Always grosses me out when men talk about women being "fertile", especially since they always use it to justify being attracted to younger women, something icky about it.
Apparently, if we're strictly referring to physical fertility, the best age to be pregnant is in your 20s. If we're taking other factors into account it might be better to get pregnant and have a child in your late-20s or early to mid-30s. Also, apparently, AMAB people's fertility takes quite the hit after 40 so it's not just AFAB that develops fertility issues after a certain age.
Ah God. The entire concept of pregnancy irks me. If I ever manage to immigrate, the first thing I will do is to find a way to get my tubes tied. Though, I need such surgery here. It's not safe to live beside animals.
Why the heck are so many men that don't understand that boobs have nerves? I've seen a lot of situations where the boobs are used as airbags in a non ironical way.
Ah, yes. I, a female, was born with air lumps. Invented to protect my sensitive heart in a car crash because all women are sensitive. They were also invented for male pleasure.
One of my guy friends does’t realise it hurts when getting punched in the boob and he’ll always punch his trans boyfriend and all his friends with boobs in the boobs and it hurts-
@@captainpickle1681 Wow! My niece was about two when she learned that punching someone in the boob hurts and she's never done it again. I think your friend knows perfectly well that it hurts but pretends not to so he can continue being a dick about it. Maybe someone should retaliate by kicking him in the crotch, 'cos they "didn't realise" it would hurt.
My friend was told by her mom when she started her period that she shouldn’t use tampons because it would break her hymen too. For the longest time after my friend told me that I thought it was true too and didn’t even question it. It’s insane to think that sex education is so lacking that young girls are conditioned to not want to use tampons because it’ll damage their perceived purity.
I used tampons as a virgin for years and it didn't break my hymen. Then I had sex for a year and the guy ALSO didn't break my hymen. The second partner and I had a big surprise our first time.
@@attentivechair3248 i dont think men understand what the hymen really is, because in media it is portrayed as some sort of veil preventing access to the womb, when in reality its actually sort of a ring. It can even be broken without intercourse! There are many stories of people doing activities like gymnastics or horse-riding and their hymen breaks, and a lot of the time it isn’t noticeable either. If the hymen was some sort of magical barrier, women literally wouldnt be able to have their period in the first place lol
One of my best friends had a crazy heavy period when she first started. Her mom wouldn’t allow her to use tampons ‘until she’s married’. My friend was really good at educating herself though bc her parents are insane and she went to a catholic school and she hated both, so she knew her moms reasoning was absolute BS and did her best to buy herself tampons at the age of 12
My mom says it's uncomfortable for her and it makes her break out and it might be the same for me so she doesn't want to take that chance but she doesn't say that I can't try them when I want to
For the PETA rant, I honestly thought she was saying “Peter” and I kept thinking “Who’s Peter?” Halfway through I figured it out, definitely one of the most American things I’ve ever done.
As an individual with a large chest (D/DD), yes. They sag. So much, without a bra. Perky or upright boobs, aren't that common after a certain size. Not without backup. Looking forward to having none, so I don't have to worry about them anymore.
As a trans man in the same boat cup wise I can relate. With a bra they are harder to hide as they protrude more and it's very uncomfortable, without one they jiggle and constantly make me aware of their presence. I don't have a binder yet but I crave top surgery more than anything else on this planet.
I can remember before starting my transition being a person who also has a large chest, I leaned over in high school to help my friend pick something up. A stupid boy yelled out "[Deadname] HAS ORANGUTAN TITTIES!" I was so humiliated then. I wanted so bad to have those perky breasts, but now I realize I was already caring for them the best I could and like stated above after a certain size keeping them from sagging completely is impossible. Now even though I just want them gone completely, my body is not made to please others and as long as I'm happy with myself that's all that matters.
Being asexual is like.....cooking. Some people like cooking, some don't. Anyone CAN cook but it doesn't mean they WANT to cook. Some people decide to do other stuff like eat out at restaurants so they don't cook and other people can cook all day and night. Some people are even like meh I don't hate cooking or love it, it's okay. They just do it just to do it. Edit: I'm glad so many of you can relate to this! 💜😅 Honestly, I was just hoping to give some people ideas on how to explain asexuality to their significant other or something like that. But I hope you all are able to continue interpreting it more in depth in your own ways. A lot of people can relate to cooking in some way even if they can't understand asexuality or whatever else you feel the analogy fits.
This kind of men confuses me. So, they don’t want a woman to have sex anytime before marriage, but also they think women are only good for having babes. And they thing women should only have sex with the man they’re married to, but also he’s proud of having sex with like five women every week. So isn’t he just doing the thing he hates? But no, it’s only ever the women’s fault.
I'm so glad my dad knows everything about women health like he literally went through classes an did research so he could be a good dad and be there for me and my sisters
@@LivingDeadEnaid dude I'm so sorry personally I would be embarrassed I only recently moved in with my dad and before that I had a step dad that would shame me for my period and it absolutely sucked he made me feel so insecure about it and even though my dad does know stuff I still feel super insecure about it
Ive never understood why these kinds of men are so obsessed with “breeding”. If you want kids with someone who cant get pregnant, you can still adopt? And I understand wanting to have biological kids, but if you truly are desperate for you and your partner to raise children, adoption is an amazing option. But ive also noticed that these same men have NO idea how children work, and i think its because they expect the women to literally take care of everything. They dont want the late nights of their child crying and waking up every few hours, they dont want the changing of diapers, they dont want to clean a childs messes. They just want the good parts of having a kid, and sometimes not even! Ive seen so many of these men obsessed with “breeding” who show NO emotional bond with their current children
Those men don't really care about having a family at all, the whole "breeding" obsession is a sexual fantasy, "impregnating" a woman is a form of taking a claim on her, they don't really want the responsibility that comes with it, just the percieved power that it brings them to have a woman bear their genes
Dear The Queer Kiwi, As a Queer Person, thank you for providing a safe space for us. I loved your video on problematic TikToks. Sending strength and power to you. Yours Sincerely, A New Fan.
as someone who was in a relationship with a 27 year old at 18, i agree that age of consent isnt the be all and end all. that shouldnt have been allowed to happen, the power and maturity level is way out of wack with those kinds of ages.
So many of the people here defending age gap relationships all seem to be the younger one too, describing a puppy love relationship. “He gets me!” “We like the same things!” Like cool? Do they react well when you refuse to do what he wants? Do they hold more social and economic power than you do? Relationships aren’t solely about having the same pop culture interests and finishing each others sentences. I mean, when you’re YOUNG, they kind of are. But when you’re 30….
@@DeathnoteBB I agree with a lot of the points you‘re making. However, I find it difficult to label all age gap relationships as innately abusive. And yes, I’m also the younger party (23, my partner is 11 years older than me). For me, a power imbalance holds greater risks that the age itself ( often comes with an age gap though ). If my partner would start to dismiss my opinions, my status or whatever solely based on the fact that I am younger than him - I would immediately leave him. He respects me and he is well aware that I am my own person. I couldn’t have been in this relationship if I had not lived on my own before. Another important factor is that he didn’t seek out younger women. That feels gross to me. It just kind of happened and it works for us. What I‘m trying to say is, that for me, the age is not as important as where you are in life and how much your partner respects you. There are certainly things to be aware of when it comes to age gap relationships, but they don‘t have to be problematic. I‘m not sure if I communicated my point that well since English is not my first language, so I would love to discuss it further with you if there was something unclear/ you want to / whatever.
@@DeathnoteBB I also have to add: 18 is basically a child (still a teenager at least). Like - did the guy just wait for her to become of age so he could date her? That’s more than strange and I certainly do not condone that.
This reminded me of a man who posted "as a man, I think menstrual pain is a myth" like... Ok sir, then as a woman, I think being kicked in the balls don't hurt at all, and men just made it up for attention
@@falen_treee5254 I mean thats stupid, it this actually happened both of you are stupid. Don't listen to that dude because you know he is dumb as hell and that he clearly has a problem. And when you do the same you become like him plus you are angry at an insignificant dude. And then (many women wonder why men aren't helping them). It's not about retaliation, it's about education or help. It's the same if a women talks about how she has depression and then men come at her saying they don't have help and society doesn't care about them, it's because they can't except women to help when they don't help themselves others. Do you understand what I mean?
i think people need to realize that not all asexual people are sex-repulsed, people who are not asexual can also be sex-repulsed its an individual case to case basis
Regarding the rant about dating people in their early twenties when you're older, I'm currently 32. My ex is the same age as me. We still have an amicable relationship because we have kids together, and we talk often. Lately, he's been complaining to me a lot about his girlfriend and how she can't seem to do anything on her own. (For example: needing help setting up doctor appointments for herself) She's 23. They started dating when she was 21. My response to his complaints is always along the lines of "That's what happens when you date someone who doesn't know how to adult yet."
Okay but if I was a young woman struggling to set up my own doctor’s appointment it would embarrass and infuriate me to know that my bf was talking shit about my challenges behind my back to his ex. I don’t care if you coparent. You, he, and her need to set appropriate boundaries and maybe she needs to know that he is sharing her personal business to folks that she might not want it to get to.
Regarding the ace having sex thing: there's also demisexual. Some people consider it a subset of asexual and some consider it separate, but this is where you don't START with sexual attraction but may become sexually attracted (all the time, sometimes, rarely, different for everybody) to the person you're building a close emotional/romantic relationship with. This is how I identify. I'm not a hookup person. I notice certain attributes I like aesthetically but I've never once looked at a new person and immediately wanted to get them in bed. I need to love and trust the person first, and even then I'm still "not in the mood" more often than not. Being completely honest, I thought my husband was funny looking when I first met him and wasn't physically/aesthetically attracted at all.
I don't remember what it's called but there's also a label under the ace umbrella where you experience sexual desire but not sexual attraction. It's part of what made me realise I'm asexual 😁 I personally am indifferent towards sex and can enjoy it in a relationship but even then I don't necessarily feel asexual attraction, I just enjoy being close to my potential partner
Wait, my bad for being too specific but do demisexual people get attracted like celebrities that they are fans of? like if you know how they act and are in real life or no?
Listen its better to marry someone who's values and goals align with yours than someone who it will be easy to have a family with. Also women at 28 ARE still in prime child bearing years? Younger isn't better thats a fucking myth. It might be easier to get pregnant younger but older moms are better at parenting. In fact "In 2012, a large-scale observational study concluded that higher maternal age was associated with better health and development for children up to 5 years of age" So like at least do the reading sir.
What you do overlook here: The typical rightwing f...d up mindset when it comes to all sorts of things: (pseudo-)biological essentialism. Socialisation and other environmental influences arent really acknowledged. So they focus on age, genes and so on..
Totally feel the mixed opinions on relationships with large age gaps. I understand that consent is all that is important but especially in the case of 30-40 year-olds dating people in their early 20's it seems to create a very uneven power dynamic. 25 is a really good cut-off since that's when most brain development is actually done for most people but that doesn't capture the financial and social power disparities that can be created. Not trying to yuck anyone's yum but these kinds of relationships do appear to need more scrutiny than others to make sure no one is being groomed / manipulated (for context I have had friends / acquaintances that ended up in that situation).
You can't generalize that, not every "older man" is trying to manipulate someone who is younger! I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 30 and we are super happy. There is no uneven power dynamic. My parents said, you don't even notice the age difference unless you know. We got to know each other by doing a podcast together. We didn't know about each other's age or look at first, we just were on the same wavelength and instantly got along great. Btw, it's an asexual relationship.
My 40 year old cousin has a 19 year old partner. They have two babies together now. He met her when she was 15, at her school when he went to watch his nieces do something at the school. She was in there year. The whole family have accepted this as totally fine. I will not be around him or have him near my child. Even typing this I’m both ashamed to say I know this person and feel sick that anyone is willing to act like this shit is ok.
@@caseymaree4370 Oh god I thought you were actually going to defend his actions and use it as proof that age gap relationships (with such a young partner) can work out, I was about to start screaming. 21 year age gaps can work out but 19, especially when they met when she was 15 is actually disgusting. Also 19 is way too young (in my opinion) to have two babies by that time, as a minor that makes me feel sick.
@@Nobody-kh2nm she was 16 when she got pregnant with his first child. 😢😢It isn’t just disgusting but also a fucken crime. One that is rarely enforced in the country I live unfortunately. (Australia) I had to cut off not only him but every other relative who doesn’t have a massive problem with it because I just couldn’t deal. I have two daughters and if that excuse for a human comes near my girls best believe it’s the last thing he will do in this lifetime. He was one of the many relatives I have that were inappropriate with me as a child also. Unfortunately I don’t have a lot of family these days cause it turns out most of them either do these things or excuse it with some bullshit excuse and for me it’s a hard no!!! I simply will not tolerate this sort of behaviour. 🤮🤮
this is unrelated, but you shouldn't care about what others think of you. you are perfect how you are and everyone who tries to change that is wrong. everyone is valid. have a good day ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
The concept of women having their prime in their early twenties is so toxic. It's basically meant to prey on young women who do not yet have the experience or confidence to stand up for themselves and can still be "formed" by a partner. It's not like women in their thirties are not fertile enough (ughh), ugly, unattractive or something.. they are just more suspicious and less likely to get lured by some dude who doesnt value their personality and goals in life. Probably they have their own money and career and don't need his. Nothing against agegap relationships in general tho. My partner is 10 years older than me too. It's only the ill intentions of some people that make it gross.
its nice to see someone who isn't afraid to talk about sexual pleasure and lgbtq+ , as a young lgbtq+ person who stumbled upon this channel it has helped me start to figure out my sexuality and be comfortable.
I feel much the same on the issue of age and dating. I'm 23 and even 20-year-olds feel too young for me. We wouldn't even be able to go out to a bar and get a drink together (I'm in the US.) I just don't feel like I can relate to someone who's in a completely different stage of life than I am.
I'm only 22 and I still look at 20 year olds and go "Babies. Infants. Sweet summer children, as yet unblemished by the cruelties of this world. Go away." Like...I don't understand HOW people in their late 20's and onwards can be attracted to someone that's 18 or 19, or even 21. Like...they're children. When both parties are older than that, yeah, I can understand, say if someone is 30 and 50. Not super common, but I can understand how that might happen. But 20 and 40? That's a bit....no.
Thanks so much for talking about asexuality! I only recently found out that I am asexual (I'm 25) and what you mentioned was the main reason it took me so long! I thought because I do enjoy these things I could not be ace. Educating people about stuff like you do that isn't talked about in school etc. (at least not where I live XD) is really great and can benefit a lot of your viewers I think! Much love ♥
Remember guys, its Adam and Eve not Adam and steve. Because Eve is a trans woman, and if you dead name her I will HURT YOU. edit: Guys the superior intellectual is a bot. I saw his page and he joined on sept 28. Just 3 days ago. So dont pay him any mind.
Just a random comment, but I need to get that off my chest: In the past days, my anxiety has been getting worse and I have had panic attacks. It’s the worst when I’m in school so I can’t really focus on the class anymore but I haven’t told my parents about any of my mental problems, I just don’t know how to talk to them. I am also not really motivated to go to the school therapist, because I feel like I’m just gonna talk and talk and it’s not gonna help me (I have been there already bc of other problems). So I am a little stuck right now and I don’t know what to do.
Hey there! I honestly don't know what advice to give to you. If you have anyone - literally anyone - in your life to talk to about this (so someone you trust etc.), then I'd suggest you do that. They know you better than we do. But at the end of the day, it's your decision so if you feel that talking in general might not help, then you know better! But what I can maybe do is tell you that it's perfectly fine to not feel okay. Don't stress yourself about it! That's all I can really tell you - just know that we all really care for you! And I'm so proud of you for telling us that! I can only imagine how hard this was and you did it. That's already so much!
if i could give any advice (i’m not good at this) i’d say talk to a trusted friend or teacher about it and try to find ways to calm down. you could also ask the teacher to have a break outside or go get a drink if you need to leave the classroom.
Completely agree with you about the age thing. It’s weird. As someone who was 18 when I dated a 30 year old briefly, it’s just… the power imbalance is too big. I was in my first year of college, just graduated high school, and this guy was already running his own business and had for years and was decently wealthy. I still had to ask my parents for gas money. It’s just… it’s not the same level at all. He was cute and I liked him and it was all consensual but why was he interested in me in the first place and not someone his own age? It became uncomfortable for me upon that realization so I ended it and he was at least respectful for the most part. He was jealous when I very obviously had a crush on one of our mutual friends my own age after and embarrassed me in front of him a couple times but that was it. I lost contact with him when the pandemic hit and I’m grateful for that because his life is a mess right now and I would not have wanted to be roped into it.
On age differences: As a nearly 35 year old woman, I get to use a cute little phrase on anyone a decade or more younger than me: "Sweetie, I coulda made you!" It's fun. 😁
I'm 26 almost 27, and just to imagine dating someone who is like 20, feels really weird. (I mean I don't need dating at all, so anything would feel weird, but still) I mean, people that are now 20 are born in 2001 ...... that's younger than my cousin, of whom I still believe she's twelve, but she's turning 22 this year ........ Where is the fucking time! But I remember this one guy I dated when I was 19, was like 25. That's a huge gap too. hmmmmmmm, Arg! Now I realized that I can say now that 20 years ago I started school! Oh my Lord, that's ... old. that's really old. That also means I'm out of school for 10 fucking years ... and that also means I am almost working for 10 years ..... Damn ... I think I need to take a breather after that. 27 is way older than I ever expected to live ... Uh ... Okay, what was the question again?
@@smrtfasizmu7242 Oh, That is just for me personally. I feel way too old. But well, mentally I am like 80 already (and sometimes I feel physically 80 too) If 28 is young for you, good! I respect that.
I'm 27 myself and the absolute youngest I can consider dating is 23. techinally if we use the half your age + 7 method the youngest for me would be 20 and a half but that feels so weird somehow???
@@puraidoeustass I'm talking about the person in the video lol. But I'm also almost 23 and maybe I'm just not ready to admit that I'm only 5 years away from old, especially since I'll probably die relativley young from the toxic chemicals I work with and around
imma be honest i see comments like this a lot but..yknow thats not a bad thing cause when I'm really struggling or just not getting water out of..spite? not wanting to get up? idk but, it's a nice reminder
@@chaoscreeture thats why I comment these (I also post it on my twitter every night) because its a nice reminder and also I know some people forget these things (I do to sometimes) Also please get a "healthy" amount of sleep
Thank you so much for the extended lesson in sexuality in the ad segment. I consider myself to be asexual but because I haven't been able to start hormones yet (the only legal way in my country is a 3 year waiting list) I very often get libido from testosterone that I don't want. It confuses me a lot sometimes because like, if I'm ace then why horny??? Y'know?
Im Ace and have a libido. It's pretty normal for asexuals. What makes you Ace is not having sexual attraction to anyone. (Or rarely being sexually attracted to anyone, like a demisexual)
This shows a lot of ignorance on my part, but does hormone treatment affect libido? Edit: forgot to add that I second the asexual libido thing. Also occurred to me that the pill is an, admittedly different, form of hormone treatment and that does affect my libido. Leaving the comment as a learning experience in case someone has similar questions
@@transmaddie wow that was fast lol. Thank you for letting me know, and best wishes with your treatment/transition! It looks like I have a few more topics I need to expand my knowledge on after reading some of the comments in this video. But thanks again for giving me a head start.
As for the guy who thinks 28 year olds shouldn’t date each other...he definitely got those sexual primes switched around in his little brain. Women haven’t peaked by 28 but men definitely have 🤪🤪🤣🤣🤩🤩💁♀️
Men take onger to reach their peak if you ask me... they take a while to stop being stupid and finally figuring themselves out... some noever stop being stupid.
I'm glad she kept saying stuff like "vulva havers"... the thought of toys always makes me really uncomfortable, because I'm a trans guy and them being marketed towards a certain gender solely based on genitalia just... makes me uncomfortable...
Yeah, more people (well everyone actually) should start using those terms instead of just saying women when talking about these kinds of topics, like periods, toys, etc. I myself am nonbinary so I always do it
@@SashaPosting bruh same, like if going trough the montly blood shed isn't bad enough you also have to see shit like "yaaas queen u got this" "women work together" "we have ur back sis 😍" I mean, it's nice i guess but.. also makes me wanna die
plp on their 30's hanging out w freshly 20's is weird, but at the same time i finished college 3 years ago at 20yo and i live by myself, so i prefer hanging around older plp bc most my friends who are -25 are still on college, living w their parents, etc
So you see the airwaves sound awesome BUT is it an option to make it pulse to the rhythm of the little lad dance because depending upon that factor is a definite make or break
If I were to describe my asexuality, it’s like if you were in a world where the most intimate thing you could do with someone is tapping their elbows together. I never seek it out myself but I like the emotional meaning that could be behind it kinda like: “I love you a lot… Would you like to tap elbows with me? 🥺” I think it’s very cute 🥰 and I’m strangely flattered when my SO asks (This is only my experience, I know a lot of aces out there who don’t agree or their sexuality was affected through trauma, so please don’t assume this applies to others!)
Just bought a plushie! I’ve been a long term enjoyer for a while and very happy to have something to show for it! I normally watch your videos with my brother to educate him. Also when i got (TRIGGER WARNING BTW) SA’d your videos helped me cope! Much love your way
Jesus, that first post is horrifying. I started my period pretty young, I was eight or nine. And at the time I was alone with my dad. Who reacted perfectly. A heating pad. The pads we already had at the house that were my mom’s. We watched horror movies and ate chocolate for a couple of days. It was as perfect as it could have gone. Fathers acting like that first post are terrifying to me. Hella pedo vibes.
s*xual trauma menton🛑 it's such a small thing but thank you for saying "vulva haver" I'm a trans masc person with a vagina and hearing a RUclipsr I admire be so inclusive is amazing thank you 💗💗 it makes me feel more welcome and like me and my community is taken into consideration, thank you 🌈🌈 I also struggled with sexual trauma and felt very uncomfortable with my body and sexuality too 🌈🌈thank you for sharing this and being so open, you are amazing and helpful and appreciated💗💗🌈🌈
I really agree on the age thing! I'm 25 and have been in uni for a while and most of my classmates are so young?? I would never consider dating them??? Looking back, when I was their age I did had lots of messages from people (usually male) in their mid-twenties or older on dating sites and I was like why tf would I date a grown man I just want boba dates lmao anyways great video as usual!!! loved it
"28 years is old and at the end of her prime" Real "tell me you shouldn't be allowed around children without telling me you shouldn't be allowed around children" energy. Something tells me this guy thinks 20 is "middle of the range".
I’m taking a course on Adult Development & Aging and the professor brought up this theory that there should be a new stage of development considered “emerging adulthood” for ages 18-25 defined by instability, self-focus, identity exploration, and ’feeling in-between’, and while I believe that this is definitely more of a sociological description of the circumstances most 18-25 year old people find themselves in than a psychological stage, I definitely agree that we (I’m 20 years old currently and in my third year of university) should probably not be in romantic/sexual relationships with fully developed adults over the age 25. I’m personally just avoiding romance until I feel like I can survive on my own in the world because I don’t want to end up my entire life dependent on other people to support me and if I do end up unable to live on my own I want to know that that’s the situation I’m in before I invite someone else to be a long term part of my life closer than friendship. I also just sort of feel younger than everyone else around me because I’m autistic and don’t have a lot of the skills associated with independence ( I can’t drive or navigate public transportation for example, and I don’t have employment) which makes taking this class in itself an interesting experience because one of the assignments is to interview someone older than you in any way and I just feel like everyone is older than me socially compared to when I was a teenager. The ethics of relationships is difficult because age is often seen as a shortcut to knowing someone’s life experience even though it really isn’t because the older people get, the less reliable of a marker one’s chronological age becomes of their life circumstances.
Heyy, I'm also 20, 3rd year and autistic also. I'd say as long as you respect the other person and don't have harmful attachment patterns, you shouldn't be afraid of relationships, they can be good for you if they're healthy and unfold naturally. Independence is a balance, it can do more harm than good if you take it too far x
When I was 19 a 25 year old spent an hour convincing me to date him. I had just finished highschool and was taking a gap year before college. Found out 5 months later he had a fiancé
My mother walked in right when you said, "All boobs are great!" and the first thought that came to mind was, Fuck, What if She now Thinks I'm Straight!?!?
As part of the asexual spectrum I REALLY love this video, a huge number of people still can't distinguish between sexual attraction and libido, which is an important difference to define our orientation. Being asexual doesn't say anything about someone's sexual behavior. So thank you SO MUCH for that explanation you did💜
I still don't get it. So there are many medical conditions that can cause no sexual desire. So how would you know you the difference between say a hormonal imbalance that is cause you to have no sexual desire vs being asexual?
@@richie9878 because no sexual desire does not = asexuality. It's whether or not you find people sexually attractive whether you want to act on that or not doesn't matter. People can be sexually attracted to people even when they have no desire to do sexual activities.
On the note of age gap relationships, I have a friend who started dating his teacher (in his 30s) when he was 16. Not only is that not legal because of the authority position, but since his mom kicked him out of the house, let's say he had nowhere to go but to his boyfriend. He started questioning his gender like 3-4 years ago, but when he tried coming out to his boyfriend, he got shut down real quick and clammed back into the closet (he's still pretending to be a girl now because he fears rejection so much). He's mostly dependent on him financially and emotionally (no parents to count on, no siblings, all his friends moved out of the city, etc.). Somehow, they're still together (friend is about 24) and he's thinking of having kids with him... For real, I hope he realizes how toxic this relationship is and just gets out of there before he gets stuck... I hate groomers.
I agree, life stage is more important than age when it comes to relationships. While many people hit similar stages at certain ages, what's important is to be in a similar place in your life, where the general priorities and needs are similar. The best example of this is in Umbrella Academy where Hazel and Agnus fall in love. There is a huge age gap between the two, about 30 years, but they are also in a similar stage of their life where both of them are essentially ready to retire and live a life of simple joys. Meanwhile another relationship between a 30 something and a 60 something would not work because most people in their 30s are still starting a lot of stuff like families or in the middle of things like their careers, meanwhile someone in their 60s is getting ready to retire and enjoy the fruits of their labor.
Hey, if you’re interested, I would watch a video about PETA, because I’ve heard that they’re not great and I’ve seen some ads like this, but idk what their actual issues are and I’ve tried to research it but it’s hard because I don’t know what I’m looking for. It could also give you an opportunity to plug the benefits of veganism, if you’d want to.
peta is super bad honestly search up “why is peta bad” and so many articles will pop up. they are from 2010-2016 though but it still is something to know
+Amanda L One example I heard of is the 'monkey selfie case' from a youtube channel called LegalEagle ruclips.net/video/YNAMmdHp210/видео.html (the part about the monkey case starts about 6:20 and ends 10:35)
Just remembering the 22 year old man that was dating my friend when we were freshmen in high school, she was fifteen. Now that I'm 22 I cannot fathom dating an 18 year old let alone a 15 year old
Lol the vibrater scrambling the brain like an egg one is hilarious. I'm not even sure I could prove him wrong because it's just so far fetched that there's no way there's any research on that at all. Which is why the burden of proof is on him because he made the claim. Not on me to disprove him.
as someone who was, as people tried to tell me, "blessed" before top surgery, the gardening/kneepads one was very funny to me :') the sag was real and the nerves were so spread out as to leave essentially no sensation.. nature's shelf into nature's kneepads? if only I'd waited a few more years to let gravity do the work 😂😂😂 that one felt more like a granny4granny meme to me
my sister has been telling me that im not a lesbian and she is?? whilst i believe that shes queer lgbtq , etc it makes me feel bad that shes just telling me im straight when i recently discovered that i dont like men?? somebody help 😭
How to talk without saying sorry? I've struggled with this for my entire life, I read a while ago that a good way to reframe the need to apologize is to say thank you instead. So instead of "sorry for taking so long" you can say "thank you for your patience", for me it takes some of the negativity out of my insecurities because I have to frame it in a way to make me realize that I'm in a positive place and that what I'm wanting to apologize for doing isn't necessarily bad.
Loved this vid!!!! You have nothing to apologize for at the end of your videos, but I totally understand that urge to say sorry. Some thing that helped me was switching up my “sorry” to a “thank you”. In the past I’ve heard you apologize for the video being long, and that might be the perfect place to say thank you for watching my long video! Of course, it’s easier said than done, but sometimes replacing one habit with another is easier than just trying to quit cold turkey. Thanks for a great video! I can’t wait for the next one, and I always appreciate when they’re long :) I always watch them while I’m getting ready for work!
Age gaps in romantic relationships is such a tricky topic, but I would say that the "half of your own age plus 7 is the minimum age for your potential partner" is a quite good rule of thumb, because then the gap becomes bigger the older you get, which makes sense, since there's a bigger difference between let's say a 15 year old and a 20 year old than between a 55 year old and a 60 year old, despite being 5 years apart in both cases.
14:50 so looking at this, I immediately noticed the ribs section extends over the stomach, where there aren't any ribs. It does cover the bottom two ribs as well, but yeah stomach ribs.
scientific reasoning to back you up btw- the prefrontal cortex isn’t fully developed until the age of 24-25. so you are absolutely right for setting that as the minimum age bar for age difference relationships
only three more days to get the plushie!!
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Your plush is soo adorable
Its so cute omg
Where are your earrings from?❤️
Too bad I don't have a debit card they would fit soo well with my other plushies
I love to have a conversation with you one on one
the clitosaurus just made me laugh thinking male paleontologists wouldn't be able to find this species
Oh my gosh, thank you for this response! I am laughing so hard, made my afternoon. ♥
Lmao, I didn't even think that far. I just found the name funny
Because it's gross.
looks like we already got a dude mad he can’t find it
good joke, but they are actually called palentologists
Always grosses me out when men talk about women being "fertile", especially since they always use it to justify being attracted to younger women, something icky about it.
Apparently, if we're strictly referring to physical fertility, the best age to be pregnant is in your 20s. If we're taking other factors into account it might be better to get pregnant and have a child in your late-20s or early to mid-30s. Also, apparently, AMAB people's fertility takes quite the hit after 40 so it's not just AFAB that develops fertility issues after a certain age.
as someone who was brought into the world by someone who was 41 back then- nothing. i'm just sharing this- hehehehe
Ah God. The entire concept of pregnancy irks me. If I ever manage to immigrate, the first thing I will do is to find a way to get my tubes tied. Though, I need such surgery here. It's not safe to live beside animals.
@iheartrihanna thats still a huge different in life experience.
Yes definitely like we’re not dirt “fErTiLe”
Why the heck are so many men that don't understand that boobs have nerves? I've seen a lot of situations where the boobs are used as airbags in a non ironical way.
Ah, yes. I, a female, was born with air lumps. Invented to protect my sensitive heart in a car crash because all women are sensitive. They were also invented for male pleasure.
I don't even have that hardware and I
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@@saturn6784 hardware XD
One of my guy friends does’t realise it hurts when getting punched in the boob and he’ll always punch his trans boyfriend and all his friends with boobs in the boobs and it hurts-
@@captainpickle1681 Wow! My niece was about two when she learned that punching someone in the boob hurts and she's never done it again. I think your friend knows perfectly well that it hurts but pretends not to so he can continue being a dick about it. Maybe someone should retaliate by kicking him in the crotch, 'cos they "didn't realise" it would hurt.
My friend was told by her mom when she started her period that she shouldn’t use tampons because it would break her hymen too. For the longest time after my friend told me that I thought it was true too and didn’t even question it. It’s insane to think that sex education is so lacking that young girls are conditioned to not want to use tampons because it’ll damage their perceived purity.
I used tampons as a virgin for years and it didn't break my hymen. Then I had sex for a year and the guy ALSO didn't break my hymen. The second partner and I had a big surprise our first time.
@@attentivechair3248 i dont think men understand what the hymen really is, because in media it is portrayed as some sort of veil preventing access to the womb, when in reality its actually sort of a ring. It can even be broken without intercourse! There are many stories of people doing activities like gymnastics or horse-riding and their hymen breaks, and a lot of the time it isn’t noticeable either. If the hymen was some sort of magical barrier, women literally wouldnt be able to have their period in the first place lol
One of my best friends had a crazy heavy period when she first started. Her mom wouldn’t allow her to use tampons ‘until she’s married’. My friend was really good at educating herself though bc her parents are insane and she went to a catholic school and she hated both, so she knew her moms reasoning was absolute BS and did her best to buy herself tampons at the age of 12
I'd honestly prefer people just tell them they'd get a toxic shock. At least that's got a chance of happening
My mom says it's uncomfortable for her and it makes her break out and it might be the same for me so she doesn't want to take that chance but she doesn't say that I can't try them when I want to
For the PETA rant, I honestly thought she was saying “Peter” and I kept thinking “Who’s Peter?” Halfway through I figured it out, definitely one of the most American things I’ve ever done.
(lois voice) "petah what are you doing with all those dogs?"
"rescuing them"
"PETAH THATS NOT RESCUING"
Doc ock be like "Hello Peta"
The most American you've done: Not having a single clue about what's going on.
HAHAHA PLEASE THIS MADE MY DAY
SAME HERE my mind just went to family guy
As an individual with a large chest (D/DD), yes. They sag. So much, without a bra. Perky or upright boobs, aren't that common after a certain size. Not without backup. Looking forward to having none, so I don't have to worry about them anymore.
I have D breasts and I never wear a bra. Obviously with much larger sizes it’s more difficult to be perky but D isn’t that big
As a trans man in the same boat cup wise I can relate. With a bra they are harder to hide as they protrude more and it's very uncomfortable, without one they jiggle and constantly make me aware of their presence. I don't have a binder yet but I crave top surgery more than anything else on this planet.
@@Itri_Vega can you not buy sports bras? They shouldn’t make them ‘protrude more’
I can remember before starting my transition being a person who also has a large chest, I leaned over in high school to help my friend pick something up. A stupid boy yelled out "[Deadname] HAS ORANGUTAN TITTIES!" I was so humiliated then. I wanted so bad to have those perky breasts, but now I realize I was already caring for them the best I could and like stated above after a certain size keeping them from sagging completely is impossible.
Now even though I just want them gone completely, my body is not made to please others and as long as I'm happy with myself that's all that matters.
It’s like people forget that large breasts are heavy and gravity exists.
Being asexual is like.....cooking. Some people like cooking, some don't. Anyone CAN cook but it doesn't mean they WANT to cook. Some people decide to do other stuff like eat out at restaurants so they don't cook and other people can cook all day and night. Some people are even like meh I don't hate cooking or love it, it's okay. They just do it just to do it.
Edit: I'm glad so many of you can relate to this! 💜😅 Honestly, I was just hoping to give some people ideas on how to explain asexuality to their significant other or something like that. But I hope you all are able to continue interpreting it more in depth in your own ways. A lot of people can relate to cooking in some way even if they can't understand asexuality or whatever else you feel the analogy fits.
Yo this is the best analogy ever
This is such a good analogy oml
Yeah, tho some people physically cannot cook sadly tho ;-; (vaginism for example)
And some people might love to cook alone, but can't stand cooking for others.
Or some people might only like to cook when they know the recipe and ingredients really well
the real question is why do this guys go to reddit instead of just asking a doctor??
In a lot of countries you can’t really access the doctor just to ask a dumb question. Something actually needs to be medically wrong
But google exists
@@Bringon-dw8dx true
It is embarrassing.
baby youre a haunted house
@@vampblood1195 precisely
"How do I talk without saying sorry?" Ahhh I relate to that way too much
Sammeee 😰😂
I'm Canadian and most definitely conform to the "I'm sorry" stereotype. Y'all are now apart of my spiritually Canadian family. Welcome.
@@NonBinary_NonHuman im mexican but i'd like to be part of your canadian crew lol
@@Xxth3_murder5cenexX You're totally welcome! You may not physically live in Canada but I will certainly welcome you to the crew/family!
@@NonBinary_NonHuman can i join? i’m swedish/english and have repeatedly introduced myself with “Hi! ah sorry. Sorry. hi? sorry.”
This kind of men confuses me. So, they don’t want a woman to have sex anytime before marriage, but also they think women are only good for having babes. And they thing women should only have sex with the man they’re married to, but also he’s proud of having sex with like five women every week. So isn’t he just doing the thing he hates? But no, it’s only ever the women’s fault.
Just men stuff
misogynistic men moment
"How do I talk without saying sorry"
As a person with ADHD I feat that.
That rsd hits faster than the speed of light I feel you
As a person, I felt that
Sad
I'm so glad my dad knows everything about women health like he literally went through classes an did research so he could be a good dad and be there for me and my sisters
im jealous. as a teenager i once asked my dad to put a bin in the bathroom, he said no and asked why
@@LivingDeadEnaid dude I'm so sorry personally I would be embarrassed I only recently moved in with my dad and before that I had a step dad that would shame me for my period and it absolutely sucked he made me feel so insecure about it and even though my dad does know stuff I still feel super insecure about it
@@LivingDeadEnaid my parents had a bin in the bathroom for as long as I can remember and I never questioned it.
@@seekingabsolution1907 Same but it wasn’t just for period products in my house. It was for any garbage that happened to be in the bathroom
@@LivingDeadEnaid you dont have a trashcan in your bathroom? where do you throw the trash??
I hate the idea that women ‘expire’ no. Just because you creepy old man don’t find her as sexually attractive dosnt mean she isn’t beautiful.
Ive never understood why these kinds of men are so obsessed with “breeding”. If you want kids with someone who cant get pregnant, you can still adopt? And I understand wanting to have biological kids, but if you truly are desperate for you and your partner to raise children, adoption is an amazing option. But ive also noticed that these same men have NO idea how children work, and i think its because they expect the women to literally take care of everything. They dont want the late nights of their child crying and waking up every few hours, they dont want the changing of diapers, they dont want to clean a childs messes. They just want the good parts of having a kid, and sometimes not even! Ive seen so many of these men obsessed with “breeding” who show NO emotional bond with their current children
Agreed. And also hey Kaminari (^ω^)
Agreed. Adoption and foster care are the best option if you can’t have kids
oh hey denki what are you doing here?
It's not about having kids, for these types of men, it's about controlling women's bodies. That's all it is, they just want control.
Those men don't really care about having a family at all, the whole "breeding" obsession is a sexual fantasy, "impregnating" a woman is a form of taking a claim on her, they don't really want the responsibility that comes with it, just the percieved power that it brings them to have a woman bear their genes
Dear The Queer Kiwi,
As a Queer Person, thank you for providing a safe space for us. I loved your video on problematic TikToks. Sending strength and power to you.
Yours Sincerely,
A New Fan.
Don’t care
@@poncho5984 damn, savage
Welcome to the family!
Aw welcome friend !
@@someotherworldlybeing3167 its stupid lmao
as someone who was in a relationship with a 27 year old at 18, i agree that age of consent isnt the be all and end all. that shouldnt have been allowed to happen, the power and maturity level is way out of wack with those kinds of ages.
FBI open up
So many of the people here defending age gap relationships all seem to be the younger one too, describing a puppy love relationship. “He gets me!” “We like the same things!” Like cool? Do they react well when you refuse to do what he wants? Do they hold more social and economic power than you do? Relationships aren’t solely about having the same pop culture interests and finishing each others sentences. I mean, when you’re YOUNG, they kind of are. But when you’re 30….
@@DeathnoteBB I agree with a lot of the points you‘re making. However, I find it difficult to label all age gap relationships as innately abusive. And yes, I’m also the younger party (23, my partner is 11 years older than me). For me, a power imbalance holds greater risks that the age itself ( often comes with an age gap though ). If my partner would start to dismiss my opinions, my status or whatever solely based on the fact that I am younger than him - I would immediately leave him. He respects me and he is well aware that I am my own person. I couldn’t have been in this relationship if I had not lived on my own before. Another important factor is that he didn’t seek out younger women. That feels gross to me. It just kind of happened and it works for us. What I‘m trying to say is, that for me, the age is not as important as where you are in life and how much your partner respects you. There are certainly things to be aware of when it comes to age gap relationships, but they don‘t have to be problematic. I‘m not sure if I communicated my point that well since English is not my first language, so I would love to discuss it further with you if there was something unclear/ you want to / whatever.
@@DeathnoteBB I also have to add: 18 is basically a child (still a teenager at least). Like - did the guy just wait for her to become of age so he could date her? That’s more than strange and I certainly do not condone that.
Slooowly starting to realize the ''relationship'' i had was NOT okay. Same age gap as you.
"All animals have the same parts"
Catch me using my tail and horns i guess
You know we should just start saying shit like “the balls aren’t real, men just made them up” and see what happens
Why?
This reminded me of a man who posted "as a man, I think menstrual pain is a myth" like... Ok sir, then as a woman, I think being kicked in the balls don't hurt at all, and men just made it up for attention
@@falen_treee5254 I mean thats stupid, it this actually happened both of you are stupid. Don't listen to that dude because you know he is dumb as hell and that he clearly has a problem. And when you do the same you become like him plus you are angry at an insignificant dude. And then (many women wonder why men aren't helping them). It's not about retaliation, it's about education or help. It's the same if a women talks about how she has depression and then men come at her saying they don't have help and society doesn't care about them, it's because they can't except women to help when they don't help themselves others. Do you understand what I mean?
@@falen_treee5254ok we need to start saying that fr fr /j
i think people need to realize that not all asexual people are sex-repulsed, people who are not asexual can also be sex-repulsed its an individual case to case basis
"my twin, the love of my life"
*sweet home alabama*
Lolol I read this comment EXACTLY as Savannah was saying "my twin, the love of my life" lmao
That was bizarre.
Incest...
@@joannamysluk8623 yup, because platonic love doesn't exist...
@@amyjay1654 I meant that as a joke. A really bad one, I know.
@@joannamysluk8623 lol sorry for being snarky
Regarding the rant about dating people in their early twenties when you're older, I'm currently 32. My ex is the same age as me. We still have an amicable relationship because we have kids together, and we talk often. Lately, he's been complaining to me a lot about his girlfriend and how she can't seem to do anything on her own. (For example: needing help setting up doctor appointments for herself) She's 23. They started dating when she was 21. My response to his complaints is always along the lines of "That's what happens when you date someone who doesn't know how to adult yet."
Yes
Okay but if I was a young woman struggling to set up my own doctor’s appointment it would embarrass and infuriate me to know that my bf was talking shit about my challenges behind my back to his ex. I don’t care if you coparent. You, he, and her need to set appropriate boundaries and maybe she needs to know that he is sharing her personal business to folks that she might not want it to get to.
Unrelated but I like your mammon pfp
I love how she went from men not understanding women to a tangent about slef pleasure XD
Briliant :)
Ya love to see it. :)
They*
@Question the Satirist why are you replying to an old comment??? Kiwi uses they/them
Regarding the ace having sex thing: there's also demisexual. Some people consider it a subset of asexual and some consider it separate, but this is where you don't START with sexual attraction but may become sexually attracted (all the time, sometimes, rarely, different for everybody) to the person you're building a close emotional/romantic relationship with. This is how I identify. I'm not a hookup person. I notice certain attributes I like aesthetically but I've never once looked at a new person and immediately wanted to get them in bed. I need to love and trust the person first, and even then I'm still "not in the mood" more often than not. Being completely honest, I thought my husband was funny looking when I first met him and wasn't physically/aesthetically attracted at all.
I don't remember what it's called but there's also a label under the ace umbrella where you experience sexual desire but not sexual attraction. It's part of what made me realise I'm asexual 😁 I personally am indifferent towards sex and can enjoy it in a relationship but even then I don't necessarily feel asexual attraction, I just enjoy being close to my potential partner
WAIT THANK YOU./GEN THIS HELPED DRASTICALLY
@@jackriver8385 I think you may mean grey-ace? I could be wrong
@@dearkoma_ Yeah, that sounds about right.
Wait, my bad for being too specific but do demisexual people get attracted like celebrities that they are fans of? like if you know how they act and are in real life or no?
I love the clitosaurus in the background
Listen its better to marry someone who's values and goals align with yours than someone who it will be easy to have a family with. Also women at 28 ARE still in prime child bearing years? Younger isn't better thats a fucking myth. It might be easier to get pregnant younger but older moms are better at parenting. In fact "In 2012, a large-scale observational study concluded that higher maternal age was associated with better health and development for children up to 5 years of age" So like at least do the reading sir.
What you do overlook here: The typical rightwing f...d up mindset when it comes to all sorts of things: (pseudo-)biological essentialism. Socialisation and other environmental influences arent really acknowledged. So they focus on age, genes and so on..
Totally feel the mixed opinions on relationships with large age gaps. I understand that consent is all that is important but especially in the case of 30-40 year-olds dating people in their early 20's it seems to create a very uneven power dynamic. 25 is a really good cut-off since that's when most brain development is actually done for most people but that doesn't capture the financial and social power disparities that can be created. Not trying to yuck anyone's yum but these kinds of relationships do appear to need more scrutiny than others to make sure no one is being groomed / manipulated (for context I have had friends / acquaintances that ended up in that situation).
You can't generalize that, not every "older man" is trying to manipulate someone who is younger! I'm 21 and my boyfriend is 30 and we are super happy. There is no uneven power dynamic. My parents said, you don't even notice the age difference unless you know. We got to know each other by doing a podcast together. We didn't know about each other's age or look at first, we just were on the same wavelength and instantly got along great. Btw, it's an asexual relationship.
You do realize you're infantilizing 20 year olds, right?
You're acting as if they can't consent. WTF? LOL! 🙄🤦
My 40 year old cousin has a 19 year old partner.
They have two babies together now.
He met her when she was 15, at her school when he went to watch his nieces do something at the school. She was in there year.
The whole family have accepted this as totally fine. I will not be around him or have him near my child.
Even typing this I’m both ashamed to say I know this person and feel sick that anyone is willing to act like this shit is ok.
@@caseymaree4370 Oh god I thought you were actually going to defend his actions and use it as proof that age gap relationships (with such a young partner) can work out, I was about to start screaming. 21 year age gaps can work out but 19, especially when they met when she was 15 is actually disgusting. Also 19 is way too young (in my opinion) to have two babies by that time, as a minor that makes me feel sick.
@@Nobody-kh2nm she was 16 when she got pregnant with his first child. 😢😢It isn’t just disgusting but also a fucken crime. One that is rarely enforced in the country I live unfortunately. (Australia)
I had to cut off not only him but every other relative who doesn’t have a massive problem with it because I just couldn’t deal. I have two daughters and if that excuse for a human comes near my girls best believe it’s the last thing he will do in this lifetime.
He was one of the many relatives I have that were inappropriate with me as a child also. Unfortunately I don’t have a lot of family these days cause it turns out most of them either do these things or excuse it with some bullshit excuse and for me it’s a hard no!!!
I simply will not tolerate this sort of behaviour. 🤮🤮
this is unrelated, but you shouldn't care about what others think of you. you are perfect how you are and everyone who tries to change that is wrong. everyone is valid. have a good day ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Thx so much😭❤️ I am feel like I’m bi but I’m too scared to come out, my grandparents are strictly christian so I’m affraid they wont exept me:(
@@justjudy2909 don't worry. everything will work out eventually ⊂((・▽・))⊃
@@ari_008 thx🥺❤️
Literally thank you?? That's so sweet 🥺❤️❤️
Thanks, and might I say that in my tired state, I thought your pfp was a quilava
The concept of women having their prime in their early twenties is so toxic. It's basically meant to prey on young women who do not yet have the experience or confidence to stand up for themselves and can still be "formed" by a partner. It's not like women in their thirties are not fertile enough (ughh), ugly, unattractive or something.. they are just more suspicious and less likely to get lured by some dude who doesnt value their personality and goals in life. Probably they have their own money and career and don't need his. Nothing against agegap relationships in general tho. My partner is 10 years older than me too. It's only the ill intentions of some people that make it gross.
its nice to see someone who isn't afraid to talk about sexual pleasure and lgbtq+ , as a young lgbtq+ person who stumbled upon this channel it has helped me start to figure out my sexuality and be comfortable.
I feel much the same on the issue of age and dating. I'm 23 and even 20-year-olds feel too young for me. We wouldn't even be able to go out to a bar and get a drink together (I'm in the US.) I just don't feel like I can relate to someone who's in a completely different stage of life than I am.
I'm only 22 and I still look at 20 year olds and go "Babies. Infants. Sweet summer children, as yet unblemished by the cruelties of this world. Go away."
Like...I don't understand HOW people in their late 20's and onwards can be attracted to someone that's 18 or 19, or even 21. Like...they're children. When both parties are older than that, yeah, I can understand, say if someone is 30 and 50. Not super common, but I can understand how that might happen. But 20 and 40? That's a bit....no.
im 19 and i look at 18 year olds as babies
@@MrLeFluffy1 Their main defense is legality, as if something not being illegal makes it morally right
You: **posts a video**
My mood: 📈📈📈
That’s why we love Savannah
For everyone who didn’t know, snakes actually have arms and legs and boobs. They’re just really small. You can’t see them, but they exist.
I- Omgosh 😳 I honestly just thought this whole time that they were just worm and head lol
Thanks so much for talking about asexuality! I only recently found out that I am asexual (I'm 25) and what you mentioned was the main reason it took me so long! I thought because I do enjoy these things I could not be ace. Educating people about stuff like you do that isn't talked about in school etc. (at least not where I live XD) is really great and can benefit a lot of your viewers I think! Much love ♥
Ace gang!
Remember guys, its Adam and Eve not Adam and steve. Because Eve is a trans woman, and if you dead name her I will HURT YOU.
edit: Guys the superior intellectual is a bot. I saw his page and he joined on sept 28. Just 3 days ago. So dont pay him any mind.
@@thesuperiorintellectual2029 Bro why are you on almost every single comment?
@@thesuperiorintellectual2029 agreed
@@koopicaca7882 A lack of genuine human connection
Had us in the first half, ngl
It makes sense because if she was made from his rib she would have the same DNA as him, same chromosomes. So she was actually a trans woman!
Just a random comment, but I need to get that off my chest:
In the past days, my anxiety has been getting worse and I have had panic attacks. It’s the worst when I’m in school so I can’t really focus on the class anymore but I haven’t told my parents about any of my mental problems, I just don’t know how to talk to them. I am also not really motivated to go to the school therapist, because I feel like I’m just gonna talk and talk and it’s not gonna help me (I have been there already bc of other problems). So I am a little stuck right now and I don’t know what to do.
Hey there! I honestly don't know what advice to give to you. If you have anyone - literally anyone - in your life to talk to about this (so someone you trust etc.), then I'd suggest you do that. They know you better than we do. But at the end of the day, it's your decision so if you feel that talking in general might not help, then you know better!
But what I can maybe do is tell you that it's perfectly fine to not feel okay. Don't stress yourself about it!
That's all I can really tell you - just know that we all really care for you! And I'm so proud of you for telling us that! I can only imagine how hard this was and you did it. That's already so much!
if i could give any advice (i’m not good at this) i’d say talk to a trusted friend or teacher about it and try to find ways to calm down. you could also ask the teacher to have a break outside or go get a drink if you need to leave the classroom.
It might help to not tell your problems through words to someone but writing them and having the person you want to tell them read the note.
Bro I don’t care
@@poncho5984 Rude, If you don't care then don't say anything
”Guys, gals and non-binary pals” is now going to be a permanent phrase in my vocabulary, thank you
Completely agree with you about the age thing. It’s weird. As someone who was 18 when I dated a 30 year old briefly, it’s just… the power imbalance is too big. I was in my first year of college, just graduated high school, and this guy was already running his own business and had for years and was decently wealthy. I still had to ask my parents for gas money. It’s just… it’s not the same level at all. He was cute and I liked him and it was all consensual but why was he interested in me in the first place and not someone his own age? It became uncomfortable for me upon that realization so I ended it and he was at least respectful for the most part. He was jealous when I very obviously had a crush on one of our mutual friends my own age after and embarrassed me in front of him a couple times but that was it. I lost contact with him when the pandemic hit and I’m grateful for that because his life is a mess right now and I would not have wanted to be roped into it.
On age differences: As a nearly 35 year old woman, I get to use a cute little phrase on anyone a decade or more younger than me: "Sweetie, I coulda made you!" It's fun. 😁
At 10 years old? Bit messed up. Maybe wait till you're 40 to start making that remark to 20 year olds.
I'm 26 almost 27, and just to imagine dating someone who is like 20, feels really weird. (I mean I don't need dating at all, so anything would feel weird, but still) I mean, people that are now 20 are born in 2001 ...... that's younger than my cousin, of whom I still believe she's twelve, but she's turning 22 this year ........ Where is the fucking time!
But I remember this one guy I dated when I was 19, was like 25. That's a huge gap too. hmmmmmmm,
Arg! Now I realized that I can say now that 20 years ago I started school! Oh my Lord, that's ... old. that's really old. That also means I'm out of school for 10 fucking years ... and that also means I am almost working for 10 years ..... Damn ... I think I need to take a breather after that. 27 is way older than I ever expected to live ...
Uh ... Okay, what was the question again?
What really confuses me is that 28 is considered old to that person, like what?
Me reading all these age gap comments when I'm a child of parents with a 15 year age difference: 👀
@@smrtfasizmu7242 Oh, That is just for me personally. I feel way too old. But well, mentally I am like 80 already (and sometimes I feel physically 80 too)
If 28 is young for you, good! I respect that.
I'm 27 myself and the absolute youngest I can consider dating is 23. techinally if we use the half your age + 7 method the youngest for me would be 20 and a half but that feels so weird somehow???
@@puraidoeustass I'm talking about the person in the video lol. But I'm also almost 23 and maybe I'm just not ready to admit that I'm only 5 years away from old, especially since I'll probably die relativley young from the toxic chemicals I work with and around
Here are your nightly reminders from me:
Eat something,
Drink some water,
Get some sleep,
Ily
imma be honest i see comments like this a lot
but..yknow
thats not a bad thing
cause when I'm really struggling or just not getting water out of..spite? not wanting to get up? idk
but, it's a nice reminder
@@chaoscreeture thats why I comment these (I also post it on my twitter every night) because its a nice reminder and also I know some people forget these things (I do to sometimes)
Also please get a "healthy" amount of sleep
@@catboyxavier people like you should be cherished-
@@chaoscreeture aww 😭🥺
Its 5pm- and I'm eating rn
Thank you so much for the extended lesson in sexuality in the ad segment. I consider myself to be asexual but because I haven't been able to start hormones yet (the only legal way in my country is a 3 year waiting list) I very often get libido from testosterone that I don't want. It confuses me a lot sometimes because like, if I'm ace then why horny??? Y'know?
Im Ace and have a libido. It's pretty normal for asexuals. What makes you Ace is not having sexual attraction to anyone. (Or rarely being sexually attracted to anyone, like a demisexual)
This shows a lot of ignorance on my part, but does hormone treatment affect libido?
Edit: forgot to add that I second the asexual libido thing. Also occurred to me that the pill is an, admittedly different, form of hormone treatment and that does affect my libido. Leaving the comment as a learning experience in case someone has similar questions
@@S0rar1a for trans women, hormones stop libido almost entirely for the first year or so. For trans men it it ups libido MASSIVELY
@@transmaddie wow that was fast lol. Thank you for letting me know, and best wishes with your treatment/transition! It looks like I have a few more topics I need to expand my knowledge on after reading some of the comments in this video. But thanks again for giving me a head start.
gonna send the age thing to my mum... i'm 16 and shes trying to set me up w a guy who's older than 25 🤡
My mom is encouraging me to hit on people who are 30-40... I'm not even 20 yet...
Thats literally illegal though 👁️👁️ ms. Ma'am,,,
Hmmm that's very strange. I don't think parents should try and set their children up with anyone, let alone someone so much older😅
Umm that's literally ilegal... please be safe, that's dangerous, I hope your mother stops
Fricking ew :(
Why do I love this but hate it at the same time. It makes me so mad but it's so fun?! 😂
As for the guy who thinks 28 year olds shouldn’t date each other...he definitely got those sexual primes switched around in his little brain. Women haven’t peaked by 28 but men definitely have 🤪🤪🤣🤣🤩🤩💁♀️
Men take onger to reach their peak if you ask me... they take a while to stop being stupid and finally figuring themselves out... some noever stop being stupid.
@@silvercandra4275 basic developmental psychiatry has known this for decades. But the difference isn't that staggering scientifically.
@@silvercandra4275 they take a long time to reach their peak mentally and emotionally, but sexually they don’t have a lot of good years.
14:48 Absolutely true. Seahorses and hippos: excact same parts and anatomy. They're practically identical.
Why stop there. Earthworms are just hairless gorillas
I'm glad she kept saying stuff like "vulva havers"... the thought of toys always makes me really uncomfortable, because I'm a trans guy and them being marketed towards a certain gender solely based on genitalia just... makes me uncomfortable...
Same, it was nice
yeah it made me feel like i was allowed to even think about buying it. she's always very inclusive 👍
Yeah, more people (well everyone actually) should start using those terms instead of just saying women when talking about these kinds of topics, like periods, toys, etc. I myself am nonbinary so I always do it
same, im cis but it makes me feel icky and yucky
@@SashaPosting bruh same, like if going trough the montly blood shed isn't bad enough you also have to see shit like "yaaas queen u got this" "women work together" "we have ur back sis 😍"
I mean, it's nice i guess but.. also makes me wanna die
plp on their 30's hanging out w freshly 20's is weird, but at the same time i finished college 3 years ago at 20yo and i live by myself, so i prefer hanging around older plp bc most my friends who are -25 are still on college, living w their parents, etc
So you see the airwaves sound awesome BUT is it an option to make it pulse to the rhythm of the little lad dance because depending upon that factor is a definite make or break
I- why the ˡⁱᵗᵗˡᵉ ˡᵃᵈ- go off I guess 😭😭😭😭
@@MandisF you know why.
@@sussybakaamongusdeezligman6115 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
If I were to describe my asexuality, it’s like if you were in a world where the most intimate thing you could do with someone is tapping their elbows together.
I never seek it out myself but I like the emotional meaning that could be behind it kinda like:
“I love you a lot… Would you like to tap elbows with me? 🥺”
I think it’s very cute 🥰 and I’m strangely flattered when my SO asks
(This is only my experience, I know a lot of aces out there who don’t agree or their sexuality was affected through trauma, so please don’t assume this applies to others!)
3:13 my guy really was like “what if the real clitoris, was the friends we made along the way?”
Just bought a plushie! I’ve been a long term enjoyer for a while and very happy to have something to show for it! I normally watch your videos with my brother to educate him. Also when i got (TRIGGER WARNING BTW) SA’d your videos helped me cope! Much love your way
@@Zin-c6y I like Harry Potter, why?
Jesus, that first post is horrifying. I started my period pretty young, I was eight or nine. And at the time I was alone with my dad. Who reacted perfectly. A heating pad. The pads we already had at the house that were my mom’s. We watched horror movies and ate chocolate for a couple of days. It was as perfect as it could have gone. Fathers acting like that first post are terrifying to me. Hella pedo vibes.
I got my period at eleven. WHILE I WAS CAMPING.
s*xual trauma menton🛑
it's such a small thing but thank you for saying "vulva haver" I'm a trans masc person with a vagina and hearing a RUclipsr I admire be so inclusive is amazing thank you 💗💗 it makes me feel more welcome and like me and my community is taken into consideration, thank you 🌈🌈
I also struggled with sexual trauma and felt very uncomfortable with my body and sexuality too 🌈🌈thank you for sharing this and being so open, you are amazing and helpful and appreciated💗💗🌈🌈
Solidarity and love! Same here
I really agree on the age thing! I'm 25 and have been in uni for a while and most of my classmates are so young?? I would never consider dating them??? Looking back, when I was their age I did had lots of messages from people (usually male) in their mid-twenties or older on dating sites and I was like why tf would I date a grown man I just want boba dates lmao
anyways great video as usual!!! loved it
"28 years is old and at the end of her prime"
Real "tell me you shouldn't be allowed around children without telling me you shouldn't be allowed around children" energy. Something tells me this guy thinks 20 is "middle of the range".
30 years old is the end of the prime. Dude was off by just 2 years
I’m taking a course on Adult Development & Aging and the professor brought up this theory that there should be a new stage of development considered “emerging adulthood” for ages 18-25 defined by instability, self-focus, identity exploration, and ’feeling in-between’, and while I believe that this is definitely more of a sociological description of the circumstances most 18-25 year old people find themselves in than a psychological stage, I definitely agree that we (I’m 20 years old currently and in my third year of university) should probably not be in romantic/sexual relationships with fully developed adults over the age 25. I’m personally just avoiding romance until I feel like I can survive on my own in the world because I don’t want to end up my entire life dependent on other people to support me and if I do end up unable to live on my own I want to know that that’s the situation I’m in before I invite someone else to be a long term part of my life closer than friendship. I also just sort of feel younger than everyone else around me because I’m autistic and don’t have a lot of the skills associated with independence ( I can’t drive or navigate public transportation for example, and I don’t have employment) which makes taking this class in itself an interesting experience because one of the assignments is to interview someone older than you in any way and I just feel like everyone is older than me socially compared to when I was a teenager. The ethics of relationships is difficult because age is often seen as a shortcut to knowing someone’s life experience even though it really isn’t because the older people get, the less reliable of a marker one’s chronological age becomes of their life circumstances.
Heyy, I'm also 20, 3rd year and autistic also. I'd say as long as you respect the other person and don't have harmful attachment patterns, you shouldn't be afraid of relationships, they can be good for you if they're healthy and unfold naturally. Independence is a balance, it can do more harm than good if you take it too far x
This is the first time I've heard about sex and haven't wanted to puke inside a bucket or laugh at the ridiculousness of it. Cool
Clever username there dude
When I was 19 a 25 year old spent an hour convincing me to date him. I had just finished highschool and was taking a gap year before college. Found out 5 months later he had a fiancé
My mother walked in right when you said, "All boobs are great!"
and the first thought that came to mind was,
Fuck, What if She now Thinks I'm Straight!?!?
I had to rewatch that first post 3 times because of how fucking ridiculous it was. I couldn't believe what I heard.
As someone who started using pads when I was 11, the first one made me very uncomfortable. Haven't watched the rest yet, it might be worse later...😭
I struggled so hard not to spit cereals all over my laptop when I saw clitosaurus in the background. I LOVE your sense of humour!
Clirosaurus sounds so badass💀💀💀
"I know that I, I don't have.... boobs-"
Lucky
As part of the asexual spectrum I REALLY love this video, a huge number of people still can't distinguish between sexual attraction and libido, which is an important difference to define our orientation. Being asexual doesn't say anything about someone's sexual behavior. So thank you SO MUCH for that explanation you did💜
I still don't get it. So there are many medical conditions that can cause no sexual desire. So how would you know you the difference between say a hormonal imbalance that is cause you to have no sexual desire vs being asexual?
@@richie9878 because no sexual desire does not = asexuality. It's whether or not you find people sexually attractive whether you want to act on that or not doesn't matter. People can be sexually attracted to people even when they have no desire to do sexual activities.
On the note of age gap relationships, I have a friend who started dating his teacher (in his 30s) when he was 16. Not only is that not legal because of the authority position, but since his mom kicked him out of the house, let's say he had nowhere to go but to his boyfriend.
He started questioning his gender like 3-4 years ago, but when he tried coming out to his boyfriend, he got shut down real quick and clammed back into the closet (he's still pretending to be a girl now because he fears rejection so much). He's mostly dependent on him financially and emotionally (no parents to count on, no siblings, all his friends moved out of the city, etc.).
Somehow, they're still together (friend is about 24) and he's thinking of having kids with him... For real, I hope he realizes how toxic this relationship is and just gets out of there before he gets stuck... I hate groomers.
This is terrible. That person was manipulated since teenagehood and probably doesn't know better. I hope your friend realises before it's too late
I'm E cup and I found that little comic strip funny, because they do sag not to that extend of course, but they do
I agree, life stage is more important than age when it comes to relationships. While many people hit similar stages at certain ages, what's important is to be in a similar place in your life, where the general priorities and needs are similar. The best example of this is in Umbrella Academy where Hazel and Agnus fall in love. There is a huge age gap between the two, about 30 years, but they are also in a similar stage of their life where both of them are essentially ready to retire and live a life of simple joys. Meanwhile another relationship between a 30 something and a 60 something would not work because most people in their 30s are still starting a lot of stuff like families or in the middle of things like their careers, meanwhile someone in their 60s is getting ready to retire and enjoy the fruits of their labor.
You are amazing, valid and no matter how much it feels like it, you are never alone.
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❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤
man you are incredibly kind. you spend a lot of time trying to make people's days just a little bit better and that is so inspiring! thank you!
oh you just need one more like and it will be funny number
I looked so hard to find your comment Cactus. I hope you know we and real life people care about you and think you are great
I want a pride kiwi so bad 😩😩😭😭 but they don’t even ship until December to where I am 😭😭
WWOOOOOOOOOO!! Kiwi. Alternate title: Conservatives tap out in round one, Bobby Lashley of liberals kicks butt *NOT CLICKBAIT* watch till the end
my days are made when i see that you posted
If sex toy talk makes you uncomfortable it starts at 4:39 and ends at 9:24
Hey, if you’re interested, I would watch a video about PETA, because I’ve heard that they’re not great and I’ve seen some ads like this, but idk what their actual issues are and I’ve tried to research it but it’s hard because I don’t know what I’m looking for. It could also give you an opportunity to plug the benefits of veganism, if you’d want to.
peta is super bad honestly search up “why is peta bad” and so many articles will pop up. they are from 2010-2016 though but it still is something to know
+Amanda L
One example I heard of is the 'monkey selfie case' from a youtube channel called LegalEagle
ruclips.net/video/YNAMmdHp210/видео.html (the part about the monkey case starts about 6:20 and ends 10:35)
Yes I will never forget their "save the whales ad" 🤦
Just remembering the 22 year old man that was dating my friend when we were freshmen in high school, she was fifteen. Now that I'm 22 I cannot fathom dating an 18 year old let alone a 15 year old
What I do to apologize less is I make a little joke about it. Also, personally I love side tangents and rambles people make
Got groomed by a man ten years my senior in my early twenties. It’s disturbing….
The first one reminds me of my mom not wanting me to use tampons because “it would take my virginity” like ??? HOW??
Lol the vibrater scrambling the brain like an egg one is hilarious. I'm not even sure I could prove him wrong because it's just so far fetched that there's no way there's any research on that at all.
Which is why the burden of proof is on him because he made the claim. Not on me to disprove him.
I rarely laugh at these mentalities but that one really got me.
This man thinks babies can be WHISKED and SCRAMBLED LIKE EGGS
16:47 I love how you caught yourself before you said it 😂😂 the new outro I’m trying to not to say sorry at the end of the video 💜 I love your videos 🥰
In addition to the peta rant, milk does not cause autism
If it did I'd be guzzling that shit autism x2 babieee
I stubbed my toe and it's been hurting for like half an hour
Oooh that sounds painful, poor you
as someone who was, as people tried to tell me, "blessed" before top surgery, the gardening/kneepads one was very funny to me :') the sag was real and the nerves were so spread out as to leave essentially no sensation.. nature's shelf into nature's kneepads? if only I'd waited a few more years to let gravity do the work 😂😂😂 that one felt more like a granny4granny meme to me
About the age gap... one of my friends (F) is 34 and dating a 20-yo boy. I love her but I can't get on board with that.
Term of the Day: “Vulva Havers.”
my sister has been telling me that im not a lesbian and she is?? whilst i believe that shes queer lgbtq , etc it makes me feel bad that shes just telling me im straight when i recently discovered that i dont like men?? somebody help 😭
How to talk without saying sorry? I've struggled with this for my entire life, I read a while ago that a good way to reframe the need to apologize is to say thank you instead. So instead of "sorry for taking so long" you can say "thank you for your patience", for me it takes some of the negativity out of my insecurities because I have to frame it in a way to make me realize that I'm in a positive place and that what I'm wanting to apologize for doing isn't necessarily bad.
“Vulva-havers” I know that people across the gender spectrum can have vulvas but the phrase “vulva-havers” is amazing
Really telling that everyone in these comments defending their age-gap relationships are the younger half
hmm hmm
Idk how to feel about it, my mum and dad have 19 year age gap ._.
Loved this vid!!!! You have nothing to apologize for at the end of your videos, but I totally understand that urge to say sorry. Some thing that helped me was switching up my “sorry” to a “thank you”. In the past I’ve heard you apologize for the video being long, and that might be the perfect place to say thank you for watching my long video! Of course, it’s easier said than done, but sometimes replacing one habit with another is easier than just trying to quit cold turkey. Thanks for a great video! I can’t wait for the next one, and I always appreciate when they’re long :) I always watch them while I’m getting ready for work!
Holy frick, Savannah's 6 years younger than me-
Okay, I have been thinking about it for a while, and I‘m gonna go to my parents now and ask if I can buy a plushie
Age gaps in romantic relationships is such a tricky topic, but I would say that the "half of your own age plus 7 is the minimum age for your potential partner" is a quite good rule of thumb, because then the gap becomes bigger the older you get, which makes sense, since there's a bigger difference between let's say a 15 year old and a 20 year old than between a 55 year old and a 60 year old, despite being 5 years apart in both cases.
Just ordered my kiwi plush! Can’t wait for it to arrive 🥰
I will finally have money to get the plushie today. I’ve been super excited to get it ever since I saw it.
14:50 so looking at this, I immediately noticed the ribs section extends over the stomach, where there aren't any ribs. It does cover the bottom two ribs as well, but yeah stomach ribs.
As a Canadian who lived in the UK as well the question 'How do i talk without saying sorry?' is the most relatable thing I heard all month x)
scientific reasoning to back you up btw- the prefrontal cortex isn’t fully developed until the age of 24-25. so you are absolutely right for setting that as the minimum age bar for age difference relationships
😂Cl!tosaurus is awesome! Have you had "Lickalottapus" on the computer yet?