@@Sahalieloveno both B can be appealing to the male gaze, except one don’t give them any chance and the other have conditions. Both Bs are the most challenging to patriarchy, so a man’s life quest becomes bringing them back into slav ery
OMG🤯 this explains why men were so upset and took offense to that lady on Twitter saying she views her fiancé as “husband material” instead of “hot one-night stand material”!!! Being in the wife/husband category is not necessarily a flex to them. Like Shera said, “Men value sexks before love. Women value love before secks.”
Yeah I haven't heard the husband material" label in long time they should bring it back. The nice guy was a pretty common insult to them too when I was growing up it messed with their testosterone so they flip it on you like you didn't notice the good guy back then you only date bad guys. Even though it's a pretty common mistakes to make when your young because they never start out bad. So how are women supposed to know what they want and be ready to be a wife at 19? That's kind of pushy and predatory of them that's not something nice guys should be doing is rushing intimacy. Nice guys put on an act for a long time then one day they turn bad on purpose like this is of kind of flex. Chances are if I didn't like him when I was young I'm still not going to like him when I'm older women don't flip flop like that men do.
@@unicorn73212husband or even father material for her kids. The true test of bravery for a man 😂 men complain all day online about "fatherless" behavior but not enough men want to stick around and be a decent dad.
It’s funny but really the categories are 1. predator 2. opportunistic bystander 3. Unicorn - actual human (less than 0.005% of male population) Calling them idiots implies they dont actually mean to hurt us. But we know that they are nothing but calculated in their interactions
I been trying to tell women , to them a wife is a woman the provides resources, she will let him drive when he doesn’t have a car. She will give him her card to prevent him the embarrassment of not being able to pay. They marry the woman who is willing to pay. Men are the gold diggers.
Listening to this video made me realise why one of my friends is perennially single. She's just too smart to get with most men. She's very kind to her friends, but she is not making herself useful to men. I just realised she's a B
@@marys2406 no we dont. We know our values but most of us arent ego boosted like those stupid adoctrined feminists that have unrealistic standards and ego believing theyre everything but what they actually are.
I was treated poorly in my very first relationship at age 19. I decided it would never happen to me again. I lost 80 lbs, changed my hair and fashion and morphed into a baddie. I had many options but waited until I was 28 to marry a protector, provider and problem solver. We’ve been married for several decades now and life has been amazing
I'm currently overweight to the point that it's causing me issues, but I just can't seem to lose it because the primary reason for it is still there (I overeat due to constant stress, I'm Ukrainian so you can see why). Recently by bf told me in cold blood - after I asked very politely - that we didn't have sx for 2 years because "he's not attracted to OBESE women" (mind you, I'm younger than 30 and not obese by any BMI)... I was brooding in this conversation for a week now, and this comment was exactly THE thing I needed to read, so thank you. It does sound amazing and I'm incredibly happy/proud of you! Hopefully I can pull of something similar... God knows I can't live like this anymore
It’s wild that he couldn’t even explain his own stance but it’s like they INNATELY know how to use and manipulate women so he didn’t even need to explain it in order to actually practice this mess in his own life. The majority of males are predatory by nature
This is partly why I stopped dating men in my 30s. I think I knew all of this inherently, but I still stayed in "pick-me" mode, even with male friends for years, because I wrongly assumed those catagories were only for women actively dating men, so I thought I was "safe" from judgement. Nope. Over the years I started to realize that many men catagorize their female friends this way too. I have some male friends who are great, but I had to start pulling away from the ones I started to realize only saw me in very narrow ways.
But he was comfortable enough to embarrass her by telling the internet she let him use her card on the first date. Further conditioning her to spend money on him to maintain her "wifey" position. The game is easy to spot once you know the objectives 😉
Okay, this video is top notch and absolutely accurate. Any man who says different is either in denial or the very small percentage of men not like this. I have been all 4...just to experiment over the years. It started in my teens when a guy would come out of nowhere, show a lot of interest and as soon as I showed interest back, they were no longer interested. They would date me for a short while until someone else caught their eye. I was the Shorty. Then I flipped the script. I started dating like a man. I would have a rotating circle of 3 to 5 men (I wasn't having sex with them) and we casually went on dates and hung out. These men were chasing like CRAZY. Bringing me lunch and gifts. I was the Baddie. Then I got sick of playing and settled down with one of them. I took care of him and the house, supported him through his multiple career choices. You get it. All the while, he was online looking at the baddies, but supposedly loved and wanted to marry me. I was the Wifey. The cycle started again. Shorty, Baddie, Wifey and now...B*tch.
As a guy, it's nice to see women also having these conversations and trying to give each other insight on how people will try to take advantage of them.
Ladies, this is true, he used tell me every day how much he thinks I'm wife material, while in reality he was just using me. I cooked and cleaned, therefore freeing his time! And went 50/50 on dates, therefore saved some money in his pocket so he could use it on other girls. And also took some nice pictures of him, which he later used on his dating profile (while we were still together). So please, ladies, be less caring and don't give anything of yourself to any man.
So he was hot and you tried to be his wify even though you were a shorty? Bruh don’t take advice from women who willingly walk into the red flags, she said it herself she took nice pictures of ‘him’ she just liked him for his looks.
Wifey Material should be translated into Stepping Stone. I wish magazines had said this more back when I was growing up. They made that the ultimate goal in life ✨ marrying a man ✨ and I wish I’d never bothered reading any of them.
It’s patriarchal propaganda and brainwashing. It’s everywhere. It’s only recently that women can communicate and easily compare notes to figure out the truth about men. Relationships fuel the economy via therapy, baby stuff, Valentine’s Day, etc. so much depends on women allowing men access, so of course they push the lucrative business called “love” at women’s expense.
Notice that wifey is a diminutive of wife, it's even in the language itself lol. Never liked this word, seems a step lower than a wife and not cute at all
Your explanation and breakdown of this is immaculate! I once seen a post that said something like, "If men dont think you're a 'bitch', you're doing something wrong as a woman" 💯
if you call a man short or don't compliment his height they will go off on a rampage about how women are superficial but I've heard the same guys talk about how fat someone is, ugly etc and those same fuckers will not date tall women either but claim that women are obsessed with height. Like get real dudes. I'll start feeling bad calling you out after the years of men being petty as hell wears off.
Women do think about height I'm 6'3 and women make fun of short guys to me, also the guys on the Internet who talk about fat women, many of them would date fat women but it is important to consider, your height cannot change, be monitored or improve. So you just have to accept it.
I understand if someone is being horrible to you, you want to insult them but I feel like making fun of someone's innate physical traits is just like always really mean? It's like making fun of Elon Musk for being Autistic.
This poor man really used what little of his braincells he possessed to make this list to appeal to other small petty men Generally I try to avoid ragebait like this, it's just not productive or worth entertaining but it's good you're breaking it down for some women to realize that it really does come from the horse's mouth on how brain-dead their thought process is.
Mostly commenting for visibility and engagement. I'm married with a young kid and joyfully skipping into mid-life. I'm probably never gonna be a "baddie" in the generally understood sense as I am rather plain. But, I was able to start radically valuing myself and bring "baddie" energy to my life and leave "wifey" energy behind. And things got better! I learned the hard way that even a kind man can become complacent and start to take you for granted. You don't even have to be particularly "mean" to keep 'em keen. Just value yourself. Prioritize boundaries, community, health, fitness and rest.
so they dont call you a B because of your lack of character, they call you that because you’re not giving what they’re after. how selfish is their outlook. just because someone doesn’t give you smthng, doesn’t make them a B. ewwww
This is so helpful. I’ve understood for just a couple years that all men know they’re playing you and are just trying to extract value from you while pretending they actually love you, which you describe as “transactional.” I’m finally not doing 50/50 anymore and have a provider husband, but he still describes what he does for me to other people in a way that makes him look as good as possible. My husband still tries to get the most bang for his buck in social cred from the dollars he invests into me. These days, I abide by the motto, “don’t get mad, get paid.”
I used to be the wifey type. I was with someone for 8 years, and at the end of it, I was homeless, couchsurfing with friends, and 6 months after we broke up, he bought a house in his name only. He waited, instead instead of building with me. I won't ever be that again. Evrr.
I misread wifey as witchy and thought "Oh yes that sounds accurate for me." It's interesting that the wifey and baddie fit into the Madonna-wh*re dichotomy. I remember noticing that when I was a young woman thinking that you couldn't win. If you're the baddie they fancy you but they don't actually respect you and they won't marry you. If you're the wifey they will marry you, but then they'll continue to lust after the baddie. Men seem to be disgusted at women who they find the most sexually attractive. It's almost like they are disgusted at their own lust and they project that on to women.
Great video! Another disturbing detail is that when men categorize women they refer to them as "girls" and not different types of "women". Like you explained in the compatibility video, men will categorize you according to the amount of labor they can extract from you, that's why age is a key factor to them.
The most important thing for women to understand is that the category each a man puts you in according to how he treats women will remain the same throughout the relationship /interaction, it will never change. That's the reason the women who rely on him changing in the future and see her differently bcos she mistakenly thinks SHE can change him always fail and left heartbroken n miserable.
The woman chooses a man she can’t manipulate for selection reasons and then tries really hard to change him, yet the man who is willing to change to form a relationship that is semi-malleable ends up being in her friend-zone until either another woman picks him or he just bows out of the game. And usually if another woman picks the guy she suddenly grows feeling for the orbiter she lost.
@@ToddMagnussonWasHere friendzone is when male pretends to be a friend in order to get sex and then plays victim card when his manipulation didn't work all while woman mourns his betrayal?
Why a baddie is not wifey material? Well, because she doesn't want you but you wish she did.😂😂😂😂 The thing is: she's gonna be wifey material for a husband material man that is not you....and you know that, that's why you are just projecting.
The list can also be good but not when narcissists, psychopaths and emotionally immature men make such a list. Their list is all about ego and not true love based on compassion, vulnerability, emotional closeness. Healthy masculine men are helpers, protectors and providers.
There is another category men put women in and I'm sure he intentionally left it out because he knows he'd rightfully get too much backlash, but that's the "hoe" category. I'd say that most men think a girl is this category when she thinks she's a baddie and is effectively navigating relationships for resources, but she's not actually doing so intelligently so it doesn't actually elevate her quality of life/lifestyle. so, in reality, she's just getting used and she's easily discarded once the guy gets his physical desires met from her.
@@PrincessMultiracial the reason i think this is actually a different category from a girl they would consider a shorty is that the girl i mentioned in the original comment is smart enough to not get triangulated. unlike a "shorty" she doesn't pretend to be a cool girl who is simultaneously friend-zoned and objectified (a "shorty" is still objectified but in a different way bc while guys will sleep with her, they keep it on the dl around other guys and girls). both girls are getting used But the girl who isn't a shorty gets different kinds of games played with her, mainly guys pretending that they are into really dating her when guys never pretend that much with a shorty
Whew! I was the wifey to my ex husband. All of this. He moved into my house, talked me into buying an expensive car that made him look good, and then took so much of my money in divorce. Jokes on him because while he tried to get a baddie after me he failed. No one could put up with his crap. 😂
Obviously. But in this particular case this is about men categorizing women, it’s blatantly the title of the video. No one is dismissing women categorizing men but that isn’t the focus here.
Yes, 4B all the way (and yes, I've done quite a bit of research on the origins and there's nothing about it that would make it disrespectful for US women to adopt it).
I’m a recovering wifey with shorty tendencies, especially with how many male friends I used to have. It’s funny being a wife and being a recovering wifey!
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In school boys would rank girls in the class and that was 6 yrs ago they still do that.
Yep. We’ve had multiple incidents of this happening and being on the nightly news just within the past couple of years alone - all boys, and boys in multiple schools doing this (in Australia). I hope 4B takes hold of the world and “The Rise of Single, Lonely Men” skyrockets further.
I was targeted at a Meetup event by a creep who kept kissing my hand and rubbing my shoulders. He had a wheelchair disability so I was nice to him and entertained him because I felt sorry for him. He kept complimenting me and calling me 'wifey material' after asking if I had ADHD, Autism, Bipolar. When I answered in the negative he mentioned that all of his exes had a mental condition 🚩🚩🚩 Did he not realise that he was the common denominator in all his previous relationships and that either (a) that was his 'type' or (b) *he* drove them to mental illness? I regret letting him kiss my hand and rub my shoulders, but I thank God every chance I get that I politely refused his pushing for a date 😮 Stay safe out there ladies and learn to love your own company so that desperation won't drive you to seek out creeps and turds 😘
Hey girl, idk if you read these comments but i was wondering if here or on ur amazing podcast u could talk about humor. i find routinely it's men with the "edgy" or "dark" humor, even nice men. I have been getting into the habit of not laughing and explaining I don't find things funny -- but you can tell it angers them. I almost think that it is a form of power or control but I don't know how to explain it. I just am accepting being a 'kill joy' at this point because it's so common.
They do it for sure to FEEL this power over women. It's like I will be laughting at you and you will be laughting with me because you don't want to ruin the party, do you? Do you want to be that one person who doesn't have any distance to yourself? Why would you be so mean for him doing nothing wrong?
They need validation soooo bad and you not laughing at a corny joke means you are rejecting them in a subtle way. These men can’t take rejection! I also keep hearing men say something to the effect of “if you can make a woman laugh you can bag her” which is so insanely wrong
Their "jokes" or "pranks" are never just that. It's about pushing limits and boundaries in saying the quiet part out loud and seeing how far can they get away with it, openly hating you and pretending "oh it wasn't for real though" if there's social pushback or disdain, trying to make you into a crazy one killjoy and them a misunderstood victim.
Thank you for this video! I realized why a narcissist left me 7 years ago. I may probably be a b.i.t.c.h as I didn't want to clean and cook for him, plus too smart and independent 😅.
This reminds me of that one guy who made a whole diagram basically saying women all want rich attractive tall guys and are all wh0se and that’s literally all his videos.
I just subscribed yesterday and WOW 😮 I’m sharing your videos with my friends-married and single!!! I so appreciate that you broke this down into such a concise 9min video! And the crazy thing is I DO know this, but it wasn’t until you highlighted the differences that the 💡really came on. True understanding. I’ve long given up actually dating men because I’m a proud B i T c H and I just can’t be bothered to give up my quiet space alone. If I want romance, I’ll read a book😂
7:38 omg this wifey explanation you made makes so much sense... Luckily i got myself a good man, i pray that all good women get a good one too. Goodluck girlies 🤞
Was a wifey for a while to a failure to launch loser. I clocked the transactional nature of it all and fled. I have not entertained anyone in a long time because I’m only willing to meet someone at the finish line. Pick a B ladies and nothing in between.
@yv_edit Nobody on the face of this planet should be paid for drivel like this. Your influence on women will destroy many of their lives. If you actually start to see how wrong this video is, you will regret publishing content like this deeply. Get a real education on how to build a healthy relationship and start taking the process seriously.
Um that was a black man lol i can’t and won’t take them seriously when it comes to dating. They don’t respect women and don’t even grow up with examples on how to properly date. I really thought this was going to be some eye opening revelation based off how the girl started the video
B has boundaries, wifey/shorty has no boundaries.
And both B types are good to be ;-)
Yes, she just said that
@@Lysistrata2025 Except for Baddies still catering to the male gaze.
💯 To get wifey status…you definitely have to sell out.
@@Sahalieloveno both B can be appealing to the male gaze, except one don’t give them any chance and the other have conditions. Both Bs are the most challenging to patriarchy, so a man’s life quest becomes bringing them back into slav ery
OMG🤯 this explains why men were so upset and took offense to that lady on Twitter saying she views her fiancé as “husband material” instead of “hot one-night stand material”!!! Being in the wife/husband category is not necessarily a flex to them. Like Shera said, “Men value sexks before love. Women value love before secks.”
Yeah I haven't heard the husband material" label in long time they should bring it back.
The nice guy was a pretty common insult to them too when I was growing up it messed with their testosterone so they flip it on you like you didn't notice the good guy back then you only date bad guys. Even though it's a pretty common mistakes to make when your young because they never start out bad. So how are women supposed to know what they want and be ready to be a wife at 19? That's kind of pushy and predatory of them that's not something nice guys should be doing is rushing intimacy.
Nice guys put on an act for a long time then one day they turn bad on purpose like this is of kind of flex. Chances are if I didn't like him when I was young I'm still not going to like him when I'm older women don't flip flop like that men do.
@@unicorn73212husband or even father material for her kids. The true test of bravery for a man 😂 men complain all day online about "fatherless" behavior but not enough men want to stick around and be a decent dad.
You NAILED it
I would see "husband material" as a compliment personally.
@@whatliesbeneaththeweave3518 no one thinks like this outside of the internet. Just go outside
categories of men: idiot and idiot-lite
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It’s funny but really the categories are
1. predator
2. opportunistic bystander
3. Unicorn - actual human (less than 0.005% of male population)
Calling them idiots implies they dont actually mean to hurt us. But we know that they are nothing but calculated in their interactions
“You let me use your car,” son, that’s your mommy, not your girlfriend
Emphasized by, "Well, you let me drive." I mean, dude.
his reasoning for her being a wifey😂
I been trying to tell women , to them a wife is a woman the provides resources, she will let him drive when he doesn’t have a car. She will give him her card to prevent him the embarrassment of not being able to pay. They marry the woman who is willing to pay. Men are the gold diggers.
Listening to this video made me realise why one of my friends is perennially single. She's just too smart to get with most men. She's very kind to her friends, but she is not making herself useful to men. I just realised she's a B
These men are so terrible and dumb
@@jsChelimo 4B 😅
@@jsChelimo a BAD b
Saying that women go for the top 5% of men is such a slander!
There is no such thing as _top 5% of men,_ there's no way there would be that many 🤷♀️
All men think their the top 5%.
that explains everything right there 😂@@marys2406
Hahaha
@@marys2406 dating apps say otherwise
@@marys2406 no we dont. We know our values but most of us arent ego boosted like those stupid adoctrined feminists that have unrealistic standards and ego believing theyre everything but what they actually are.
he sounds like a bum
He's a professor at Andrew Tate university
Is he seven feet tall? American women aren’t impressed
I was treated poorly in my very first relationship at age 19. I decided it would never happen to me again. I lost 80 lbs, changed my hair and fashion and morphed into a baddie. I had many options but waited until I was 28 to marry a protector, provider and problem solver. We’ve been married for several decades now and life has been amazing
I'm currently overweight to the point that it's causing me issues, but I just can't seem to lose it because the primary reason for it is still there (I overeat due to constant stress, I'm Ukrainian so you can see why). Recently by bf told me in cold blood - after I asked very politely - that we didn't have sx for 2 years because "he's not attracted to OBESE women" (mind you, I'm younger than 30 and not obese by any BMI)... I was brooding in this conversation for a week now, and this comment was exactly THE thing I needed to read, so thank you. It does sound amazing and I'm incredibly happy/proud of you! Hopefully I can pull of something similar... God knows I can't live like this anymore
When you called out his inability to explain his own categories accurately, I cackled! 🎯
It’s wild that he couldn’t even explain his own stance but it’s like they INNATELY know how to use and manipulate women so he didn’t even need to explain it in order to actually practice this mess in his own life. The majority of males are predatory by nature
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This is partly why I stopped dating men in my 30s. I think I knew all of this inherently, but I still stayed in "pick-me" mode, even with male friends for years, because I wrongly assumed those catagories were only for women actively dating men, so I thought I was "safe" from judgement. Nope. Over the years I started to realize that many men catagorize their female friends this way too. I have some male friends who are great, but I had to start pulling away from the ones I started to realize only saw me in very narrow ways.
You’ve given us so much content this week - thank you!
I’m glad you’re here for it!! Gotta archive my Tik Toks before the ban 🥲
Its funny that hes talking to his 'wife" and saying "youre wifey bc you let me use your car'' hahaha
Oh ny God I almost collapsed 😂😂 so that's all he seems her as:
: Someone who let's him walk over her
It’s ridiculously funny
That's why they say "wifey", not "wife" 👀
Kinda wife
Good catch
Wife adjacent
Right, this is why I don't trust guys who use that term. Some of them are okay, but many of them say that you're "wifey" to keep you holding onto hope
Transactional relationships are all they know
As opposed to one-sided relationships from you guys? Who would have thought?
@@puddin12dt Let me guess you're single
The calculated move on his part to put wifey on top to make her feel special… wow
They're too smooth with it-this is what gets a lot of women in trouble.
But he was comfortable enough to embarrass her by telling the internet she let him use her card on the first date. Further conditioning her to spend money on him to maintain her "wifey" position. The game is easy to spot once you know the objectives 😉
Yeah, b/c a Woman who lets a male drive her car when they first meet sounds more like a “shorty” to me.😒😒😒
I love she had to womanplain his manplaining😂 this was gold.
I hope 4B really takes hold in this country.
Okay, this video is top notch and absolutely accurate. Any man who says different is either in denial or the very small percentage of men not like this.
I have been all 4...just to experiment over the years. It started in my teens when a guy would come out of nowhere, show a lot of interest and as soon as I showed interest back, they were no longer interested. They would date me for a short while until someone else caught their eye. I was the Shorty.
Then I flipped the script. I started dating like a man. I would have a rotating circle of 3 to 5 men (I wasn't having sex with them) and we casually went on dates and hung out. These men were chasing like CRAZY. Bringing me lunch and gifts. I was the Baddie.
Then I got sick of playing and settled down with one of them. I took care of him and the house, supported him through his multiple career choices. You get it. All the while, he was online looking at the baddies, but supposedly loved and wanted to marry me. I was the Wifey.
The cycle started again. Shorty, Baddie, Wifey and now...B*tch.
This is the only way with them 🔥🔥👌👌
Being a baddie isn’t a flex, being attractive to men isn’t a flex. I am a proud B
Best break down ever🎉 hilarious how a woman explains a man better than a man😂
As a guy, it's nice to see women also having these conversations and trying to give each other insight on how people will try to take advantage of them.
Your youtube channel is on fire. hopefully, you get a lot more subs.
I appreciate that so much! Thank you so much for being here 🩷🩷🩷
Ladies, this is true, he used tell me every day how much he thinks I'm wife material, while in reality he was just using me. I cooked and cleaned, therefore freeing his time! And went 50/50 on dates, therefore saved some money in his pocket so he could use it on other girls. And also took some nice pictures of him, which he later used on his dating profile (while we were still together). So please, ladies, be less caring and don't give anything of yourself to any man.
So he was hot and you tried to be his wify even though you were a shorty? Bruh don’t take advice from women who willingly walk into the red flags, she said it herself she took nice pictures of ‘him’ she just liked him for his looks.
Wifey Material should be translated into Stepping Stone. I wish magazines had said this more back when I was growing up. They made that the ultimate goal in life ✨ marrying a man ✨ and I wish I’d never bothered reading any of them.
It’s patriarchal propaganda and brainwashing. It’s everywhere. It’s only recently that women can communicate and easily compare notes to figure out the truth about men. Relationships fuel the economy via therapy, baby stuff, Valentine’s Day, etc. so much depends on women allowing men access, so of course they push the lucrative business called “love” at women’s expense.
Notice that wifey is a diminutive of wife, it's even in the language itself lol. Never liked this word, seems a step lower than a wife and not cute at all
Your explanation and breakdown of this is immaculate! I once seen a post that said something like, "If men dont think you're a 'bitch', you're doing something wrong as a woman" 💯
if you call a man short or don't compliment his height they will go off on a rampage about how women are superficial but I've heard the same guys talk about how fat someone is, ugly etc and those same fuckers will not date tall women either but claim that women are obsessed with height. Like get real dudes. I'll start feeling bad calling you out after the years of men being petty as hell wears off.
Women do think about height I'm 6'3 and women make fun of short guys to me, also the guys on the Internet who talk about fat women, many of them would date fat women but it is important to consider, your height cannot change, be monitored or improve. So you just have to accept it.
I understand if someone is being horrible to you, you want to insult them but I feel like making fun of someone's innate physical traits is just like always really mean? It's like making fun of Elon Musk for being Autistic.
@@RecursiveENTP C'mon mate the same blokes calling Women Landwhales are not going to date obese Women as anything other than a last resort
This poor man really used what little of his braincells he possessed to make this list to appeal to other small petty men
Generally I try to avoid ragebait like this, it's just not productive or worth entertaining but it's good you're breaking it down for some women to realize that it really does come from the horse's mouth on how brain-dead their thought process is.
Ah so a wifey for him is a doormat? 🙂🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴🥴
4B ladies
4B is truth.
@@dragonfox2.058 Have some damn respect for the original movement.
@@maradjade1848 Do your research.
@@nathanmstroudfr tho
My 2 categories for men: 1) Hot/useful 2) Not hot/useless.
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@@ivanaisasi Have fun with the cats.
I have a husband, simps and animals. I can have fun with anyone actually. Salu2.
Thanks, men. For being simps 🤍
@@nathanmstroudI have a husband, simps and animals.
Mostly commenting for visibility and engagement. I'm married with a young kid and joyfully skipping into mid-life. I'm probably never gonna be a "baddie" in the generally understood sense as I am rather plain. But, I was able to start radically valuing myself and bring "baddie" energy to my life and leave "wifey" energy behind. And things got better! I learned the hard way that even a kind man can become complacent and start to take you for granted. You don't even have to be particularly "mean" to keep 'em keen. Just value yourself. Prioritize boundaries, community, health, fitness and rest.
so they dont call you a B because of your lack of character, they call you that because you’re not giving what they’re after. how selfish is their outlook. just because someone doesn’t give you smthng, doesn’t make them a B. ewwww
True. I believe most men are inherently narcissistic and getting angry over not getting what they want is narcissistic.
This is so helpful. I’ve understood for just a couple years that all men know they’re playing you and are just trying to extract value from you while pretending they actually love you, which you describe as “transactional.” I’m finally not doing 50/50 anymore and have a provider husband, but he still describes what he does for me to other people in a way that makes him look as good as possible. My husband still tries to get the most bang for his buck in social cred from the dollars he invests into me. These days, I abide by the motto, “don’t get mad, get paid.”
Cats. The Bear. 4B. 😌💅🏼
@@continuousself-improvement1879 Also dogs. And an alpaca farm. Really just any animals. A hamster will be more loyal to you than most men.
These guys are clowns. Why don't they put in the same energy into looking to make some money and stop being bums.
They aren't that smart
@@nothingbutme1150 Because everybody tells them they're worthless.
@@SamSpray-jg9hz They're probably smarter than the woman who made this video.
This is why content creators on OF are buying properties plural and expensive fancy cars plural
Making 43M in 1 year . I tell women if you are some what attractive just level up and us them for their money and build your own wealth .
@@jrmetmoi Less than 1% of the OF population.
@@nathanmstroudAnd males are still the ones financing their lifestyles. Especially married men
I used to be the wifey type. I was with someone for 8 years, and at the end of it, I was homeless, couchsurfing with friends, and 6 months after we broke up, he bought a house in his name only. He waited, instead instead of building with me. I won't ever be that again. Evrr.
50/50 means he is saving for the One and she isn't you
Girl the way you broke that down was on POINT 😂💯
I misread wifey as witchy and thought "Oh yes that sounds accurate for me." It's interesting that the wifey and baddie fit into the Madonna-wh*re dichotomy. I remember noticing that when I was a young woman thinking that you couldn't win. If you're the baddie they fancy you but they don't actually respect you and they won't marry you. If you're the wifey they will marry you, but then they'll continue to lust after the baddie. Men seem to be disgusted at women who they find the most sexually attractive. It's almost like they are disgusted at their own lust and they project that on to women.
they project their sexual shame onto women yes
They hate themselves for being dependent
My best 2024 decision is I don't want to market myself as a wifey material ever again.
Great video! Another disturbing detail is that when men categorize women they refer to them as "girls" and not different types of "women". Like you explained in the compatibility video, men will categorize you according to the amount of labor they can extract from you, that's why age is a key factor to them.
Yes, the frontal lobe argument.
This is the most valuable breakdown I've ever seen. Excellent information!
@mfisher2800 This kind of thinking will keep you single for the rest of your life even if you want a man.
So basically all of this is on the spectrum of usefulness to the man. Love how you broke this down.
That’s every relationship ever, if you don’t have any use then you’re a fucking waste man.
@@manersbams9215All of your relationships maybe... 😬
Now I understand why all married men are after me😂
You are so freaking smart omg lol. I can’t stop watching your videos. You explain things so well and in so much detail. ❤
The most important thing for women to understand is that the category each a man puts you in according to how he treats women will remain the same throughout the relationship /interaction, it will never change. That's the reason the women who rely on him changing in the future and see her differently bcos she mistakenly thinks SHE can change him always fail and left heartbroken n miserable.
The woman chooses a man she can’t manipulate for selection reasons and then tries really hard to change him, yet the man who is willing to change to form a relationship that is semi-malleable ends up being in her friend-zone until either another woman picks him or he just bows out of the game. And usually if another woman picks the guy she suddenly grows feeling for the orbiter she lost.
@@ToddMagnussonWasHere "can't manipulate" quite the projection there, I give you amber heard johnny depp - WHY did he marry her SIR?
@@ToddMagnussonWasHere friendzone is when male pretends to be a friend in order to get sex and then plays victim card when his manipulation didn't work all while woman mourns his betrayal?
Why a baddie is not wifey material? Well, because she doesn't want you but you wish she did.😂😂😂😂
The thing is: she's gonna be wifey material for a husband material man that is not you....and you know that, that's why you are just projecting.
The list can also be good but not when narcissists, psychopaths and emotionally immature men make such a list. Their list is all about ego and not true love based on compassion, vulnerability, emotional closeness. Healthy masculine men are helpers, protectors and providers.
Yes and squirrels sing to them solutions to problems. It's easy to tell who has chronic Disney brain even as an adult.
Love you, Lisa. And much love to all the ladies watching and here in the comments.
Woof. So many men are only exhausting.
That was incredibly well explained.
TLC wrote a whole song about this type of guy - it’s called no scrubs. Dude is a scrub through and through.
Wow, so succinct and clear. Like, I knew these viscerally but this just really put it in clear words.
You let me drive!!!!! 😂 ☠️
This is mandatory viewing for all women. Thank you!!
There is another category men put women in and I'm sure he intentionally left it out because he knows he'd rightfully get too much backlash, but that's the "hoe" category. I'd say that most men think a girl is this category when she thinks she's a baddie and is effectively navigating relationships for resources, but she's not actually doing so intelligently so it doesn't actually elevate her quality of life/lifestyle. so, in reality, she's just getting used and she's easily discarded once the guy gets his physical desires met from her.
I think it was cleverly disguised as “shorty” lol
@@PrincessMultiracial the reason i think this is actually a different category from a girl they would consider a shorty is that the girl i mentioned in the original comment is smart enough to not get triangulated. unlike a "shorty" she doesn't pretend to be a cool girl who is simultaneously friend-zoned and objectified (a "shorty" is still objectified but in a different way bc while guys will sleep with her, they keep it on the dl around other guys and girls). both girls are getting used But the girl who isn't a shorty gets different kinds of games played with her, mainly guys pretending that they are into really dating her when guys never pretend that much with a shorty
that's shorty, FWB cool girl
Hot take: all of those categories are 304 for men. Just different kind. Cheap, expensive, mid one, unavailable one.
Petition for wifies and baddies to start dating each other
😂😂
Whew! I was the wifey to my ex husband. All of this. He moved into my house, talked me into buying an expensive car that made him look good, and then took so much of my money in divorce. Jokes on him because while he tried to get a baddie after me he failed. No one could put up with his crap. 😂
You're the one that chose a Chad instead ofa real honest down to earth man
@@funkysawmanwright5077 If he were chad, he wouldn't be single despite having money.
What's an honest down to earth man? I'm serious where is that creature? There are always agendas with men unfortunately.
@@jessicahitchens6926 No such thing as an honest man.
This is way too much math. I’m going back to my couch and cookies. 😂
I love your channel Lisa!! So happy I found it! Love the podcast to!
This is IT, got it get it good.
They really didn’t think the women were listening over the last decade of them spewing their shit out online.
Easy solution. Stop giving these type of men a platform. Stop entertaining them. Just live your life and be happy
I hope this gets billions of views.
@@marys2406 People are not that stupid.
@@nathanmstroud shaking in your boots huh?
@elisavh7 It is pathetic to watch women genuinely think that men like me who stand up for what is actually right are afraid of lost women like this.
@elisavh7 It is genuinely pathetic to watch women like you project that fear.
@elisavh7 It is genuinely pathetic to watch women like you project that fear.
Forget everything, why would you let a stranger drive your car first time you meet? Who in their right mind does that?
A wifey apparently
Oh gross wtf.
Categorizing women AT ALL is major red flag behavior. Unbelievable.
@@Kyvax Just like categorizing men.
Obviously. But in this particular case this is about men categorizing women, it’s blatantly the title of the video. No one is dismissing women categorizing men but that isn’t the focus here.
Literally most of our human cognition is judging things. Read more.
@@nathanmstroud wah wah wah - says nathan again
@@Kyvax he just derailed you, ignore him he's unhinged
Not one lie told! BRAVA!
And yes, you are 100% correct, most women, and especially feminists, been knew about these categories.
Yeah they know immediately that’s why they test you all the time….
They know within 2-3 minutes ….
4B in 2025!
@jannspeaks1374 Have some respect for South Korea.
4 B forever
@@msher33 Look up the origins of the movement.
Yes, 4B all the way (and yes, I've done quite a bit of research on the origins and there's nothing about it that would make it disrespectful for US women to adopt it).
@bossyboots5000 Then you didn't do enough research.
I love how the auto captions wrote it as “this is a woman who is not living for the male gays” the first time around 💀2:14
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Haha
I read witchy instead of wifey and i was like, hmm ye, checks out, they're afraid of witches i guess.🤣
No punk is driving my car on the first date 🤣🤣
I’m a recovering Shorty lol, by which I mean I stopped having anything to do romantically with men and it’s been much better for me.
I’m a recovering wifey with shorty tendencies, especially with how many male friends I used to have. It’s funny being a wife and being a recovering wifey!
In school boys would rank girls in the class and that was 6 yrs ago they still do that.
Yep. We’ve had multiple incidents of this happening and being on the nightly news just within the past couple of years alone - all boys, and boys in multiple schools doing this (in Australia).
I hope 4B takes hold of the world and “The Rise of Single, Lonely Men” skyrockets further.
Notice how mostly boys did that than girls. This is why women like myself dont want to be bothered with many men to this day....
2:06 No one who needs a ride from me is going to categorize me. Sir write down job opportunities instead.
Just found out that I've always been a "wifey" or a "starter wife" 😢 really explains a lot
Doubt, a wify wouldn’t regret being a good person.
@@manersbams9215get out of here lol
@@manersbams9215they should. Wifey isn’t a compliment, they’re a pushover.
@@manersbams9215 this manipulation is so low that it's even funny
He forgot one. The star, who gets cheated on by the fan or the nanny. Just stay single ladies 😱🚩
I was targeted at a Meetup event by a creep who kept kissing my hand and rubbing my shoulders. He had a wheelchair disability so I was nice to him and entertained him because I felt sorry for him. He kept complimenting me and calling me 'wifey material' after asking if I had ADHD, Autism, Bipolar. When I answered in the negative he mentioned that all of his exes had a mental condition 🚩🚩🚩 Did he not realise that he was the common denominator in all his previous relationships and that either (a) that was his 'type' or (b) *he* drove them to mental illness? I regret letting him kiss my hand and rub my shoulders, but I thank God every chance I get that I politely refused his pushing for a date 😮 Stay safe out there ladies and learn to love your own company so that desperation won't drive you to seek out creeps and turds 😘
You dont owe strangers anything, not even your essence👂
As a disabled woman you don’t owe the anyone anything disability or not!
don't let them even touch you it's called building kino
@@MyDuckSaysFucc I saw a guy fake a disability and I saw him walking around when nobody was looking. He freaked out and never spoke to me again.
You need a wifey to help you get the baddie. Yep.
Hey girl, idk if you read these comments but i was wondering if here or on ur amazing podcast u could talk about humor. i find routinely it's men with the "edgy" or "dark" humor, even nice men. I have been getting into the habit of not laughing and explaining I don't find things funny -- but you can tell it angers them. I almost think that it is a form of power or control but I don't know how to explain it. I just am accepting being a 'kill joy' at this point because it's so common.
They focus more on the “dark” part than the “humor” part. They just aren’t funny at all
They do it for sure to FEEL this power over women. It's like I will be laughting at you and you will be laughting with me because you don't want to ruin the party, do you? Do you want to be that one person who doesn't have any distance to yourself? Why would you be so mean for him doing nothing wrong?
They need validation soooo bad and you not laughing at a corny joke means you are rejecting them in a subtle way. These men can’t take rejection! I also keep hearing men say something to the effect of “if you can make a woman laugh you can bag her” which is so insanely wrong
definitely a power thing.
Their "jokes" or "pranks" are never just that. It's about pushing limits and boundaries in saying the quiet part out loud and seeing how far can they get away with it, openly hating you and pretending "oh it wasn't for real though" if there's social pushback or disdain, trying to make you into a crazy one killjoy and them a misunderstood victim.
Unfortunately, what she’s saying is true. It’s like she’s seen my life 😩
This was a very interesting video. A good eye opener in the way men scheme.
You, Princilla, and Public offender need to be on a live panel together on youtube ❤❤❤
They're so simple minded they only have 4 categories lol
And what has your complex mindset brought you? Nothing but dissatisfaction and disappointment
@nedumnwanze4120 I have my own house, car paid off, and a job that allows me plenty of leisure time so, wrong lol 😥
@@amber7591 he played himself LOL
1 track mind, yup. Not even a dual system and this is what most males are and then very few men and good luck finding one LUL
Thank you for this video! I realized why a narcissist left me 7 years ago. I may probably be a b.i.t.c.h as I didn't want to clean and cook for him, plus too smart and independent 😅.
Ladies you heard her let’s all become baddies 😂
Nah I would rather be a btch to be honest 😂
I totally read that first line as “Witchy” 😂
New category! And that’s me
😂 same and I was like, "What?"
same lol
This reminds me of that one guy who made a whole diagram basically saying women all want rich attractive tall guys and are all wh0se and that’s literally all his videos.
The wifey is pretty much the man in the relationship
Didn't feminists want equality?
@@DaturaReapicusJonesequality is the baddie.
@bdott1538 Equality is fair treatment for men and women.
@@DaturaReapicusJones but most men don't. The comment applies to them. You get confused so easily. At least you are funny
The most accurate channel about men
The guy I was with would call me his wife all the time and after watching this I see through those calculating tactics.
I just subscribed yesterday and WOW 😮 I’m sharing your videos with my friends-married and single!!! I so appreciate that you broke this down into such a concise 9min video! And the crazy thing is I DO know this, but it wasn’t until you highlighted the differences that the 💡really came on. True understanding. I’ve long given up actually dating men because I’m a proud B i T c H and I just can’t be bothered to give up my quiet space alone. If I want romance, I’ll read a book😂
This felt like church!!!🗣
7:38 omg this wifey explanation you made makes so much sense... Luckily i got myself a good man, i pray that all good women get a good one too. Goodluck girlies 🤞
Was a wifey for a while to a failure to launch loser. I clocked the transactional nature of it all and fled. I have not entertained anyone in a long time because I’m only willing to meet someone at the finish line. Pick a B ladies and nothing in between.
I'm sorry but that's some ghetto ahh label system and philosophy and I feel sorry for everyone stuck in this mindset, man and women respectfully.
Masterful, masterful breakdown
@k8schmate This video is trash. Get an education on this.
This is a banger 💜
omg thank you so much that’s so kind 🥰🫂🙏🩷
@@yv_edit Men wanna be the Dracula guy in Van Helsing and you cannot convince me otherwise. Three hot women and he's a vampire himself.
@@Alice_Walker Shame on both of you.
@@seabreeze4559 That's because you don't actually have good relationships with men.
@yv_edit Nobody on the face of this planet should be paid for drivel like this. Your influence on women will destroy many of their lives. If you actually start to see how wrong this video is, you will regret publishing content like this deeply. Get a real education on how to build a healthy relationship and start taking the process seriously.
✨B is a woman with more power.✨
@@annadrift4 Nobody needs to be a B.
Um that was a black man lol i can’t and won’t take them seriously when it comes to dating. They don’t respect women and don’t even grow up with examples on how to properly date. I really thought this was going to be some eye opening revelation based off how the girl started the video
You have a hidden talent for writing! You should keep it hidden.
This is genius, you are so right
What woman has ever helped a male become a man and get his shit* together? I'll help you answer this, none..
Guy didn't even define the terms 💀