More than just depression: a postpartum mental health journey | Emily Phelps | TEDxBloomington
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- Опубликовано: 26 окт 2020
- People say having a baby changes everything. And for Emily Phelps, it certainly did. Her unexpected struggle with multiple postpartum mood disorders forced her to reexamine everything she thought she knew about becoming a mother. Her humor and down-to-earth story sheds a light on a topic that's not talked about nearly enough. Through the story of her own struggle, she seeks to help others better understand these common disorders, realize they don't just happen to moms, and provide tangible tips to help the loved ones in your life who may be experiencing them. Emily is the founder of Matrescence Perinatal Care, an organization seeking to provide superior educational and social support to new and expecting families. She works as both a birth and postpartum doula. She has her Master's in Leadership Development with a research focus in how adult learners retain information. In addition to her work as a doula, she is an adjunct professor of Women's Leadership and an experienced corporate trainer and facilitator. All of her work, regardless of venue, revolves around ensuring others have the space to speak their truths, to be heard, and the tools to cultivate their own confidence. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
One of the things that is helping me emotionally is to read a Psalm every morning. As I meditate on the verses, my spirits are lifted and I have just what I needed for that moment; for that day. I hope this helps someone. 🙏🏽
"You have to keep showing up for your life when you have depression even when you don't want to." This resonates so much with me. I had PPD/PPA with my daughter that I kept dismissing until it became too much. Thank you for sharing your story.
I identify my experience in yours SO MUCH. I remember feeling guilty because I didn't find joy in motherhood, and bleeding nipples, and I felt lonely and misunderstood. This changed when I went to La Leche League, and I found a mother who told me that she had dreamed of letting her baby fall from a bridge. I wasn't alone anymore.
Mental health is so important that we should learn these things in schools.
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Thank you for this. I suffered greatly and never received help. It morphed into ptsd after ovarian cancer and now I'm finally in therapy. My son is 20 years old.
I had tears of joy when she said "i spent an obcene amount of money..."
Women deal with alot and awareness is important to this depression.
Women only i guess ?
awareness is important to all
Thank you this video, there is so much I want to say. I have experienced severe postnatal depression and anxiety twice, the second considerably worse which lead to two attempts at suicide. I am eight years post partum and am still fighting for my life. With PTSD by my side I still fight everyday for my family and I will never give up. It would be my dream to help people in a similar position , I work in Healthcare but can’t see a way I can help.
The part where she seemed to be crying, I felt it. I was like this is so real. But then she composed or came out of character as she retold her story.
Emily Phelps. I am currently living this experience. I can’t tell you how much I needed to see this today. Thank you
We have to take serious our mental health as much as we do the money.
The general public is egregiously unaware how serious and debilitating all forms of severe chronic depression really is. Unless you experienced severe depression yourself, it’s beyond your comprehension how soul destroying it is.
This is why many who struggle with depression keep it to themselves. They don’t want others to judge and dismiss them. By diminishing one’s suffering as being trivial, it only makes the depression worse.
This is the best comment so far.
Thank you for a well-written and thoughtful comment. In light of all the pretty terrible comments on such a critically important topic, your stands out.
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100%. After reading the comment section, it is abundantly clear why women keep this to themselves. Not only is it difficult for anyone with anxiety and depression to deal with the condition, but childbirth is such a celebrated time that moms don’t feel like they SHOULD feel anything but joy. It adds an entirely new dimension when guilt and exhaustion are added to the equation.
These conversations need to be brought out of the shadow
Worrying about what others think of us is one of the biggest " prisons" we build for ourselves (jmho). Peace :)
Great video every new mother and father should see this
Thank God you are well again. Oh wow! You addressed this issue so much so that I am inspired to do something in my community right now. Thank you, Emily Phelps, for sharing your postpartum journey. I am so so glad that you broke new ground in order to get to the root and core of it. Now I know PPD isn't just depression but a combo of several conditions.
I learned that PPD is an increased risk with each subsequent birth. Surprising. I thought an experienced mother would be more able to cope, but there is apparently more PPD with the additional physical and emotional toll of having more kids.
That's exactly what I would have thought. We need more focus and investment into this issue. It is a hidden epidemic.
Thank you so much for sharing this. Thank you. I completely understand , its difficult to understand and process postpartum. I dealt with issues too, I was oscillating between been MAD and crying. I would struggle with my moods, mad all the time, anything would flip me out. I believed I had a little bit of postpartum mood disorders, but there was no one to validate it, and still there isn't. And people around me did not believe in it. I think my husband still does not believe that I might have dealt with something similar. I felt lonely even amongst so many people. It took 4 months for me to let go of some and I would say 7-8 month postpartum to come to terms with my usual self. And, yes I have said to myself too.. you dont have postpartum depression.. you dont look too down and out.
Your life starts at the end of the comfort zone! 🔚
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My life went nice till birth, I hope after death it would be even better^^
The topic in TED it's really inspiring me to better life.
Thanks, and keep spirit
👍🙏 TED opens its eyes to many things
Excelente charla. Esa valentía es lo que las
Mujeres necesitamos para entender completamente la maternidad, que se muestra ante todos como perfecta pero no lo es en absoluto. Yo sufrí también de depresión postparto y recuerdo muy bien mi sentimiento de impotencia, soledad, angustia. También regresé al trabajo antes porque ya no soportaba más. Acudía psicólogo y luego a psiquiatra. Ninguno me ayudó realmente. Luego llegó otro médico que me dijo que la depresión es como tener gastritis. Es una enfermedad y hay que tratarla y punto. Tengo dos hijas más y con ninguna volví a sentirme igual afortunadamente
I had almost the same experience but thought I could/should handle it myself.... health professionals are like that sometimes😢
Me too. Some noticed.
So glad my babies didn't know the difference... or did they? They couldn't say anything, others could have. 😥
“The only limits for tomorrow are the doubts we have today.”
― Pittacus Lore
No one cared, everyone abandoned me or turned on me, blamed me. My husband checked out and turned on me and everyone blamed me for that. It was horrible.
I went from being a successful business woman, to completely alone.
Doula - untrained midwife. Postpartum - postnatal.
We had 3 miscarriages and Johnathan who lived for 28 hours. He at least got a funeral. Our "support" was from a priest who said God must be punishing us for something. Good job we had each other.
Thank you mama. İ hope this topic stops being a stigma and more mamas come out and share to guide others 💪
I wish more people knew about this topic .
PMDD. Almost killed me. Much love 💕
I do honor and admire mothers.
Hard times don't create heroes. It is during the hard times when the 'hero' within us is revealed.
-Shazistic
TEDx opens its eyes to many things.
All the best to all)) 🙏
You help to know yourself)👍
Thank you very much 🥰🥰🥰
Thanks so much
Good talk!!
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So funny!
Wow Ive never heard such genius before lol 👌😃
Of course I cried and I laughed. I know exactly what she went through!
Thank you for this ❤️ I have PTSD from my ex husband but I do believe I have PTSD from having triplets 3yrs ago.
Well hearing those statistics no wonder I haven’t felt “here” in 16yrs 🤣🫣😭 hearing this helps me so much though
This is so interesting
“You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”
― Steve Jobs
Birthing Parent? It’s called a MOTHER.
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Maybe people need to talk about majör depression?
2:10 daYum he's a cutie :o)
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This comment section makes my IQ feel like 200 i swear
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An really bad image for all the T.E.D.-x talk; I'm mage, like in the days of Old Egypt
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Thank you for sharing this story but she didn't go to the psychologist let the problem come big and more complex
Uninformed people be like
In other words Karen be like
She talking without a mask