Lift Depression With These 3 Prescriptions- Without-Pills | Susan Heitler | TEDxWilmington
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2016
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Dr. Heitler discusses a treatment for situational depression (even when we don't know it is situational!) WITHOUT psychopharmacology. Instead, she offers three prescriptions without pills, outlining these prescriptions using an example from her practice. She shows how investigating what makes us angry or upset can help us to re-empower ourselves, and our mental health.
Susan Heitler, Ph.D., a Harvard and NYU-educated clinical psychologist, writes a Psychology Today blog that has received over 7.5 million reads.
Dr. Heitler first earned recognition when her book From Conflict to Resolution brought understandings of collaborative conflict resolution from the world of legal and business mediation to the practice of psychotherapy.
Her Power of Two and Power of Two Workbook- published in six foreign language editions-plus her interactive marriage education website PowerOfTwoMarriage.com, teach the communication skills for marriage success.
Dr. Heitler’s most recent book and website combo, Prescriptions Without Pills, offers self-help versions of the techniques she uses in her clinical practice-techniques for relieving depression, anger, and anxiety plus strategies for sustaining well-being.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
When people are depressed, they don't give up what they want, they don't want anything!!!! They can't even remember what they wanted when they were better.
Yes, the more deep the depression, the less ability to have any positive thoughts. That is why the visualization includes "pumping up." When you see yourself as larger, your energy levels increase. It then becomes more possible both to think about what you want and to create potential solutions.
That is why the visualization works...with your eyes closed you see beyond conscious thoughts to understandings that you would otherwise not have been able to access.
Susan Heitler “‘
Very very true
Exactly!! There is no motivation, no vigour, no will to live.
Depression is brutal. Your own mind causing you pain & destruction.
Stay strong everyone
Yess so true
Pablo, For relief reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Do the practice without any expectations. When taking a walk, at office, in school, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
@@shyaaammeneen63 thank you
@@pablofieldo2289 Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even during my normal activities and I am feeling relaxed and healthy. Anywhere-anytime it can be done. The best part is nobody comes to know that you are doing the breath observing practice as there is no deep breathing or sound. Reduce watching negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind. Read my msg and do the practice regularly without expectations--let change happen by itself. . Best wishes. Senior counsellor.
This comment brought tears to my eyes.
I suggest we build a community or a club to stand against depression and antidepressants that ruin our fkn brains.
I feel myself like a zombie, man!
Depression is being in a dark place and no energy to even switch on the light
Hard to even get out of bed.
@@chrismcdevitt7814 depression is real. Its just you and the darkness. I hate when people try to relate but have no clue
@@melissanaidoo6237 it's been a long .long struggle for me. people don't have a clue
Or you can’t go to the loo and your bladder hurts and you still don’t go because you can’t get up and you don’t care..
Exactly. I don't want to get out of bed but once up I can't get anything done and don't want to leave the house. Feels like going down a deep dark hole.
I had major depression during the end of last year into the start of this year. I lost interest in in the gym, in painting, in reading. I don’t know when it started creeping in. I couldn’t stop crying, if felt like a massive hole in my chest, nothing made it go away, and the thoughts I had were horrible. I was suicidal. I made a folder and put bank statements, car documents, passwords and pin codes, letters to my niece, nephew, siblings and parents, and an informal will because I wanted everything to be organised for when I died. I knew how I was going to do it.
Medication saved my life. I needed it to be able to feel capable of getting to the root of where those feelings came l from. If I’d went to the doctor and he told me everything this woman is saying then I probs my wouldn’t be here typing this right now. Sometimes a person needs medication to be able to see things clear headed.
Depression isn’t feeling down, it goes much deeper than that, and it’s bloody hard work pulling yourself out of it and look at things objectively (it took me nearly a year). The problem was, people would tell me that there were no issues but I didn’t believe it because of all the horrible things I was telling my self. Trying to convince yourself that your inner voice lies is so difficult, and when you reach a point where you can distinguish between who you are and what the depressive part of you is it’s easy to say you need to change your mindset.
Buts it’s bloody hard, and you go over it and over it until it sticks. Sometimes though medication is the only way out of a hole. My doctor made sure to tell me that it wasn’t a long term solution, I needed to help myself as well, but without those tablets I didn’t have fighting chance.
Thank you for sharing this vivid description of a major depressive episode. I completely agree that for this kind of depression, and especially with suicidal thoughts, medication is a vital treatment component.
So glad to hear that you did succeed in emerging out of that dark depressed place. Your story hopefully will inspire others.
Susan Heitler thank you, I appreciate your reply. When researching the medication I was on when I started taking it there were a lot of people who had been on it for a year or more, and I was scared I would end up dependant on it. I’d tried to do positive thinking mantras over the years but they didn’t work, and I now think it’s because I had to learn *how* to do it rather than learn a phrase. Along with that I learned *how* to get to the root of where my negative thinking came from. I often think if I hadn’t have had my breakdown I wouldn’t have been forced to deal with it properly, and so I’d probably still be stuck in a loop of negative thinking, so I needed to feel all those things before realising I needed to help myself. (Funnily enough, it was a RUclips video that helped the most that popped up in my recommendations, I didn’t even look for it. I guess the phrase ‘when the student is ready the teacher will appear’ has some truth in it).
@@michcookies You make a vitally important point here. As multiple research studies have validated, medications work best in conjunction with therapy. Otherwise, people are less likely to learn from their depression experience and therefore are at higher risk for becoming dependent on the medication.
"Therapy" can mean all kinds of options, not just traditional talk therapy. Visualization treatments like in this TEDx talk, Emotion Code, acupoint tapping, and other of the newer energy treatments, for instance, can be similarly effective. The key is BOTH, to utilize both medication and other therapies, especially those that help you to learn and grow.
Oh, I'm so sorry for you had to go through to finally emerged on the other side, better! What a excruciatingly crushing year it must have been. At least you're better!! I'm so happy for you !
I suppose it would be totally inappropriate to ask what the doc gave you?
I apologise for asking.
Feel to down to even ask my doctor for a phone consultation.
All the best.
I exactly feel like this for 2yrs now. Can i may ask what pills u took to get better?
This is similar to CBASP therapy. It teaches you to get what you want in situations. The problem with severe depression is you dont know what you want. You can't pinpoint anything. You don't care. You want it to end so you can get living again. There's no simple logic to it. But this is probably helpful if you're a bit fed up.
You are exactly right that in severe depression you don't know what you want and can't pinpoint anything. That's why people need to close their eyes to do this visualization. With eyes closed, your mind can access deeper self-knowledge.
Susan Heitler Thanks for your reply. The only thing which helps me have even a little relief enduring a life with this utter beastly condition is 2 hours mindful meditation daily.
I admire you helping people with this.
Susan Heitler Thanks susan. I am doing EMDR therapy too which has been so helpful.
Wish it was this easy
D Fine oronnie
To those, who are suffering - my heart with you. It WILL get better soon. This video and Voicely helped me a lot. Remember, you are not alone!
you got this
ThankYou for ur kind words🥺❤
I've been waiting 35 years for my life to get better...it hasn't ‼️
Amen , I don’t want to be depressed the whole entire time
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Great presentation! Thanks!
1) Pinpoint
2) Pump Up
3) Problem Solve
Warmest thanks to you for the summary and also for writing in your appreciative comment!
The real gem in this talk is “depression is a disorder of power” this is exactly how I view it. It’s not simply a chemical thing. It’s relational. It’s about the experience of disempowerment.
Partially. But very true as a statement.
Is it helpful to the depressive to say it’s simply a matter of empowerment when all the mechanisms of imagination are beyond the depressive mind? From where does empowerment stem? It can not be some external manifestation like work place assertion, it requires a healthy functioning mind which a depressive simply does not have and so it goes full circle; chicken and eggs.
To break the chain we need a reset button. I have found my creativity and now understand that I have been depressed since the age of 7, this being a defense mechanism; couldn’t put two words together at times! Couldn’t connect words with concepts (bit like Donald Trump). Lights are on but nobody’s home! Oh boy what a journey! Thanks Donald! And I mean it; what a shining light of how not to be a human being! Depression can be a basic loss of our Sense of Humanity; the depressive sees it, Trump is incapable of seeing it!
It’s also a chemical imbalance. I’m studying criminal psychology criminology and minoring in psychology
@@angelicaduncan9694 It can be, but isn't always. You've either already learned this or you will.
Uh, you can take brain scans of people and see how they differ. The chemical imbalance is literally observable.
I'm currently writing a book on Depression. To begin with i have had everything available prescribed nothing ever worked. I even ended up resulting to Alcohol which made everything worse. The dark days of not wanting to get out the bed and sitting in those cold showers. Anxiety and Panic Attacks didn't help my situation either and ended up in the hospital multiple times. Nothing was missing in my life. This dark cloud of Depression is something many of us are scared to talk about and I'm glad more people are becoming open to it. And to be honest at times it's even hard to speak about it. Medication works if used correctly as a boost for the short term. But long term I strongly believe we and I say "we" because we are a community that together we can help each other learn ways of coping with the dark cloud. If you're reading this just know you're not alone,breath and use the power of your mind. Little by little things get better. May God bless you all. This was really hard for me to even write. But slowly I'm trying. And there's no judgment on Depression it happens to the best of us. Much love and blessings to everyone. 😊🙏💯
I refer to it as “the dark place”. It’s scary. My # 1 priority in life is trying to avoid that dark place. I will never take the feeling of hope for granted again.
I too have gaping holes in me I can't fill. I've had depression since about 12. I'm 56 now and it's worse than ever. Then I hate myself for being a wasted human being. I promise you I don't want to be like this. Btw how are you and your book doing?
This broke down to unexpected sobbing 😭
I dont think I really know why but I thank you for your helpfulness & praise God for helping us fight back. Thankyou
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
@@Brownie_eyes Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
Good 4 u!
I really like this woman's presentation style. She is genuine, confident, and open. She even makes mistakes and keeps going. She comes across as real person and educator, and not just as a presenter.
Warmest thanks for this comment. I appreciate it very much.
Totally agreed
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Agreed! Thank you Susan, such a real words
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
I've been so depressed that I wasn't even expecting to get much out of this. My depression lifted just listening to the 16 minute presentation. I am about to listen again. I hope you all feel much much better soon!
I am delighted that you found the talk so helpful. Thank you for sharing your reaction!
Prob not genuine crippling clinical depression then. Lucky you, all the best ✌🏻
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
@@rarebird_82 Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
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Great video. I am a 46 year old healthy male who has had a life of depression, anxiety and ocd (severe at times). I had a great childhood, no traumas. I have a great career, even in these uncertain times, I have a home and food and family and all kinds of wonderful things. Yet this weight of depression walks with me still at 46. I’m on a mild daily ad, I’ve been talking to therapists for 20 years, tried cbt methods, exercise, healthy eating, light therapy, etc and yet there are days that are soul crushing. The big events in life don’t seem to phase me, it’s the day to day living with this weight of depression. It’s a vague sense of doom, why if everything in my life is peaches do I wake up and live every day with this doom, lethargy, spontaneous crying. I can be laughing with friends at dinner and feel this awful sinking sensation. The best I can do is consider this a journey, be grateful for it all and live in the now.
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Have you tried reducing stress by giving up your career? Because stress is the ultimate cause of depression. Otherwise, combating depression is like trying to heal your bruises after being beaten every day.
U really have it good brodie. 👍 Why u still depressed? U should be very grateful 🙏. R u a perfectionist?
Do u want me 2 pray 4 u?
From my understanding depression as to do with various things like negative thoughts causing it, toxins in your body and in the environment, food, and water. Sorry to hear you are also depressed. My depression never leaves me. I never started taking the ads I got as I missed my appointment and fear I can't get refills.
I have a very good friend dealing with this exact thing. His life is good, he wants for nothing, yet he is at the end of his rope with no more rope left to tie a knot and hang onto.
If anyone has any ideas of how to heal this, please reach out. I've been researching and found light therapy, using the sun. Tested it on myself, using it as pain management and it not only helped my constant depression, but healed some other issues I wasn't expecting it to help.
Check out Andrew Huberman's channel. He's a neuroscientist who teaches at Stanton medical University and believes this information should not be limited to just those who can afford it. He changed my life. Search up vit D healing with the sun, there's a video of another dr that comes up there and it's a great one too, yet I can't remember the drs name. If anyone wants it, I can hunt it down and share the link, but please check it out. My friend is calling soon so I will share my findings with him as well, but he doesn't like the sun so this will be tricky.
I didn't like the sun either, but please take a chance and listen to what Andrew Huberman teaches.
Love and light to you all. ❤🔥
She makes it sound so very simple, the answer wrapped up in a Ted Talk handy for your purse or your pocket. Her analogy for the common cold sums it up. If you suffer something more serious this won't help.
she said it sounds easy but its not 4:53 and she gave reasons why (depression makes your mind clouded, you feel powerless etc.)
"Her analogy for the common cold sums it up" i see its like going from light depression(maybe just some symptoms of depression) to the worst state of depression. if you catch it early, identify the problem and try to solve it your pre-depressive state or light depressive state would improve.
but i see your point, if you in the worst depressive state your problem isn't really bump in a road, its yourself, constant negative thoughts, inability to do the easiest tasks and so on. but i still think her advice is good.
Wouldn't it be great if you only got depression like one day a year for half a week?
@@yyyyy7789 I don't take people's opinions about depression seriously if they've never experienced it themselves.
she said very clearly that it’s like a common cold that can develop into a sinus infection. these tips are for people who are dysthymic or beginning to feel depressed. the answer is simple stop over complicating things.
Being shame based, and having the ones you love the most reject you, and never talk to you again is quite disturbing, and makes the challenging journey one crawled out of so difficult all over again.
People go through all kinds of wretched trauma, make mistakes they didn't mean to make, and it is quite difficult for many.
Being depressed and having depression are two different things. While these "prescriptions" may be helpful for some people, those that are seriously depressed will not be helped by these techniques. When you truly suffer from depression, you lack hope, desire, drive, etc. - you essentially feel numb and/or indifferent. Sending love and prayers out to all my fellow sufferers of true depression. 💗 Don't give up! There's nothing to be ashamed about. Take care of yourself and, in turn, your loved ones by getting help from your doctor and/or a qualified psychiatrist. ✌🏻
I agree. This visualization is for a "common cold" type of depression, not for the equivalent of pneumonia.
@@drheitler Thanks for your response. I know that it's not within your control but, unfortunately, the title is misleading. That's normal on RUclips, though. How else would they get people to click on videos. 😂
Well said!!! And thank you!
Deep depression is when you don’t feel in control of your mind, the depression is in control, you feel scared inside like you are going mad, full of regrets and ruminating about being a bad person, it’s the worst thing imaginable
A most poignant description. May you soon find your way back into the sunshine!
@@drheitler Thankyou
When you are depressed, the last thing that you need is to feel numb. I appreciate her being honest on her perspective to this issue. I've been experiencing this painful issue for the past 6 years, triggered by my sister's tragic death. I didn't get help fast enough. I wish you all and anyone struggling this the help you need and the peace that you deserve.
I am so sorry. A wave of depression triggered by grief is brutal. I hope that you get the support that you need. A compassioante therapist is worth her or his weight in gold. I also found solace in a program I found in a book. When Your Body Gets The Blues. I wish you healing.
Have you tried Emdr
I have heard it works for lots of people.
But is very expensive.
Yeah this works if you're just feeling down about something, but this will NOT at all do anything for major depressives.
Dee Zaster. Sharing wisdom heals, the best things are not things. Just food for thought.
A psychologist promoting psychology and her own books. What if you have become depressed when everything is going well. There are two types of depression endogenous and reactive.
Don't be so negative.
@@mattw4496 you completely lack knowledge and understanding
I agree Dee that for a major depressive episode it is important also to explore using an antidepressant.
Thanks, but what we really need is a video on how to deal with non-situational depression.
I agree
There are other videos. Look for it.
Aunt Cat that’s what most depression solution videos are about . Mine is mostly situational but not easy to remedy.
Exactly. Thank you. I hope anyone commenting here has been able to manage their depression and get help or are coping in a manageable way w out narcotics
Exactly!
For “Feeling down” this would be helpful. For depression this is irrelevant.
When your depression is reactive, even quite serious depression can be helped with this visualization. If the depression is biochemical in origin, by contrast, you will find that in step two when you "pump up," you cannot sustain the larger size. That's one way, in fact, to test if the depression is, in fact, reactive or organic, and also whether it will be important to go ahead and take medication to relieve it.
You are so right !!
@@drheitler not very author of a video steps in, says some fantastic updates, and kills the troll in an instant. Great TED talk.
@@gingerindian1141 Thank you. Glad You liked the talk.
I think it's relevant. Depression has causes. Pills can't change life circumstances.
This makes slot of sense. Seeing other people in my life as larger and better than me made depression so much worse
It's vital next to allow yourself to visualize yourself as bigger than them. It's often amazing how this step alone helps people feel better. To keep feeling better though requires the third step as well. Pinpoint. Pump up. Problem-solve.
Same, social media
@@drheitler that's good advice, thank you.
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Maybe u r a better person then them homies u know man. 💯
I honestly believe that there are at least two kinds of depression.
1.Circumstance or Situational depression that is cause by a circumstance in your life.
A loss for instance.
2. Clinical depression that is triggered by changes in brain chemicals.
Depression is not the same as sadness.
Sadness is an emotion.
From my experience, clinical depression shows as an absence of emotion.
I recall one morning some years ago.
I dressed as a matter of habit...put on my coat as if to go out.
As I was about to open my front door, I realized that I had no idea where I intended to go or why.
I closed the door and stood in the room with my coat on and my car keys in my hand and ran over the possible places I might go or things I might do.
To each option I said to myself, "Why Bother?"
Then, I sat down ,still with my coat on and keys in hand and I just sat there staring out into the void.
I couldn't generate enough motive to even stand up again.
Why Bother ?
Those two words sum up for me, the essence of clinical depression.
You see no light at the end of the tunnel and, frankly, you don't really care!!
Prozac brought me out of it.
I agree with you about the two different causes, biochemical and situational. Hormonal changes for instance can trigger depression. And any kind of loss or inability or hopelessness about getting something you want can trigger depression also.
After either trigger, the intensity of the depression can vary. Hormonal difficulties for instance can trigger mild deprression, or severe. Likewise, situations can trigger either mild, moderate or severe depression. The most severe depression I ever worked with, for instance, was a woman whose husband insisted that they move to another and far-away city. When they brought her to my office, she sat in fetal position and couldn't move or talk.
When the depression is hormonal or otherwise caused by biochemical changes, it's important to diagnose the specific triggers.
Similarly, when the trigger is situational, it's important also to address the triggers.
In both cases, and especially if the depression is long-lasting and/or where there is family history of depressive tendencies, it can be, or may not be, helpful to add medication.
The vast majority of depressive reactions can be treated without medication however.
A very clarifying description of the two depressive states. At the same time, for some people a specific situation triggers the extreme kind of response you so beautifully describe. So sometimes the phenomenon is both situational and chemical.
Prozac nor it's opposite (bupropion) helped my depression and quite frankly I'm sick of the hunt for a "good therapist"
@@kassandraharz9345 Yeah, I fixed it with yoga nidra. Thank God for RUclips and Reddit recommendations. It was annoying to go to therapy after bouncing around 6 therapists, counselors, and psychologists in addition to the shifty psychiatrists for 9 months. Prescription pills only made things worse, but I am so glad and thankful that nightmare is over.
@@kassandraharz9345 same. Where. Are. The. Good. Therapists???
I have suffered from life-threatening depression on and off during my life. If I had known about these techniques from childhood I don't think I would have suffered from depression it wouldn't have got that bad . So I think what this lady has to say is simple but very worthwhile, and I thank her very much for saying it
You are very welcome. And thank you for sharing your realization that understanding of the triggers for depression and techniques such as this one to counter them can save much suffering.
Agreed, I've been doing this for cptsd issues, coupled with EMDR it's let me live. Not only am I not dissociating, i actually don't want to now. I feel alive and I actually like it, so thanks from me too, and everyone that loves me 😊
I absolutely agree with you. so glad you have finally pin pointed your depression.
It’s so true! I’m in one of the darkest depressions I’ve ever experienced and I’ve had a lot. I just did this visualization and I’m not kidding I feel better! I’m shocked. I also have CPTSD. Hope you’re doing well, I see this was 3 years ago.
R u still alive?
I’ve had dysthymia since the age of 15 (almost 50 years), and have had a few hospitalizations. I also functioned well for long stretches of time when the depression was in remission. Currently have been going through a deep, long-term episode for over a year. I’m trying different meds and have been in therapy. I’m looking forward to getting out of the cellar so I can take advantage of something like this when I’m up to it. It’s tough beyond explanation.
Absolutely my friend - I truly feel for you. I’m experiencing a lengthy ‘dark cellar’ period too, and it’s pretty stubborn this time. If it’s any help to you, I’m sending you my warmest good wishes from the UK. We’ll get through this!
@@chrisberry9017 Thanks, my friend. Best to you, too.
Thank You for sharing. So brave of you. One step at a time.
God bless this lady I’ve struggled with depression 16 years it’s been on and off but I needed to hear this man. Sometimes I just cry in my pillow because I want things to get better but after this video I’ve realized you have to make yourself happy at whatever cost
Depression is a disorder of power. I am delighted to hear that this video helped you to realize that regaining an inner sense of empowerment-that is, ability to make changes that enable you to get what you want-can have a major impact on a depressed emotional state.
This Hennessey ain't even helping I'm genuinely in a messed up situation got fired too embarrassed to tell anybody feel like my life is over
@@marcialopez7228 hey man I hope things will go better for you
I think these are techniques useful for those moments when you're "temporarily feeling down" because some specific situations going on in your life and you should not be prescribed with antidepressant medication. In today's society, we can see two extremes: One is people being unnecessarily prescribed and the other is people who are actually and clinically depressed that just cannot be helped by using these kind of techniques and really need a full treatment involving medication and therapy.
Exactly.
Absolutely because I’m too far gone tired soo many medications over the years and talk therapy and it don’t worked still depressed asf
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
@@obibraxton2232 Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
Maybe start praying 🙏 to God n see if it works. And to also exercise and eat healthy.
Exactly i was about to say same, lady is talking about being depressed due to situation , people who are depressed since their childhood or teenage can be clinically depressed
I have suffered from depression since my teens. I am functional but it is difficult to go by day by day without joy or motivation. I have tried antidepressants, but the side effects were worse than the depression itself. Though I am not suicidal, living is a struggle. Hard to explain. A never ending story.......
Sending love if you are struggling! ❤️
Today, this TEDx talk crossed the million viewers mark. Warmest thanks to all who have viewed it. Highest hopes for all viewers that the talk has helped you to emerge from your depressed state. And deepest appreciation to the many viewers who have shared in these comments their positive reactions.
"May the long time sun shine upon you,
All love surround you,
And the pure light within you
Guide your way on."
By Snatam Kaur, in a song recorded by the Incredible String Band
Thank you for this video it really helped me to feel better. God Bless You!
How does one think rationally, any tips, I’m still just a kid and it would mean the world if you could help out, like any sources, or ways to help
Also is it bad if my depression has Been going on for a lot longer than some sources say is common, I got diagnose about a year ago but it feels as though it’s been going on for so long.
@@thinkandrepent3175 Warmest thanks for sharing your reaction, and also for the blessing. May you continue to feel better and to handle life's challenges in ways that keep you feeling good.
@@uhoh6081 hey, do still need any advice?
Ouch that’s an unfortunate name
This sound so simple. But when you're stuck with depression even simplest tasks are very hard. Deep breaths don't do anything at all. Sometimes even make it worse...
Yes. This is true. Depression depletes your energy system so doing anything can feel impossible.
Paradoxically, forcing yourself to move around, for instance, to go walking outside or to do exercise, causes your energy to rise. Instead of using up your limited energy, movement generally restores a more energetic emotional state.
Yes, it seems that despite all her research she still thinks depression means feeling fed up.
@@bradders9743 Fed up can be a step on the road to depression. Fed up followed by giving up gets someone closer.
I find that when I'm depressed I breathe as though I'm asleep, I did a meditation once that said not to leave a space between inhaling and exhaling, it helped a bit. It's worth trying if you're struggling to get up, to get an extra edge before trying to do something
@@eviolus-5660 yeah the Wim Hoff breathing technique helps a little
Dr. Susan Heitler is providing great insight in this video. I realize from the comments below that this video may not resonate for people who are struggling with severe depression, having difficulty functioning and are experience profound levels of pain. Based on Dr. Susan Heitler's other teachings, she does adamantly recommend people get help when they are experiencing severe depression, by the way of a therapist and psychiatrist. Once someone gets back to some level of functioning, they will still be faced with how to deal with their life challenges. Over time, if someone practices her 3 Step Prescription, I believe they can transform chronic tendencies towards depression into empowerment and vitality. Albeit, it is super important to get therapeutic support to put these new strategies into place. What Dr. Heitler is suggesting in this video is simple, but powerful. Often times, complex teachings need to be reduced to simple terms, so that they are more digestible and accessible. If you are someone you know if struggling with significant depression, I encourage getting help, so that there is support, safety, empathy, and compassion. From a stable foundation, Dr. Susan Heitler recommendations can help shift some major patterns of functioning.
this really helped me, I was depressed for years since I was a child and hadn't really realized it fully until a few days ago, I couldn't stop crying and stop from hurting, I remember I watch a video on youtube and the guy said you have to take risks to overcome it and he said that means opening up to someone which was the hardest thing in the world for me because I've always held stuff in, so yesterday I went to my mom and I told her everything and how I wanted to see a therapist, I couldn't even finish my sentences, now today after seeing this video finally gives me some kind of hope that'll feel better because I feel better after watching the video.
I so very glad to hear that you are opening up and beginning to see light again. Bravo!
You deserve a lot of credit for finding the strength to take that step. Wishing you all the best for the future
How are u doing now?
@@spiritual_king2375 I'm doing alot better I still live with my toxic family but I'm able to confront and stand up to them something I wasn't able to do before, I worked on myself a lot since I last commented on this video, I became really confident and even my little sister noticed it in me, she also struggles with the same thing I did in the past so since then I started helping her to break out of it and we became even closer doing so, she says she wants to be like me lol.
@@b3a3n3a3n3a3s thank you so much, I'm glad someone knows how excruciating this is to overcome but I'm doing a whole lot better now btw.
I never knew how easy it is to get into depression,but now that I am in one I know exactly how it feels, getting anxieties from time to time, crying whenever if not all the time, getting agitated,I could go on and on..it hurts more not having anyone to talk to because I am totally reserved I could count people I talk to in one hand,I am losing it alone it hurts it hurts a lot,I hope that one day this will be in the past..if not I hope nobody will go through this, nobody is supposed to.
How did you all fight this? I can't anymore..help..SOS please 😭
Asunta Sarah I hope you’re doing better. Yes it’s horrible but you must do your best to find someone who will listen & be supportive- hang in there & God bless you!!!
Dear, you can talk to me when you want. I've gone through this and healed. I'm in a better place due to God Almighty and all the work I did upon myself. Pls don't hold back and reach out. I'll send you my contact if feel so
This is exactly me 😔
What came to my mind was the future picture of who I wanted to be... I'm irritated because I could not become that person yet as I've been going through a lot. But I just survived homelessness and got myself a home so I can finally now focus on my future. Even if this didn't go the way I wanted... it does not mean it never will. Thank you for making me feel better.
Yeah.. no, this doesn't work for chemical depression. My dark cloud came when everything in my life was perfect and going how I wanted it to. It is brain fog, fatigue, and memory loss. This isn't just a choice I am making because of negative thoughts. It's not a feeling of someone has it better than me, because nothing matters if this is how I would feel .
Yep thats it, brain fog , fatigue and memory loss
i am experiencing all these now .when you have it u are always lack in making decisions , active at work , focus on your problems , and might feel like just watching some thing whole day doing nothing . getting a healthy diet less sweet and oil and not getting a tummy full diet just a half is fine , doing meditation helps a lot to keep the focus on track . and brain fog will be just gone it not permanent.
this sounds like fatigue in conjunction with feeling depressed. burn out syndroms of modern live. I can see, what was meant here in the video. just different kind of depressions. behavioural disorders that make oneself unhappy (observing oneself getting upset and self-blaming etc) can also lead to exhaution. things like that can come hand in hand. often one of the two reveals itself, when you strt to work on one of them. one can never know, when all the sudden there comes a moment, when exactly this methiod comes into play
Aagree
@@nagodavithnaamilalakmal5282 How are you ? In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, at work, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
"life is not an endurance contest" it also talks about how life is meant to be lived rather then being imprisoned by your past. god this is was so helpful, thank you so much
I just don't know how is it feels to actually want to live or be alive. That's depression. Life long torture.
My heart goes out to you. The kind of long-standing depression you are describing will take more than the technique in this video. I do hope that you find a cure before long. Keep looking. Somewhere something will appear that will enable you to enjoy life's sunshine. May it come soon!
@@drheitler ...amen..that is my situation to...May God Bless Us and keep us going forward..with Love’s Grace...🌈
death is no better as someone who can feel the darkness cold and empty. refresh your hope and feel alive. the darkness will take us all one day.
Smh
Loved the speech. I just went thru a situation where we got this amazing house and couldn’t understand why I wasn’t happy... everybody was telling me I should be!!! The more I was told I should be happy and grateful the more miserable I felt... It just didn’t feel like a home.... Now I know why... it wasn’t a house I really chose, it was almost imposed by my husband and by the expectations of society... and, instead of happy, now I know, it just made me feel small. It’s on the market and we got this lovely and simple half the size house with a gorgeous garden. The first night I felt more at home than at the other house in a year... I wish I had heard this long ago... God bless!
Excellent example. Thanks for sharing!
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
God loves ❤️ u. Pour out ur frustrations via prayers. He will hear u!
🔥 dope
Depression itself complicates bad moods into a downward spiral, it is highly intelligent and tricky that kinda get you cornered no matter what you try to do. But depression is a part of you, which means you are actually fighting against yourself. The intelligence depression displays by caging you in, is the same intelligence YOU own by trying to avoid future pain and suffering. So if you can get into depression, you can get out of it for sure. Knowing how to not let in negative self talk and knowing that depression is a natural defensive mechanism is important, because only then can you detach yourself from it. Depression is not you, it is a symptom of fear. It does not speak for you nor does it represent who you are as a person.
”Knowing how to not let in negative self-talk and knowing that depression is a natural defensive mechanism is important, because only then can you detach yourself from it. Depression is not you, it is a symptom of fear. It does not speak for you nor does it represent who you are as a person.”
Thank you, that genuinely helps.
this is genuinely great advice. thank you.
Thanks
you are right it's not easy to beat depression there are lot of medical experiments out there but they don't work effectively to help with the healing process , i used different anti-depressant to fight it but didn't work until i was recommended to try psychedelic mushroom , i can testify to the magical wonders of this natural element given to us by nature , i don't why people don't talk about it because it could save lots of lives , i get mine delivered from an online vendor that specializes in the growth and sales of psychedelic products
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Thank you so much ma'am. only because of you I am out of depression (it took some time but i did it)
Hooray! Good for you!!!
@@drheitler A big thanks from India☺️
Trying to scam depressed people.mthats just pathetic. Getnoutta here Nigerian.
Thought I would put my two pennies worth into this subject.
The speaker first and foremost means well, she is a qualified psychiatrist and is giving the advice gathered throughout her career based upon her experiences.
In an ideal world it would be absolutely fantastic to follow this advice and be well.
Unfortunately it just doesn't work like that for a large part of the populace, including myself. I am also of the belief that a lot of mental illnesses are passed on genetically, predominantly depression & schizophrenia.
Point being no, I don't want to be on antidepressants. But at the same time they have probably saved my life, and to be honest I wouldn't wish depression on my worst enemy.
The best cure for depression that I have found is excercise, self reflection and more exercise, but have a goal.
People who are biologically and/or genetically depression-prone, I agree, are likely to find medication helpful and even essential. At the same time, the treatments are both-and rather than either-or.
I have found that many clients who are successfully taking anti-depressant medication still benefit from the understanding of depression and the 3-P's visualization I explain in this talk. Life events and frustrations can knock anyone down, including people on mediation. Best to have good pick-me-ups, including exercise, sunshine, energizing social interactions, and visualizations.
Thanks for sharing your thoughtful comment.
Susan Heitler, PhD, clinical psychologist
Feeling is everything…it runs the world..how you feel is life…you made her speech personal. You missed major points as well. Control your feelings, control your life. That’s why belief is so powerful…it’s what’s you feel not what you know..( main reason why ppl question religion..what they learn ..they don’t feel) 💯✌🏽
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
@@scorpioindigo1345 Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
@@small_fries7573 bro your lost and looking for a savior that doesn’t exist. Save yourself
Depression is not a 'down mood'!!
Just like anger can range from mild irritation to rage, depression can range from "a down mood" to overwhelming despair.
@@drheitler If someone's "Depression" is just a down mood then it isn't really depression.
Research0digo No it’s not... yet it might be a “down mood” that lasts for a very very long time. She was very light and perhaps simplistic in what she was saying but there was some truth in what she said too.
True
@@kirk1007 not true. Depression is a down mood that is more severe and longer than others. Perhaps with additional bodily symptoms as well. Its the same thing overall. You can be a little hungry or you can be very hungry. When people are very hungry they usually use the word starving. Same with depression. So you are wrong and she is right.
To Nancy and Patricia, warmest thanks for taking the time to write your positive reactions to the talk. Your enthusiasm means a lot to me. I'm especially pleased with words like "practical" and "common sense," as my goal in giving the talk is to make self-help accessible to the many people who suffer from depressive reactions and want to know what they can do to help themselves.
Susan Heitler. You are offering one type of approach that is about "doing something" constructive. Many professionals don't really seem to offer a formula to try. Maybe it will help, and if not, on to something else. I do not expect an answer but if I were to receive one I would be very grateful. I spent about 35 sessions with a therapist who helped me but I could not seem to get her to help me deal with my underlying anger! My anger stems from what feels like betrayal, even divine persecution! (So you don't think I'm suffering delusions...lol. I have had many recent "events" that could lead to situational depression). I am no stranger to depression. However, my normal methods are not working. Pharmaceutical methods only leave me empty, unable to feel the good either! At 49 my home, the safe haven I had worked so hard to create for my family, burned to the ground. A year later I lost my sight in one eye due to a very rare condition, a stroke/bloodclot to the artery supplying my retina. A year later another TIA. Testing led to quickly scheduling a triple bypass. Six days before that surgury and in excruciating pain and two hospital misdiagnosis, it was finally determined I had another rare condition, a spinal abscess. Since I had been on blood thinners and the paralysis was becoming obvious, they needed to emergently proceed to surgery giving me a 30% chance of surviving surgurey but a 100% guarantee of permanent paralysis. T1-3 were cut in half and a significant amount of debridement in the area was done. I spent ten days in hospital and two weeks in physical rehab learning to balance, walk, etc., still on IV antibiotics I then went home and continued with nursing visits, phy
Sorry, mis sent. Long recovery and then within four months the triple bypass back to physical rehab, etc. It's been difficult and financially a hardship. I feel beaten down. I feel adversity has won! I feel like I let my family down by feeling depressed. I literally feel like the Mole in the "Wack-a-Mole" game! Afraid to live, afraid to die, I guess. Any ideas? Perspective?
@@janeyoung4783 damn. I pray u somehow recover 🙏. U got it tuff. Keep grinding 💪 some days u will suffer but no shame. Keep praying if u haven't started. I know it's cliche but God is real like u r real. 💛 Sometimes God rewards people 4 their sufferings and not so much with money or riches. I firmly believe that Jesus Christ will reward believers with spiritual richness and awards in heaven. Let me know if u need any prayers at da least I can do or any encouragement.
@@janeyoung4783 let ur fam and friends know how difficult it's been & u need financial and encouragement help. Find a church ⛪️ maybe someone there can help u. 🤔
I read some of the comments not happy with her type of therapy.
I can understand their view too, because I was at a stage where I suffered an acute depressive episode/ mental breakdown. Antidepressants were a life saver with counselling for me at that stage.
But down the track I'm still on the drugs.
And from this Tedtalk I think I realised I have stagnated. I did not look at how I could work on how I resolve issues when I am in a situation of oppression.
I have something to learn from this, and a way to stand alone again without antidepressants.
She has some valid tools here.
When she said the thing about Depression being about power a lightbulb went off. Everytime I feel depression coming on its when I feel insecure or powerless to something I want
Exactly! Thanks for sharing your insight!
OMG! She is the aunt I never knew that I needed in my life. She is so good ❤
Warmest thanks for writing in your appreciation!
If it were this easy, depression wouldn't be a thing.
Mars Silvergold
It is that easy, humans love to complicate things
nope, it truly is not. Some people just don't have power anymore. They are (I know it by myself) like ran out of fuel after running a couple of marathons without any break. Combined with a life situation which offers no further options for a soon outcome, it literally keeps you down. And in this position there are really much wrong decisions, wating to be made. And if you are additionally afraid of anything at anytime because there isnt much left to be made the right way, then you are very soon paralyzed and time keeps going faster than you can even imagine without any progress in your life. And the latter can even pull you down again and every little step forward, even when noticing it though, feels like still being stuck. So thus, depression is and can be very complicated without wanting it to be what it actually is like in most cases. I went the way to a therapist because I wanted a change and I'm still working on it, but I can really tell you that this, I admit good video, is not the only truth. There is MUCH more to be done to get out of the mud. And btw* I'm not taking any pills and nevertheless I often thought about taking them because for me...these kind of prescriptions without pills aren't enough by far.
It's not for everyone. It is worth examining especially when one considers how many people are taking pills, and shouldn't be. Sadness and temporary depression are a part of life and not a reason to take expensive, dangerous drugs.
thx for this blue, when pple reply 'otherwise' they never hit rock bottom indeed
Depression is also passed on
I have been depressed most of my life. At times I can feel on my back a weight that feels like I am carrying somebody else's body. I have seriously tried everything known to man. Now I just live with it and do what I can to survive. Eat, sleep, distract.
@Dhea Dellos - Affirmations Thanks and I wish well for you. I agree, however I come to conclude through Yankee Arnold Ministries that I had been trying to restore the dead and not learning to walk by faith through my spirit by the Holy Spirits guidance and empowerment. Also that I had not put effort into learning who I am in Christ and what my authority is. Anyways, now on this path. 😎😎
This role play scenario u created is like the ideal way it goes in a perfect world. It doesn't go like that in reality
"Julie chuckled" is where I stopped watching. Feels like a bedtime story. I've experienced my husband's depression and suicide. He had no bumps in the road. This talk is great for confidence building and assertiveness training, not clinical depression.
You're 100% correct. Sorry to hear about your husband.😐
Yeah, well I got out of my major depression with pump up techniques. I was suicidal, ended up in the hospital and had been like that for years and years! Got out of my depression in less than a week. I guess this person who treats hundreds of people for major depression knows less than you that... what do you do?
Leah, The only permanent cure to depression is meditation which reprogrames the mind. Enter "Alternate nostril breathing meditation videos "on Google search and watch some videos. Do the simple meditation at least twice a day in a quiet atmosphere and negative thoughts will slowly come down. You can sit on a chair and do this meditation. Continue daily practice --Best wishes. Shyaaam --Life coach.
People who never experienced depression, have absolutely no idea what it is.
@@MaxelMiliam what is pump up technique?
The problem with depression is that it's not just in our conscious minds, but in the subconscious, & the subconscious mind contributes 95% of our brain power. To change such a situation therefore requires a lot of energy & willpower.
Billy Mugs, In life there are only 2 problems--mind and the body. To feel better reduce negative thoughts. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives good relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. When taking a walk, in the kitchen, at work, when reading, before sleep etc observe your breath sensations. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Morning sunlight walks, a simple prayer, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Best wishes--Counsellor.
I've been doing these types of techniques on my own for the past 5 years without knowing of this video. I identify why I'm feeling that way, build myself up, make a plan, then take action. In fact I was doing this not only for myself but for my 41 year old sister, she took her life 1 month ago and I'm done. I've tried for so long and for this to be the outcome is just too much. I do what I need to do in life, work my 40 hours, clean up, basic hygiene, take care of her cat she abandoned...and that's it, there's no point in trying anymore.
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way. It ebbs and flows like waves for me. Good days, bad days and in-between. If you have the means to, a good psychologist can help.
Im sorry for your loss you are so powerful and brave keep going
For those dealing with depression, don't give up. Remember, If you rearrange the letters in the word "DEPRESSION" you will get words "I PRESSED ON". Keep pressing on.
Thank you I needed to read this! 💜
@@MZFiVETW000H You're welcome and hang in there. We got this!
@@imsofocused4678 thank you 🙂💜 yes we do 💪🏽
You made me smile
This made me suicidal, thank you
Thank you so much. Such a blessing hearing a positive talk from someone my own age. I have heard a lot of great things from the younger speakers, but like me, you have been around the block a few times and your words have been tried and tested. I have struggled with these things all my life, but regardless, I got thru them and achieved a reasonable amount of success. Several years ago I had made the decision to allow a doctor to treat me for add because I had become convinced that was the reason everything was such a struggle for me. I thought I could be a lot more successful if everything was not such a flippen struggle. The only thing I accomplished with that is develop an amphetamine addiction. So my current prescription is my last prescription and I load up on as much positive thinking as I can because it will be a long struggle to rewire my brain. I am so thankful for a loving wife who will stand with me in this and for talks such as yours that I can draw on when the endorphins are hard to come by. Thanks again, you are a beautiful person and a wonderful speaker.
Warmest thanks for sharing your struggle, and also for expressing your appreciation. I am honored.
She’s awful at addressing REAL depression.
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
@@valeriezushin9419 Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
U r precious man. God bless u. Keep grinding 💪 💯 😤. U gonna be fine soon.
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
You are precious.
I truly wish this type of therapy worked for severe depression for me. I feel it's a bit dangerous to push the idea this works for people with true major depression. I can't get out of bed or accomplish a simple task so doing any of
these suggestions during depression and not being able to accomplish elevating my self makes me feel worse. My depression is hereditary and it happens even when my life is going smoothly with very few "bumps." Would you have suggested such ideas to Sylvia Plath and expect this to lift the bell jar?
I totally agree with you that this technique is not for people suffering with a major depressive disorder. As I say in the opening of the talk, this technique is for the "common cold" version of depression. Probably I should have emphasized this point more: When a depression is Depression, like the difference between a common cold and pneumonia, the technique is not going to suffice.
I'll say it again now. When a depression is clearly a) severe and b) of clear hereditary and biological origin, this technique is not going to lift the depression. It is not an appropriate technique for these situations.
Thank you for writing your comment in a way that so nicely clarifies this point.
Best 16 mins content I could have spent my time on.
Absolutely amazing lady.
This comment warms my heart. Thank you.
My twin died during my mother’s pregnancy, and I’ve learnt that the area of the brain that deals with abandonment etc, is still being developed; you could say unprotected, very vulnerable and raw. So when a close interaction with a twin suddenly stops, this can ‘bake in’ a unique deep psychological feature for that person. I experienced grief before I was even born, before my mother even found out.
I don’t know where to begin to describe my upbringing, I can’t think of a word to label it; my feelings or attachment to most of my family has been destroyed, due to being a dysfunctional family, I don’t ‘love’ any of them, I’m not sure if I know what love means, there’s no love in my family. I’ve also never had luck with dating or finding a person I could care for. I feel like I’m refused the opportunity to love anyone, and the slightest hint of someone I’m interested in appreciating my efforts. I jump in too fast and scare them away. Because I’m literally dying to have a companion and to love someone.
Stay strong buddy.
You are an articulate & understanding human being-what’s not to love..?
this happened to me too. i deal with really bad bpd (borderline personality disorder)
reading your story I feel sorry for you. it good that you now know so much about you. I wish you find new way of seeing the reality, surroundings and especially yourself. the journey will be uncomfortable, like dark forest, but it is the sign you reestablishing yourself. I believe it is the only way
❤
My mom passed away a year ago and I still couldn't accept the fact.
there is no god damn "BUMP" in my life. I just have no energy, motivation, or care to do anything or interact with anyone. From an outsider perspective I have everything I could ever want or need to succeed. The only things I can force myself to do are: go to work, eat, and go to the gym. Other than that I am an empty shell of a human being.
Then you are powerless?
This is literally me
How are you feeling now? I’m so sorry you are feeling this way. Hopelessness when it’s not caused by anything specific is difficult to navigate. Don’t give up!
A change in perception alters chemistry in the brain. Empowering people to learn to shift their thinking is way more inspiring than fixing chemistry with drugs while still feeling powerless in life’s situations. Kudos Dr Susan ❤️
Thank you! Your comment is right on!
Thank you.
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
Just an FYI for those of you who did not read the description. She is not at all speaking about major depressive disorder or depression she's speaking of situational depression. Situational. Situational depression. Situational depression that is what she is talking about thank you
God dammt. Thanks. You'd think a professional giving a public speech authoritatively would know the distinction.
@@gwho She does. I said for the people who didn't read the description. There are people going into arguments basing her lecture on major depressive disorder and such when she is speaking on a different mental health issue. That's all.
@@gwho I DK if you're being sarcastic lol
A therapist told me I was depressed on a scale of 8/10 and immediately offered me some pills. Turned away and never looked back. I understand what I am but I will actively try to overcome it instead of submitting
Thank you Susan for solving one of the biggest problem that was holding me down. I was thinking there must be easier and simpler ways to get over these bad cycles of depression and there you go. This is one of the ways that helps. There are other non-chemical and enlightening ways that helps in the long run. Thank you so much for bringing out one. I am going to share this video with people I know who need this right now.
You are welcome. And I'm delighted that you are sharing the talk with others who need help lifting depressed feelings. Bravo!
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
Awesome video about depression! Of late I've looked back on my life & the 1st huge mistake I made as a young woman was getting involved with a guy I didn't love & ended up marrying him. Then 4 decades later after 10 relocations and somewhere along the line realizing what kind of place I really wanted but not being able to move there. So I hit that bump this lady is speaking about many times in my life and been chronically depressed for many years.
Was he a bad person or did you just not love him?
I’m on that road as well. I want to be different places. It’s sad when you have to be damn near homeless to accomplish anything as a regular person with issues you just want to break free from.
@@LuvliexXJazzieXx Yes, I know what you mean JahZiie. Thanks for your words! I take it you're not living where you want either then. It's so depressing not be able to go move where you want to.
at least u admit it. Take guts to do that. U r not like my neighbor Cuong. Lost his job back in 2012. Sought revenge and lost 2 court cases to his employers. His bro died at age 58. Cuong has been miserable since 2012. Doesn't go out unless necessary. No job. No vacations. No eating out. Wife works and cooks for him daily. I mean Cuong is a miserable guy who has no real, honest hope in his life anymore! Das 10 years of misery n denial of his mental illness conditions.
U and people on dis site have more courage than Chicken 🐔 Cuong!
She’s so adorable 🥰 loves her talk
Another great tip is writing comedy about your experiences, explain what it’s like being you and share it with others. Hope that helps someone. It’s amazing 😉 I’ve worked through some big stuff using
comedy as therapy. Wishing you all a really loving peaceful day. Hang tight, this too shall pass 😍😍😍😍😍
As the saying goes, laughter is the best medicine. You are very fortunate to have this talent, a talent for turning emotional pain into humor. Bravo!
Its important to change thought patterns, to learn how to overcome mental obstacles and pick up better habits that exist in our minds. Thoughts are exactly that, an illusion that exists only in our minds but literally composes us and effects what we project outwards in every aspect of our lives and on to others. I am definitely an advocate for pills because sometimes the frustration can become so overwhelming that it keeps me stuck in my tracks unable to even make a change. For people with a higher severity of depression, it is completely necessary to use pills as an aid, but if you aren’t making any internal changes along side this your not really making any progress and essentially just numbing the way your negative thoughts hold you under its thumb. Thats what I realize for myself anyways after being on meds for a year and relying solely on that. What we allow to feed our minds can also be detrimental. Take a minute and think about the people you allow around you, the music you listen to, the things you read etc and how all of those things make you feel as well. Remember that healing is not a race and you are able to take as much time as you need to become stronger even if it takes 10,20,30 years as long as everyday your working to become better than yesterday ❤️
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
Perfectly said ❤
Little meditation gives us an idea about where we are stuck, what's looking big, what we are interpreting which is not, what we are hearing which is not for us, we eventually figure out how our mind is playing with us, awareness is the first step to get out of depression.
God bless you who is in depression
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This was really helpful and lifted my mood and confidence today :) thank you Susan ❤️
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Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
You are precious.
I have bipolar disorder (and a host of other diagnoses, lol) and EVEN THE PEOPLE PRESCRIBING MEDS will tell you to do these things she is naming!!! Diet, being active, journaling through problems, routine; these are all things that WILL improve your life. And guess what? Depression IS common. All these comments are ridiculous..... don't act like you are the only person that has it bad. We are in fact PRONE to developing bouts of depression in our current society because we lack the balance in life that this doctor is proposing. Some people are biologically predisposed, but almost everyone will experience depression at some point in their life. That is a fact. I've been told that many times. Take every perspective you can instead of shooting down the first person that gives you something new to try.
Bravo and thank you.
Thank you, Anna! XO.
Yes!
GIRL, YES!!!!
Thank you Anna and Sienna for these supportive responses. I totally agree that all of us sometimes feel depressed, and that all of us need techniques for lifting depression when from time to time it darkens our lives.
I never thought I'd reach this point where the only thing that always comes to my mind are nothing but pure suicidal thoughts. Back when I was young I'm always positive, cheerful, active. But right now, whenever I'm alone or whenever I'm with someone,... my thoughts remain and I hate it because I'm so close to it. I'm so close to the point of just ending things so that I could no longer feel it. I rather be physically tortured to see my bruises and wounds heal than to be like this. This is... awful
Yes, episodes of major depression can feel devastating. Please though, hang in there. New treatments do seem to be working. Check out the reply I wrote to Christoph Baier (3 days ago) for suggestions of at least two that seem to get quite remarkable results. When you feel back to normal, you will look back on this period in your life and feel enormously thankful to be again in the world of smiles and enjoyment.
@@drheitler Hi, thank you so much for your help. I appreciate it a lot and your words somehow calmed me. I will read it and I sincerely thank you for it.
@@boomboxx9079 Warmest thanks for the feedback. Your ability to experience and express appreciation says to me that you have the potential to live a joyful life. Go for it!
I’ve watched quite a few of these vids on depression, and the one thing that they all leave out, because it’s outside their conformist, middle-class comfort zone is alienation… Complete, total and unbridgeable alienation! To the alienated, I say this, ‘use that gift to do the things the others never even imagined’.
its facinating to think that depression is also a disorder of feeling small and powerless. it makes sense to me
I picked up on the NLP Technique, I must remember, often I forget it when I know it's something that deeply need. Thank You,
Thanks for this reminder of our power of our own thoughts. We need all the reminders we can get because it’s more comfortable to externalize our emotions than to look at our internal thought choices. We don’t get enough reminders because so many speakers tell people what they want to hear. So this is valuable, as an alternative or a supplement to the chemical prescription.
BRAVO! at least u admit it. Take guts to do that. U r not like my neighbor Cuong. Lost his job back in 2012. Sought revenge and lost 2 court cases to his employers. His bro died at age 58. Cuong has been miserable since 2012. Doesn't go out unless necessary. No job. No vacations. No eating out. Wife works and cooks for him daily. I mean Cuong is a miserable guy who has no real, honest hope in his life anymore! Das 10 years of misery n denial of his mental illness conditions.
U and people on dis site have more courage than Chicken 🐔 Cuong!
God is literally the way.I was going through an episode and broke down at my job in a closet and prayed about it. God not only took it away instantly he gave me the holy ghost an hour later.I freaked out because I didn't know what was happening I was talking to a customer at the time.I had to excuse myself to the restroom.I was crying and dancing and confused at the same time.God saved my life I'm so grateful....🙏🏾🥰❤
A lot of people generally say on their blogs and videos "pin-point the obstacle/the problem" like it's some pick-your-character option. But listening to the kind lady just felt like "Damn. She really cares ❤️" and she put in such a ....lovely way. It just felt like a warm hug the way she put it. Not too much sugar on it tho. Just right. Thank you so much ✨❤️ I really needed this right now!! And i feel waaay better having listened to this. I shall try it soon enough. 💖
I forgot the feeling of how I lived my life before I have depression. I think about it everyday, what was it that makes me happy before?
Honey Don't think that you're depressed think that you're having a bad time,and you just need to figure it out whats wrong am doing right now and how i need to solve it, trust me it doesn't take years to solve, it would probably take only few months, And stop being alone and overthink things, Do one thing
1) Take a book, write dow wts happening to you
2) Write what you should do to make it solve
3) Keep doing things which makes you happy
4) Don't ever dependent on other's to get happy
5) Give permission to yourself to keep your mind in present
6) At least for a moment you can come out of your bad time, and then it's a good sign
7) Keep reminding that you're RARE.
8) Don't be selfish, be happy for what you have right now, and be satisfied.
9) Don't daydream, just know reality and face the world.
10) Only if you know how to cope with world, nature of life, then there's no place of bad time in your life.
Honey you're not depression you're just having a bad time.
*And if you really think it's depression
Then depression is only in your head, not in you😊*
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Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
Simple exercises n simple things make u happy 😊. Maybe ya friends make u happy? Hope I encouraged u somewhat.
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
You are precious.
“Giving up in response to something you want, triggers depression”!! Brilliant!
Thank you for the feedback!
Just loving how everyone has dropped down the comments 😭 like you guys understand how we feel
My depression is debilitating, relentless, and over powering. I have trouble even speaking sometimes, making eye contact. The most frustrating though is the inability to figure out why I'm feeling this way.
Finding the trigger for a depressed state is exactly the purpose of this exercise.
At the same time, additional therapies may be needed for someone to have the energy to implement new insights from this exercise. This need becomes evident if someone does the three steps of the exercise and finds that they cannot hold the larger size that they envision in step two, Pump up.
Emotion Code and Body Code are treatment methods that sometimes can help to identify further causes, and treatments, for a major depression such as you are describing. Google these terms (or search youtube) to learn more.
Also, it's important with a significant depression to get a medical workup to be sure your body is not missing a chemical (e.g., potassium) needed for a normal emotional state.
Lastly , in situations such as yours, it can for sure be worth giving medications a try, including ketamine if a combination of the techniques above plus traditional anti-depressant medication does not lift your energy level and your spirit.
Wishing you all the best.
@@drheitler Wow. Thank you very much for for taking the time to reply. I absolutely will try everything you suggested, except the ketamine. I'm a recovering addict. But would like to note I almost took part in a research study for severe depression at a hospital in Bethesda MA where they were going to use ketamine coupled with an ssri I forget which one. However I was disqualified because of a metal rod in my right tibia. I couldn't do some particular scan that had magnetic properties like mri or something
@@michaeldaywalt2097
Another option for treatment-resistant depression: electric shock has been much improved over the years. One of my clients recently underwent this treatment. It took him from 100% unable to function to being able to return to his work as a high-level professional.
Thank you for the information. I was not expecting a reply. Please continue to educate and not allow negative responses to affect your work in this area. Depression unfortunely is common, but also very painful. I have learned to approach working on my depression when I am not in the throes of it. I misunderstand what is being said. It not intentional, it just is. Thank you for reaching out. You are a lovely therapist with a good heart. Thank you!
To Nan W, You are very much welcome.
I decided a couple of weeks ago to start coming off my meds. I'm on Sertraline 50mg and yeah they helped me through another breakdown but I have recently started looking into why I have been feeling the way I have for many many years. Wanting to be loved, wanting friends, judging myself way to much, changing of the seasons. The list goes on. One of my biggest changes is finally realising that I have to stop putting everyone else before myself and phoning or texting everyone first because honestly, stop phoning or texting and then you really find out who your true friends really are. Yeah that makes me feel alone but I would be alone than be made to feel alone by so called friends.
I feel what you wrote. In the darkest hours , very few people understand or empathize with what we feel! I feel like I ve had fake friends all my life and now I am done looking for friends! Build yourself up, be there for yourself and be your own best friend. If someone values you they will come and stick around.
Thank you a lot for doing this video, I loved how Susan explained everything in such an easy way.
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
Hope u find encouragement in ur life. God bless. Do u need any prayers or encouragement from me?
@@small_fries7573 Thank you for your sweet words. Yes, I would like that you pray for me. I am already feeling gratitude for you. Jesus loves me and loves everyone, just the way we are.
I was diagnosed with Bipolar II in 2019. I was grateful what I felt for so many years finally had a name. Now, I can work on fixing it/ managing it.
Great talk, visualisation is incredibly powerful, I’ve used it before when struggling with confidence and nerves. Most people simply need to talk through their issues and problem solve. A pill can help numb negative/self inflicting feelings but will not stop them forming. I’m a strong believer exercise is a great healer, a nice long cycle or run can help to clear the mind allowing you to refocus,. Interestingly your body releases chemicals similar to those found in weed when you exercise, which is why you can get that euphoria after a long hard session, look it up 🤓
Just starting to listen to you made me feel relaxed. So lucky there are people like you around. Thank you.
Thank you for this feedback. It warms my heart.
@@drheitler Thank you so much ma'am. I did not know I was suffering from depression until now. May you stay blessed always.
@@mamufeeds Warmest appreciation for your blessing. It means a lot to me.
y’all don’t know how to accept help, acting like your problems are too “big” for this woman’s advice. this woman is a THERAPIST. there’s no appreciation for this wonderful TED talk here. she addresses depression as “feeling down.” so what? that doesn’t diminish the strength of her lesson. I see a lot of comments saying depressed people don’t “want anything,” but that is the entire point of this conversation. that is the reason depressed people are depressed: they don’t want anything; they have no reason to live. she is attempting to reignite what you lost. you all are entirely misinterpreting the point of this presentation because you don’t want help, but you searched this up for a reason and this is probably the best advice you can get.
My conception is that the world is getting faster and faster, and this rush breeds anxiety ... where it takes pressure on us, ending up in our depression
Thank you Dr. It is a simple approach to dealing with every day inner perspectives. While some may not see the value, as someone who has looked within, it is a simple way to deal with what we're creating within our minds, and how to correct it quickly, before it becomes a goto way of being, just another program holding us back.
Exactly. Thanks for adding this perspective.
Thanks for this, you are spot on with my depression and this bump theory is spot on and I just never saw it. After looking at this talk I have identified this and other times that I have been "bumped" into a depressive state. My wife was asking what the problem was this morning and this afternoon I have answered her. Thank you so much. XOXO. Thanks again.
Warmest thanks for this delightful feedback. Bravo on using the information in the talk effectively.
Wish u accept Jesus Christ as your Savior so u can go to heaven after this life. God doesn't expect you to be perfect nor sinless. He just wants u to believe in Him as your Savior for your sins so u can go to heaven after this life.
You are precious.
Lifting depression is really important as it affects numerous aspect of one's life. Some people even think that it's normal for older people to experience it, but it really isn't. No matter how old you are, we should be happy and grateful for the blessings that we have in life, which is why we should always look out and be there for our loved ones who show signs and symptoms of depressions. This video is really great because each prescription given helps you understand the whole situation and lift yourself up from depression. Thank you so much for this Susan, you remind us of Reviving Mind's health and wellness coaches who help older adults who deal with anxiety, depression and other chronic illnesses. Keep it up.
Warmest thanks for taking the time to share your appreciation. Your enthusiasm about the Talk means a lot to me!
This lady is so god damn nice! She's the grandma I wish I had ❤❤❤
This is not what depression is. Depression affects your ability to think clearly, it affects your judgment, your problem solving skills, you cognitive processes, you feel dull, apathy, among other things. Feeling down and having depression are two very different things.. you cannot talk yourself our of depression. If you suspect that you may be suffering from depression, please seek medical advice. Take care of yourself.
"Life is not an endurance test. You don't have to keep suffering. Pin down the problem, pump up, and solve it. " The best thing i have heard so far in my 20 years
Warmest thanks for this enthusiastic endorsement.
I can relate to what she said on this point when it comes to low motivation and mood while being used to not getting what you want/need. Could be anything, like friends easily dropping from your life. You wonder how you can ever get that back, potentially not feeling you can convince them to try again, and you just accept you won't have any close friends & suffer the repercussion of that dearth. We start to think there's no alternatives, a lonely road ahead & it's similar to "learned helplessness". For others, a different stressor or longterm insurmountable problem/threat.
7 years keep fighting... but im still here still felling down😢
What this woman is talking about is depression that has no self-accountability. Lets be real, if someone else is making you feel bad/sad, the challenge of getting over that is honestly not that hard....as say trying to get through depression that clearly comes from our own doing. This video started off good, but then puts the blame on others. Thats all good if that is truth, but for many of us in depression, we are clearly the reason for how we feel, not someone outside ourselves.
I cause my own depression at times. Dwelling on everything I'm not and want to be. I've been on medications for 10 plus years. I got off all medicine for my second pregnancy. I want to learn to cope on my own. Medications is masking and I don't want to mask anymore. My mindset is the problem.
What would happen if you focused with appreciation for what you are...and looked for solutions, for a plan of action, with regard to what also you would like to develop?
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I just loved this...Thank you very much to this amazing lady!💙
It just hurts. I don't even know where it is hurting but the pain comes and I can't stop.
Trust me you'll feel better when you get a real job and financially stable, there's still time for that, now all you've to do is think about your goal and work hard for that.
Just imagine you having your own money, you get no reason to get hurt.
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Wow what an amazing tool to use. I am glad someone with experience is sharing vital information. It will give my depression and anxiety another feelings other options instead of serious over medication. Loved this talk.