I grew up in a narcissistic family, went through 2 narcissistic marriages and divorces, and had 2 kids with a narcissist. My youngest child went through 2 su*cide attempts because of the deeply painful emotional abuse by his narcissistic father. Because of my personal experiences with narcissism, I decided to do a deep dive and learn everything I could about it. I believe this is how Spirit works with us - we continue through painful cycles until we learn and grow! 🌱I ended up creating a new educational and healing support program for Moms like me. There is a strong magnetic attraction between empaths and narcissists. I believe that narcissists will suck the life out of us empaths, if we let them. The lesson is to get us to wake up, create healthy boundaries, step into our own power, and serve the world through our soul mission - whatever that is for each of us. An important and timely video, thank you! 💜
I agree with your understanding. There is certainly a strong magnetic attraction between the 2. I am an empath as well. Good for you for learning from it and creating a support program to help other Mother's like you. 😊
My narc sister excused her behavior by saying that she was just an extrovert and gets more energized from being around people. I felt like she sucked the air outta the room. It was so oppressive to be around her for me. I finally went no contact after many psychic and emotional attacks from her. Self awareness is everything to an empath. I honor myself for knowing what I do now and I listen to my inner knowing without denying it ❤
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! The only way to keep a narc in your life. If they continue to violate them then say goodbye! Sometimes it’s the only way. It’s a good lesson to more empathic types to maintain and establish boundaries.
My daughter is NPD (vulnerable NPD - very beautiful and very manipulative), and I was told many times to just remove her from my life in order to retain my sanity. I chose to keep her in my life, she's my daughter and i love her, I simply can't imagine abandoning her - not that she'd care - but I would care. She's 40 today and I'm actually grateful she never married so there are no grandchildren involved. She's been an amazing "trainer" over the years, and I've learned to put down very firm boundaries. Also, when she's out hunting for "supply" I'm always the first one, and I've learned not to fall into that trap, I simply hug her, tell her I love her, and that I'll speak to her in a few days. Somehow that seems to work. It's a challenge though, but I'm proud of the way I've learned to navigate through it. My 2 sons took a different approach, one son hardly speaks to her at all, and the other one has found a way to dance between the drops without becoming offended. He looks at her as an unwell person and finds the compassion. I might add, she's an accomplished artist and an amazing children's teacher for special ed. Interesting how she gets along with children. Thank you for bringing this up dear Nancy and letting me share. Love you💙
Wow! I realize I am also a bit needy in my energy management as an Empath, and I ‘fall’ for narcissists in various ways. I realize after thinking about it today, that I am too willing to give my energy away to feel needed or good. I appreciate your talk today!
I've had MANY narcissists in my life, starting with my mom. Violent covert narc = Mom. Everyone thought she was sooo sweet and kind, but behind closed doors, she flipped and became "demonic". Her eyes would go black, her face would trunk red and sweaty, and her voice became scary and loud. Fists would fly..on me only. My little brother was coddled and could do no wrong (although he was the trouble maker). I finally cut her out of my life in my 40s after I started healing and learning that my childhood was NOT normal. Many bfs thru the years also were narcs, scary af. I had to move 2000 miles away to find safety. These pp are dangerous!
Nancy, thank you so much for this video. Both of my parents have NPD, and it was a nightmare growing up with them. I never understood it either b/c we were raised in the church. I come from a long line of pastors, bishops,...very high up in the church but I could never understand HOW they could be such monsters at home. I am no contact after decades of therapy (didn't help!). Now, I am on the spiritual path and finally doing better. Anyway, thanks...you explained this issue so well!! ps. Insight TImer has been a life saver for me. Glad you mentioned this.
I changed my life and those of my cosmic kids that I had with a narcissist husband of 17 years. I had a dream with my deceased father that led to my own spiritual mindfulness journey. Yet I had meditated for years prior. In my darkest night of the soul, I fantasized with a different life instead of the harsh and exhausting reality I had at that time. I even wrote my own vision of my life for the next five years… it all manifested and beyond my own dreams. Other events have occurred that I didn’t envision, but in retrospect I was able to change my life for the better in incredible ways. Spiritual Mindfulness is truly powerful. Mostly when meditating with you Nancy! You make it so much easier to envision in the mind’s eye. Thank you for asking for compassion for people who suffer from Narcissism. 🙏🏽❤️
I can definitely relate with some of these npd's. Esp. feeling special, boasting about accomplishments and intellectual superiority. It's challenging to face this stuff, but it feels really fleeting and often empty. It's no fun relying on others for acceptance. Meditation, connection with Source helps so much. I feel loved and accepted. When I struggle, I try to remember to say, I choose self love and compassion, hang up the judgement and self criticism or the need for other people's approval. Very much a work in progress. Thank you, Nancy ❤❤❤
I was married to a narcissist but didn’t know this term at the time. All I know is that he taught me a huge lesson. Sadly he used our children as a way to get back at me and my son is having counselling and my daughter sadly is showing these traits. For my ex husband …. He is now reaping what he has sown. I cannot tell you how much damage he has caused his own children. I guess we are all here to learn. Anyone going through this I wish you nothing but love and light and know that ‘this to shall pass’. Infinite love to you all and bless you dear Nancy 💗💗💗
Same with me, not knowing that my ex was a narc at the time. I just thought he was very selfish. He has done so much damage to my son. Thankfully we only had one. My son rarely talks to him, but hasn't completely cut him out of his life yet. It's so sad as they always want the acceptance from the parent that doesn't give it.
Heartfelt thank you, Nancy Rebecca, for your beautiful and compassionate resourceful perspectives on narcissism. As someone who knows, has known, been related and loved too many with these traits, I really value your advice. Your insight makes so much sense that as a materialist society that denies spirit, so many young people have this need because they don't know how to connect to their One Consciousness, the earth and the cosmos. For me, clear, respectful and loving boundaries are essential for any relationship, love and gratitude to all
I have had several narcissists of various types : grandiosity, controlling, aggressive and abusive etc. it’s taken me years to actually understand and assimilate it all. Keeping strong boundaries regarding what you won’t allow is crucial and not rising to taunting -but to stay calm and walk away helps too. Thank you Nancy : very helpful. ❤
I no longer look outside of myself to fix my sensations from uncomfortable situations. I go within since 2020 meditation has turned my life around 🎉😮😮😮😮😮😮😅😮😮😮😮😮😮i work with these loved ones in real time bringing the best for all forward in all difficulty Nothing but high love will do moving forward
I love how you describe this common personality tendency with love and empathy. I believe I went through a time in my life years ago when I embodied the tendencies of a vulnerable narcissist. I went through a very painful divorce from a cerebral narcissist that put me on my spiritual path. I slowly began to heal and made my spiritual path a priority. I also have strong empathy and tend to attract narcissists so I have experience in relating to people who have these tendencies. I am now in a 15-year relationship with strong vulnerable narcissist tendencies who is also dealing with stage IV cancer. I am his caregiver and am finding my spiritual path extremely important as I make meditation, grounding, and connecting with my higher self necessary. I am so grateful to online teachers like yourself, Pam Gregory, Gregg Braden, Jean Houston, Lee Harris, and many more! What an amazing resource RUclips and the internet is. We live in a fascinating time here on Planet Earth. I am grateful.
This is beautiful. I appreciate you sharing such personal experiences. You seem to be very grounded in your self-awareness. I imagine so many others who read this will gain strength from it. Thank you and thank your spirit for guiding you.
Thank you so much ❤ I was groomed in a family with a few narcissists… mainly the Matriarchs! I grew up to be a “pleaser” to survive mood swings (bad “PMS”)… and attracted two former husbands (because I was used to this pattern) that displayed BoarderLine Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (this guy is a Doctor) both relationships eventually got worse with these displays whenever I tried to assert a Boundary. I have learnt a lot and wish them well. But I still have to be very aware of my boundaries and sometimes I can push people away and go too much within myself to protect my energy. But I am still balancing out my own energy and I know this is a healthy process. You bring so much knowledge to my life Nancy. Thank you again and big Hugs! 🥰 ♥️🙏
Thank you for this simple yet clear explanation for Narcissism. I thought I was the only one finding so many of them in the (my) world, on top of the BIG obvious one who has been dominating our country, the US, for so many years. As an intuitive healer, and a highly sensitive person, I have found myself in the non productive dance of trying to help the narcissists who inevitably enter my life--my younger sister being one of them. I always start out wanting to help to heal them (especially the vulnerable type), coupled with me finally getting very fed up and angry when their bad behavior rears its ugly head. I am learning not to give into anger, and to view their behavior with a degree un attachment and with compassion. It appears that when I wish them well, wish for their well being and happiness, as I walk away, it helps them to let go of the dark dance they have entangled me in. Those who I can walk away from for good I have chosen to do so. For those I cannot get out of my life, I am finally learning to not engaged with in the first place: No anger at their behavior, no trying to help them "see their tendencies", no trying to help them to heal. I like your simple explanation that they have to learn to connect with Spirit, and to ground themselves in Mother Earth, in order to begin to heal. I can only be an example of this as I do this more and more for myself. Thank you for addressing this!
I was married to a grandiose narcissist/energy vampire for 30 years. Didn't have a name for it for another 10, but boy was he angry when I left and he couldn't use me anymore. He has built this wall of lies (Which he believes) to exclude me from my children and community of friends. My compassion is great knowing who he is and where he came from, but the damage is hard to recover from. Forgiveness is the mantra. You describe in brief my whole experience. When my health finally failed from exhaustion I could see the need to leave 14 years ago and finally got out. It's only been two years now since I learned the name and structure of his emotional disability and aberrant behavior that has repeatedly sabotaged me since the divorce, but I am now able to finally begin to heal. Thanks for validating my understanding with your short explanation. Very much my experience.
I appreciate this very much, thank you 🙏💜. In my 'outer' life i used to be the opposite of narcissism, more of the always kind, fun and friendly, but not connected to deep insecure parts of myself. When i started waking up to all this masking i realized i have a superieur side within myself and an inferieur side. To the outside I'm mostly able to be quite balanced (unless deply triggered in romanticrelationships😅), but when alone those both sides sometimes run my thoughts and feelings with all opposite ideas/feelings about myself. And i recognize narcissistic traits in the superieur side. I decided to work with it to understand this kinda energy (and the polar opposite of it, the insecure side that feels weak and wounded) and i resonate a lot with what you say; it's in many people, also the kind ones sometimes. There are many degrees of it ofcourse, many, many 😅. But the pattern is also in many, in my perspective. That doesn't at all make us narcissists or bad people! Anyways, thank you for sharing, it helped me feel both sides again and breath into it 🙃🙏💜🩵💛
Thank you 🙏 for sharing and your honesty. If we grow up around, I guess some rubs off? Over the years, as I have grown. I learned to go with I for my emotional needs. 😅 In the past I attracted narcissistic friends. They are outgoing, fun 🎉and NEED ME. Recently, I developed a friendship with my neighbors. I thought I could trust them, them were lying 🤥 😢and flying monkeys to the neighborhood and my family. I think they thought I needed them emotionally I don’t. I had no problem moving on. ❤
The shadow side of the Leo archetype is narcissistic tendencies. I have many in my family and they tend to be narcissistic and love the attention they get when successful.😸….great topic today Nancy!❤
Thank you 🙏 ❤😊 for sharing. Yes 🙌, I have several Leo’s ♌️ in my family. This morning I was reminded of a conversation I had with my brother only one year older. I asked for his help moving from the West Coast to the East Coast. He said “ you wanted my approval “ 😢 I responded by saying “ not your approval, your support “ 😢😢😢 the lack of respect, love ❤ and caring cut like knife. 😢
I’ve been both the energy vampire and energy source. I grew up in an abusive family, and I was starved of love. I remember the year I connected to divine Source love and finally feeling okay on my own. Now my karma comes back to me in the form of energy vampires - people who want validation as well as people who want to pick a fight, both types just looking for an energetic exchange. I forgive them. I forgive myself as well for choosing not to interact and ignoring them completely if needed to protect my energy.
I wonder how we can come to our children's aid without overprotecting them? How do we not abandon our children while letting them problem solve and create resilience? It must be about about explicit conversations, like "I am here for you, but I how I am supporting showing you how you can take action for yourself to improve your situation." And similar. Im already getting emotional saying that, because every fibre of my being wants to hold my daughter and give her the tender love and care she deserves. She is naturally compassionate, caring and thinks of others first. She's also really good at being told 'no'. And I teach her how to communicate 'no' to others, including to me. Gosh its complex, and relative to their unique and individual needs. It's a rich journey, and all in all, I want my daughter to be her own resource and to have her connection to her heart, soul, source light and land. This has given me much to contemplate with how I am re-parenting myself, and how I am parenting my daughter.
Very helpful to learn the different types of narcissism & especially to understand what causes it! Yes grounding & nurturing/strengthening our own connection to Source is crucial! Thank you Nancy!💖
Nancy, I was introduced to you with your first podcast with Pam Gregory! I’ve been a subscriber ever cents. Thank you for your explanation on different types of narcissism very helpful.❤
Working with youth in the 90's in a drug and alcohol rehab.studied John Bradshaw,and college courses.interestingly, the players in an alcoholic family and unit were referred to as co=dependent.took me years to teach myself how to heal.thank you for this post,i have been wondering why so many folks have been using the term narcissist. have a beautiful week, you are a very loving teacher and alwys point to take the high road. Blessings
Recognizing the person is a narcissist helped me to let go and forgive the person(s) for their words towards me. They are broken, in terms of social-community participation whereas I am functional. The relationships were (1) landlady and (2) foster parent of children whom I provided therapy services. Thank you for your guidance Nancy!
I have been married for going on 40 years and just a few years ago realized that my husband was a narcissist and all of these years I thought it was my fault. We have been doing the Mary Magdeline Heart Path course with Mercedes Kirkle and have been making some head way to change the pattern in both of us. We just recently found out that he has had an entity attached to him since he was very young which adds to the narcissist program when he is triggered. We have removed the entity and he is cleaning his energy field on a more than regular basis to make sure that the entity is not attached. Our love is very strong and I believe that we will be successful in changing this pattern in our marriage. 💕
My view number was 159 which equals the conclusion of situations or phases in your life to do things your own Divine way, so let go of the old that no longer positively serves you. Yep. With great compassion for ourselves and the energy pattern Nancy is discussing, quietly and safely walk away. 😊 For anyone needing deeper information to help their healing, look for Richard Grannon’s videos. He has lived these relationships so speaks healing wisdom from personal and professional experience and education
You have no idea how many people have a narcissist as a parent, spouse, adult child, in-law, or sibling. You would be shocked to find out. I can't tell you how many people I know who have a narcissist in the family. I'm not talking about someone who is somewhat selfish and lacking empathy at times. I'm talking about full fledged Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It is not uncommon at all, and we all need to know how to recognize these people because they can be downright dangerous.
Older generations were taught to take care of their parents and children and siblings. Today's adult children are much more me oriented, but that doesn't make them have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). There is a lot of evidence that NPD has a very strong genetic component, one of the main features of it is the inability to experience empathy.
Any chance we can elect politicians that are not aligned with the narcissistic energetics? Imagine a President that actually cared for others! I know not to get my hopes up but if humanity has a higher base frequency then eventually politicians would need to feel connected to humanity and the devine.
Wow Nancy, this subject was very-well presented by yourself, with some very important messages. I sincerely hope this message is shared widely. We are definitely a product of our upbringing, but many don't recognize narcissistic traits in themselves until they either destroy the relationships with the most importantly people in their lives. So sad😢 ☘️💚☘️
Love your dragonfly, Nancy! My best friend in Spirit sends them to me. My sister, father & ex husband fall in this catagory. Thank you for sharing about it.
I grew up with a parent and sibling that have narcissistic behavior patterns. I have learned a great deal about cause and effects on those around these individual from Dr. Rami a Clinical Psychologist and a New York Times best selling 🎉author. She has many many Podcasts on RUclips that have given me life, skills to understand and hope.
I think its because there was not a word to describe the abuse, but its all coming out now narc behaviour and child abuse. Narc behaviour from parents or grandparents the children didn't know any different and often people married younger and continued the behaviour they were taught and thought it was normal behaviour. Its rare for narcs to be diagnosed as they think they are superior and highly intelligent and therefore its others who are sick not them. I don't think you can ever change the way narc behaves and they would not entertain any idea about healing who they are, they dont think there is anything wrong with them. Those who do seek healing are not narcs but are usually those who have suffered abuse. The best option would be to try and avoid engagement with Narcissistic behaviour for self preservation and to avoid going down the hole of being manipulated and abused, emotionally, psychologically and physically. So true about the one true trait.
I thought, for sure you would relate it to the chakras, which is a piece of information I would really really like. Hope you do a follow up, talking about the energetic structures in the body in the chakras, I think this would be so helpful.
This is so interesting 🧐, like when you go to a party. Are you giving energy taking energy. Does it depend? I tried to be there for my mom but she requires a lot of energy.
These traits are the most common found among humans, so does that mean the majority of humans are narcissistic? The same traits are also found among humans who are confident & comfortable in their skins, if these traits are what makes a narcissist we need to take a close look at our definitions
I have been told that some individuals are ‘vampires’ - taking your energies, though they can’t use it. At some level is this the same as a narcissist?
transferring bad energy,then assuming a persons higher frequency. Narcissist joke.a bear asked the rabbit if it had trouble getting poop off its fur.the rabbit said no. so the bear picked up the rabbit and wiped his but.
Thank You Nancy, this is a very important message for me. I recognize narcissism in myself, in my family and in those I love. It really is everywhere. This past year I was love bombed and discarded by a narcisist. It has been very very rough. I am healing. Trying to see how that experience reflects on me and my behavior. What my part in it is, how I magnified it into my life. Learning the lessons and keeping in mind that we are all narcisists and empaths, that it is all programming that the only real truth is love. Cultivating compassion, loving kindness, forgiving myself and others, letting it all go with love. It is something that i have to do everyday, if i dont it all turns to anger, victim mentality and sadness 🩵🩵🩵
I no longer feed myself to these folks ❤
This is a great 😊 affirmation. Thank you 🙏 ❤
I grew up in a narcissistic family, went through 2 narcissistic marriages and divorces, and had 2 kids with a narcissist. My youngest child went through 2 su*cide attempts because of the deeply painful emotional abuse by his narcissistic father. Because of my personal experiences with narcissism, I decided to do a deep dive and learn everything I could about it. I believe this is how Spirit works with us - we continue through painful cycles until we learn and grow! 🌱I ended up creating a new educational and healing support program for Moms like me. There is a strong magnetic attraction between empaths and narcissists. I believe that narcissists will suck the life out of us empaths, if we let them. The lesson is to get us to wake up, create healthy boundaries, step into our own power, and serve the world through our soul mission - whatever that is for each of us. An important and timely video, thank you! 💜
Powerful words. Thank you.
I agree with your understanding. There is certainly a strong magnetic attraction between the 2. I am an empath as well. Good for you for learning from it and creating a support program to help other Mother's like you. 😊
My narc sister excused her behavior by saying that she was just an extrovert and gets more energized from being around people. I felt like she sucked the air outta the room. It was so oppressive to be around her for me. I finally went no contact after many psychic and emotional attacks from her. Self awareness is everything to an empath. I honor myself for knowing what I do now and I listen to my inner knowing without denying it ❤
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! The only way to keep a narc in your life. If they continue to violate them then say goodbye! Sometimes it’s the only way.
It’s a good lesson to more empathic types to maintain and establish boundaries.
My daughter is NPD (vulnerable NPD - very beautiful and very manipulative), and I was told many times to just remove her from my life in order to retain my sanity. I chose to keep her in my life, she's my daughter and i love her, I simply can't imagine abandoning her - not that she'd care - but I would care. She's 40 today and I'm actually grateful she never married so there are no grandchildren involved. She's been an amazing "trainer" over the years, and I've learned to put down very firm boundaries. Also, when she's out hunting for "supply" I'm always the first one, and I've learned not to fall into that trap, I simply hug her, tell her I love her, and that I'll speak to her in a few days. Somehow that seems to work. It's a challenge though, but I'm proud of the way I've learned to navigate through it. My 2 sons took a different approach, one son hardly speaks to her at all, and the other one has found a way to dance between the drops without becoming offended. He looks at her as an unwell person and finds the compassion. I might add, she's an accomplished artist and an amazing children's teacher for special ed. Interesting how she gets along with children. Thank you for bringing this up dear Nancy and letting me share. Love you💙
@doritraz thank you for sharing I'm proud of you too ,know I see you
The most useful description of narcissistic behaviour I’ve ever listened to
Thank you 🙏
Wow! I realize I am also a bit needy in my energy management as an Empath, and I ‘fall’ for narcissists in various ways. I realize after thinking about it today, that I am too willing to give my energy away to feel needed or good. I appreciate your talk today!
I've had MANY narcissists in my life, starting with my mom. Violent covert narc = Mom. Everyone thought she was sooo sweet and kind, but behind closed doors, she flipped and became "demonic". Her eyes would go black, her face would trunk red and sweaty, and her voice became scary and loud. Fists would fly..on me only. My little brother was coddled and could do no wrong (although he was the trouble maker). I finally cut her out of my life in my 40s after I started healing and learning that my childhood was NOT normal. Many bfs thru the years also were narcs, scary af. I had to move 2000 miles away to find safety. These pp are dangerous!
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This is a similar experience to mine. I hope you are finding healing and happiness where you are now ❤
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Dr Ramani is an excellent YT source for understanding, protecting and healing from any narcissistic relationship
The Crappy Childhood Fairy 🧚 and Jerry Wise on RUclips are also good. 😊 ❤
Nancy, thank you so much for this video. Both of my parents have NPD, and it was a nightmare growing up with them. I never understood it either b/c we were raised in the church. I come from a long line of pastors, bishops,...very high up in the church but I could never understand HOW they could be such monsters at home. I am no contact after decades of therapy (didn't help!). Now, I am on the spiritual path and finally doing better. Anyway, thanks...you explained this issue so well!! ps. Insight TImer has been a life saver for me. Glad you mentioned this.
Thank you 🙏 😊
Therapy let me down too ❤❤❤❤l
I changed my life and those of my cosmic kids that I had with a narcissist husband of 17 years. I had a dream with my deceased father that led to my own spiritual mindfulness journey. Yet I had meditated for years prior. In my darkest night of the soul, I fantasized with a different life instead of the harsh and exhausting reality I had at that time. I even wrote my own vision of my life for the next five years… it all manifested and beyond my own dreams. Other events have occurred that I didn’t envision, but in retrospect I was able to change my life for the better in incredible ways. Spiritual Mindfulness is truly powerful. Mostly when meditating with you Nancy! You make it so much easier to envision in the mind’s eye. Thank you for asking for compassion for people who suffer from Narcissism. 🙏🏽❤️
I can definitely relate with some of these npd's. Esp. feeling special, boasting about accomplishments and intellectual superiority. It's challenging to face this stuff, but it feels really fleeting and often empty. It's no fun relying on others for acceptance. Meditation, connection with Source helps so much. I feel loved and accepted. When I struggle, I try to remember to say, I choose self love and compassion, hang up the judgement and self criticism or the need for other people's approval. Very much a work in progress. Thank you, Nancy ❤❤❤
I was married to a narcissist but didn’t know this term at the time. All I know is that he taught me a huge lesson. Sadly he used our children as a way to get back at me and my son is having counselling and my daughter sadly is showing these traits.
For my ex husband …. He is now reaping what he has sown. I cannot tell you how much damage he has caused his own children.
I guess we are all here to learn. Anyone going through this I wish you nothing but love and light and know that ‘this to shall pass’. Infinite love to you all and bless you dear Nancy 💗💗💗
I have a similar situation, Kerry. It's difficult watching your children being used this way. I have no contact with my ex for 4 years now.
I went through a similar situation, narcissistic parents inflict so much pain onto their children.
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Bless you 💗💗💗
Same with me, not knowing that my ex was a narc at the time. I just thought he was very selfish. He has done so much damage to my son. Thankfully we only had one. My son rarely talks to him, but hasn't completely cut him out of his life yet. It's so sad as they always want the acceptance from the parent that doesn't give it.
Heartfelt thank you, Nancy Rebecca, for your beautiful and compassionate resourceful perspectives on narcissism. As someone who knows, has known, been related and loved too many with these traits, I really value your advice. Your insight makes so much sense that as a materialist society that denies spirit, so many young people have this need because they don't know how to connect to their One Consciousness, the earth and the cosmos. For me, clear, respectful and loving boundaries are essential for any relationship, love and gratitude to all
I have had several narcissists of various types : grandiosity, controlling, aggressive and abusive etc.
it’s taken me years to actually understand and assimilate it all.
Keeping strong boundaries regarding what you won’t allow is crucial and not rising to taunting -but to stay calm and walk away helps too. Thank you Nancy : very helpful. ❤
I no longer look outside of myself to fix my sensations from uncomfortable situations.
I go within since 2020 meditation has turned my life around 🎉😮😮😮😮😮😮😅😮😮😮😮😮😮i work with these loved ones in real time bringing the best for all forward in all difficulty
Nothing but high love will do moving forward
I love how you describe this common personality tendency with love and empathy. I believe I went through a time in my life years ago when I embodied the tendencies of a vulnerable narcissist. I went through a very painful divorce from a cerebral narcissist that put me on my spiritual path. I slowly began to heal and made my spiritual path a priority. I also have strong empathy and tend to attract narcissists so I have experience in relating to people who have these tendencies. I am now in a 15-year relationship with strong vulnerable narcissist tendencies who is also dealing with stage IV cancer. I am his caregiver and am finding my spiritual path extremely important as I make meditation, grounding, and connecting with my higher self necessary. I am so grateful to online teachers like yourself, Pam Gregory, Gregg Braden, Jean Houston, Lee Harris, and many more! What an amazing resource RUclips and the internet is. We live in a fascinating time here on Planet Earth. I am grateful.
This is beautiful. I appreciate you sharing such personal experiences. You seem to be very grounded in your self-awareness. I imagine so many others who read this will gain strength from it. Thank you and thank your spirit for guiding you.
Thank you so much ❤
I was groomed in a family with a few narcissists… mainly the Matriarchs!
I grew up to be a “pleaser” to survive mood swings (bad “PMS”)… and attracted two former husbands (because I was used to this pattern) that displayed BoarderLine Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (this guy is a Doctor) both relationships eventually got worse with these displays whenever I tried to assert a Boundary.
I have learnt a lot and wish them well. But I still have to be very aware of my boundaries and sometimes I can push people away and go too much within myself to protect my energy. But I am still balancing out my own energy and I know this is a healthy process. You bring so much knowledge to my life Nancy. Thank you again and big Hugs! 🥰 ♥️🙏
Me to!! ❤❤❤ thank you 🙏 for sharing.
Thank you for this simple yet clear explanation for Narcissism. I thought I was the only one finding so many of them in the (my) world, on top of the BIG obvious one who has been dominating our country, the US, for so many years. As an intuitive healer, and a highly sensitive person, I have found myself in the non productive dance of trying to help the narcissists who inevitably enter my life--my younger sister being one of them. I always start out wanting to help to heal them (especially the vulnerable type), coupled with me finally getting very fed up and angry when their bad behavior rears its ugly head. I am learning not to give into anger, and to view their behavior with a degree un attachment and with compassion. It appears that when I wish them well, wish for their well being and happiness, as I walk away, it helps them to let go of the dark dance they have entangled me in. Those who I can walk away from for good I have chosen to do so. For those I cannot get out of my life, I am finally learning to not engaged with in the first place: No anger at their behavior, no trying to help them "see their tendencies", no trying to help them to heal. I like your simple explanation that they have to learn to connect with Spirit, and to ground themselves in Mother Earth, in order to begin to heal. I can only be an example of this as I do this more and more for myself. Thank you for addressing this!
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I was married to a grandiose narcissist/energy vampire for 30 years. Didn't have a name for it for another 10, but boy was he angry when I left and he couldn't use me anymore. He has built this wall of lies (Which he believes) to exclude me from my children and community of friends. My compassion is great knowing who he is and where he came from, but the damage is hard to recover from. Forgiveness is the mantra. You describe in brief my whole experience. When my health finally failed from exhaustion I could see the need to leave 14 years ago and finally got out. It's only been two years now since I learned the name and structure of his emotional disability and aberrant behavior that has repeatedly sabotaged me since the divorce, but I am now able to finally begin to heal. Thanks for validating my understanding with your short explanation. Very much my experience.
I appreciate this so so much !! Breaking down the types. I was reluctant to call someone a narcissist, but vulnerable narcissist really fits them 🙏🙏🙏🌹
I appreciate this very much, thank you 🙏💜. In my 'outer' life i used to be the opposite of narcissism, more of the always kind, fun and friendly, but not connected to deep insecure parts of myself.
When i started waking up to all this masking i realized i have a superieur side within myself and an inferieur side. To the outside I'm mostly able to be quite balanced (unless deply triggered in romanticrelationships😅), but when alone those both sides sometimes run my thoughts and feelings with all opposite ideas/feelings about myself. And i recognize narcissistic traits in the superieur side. I decided to work with it to understand this kinda energy (and the polar opposite of it, the insecure side that feels weak and wounded) and i resonate a lot with what you say; it's in many people, also the kind ones sometimes. There are many degrees of it ofcourse, many, many 😅. But the pattern is also in many, in my perspective.
That doesn't at all make us narcissists or bad people!
Anyways, thank you for sharing, it helped me feel both sides again and breath into it 🙃🙏💜🩵💛
Thank you 🙏 for sharing and your honesty. If we grow up around, I guess some rubs off?
Over the years, as I have grown. I learned to go with I for my emotional needs. 😅
In the past I attracted narcissistic friends. They are outgoing, fun 🎉and NEED ME. Recently, I developed a friendship with my neighbors. I thought I could trust them, them were lying 🤥 😢and flying monkeys to the neighborhood and my family. I think they thought I needed them emotionally I don’t. I had no problem moving on. ❤
The shadow side of the Leo archetype is narcissistic tendencies. I have many in my family and they tend to be narcissistic and love the attention they get when successful.😸….great topic today Nancy!❤
Thank you 🙏 ❤😊 for sharing. Yes 🙌, I have several Leo’s ♌️ in my family.
This morning I was reminded of a conversation I had with my brother only one year older. I asked for his help moving from the West Coast to the East Coast. He said “ you wanted my approval “ 😢 I responded by saying “ not your approval, your support “ 😢😢😢 the lack of respect, love ❤ and caring cut like knife. 😢
True on the Leo... my ex narc was a Leo. 😸
The last sounds type sounds like an uncanny description of the government and religious zealots. LOL
I’ve been both the energy vampire and energy source. I grew up in an abusive family, and I was starved of love. I remember the year I connected to divine Source love and finally feeling okay on my own. Now my karma comes back to me in the form of energy vampires - people who want validation as well as people who want to pick a fight, both types just looking for an energetic exchange. I forgive them. I forgive myself as well for choosing not to interact and ignoring them completely if needed to protect my energy.
I wonder how we can come to our children's aid without overprotecting them? How do we not abandon our children while letting them problem solve and create resilience? It must be about about explicit conversations, like "I am here for you, but I how I am supporting showing you how you can take action for yourself to improve your situation." And similar. Im already getting emotional saying that, because every fibre of my being wants to hold my daughter and give her the tender love and care she deserves. She is naturally compassionate, caring and thinks of others first. She's also really good at being told 'no'. And I teach her how to communicate 'no' to others, including to me. Gosh its complex, and relative to their unique and individual needs. It's a rich journey, and all in all, I want my daughter to be her own resource and to have her connection to her heart, soul, source light and land. This has given me much to contemplate with how I am re-parenting myself, and how I am parenting my daughter.
Very helpful to learn the different types of narcissism & especially to understand what causes it! Yes grounding & nurturing/strengthening our own connection to Source is crucial! Thank you Nancy!💖
Nancy, I was introduced to you with your first podcast with Pam Gregory! I’ve been a subscriber ever cents. Thank you for your explanation on different types of narcissism very helpful.❤
Working with youth in the 90's in a drug and alcohol rehab.studied John Bradshaw,and college courses.interestingly, the players in an alcoholic family and unit were referred to as co=dependent.took me years to teach myself how to heal.thank you for this post,i have been wondering why so many folks have been using the term narcissist. have a beautiful week, you are a very loving teacher and alwys point to take the high road. Blessings
Recognizing the person is a narcissist helped me to let go and forgive the person(s) for their words towards me. They are broken, in terms of social-community participation whereas I am functional. The relationships were (1) landlady and (2) foster parent of children whom I provided therapy services. Thank you for your guidance Nancy!
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I have been married for going on 40 years and just a few years ago realized that my husband was a narcissist and all of these years I thought it was my fault. We have been doing the Mary Magdeline Heart Path course with Mercedes Kirkle and have been making some head way to change the pattern in both of us. We just recently found out that he has had an entity attached to him since he was very young which adds to the narcissist program when he is triggered. We have removed the entity and he is cleaning his energy field on a more than regular basis to make sure that the entity is not attached. Our love is very strong and I believe that we will be successful in changing this pattern in our marriage. 💕
How wonderfully inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story here. I am certain others will be encouraged by it.
My view number was 159 which equals the conclusion of situations or phases in your life to do things your own Divine way, so let go of the old that no longer positively serves you. Yep. With great compassion for ourselves and the energy pattern Nancy is discussing, quietly and safely walk away. 😊 For anyone needing deeper information to help their healing, look for Richard Grannon’s videos. He has lived these relationships so speaks healing wisdom from personal and professional experience and education
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You have no idea how many people have a narcissist as a parent, spouse, adult child, in-law, or sibling. You would be shocked to find out. I can't tell you how many people I know who have a narcissist in the family. I'm not talking about someone who is somewhat selfish and lacking empathy at times. I'm talking about full fledged Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It is not uncommon at all, and we all need to know how to recognize these people because they can be downright dangerous.
Nancy thank you. I've not heard anyone talk about it from this perspective and it really helps a lot. ❤
So wise and helpful! Thanx Nancy
Thank you very for shining this perspective upon it. 💚💜💚
I need this im surrounded im certain of it
Older generations were taught to take care of their parents and children and siblings. Today's adult children are much more me oriented, but that doesn't make them have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). There is a lot of evidence that NPD has a very strong genetic component, one of the main features of it is the inability to experience empathy.
I think it is not only the young generations, my mum, uncle and grandmother were narcissistic people out of a childhood of abuse. ❤❤❤
Any chance we can elect politicians that are not aligned with the narcissistic energetics? Imagine a President that actually cared for others! I know not to get my hopes up but if humanity has a higher base frequency then eventually politicians would need to feel connected to humanity and the devine.
Wow Nancy, this subject was very-well presented by yourself, with some very important messages. I sincerely hope this message is shared widely. We are definitely a product of our upbringing, but many don't recognize narcissistic traits in themselves until they either destroy the relationships with the most importantly people in their lives. So sad😢 ☘️💚☘️
Interesting, thank you!
Love your dragonfly, Nancy! My best friend in Spirit sends them to me. My sister, father & ex husband fall in this catagory. Thank you for sharing about it.
I grew up with a parent and sibling that have narcissistic behavior patterns. I have learned a great deal about cause and effects on those around these individual from Dr. Rami a Clinical Psychologist and a New York Times best selling 🎉author. She has many many Podcasts on RUclips that have given me life, skills to understand and hope.
I think its because there was not a word to describe the abuse, but its all coming out now narc behaviour and child abuse. Narc behaviour from parents or grandparents the children didn't know any different and often people married younger and continued the behaviour they were taught and thought it was normal behaviour. Its rare for narcs to be diagnosed as they think they are superior and highly intelligent and therefore its others who are sick not them. I don't think you can ever change the way narc behaves and they would not entertain any idea about healing who they are, they dont think there is anything wrong with them. Those who do seek healing are not narcs but are usually those who have suffered abuse. The best option would be to try and avoid engagement with Narcissistic behaviour for self preservation and to avoid going down the hole of being manipulated and abused, emotionally, psychologically and physically. So true about the one true trait.
I thought, for sure you would relate it to the chakras, which is a piece of information I would really really like. Hope you do a follow up, talking about the energetic structures in the body in the chakras, I think this would be so helpful.
Great suggestion!
Narcissists can be psychologists or psychiatrists!
Thank you so much for today's video.
This is so interesting 🧐, like when you go to a party. Are you giving energy taking energy. Does it depend?
I tried to be there for my mom but she requires a lot of energy.
Yess check Dr. Ramani please!❤
These traits are the most common found among humans, so does that mean the majority of humans are narcissistic?
The same traits are also found among humans who are confident & comfortable in their skins, if these traits are what makes a narcissist we need to take a close look at our definitions
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I have been told that some individuals are ‘vampires’ - taking your energies, though they can’t use it. At some level is this the same as a narcissist?
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transferring bad energy,then assuming a persons higher frequency. Narcissist joke.a bear asked the rabbit if it had trouble getting poop off its fur.the rabbit said no. so the bear picked up the rabbit and wiped his but.
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Haw do you discern a narcissist from an ungrounded empath ? I mean they both draw enrgysupply from others ?! Or ?
@@martinelongum9921 they may have similar patterns for sure. But there is more to it than what we see on the surface.
Thank You Nancy, this is a very important message for me. I recognize narcissism in myself, in my family and in those I love. It really is everywhere. This past year I was love bombed and discarded by a narcisist. It has been very very rough. I am healing. Trying to see how that experience reflects on me and my behavior. What my part in it is, how I magnified it into my life. Learning the lessons and keeping in mind that we are all narcisists and empaths, that it is all programming that the only real truth is love. Cultivating compassion, loving kindness, forgiving myself and others, letting it all go with love. It is something that i have to do everyday, if i dont it all turns to anger, victim mentality and sadness 🩵🩵🩵