" for sure. I think you the nail on the head- it's the victimhood trap and that's indiscriminatory. I have fallen in this trap from time to time. Self awareness is a content that you consistently preach and we all appreciate it.
@ that's why I put it in quotations.. actually people that says boys will be boys are what people respond with when they feel a woman is playing victim when they dont want to deal with them.. its not exactly victimhood directly but it's part of the conversation.
Hey Courtney I've been watching your content for a while now and this is just to say that I find your videos and perspective very pleasant. They motivate me to be better. It saddens me to see comments that come off as resentful toward the opposite sex here and the modern internet as a whole. I just want to send back some positivity your way.
As a man with male, and female friends, I have never heard men talk to each other in as much as a sexually graphic manner as I have ever heard women taking to each other. We just don’t talk like that, even in the locker room.
When you said that woman have all the options and men don’t even have a chance i about cried because of how truthful that statement is and how deep that cuts me as a young man I’m 21yo I don’t do the whole social media thing I have Snapchat and that’s it but I’ve never gotten further than my first kiss when I was 16 and have my one and only girlfriend and we broke up because we had differences in personality and she had family issues but I can’t for the life of me get my first date and it’s really discouraging when females don’t even have to lift a finger to get a date of start a relationship with someone I’ve tried for years since I was 17 to just get a first date a second kiss maybe one day lose my virginity but looks like I’m going to live a miserable lonely life and die alone
I know I had watched this years ago but wanted to see it again . In reference to the lady having a significant other to those that don’t I can only quote a older sayin “ misery loves company “ .
I genuinely feel like Courtney really does get it after this video finally. “Woman have to many options” the game and dating has turned into something that has so many men not wanting any part of it anymore. Good men to- walking away in droves
That older-on-younger woman bullying discussed from 6:25 to 8:51 puts me in mind of this summary of Third Wave Feminism: "bitter old women making the lives of pretty young ones Hell."
“Too many options” was mentioned 5min into video; so true. Seemed like we had limited options back in the 80’s & 90’s, but we were more confident & satisfied with our choices back then regarding any purchases, consumables, & relationships. My kingdom for Doc Brown’s DeLorean!
Relatively speaking, there is no difference between the "younger girl" and her older bullies - Because the younger girls eventually become those bitter older women who are s3xual butterflies - moving from one flower to another. The older women in his story were indirectly educating the younger girl.
This is why I don’t have any hope I’ll find someone who’s down for the long haul. No matter how good you are, you may be just the flavor of the week and a woman who you think loves you may have guys on the side and you’ll never even know it
So stop treating them like princesses. A lot of guys shoot themselves in the foot even when they do get someone. A lot of men have been lied to. Never listen to a woman when they say what they look for. It in reality repulsed women when her man is always accommodating. Always trying. Always giving her the world. This is a big reason so many women lose interest in guys as well. Pay attention to their actions not their words. Stop validating them and make them work for it. To may guys are commitment whores. They can know everything about you, you can concede your ground or your opinions with them because thst is who you were when they were attracted. A lot of guys out here are brainwashed to change themselves too much its usually the pin of the grenade in reality though. Stay strong. Don't be so eager to see them, stop with the beautiful comments or any kind of validation they here it all the damn time be that guy that doesn't and make her wonder why and, make them doubt your level of commitment to them. It really sucks but this is what men have to start doing. They have to know you can actually walk away from them before they care to stick around otherwise when you are wrapped around their fingers you bring monkeybranching onto yourself.
An excellent & informative joint effort. This guy is speaking from the point of view of an interested observer, he has learnt well, & discusses it convincingly. The two women in their 30s have been around long enough to make a succession of mistakes (too many choices), are already on the downward slide, & will easily become irritable when faced with a younger woman who they feel may be on the verge of happiness with still some time to spare. Inference? They know they've mucked up & feel certain they can't rescue the situation, & don't like someone else, especially another (younger) woman getting it right. Consequently, the conclusion I'd draw from all this is that the two 30 somethings will be in & out of relationships until, a little way down the track, time runs out, & nobody would give them a second look. Too many choices ruin the quality of life. Imagine you're going on a date & the woman has a hundred outfits. Which one will she choose? Conversely, suppose she had one (really exciting) get up. How long would she take? Not long! So, the more choices you have the likelier you are to make the wrong choice. And that's why I decluttered my place over a year ago. Nothing to do with male-female interaction, but it works the same no matter what. Thanks Courtney & co for this video.
"sadly.... women have too many options...." This has been the main push of feminism. Feminism won. But go ahead, girlfriend. Fight it. Let me know how it goes.😂😂😂
Yep it's basically men being subservient to women and getting treated badly. Women dressing provocatively and in general our sexualized culture, combined with the lack of masculine male authority sets men up to be very thirsty men. Combined with social media giving even plain Jane women access to all the sausage they could ever want.
Women live in a world in which there is always a taller, richer, more attractive man just around the corner. And if they're willing to have casual sex that can be true. But there comes the point when chad isn't interested in even a hook up anymore and normal guys don't want a woman that has massive emotional baggage from the psychological trauma of being pumped and dumped dozens and dozens of times. If you're not in the top 10-15% of men it's probably best to find some hobbies and learn to be single.
Yep, I've seen it so many times. Single women shaming married or committed relationship women. I guess they want to have as much company as possible being alone.
Courtney did an excellent job here of responding to this young man's video. But I especially want to say that this man is a SUPERB spokesperson and analyst of "modern day women" as witnessed by his own eyes. He speaks with great truth, honesty, and insight.
There is this tendency in human nature to runaway from happiness and spiritual and emotional peace. If you are able to discern this in your 20s and know it go for it. If your gut and mind are in sync you don't have to rely on anyone else's opinion.
8:34-8:51 that's exactly what it is, I and other men call that out alot in these types of conversations and get labled "toxic". More women should speak out as well. Why don't we see more older women or women in general educate other women like we see men do on here? We gotta stop being afraid to hurt women's "feelings" an be honest, thats the only way things will change.
Lol thanks to the media for that ......they are pretty much babying these women and giving them the "PRINCESS SYNDROME" . I bet men and women are both to be blamed for this. Staying around good company makes you attract the good people too.
The "be what you want to attract" thing could be misinterpreted though, because everybody as far as you're concerned could have the potential to do you dirty and there could no signs... some people are sneaky like that.. "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" If someone does me dirty I am not going to blame myself If I take them, but if I take them back I will blame myself for any future misfortune
It is nice advice and makes logical sense... whether or not it works is another story... though I'm sorry to sound cynical or pessimistic; that probably came off as a little hostile. I didn't mean it to. I might just adjust it to "be who makes you happiest and is the finest version of yourself."
@@SmokeyTheBear125 considering how many women are on the planet (billions), especially if you are one to travel and not keep yourself isolated to one city, state or country, I'd say the odds are VERY good that its sound advice. I'm fortunate I love to travel. 😁
Thank you miss Ryan, your advice and guidance is much Appreciated , you make some very good points. Better bachelor is a good channel for you to react to, thanks ☺👍
I've been telling guys for many years that if you want to know what women are really like you should listen in on their conversations when they don't know that you are listening!
Hahaha. Once out at lunch from my midtown Manhattan job, sitting alone at a typical small diner, I sat near a table of four women and had no choice but to overhear their conversation. I swear, for the ENTIRE 45 minutes each and every one of them talked about NOTHING but how fat they felt their own thighs were!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, OMG, can any lengthy conversation possibly be more vapid than that??? (And, incidentally, there are lots of guys who probably like women who are not skin and bones.) Personally, I could admire them more if they talked about ANYTHING other than themselves and their own bodies. When with my male friends, we talk about things like the latest great art show at the Met Museum or the Morgan Library; or the latest discoveries in science, astronomy and cosmology; or some great passage in a certain book by Dostoyevsky, Whitman, or Thomas Mann. And, yes, we sometimes talk about girls and women. But never about how we are just miserable because we hate our own bodies.
"....women shaming other women for being in a happy relationship..."
In my day, that was called jealousy.
Those 30 year olds were definitely jealous that a younger woman had a life that they don’t have. That’s what I think.
@@thenerdabides4885 yes and it's nothing new.
The foundations of our society are bow built on envy. Not only do people want what everyone wants and few have, they believe not having it right now isn’t fair. This leads to toxicity and plots of self-assured destruction in the act of destroying other people’s happiness or simply becoming bitter.
@@co-bruh1423 I never saw men behave like women do in this respect.
Now, it's called feminism.
"Women are never happy with the choice they make and men don't even have a chance"
I appreciate that she is honest enough to admit this. So many women want to always play the victim card and will never acknowledge this dynamic. God forbid they admit we have any problems or disadvantages. Ever.
They are in it for the gain. They care about nobody, but themselfs.
Story starts 29 years ago. We ( she and I ) were on an upward trajectory,things getting better. Her closest gfs marriage was going down ( he was a drunk when she married him, and didn't improve ). I could see that didn't help us, being around her friend's negativity. Then we working near her office,so we visited some on lunch. Her friends ran me down to her, ( we made about the same money ) that I was beneath her because my job had less prestige. I was in construction,she was a counselor ( social worker with the county ). Which was the start of the slippery slope.
When we broke up, I said to her " if you keep playing these games you could find the wrong guy and get your head beat in "
A year later I was stepping ari her when she saw me and moaned my name in away that made the crowd look at us ( she was with another guy ) he must have wondered or knew what that was about.
Several years later I saw her at the art festival. I said to her that " she was the closest to a real love I'd had,and walked away.
Several years later, I ran into one of the women who had run mi down. She told me that my ex did run into a bad guy who beat her to death. She said she was sorry they ran me down. I said " lot of good that does,now ". I'm not sure if that was a tale, because I gave her a shirt she'd wanted,while asking nothing of her. The shirt was of limited availability, I never thought it would take that long to be in stock in her size.
I've investigated enough to know she is dead,so what her friend said might be true. I haven't and won't investigate further. I don't want to know the particulars.
People recognize me and say I look like I'm aging on a much slower schedule than everyone else. I've been very athletic and active all my life.
Ps. I've posted and told this story before. I've had some people say " serves her right " I say " it was a waste, I can't agree with you ".
Stepping around her.
Stepping around was in the dating area downtown. The shirt gift was almost 2 years exactly from the breakup.
God forbid you ever show any emotions around her,you just dropped to zero.
10/10 review 🔑⚡️
"Winter is coming."
- Kevin Samuels
🔥
Big man!
That boi Casey! Casey Zander For President!
Uncle c
Very few men that I know "locker room talk" about anyone they have been with. Almost no fathers I know share potentially embarrassing things about children under any circumstance. I have seen and heard some women comparing and describing the most intimate details and make public the most private information you could possibly imagine with absolutely no restraint or regret
True. Men don't gossip that much about things let alone private things.
Women are more Verbal always have been. It’s part of our being. That’s not new.
@@katemiller7874 it's TRUE! However some are more responsible and respectful than others, when doing so. Many do not feel any sense of fidelity and some do not care if they leave their subject vulnerable to shame and even some allow or participate in bullying
I agree.
Yeah that's spot on, it's one of the reasons I don't talk to my mom and she won't be meeting her grand children.
Single women KEEP women single.
Misery LOVES company.
100%
@Michael Cueva it's true, success takes a team, and failure takes a community
I think that they are right on about being a victim. I used to watch channels where the men really painted women as evil. That and I wasn't seeing things they were talking about. That might be in part because I am in the middle of the country. Things might be different in larger cities. But that was why I unsubscribed to all of them. Then by accident weeks later I ran into Rebecca's Barrett channel and subscribed. Even though nothing she was saying was really of any use to me. Then Rebecca was a guest on here. So I subscribed to Courtney's channel as well.
Well that's the thing Michael. Before the modern day there was shaming and actual accountability for misdeeds. Now misdeeds and selfishness is encouraged.
But for men our selfishness is more justified because it's needed for our success because men receive less support from others financially especially and that's why there homeless population is predominantly males.
That was a full-blown crash course in under 20 minutes.
I loved the "honey pot options" analogy.
Some people weigh their options, choose their honey, and live the rest of their days enjoying it. Some, on the other hand, put their entire left hand in one pot, right one in another, start spooning the third pot as they eat from a forth pot and pour over the fifth pot just because they can and start badmouthing the sixth pot, and they end up hating honey and on top of it they start blaming the honey for being too sweet and too sticky.
I love this comment! You’re absolutely right.
I just bought some natural honey for my cough. It's called Alshifa. It's imported from Saudi Arabia. It is more expensive than your generic drug store honey, but it's the real deal.
The honey pot analogy is The Paradox of Choice.
@@cekalble Just looked it up, very interesting. Thank you for the info.
@@fyfaen2010 🤣😂
YES! I clicked on this video so fast. Glad to see you and Casey see eye-to-eye on things. Sad to hear about women shaming other women for being happy and healthy.
Thank you Trevor! Lol right, misery loves company 🥴
I’m with you on that - Trevor!
In an ideal world, women would have each other’s back always, because it just seems so hard to be a woman…
I’m around women a lot, and I see what they go through on daily basis, it’s a shame…
but they’re strong though, I guess they have to be, God bless!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
My friend's sister who was in her late 50s, left her husband and children for another dude, then tried to get all her sisters to divorce their husbands! The dude left her after the fun ran out.
@@visaman That's sad, dude...
@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Those women still have it easier atleast they don't get suspected of grievous crimes just by looking a certain way.
Thank you. Great episode. Good job!
Great video! It truly explains a lot of why I struggle with online dating. With women having so many options, the moment that it gets slightly boring or steady in conversation, the modern girl gets bored of me and goes on to someone else. I feel like I shouldn’t have to jump through so many hoops and that the man I am today is good enough. Like Casey said, it’s really hard to find women that don’t play games like that
Dude all these women are in their mid 20s
Get OFF ONLINE DATING/APPS. It seems so damn destructive to us individually & collectively!!! Let's go back to MEETING IN PERSON. Then all of might have a LOT better chance to find someone to honestly love!
I like that word “Accountability” if a lot more people would learn it we’d be in a better boat.
Oh, absolutely! And then when you politely call someone out on their lack of accountability, you're often met with disdain and accused of committing a "microaggression." WTF?
Own up for your mistakes don’t be Hippocrates . This applies to both men and women. Can’t people just be real is that so hard?
@@jayblomquist3339 unfortunately, in this ever increasing attitude of not taking responsibility for your own problems, it is that hard. I agree with you, though, 100%
People are over using it in my opinion.
@none none who is doing that? I'm not
You really are a breath of fresh air, Courtney. Some other women just pollute the air with the junk they spout out.
Thank you, my friend ❤️
...and goofy fakeup tutorials.
Yeah the Tik Tok community.
Lol that’s just people in general 😂😂😂
Nice to hear a woman agree that generally they hold the cards in the dating world. We hear a lot about male privilege, and I won't deny for a second that it does exist in several incarnations. But there are a handful of areas in our world where men are essentially powerless, and when any of us try to talk about it we get shouted down. Women talking about it doesn't get met with the same level of hostility and the message still gets out there.
Thanks, Courtney. Both for helping us do better, and for shedding light on our issues
Maybe in the western world but in Africa , the arab world and in asia ,you have the upper hand because you are a man.
@@purplelove3666 Yeah , but in Africa and the Arab world women get treated like crap , raped and stoned to death... if that's the upper hand they can keep it..
@@chrisb.h4605 in the west, men could get stoned by a false accusation lol
@@mortizmortiz yeah ..true ..lol
@@mortizmortiz Honestly man you could get stoned for approaching a woman at a bar these days…
The wisdom that this young man has, and utilizes is refreshing in today's social environment. Thanks for reviewing this video Courtney. Great work as always!
So grateful I came across your channel! It's wonderful to hear people speak the truth on these issues.
I like this guy's attitude. Takes charge of himself while recognizing some of the mistakes or bad decisions women make. It's the right balance. I don't like the bitter attitudes some men have towards women in general on the basis of specific bad examples. That's how men have been treated by some bitter women, and we shouldn't be imitating them. Better men will make better women, and better women will make better men. It should be a joint effort.
I appreciate your compassion for men Ms Ryan. I'm glad that some women can see how things are on our side, and men should be encouraged to know that there are women who care so as to hopefully care for them in turn.
Yes, playing the victim get no one anywhere....
The vast majority of women won't help you if you are in need... Yet here you are lowering your back for them.
That is not my experience. I'm not in the top 20% of guys and am below average height. They're not clambering to date me, but I've received help from many. Lots of girls are people-pleasers; they'll often go a bit more out of their way to do things for others so that people will like them. That often means eagerly rendering help to people whom they don't think will mis-interpret the gesture.
I can't speak for other people's experiences, but that is mine.
A woman's response: I REALLY like your observation that "Better men will make better women and better women will make better men." ALL of us should be working to become our best selves.
He resembles Bill Clinton, which may subconsciously alleviate the pressure for smooth moves on his part. For women old enough to remember, that is.
Haven't commented in awhile, but you're still consistent with the quality content, Courtney. Keep up the good work.
Thank you! ❤️
"[Some] men don't have a chance." This is so true, especially if men are average-to-good looking, smart, respectful and courteous. [Some] women behave as if a man who is average-to-good looking, smart, respectful and courteous is a weird man.
I could not agree with you more. Creepy!! They love that one.
They enjoy to simmer in their ignorance and just label perfectly fine good men. They have the worst taste, they have no class & enjoy men across the board with no class whatsoever.
@@lur3950 You need to watch some Reddit-RUclipsrs
and Hashtag-specialized Tubers,
so that you can get the bigger picture and the 'real Ratios' here,
if you know what i mean.
@@nenmaster5218
I'm seriously busy. I don't have time. But, I know what I'm talking about
@@lur3950 Hmm...
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@@nenmaster5218
Nem na Humm na hamm na hemm
That “Be what you want to attract” is the most difficult pill to swallow in this age of entitlement. Everybody gets a trophy mindset has practically ruined dating for an entire generation. Swallow the pill, quit complaining and do the work. Great vid Courtney.
Totally agree. Thanks David! 🥰
That’s so true, having too many options is such an issue for a lot of people…
they cannot handle it! I’ve seen people ruin a perfectly good thing simply because they have options.
And nowadays, it’s even worse, but what can you do? You can’t control other people, it’s a losing battle…
Just do what’s right for you, and keep it moving!
Anyway, that’s my two cents.
Its social media and online dating at the root of the issue! It gives women a simply unfathomable amount of options and validation...which in turns starts to warp their perception of dating and men. It also creates a 'grass is greener' mentality where someone better could be just one swipe away.
@Just J I hear ya!
Ignore them. The very thing she is against. When you ignore, you don't validate. Implicitly you are saying loud and clear:
"You are not worth my effort & or attention. You are toxic"
The Western woman
That man talks a lot like an Incel; noticed that? He talks about Power and he literally used the laughable word ‚Game’, didnt he? I think he hides some incel-tendencies here.
Yea but their options all suck
You made a good point that people want instant gratification. It’s definitely a big issue amongst today’s society. I look forward to your video on this topic.
"Be what you want to attract." As a man, I completely agree with this. Well said!
I've had the opportunity to hear women talk to each other at my first job and they said things my group of male friends would never say to one another. It blew my mind.
Yes.! Nice shout-out to Teaching Men's Fashion.! By the way last week I commented saying I went on a date. We went to a haunted house and it was great and we had date number two this past Tuesday at a coffee shop.! Thank you for all that you do and helping us.! 😁💙👊🙏🔥
Ahhh yay that’s so great! Happy for you, my friend 😊
"The woman you chose to spend your life with is the most important decision you will ever make" - from someone who married young into a blended family and is now divorced, please heed her words gents, and ladies. I was young and naive and we bought into the terrible deception that "if it doesn't work out, we'll just divorce". I wouldn't wish divorce on my worse enemy. Choose wisely my friend.
Einstein took divorce to discover Relativity theory! So not taking divorce is horrible idea!
Einstein took divorce to discover Relativity theory! So not taking divorce is horrible idea!
@@jkshallinheritearth3883 definitely a great way to see things Raj, if it is something that has happened, don’t get stuck in it, use it as an opportunity to focus. Thanks my friend!
Dude there is nothing to choose because we are not getting married... no slaughter house here
Just don't marry, problem solved
😨 "I hate it already" lol. Her expressions are the best!
😂👌🏼
Courtney Ryan, bless her!! Unbiased, but has the kind of content I wish ALL women should acknowledge.
I'm a woman that learns a LOT from Courtney. She's wise beyond her years.
MEN hold the key to there own happiness. What Casey was describing is a classic thing called misery loves company. I have lived through this in a marriage where what everyone else was doing in a marriage was happening in our marriage. Her friends all had miserable marriages and she decided that it was also happening in ours. In the end which I was happy about , she cheated and left. She left her 3 month old child and didnt care about what happened to him. The new boyfriend used her and dumped her within a week of course she wanted to come home but got herself in a situation where she couldnt, Misery loves company is a true term in this day and time. What people dont seem to understand is human behavior doesnt change wiith generations is just manifest itself in a different form,
Women do not see it. I tell girls misery loves company. Asked her to ask men for advice vs ask her guy friends. Men's advice is always morecaustic but what you need to hear. Girl's advice almost always is about feel good and what they want to hear.
Once I opened a friends eyes. She noticed how her friends always conspired to keep their tribe the same.
Thanks Courtney. Really Appreciate your Perspective!!!
I liked it so much when you said "I hate that" it's the opposite of integrity. And this is what you are Courtney, and this is why I like so much.
Thank you ❤️
I've said it before on other videos and I'll say it again: this woman is a gem. Thanks for your content, Courtney.
People feel like they made the wrong decision because they have a fear of missing out on something greater. The key here is to be satisfy with your decision and ignore the other options.
"Close your heart to their desperation. Close your heart to their suffering. Do not allow yourself to feel for them, they will not feel for you."
- Kratos, The God Of War (2018)
Lower your expectations boy and you will never be disappointed.
@@arnikolo2916 and always anticipate an attack
That man talks a lot like an Incel; noticed that? He talks about Power and he literally used the laughable word ‚Game’, didnt he? I think he hides some incel-tendencies here.
@@slevinchannel7589 I don’t know you but you seem like the type who accuses people with more sex than you of being incels
@@notproductiveproductions3504 Sorry, but that is a baseless assumption and a rude one at that,
so it has very little value but a lot of meaning in the sense of 'tells a lot about you, Not Productive Productions'.
Courtney said it tremendously well: Choosing the right woman is the most important investment of your life (reworded)
I've been watching your videos for a couple weeks and you seem to put in a lot of work into your content. I'm happy for you. I wish you the best!
Thank you so much! ❤️
Courtney: "Be like Casey!"
Me: Is striving to be like Casey at all worth the time, effort, and risk? Especially when "women are never happy with the choice they make and men don't even have a chance."
I'm a five-percenter and not the worst-looking male. If I put in the effort, I could get maybe one date every couple of months. Women will always believe they are settling, so why go out of my way to be with someone who will chronically think I'm second best or less? Especially with a dozen other relational risks that weren't even mentioned in this video?
Casey is a Chad lite, so he gets play enough to just assume "all men can do what I can do."
Courtney is striving to be altruistic, which is a noble cause, but she has never been sub 6 or sub 8, so her male audience is the upper tier of men 20%'ers.
Both people here still push the Plantation model of Know your place (Alpha, beta, sigma, Omega) and divine your partners thinking. It's still play the Game...men must sacrifice, women must judge harshly, and be rewarded handsomely.
Or, walk away from a rigged game, and develop yourself. This is a broken system, and is unjust, especially towards men. It's not an opinion, it's based on facts and data. While I can appreciate Courtney trying to resell the dream that relationships could work, she continues to ignore the cultural state of the west, and most importantly, the legal and government policy that holds men to an extreme level of accountability, and holds women to an extreme LACK of accountability. Their inability to truly empathize with the plight of men is a result of being not able to suffer, by merely existing as a man.
While it's important to not "hang out" with people of a certain temperament, it is even more important to not accept the "good news" of Courtney to, as 'michelle' Obama stated on an interview with Oprah, "...Just do better, men !"
"Be like Casey!"
It's a sweet sentiment, and Courtney is smart, and pretty, but a blind man knows what condescension is.
Courtney was, inadvertently, condescending.
@@tomz1daful An exceptional and thorough response!
@@tomz1daful Men are adjusting to the legal reality. The saying "girlfriends are better than wives" becoming popular among men is a direct result of the legal system punishing men for committing to women. In states where common law marriages are a thing, men are even refusing to cohabitate to avoid that hook onto their wallet. Men are seeing their fathers, uncles, cousins, friends get their wallet yanked out through their noses to benefit the women they committed to, and are like, "nope - not going to put myself in that situation".
I would and will advise my sons to find themselves a Courtney Ryan or Rebecca Barret if they can, but _do not commit to them_ unless it's in a state like South Carolina, where at-fault divorce is still a thing - and even then, they probably shouldn't, because the law changes are still trending in the direction of favoring women. It's not that a woman will make their lives miserable later, it's that they _can,_ at any point, choose to do so. It's too late for me, I passed the magic 14 year mark in Illinois over 9 years ago - if my wife chooses to pull a grey divorce after the kids move out, there is little I can do about it - _legally._
Only way I would want my boys considering marriage would be if they find a young conservative woman who was raised right, hasn’t internalized the modern narrative, hasn’t been a sloot, and they want kids together.
One date every few months?
Son, you should be having at least one per week as a 5%er
You are the sovereign of your life, looks are only a small part of it. If you're a 5%er then looks shouldn't even be a factor. Get dating boy!
THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH! IVE BEEN WATCHING YOU EVERYDAY SINCE FEBRUARY. I SEPARATED AFTER 12 YEAR RELATIONSHIP. THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE: CASEY Z IVE REALIZED JUST RECENTLY THROUGH THIS VIDEO. HES OPENING MY EYES, I CANT STOP WATCHING HIS VIDEOS
WITH LOVE AND RESPECT COURTNEY, DONT EVER STOP BEING YOURSELF
There's a lot of people who date just for the validation of attracting others. They prove they are attractive, it feels good, and eventually they move on.
I'm Certain that I've met Casey in a Whole Foods store one time a few years ago. I never forget a person who gives strong eye contact.
To be honest, men really don't like sharing the intimate details of their romantic lives. It might feel natural to assume that men must gossip this way, since women do it, but in my experience men tend to keep these kinds of details private.
Super true. When I have relationship issues I feel like I have no one to talk to.
Of course. I respect privacy other and I hold myself to the same standard.
Exactly my mother I overheard saying really hurtful things about me and my brother outside that anyone walking by could hear. Women make everyone miserable, my mother single handedly killed her marriage with my dad, but they are still together even though divorce is frowned upon since they are Christians and divorce is expensive as all hell.
I hear women talk about the good and bad experiences with each other all the time. Men at most say nothing and at least say one or two words to describe it.
@@co-bruh1423 It depends on who you are dealing with. Men talk more with another and more detailed about it if it's with someone that's already trusted. A man's words coming out and not half assed is a privilege. I've had the unique privilege of watching other men cry but only because he was surrounded by another trusted and I who he knew wouldn't mind.
1:20 - I saw a Reddit post about this topic. I will not go into details, but the moral was that women often have deep conversations about men (specifically in a relationship with one of the said women, whether good or bad) and believe that men have similar conversations with other men. However, *most* men don't, believing that women aren't having these conversations either. I had no idea this was an issue until recently, and now I can't forget it.
Up until just 100 years ago, most people grew up, lived, married and died within 10 miles of where they were born. There were no planes, roads were dirt, tv didn't exist etc. Not only was there much less choice but also less illusion of choice. So our innate tendencies weren't as much of an issue. Modern communication and travel technology has imposed a new evolutionary pressure.
I say illusion of choice because a full inbox is not an inbox full of guys who are compatible and who will propose marriage. Each guy is only a potential, and statistically even for a fabulous girl, most won't be right. For a less fabulous girl, it's an inbox of once and done guys who may temporarily boost self esteem but at the expense of long term growth.
Exactly. And that one connection that girl living 100 years ago developed with that one boy from her village who she knew for years, then grew closer with and got married to, will have been infinitely more fulfilling than an inbox of 100 different 'hot guys' that your average girl of nowadays has. Quantity isnt quality. Modern dating gives women a multitude of options, but how fulfilled actually is she by any of these?
tv didn't exist !
@@harrypike5140 yes exactly and people still think there is no manipulation from the elites. They understand human psychology better than anyone. The only way to fix this short of societal collapse is to go back to that village township setup. Where you have a tight nit community and strong social bonds. Goods and services are handled together at a local level and therefore not as impacted by the mainstream supply chain. It's cheaper and far more convenient to plug into the mainstream supply chain but comes with the surrender of your sovereignty and Independence. The township village setup will always work better in the ways that matter because everyone takes a vested interest in the well being of the children
@@JoseDiaz-rd9fh yeah precisely. The issue is that this will never happen whilst we have a globalist capitalist consumer system in place with the likes of Amazon, Google, Apple etc. These corporations have more power than many whole countries and they have a vested interest in keeping people individualistic and atomised, because people make better consumers then. Close, tight-knit communities of people with shared values are the biggest threat to elites and globalists. That's why they make a conscious effort to facilitate the dissolution of the family unit and traditional gender roles. It's not a coincidence. The mainstream media, TV and film, pop culture and governmental policy are all interlinked
Great video. It’s always refreshing to see such videos and reactions. Keep it up Courtney! The majority of guys are rooting for you!
I was shopping with a female friend. I was looking for a shirt to go to a wedding. She was in the same boat and because we were both looking, we decided to go shopping together.
Now unless it's tools I really hate shopping. I actually don't shop for tools either I know what I want and get it. In and out done, finished. I will window shop for tools though.
So we head over to the men's section and I go through the racks of shirts. My friend is also checking out what is on offer. I finish my pass and go back to a shirt that caught my eye. Not that there was that much to choose from but I don't hum and ha over these sort of decisions. I grab the shirt and say to my friend that I'm ready to go. She stands there stunned that I have taken all of 5 min to make my purchase.
So now we head to a female clothing shop. Big W department store won't cut it. I sigh and shrug my shoulders. This is where I find out that she has been looking for months with her girlfriends to find her outfit. She's not part of the wedding entourage so she just wants to look good, fair call.
So here we are in this dress shop with 10 time the variety to choose from. That I find is the first problem women have. If they had 2 outfits to choose from it'd make their shopping so much easier. In the end I'm sitting aside trying not to yawn when she come up to me in tears. I ask her what the problem is and she says she can't find anything she likes.
I look around and shake my head. I ask her if she would like me to find something. She almost laughed at me but shrugged and said that I couldn't do any worse. I asked her what colour range and she said bone. That says it all. Men have brown blue and grey and black, women have too many options and it only confuses them.
So I did my normal thing by looking for a bone/light brown outfit, I ignore all other colours. I know she wants a skirt, blouse and jacket, so I ignore all other styles. It takes me about ten minutes to select an outfit that she is really happy with, I also pick out a bra for her because the blouse is a little see through. I guessed what cup size and for the first time in the history of man I got it right. Off to the shoe department and I have a pair of stylish and comfortable matching 2in heels for her. Also ....bone! lol
We get to the checkout counter and the sales lady is gobsmacked. She then tell me that she never wants to shop with me. I ask her, isn't the outfit nice?
She says it's gorgeous, but that I take all the fun out of shopping.
When you have one option your life is good, and it gets more complicated the more options you are presented with.
Just Sayin
She sounds like a nutcase! 😂
For women, going shopping is a social event. Much like hanging with your buddies.
It looks like you found your life's work, a personal shopper!
Man driving car across long bridge is focused on goal of getting to the other side. Woman in passenger seat is focused on the gorgeous view of water, boats, and sunset. Facts.
Yes sir, those people are in a mess of a thought process. They comfortably arrive to a level of psychosis. The departments that run Their priorities, what's important are messed up. They have no integrity. Sick to the point where they truly don't know what they truly need or want just like a 4 year old.
Amazing video Courtney!! Its so important for men to properly vet women
when the dude said she was a 4 but said she had a lot of options. i immediately thought 49er. Coach Gang for life!
I appreciate your diligence and the effort you put to meticulously analyze.
Aiming for the truth and being fair and just and objective.
"It's hard for both men and women because women get all the choices and men don't have a chance" lmao sounds really tough for women.
That's because men put the cart before the horse a man must become then you flip the script. If you invest 300 a month for 8 years in even modest stock or mutual fund with 8 percent return you'll have well over 1 million dollars due to compounding interest. It's ok to deal with women a little while your on your grind but if they take your focus off of your purpose too much it's not worth it. Once you got a home and a stable environment your ready to find someone on your terms. Although admittingly I still would not recommend getting married through the state and living together where there is no common law marriage. At least you'll have access to women 😂
One of the best videos/reviews out there! 💯
How can this guy be this young and so well versed.
Guys, listen to this young man.
Very very impressive.
Love your common sense approach of breaking down important parts of a video that other wise may have been passed over with only minimal significance. You in-depth but simply rephrase things that really help people/me absorb the information. Thank you for what you do.
Thank you for being here, Austin! ❤️
When your tool is manipulation, you are anxious before every situation, defensively distracted by your devious presentations, and if called to account while on the brink of desperation, we'll witness your hyperventilation.
Whoa...good thoughts.
Sounds like Talib Kwali or MOs Def or something lol
We need more Courtney Ryan's in the world I think this video confirms the 50 percent of women having a back up while in a relationship stat I told u about several videos ago lol
@4:42 that's what I call "Paralysis of the Analysis " when you have too many options, you never pick one, or may not even be happy when you do pick one. It's absolutely true. Human minds are funny.
Incredible video. This was really an eye opener. Great video Courtney!
In sales, it is best if you give the client the 3 best options for them, and then tell them which of those 3 you'd pick if it were for you (or a family member).
Some of the best advice I've heard: Never take advice from someone you wouldn't be willing to trade places with.
Eh, I don't know about that. I would like to have the success of Warren Buffett or Bezos but wouldn't want to BE either of them. Buffett due to being old and ugly and having the personality and fun factor of a wet dishrag and Bezos for looking like the Keebler elf and dating mediocre women.
Really true. I have no problem getting dates, I have problem on finding a high quality woman especially in my early 20s.
If you have no problem getting dates then you are inherently more attractive than the majority of men. A significant number of young men today are unable to even get dates (unless with some genuinely low-value women e.g. obese, single mums, psycho etc), let alone a relationship with a feminine women with good values who they vibe with.
Great video! What never fails to make me laugh are the women in their early to even mid 40s who think they STILL have time to have children and turn down otherwise good guys like me, simply because we don't want children.
@Nidhi Roy no point in marriage, to me, unless you're going to have children. Not sure why you asked.
@Nidhi Roy AND some couples just don't want children but want to be married, nonetheless, especially the woman, because (and they tell me this), "it gives them more security in the relationship." I personally disagree, because all a legal marriage does is make harder to get out of it, but it doesn't prevent a divorce if someone really wants a divorce. And then there are people like me. I don't want children, and I have been married, but I would still get married again if it meant that much to the woman I was with, especially if she had never been married. If I could find someone who was happy to just live together, of course, that would be ideal, but most women I've dated, even if they were ok without having kids, still wanted to get married, especially if they had never been married
@Nidhi Roy to secure your financial future while married or when you get divorced....that's the "use" of a marriage if you marry someone wealthy 😅😅😅
@Nidhi Roy if it were up to me, I'd make "legal" marriage a thing of the past, so that people (generally men) don't get financially ruined by a divorce, especially with such a high divorce rate in my nation. I would simply make marriage a personal contract between the 2 parties with agreements ahead of time of how things will be divided if the marriage fails
When it comes to surrounding yourself with people, think about this, success takes a team and failure takes a community
If you are not Mr. Fifty Shades of Grey don't even bother.
Invest your hobbies gentlemen.
Both sexes go crazy... "boys will be boys and women will be women" for sure. I think you the nail on the head- it's the victimhood trap and that's indiscriminatory. I have fallen in this trap from time to time. Self awareness is a content that you consistently preach and we all appreciate it.
100% 🙌🏼
Girls will be boys and boys will be girls
It's a mixed up, muddled up, shook up world, except for Lola
La-la-la-la Lola
Boys will be boys isn't about victimhood. Nor is it remotely as tolerated from males, hence the statistics.
@ that's why I put it in quotations.. actually people that says boys will be boys are what people respond with when they feel a woman is playing victim when they dont want to deal with them.. its not exactly victimhood directly but it's part of the conversation.
Hey Courtney I've been watching your content for a while now and this is just to say that I find your videos and perspective very pleasant. They motivate me to be better.
It saddens me to see comments that come off as resentful toward the opposite sex here and the modern internet as a whole. I just want to send back some positivity your way.
As a man with male, and female friends, I have never heard men talk to each other in as much as a sexually graphic manner as I have ever heard women taking to each other.
We just don’t talk like that, even in the locker room.
Me and a buddy if mine would talk like that all the time in public
I do with my group,but only homosexual and ironically
Thank you! You described exactly the type of woman who did that. Here I am doing the best I could
When you said that woman have all the options and men don’t even have a chance i about cried because of how truthful that statement is and how deep that cuts me as a young man I’m 21yo I don’t do the whole social media thing I have Snapchat and that’s it but I’ve never gotten further than my first kiss when I was 16 and have my one and only girlfriend and we broke up because we had differences in personality and she had family issues but I can’t for the life of me get my first date and it’s really discouraging when females don’t even have to lift a finger to get a date of start a relationship with someone I’ve tried for years since I was 17 to just get a first date a second kiss maybe one day lose my virginity but looks like I’m going to live a miserable lonely life and die alone
I know I had watched this years ago but wanted to see it again . In reference to the lady having a significant other to those that don’t I can only quote a older sayin “ misery loves company “ .
Victimization, irresponsibility, and narcissism are the three most major factors plaguing this generation today in most, if not all, mediums.
I appreciate when others can step outside the box. Thanx for the content. Balance is key.
I genuinely feel like Courtney really does get it after this video finally. “Woman have to many options” the game and dating has turned into something that has so many men not wanting any part of it anymore. Good men to- walking away in droves
That older-on-younger woman bullying discussed from 6:25 to 8:51 puts me in mind of this summary of Third Wave Feminism: "bitter old women making the lives of pretty young ones Hell."
Ur always dropping some serious knowledge Courtney lookin gorgeous as always 🌹❤
Thank you! ❤️
“Too many options” was mentioned 5min into video; so true. Seemed like we had limited options back in the 80’s & 90’s, but we were more confident & satisfied with our choices back then regarding any purchases, consumables, & relationships. My kingdom for Doc Brown’s DeLorean!
Relatively speaking, there is no difference between the "younger girl" and her older bullies - Because the younger girls eventually become those bitter older women who are s3xual butterflies - moving from one flower to another. The older women in his story were indirectly educating the younger girl.
I'm glad you spoke to the "too many choices" study.
This is why I don’t have any hope I’ll find someone who’s down for the long haul. No matter how good you are, you may be just the flavor of the week and a woman who you think loves you may have guys on the side and you’ll never even know it
So stop treating them like princesses. A lot of guys shoot themselves in the foot even when they do get someone. A lot of men have been lied to. Never listen to a woman when they say what they look for. It in reality repulsed women when her man is always accommodating. Always trying. Always giving her the world. This is a big reason so many women lose interest in guys as well. Pay attention to their actions not their words. Stop validating them and make them work for it. To may guys are commitment whores. They can know everything about you, you can concede your ground or your opinions with them because thst is who you were when they were attracted. A lot of guys out here are brainwashed to change themselves too much its usually the pin of the grenade in reality though. Stay strong. Don't be so eager to see them, stop with the beautiful comments or any kind of validation they here it all the damn time be that guy that doesn't and make her wonder why and, make them doubt your level of commitment to them. It really sucks but this is what men have to start doing. They have to know you can actually walk away from them before they care to stick around otherwise when you are wrapped around their fingers you bring monkeybranching onto yourself.
An excellent & informative joint effort. This guy is speaking from the point of view of an interested observer, he has learnt well, & discusses it convincingly. The two women in their 30s have been around long enough to make a succession of mistakes (too many choices), are already on the downward slide, & will easily become irritable when faced with a younger woman who they feel may be on the verge of happiness with still some time to spare. Inference? They know they've mucked up & feel certain they can't rescue the situation, & don't like someone else, especially another (younger) woman getting it right. Consequently, the conclusion I'd draw from all this is that the two 30 somethings will be in & out of relationships until, a little way down the track, time runs out, & nobody would give them a second look. Too many choices ruin the quality of life. Imagine you're going on a date & the woman has a hundred outfits. Which one will she choose? Conversely, suppose she had one (really exciting) get up. How long would she take? Not long! So, the more choices you have the likelier you are to make the wrong choice. And that's why I decluttered my place over a year ago. Nothing to do with male-female interaction, but it works the same no matter what. Thanks Courtney & co for this video.
"sadly.... women have too many options...."
This has been the main push of feminism.
Feminism won. But go ahead, girlfriend. Fight it.
Let me know how it goes.😂😂😂
Yep it's basically men being subservient to women and getting treated badly. Women dressing provocatively and in general our sexualized culture, combined with the lack of masculine male authority sets men up to be very thirsty men. Combined with social media giving even plain Jane women access to all the sausage they could ever want.
You are helping us with your videos that you are putting. Thank you Courtney.
Women live in a world in which there is always a taller, richer, more attractive man just around the corner. And if they're willing to have casual sex that can be true. But there comes the point when chad isn't interested in even a hook up anymore and normal guys don't want a woman that has massive emotional baggage from the psychological trauma of being pumped and dumped dozens and dozens of times. If you're not in the top 10-15% of men it's probably best to find some hobbies and learn to be single.
This is one of the most honest real videos ever. 👍👍👍 Real Truth .
Yep, I've seen it so many times. Single women shaming married or committed relationship women. I guess they want to have as much company as possible being alone.
Courtney did an excellent job here of responding to this young man's video. But I especially want to say that this man is a SUPERB spokesperson and analyst of "modern day women" as witnessed by his own eyes. He speaks with great truth, honesty, and insight.
There is this tendency in human nature to runaway from happiness and spiritual and emotional peace. If you are able to discern this in your 20s and know it go for it. If your gut and mind are in sync you don't have to rely on anyone else's opinion.
Thank you for your viewpoint as a woman... really appreciated 🙏
This is what I heard from a young girl about age 12 to her friend. " I can't wait to have a baby so I can go on Mother's Allowance like my mother."
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Women usually shame other women but for all the wrong reasons. Usually out of jealousy or for competition.
If only dating was like shopping at Trader Joe's. Not too many options, but everything is pretty good.
Very fair assessment of Casey's video on your part. Thank you.
8:34-8:51 that's exactly what it is, I and other men call that out alot in these types of conversations and get labled "toxic". More women should speak out as well. Why don't we see more older women or women in general educate other women like we see men do on here? We gotta stop being afraid to hurt women's "feelings" an be honest, thats the only way things will change.
Lol thanks to the media for that ......they are pretty much babying these women and giving them the "PRINCESS SYNDROME" . I bet men and women are both to be blamed for this. Staying around good company makes you attract the good people too.
This was refreshing. Away with the bitterness!
The "be what you want to attract" thing could be misinterpreted though, because everybody as far as you're concerned could have the potential to do you dirty and there could no signs... some people are sneaky like that.. "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me"
If someone does me dirty I am not going to blame myself If I take them, but if I take them back I will blame myself for any future misfortune
I watched a dozen different date and coaches you and Casey are the best. I watched all of your videos and his.
"Be who you want to attract". I like that.
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It is nice advice and makes logical sense... whether or not it works is another story... though I'm sorry to sound cynical or pessimistic; that probably came off as a little hostile. I didn't mean it to. I might just adjust it to "be who makes you happiest and is the finest version of yourself."
@@SmokeyTheBear125 considering how many women are on the planet (billions), especially if you are one to travel and not keep yourself isolated to one city, state or country, I'd say the odds are VERY good that its sound advice. I'm fortunate I love to travel. 😁
More Casey! I love your take on his video
They have options to get bedroom fun, maybe a diner before it, but I highly highly doubt that doctor from Manhattan would wife it.
Thank you miss Ryan, your advice and guidance is much Appreciated , you make some very good points. Better bachelor is a good channel for you to react to, thanks ☺👍
For men who make less than 100k, these women won't even give you the time of day. You need to be a doctor or lawyer to have companionship. Insanity
This is the greatest video I’ve watched. 💯💯
I've been telling guys for many years that if you want to know what women are really like you should listen in on their conversations when they don't know that you are listening!
I've been a "fly on the wall" and overheard things. And i can confirm
Hahaha. Once out at lunch from my midtown Manhattan job, sitting alone at a typical small diner, I sat near a table of four women and had no choice but to overhear their conversation. I swear, for the ENTIRE 45 minutes each and every one of them talked about NOTHING but how fat they felt their own thighs were!!!!!!!!!!! I mean, OMG, can any lengthy conversation possibly be more vapid than that??? (And, incidentally, there are lots of guys who probably like women who are not skin and bones.) Personally, I could admire them more if they talked about ANYTHING other than themselves and their own bodies. When with my male friends, we talk about things like the latest great art show at the Met Museum or the Morgan Library; or the latest discoveries in science, astronomy and cosmology; or some great passage in a certain book by Dostoyevsky, Whitman, or Thomas Mann. And, yes, we sometimes talk about girls and women. But never about how we are just miserable because we hate our own bodies.
Sounds dumb?
My first time finding u two omg u guys are so right much love