Your channel has some really great, informative videos and I will certainly be taking these tips onboard. I can feel that I am beginning to relapse in my depression and anxiety, so I look forward to implementing some of these! Depression runs in my family, and I have had a few relapses already (I'm 22), but a good thing about this is that I can tell when things aren't going so well. Thank you for your great information!
You are welcome. I am glad that you said, "I can tell when things aren't going so well." This is the first part of relapse prevention. Here is a video I made on the subject that I think you will enjoy. ruclips.net/video/76FD9n7T9Uk/видео.html If you give me your email address, I will send you a free chapter on relapse prevention from my book Healing From Depression: 12 Weeks to a Better Mood.
hey i'm a vegan 32 years and it helps me with my confidence i'm in control of my body not junk food also killing and eating animals is the no 1 evil in the world take care veggiegirl!
"this too shall pass " , I used this phrase in a moments emotional pain, and to my surprise, it helped me to reduce it. There is something powerful in these words.
Douglas Bloch funny how phrases affect us all differently, this too shall pass, used to and still dos really wind me up! Yes it passes but I dread the next episode, each time it feels like I’m fighting death, but each time I get more tired, and feel like welcoming death. This too shall pass......till next time....when the sufferer may pass.
This is my 3rd bout going on 10 months. Hospitalised twice. Really struggling to get well, diagnosed with clinical depression. Out of work 10 months, living on my own. Just broken-hearted 😢
my lists..... 1.self care 2.spend time with families and friends>socialize. 3.exercise/yoga/meditate 4.go to Depression/bipolar support groups 5.take hot bubble bath, & than go to SLEEP(8hours)
Hello Douglas, currently I'm going through the darkest times of my life and watching your vídeos has given me a little bit of hope that things will get better, thank you
You're welcome. I'm glad the videos have been helpful. Have you seen my videos called "your pain is not forever." And "four words that can save your life?" You might find them helpful
So sorry you were unwell. *Hugs*....glad you are better. It is so kind of you to help out when you are going through depression yourself. We are all in this difficult race. Sending hope, light and hugs to everyone going through depression and any other mental illness.
I’ve always said that no one truly understands depression unless they have experienced. I find your channel and videos the most helpful with information that makes sense to my depressed brain. I believe what u say because you have experienced it. I am starting to implement your advice and things are working! My bad days are no longer weeks but just a day or two. Slow changes are happening which is encouraging. You also validate my feelings which helps me feel understood & I share ur videos with my friends to help them Understand as well. I also like your calm & honest demeanor. It helps me trust in what you say & feel less shameful of what I’m experiencing. THANK YOU!! You have truly turned your suffering into helping others. I know I can’t be alone in feeling this way. I subscribed and keep watching & working because as u know it doesn’t happen overnight. And the short videos help keep my attention and not feel overwhelmed. Excellent job!!! Also....I can tell you really care because you KNOW first hand how this disease can destroy you and how the people who haven’t experienced it can say all the wrong things. You are helping me! Thank you!💖
I’m 13 and I struggle with depression and what helps me the most is to go to gymnastics. It’s really the only thing that helps me get out of my sadness for a couple hours. Thanks for this video it really helps because I’m scared to talk to my parents about it.
...dear young lady, how are you now, i have just saw your post, ... where do you live? i hope you have find the way, and strenght, and support to be better...you are so young, i really hope that you have had support and help , and understanding you needed in those times...i am 49, and live in Serbia (my name is Snezana, and nickname Nensi)...i wish you all the best🌹🍀
I'm the opposite of the shut-in type depression. My depression is restless or agitated, where i have a combination of nervous/raw energy, anxiety & isolation. It get's more intense if i'm by myself, or on a day off from work. I do a lot of walking around, but i miss the days where i could relax inside, reading a book. It hit me around 5 years ago, when i was close to 50, and it's like my mental, internal construct, somehow changed.
I used to have a card saying "This too shall pass" that I kept in my wallet. I wouldn't take it out on purpose, but find it and read it every now and then by accident and it was surprisingly powerful.
Loyalty is an important trait to look out for when you are looking to make friend. Loyalty and goodness in a person often goes hand in hand. So usually you get that bonus in the same package.
Thanks, Douglas. Another source of hope is knowing the meds will kick in. For me it's generally 4-6 weeks. Sometimes even less. In the meantime, I have low energy, feelings of withdrawal and poor self-talk. One must realize your thinking is distorted. Doug's idea of do not isolate is helpful, though when low, people like me tend to ruminate, that is, continually think over and over about your problems and how badly you feel. Pushed myself to attend a family youth basketball game, and lost my low feelings by visiting with family and a few acquaintences. Took my mind off my worries and distracted me. Douglas seems to have a strong support team. Some of us do not, so this can be challenging. I try to follow what's worked for me before: music thru my ipod, exercise and seeing people. It's OK, I think, to slow down and put less pressure on yourself, too.
Sounds like you have some good coping skills. Your last point is excellent. I have seen people put far too much pressure on themselves to perform when they are depressed, and the results are usually not very good. It’s better to be gentle with yourself and to be patient until you have a better mood and more energy
Dr. you are an amazing person, with a golden heart. I've been watching your videos and they are more helpful than my own therapist. I see now the light the end of the tunnel even though it looks very far from me but, at least now I feel like I will get better. I always tell people those suffered what you are suffering now can understand you better than those have no idea what is to be depressed. My goal in life was to lose weight and I lost over 140 pounds but I feel so miserable... I don't know why. When I was fat I wasn't happy but at least I was happier and now I can't find joy in life.
I’m not quite sure that weight loss contributed to your melancholy. Perhaps you were having about of clinical depression. Have you talk to a psychiatrist or a therapist about this. As I have stated, depression is a treatable condition. I’ve had four major episodes and five hospitalizations and I am still alive and kicking on my 71st birthday.
RonaldBarone you are not alone I feel like I don’t enjoy life at all. But I’m wanting to enjoy life again just not sure how to get there. You will beat depression.. we will beat depression 💛
Mr Douglas as per your chart I have been doing some on my own in each category, also I mentored to others suffering as well as it becomes natural to relate cuz the shoes fits...Stumbled on your channel today such Blessings ❤😊👍
Thank you for this video. I’ve been struggling really hard with depression for the past few months. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Here is the video on what you can do when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you enjoy it. ruclips.net/video/lNbitatc6YI/видео.html
thanks again Douglas, I;m trying to get on the healing side of the road. I have massive mood problems in the mornings. I am glad you have your channel, your personal experience, calm demeanor, knowledge, and doable actions . i listen to a couple before i get ready to try to get my mind going in a better direction. thanks again, you're helping, you just don't know me.
Thanks for your kind words. If you email me at douglasboch@gmail.com, I will send you a free ebook of my memoir, "When Going Through Hell..Don't Stop!"
thank you Douglas, I will email you, tough week. I think that's why I keep watching. I have to or else if i don't keep hearing this stuff, my brain takes over and we know what it says or i wouldn't be typing you. you are so kind, i will email to get your ebook, if noknow says it's that good, and i like watching your videos, im sure it's going to be beneficial to me. so far your videos have!
Good Info Douglas you are saving lives this is a big deal that alot of people just ignore depression and go along with their life until they wonder why they are getting these symptoms and ignoring them.
I’m glad you found this helpful. You can come to one of my live shots every Sunday at 12 PM Pacific time United States. Just come to the homepage of the RUclips channel and click on the link
I am grateful that I found your videos. It helps that you share your story also. Thank you for the concrete suggestions. Staying safe for 24 hours is doable for me. I have your newest Kindle book and have begun reading it on my computer at Amazon. Your fearless honesty is uplifting. Thanks again.
I’m glad this video didn’t have annoying music in the background. Your suggestions are good, but right now we are in stuck at home because of the corna virus.
Some people live nowhere near a gym or may not even have a friend. The best advice for exercise is right at home. Start by running or marching in place for 30 seconds. You can build on it or lower it as you see fit. Try to do this a few times a day or during commercials or at set times. Maybe take a stroll around the building you live in or just a walk to the next corner and back gradually going farther. I hope everyone feels better.
I try to reach out and unfortunately the people say yeah I get you and yet they don't. their face says it all. and after that they never around for you. who else to reach out to?
I would look for an intensive outpatient mental health program in your area. They are usually run by hospitals or mental health agencies. That way you will be attending groups with other people who are experiencing depression or anxiety, and they will be able to understand you. You can also work with a good therapist. Also, you can find free support groups through these organizations. www.nami.org/Find-Support www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
Well, you have to choose wisely who you open up to. Depression can create a repelling effect on people if they don't really care about you, or if they simply don't know what to do about it. Find a support group, a good counselor, and eventually you'll get over it. Don't take it personally if someone doesn't want to help you. Chances are they have their own problems and just don't have the time. Or, if your family is anything like mine, it's like it hurts them to see you so sick, so they will go into denial... Lots of reasons why people won't help or "get it". But there are people who will, you just have to be patient, never stop looking, and eventually find someone who will.
When I was on Citalopram it masked the depression so that I felt OK without even doing the things that prevent depression such as exercise, practicing mindfulness, volunteering and social contact. It made me feel too tired to do those things. So when I came off Citalopram or changed medication I became depressed.
Hi Douglas, hope this finds you well 🙏🏼 thanks once again for such a supportive video... a life line really. I feel like a broken record with my relapses and choose to isolate myself. This video really has given me some hope of moving through ( i am grieving for the loss of one of my sweet cats, he was my soul mate and still young) Kindest regards to you. 🙏🏼💜
I used RUclips’s open transcript feature to review and annotate your messages. The word doc was saved and renamed as benevolent Douglas Bloch ^u^ as the "a benevolent part of the universe that will act to draw to yourself: the people the treatments and the support that you need to fulfill your desire to get well"
It's 11;30 pm Dec 31, 2017 I am doing the same thing for the last 10 years or so. Nothing not a fucking thing, In my bed watching these people on tv getting ready to celebrate the new year. People that tell it's all in my head all I have to do is get out and do something. That is easier said than done.These people will never understand what depression does to you. I have been fighting this shit my whole life. Eventually, depression is going to win. Without help, I can't stop it when that time comes. I will keep fighting it until the day I die.
Have you thought of joining a depression support group, which would provide a healing community. Also, transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) can be effective when antidepressants don't work.
Steve I'm with you. I having depression for few years now due to my relationship broke up and family, kids and financial hardship. I got helped from seeing psychologist for quite sometimes and slowly starting to work again. Then for some reason any job that I got in wouldn't last long only couple of weeks and that was not because I was bad at the job but it just something happened in workplace or something happened and causing me lost the job. Year 2018 I already had 5 jobs and all lost in couple of weeks, this freaked me out even more, it brought me into even more anxiety and depressed than I ever had before, and when this anxiety hits you there is nothing you can do, sometimes you even having fears just to open the door to see outside. I need help badly but not easy to see someone available to help you straight away when you don't have money to pay for the session which is cost $180 per hour
Steve Hedrick watching this video is a new start. Just being here you are doing something new and when u do something new you have a chance to get a different result
I've never liked New Year's Eve, even when I feel well. In the years I've been depressed that day, I've googled "alone on new year's eve." It's amazing how many people are experiencing the same thing, and not just depressed people -- it's people who just moved to a new city and haven't made friends, people who hate crowds, people who are sick at home or in the hospital, etc. There is a lot of support to be found online.
Hi Doug I hope you are well, my friend? I always gain value from your videos and this one (and Part 2) are no exception, especially as I am currently going through a depressive episode since yesterday. I also have the first of my driving lessons tomorrow which is a bit of a good and bad thing; good in one way because it means I have something important to focus on etc but bad in some ways because my mental and physical energies are just not up there at the moment. Wish me well and I'll let you know how I get on... Have a good week and everyone reading this
I go to gym 3 times a week. I hate the fact when I go home I am depressed again, now I am back from being myself, I and my thoughts. Even though my thoughts (voices) are positive. They give me headaches sometimes, especially when they take a form of a friend you knew in Jr. High and it argues with you that you should have help Valerie with her depression. And it's not understanding you can't help people that don't want help. You tell it to go away because you know it's just a voice. After dinner it comes back to tell you it's sorry. The problem I am having I am in the process of getting a counselor, because not every place will take you if you don't have a mental illness. Which i think is stupid. Because more than 80 percent who have mental illness don't seek help, but when you need help getting over a bump you can't get the help you need. So I am staying positive as much as I can. I can't really talk about it to my family, because they don't want to hear it. My dad wants to help, but don't know how, because he has never dealt with having a friend with depression. He gets all emotional because it brings back feelings of breaking up with a friend and when he went through a divorce. There's not much I can do than to put my big girl pants on and wait. Doesn't help it's during COVID-19.
DOCTORWHO ISGR8 yeah when I'm anxious it like I can't imagine feeling better ever again I find it helps to think about a time I was anxious in the past and then remember the time after when I felt better. I know it can start to feel like there's no use to this because you end up feeling like oh what's the point cos I always end up feeling anxious again but that's more of a depressive thought for me so then I have to focus on restoring hope and getting out of depression while anxious. Sometimes it's hard to see the difference in anxiety and the depression overwhelm despair and hopelessness that can creep in when your burnt out by anxiety. If u deal with them both it can help both
Albert Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it" That's why depression ( or some forms of it) are so difficult to cure , I still can get out of it after 3 decades. It's very difficult ,at least for me to truly change how I think , as I obviously think like a depressive
This video was great ! Another great one ! Like the previous one ...so sorry that you had to go through w/ the situation again ! I had no idea ! Please take care ! And stay safe ! 💜💜💜👍💜🥁🐉🎤🎶💕💞
@@ohad9759 thank you for checking in on me 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 I’m ok. Not 100% but that’s life. Hbu? I’ve been off social media and just focusing on the things that bring me joy
@@ohad9759 the only thing I can say to you is this: sometimes life isn’t fun. Sometimes it’s absolutely horrible. Sometimes you feel alone in the universe. Made to suffer for no reason. Yet, the sun will rise again my friend
One thing to consider is magnesium deficiency. Believe it or not it can make a whole world of difference. Magnesium eases the nervous system and provides a healthier feeling plus adding energy and help to sleep. Very often feeling run down and stressed can make you feel down. Try magnesium and see if it helps. (But only take the recommended daily allowance). Good luck.
I’m having trouble with isolation & exercise. And just engaging with the world. I have a therapist I’m on their waiting list... and I’m considering taking a antidepressant since I tried supplements. I need that boost in my mood.
Douglas Bloch I hope so too. He gave me escitaloprám aka Lexapro. Took my 1st one last night 🤞🏽 developed anxiety and depression from tragic events in my life so I’m hoping this gives me the boost to get out of this hole.
1. Set the intention to heal. 2. Reach out for support. 3.Take care of your physical body as best as you can. 4. Create structure and routine that allows you to engage with the world. 5. Tell yourself, ‘’ This too shall pass’’.
I'm doing my best at these things but in October 2020 I've been mostly isolated all year and it's taking its toll. I'm sleeping way too much and living alone, shut in, and social opportunities are really scarce with covid. Even though I should be, it's really hard to get motivated to exercise or even eat regularly.
A lot of us are going through the same thing. We have a gym in Portland called 24 hour fitness which is open partially. You can sign up for times to work out and also work with a trainer. You might want to try something like that where you live. I also have my friend Bicycle with me. Maybe you can find someone to take a walk with as long as you stay 6 feet apart
I suffer from lots of intensive emotions. I could be thrilled to the bits at this moment and struggle with depression the next second. I hate myself about this so much that I used to think about taking my own life so that I don't have to go through this emotional disorder. Please help me. I know I am not ready to die because I am worried about my parents and I love them so much, but somehow the thought that I am a loser keeps reaching to me. Help me please
Read the comment that I made on your other post. You can and will get better if you reach out for help. Depression is a treatable disorder. Therapy, medication, and other tools can help. I have been struggling with depression since I have been fourteen, and I am still here. See if you can talk to your school counselor. It may be hard to reach out, but I know you can do it.
Linh Nguyen It could be that you are suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder or Bipolar disorder, as both illnesses feature mood swings from high to low. I was diagnosed with BPD as well as major depression, which can make it even harder to recover. The first thing you should do is see a psychiatrist so that you can get the right diagnosis and treatment plan/medication/therapy in place. I hope this helps and good luck, please don't give up as there are so many people out there who understand what you're going through and can help you.
Magnolia Rose thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate that! It's getting better now, and I hope I can get over it once I grow up. I think every adult get some sorts of disorder, especially when they are stressed or worried. But I will try my best to think positive and live healthy.
I agree with Magnolia Rose. People with bipolar disorder have mood swings such as yours. And if you get the diagnosis, bipolar disorder is quite treatable.
I don't know what to do when I have feelings that people don't want to be around me my family has been tore apart and I have been turned into the black sheep and have not been sleeping well at night and lately I been crying I wish I had a book that helps me get through this
What's wrong with being on 2 mg of benzo for 11 years if that's what works to take the edge off and you don't EVER take more than your prescribed dose and do not have an addictive personality? I was on it between pregnancies and knew especially the 2nd time the body changes and it's too uncomfortable to sleep anyway. So technically I have been on it 13 years, had to gradually stop taking it.. 1 mg, then none when I found out I was pregnant the 2nd time and after I had my son and left the hospital was back on it. I recently moved and my car died, so it's difficult to get my medicines. I take 20 mg of adderol in the morning and afternoon and 2 mg of Ativan which, and I don't mean to sound bitchy saying this, but thanks to Chris Cornell's supposed suicide last year, I am having a hard time finding a doctor who will prescribe the small amount of maintenance meds I'm on due to a no benzo policy. I went so far as to have a genetic test done to show I do not have bipolar disorder, I do in fact have ADHD and am on the high end of the autism spectrum. As are my two boys with 2 different fathers so yes all the fun stuff came from me. I took Seroquel years before having the genetic test done and could not wake up with my children which you can imagine caused all sorts of problems that were blown up way out of proportion to lies that had my younger son taken by CPS. I withdrew myself off Seroquel. I withdrew myself off lamictal because any mom would be depressed at that, add on the other dad, my ex-husband and his b.s. I escaped to begin with, who also uses my older son like a carrot just above my nose as CPS does with the younger son. I have many friends in crappy marriages who are either scared to leave their husbands or have tried and couldn't deal with the system who turns you into the bad parent for taking your medication properly and having good judgement to leave an abusive situation twice. I prefer to be with no one. Can you blame me? PFA'S are the biggest joke. I'm always broke because I'm on SSD and my ex husband who works full time gets $109.45 every month.. while I have to survive on $730.00 a month. Because I'm told I play victim and I don't have a real problem. Yeah I got off topic so while I am, I also recently heard the number of CPS caseworkers who have had the child die has risen 11% . They take children from good parents and the wrong parents to nitpick at someone's maintenance meds and deem them unfit while the truly unfit murder their kids.. SMH..
Before you look to drugs to help you sleep, try breathing deeply when you lay down to sleep. Not fast, just deep and at a natural pace. I just discovered this recently and it seems to work for me. Also, pay attention to your facial and jaw muscles and relax them. I have a tendency to have stiff facial and jaw muscles when I lay down to sleep. Be aware of this and relax all these muscles.
For me, I'd say it works about 85 to 90% of the time. Before, I always had a rough time falling asleep. Since I discovered this about 2 months ago, so far so good. It also helps to not be on your smartphone of PC for hours before you go to bed, so say. The blue light messes with you. That's what they say.
I have searched out support groups in my area and the nearest one would be in Toronto which is too far for me to go....Guess there really is not much that you can do. Thanks for your support anyway...
Sorry that there are no support groups nearby. Here is what I said in a previous reply. How about seeing an individual counselor? Also, There might be some online chat groups where people talk about depression. There also might be a meet up group in you area. Go to meetup.com
Douglas Bloch I tried that before and never went back because whenever I start moving my mouth to talk about it my throat chokes up and tears start flowing. I was so embarrassed to have done this in front of complete strangers that I never participated again. walking with a friend is not an option because I have slowly pushed everyone aside through the years of this horrible decease. what's so amazing to me is that I know what I have, and that is half the battle, yet I still cannot rid myself of it. it's like serving a life sentence in your brain... just aweful. my last gasp is seeking professional help but my fear of using the last card in the deck is what if it does not work? what then? no hope at all.
There is always something new to try. I know two people who have used Ketamine and it has worked. Another person lifted their depression with CBD oil. Another with TMS, and I had ECT. In addition, there is nothing to feel embarrassed for sharing your pain in the presence of others. Here are two links that may lead you to support groups with others who are in your situation and who will understand your pain. www.nami.org/Find-Support click on the map t the bottom of the page to find a NAMI affiliate in your area. www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator Keep talking to counselors until you find one that clicks. A good therapist is worth his/her weight in gold. Also, have you ever tried medication?
Douglas Bloch I have not tried medication but I am headed in that direction, meaning I realize I cannot fix this on my own and will seek medical help. if there is a medication out there that can help I want to try it. I have wasted too many years and have missed too much life to allow it to continue and at this point I consider myself desperate for a remedy.
If you decide take medication, try to be patient. It may take 4-6 weeks before you notice a difference. If the first medication doesn't try a second. Hopefully you will find the medication that is right for you with just a few medication trials..
In July of 2016, I developed Adhesive Arachnoiditis (a degenerative condition that's said to be as painful as bone cancer, but I won't get the sweet relief of death like someone with cancer would, and I am losing the ability to move my legs. This makes me mostly bedbound, my fight or flight is going off constantly, and my pain is usually at a 9. I am also not able to drive anymore, and the closest bus stop is a mile away, which I am incapable of getting to. After my injury, every friend and family member I had, completely abandoned me. I've reached out to multiple people telling them I'm suicidal cuz I'm so lonely and so disabled, but NO ONE responded. I'm just waiting til my kids grow up first, cuz they have no one else in their lives, then I will be opting out of this constant cycle of pain. PLEASE tell me what else I could do? When EVERY local friend has abandoned me (and by extension, my kids), and I am housebound due to my health? My IHSS worker drives me to Dr's appts, but isn't paid to help me socialize or seek support. I feel trapped and I HATE feeling this way. I always loved and had a passion for life. I WANT that again, but with my health, and EVERY local friend I had abandoning me, how am I supposed to socialize?
I'm sorry to hear of your isolation. You can meet people of similar interest at Meetup.com Also, here are some links to two mental health organizations that may have support groups in your area. www.nami.org/Find-Support www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator And the best thing you can do is to find a counselor or therapist. He or she will not abandon you.
Thank you for your service in helping mentor people & giving the best advice you can. I am diagnosed type a manic bipolar with psychotic tendencies and am not prescribed the medication I need because of money issues tied into healthcare. Does anyone reading this have any advice for me to get back on my meds? I am struggling to be normal and trying to function but I want to fulfill my purpose & live life. Thank you & I hope you have a good day.
If you talk to your psychiatrist or psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, sometimes drug companies like Eli Lily will give out medication to people who are low income, either at no cost or low-cost. You might want to explore this.
@@DouglasBloch I don't have any kind of primary physician or psychiatrist. I was medically detained for 3 days at a facility after an episode and was diagnosed on an out patient basis in 2018. It is still hard to cope and it would be good to get back on track with something that buffers out the lows and makes me not quite so prone to being manic and worrying about the state of the world.
What works almost like magic for me if I find myself in a funk, is music. One New Year's Eve I was down because I couldn't be with my family. I put on The 1812 Overture and listened to it from the beginning to the end. By the time the piece was over I was up out of my chair just rejoicing with my hands in the air! Really! I am not kidding you! Try it. Or some funny music like Weird Al. You can't not smile when you hear Another One Rides the Bus or Your Horoscope for Today. I took a trip to Hawaii and became fond of the group Hapa. Anything by them will take you to a happy place. Turn it on. Aka Uluwehi O Ke Kai. Just see if you can stay depressed with THIS! You can't. Banjo music ? Come on. It's the best. Endorphine time!
Your channel has some really great, informative videos and I will certainly be taking these tips onboard. I can feel that I am beginning to relapse in my depression and anxiety, so I look forward to implementing some of these! Depression runs in my family, and I have had a few relapses already (I'm 22), but a good thing about this is that I can tell when things aren't going so well. Thank you for your great information!
You are welcome. I am glad that you said, "I can tell when things aren't going so well." This is the first part of relapse prevention. Here is a video I made on the subject that I think you will enjoy. ruclips.net/video/76FD9n7T9Uk/видео.html
If you give me your email address, I will send you a free chapter on relapse prevention from my book Healing From Depression: 12 Weeks to a Better Mood.
VeggieGirl 👍👍😊
hey i'm a vegan 32 years and it helps me with my confidence i'm in control of my body not junk food also killing and eating animals is the no 1 evil in the world take care veggiegirl!
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Thank you for sharing all this information.
"this too shall pass " , I used this phrase in a moments emotional pain, and to my surprise, it helped me to reduce it. There is something powerful in these words.
I agree totally.
My father used to say that. It does help.
Yes it does.
Douglas Bloch funny how phrases affect us all differently, this too shall pass, used to and still dos really wind me up!
Yes it passes but I dread the next episode, each time it feels like I’m fighting death, but each time I get more tired, and feel like welcoming death.
This too shall pass......till next time....when the sufferer may pass.
Svetlyachok Amen to that comment 👏👏👍❤😊
I am 45, going through my 4th depressive episode. I tell myself 'this too shall pass...' as it did last three times. It passed! 🙏
Same here
This is my 3rd bout going on 10 months. Hospitalised twice. Really struggling to get well, diagnosed with clinical depression. Out of work 10 months, living on my own. Just broken-hearted 😢
i wish i had friends who cared enough to listen.
Most of them mock..
Some listen politely - for a bit - but slowly disappear.
I've lost everyone. They cast me aside. It adds so much to the pain. If people could just understand how much love and compassion would do.
Felipe im your friend I care and I will listen
if you have a messenger just add me,BLACKPEARL'S CAPTAIN,i am willing to listen
my lists.....
1.self care
2.spend time with families
and friends>socialize.
3.exercise/yoga/meditate
4.go to Depression/bipolar
support groups
5.take hot bubble bath,
& than go to SLEEP(8hours)
Chengfu Saechao thanks for this it's good I'll try ut
Chengfu Saechao
Magic? UDK IDK? 🤣💕😟
@@savingpeace8452 I'm going try it but I dont have social group or much social skills
Thanks for the sleep reminder
Sleep for eight hours !? You’re obviously not an older person. I haven’t had eight hours sleep for decades.
Is it normal to cry really hard when listening to this? I need a hug now.
Ask around with people you know.
Hugs
Hello Douglas, currently I'm going through the darkest times of my life and watching your vídeos has given me a little bit of hope that things will get better, thank you
You're welcome. I'm glad the videos have been helpful. Have you seen my videos called "your pain is not forever." And "four words that can save your life?" You might find them helpful
You are really a great person may God guide your ways and bless you
Thanks
So sorry you were unwell. *Hugs*....glad you are better. It is so kind of you to help out when you are going through depression yourself. We are all in this difficult race. Sending hope, light and hugs to everyone going through depression and any other mental illness.
Thank you
Thank You ❤️
" THIS TO SHALL PASS ; NOTHING LAST FOREVER 💞 "
I’ve always said that no one truly understands depression unless they have experienced. I find your channel and videos the most helpful with information that makes sense to my depressed brain. I believe what u say because you have experienced it. I am starting to implement your advice and things are working! My bad days are no longer weeks but just a day or two. Slow changes are happening which is encouraging. You also validate my feelings which helps me feel understood & I share ur videos with my friends to help them
Understand as well. I also like your calm & honest demeanor. It helps me trust in what you say & feel less shameful of what I’m experiencing. THANK YOU!! You have truly turned your suffering into helping others. I know I can’t be alone in feeling this way. I subscribed and keep watching & working because as u know it doesn’t happen overnight. And the short videos help keep my attention and not feel overwhelmed. Excellent job!!! Also....I can tell you really care because you KNOW first hand how this disease can destroy you and how the people who haven’t experienced it can say all the wrong things. You are helping me! Thank you!💖
Thank you very much for your kind words. I’m glad the videos of been helpful. Let others know
Thank you for making us feel that we are not alone in this world.
There are millions of people experiencing the same thing as you are
I love his "skydiving" theory; have literally wanted to do that for years: changing the focus of the mind in the NOW
Say I lie down in peace and sleep for you alone oh lord make me dwell in. Safety. Psalm
Hi I recommend finding a tree when one is depressed. Go out side and be with a tree.
I like that.
I’m 13 and I struggle with depression and what helps me the most is to go to gymnastics. It’s really the only thing that helps me get out of my sadness for a couple hours. Thanks for this video it really helps because I’m scared to talk to my parents about it.
Thanks for writing. If you look at the top five things to do if you are depressed, part two, I talk about exercise
...dear young lady, how are you now, i have just saw your post, ... where do you live? i hope you have find the way, and strenght, and support to be better...you are so young, i really hope that you have had support and help , and understanding you needed in those times...i am 49, and live in Serbia (my name is Snezana, and nickname Nensi)...i wish you all the best🌹🍀
Fasting and avoiding carbs helped me a lot, I am lot less depressed now and I have more good thoughts and doing better and better.
I'm the opposite of the shut-in type depression.
My depression is restless or agitated, where i have a combination of nervous/raw energy,
anxiety & isolation.
It get's more intense if i'm by myself, or on a day off from work.
I do a lot of walking around, but i miss the days where i could relax inside, reading a book.
It hit me around 5 years ago, when i was close to 50, and it's like my mental, internal construct,
somehow changed.
Thank you, Douglas. Your channel has been a blessing to me. I'm so glad I found you!
I used to have a card saying "This too shall pass" that I kept in my wallet. I wouldn't take it out on purpose, but find it and read it every now and then by accident and it was surprisingly powerful.
You give me hope and calm me down...thank you
You are welcome.
THE LORD BLESS YOU MR DOUGLAS. .. YOU ARE TRUELY ANOINTED GIFTED AND EQUIPPED BY THE LORD TO HELP PEOPLE IN JESUS PRECIOUS NAME.
Unfortunately friends leave us when we need them so much. I had a so called friend tell me "find new friends" !!!!!!!,
Sorry to hear that
Patricia Chalmers same
Loyalty is an important trait to look out for when you are looking to make friend. Loyalty and goodness in a person often goes hand in hand. So usually you get that bonus in the same package.
Thanks, Douglas. Another source of hope is knowing the meds will kick in. For me it's generally 4-6 weeks. Sometimes even less. In the meantime, I have low energy, feelings of withdrawal and poor self-talk. One must realize your thinking is distorted. Doug's idea of do not isolate is helpful, though when low, people like me tend to ruminate, that is, continually think over and over about your problems and how badly you feel. Pushed myself to attend a family youth basketball game, and lost my low feelings by visiting with family and a few acquaintences. Took my mind off my worries and distracted me. Douglas seems to have a strong support team. Some of us do not, so this can be challenging. I try to follow what's worked for me before: music thru my ipod, exercise and seeing people. It's OK, I think, to slow down and put less pressure on yourself, too.
Sounds like you have some good coping skills. Your last point is excellent. I have seen people put far too much pressure on themselves to perform when they are depressed, and the results are usually not very good. It’s better to be gentle with yourself and to be patient until you have a better mood and more energy
What a wonderfully decent person you are.
Thank you for your kind words
Dr. you are an amazing person, with a golden heart. I've been watching your videos and they are more helpful than my own therapist. I see now the light the end of the tunnel even though it looks very far from me but, at least now I feel like I will get better. I always tell people those suffered what you are suffering now can understand you better than those have no idea what is to be depressed. My goal in life was to lose weight and I lost over 140 pounds but I feel so miserable... I don't know why. When I was fat I wasn't happy but at least I was happier and now I can't find joy in life.
I’m not quite sure that weight loss contributed to your melancholy. Perhaps you were having about of clinical depression. Have you talk to a psychiatrist or a therapist about this. As I have stated, depression is a treatable condition. I’ve had four major episodes and five hospitalizations and I am still alive and kicking on my 71st birthday.
RonaldBarone you are not alone I feel like I don’t enjoy life at all. But I’m wanting to enjoy life again just not sure how to get there. You will beat depression.. we will beat depression 💛
Mr Douglas as per your chart I have been doing some on my own in each category, also I mentored to others suffering as well as it becomes natural to relate cuz the shoes fits...Stumbled on your channel today such Blessings ❤😊👍
Thanks. Keep up that mentoring.
Really struggling but I have a friend who picks me up for the gym and it helps
That is great. Keep working out of the gym.
Thank you. I aim to nourish myself with your videos to help me cope with my daughter's depression
Μaking a plan is good but its hard to do stuff. To feel motivated to keep doing something and not give up.
Made me sad when you mentioned going into ECT. Life is so cruel. Really struggling for any meaning at the moment myself. Thank for all the videos.
You are welcome. Don't feel too sad about my going into ECT. It helped me to recover. What types of treatments are you trying?
You are a saviour! Love and light and gratitude....
Thank you.
Thank you so much! These videos are extremely helpful!
"This too shall pass". "Nothing will last forever".
Check out my latest video called “your pain is not forever”
Thank you for this video. I’ve been struggling really hard with depression for the past few months. It’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Keep persevering. The light is around the corner. Take a look at my video called, when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel
Here is the video on what you can do when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. I hope you enjoy it.
ruclips.net/video/lNbitatc6YI/видео.html
thanks again Douglas, I;m trying to get on the healing side of the road. I have massive mood problems in the mornings. I am glad you have your channel, your personal experience, calm demeanor, knowledge, and doable actions . i listen to a couple before i get ready to try to get my mind going in a better direction. thanks again, you're helping, you just don't know me.
Thanks for your kind words. If you email me at douglasboch@gmail.com, I will send you a free ebook of my memoir, "When Going Through Hell..Don't Stop!"
thank you Douglas, I will email you, tough week. I think that's why I keep watching. I have to or else if i don't keep hearing this stuff, my brain takes over and we know what it says or i wouldn't be typing you. you are so kind, i will email to get your ebook, if noknow says it's that good, and i like watching your videos, im sure it's going to be beneficial to me. so far your videos have!
Good Info Douglas you are saving lives this is a big deal that alot of people just ignore depression and go along with their life until they wonder why they are getting these symptoms and ignoring them.
I’m glad you found this helpful. You can come to one of my live shots every Sunday at 12 PM Pacific time United States. Just come to the homepage of the RUclips channel and click on the link
thank you so much for ur videos. i suffer from depression and mental health awareness in my country pakistan is very low. but ur videos help me alot.
I'm glad that they are helpful.
I am grateful that I found your videos. It helps that you share your story also. Thank you for the concrete suggestions. Staying safe for 24 hours is doable for me. I have your newest Kindle book and have begun reading it on my computer at Amazon. Your fearless honesty is uplifting. Thanks again.
Thanks for your kind words Kathleen. What book are you reading?
I’m glad this video didn’t have annoying music in the background.
Your suggestions are good, but right now we are in stuck at home because of the corna virus.
I hope that you can apply some of the suggestions at home. The other videos that I made. Once the virus receipts we will be able to go outside again
Your videos are getting me through another tough evening. Thanks.
For "the Placebo effect", I wish I can focus enough to know "what I wish to achieve". Matter of fact, I can't think anything to wish or hope for.
You might want to watch my video called set the intention to heal. You can whisper small things, such as feeling just a tiny bit better
Some people live nowhere near a gym or may not even have a friend. The best advice for exercise is right at home. Start by running or marching in place for 30 seconds. You can build on it or lower it as you see fit. Try to do this a few times a day or during commercials or at set times. Maybe take a stroll around the building you live in or just a walk to the next corner and back gradually going farther. I hope everyone feels better.
Thanks for the tips
I try to reach out and unfortunately the people say yeah I get you and yet they don't. their face says it all. and after that they never around for you. who else to reach out to?
I would look for an intensive outpatient mental health program in your area. They are usually run by hospitals or mental health agencies. That way you will be attending groups with other people who are experiencing depression or anxiety, and they will be able to understand you. You can also work with a good therapist. Also, you can find free support groups through these organizations.
www.nami.org/Find-Support
www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
Thank you Douglas I appreciate your help
You're welcome. I hope that some of those suggestions help.
Well, you have to choose wisely who you open up to. Depression can create a repelling effect on people if they don't really care about you, or if they simply don't know what to do about it. Find a support group, a good counselor, and eventually you'll get over it. Don't take it personally if someone doesn't want to help you. Chances are they have their own problems and just don't have the time. Or, if your family is anything like mine, it's like it hurts them to see you so sick, so they will go into denial... Lots of reasons why people won't help or "get it". But there are people who will, you just have to be patient, never stop looking, and eventually find someone who will.
Mike S. Good question I wonder this too
When I was on Citalopram it masked the depression so that I felt OK without even doing the things that prevent depression such as exercise, practicing mindfulness, volunteering and social contact. It made me feel too tired to do those things. So when I came off Citalopram or changed medication I became depressed.
God bless you, Douglas
Hello Douglas,just to say Yesterday I was feeling depressive syntoms,AND this video was really helpful today I felt an improvement.Thanks Douglas!
You’re welcome.
Hi Douglas, hope this finds you well 🙏🏼 thanks once again for such a supportive video... a life line really. I feel like a broken record with my relapses and choose to isolate myself. This video really has given me some hope of moving through ( i am grieving for the loss of one of my sweet cats, he was my soul mate and still young) Kindest regards to you. 🙏🏼💜
Yes, our sweet cat died in the fall. By the way, there is a part two of this video that you might want to watch.
I'm so glad I found your channel. These tips do really help and I feel confident that I will beat my depression again!
I'm glad you found it in the material Helpful
You are for real. Wow. Thank You!!
You are more them welcome. I hope that you watch some other videos.
I used RUclips’s open transcript feature to review and annotate your messages.
The word doc was saved and renamed as benevolent Douglas Bloch ^u^
as the "a benevolent part of the universe that will act to draw to yourself: the people the treatments and the support that you need to fulfill your desire to get well"
That sounds like a cool feature. How do you use it?
RIP Doug 😢 rest easy friend to all 🙏
I'll watch this again, maybe another two or three more times. Yes, this too may pass. Maybe.
It's 11;30 pm Dec 31, 2017 I am doing the same thing for the last 10 years or so. Nothing not a fucking thing, In my bed watching these people on tv getting ready to celebrate the new year. People that tell it's all in my head all I have to do is get out and do something. That is easier said than done.These people will never understand what depression does to you. I have been fighting this shit my whole life. Eventually, depression is going to win. Without help, I can't stop it when that time comes. I will keep fighting it until the day I die.
Have you thought of joining a depression support group, which would provide a healing community. Also, transcranial magnetic stimulation (TMS) can be effective when antidepressants don't work.
Steve I'm with you. I having depression for few years now due to my relationship broke up and family, kids and financial hardship. I got helped from seeing psychologist for quite sometimes and slowly starting to work again. Then for some reason any job that I got in wouldn't last long only couple of weeks and that was not because I was bad at the job but it just something happened in workplace or something happened and causing me lost the job. Year 2018 I already had 5 jobs and all lost in couple of weeks, this freaked me out even more, it brought me into even more anxiety and depressed than I ever had before, and when this anxiety hits you there is nothing you can do, sometimes you even having fears just to open the door to see outside. I need help badly but not easy to see someone available to help you straight away when you don't have money to pay for the session which is cost $180 per hour
Steve Hedrick watching this video is a new start. Just being here you are doing something new and when u do something new you have a chance to get a different result
I've never liked New Year's Eve, even when I feel well.
In the years I've been depressed that day, I've googled "alone on new year's eve." It's amazing how many people are experiencing the same thing, and not just depressed people -- it's people who just moved to a new city and haven't made friends, people who hate crowds, people who are sick at home or in the hospital, etc. There is a lot of support to be found online.
this channel came in just the nick of time
had a mental break yesterday and have been struggling really bad
I’m glad it was helpful
Thank you Douglas.
Thank you Doug this has helped I'm on a journey now to heal. Thank you.
Hi Doug I hope you are well, my friend?
I always gain value from your videos and this one (and Part 2) are no exception, especially as I am currently going through a depressive episode since yesterday. I also have the first of my driving lessons tomorrow which is a bit of a good and bad thing; good in one way because it means I have something important to focus on etc but bad in some ways because my mental and physical energies are just not up there at the moment.
Wish me well and I'll let you know how I get on...
Have a good week and everyone reading this
Thanks Steve. I wish you the best on your deriving test.
I go to gym 3 times a week. I hate the fact when I go home I am depressed again, now I am back from being myself, I and my thoughts. Even though my thoughts (voices) are positive. They give me headaches sometimes, especially when they take a form of a friend you knew in Jr. High and it argues with you that you should have help Valerie with her depression. And it's not understanding you can't help people that don't want help. You tell it to go away because you know it's just a voice. After dinner it comes back to tell you it's sorry.
The problem I am having I am in the process of getting a counselor, because not every place will take you if you don't have a mental illness. Which i think is stupid. Because more than 80 percent who have mental illness don't seek help, but when you need help getting over a bump you can't get the help you need.
So I am staying positive as much as I can. I can't really talk about it to my family, because they don't want to hear it. My dad wants to help, but don't know how, because he has never dealt with having a friend with depression. He gets all emotional because it brings back feelings of breaking up with a friend and when he went through a divorce.
There's not much I can do than to put my big girl pants on and wait.
Doesn't help it's during COVID-19.
Keep persevering, especially about getting counseling.
@@DouglasBloch I finally found a place. I have my first session in December. I am very happy now. 🙂🙂🙂🙂
Congratulations on your perseverance. Good luck with your counselor.
@@DouglasBloch Thank you.🙂
Dear Douglas, thank you for your videos. They are really helpful.
Drinking "relaxing tea", taking valerian pills and Melatonin really helps me sleep.
Good advice, but when your anxious its not easy to believe your going to get better
DOCTORWHO ISGR8 yeah when I'm anxious it like I can't imagine feeling better ever again I find it helps to think about a time I was anxious in the past and then remember the time after when I felt better. I know it can start to feel like there's no use to this because you end up feeling like oh what's the point cos I always end up feeling anxious again but that's more of a depressive thought for me so then I have to focus on restoring hope and getting out of depression while anxious. Sometimes it's hard to see the difference in anxiety and the depression overwhelm despair and hopelessness that can creep in when your burnt out by anxiety.
If u deal with them both it can help both
Albert Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it"
That's why depression ( or some forms of it) are so difficult to cure , I still can get out of it after 3 decades.
It's very difficult ,at least for me to truly change how I think , as I obviously think like a depressive
This video was great ! Another great one ! Like the previous one ...so sorry that you had to go through w/ the situation again ! I had no idea ! Please take care ! And stay safe ! 💜💜💜👍💜🥁🐉🎤🎶💕💞
Thank you so Much!!!♥️ This is Very Helpful Information. Crucial.
Ending your shower with 1-2 minutes of cold Water really helps
Robert Smeenk Wim Hof got me into that and it changed my life bro
your new besti if you need to talk anytims I’m here for ya
your new besti Anthony.Loria1
@@ohad9759 thank you for checking in on me 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 I’m ok. Not 100% but that’s life. Hbu? I’ve been off social media and just focusing on the things that bring me joy
@@ohad9759 the only thing I can say to you is this: sometimes life isn’t fun. Sometimes it’s absolutely horrible. Sometimes you feel alone in the universe. Made to suffer for no reason. Yet, the sun will rise again my friend
My dysfunctional family is a big reason I am this way
Thank you douglas bloch your videos are helpful
You are welcome.
Your channel is really helping me threw depression!
Thanks Douglas and best wishes 🍀☀️🌞🍀☀️🌞
Thank you so much for helping sir, this will be very useful to me. I'm having a really hard time right now.
I so appreciate you channel, you give me hope!
Thanks
One thing to consider is magnesium deficiency.
Believe it or not it can make a whole world of difference.
Magnesium eases the nervous system and provides a healthier feeling plus adding energy and help to sleep.
Very often feeling run down and stressed can make you feel down. Try magnesium and see if it helps.
(But only take the recommended daily allowance).
Good luck.
Yes, magnesium is an important mineral for the body.
Thank you, your sincerity and caring are uplifting!
You earn welcome.
I’m having trouble with isolation & exercise. And just engaging with the world. I have a therapist I’m on their waiting list... and I’m considering taking a antidepressant since I tried supplements. I need that boost in my mood.
If you were thinking of taking an antidepressant I hope you have a Doctor who knows about antidepressants.
Douglas Bloch I hope so too. He gave me escitaloprám aka Lexapro. Took my 1st one last night 🤞🏽 developed anxiety and depression from tragic events in my life so I’m hoping this gives me the boost to get out of this hole.
Thank you for this! You're videos are very helpful. Please keep making more :-)
You are welcome. I plan to keep making more videos as long as I have some good information to share.
Think you it was so helpful from a far away northeast 🇮🇳
1. Set the intention to heal.
2. Reach out for support.
3.Take care of your physical body as best as you can.
4. Create structure and routine that allows you to engage with the world.
5. Tell yourself, ‘’ This too shall pass’’.
Thanks for the summary. Does it sound good to you
I’m going to use this as a type of mantra .......wish me luck I need it
Douglas Bloch i am trying my best to come out from depression😭
I'm doing my best at these things but in October 2020 I've been mostly isolated all year and it's taking its toll. I'm sleeping way too much and living alone, shut in, and social opportunities are really scarce with covid. Even though I should be, it's really hard to get motivated to exercise or even eat regularly.
A lot of us are going through the same thing. We have a gym in Portland called 24 hour fitness which is open partially. You can sign up for times to work out and also work with a trainer. You might want to try something like that where you live. I also have my friend Bicycle with me. Maybe you can find someone to take a walk with as long as you stay 6 feet apart
I suffer from lots of intensive emotions. I could be thrilled to the bits at this moment and struggle with depression the next second. I hate myself about this so much that I used to think about taking my own life so that I don't have to go through this emotional disorder. Please help me. I know I am not ready to die because I am worried about my parents and I love them so much, but somehow the thought that I am a loser keeps reaching to me. Help me please
Read the comment that I made on your other post. You can and will get better if you reach out for help. Depression is a treatable disorder. Therapy, medication, and other tools can help. I have been struggling with depression since I have been fourteen, and I am still here. See if you can talk to your school counselor. It may be hard to reach out, but I know you can do it.
Linh Nguyen It could be that you are suffering from Borderline Personality Disorder or Bipolar disorder, as both illnesses feature mood swings from high to low. I was diagnosed with BPD as well as major depression, which can make it even harder to recover. The first thing you should do is see a psychiatrist so that you can get the right diagnosis and treatment plan/medication/therapy in place. I hope this helps and good luck, please don't give up as there are so many people out there who understand what you're going through and can help you.
Magnolia Rose thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate that!
It's getting better now, and I hope I can get over it once I grow up. I think every adult get some sorts of disorder, especially when they are stressed or worried. But I will try my best to think positive and live healthy.
I agree with Magnolia Rose. People with bipolar disorder have mood swings such as yours. And if you get the diagnosis, bipolar disorder is quite treatable.
Linh Nguyen you are not a loser
I've been struggling with this for years but I am lazy to the point that I don't want to change.
Love this. Needed it so badly.
I’m very glad it was helpful.
Thank you, you’re helping me as I am going through this
You’re welcome.
Make your bed in the morning
- Jordan Peterson
I don't get it??
ie. develop good habits starting first thing in the morning by doing something positive, makes you feel better right away
I've been depressed for 10 years, ever since I gave up on teaching.
benevolent Douglas Bloch
:)
I don't know what to do when I have feelings that people don't want to be around me my family has been tore apart and I have been turned into the black sheep and have not been sleeping well at night and lately I been crying I wish I had a book that helps me get through this
I've found the suggestions given very helpful , Thank you for your information.
Omg! THIS IS SO ME IF I COULD EXPRESS MYSELF
Thank you this video helped me so much and I am so great full
You are welcome.
What's wrong with being on 2 mg of benzo for 11 years if that's what works to take the edge off and you don't EVER take more than your prescribed dose and do not have an addictive personality? I was on it between pregnancies and knew especially the 2nd time the body changes and it's too uncomfortable to sleep anyway. So technically I have been on it 13 years, had to gradually stop taking it.. 1 mg, then none when I found out I was pregnant the 2nd time and after I had my son and left the hospital was back on it.
I recently moved and my car died, so it's difficult to get my medicines. I take 20 mg of adderol in the morning and afternoon and 2 mg of Ativan which, and I don't mean to sound bitchy saying this, but thanks to Chris Cornell's supposed suicide last year, I am having a hard time finding a doctor who will prescribe the small amount of maintenance meds I'm on due to a no benzo policy.
I went so far as to have a genetic test done to show I do not have bipolar disorder, I do in fact have ADHD and am on the high end of the autism spectrum. As are my two boys with 2 different fathers so yes all the fun stuff came from me. I took Seroquel years before having the genetic test done and could not wake up with my children which you can imagine caused all sorts of problems that were blown up way out of proportion to lies that had my younger son taken by CPS. I withdrew myself off Seroquel. I withdrew myself off lamictal because any mom would be depressed at that, add on the other dad, my ex-husband and his b.s. I escaped to begin with, who also uses my older son like a carrot just above my nose as CPS does with the younger son. I have many friends in crappy marriages who are either scared to leave their husbands or have tried and couldn't deal with the system who turns you into the bad parent for taking your medication properly and having good judgement to leave an abusive situation twice. I prefer to be with no one. Can you blame me? PFA'S are the biggest joke. I'm always broke because I'm on SSD and my ex husband who works full time gets $109.45 every month.. while I have to survive on $730.00 a month. Because I'm told I play victim and I don't have a real problem. Yeah I got off topic so while I am, I also recently heard the number of CPS caseworkers who have had the child die has risen 11% . They take children from good parents and the wrong parents to nitpick at someone's maintenance meds and deem them unfit while the truly unfit murder their kids.. SMH..
Thanks Douglas
Before you look to drugs to help you sleep, try breathing deeply when you lay down to sleep. Not fast, just deep and at a natural pace. I just discovered this recently and it seems to work for me. Also, pay attention to your facial and jaw muscles and relax them. I have a tendency to have stiff facial and jaw muscles when I lay down to sleep. Be aware of this and relax all these muscles.
Are use the same technique to help me get to sleep
For me, I'd say it works about 85 to 90% of the time. Before, I always had a rough time falling asleep. Since I discovered this about 2 months ago, so far so good. It also helps to not be on your smartphone of PC for hours before you go to bed, so say. The blue light messes with you. That's what they say.
Thank you so much I’m very grateful.
You're welcome
Your mind is your enemie
Di Zi My mind and body are my enemies:(
I have searched out support groups in my area and the nearest one would be in Toronto which is too far for me to go....Guess there really is not much that you can do. Thanks for your support anyway...
Sorry that there are no support groups nearby. Here is what I said in a previous reply. How about seeing an individual counselor? Also, There might be some online chat groups where people talk about depression. There also might be a meet up group in you area. Go to meetup.com
Douglas Bloch I tried that before and never went back because whenever I start moving my mouth to talk about it my throat chokes up and tears start flowing. I was so embarrassed to have done this in front of complete strangers that I never participated again. walking with a friend is not an option because I have slowly pushed everyone aside through the years of this horrible decease. what's so amazing to me is that I know what I have, and that is half the battle, yet I still cannot rid myself of it. it's like serving a life sentence in your brain... just aweful. my last gasp is seeking professional help but my fear of using the last card in the deck is what if it does not work? what then? no hope at all.
There is always something new to try. I know two people who have used Ketamine and it has worked. Another person lifted their depression with CBD oil. Another with TMS, and I had ECT. In addition, there is nothing to feel embarrassed for sharing your pain in the presence of others. Here are two links that may lead you to support groups with others who are in your situation and who will understand your pain.
www.nami.org/Find-Support click on the map t the bottom of the page to find a NAMI affiliate in your area.
www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
Keep talking to counselors until you find one that clicks. A good therapist is worth his/her weight in gold. Also, have you ever tried medication?
Douglas Bloch I have not tried medication but I am headed in that direction, meaning I realize I cannot fix this on my own and will seek medical help. if there is a medication out there that can help I want to try it. I have wasted too many years and have missed too much life to allow it to continue and at this point I consider myself desperate for a remedy.
If you decide take medication, try to be patient. It may take 4-6 weeks before you notice a difference. If the first medication doesn't try a second. Hopefully you will find the medication that is right for you with just a few medication trials..
In July of 2016, I developed Adhesive Arachnoiditis (a degenerative condition that's said to be as painful as bone cancer, but I won't get the sweet relief of death like someone with cancer would, and I am losing the ability to move my legs. This makes me mostly bedbound, my fight or flight is going off constantly, and my pain is usually at a 9. I am also not able to drive anymore, and the closest bus stop is a mile away, which I am incapable of getting to. After my injury, every friend and family member I had, completely abandoned me. I've reached out to multiple people telling them I'm suicidal cuz I'm so lonely and so disabled, but NO ONE responded. I'm just waiting til my kids grow up first, cuz they have no one else in their lives, then I will be opting out of this constant cycle of pain. PLEASE tell me what else I could do? When EVERY local friend has abandoned me (and by extension, my kids), and I am housebound due to my health? My IHSS worker drives me to Dr's appts, but isn't paid to help me socialize or seek support. I feel trapped and I HATE feeling this way. I always loved and had a passion for life. I WANT that again, but with my health, and EVERY local friend I had abandoning me, how am I supposed to socialize?
I'm sorry to hear of your isolation. You can meet people of similar interest at Meetup.com
Also, here are some links to two mental health organizations that may have support groups in your area.
www.nami.org/Find-Support
www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=peer_support_group_locator
And the best thing you can do is to find a counselor or therapist. He or she will not abandon you.
It really helps, thanks for sharing, was suffering from depression
You are welcome.
Thank you for your service in helping mentor people & giving the best advice you can.
I am diagnosed type a manic bipolar with psychotic tendencies and am not prescribed the medication I need because of money issues tied into healthcare. Does anyone reading this have any advice for me to get back on my meds? I am struggling to be normal and trying to function but I want to fulfill my purpose & live life. Thank you & I hope you have a good day.
If you talk to your psychiatrist or psychiatric mental health nurse practitioner, sometimes drug companies like Eli Lily will give out medication to people who are low income, either at no cost or low-cost. You might want to explore this.
@@DouglasBloch I don't have any kind of primary physician or psychiatrist. I was medically detained for 3 days at a facility after an episode and was diagnosed on an out patient basis in 2018. It is still hard to cope and it would be good to get back on track with something that buffers out the lows and makes me not quite so prone to being manic and worrying about the state of the world.
What works almost like magic for me if I find myself in a funk, is music. One New Year's Eve I was down because I couldn't be with my family. I put on The 1812 Overture and listened to it from the beginning to the end. By the time the piece was over I was up out of my chair just rejoicing with my hands in the air! Really! I am not kidding you! Try it. Or some funny music like Weird Al. You can't not smile when you hear Another One Rides the Bus or Your Horoscope for Today.
I took a trip to Hawaii and became fond of the group Hapa. Anything by them will take you to a happy place. Turn it on. Aka Uluwehi O Ke Kai. Just see if you can stay depressed with THIS! You can't. Banjo music ? Come on. It's the best. Endorphine time!
Thank you so much for your service! :)