I suffer with severe depression and anxiety and have done since I was a child. I am now 21. You’ve saved me. I’ve watched your videos for years and years. Every time I feel unable to cope, I watch one of your videos and it calms me right down. You are incredible. You’re so soothing healing to listen to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Every day, while I'm getting dressed, I listen to your videos so that I don't have to start my day feeling alone. You have helped me so much. You help me to keep my recovery first and foremost in my mind everyday and be aware of my thoughts and what my brain is doing, and help me to fight back. I'm still only living a half life; my kids don't have the mom that they deserve yet, and my husband is a saint for having to deal with a wife that can only make it out of bed 3 to 5 hours a day. But I haven't given; I keep listening to your videos, I keep getting out of bed, and I keep praying. And seeing your tears today tells me that you truly care about what you're doing here, and now I know that I'm not doing this alone. Thank you so much.
Thanks you for kind words. I've always said that people who suffer from depression are more courageous than the ordinary person, because it takes strength to fight on in spite of the pain. Have you read any of my books?
@@DouglasBloch I haven't yet, and I really, really hope to in the future. I have to say, it doesn't feel so courageous hiding here in my room most of the day, being afraid to leave my home. But I just keep trying to push myself.
Just at the end when you got very emotional it showed your humility and humanity.I look foreward to seeing and listening to YOU again Douglas.Keep strong!
Thanks John. I was wondering if anybody was going to comment on that. By the way I love that Joni Mitchell painting from her album clouds. Or perhaps it’s a different album.
You are so inspirational, Douglas and are very easy to listen to. I purchased your "Healing from Depression" book. I'm already on chapter 10, the first weekend of receiving it. You truly are a God send to many people suffering and are loved and looked up to. Be very proud of yourself. I wish you continued success in all aspects of your life as you enrich so many other lives.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m glad the book is helpful. Unfortunate only sold about 200 copies a year. I hope that one day it is available to more people
Oh sweet a list of 5 things I don't have nice. Staying alive a breath at a time is about right. Whenever I here someone say things will get better always makes me so angry. I've been told this for 30 years. Yeah for some things get better. Some of us are just broken into small pieces that there's no putting ourselves together again.
When I was suicidal, I could not think of any reasons to stay alive. However, there were some reasons that I did not want to die, such as the fear of death or not wanting to who people who would be left behind. Here is a link from my new website that lists reasons not to die instead of reasons to stay alive. Let me know if you can identify with any of them. I hope you can. www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com/home/reasons-to-stay-alive/reasons-not-to-make-an-attempt-2/
Thank you Douglas for your videos. Last week I watched some of them and now I watch this and paused at 1:54 to write down these questions and trying to answer them. People who are reading - don't give up. I'm 44 and I've had struggle with my mental health since the age of 23.
life sentence for a crime I don't remember committing.. it's been decades and yet the feels do not change, it almost feels that this is a divine destiny to leave on my own regard.
When I was suicidally depressed, I was convinced that my life was over and that I had no more purpose for which to live. But it turned out my brain was not telling me the truth. After I got better, life improved in a way that I could not have imagined. What kind of things have you tried to feel better? Have you Benn able to talk to a counselor?
@@DouglasBloch I have not bothered with talking to counselor because it will never give me what I need. I rather just wait for it all to get to the point of no return and then I will set out for the get back. I have felt this way my whole life... I realised this world is cold and heartless and no one really truly ever cares, it's alway about the personal wellbeing before anything. what bothers me is people think they can act this way and expect to not get a return on their wrong doings and I am supposed to just keep taking it in strive..well I am at the point where I am going for the get back. there's point where someone just doesn't have anything else keeping them grounded, call me crazy but I'm not looking forward to more and more future let downs of the long arm of life. i've learned nothing works out for me like it does everyone else. I always get the short fuck of it and I am sick of it and yearn for the world to feel what I felt for this past 20 years. it's time to go for me and the world wont stop, people will still be awful to each other and if I stay I kno mylife just gets worse and worse, that is proven. all I know is sorrow and dark clouds that follow
Thank you so much for your advice. such very valuable. Sometimes, I feel that way but at the moment, my mind snapped back to the positive and good things. Like one side of my shoulders is a devil and the other side is angel/spirit ancestors.
Hello Douglas. Thank you for your videos and continued work in helping people with mental health difficulties. I'm and Englishman living in Japan and have severe depression with suicidal thoughtsfor quite a while due to benzodiazepine withdraw and finding mental health support here for me is difficult, so watching your videos does help me. Kind regards from a thankful subscriber.
I'm sorry you're in pain. Have you reached out to a counselor or to other mental health support and treatments? You can get through this with the right kind of support
A lot of is depressed people don't have "people" we've isolated and lost connection this wanted to end it. Also anhedonia is hell and finding a purpose can seem impossible. If we could find a purpose and more important find real connection which is hard because depression robs you of that. Next if we could find something to look forward to is what we long for as well but profound hopelessness robs is of that . When none of the mess work and when you've been robbed of all of the above you just run out of life force. I wish this wasn't so true but it is. To add insult to injury we seem to go through a dark night of the soul and feel cut off from God so there goes spirituality. So tell me where does someone go who is completely screwed ?
Hello. My advice is, step one, to walk out your house and start walking, walk as much as you can everyday. When this becomes effortless and your health is ok then start jogging, but if not then walking is good enough. Step two, wake up in the morning and write a list of small manageable things you want to do that day, try and do as many as possible but if you do none of them because you cant be bothered then that's ok too, so dont attach your self esteem to the list, treat the list like a friend not an enemy. Step three , stop reading or watching anything to do with psychology or self help etc and get yourself a book to read in the form of a novel but stay clear of psychology or existential novels etc and find something light hearted full of laughter and adventure etc. I say to stay away from psychology because ignorance is bliss. Step four would be to try and find ways that suit you to socialise more, like throwing yourself off a cliff into a cookery course or something, or take guitar lessons. And if you struggle to look forward to things you've got to try and fake it until you make it. Hope this helps, start walking today!
Thank you. What you have listed here is more than ny therapist has done for me. It a really great outline that I think I can follow. Thank you so much for the very thoughtful reply.
I understand your situation as I’ve been there many times myself. As a result I’ve done a number of videos on dealing with hopelessness. Some of them are,“Four words that can save your life.“ These words are “this too shall pass.“ Other videos include: your pain is not forever. A reason for hope during hard times. Three ways to overcome hopelessness. One reason why you should never give up. See if you can find them on this channel. I’m going to sleep now but tomorrow I will post the links to these videos in response to your comment. You might also watch the video that I just published called “what I needed to hear to avoid a nervous breakdown.“ I talk about how I was able to create affirmations that gave me hope during a very dire situation. I think this video could be very helpful for you. Above all, keep persevering, even when healing seems unlikely. I can tell you from experience in the experience of others, you never know what good tomorrow may bring
Also, feel free to email me at douglasbloch@gmail.com I also have a free live video chat that airs every Sunday at noon Pacific Coast time. Simply show up to the homepage of this RUclips channel and click on the link when you see it. I usually start a few minutes after noon. Finally, I hope you are seeing a counselor or some mental health professional who can serve as a guide to help you through this difficult time. You’re going to be OK.
@@DouglasBloch ok ty so much as I'm dealing with intrusive sexual thoughts and suicidal thoughts with some anxiety and depression ,but I just don't have hope in beating this hell everyday till I see your videos which help me a lot and calm me down that one day I'ma be normal again thank you so much for your response!
@@DouglasBloch I am seeing a counselor. Every month and so but at first I was only going cause I was suicidal cause of some medicine called Prozac, but now I'm having intrusive thoughts cause I got paranoid when I was in a call with my friend and I thought I heard a voice and scared me so much cause I had some earbuds plugged in and I look at it back and probably was a video I was watching at the same time now I'm dealing with this loop over and over.
Here is a video I made that will help you to respond to those intrusive thoughts. ruclips.net/video/9kTsUJRs8Lo/видео.html Remember, they are only thoughts and therefore cannot harm you. I suggest you watch my video and then talk with your counselor and have him or her give you some coping strategies.
MY best friend's brother was best friend with a professor in Harvard who took his own life at age 41 last year July I think ... He was in a meeting with many colleagues just a few hours before that .. Do u think it is easy to have this list of reasons? I'm sure he didn't have .. This list doest also make sense to me, sorry dear :x
Douglas how are you?? I'm concerned. You don't know me but your videos have helped me immensely over the past couple of years. Thank you for everything you do. I hope you are well ❤ You have supported all of your viewers in hard times. Please reach out to US if you need help.
Thanks for your concern. I am surviving the pandemic and working on my new book on suicide prevention. If you know of anybody who would like to give me feedback on the manuscript, they can email me.
Me too Douglas. Your videos have helped me during the darkest times. I’m soon to be retired and feel there’s nothing for me since I’m childless and single and cannot seem to find a partner. The apps are not the best method since we’re just number. Friends seem to fall away too. I need to learn not to share innermost thoughts with people so they use against me. At this point, i don’t have reasons…just up until it’s time to retire i guess.
Thank you Douglas for not editing that part out at the end when you got emotional. It shows how invested you are in your work. As far as I know, there's no one else on RUclips doing what you do. Man, I can really relate. There's no pain like psychological pain. You are extremely strong for going through depression and making it through multiple times like you have. Your videos have given me hope that I can make it too.
I'm coming to the end of my training as a counsellor. As a man who has been conditioned not to show emotions, I still sometimes struggle to show them and, when I do, I can feel ashamed. Your humility when showing your own shows me that I can do the same. I shall remember this when working with my clients. Thank you Douglas.
I’m still trying to find my reason to stay alive. I’m in my late 20s, single. So much of my life has been a struggle, I feel it’s all been one huge depressive episode. I can find things that make me happy, but nothing gives me joy. When things get worse I’m so afraid I’m not going to be able to go on. The past couple months have been extremely tough with everything going on in the world. Thanks Doug for the videos.
So true what he said. I had such horrible time in my 20s ugghh. Things got so much better once I reached my 30s World is a beautiful place to experience
One breath as a time I do hope I can get through this episode. Am just exhausted I tried to go with it but some days I feel like I'm in a battle with me when I feel dispair frustrated suicidal I'm just tired doug Iv cryed that much am exhausted. Iv had shingles 12 times so far this year and I have M.E. I'd love to get back into my hobbies But at the moment all I can do is rest up. Thank you doug Peace love and light xxx
Peace and love to you. Keep reaching out. Keep being courageous. I have a chapter in my new book I would love to send you that I think will help. Send me an email and I will respond
All I have valued and cared for were taken away from me by others. 19 years of relationship, work I loved for the first time in my life, friends, love of my life, self respect, belief in my abilities.... I fought hard, but last 2-3 years is a never ending rolling down. Only my kids keeps me here. Nothing else. Everything I look at is meaningless, half translucent. It's hard to open my mouth to speak, to raise eyes to look at something. I don't look forward anything.
We have lots of animals; 2 goats, 3 sheep, 2 horses, 2 cats and one dog. When I went away for one week, one of the cats was really upset and screamed so that my partner was really concerned about the cat's health. The day I came back, the cat was healed. He just missed me so much. I love my animals so much.
Reading scripture is very helpful, it helps put things into perspective. As Jesus said 18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. 19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. (John 15:18-19). So Jesus proves any dislike by the world is not personal its just because a person is behaving a way that the world doesn't like.
I want to keep living for my family, and also my sweet parents who gave me life and love and I want to honor them and complete the journey successfully
I don’t have any reason to live I’m homeless jobless no children no family no friends no relationship no one cares about me and someone stole my dog there’s no reason for me to live. I’ve already attempted suicide 3xs and was unsuccessful I’ve been diagnosed with MDD anxiety which comes along with panic attacks I’m also Bipolar 2 and suicidal tendencies I’m a hopeless person
I no longer have any pets, any friends or any family that I’m close to. Many people have hated me even though I’m an empathic nice person. Humanity is quite insane and I’ve been here for some reason that is no longer worth staying for so I wait for my soul group to take me home but why can’t I decide to make the decision myself rather than waiting like a fool?
Hey doug I had a question. How did you know you were out of a major depressive episode? Granted you have had a few by now. Did one morning you wake up feeling a little joy. Because this 6 month episode feels permanent. Was fine before this and now it feels like brain damage. But you got through it right?
One of my episodes came to an end when I woke up one morning and felt better. But even after that it took another four months to fully recover. The other Healings occurred gradually. I was keeping a 1-10 scale with 10 being the highest pain. My psychiatrist told me that if I could keep it at two or below for six weeks, then that would mean I was out of the episode. Your depression is not permanent. It only feels that way. You can and will recover
If in terrible distress, it wouldn't hurt to look up (or Google) a licensed neurologist (or call the hospital to ask where you can find one). The way that your brain communicate messages to itself (and chemical imbalances) can be better detected, and from what I have learned, can lead to a more accurate diagnosis and treatment for very specific faulty connections inside of the brain. A professional licensed neurologist could very well lead you in the right direction of what to do and where to go to after taking brain scans and deciding on a treatment. And just keep asking and asking them any small question every step of the way, so that you can find out how you can get from here to there, and where you want to be. 🙂
Megz8008 hmm interesting definitely makes sense. But other than antidepressants theres really not much else for treatments right? So what would be examples of a neurologist helping you?
@@DTvidsx20 I personally haven't been to a neurologist, but have thought about it from time to time. But there is a neurology center in my city (and I am sure to God that there would be one in every city, since neurologists are also used to give brain scans concerning other matters such as head trauma, and determining whether or not someone has a condition such as schizophrenia, autism, alzheimers, and many more dehabilitating conditions). Dr. Phil also sends many of his clients to a neurologist if he wants to get a more accurate idea of what is going on in someone's brain, to see why messages in the brain aren't being communicated properly with itself. But in any case, give your local hospital a phone call and ask and ask what you can do and where you can go. Don't hang up without a full answer, because sometimes receptionists aren't the best people to talk to. If the receptionist doesn't know then ask them, "Well can you please transfer me to someone who DOES know?!" The times we live in . . . I tell you!
What if none of this applies? I drove away all family and friends, don't have pets, don't really look forward to anything. Even after a year of having a general upswing (work, school, working out, good diet, consistent sleep schedule, etc.), I've fallen back down to a pit of no hope. What's next? Why stay?
We are all human. Douglas, I commend you for not cutting out the segment at the end. I admire your humility and your willingness to show emotion. The willingness to show emotion is a sign of strength. Thank you for all you do for the community.
Thank you Doug. I was getting so much better in April and into May and then things took a turn for the worst again. This crap is just not easy. I hope you know how valuable your videos are. You are changing lives. Thanks Doug.
Sometimes I don't know how I will get out of depression but I try to gather all the hope I can to keep going, and for all of you who are struggling too I want you to know that I love you and you can overcome the pain you're facing
@@tarathe.creator At the end, I did get out of depression, and now I'm certain you all can too, depression too shall pass, as peace and contentment too shall arrive
You're such a kind beacon, Douglas. Thank you for your presence on RUclips. From my teen years until my early thirties I struggled with my identity and felt unworthly of life. Although I never tried to take my life, the thought honestly plagued me. Long story short, AlAnon and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) helped me find self-worth as well as place my personal issues in manageable order. I am nearly sixty now! I hope everybody here comes to know how valuable they are.
Everyone has a mission in this life but, our culture and society is one of ignorance and inequity so people do not understand this about themselves or others.
The problem for me is I can't figure out what the problem is and I don't know how to approach somebody about it yet I won't be able to figure out what the problem is without telling anybody
There is no reason to live with all this crap with the world. People don't care. The wY people treat other people is disgusting, disappointing, and how nobody out there can be trusted. Everyone is out for themselves!!! I have the biggest problem. I care to much. I am tired of dealing with the drama that should be everyone's mind. Politicians don't care about anyone only what they can do to make themselves mo powerful and not caring about the rest of the people!!! I am a veteran and with what happened to me should not have and living with this is not healthy. And the politicians don't care about any veteran. VA HEALTHCARE DID NOT HELP. THE DOCTORS ARE ALWAYS DIFFERENT AND NEVER FELT THEY CARED!
Thankyou for this I’ve survived my tw suicidal episodes as well and I’m doing much better thanks to many things including what you do Thankyou so much 👏🏻💛
If you have survived a suicidal episode perhaps you might be interested in looking at my manuscript of my new book on suicide prevention. I write about tools and coping strategies and I'm looking for people who have been suicidal to give me feedback on whether or not the information is helpful. If you would like me to email you a few chapters please email me, douglasbloch@gmail.com
The last minute of this video has played on repeat inside my head. Very powerful. It's been a painful week due to a sudden flare up of sciatica, a bad head/chest cold, and typical mental tumultuousness on top of all that... You are my rock, Douglas Bloch. 🙏
@@DouglasBloch Yes I heard from Robert. Thanks again for putting me in touch with him. I'm referring to the part when you say "All it takes to survive is to hold on not a day at a time, not an hour or a minute at a time but a breath at a time. If you can do that you will survive whatever you're going through." Plus seeing you get emotional from it makes it feel very relatable to us.
will it get better though? I used to think that the words "it will pass were good sound wisdom". That was when i was 23 and the depression i was in was really horrendous. I am now 63. Has it passed. No. I am just as depressed as always. I hate being alive and i have tried and tried and tried. All to no avail. I do not wish to say your advice is not useful, sure it is, but after 40 years i am still as depressed as ever. Now death is a worry because i am going to hell and this will be even worse.
What if you have nothing left and lost everything you held dear, even animals will move on and can be taken care of by other people. How do you not part from this life?
I stay alive for my parents, especially my mama. But there are days like I just wanted to die but I kinda feel like it's a selfish act because your gonna leave your family broken. 😭
I'm muslim and if it wasn't for my faith, I would have decided to end my life a long time ago. Thank God I'm still alive. To me my depression is clinical because of ssri withdrawal symptoms. Years ago, I started taking ssri because of ocd and after 6 years of taking them, I started reducing the dose to take it off but I ended up very depressed. I suspect it's because my brain became dependant on medication to get serotonin. I wish people don't take antidepressants unless if there is no other way around, because the brain can become dependant to them after a long period. Real life friends are also very important, but because of the pandemic it's really hard to maintain contact. But I hope you can understand you are not alone. Life is never constant, change happens all the time.
Thank you Douglas! As both a new therapist, and one who struggles with depression and anxiety - this information is invaluable! So funny I was just talking about Viktor Frankl - and the girl who spoke of "those three" the tiny leafs she could see from her window. Thanks again - look forward to reading your work!💚
Beautiful video, Douglas. You really add a unique and personal human touch to your mental health videos. Some great practical solutions in this video too! Keep on truckin’, and know that you are a loved man, Douglas Bloch! ❤️
It have always believed when we can not find anything to go on , when it is all just suffering , we get no breaks and there is nothing to look forward to....it is a time to go to light, leave space for otherson this Earth. I t costs so much energy and money to keep humans here who do not want to.....maybe one day a law and understanding will come fr those who suffer and society help to relieve their pain the most human possible way....(if there is something like it)...No..I am not in need of any suisicde hot line number just deeply reflecting on my feelings to the matter...J
Ok, with all due respect, those reasons to stay alive strike me more as excuses to keep going out of fear of death. Life, like anything else in it, is a cost-benefit endeavor. Do the benefits justify the cost? Sooner or later, if we're honest with ourselves, the answer becomes inevitably a hard no. In my 20s I had barely seen or experienced much of what life had to offer. So yes, life at that point was a promising situation packed full of still-to-be-fulfilled dreams. At 50 I have traveled the world, loved, been loved, gotten stoned, drunk, taken a selfie with the Monalisa, been to many concerts, been married, and done everything I ever wanted. There's nothing else left but the routine of being alive. Either through aging or lack of resources to fulfill our dreams many of us come to that one moment of clarity when it's obvious that we have outlived life's benefits.
I never thought I'd be searching for this kind of video:'\ ....i dont know what is the purpose of life anymore ugh So young yet my life so hard (Thanks sir!)
A Horse walks into a bar orders a double whiskey barman says what's up buddy? What's with the long face? I couldn't take my own life it wasn't fear I just couldn't give those who destroyed me the satisfaction. Now that's what you call stubborn it's no wonder I'm still single after all these years. I have a new puppy and a mother in a nursing home so I'll probably stick around for another while. Wishing all those here a better life.
I don't want to die because of anxiety or depression. I want to die because it is inevitable anyway. I have a beautiful wife, three beautiful daughters, a decent job, curiosity about the future, appreciation for the beauty of this world etc. All of those things have thus far succeeded in keeping me from putting a bullet in my mouth. But the awareness of my own insignificance in the grand scheme of things and the knowledge of how small our lives are in comparison to the rest of creation makes me long for that inevitable nothingness. To join my ancestors in the void. why not? Our lives, and indeed the entire history of life on our planet are a flash in the pan in cosmic terms. Even if we each lived ten thousand years, we would still be gone in the blink of an eye. One day the sun will burn out it's hydrogen, swell into a red giant and swallow all the inner planets. Then there will be no evidence that anyone in history ever existed at all. We may be intelligent, beautiful insects, but we are insects nonetheless. Specks living on a speck orbiting a speck. Whatever meaning we assign to our lives is purely subjective. There is no objective purpose to any of it, and whether I die now or in 50 more years is irrelevant. Thank you for trying to help people, but I have yet to hear a convincing argument against suicide. And in comparison to many others, my life is paradise.
Perhaps I suggest that you see a film called it's a wonderful life, starring Jimmy Stewart. The premise is very simple. When we serve and help others, we make a difference despite the fact that, as you said we are ultimately insignificant. All spiritual traditions talk about the value of service. And while we are here, we can work towards achieving a higher state of consciousness that we can.
To all the People watching this, imagine this imagine you not here an what life would be like without you in it, your world would be devastated because you wouldn’t be here. You see Jesus made you for a reason!!! You have a purpose think about your kids and your wife, they won’t even be with u those kids won’t be alive and you won’t ever be the same person ever again, God loves you just come to him, me personally I struggle with ocd intrusive thoughts and I’m on meds and go to therapy, you are loved!!!! Jesus loves you, thank you Douglas
I'm having a struggle with the pandemic. I've been locked down for 97 days. I don't have anything to look forward to and now things are spiking. Some say this will end but I don't see how when the number of new cases increase instead of decrease. I don't want to go on living this way having to wear a mask and everyone else wearing a mask. I am alone.
The pandemic has really set back my progress as well. I *thought* I was coping well, but the isolation, fear, and disruption to what was "normal" has actually amplified my depressive and intrusive thoughts. Six months ago, the never-ending ideation of suicide was practically non-existent. Now, it is an everyday occurrence. In short, life feels off. The world feels off. I have a hard time with the idea that my depression could reasonably handle the rhythm of the way life was, now I feel very out of sync with life AND the grief/trauma/depression has come back with vengeance. And somehow I endure despite losing my resolve to keep going.
I suffer with severe depression and anxiety and have done since I was a child. I am now 21. You’ve saved me. I’ve watched your videos for years and years. Every time I feel unable to cope, I watch one of your videos and it calms me right down. You are incredible. You’re so soothing healing to listen to. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You are very welcome.
Why depression is worst in the morning or when you wake up and gets better and better as the day progress .
That is the way that depression cycles
@@DouglasBloch . Haha 😂. Claire weeks also said the same thing about anxiety 😂. I wish there is some alien technology to cure it. Haha
Every day, while I'm getting dressed, I listen to your videos so that I don't have to start my day feeling alone. You have helped me so much. You help me to keep my recovery first and foremost in my mind everyday and be aware of my thoughts and what my brain is doing, and help me to fight back. I'm still only living a half life; my kids don't have the mom that they deserve yet, and my husband is a saint for having to deal with a wife that can only make it out of bed 3 to 5 hours a day. But I haven't given; I keep listening to your videos, I keep getting out of bed, and I keep praying. And seeing your tears today tells me that you truly care about what you're doing here, and now I know that I'm not doing this alone. Thank you so much.
Thanks you for kind words. I've always said that people who suffer from depression are more courageous than the ordinary person, because it takes strength to fight on in spite of the pain. Have you read any of my books?
@@DouglasBloch I haven't yet, and I really, really hope to in the future. I have to say, it doesn't feel so courageous hiding here in my room most of the day, being afraid to leave my home. But I just keep trying to push myself.
@@jessicawassung8431 how r u feeling now?
How are you feeling, Jessica?
God Bless.
Just at the end when you got very emotional it showed your humility and humanity.I look foreward to seeing and listening to YOU again Douglas.Keep strong!
Thanks John. I was wondering if anybody was going to comment on that. By the way I love that Joni Mitchell painting from her album clouds. Or perhaps it’s a different album.
@@DouglasBloch You are a wonderful man Douglas. Thank you for all you do. It upset me to see you upset. Thank you for being here.
@@richardccarrot I got so upset about it too. I'm sending you so much love, Douglas ❤ And to everyone reading this, I love you guys, we can do it.
You are so inspirational, Douglas and are very easy to listen to. I purchased your "Healing from Depression" book. I'm already on chapter 10, the first weekend of receiving it. You truly are a God send to many people suffering and are loved and looked up to. Be very proud of yourself. I wish you continued success in all aspects of your life as you enrich so many other lives.
Thank you for your kind words. I’m glad the book is helpful. Unfortunate only sold about 200 copies a year. I hope that one day it is available to more people
Oh Douglas......❤️❤️❤️ So well spoken, straight from the heart, that’s what makes you so special. Thank you.
Oh sweet a list of 5 things I don't have nice. Staying alive a breath at a time is about right. Whenever I here someone say things will get better always makes me so angry. I've been told this for 30 years. Yeah for some things get better. Some of us are just broken into small pieces that there's no putting ourselves together again.
When I was suicidal, I could not think of any reasons to stay alive. However, there were some reasons that I did not want to die, such as the fear of death or not wanting to who people who would be left behind. Here is a link from my new website that lists reasons not to die instead of reasons to stay alive. Let me know if you can identify with any of them. I hope you can. www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com/home/reasons-to-stay-alive/reasons-not-to-make-an-attempt-2/
Thank you Douglas for your videos. Last week I watched some of them and now I watch this and paused at 1:54 to write down these questions and trying to answer them. People who are reading - don't give up. I'm 44 and I've had struggle with my mental health since the age of 23.
You're welcome. And I agree with your message. Don't give up five minutes before the miracle
I’m really enjoying your videos! I feel more hopeful and inspired now. Thank You!
You are very welcome.
another amazing way is to look at extraordinary videos and determination memories of your past tat can help u through so much hell
we dont have to fight or compete for resources we can share n the universe brings its abundance to us in the process.
And they say everything happens for a reason but sometimes I feel like I see no reason why some things are happening in my life.
Thank you Douglas. Such an uplifting video. Great advice as always. I nearly cried when you cried too! You have come so far and I hope I get there too
Wow, thank you
i want to live for the library wealth of knowledge and wisdom there
hearing chilling n relaxing audiobooks from your library is a reason to stay alive website i mean
life sentence for a crime I don't remember committing.. it's been decades and yet the feels do not change, it almost feels that this is a divine destiny to leave on my own regard.
When I was suicidally depressed, I was convinced that my life was over and that I had no more purpose for which to live. But it turned out my brain was not telling me the truth. After I got better, life improved in a way that I could not have imagined. What kind of things have you tried to feel better? Have you Benn able to talk to a counselor?
Here is a website I created on Overcoming Suicidal Pain I published. You might find something helpful on it. www.overcomingsuicidalpain.com
@@DouglasBloch I have not bothered with talking to counselor because it will never give me what I need. I rather just wait for it all to get to the point of no return and then I will set out for the get back. I have felt this way my whole life... I realised this world is cold and heartless and no one really truly ever cares, it's alway about the personal wellbeing before anything. what bothers me is people think they can act this way and expect to not get a return on their wrong doings and I am supposed to just keep taking it in strive..well I am at the point where I am going for the get back. there's point where someone just doesn't have anything else keeping them grounded, call me crazy but I'm not looking forward to more and more future let downs of the long arm of life. i've learned nothing works out for me like it does everyone else. I always get the short fuck of it and I am sick of it and yearn for the world to feel what I felt for this past 20 years. it's time to go for me and the world wont stop, people will still be awful to each other and if I stay I kno mylife just gets worse and worse, that is proven. all I know is sorrow and dark clouds that follow
Thank you so much for your advice. such very valuable. Sometimes, I feel that way but at the moment, my mind snapped back to the positive and good things. Like one side of my shoulders is a devil and the other side is angel/spirit ancestors.
You can do it!
A windy 🌄 morning can be quality in the little things
to stay alive is to look forward toward a safe and healthy lifestyle a desirable lifestyle this is for every1 in america to seek for.
Thank you Douglas
having moments of innocent nostalgic events in your life is great
Thank you so much Douglas
You are welcome
To improve your quality of life is also a key
Hello Douglas. Thank you for your videos and continued work in helping people with mental health difficulties.
I'm and Englishman living in Japan and have severe depression with suicidal thoughtsfor quite a while due to benzodiazepine withdraw and finding mental health support here for me is difficult, so watching your videos does help me.
Kind regards from a thankful subscriber.
Thanks Andy. If you send me an email at douglasbloch@gmail.com I will send you some information that will help with your suicidal thoughts
Your helping so many 👏
Thank you very much for all comforting yet empowering words of motivations sir. May you have a blessed day♥️♥️
beautiful video, thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you too
If life hits you hard keep your hope up no matter wat
I feels like wanna cry everyday. I don't know why i am being alive
I'm sorry you're in pain. Have you reached out to a counselor or to other mental health support and treatments? You can get through this with the right kind of support
A lot of is depressed people don't have "people" we've isolated and lost connection this wanted to end it. Also anhedonia is hell and finding a purpose can seem impossible. If we could find a purpose and more important find real connection which is hard because depression robs you of that. Next if we could find something to look forward to is what we long for as well but profound hopelessness robs is of that . When none of the mess work and when you've been robbed of all of the above you just run out of life force. I wish this wasn't so true but it is. To add insult to injury we seem to go through a dark night of the soul and feel cut off from God so there goes spirituality. So tell me where does someone go who is completely screwed ?
Hello. My advice is, step one, to walk out your house and start walking, walk as much as you can everyday. When this becomes effortless and your health is ok then start jogging, but if not then walking is good enough. Step two, wake up in the morning and write a list of small manageable things you want to do that day, try and do as many as possible but if you do none of them because you cant be bothered then that's ok too, so dont attach your self esteem to the list, treat the list like a friend not an enemy. Step three , stop reading or watching anything to do with psychology or self help etc and get yourself a book to read in the form of a novel but stay clear of psychology or existential novels etc and find something light hearted full of laughter and adventure etc. I say to stay away from psychology because ignorance is bliss. Step four would be to try and find ways that suit you to socialise more, like throwing yourself off a cliff into a cookery course or something, or take guitar lessons. And if you struggle to look forward to things you've got to try and fake it until you make it. Hope this helps, start walking today!
Thank you. What you have listed here is more than ny therapist has done for me. It a really great outline that I think I can follow. Thank you so much for the very thoughtful reply.
@@Grungefan2018 No problem friend. Good luck on your journey forward :)
Amen brother
I wish I could find something...
Keep searching and praying
thank you
Live your best good good good life before u rest in peace
I wish you were my father
when life puts u down hve reasons to stay on top of your game me gym.
Hey Douglas can you help me please I just need to find the light I have hope
I understand your situation as I’ve been there many times myself. As a result I’ve done a number of videos on dealing with hopelessness. Some of them are,“Four words that can save your life.“ These words are “this too shall pass.“ Other videos include: your pain is not forever. A reason for hope during hard times. Three ways to overcome hopelessness. One reason why you should never give up. See if you can find them on this channel. I’m going to sleep now but tomorrow I will post the links to these videos in response to your comment. You might also watch the video that I just published called “what I needed to hear to avoid a nervous breakdown.“ I talk about how I was able to create affirmations that gave me hope during a very dire situation. I think this video could be very helpful for you. Above all, keep persevering, even when healing seems unlikely. I can tell you from experience in the experience of others, you never know what good tomorrow may bring
Also, feel free to email me at douglasbloch@gmail.com I also have a free live video chat that airs every Sunday at noon Pacific Coast time. Simply show up to the homepage of this RUclips channel and click on the link when you see it. I usually start a few minutes after noon. Finally, I hope you are seeing a counselor or some mental health professional who can serve as a guide to help you through this difficult time. You’re going to be OK.
@@DouglasBloch ok ty so much as I'm dealing with intrusive sexual thoughts and suicidal thoughts with some anxiety and depression ,but I just don't have hope in beating this hell everyday till I see your videos which help me a lot and calm me down that one day I'ma be normal again thank you so much for your response!
@@DouglasBloch I am seeing a counselor. Every month and so but at first I was only going cause I was suicidal cause of some medicine called Prozac, but now I'm having intrusive thoughts cause I got paranoid when I was in a call with my friend and I thought I heard a voice and scared me so much cause I had some earbuds plugged in and I look at it back and probably was a video I was watching at the same time now I'm dealing with this loop over and over.
Here is a video I made that will help you to respond to those intrusive thoughts.
ruclips.net/video/9kTsUJRs8Lo/видео.html
Remember, they are only thoughts and therefore cannot harm you. I suggest you watch my video and then talk with your counselor and have him or her give you some coping strategies.
Life is hard, nobody will save you unless you save yourself.
MY best friend's brother was best friend with a professor in Harvard who took his own life at age 41 last year July I think ... He was in a meeting with many colleagues just a few hours before that .. Do u think it is easy to have this list of reasons? I'm sure he didn't have .. This list doest also make sense to me, sorry dear :x
I am wondering how you know whether or not he had a list
I'm waiting to hit on the lottery even though I don't play. Awm
Douglas how are you?? I'm concerned. You don't know me but your videos have helped me immensely over the past couple of years. Thank you for everything you do. I hope you are well ❤ You have supported all of your viewers in hard times. Please reach out to US if you need help.
Thanks for your concern. I am surviving the pandemic and working on my new book on suicide prevention. If you know of anybody who would like to give me feedback on the manuscript, they can email me.
Amen 🙏
It's an adventure to heal from mental illness
Me too Douglas. Your videos have helped me during the darkest times. I’m soon to be retired and feel there’s nothing for me since I’m childless and single and cannot seem to find a partner. The apps are not the best method since we’re just number. Friends seem to fall away too. I need to learn not to share innermost thoughts with people so they use against me. At this point, i don’t have reasons…just up until it’s time to retire i guess.
Thank you Douglas for not editing that part out at the end when you got emotional. It shows how invested you are in your work. As far as I know, there's no one else on RUclips doing what you do. Man, I can really relate. There's no pain like psychological pain. You are extremely strong for going through depression and making it through multiple times like you have. Your videos have given me hope that I can make it too.
Thanks Rachael.
I don't want to leave my dog 😔 He is the only reason I am here... living hell
Can't leave him 🐾❤️
Imagine a place where it’s always night and you are holding on faith for a dawn that never comes
Perhaps the dawn is just around the corner. Are you reaching out for support?
Tats why we reach out positively😊
I'm coming to the end of my training as a counsellor. As a man who has been conditioned not to show emotions, I still sometimes struggle to show them and, when I do, I can feel ashamed. Your humility when showing your own shows me that I can do the same. I shall remember this when working with my clients. Thank you Douglas.
Tortoise Gamer I encourage and celebrate your success of awareness, best wishes in your chosen profession.
How are you doing 1 year later?
When depressed everything is utter pointless even I know this too shall pass .
Me too.
I’m still trying to find my reason to stay alive. I’m in my late 20s, single. So much of my life has been a struggle, I feel it’s all been one huge depressive episode. I can find things that make me happy, but nothing gives me joy. When things get worse I’m so afraid I’m not going to be able to go on. The past couple months have been extremely tough with everything going on in the world. Thanks Doug for the videos.
Hang in there. The 20s are tough decade. Things get better as you get older. Your best days are yet to come
So true what he said. I had such horrible time in my 20s ugghh. Things got so much better once I reached my 30s
World is a beautiful place to experience
Did you find one? Are you there?
One breath as a time
I do hope I can get through this episode.
Am just exhausted I tried to go with it but some days I feel like I'm in a battle with me when I feel dispair frustrated suicidal I'm just tired doug
Iv cryed that much am exhausted.
Iv had shingles 12 times so far this year and I have M.E.
I'd love to get back into my hobbies
But at the moment all I can do is rest up.
Thank you doug
Peace love and light xxx
Peace and love to you. Keep reaching out. Keep being courageous. I have a chapter in my new book I would love to send you that I think will help. Send me an email and I will respond
All I have valued and cared for were taken away from me by others. 19 years of relationship, work I loved for the first time in my life, friends, love of my life, self respect, belief in my abilities.... I fought hard, but last 2-3 years is a never ending rolling down.
Only my kids keeps me here. Nothing else. Everything I look at is meaningless, half translucent. It's hard to open my mouth to speak, to raise eyes to look at something. I don't look forward anything.
Yep. My family ghosted me because spouse is covert narcissist. Now just waiting until my mom dies. She is the onky reason I am still here.
Yeah I'm 18 and ive attempted suicide several times im trying to fight it though
I`m sorry for your pain Isaiah. I am going through a depression at the moment and the pain is so difficult. Please accept my love and best wishes
Fight Isaiah. Trust me, you're worth it
@@hogarthay same to you frank if I can fight it so can you I'm not perfect but we can get through it
Love and healing to all of you ❤
@@VanessaParedes thank you Vanessa😊
We have lots of animals; 2 goats, 3 sheep, 2 horses, 2 cats and one dog. When I went away for one week, one of the cats was really upset and screamed so that my partner was really concerned about the cat's health. The day I came back, the cat was healed. He just missed me so much. I love my animals so much.
Lovely story
Reading scripture is very helpful, it helps put things into perspective. As Jesus said 18 If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. 19 If ye were of the world, the world would love his own: but because ye are not of the world, but I have chosen you out of the world, therefore the world hateth you. (John 15:18-19). So Jesus proves any dislike by the world is not personal its just because a person is behaving a way that the world doesn't like.
It's like living dead and numb 😭 , feel like Utter pointless to live. Mental Epidemic and it's resistant.
Try to change your environment and it may drastically change you.
i love you. you have a purpose
We are gonna all be gone eventually so might aswell stick around as long as we can😂
Been there too. But life is better than the alternative. Have hope 🌞🙏🏻
me too
I want to keep living for my family, and also my sweet parents who gave me life and love and I want to honor them and complete the journey successfully
Beautiful ❤
I might be feeling really low right now, but at least there's a chance I'll see a dog tomorrow :')
Quality is in the small things. Sitting in the garden , with a cup of tea, reading a book ,walking in nature, seing the trees and wildlife .
Yes
I don’t have any reason to live I’m homeless jobless no children no family no friends no relationship no one cares about me and someone stole my dog there’s no reason for me to live. I’ve already attempted suicide 3xs and was unsuccessful I’ve been diagnosed with MDD anxiety which comes along with panic attacks I’m also Bipolar 2 and suicidal tendencies I’m a hopeless person
I'm sorry to hear you are in so much suffering. Is there anybody you can talk to about your pain. In Portland there is free and low cost Counseling
I no longer have any pets, any friends or any family that I’m close to. Many people have hated me even though I’m an empathic nice person. Humanity is quite insane and I’ve been here for some reason that is no longer worth staying for so I wait for my soul group to take me home but why can’t I decide to make the decision myself rather than waiting like a fool?
I'm sorry that you're in pain and are feeling so isolated. Do you have a counselor or therapist to talk to you about your situation?
Hey doug I had a question. How did you know you were out of a major depressive episode? Granted you have had a few by now. Did one morning you wake up feeling a little joy. Because this 6 month episode feels permanent. Was fine before this and now it feels like brain damage. But you got through it right?
One of my episodes came to an end when I woke up one morning and felt better. But even after that it took another four months to fully recover. The other Healings occurred gradually. I was keeping a 1-10 scale with 10 being the highest pain. My psychiatrist told me that if I could keep it at two or below for six weeks, then that would mean I was out of the episode. Your depression is not permanent. It only feels that way. You can and will recover
If in terrible distress, it wouldn't hurt to look up (or Google) a licensed neurologist (or call the hospital to ask where you can find one). The way that your brain communicate messages to itself (and chemical imbalances) can be better detected, and from what I have learned, can lead to a more accurate diagnosis and treatment for very specific faulty connections inside of the brain. A professional licensed neurologist could very well lead you in the right direction of what to do and where to go to after taking brain scans and deciding on a treatment. And just keep asking and asking them any small question every step of the way, so that you can find out how you can get from here to there, and where you want to be. 🙂
Megz8008 hmm interesting definitely makes sense. But other than antidepressants theres really not much else for treatments right? So what would be examples of a neurologist helping you?
@@DTvidsx20 I personally haven't been to a neurologist, but have thought about it from time to time. But there is a neurology center in my city (and I am sure to God that there would be one in every city, since neurologists are also used to give brain scans concerning other matters such as head trauma, and determining whether or not someone has a condition such as schizophrenia, autism, alzheimers, and many more dehabilitating conditions). Dr. Phil also sends many of his clients to a neurologist if he wants to get a more accurate idea of what is going on in someone's brain, to see why messages in the brain aren't being communicated properly with itself. But in any case, give your local hospital a phone call and ask and ask what you can do and where you can go. Don't hang up without a full answer, because sometimes receptionists aren't the best people to talk to. If the receptionist doesn't know then ask them, "Well can you please transfer me to someone who DOES know?!" The times we live in . . . I tell you!
I’m here right now because of this video. A year later and I just ran across of this video. Thank you
Thanks Claire. I received your email and sent you a reply. Let me know if you received it. Thanks.
What if none of this applies? I drove away all family and friends, don't have pets, don't really look forward to anything. Even after a year of having a general upswing (work, school, working out, good diet, consistent sleep schedule, etc.), I've fallen back down to a pit of no hope. What's next? Why stay?
I know one day I’ll be in an airport, moving to the city of my dreams and think « I’m glad I made it »
Thank you Douglas! You have a very calming effect on me. Keep up your great work!
That is my intention. I'm working on a new book on suicide prevention called "when it hurts too much to live."
Thanks Douglas. Hope you are doing well 😊
Bless you Douglas, I hope you're doing okay in these strange times
i will survived just to show my critics i CAN do it one day at a time
When one considers how much a funeral costs these days, it's a pretty good argument for hanging around.
(A little light entertainment).
We are all human. Douglas, I commend you for not cutting out the segment at the end. I admire your humility and your willingness to show emotion. The willingness to show emotion is a sign of strength. Thank you for all you do for the community.
You are welcome
Thank you Doug. I was getting so much better in April and into May and then things took a turn for the worst again. This crap is just not easy. I hope you know how valuable your videos are. You are changing lives. Thanks Doug.
I'm glad they have been helpful
Excellent video! I'm so glad you are here, you are invaluable!
Sending you hugs and love! 🤗😊
Sometimes I don't know how I will get out of depression but I try to gather all the hope I can to keep going, and for all of you who are struggling too I want you to know that I love you and you can overcome the pain you're facing
Thank you for your encouraging comment
Love you too ❤
@@tarathe.creator At the end, I did get out of depression, and now I'm certain you all can too, depression too shall pass, as peace and contentment too shall arrive
You're such a kind beacon, Douglas. Thank you for your presence on RUclips. From my teen years until my early thirties I struggled with my identity and felt unworthly of life. Although I never tried to take my life, the thought honestly plagued me. Long story short, AlAnon and Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACOA) helped me find self-worth as well as place my personal issues in manageable order. I am nearly sixty now! I hope everybody here comes to know how valuable they are.
That's a beautiful testimony. Aren't 12 step groups wonderful?
Everyone has a mission in this life but, our culture and society is one of ignorance and inequity so people do not understand this about themselves or others.
JAG very wise❤️❤️❤️
The problem for me is I can't figure out what the problem is and I don't know how to approach somebody about it yet I won't be able to figure out what the problem is without telling anybody
Why not go to a therapist or psychiatrist and talk to them about what is bothering you?
There is no reason to live with all this crap with the world. People don't care. The wY people treat other people is disgusting, disappointing, and how nobody out there can be trusted. Everyone is out for themselves!!! I have the biggest problem. I care to much. I am tired of dealing with the drama that should be everyone's mind. Politicians don't care about anyone only what they can do to make themselves mo powerful and not caring about the rest of the people!!! I am a veteran and with what happened to me should not have and living with this is not healthy. And the politicians don't care about any veteran. VA HEALTHCARE DID NOT HELP. THE DOCTORS ARE ALWAYS DIFFERENT AND NEVER FELT THEY CARED!
every waking moment is a war but i realize i more resourceful about surviving so much hell to keep moving forward.
Thankyou for this I’ve survived my tw suicidal episodes as well and I’m doing much better thanks to many things including what you do Thankyou so much 👏🏻💛
If you have survived a suicidal episode perhaps you might be interested in looking at my manuscript of my new book on suicide prevention. I write about tools and coping strategies and I'm looking for people who have been suicidal to give me feedback on whether or not the information is helpful. If you would like me to email you a few chapters please email me, douglasbloch@gmail.com
Douglas Bloch yeah absolutely I’ll give you my email!
Are you going to email it to me or simply place it here
Douglas Bloch Hi! I believe my email went through if not I can send it through again!😊👍🏻
I think sometimes these rules don’t apply to everyone. Sometimes things really are hopeless. Existence is cruel.
Yes, life can be really hard, but things can change.
I agree.
You cant choose the circumstances you are born into, but you have to keep living so that you dont hurt the people who "love " you.
biking around a nice neighborhood might help with nice trees and nature
The last minute of this video has played on repeat inside my head. Very powerful. It's been a painful week due to a sudden flare up of sciatica, a bad head/chest cold, and typical mental tumultuousness on top of all that...
You are my rock, Douglas Bloch. 🙏
I'm glad the vet last-minute was helpful. What did I say? Have you heard from Robert
@@DouglasBloch Yes I heard from Robert. Thanks again for putting me in touch with him. I'm referring to the part when you say "All it takes to survive is to hold on not a day at a time, not an hour or a minute at a time but a breath at a time. If you can do that you will survive whatever you're going through." Plus seeing you get emotional from it makes it feel very relatable to us.
will it get better though? I used to think that the words "it will pass were good sound wisdom". That was when i was 23 and the depression i was in was really horrendous. I am now 63. Has it passed. No. I am just as depressed as always. I hate being alive and i have tried and tried and tried. All to no avail. I do not wish to say your advice is not useful, sure it is, but after 40 years i am still as depressed as ever. Now death is a worry because i am going to hell and this will be even worse.
What if you have nothing left and lost everything you held dear, even animals will move on and can be taken care of by other people. How do you not part from this life?
Thanks Douglas! I've been suffering from Anxiety for 3 years. This video really helps.
I stay alive for my parents, especially my mama. But there are days like I just wanted to die but I kinda feel like it's a selfish act because your gonna leave your family broken. 😭
It’s good that you have this reason to stay alive. Keep persevering and reach out for support and things can change.
I'm muslim and if it wasn't for my faith, I would have decided to end my life a long time ago. Thank God I'm still alive. To me my depression is clinical because of ssri withdrawal symptoms. Years ago, I started taking ssri because of ocd and after 6 years of taking them, I started reducing the dose to take it off but I ended up very depressed. I suspect it's because my brain became dependant on medication to get serotonin. I wish people don't take antidepressants unless if there is no other way around, because the brain can become dependant to them after a long period.
Real life friends are also very important, but because of the pandemic it's really hard to maintain contact. But I hope you can understand you are not alone. Life is never constant, change happens all the time.
Thanks for your wise words
Thank you very much for your helpful videos!!
Reasons to stay alive told to me by a walking corpse how ironic
Thank you Douglas! As both a new therapist, and one who struggles with depression and anxiety - this information is invaluable! So funny I was just talking about Viktor Frankl - and the girl who spoke of "those three" the tiny leafs she could see from her window. Thanks again - look forward to reading your work!💚
Who is the girl who spoke of those tiny leafs. Was she in Victor Frankl's book? Are you thinking of reading my book healing from depression?
Beautiful video, Douglas. You really add a unique and personal human touch to your mental health videos. Some great practical solutions in this video too! Keep on truckin’, and know that you are a loved man, Douglas Bloch! ❤️
It have always believed when we can not find anything to go on , when it is all just suffering , we get no breaks and there is nothing to look forward to....it is a time to go to light, leave space for otherson this Earth. I t costs so much energy and money to keep humans here who do not want to.....maybe one day a law and understanding will come fr those who suffer and society help to relieve their pain the most human possible way....(if there is something like it)...No..I am not in need of any suisicde hot line number just deeply reflecting on my feelings to the matter...J
Douglas. U r a brave soul.became little emotional.dont worry
For me its definitely my dogs that keep me going.
Yes, that is very common for a pet to be a reason to stay alive
Ok, with all due respect, those reasons to stay alive strike me more as excuses to keep going out of fear of death. Life, like anything else in it, is a cost-benefit endeavor. Do the benefits justify the cost? Sooner or later, if we're honest with ourselves, the answer becomes inevitably a hard no. In my 20s I had barely seen or experienced much of what life had to offer. So yes, life at that point was a promising situation packed full of still-to-be-fulfilled dreams. At 50 I have traveled the world, loved, been loved, gotten stoned, drunk, taken a selfie with the Monalisa, been to many concerts, been married, and done everything I ever wanted. There's nothing else left but the routine of being alive. Either through aging or lack of resources to fulfill our dreams many of us come to that one moment of clarity when it's obvious that we have outlived life's benefits.
Maybe there are still some experiences awaiting you. Perhaps You can ask to be shown a purpose in life
I never thought I'd be searching for this kind of video:'\ ....i dont know what is the purpose of life anymore ugh
So young yet my life so hard
(Thanks sir!)
You are welcome
Awe bless you Douglas for not missing a day xxxx 💚
A Horse walks into a bar orders a double whiskey barman says what's up buddy? What's with the long face? I couldn't take my own life it wasn't fear I just couldn't give those who destroyed me the satisfaction. Now that's what you call stubborn it's no wonder I'm still single after all these years. I have a new puppy and a mother in a nursing home so I'll probably stick around for another while. Wishing all those here a better life.
Thanks for sharing. I hope you find a way to feel a little better
I don't want to die because of anxiety or depression. I want to die because it is inevitable anyway. I have a beautiful wife, three beautiful daughters, a decent job, curiosity about the future, appreciation for the beauty of this world etc. All of those things have thus far succeeded in keeping me from putting a bullet in my mouth. But the awareness of my own insignificance in the grand scheme of things and the knowledge of how small our lives are in comparison to the rest of creation makes me long for that inevitable nothingness. To join my ancestors in the void. why not? Our lives, and indeed the entire history of life on our planet are a flash in the pan in cosmic terms. Even if we each lived ten thousand years, we would still be gone in the blink of an eye. One day the sun will burn out it's hydrogen, swell into a red giant and swallow all the inner planets. Then there will be no evidence that anyone in history ever existed at all. We may be intelligent, beautiful insects, but we are insects nonetheless. Specks living on a speck orbiting a speck. Whatever meaning we assign to our lives is purely subjective. There is no objective purpose to any of it, and whether I die now or in 50 more years is irrelevant. Thank you for trying to help people, but I have yet to hear a convincing argument against suicide. And in comparison to many others, my life is paradise.
Perhaps I suggest that you see a film called it's a wonderful life, starring Jimmy Stewart. The premise is very simple. When we serve and help others, we make a difference despite the fact that, as you said we are ultimately insignificant. All spiritual traditions talk about the value of service. And while we are here, we can work towards achieving a higher state of consciousness that we can.
To all the People watching this, imagine this imagine you not here an what life would be like without you in it, your world would be devastated because you wouldn’t be here. You see Jesus made you for a reason!!! You have a purpose think about your kids and your wife, they won’t even be with u those kids won’t be alive and you won’t ever be the same person ever again, God loves you just come to him, me personally I struggle with ocd intrusive thoughts and I’m on meds and go to therapy, you are loved!!!! Jesus loves you, thank you Douglas
more reasons to stay alive is hear some cool guitar riffs from spain its pretty cool
I'm having a struggle with the pandemic. I've been locked down for 97 days. I don't have anything to look forward to and now things are spiking. Some say this will end but I don't see how when the number of new cases increase instead of decrease. I don't want to go on living this way having to wear a mask and everyone else wearing a mask. I am alone.
You are not alone. I feel the same, I live an isolated life and this pandemic has caused anxiety and depression. Please know that you’re not alone. ♥️
The pandemic is not forever. Try taking it one day at a time. Can you interact with some friends on zoom or read a good book
The pandemic has really set back my progress as well. I *thought* I was coping well, but the isolation, fear, and disruption to what was "normal" has actually amplified my depressive and intrusive thoughts. Six months ago, the never-ending ideation of suicide was practically non-existent. Now, it is an everyday occurrence. In short, life feels off. The world feels off. I have a hard time with the idea that my depression could reasonably handle the rhythm of the way life was, now I feel very out of sync with life AND the grief/trauma/depression has come back with vengeance. And somehow I endure despite losing my resolve to keep going.
Andrew Wahl I totally feel the same.
For me it's the hope of get beer and hookers, even though I have never really done that, it's something that gives me a reason to stay alive.