I would like to thank mark & Elle for giving me such a profound opportunity. Thank you to everyone who left a kind supportive comment. I have never felt such a mountain of support and I’m humbled and immensely grateful for it. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thanks for doing the interview! You articulated a thought I've had for some time about orthodox religion's fear of individuality. I've often thought this stems from a notion that people left to their own devices will somehow victimize society? I find this ironically amusing since many of these folks (whether they realize it or not) attribute to others their own anti-social thoughts, if that makes sense. Consciously or unconsciously, they presume that others will do what they would if they had the freedom to make their own choices.
You were born into a horrible experience of a CULTure shaped by those who desire control over others. I can hear the pain of the little girl who's telling this story as I type. Experiencing what you have was traumatic, luckily you are a free, beyouthefull, independent humane being capable of creating intentions, following them with actions and manifesting whatever life you intelligently desire to create.
This is one of the best interviews, you are very well spoken, it was a mix of horrifying, informative - I don't know much about these kinds of Jewish cults (I'm in New Zealand), and just respect for you.
I've been trying to get through to my family for over 10 years. They know theirs something wrong with the family but they won't try to understand and heal..instead they continue to destroy everything around them including themselves. I think that's why I feel what I feel today..I'm just sad about the fact that we will never be a connected and loving family.
A remarkable woman! How she survived such trauma, pain and suffering is almost inconceivable. And thru this interview, we've all learned a lot from her story.
Not if you work in politics, especially the current regime. I would have more confidence in kids, they haven’t gotten to be as proficient in it as the adults.
Because she’s complaining about life? She thinks that she’s the only one hated. Welcome to the real world. She’s got everything in life and she’s complaining about her past? Like is she’s the only kid that had to grow up? Please, if been poor doesn’t make you happy neither will wealth. These people are all complainers of life. She’s free to live how she likes it’s called grown up. Living in the past is not trauma it’s a decision to stay stuck in time. She’s not a black sheep she’s different ~ if her new life is better then why remember the awful past? It’s like people who still call an ex ~ my ex? Move on. Stop self victimizing especially when you’re grown up. She’s just a complainer. Hope she does what she likes, end of sadness. Hope she stops complaining. Live your life.
@@janferreiro-montes1698I agree. I don’t think the commenter you’re responding to listened to her at all, and might even be one of her siblings, or someone who grew up in a similar environment but doesn’t want to face it. I do have compassion for people who are threatened by people like Chasya, but imo, Chasya and those like her are needed and I’m so grateful to them for speaking up. 🧡
Much like the Catholic Chruch before it blew up.She is telling the truth fear and shame to control and their reputation means more,my dearest friend is 100 percent jewish and she ran away from home at 12 her brother and uncle were molesting her she became very loose as a result.There is a lot of suicide among young boys also.But you dont hear about this because they are a world unto themselves.Its a sad situation.😢
my favorite episode in a long time. her empathy and courage is palpable. “We’re punishing people for being in trauma” is profound. I’m still unlearning things I learned before I could speak.
worked with a mormon girl for a while.... man the things she told me about their traditions for young women growing up are weird as hell....like after puberty you have to tell your bishop every sexual thought u have had or everything taboo youve done basically...i imagine they dont...know i wouldnt...but still creepy af////she was fine as hell too i bet when she told the bishop he was sweating lmao
"We're punishing people for being in pain, We''re punishing people because they've had to adapt to being in situations that they didn't choose ". Her every word is wisdom 💖
"Blood is NOT thicker than water. The bonds of heart and soul are way, way stronger than the bonds of family." Amen, sister. You don't owe your family shit if all they've ever done was treat you like it.
Chasya - As a licensed clinical social worker , I will say that your story and how you speak of it , shouts of someone who has gained true self awareness , humility and insight . You are farther along that journey than u may realize ! I applaud your honesty and humility ! You speak with wisdom which can only come from someone willing to be brave enough to look at their trauma and work through it ! You are eloquent and no doubt will impact others with your story ! You are a waking example of finding purpose in your pain ! Wishing you the best on your journey for continued growth ! Stand proud
I am so interested about this young woman. I'm a 73 year old African American woman and I wish I could help this baby girl. Thank you Mark for allowing me to feel for and get to know this woman. I've enjoyed all your lessons of someone's reality that most of us have never experienced. Sweetheart I love you, I pray for you. If I could I would wrap my arms around you. Mark PLEASE gift us with another interview with this beautiful soul.
I find it funny when white ashkenazi jews believe they are Gods choosen. When original jews were by todays standards were black as was Jesus was black.
Wow. That was the most powerful ending of any SWU I've ever seen! She is so intelligent and articulate...and she has done a lot of work to get to where she is.
@@lilrabbitcuz Dogs are a product of their environment, like us in many ways. However, dogs are innocent, we are not. Just like a dog, a man will always return to his own vomit. Humans never seem to learn from their mistakes, thus history just keeps repeating itself over and over again - like a wheel within a wheel. But a dog can learn all kinds of cool stuff. A dog is loyal to his master, even if the master is abusive to that dog. I wish that mankind as a whole had a ounce of that type of character. So yeah, dogs show more love than humans.
I am a muslim and I was immensly touched by your story. You are so courageous and so smart. What make us special is only our humanity and kindness Thank you for the time I spent listening to you
with all due respect, aren't a lot of the same impure women ideologies ever-present in all Abrahamic religions, including all the sects of Islam and Christianity?
@@AJ-iu6nw More or less. In Islam women are not allowed to pray or fast but they live a normal life and whta they touch is not considered impure. All in all when you are a female you will face restrictions in all religions its just the extend that varies. We discuss about it in order to change it !
@@hanabenhassine9299 yeah .. i deffinitely know woman that prey and fast ..the discussion is how dogmatic you want to be ... there is hope .. but also not giving woman or gays same human rights as any man is simply toxic unfair and should be punishable .. there is enough room in any holy book for all !!! There is ..
She’s a lightworker! A healer! A truth speaker! a cycle breaker! You’re doing the work for this planet and it’s people you are already a healer. You could easily be a public speaker and change lives 💜💜💜💜💜 Bless your beautiful soul!!
Great choice of words: a cycle breaker. She has articulated so well that we need to break the cycle of fear so we can advance ourselves to become better people despite our shortcomings.
Yes. The body of light we wounded healers bring is so very bright. I’m grateful for the words/light she has given us. “To thank ourselves to have the courage and strength to face the pain of giving up our bandaids.” Thank you
I have watched many of these interviews, and the one I felt I would have liked the least is the one that will have the longest lasting impression. So eloquently spoken and felt. So glad therapy has helped this beautiful soul. And she found her dog, which speaks to my heart.
The unpredictable lashing out of her mother is so relatable. This element is so traumatizing in relationships of all types. Also, what she said: “if your family is not committed to healing…get away!”
@@isawallamaat711 Why or how so? I'm only about 15 minutes in. (Just passed the quote the o.p. repeated from hers.) Other than looking like a stripper/ porn person etc, which a lot of people on here as well as you tubers do; although, comparatively she's still quite conservative, she seems really credible to me. Thankfully and mercifully, it seems like she's also either had a lot of therapy or went to school/ studied how to get through what she went through. She seems very self attuned too.
@@isawallamaat711 based on what??? Great story. Sans religious affiliation (i was raised Lutheran - still with the feeling of God inside at a young age)....her story is v. similar to mine.
I loved the part where she straightens her back and says "the mother in me was born when she was born and that is when the lioness came out and that is when the courage came out ". Her whole aura changed before my eyes and I just knew she was willing to love and protect this child with her life. I roared with her at that very moment. 💗🦁
@@rhaastaa so quick to judge when there’s laws in our country - i can’t kidnap her. I didn’t leave her either she’s next to me at this very moment just can’t have her full time like Katie Holmes got Suri educate yourself before belittling victims.
It's not always so clear cut. I think she is doing the best she can for her daughter while maintaining her influence. It's s difficult thing to fight the kind of power they have. She is walking a difficult line to protect her daughter and give her choices.
@@Daughterchasya I'm Anita: It's a shame that laws aren't made to help you get your daughter out of that" Cult" and you have her all the time. My heart goes out to you and I know you must feel like your having to fight this battle alone.
She should be a motivational speaker. She spoke eloquently, she spoke through experience, her words had weight. I hope someone who took time to see/listen to this video finds hope, help & healing🙏🏼 THANK YOU CHASYA FOR SHARING YOUR LIFE❤
I'm a retired Christian pastor and I believe that religious addiction is the most damaging of all addictions. What a marvelous human being Chasya is to have overcome the ties that literally bind.
@cht2162 Thank you for recognizing religious addiction, especially coming from your profession. For those of us who grew up under that system, it is the acid that corrodes forever, long after we leave the religion.
Wow. She would make a great therapist. I can’t relate to someone who hasn’t been through things their self. I love her outlook on life. I wish her all the best.
As a therapist I agree with the previous comments. Going to therapy for years before becoming one- the best therapist were the one’s with great empathy.
The best therapists are the ones who were in these kind of situations and needed therapy to get out of it and they needed to be therapists to stay out of the bad situations. They are the good therapists.
Yeah, but I think by putting it like that, you overlook how many people go through rough things theirselves. They might not tell their patients, which could let to you thinking they didn’t experience shit, but I think that makes a good therapist. Someone who isn’t too open about their own struggles. At least, that’s how I feel abt it after 4 years of therapy and a lot of different therapists.
The best part about this woman’s truth is that it literally can be applied to a vast number of different situations and various degrees of imprisonment in other situations. She not only shared her story she offered solutions to save one’s self.
Great Job! I grew up similarly, my dad is a rabbi and I have 9 siblings. You did a great job bringing out the different types of toxic behaviors in these communities. Good luck on your Journey!
Chasya, I just want to applaud you on your self-awareness and healing journey. It’s very apparent that you have been dedicated to understanding your experience and your family. You are so inspiring!
I hope a million people watch this video. She is the epitome of bravery & the ability to understand & express herself clearly. Sending massive good vibes to her for her & her daughter.
She needs to be a professor in this area , she is so articulate, captivating, wish everyone had her sprit and understanding, strength to get out of this hideous abuse, beautiful soul.
Anyone who refers to the "DAY OF ATOINMENT" as ROSH HASHANA instead of what it truly is "YOM KIPPUR is far from being a professor of anything involving this topic! The truth is, this a personal hatred, and perhaps you have the same. I too could not stand being pinned down to rituals and yes it was Damned tough breaking away due to the harsh guilt> BUT I MADE THE CHOICE TO LEAVE! While I am happier and much more comfortable with life, it is because of me, not because of animosity toward being raised and frankly being Jewish! This poor soul has deeper issues than the rituals of faith. Her family, if she is truly representing her personal life she conveys, was raised by horrid retards, as many people of many other faiths and nationalities have gone through! Abuse is abuse THe Jewish faith is not a form of abuse!
I was raised in a less religious Jewish sect. It was exactly as she said. It is a crazy way to grow up. I broke away. I was the black sheep in our family for speaking up and breaking away. I had to deprogram myself. It takes a lot of mindfulness and gentle compassion.
@@tamararutland-mills9530 Did you go from Orthodox Jew to Christian? Did you have abusive parents like like Chasya and also have a horrible upbringing? Do you find that most of the abused Orthodox Jewish children are becoming Christian when they get older?
Mark, I’d just like to sincerely thank you for your time and efforts to capture such content from first class examples from this cruel at times and complex world we live in which is offered up to us in a way that I believe hasn’t got an ulterior motive, no hidden agenda, or for choice of a better words Bullshit inc. This is so refreshing from the rest of the media outlets. My hat goes off to you but also the honesty from interviewees. I’ve just been blown away from Chasya… such a profound and harrowing tale of her life and up bringing that she describes so emotionally that although none of us in your audience was obliviously present at the time her mother was beating her and her first husband turned into the very same person(s)and attitudes she was trying to flee I for one felt so scared for her and yet so proud of the lady and how she was looking out for her and her Daughter… I just hope and pray that this lady is blessed and gets her daughter back and lives the life she wants and so deserves…. Power to you Chasya and telling your story Pet👍👍🙏🙏 Also again keep up the good work Mark… PS I’ve not seen a bad SWU but the Mike Dowd Interviews are some of the best watches I’ve also seen ever👍👍
Dead ass. The definition of abusive manipulation. Stockholm syndrome-ish. They say respekt in prison is just another word for fear. That part was hella legit tho. And true. Hails, from NorKal USA. 🤘
She started talking and just had so much to say it was non stop She reminded me a bit of my childhood , we all walked on eggshells around my father only cause he'd just start yelling loudly out of nowhere it seemed. When he got home from Vietnam we were all just on edge and i was never calm or felt relaxed , any item dropped or hitting a wall making any sudden simple noise just brought on sudden yelling and then all of us kids would get traumatized over and over.
Thanks to Mark and Chasya for sharing her story with us. I was blown away by your strength and your wisdom, Chasya -- you're wise beyond your years. You've given me insights into my own struggles, issues I've been grappling with for years. So thank you!! God's speed to both of you... :)
PS -- I lived through much of the same insane religious manipulation that you faced. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian cult in the Midwest -- Illinois -- and spent decades trying to overcome it. It was only when I was older that I began to see it for what it was. No one should have to live through that kind of mind control.
This lady needs to start a podcast. She seems to be very smart, but most of all she is a great story teller. We all feel what she went through. She described the details of her life so well. Also she has a great voice for a podcast. Just saying...
"i know there are so many people in this world that are misunderstood and are being punished for their pain" This sentence literally sums up this entire channel for me. I believe that during the last few years I've been watching this channel, I have become more open minded, compassionate and kind. It gave me the opportunity to hear out what people from different walks of life have to say and it broadened up my horizons.
"If you can use religion as an excuse to harbor criminals, you know you have to question what your religion is." Period! This goes for a lot of religions out there. For those who use the veil of religion & yet behind closed doors they oppress & sexually violate their wives & children is sickening. Thank you for this interview. I pray she continues to speak on this topic so that others like her can feel like they also have a voice.
Religion can definitely make good people do bad things. Seems to be that many only focus on the percieved positive religion brings. Mormon church and her upbringing sound oddly similar.
" ...those who use the veil of religion " is an excellent way to frame it. I believe in the same basic Christian theology as my father claimed to. It inspires me to be kinder to others, honest and ethical. My father used it as an excuse to abuse and denigrate others believing he was somehow morally superior because god was on his side. I would say your phrase " those who use the veil of religion " is perfect.
What about governments who harbor patriotism to create criminals? America funds and supports wars all over the Middle East for its own financial and political benefits, by sending trained patriotic fools that they think they’re fighting for the ‘freedom’ of America by killing people in the Middle East! It has nothing to do with religion, you can use any form of power you’ve got to build an army of criminals and blind followers!
Chasya’s story is so compelling and she seems so lovely and empathetic. She has such great sadness and pain in her eyes. All the best to her truly ❤️❤️❤️
That was so beautiful, and she doesn’t have to be completely “OK” to help out other people and change other peoples lives. She already did that with this video 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this. It’s a common belief that people have to “have it all together” before they can have anything to say. No one has it all together, and everyone has something to say. She’s got a LOT together, anyway. Nobody’s going to be perfectly trauma free. There’s just too much trauma in the world.
My daughter sent me this video because you reminded her of me! I got my first dog at age 63 and she has allowed me to heal from terrible past abuse! You are a beautiful woman inside and out and I wish you and your daughter a beautiful life!
One of my favorite sayings is; Dear Lord please help me become the person my dog thinks I am. In other words, our dogs reflect/give therefore teach us unconditional love ❤️.
55:37 “We have a system where we are punishing people for being in pain.” ~ Chasya So very well said. Thank you for being vulnerable and empowering women through your journey. Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mom. I love your balance of being grateful for the community of faith while also pointing out it’s imperfections. You are so wise, articulate and empathetic. I wish you the very best!! ❤
As a west indian woman who grew up witnessing rituals and having rituals done to me...being immersed in religious rites...i understand her completely. I too grew up depressed realising my friends and classmates did not have to endure these things or fear the rituals but i did...thank you my Sister for your honesty
I just want to add. I was also treated like im dirty and impure when i had my period. So relatable. Its amazing how we cone from different cultures but endure the same degradation as women. Sending much love to you Sister. Thank you so much for sharing
I am not Jewish, didn’t grow up in a cult , was Loved and encouraged as a child , grew up in a totally different culture - and I cried hot tears listening to this insightful, eloquent woman. I understood and learnt a lot in in this one hour
@@e8ghtmileshigh1ok? You say it like she (an thousands of other who live like this) is lying just because you, a single person, have never met anyone living like this. Your comment as is, is pointless. If you meant that not all jewish people are as militant you should phrase it in a manner that doesn't undermine others experiences.
Chasya is by far one of my favorite interviews. Coming from a reform conversion to Judaism I find her highly interesting based on her religious upbringing but also just her as a pure beautiful soul that was not cared for, not protected, not respected by her family and community really heart breaking. Through all that she has endured and suffered the fact that she has retained some semblance of genuine faith is absolutely beautiful and profound.
God is not responsible for the acts of man. God however provides a comfort and solace for those who have suffered at the hands of man. Especially children.
@@Daughterchasya When my son was born a call was made to my mother by her sister telling her that her son and his friends were going to pay for my son's bris and party , so it would be done properly! My mother, knew as a single parent who just had 4 days of labor ending in a cesarean delivery and a baby with neurologic issues and 3 holes in his heart I wasn't going to take my baby around large groups. I had a nurse at the house 3x a week, physical therapy 3x a week, and social worker 1x a week for my son. Mind you we were using Rabbi Pearl, the same Rabbi that would've been used if I allowed her son , My cousin to pay for the Bris. My cousin had 5 girls no boys, I didn't realize at the time that the man who presents the baby to the Rabbi for bris is the G-d Parent! Needless to say I kept a small bris in my Jewish home on the 8th day of his life safely. My Aunt, My Cousin and his wife did not attend. I hold it in my heart that Family should not treat family like this. My Aunt did worse at my Brothers funeral. I saw them last Sunday which was the first time in over 3 years. I know I must forgive for myself but forget I will not. I find you and your story inspiring to those of us who are out cast from family bc we are less religious then our families. I truly believe, G-d weighs our souls my moral character, how you treat others thy neighbors and our families. I believe spirituality and G-ds love doesn't depend on how well we dovin but how we treat his children those Jewish or not, all people and creatures created by Hashem ! Thank you so much for listening it means a lot.
The more I listen to this girl the more I love her. the way she has such a holistic outlook on all the trauma she experienced in her formative years. I would love to see her publicly advocate in a forum the way Leah Remini did, about her journey with Scientology. This girl has so much strength and truth, and would help others liberate themselves.
Yeah, one of the greatest evils in the world is just quietly looked away from as millions of children are psychologically and/or physically abused in hyper-religious families. I know not all religions do this, but there are too many extreme sects out there who do, and it's insane that we _know_ it's happening and we somehow just keep on keepin' on without confronting it. I think "Freedom of Religion" is abused by parents who don't give their children any freedom at all.
Still odd for me that you twice refer to a clearly fully matured, not to mention inspirational and highly intelligent woman as a "girl" rather than a woman.
@@asdfgh123lkjhgf Dude, that sounds a bit nit-picky to me. People refer casually to men as guys and women as girls. It used to be guys and gals but I think girl took over for gal for some reason.
@@Felice_Enellen Perhaps so, I just feel we could all benefit sometimes from a little more grace in the way we think, act, speak... simple things such as refering to someone who is speaking so eloquently and thoughtfully as a "woman" rather than "a girl" might be a small step in that process. It just sounded very strange to me, i was a little suprised by it. Just my opinion, as a grown man i can't recall the last time someone refered to me as a "boy". Then again, listening to the pimps etc on here refer to woman as "bitches".. and even women refering to themselves as "bitches"...maybe i'm too far removed from this "culture", if so i'm OK with that being the case.
The way she sat up so straight when we was talking about how her courage came out when her baby was born, you can just see the pride in her. What a beautiful and courageous woman!
As a Muslim girl who’s faced every single religious trauma Chasya mentioned on some level, I feel like the men of society continues to fail women again and again. Sheikhs and Rabbis have convinced the male demographic of their religious masses that all this POWER over women is worth all the trauma it causes. I always wished that strong masculinity that modern men like Andrew Tate of today boast could be directed in really protecting the girls who fall through the cracks. Then I wouldn’t have to fight for myself all the time.
I am Christian but not in the extreme way which you are used to. I merely believe I should leave my family provide protect and always be that rock that they can fall on no matter how hard things get I will never shed a tear bc I have my family. Someday I hope to add a wife and kids to that family too and I'll be a damn loving strong father who teaches to walk with God not hide behind religion! My church is praying in the forest asking for love and peace and health for all. I hope u find a man like me he'll show u not all men are assholes darlin those are boys not men God bless!
Chasya, I can't believe I stayed focused for an entire hour but there was so much to learn from your life. I am sorry you grew up feeling hated and being abused. You're such a beautiful soul. I admire your journey. You're so full of wisdom and beauty. I thank God for your daughter as she has kept you alive to grow in wisdom to share with us. I pray for her blessed release where she will gain great freedom from a loving and growing mother. Thank you for sharing your journey. I pray we will meet again because you helped make my day lighter. Loving hugs and prayers from this Michigan grandma 🤗🙏🌹👏👏👏
i grew up in a similar orthodox jewish community. I didnt have as much of a traumatic experience but i know those who did. There are many positive aspects to that community but she highlighted the negative in a very articulate way. I hope and pray the best for her. What a great interview
Wowww. My favorite interview ever. She is magnificent. I don’t know what she does for a living, but she should be in high schools and rehabs and everywhere people need inspiration and hope. She has the ability to help people make a change. Thank you.
You are simply wonderful and wise. My story has much in common with yours. I became a therapist because of it-your insights and wisdom, your obvious sensitivity and compassion for children and women and those suffering the abuses of whatever culture they are experiencing, is profound and beautiful. I wish I knew you. I am sending you so much love, respect, and support. Your daughter is so fortunate to have such a mom. ❤
Eloquently put! People hide behind religion to justify things like sexual and physical abuse. Thank you for bringing this to light. You are a ray of light to people suffering. Thank you!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yep. I’ve always said: some of the first people on the church steps Sunday morning are the absolute worst sinners of them all. I’ve seen and heard it with my own eyes.
@@debrapaulino918 However that is different from flat-out saying they're 'justified' in religion. If virtually all religious people followed their own beliefs, then none of that would happen or be tolerated.
I go to a Jewish doctor in Brooklyn called ODA their some of the nicest people you’ll meet and they took care of my mom and her sister when they were little now their taking care of my siblings and me.. Sometimes they have holidays in the street but the one about the chicken I never understood now I understand it because you exsplained it thank you
This woman walked through the valleys and the shadows of death. She never gave up and continued to fight for her life because she knew it was worth living.
I saw this video was over an hour long and thought i was definitely not going to watch the whole thing but this was impossible to tune out of. What an amazing woman with an amazing story. Every minute was enlightening and inspiring. Good on her for keeping such a strong mind despite growing up in such a cultish environment
Chasya is an incredible storyteller. She has a great outlook on life- I learned a lot from her. Thank you, Mark, for sharing these stories and opening my mind to lives and perspectives other than my own!
Paraphrased, but SOOOOOO true: “Be careful what you turn to to numb the pain because it will become your new cruel master”. Drugs, alcohol, pornography, another abusive relationship, eating, shopping, self-harm, gambling…the list goes on. Very wise words. I wish her the best.
I really loved this video and commend this woman for being a free thinker. She wasn’t judgmental either, but spoke her truth. As a Native American woman, inter generational trauma is real! Great interview!
Amen regarding inter-generational trauma. I even initially perpetuated ultra-conservative beliefs as a parent, but my son looked so sincerely hurt when I would scold him, that he "melted" my coldness. I was a hippie before I had kids, but tried to default to traditional, old-fashioned parenting at first. I realized that love and acceptance is the only "path forward" for planet earth, let alone myself. Peace
Top 3 Best interview. The resilience, courage, and bravery she has is so mesmerizing and beautiful. Good luck on your journey I hope she gets everything she deserves ❤️
Oh, Mark, this was the most powerful, sad, beautiful, eloquent, enlightening interview you have ever, ever done. If this beautiful woman is the only voice this channel ever shares, it is completely enough. She says what everyone has said all wrapped up in that beautiful, smart, intense mind of hers. Thank you for everything you’re doing to help the world see, sometimes themselves, in each interview. Amazing work.
It is one of his best. I have still in my mind "Incest Survivor interview-Star", that was also very strong and somehow beautiful because of the power of the woman
This is the BEST interview I have watched on this channel. I can barely sit through more than 30 minutes but I listened to EVERY word she said. Please help her get set up and do occasional updates. She’s amazing!
When she started talking about the day her child was born, I felt such a strong connection with her. Such a lovely moment when you first hold your baby.
I relate to her so much. When she said she wants to grow, heal, give and continue to be humble. I encourage her to continue to learn & go back to school if she wants to. I love school and therapy with the right therapist as well! She’s so intelligent and articulate. I wish her and her daughter the best in life! God bless!!❤️
WOW WOW WOW! One of the BEST interviews I have seen on your channel. After watching Peter Santanello's RUclips channel, where he goes into these strict jewish communities, to then hear this story is like WOW. She is an amazing woman and I am so proud of her for being open and honest and sharing her story. I pray she is able to give her daughter the life she wishes she had, and that she is able to land in a career doing her life work of helping others like herself. She surely is on that path already with this interview...she will reach many. Bless you Chasya. I wish you all the best.
I only had two children, and they were really great kids, and I found that sometimes stressful. I can’t imagine having to take care of eight children, the cooking the cleaning the organizing. These moms are ultimate moms. These kids are so intelligent, but they do grow up with less social skills and without a secular education which is so important. It’s very important to learn Torah, What is children they need a well-rounded secular education as well. G-d bless her. She sounds like she is a grandchild of Holocaust survivors. Perhaps she should find a reformed congregation to join.
@@mattikarosenthal3298 no she should run as far as she can away from religion. Im Jewish and my abusive father who use to beat the hell out of me tried shoving the Jewish religion down my throat. So I ran as far as I could away from the Jewish religion and couldn’t be happier
Do you think every religious family has problems is that what you guys think you know how many families are blessed in their good families and they don’t have these problems and they have 10 kids , there such a loving peaceful family and they’re not rich..
She is a powerhouse of wisdom. To be able to relive some of the most pivotal moments of her life, uninterrupted, and with such incredible depth is quite moving. She’s fully aware of what she felt, what she experienced, and she retells it in a powerful way that allows you to feel, to understand it. Her metaphor about stewing in your own shit and conforming to it is so very true, I’m sure we can all relate in one way or another. When a video is published and it’s over an hour, I know it’ll be a great one. Thank you Mark, and thank you, Chasya. You are phenomenal!
Thanks 🥰. I needed this. Hearing you say your Mom was coerced to give birth really opened my eyes. My mom had 7 kids. When she was pregnant with me she had just been released from the hospital after having a nervous breakdown. Her body and mind could not handle what her religion said she was obligated to do. Your analogy at the end hit home-- no one ever died from crying ♥️. Much love to you.
This is beyond belief!! The interview is so good, heartfelt & she is an amazing person. She is on such a brilliant path & doing such good work on herself for her journey. Her therapist sounds wonderful & I’d say she has heard of or definitely read Gabor Mate… ‘It’s not why the addiction, but why the pain’ Another absolutely wonderful interview Mark ThankYou ever so much. 🙏🏻✨
Very much inspiring. So insightful as well. And to be so hopeful that she can improve her life and not run away from it, it's a lesson we all need to learn.
This is one of the most impactful interviews on this entire channel. What a glimpse into areas of culture we are completely blinded to. What a power house of a woman to speak up this way. Incredible!
Wow. Strength. Courage. Grace. You are healing people now. Your daughter is SO blessed to have you as her mother. If you ever need anything, please reach out. Your story has opened up a light-to all of us. The cracks are so beautiful. Satnam.
I would like to thank mark & Elle for giving me such a profound opportunity. Thank you to everyone who left a kind supportive comment. I have never felt such a mountain of support and I’m humbled and immensely grateful for it. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thanks for doing the interview! You articulated a thought I've had for some time about orthodox religion's fear of individuality. I've often thought this stems from a notion that people left to their own devices will somehow victimize society? I find this ironically amusing since many of these folks (whether they realize it or not) attribute to others their own anti-social thoughts, if that makes sense. Consciously or unconsciously, they presume that others will do what they would if they had the freedom to make their own choices.
You were born into a horrible experience of a CULTure shaped by those who desire control over others. I can hear the pain of the little girl who's telling this story as I type. Experiencing what you have was traumatic, luckily you are a free, beyouthefull, independent humane being capable of creating intentions, following them with actions and manifesting whatever life you intelligently desire to create.
This is one of the best interviews, you are very well spoken, it was a mix of horrifying, informative - I don't know much about these kinds of Jewish cults (I'm in New Zealand), and just respect for you.
You are so articulate and smart- I hope others will learn from what you have shared- I think a lot of good will come from this
“The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog.” - Mark Twain
Hahahahahah
I love my puppy 🐶 and 🐈 cat
@@davidfoster3258 Oh great ,such a great comment contribution
@user-ke8st8jc1v i mean, better than yours…
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“Kids make excuses. Adults make changes” powerful stuff. A great interview. Please write a book!
I would read that book.
That needs to be on a shirt
Your testimony is a powerful one, my dear god bless you… Believe in yourself!!!!!♥️💕💖🙏
🙌 YES
You really should write a book, it's almost certain it would be blessed by the ONE WHO HAS OBVIOUSLY CHOSEN YOU TO DO SO !!!
‘If your religion harbors criminals, you have to ask what your religion is’ -> one of the best statements ever!
"if your family is not committed to healing, get away" this moved me!
Literally sent chills down my whole body, and I clapped because I felt that in my soul.
Oh okay😌
@@TruckerNyaG same!
❤ i know how this feels oh too well. it hurts but you feel free when you break away
Me too...my family is healing and I'm so happy.
If she wrote a book, I would 100% read it. Incredible story-telling.
yes!
I bet you Mark tap that 😂
@@jerrypearce5920 An hour-long interview with a trauma survivor and that’s what you have to say?
@@laurenericks0n seriously and this is the world that destroys people
Lauren, You should read Haing Ngor's book.
“If your family isn’t committed to healing, get away.” That is it for me. Thank you. ❤️
My saying is: wish them well from far far away.
I walked away from my entire extended family 25 years ago, I couldn’t take it anymore.
It’s better to be alone 😢
I've been trying to get through to my family for over 10 years. They know theirs something wrong with the family but they won't try to understand and heal..instead they continue to destroy everything around them including themselves. I think that's why I feel what I feel today..I'm just sad about the fact that we will never be a connected and loving family.
If my parents had done anything like that to me that would be the end, no communication whatsoever. What a strong woman
Her message to her daughter lit my soul up. She’s speaking to ALL DAUGHTERS. It’s everything I want for mine.
Yeah, and she has really nice tiddays.
Good message by the way your beautiful
Love how well she articulates.Shes clearly done alot of the hard work of healing her trauma .
A remarkable woman! How she survived such trauma, pain and suffering is almost inconceivable. And thru this interview, we've all learned a lot from her story.
Educated
..yes. My thoughts too. REALLY has it together and appears to have it figured out.
Wow. "Kids make excuses, adults make changes." Amazing and I'll never forget it.
Good truism.
I took this away, also. Profound phrase.
Very profound. Very true.
Yes, I also loved hearing that.
It really stuck out, I wanted to write it down when I heard it, so it doesn't leave my mind!
Not if you work in politics, especially the current regime. I would have more confidence in kids, they haven’t gotten to be as proficient in it as the adults.
"If you really want to know better, you will."
"Kids make excuses, adults make changes."
Beautifully said, Chasya, just beautiful❣️
her transparency is outstanding...We need more from that community
Because she’s complaining about life? She thinks that she’s the only one hated. Welcome to the real world. She’s got everything in life and she’s complaining about her past? Like is she’s the only kid that had to grow up? Please, if been poor doesn’t make you happy neither will wealth. These people are all complainers of life. She’s free to live how she likes it’s called grown up. Living in the past is not trauma it’s a decision to stay stuck in time. She’s not a black sheep she’s different ~ if her new life is better then why remember the awful past? It’s like people who still call an ex ~ my ex? Move on. Stop self victimizing especially when you’re grown up. She’s just a complainer. Hope she does what she likes, end of sadness. Hope she stops complaining. Live your life.
@@anthonymartinez4307 you clearly did not understand what she said.
@@janferreiro-montes1698I agree. I don’t think the commenter you’re responding to listened to her at all, and might even be one of her siblings, or someone who grew up in a similar environment but doesn’t want to face it. I do have compassion for people who are threatened by people like Chasya, but imo, Chasya and those like her are needed and I’m so grateful to them for speaking up. 🧡
From what community?
Much like the Catholic Chruch before it blew up.She is telling the truth fear and shame to control and their reputation means more,my dearest friend is 100 percent jewish and she ran away from home at 12 her brother and uncle were molesting her she became very loose as a result.There is a lot of suicide among young boys also.But you dont hear about this because they are a world unto themselves.Its a sad situation.😢
my favorite episode in a long time. her empathy and courage is palpable. “We’re punishing people for being in trauma” is profound. I’m still unlearning things I learned before I could speak.
I could listen to her forever. She is so engaging and sensitively honest. Thanks for bringing this beautiful soul up to share her life.
"Nobody ever died from crying " WOW sister, that was beautiful and enlightening for me❤
thank you for sharing ur story
This woman is speaking some very hard and real truths about a culture that we aren’t allowed to see. Much love and respect for you and your honesty 🙏🙏
worked with a mormon girl for a while.... man the things she told me about their traditions for young women growing up are weird as hell....like after puberty you have to tell your bishop every sexual thought u have had or everything taboo youve done basically...i imagine they dont...know i wouldnt...but still creepy af////she was fine as hell too i bet when she told the bishop he was sweating lmao
This was beautiful ❤️
@@TheOpenSociety777 how can you live with a mind as monstrous as yours?
@@TheOpenSociety777 💯
@@lifehacmedia 🙏🙏
"We're punishing people for being in pain, We''re punishing people because they've had to adapt to being in situations that they didn't choose ". Her every word is wisdom 💖
Absolutely, for more on that wisdom, checkout a guy named "Gabor Maté" 👌🏿🙏🏽
@@niemrobiniemrobi8397 yes he speaks incredibly about trauma
Yes, yet we are still stuck with the majority who are ignorant.
"Blood is NOT thicker than water. The bonds of heart and soul are way, way stronger than the bonds of family." Amen, sister. You don't owe your family shit if all they've ever done was treat you like it.
The true saying is "the blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb". Very different meaning when you consider it. ❤
Truth!!!
Speaking from experience your 100% correct !
Lakewood NJ👎!! Thank you so much for sharing and God bless you for your courage!!🙏🙏🕊️
It took me nearly my whole life to figure that out.
Her insight about dogs went to my heart. Having a dog in your life is having unconditional love, they’re such an amazing gift to us.
Chasya - As a licensed clinical social worker , I will say that your story and how you speak of it , shouts of someone who has gained true self awareness , humility and insight . You are farther along that journey than u may realize ! I applaud your honesty and humility ! You speak with wisdom which can only come from someone willing to be brave enough to look at their trauma and work through it ! You are eloquent and no doubt will impact others with your story ! You are a waking example of finding purpose in your pain ! Wishing you the best on your journey for continued growth ! Stand proud
What does you being a social worker have anything to do with her?
A licensed clinical social worker is a therapist
I agree! I could relate so much with her story. I'm on my own path of healing and growing. It's a painful but well worth it, journey.
@@therealone4113 experience
Im an unlicensed human and can see that.
The wisdom! This woman has dropped sooo many life gems. Wow
Yes she did
Revelation 2:9 , John 8:44 , Acts 7:43. The synagogue of satan.
I am so interested about this young woman. I'm a 73 year old African American woman and I wish I could help this baby girl. Thank you Mark for allowing me to feel for and get to know this woman. I've enjoyed all your lessons of someone's reality that most of us have never experienced. Sweetheart I love you, I pray for you. If I could I would wrap my arms around you. Mark PLEASE gift us with another interview with this beautiful soul.
She's already emerged from her terrible circumstances.
God bless🙏❤️
Hi Casandra! I loved your comment. Hugs from Indiana.
@@bernaok1223 do u think one just emerges from terrible circumstances?
I find it funny when white ashkenazi jews believe they are Gods choosen. When original jews were by todays standards were black as was Jesus was black.
Wow. That was the most powerful ending of any SWU I've ever seen! She is so intelligent and articulate...and she has done a lot of work to get to where she is.
"Dogs show more love than humans" - There's a lot being said there. Powerful! Much Love and Blessings!
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Could it be bc humans are taught to love dogs more than humans
@@lilrabbitcuz Dogs are a product of their environment, like us in many ways. However, dogs are innocent, we are not. Just like a dog, a man will always return to his own vomit. Humans never seem to learn from their mistakes, thus history just keeps repeating itself over and over again - like a wheel within a wheel. But a dog can learn all kinds of cool stuff. A dog is loyal to his master, even if the master is abusive to that dog. I wish that mankind as a whole had a ounce of that type of character. So yeah, dogs show more love than humans.
@@טימותילורנס kind of a messed up perspective on life. Jesus will heal you just seek it out.
@@lilrabbitcuz Amen!
I am a muslim and I was immensly touched by your story. You are so courageous and so smart. What make us special is only our humanity and kindness Thank you for the time I spent listening to you
Hi I'm from California
with all due respect, aren't a lot of the same impure women ideologies ever-present in all Abrahamic religions, including all the sects of Islam and Christianity?
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@@AJ-iu6nw More or less. In Islam women are not allowed to pray or fast but they live a normal life and whta they touch is not considered impure. All in all when you are a female you will face restrictions in all religions its just the extend that varies. We discuss about it in order to change it !
@@hanabenhassine9299 yeah .. i deffinitely know woman that prey and fast ..the discussion is how dogmatic you want to be ... there is hope .. but also not giving woman or gays same human rights as any man is simply toxic unfair and should be punishable .. there is enough room in any holy book for all !!! There is ..
"If your family is not committed to healing, get away!"
Words to the wise.
She’s a lightworker! A healer! A truth speaker! a cycle breaker! You’re doing the work for this planet and it’s people you are already a healer. You could easily be a public speaker and change lives 💜💜💜💜💜 Bless your beautiful soul!!
100000%! Well said! 👏👏💯💕🙏
She is.
Great choice of words: a cycle breaker. She has articulated so well that we need to break the cycle of fear so we can advance ourselves to become better people despite our shortcomings.
yoou better avoid NEPAL
Yes. The body of light we wounded healers bring is so very bright. I’m grateful for the words/light she has given us. “To thank ourselves to have the courage and strength to face the pain of giving up our bandaids.”
Thank you
I have watched many of these interviews, and the one I felt I would have liked the least is the one that will have the longest lasting impression. So eloquently spoken and felt. So glad therapy has helped this beautiful soul. And she found her dog, which speaks to my heart.
The unpredictable lashing out of her mother is so relatable. This element is so traumatizing in relationships of all types. Also, what she said: “if your family is not committed to healing…get away!”
I think she may be lying
@@isawallamaat711 regardless, it is relatable. And who are you to say this lady is lying?
Relatable for me too!
@@isawallamaat711 Why or how so? I'm only about 15 minutes in. (Just passed the quote the o.p. repeated from hers.) Other than looking like a stripper/ porn person etc, which a lot of people on here as well as you tubers do; although, comparatively she's still quite conservative, she seems really credible to me. Thankfully and mercifully, it seems like she's also either had a lot of therapy or went to school/ studied how to get through what she went through. She seems very self attuned too.
@@isawallamaat711 based on what???
Great story. Sans religious affiliation (i was raised Lutheran - still with the feeling of God inside at a young age)....her story is v. similar to mine.
I loved the part where she straightens her back and says "the mother in me was born when she was born and that is when the lioness came out and that is when the courage came out ". Her whole aura changed before my eyes and I just knew she was willing to love and protect this child with her life. I roared with her at that very moment. 💗🦁
But yet she left her daughter in that very same cult as if she isn't subjecting her to the same torment. I call bullshit
@@rhaastaa so quick to judge when there’s laws in our country - i can’t kidnap her. I didn’t leave her either she’s next to me at this very moment just can’t have her full time like Katie Holmes got Suri educate yourself before belittling victims.
It's not always so clear cut. I think she is doing the best she can for her daughter while maintaining her influence. It's s difficult thing to fight the kind of power they have. She is walking a difficult line to protect her daughter and give her choices.
@@Daughterchasya I'm Anita: It's a shame that laws aren't made to help you get your daughter out of that" Cult" and you have her all the time. My heart goes out to you and I know you must feel like your having to fight this battle alone.
@@rhaastaait is not a cult. It is part of an ancient religion, Judaism. Not all of it is evil.
She should be a motivational speaker. She spoke eloquently, she spoke through experience, her words had weight. I hope someone who took time to see/listen to this video finds hope, help & healing🙏🏼 THANK YOU CHASYA FOR SHARING YOUR LIFE❤
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I'm a retired Christian pastor and I believe that religious addiction is the most damaging of all addictions. What a marvelous human being Chasya is to have overcome the ties that literally bind.
What do you mean “ religious addiction”?
@@earthgirl2929religions finatics
@cht2162 Thank you for recognizing religious addiction, especially coming from your profession. For those of us who grew up under that system, it is the acid that corrodes forever, long after we leave the religion.
You're a Prot heretic
you are a PROT heretic, you're not Christian you don't even know the meaning.
Wow. She would make a great therapist. I can’t relate to someone who hasn’t been through things their self. I love her outlook on life. I wish her all the best.
Yes she would
I agree. I can’t go to a therapist who just reads the DSM and has had no HARD life experiences.
As a therapist I agree with the previous comments. Going to therapy for years before becoming one- the best therapist were the one’s with great empathy.
The best therapists are the ones who were in these kind of situations and needed therapy to get out of it and they needed to be therapists to stay out of the bad situations. They are the good therapists.
Yeah, but I think by putting it like that, you overlook how many people go through rough things theirselves. They might not tell their patients, which could let to you thinking they didn’t experience shit, but I think that makes a good therapist. Someone who isn’t too open about their own struggles. At least, that’s how I feel abt it after 4 years of therapy and a lot of different therapists.
I'm so impressed by this woman. Shared her experience with insight and perspective and empathy.
Shes subtly speaking about why jews have been kicked out of 109 nation over 1030 times
The best part about this woman’s truth is that it literally can be applied to a vast number of different situations and various degrees of imprisonment in other situations. She not only shared her story she offered solutions to save one’s self.
Absolutely, sometimes you don’t pick the dog, the dog picks you. You get the dog you are meant to have. Thank you for your courage
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“We glorify lies and uglify beauty.”
Very powerful words.
Paedophiles get better treatment murderers
That’s frankists jews for you
Satanic worshipers teach that. I know of one sect that are Satanic and do far worse things.
@@kallasusort2986 ya talmudic jews?
Is that really what the Esther chayil song says? I thought that was a chanting of Proverbs 31.
Great Job! I grew up similarly, my dad is a rabbi and I have 9 siblings. You did a great job bringing out the different types of toxic behaviors in these communities. Good luck on your Journey!
Chasya, I just want to applaud you on your self-awareness and healing journey. It’s very apparent that you have been dedicated to understanding your experience and your family. You are so inspiring!
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A wonderful testimony, and expose on how seriously oppressive and damaging religious spirits can be. Than you fof your bravery Chasya!
You are a light. A healer. A poet. A living embodiment of courage and love.
I hope a million people watch this video. She is the epitome of bravery & the ability to understand & express herself clearly. Sending massive good vibes to her for her & her daughter.
Look now 🥰🥰🥰
She needs to be a professor in this area , she is so articulate, captivating, wish everyone had her sprit and understanding, strength to get out of this hideous abuse, beautiful soul.
I agree. Sociology/Anthropology of Cults
Anyone who refers to the "DAY OF ATOINMENT" as ROSH HASHANA instead of what it truly is "YOM KIPPUR is far from being a professor of anything involving this topic! The truth is, this a personal hatred, and perhaps you have the same. I too could not stand being pinned down to rituals and yes it was Damned tough breaking away due to the harsh guilt> BUT I MADE THE CHOICE TO LEAVE! While I am happier and much more comfortable with life, it is because of me, not because of animosity toward being raised and frankly being Jewish! This poor soul has deeper issues than the rituals of faith. Her family, if she is truly representing her personal life she conveys, was raised by horrid retards, as many people of many other faiths and nationalities have gone through! Abuse is abuse THe Jewish faith is not a form of abuse!
@@ED-ie3et THE KHAZARIAN MAFIA. GOES BACK TO 7TH CENTURY AD.
or give a ted talk, I cant believe how articulate she is.
Yeah you can tell she really has her head on straight by the way she dresses too!
When you talk about your dog and the unconditional love all dogs give I had the happiest cry I've ever had , thank you and may doG bless you
Hands down the best episode you’ve ever done. She is such an excellent story teller. Well done!
People have gone through horrific lives documented in this program and you see their lives as a competition of the best video??
I was raised in a less religious Jewish sect. It was exactly as she said. It is a crazy way to grow up. I broke away. I was the black sheep in our family for speaking up and breaking away. I had to deprogram myself. It takes a lot of mindfulness and gentle compassion.
Same here and so true 👍
Same here and even more true because I have accepted Christ as the true Messiah and have experienced a real change of heart. It’s wonderful.
@@tamararutland-mills9530
Did you go from Orthodox Jew to Christian?
Did you have abusive parents like like Chasya and also have a horrible upbringing?
Do you find that most of the abused Orthodox Jewish children are becoming Christian when they get older?
@@FlatironBetty
How widespread is abuse and perversion in Orthodox Judaism?
I absolutely loved this episode. She was so hurt but has emerged from it with empathy and kindness and it just radiates from her.
Like she's emerging from her sweater?
Mark, I’d just like to sincerely thank you for your time and efforts to capture such content from first class examples from this cruel at times and complex world we live in which is offered up to us in a way that I believe hasn’t got an ulterior motive, no hidden agenda, or for choice of a better words Bullshit inc. This is so refreshing from the rest of the media outlets. My hat goes off to you but also the honesty from interviewees. I’ve just been blown away from Chasya… such a profound and harrowing tale of her life and up bringing that she describes so emotionally that although none of us in your audience was obliviously present at the time her mother was beating her and her first husband turned into the very same person(s)and attitudes she was trying to flee I for one felt so scared for her and yet so proud of the lady and how she was looking out for her and her Daughter… I just hope and pray that this lady is blessed and gets her daughter back and lives the life she wants and so deserves…. Power to you Chasya and telling your story Pet👍👍🙏🙏
Also again keep up the good work Mark… PS I’ve not seen a bad SWU but the Mike Dowd Interviews are some of the best watches I’ve also seen ever👍👍
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This woman. Wow she might have one of my favorite stories I've heard in the last 2 years.
"You cannot love what you fear"
Dead ass. The definition of abusive manipulation. Stockholm syndrome-ish.
They say respekt in prison is just another word for fear.
That part was hella legit tho. And true.
Hails,
from NorKal USA.
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She started talking and just had so much to say it was non stop
She reminded me a bit of my childhood , we all walked on eggshells around my father only cause he'd just start yelling loudly out of nowhere it seemed. When he got home from Vietnam we were all just on edge and i was never calm or felt relaxed , any item dropped or hitting a wall making any sudden simple noise just brought on sudden yelling and then all of us kids would get traumatized over and over.
What a beautiful and special person. She has such a unique aura, truly an individual. I am grateful I heard her story.
I am in awe of how enlightened she is and the gift to forward the message with clarity.❤
Thanks to Mark and Chasya for sharing her story with us. I was blown away by your strength and your wisdom, Chasya -- you're wise beyond your years. You've given me insights into my own struggles, issues I've been grappling with for years. So thank you!! God's speed to both of you... :)
PS -- I lived through much of the same insane religious manipulation that you faced. I grew up in a fundamentalist Christian cult in the Midwest -- Illinois -- and spent decades trying to overcome it. It was only when I was older that I began to see it for what it was. No one should have to live through that kind of mind control.
This lady needs to start a podcast. She seems to be very smart, but most of all she is a great story teller. We all feel what she went through. She described the details of her life so well. Also she has a great voice for a podcast. Just saying...
If she went that far out, calling out her people, like the white supremist guy, her people might take her out
@@suzanarozanadana That won't happen. It's an Ultra-Orthodox community, not a mafia
@@suzanarozanadana it's not HER people anymore
I couldn’t agree more!!!! 🎙 📺
I would listen!
"i know there are so many people in this world that are misunderstood and are being punished for their pain"
This sentence literally sums up this entire channel for me. I believe that during the last few years I've been watching this channel, I have become more open minded, compassionate and kind. It gave me the opportunity to hear out what people from different walks of life have to say and it broadened up my horizons.
"If you can use religion as an excuse to harbor criminals, you know you have to question what your religion is." Period! This goes for a lot of religions out there. For those who use the veil of religion & yet behind closed doors they oppress & sexually violate their wives & children is sickening. Thank you for this interview. I pray she continues to speak on this topic so that others like her can feel like they also have a voice.
PERIOD??!!! To the pube-pool for you until you're kosher
Emotionally damaged people will do whatever it takes to release their misery and frustration and then justify it.
Religion can definitely make good people do bad things. Seems to be that many only focus on the percieved positive religion brings. Mormon church and her upbringing sound oddly similar.
" ...those who use the veil of religion " is an excellent way to frame it.
I believe in the same basic Christian theology as my father claimed to.
It inspires me to be kinder to others, honest and ethical.
My father used it as an excuse to abuse and denigrate others believing he was somehow morally superior because god was on his side.
I would say your phrase " those who use the veil of religion " is perfect.
What about governments who harbor patriotism to create criminals? America funds and supports wars all over the Middle East for its own financial and political benefits, by sending trained patriotic fools that they think they’re fighting for the ‘freedom’ of America by killing people in the Middle East! It has nothing to do with religion, you can use any form of power you’ve got to build an army of criminals and blind followers!
Easily one of the best interviews I’ve watched on this channel.
Chasya’s story is so compelling and she seems so lovely and empathetic. She has such great sadness and pain in her eyes. All the best to her truly ❤️❤️❤️
😭😭😭 😭😭😭 thank you for seeing that. I lost my city of joy.
@@Daughterchasya You’re welcome Chasya. I hope you get back your city of joy. 😘👊🏻💖❤️🔥🌹💝💘
@@Daughterchasya i saw triumph in your eyes. not sadness.
That was so beautiful, and she doesn’t have to be completely “OK” to help out other people and change other peoples lives. She already did that with this video 🙏🏽
Thank you so much for this. It’s a common belief that people have to “have it all together” before they can have anything to say. No one has it all together, and everyone has something to say. She’s got a LOT together, anyway. Nobody’s going to be perfectly trauma free. There’s just too much trauma in the world.
Amen. I Totally agree.❤️
@@sciencenotstigma9534 Well said. We need to be more accepting of people as human beings so we are free to learn from one another.👍❤️
I would like to see someone who actually has it all together or is completely ok. Were all a bit of a house of cards.
Amen, keep up the good work
My daughter sent me this video because you reminded her of me! I got my first dog at age 63 and she has allowed me to heal from terrible past abuse! You are a beautiful woman inside and out and I wish you and your daughter a beautiful life!
One of my favorite sayings is;
Dear Lord please help me become the person my dog thinks I am.
In other words, our dogs reflect/give therefore teach us unconditional love ❤️.
Really wow I would love too hear your story
This is the best interview I have listened to. Thank you for posting it.
55:37 “We have a system where we are punishing people for being in pain.” ~ Chasya
So very well said. Thank you for being vulnerable and empowering women through your journey. Your daughter is lucky to have you as her mom. I love your balance of being grateful for the community of faith while also pointing out it’s imperfections. You are so wise, articulate and empathetic. I wish you the very best!! ❤
Give me a break. 🤣
As a west indian woman who grew up witnessing rituals and having rituals done to me...being immersed in religious rites...i understand her completely. I too grew up depressed realising my friends and classmates did not have to endure these things or fear the rituals but i did...thank you my Sister for your honesty
I just want to add. I was also treated like im dirty and impure when i had my period. So relatable. Its amazing how we cone from different cultures but endure the same degradation as women. Sending much love to you Sister. Thank you so much for sharing
What religion was it?
@@TriniThinkerBelle that “period” makes no difference to me.
@@keithbrunson7190 a mixture of West African spirituality (Yoruba) and Hinduism
@@TriniThinkerBelle that’s heavy. I just learned today that having pre-marital sex is against the law in Saudi. I cannot imagine. I really can’t
I am not Jewish, didn’t grow up in a cult , was
Loved and encouraged as a child , grew up in a totally different culture - and I cried hot tears listening to this insightful, eloquent woman. I understood and learnt a lot in in this one hour
I am Jewish and this is not at all what I experienced growing up. Nor was it that of anyone I have ever met.
@@e8ghtmileshigh1ok? You say it like she (an thousands of other who live like this) is lying just because you, a single person, have never met anyone living like this.
Your comment as is, is pointless.
If you meant that not all jewish people are as militant you should phrase it in a manner that doesn't undermine others experiences.
YOU ARE ALREADY HELPING OTHERS BY SHARING YOUR STORY!!!!!!Kudos! THIS WAS AN INCREDIBLE INTERVIEW, CHASYA!!!
Chasya is by far one of my favorite interviews. Coming from a reform conversion to Judaism I find her highly interesting based on her religious upbringing but also just her as a pure beautiful soul that was not cared for, not protected, not respected by her family and community really heart breaking. Through all that she has endured and suffered the fact that she has retained some semblance of genuine faith is absolutely beautiful and profound.
i agree 100%
God is not responsible for the acts of man. God however provides a comfort and solace for those who have suffered at the hands of man. Especially children.
I am reform my aunt and cousins decided to become orthodox and we were looked down upon as not Jewish by my own family and I can't stand it!
We were never allowed to be around our modern cousins either
@@Daughterchasya When my son was born a call was made to my mother by her sister telling her that her son and his friends were going to pay for my son's bris and party , so it would be done properly! My mother, knew as a single parent who just had 4 days of labor ending in a cesarean delivery and a baby with neurologic issues and 3 holes in his heart I wasn't going to take my baby around large groups. I had a nurse at the house 3x a week, physical therapy 3x a week, and social worker 1x a week for my son. Mind you we were using Rabbi Pearl, the same Rabbi that would've been used if I allowed her son , My cousin to pay for the Bris. My cousin had 5 girls no boys, I didn't realize at the time that the man who presents the baby to the Rabbi for bris is the G-d Parent! Needless to say I kept a small bris in my Jewish home on the 8th day of his life safely. My Aunt, My Cousin and his wife did not attend. I hold it in my heart that Family should not treat family like this. My Aunt did worse at my Brothers funeral. I saw them last Sunday which was the first time in over 3 years. I know I must forgive for myself but forget I will not. I find you and your story inspiring to those of us who are out cast from family bc we are less religious then our families. I truly believe, G-d weighs our souls my moral character, how you treat others thy neighbors and our families. I believe spirituality and G-ds love doesn't depend on how well we dovin but how we treat his children those Jewish or not, all people and creatures created by Hashem ! Thank you so much for listening it means a lot.
The more I listen to this girl the more I love her. the way she has such a holistic outlook on all the trauma she experienced in her formative years. I would love to see her publicly advocate in a forum the way Leah Remini did, about her journey with Scientology. This girl has so much strength and truth, and would help others liberate themselves.
I was thinking about the same comparison too! Those two can change the world
Yeah, one of the greatest evils in the world is just quietly looked away from as millions of children are psychologically and/or physically abused in hyper-religious families. I know not all religions do this, but there are too many extreme sects out there who do, and it's insane that we _know_ it's happening and we somehow just keep on keepin' on without confronting it. I think "Freedom of Religion" is abused by parents who don't give their children any freedom at all.
Still odd for me that you twice refer to a clearly fully matured, not to mention inspirational and highly intelligent woman as a "girl" rather than a woman.
@@asdfgh123lkjhgf Dude, that sounds a bit nit-picky to me. People refer casually to men as guys and women as girls. It used to be guys and gals but I think girl took over for gal for some reason.
@@Felice_Enellen Perhaps so, I just feel we could all benefit sometimes from a little more grace in the way we think, act, speak... simple things such as refering to someone who is speaking so eloquently and thoughtfully as a "woman" rather than "a girl" might be a small step in that process. It just sounded very strange to me, i was a little suprised by it. Just my opinion, as a grown man i can't recall the last time someone refered to me as a "boy". Then again, listening to the pimps etc on here refer to woman as "bitches".. and even women refering to themselves as "bitches"...maybe i'm too far removed from this "culture", if so i'm OK with that being the case.
The way she sat up so straight when we was talking about how her courage came out when her baby was born, you can just see the pride in her. What a beautiful and courageous woman!
As a Muslim girl who’s faced every single religious trauma Chasya mentioned on some level, I feel like the men of society continues to fail women again and again. Sheikhs and Rabbis have convinced the male demographic of their religious masses that all this POWER over women is worth all the trauma it causes.
I always wished that strong masculinity that modern men like Andrew Tate of today boast could be directed in really protecting the girls who fall through the cracks. Then I wouldn’t have to fight for myself all the time.
Maybe someone other than the narcissist Andrew Tate. Maybe you could be in a life trauma bond. Seek therapy. I was in the same situation. 🙏
The problem is Religion, not men. There are men like you describe, but you seem to think they're all the same and therefore will never find them.
@@kylee2942 Religion is the solution, not the problem. Actually, religion is not the solution; Lord Jesus Christ is the solution.
Come be a Christian it’s great
I am Christian but not in the extreme way which you are used to. I merely believe I should leave my family provide protect and always be that rock that they can fall on no matter how hard things get I will never shed a tear bc I have my family. Someday I hope to add a wife and kids to that family too and I'll be a damn loving strong father who teaches to walk with God not hide behind religion! My church is praying in the forest asking for love and peace and health for all. I hope u find a man like me he'll show u not all men are assholes darlin those are boys not men God bless!
Chasya, I can't believe I stayed focused for an entire hour but there was so much to learn from your life.
I am sorry you grew up feeling hated and being abused. You're such a beautiful soul. I admire your journey. You're so full of wisdom and beauty.
I thank God for your daughter as she has kept you alive to grow in wisdom to share with us. I pray for her blessed release where she will gain great freedom from a loving and growing mother.
Thank you for sharing your journey. I pray we will meet again because you helped make my day lighter.
Loving hugs and prayers from this Michigan grandma 🤗🙏🌹👏👏👏
i grew up in a similar orthodox jewish community. I didnt have as much of a traumatic experience but i know those who did. There are many positive aspects to that community but she highlighted the negative in a very articulate way. I hope and pray the best for her. What a great interview
Wowww. My favorite interview ever. She is magnificent. I don’t know what she does for a living, but she should be in high schools and rehabs and everywhere people need inspiration and hope. She has the ability to help people make a change. Thank you.
You are simply wonderful and wise. My story has much in common with yours. I became a therapist because of it-your insights and wisdom, your obvious sensitivity and compassion for children and women and those suffering the abuses of whatever culture they are experiencing, is profound and beautiful. I wish I knew you. I am sending you so much love, respect, and support. Your daughter is so fortunate to have such a mom. ❤
Eloquently put! People hide behind religion to justify things like sexual and physical abuse. Thank you for bringing this to light. You are a ray of light to people suffering. Thank you!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yep. I’ve always said: some of the first people on the church steps Sunday morning are the absolute worst sinners of them all. I’ve seen and heard it with my own eyes.
Your avatar is literally just a picture of tits
@A J It isn't supposed to be. Isn't it stunning how pervasive it is in all religions. The reasons are all the same.
@@debrapaulino918 However that is different from flat-out saying they're 'justified' in religion. If virtually all religious people followed their own beliefs, then none of that would happen or be tolerated.
I go to a Jewish doctor in Brooklyn called ODA their some of the nicest people you’ll meet and they took care of my mom and her sister when they were little now their taking care of my siblings and me.. Sometimes they have holidays in the street but the one about the chicken I never understood now I understand it because you exsplained it thank you
This woman walked through the valleys and the shadows of death.
She never gave up and continued to fight for her life because she knew it was worth living.
I saw this video was over an hour long and thought i was definitely not going to watch the whole thing but this was impossible to tune out of. What an amazing woman with an amazing story. Every minute was enlightening and inspiring. Good on her for keeping such a strong mind despite growing up in such a cultish environment
Her honesty is so refreshing.
Chasya is an incredible storyteller. She has a great outlook on life- I learned a lot from her. Thank you, Mark, for sharing these stories and opening my mind to lives and perspectives other than my own!
WHAT I WANTED T KNOW IS WHAT DOES SHE DO FOR WORK? WHAT RELIGION IS SHE TODAY ? OR NOT?
Paraphrased, but SOOOOOO true: “Be careful what you turn to to numb the pain because it will become your new cruel master”. Drugs, alcohol, pornography, another abusive relationship, eating, shopping, self-harm, gambling…the list goes on. Very wise words. I wish her the best.
Master of puppets come to mind….
That's not a slave, but a cruel master
Yes and I turned to a few of them. Thank God for celebrate recovery or I wouldn't be here and therapy
What about people who use therapy to numb the pain
Can people become dependant on therapy and their therapist?
@@brianhanrahan7561 when I did therapy, it did not numb my pain, it brought it back to the surface so I could deal with it.
I really loved this video and commend this woman for being a free thinker. She wasn’t judgmental either, but spoke her truth. As a Native American woman, inter generational trauma is real! Great interview!
Amen regarding inter-generational trauma. I even initially perpetuated ultra-conservative beliefs as a parent, but my son looked so sincerely hurt when I would scold him, that he "melted" my coldness. I was a hippie before I had kids, but tried to default to traditional, old-fashioned parenting at first. I realized that love and acceptance is the only "path forward" for planet earth, let alone myself. Peace
@@tenbroeck1958 What a beautiful share and great reminder what the journey is about! Thank you so much for writing in to my post.❤️
@@lisachayra01 I'm glad you appreciated that. Sometimes we are afraid to share, because we imagine people attacking us, even for the past. Peace
@@tenbroeck1958 wow!!! Powerful testimony, very powerful 🙂💛👍🏾
Top 3 Best interview. The resilience, courage, and bravery she has is so mesmerizing and beautiful. Good luck on your journey I hope she gets everything she deserves ❤️
Oh, Mark, this was the most powerful, sad, beautiful, eloquent, enlightening interview you have ever, ever done. If this beautiful woman is the only voice this channel ever shares, it is completely enough. She says what everyone has said all wrapped up in that beautiful, smart, intense mind of hers. Thank you for everything you’re doing to help the world see, sometimes themselves, in each interview. Amazing work.
I couldn’t agree more
@Andy Johnson What are you talking about? Did you even watch the video?
It is one of his best. I have still in my mind "Incest Survivor interview-Star", that was also very strong and somehow beautiful because of the power of the woman
@@piotrmitrega2765 Star is a beautiful human being.
Beautifully said.👍👏👏👏❤️
This is the BEST interview I have watched on this channel.
I can barely sit through more than 30 minutes but I listened to EVERY word she said.
Please help her get set up and do occasional updates.
She’s amazing!
She radiates positive energy, I can listen to her speak for hours.
Really?
Wow! This women is so brave❤How powerful is her message, thank you!
When she started talking about the day her child was born, I felt such a strong connection with her. Such a lovely moment when you first hold your baby.
Not for everybody
Oh yes... I had 3 babies. All grown now but its INSTANT love in that moment and even before their born you love them....🤗❤️
Yes but I’m confused why her daughter is left with the father…..
@@Alexandria250 me too... ????
@@Alexandria250 me too. You can feel that way and still let a child go for various reasons.
she has such a gentle vibe, also her voice is so soft and loving, her hair is beautiful. nothing but the best to her!
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Lol
Superficial at its best...
Lmfao goofy as all hell
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I could literally listen to her forever! Her voice, her stories! OMG amazing
Chasya has such a lovely presence. One of my favourite interviews on this channel so far. 🕊❤
I relate to her so much. When she said she wants to grow, heal, give and continue to be humble. I encourage her to continue to learn & go back to school if she wants to. I love school and therapy with the right therapist as well! She’s so intelligent and articulate. I wish her and her daughter the best in life! God bless!!❤️
WOW WOW WOW! One of the BEST interviews I have seen on your channel. After watching Peter Santanello's RUclips channel, where he goes into these strict jewish communities, to then hear this story is like WOW. She is an amazing woman and I am so proud of her for being open and honest and sharing her story. I pray she is able to give her daughter the life she wishes she had, and that she is able to land in a career doing her life work of helping others like herself. She surely is on that path already with this interview...she will reach many. Bless you Chasya. I wish you all the best.
B’ruch HaShem!
I only had two children, and they were really great kids, and I found that sometimes stressful.
I can’t imagine having to take care of eight children, the cooking the cleaning the organizing. These moms are ultimate moms. These kids are so intelligent, but they do grow up with less social skills and without a secular education which is so important. It’s very important to learn Torah, What is children they need a well-rounded secular education as well. G-d bless her. She sounds like she is a grandchild of Holocaust survivors. Perhaps she should find a reformed congregation to join.
@@mattikarosenthal3298 no she should run as far as she can away from religion. Im Jewish and my abusive father who use to beat the hell out of me tried shoving the Jewish religion down my throat. So I ran as far as I could away from the Jewish religion and couldn’t be happier
Do you think every religious family has problems is that what you guys think you know how many families are blessed in their good families and they don’t have these problems and they have 10 kids , there such a loving peaceful family and they’re not rich..
@@mattikarosenthal3298 OF COURSE you defend these families rosenthal...
Thank you so much for allowing Chasya to just talk. This was beautiful. She is a gift to the world.
This one story right here has shot right through my heart! Thank you Chasya and Mark! This really did something to my soul
She is a powerhouse of wisdom. To be able to relive some of the most pivotal moments of her life, uninterrupted, and with such incredible depth is quite moving. She’s fully aware of what she felt, what she experienced, and she retells it in a powerful way that allows you to feel, to understand it. Her metaphor about stewing in your own shit and conforming to it is so very true, I’m sure we can all relate in one way or another.
When a video is published and it’s over an hour, I know it’ll be a great one. Thank you Mark, and thank you, Chasya. You are phenomenal!
She's a liar, a pathological drama queen. She's the sick one.
All the work she has done on herself to heal radiates through her story and makes you think about your own
Thanks 🥰. I needed this. Hearing you say your Mom was coerced to give birth really opened my eyes. My mom had 7 kids. When she was pregnant with me she had just been released from the hospital after having a nervous breakdown. Her body and mind could not handle what her religion said she was obligated to do. Your analogy at the end hit home-- no one ever died from crying ♥️. Much love to you.
This is beyond belief!! The interview is so good, heartfelt & she is an amazing person. She is on such a brilliant path & doing such good work on herself for her journey. Her therapist sounds wonderful & I’d say she has heard of or definitely read Gabor Mate… ‘It’s not why the addiction, but why the pain’
Another absolutely wonderful interview Mark ThankYou ever so much. 🙏🏻✨
One of the most honest and courageous interviews I have ever experienced, totally humbling and inspiring, thank you.
Very much inspiring. So insightful as well. And to be so hopeful that she can improve her life and not run away from it, it's a lesson we all need to learn.
This is one of the most impactful interviews on this entire channel. What a glimpse into areas of culture we are completely blinded to. What a power house of a woman to speak up this way. Incredible!
For me, the best interview on this channel. Such a brave, smart and beautiful lady!
Wow. Strength. Courage. Grace. You are healing people now. Your daughter is SO blessed to have you as her mother. If you ever need anything, please reach out. Your story has opened up a light-to all of us. The cracks are so beautiful. Satnam.