Parenting through Postpartum Depression | Camille Mehta | TEDxStanleyPark
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- Опубликовано: 5 апр 2018
- Mental illness kills more mothers in the first year postpartum than anything else and is a major contributor to marriage breakdown after a baby but maternal mental illnesses like postpartum depression and anxiety are still taboo topics. In this heart wrenching, honest and surprising talk, Camille Mehta shares the steps to help you or someone you know survive maternal mental illness. Camille Mehta is a visual artist, teacher, speaker, poet and mom of four children. After struggling with debilitating depression and anxiety during her pregnancies and in the months postpartum, Camille has made it her mission to end the isolation and shame that so many new parents face. Camille can be reached at mehtacamille@gmail.com This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
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I’m a year late but I’m so glad I found this. I suffered from PPD for months after I had my second baby. It’s started about 3 months postpartum. I felt alone, isolated, and extremely irritable...like a rage. Eventually I started having suicidal thoughts It was awful. I stood in my closet with my husbands gun to my head. I was going to do it, but I heard my son coming up the stairs calling for me. Thank God! My husband tried everything to get me help, but I was so scared they would take my kids. These feelings progressed and I began cutting myself. I also began having terrible thoughts toward my daughter. Tears are rolling down my face as I write this. Eventually I saw my GP and he was incredible. He hugged me and told me I wasn’t alone. I was placed on a low dose medication and it worked! I began to see a psychiatrist and talk therapist monthly and it helped me immensely. It’s been almost 2 years since and thinking back on that time brings such guilt and shame but I know I made it. My kids have their mama and my husband has his wife. Ladies, please don’t suffer, there is help out there!❤️
It is very courageous of you to write this. I can completely relate. I'm so glad that you got help and that things are better and better. Thank you for sharing.
.. im in the closet everyday and my second born will be 4 months.. I wish I wasn't scared to ask for or get help.. I feel everyone brushes it off and tells me it will get better, just because they don't want to hear or deal with me.. darn.
You’re amazing for sharing this…it makes me feel less psychotic 💔
Omg this is exactly what I’m going through!! I had to tell my husband to hide the guns in the house because I was scared of what I might do!
After hearing an overwhelming voice tell me to just end my life, I frantically looked for the keys to my gun lock. Thank God I hid my keys from myself and bullets somewhere else months before my baby was born. I literally broke down and told God I couldn’t take it anymore but I kept fighting and eventually got a little help.
I'm a father and a husband here watching this video at 10:50pm while my 2year old is already in bed and my wife is sleeping, the baby blues is real, help your wife as much as you can!!! Literally help them in every way possible, offer yourself, let her nap, do the dishes clean the house! Just my 2 cents!
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You’re a great dad! That’s what every mum wants to hear :(
This comment broke me down. How I wish Fathers cared enough to help, mine & my child’s. Please take care of your loved ones💓
Thanks for this video... I’m there right now... so alone. Everyone judges the mom who can’t handle it.
I really hear you. It feels so much worse when you feel judgement all around. You are not alone in this. It took me years to work up the courage to tell even one friend that I was struggling as much as I was. But once I did, conversations starting and my friends told me about how they were hiding their own struggles as new parents. You are not a failure and you are not the only one. You are a worthy and caring mom and I deeply hope that you find your community, in your family, amongst your friends, in parent/baby groups or online! We are with you and you are going to get through this! Sending lots of love your way, you beautiful Mama!
How are you now? Thinking of you. Xo
Camille Mehta Man, I think my guy has postpartum because I just found him cheating behind my back online. My daughter is 19 months and pretty sure we will be breaking up and in custody court in a month.
@@ShrimpPerr oh, I'm so sorry that you are going through that. I wish I could just reach out and give you a real life hug right now. I hope you've got some good, rocksteady girlfriends that you can lean on to get through this. Reach out to your community. And do what you can to look after yourself. You are beautiful and strong and you're gonna see the other side of this Sending lots of love and fortitude.
Right 😭
"Stay on the road, stay on the road" almost cried.
When you talked about the inner voices saying, “They’re probably better off without you,” I completely lost it. I’m a new mom with a seven week old and I hear that voice pretty often. It’s scary! Watching this video makes me feel like I’m not insane and that I’m not alone. Thank you.
Rachelle Bertumen Hi Rachelle! I hope you’re doing better. Stay strong! My baby is 6 months, so I’m here with you! Hugs from Texas!
Hi Rachelle, I hope you're doing better. Have you reached out for help? I heard that voice last week and I knew it was time to get help. I'm 3 months postpartum. My doctor was so understanding and told me that it was normal and I was not crazy. He prescribed me Zoloft and it's getting better. I'm starting therapy today, too. I hope you're doing better.
@@rachelpierson6957 I'm so glad you are getting help. How are you now?
@@camillemehta122 I'm feeling so much better!
@@rachelpierson6957 I'm so glad!!!
A lot of people are reluctant to admit that they are suffering from depression. They do not want to look weak in other people's eyes. They want to uphold an illusion of perfection. But inside, they are dying.
Its so true. I am convinced that if we all show some of our vulnerability then no one needs to feel like a failure, especially as a parent. If you are struggling, please talk to someone.
I've never had any children or been through post partum, but I did go through depression in college, so I can relate. I agree with what you said.
It's same with me....😢
I actually kept quiet because I thought I was going insane and I thought it was just me trying to overthink like I normally do. It wasn't until my mother - in - law (who works for a mental health organization) told me to call my healthcare provider and I spoke with a nurse who then made me an appointment with a therapist. The day of my appointment is when I found I had postpartum depression.
Being a new mom to a 3 week old, I am crying my eyes out listening to this. As a new parent it is important to ask for help and take it when you get it. Talk it out when you feel low
How are you doing now? I have a one week old and I’m struggling so bad.
@@alexiaparsons1127 hey how you doing? I've just had my 2nd he is 4 days old and I am really struggling and have no support network. If you want to reach out let me know x
wow. I'm trying to find out what's wrong with me she explained everything that I'm feeling and going through. I'm a new mom of a three month old and i through I was going crazy with all these voices in my head yelling at me. sometimes I can hear my baby crying (screaming) but when I checked on him he's sleeping, sometimes I feel like running away that I'm not fit to mom, now I know so I will be taking to my doctor now. thanks for this video I almost didn't watch it.
Hi, I just wanted to check in with you. How are you now? I hope you found the support you need. Sending love!
Camille Mehta thank you. I did, my husband and my sisters are big helps. also I try to find time to spend with my son outside with friends and families, they make sure I'm not overwhelmed by all of it. again thank you for checking in on me I appreciate it.
@@8realreal I am so glad. You are amazing! 😊
Congratulations on getting help!
Im also getting help2 it is like i reading my own story. Im glad you are seeking.hulp 2 xx
I really pray for everyone going through this. Understanding that you’re experiencing symptoms of PPD is the first step and talking about it is the next. After my previous pregnancy, I was honest about how I was feeling when doing the questionnaires at my baby’s appointments. Those few times I spoke to his doctor about it really helped me seek out further help even though it was a huge struggle. Family won’t always understand, especially husbands. I’ve come a long way through prayer and therapy which eases my anxiety during my current pregnancy.
My baby just turned 1. I’m still fighting this difficult battle but I think us al being open about it it DOES help! Wishing all fellow new mom and dads all the best and to be in the best mental health possible.
I begged my family for help. Cried blood. They said "We have our own issues"
100 % understand... Only God cares
My marriage is definitely falling apart and I'm hurting everyone around me too I feel so hopeless and I feel so alone.
Hi mom, how are you today? I am so sorry it has been hard like this. Give yourself grace, sometimes we hurt others when we are hurting so much ourselves. Do your best to be kind to yourself and care for yourself so that you can extend that caring to those you love. You can't pour from an empty cup. Sending love to you.
Sounds like you ain't good enough then get better simple
My marriage fell apart because of it. I didn’t know what I was going through or what was wrong until it was too late. I’ve been trying so hard to get back what we had and it feels like I’m hitting a brick wall.
@gigi Brambila there are online support groups now during covid most stuff in person is cancelled but at least online is available.
You are not alone. M recovering from post natal psychosis and depression... Believe you me its not an easy journey!!
It’s all true. I’m currently there. Bless all those moms❤️ get help don’t hesitate please
All mothers who suffer from postpartum depression or postpartum psychosis need helps and support from their husbands, family and community. Help them . There is hope and the postpartum depression and more severe one, called postpartum psychosis can be treated with medication. Psychiatrist can help. Reach out for help . Support group and friends can help. Moms who are struggling with the postpartum depression, you are not a failure, you are not alone, Thanks for sharing this story.
Totally agree.
“Then go and see a doctor” that’s what I’m getting too. I feel so so alone
I’m sorry it’s been so hard. You are not alone. Send me an email or find me on Instagram I can connect you with other moms going through similar things and supporting each other. Have a look up of Motherhood Understood as a start. Sending hugs
My youngest is almost 1 and I've ignored my depression way to long. It's now a large monster in my head. I'm now seeking help.
It's so easy for us to just think that the reasons for our unhappiness or rage is simply circumstantial. Especially as moms to young kids, we tend to put our needs last. Please don't feel bad about the time it has taken for you to be able to reach out for help. It's a layer of guilt you don't need or deserve. You have dug deep and found inside yourself the courage and love to reach out for help. You are amazing. Reaching out for help takes courage, love, humility and such tremendous strength. I salute you Mama! Sending you so much love! It's going to get better. Xo
Hi, I'm just checking in. How has it been?
Aww...its so tough....you will make it tho
Camille Mehta did you take some antidepressant?
@@khelzieeikko549 hi, I was prescribed antidepressants 🙂
I think traditional confinement (willingly and safely done) needs to be revisited. Rest, community, self care, revitalisation are some of the core beliefs behind trad confinement. And a paternity/maternity leave that is long enough. Expecting a mom to bounce back soon after having a child is actually insane.
I told my partner this weekend I didn't feel well in my head and everything was setting me off... he didn't take me seriously and I have never felt more alone...
That is an awful feeling. Mental health issues can be scary for spouses too and they may think, "no, not you, you're so capable. Or No, not us, we don't have those kind of problems." They may not know how common it really is. Keep on speaking up. If you need some resources, send me an email. Sending you lots of love. These are rough times. Xo
Hopefully things will get better. You need to keep on telling him because sometimes that's what works.Keep strong fellow mom.
Take care of yourself. Tell your doctor. I realized that when we finally speak up our families are so confused. “Even though you’re tired, mama you’ve been doing such a great job.” That’s the last thing you want to hear. Surprisingly enough, they honestly don’t know how to help us.
I’ve been in therapy. I can put my feelings there until I begin to come to terms with post partum depression. If you want to talk I’m here.
@@evelynmoses6364 once you go talk to someone if you have some deep issues can you one day be finally totally free? Or will you always have to talk to someone to keep going?
Wow, I knew I was still struggling from PPD 4 months out but this video really put things into perspective for me. I'm new to the 2 under 2 club plus have a 13 year old and am really struggling. I have to go back to work soon because I can't afford to stay home anymore but I don't know how I'll do it. When I tell people they tell me "you just have to create a schedule, pick up a remote job, take this Google course to get new skills to switch careers e.t.c" and I'm feeling like a failure because I can't put the energy into doing anything but feeling sorry for myself.
In my case I raised my hand super early on. I had prenatal depression, spoke with my health professional, communicated my concerns with my partner and my family. Got medication, the works. Still, not everyone got it, some said it's all in my head. Others said medication was gonna turn my baby into a junkie. Still, I struggle to have access to a mental health professional (1+ year waiting list, thank God I wasn't suicidal but my heart breaks for all those who are and can't get the help they need), and add the pandemic and isolation to the mix... My pregnancy wasn't all roses and glowing skin. Giving birth was traumatic, the hospitals are so understaffed where I live, they were closing half the birthing block the day after I gave birth. To recognize you have depression isn't all that. We need REAL health care, we need REAL medical teams who are WELL-taken care of and not overworked and exhausted. We need better education of the general population and not from mothers going through depression. We're busy, y'all. We don't have time to educate everyone while trying to stay alive. Literally, alive.
Reaching out only works when you have people close to you. What do you do when your village is so far away?
I went through it by myself not talking to anyone and this speech made me remember so much stuff. How I wished I would of spoken up back then. Such a nice speech, it made me cry.
Thank you for the nice comments Ruth, I hope you are feeling better now.
2 week boy with colic with no help I cry constantly I never felt so helpless in my life.
I Hope a year on you are feeling better. I’m thinking of you.
I’m scared to get help . I’m afraid they’ll take my kids away even though they really are the only reason I’m still living
Hi dear Mama, let me see who I can connect you with. These have been such hard times. What country are you in? Big hugs!
How are you today? I'm thinking of you. Xo
Camille Mehta Thank you for checking on me 🙏🏽 going through a lot lately .. physically recovering from the c section and emotionally I’m just ... lost and sad . I appreciate you !
@@griseldabankroll I hope you are feeling better than before. One of the things I like to do to feel grounded and connected is every day I call one of my friends and have a phone chat. Sometimes we just talk about what we are making for dinner. I hope you get to have a good chat with someone today also. Xo
Don't get scared because getting help is the right thing to do for you and your kids.
Camille Mehta, you addressed this topic so eloquently. I will easily remember each symptom and how to approach my clients and patients. Thank you so so so much for sharing your story.
This is so touching and devastating. I’m trying to become a psychotherapist to help ppl struggling with depression and ESPECIALLY those who struggle with PPD.
Thank you for the work you are doing. There is a shortage of available doctors. At the women's hospital in my city there is a wait list of months and months for women in critical need of mental health help. You are needed!
Thank u for this
You made me cry when you said your husband held your hand tight. Thank u for talking about this
Thank you for your comments. It means a lot to me to know that it has made a difference to other moms and their families. Depression tells us that we are all alone, when we are not. Parenting can be so isolating. Its a big deal but so important to trust and to reach out. xo
Im still here watching the wondering how to get out of this depression
I would've loved her to shed light on how this affects dad's as well.
Hi,I wish I could have too. dad's get ppd too. Also mom's maternal mental health issues affect dad and their relationship profoundly. There was so much I wanted to say but the TED format is very tight and I had to stick rigidly to the core message of my talk which was ' healing happens with community'. I couldn't agree more about the importance of talking about paternal mental health issues. I'd love to hear more about what you think in the comments. :-)
@@camillemehta122 I have PPD and my daughter’s father told me he felt like I would harm my baby. The interesting part is I begged him many many days to help me with her and take her. We’re not together, never were... this doesn’t feel real. Like I know I’m living this in real time but this is not what I “envisioned” at all...like you talked about in the beginning. I’ve been seeing therapy, we’re scheduled to go to mediation. I feel lost for the better half of each day.
@@evelynmoses6364 hi Evelyn, I hope that your situation has improved since the new year. Thinking of you.
I searched for this video because I knew have ppd this is my third child . It has been easy cause I can hide it verse with my other two kids I couldn’t control it but it’s bothering me really bad my husband tells me nothing wrong with me but I know how I feel in the inside it’s making me feel alone ….. I can say so much but thanks everyone for sharing I’m not alone here
My third will be 3months next week, me and my husband had been fighting more then usual I finally talked to him a little bit about it and I felt a little lighter he said he needed an explanation for my behavior lately he said I was a completely different person. Much needed wake up call I wasn't hiding it well and then I realized I really was hiding something. I thank God his so supportive because if wasn't I'm pretty sure I'd completely lose it. Mediation has been such a help I'm slowly getting back into it and I'm feeling like I can almost recognize myself. Staying in your life is so important I hadn't realized how far I'd actually fallen.
I hope you were able to get some help and are feeling more yourself now. Its hard.
Camille, You are a Rockstar Mom! Important subject people need to reach 'out' and 'in' for support. Too many women are completely alone in those early years.
Thank you Amy. I completely agree.
I had no symptoms earlier but now my baby is 1.5 yr old and I am going through this.
I needed to see this. I’ve suffered from Postpartum from all my children. It’s so real! Smh talking about it working through it & figuring out what works for you is what helps
Thank you so much for writing, Deanna. I get it so much. My kids were all close together and it was a funny/not funny joke that as soon as I'd feel myself again, I'd get pregnant and the whole rollercoaster would begin again. I hope you've had a chance to heal and reemerge. :-) And I hope this week is a smooth one. Xo
A global pandemic is taking this to a whole new level right now
This is so true. 😭
Giving birth in a pandemic
The book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels was also a huge help.
Soooooo true!
Yep!
Thanks. I’m sobbing.
Thank you for this!!! I wish I would have done this. I was you. As many, many moms are.
Thank you for talking about such an important topic, PPD affects so many of us and you are lifting the stigma!
Thank you Victoria. You are doing the same. :)
This is powerful. When you pointed to the "death threats" my hairs stood on end. This talk is so brave and so needed. Thanks Camille!
Thank you Andrea!
This pulled my heart strings! So real thank you !!!
It is so moving when the truth is told. Your courage to tell the truth is inspiring and potentially could save the lives of others who struggle with post partum depression. Thank you for being the light, and shining the light on this super important issue!
Thank you kindly, Lyle.
Such a brave and powerful tedtalk ❤ thank you so much for being a voice for us.
Thank you so much for this video. This gives me hope to hold on and keep doing my best. That part when you said a stranger came up to you and asked how YOU where doing really hit me the hardest. My own family doesn’t even ask me that, they see my son and only speak to him, so I don’t speak to them either now. I pretend they aren’t there the same why they do me, but when people do talk to me as an individual person, it reminds me that I actually am still a person with a name and not just my sons mom or as my mother likes to say “his milk”. I love my child so much, but this has been such a traumatic experience I don’t plan on having any more children ever again.
Thank you so much for this insight.
This is so touching. Thank you for this!
Thank you, it means a lot to me to hear that. xo :-)
Great Job Camille! You went on right after me, so I didn't get a chance to see you live. Im glad i got to see this!
Thank you!
Thank you Camille for raising awareness on this important health topic.
Thank you for your kind words, Roger
I’m so happy you made this video. So so so happy.
Thank you Lola
Thanks, Camille for sharing your story and raising awareness on this subject. I am sure there are a lot of new moms who need to hear your story.
Thank you Theresa. I want every new mom (and dad!) to know that they at not alone in the struggle with maternal mental illnesses.
Thanks camile. God bless your heart.
Thank you for your kind comment, Aisha. I hope my talk made it a little easier.
Definitely needed to see this! Touched on this on my channel as well.
Just beautiful! Thank you!
Thank you for your kind message. 💛
This video has saved many lives! I can only imagine! Thank you!
Thank you for your kind words.
Heart warming and heart-felt talk about a difficult topic. Kudos to you, Camille, for speaking out so openly about PPD. You have done a great service!
Thank you Sharookh for you kind words.
Thank you for sharing this story.
Thank you for watching it and also for your comment. It means a lot to me. :-)
Perfectly said 🙏👍❤️
Your talk gives people the courage to reach out, ask for help, be authentic and REAL.
Life's beautiful moments can be tough and the more we can be honest about that, the more we can heal - and connect.
Thanks for sharing your authentic message of strength Camille.
XO
Thank you Melissa. Its true that while there is a silver lining to difficult situations, there is also often a dark shadow to times of joy. Once I knew I was not alone, It made such a big difference and made healing much easier.
Camille you are amazing mom to your kids! And I know how much they mean to you, don’t ever think bad about yourself ever again! I’m so glad that I have a chance to see your presentation on this matter, well done Camille , so proud of you! Xoxoxo Sanela💖
Thanks so much Sanela! 💖
Camille thank you so much for this powerful talk! I really love how you’ve continued to read even current comments and are responding to women suffering from PPD! It reflects the compassionate caring person you are! 🙏💗
Thank you
Amazing video! Thank you, Camille!!
Thank you Emily! It means a lot to me to know it makes a difference.
amazing lady ever so true
Thank you thank you thank you, finally; someone gets it... ❤ God bless you
Thank you for your comment Melissa. You are definitely NOT alone. Sending you lots of love and courage. Bless you and your family.
Thank you Camille! Your strength means support for thousands of woman. I can't wait to share your talk with all our Fit 4 Two mammas.
Thanks so much for including me in your Fit 4 Two awareness and fundraising campaign!
Thank you
I just want to feel warm again
All I did was listen and cry thank you for explaining your story, I'm not alone 🙏
No you are not alone, stay strong
Good job, nice speech
Thank you.
Hi, I really appreciate your comment. Please reach out if you need to, you are important and cared for.
Living it right now.
I'm so sorry you are going through this. More than ever, we don't have access to the regular supports and anxiety is so high. Go easy on yourself, you are doing a good job even if the day feels like a disaster. May I suggest having a look for 'motherhoodunderstood' . Sometimes we have to find pieces of our community online. Also 2020mom. I'm thinking of you.
Thank you so much
I hope you are feeling better now.
Thank u
Thank you for sharing your story so clearly and powerfully, Camille. Your openness and honesty will help more women and families than you will ever know.
Thank you Lorraine. I know I cant make ppd go away, but I hope I can make other parents feel less alone. It is easy to feel like a monster when you think you are the only one. No one is alone in this.
I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. That is so hard. Thank you for your kinds words.
Thank you so much for making this video. I have a 3 week old babygirl and I’ve been called a drama queen and told if I can’t deal with being a mother then they don’t know what to tell me..I’ve already suffered from ptsd and social anxiety before giving birth to her and i stayed strong for about a week and a half and ppd hit me like a brick. I’ve had many suicidal thoughts that then turn into guilt every time I looked at her. I couldn’t imagine leaving her alone so I eventually lost my mind and attacked the love of my life who gave me this beautiful babygirl. Ppd is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I’ll be definitely get some medication to help. You helped me not think I was crazy or acting out of control for no reason . Being a new mom isn’t just shits and giggles.
I hope you’re doing much better these days. Becoming a mom is not for the weak. ❤
The book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels was also a huge help.
I'm glad you found some tools to help.
Just found this video. I’m just about 8 months pp. I didn’t start experiencing depression until at least 2 months after giving birth. It’s hard! You explained some of the things I feel down to the T. I keep trying to excuse the way I feel, I’m just tired, I’m just stressed. On my way to seek help.
I'm so glad that you are looking for help. 2 months pp is actually a very common time for postpartum mental health issues to begin. When you think of it, moms at that stage are out of the care of a doc or midwife, sleep deprivation has usually hit catastrophic levels, may be feeling despair over whether or not this is your new and maybe forever normal (luckily it's not) and no one is bringing food anymore. Just to name a few things.
I hope you are finding your community. Let me know if you need help finding resources. Xo
I just feel like a bother to everyone, when people ask if I’m ok I try to say I am because I don’t want to be the one that everyone remembers as a negative person or someone who complains all the time, a miserable person, so I hide from everybody, and I’ve alienated myself, got rid of all friends, I’m struggling, I hate being a mom I just feel like I can’t give them what they need, and I’m just unhappy all the time. I’ve had 3 kids and can’t ever find a baby sitter. I’m just so tired, I’ve had a very very difficult life and I’m just tired. I’ve had friends who even tried to downplay what I was going through. I feel so alone. And most of all I feel embarrassed.
Feel u
I Hope a year later you are feeling better. It’s hard.
Thank you for sharing. I hope this will help my daughter who is suffering with PPD.
Thank you for sharing my video, Lauraine. I'm sorry your daughter is struggling. Having caring family can make all the difference and it is wonderful that she has you. I rely so much on my mom. Whether she accompanies my on appointments or picks up some milk when she comes to visit or most often, just the phone chats and the visits with someone who you know really loves you. Sending you and your family lots of love.
I hope your daughter is on the road to feeling better. Xo
Camille, she is now. Thankfully she finally took my advice (as well as watching all the videos about post-partum depression and how it's not her failing) and she went to the doctor who is helping her.
@@RaineeG62 I'm so happy to hear that. Depression and anxiety tell us lies about our worth, the nature of our relationships and our ability to contribute and it is so hard to see through those lies. I commend your daughter on the hard work she has done and wish her strength and courage and love :-)
Bravo! Incredible speech and a much needed message. Thank you
Thank you so much Ashika, I'm delighted that it resonated with you. Best wishes, Camille
Thank you for sharing, it’s beyond necessary to bring awareness. If you are suffering you’re not alone. ❤️
Thank you for your comment Katharine. We are all in this together.
This is real. I am having one but I cant reach out to no one. I just dont know what to do but to just go on with my life. At the same time, there is a hug lump in my chest that I cannot do anything.. Watching and listening to this really make me cry.. At least, I am able to let out some of the lump and burden I feel inside..
Dear Mama, I'm sorry that you feel so alone right now. Especially during the pandemic it is hard to find community, hard to see friends or even family. It can be good to connect with other parents online too. If you are on the Instagram platform, have a look at @motherhoodunderstood and @postpartumstress and @mommingwithtruth I have found a lot of community there. If you can see a doctor, do. If you can not, connecting with a community that will help you understand what you are going through and can relate is the next best thing. Sending love to you.
I can feel correlated with her
PREACH PREACH PREACH! 💓
Thank you Veronica!
I am so glad more moms are now talking openly about this subject. Just knowing that you're not alone is pretty helpful. I'm also glad that the varied stories being told are shattering the MYTH that every mom who experiences postpartum depression ALSO experiences suicidal or homicidal thoughts. Postpartum depression DOES NOT always mean that you battle urges/thoughts of harming yourself or your child. The experience can look like intense sadness, extreme fatigue, debilitating fear and anxiety, hyper-worry for the safety of your child, frustration over circumstances you can not control (i.e. the social climate, the weather, exposure to possible illness like flu season, etc.), feeling as though you're going insane, anxiety attacks, physical pain like head/body aches, intense mood swings, hopelessness and shame and just being overwhelmed by common life occurrences. Feeling these things for a prolonged period of time during or after your pregnancy ARE symptoms of postpartum depression.
The experiences this speaker has shared are real and brave and more common than we ever knew but they are NOT the only type of experience mom's have with postpartum depression. Postpartum depression occurs on a spectrum. Seek help even if you do not want to harm yourself or your child because the absence of those very severe symptoms which occur at the severe end of the spectrum DO NOT mean you are not experiencing a mental illness which may require medical intervention.
Thank you for your comment, I'm sorry I didn't see it earlier. You are completely correct. There is a spectrum and everyone deserves to get important help regardless of their symptoms.
when i clean my house and my kids make a mess then my bf comes home and says ur fucken lazy the house is a mess
i can never win
I'm so sorry that you are going through that. People who are not looking after kids often don't know how destructive and messy young kids can be. It's not fair that anyone says that to you. I hope you both can talk it out.
Get rid of him
After i gave birth to my first daughter i had postpartum depression, i hated her at first and after 3 years it moved to my husband and i wanted to divorce, after realising i cant love without him i planned to have another child so our relationship would be stronger.and now after my second daughter shes 9 months old and im suffering from anxiety.
The problem is ive been telling everyone about it and noone cares they say im over exaggerating , and where i live all therapists just want money noone wants to actually help. I tried to reach out to them but none actually took my hand. And here i am at 4 am not able to sleep and im exhausted
My anxiety comes from death only at night and in the morning mood swings and sensitivity
Hi Zeinab, it's been months since you commented, how are you now? I'm so sorry that you have been struggling so much. Feel free to email me or connect with me on instagram. If you let me know where you are I might be able to connect you with resources. Hugs!
Reaching out and no one is there besides Mr. No ones ever been there, my parents reminded me how incapable they are to provide emotional support and understanding because it makes them feel some type of way, and even right after a traumatic birth of our twins. The pandemic has made this much worse.
You must be going through so much. When our families can be who we need them to be it’s profoundly saddening. I have found other moms to be my most steadfast support system. Is there a mom group you can join local to you? I have also found supportive mothering groups on Instagram. Not the fake, super shiny, always with make up on folx, but real moms. If you’re on there have a look at motherhoodunderstood and postpartumstress as a start. Xo
This is how I feel 😢
I’m so sorry you are having a hard time. This last year has been the most challenging to have a baby or young children. It’s very challenging to build regular community during lockdowns etc. There are some very active groups online (motherhood understood is one) and on Instagram. These can be the next best thing. I hope you have a good day tomorrow. Xo
@@camillemehta1348 thank you
Im glad someone is talk about it ,it is still a taboe topic.
Hi Daniela, thank you for your comment. It is still a taboo topic and I'm so glad you've reached out. I hope you are getting the help that you need. You are worth it. You deserve to feel peaceful and whole. You are a good mom.
the milk stain clothes line is sooo relatable
I had to handle it and that rock solid relationship was worse when I spoke up he started telling me I was a bad mom. When I got thyroid problems (which can happen from postpartum) he told me to just die, or kill myself now I'm with my baby without him and happier! Unfortunately I still have to goto court and fight him for custody
How absolutely awful that you had to go through that kind of response. I am glad that you are happier and that you are ok. Wishing you all the best and I hope you get what you need in your court case.
@@camillemehta122 I'm hoping the same unfortunately right now I don't have the money for a lawyer and he even using drugs is getting my son half the week.
@@raindrop90s72 I am so sorry that you and your son are going through this. I am rooting big time for you and an outcome that gives you security.
The only time I felt like this I had been using a birth control method called Nexplanon, I was depressed, my body changed completely, my figure slowly but surely was demolished into a hormonal VERY unfit body I've never seen before, suicidal thoughts, random crying, everything. I took it out, it took about another year for my body to recover and symptoms to go away but... After that experience I cannot stress enough how this might have affected the lives of so many women, before and after pregnancy.
All Iv ever wanted was a baby. I gave birth in July 2021. I love my son to pieces but I’m constantly reminiscing about my pregnancy,I’m really missing being pregnant and I even loved my labour. I even miss the hospital where I went for scans ect. It’s getting bad to the point where I feel I’m going though a bad breakup I can’t seem to get past this I’m constantly crying and looking back to the past.
This feels like me for the past 2 years
Hi Bianca, I'm so sorry you are going through this too right now. Gosh it's hard. I really hope you are able to get the help you need where you are. Are you on Instagram? There is a very supportive group of mom's with similar experiences I could connect you with. You can find me there at @camillemehtaart Sending love your way! It's going to be alright. Xo
Same here my love. 2 1/2 years for me.
5 years for me
I am a new mom of a 1 month old and from India. I am I think suffering from PPD. I thought I was not a good mom for having such thoughts, atleast that's what my parents said. But now that I have watched certain videos on RUclips I have a feeling that I am suffering from PPD. But unfortunately my husband also thinks that I dont handle my baby well. So support from my husband is far off the list. He is enjoying his bachelor life now and I am stuck here at my place with the baby. So I guess I will just hv to deal with the problem myself.
I am so sorry that you are going through this without the support you need right now. Do you have a doctor or a midwife you can talk to? Often people think that women just slide into motherhood easily and naturally and, honestly, it's so hard and there are many things that can contribute to ppd. My advice is to contact the person who cared for you during your pregnancy and birth if at all possible and also to join a mom and baby group in your area. Spending time with other moms with babies can make such a difference and they can share resources with you as well. Bless you and I am sending you lots of love. You are going to get through this!
@@camillemehta122 I will visit a doctor soon if this feeling doesn't go away. But till then "This too shall pass" are the words that I have resorted to. Either I will come out of it beautifully or it will take a piece of me. Let's see. Thankyou so much for your time. :)
@@jincygeorge160 I always like to say to myself "time is merciful". I know you will come out of this beautifully. It may take a piece of you too but you will be even more beautiful because of it! Be easy on yourself. Xo
@@camillemehta122 :) Thankyou.
Pls seek help. Talk about it with someone helps a lot. And you are never alone . Mayby i dont know you or al the moms in this topic. The only way we can comminicate is online but you are not alone. Kisses
I’m convinced this may happen to me, it’s why I’m petrified to have children
Some people are more at risk then others but knowledge is power. I recently heard from a mom who had had a suicide attempt in her past and so she and her husband made sure that all the supports were in place ahead of time just incase. She said that because they front loaded all the work of putting supports in place early, her postpartum period was fine, which is awesome. :-) Whether or not you have a past that includes mental health issues, being proactive about mental health care can do a lot towards a healthy postpartum.
P.S. I cant reach out - we have no family around us - when I tried to reach out to my family, they minimalize my feelings. I have also have gone to a psychologist for help on other issues at one point in time in my life and she diagnosed me with complex ptsd from childhoold traumas; codependency, secondary traumatic stress and adjustment disorder, and she never TOLD ME - I had to threaten to sue her to get my records to go get other help - so my faith in the psychological profressional community is slim...
I empathize with trusting a psychologist and then not feeling that they are treating you appropriately. While I have been lucky to have had conscientious doctors, I have had some that I felt didn't understand me and whose approach was not a good fit. It's ok to switch. I did.
This is a very hard time to find community. I have felt a lot of comfort in parenting communities on Instagram. If you are on that platform, consider following @postpartumstress and @motherhoodunderstood
I hope you have a good day tomorrow and best wishes.
My parents always minimize my feelings and get pressured me so bad to keep my child. I wanted to adopt her so she would have a mom and a dad.
Support system👍
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I cant anymore
The mindfulness book "30 Days to Reduce Depression" by Harper Daniels is a good resource.
I don't want to live but I don't want end my life nor that of my child. I suffered from emotional neglect so I don't want her to feel any of that😭😭
I just need help with the house, that would help so much.
Suffering with this and don’t know who to talk to
Kisha Monique you should make a call to your general practitioner and or a therapist and see if you can talk to either of them. A therapist will help you talk through your emotions and feelings while your doctor might try to prescribe you medicine. I am going through this as well and made a call to schedule and therapy appointment this morning.
Emily Love I pray all works out for you
Hi Kisha, feel free to email me. You can also find me on instagram. If you let me know where you are, perhapse I can connect you with some resources near you. Xo
Camille Mehta what is your Instagram
@@kishaj1 camillemehtaart I'm a painter 😘