Common Responses to Autism
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- Опубликовано: 28 авг 2021
- I got a lot of comments on my Autism video. The horrible ones I deleted, but this video addresses some of the other misconceptions.
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Don't care about those negative comments.
You post good content, man. I like your content very much.
Ignore them.
I have that issue when looking people in the eye. I become consciously aware of which eye I'm looking at, and I start wondering if I should be looking at the other eye or if I should switch eyes. And I start thinking about which of my eyes THEY are looking at. I start toying with the idea of closing the eye they are looking at to force them to look at my other eye, then closing that eye just to screw with them. The would be weird, though, so I don't do it.
Hahaha. Kinda fun actually.
Now I will not think other thing when talking to someone xD
Omg it happens with me tooo I'm so glad I'm not alone🎉
"Which eye do you look at?" 😂😂
As a 'typical' person I've always been uncomfortable with eye contact myself. I tend not to look at the eyes but bring the focal point back so I'm looking at the whole face, expression nuances are easier to catch without the intense eyeballing.
"Which eye do you look at?" It never occurred to me that neurotypical people also can't look at both eyes at the same time. I always assumed "looking into someone's eyes" was a skill I just didn't know how to perform
Your videos always help me Nick. Thankyou for this one. It gives me that feeling that I'm not alone, that if not today maybe sometime in the future I'll find my tribe ❤ love you
"which eye do you look at" -- I think this is the answer to folks that say that "everyone's a bit autistic". I suspect that this question would never occur to the overwhelming majority of neurotypical folks, like myself. It just comes "natural" to us. The brain is AMAZING and the fact that people process information differently is not surprising when we think about it. It's only when we build a social world where we assume that everyone's brain works in most common way, do encounter issues and cause problems, even trauma.
This 👏
I find it sad that people have extreme difficulty understanding that just as people have different height, posture, eye and hair color, skin tone, etc., they also have different "internals". To be fair, it is understandable, since these "features" are not directly visible and our minds are geared more to recognizing patterns in directly observable stuff.
But it is still sad and makes things more difficult to certain people. Hopefully, raising awareness will help.
I have problems conveying sarcasm over the Internet. I find that emoji‘s are a necessity. 🤔
Yeah, emojis are a huge help.
Maybe everyone does, and most mean people online are just accidentally mean. 😁
I think there are a LOT of people, who haven't learned about sarcasm. You are likely conveying it perfectly. Emojis are there for THEM IMHO.
Thanks for the follow up. As someone diagnosed as bipolar in my 50's it made a lot of sense when looking back at my life. My wife, family and friends had been make excuses for me for years as it made a lot of sense. Now that I have this knowledge it can help me in other areas of life. I think that a diagnosis is useful because it gives us a handle on life. I hope that you can use this information to help navigate through life better as as always its OK be be a little crazy 👍😜
Having this label has already been helpful with family.
@@NickLucid 👍
Nick! I just saw a video from almost exactly 5 years ago where you were talking about going back to work (teaching) after a summer off. I just wanted to tell you I'm very glad you're still making content. I think that at some point you'll have a critical mass situation and suddenly your subscribers and views will skyrocket. You are an excellent educator and entertainer! Thanks for doing what you do.
I never let making videos negatively affect my teaching job. I made them when I could. The summers were fun because I had the time (and brain space) to try new things and make more. Now I'm a full-time creator, so I get to feel that all the time.
I tried to look you in the eyes in this video, that didn't go to well cuz I don't like to look someone in the eyes and also knowing that you don't like it either made it super uncomfortable, and this is watching you on a YT-clipp lol. But I have as long as I can remember always looked at a person's mouth to understand what kind of mood that person is in. I got to a point where I was very good at lip-reading, now days I really try to look people in the eyes, but I tend to stare, I'm trying to learn the normal eye to eye rhythm from watching how normal people are, it's has a deep nervous unpleasant learning curve to it...
But thank you for sharing Nick, it's always a pleasure to watch your videos =)
I find you one of the most watchable and interesting presenters out there and a very nice person. I have two autistic boys, and as you are, I also am undiagnosed. But I'm really sure. It explains so much. For me I'm good on initial meetings because I got used to that in retail sales jobs, but when it gets past the superficial I have trouble relating to people. I have trouble getting jokes too. My mind works like a computer, it doesn't feel like other people's minds seem to be ordered, or not ordered, whichever that is. As a kid was considered gifted etc, skipped grades etc, but had trouble in school because I had no social ability and found the teachers mostly to be illogical people, at least to me. I just thought I was terminally weird. Also, many other symptoms.
Thanks for dedicating time to this topic. I think, with your creativity and influence you might actually significantly help with popularisation of correct understanding of it.
4:22 I 100% agree. That's why I often wanna kick people who say "using too many emojis is bad 'cause it makes the text/comment too heavy." NO 😠! It makes it way easier for us autistic people to actually know *how* you mean something you say. If there has to be one emoji per sentence because the tone changes so much, then so be it 🤷♂. "You're a clown 😑." and "You're a clown 😂." are two very distinct things and without the emoji, it's impossible to tell which one you mean. I know there're /s, /j, etc, but why bother with those when emojis are already a thing that everybody knows -_-?
Hey Nick, Thanks for the video again !
My experience is via self diagnosis. Because in India even today there is not a lot of openness on this subject. Autism is still considered as 'retardness' (If I could put it simply as a fact). Yes over time I was able to fake it pretty well.
The way I could solve was a taking up jobs roles/profiles or tasks that I was terrified of, especially social interactions, Or interacting with Strangers . I took it as challenge to get rid of my fears.
Today I can tell people how successfully I was able to transform myself with mental strength, and not be afraid of anything.
Thanks once again for sharing your experiences.
It's unfortunate that your country treats autism so negatively. I hope that improves over time.
You the man! And I like you the way you are. You make great vids and I have learned a ton of stuff from you. Thank you bud..
Dude. You're so damn intelligent, i couldn't care less if you are, or aren't. I just enjoy learning from you, and I'm nearly a half century old !
Totally agree... and I'm 3/4 of a century old! ( darn, that's hard to say)
WE LOVE YOU.
You asked about where people look when looking somebody in the eyes. You know, that's actually a really good question that I've never really known the answer to. Looking somebody in the eyes isn't necessarily uncomfortable for me but it is distracting, and I've found it to not be necessary, usually. What I mean by that is, when I'm discussing something of a technical nature that requires a lot of internal processing (to decode what they're saying, fit it into my model of the universe, and to organize my own thoughts to speak coherently), I often "stare into the void". I don't really see what my eyes are pointed at, as I'm internally conceptualizing things. In that case, what my eyes are pointed at doesn't matter to me at all. I point them in their general direction so they know they have my attention, but they can also see that I'm not really looking at anything in particular. How well that works, I don't know, but I haven't gotten any negative feedback about it, so, you know. 👍
As for looking directly into somebody's eyes, which eye do you look at? I think of my focal point as being "resizable". If you consider when you're looking at a painting, you can zoom your focus into a tiny brushstroke to admire the detail, you can zoom out to see the whole tree that the brush stroke is a part of, you can zoom out more to see the entire painting, or you can zoom WAY out and take in the vista of the whole wall of paintings at the art gallery. All of that is internal though, and your eyes just point somewhere. I zoom out my attention so that a horizontal oval about as wide as their head and half as tall is centered on the spot between their eyes. I don't pay attention to each eye, or to any part of the face in particular. That steers my eyes to a general area so I can either pay attention to the conversation itself, or if it's boring, I can zone out and go on mental auto pilot.
Mirroring is great skill to develop whereby you reflect the expression and body language of the speaker back to them. They feel I am super engaged with the discussion and are totally dialed into exactly what they feel. In reality, I'm just practicing noticing how they move, and and what their facial expression is doing, all while trying to keep the center of my focus on the general circle in the middle of their face. Maybe that's disingenuous, but hey: I don't see anybody else explaining how their system works and how it's so much better than mine. 😎
You're one of my all time favorite youtubers, I wish I could be more like you.😃
I have recently been referred to an adult diagnostic team regarding autism, there is a 15 month waiting period to be seen, in the meantime it was interesting to see some of the problems I have in life are just as Nick was explaining... eye contact, the expectation to perform certain behaviours and rituals, the stress it causes..
I honestly don't know where this needing to make eye contact thing comes from except perhaps some old books on "success", you know, the motivational type stuff for sales or moving up the corporate ladder. I say that because to the best of my knowledge I don't look into peoples eyes ever or if I do it's so fleeting that I don't even notice. You can stare in person's general direction when you are talking with them but any sort of fixed gaze into the eyes is just creepy with perhaps special exceptions like particular moments between people dating.
Anyway, I'm a big fan and a patreon member so clearly this is all said with good intent and thanks as always for all that you do and thank you for the the follow up as even though the questions/issues you answered/addressed where not on my mind, it was very educational and interesting. (smiley emoji here for niceness)
@@nonsequitor Except that I hear of this coming out of the US almost exclusively and I question how true this is vs. how much has been pushed into our culture because a few words said in motivational books, which probably picked up on a single study decades ago and perhaps Hollywood picking up on it and making use of it in movies enough to make it more of the culture here. I really don't know how much is instinctive and how much cultural but it comes across as very over simplistic and therefore I'll view the whole thing with a healthy dose of skepticism for now. I should probably go digging and look for recent studies but I have other priorities so perhaps one day.
I will look at someone "in the eyes" (off and on so not to stare) while they're speaking to me simply to focus my attention on what they have to say and to communicate, through eye contact, that they are important to me and what they have to say deserves my attention.
Beyond that and more importantly, it's their eye gestures that I am watching, along with their facial expressions, hand gestures and body language.
In other words, while it may appear that I am looking into your eyes, it is really the emotional aspect of what you are communicating that I am attempting to read.
Sometimes I will intentionally mimic a smile or frown because doing so can help me to empathise with the speaking person's emotions. That "communicating through eye contact" and reading emotions is often difficult for my autistic friends.
Our ability to communicate subtleties becomes... less frustrating once we understand that we both have limitations.
Eye contact expectations are culturally determined. There are a lot of expectation for it in North America. Some cultures have different expectations, including negative connotations.
This gets back to the problem of Autism “diagnosis”, vs the problem being with societal response to specific behavioural variants, and even the role of psychiatry in enforcing cultural norms. A lot of the problems autistics face are simply bad ways other people respond to their socially atypical behavior.
@@justdata3650 My guess is that it's older than "success books." Humans have been social creatures for a long time. I bet the eye contact thing has been around since before _books._
@@NickLucid I would tend to agree, most things (if not all) in culture tend to have some underlying innate human instinct(s) behind them but I suspect that it has been significantly amplified in and by American culture. I should add, that I grew up in Australia so perhaps I see this here more predominantly than someone who has been here all their life and perhaps that somewhat skews my observation.
Thanks for the vid! Not getting the tone of a written message is sooooo common! Sometimes it’s due to the reader not spotting the meaning but very often the writer is at fault by not expressing themselves very well because of poor writing skills.
I think autistic people are just more sensitive. Not only to touch or light but they feel things more intensly in general. Why should you look someone in the eye if you dont feel comfortable dping it? I never liked eyecontact until it came to me naturally with the person i love.Its very intimate and i avoid it with other people, especially if the topic is superficial.
I dont think its a superpower but it might be a gift with many challanges. You dont feel as comfortable just doing what is expected and i think that is absolutely justified. Dont try to fit in, just do what you are comfortable doing, even if that is very limited.
From there it is easier to expand that comfort zone because it comes only fim you, not from the, totally otherminded, outside.
Please be you and know that shame is just a trained behaviou, wich is okay, we all grew up in this world, it just treats us differently :)
Much Love
Shame this wasn't live my friend. We could of said how amazing your are in "person".
Thank you for so much information :) I'm pissed why don't school teach us about these things... school should teach us about being blind or deaf or etc... if it did then those not having these things won't unintentionally hurt or discriminate or something like that by being stereotyped... like i had no idea of autism being spectrum or difference between autism and autistic... and what if i meet someone and I'm rude and i may hurt someone... o god schools really doesn't teach us anything except mitochondria is power house
Much love
I’m twelve and I have adhd and autism and I feel this man
"the neurotypical world around me not knowing how to deal with me is the problem" autism love in a nutshell! I also love the conversations around eye contact cause I feel everyone is a little bit right and we just need some understanding of another. like for neurtypicals eye contact is a very good and healthy signal that they like to use. but for nd it's the opposite, we tend to feel anxious about eye contact unless it's someone we trust. and a lot of non human animals take eye contact with non intimate members of their species as threatening as well. Which I take as meaning that eye contact being subjective is normal in the world.
Excellent video and to the point.
I'd just add that functioning labels are harmful to all autistics regardless of needs and that spectrum refers to the expression of various autistic traits represented in multi-space, or more commonly as a 2D wheel graph. If a person appears high-functioning it doesn't mean they don't suffer. Conversely, if a person appears low-functioning, it doesn't mean they can't accomplish their goals.
The "Asperger's" has fallen out of favour for the similar reason, as it was named after a nazi-sympathizer who first noticed that some autistics are functional enough to be useful as labour force, while the rest were killed as a part of their "child euthanasia program".
*"That spectrum refers to the expression of various autistic traits represented in multi-space."*
Yes. My point was just that not everyone is on it, even if the spectrum is diverse.
@@NickLucid Sorry. I misunderstood your point.
I have experienced some of the things you have mentioned before and as for the eye contact i have the same problems as well and if i force myself to look into the eyes my eyes start to tear up and induces anxiety😬
You are an awesome RUclipsr. Don’t listen to any of those crap comments. Those are just jealous people that need therapy. Not even joking, they most likely have childhood trauma.
Hey Nick.
As a musician I'm curious - Do you prefer electronic music with its repetition, or "live" music which is more varied?
Keep up the good work 😃
Definitely electronic music. Hearing the same sounds in repetition is actually quite soothing if I have control over the sounds (choosing the song I listening to, but also tapping my fingers, clicking pens, etc.).
High and low functioning does not mean what most people think it means. It isn't a measure of how well you are doing, or seem to be doing. It was used to differentiate between people with and without an intellectual disability who have a comorbid diagnosis of autism (comorbid means two per more in the same body). There are good arguments to get rid of it, or avoid the use of the term; due to both its irrelevant combining of two things that are basically unrelated (I'm not high functioning hazel eyed even though I have no intellectual disability and have hazel eyes), and because people mistake what it means (I'm not high functioning autistic because I can fake "normal").
Spectrum is more about the variation of how autistic variation effects individual experience and presentation, rather than strength of overall autism per se. That is, I only struggle with eye contact when I'm tired while you struggle all the time (based on your quick description of your experience). That doesn't mean your autism is stronger or worse than mine. It just means on the spectrum of eye contact, you find it harder than I do. Assessors are keen to try to create levels of autism, as if that actually means something - a number attached to their assessment. From a funding perspective, it can. How much support do you need to navigate this neurotypical world? A simple answer is measured in levels of funding; a complex answer includes how much you've learned to compensate for neurotypicals and how much they've worked to be inclusive, and then figuring out the gap between. I can struggle a great deal, but not require a support person; and that doesn't mean my autism is "mild", it just means I've worked out methods to manage, or found an environment that works for me.
I am glad you addressed what you did and are helping people understand better.
Right. There are several different factors that are on a sliding scale. It's not just an autism or not scale.
I think joking in text can be bad. It can be hard to understand when you don't hear the tone in their voice. If I (a "normal" person) text an other "normal" person, I often add an emoji so the other person don't misunderstands me.
Same thing with yt comments, I always think twice before I make a joke
About the eye contact thing, as a ‘neurotypical’ person I usually look at the same eye and not switch. just don’t stare to intensly , more of a soft glance rather than a stare
I do sometimes get confused if someones being sarcastic or joking. Recently I thought someone was beings serious with me and i apologized, but they were just joking and being goofy. Good video though!
Fascinating, and very insightful. :-)
So, the way I've managed myself is that I don't look at people and socialization as "people," but as a set of reactions that work together to make a being. I know it sounds weird, but it helps me understand people and situations. I look at it as science, action and reaction
The main thing imo tho is .. we are all just human being with flaws (and struggles).
Actually, I would very much like to get an answer to the "which eye to look at or should I switch back and forth"-question. So, any neurotypicals here who can answer?
Come visit Finland! We don't do eye contact here 😂
seriously, I'm doing MSc in Psychology and I'm thinking that a study on the experiences of adult autistic people in Nordic counties might be valuable. I the "neurotypical" environment in Nordic (and maybe some parts of Central Europe) better for neurodivergent people?
"autism is a superpower" type of comments were really getting on my nervs and you worded it well you are not better just different
Superpower my arse!
If anything, autism is a major disadvantage, if not a curse.
It has set me, my son and lots of other people apart from the herd, making it very difficult to fit in.
Right. 👍
This is becoming really simple if we keep running with the simple conversation. I have a very high iq this scares people.
I am like you physics. Maths. Extended from the world around me. Though. You are reaching to care. You can do this as I cannot. Love is a stupid concept. I only say these things as we do understand and feel this. And people who follow you will understand.
gonna sleep on it and write later... but no. please don't
which eye do you look at!?!?! LOLOL, thanks for sharing yourself with the world :)
What is the benefit of knowing whether or not you are autistic? Is there any practical use for that knowledge?
I helps me understand why I don't understand some things that come so easy to others. Also, it helps me communicate my struggles to people who aren't autistic.
@@NickLucid Thanks Nick, I don't want to come across as all "me too" but all the signs are there, especially the eye contact thing with which I totally empathise. At (let's say) 50+, I wonder if there's any point finding out for sure. Not sure how I might find it helpful.
I’d like to reframe those “You don’t have autism”-comments a bit: Is it so bad? I think by commenting in such a way they want the “normal spectrum” to be wider and show their love, tolerance and inclusiveness. The struggle inside of anyone cannot be determined by merely looking at the person’s behaviour. “Remember: Perspective is everything.” (Paraphrase over Fermilab’s Dr. Don Lincoln, replacing “physics”.)
I also suffer from ADHD...
I live with 2 kids with Autism and appreciate their genius and struggles.
Yeah it is oversimplification to say everyone is on various spectrums as I have tended to do I guess… Down’s Syndrome is obviously a specific medical condition/disease (and easy to see with basic genetic information) often with heart problems etc and certainly we should all try to help those with this disease and since often you can identify likely people with it by their facial characteristics this is nice but perhaps overwhelming for those who have it who want to be incognito with it as much as possible wow who knows - all these more DSMish things (unlike the more straightforward Down’s diagnosis and similar) are more abstract perhaps and yeah maybe more useful when they’re done by the person who is giving themselves the diagnosis - it is obviously sometimes not possible to just stay self diagnosed and you need the help I’ve gotten by being put on this and other spectrums by DSM professionals ha wow - what do I really believe who knows but “thanks for choosing” this spectrum with me I mean ha saying you think it fits you wow or yeah crazy universes♾♾♾♾♾☮️💟🗽🌈🚀🤯
Yes, sometimes the clinical diagnosis is needed, which is why I clarified.
@@NickLucid I liked your comment but RUclips doesn’t show that to everybody!? Let it be known that many spectrum diagnoses await me I’m quite certain regardless of anything else🤯
It’s hard to define _illness_ rigorously, so no wonder people disagree what constitutes one. The possibility of cure has never been a criterion. My personal take is pragmatic; I consider things an illness when it’s useful. That includes autism, as well as some other conditions a lot of people insist are “another form of normal.” There’s a difference between affectations and needs; in my experience with my autism, to put stuff forward as needs that most (“normal”) people do not have instead of affectations that may be ignored by others at their discretion, calling it an illness is useful. One cannot get ahold of oneself all the time.
Calling autism an "illness" implies that people should find a "cure" for it. However, a "cure" for autism would be like finding a cure of a skin or eye color. That's not medicine. It's eugenics and it's unacceptable.
@@NickLucid I'm not sure if I would choose to not have autism if I had the choice. It'd very much depend on the side effects. But I'd definitely not exclude it outright.
@@Bolpat Apparently, I have very strong opinions about this.
@@NickLucid I had, too. I find it always fascinating when two people have (apparently) had vastly different experiences with something or come to different conclusions about something that one would expect to be roughly the same for everyone. Butterfly effects, I guess.
What I really like about you is that you answered and there's a conversation. That never really happened to me. I liked your channel before, and (only) by extension you as a person, but this is a whole other reason and mostly unrelated to the physics content.
On humor, just tell them that you didn't get their joke, that you're from a place called Earth and it's different there.
As someone who was diagnosed at 32, I'm happy for you....but, I still have no idea why eye contact feels like staring at the sun.
You're from Michigan (as am I), so you're a Michigander. To be 2021 about it, does that mean your wife is a Michigoose??? (This is a diagostic aid to measure your ability to detect humor. Whether it's ACTUALLY humorous is a different topic.) 🤣
Because a gander is male goose! 😂 (I love puns.)
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Your data is accurate given the limited understanding and the immaturity of the sciences we currently have, and your funny to watch, listen to and learn from too!!! :-) My only reservation is your choice of pizza. Tomb Stone is the only frozen pizza for serious consumption. :-D j/k
No. It is the "Ofenfrische", Dr Oetker, Germany.
@@stefanmargraf7878 Sorry, but since I'm in the U.S. I can't comment on whether or not "Ofenfrische", Dr Oetker is as good as "Tomb Stone Double Pepperoni", but I can tell you it's better than "Red Baron", big wink @
Nick Lucid. :-D
I don't know why, but I am much more comfortable looking into someone's right eye, rather than their left eye. Only if I'm super comfy with someone, I can look into either one. I think it may be a left brain, right brain thing but I can't say for sure why. Just thought I'd share that.
I have no problem making eye contact with my wife.
I thought this video was about Lucid motors responding to Mr Musk from Tesla Motors! . . . I guess I have to blame it on the RUclips algorithm . . .
In comments there are jerks who comment stupid things, you give a serious response and they say "haha, just joking". They do the same in real life, but it's much easier to spot. But some are the same jerks in real life and they say every stupid ideea dead seriosly
So some of them are lying when they say they're joking? 🤔
@@NickLucid google schrödinger's douchebag.
@@NickLucid Absolutely 100% true. This is a very common thing to use when accused of saying something not liked. Rasist people ALWAYS use this excuse. Just look at Trump that often weeks or months later excuses himself saying he was just joking when confronted with endangering peoples lifes. This is the best excuse for almost anything, no one can prove you didn't joke.
@@NickLucid also there is sarchasm which is pretty obvious in person when a friend is doing it, but when it's written by someone unknown it is not always obvious.
@@dtibor5903 Interesting...
At age 35 years old it was determined that, I too, am 'different'.
Just like everybody else 😆
Just remember, diagnosis is just a label put on a box for puzzle pieces that don't fit the normal puzzles. It doesn't define who you truly are anymore than your clothes, your car, or the street you grew up on. Don't let names and labels weigh you down. Be limitless! 😉 and breath
The label doesn't weight me down. It gives me a tool I can use to communicate myself to others.
It's RUclips, so I should know better, but I didn't expect many bad contents.
The number of comments I had to delete on that video were staggering, but it was still worth making (for me and for others).
I'm a psychopath and autistic, yes i have hurt people and I'm comfortable with that
Again, you are far smarter than I could ever realistically be. But maybe you have anxiety. I’m not an expert in any way. Just giving my 2 cents. I have the same train of thought, patch between eyes, sometimes I can’t tell if people are serious or not, but I just stop there. On purpose. Just pick one and move on. Same with public speaking and the like. Most people don’t think about you as often as you do. Not being a dick, it’s just a fact. So if u just stop yourself from thinking so much about what others might be thinking, you will get over a ton of what others consider abnormal behavior. Because in reality, chances are only you notice all the quirks about yourself. Most ppl r self absorbed that way. Nobody’s thinking about you. That closely anyway. But just my thoughts, I hope maybe it helps. Thanks for all the great content. Keep up the amazeballs work!!!
Just look at the mouth, then you can also learn to get what they say better. That's what I do.
That is what most of us autistic do and why we miss so much information. Most information in the face is from the eyes (or rather around them) and the forehead. The micro expressions that people can't control reside there. The mouth is easy to control, when lying.
What do you think is the root cause of autism? Some say genetics, others say environmental causes like pesticides. Brain injury? I had a brain injury, epilepsy, but I think the autistic traits predated that.
Does it matter? 🤷♂️
@@NickLucidIn a literal sense, no.
Are we falling into a categorical fallacy and attributing similar effects to different causes? It would make interesting viewing to explore the causes: Genetic, versus epigenetic, environmental causes.
Autism is not the result of a damage just as well green eyes. It is evolution. Contergan is another story.
I mean...its definetly genetics.
I wonder if you dare to make intimate eye contact with your wife? I am not autistic, but I also find it pretty scary to have long eye contact with my wife. It's so intimate, it's scary. Although, now that I am writing this down, I guess perhaps exactly for that reason I ought to do it more often.
Eye contact with my wife is enjoyable _because_ it's intimate.
What me bother in live is that many alpha-men (i am not into this alpha thing) wanted to change and form me into a neurotypical. I hate it.
🕶👍💥wear sunglasses?!
Yes! I do this whenever I can.
@@NickLucid Nick you're all right, man. I gotta tell you, everybody has at least mild case of autism (if not full blown), and if they claim they don't, then the're lying!
I have like 10 of them.
just pretend you are an ophthalmologist, and eye contact becomes very easy. The only problem is you won't get paid for your unlicensed eye exams.
But won't paying that level of attention to someone's eye ball make people uncomfortable?
@@NickLucid No, they always trust optometrists and ophthalmologists. I met my wife this way. I told her if she did not agree to the exam she would go blind within 90 days.
@@viralsheddingzombie5324 😂
why are all the RUclipsrs I like neurodivergent
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
I'm still thinking "he's not crazy. He's on the spectrum."
Eye contact is hard when they keep rolling their eyes.
...but if I look up, then they won't know I'm lying! Too much Derren Brown.
Serious jokes 👍
...feel free to demonstrate crazy. 🔥🏡🔥🤤
...well actually I did skin... 👋
Can you tell if this comment is joking?
Nah, I'm just messing with you
…Or am I?
Nahhh just kidding, man
…unless?
Perhaps wear shades in public? No need for eye contact? :-)
I already do that outside because of my light sensitivity. Inside? Well, that's more difficult to justify.
@@NickLucid but you are becoming a "rock star" of RUclips, so rock it.