The Final Battle : How to Stop Thinking About the Narcissist
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- Опубликовано: 6 окт 2024
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Win the final battle by stopping thinking about the narcissist and join thousands of others who have applied this practical material to their eternal advantage
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The Narcissist serves you by teaching you that you don’t love yourself. Anyone that loves themselves will kick a narcissist to the curb at the first sign of toxicity…I’m thankful for my run-ins with narcs because it led me on a journey to self acceptance and self love
Not true.
In the desert you will never find much water and narcissists are very thirsty.
If you don't have self-love, use a mirror: you are the narcissist.
You don't see the toxicity but you feel the negative effects. (Oh my God, I don't like being long-winded.)
You need to study narcissism and do your homework to understand Cluster B narcissists. The sooner you know, the better.
Then you decide whether to suffer or not. If you're a masochist, that's great for you.
I got final freedom from the last bits of abuse, that lingered after the discovery of my abuser and the therapy that followed, by realizing that the narcissist is a thing not a person. It is a permanently dangerous thing, more like a machine than a person. My policy is no contact, regardless of inducements, hoovering, criticism of relatives, etc. I did this alone, at a time when narcissism wasn't well understood or publicly acknowledged, and you're right... it's an amazing thing to achieve. I'm at 34 years of no contact and counting. Freedom is priceless.
They are demonic.
I envy you. I want to reach the other side
yeah, but we have to be careful not to view others as objects as they do. It sounds very dehumanizing to say that they are things. But, yes, me too, I dont understand how it is possible humans can be like that. But there are lets say inhumane humans. But to say that they are "a thing" .. I dont know.. but if it helps to heal, whynot? I could never see someone as a thing thats why that healing strategy wont work for me.
It was not love you felt, it was only familiarity. Once you learn to love yourself you will clearly see how your emotional thinking was hijacked. It was an emotional extortion operation. Just like they put you on the shelf and seek to extort fuel from you whenever they need it, you can also put them on a shelf or better yet in a locker (if you must interact with them) and only think about them when necessary. The key for me was understanding their language. When she speaks now it’s like I’m translating from “English” into “Narclish.” It’s like communicating with an alien. I slow my naturally highly sensitive empathic senses down almost like dumbing and numbing myself and let the slippery accusatory and devaluing comments slide right off of me. Like I have a layer of non stick cooking spray on me. No more cooking this goose 😉
Wow. Like reading my mind! Well stated! Ty ❤️
Finally someone put words to how my brain felt when I must listen to my almost ex-narc-- dumbed down 😆 "NARCLISH" is my new fave word 💞
How do you learn to love yourself? I am struggling w the familiar. I want out. I can’t make the step and idk why. This is destroying me.
I love this
I fell for her, 1985. We married , 1996. We had a child, 2006, and I finally met her, 2018.
I realized there was NOTHING worth going back to. He would fuck up every relationship to come. He proved it. Thank you for your work, HG. I couldn't have healed without your advice.
They show you the magical world where they exist, with their cool hobbies and cool friends and then yank it away.
Release ALL Expectations! That has helped me in my situation where this is happened.
They have to show you that because that's all they are just negative cowards otherwise
The battle is before and during the discard.....the aftermath is a relief for some of us, HG...especially when life instantly becomes so much richer. It's you who can never truly let go...let's not get it twisted. 😉
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True
I agree with you. Once the soul ties & trauma bond was gone, life was so much better.
Was married for 27 years , we have a disabled child, so do the best I can, Thankyou for all your videos🙏
I have reached indifference at this point everytime i think of him i also remind myself that those were lies and i was manipulated none of those memories are based on anything real.
H. G. I needed to stop the rumination .. this was beyond every penny well spent .. many thanks .. I am on the fifth battle and ready as ever after 5 months .. I bought the assistance package just finished listening to it and feel empowered .. this is GENIUS !!! I went no contact right away but thinking counts as part of breaking no contact .. thank you I will incorporate this entailing information ..
it's so hard especially when you were trauma bonded towards them, i feel time will help a bit
It absolutely does & they eventually are nothing.
for real!
He is the sweetest honey, ever. I know now it wasn't genuine. But alone, in my head, he will forever be my highest high. But as my lowest low, he's been placed in my past, except for the moments when I allow myself to remember how I felt.
I feel so stupid for attempting to go back to him. But I’m freeing myself now. I think the hardest for me is the trauma bond. But I’m stronger than that
I threw out everything and moved. Just get a new friend and start over.
Thank you so much HG, you just saved my life. It’s worth every single penny. I would highly encourage this to anyone struggling to get over the narcissist into buying this Assistance Package. It’s of great help to be honest. But as suggested, to be applied only after winning the first and second battle… Then only you will be able to win this one. Otherwise you will fail badly, please do not, i repeat do not skip the other two first……. Thnks Hg once again.
HG TUDOR captures the essence of the perpetrator as well as the victim. I appreciate his kind delivery in describing these horrific situations we find ourselves. As a victim who gravitates towards these destructive people, appreciate the knowledge and courage to remove myself. (Another tool in the fight against the NARCISSIST) I'm so happy I've found HG ☺️ not to mention, his voice is mesmerizing 😊👍
Never forget that he's a narc nonetheless...
@@PauloGaetathe_original exactly why he’s so charismatic. He’s a sociopath…dark triad…the Narc to the third power, right? I’ll bet he’s good looking, too. They always seem to be! I still find this the best material there is out there.
Ijust dont like his monotone robot voice. Lee Hammock is a self aware nacissist too and he sounds much more normal, not so robot like.
HG...thankyou so so much for everything...It has been your videos that have literally got me through the past year...AND..
just as I found myself sitting here this morning after breaking my no contact of 7 MONTHS with my ex last week,when I jumped in bed with him and he's now disappeared again....You just described (as usual) and on time everything I am feeling right now....
If I didn't know logically what is happening, I wouldn't be able to get out of bed...thanks to you HG, my boohooing is only at about 50% today.....Thankyou🇦🇺❤
It’s like an addiction.
What helped me was to write out a Do Not Forget List [No more answering his rolodex texts; E-mail; phone calls/other]
Too good to be true! We are truly blessed! I can't thank you enough for sharing your vast and accurate knowledge with us! May it be as rewarding to you, as it is to everyone else! Again thank you very much!
why do memories of them feel so much more special than with other people? even when they betrayed, hurt and deceived us? why???
Good question.🤔
Not for me, it was fake!
THATRUNNINGGIRL. Because when we are in the Golden Period- there is nothing like it to take it's place. It is there we become lost and spend years trying to get out.
Because they was mirroring you. You fell in love with your idealised self.. it was never them it was only ever you.
@@marcjames93 which is kind of a weird relief if the work is to get back to self love
I'm engaged in the final battle right now. He left very little behind. I was kept on the shelf, and I saw very little of him over a 3 year period. I did love him, though. Or rather, I was trauma bonded to him. Sometimes I feel anger and disgust, mostly at myself for putting up with his abuse. Sometimes I miss him, physically. I miss his scent, his voice... Then I am REALLY disgusted with myself. I recognize that this is emotional thinking. Thankyou for reminding me of this. I look forward to the day when I don't wake up or fall asleep with him on my mind. I've been no contact since 15 August.... a little over 4 months. I have no desire to break no contact, though. We have a membership at the same gym. I haven't been to the gym in months. I'm afraid of running into him there. I really need to start going back to the gym, though.
Find a new gym. Or else it’s a break of the no contact regime. When you and the narc attend the same gym, you will always think of him when you go there. And that will feed your emotional thinking and your trauma bond. Wish you the best. :)
@@vibra1562 took words out of my mouth
This is the final battle. No contact is one thing- but forgetting the narc is hard- even if he was not kind, or the sex was mechanical and cold, the thoughts are there…
Now we talking HG that's a real QUESTION!!!
This might be the most fascinating channel, and the most intimidating. :/
Once again brilliantly done !
God Bless everyone! This is to much this is to close to whats going on exactly! Thanks HG!
My husband passed away in August of 2020. What I found after he died was devastating and while due to his death I have achieved no contact, I cannot get him and what I found after his death our of my head.
My ex looks like a bulldog chewing a wasp 😂
this is how my ex narc looks: 🐘💨💩
I threw out into the street on a rainy November in 2005, with the support of his family. But I still want to get in touch and tell him what he did to me. I haven't been in touch since that night and I won't but that desire to spit it in his face remains. I am an idiot.
Noticed early on the patterns. Though it was hard just by listening to their music. Rough love in Pokerface lyrics is one that spoke to me. Never had anything with this woman. Just attempted manipulation to fuel some need of hers. I don't care what she does and with who anymore that i know her character. Anyone that tries to make you jelous wants putting in the bin right away
When I see Rogaine, I think of the ex trying to save those three strands of hair he had left AND LAUGH.
😂😂😂
It is hard at first took me quite a while about a year.i no.longer give a shit , and can spot a narc in 5 min now ...lol but I still.listen to H.G he has interesting videos.
I have no doubt that it brings freedom and peace of mind.
I will be watching this one for your next sale its a tad out of my budget but I am very interested 😊
Sucks being STUCK in where one comes FROM.
What no one tells you and will never tell you
that no-contact is
The last step🏆
(🔉You have reached no-contact! Enter the data for the next destination🌌)
It's not easy when 6 months later her letters still keep coming to my house. In addition, she goes to restaurants in my area.
Him 10 minutes away from my flat sitting with the next in "our" business space which now is basically a flat for them. Cannot detach, don't know why. Cannot go there to expose him since he will file a case against me because of stalking or something. How do you deal with this?
Oh I understand this feeling 😂 the one I know sends in music everyday to my place of work. Some days it seems constant lol. Idk man they are ducked up
The nice part is that I no longer struggle to understand.I know 😂cactly what happens tonm🎉 and 😂just ; yet O still think about her and him
H.G. Tudor 💐💚🌩️🐲
H.G. Could you kindly tell me , does the Narcissist know that us Empaths have an addiction to them?
I will tell you YES!!!!!
Empath is a misleading title. An “empath” is no more than a person that has suffered trauma , abuse… and is now hyper vigilant to others moods in order to protect themselves. It’s self defence. Trust me, I know this because I am able to feel the moods of others, and it enables me to avoid them if they are angry. I grew up with an alcoholic, passive aggressive mother and an alcoholic bullying father. I learned to anticipate and read their moods.I constantly had my antenna out.
Number 5 video viewed.
My wife of 18 years, She left 20 months ago, my children left to be with her a few months later.
I think abought her everyday and night. She has a boyfriend and refuses to file for divorce.
She is needy but don't need me...
She has her cake 🎂 and eating it too.
Why are you expecting her to file for divorce? Regain your self-respect, take back your power, and file for divorce.
I am able to fully block, and I don't have to bump in to them at work, I do occasionally hear vague bits about 'staff' at the other centre that trigger me, my thoughts etc. But I'm on the final battle, accepting the fact that this person had no feelings for me whatsoever. And if I had done the job right and killed myself, I doubt she would have felt a shred of any feelings....
this is like a burglar-turned-locksmith - ZERO RESPECT FOR NARCS
This video should be titled
How to stop watching videos about narcissism
Just curious does a narcissist ever feel tranquility or peace. Or just the high from fuel?
lol the begining lol
you are master
Your sarcasm kills me . lol
The hardest part 😪
My therapist said that because he is lasting so long with the "new" supply means he's happy. Back to emotional thinking SMH
The therapist maybe his friend!
Your therapist needs to be taught under H.G. to understand how Narcissists operate lol.
@@real_hello_kitty loll!!!!
@@7Danita loll!!! I don't think she understands narcissism
I'd change therapist if I were you. Doesnt sound like they are helping muxh
how much is that package?
DUMP THE CHAIR,THE MUSIC AND THE COLOGNE....
WILLIAM WALLACE
Wth?
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That struggle to keep thinking about them is you playing God. You're wrong and evil because you see traits in them that's not there. They're grown and have chosen to be that way. Stop trying to play captain save-a-beast and just let them go. There's only 2 reasons it's hard to let go and both are bad 1. You're playing God. 2. You have the same traits and are subconsciously showing and telling others how you want to be treated when you inevitably treat someone the same way the narcissist treats you