1. Confidence (be sure of yourself, do what you love) 2. Chivalry (be a gentleman) 3. Sense of humor (don't take yourself seriously) 4. Kindness (be respectful to everyone) 5. Compliments (give genuine, non-physical ones) 6. Be punctual (value other's time) 7. Cleanliness (self-care, take care of yourself and your living space) 8. Keeping your word (integrity) 9. Be vulnerable (this ties with confidence)
@@lawvip5890 cheap comment, really. Sure there are some gold diggers, but not all women are that way. You may have have all the money of the world and be ugly inside. Then, thanks but no thanks.
Sad part is, she may like the "5" or "6" but her friends influence tells her she can do much better and all she is doing is settling. In turn, she leaves in search of someone her friends approve of and not her choice. Women nowadays seek validation, not happiness. Social media and this materialistic culture we consume everyday are actually hurting us and not helping. My advice is to shut off your social media and live life. It's more enjoyable
I'm really sure this happens a lot, but that's exactly why there's wife material and thots... You need learn how to evaluate character, if she's an air head, just ditch her before she do it to you. A inteligent, high character girl, will not trade love for validation. Same goes for men, if you really love your girl, and she makes you happy, would you risk to lose it just because you want to sleep around? If the answer is yes, then you're probably really dumb to, like lots of f#ckboys out there. High character people are out there too, they might be a minority, IDK, but they are out there!
Some of her “friends”, even “family” (jealous, “destructive” personalities).... look around... life is for the brave, moral,... (cheaters, wimps, small minds....).
I like that you put confidence as your #1 turn on. It takes a lot of inner work to know you are, accept it, love it, and go after what you truly believe in. So many people are afraid to confront themselves and then embrace what they find.
I totally agree with you. My Dad used to say: "If you lose your wealth, you've lost nothing! If you lose your health, you've lost something! But if you lose your reputation, you've lost everything!"
1) Get shredded brah 2) Be on your purpose 3) Delayed gratification > Instant gratification 4) Level up social skills All the above points will strengthen the others and will also give you confidence (you should act confident regardless) The points in the video are good as well but looks do matter, or atleast the effort that goes into getting an aesthetic body, do not worry about unchangeable features, focus on what you can improve and then do it, always maximise your chanses of getting what you want, there is no reason not to workout. Were all gonna make it brahs! 💪🏻
For me it doesn't matter so much what I wear on the outside, but my feeling of being on top of the world from how I live on the inside. Personal integrity means so much more to me and being happy, than what I wear.
I've been happily married for 11 years and I would encourage other married men to watch this and follow her advice as well. We should all be winning over our wives again and again 💪
Married 31 years here .... your comments are spot-on ... I LOVE my wife, and she absolutely loves being treated and thought of as special ... as she should be.
But then we see humor in things others dont because when you think logically you can forget about the emotion that drives the majority of perspectives. Case in point, i try to share a laugh about the irony of Australia poisoning feral cats a year or two ago and now they have a mouse problem, some people cant laugh at the irony because they are focused on the sad killing of cats and what the future holds for the mice and people of Australia. Then im labeled as heartless.
"I'm so proud of you!" I said that to a good old friend of mine who is doing really good in life right now and I had not seen in years. She was so moved she started crying. It was one the most honest compliments I've ever given.
I've been married for fifteen years, and I still watch videos of this type to keep my boots polished. Men, you must keep your game tight. A good woman is going to hold you to a high standard.
@@garmisra7841 Very well. I may have been fortunate. I do not excuse anyone from fulfilling their responsibilities in a pair bond. Surely I have grumpy moments with my wife, but I think we both try to be our best for each other. I can only speak to my general happiness and optimism I have toward my wife.
@@frglaf4187 I appreciate your reply. And for what it's worth, you make a good point about responsibilities in a pair bond. I am happy that you are able to maintain happiness and optimism in your relationship. I'd venture a guess that it has a lot to do with the fact that the two of you know and accept each other without too many conditions, am I right? Like you and your wife have an agreement that your relationship is built on being the best for each other that you can be. It is really great to hear that.
@@garmisra7841 It's a ride, and there is no right answer. I vetted both of my wives for a long time. You can tell in 30 seconds if this is bad news, but you want to see if you can hold on for 8 seconds. When the time comes, watch how she treats her parents, then yours.
Confidence is also about acknowledging your weaknesses, owning them, but pressing on in spite of them. You're never going to get to a place where you love everything about yourself, but you can get to a place where you recognize your value and stop caring so much about what other people think.
One of the biggest turn-offs and red flags for a lot of men that prevents them from wanting to get too involved with women is women who are checklist taskmasters.
Thomas Humphrey: *_Which means they have a list of HIGH standards which almost always become unrealistic. The man who meets just a few of her requirements is a 5%er, maybe 8-10% of all available dates & mates_*
I cant hold that against them as i am not attracted to women who do not meet my physical expectations, i think you should feel an attraction without any communication. While i have met some interesting women and shared good conversation ultimately without the physical side there was no attraction. I dont care if they have a checklist as long as they understand a man who wants to make them happy will attempt to check some of the unchecked boxes as long as she puts some faith in his ability to better himself.
Went on a first date with a girl this afternoon and spent the whole morning beforehand watching your videos. It went really well and we're meeting up again in a few days. Thanks Courtney, you were so helpful at calming my nerves and helping me show my best self!
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So So Great to see a video without the drama. Great advice for men at any age, I was taught this... from my dad, I taught my son who highly respects his older sisters just a couple years older. Now I'm a 1st time grand dad showing my 8 month old granddaughter how she's suppose to be treated, with love, kindness, respect, make her smile feeling secure. Great video!!
Don’t take yourself to seriously and have a laugh/be humble Have motivation/ambition to do better in life Be yourself/confident Have hobbies and interests Eat clean and exercise Be a gent and show care for other people That would be my list as a man
There’s a big difference between and gentleman and a “nice guy”. Some women just aren’t going to want a gentleman..and gentlemen, those are not the women you want.
Thank goodness those are extremely rare. I only ever met ONE in my 37 years since puberty. I moved on quickly after she said "I DON'T need my door opened for me."
@4thand100 Yes! We can spot a “nice guy” from a mile away. Whereas the Gentleman is nice because he's a gentleman (without any expectations) , the “nice guy” is nice in the hopes of getting sexual favors from us :)
@@emmydee907 agree and disagree... in most cases, we guys get the stink eye when we act both chivalrous and when we don’t we’re expected to do so, nowadays we don’t know if a lady will accuse you of sexism and oppression by holding the door open... the safest bet is to not be a gentleman... which is truly sad, very much so. I’ve gotten cold stares and mean looks when I do the gentlemanly thing.
I didn't think that ladies like Courtney still exist. Even in a world of people who praise themselves, she has an axiom of morals, and truth considering relationships, and I just wish there were more like her.
Even she is nothing more than your average virtue-signaller female, trying to gain popularity points on the internet. She mostly likely is just like the very same girls whom she talks about as being toxic
The fact that Courtney was tearing up when she was talking about all the nice people leaving her compliments shows how down to earth she truly is! Also, Im not sure about most guys but personally hitting the gym daily and getting a haircut are the best ways that make me feel confident and also growing up and not really caring so much about what other people think! Great Video Courntey yet again :)
Being vulnerable is definitely hard for a lot of guys. There are times in the past where I was vulnerable to females, one of which is a family member, and they would later on down the line make fun of what I told them. In my experience you shouldn't want to be with them if they do something like that.
You never ever tell any female your weakness regardless who she is it, even she might be your mom , especially not to you girlfriend/ wife. Never .. entire world might say you to open up as a man , don't listen to them , it's 100% bullshit. You might open up with your best friend who is a guy but never a women for god sake . Once you let them know you have a crack in the stone they lose respect for you or use it as weapon later on.
You can be vulnerable with women but it must be on very rare occasions they will see it as weakness if you are constantly vulnerable. And whatever you do tell them make sure you are confident in yourself not to get hurt if they ever turn it on you. You must act as if it doesn't bother you in the slightest if they use your weaknesses against you
Courtney I just got divorced in February and just getting back into the dating seen and your advice has really opened my eyes thank you for being so sincere
@@thistagworked I have hit a nerve, have I not? You automatically assume that I am an atheist? My 86-year-old uncle is a Jesuit Priest and is also a scientist. He has to struggle with these ideas everyday. Take it easy, my young grasshopper. Breathe, meditate, levitate...
I don't know who trolled you here on RUclips. We can't force others to love us. You speak naturally and you deliver value to your subscribers. You are doing a great job. Keep it up Courtney!
I'll add another compliment! You articulate yourself well. It's unusual to find a 25 year old girl these days who composes sentences correctly and speaks with coherence! You're in touch with pop culture and style but you don't talk with "like" in every other word or have a Valley Girl accent like you're on Keeping up with the Kardashians!
Your Mom and Dad did a great job at raising you Courtney, you're so grounded and just, fair and sensitive. You're not afraid to be honest about the shortcomings of womankind nor pointing out the foibles of mankind, you say it how it is, but always with kindness and without any malice or attitude and it's very refreshing. I hope I can find a fine lady who has at least some of your qualities one day.
Simp here. She just said some watered down nonsense here. Just like when you see a hot girl, all her negative qualities does not matter or matters much less, same goes with women. If you are hot, she finds a small good thing that you did and exaggerates it to different level. What women want is a man who knows wtf he's doing.
The last part.. about being vulnerable. Has been monumental for me and my current relationship. For instance; my gf recently told me that her mom was moving to Florida in about 9 months, she lives with her mom. And she wasn't sure if she was going to be going with her. Now.. we've been dating for about 5 months. And things have been going great. She's even started moving some things over to my place. Towel, lotion, shampoo, etc.. the good stuff essentially. But we're both a little bit reserved emotionally.. so we hadn't said I love you up to this point. Even though the writing really seemed to be on the wall. So when she told me about Florida.. I of course was a bit nervous. Though I was hoping that she was dropping the hint to get me thinking about her moving-in. That was over a week ago.. and a few days ago, after I had talked to my family and friends about it, I decided to open up and tell her not only that I love her, but that I wanted her to stay here in Indiana with me and not go to Florida(I know.. tough sell). But if I didn't open up to her then what would I have been doing? Accepting that I could be just wasting my time? Because I'm not in this for the short-term.. and I needed her to remember that. So I sat her down.. and told her that her telling me about Florida has forced me to do some deep thinking about our relationship. I told her that 9 months from now I wanted her to be here with me.. because I'm serious about her. Then the words came.. "because I love you." We laid there for a moment.. both absorbing the moment and racing with thought. Until she turned to me with a big smile and said, "I was wondering if you loved me back.. and I already made my decision. I'm staying." For me.. absolute best case scenario. And this isn't the first time that this sort of situation has happened in our relationship. There's actually been many times that I've been nervous to open up.. but whenever I did... she's always responded with an either equal, or even greater positive reaction. But needless to say.. I was very nervous to open up to her. There was a chance that she could've rejected me and I would've been heartbroken.. but I also would've never gotten to where I am now without taking a chance. Honesty is truly imperative in a long-lasting and healthy relationship. Don't let an opportunity slip because you're afraid.. that fear is trying to tell you something. 😁
@@christopherevensen4942 I appreciate that. It really did seem like the essential next step that was needed for our relationship to grow. It's still blossoming, and I'm growing closer to her every day. It really is a beautiful thing.
I never realized until recently how much women love a sense of humor. My 52 year old bald cousin married a 27 year old woman. His biggest draw is his sense of humor.
I've come across these videos and can truly appreciate the approach given here. For all the guys, love yourself, work on YOU, and love those around you. Life will provide you with that all you need when you're in the "position" to receive them, don't fret over the small stuff. And don't ever put anyone over you, there's not a single person on earth that can judge the value of another.
Vulnerability doesn’t mean you have to tell your biz but fr be comfortable so you won’t feel bad it maybe different for me if she did to me I would go harder in life and cut her off in my life like some scissors ✂️
I went through the same thing man. Courtney is spot on with this video, but I would like to add that chivalry and vulnerability are particularly dangerous when you’re dealing with the wrong woman.
As a man, you should keep in the back of your mind that man is always alone. Maybe not physically or emotionally but mentally, you are always alone. The sooner you embrace that harsh yet harmonic and simple fact, the easier the rest of your life will become. You need to be your biggest admirer and your harshest critic at the same time. Not saying you need to be a total loner but think of your mental state like house. Invite good people in and show them who you are, give a spare key to your eventual significant other but know that when those earthquakes come, you have built that mental concrete foundation solid enough so you can always repair or rebuild even when there’s no one around to help you. Sorry for the rant, I just thought I’d let you know the mindset that kept me mentally strong through my own dark times Incase the O.P or anyone scrolling finds this intriguing. Good day and stay strong, lads 🤙
I like the tone of your voice. You're not loud and trying to be animated with your body language like the other RUclips channels. Keep up the good work!
Right on and thank you. I have found all of this to be true. In my 20s, I was so insecure and stressed about what people thought of me. But in the last few years, even just between how I behaved at my last job and my current one, I have changed. I used to be a pathetic doormat. But after making some big mistakes, I learned to have confidence in my own principles and values. Women in general used to ignore my existence. But at my current job, I get a lot of respect and I can tell a few of them like me- even just in a friendly way. Women have never treated me with so much positive attention in my entire life. I just had to shed that doormat attitude. I am still deeply insecure, but I no longer project that into my relationships. I just do what I do best. Kick ass and help whenever I can. And hygiene for sure is a priority. Thank you, Cristine.
Hi Courtney, I have studied and enjoyed many of your videos on this channel. This is one of the best. I feel that you are not only a great friend to men for grooming advice on all levels but also a fantastic role model for women. Keep it up and I am very grateful for these practical advise to help me to be better person. With my best wishes.
Being vulnerable just means being honest. You don’t have to start crying to be vulnerable. Just reveal something that is painful or personal, to develop intimacy. Anyone can do that.
@@drzaius844 Vulnerability display means weakness SIMPING in Womanesse. BTW HUGE checkmark on the SIMP scale which she WILL exploit sooner or later. Wanna talk to someone who'll understand, talk to your dogs or cat.
In that Brendon Fraser movie Blast From The Past, they quoted his character about what being a "gentleman" is. It's really quite simple and beautiful; a "gentleman" or "lady" is someone who cares more about the comfort of their company than they do for their own. I love that definition!
As a woman, I am so so so happy that there's someone like you out here combatting all of the advice that these scummy pick-up "artists" are giving. Thanks, Courtney!!
Courtney, I wanted to tell you have a real gentleness about you and the way you speak. I’m not just saying this to be frivolous or disingenuous. Thank you for all your advice. I’m sure the man you’re with appreciates you. My gratitude goes out to you and those who make your videos happen!
I absolutely love that you put “keeping your word” in this video. This is something I grew up with and do believe everyone should follow. There’s only two things in this world that I truly believe you have 1. your word and 2. your name. Everything else is borrowed and can be replaced. I’m really enjoying your videos. Keep up the good work! 😊
As a female, I agree on everything. But another turn-on is when a man has a pet, any kind...a dog, a cat, a fish, even a turtle. It shows to me that he can care and take care of another life other than his own. I know not everyone can own a pet, possibly due to their lifestyle. Maybe they travel or have health considerations. But I think even a garden, or houseplant can convey that message.
I remember in high school the counselor telling us how important it is to have self confidence. I just wanted to hide because I knew I had zero self confidence. Telling someone to have self confidence who doesn’t is painful. I grew up in poverty and no father. I knew I was worthless and had no self confidence. What the counselor didn’t do was tell guy like me how to gain confidence when you have zero. You didn’t offer that either Courtney. It was only after years of counseling and non-verbal therapy did I develop confidence. Just know for men with low self confidence they cannot just turn it on like a light switch.
It's obvious you were raised right. EVERYTHING that comes out of your mouth is common sense, truthful and conveyed with a sense of responsibility and humility. I'm 56 years old, 21 years military (enlisted and officer / combat veteran), 22 years married (10 divorced), I've worked in the corporate world and now own my own contracting business. More so than ANY other other woman I've found on the internet providing relationship insight and advice I trust YOU. There's no gamesmanship, flirting, b.s., validation seeking or any other immature, insecure, low-quality junk about you. You are obviously an incredibly high value individual and you treat yourself and others with decency, kindness, consideration and respect. I don't know if I've ever met a Unicorn, but if I have you're probably it. Your husband is a lucky / blessed man. Thanks for what you do and for how you do it. I'll keep listening.
@@MrAlb3rtazzo buddy why would a woman not want you to not be confident 🤷🏽♂️ Goodluck having no confidence and getting a high value female keep your head down then.😂 I’m playing but I’m fr at the start
Courtney comes from a healthy home with a loving mom and dad that has supported her throughout her life. Girls like her are far more likely to value things like chivalry and integrity and treating her well because she has seen and has that example from her household. Unfortunately, a good portion of women aren’t blessed with Courtney’s family life growing up; therefore, they don’t know how a man should treat them. Keep up the good work Courtney. 💯
Courtney is absolutely incredible. She comes off as someone who is so real and who genuinely cares. You can tell by her tone of voice that she is not trying to be a hype salesperson. Although the vulnerability can be so hard for us guys it does appear to build a stronger connection with others that are real.
You show the most kindness and humility you use down to earth that works too but you’re the real deal and that is the most unique thing about you. Thank you for reaffirming that if I do the little things they will not go unappreciated it’s tough Nowadays
@@norapper6182 💯💯💪🏽💪🏽 facts I don’t want no masculine woman voice like girls that tap into that divine feminine energy I love it man. Best girls to be around with, I’m fr my g
Recently stumbled across your channel. Love the calm, measured demeanor; the carefully researched subject matter and, of course, your sincerity in its delivery. Keep up the solid work ✌️
Shows how far we’ve come as people when keeping yourself “clean” is considered a turn on. Not sure when personal hygiene became unimportant. By the way, it goes both ways, I’ve been with women who, basically had the Amazon jungle growing down there.
Depression and suicide are both on the rise. A lot of times, people who are depressed tend to neglect common activities such as bathing and teeth brushing. The current state of society and the world has many people on edge.
As long as the "jungle" is clean it's not a problem. I actually think both men and women have gone a bit too far with "landscaping" certain areas nowadays.
I did notice during her "cleanliness" section, she said cleanliness is important, ESPECIALLY if your not a 10 out of 10. So Chad, Tyrone, and bad boys, you get a pass on the cleanliness thing.
Thank you Courtney, this is helping me I have a lot of emotional damage and issues from my troubled past and upbringing, but your videos are helping me to be a better man. I really appreciate your genuineness and practical demeanor.
Many years ago when I was in college, I was fortunate to meet a great girl at a party and spend most of the evening with her. The next morning, she was in the cafeteria having breakfast with a table full of her friends and I stopped by the table to spend some time with her on my way out. One of her friends gave me a chair so I wouldn't leave. I talked and laughed with the group but always brought my focus back to her. I later learned that they were all amazed that I stopped at all and especially surprised that I did it alone with a table of her friends. I was surprised to hear that they were surprised! I thought I was just being friendly and showing genuine interest in her. This apparent show of confidence and easy manner sealed the deal. She and i were seriously dating for many months until long-distance cooled and ended the relationship. I learned a very valuable lesson about what captures the interest of women.
Quick reflection : I was 8 minutes late and EVEN called her that I'm going to be late so that she can wait up and know I'm coming. She even called me back and threatened that she'll leave if I'm not there in a minute or so. Then when I arrived wouldn't drop "the issue", was very bitchy and disrespectful, blew it out of proportion to the point where I told her - You're never going to get a good guy, I came here to take a walk with you, now I feel like walking. And I left. Best decision ever. In all honesty I wish women were open as you are. However there are really a lot of damaged girls out there. Completely agree on the word thing. The vulnerability thing is more like trust on my side to the point where I open up.
I really appreciate female dating coaches like you!! Men think completely opposite of women. Men think if I don’t think I’m super attractive or they think they have to have 6 pack or something. It’s encouraging to know that being kind of being a gentlemen is a big turn on to women. Guys think it’s all about looks. If men actually knew that they could get a beautiful woman to love them just by being nice, kind, chivalrous etc. Lot’s of men wouldn’t give up so easy. I know of at least one friend that is a male friend who has completely given up on ever having a gf. If more men knew hey I’m not the most attractive dude but if I can make her laugh I’m golden. Also a lot think also that if a woman is super beautiful and or thin and attractive. Oh, she’s so hot I can’t get someone that pretty to date me they second guess themselves and sabotage themselves by thinking I’m not attractive enough to get her. Where as being kind, being a gentleman have nothing to do with how physically attractive or not you are. I think women are less shallow and more accepting of someone no matter what they look like. It’s encouraging to know hey I’m funny hey I can make her laugh. Maybe I can get her. Again goes back to #1 self confidence. I don’t think this is just a male issue either I think both genders struggle with having confidence, they have self esteem issues, etc. It’s hard to teach yourself to have confidence and to have self love that’s hard. Cause a lot don’t like themselves let alone love themselves. And not in a cocky way but a healthy amount of self love I think helps in the confidence factor. I don’t think you mentioned that one but the loving yourself I think goes a long ways in helping anyone devolop some self confidence. Thank you Courtney!! I appreciate especially the female dating coaches cause a lot of guys think again it’s all about physical looks. So when men know hey just being a good person and being a gentlemen will help you get the girl I think is very encouraging!!
Chivalry is absolutely NOT dead. My girlfriend and I were at an outdoor fest when the weather suddenly turned cold. I saw a woman who I did not know but who was obviously part of our group shivering and holding her arms around herself for warmth. I immediately stood up, approached her, took of my jacket and wrapped it around her. Yes, it caught everyone's attention. My girlfriend explained that the woman was her sister-in-law and that I had just scored major points within the family. But that is NOT the reason to do it. The reason is because chivalry is NOT dead.
That was very kind of you. I find there's a difference between doing something kind for people that appreciate it, versus following the demands of people demanding things from us that aren't theirs to demand.
I am glad you included the caveat for vulnerability - that it's a red flag if she doesn't appreciate it. I had a couple of relationships where as soon as I let down my stoicism / self-sufficiency / independence, thinking it's time to open up more, the female switched from admiration to contempt! The feeling I got was that they were only interested in somebody who had everything together, more than they did, in order to support them and be their rock. Both had personality disorders though, so it made a lot of sense that it wasn't a fair and level playing field.
What you said is very general so anyone agreeing with you about your point about women not liking vulnerability or an emotional man is just confirmation bias. Also goes for the other way tho because you can’t say either way from your story as far as the comment goes. We have no idea what you said specifically, your reasons for saying it, or how you said it. For all we know you might have said something that was the turn off and it wasn’t this broad thing of women not liking vulnerability.
I wish there was a middle hand for so-so. YES, be strong and don't be vulnerable.... to an extent. I've been married for over 25 years to a wonderful woman that can sometimes annoy the crap out of me, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I don't show her my weakness with regards to my worries, fears, uncertainties, etc., etc. what I do show her is that she can make me melt like putty when she wants to take care of me. hold me on the couch, scratch my back and head. I take my deepest breath when I'm close to her and she's the only one that come bring that soft, vulnerable side of me. I could talk to her of little things, kids, us, issues we're dealing with. but never will I ever break down and tell her my true emotions. be the man!! if she's a true woman (not no woke woman or girls that want to do it on their own "nothing wrong with that"), than she follow you till the end, because she knows, she's with a strong man.
oh might wanna check on Roma Army (She is an MRA, because not a lot on MRA in our society, so in order to bring balance, that way she shows the egalitarianism / Gender equality)
You make it sounds like you know her inside and out in real life, in her life. Courtney is beautiful outside, but only the guys she been with know her inside. No pun intended! Ha
Thank you Courtney... just making sure I am not missing anything. Using emotional intelligence is a constant practice. I learned that doing the thing's that benefit yourself and the people around you molds you. That applies to everything. People, actions, habits.. everything. It doesn't happen if it doesn't benefit. Thank you for your work.
Hey Courtney, I just came across your channel today and I’m glad I did! There’s something I’ve noticed about myself recently: The less I’ve been focusing on girls the more attention I’ve been getting from girls. I used to be a smart introvert but a couple months back I’ve been improving myself by exercising and becoming more confident. When studying in the school library I’ve caught a few girls looking in my direction and as soon as I lift up my head they look away. Last week I had this cute girl approach me. Yesterday was Ash Wednesday and I told a group chat I was in that I’m going to Church if anyone else wants to join. I ended up going with around 10 girls to mass. I only knew 2 of the girls so I made several new friends that night. My point of this is not to brag but to point out something I’ve noticed as I’ve become more confident. I wanted to know what you think Courtney about the observation I noticed about myself: The less I’ve been focusing on girls the more I’ve been getting girls attention. You have a new subscriber. The thumbnails are really clean and not cluttered.
Not sure if I'm going to be dating but this really helps me set a good tone and attitude with maturity. It's easy to get lost in the meanness of life, this helps.
My ex-wife is a social worker. When I first knew her, she was quite insistent that I open up about my emotions. I managed to do it, and for a while this seemed really good. But then, I started having feelings that my wife didn't approve of, and she started using her social work lingo to explain why my feelings were wrong, and I had no right to feel that way. I was pretty shocked, and I told her that every person's feelings are real, and must be accepted as they are. Also, that as a social worker, she already knows that. She stopped, because I was obviously right, but she was really steamed. She didn't say anything more about it right then, but trust me, she didn't like it when my emotions weren't ones she agreed with. So I learned my lesson, and kept my mouth shut about my emotions, because I don't like having them weaponized against me. So here's what I think about this now: when a woman says she wants an emotionally available man, what she really wants is a man who always listens and validates her feelings and opinions. My ex certainly had no interest in dealing with or facing my emotions unless they were fully aligned with hers.
Thank you for sharing tips like this! Its always reassuring to know that you a reliable person is giving us info about things, thank you, it helps a lot, keep up the good work.
Be your authentic self! Don't look for validation in others. Always be gentleman! Manners are so important! Kindness is truly important and having compassion.
@@Grandmaster_Sub-Zero Simps don't tend to get compliments. I'll take more than a trendy term you learnt on the internet to give me a crisis of masculinity, buddy.
Vulnerability also leads to more trust in a relationship. Opening up about my struggles has helped me to deal with those struggles and get other people's insights into it rather than keeping it internally. When I'm not opening up as much, I tend to struggle more. Vulnerability is a good skill for men to have, period (as a guy, I know firsthand).
@@CourtneyRyan he's very much right, you keep high the banner of the greatness of the american women, and sadly you're apparently one of the very few still great american women leftover, but in God's will, the women of the west are going to learn, by watching your outside and inside beauty, to be great again!
Courtney, I appreciate that you make the effort to make us better companions -- and that even applies when you're in a committed relationship, as I am. You really do an excellent job of explaining the "common sense" things we need to work on, and do so without being defensive or judgemental, which I also appreciate. The guy in your life is a lucky dude! You did miss "listening" in this list -- I know this because it's one I struggle with -- too many things running thru my head, and I don't pay enough attention to the gal I love. (Hint: If your guy is like this, try saying his name and getting him to meet your gaze before talking. Guys, you really need to make an effort to show her that you care about her and her thoughts and opinions. Gals, try to cut us a little slack and appreciate our effort. Acceptance that we're less than perfect is a major step in winning our heart!
Confidence is huge. It is important to define this, as Courtney says, as self-love, to accept ourselves and to be secure in this love. And to extend it to others. I believe this extends to being honest and even vulnerable, but having a positive mental state, having hope, to offer ourselves and others. The honesty is important. I know I have struggled with this and my wife had to push me in this area. But she also said she liked that I was humble and not cocky. So there is a real balance as other times she said I was not honest or had low self-esteem (partly because she is very pretty and smart and confident so deep down I have had doubts that she should be with someone else as guys have always paid her attention and see her as being attractive). It took real struggle and facing these hurts and doubts to finally just let go of it all and realize I only have control of myself, and so the best decision is to be the best version of me, not compare with others, and seek optimal results and my own happiness, and that's when our relationship actually really improved in every way. And yes, married men also appreciate Courtney and the female perspective that often our wives will not give us or we feel awkward to ask. :) I like Courtney because though she is pretty and smart, she is honest and humble. Hope she inspires more girls and women to be like her and not follow the Kardashian example or the opposite extreme where some women do not even try to be pretty or think being pretty is something bad or superficial. Both sexes appreciate people who are clean and healthy and seek to be attractive inside and out.
One thing that has changed my life in terms of confidence has been “I Am” affirmations. Not just saying “I am confident”. I am saying look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself positive I am affirmations until you believe it! Trust me you will eventually!
My first time watching you Courtney. After listening to your heartfelt advice, one word came to my mind above all the others. It's a word that has somewhat fallen through the cracks in social media America, and that word is class. You are a very classy young woman in every sense.
Our older sister delivered again. 🤩😍 And another thing I think is very attractive for women is LISTENING and keeping things in mind she said a while ago.
courtney is just simply elegant and beautiful! i get a type of timeless beauty from her ! no heavy makeup no extreme fake eyelashes pretty professional clothes ! she def is a role model for women !
The problem with asking men to be confident is that I think a lot of us are not even confident in the idea that we actually like women even though we definitely know we are not attracted to men.
This is a complicated statement. Perhaps it might be rephrased as "able to complement a women's personality" ? If we are treating women and men as so different that there are such things as Turn Ons/Offs that are fairly universal but unknown to the opposite sex, they probably are not ready to be interacting until the universals are communicated and acknowledged as known/learned. OK, guys, here's a Turn-Off: talking about the relationship. Here's a Turn-On, gals: let the guy bring it up.
Money...!! 90% of girls over 20yo, will accept a fair discount on Looks and Personality if the has money and can take her to places and offer more experience.
The most important of them all. Money which no girl talk about but in the end comes up anyhow. If you look closely majority of women ended there relationship before marriage cause of money.
Have to cut in here. For a QUALITY woman it’s not about whether or not you have a lot of money, more important than that is are you GOOD with your money? Are you stable, or working towards it? Are you saving for your future? Of course a nice date is great once in a while but if you blow your money on meaningless pursuits and have tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt... yeah. No. I’m happily married to a man who was confident, chivalrous, funny and shared the same values with me but is currently a full time college student with three jobs while I’m a stay at home mom to our two kids. He had a nice car when we started dating, we traded that baby in for a soccer mom car and you know what? That was the most romantic thing ever, as is the fact that he’s willing to do anything to get his family by. Nothing is more of a turn-on for a woman than knowing she is SAFE with her mate. Although we are far from wealthy, I know I’m safe because my husband will do ANYTHING for his family. That’s love. And if a female wants you to wine and dine her always but can’t even make you a home cooked meal or keep her place clean, then she’s not a woman. She’s a little princess. And she sucks.
Been in a relationship for 5 years now, and it's always good to keep yourself in check. Fellas, if you let yourself go, she will let you go as well. Be a man she's going to be attracted to; don't let it die!
9 Biggest Turn Ons 1. confidence 2. chivalry 3. sense of humour 4. kindness 5. compliments 6. punctuality 7. cleanness (don't be smelly) 8. keep your word 9. vulnerability
Did all this and I'm athletic and good looking and make six figures, still got cheated on by a girl who is overweight and depressed. She also is trying to take my daughter from me on top of it.
Very insightful, some minor things we guys tend to take for granted and overlook that sets us back. Thank you for bringing them to the forefront to remind us men that the small things matter. 💯🙏🏼
nah they dont need to watch this video 100 times... they need to go back to their parents and take a refresher course on basic living and home training as a human being.
Thank you Courtney! This educational "men with special virtues" video really accentuates my personality. So I played it loud and clear in my truck while driving with my beautiful wife of 20 years, (pretty much to honor my lone-self) and her reaction to the topic was none, zilch, zero. 🤦♂️ I will always be me, but I'm starting to believe that after so much time together, some women stop appreciating our endangered species.🙆♂️🤷♂️🙋♂️
Hi Courtney! Yes I agree with you when it comes to vulnerability. It is the mother of all intimate connections, whether romantic or not. In other words, this isn't just something men and women should do with each other, but with the same gender as well. I think that a lot of the advice you gave is definitely applicable not only to men, but also to women. Men and women aren't these totally different creatures from different planets (ie Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus). However, we do emphasize more on different things, and these are guided by our biology, culture, personal preferences etc. I know you're not trying to explain the science behind it; you're only trying to give simple and straightforward advice. But I just thought I'd mention that it's extremely important to know that these are good general guidelines but they are by no means rules that are set in stone; there's a lot of gray. For example, I've become more confident, but I'm not always going to be perceived that way, nor am I always confident. I accept that I will be insecure sometimes, and if a woman doesn't understand that or finds that to be a turn off, so be it. I think one thing I would add to your list is compatibility on certain issues. If there isn't much in common in terms of personality traits, political and religious agreements, etc, then the above list you mentioned would only help in the attraction process but not in maintaining a healthy relationship. Good video though!
When you say woman like this or that , it is merely what you like not what the average woman wants. Every woman is a mistery, hard to understand and make a complicated drama out of very simple issues. The on denominator of what woman wants is $$$.
1. Confidence (be sure of yourself, do what you love)
2. Chivalry (be a gentleman)
3. Sense of humor (don't take yourself seriously)
4. Kindness (be respectful to everyone)
5. Compliments (give genuine, non-physical ones)
6. Be punctual (value other's time)
7. Cleanliness (self-care, take care of yourself and
your living space)
8. Keeping your word (integrity)
9. Be vulnerable (this ties with confidence)
Or just get a lot of money and skip all of the above
@@lawvip5890 very original
Crazy how without number 1, it's really hard to do any of the other things..
@@lawvip5890 cheap comment, really. Sure there are some gold diggers, but not all women are that way. You may have have all the money of the world and be ugly inside. Then, thanks but no thanks.
Chivalry is dead and we all know who is responsible
Sad part is, she may like the "5" or "6" but her friends influence tells her she can do much better and all she is doing is settling. In turn, she leaves in search of someone her friends approve of and not her choice. Women nowadays seek validation, not happiness. Social media and this materialistic culture we consume everyday are actually hurting us and not helping. My advice is to shut off your social media and live life. It's more enjoyable
That is so true . My first "love" fell victim to outside influences. Friends can be very toxic
well said. my exwife was happy till she met her slughty co-workers and now shes dating her 3rd guy. hope she finds happyness though
Spot on! I'm sorry for this social media generation.
I'm really sure this happens a lot, but that's exactly why there's wife material and thots... You need learn how to evaluate character, if she's an air head, just ditch her before she do it to you. A inteligent, high character girl, will not trade love for validation. Same goes for men, if you really love your girl, and she makes you happy, would you risk to lose it just because you want to sleep around? If the answer is yes, then you're probably really dumb to, like lots of f#ckboys out there. High character people are out there too, they might be a minority, IDK, but they are out there!
Some of her “friends”, even “family” (jealous, “destructive” personalities).... look around... life is for the brave, moral,... (cheaters, wimps, small minds....).
Her voice is so calming
And sincere
Yeah
It really is.
Probably ENFP.
True dat
I like that you put confidence as your #1 turn on. It takes a lot of inner work to know you are, accept it, love it, and go after what you truly believe in. So many people are afraid to confront themselves and then embrace what they find.
A very wise man once told me the cheapest thing you own is the hardest thing to keep and that is your word. You are nothing without your word.
Words
@@gibibah8324 Wrong,he said it correctly.
I totally agree with you.
My Dad used to say:
"If you lose your wealth, you've lost nothing!
If you lose your health, you've lost something!
But if you lose your reputation, you've lost everything!"
@@habsom1406 absolutely very well said!
Fucking AMEN bro.
1) Get shredded brah
2) Be on your purpose
3) Delayed gratification > Instant gratification
4) Level up social skills
All the above points will strengthen the others and will also give you confidence (you should act confident regardless) The points in the video are good as well but looks do matter, or atleast the effort that goes into getting an aesthetic body, do not worry about unchangeable features, focus on what you can improve and then do it, always maximise your chanses of getting what you want, there is no reason not to workout. Were all gonna make it brahs! 💪🏻
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Fuckin' based, a fellow Zyzz fan, I see.
"When you look your best, you feel your best." Definitely a true statement.
I somewhat agree with that. I think when you look your best...to...you...not what other people or GQ says looks best...you feel your best.
This is why I wear nice shoes 😂
Clean fashionable clothes, clean body, clean home.
BS
For me it doesn't matter so much what I wear on the outside, but my feeling of being on top of the world from how I live on the inside. Personal integrity means so much more to me and being happy, than what I wear.
I've been happily married for 11 years and I would encourage other married men to watch this and follow her advice as well. We should all be winning over our wives again and again 💪
Married 31 years here .... your comments are spot-on ... I LOVE my wife, and she absolutely loves being treated and thought of as special ... as she should be.
Truth
Unless they lost the plot😂
touchey
Having a sense of humour is also a lot about being intelligent. When you're smart you see the different funny angles of things.
But then we see humor in things others dont because when you think logically you can forget about the emotion that drives the majority of perspectives.
Case in point, i try to share a laugh about the irony of Australia poisoning feral cats a year or two ago and now they have a mouse problem, some people cant laugh at the irony because they are focused on the sad killing of cats and what the future holds for the mice and people of Australia. Then im labeled as heartless.
@@swskitso well said
True
This 🙌🏼
Not really. A lot of famous scientists or people with high iq had/have no humor. A lot of them were/are autistic though
"I'm so proud of you!" I said that to a good old friend of mine who is doing really good in life right now and I had not seen in years. She was so moved she started crying. It was one the most honest compliments I've ever given.
I've been married for fifteen years, and I still watch videos of this type to keep my boots polished. Men, you must keep your game tight. A good woman is going to hold you to a high standard.
But what if you're the only one making the effort?
All we have is your word that you've got a good woman.
@@garmisra7841 Very well. I may have been fortunate. I do not excuse anyone from fulfilling their responsibilities in a pair bond. Surely I have grumpy moments with my wife, but I think we both try to be our best for each other. I can only speak to my general happiness and optimism I have toward my wife.
I find no woman to my standard....crazed and feminized.
@@frglaf4187 I appreciate your reply. And for what it's worth, you make a good point about responsibilities in a pair bond. I am happy that you are able to maintain happiness and optimism in your relationship. I'd venture a guess that it has a lot to do with the fact that the two of you know and accept each other without too many conditions, am I right? Like you and your wife have an agreement that your relationship is built on being the best for each other that you can be. It is really great to hear that.
@@garmisra7841 It's a ride, and there is no right answer. I vetted both of my wives for a long time. You can tell in 30 seconds if this is bad news, but you want to see if you can hold on for 8 seconds.
When the time comes, watch how she treats her parents, then yours.
*It’s refreshing to see a video that goes beyond looks and really breaks down what makes interactions feel magnetic and exciting.*
Confidence is also about acknowledging your weaknesses, owning them, but pressing on in spite of them. You're never going to get to a place where you love everything about yourself, but you can get to a place where you recognize your value and stop caring so much about what other people think.
One of the biggest turn-offs and red flags for a lot of men that prevents them from wanting to get too involved with women is women who are checklist taskmasters.
Thomas Humphrey: *_Which means they have a list of HIGH standards which almost always become unrealistic. The man who meets just a few of her requirements is a 5%er, maybe 8-10% of all available dates & mates_*
I cant hold that against them as i am not attracted to women who do not meet my physical expectations, i think you should feel an attraction without any communication.
While i have met some interesting women and shared good conversation ultimately without the physical side there was no attraction.
I dont care if they have a checklist as long as they understand a man who wants to make them happy will attempt to check some of the unchecked boxes as long as she puts some faith in his ability to better himself.
Went on a first date with a girl this afternoon and spent the whole morning beforehand watching your videos. It went really well and we're meeting up again in a few days. Thanks Courtney, you were so helpful at calming my nerves and helping me show my best self!
This made me smile so big!! Yay! So happy for you ❤️
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So So Great to see a video without the drama. Great advice for men at any age, I was taught this... from my dad, I taught my son who highly respects his older sisters just a couple years older. Now I'm a 1st time grand dad showing my 8 month old granddaughter how she's suppose to be treated, with love, kindness, respect, make her smile feeling secure. Great video!!
Don’t take yourself to seriously and have a laugh/be humble
Have motivation/ambition to do better in life
Be yourself/confident
Have hobbies and interests
Eat clean and exercise
Be a gent and show care for other people
That would be my list as a man
There’s a big difference between and gentleman and a “nice guy”.
Some women just aren’t going to want a gentleman..and gentlemen, those are not the women you want.
Thank goodness those are extremely rare. I only ever met ONE in my 37 years since puberty. I moved on quickly after she said "I DON'T need my door opened for me."
Yea unfortunately most can't tell the difference between the two
@4thand100 Yes!
We can spot a “nice guy” from a mile away. Whereas the Gentleman is nice because he's a gentleman (without any expectations) , the “nice guy” is nice in the hopes of getting sexual favors from us :)
@@emmydee907 agree and disagree... in most cases, we guys get the stink eye when we act both chivalrous and when we don’t we’re expected to do so, nowadays we don’t know if a lady will accuse you of sexism and oppression by holding the door open... the safest bet is to not be a gentleman... which is truly sad, very much so. I’ve gotten cold stares and mean looks when I do the gentlemanly thing.
That's how you get a nice friends, who thinks she married you but never loved you. You don't have to open doors
“Being rude to a service worker is a huge turnoff”
*Laughs in Gordon Ramsey*
is different
@@Murderbits There's also a big difference between Gordan Ramsey the tv boss edited on USA shows and on UK shows.
Bro, Ramsey is the complete opposite of someone who's rude to service workers.
Watch "Great Escapes" with Gordon Ramsey, it's on youtube. That will definitely give another perspective on him as a person. :)
@@pergustafsson1155 it was a joke, but thank you will watch. I like his tv show too on nat geo.
I didn't think that ladies like Courtney still exist. Even in a world of people who praise themselves, she has an axiom of morals, and truth considering relationships, and I just wish there were more like her.
There are, almost all of them are just not on social media
Even she is nothing more than your average virtue-signaller female, trying to gain popularity points on the internet. She mostly likely is just like the very same girls whom she talks about as being toxic
You must be looking in all the wrong places. Most women I know are exactly as she describes.
@@clydewillis Well, I must be looking in the wrong places then, cause many of them are too darn self centered where I'm from.
@@tommy_swim243 Yeah, I can agree with that to a degree, but there are many who're not I run into on a daily basis.
The fact that Courtney was tearing up when she was talking about all the nice people leaving her compliments shows how down to earth she truly is!
Also, Im not sure about most guys but personally hitting the gym daily and getting a haircut are the best ways that make me feel confident and also growing up and not really caring so much about what other people think!
Great Video Courntey yet again :)
Being vulnerable is definitely hard for a lot of guys. There are times in the past where I was vulnerable to females, one of which is a family member, and they would later on down the line make fun of what I told them. In my experience you shouldn't want to be with them if they do something like that.
You never ever tell any female your weakness regardless who she is it, even she might be your mom , especially not to you girlfriend/ wife. Never .. entire world might say you to open up as a man , don't listen to them , it's 100% bullshit. You might open up with your best friend who is a guy but never a women for god sake . Once you let them know you have a crack in the stone they lose respect for you or use it as weapon later on.
Thats what every woman does. Which is why you should never be vulnerable with them.
You're absolutely right. I've been there. Men need to grow an iron heart.
You can be vulnerable with women but it must be on very rare occasions they will see it as weakness if you are constantly vulnerable. And whatever you do tell them make sure you are confident in yourself not to get hurt if they ever turn it on you. You must act as if it doesn't bother you in the slightest if they use your weaknesses against you
Even my mother does this . This is why I don’t tell her shit
Courtney I just got divorced in February and just getting back into the dating seen and your advice has really opened my eyes thank you for being so sincere
How's it going? Good?
@@thistagworked Maybe it is better to not accept any religion without first thinking for yourself.
@@thistagworked I have hit a nerve, have I not?
You automatically assume that I am an atheist?
My 86-year-old uncle is a Jesuit Priest and is also a scientist. He has to struggle with these ideas everyday.
Take it easy, my young grasshopper.
Breathe, meditate, levitate...
As a Christian marriage is so sacred . Divorce is so crazy
I love the fact that you care for us men out there who are fighting to be staying traditional. You have helped restore my will to fight on....
I don't know who trolled you here on RUclips. We can't force others to love us. You speak naturally and you deliver value to your subscribers. You are doing a great job. Keep it up Courtney!
I'll add another compliment! You articulate yourself well. It's unusual to find a 25 year old girl these days who composes sentences correctly and speaks with coherence! You're in touch with pop culture and style but you don't talk with "like" in every other word or have a Valley Girl accent like you're on Keeping up with the Kardashians!
Don't forget the word "literally". When I was growing up I didn't realize all I did was speak figuratively.
@Morgan W There is probably a good chance that the text in this video was written by someone else....quite possibly an articulate man. Just sayin'....
@@B__C And basically...
She's 25? I thought she was in her mid 30s! Not because she looks it. Just like you said. Emotional intelligence
Don't forget uptalking or vocal fry
Your Mom and Dad did a great job at raising you Courtney, you're so grounded and just, fair and sensitive. You're not afraid to be honest about the shortcomings of womankind nor pointing out the foibles of mankind, you say it how it is, but always with kindness and without any malice or attitude and it's very refreshing. I hope I can find a fine lady who has at least some of your qualities one day.
Simp here. She just said some watered down nonsense here. Just like when you see a hot girl, all her negative qualities does not matter or matters much less, same goes with women. If you are hot, she finds a small good thing that you did and exaggerates it to different level.
What women want is a man who knows wtf he's doing.
Stop sucking up.
The last part.. about being vulnerable. Has been monumental for me and my current relationship. For instance; my gf recently told me that her mom was moving to Florida in about 9 months, she lives with her mom. And she wasn't sure if she was going to be going with her. Now.. we've been dating for about 5 months. And things have been going great. She's even started moving some things over to my place. Towel, lotion, shampoo, etc.. the good stuff essentially. But we're both a little bit reserved emotionally.. so we hadn't said I love you up to this point. Even though the writing really seemed to be on the wall. So when she told me about Florida.. I of course was a bit nervous. Though I was hoping that she was dropping the hint to get me thinking about her moving-in. That was over a week ago.. and a few days ago, after I had talked to my family and friends about it, I decided to open up and tell her not only that I love her, but that I wanted her to stay here in Indiana with me and not go to Florida(I know.. tough sell). But if I didn't open up to her then what would I have been doing? Accepting that I could be just wasting my time? Because I'm not in this for the short-term.. and I needed her to remember that. So I sat her down.. and told her that her telling me about Florida has forced me to do some deep thinking about our relationship. I told her that 9 months from now I wanted her to be here with me.. because I'm serious about her. Then the words came.. "because I love you." We laid there for a moment.. both absorbing the moment and racing with thought. Until she turned to me with a big smile and said, "I was wondering if you loved me back.. and I already made my decision. I'm staying." For me.. absolute best case scenario. And this isn't the first time that this sort of situation has happened in our relationship. There's actually been many times that I've been nervous to open up.. but whenever I did... she's always responded with an either equal, or even greater positive reaction. But needless to say.. I was very nervous to open up to her. There was a chance that she could've rejected me and I would've been heartbroken.. but I also would've never gotten to where I am now without taking a chance. Honesty is truly imperative in a long-lasting and healthy relationship. Don't let an opportunity slip because you're afraid.. that fear is trying to tell you something. 😁
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That's beautiful man, I'm so happy for you (and hopefully her) that you got to experience such a singularly moving moment
@@christopherevensen4942 I appreciate that. It really did seem like the essential next step that was needed for our relationship to grow. It's still blossoming, and I'm growing closer to her every day. It really is a beautiful thing.
Damn, that was a good story. Nice.
Amazing man congratulations 👍👍
I love how you always remind people the difference between simp and being a good human. Some guys nowadays dont get it yet. Awesome video!
I never realized until recently how much women love a sense of humor. My 52 year old bald cousin married a 27 year old woman. His biggest draw is his sense of humor.
I've come across these videos and can truly appreciate the approach given here. For all the guys, love yourself, work on YOU, and love those around you. Life will provide you with that all you need when you're in the "position" to receive them, don't fret over the small stuff. And don't ever put anyone over you, there's not a single person on earth that can judge the value of another.
"Confidence and vulnerability go hand by hand". So true, Courtney. Thank you for this incredible video !
I opened up to my ex and she used what I shared against me. That last part gonna be hard
Some people you need to guard against! Remember her saying "that woman sucks!"? Well...
Same thing happened to me, sorry I’ll never tell a women about my personal life ever again
Vulnerability doesn’t mean you have to tell your biz but fr be comfortable so you won’t feel bad it maybe different for me if she did to me I would go harder in life and cut her off in my life like some scissors ✂️
I went through the same thing man. Courtney is spot on with this video, but I would like to add that chivalry and vulnerability are particularly dangerous when you’re dealing with the wrong woman.
As a man, you should keep in the back of your mind that man is always alone. Maybe not physically or emotionally but mentally, you are always alone. The sooner you embrace that harsh yet harmonic and simple fact, the easier the rest of your life will become. You need to be your biggest admirer and your harshest critic at the same time.
Not saying you need to be a total loner but think of your mental state like house. Invite good people in and show them who you are, give a spare key to your eventual significant other but know that when those earthquakes come, you have built that mental concrete foundation solid enough so you can always repair or rebuild even when there’s no one around to help you.
Sorry for the rant, I just thought I’d let you know the mindset that kept me mentally strong through my own dark times Incase the O.P or anyone scrolling finds this intriguing.
Good day and stay strong, lads 🤙
I like the tone of your voice. You're not loud and trying to be animated with your body language like the other RUclips channels. Keep up the good work!
Haha keeping it real over here. Thank you so much!
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she has a really calming energy
you talking about Joyanima?
The over animated body language RUclipsrs are insufferable
Right on and thank you. I have found all of this to be true. In my 20s, I was so insecure and stressed about what people thought of me. But in the last few years, even just between how I behaved at my last job and my current one, I have changed. I used to be a pathetic doormat. But after making some big mistakes, I learned to have confidence in my own principles and values. Women in general used to ignore my existence. But at my current job, I get a lot of respect and I can tell a few of them like me- even just in a friendly way. Women have never treated me with so much positive attention in my entire life. I just had to shed that doormat attitude. I am still deeply insecure, but I no longer project that into my relationships. I just do what I do best. Kick ass and help whenever I can. And hygiene for sure is a priority. Thank you, Cristine.
thanks for sharing dude... Keep it up. i like how things are better for you now!
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Hi Courtney,
I have studied and enjoyed many of your videos on this channel. This is one of the best. I feel that you are not only a great friend to men for grooming advice on all levels but also a fantastic role model for women. Keep it up and I am very grateful for these practical advise to help me to be better person. With my best wishes.
I can check off everything except being vulnerable. The emotional scale is kinda flatlined. I'm better with my hands than with my heart.
On me😅
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Being vulnerable just means being honest. You don’t have to start crying to be vulnerable. Just reveal something that is painful or personal, to develop intimacy. Anyone can do that.
@@drzaius844 Vulnerability display means weakness SIMPING in Womanesse. BTW HUGE checkmark on the SIMP scale which she WILL exploit sooner or later. Wanna talk to someone who'll understand, talk to your dogs or cat.
@@felixthecat7568 vulnerability doesn’t mean you’re weak it means your strong you must not know what it means and watch too many redpill videos lol
In that Brendon Fraser movie Blast From The Past, they quoted his character about what being a "gentleman" is. It's really quite simple and beautiful; a "gentleman" or "lady" is someone who cares more about the comfort of their company than they do for their own.
I love that definition!
As a woman, I am so so so happy that there's someone like you out here combatting all of the advice that these scummy pick-up "artists" are giving. Thanks, Courtney!!
Real men don't need pick up lines. Only sincerity
hahahahaha . Yeah. Chivalry and Kindness should get you out of Chad's bed and out to brunch with a nice guy Sunday morning ...
problem that these pick up artists "tricks" work on 99% w
@@AndrejKralovicSkipperio .... lol, keep telling yourself that, buddy.
@@93runninggiraffes thing is they are only saying what w wanna hear. That's all. Anybody can be manipulated. Same for politicians.
Courtney, I wanted to tell you have a real gentleness about you and the way you speak. I’m not just saying this to be frivolous or disingenuous. Thank you for all your advice. I’m sure the man you’re with appreciates you. My gratitude goes out to you and those who make your videos happen!
I absolutely love that you put “keeping your word” in this video. This is something I grew up with and do believe everyone should follow. There’s only two things in this world that I truly believe you have 1. your word and 2. your name. Everything else is borrowed and can be replaced. I’m really enjoying your videos. Keep up the good work! 😊
As a female, I agree on everything. But another turn-on is when a man has a pet, any kind...a dog, a cat, a fish, even a turtle. It shows to me that he can care and take care of another life other than his own. I know not everyone can own a pet, possibly due to their lifestyle. Maybe they travel or have health considerations. But I think even a garden, or houseplant can convey that message.
I have been taking care of a cactus for over a year. Ladies line up at the door for me.
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Hahaha! I bought a small cactus as a mother's day present. 30 years later she still had it. Over 6' tall....
Animals and Plants are for eating, not pets
@@metdat4707 Well, I agree some people shouldn't have pets
@@metdat4707 Dogs are pets/family. I don't care for cats, but I don't eat them either.
I remember in high school the counselor telling us how important it is to have self confidence. I just wanted to hide because I knew I had zero self confidence. Telling someone to have self confidence who doesn’t is painful. I grew up in poverty and no father. I knew I was worthless and had no self confidence. What the counselor didn’t do was tell guy like me how to gain confidence when you have zero. You didn’t offer that either Courtney. It was only after years of counseling and non-verbal therapy did I develop confidence. Just know for men with low self confidence they cannot just turn it on like a light switch.
It's obvious you were raised right. EVERYTHING that comes out of your mouth is common sense, truthful and conveyed with a sense of responsibility and humility. I'm 56 years old, 21 years military (enlisted and officer / combat veteran), 22 years married (10 divorced), I've worked in the corporate world and now own my own contracting business. More so than ANY other other woman I've found on the internet providing relationship insight and advice I trust YOU. There's no gamesmanship, flirting, b.s., validation seeking or any other immature, insecure, low-quality junk about you. You are obviously an incredibly high value individual and you treat yourself and others with decency, kindness, consideration and respect. I don't know if I've ever met a Unicorn, but if I have you're probably it. Your husband is a lucky / blessed man. Thanks for what you do and for how you do it. I'll keep listening.
Bonus secret. These things do not just turn on women, it’s also the other way around
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yeah true, this is what women say they want, but it is exactly the opposite of what you have to do
@@MrAlb3rtazzo buddy why would a woman not want you to not be confident 🤷🏽♂️ Goodluck having no confidence and getting a high value female keep your head down then.😂 I’m playing but I’m fr at the start
@@MrAlb3rtazzo ,
Exactly - never get advise from a fish on how to catch fish.
Alpha man or a lone wolf is the trend. The one who ignores the world lol.
Courtney comes from a healthy home with a loving mom and dad that has supported her throughout her life. Girls like her are far more likely to value things like chivalry and integrity and treating her well because she has seen and has that example from her household. Unfortunately, a good portion of women aren’t blessed with Courtney’s family life growing up; therefore, they don’t know how a man should treat them. Keep up the good work Courtney. 💯
Well said
@@ssbarchive_ appreciate you bro.
Courtney is absolutely incredible.
She comes off as someone who is so real and who genuinely cares. You can tell by her tone of voice that she is not trying to be a hype salesperson.
Although the vulnerability can be so hard for us guys it does appear to build a stronger connection with others that are real.
You show the most kindness and humility you use down to earth that works too but you’re the real deal and that is the most unique thing about you. Thank you for reaffirming that if I do the little things they will not go unappreciated it’s tough
Nowadays
Courtey's voice is such a stress-reliever!
She speaks like a baby
That’s a Feminine voice for you
@@norapper6182 💯💯💪🏽💪🏽 facts I don’t want no masculine woman voice like girls that tap into that divine feminine energy I love it man. Best girls to be around with, I’m fr my g
Recently stumbled across your channel. Love the calm, measured demeanor; the carefully researched subject matter and, of course, your sincerity in its delivery. Keep up the solid work ✌️
Shows how far we’ve come as people when keeping yourself “clean” is considered a turn on.
Not sure when personal hygiene became unimportant.
By the way, it goes both ways, I’ve been with women who, basically had the Amazon jungle growing down there.
Depression and suicide are both on the rise. A lot of times, people who are depressed tend to neglect common activities such as bathing and teeth brushing. The current state of society and the world has many people on edge.
As long as the "jungle" is clean it's not a problem. I actually think both men and women have gone a bit too far with "landscaping" certain areas nowadays.
I did notice during her "cleanliness" section, she said cleanliness is important, ESPECIALLY if your not a 10 out of 10. So Chad, Tyrone, and bad boys, you get a pass on the cleanliness thing.
You should live in Germany where taking a shower once a week is considered clean.
Thank you Courtney, this is helping me I have a lot of emotional damage and issues from my troubled past and upbringing, but your videos are helping me to be a better man. I really appreciate your genuineness and practical demeanor.
When she speaks ...I just wanna sleep and let her speak continuously....her voice is so calming
Many years ago when I was in college, I was fortunate to meet a great girl at a party and spend most of the evening with her. The next morning, she was in the cafeteria having breakfast with a table full of her friends and I stopped by the table to spend some time with her on my way out. One of her friends gave me a chair so I wouldn't leave. I talked and laughed with the group but always brought my focus back to her. I later learned that they were all amazed that I stopped at all and especially surprised that I did it alone with a table of her friends. I was surprised to hear that they were surprised! I thought I was just being friendly and showing genuine interest in her. This apparent show of confidence and easy manner sealed the deal. She and i were seriously dating for many months until long-distance cooled and ended the relationship. I learned a very valuable lesson about what captures the interest of women.
Quick reflection : I was 8 minutes late and EVEN called her that I'm going to be late so that she can wait up and know I'm coming. She even called me back and threatened that she'll leave if I'm not there in a minute or so. Then when I arrived wouldn't drop "the issue", was very bitchy and disrespectful, blew it out of proportion to the point where I told her - You're never going to get a good guy, I came here to take a walk with you, now I feel like walking. And I left. Best decision ever. In all honesty I wish women were open as you are. However there are really a lot of damaged girls out there. Completely agree on the word thing. The vulnerability thing is more like trust on my side to the point where I open up.
sorry that happened to you.
You did the right thing. No reason to hang out with somebody who treats you that way, no matter how good looking they are.
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Thats awful she responded that way. 8 minutes is nothing to wait especially with traffic. Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Dude, it’s so simple: just get her a watch that’s 10 minutes slow (this’ll show chivalry, humour, confidence & it’ll compliment.. her hang up)! 😎
What I love is the softness and warmth in your voice. You speak with confidence, with that comes trust in what you say. Thank you 😊
I really appreciate female dating coaches like you!! Men think completely opposite of women. Men think if I don’t think I’m super attractive or they think they have to have 6 pack or something. It’s encouraging to know that being kind of being a gentlemen is a big turn on to women. Guys think it’s all about looks. If men actually knew that they could get a beautiful woman to love them just by being nice, kind, chivalrous etc. Lot’s of men wouldn’t give up so easy. I know of at least one friend that is a male friend who has completely given up on ever having a gf. If more men knew hey I’m not the most attractive dude but if I can make her laugh I’m golden. Also a lot think also that if a woman is super beautiful and or thin and attractive. Oh, she’s so hot I can’t get someone that pretty to date me they second guess themselves and sabotage themselves by thinking I’m not attractive enough to get her. Where as being kind, being a gentleman have nothing to do with how physically attractive or not you are. I think women are less shallow and more accepting of someone no matter what they look like. It’s encouraging to know hey I’m funny hey I can make her laugh. Maybe I can get her. Again goes back to #1 self confidence. I don’t think this is just a male issue either I think both genders struggle with having confidence, they have self esteem issues, etc. It’s hard to teach yourself to have confidence and to have self love that’s hard. Cause a lot don’t like themselves let alone love themselves. And not in a cocky way but a healthy amount of self love I think helps in the confidence factor. I don’t think you mentioned that one but the loving yourself I think goes a long ways in helping anyone devolop some self confidence. Thank you Courtney!! I appreciate especially the female dating coaches cause a lot of guys think again it’s all about physical looks. So when men know hey just being a good person and being a gentlemen will help you get the girl I think is very encouraging!!
Courtney projects real sincerity about helping us men understand women better😊
Chivalry is absolutely NOT dead. My girlfriend and I were at an outdoor fest when the weather suddenly turned cold. I saw a woman who I did not know but who was obviously part of our group shivering and holding her arms around herself for warmth. I immediately stood up, approached her, took of my jacket and wrapped it around her. Yes, it caught everyone's attention. My girlfriend explained that the woman was her sister-in-law and that I had just scored major points within the family. But that is NOT the reason to do it. The reason is because chivalry is NOT dead.
Love it, chivalry isn't dead until we let it die.
Lucky you did not get into a sexual harassment issue. No, I wouldn't recommend what you did. Not at all.
@@harshakumar104 Life involves risk. Being good is worth the risk.
That was very kind of you. I find there's a difference between doing something kind for people that appreciate it, versus following the demands of people demanding things from us that aren't theirs to demand.
It doesn't cost anything to hold the door open for someone ..
1. Communication
2. Commitment to task
3. Leadership of your own chosen circle
4. Music talents or humorous.
I am glad you included the caveat for vulnerability - that it's a red flag if she doesn't appreciate it. I had a couple of relationships where as soon as I let down my stoicism / self-sufficiency / independence, thinking it's time to open up more, the female switched from admiration to contempt! The feeling I got was that they were only interested in somebody who had everything together, more than they did, in order to support them and be their rock. Both had personality disorders though, so it made a lot of sense that it wasn't a fair and level playing field.
What kind of personality disorders?
@@Canuckle19bipolar disorder or codependency disorder most likely.
What you said is very general so anyone agreeing with you about your point about women not liking vulnerability or an emotional man is just confirmation bias. Also goes for the other way tho because you can’t say either way from your story as far as the comment goes. We have no idea what you said specifically, your reasons for saying it, or how you said it. For all we know you might have said something that was the turn off and it wasn’t this broad thing of women not liking vulnerability.
Don't be vulnerable. Not at all.
Not one second.
Never show them your weaknesses.
Don't be stupid!
I wish there was a middle hand for so-so. YES, be strong and don't be vulnerable.... to an extent. I've been married for over 25 years to a wonderful woman that can sometimes annoy the crap out of me, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I don't show her my weakness with regards to my worries, fears, uncertainties, etc., etc. what I do show her is that she can make me melt like putty when she wants to take care of me. hold me on the couch, scratch my back and head. I take my deepest breath when I'm close to her and she's the only one that come bring that soft, vulnerable side of me. I could talk to her of little things, kids, us, issues we're dealing with. but never will I ever break down and tell her my true emotions. be the man!! if she's a true woman (not no woke woman or girls that want to do it on their own "nothing wrong with that"), than she follow you till the end, because she knows, she's with a strong man.
I wish more girls were like you Courtney! Love the content.
Thank you! ❤️
oh might wanna check on Roma Army (She is an MRA, because not a lot on MRA in our society, so in order to bring balance, that way she shows the egalitarianism / Gender equality)
Sadly much too few😬!
You make it sounds like you know her inside and out in real life, in her life. Courtney is beautiful outside, but only the guys she been with know her inside. No pun intended! Ha
@@CourtneyRyan love you hair 💜🌺
I also liked how you say to be vulnerable, because yes, that will reveal very quickly whether she is a caring person or not.
Thank you Courtney... just making sure I am not missing anything. Using emotional intelligence is a constant practice. I learned that doing the thing's that benefit yourself and the people around you molds you. That applies to everything. People, actions, habits.. everything. It doesn't happen if it doesn't benefit. Thank you for your work.
Hey Courtney, I just came across your channel today and I’m glad I did! There’s something I’ve noticed about myself recently: The less I’ve been focusing on girls the more attention I’ve been getting from girls.
I used to be a smart introvert but a couple months back I’ve been improving myself by exercising and becoming more confident. When studying in the school library I’ve caught a few girls looking in my direction and as soon as I lift up my head they look away. Last week I had this cute girl approach me. Yesterday was Ash Wednesday and I told a group chat I was in that I’m going to Church if anyone else wants to join. I ended up going with around 10 girls to mass. I only knew 2 of the girls so I made several new friends that night. My point of this is not to brag but to point out something I’ve noticed as I’ve become more confident.
I wanted to know what you think Courtney about the observation I noticed about myself: The less I’ve been focusing on girls the more I’ve been getting girls attention.
You have a new subscriber. The thumbnails are really clean and not cluttered.
Chivalry, Kindness, Compliments, Punctuality, Keeping your word (that she forces you to take), Be vulnerable - all these roads lead to the friendzone
Or getting cheated on.
Not sure if I'm going to be dating but this really helps me set a good tone and attitude with maturity. It's easy to get lost in the meanness of life, this helps.
My ex-wife is a social worker. When I first knew her, she was quite insistent that I open up about my emotions. I managed to do it, and for a while this seemed really good. But then, I started having feelings that my wife didn't approve of, and she started using her social work lingo to explain why my feelings were wrong, and I had no right to feel that way. I was pretty shocked, and I told her that every person's feelings are real, and must be accepted as they are. Also, that as a social worker, she already knows that. She stopped, because I was obviously right, but she was really steamed. She didn't say anything more about it right then, but trust me, she didn't like it when my emotions weren't ones she agreed with. So I learned my lesson, and kept my mouth shut about my emotions, because I don't like having them weaponized against me. So here's what I think about this now: when a woman says she wants an emotionally available man, what she really wants is a man who always listens and validates her feelings and opinions. My ex certainly had no interest in dealing with or facing my emotions unless they were fully aligned with hers.
Thank you for sharing tips like this! Its always reassuring to know that you a reliable person is giving us info about things, thank you, it helps a lot, keep up the good work.
"But there was no need to be ashamed of tears, for tears bore witness that a man had the greatest of courage, the courage to suffer." -Viktor Frankl
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Be your authentic self! Don't look for validation in others. Always be gentleman! Manners are so important! Kindness is truly important and having compassion.
"This girl SUCKS!" Lol I loved your delivery of that line. Courtney you would be a great relationship counselor
😂😂 thank you!
I loved it too 😂😂
@@CourtneyRyan women are attracted emotionally, men are attracted visually
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Vasqueand women need attention 24×7 please add this also
For me, one of the most feel-good compliments is when women refer to you as a gentleman. It just kind of implies self-respect and decency.
Nah. It means you're a simp.
@@Grandmaster_Sub-Zero Simps don't tend to get compliments. I'll take more than a trendy term you learnt on the internet to give me a crisis of masculinity, buddy.
Yeah but being a gentleman is not gonna fix your relationship with woman so what does one compliment do for you
Vulnerability also leads to more trust in a relationship. Opening up about my struggles has helped me to deal with those struggles and get other people's insights into it rather than keeping it internally. When I'm not opening up as much, I tend to struggle more. Vulnerability is a good skill for men to have, period (as a guy, I know firsthand).
I agree, and It has helped myself tremendously being open instead of living like I have everything under control when I really don’t.
You are so right, I've been married for 30 plus years and it all still works, thank you
I freaking love you Courtney. Your channel is different! I love how candid and genuine you are and how your advice is based on true principles! 💛
You’re such a gem! Thank you Kolby 🥺🤍
@@CourtneyRyan he's very much right, you keep high the banner of the greatness of the american women, and sadly you're apparently one of the very few still great american women leftover, but in God's will, the women of the west are going to learn, by watching your outside and inside beauty, to be great again!
Courtney, I appreciate that you make the effort to make us better companions -- and that even applies when you're in a committed relationship, as I am. You really do an excellent job of explaining the "common sense" things we need to work on, and do so without being defensive or judgemental, which I also appreciate. The guy in your life is a lucky dude!
You did miss "listening" in this list -- I know this because it's one I struggle with -- too many things running thru my head, and I don't pay enough attention to the gal I love. (Hint: If your guy is like this, try saying his name and getting him to meet your gaze before talking. Guys, you really need to make an effort to show her that you care about her and her thoughts and opinions. Gals, try to cut us a little slack and appreciate our effort. Acceptance that we're less than perfect is a major step in winning our heart!
Confidence is huge. It is important to define this, as Courtney says, as self-love, to accept ourselves and to be secure in this love. And to extend it to others. I believe this extends to being honest and even vulnerable, but having a positive mental state, having hope, to offer ourselves and others. The honesty is important. I know I have struggled with this and my wife had to push me in this area. But she also said she liked that I was humble and not cocky. So there is a real balance as other times she said I was not honest or had low self-esteem (partly because she is very pretty and smart and confident so deep down I have had doubts that she should be with someone else as guys have always paid her attention and see her as being attractive). It took real struggle and facing these hurts and doubts to finally just let go of it all and realize I only have control of myself, and so the best decision is to be the best version of me, not compare with others, and seek optimal results and my own happiness, and that's when our relationship actually really improved in every way. And yes, married men also appreciate Courtney and the female perspective that often our wives will not give us or we feel awkward to ask. :) I like Courtney because though she is pretty and smart, she is honest and humble. Hope she inspires more girls and women to be like her and not follow the Kardashian example or the opposite extreme where some women do not even try to be pretty or think being pretty is something bad or superficial. Both sexes appreciate people who are clean and healthy and seek to be attractive inside and out.
Profoundly well stated commentary JD. Forward progress to you sir.
One thing that has changed my life in terms of confidence has been “I Am” affirmations. Not just saying “I am confident”. I am saying look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself positive I am affirmations until you believe it! Trust me you will eventually!
My first time watching you Courtney. After listening to your heartfelt advice, one word came to my mind above all the others. It's a word that has somewhat fallen through the cracks in social media America, and that word is class. You are a very classy young woman in every sense.
The best compliment.. thank you so much ❤️
Our older sister delivered again. 🤩😍
And another thing I think is very attractive for women is LISTENING and keeping things in mind she said a while ago.
Use the “holes” in your head, directly (not inversely) proportional to the NUMBER God gave you... (not bullet holes, ok?)
I'm a simple guy.. I see her notification I click 😶
😂 I love it
I wouldn't say you are simple. I would "simply" say you are smart.
@@CourtneyRyan you have a "dulce" voice
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courtney is just simply elegant and beautiful! i get a type of timeless beauty from her ! no heavy makeup no extreme fake eyelashes pretty professional clothes ! she def is a role model for women !
The problem with asking men to be confident is that I think a lot of us are not even confident in the idea that we actually like women even though we definitely know we are not attracted to men.
This is a complicated statement. Perhaps it might be rephrased as "able to complement a women's personality" ? If we are treating women and men as so different that there are such things as Turn Ons/Offs that are fairly universal but unknown to the opposite sex, they probably are not ready to be interacting until the universals are communicated and acknowledged as known/learned. OK, guys, here's a Turn-Off: talking about the relationship. Here's a Turn-On, gals: let the guy bring it up.
Money...!! 90% of girls over 20yo, will accept a fair discount on Looks and Personality if the has money and can take her to places and offer more experience.
Costas C: *_It's called financial hypergamy_*
@@joeskeptical4762 Had no idea there was a term for it. Accurate term.. I like it.
you are correct. women want to be wined and dined. once that stops, they have no interest in you anymore
The most important of them all.
Money which no girl talk about but in the end comes up anyhow.
If you look closely majority of women ended there relationship before marriage cause of money.
Have to cut in here. For a QUALITY woman it’s not about whether or not you have a lot of money, more important than that is are you GOOD with your money? Are you stable, or working towards it? Are you saving for your future? Of course a nice date is great once in a while but if you blow your money on meaningless pursuits and have tens of thousands of dollars in credit card debt... yeah. No. I’m happily married to a man who was confident, chivalrous, funny and shared the same values with me but is currently a full time college student with three jobs while I’m a stay at home mom to our two kids. He had a nice car when we started dating, we traded that baby in for a soccer mom car and you know what? That was the most romantic thing ever, as is the fact that he’s willing to do anything to get his family by. Nothing is more of a turn-on for a woman than knowing she is SAFE with her mate. Although we are far from wealthy, I know I’m safe because my husband will do ANYTHING for his family. That’s love. And if a female wants you to wine and dine her always but can’t even make you a home cooked meal or keep her place clean, then she’s not a woman. She’s a little princess. And she sucks.
Yes we DO love a gentleman! It gets me in the feels!
Been in a relationship for 5 years now, and it's always good to keep yourself in check.
Fellas, if you let yourself go, she will let you go as well. Be a man she's going to be attracted to; don't let it die!
9 Biggest Turn Ons
1. confidence
2. chivalry
3. sense of humour
4. kindness
5. compliments
6. punctuality
7. cleanness (don't be smelly)
8. keep your word
9. vulnerability
Did all this and I'm athletic and good looking and make six figures, still got cheated on by a girl who is overweight and depressed. She also is trying to take my daughter from me on top of it.
The positive vibes you bring to these videos are so contagious :)
Regarding the frat house, guys who actually lived in frat houses get laid the most, right?
I am curious as to how this has anything to do with the video hmmm..but yea well in the American Pie movies that has been the case!
Here is my compliment that is in fact true:
Your voice brings relaxation. The way you talk... it is like a song.
Very insightful, some minor things we guys tend to take for granted and overlook that sets us back. Thank you for bringing them to the forefront to remind us men that the small things matter. 💯🙏🏼
Thanks Courtney for keeping us up to speed, this secret women’s business is a tricky thing to get right but we’re not giving up!
all of these are spot on. especially confidence, vulnerability, and chivalry‼️
Yup
Keep encouraging young men Courtney. Its refreshing to see a person genuinely care for men in todays world.
Be well.
If she blew your mind with “put deodorant on” ; you need to watch this video 100 times!
lol
I swear
I never had a girl say she loved the smell of deodorant in a shirt.
It has its time and place but not all day every day.
nah they dont need to watch this video 100 times... they need to go back to their parents and take a refresher course on basic living and home training as a human being.
That one is bs. They like your clean, natural odor better.
Thank you Courtney! This educational "men with special virtues" video really accentuates my personality. So I played it loud and clear in my truck while driving with my beautiful wife of 20 years, (pretty much to honor my lone-self) and her reaction to the topic was none, zilch, zero. 🤦♂️
I will always be me, but I'm starting to believe that after so much time together, some women stop appreciating our endangered species.🙆♂️🤷♂️🙋♂️
Hi Courtney!
Yes I agree with you when it comes to vulnerability. It is the mother of all intimate connections, whether romantic or not. In other words, this isn't just something men and women should do with each other, but with the same gender as well. I think that a lot of the advice you gave is definitely applicable not only to men, but also to women. Men and women aren't these totally different creatures from different planets (ie Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus).
However, we do emphasize more on different things, and these are guided by our biology, culture, personal preferences etc. I know you're not trying to explain the science behind it; you're only trying to give simple and straightforward advice. But I just thought I'd mention that it's extremely important to know that these are good general guidelines but they are by no means rules that are set in stone; there's a lot of gray.
For example, I've become more confident, but I'm not always going to be perceived that way, nor am I always confident. I accept that I will be insecure sometimes, and if a woman doesn't understand that or finds that to be a turn off, so be it. I think one thing I would add to your list is compatibility on certain issues. If there isn't much in common in terms of personality traits, political and religious agreements, etc, then the above list you mentioned would only help in the attraction process but not in maintaining a healthy relationship. Good video though!
When you say woman like this or that , it is merely what you like not what the average woman wants. Every woman is a mistery, hard to understand and make a complicated drama out of very simple issues. The on denominator of what woman wants is $$$.