Five Things Not to Do When You Are Depressed
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
- In this video, author and counselor Douglas Bloch discusses five behaviors to avoid if you are going through a depressive episode.
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all i can say is think you
You are welcome.
Thank*
Nice video content! Excuse me for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you considered - Lammywalness Erase Depression Guide (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now)? It is a good one off product for beating depression fast without the normal expense. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my cooworker after a lifetime of fighting got great success with it.
That was a pretty good wordplay
Think you 😀
As for "don't isolate", in some cases socialising (with the 'wrong' people) can actually make you *more* depressed (in my personal experiences).
I agree. It’s important to choose your company wisely.
Yes it is when you around peoples with not sharing the same ideas hobbies interests, you feel confused, so it is the quality not quantity
I totally agree.
yes
@@DouglasBloch many don't have that choice (spouse, work, family) and thus isolation seems a good way of hiding and not "bothering" others who can say NO to a request for help.. Such a double edged sword
I'm 55 and have fought depression many times on and of. Positive routine getting up in the morning taking care of myself can take a huge amount of energy at the start faking it till you make it . It took about 6 months until the positive feeling caught up. It is so worth it. If you are lucky enough to find love you can climb mountains. God having a relationship is also huge for me. G LY all
When you have no friends, it's very easy to isolate. 😖
Sorry to here that. Here are some links to organizations that might have support groups in your area.
Links to NAMI and DBSA
www.nami.org/Find-Supportwww.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
You feel sorry for yourself but you do nothing to change it.
I don't think so. What you resist, persists. It has nothing to do with compassion.
@@lovemelmel your comment didn't help. Glad you aren't my friend.
Help yourself a little. It's not my job, though I gave you a hint for free. I gotta help myself, just like you do. We all do. Sitting and sulking creates depression. It's not "them", it's us. Wake up.
“..we are pack animals “......sometimes depression is a byproduct of dealing with the “group” effect. People bring problems, drama. We must learn to isolate, to recharge ourselves to health.
A certain amount of recharging is good if you then go back and connect with others afterwards.
Outlines
01-Don't self-medicate.
02-don't isolate
03-don't make big decisions
04-don't neglect your physical needs
05-don't ask your self the question "when will this end?"
That's it!
Thank you for posting this.
Nr2 unachievable for me.One of the hardest things for people with depression is the fear of judgement so they isolate.
insightful stuff eh
Candice Candice thank you.
If you are depressed and single. Dont listen to love songs.
Robert Forward Definitely!!! This is the golden rule 👍
Or watch tear jerker movies...especially the ones that are shown during Christmas.
I ain't missing you ...kills me.
I have a hard time of not listening to rebroadcasts of Casey Kasem's American Top 40 from back in the day of happier times.
I'm single
human behaviours are mostly what depress me so its healing to isolate.
Agreed
@@tiberiuskirk739 trust me. It won't help. This very perspective is part of the depression. Itself and if one continuously feeds the depression by negative patterns, it slowly just becomes worse. It might be hard at the start, but just put yourself in positions where you have to face the things you may dislike such as interacting with people etc. CBT is also a great tool for rewiring the brain into more positive outlooks and significantly lowering feelings of depression anxiety. The only thing to make sure of is to find a good psychologist, because a good one whom you can trust and feel comfortable with is what'll make the difference! Best of luck to you!
Same
Yeah, same, people make me feel like shit lol, I agree with Me Meme, but also zippeduniform because we all should find and keep the ones you can trust and like the most, so try to be ambivert. So sometimes be a little social/talk to people but then also have alone quiet time. ( Cause people can be too much too handle sometimes).
I have been accused of being anti- social, but I feel better when I' m not around people. When my 2nd wife passed away from cancer over 4 years ago, I was depressed. My family physician wanted me to go get help and have a psychiatrist give me a perscription. I thought to myself, that is BS. Instead I self medicated myself with alcohol n weed. I came out of my funk n grieving after about six months. Why let a pill take the place of all the
fun of enjoying life.
When you have a narcissistic family you have to isolate. Toxic people are not good for depression!!!
AMEN BROTHER.
I have OCD and a mild depression and my family are worsen my iliness. They are narcissistic and don't want recognize their fault
@michael mooney sad response from you. Sorry that you were treated poorly and are passing it on.
351cleavland Michael mooney was just trolling meaning that he’s even more depressed than the commentator that post his comment
You are so right.
People make me sick, hard not to isolate
I'm sorry that you havre that reaction. Hopefully, you can find someone you trust. Perhaps a family member, a friend or a counselor.
seenah it's tough, this life 😥😥😥😣😣😣😣😁😁
bruce lee how old are you Bruce?
Jane Baker he was 32 when he passed away. Oh wait, I'm thinking of the real Bruce Lee.
hahahahaha...at least i see the humor in it.
I had depression when I was a teen. I used to question everything. That got me in trouble. I used to dwell on sadness, isolation, and worthlessness. That made it worse. I had a lot of irrational ideas too. Those were my dont's. Statistically athletes never get depressed. So start jogging, walking, exercise. Hope this helps someone.
Don't cut bangs!!! Or call your Ex!!!
Nah, cut your hair super short...boy cut and go travel.
Mel Mel well yes if you go travel.
hahahaaa!
Shave your pubes. No one ever feels bad after shaving the nether regions and it's a change no one ever regrets.
@@BlckCloud73 until the razor bumps and itch wave hello
If I could do all these things I wouldn't be depressed, I'd be cured .
This video is a mind F*ck, you do realize this if you are a true decade after decade manic sufferer . this guys is bogus info..
lol!!!....very true!!!....I like your style!
Very true, glad someone knows what they are talking about, everyone says do this do that,be this be that, if I did all that it's because I wasn't I'll in the first place! I use to be the happy joker guy that all liked, now I just stay home, 9 years of depression and anxiety, and I'm SLOWLY getting better,I'm on ZOLOFT so don't know if it's the meds or just time healing itself.
NEAL JONES I know exactly what you’re saying!!!
Do what you can’t do to cure what’s causing you to not be able to do what you need to do.
I tell you wot, your not joking there!!!!........Joe king.
I have no option of support... I am my support system and being around people for very long wears me out BAD... I find comfort in being alone most times. I must add that I'm recovering from Narcissistic abuse from my ex husband, which is what set this deep episode into play...It's amazing how much damage that disorder causes.
OMG, you are so right about that disorder (and anti-social disorder--it's sister). What often makes the problem so damaging is seeing how other people are fooled by it, so that, when the attention turns to you you are the one that looks bad. Unfortunately, these individuals are often seen as righteous, self-assured, and well adjusted as their disorders allow them to be unaffected in all situations. Extremely galling!!
Oh god!!! Lol left me guess he was narcissistic because you probably were lol
I have had a wife like that . How are you doing now?
Mine is my 86 year old dad. And yes, it's definitely difficult to convey the depth of depression also when you're disabled and can't do small things to take care of yourself. I'm in my room most of the time either watching Hulu, listening to music or coloring. I think it's nice we have gurus on RUclips that try to be helpful and use textbook guidelines to offer support. Unless you've been on the bottom long enough, it takes three times extra effort to move towards the top.
Hang in there!
I only disagree with one point, I always feel much better in isolation. And I don’t consider myself a pack animal...I’m not so fond of humans
Dave Foster Being isolated helps me feel better. I hike a lot with my dog.
Dave Foster I agree,it’s sometimes exhausting pretending with people,feeling like you have to talk to feel relaxed.Give me dogs any day xxx
I'm with you on this. I do not like the majority of humans. I am NOT a pack animal. I am an animal lover, and they are who I spend time with. I love to be alone. Sometimes I can be very dangerous toward myself, but for the most part, solitude us my friend. Humans suck!!!
Feel same....but I know if I just stayed home too many days of the week I felt like crap. Since I know nature and animals help me feel better I hike the nature trials and volunteer at the local animal shelter.😁
Me too; pple cause me great worry/anxiety/ stress and problems!! Im not a pak animal but the opposite...i thrive on being alone! I cant stand my own species! much rather be in the company of animals/plants.
I love how every self help everything tells you to reach out for support. When just about all my problems stem from the fact that i have no one. What should someone like me do about that? when I have tried to connect with people but failed over and over and over, making me more and more depressed? I literally read articles about how to cope with loneliness and they always suggest to just reach out to the MILLIONS of people in your life who love you and just cannot wait to help! Wow. Not feeling anymore lonely now, thanks!
In person is best but if you don't have anyone in person then you have the entire world wide web! Facebook, discord etc have support groups that you can make lifelong friends with. Many times these groups will do more for you than any doctor. Use the tool of the internet you have
And their idea of help is criminal. The toxic meds they push and the lack of quality therapists
Hi April,
How are you doing now? Any updates since your last comment? Support groups in person or online are great and valuable. Wish you the best
😊
Having survived severe depression which lasted 10 years I realised that a way out is a mindset change - a redefinition of your life from the important pieces remaining from a shattered life and what you discover in the core of your being. Depression is spiritual fire that burned away all the trivialities in my life to make me know what is really important from what is not. In short it simplified my life and taught me Wisdom. Nowadays nothing shakes me anymore. Will be going into motivational speaking.
Can u tell how u managed to change the mindset?
Thank you! ;)
I agree, take low self-esteem-based depression for example, you have to change your mindset, rethink the way you view yourself all over again ,block all unrealistic thought patterns and be rational in giving your self criticism
@@zeleninovapolievka
Sorry I wasn't aware of your question because RUclips did not notify me. About 25'minutes ago RUclips notified me of a reply and I saw your question. My mindset changed after many years of deep meditation and reflection on life. It dawned on me that our needs are quite simple to keep body and soul properly together. It is our wants that complicate things. I realised that Simplicity is the spice of life. I have since written an ebook Surviving Depression.
@@phainhotoi2877
Yes. You got the gist of it. I formulated a constructive view of life. It is:
Life is a journey in self-discovery and development of potential and character. I also considered whatever happens to me in life - the good, the bad, and the ugly - as my unique field of training for the development of my potential and character.
If I am depressed I want to be alone, most likely napping and reading. I don't want to explain how I feel to anyone.
Never go outside in summer. Depressed People know what i mean.
But u need the sun it helps
@@lizabashkova Yup. Its Summertime Sadness Time.
Tony Soprano I feel that my depression gets worse just the thought of everyone out having fun.. wow the sadness is strong
@@Rebelz173 Mine aswell again. Its Summer. Everyones having a good time. But we depressed people wont feel any of this ''good time''. I mean i cant even Talk when im with my Family. Its just so hard to Spit some Words, because im so afraid of saying something wrong. Man i feel you.. at least we both aint alone with that problem eh?
@@Rebelz173 + irritability ..damn hot outside
I can't eat when Im depressed. I sleep a lot though.
Oversleeping is a common symptom of depression.
I can sleep for 14 hours, and still wake up tired.
That happens to me and I end up losing a bunch of weight and get accused of doing drugs because I lost weight fast .. I don't do drugs, not even antidepressants !!
I can sleep unreal hrs
Ahhh even I can't eat but my mom scolds me and then I have to ...😂
I am an introvert and single..all the people i know make me depress more .....no one to rely on....they are so needy.... no one to trust....user.....
Maybe you could join a meet up group if they have one in your area, will you get together with people who have a similar interest as you
Keep going to the snow! It is my best remedy, always makes me feel better, meet skiing people like minded. Even then it's still hard to meet/keep them around.
Find a BETTER class of people
@@DouglasBloch yes you are right.
Bright person.
@Newromantic999 that's not a good way to say to a sad person
Douglas you are such a nice, sweet, and caring person like I have never seen before. It's obvious that you have suffered a lot from depression and anxiety and don't want people to experience the same things you have. I am currently in a horrible episode of high anxiety and depression for the past 2 months or so and your videos really help ease my pain temporarily.
I’m glad that they have been helpful. Here’s a video I just made that should be very encouraging. ruclips.net/video/FEche0QQB9M/видео.html
No money, can really put you down in the dumps and leave you there.
Absolutely. Watch my video on depression and money problems.
ruclips.net/video/hmAjftS73QA/видео.html
no money yo get a job or pay exercise classes . give up trying j isolate me cos nobody cares
@@joslinjackson7537 I have a job , not enough money and no, I do not drink my pay away.
@DouglasBloch a kind and gentle voice ,
that's all we need.
Easier said than done
True, so do the best you can.
I find a good start with depression is to fight small battles first. Things you can deal with but often ignore because you think the problem is trivial and can be ignored. Clean something. Go for a walk. Avoid things that can be frustrating like video games that mask the frustration with brief highs of instant gratification (like shooters do). Eat when you should even if depression makes you not hungry even if it is just a little. It fights the physical stresses depression is hiding your subconscious still feels. B vitamins. Sleep, especially when you are supposed to. But most importantly meditate. Not be silly or goofy but meditate as in stop and think alone in silence and search out in your mind the things bothering you reach in and pull it out so it can vent and express itself (mumble , scream, groan, talk it out externally, whatever feels best) even if you can't solve it finding it and letting it out is a great release of the constant pressure one feels when depressed.
I was depressed and isolated for 8 years, but then I realized life is so short and amazing with millions of opinions, so I did rewire my mind, now I know this handicap will not have affect on my behavior and actions no more, I'm free from this black cloud five years now!!!, you can change, it's possible!!!
I am glad for your recovery. Keep it up
Please explain your name. (the beauty of me is that i'm very rich). Thank you.
@@jb108 it's a joke, trump said that on the campaign trail.
You are recovering from it for how long now ??? And did you took AD this 8 years ?.?
You appear to be a very trustworthy and sincere man, Douglas. Thank you for being that on RUclips.
Praying for anyone suffering from depression!! It’s horrid! Love ❤️
Thank you! It is debilitating…..😢
I don't workout. I definitely eat too much. I'm a little overweight. I stay up late because I don't care. I know my anxiety ruins everything
Danielle Bell same
Danielle Bell that's not anxiety dumbass smh
Agent à l'orange Lol.
Justin Mckee show some Com Passion u pos. All hail the flying spaghetti monster.
Justin Mckee Oi!!! If you don’t have something supportive to say: then keep your hateful mouth shut!
On the contrary, I feel isolation helps me heal much better than being around people
I've been suffering from depression and anxiety for about a year now. I was severely suicidal and the police was called for my own safety twice. I tried reaching out to the one person who was like a brother to me but a a got was: I can't get involved! A month later he and my landlord kicked me out without notice and made me homeless for three months!
Be careful who you reach out to!
People you trust and love can be ruthless, backstabbing bastards! 😢
Yet I still love and miss my "big brother"...
Thank you for this video.
Thank you for your feedback. Don’t lose complete faith in other people. Sometimes they can be Lifesavers
I actually think the most important advice to give to someone with depression is not to tell them what NOT to do, but what TO do: try to be gentle with yourself, know that everything in life changes even if it's hard to believe, know that depression is the greatest liar there is, and know that to suffer from it in no way signals a weakness in yourself.
I have taken your advice and made a video on what TO DO when faced with depression. Here it is. There is also a Part 2
ruclips.net/video/oSu6CD1Hbn4/видео.html
Depression is a symptom not a disease. Trying to cure depression is like trying to cure pain.
What you "need" is to figure out the source of that pain.
Taking anti-depressants can help you with that but don't rely on them, and don't stop seeking the cause of your pain because of a temporary relief.
Relying on anti-depressants long term is like taking pain killers while having a spike through your stomach, and not doing anything about it because the drugs make the pain go away, eventually that spike will kill you. So find out why and fix that.
Sometimes much of that pain is due to childhood trauma.
kk346592 well said thanks.
kk346592 Not everything can be "fixed".
kk346592
👍🏻❤️🙏🏻
Thanks
I combine being in nature with exercise.
I confirm, it heals
Nature and exercise will only get you so far. Jesus is the one and only true healer.
@@mareksumguy1887 true...
Thank you very much for making this video. I have saved it to my ‘important’ playlist so I can always watch it again whenever I need to. Your insight, wisdom and compassion are truly a gift to this world. Bless you, Douglas
I totally get the not to isolate point. I may start a day in a fog, but even going to the local shops helps change my mood for the better. We may feel like isolating because we may not want to talk about it with others, so then to do something around people where you don't have to express yourself can be a catalyst to open up later. Sometimes we just need benign interaction.
Good point.
I do not agree with "dont take big decisions". Sometimes the reason people are depressed are because they're stuck in life, not moving forward or just miserable and need to get out and learn things and take risks. So I am all for someone taking big decisions while depressed. If it's a mistake, then they will learn from that mistake. If not, thats great!
For some people the depression will never go away unless they make big changes.
I understand what you are saying. But little changes made over time also result in big changes. And during depression, the depressed person's judgment is impaired, so that he or she does not see things clearly. For example, many depressed people think that "I will never get better." But every rule has its exceptions. So if you are in an abusive relationship while depressed, it is probably a good idea to move on.
True that.
The decision to get TFO of the situation that is keeping you down is always a good decision to make. And it is seldom accomplished by taking baby steps because those will just alert people to drag you right back to square one.
Staying because it's such a big decision is a whole other problem called "staying in your 'comfort' zone".
Specificness and context are really important here.
Psycho Killer v good point. I read that depressed people make more realistic decisions
When I have been in a major depressive episode there is no way I can make a big decision it would be impossible, as I just shut down. If on the other hand you mean people who are fed up or sad with something in their life that is different, they could make decisions.
Great comment. Thanks
my 5 lists#NOT2DO......
1.watching too much tv
2.procrastinate
3.ruminating about the past
4.shop-therapy
5.Don'tCommitSuicide!!!!!!!!!!!
Chengfu Saechao people still watch tv now a days? Hmm interesting
@@yuu5974 Netflix RUclips Facebook.
3. Nostalgia and regret for the past are my biggest weakness, I cannot stop. It definitely is making me ill.
Failed 2, does 1 include RUclips if so I’m failing 2
Chengfu Saechao now, shop therapy? I suck at that if depressed. It's when I get severely depressed, I then reconsider & plan2 donate or sell many things but am2 depressed2 & isolate instead!!!
May u be & cont 2be well & prosper! :)
You may be emphatic . The hardest thing to do is go outdoors. The best thing to do is go outdoors. Have courage. Keep your head up. Don't look people in the eye. Squint if you have to.
After suffering with depression I understand why people turn to drugs. This feeling is horrible and I have a new outlook on addicts and people who self medicate. Life is hard and if something can help make life more tolerable then so be it.
Reaching out to others, answering phone calls, and avoiding isolation requires that a person have other people in their lives. I've has Asperger's for my entire life, but only learned about it recently, just before my 53rd birthday. Personal relationships are nearly impossible to build. The few that I do build are accidental and do not last long.
Most of my life has been spent in isolation, so it's nothing new for me. I do not recommend it.
Actually, I have Aspergers. For the first 20 years of my life I was extremely shy and introverted. But I force myself to go up and talk to people until I felt comfortable. Perhaps you could meet people around a common interest. For me it was chess. Also go to meetup.com and you might find some support groups for people with Aspergers. Do you have any relatives?
I find it hard not to isolate because it is the only time I feel content. Human interaction with strangers, people I have not much in common with or crowds will leave me empty drained and depressed in minutes and I hate every minute of it. Human social behaviour has no appeal to me. The only way I can recover from such a situation is a significant amount of alone time, a view uninterrupted dais at least. I don't mind the presence of people like my parents who coexist in the same dwelling as I do. They are like a pot plant, they are present but don't bother me, they respect my introversion. I don't like to leave home more than once a week preferably less. I have a large territorial bubble and when people step inside my territorial bubble if feel uncomfortable and tense.
sounds like you are an introvert.
Yes I have always been heavily introverted.
I joined a local AA group and group support is a real boost to my mood. Not being judged, being able to listen and talk always reduces my anxiety. Helps me stop isolating and medicating.
You have done a very good thing for yourself. Keep it up. Many of my friends with depression also go to AA
You know the mechanism inside out! You could've been specifically describing me! Thanks for putting this up. These are things which deep down I already know but having them confirmed so precisely just nailed it!
You are welcome
I'd have a tough time because at home I don't act or look depressed so I don't think they'd believe me. I want help. I've been empty. For 3 years. No friends. I do bad in school. :(
Danielle Bell well if you need a friend we could chat I don't have many friends my self so we could both probably benefit
Danielle Bell sure
Ashly Bloom what
I agree. Depression is an invisible disease, so people do not know how serious it is. Try to locate a counselor you can talk to. Maybe there is one at your school.
Danielle Bell god bless you dear
I'm 56 I have had 12 jobs in the last year, keep trying things to make me feel better. I do not have one single friend. No insurance and even if I did they don't cover phylogenetic disease. I have been thinking more and often of ending my life. I just cannot take the constant struggle anymore.
David Leimkuehler hi David trust in even watching this video will bring you comfort and hope
David, I am sorry that you are so discouraged. I have been there many times. But I want to let you know that things can get better. I have made a number of videos on suicide prevention for this channel. Here is one of them.
ruclips.net/video/qfknfbnSM4w/видео.html
Please feel free to email me at douglasbloch@gmail.com and I will get back to you. Also, click on these two links and see if you can find s NAMI affiliate or a DBSA support group in your area.
Links to NAMI and DBSA
www.nami.org/Find-Support
www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
Hang in there.As I tell my clients, "What goes down must come up."
I forgot to mention that if you need to talk with somebody, call 1-800-273-8255, and they will talk with you as long as you need. The line is open 24 hours a day. Sharing your story with another person can be very helpful.
David Leimkuehler, mr. Dave I'm not sure what the phylogenesis is and maybe I'm wrong in recommending this but you should try CBD oil which is a derivative of the male marijuana plant and it does not get you high, and or medical cannabis!! I've already added a public comment hopefully you will find it because it will provide proof of the neurological balance that it brings to the human body!!! it also brings about homeostasis in the body which is a neurological and a physiological balance bless you my friend!!!!☮️
i drive a school bus and there many other drivers i see every day in the meeting room in the morning to get our assignments i dread it because its hard for me to function because of depression somehow i get through it, i just like being alone i don't have to deal with people but i'm an outgoing person and its very frustrating but i keep going and don't give up, i'm 68 a vegan and exercise helps and i have two beautiful cats i love very much, get yourself a companion a cat or dog there very loving and loyal and are really your best friend take care!
I'm a physician and struggled with depression all of my life . My mantras are :
1 no alcohol
2 no caffeine
3 walk / spin bike when feeling terrible
4 plenty of fluids when you dont feel like eating
5 talk to family about it
6 surrender yourself to people who can help you .
I saw a patient who once told me that having chemo was easier than depression . Stick in there everyone . There is no quick fix . Stick to a process even know you dont believe it will work . It takes time and you will struggle but when going through hell , dont stop
Thanks for Sharing your excellent coping strategies
why no caffiene?
Thank you so much! Your compassionate voice really made me feel better and really I felt that you wanted to get these five things in to my head.
Your channel has been a blessing to me. Thank you!! Anxiety and depression is so real right now in my life. I have highs and lows and I wonder if I will ever recover. I try myself to get into a positive mindset even if I’m feeling horrible on a specific day. It’s never easy. I do small things that can give me some joy and it usually helps out. Thanks again!!
You are doing what you need to do to hang in there until the nature of your illness "repatterns." You will recovery. Check out my video called "A reason for hope during hard times."
I have found that people don't want to support me and that makes it worse. I've even hoped as I get worse someone would care enough to help.
I'm sorry you are having a hard time finding supportive. You might want to join a support group. Call you local NAMI chapter to find on. go to www.nami.org
I believe it's not true that no one wants to support you. Be positive! People might try to help in one way or another. If you need to be listened to, I'll be here. I'm neither a psychologist, doctor nor therapist. I'm talking like a mate going through the same struggle with depression. Hope that helps you to feel less lonely.
cindyasters reach out to someone!!!! 🤗🤗🤗🤗😁😁😁😁
Nami may not work, but you can try it,
I thought they were very very thoughtless, some there wayyy more than depressed!!▪ 😥😥😥😥😨😨😨😨😨😨😩😩😩😝😝😝 just sayin..
Shanti Shanti I totally agreed with your comment
, and understand what you mean shanti!!! Thanks for sharing about your experience with us!! GBU-- 😣😣😣😢😢😢😢😢☹☹
I love you, Doug. Thank you for taking the time and energy to provide these wonderful videos.
Thanks
I have no choice but to isolate and deal with my self I feel that I'm able to hold my own for now. I just don't fit into society all I have to depend on is my self and I'm the only one who can save me and I will
There are people you can meet who are like you and also suffer from depression/anxiety. Here are the links to two mental health organizations that may provide support groups where you live. Click on the link to your state, and you may find some groups.
Links to NAMI and DBSA www.nami.org/Find-Support
www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
this reminds me of a good pastor thank u sir for turning your mysery into a ministry!
+Win The World you're quite welcome
For me, being alone is normal - I'm an introvert and enjoy the solitude...however, even though I'm not comfortable with it, I am taking a risk and going to individual and group therapy at the VA. I'm not totally comfortable there, and I complain to myself while driving there, but I am usually glad I went. I just prefer to do my own thing. Thanks for the video...
Joe Chuckles i was the same for a very long time!i loved being alone and doing my own thing however I though to myself that do I truly want to be isolated all my life and the answer was no!.it took some time to get out of my comport zone but now I’ve learnt to have the best of both worlds where I can still have lots of my own time but interact also with others once I found the right people to do so!.
Well done sir. Through trial and error, and years of being miserable, I figured the steps out over the years on my own.
I have been self medicating, isolating myself. I am grateful for this video.
Don't isolate? That may be true for extroverts. But if you are an introvert, then you need pure solitude to heal from depression.
I_Dont_Eat_My_Friends Seems an extreme idea to me
Even introverts need social interaction.
Trance Vocals 99% of the time we get too much social interaction.
I agree. Go sit in nature.
If that's true for you, then you probably have more anxiety than depression. We get depressed because of the things we don't express. You need to express yourself to others in order to heal. But I get it, after I'm around too many people I get anxious and then I'm more vulnerable to fall into the stinking depression. Will refuse to go out to experience that terrible anxiety, but then I get depressed because I feel lonely. It's such a sucky paradox.
Everyone’s situation is different. There are no guarantees.
I'm a graduate student in clinical psychology with a history of mdd much like you. I think being a wounded healer, thus, learning from experience is better for you and the clients than learning solely from literature and supervision. Love your to-the-point, no-nonsense attitude, and the book recommendations. Thank you!
Thank you. I’m sure that your experience with depression will make you a more compassionate and effective psychologist.
Yesterday I felt so bad. I could literally feel the brain activity of depression raging in the top of my head. So awful, no wonder people do themselves in. Damn!
Keep persevering. Things can get better. Are you seeing a mental health professional?
i can't say what i really wanna say or explain, cuz nobody understands me. Most of the time , wherever i go people always hate me even though i' have not done anything. it's like, i have a spell on me or a curse. i just can't explain it. i've already tried to change my behaviour several times in my life. sometimes i feel like, people are not capable to undestand when you are just being polite and kind, they usaully confuse this with silliness, and see in these moments a great oportunity to take advantage of you. i'm conviced that there are lots of people who can relate to every single word that i'm saying.
+ I would suggest seeing a therapist to talk about these feelings. I get therapist will be unconditionally supportive.marboni
@@DouglasBloch first of all, thank you Douglas for your kind attention.. I have to add that it's not merely an impression , it's a fact in my life. I always get the people's attention in a negative way. all the problems start when people arround me begin to run away from me as if i was somehow contagious coz there's always gossip about me. sometimes it starts, i guess, when i kinda don't match other people's expectations. in my point of view there are just two ways to get rid of this horrible sensations: avoiding people or accepting to be treated like a shit. sorry about the rude language, but there's nothing more appropriated than that word.
@@marboni1579 Maybe there is a curse on your life. Seek Jesus.
Good advice, but I struggle to get through each day.
Yes, it is a struggle, a worthily struggle. The episode will pass.
@@DouglasBloch my episode lasts 30 years now.
I can feel your concern for others and your quest for educating , saving many of us for ho feels so lonely and depressed. ❤️❤️❤️
Douglas, I thank you so very much for the decision that you made years ago... continue living and make a difference to all of us who struggle with depression & others Mental Health. I love your channel. You’re an angel. A warrior. Depression is a hard place to come out of. You’re so helpful and caring. You’re a hero in my eyes. God bless you always. I’m thankful for you everyday. You not only are book educated, knowledgeable BUT you lived , witness and felt every pain and rejection that comes with depression. Your purpose in this world “ Save lives” you’re my Hero. Love all your work. Please don’t stop, as you’re the Maestro in this phenomenon of Depression & Mental Health stigma. Love & ☮️✌️🐝♥️🙏
Thank you for your kind words. What part of the country do you live in?. In terms of saving lives my new quest to do that history my new website which is going live on Friday, November 20. It is called survivingsuicidalpain.com I am going to publish a video on Saturday that will announce the site
I love all the advice u give ❤️
When am depressed I want to be with my family being along depressed me more
Seriously, thank you for this. This is exactly what I needed. You come across as so genuine, thank you.
You are welcome.
Great video! I needed to watch this again as a reminder what not to do.
We live in a loveless world! fix that
It is true that social isolation is a really problem in our society.
Just one line but sums up why this world sucks
It's a simulation a testing ground. Look into flat earth it's true and there's a dome over your head. We are run by satanists. No wonder your depressed!
LOVE
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No one on earth can fulfil our emense desire and NEED for
L. O. V. E.
We are Created e.t.e.r.n.a.l. Beings
We Hunger for
E. T. E. R. N. A. L.
T. R. U. E. (pure, never harm us)
L. O. V. E.
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This is The Only L. O. V. E. that
Satisfies us.
Only GOD IS & Has That
L. O. V. E.
most never recognize this fact as we search for "what Our hearts want" when
So says The BIBLE.
GOD Loves us more than we'll ever know - we must go through JESUS to get to HIM. Bc HE is
H. O. L. Y.
we must be H. O. L. Y.
or our filth would mess up Heaven
(just as it has the earth)
BUT!
Q. What can wash away my sin?
A. Nothing but The Blood Of JESUS.
Q. What can male me whole again?
A. Nothing but The BLOOD OF JESUS.
♡ call on The LORD to save you from sin.**
Then follow HIM on to Heaven...all your days here on earth spend for HIM. ♡
You will find LOVE like you've never ever imagined.
L. O. V. E. Lives in Heaven.
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** I did.
It's the best thing I ever did.
i notice that,im battle for depression for almost 20 years but see im still alive
I'm only 16 I had a great life and boom and it all came crashing down I don't know what to do anymore my mom had the same thing but she just takes meds and doesn't seem very supportive
I'm sorry that you are in a depressive episode. Fortunately, depression is a treatable condition. I would start by talking with a school counselor. In addition, you could ask you parents to make an appointment for you with a child psychologist, child psychiatrist, or social worker who specializes in working with adolescents. Depending on how severe the depression is, you may need to take medication, if you are open to that. My main point is that if you reach out for support you will get help, and with treatment you can return to the life you had before.
Douglas Bloch thank you for responding and yes I'll try to to talk to my parents to go somewhere and get help but I just don't want to have to take medication
You don't have take medication. You can wait and see if the other strategies do the trick. Here is a video I made about the many ways to treat depression besides medication.www.healingfromdepression.com/treating-depression-holistically.htm
Douglas Bloch stay well my friend. Your post helps me so much. Since I've been released from the hospital (which was a nightmare), your page has made me feel as if I'm not alone.
You are welcome. And you are not alone. You should come to my live chat this Sunday, September 2, at noon Pacific Coast Channel. You will meet other people in your situation. Just show up at the home page of my channel and you will see a link.
@@DouglasBloch thank you I will
Great video Doug. I always return to your channel when I need positive guidance.
I'm glad the videos are helpful.
1 Don't self-medicate
2 Don't isolate
3 Don't make any big decisions
4 Don't neglect your physical needs
5 Don't ask the question when this will end
You are welcome.
You got it down.
Siyabonga thats We thank you in isiZulu
That's why I scroll down saves time thanks lol
that's practical
One day at a time! Best advice
More than half of these I didn’t know about, and now they just seem so obvious. You did a Great job with elaborating on all of them.
Thanks
Very good video. This is the second time I watched it and it helps. My depression is a bit complex so I rely in help from every branch I can grab whilst I fall. So thank you 🙏🏼
I had a major depressive episode now i m on treatment and recovering this videos help me lots....
Thanks...💐
You are most welcome.
Keep it up! I hope you're doing well. :-)
I am depressed and crazy thoughts go thru my mind ..Thru out the day ...I swear if it wasn't for my daughter and wife I would check out and get read of all the pain and stress..
It's a good thing you have your wife and daughter as a reason to live. You can get treated for depression and get better.
Try cold showers and don't watch porn. This has helped me a lot.
🙈 I’m having trouble with isolating & not wanting to face the world. I need to focus on little goals. I wasn’t sure why I was isolating and not wanting to go out...I’m struggling with depression so it’s comforting knowing I’m not alone and people tend to do that.
I've heard that trying to help others and focusing on their needs can be therapeutic. I focus on the fact that if this was my last day on earth what would I miss? What's the worst that can happen today? How can I spend my time doing something wonderful for someone? I'll focus on a short time frame and try and accomplish a goal I know I can handle. Sometimes our everyday activities, things we have to do and get done can seem so heavy but if we actually push ourselves to just do one of those things it can really make you feel so much better, a great sense of relief, and you'll find it easier to do more! It really works.
Hi Douglas,I really hope things are improving for you.. My psychiatrist says I have depression with anxiety and depersonalisation at the moment. The depersonalisation is torture, things have been like this since January its awful, I don't recognise myself in the mirror.. Today I've been feeling so down as I'm gettin no relief. My meds have been increased back up, I'm just finding it hard to be hopeful that im going to get out of this, even though I did last time, I'm crying all the time.. Nothing I'm doing at the moment is easing it.. I'm sticking to regular sleep pattern, eating healthy, family support, walking, talking to community mental health nurse and will be starting cbt soon.. I'm just feeling so ill I'm losing hope...
karen smith I hope you're feeling better. xo
Karen, I know what you mean about the depersonalisation. Been a year of challenges, keep fighting.
Karen, how are you doing now a year later ?
karen smith I have never suffer from anything like that ALL THANKS TO GOD
I can't even Imagine how this might be like to LIVE like this everyday ..
I can honestly say the key Is GOD REACHING OUT TO HIM PRAYING HAVING HOPE AND FAITH GOD WILL HELP YOU .. FINDING A LOCAL CHURCH LISTENING TO GOD'S SONGS MY FAVORITE RADIO STATION IS KLOVE READING HIS WORD IS THE BEST MEDICINE FOR EVERYTHING .. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND I PRAY YOU GET BETTER SOON THE GOD WILL HEALED YOU
I had a spiritual healing through prayer during one of my episodes. So, prayer is a good thing. In addition, haven you ever thought of trying ECT? That is what healed me in my next episode.
I definitely isolate myself. I never ask for help. At school I don't ask for help if I'm struggling with work. I don't try to find people to sit with at lunch. I don't try to talk to people because I know I can't. :( I try to talk to someone I sweat again. I hate school.
maybe you are an Empath.
God bless you.
This has helped me. Been really struggling. Thank you.
Bless you Mr Bloch. Thanks.
i actually find that..some form of isolation can help...eg: if i know i cant bear sound and light or agitation then i will cut my level of stimulation down..instead of normally goin to the hight st mall..i will go to the nearest/and most quiet coffee shop possible..and sit away from noise..at least it means i am still out in society..but on my terms and hopefully that will help with contact with others and not lead to agoraphobia
Number 4.
I found trying different types of exercise helped and continues to help better than anything.
Weights helped me followed when I'd put muscle on by cardio to strip my fat. It gave me focus, set achievable goals and everything improved. I slept much better, was forced to eat healthier and had a "good" type of energy quite different and more pleasant than my usual tiring anxious energy.
I discovered that the most intimidating kind of gym, the backstreet hard-core spit and sawdust type, was paradoxically friendlier. No one judges if you're learning and trying. Better than the expensive poseur/hook up palaces in my personal opinion.
Great feedback. Keep up the good work.
Thrn ur not deprrssed. Because i cant leave my room for days
God bless this man. He's so on point!!!! Truth!!
fabulous advice thank you for such concise brief yet powerful message. brilliant!
People will always self medicate...and isolate that's what depression does!!...
Precisely. And that is why we have to find against the tendency to do those things and find substitute behaviors.
i think the whole world is really fighting depression one way or another and there is always some know it all who thinks they can fix evrything, of course you will isolate if depressed as you say that is what depression is, i force to do many many things, but at my deep core my personality is that of an anxcious depressed person, when you feel depressed you dont have the energy to be with people, follow your animal instinct if you feel like being alone be alone to force yourself to be with others when you do not wish to be will make you just more anxcious, its called taking time out
I hate everything, how about that?
I'm sorry you are in pain.
I mean is that also a mental illness? Can it be cured?
@@netizen6958 I HATE DONALDO TRUMPU grrrrr
Thank you, these videos do help tremendously. I feel a support that I have had a problem on trying to get from anyone and hearing positive individuals reaching out in assisting others with advice in similar illnesses is unique. God Bless
You’re welcome. I hope you explore the other videos on the channel
Thank you Douglas. I mean it from the heart. I have been depressed of and on for the past 2 years over turning down a job (that I felt I should have accepted and then discovered a colleague of mine had since taken on that role). I have since re-grouped, corrected that mistake and found another role (currently in my resignation period) and moving forward. I still have had the odd bouts coming out of this depression but your vids have really helped me. Thanks again - I can't thank you enough
You’re welcome. I’m glad you have found them helpful.
Thank you for your advices,Dr.Bloch...I realised ,I do all of those things,except self-mediacation ..I just put aside my decision to marry for better times..(still hope they come ...maybe..?) I lost my mom two years ago,live with my old father with Alzheimer disease and trust me,is very easy to be isolated,neglect my physical needs and ask myself :"When it will be over finally? " I am 47 ,but feel 77 or sometimes even more..
I am sorry you are in pain. Here is a video I did to answer the question, "When will it be over."
ruclips.net/video/hqe49aM1x3k/видео.html
Many thanks,Dr. Bloch!
Your not alone. I am 40 and had to move back in with my parents, father had massive stroke and mother has mild case of Alzheimers and both are in their mid 70s. I am married with no kids, my wife is also sick all of the time and cant work. Ive been out of work for nearly a year now, taking care of my father trying to get him to walk again after a complex surgery (and he is walking again now finally, with a cane). With doctors appts every other day, and neither one of them drives I have to be the one to help them most of the time. We have both been living here for awhile now. My mother is mean to us, has a really bad temper and blows up for nothing and loves to stand out on the porch yelling at us for no reason in front of the neighbors, making us look like horrible people when we have done more than most people would to help them. The doctors appts are not as many now, so I am going back to work again and going to get us out of here soon I hope. My wife and I just cant take it anymore, but we cant move far because someone will have to check on them at least every other day. My depression has reached its all time high as of right now.
I need weed to lift my spirits and mood, when needed. I live alone, retired. Food is my enemy. It won’t end, had this 35 years!
Thanks Doug, your sage advice means a lot! 👍🏻
You’re welcome
great practical advice ,thankyou.
Being isolated is what saved me from killing people. Give me an xbox a joint and a shot of whiskey and I will make it through the day. Plus my cat loves me. LOL!
I have a suspicion that the isolation that comes with depression is exactly for that purpose--an evolved survival strategy, directly related to not killing other members of the tribe.
Yes!! Especially the first one. Self medicating is a double edged sword and never actually gets us on the path to really heal,it's a temporary way to cope and it can easily transform into addiction.
As someone who's used alcohol to self medicate I've found out it makes depression even worse after its effect it's gone. The price you pay to be carefree for a few hours is too high and your problems remain unsolved.
To everyone struggling out there, i know it's easier said than done but try to replace harmful ways of coping with something you can actually benefit from! And by all means share with your loved ones/seek professional help. No one should be going through times like such alone!
Very helpful and uplifting content! Thank you Mr. Bloch!
+ i’m glad you enjoyed what I said. Just so happens that that either this Thursday, March 15 or Monday, March 19. I’m going to be interviewing someone who is an alcoholic and is also struggling with depression. Christie Rv
Douglas Bloch is the interview going to be uploaded? Either way a big thank you for all the effort you put into making these videos! I find them very helpful and motivating ☺
HI. I can relate to this so much. I have used alcohol so much over the course of my life and for a long time it did give me relief and provided me a lot of "short term" pleasures. I certainly did have some good times when I was younger but I am now 33 and am realising that I used alcohol too much and it never actually was good for me in the long term. I had a lot of friends that used it and I guess in a way I just thought it was the "norm." I really believe that my excessive use of alcohol in my life has resulted in me having severe feelings of depersonalisation/ depression right now in my life and I have been living in fear for a long time they will never pass.
Patrick Ranke Although I have been on and off drinking for not such a long time,maybe 3 to 4 years I understand completely. It's a struggle and the more soon we realise and admit that drinking/binge drinking is not good for us, the more soon we'll be able to cope. However, even though i have realised drinking is not the way out, I cant help but go back to it occasionally. Just to get the weight off my shoulders even for a moment.
You said drinking has made your depersonalize /depression worse. Did you tend to have depersonalization before drinking? I daydream a lot and sometimes (a lot of times) zone out but alcohol seems to bring me in the present and let me feel it without so much fear. If anything when i drink,i connect more with my feelings and self and presence. So I'm wondering how does it affect you!
"The price you pay to be carefree for a few hours is too high and your problems remain unsolved." What problems?? There are depressions which dont have underlying "problems"! Not every depression has a cause. Ever heard about "existential depression?"
Douglas, your videos are so helpful, I think mainly because you know how experiencing depression feels, I think living within 24h segments is just the best advice and I am trying to do that, it makes life so much easier
Thank you
You're more than welcome. I'm glad the videos were helpful
Very good advises! Hope many people who are depressed will watch this video!