She wants to remain friends in case the other guy she wants rejects her. Tell her you will NEVER be friends. Even if you don’t have other girls, pretend like you do and walk away.
Brothers don’t ever disrespect yourself and put yourself in the friend zone! If you want her, you must be willing to walk away and she will feel your presence when you walk away and mean it. Sometimes they come back and sometimes they don’t. But you most realize you’re the prize not her!
That can be the case but not all cases so don’t say stuff like that without telling some context.. If a girl likes you but lost her love, attraction and respect for you why would she want to be with you again if you walk away. Just act like friends and make her feel feelings for you if you really want to be with her. If not let it go, but sitting in the friendzone waiting for something to change is nog going to work. Change yourself, if you don’t want that then let go
How are you the price if you are not willing to become a better person. Mostly for yourself and an extra that she will like it. Always keep improving yourself
A woman's attraction for a man grows when she feels that the man is better than her. She has to work for your attention and approval then her attraction will grow
Wrong. This is narcissistic thinking. If the relationship is Right, God will help tho....but if you/her choose to not know Him then you’ll both never know or one or both will undoubtably struggle. This is truth man
I agree with everything he said but I like to include another reason a girl breaks it off with you because she thinks she found a higher value male than you that she's attracted to, she's trying to be friends so she can keep you in storage as a backup just in case it fails. Don't fall for it RUN!
@@GeekGhostGamerTop Just my opinion, when you have hobby or passion, you must increasing your skill like exercise to get fit, make some business and get more profit, when she saw you improving, she'll start respecting you.
This is such good advice!!!! I let myself get friend zoned by my ex-fiance and it messed with my head big time for three years. I wouldn't give other women a chance because the challenge and fantasy of her overshadowed everyone else. Whatever you do repeatedly becomes a habit. If you act like a SIMP for too long you will start to fall into that habit with any woman that you find attractive. As painful as it can be, you have to force yourself to avoid the friend zone with a woman that you are attracted to. Either your behavior has to change or you have to avoid that person at all costs.
I'm telling you people once your person starts acting different and you have a bad gut feeling, just stop it right there you definitely don't want to go through a heartbreak. That shit will break you
I have learned this thing this year.. Getting into relationship and avoiding friendzone in the initial case is one thing.. But even after relationship, girls can friendzone you.. There are lots of signs /red flags you get in beginning only but due to our emotional highs, we avoid them. Even I tried to breakup with her lots of times but she would use to convince me to stay. Eventually after lots of fights(we both were toxic for each other actually), she said she wants to breakup and just be friend.. That time I rejected her. But wish I could have walked away initially only but then your attachment doesn't let's you do that.. Will keep this thing in future relationship
Nope, if she wants to break up all of a sudden without any prior warning or even trying to work things out, then just say cool and leave. Anything less would be a waste of your time.
When she asks for only friendship, she's asking to have her cake and eat it too. It allows her to more easily move on and taper off of you while you naively hope that she'll one day change her mind. Additonally, she can continue to get your non-sexual attention while she hooks up with other dudes. F THAT. If she wants your attention, she's gotta see you in a romantic sense or you're out of there ✌
I've been that guy at 3:15. NEVER AGAIN. At least that's what I told myself. But now, years later, I get the feeling I've slipped into that friendzone again with someone else... it's such a trap because it's somewhere that a woman loves to keep you.
Read the book “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson. It will change your view of dating. She doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore? Ok. Idgaf. Have a nice life. Not going to waste my energy on something that I have virtually no control over - and ironically the best way to get your way is to leave.
Love your book! I’ve got it mostly memorized, but I still watch all your content. You helped me save my relationship and she’s a complete flake, but I still love her. She’s pulled every trick and shit test that there is. The problem mostly is she’s filthy rich and I’m not, but am working on it. You changed my life for the better. Thank you brother. Keep it up.
1) be polite, honest, & direct. 2) say what you mean, and mean what you say. The corrolary is - your words & actions MUST ALIGN. Even when it's difficult. Follow those 2 rules, and the testing will decrease exponentially. You will become a high value man.
Your analysis is spot on and very accurate. You are one of the best relationship psychologists on RUclips. I hope you keep up the good work you are doing
Nothing hurts more than. Being with a women who you used to love and have access to her body. Then puts you in her Friends list. Then finds love and gives another man to have access to her body. When you used to have that spot.
Especially when she’s the mother of your child trust. But after a year of her coming & going trying to FZ me; I’m walking away continually levelling up; she’ll be begging me back watch this space.
Simple advice is never go for monogamy with a girl, no matter what. We human are not designed for monogamy relationship that the one in the relationship or both setup “rules” for what’s acceptable or what. Look for woman who are looking for unconditional love/relationship.
It shouldn't ever be like this. Women are the only sex that makes things complicated like this. I'm dealing with this right now and i told her i absolutely wont be just friends and we still get intimate and talk and tell each other we love each other. She says that it isnt about keeping her options open, ive been throufh this before. It makes me very resentful towards the opposite sex.
So i hear all women aren't the same... This is a biological evelutionar instinct to keep you as shelter she can come back too... Somewhere secure and familiar she can use inbetween.
Giving a grown woman freedom is like giving a toddler a gun. Bad idea. Sure it may not always end fatal, but the risk is too high for a man to invest financially n emotionally
Already through my second week of NC and working on myself like crazy! She’s disappeared off the internet entirely for about a week. Probably on a trip with family or something. It’ll also get her thinking about me since when she comes back online I won’t be blowing up her phone or initiating contact every time anymore like I started doing when quarantine started. Chris you’ve really helped me regain my mindset of when I met her. Thanks dude!
A woman breaths "need for validation" as her essence in the feminine and her man's "emotional support" provides her that means for her sense of survival. A man thrives, and builds societies from "appreciation" which his woman provides when she opens her gates to intimacy. It's yin and yang. Balance. It's mutual discovery and growth. Any other dynamic where a man is inherently attraced to a woman, yet demoted or rejected by her is mismatched and will be catastrophic to him every time. So, find a woman who wants you!
This is the situation I'm in at the moment. I relapsed and had a massive binge drink on Friday just gone and said something insulting to her that I thought was funny while being blackout drunk. Completely 100% my own fault but the trigger was the fact that every time she goes to plan something for us to do (We've both got children from previous relationships so time is a factor) we never end up doing anything but when I plan stuff, simple things like cinema or going for a meal, it happens. I even moved my shifts at work to make sure we had one night a week for just ourselves and the response I got? "No every week though". Should have ended it right then and there.
That's exactly what happened to me, I thought if I lose contact with her she'd be gone and bum, she found and banged another guy. When your woman loses all respect for you, you are dead.
Been doing this back & forth with my sons mother for a year now man 😣 just starting to seriously date other women again she ended things yet again yesterday but she always comes back, need to not let her back in anymore let her feel my absence only way like I did she’ll fall back in love again when you lose something precious you once had.
She wants the door open in case she wants you back. She wants to break up but she is not sure if she wants it permanently. Depending on if she can get someone better or you improve as a man then she'll take you back. Traumatized behavior. She feels unsafe so she wants to keep doors open.
I always tell my Ex girlfriends who say, lets just be friends, i say to them, lets just leave on good terms, which is better to say if you both are not angry with each other during the break up.
Hi Chris, The last week I walked away from a girl who wants me as a friend. She told "My friend, my friendship is pure, that´s the only thing I can offer to you" and I said: "Im sorry, but I don´t want to be just your friend, if you change your mind, look for me". After this message, she never replied. What do you think about she never replied? Greetings.
I have a girl that constantly moves me into friend zone and doesn’t bother to tell me. She will cut off intimacy and stop reaching out. I back off too but she will reach out just enough to keep my temperature and then she goes does her own thing. It is so bad that she calls me to tell me she is going out with another guy every time. I try to remain emotionally calm. If she even thinks I talked to another woman she calls me mad and upset saying I don’t love her and she knew i was just saying it. I have implemented absolutely no reaching out, she only reaches out to tell me she is with someone else or to berate me if she thinks I am talking to someone else, and I don’t respond immediately taking my time. How do you handle this?
You NEED to find a better woman. Stay single for a while, if you must, to get yourself together. You are being played in a very obvious way. Don't treat someone as a priority if they they treat you as an option. Breaking off will be difficult, but you must do it.
Hii Chris u r one of my favorite utuber ..... Giving such important and valuable advices which are really connected to me .....love U as my real brother
Chris, a spin on what you’ve said - after 18 months she came back, we bumped uglies, 6 weeks later she suddenly blocks me on one platform, I know another guy is in the picture. Lost count the number of times she boomerangs back to me over the years. Should I just stay silent, or contact her and tell her outright what you’ve said here ‘I’m walking away, I’m not being your back-up option?’. Also, planning to relocate abroad later this year, so she’ll either get the biggest wake-up call that I’m no longer going to be around or she won’t be bothered. I’ll get my answer finally.
Met up with my ex yesterday and we went to the cinema and had a meal together. We’ve been broken up 6 weeks. She said she still wants us to be friends as we have lots in common, she enjoys my company etc. Tried to hold her hand as we left the Cinema and she said that’s not what friends do. She said tonight was a test to see if I could still be friends with her. We’ve arranged another cinema meet up for the 19th Feb 23 but right now I’m too angry as I still love her. I wrote her a letter to explain why I wanted to break up with her and me regretting the decision and wanting to get back together. She refused to read it saying if I keep in with that crap she won’t see me at all. Should I just cut all ties with her?
@@lukegeorge927 I’ve moved on and am seeing someone else now. Strange thing is, my ex contacted me three times over the last week. Think she might finally be feeling the loss and she’s living on her own in her own flat now 😊
Are you kidding? You should go on the trip with her if she's inviting you and wants to foot the bill for the trip. Once there, go off and meet some fine ladies and have a blast! You can use one of the oldest techniques on women that men have used for eons. Jealousy. Most female egos cannot stand other woman getting something they had, and are enjoying your intimacy and attention at a higher level than she got. Warning, this also has its set of possible issues but hey, free trip and fun. She'll come to the pounding possible realization that, "maybe he just wasn't that physically attracted to me", and will shift her attention sexually back to you. Because she now finds you unpredictable and clearly hasn't figured you out. Respect. It's in female nature once they see you with other women having fun and lots of it, to feel , maybe "it was them", and not you, since are now found to be desired by other women and you could care less how that makes her feel. Remember, she still values greatly the, "love" or feelings she has for you, even if its no longer sexual. But even the risk of another woman getting that love, however plutonic to the ex, the next girl could get that and a sexual side to you she never did.. That in their minds, cannot stand! lol
we were friends at the beginning then we became a couple then we broke up she said she loves me then a week later she said she doesn't anymore she told me its not me but her and we became friends again but i want her back. what sould it do? I live in Washington State and she lives is LA. Our plan was that I go and see her On the Feb 25th and she also has a very important registered nurse exam on the Feb 24th and now she had to push her exam coz she can't fucos. right now all i can think about is that she needs space even though she told me she doesn't needs space and time to fucos on her exam. now that she just broke up with me and became friends again. my plan is that im still going to LA and hope she will try and talk to me what should i do I want her back
She is confused it's the exact same case of mine.. After lots of fights she broke up.. Then she said she needs time to rethink.. Then one day she agreed to continue.. Another day she again said she is not comfortable but wants to be friends to know me better.. I said no she still keeps on sending messages to stay in touch.. My 2 cents are to just ignore her till the time she calls you and ask for a relationship again
Spilt up from my girlfriend on 02/12/22 after an argument and I text her to end it. Instantly regretted it and tried to stop the text but it had already sent. Told her I didn’t mean it and she left the same night. She said 10 days later she wants to remain friends and I was gutted. Am meeting her on Friday 23/12/22 to exchange Christmas presents. It’s her 50th Birthday on 28/12/23 and I’ve bought presents for that as well. I don’t want to be her friend and want her back as my girlfriend. What should I do? 😢
Oh man! You were so close to making the dignified exit. It would have been better had you not tried to excuse your breakup text, but instead you handed her the dumper's hat and took the self esteem hit rather than her. That's pretty shit! I was in that situation years ago and carried on chasing her at the expense of my own personal growth and career development. It ate away at my self esteem and did not make me appear attractive to other people. I eventually abandoned hope for reconciliation and decided to put myself first. In just a few years I completely transformed my life and moved far closer to being my truest self, which I would never have achieved if she were around to distract me. 10 years later and she ended up chasing me and she fell head over heels and we did end up dating again. Unfortunately it seemed that she really hadn't grown up in that decade and eventually started to show her more toxic side, but yet again she proved to be a very good learning experience though it was somewhat bittersweet. No matter how you ended up in the friend zone, the only way you can progress to dating the woman is if you leave. You have to literally get up and walk out of her life completely. I think it helps to announce it to her too along with some final thoughts about your feelings for her, without boosting her ego in the process. You then must stay out of all contact for no less than 2 years and in that time reinvent yourself. Do those things and if you then return you won't be returning to the friend zone but rather you'll be considered like just another new guy that she meets. You'll have an opportunity to re-attract her if you play your cards right. Keep the cards close to your chest though, don't reveal yourself too much. Don't get carried away if she becomes attracted to you once more. If anything play hard to get.
Bro i have said multiple times to break up with my girlfriend but she stops me and convinces to stay. Women knows that men says this when they get aggressive so chill.. If she wants to be with you.. She won't take that text seriously
Really wish I had seen this video a few months ago. All the on again, off again yo-yo'ing sucked. I have been feeling used and dismissed and know I have myself to blame for allowing that to happen to me, but, here I am. I know it will get better and damn, I hate this feeling but now I know where I went wrong, well, at least the "let's be friends" part.
Went through this about 3 months ago. Met this girl from work. She broke it off since I want txting her enough I guess. Even though I came over quite often and took her out a good bit. Never ignored her and was mostly responsive when she did txt me. So I was confused when I happen to not txt her for a full day and then it happened once more about 2 weeks later. She broke up with me through txt. Kissed my ass about how good a guy I am and blah blah blah. Then the I'd love to remain friends line came in. It's awkward as fuck when she happens to work the same day I do. I respected her choice and haven't talked to her once since. But sometimes for whatever reason it bothers me. Not because of her in particular but the feeling of someone dumping you. Sure hits that ego and self esteem even if our relationship was not all that serious nor long. My brain is fucked I guess haha
Damn same situation.. Only difference is we had lots of fights and i was also a bad guy for many reasons.. At last she gave up and still asked for time to rethink.. Then she said let's be friends again and based upon that il decide for rltn.. Somewhere it was not bad as break up reason was valid.. But still I refused
So my girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. But we hang out every once in awhile. When we hang out she holds my arm and holds my hand. And even hugs me and kisses my face when I leave her house .Is she having seconds thoughts about the break up? She's cool and I would like to be with her. But I'm lost on what to do. Someone help please.
@@Bucky1836 when they temporary boomerang back to you after realizing the grass wasn't greener, that could be the easiest sex you'd ever get. Wether it's a huge mistake or not, that's another story
If she moved on then she wasn’t going to come back to you anyway if you remained friends. It’s still a win-win for you because you don’t need to waste your time with someone like that.
Steve00077 she actually said because I said that she thought i had moved on and didn’t want anything to do with her anymore so she went for someone else.
Yeah still not buying it. I think she is full of shit. Of course she is going to explain things in an attempt to make herself look good. I think it’s pretty low of her to end the relationship, and then later try to put the blame on her. She was already on the hunt for someone else. She made that decision when she wanted to just be friends; women don’t want to only be friends with someone they really like. Judge women by their actions, not their words. If they lose attraction for you, they will be on the hunt for someone else. They will be on the hunt whether you are their friend or not. What was she going to do? Continue to be friends with you for years and refuse to date another guy? Of course not.
I think it’s pretty low of her to end the relationship, and then later try to put the blame on you*. Also if she really liked you and thought you had moved on, she would panic at the possibility of you replacing her with someone else. Especially the possibility you’ll find someone hotter. Competition is a big motivator for women.
What will I do I have same situation like this she has someone else now but she wants me to be only friend and she need favor something for me now. I give what she want or no deal?
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Hi will you have it available on audible at any point? I purchased your atomic attraction it was great. I’m married but I feel like she’s at the beginning of pulling away. Everything is ok but I rather deal with this now while is not really an issue rather than waiting. Thank you
It is more complicated when that woman is your wife for the last 15 years and you own property and dogs together. Not so easy to end it and just walk away. If you do you can be looking at serious pain. Divorces and property division can be very expensive.
What if she break up with u and wants to be your friend but u don’t wanna be in that situation and don’t wanna be her friend but she blows your phone and constantly try to talk to u.
Mine cheated on me and I confronted her about it she cried and apologized and I forgive her after a 2 weeks later we had an argument and I told her we need space she started crying and I told her I forgive her again, but after that she told me she wants to break up I tried to talk to her so we can settle the issue but she insisted, so now am giving her space and going on no contact but she keeps calling me please what should I do?
Leave her alone. When she cheated and you confronted her she felt guilty. She was sorry that she got caught (especially if she never caught you doing anything leaving you with the upper hand)..When you angered her she took that power and opportunity to reverse everything to make you the bad guy As if you really did something to her...Leave her alone she’s manipulative
All these things prove that getting into relationship is easy but maintaining it is hell difficult.. And as a child I used to thought getting a gf is a challenge.. Damn
Hey i am talking to a married women more than 1& half year and i think she has friend zone me because she is seeing other married man. I caught her so many times to seeing that man but she always makes an excuses that she has no intention like that and she never try to make an effort to see me and meet me she always talking on the phone. I think she is talking to me for emotional support and time pass. Recently I cut all the contact with her.
Bro y u after married women stop spoiling life of other men it's immoral and bad man.. Please target young girls I know it's tough but work on yourself man
I’ve been with my gf for a year and all the sudden she’s working more and it seems like I’m not in the picture as much .. she asks me to watch movies and cuddle kisses me once and a while but no sex or I love you anymore. Is she wanting just friends or is she over working she does have her own business and school but idk anymore. Help me please!
Hello no. My ex girlfriend broke up with me and destroyed my heart and she still wants to be friends. I will never just be her friends. Either were together or not.
If she does not specify that she wants to be friends with us, how do we figure it out? After No Contact, when we get back together "Is there a way to tell if she wants relationship back or just wants to be friends?" She looks like she is attracted to me. But, I don't know for sure. This video has confused me compared to your previous videos.
If she wants a break up, it automatically make you only ‘friend’ at best. Dont debate it just simply walk away. Have dignity. By that she can see you as a high value male and have options.
Bosana after 4 weeks of no contact I deactivated ig my ex hit me up last night asking if I blocked her I replied 6hrs later saying “I played dumb w her for a while then said nah don’t worry u good” she said “Okok 😊” what that mean?
What if she's the reason why you're alive because I'd lived in a rural town with her about a year ago I had an aneurysm a stroke and open heart surgery and if she wasn't at the house that day if she was at work I'd be dead
she doesn't want to be your friend, she wants to keep you around for attention
Daruis?
Thats treu for me its for me over
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While she bangs the guys who don’t give her any attention
@@Sharpswordherald exactly
She wants to remain friends in case the other guy she wants rejects her. Tell her you will NEVER be friends. Even if you don’t have other girls, pretend like you do and walk away.
Wise words
That´s what I did the last week.
Wise man!
It work for me I will recommend you to a powerful man who help me bring back my ex wife back within 24hours
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Brothers don’t ever disrespect yourself and put yourself in the friend zone! If you want her, you must be willing to walk away and she will feel your presence when you walk away and mean it. Sometimes they come back and sometimes they don’t. But you most realize you’re the prize not her!
Sometimes they come back and sometimes they don’t
💯💯💯
Yes you are the price!!!
That can be the case but not all cases so don’t say stuff like that without telling some context..
If a girl likes you but lost her love, attraction and respect for you why would she want to be with you again if you walk away.
Just act like friends and make her feel feelings for you if you really want to be with her.
If not let it go, but sitting in the friendzone waiting for something to change is nog going to work. Change yourself, if you don’t want that then let go
How are you the price if you are not willing to become a better person. Mostly for yourself and an extra that she will like it. Always keep improving yourself
Walk away and never look back.
Exactly so Chris, the moment she finds someone else she’s gone. Decline her friendship request!
Not always. Tell her you want to be introduced to her attractive friends. If she chooses not to, then give the soft next.
It's an intimate relationship with a woman or nothing at all.
Yes, relationship with me or I'll find someone that loves me more.
Yes exactly
What if she still sleeps with me, but says "lets go with the flow" ( which i interprete as fwb) ?
@@wisdom2578 It most likely means you can satisfy her in ways other men can't.
Treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan.
Lol sadly true!
A woman's attraction for a man grows when she feels that the man is better than her. She has to work for your attention and approval then her attraction will grow
You taught me something here!
Wrong. This is narcissistic thinking. If the relationship is Right, God will help tho....but if you/her choose to not know Him then you’ll both never know or one or both will undoubtably struggle. This is truth man
Amen brother, it all depends on her interest level!
I agree with everything he said but I like to include another reason a girl breaks it off with you because she thinks she found a higher value male than you that she's attracted to, she's trying to be friends so she can keep you in storage as a backup just in case it fails. Don't fall for it RUN!
Very accurate
Good brother
Always be willing to walk away at any moment......
Even in marriages, with kids involved?
@@sudeshgaur6059 find another hobby or job that doesn't need her there.
@@sudeshgaur6059 yes
@@geralkay3012 I should go back to this, this is validated......
@@GeekGhostGamerTop Just my opinion, when you have hobby or passion, you must increasing your skill like exercise to get fit, make some business and get more profit, when she saw you improving, she'll start respecting you.
This is such good advice!!!! I let myself get friend zoned by my ex-fiance and it messed with my head big time for three years. I wouldn't give other women a chance because the challenge and fantasy of her overshadowed everyone else. Whatever you do repeatedly becomes a habit. If you act like a SIMP for too long you will start to fall into that habit with any woman that you find attractive. As painful as it can be, you have to force yourself to avoid the friend zone with a woman that you are attracted to. Either your behavior has to change or you have to avoid that person at all costs.
Well said!
What ended up happening man?
Guys really if u have options most of your problems will be solved like magic.
Never ever accept being friends after a break up. Leave with your respect
Exactly that. I lived it last summer. She only needed a babysitter.
Translation: She wants you to continue doing boyfriend things for her, without her being your girlfriend.
That's a big NOPE
I'm telling you people once your person starts acting different and you have a bad gut feeling, just stop it right there you definitely don't want to go through a heartbreak. That shit will break you
I wish I knew this.
@@vincentdimitri169 I'm still recovering
I have learned this thing this year.. Getting into relationship and avoiding friendzone in the initial case is one thing.. But even after relationship, girls can friendzone you.. There are lots of signs /red flags you get in beginning only but due to our emotional highs, we avoid them. Even I tried to breakup with her lots of times but she would use to convince me to stay. Eventually after lots of fights(we both were toxic for each other actually), she said she wants to breakup and just be friend.. That time I rejected her. But wish I could have walked away initially only but then your attachment doesn't let's you do that.. Will keep this thing in future relationship
Nope, if she wants to break up all of a sudden without any prior warning or even trying to work things out, then just say cool and leave. Anything less would be a waste of your time.
Understand that you can turn, blink and she can be gone
"Friendship" ... your now in back up mode
When she asks for only friendship, she's asking to have her cake and eat it too. It allows her to more easily move on and taper off of you while you naively hope that she'll one day change her mind. Additonally, she can continue to get your non-sexual attention while she hooks up with other dudes. F THAT. If she wants your attention, she's gotta see you in a romantic sense or you're out of there ✌
I've been that guy at 3:15. NEVER AGAIN. At least that's what I told myself. But now, years later, I get the feeling I've slipped into that friendzone again with someone else... it's such a trap because it's somewhere that a woman loves to keep you.
Read the book “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck” by Mark Manson. It will change your view of dating. She doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore? Ok. Idgaf. Have a nice life. Not going to waste my energy on something that I have virtually no control over - and ironically the best way to get your way is to leave.
Love your book! I’ve got it mostly memorized, but I still watch all your content. You helped me save my relationship and she’s a complete flake, but I still love her. She’s pulled every trick and shit test that there is. The problem mostly is she’s filthy rich and I’m not, but am working on it. You changed my life for the better. Thank you brother. Keep it up.
1) be polite, honest, & direct. 2) say what you mean, and mean what you say. The corrolary is - your words & actions MUST ALIGN.
Even when it's difficult. Follow those 2 rules, and the testing will decrease exponentially. You will become a high value man.
Don’t let your girl friend zone you my G🙏🏾
Your analysis is spot on and very accurate. You are one of the best relationship psychologists on RUclips. I hope you keep up the good work you are doing
conclusion: dont be a simp and have self respect and self love
My FIRST girlfriend tried to do that, years and years ago...but Im so proud of my self. I said No thank you, and I left the place.
Nothing hurts more than. Being with a women who you used to love and have access to her body. Then puts you in her Friends list. Then finds love and gives another man to have access to her body. When you used to have that spot.
Especially when she’s the mother of your child trust. But after a year of her coming & going trying to FZ me; I’m walking away continually levelling up; she’ll be begging me back watch this space.
Simple advice is never go for monogamy with a girl, no matter what. We human are not designed for monogamy relationship that the one in the relationship or both setup “rules” for what’s acceptable or what. Look for woman who are looking for unconditional love/relationship.
African Proverb;
"Having a girl as a friend is like having a chicken as a pet you'd one-day eat"
soo... its good for a last night stand? lol
@@edykrb1533 Easy man, no need to get ahead of yourself
It shouldn't ever be like this. Women are the only sex that makes things complicated like this. I'm dealing with this right now and i told her i absolutely wont be just friends and we still get intimate and talk and tell each other we love each other. She says that it isnt about keeping her options open, ive been throufh this before. It makes me very resentful towards the opposite sex.
Please never stop doing videos
So i hear all women aren't the same... This is a biological evelutionar instinct to keep you as shelter she can come back too... Somewhere secure and familiar she can use inbetween.
Giving a grown woman freedom is like giving a toddler a gun. Bad idea. Sure it may not always end fatal, but the risk is too high for a man to invest financially n emotionally
Keeping you around as a man-servant, just started this video, and am writing this already.
If she says let's be friends I say yes but meanwhile I'll be talking to other girls that are more hotter than her she will regret braking up with you
She won't
@@KhasiPatti 💯💯💯they don’t care once they move on they got no hearts
Already through my second week of NC and working on myself like crazy! She’s disappeared off the internet entirely for about a week. Probably on a trip with family or something. It’ll also get her thinking about me since when she comes back online I won’t be blowing up her phone or initiating contact every time anymore like I started doing when quarantine started. Chris you’ve really helped me regain my mindset of when I met her. Thanks dude!
A woman breaths "need for validation" as her essence in the feminine and her man's "emotional support" provides her that means for her sense of survival. A man thrives, and builds societies from "appreciation" which his woman provides when she opens her gates to intimacy. It's yin and yang. Balance. It's mutual discovery and growth. Any other dynamic where a man is inherently attraced to a woman, yet demoted or rejected by her is mismatched and will be catastrophic to him every time. So, find a woman who wants you!
At times they just say that, without even meaning it, just to feel better with themselves
They got to keep there options open 😁. Don't fall for it guys and gals 👍🏻 hold your head high, and walk away.
This is the situation I'm in at the moment. I relapsed and had a massive binge drink on Friday just gone and said something insulting to her that I thought was funny while being blackout drunk. Completely 100% my own fault but the trigger was the fact that every time she goes to plan something for us to do (We've both got children from previous relationships so time is a factor) we never end up doing anything but when I plan stuff, simple things like cinema or going for a meal, it happens. I even moved my shifts at work to make sure we had one night a week for just ourselves and the response I got? "No every week though". Should have ended it right then and there.
you should of said sorry thats not good enough i need more
That's exactly what happened to me, I thought if I lose contact with her she'd be gone and bum, she found and banged another guy. When your woman loses all respect for you, you are dead.
I got help from someone, he was the one only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband to me and he seve and solve my relationship problem
M e s s a g e h I m n o w
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Been doing this back & forth with my sons mother for a year now man 😣 just starting to seriously date other women again she ended things yet again yesterday but she always comes back, need to not let her back in anymore let her feel my absence only way like I did she’ll fall back in love again when you lose something precious you once had.
She wants the door open in case she wants you back.
She wants to break up but she is not sure if she wants it permanently.
Depending on if she can get someone better or you improve as a man then she'll take you back.
Traumatized behavior.
She feels unsafe so she wants to keep doors open.
I always tell my Ex girlfriends who say, lets just be friends, i say to them, lets just leave on good terms, which is better to say if you both are not angry with each other during the break up.
MEN and WOMEN can't be JUST FRIENDS! - One or the other will inevitably fall for the other! - Staying friends after a breakup is a trap!
Oh I've been there at 2:58, with the added little wrinkle I was paying for the trip. Never, ever, Ever, EVER AGAIN!!!
Hi Chris, The last week I walked away from a girl who wants me as a friend. She told "My friend, my friendship is pure, that´s the only thing I can offer to you" and I said: "Im sorry, but I don´t want to be just your friend, if you change your mind, look for me". After this message, she never replied. What do you think about she never replied? Greetings.
@@vo_vala_reviewer thanks for Sharing your story but, why did your girl try to friendzone you many times??? Wasn't she sure about you or what?
It’s only been a week. Also, you should be busy getting things done and looking at other women out there.
How did it go?
You can turn the table in the same way telling her let’s be friend only and with draw your attention and start meeting other women
I have a girl that constantly moves me into friend zone and doesn’t bother to tell me. She will cut off intimacy and stop reaching out. I back off too but she will reach out just enough to keep my temperature and then she goes does her own thing. It is so bad that she calls me to tell me she is going out with another guy every time. I try to remain emotionally calm. If she even thinks I talked to another woman she calls me mad and upset saying I don’t love her and she knew i was just saying it. I have implemented absolutely no reaching out, she only reaches out to tell me she is with someone else or to berate me if she thinks I am talking to someone else, and I don’t respond immediately taking my time. How do you handle this?
Walk away. Don't be any woman's DOORMAT!
You NEED to find a better woman. Stay single for a while, if you must, to get yourself together. You are being played in a very obvious way. Don't treat someone as a priority if they they treat you as an option. Breaking off will be difficult, but you must do it.
Hii Chris u r one of my favorite utuber ..... Giving such important and valuable advices which are really connected to me .....love U as my real brother
Chris, a spin on what you’ve said - after 18 months she came back, we bumped uglies, 6 weeks later she suddenly blocks me on one platform, I know another guy is in the picture. Lost count the number of times she boomerangs back to me over the years. Should I just stay silent, or contact her and tell her outright what you’ve said here ‘I’m walking away, I’m not being your back-up option?’.
Also, planning to relocate abroad later this year, so she’ll either get the biggest wake-up call that I’m no longer going to be around or she won’t be bothered. I’ll get my answer finally.
At best, treat her as an option, not a priority.
Dude, you again? 🇬🇧 Same bpd girl you spoke of in another video? Wow. She's pulverized you.
Met up with my ex yesterday and we went to the cinema and had a meal together. We’ve been broken up 6 weeks. She said she still wants us to be friends as we have lots in common, she enjoys my company etc. Tried to hold her hand as we left the Cinema and she said that’s not what friends do. She said tonight was a test to see if I could still be friends with her. We’ve arranged another cinema meet up for the 19th Feb 23 but right now I’m too angry as I still love her. I wrote her a letter to explain why I wanted to break up with her and me regretting the decision and wanting to get back together. She refused to read it saying if I keep in with that crap she won’t see me at all. Should I just cut all ties with her?
Mate she clearly wears the pants in this situation god damn man up
@@lukegeorge927 I’ve moved on and am seeing someone else now. Strange thing is, my ex contacted me three times over the last week. Think she might finally be feeling the loss and she’s living on her own in her own flat now 😊
Absolutely cut ties with her. You shouldn't have seen her at all after you two broke up.
The girl you talk about is exactly like my ex, should i unfriend her?
Yes, run away ASAP
@@rockkiller124 lol. Right.
Run for your life
Thank this is exactly what i want
Nope! If sex not involved, I am not involved!
Exactly.. Women thrives on our attention so we should always aim for sex.. No sex means time waste in dating for msn
Give us some more high value man, psychology tips and tricks, attraction etc!!!
9 times out of 10 she said that to let you down easy. Doesn’t mean a friendship offer cannot be genuine.
Are you kidding? You should go on the trip with her if she's inviting you and wants to foot the bill for the trip. Once there, go off and meet some fine ladies and have a blast! You can use one of the oldest techniques on women that men have used for eons. Jealousy. Most female egos cannot stand other woman getting something they had, and are enjoying your intimacy and attention at a higher level than she got. Warning, this also has its set of possible issues but hey, free trip and fun. She'll come to the pounding possible realization that, "maybe he just wasn't that physically attracted to me", and will shift her attention sexually back to you. Because she now finds you unpredictable and clearly hasn't figured you out. Respect. It's in female nature once they see you with other women having fun and lots of it, to feel , maybe "it was them", and not you, since are now found to be desired by other women and you could care less how that makes her feel. Remember, she still values greatly the, "love" or feelings she has for you, even if its no longer sexual. But even the risk of another woman getting that love, however plutonic to the ex, the next girl could get that and a sexual side to you she never did.. That in their minds, cannot stand! lol
Wow that was well said. Thank you
Hi, I really needed to hear this today. Thanks
we were friends at the beginning
then we became a couple
then we broke up
she said she loves me then a week later she
said she doesn't anymore she told me its not me but her and we became friends again
but i want her back. what sould it do?
I live in Washington State and she lives is LA. Our plan was that I go and see her
On the Feb 25th and she also has a very important registered nurse exam on the Feb 24th and now she had to push her exam coz she can't fucos.
right now all i can think about is that she needs space even though she told me she doesn't needs space and time to fucos on her exam.
now that she just broke up with me and became friends again.
my plan is that im still going to LA
and hope she will try and talk to me
what should i do
I want her back
Updates?
She is confused it's the exact same case of mine.. After lots of fights she broke up.. Then she said she needs time to rethink.. Then one day she agreed to continue.. Another day she again said she is not comfortable but wants to be friends to know me better.. I said no she still keeps on sending messages to stay in touch.. My 2 cents are to just ignore her till the time she calls you and ask for a relationship again
Spilt up from my girlfriend on 02/12/22 after an argument and I text her to end it. Instantly regretted it and tried to stop the text but it had already sent. Told her I didn’t mean it and she left the same night. She said 10 days later she wants to remain friends and I was gutted. Am meeting her on Friday 23/12/22 to exchange Christmas presents. It’s her 50th Birthday on 28/12/23 and I’ve bought presents for that as well.
I don’t want to be her friend and want her back as my girlfriend. What should I do? 😢
Oh man! You were so close to making the dignified exit. It would have been better had you not tried to excuse your breakup text, but instead you handed her the dumper's hat and took the self esteem hit rather than her. That's pretty shit! I was in that situation years ago and carried on chasing her at the expense of my own personal growth and career development. It ate away at my self esteem and did not make me appear attractive to other people. I eventually abandoned hope for reconciliation and decided to put myself first. In just a few years I completely transformed my life and moved far closer to being my truest self, which I would never have achieved if she were around to distract me. 10 years later and she ended up chasing me and she fell head over heels and we did end up dating again. Unfortunately it seemed that she really hadn't grown up in that decade and eventually started to show her more toxic side, but yet again she proved to be a very good learning experience though it was somewhat bittersweet.
No matter how you ended up in the friend zone, the only way you can progress to dating the woman is if you leave. You have to literally get up and walk out of her life completely. I think it helps to announce it to her too along with some final thoughts about your feelings for her, without boosting her ego in the process. You then must stay out of all contact for no less than 2 years and in that time reinvent yourself. Do those things and if you then return you won't be returning to the friend zone but rather you'll be considered like just another new guy that she meets. You'll have an opportunity to re-attract her if you play your cards right. Keep the cards close to your chest though, don't reveal yourself too much. Don't get carried away if she becomes attracted to you once more. If anything play hard to get.
Bro i have said multiple times to break up with my girlfriend but she stops me and convinces to stay. Women knows that men says this when they get aggressive so chill.. If she wants to be with you.. She won't take that text seriously
Really wish I had seen this video a few months ago. All the on again, off again yo-yo'ing sucked. I have been feeling used and dismissed and know I have myself to blame for allowing that to happen to me, but, here I am. I know it will get better and damn, I hate this feeling but now I know where I went wrong, well, at least the "let's be friends" part.
Went through this about 3 months ago. Met this girl from work. She broke it off since I want txting her enough I guess. Even though I came over quite often and took her out a good bit. Never ignored her and was mostly responsive when she did txt me. So I was confused when I happen to not txt her for a full day and then it happened once more about 2 weeks later. She broke up with me through txt. Kissed my ass about how good a guy I am and blah blah blah. Then the I'd love to remain friends line came in. It's awkward as fuck when she happens to work the same day I do. I respected her choice and haven't talked to her once since. But sometimes for whatever reason it bothers me. Not because of her in particular but the feeling of someone dumping you. Sure hits that ego and self esteem even if our relationship was not all that serious nor long. My brain is fucked I guess haha
Damn same situation.. Only difference is we had lots of fights and i was also a bad guy for many reasons.. At last she gave up and still asked for time to rethink.. Then she said let's be friends again and based upon that il decide for rltn.. Somewhere it was not bad as break up reason was valid.. But still I refused
Hello cris please make video on long distance relationship. 🙏🙏
Thanks for understanding everything
So my girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. But we hang out every once in awhile. When we hang out she holds my arm and holds my hand. And even hugs me and kisses my face when I leave her house .Is she having seconds thoughts about the break up? She's cool and I would like to be with her. But I'm lost on what to do. Someone help please.
Some other coaches say to be friends with your ex, or at least keep the lines of communication open so you can meet up and reattract her....
You're really awesome man
Why so men need this explained to them
Cause we aint taught it and are spoon fed fairy tales and dating advice from the 50s
@@Bucky1836 exactly
The idea of easy sex makes you think irrationally sometimes. That's why exes need to be cut
@@guacaquio no piece of ass is ever easy or free 🤨
@@Bucky1836 when they temporary boomerang back to you after realizing the grass wasn't greener, that could be the easiest sex you'd ever get. Wether it's a huge mistake or not, that's another story
I told her it wasn’t a good idea if we stayed friends and she moved on and found someone else. Use this with caution
If she moved on then she wasn’t going to come back to you anyway if you remained friends. It’s still a win-win for you because you don’t need to waste your time with someone like that.
Steve00077 she actually said because I said that she thought i had moved on and didn’t want anything to do with her anymore so she went for someone else.
Yeah still not buying it. I think she is full of shit. Of course she is going to explain things in an attempt to make herself look good. I think it’s pretty low of her to end the relationship, and then later try to put the blame on her.
She was already on the hunt for someone else. She made that decision when she wanted to just be friends; women don’t want to only be friends with someone they really like.
Judge women by their actions, not their words. If they lose attraction for you, they will be on the hunt for someone else. They will be on the hunt whether you are their friend or not.
What was she going to do? Continue to be friends with you for years and refuse to date another guy? Of course not.
I think it’s pretty low of her to end the relationship, and then later try to put the blame on you*.
Also if she really liked you and thought you had moved on, she would panic at the possibility of you replacing her with someone else. Especially the possibility you’ll find someone hotter. Competition is a big motivator for women.
@@Steve00077 Competition is a big motivator for women. - True that. It's a shame that young guys don't know this.
Awesome example
Just stay friends with benefits
I was wondering if i should do this since i only have her in rotation.
Did this but she still got angry at me for small things and ultimately took sex off the table. Not worth it even for the temporary pleasure
What will I do I have same situation like this she has someone else now but she wants me to be only friend and she need favor something for me now. I give what she want or no deal?
What if she still loves you but not in love with you!?
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Hi will you have it available on audible at any point? I purchased your atomic attraction it was great. I’m married but I feel like she’s at the beginning of pulling away. Everything is ok but I rather deal with this now while is not really an issue rather than waiting. Thank you
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It is more complicated when that woman is your wife for the last 15 years and you own property and dogs together. Not so easy to end it and just walk away. If you do you can be looking at serious pain. Divorces and property division can be very expensive.
That goes without saying
Will this information apply to married couple?
What if she break up with u and wants to be your friend but u don’t wanna be in that situation and don’t wanna be her friend but she blows your phone and constantly try to talk to u.
I've been friends with my ex for 20yrs .
Nice nice advice.buddy.
Nice nice.
Mine cheated on me and I confronted her about it she cried and apologized and I forgive her after a 2 weeks later we had an argument and I told her we need space she started crying and I told her I forgive her again, but after that she told me she wants to break up I tried to talk to her so we can settle the issue but she insisted, so now am giving her space and going on no contact but she keeps calling me please what should I do?
Walk away because she's still fucking that guy. Have some self respect!
Oh gosh! Some men are totally beyond help!
Leave her alone. When she cheated and you confronted her she felt guilty. She was sorry that she got caught (especially if she never caught you doing anything leaving you with the upper hand)..When you angered her she took that power and opportunity to reverse everything to make you the bad guy As if you really did something to her...Leave her alone she’s manipulative
All these things prove that getting into relationship is easy but maintaining it is hell difficult.. And as a child I used to thought getting a gf is a challenge.. Damn
Hey i am talking to a married women more than 1& half year and i think she has friend zone me because she is seeing other married man. I caught her so many times to seeing that man but she always makes an excuses that she has no intention like that and she never try to make an effort to see me and meet me she always talking on the phone. I think she is talking to me for emotional support and time pass. Recently I cut all the contact with her.
Bro y u after married women stop spoiling life of other men it's immoral and bad man.. Please target young girls I know it's tough but work on yourself man
1st point " there was some trust issues "
Just Run idgaf about anything else. Keep that dooor open
I have enough friends. Goodbye.
i like this type of video more then cartoon way
Walk away ASAP
Even if the relationship is more than 4 years and now she says we need to break up but stay as friends but not a couple. What’s the plan here?
Exactly ^
Exactly bruh
But dont agree on staying friends
@@ICTGEEKS-iyush although it was mutual break up as we didint feel the love anymore
I’ve been with my gf for a year and all the sudden she’s working more and it seems like I’m not in the picture as much .. she asks me to watch movies and cuddle kisses me once and a while but no sex or I love you anymore. Is she wanting just friends or is she over working she does have her own business and school but idk anymore. Help me please!
Thank you
It's not friendship, it's backup plan.
You're in the queue.
She'll use you for her own validation and ego boost.
Hello no. My ex girlfriend broke up with me and destroyed my heart and she still wants to be friends. I will never just be her friends. Either were together or not.
Updates?
Women also do the, we can still be friends just incase they need help with something.
If she does not specify that she wants to be friends with us, how do we figure it out?
After No Contact, when we get back together "Is there a way to tell if she wants relationship back or just wants to be friends?"
She looks like she is attracted to me. But, I don't know for sure. This video has confused me compared to your previous videos.
If she wants a break up, it automatically make you only ‘friend’ at best. Dont debate it just simply walk away. Have dignity. By that she can see you as a high value male and have options.
We want animation videos... sir
Content is more important.
Look back into this guys channel most of his subs came from this style of video. Get over yourself
Bosana after 4 weeks of no contact I deactivated ig my ex hit me up last night asking if I blocked her I replied 6hrs later saying “I played dumb w her for a while then said nah don’t worry u good” she said “Okok 😊” what that mean?
She is just curious nothing else
Never settle for 2nd place.
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What if she's the reason why you're alive because I'd lived in a rural town with her about a year ago I had an aneurysm a stroke and open heart surgery and if she wasn't at the house that day if she was at work I'd be dead
Women do that if she wants him as a backup plan