This was very insightful to me. I noticed I've been obsessing about things outside of my relationship. And it's because I'm truly avoiding admitting I'm actually very depressed in my current situation.
Okay Kenny…. I’ve been really listening to you the past few months…. Diligently. 😓 I’m going to give this a shot….. I hope to hell it works. Cause I am so tired of living this way. Especially at the holidays
thankyou kenny from australia. thought i knew everything about human nature coming from a psychologist perspective and multiple partners but at 72yo met the most brilliant intellect in a 3-7 yo emotional package. thought i could fix him - he's same age. atm employing every skill in the book then synchronicity i found your channel. have been slowly ghosting and cutting back on contact - incidentally his narcissism is accompanied by a 60 year drug habit of all descriptions. i am tired of hearing "i love you and i am going to change because i don't want to lose you.' after 2 years i no longer have any illusions. apologise for waffling. hopefully some of you can relate 🥰
The "leaning forward" metaphor is basically just to say "concentrate on the present and future," but I think there can be healing in reflecting on the past. Sometimes the riddle DOES get solved (even if you have to fill in some of the gaps in understanding with your imagination), and sometimes you're able to successfully reframe and reinterpret the past positively.
This makes SssOoo much sense! I cried through most of this not out of shame or sadness but out of recognition. I saw it all clearly and understood all of it. The switch was flipped on and the room was filled with light. I've been beating myself up over not moving on...I've been asking myself what is wrong with you? Why can't you let him go? You know he isn't going to change. You've let go and walked away from other relationships, why can't you grieve and let it go? You should've moved on awhile ago. I'm going to lean in a little ways every day until I'm able to stand up and walk away and not look back. THANK YOU!
Wow! I just LOVE the purple suit and lilac shirt - it looks so good with your lovely blue eyes🩵 Thank you so much for this video as well as the links to support me in breaking free of the obsession❤❤❤
U have such a great sense of humor It's great to have the resources You have for us. I realized that I am not the only one that has been going through this. I am going to your site and I know that I will be able to make it this time. This is the longest 7 months trying to figure out how and why I do this. Now I'm doing better today but I'm always leaning back Mom was a toxic person, and what she told from way back as far as I can remember that I would amount to NOTHING. I proved her WRONG. Yet at 57 I can still hear her voice say that over and over. This last relationship was like living with all the toxic people and her in my life all in the person I was involved with. It was like looking at my Mom and everyone that hurt again . I was so excited to hear that you have a free class to help others with this. God Bless you 🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯🌈
Absolutely brilliant Extremely helpful The best person who has explained with precision the scenario in a myriad of ways Its raw with TRUTH ur explanation So far so good I really needed to hear this tnx so much 4 helping others not just me im taking ur advice Plus ur the best dresser on u tube fantastic suit Absolutely beautiful loving the colours !!!
Thank You For Sharing This I Would Obsessively Think About The Narcissists About How This Person Could Have So Much Evilness And Enjoyed My Suffering. I Literally Got Sick From Narcissistic Abuse Severe Tinnitus Blood Pressure Issues Stomach issues Severe Hair loss Mental Health Issues. I Began Letting Go Once I Accepted That This Person Would Never Change And I Honestly Believed I Could Help This Person.you Cannot Help A Narcissists..
Thanks Kenny for sharing your wisdom and thoughts. I recognise the pain you described when you were struggling with thinking about your marriage. Really glad you found a way through. I’ve been in a ‘situationship’ with a narcissist and am finding it very difficult to let go of what’s happened, even though i know it’s gradually destroying me. I think about her all the time, I feel jealous and sick to the stomach about being used and rejected, I miss her and the sadness and emptiness are overwhelming sometimes. What you say about bringing yourself into the present makes a lot of sense.
This started incredible. I was really looking forward to the advice, and then it turned into an infomercial. To the author: give advice and then pitch the book for more in depth information. If it works for someone, they’ll recommend you to others. If it sort-of works for someone, they’ll buy your book. If people don’t get a chance to try, they’ll press ”Backwards” and find a different video, this is faster than going to a different website. I still loved the first part of the video, though. Might have posted too soon, I’m mid way, but I hope there is advice in this video. Thank you for making it anyway!
Thank you, sincerely. You’re incredibly generous to share near all your personal teaching resources for free bar the optional few with no obligation for future purchases. What someone with a sincere desire to help others learn how to heal their pain and beat their barriers and that is your primary motivation!!?? Unheard of lol.. lunacy!! Bless you 🙏I’m relishing every morsel of wisdom.
Thank you so so much I’m already grasping these revelations as you speak in my own life ! Wow! And I loved your leaning back and forward it really brought it to life .
@@kennyweiss really help me go back into my child and realize my best friend from six years old on was a complete narcissist that always put me down and I always wanted her approval. Then I went on throughout life to pick people like that now from what you said, I realize I don’t have to pick people like that it’s OK to be with a balanced kind person! Thank you
Merry Christmas Kenny. Thank for for all the help so far. I just purchased your book today, after listening to about 15 or so of your videos. Thank you very much for responding to almost all of my comments.
How to raise your dopamine levels and become empowered through clarity and engagement with our feelings. 1.Stop thinking about it - when you catch yourself thinking,bring awareness to the present 2.Feelings Wheel, what am I feeling? 3.Feelings - Where in my body am I feeling it? 4.When was the first time I can recall feeling that way? 5.Go to Worse Day cicle and resources, Book etc Thank you Kenny, you are a great communicator.
Yesterday only I found your You tube channel. I really appreciate you for sharing the knowledge. Thanks a lot. I have a question -how would I suppose to know where in my body I feel the uneasiness? (I don't know if it is appropriate to ask or not, as you already provided lots of free content , and above that I am asking for more...) Anyway , thanks again. I really find your contents , till now, helpful for me.
Why don’t you just sign up for my free your journey to emotional mastery master class. It walks you through the full process. You can find the links underneath every one of my videos in the video description
Maybe the reason we haven't left the relationship yet is partly because the narcissist cut & run instead of breaking up properly and explaining their reasons honestly and clearly and without any ambiguity or leaving the door open. Y'know the way that healthy people break up.
Additionally there is an assumption' once you see their real face you don't want to be with the person' - in my case it's nonsense, i see the real face and i'm still addicted! if the 'once you see the real... ' was true nobody in the world would be smoking cigarettes or do things which are bad for us - seeing and understanding doesn't change the feelings instantly or even at all, I would say majority of people at least people i know crave things which are bad for us and it's the same with narcissists! so... feeling the feelings is not necessarily changing the way we think or feel, and understanding is not necessarily changing the things we want and feel either! The video has been helpful but is not answering the question what to do when we are obsessively thinking and wanting someone bad for us and feel sad and depressed as we cannot have it ... and keep thinking about it at the same time, even worse - the more sad and depressed i feel the more obsessive my thinking!
2:17 That's the fantasy trap every vulnerable romantic falls for. There was a 1979 movie, '10', with Bo Derek as the complete stranger and titled top ranked woman figure the late actor Dudley Moore character became obsessed with on sighting her on a beach. Once the siren's song took hold, his life was nothing more than an unrelenting pursuit to get near his '10', which was the theme of the movie. In the ending climax, as he met his idealized woman in the flesh, he found her real persona shallow and unremarkable and her desirable sexiness was nothing but his projected false vision of what he imagined would fill a void if he could only physically possess it. I learned the hard way, pausing to reassess one's own value system and bring up the Why Do I Feel This Way-question will always get your feet back on the ground.
I was abused by my dad and stepmom when I was young. My dad and mom had 3 children. My dad died last year the stepmom did not call any of his kids to tell us he died. I found out by a friend that he died. The stepmom or any of her 3 kids did not tell any of us he was dead. The woman made my two sisters leave when my young sister was 5 my oldest sister when she was 14 I ran away from home when I was 15 and never went back. This is back in the early 1970's. Today we are all married with no kids my oldest sister been married 35 years I have been married 28 years my young sister never got married tell she was 47. We are all good people. The stepmom was evil to us all of our lives. Her kids always had everything. She would not have nothing to do with none of us as years went by we visited a little. My sister are good but I have nightmares of my dad beating me as a kid over bad grades in school. My mother and father were both alcoholic they stopped drinking in there 30's and 40's after they stopped they were good people. But the stepmom was a evil woman is a narcissist. Everyday the abuse comes though my mind as a child I'm hoping with your video I can make them leave my mind thanks and Merry Christmas.
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This was very insightful to me. I noticed I've been obsessing about things outside of my relationship. And it's because I'm truly avoiding admitting I'm actually very depressed in my current situation.
Great awareness 👌
You are the best dresser on RUclips.
I am stuck on the same obsession since 2007. I even move out overseas so I didn’t have to deal with that. Please send positive vibes for me guys.
Okay Kenny…. I’ve been really listening to you the past few months…. Diligently.
😓 I’m going to give this a shot….. I hope to hell it works. Cause I am so tired of living this way. Especially at the holidays
thankyou kenny from australia. thought i knew everything about human nature coming from a psychologist perspective and multiple partners but at 72yo met the most brilliant intellect in a 3-7 yo emotional package. thought i could fix him - he's same age. atm employing every skill in the book then synchronicity i found your channel. have been slowly ghosting and cutting back on contact - incidentally his narcissism is accompanied by a 60 year drug habit of all descriptions. i am tired of hearing "i love you and i am going to change because i don't want to lose you.' after 2 years i no longer have any illusions. apologise for waffling. hopefully some of you can relate 🥰
The "leaning forward" metaphor is basically just to say "concentrate on the present and future," but I think there can be healing in reflecting on the past. Sometimes the riddle DOES get solved (even if you have to fill in some of the gaps in understanding with your imagination), and sometimes you're able to successfully reframe and reinterpret the past positively.
Its been 1 minute and i cried already..
This makes SssOoo much sense!
I cried through most of this not out of shame or sadness but out of recognition. I saw it all clearly and understood all of it. The switch was flipped on and the room was filled with light.
I've been beating myself up over not moving on...I've been asking myself what is wrong with you? Why can't you let him go? You know he isn't going to change. You've let go and walked away from other relationships, why can't you grieve and let it go? You should've moved on awhile ago. I'm going to lean in a little ways
every day until I'm able to stand up and walk away and not look back. THANK YOU!
Wow! I just LOVE the purple suit and lilac shirt - it looks so good with your lovely blue eyes🩵 Thank you so much for this video as well as the links to support me in breaking free of the obsession❤❤❤
U have such a great sense of humor It's great to have the resources You have for us. I realized that I am not the only one that has been going through this.
I am going to your site and I know that I will be able to make it this time. This is the longest 7 months trying to figure out how and why I do this. Now I'm doing better today but I'm always leaning back
Mom was a toxic person, and what she told from way back as far as I can remember that I would amount to NOTHING. I proved her WRONG. Yet at 57 I can still hear her voice say that over and over. This last relationship was like living with all the toxic people and her in my life all in the person I was involved with. It was like looking at my Mom and everyone that hurt again . I was so excited to hear that you have a free class to help others with this.
God Bless you 🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯🌈
Absolutely brilliant
Extremely helpful
The best person who has explained with precision the scenario in a myriad of ways
Its raw with TRUTH ur explanation
So far so good I really needed to hear this tnx so much 4 helping others not just me im taking ur advice
Plus ur the best dresser on u tube fantastic suit Absolutely beautiful loving the colours !!!
Thank u for the vulnerable share . I teared up hearing ur story conquering obsession
Thank You For Sharing This
I Would Obsessively Think About The Narcissists About How This Person
Could Have So Much Evilness And Enjoyed My Suffering.
I Literally Got Sick From Narcissistic Abuse Severe Tinnitus Blood Pressure Issues
Stomach issues Severe Hair loss Mental Health Issues.
I Began Letting Go Once I Accepted That This Person Would Never Change And I Honestly
Believed I Could Help This Person.you Cannot Help A Narcissists..
Thanks Kenny for sharing your wisdom and thoughts. I recognise the pain you described when you were struggling with thinking about your marriage. Really glad you found a way through. I’ve been in a ‘situationship’ with a narcissist and am finding it very difficult to let go of what’s happened, even though i know it’s gradually destroying me. I think about her all the time, I feel jealous and sick to the stomach about being used and rejected, I miss her and the sadness and emptiness are overwhelming sometimes. What you say about bringing yourself into the present makes a lot of sense.
This is very helpful and I’ve watched countless videos on narcissism. Thank you.
I love and appreciate how genuine and lovingly you share your wisdom & personal journey with us. Very very helpful! Thank you
This started incredible. I was really looking forward to the advice, and then it turned into an infomercial. To the author: give advice and then pitch the book for more in depth information. If it works for someone, they’ll recommend you to others. If it sort-of works for someone, they’ll buy your book. If people don’t get a chance to try, they’ll press ”Backwards” and find a different video, this is faster than going to a different website. I still loved the first part of the video, though. Might have posted too soon, I’m mid way, but I hope there is advice in this video.
Thank you for making it anyway!
Thank you, sincerely.
You’re incredibly generous to share near all your personal teaching resources for free bar the optional few with no obligation for future purchases.
What someone with a sincere desire to help others learn how to heal their pain and beat their barriers and that is your primary motivation!!?? Unheard of lol.. lunacy!!
Bless you 🙏I’m relishing every morsel of wisdom.
You're very welcome!
Woah. Felt a great drop in my stomach IMMEDIATELY! Thank you Kenny
Thank you so so much I’m already grasping these revelations as you speak in my own life ! Wow! And I loved your leaning back and forward it really brought it to life .
Glad it was helpful!
@@kennyweiss really help me go back into my child and realize my best friend from six years old on was a complete narcissist that always put me down and I always wanted her approval. Then I went on throughout life to pick people like that now from what you said, I realize I don’t have to pick people like that it’s OK to be with a balanced kind person! Thank you
Merry Christmas Kenny. Thank for for all the help so far. I just purchased your book today, after listening to about 15 or so of your videos. Thank you very much for responding to almost all of my comments.
You are very welcome. I hope you’re discovering things that can help you.
Merry Christmas to you as well 😁🎅
How to raise your dopamine levels and become empowered through clarity and engagement with our feelings.
1.Stop thinking about it - when you catch yourself thinking,bring awareness to the present
2.Feelings Wheel, what am I feeling?
3.Feelings - Where in my body am I feeling it?
4.When was the first time I can recall feeling that way?
5.Go to Worse Day cicle and resources, Book etc
Thank you Kenny, you are a great communicator.
so helpful and enlightened ! merci beaucoup
You're so welcome!
Excellent👏thx so much!
Finally some understanding thank u sir I bought the book I need it
Happy to help!
I am really struggling, looking forward to taking some baby steps & building a life worth living.
Never knew that the same name of the man that did hurt me the most is teaching me the most😂🙏🏾
Thanks! ✨️
Yesterday only I found your You tube channel. I really appreciate you for sharing the knowledge. Thanks a lot.
I have a question -how would I suppose to know where in my body I feel the uneasiness?
(I don't know if it is appropriate to ask or not, as you already provided lots of free content , and above that I am asking for more...)
Anyway , thanks again. I really find your contents , till now, helpful for me.
Why don’t you just sign up for my free your journey to emotional mastery master class. It walks you through the full process.
You can find the links underneath every one of my videos in the video description
Merry Christmas Kenny!
What an amazing video and great advice! I just bought his audiobook. Cannot wait to get into it. Thank you. Best regards from UK
Hope you enjoy it!
Your amazing...
Maybe the reason we haven't left the relationship yet is partly because the narcissist cut & run instead of breaking up properly and explaining their reasons honestly and clearly and without any ambiguity or leaving the door open. Y'know the way that healthy people break up.
But i think while feeling sad and depressed- feeling it doesn’t help to stop thinking at the same time!
Additionally there is an assumption' once you see their real face you don't want to be with the person' - in my case it's nonsense, i see the real face and i'm still addicted! if the 'once you see the real... ' was true nobody in the world would be smoking cigarettes or do things which are bad for us - seeing and understanding doesn't change the feelings instantly or even at all, I would say majority of people at least people i know crave things which are bad for us and it's the same with narcissists! so... feeling the feelings is not necessarily changing the way we think or feel, and understanding is not necessarily changing the things we want and feel either! The video has been helpful but is not answering the question what to do when we are obsessively thinking and wanting someone bad for us and feel sad and depressed as we cannot have it ... and keep thinking about it at the same time, even worse - the more sad and depressed i feel the more obsessive my thinking!
It's quite an oversimplification to describe depression as "low dopamine."
Merry Christmas Kenny
You too 🎅
Grounding
Your very handsome and i hope your having a great day! Love your videos!❤
This was/is so powerful, thank you. Your channel just popped up on my feed, you have a new sub and a new fan 👏🏻
Happy to have you 😁
2:17 That's the fantasy trap every vulnerable romantic falls for. There was a 1979 movie, '10', with Bo Derek as the complete stranger and titled top ranked woman figure the late actor Dudley Moore character became obsessed with on sighting her on a beach. Once the siren's song took hold, his life was nothing more than an unrelenting pursuit to get near his '10', which was the theme of the movie. In the ending climax, as he met his idealized woman in the flesh, he found her real persona shallow and unremarkable and her desirable sexiness was nothing but his projected false vision of what he imagined would fill a void if he could only physically possess it.
I learned the hard way, pausing to reassess one's own value system and bring up the Why Do I Feel This Way-question will always get your feet back on the ground.
I was abused by my dad and stepmom when I was young. My dad and mom had 3 children. My dad died last year the stepmom did not call any of his kids to tell us he died. I found out by a friend that he died. The stepmom or any of her 3 kids did not tell any of us he was dead. The woman made my two sisters leave when my young sister was 5 my oldest sister when she was 14 I ran away from home when I was 15 and never went back. This is back in the early 1970's. Today we are all married with no kids my oldest sister been married 35 years I have been married 28 years my young sister never got married tell she was 47. We are all good people. The stepmom was evil to us all of our lives. Her kids always had everything. She would not have nothing to do with none of us as years went by we visited a little. My sister are good but I have nightmares of my dad beating me as a kid over bad grades in school. My mother and father were both alcoholic they stopped drinking in there 30's and 40's after they stopped they were good people. But the stepmom was a evil woman is a narcissist. Everyday the abuse comes though my mind as a child I'm hoping with your video I can make them leave my mind thanks and Merry Christmas.
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It is because of this very circumstance I have changed my viewpoint about what women really can be and do