My ex is begging for a friendship with me he can’t believe I’m treating him like an enemy. When the very reason I broke up is because he was talking to his ex behind my back, nasty jokes, ego strokes ! Man I don’t need his energy around me, he betrayed me !!!! Im explaining to him that he’s not my enemy, he’s just unecessary !!! Future husband needs clear aura around me to come thru !!! Tony taught me !!
Yup, thats what little boys do, my ex left me in 1999, married, divorced, then said i treat him like a enemy when i never responded, like hello, you left ME for someone else mcfly!!
"Friendship" to these dudes is creating an ongoing connection to you and he can "get that" whenever he feels like it when saying the right words. If I was mistreated, WHY would I be your friend? That ish is insane to me! If I have associates that treated me better, guess where you stand lil buddy...
Women need to stop believing these men. You are better off alone. You can do bad all by yourself. Being a desperate and thirsty woman allows men to use you unnecessarily. Stop believing that singleness is a curse as Tony says because It is not. "He don’t want YOU!!!!l” lol. That’s so hard to face for most women.
Tony you are so right. Grown boys sabotage the relationship so a woman can leave. They cannot just say it. I've been through this. Everything you describe is 100% spot on.
Friend ship after a breakup is not a practical experience because if you have been intimate with them it will leave you vulnerable to having an unhealthy relationship with your new potential partner.
"A MAN WHO WANTS YOU... AND IS EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE TO YOU...AND CAN SEE YOU AS A WIFE... WILL NOT PUT HIMSELF IN THE FRIEND ZONE..." -Tony Gaskins Now that's good! 💯👌🔥🙌 Had to put it in the comments for the person who may not watch til the end. Everyone needs this knowledge!
Ladies it’s okay to walk away!! I repeat ITS OKAY TO WALK AWAY, it doesn’t matter how many years or time you put in that’s is no excuse to put up with bullshit. Let him be someone else’s problem, understand this if you are not wanted at a place know when to leave. Please don’t comprise your dignity and respect for the sake of the amount of “years/time” you put in.
Woooo this is deep. Majority of grown boys are cowards ! They rather leave clues or throw hurtful things in your face to make you leave instead of just saying how they feel .
I always tell guys we got to be friends first before we date. I use that time to observe. All the times I've heard "I don't date my friends..." Okay, but through that observation you trying to sleep with me during the friend phase...tells me your friends ain't good enough to date, but you can use them for s*x....no, we ain't making it to the dating phase.
Cut him off completely! There is friendship after he tell you he don’t want to marry you. You can’t have your cake and eat it too! My ex wanted a relationship after telling me he couldn’t see himself marry me. Hell no, kick rocks.
I can’t believe it... Today I just got a call from my ex after a year of break up. Tony never misses. I’ll listen carefully now... God bless you abundantly!! (Tony’s videos have been my therapy throughout the whole year!)
Are you listening carefully to Tony by going on about your business or listening carefully before you decide to try again? Whatever you decide is your choice and your life, I’m just trying to fully understand your comment.
@@msknich0le absolutely I’m going on about my business . As the guy in the video he just asked me for a friendship. I’m just an ego filler and I know that. I said we are never going to be friends point blank period
Everyone has gotta have that shitty/toxic relationship to appreciate a better one. Without making mistakes we won't learn all about dynamics, boundaries and negotiating etc
Thank God l never did a thing for my exes, kept my legs close, my purse, no laundry or cooking and off l go about my business waiting for my hubby l regret nothing that's the more reason they are my exes and no friendship with exes.
ABSOLUTELY!!!! The part about having a timeline because men have no problem using women as a placeholder (08:25)! These men need a deadline, lol - ladies don't waste your time!
What about the men who marry the “do girl?”We have to keep in mind that just because a man married you doesn’t mean he is doing it with the right intention.
When, will women get that, you can’t remind friends with these men. What does it benefit you to have him as your friend? All, you do is give him access to be his counselor & bed buddy. Have more respect for yourself, and move on.
I learned that, if i wouldn’t be ok with my man having a friendship during our relationship. Then i shouldn’t allow men to “can we be friends” me to death - thanks for making “become what you want to attract” great again!
You're right, Tony. Men just don't want to break up with women. My ex did misbehave, so that I would dump him. I had enough self esteem to give him what he wanted. He did not love me anyway.
I am married and still watch these videos. I love getting your perspective on things, but I honestly watch most of the time for the laughs 😂😂 you are low key a comedian 😂
You did the right thing by breaking up with him because he didn't share the same relationship goals as you . Since he now has a girlfriend, I wouldn't entertain him being his friend. Block his number and move on . It's harsh, I feel you , but moving on is necessary 💯
When a man admit to cheating on you he’s done with you! 💯 facts! Red flag! we have to listen when they tell us all we have to do is listen and not make excuses to stay! ✌🏽 Tony dropping big facts! Blessings TG to you and the Queen 🙏🏾
I don't think a man not wanting to be married or have kids means he might be gay. I know gay men that want kids and marriage 🤷🏾♀️ I just think he didn't want her!!
Tony speaks on the collective, not the sum, meaning he generalizes regarding most of the men he knows or has come across. There's always exceptions to the rule. And he says this from time to time, but he doesn't state that in all videos because he assumes that we know he is never speaking on the exception to the rule. 🙂
He defined the gay man he was talking about; he said a man that is still in the closet and still dealing with women. Are those the gay men you are referencing? Just curious.
Unless you high school sweethearts and even then I really don’t trust a man commitment energy until after 30. Men have a problem with commitments in their 20s. Friends at any age after dating Is really a no. DONT LET A MAN WASTE YOUR 20s
Why people want to be friends with their ex will always be beyond me. There is absolutely no reason to be friends especially when you share no kids and even when you do, put them in a void of nothingness until it's relevant to the kids. Go make some new friends lol
Glad I came across your comment. Woman to woman, Sis to Sis...My ex tried to pull the friend card after our breakup. So I blocked my ex and his whole family. However, I let him keep in touch with my three kids (whom none are his) via their own cell phone. I really don't want to because he's not the God-fearing man for either of us but my ex husband ain't shit so it's kinda beneficial right now. Should I continue to use him for money and helping with my kids?? Should I just let go and let God and take the struggle with stride?? Your honest opinion??
@@CherryGoddess901 Hey Sis!... Woman to woman. I wouldn't take money from an ex that I want nothing to do with. Leave him where he's at and move on with your life. There's no point doing all that blocking but leaving room for him into your life (financially) plus he may look at it differently and think you want him back. I pray that God helps you in the areas you're struggling in and give you the tools to better yourself. You've got this sis!
Tony has me cracking up laughing every time with the things he says in his videos....I swear I'm already goofy and he makes it worse 😂😂😂 "A woman's intuition is typically always right unless she's snortin powda" lmboooo ....please stop lol
The new one can have them headaches and them sleepiness nights. Not literally I don't wish bad on nobody. but that's the only thing that will come with keeping him
He’s confused af. Smh He knew he didn’t want her within those 3 years but strung her along for another 3 years. She was naive to make things work when he had doubts about being committed. When a person tell you the first time please believe him. Ain’t no making it work. Go on bout your business in Tony’s voice.
Bro Tony you so on point being a Do girl for a man when he's not equivalent to me he ain't showing me husband qualities. I've been there and see some of my family members doing what you saying with there man. Lord help us women to wake up to these grown boys ways.
Definitely. Glad I woke up in time. I used to be that do girl and didn’t realize it . not anymore. I dropped out of the dating scene for now. Glad I did.
I left in silence after being lied to about several things. Did that and got such a wonderful young man. If I didn't walk away from the situation I would never meet my man or consider him as a partner :)
On the playing for the other team part, these "red pill" men are not seeking for marriage because they feel it does not benefit men. He may be one of those. Other than that, staying as friends after a breakup is setting yourself up to be a safety blanket. You will be stuck while watching him go through relationship and eventually be married and have kids.
Tony I go watch your greatness video when I work out . I love it ! It’s real positive motivation. Thank u for helping me become the women I am becoming 🧐😇
This video!!!! Was AMAZINGLY HELPFUL AND EYE OPENING! there were so many similarities in the writers story to what I’ve experienced, and I’m glad Tony broke down the caveats and nuances, I needed to hear this one and I’m glad I did the right thing by “going about my business” and moving on for good this time.
It's true ladies. A man who didn't love me would not admit to cheating on me. He told me it was my assumptions so I need to correct my thinking 🤣 men will lie til the end
Some men I swear will make you think it's just your imagination ,my x husband tried that and at that time I was so naive and believed him.Only to realise I was been fooled. Refused to do the friendship thing ,it was hard in the beginning as i moved to his country without no friends and family. I went on about my business and made new friends.
@@winblessed1357 yes they will tell you you don't know what you talking about and etc Jedi mind trick 😩 & why would you want to be friends with someone who couldn't even be faithful to you that's how I keep myself from falling into that trap. What type of friend is that? Friendemie
Just because he cheats but doesn’t admit to it doesn’t mean he wants you. It just means he wants to have continued access to you. He knows that by admitting to cheating he will never be able to get back with you if y’all ever run into each other in the future. A man who wants you would never cheat on you to begin with.
It's refreshing to see a stand up guy in this day and age💯. It's only the power of God that will keep a man or anyone of us on the straight & narrow. These are perilous times. We all have a free will, either we're take heed to the warnings, or volunteerly be caught up in deceit and destruction. I pray you're strength Mr. Gaskins and the souls that are desiring to be whole 🙏🏼
These dudes out here need a whooping like literally. Because its like for one are we in this relationship or we not? Make up your mind. And nah i don't do no friends with benefits because we ain't friends period. There ain't no way a woman and a man can be friends without no feelings attach. Especially from a break up men sometimes make me wanna hit em. Because they either play too much or they just get on my nerves.
@@mymakersdaughter6041 me too 🤦🏽♀️. I thought dating someone older would be better than dating guys my age who are out here just wanting hook ups. They’re no different.
Wish i had some Gaskins in my 20's, 30's& 40's !!! The truth about Men's ways was never obvious to me-- thank God I always kept focus on my talents and career or these baby men would of left me with nothing!
If a man wants to be friends after the relationship is done is common. Simply when they call, ask are we getting married any other answer than, YES, a DATE and RING hang up, shut down the QUEEN and he’ll be gone anyway. Because men are smooth as wormwood, you may have to do it every time he calls. If by some chance he’s called you on it, keep that QUEEN LOCKED IN THE CASTLE until the wedding day! My experience not something I read or heard!
Truth Tony! I've been best friends with my male friend for almost 23 years and would never mess that up. We don't make any passes at each other cuz we value our friendship heavy!! Don't mess with friends💯
Depends on age too. A 49 year man, married 3x and says he dont want to get married. May just have to believe him. Nothing to do with being gay or if the woman is not the one.
Well I’m still friends with my ex after 10 years together. I wasn’t in love with him and as far as I know he wasn’t either. Sometimes two are better as friends then they are together. He’s happy with his significant other and I’m happy for him as well. I believe it’s all about maturity and understanding in my opinion. It’s not an issue for me but i can see why it would be for others. But hey, that’s just my prospective. Not all minds believe and think alike and that’s ok as well..
That’s what my ex did, he text me instead telling me to my face, I packed up the same day and left, crying the whole time, but proud that I too don’t need you✌🏾
Tony is right. This man has her as a place holder. She needs to walk away. Her ex has a new girlfriend. She's at risk of becoming a friend with benefits if this man decides to cheat on his girlfriend with her. He's going to use his love for you to get back in.
I am so sorry for the barrage of comments but I really, really love it when you say, "point blank, period." Please trademark that little phrase right there. The T shirts will be cool.
Stop trying to be friends with your ex-boyfriend. HE wasted your time once; do not allow him to "hang" around.
Exactly!!!👏
Yup 100% correct!
Okay....Exactly
A man does not tell a woman he no longer wants her, he just moves on by cheating
true
That is so true
Or like my ex did, just go get married, then try to reach out to me years later lol
@@jesuswilljudge7296 wow
@@Melissiabeats yup, he went ghost , then reached out years later, some nerve.
I wish more women would leave after being disrespected/cheated on/ etc. and never come back.
Precisely no access to me
It is not black and white. You can communicate boundaries and see if they change first. You don’t just leave at the first disrespect
People know how to treat people do not mistake it
Did that and got such a wonderful young man. If I didn't' walk away I would never meet him or consider him as a partner :)
@@acd1168 yes you need to leave depending on what it is.
Yea I don't believe in friendship after a break up. Once it's over it's finish. GOT TA GO !
Yep!!!
right lol
Friendship is just a smokescreen
Lol
Bye👋👋👋
My ex is begging for a friendship with me he can’t believe I’m treating him like an enemy. When the very reason I broke up is because he was talking to his ex behind my back, nasty jokes, ego strokes ! Man I don’t need his energy around me, he betrayed me !!!! Im explaining to him that he’s not my enemy, he’s just unecessary !!! Future husband needs clear aura around me to come thru !!! Tony taught me !!
Yessss hunny that’s right !
Yup, thats what little boys do, my ex left me in 1999, married, divorced, then said i treat him like a enemy when i never responded, like hello, you left ME for someone else mcfly!!
"Friendship" to these dudes is creating an ongoing connection to you and he can "get that" whenever he feels like it when saying the right words. If I was mistreated, WHY would I be your friend? That ish is insane to me! If I have associates that treated me better, guess where you stand lil buddy...
Yes... sis .. CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Preach!!!!
“If a man puts himself in the friend zone, leave him there.” TG
Powerful!!!!
💯 Powerful
Leave him rested 👋👋
"You trying to show him you are wife material and he is not showing you he is husband material". - TG
I couldn’t do it. If I couldn’t stay in the relationship, there’s no need keeping a man in my life. Staying friends does not help the healing process.
Not at all! That is why I said NO, we cannot be friends!
That’s what I be saying 🙄 folks trying super hard to be the “bigger person” on the expense of their healing and personal growth.
Same No need to remain friends if we couldn’t or didn’t work out in the first place and It definitely does hinder the healing process
Right. Going through this now. Thanks for this confirmation
@@Livelearnapply I just got out of it!!!
"A woman intuition is typical right unless you snorting powder.." Trust that gut sis!!!
Women need to stop believing these men. You are better off alone. You can do bad all by yourself. Being a desperate and thirsty woman allows men to use you unnecessarily. Stop believing that singleness is a curse as Tony says because It is not.
"He don’t want YOU!!!!l” lol. That’s so hard to face for most women.
You better preach!
We choose which lies to believe.
Tony you are so right. Grown boys sabotage the relationship so a woman can leave. They cannot just say it. I've been through this. Everything you describe is 100% spot on.
When a man admits to cheating he ready to be done. TG
Yep.
My ex refused to admit any wrongdoing.
Friend ship after a breakup is not a practical experience because if you have been intimate with them it will leave you vulnerable to having an unhealthy relationship with your new potential partner.
"A MAN WHO WANTS YOU... AND IS EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE TO YOU...AND CAN SEE YOU AS A WIFE... WILL NOT PUT HIMSELF IN THE FRIEND ZONE..." -Tony Gaskins
Now that's good! 💯👌🔥🙌 Had to put it in the comments for the person who may not watch til the end. Everyone needs this knowledge!
Ladies it’s okay to walk away!! I repeat ITS OKAY TO WALK AWAY, it doesn’t matter how many years or time you put in that’s is no excuse to put up with bullshit. Let him be someone else’s problem, understand this if you are not wanted at a place know when to leave. Please don’t comprise your dignity and respect for the sake of the amount of “years/time” you put in.
Amen! U said it! KEEP STEPPING!
"Listen to me, listen to me now....." He never cheated on you Sis. He was just living his life at the expense of you well-being!
Yes Tony. If a man wants to be with you, he will never tell you he cheated on you.
Woooo this is deep. Majority of grown boys are cowards ! They rather leave clues or throw hurtful things in your face to make you leave instead of just saying how they feel .
U said it! So right!
Wheeeew you ain’t lying about that!!
And that's why I never wait for then to say it. They show me one time and I'm out.
Omg so right!!!
No friends after a break up ✌🏾
"A man will use you as a placeholder," - Tony G.
true🎯
There is no friendship after a break up if his next woman is me. That is something that I do not allow lol
That is one of the reasons I broke up with my grown 👦🏾! Too many ex female friends who were once girlfriends. I’m good!
Then they don’t tell you all of that until you already locked in.. smh
@@mindyours6347 they don’t need to tell me anything. I always ask during the getting to know each other phase
I always tell guys we got to be friends first before we date. I use that time to observe.
All the times I've heard "I don't date my friends..."
Okay, but through that observation you trying to sleep with me during the friend phase...tells me your friends ain't good enough to date, but you can use them for s*x....no, we ain't making it to the dating phase.
@@lifetimesocialdistancer6113, great idea. I'm going to use your method going forward.
HISTORY does not equate to FUTURE !
Yup sis, history is in the past and needs to stay there.
Periodddd imma start using that now thank you!!!!
@@jennifertorres-morales4505 It’s facts ... we learned from experience. ♟🎱
TRUTH!!!!
Preach!
Cut him off completely! There is friendship after he tell you he don’t want to marry you. You can’t have your cake and eat it too! My ex wanted a relationship after telling me he couldn’t see himself marry me. Hell no, kick rocks.
You did good 👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾
@Iris19 Session Yep, KICK THEM HARD! What's he sticking around for? He just taking up SPACE IN YOUR LIFE!
This really took a turn as soon as he addressed the “struggling with sexuality” part. *Takes notes*
Seriously!! It’s happening so much! 😭😭
I can’t believe it... Today I just got a call from my ex after a year of break up. Tony never misses. I’ll listen carefully now... God bless you abundantly!! (Tony’s videos have been my therapy throughout the whole year!)
Are you listening carefully to Tony by going on about your business or listening carefully before you decide to try again? Whatever you decide is your choice and your life, I’m just trying to fully understand your comment.
@@msknich0le absolutely I’m going on about my business . As the guy in the video he just asked me for a friendship. I’m just an ego filler and I know that. I said we are never going to be friends point blank period
@@LucreziaGirelli Good for you Sis 🙏🏾🖐🏾
@@PeaceBeStill- thank you lovely! God bless xxx
@@LucreziaGirelli
He doesn't deserve your friendship/ camaraderie
Everyone has gotta have that shitty/toxic relationship to appreciate a better one. Without making mistakes we won't learn all about dynamics, boundaries and negotiating etc
I couldn’t agree with you more
True true 😞
You're not wrong
Not completely so. Sometimes we can learn from other people's mistakes.
@@inprogress5210 exactly
Tony is right I was doing everything as girlfriend and I am done with this I want a real man who will married and value me as wife.
Yes!
Amen Sis going forward
Exactly sista
Close your legs, your purse and start listening to him. Open your ears and pay attention to red flags.
Thank God l never did a thing for my exes, kept my legs close, my purse, no laundry or cooking and off l go about my business waiting for my hubby l regret nothing that's the more reason they are my exes and no friendship with exes.
ABSOLUTELY!!!! The part about having a timeline because men have no problem using women as a placeholder (08:25)! These men need a deadline, lol - ladies don't waste your time!
Majority of males are little boys thats why
What about the men who marry the “do girl?”We have to keep in mind that just because a man married you doesn’t mean he is doing it with the right intention.
I finished my education all the way through a Master’s and here Tony is still taking me to school 🤣
Right!!!
That's real....👍
Tony is PHD Level- Prophet Heaven Delivered! 🙌🏾
@@SoultanicalsTube you hear me!!! Lol
When, will women get that, you can’t remind friends with these men. What does it benefit you to have him as your friend? All, you do is give him access to be his counselor & bed buddy. Have more respect for yourself, and move on.
Let's talk about it, cuz I'm not the one to be friends after a failure!
Same🙋🏾♀️! You don’t get any of me after a failure.
Right....all in or all OUT !!!!
In Divorce court now...cheating....had to Let go to Grow
Me either! Call me petty Betty but I have enough friends lol
@@Bgrace15
Same
He has a girlfriend dear..you no longer need to worry about him he has lover/friend ....move forward cut all ties
Yet another reason to make sure that my sons know how to do basic household chores...
“This ain’t my homeland anyway, I’m from Africa” 🤣🤣🤣
Naw that took me out 😭😭
@@Leci_Bella24 really funny
🇳🇬 😹😹😹😹
I learned that, if i wouldn’t be ok with my man having a friendship during our relationship. Then i shouldn’t allow men to “can we be friends” me to death - thanks for making “become what you want to attract” great again!
Some of this stuff Tony talks about is just as plain as day, in our face. Using commen sense and not playing the games FEELS SO GOOD.
You're right, Tony. Men just don't want to break up with women. My ex did misbehave, so that I would dump him. I had enough self esteem to give him what he wanted. He did not love me anyway.
You’re right bro. I thought I knew what I wanted before the age of 25 but I didn’t until I was 28
I am married and still watch these videos. I love getting your perspective on things, but I honestly watch most of the time for the laughs 😂😂 you are low key a comedian 😂
TG, You kill me when you say “I left y’all purse 👜 in the other room! 😩😩😂😂
Tony is so funny!
HILARIOUS!
You did the right thing by breaking up with him because he didn't share the same relationship goals as you . Since he now has a girlfriend, I wouldn't entertain him being his friend. Block his number and move on . It's harsh, I feel you , but moving on is necessary 💯
What if he was the one that brought up marriage to you..? 3 times to be exact but never officially made me his girlfriend..?
In Tony’s voice: “Gon bout yo business”
Tony needs to make some shirts with that on it !! 😎
😧😂😂😂😂😂😂😋😂😂😂😂
When a man admit to cheating on you he’s done with you! 💯 facts! Red flag! we have to listen when they tell us all we have to do is listen and not make excuses to stay! ✌🏽 Tony dropping big facts! Blessings TG to you and the Queen 🙏🏾
I don't think a man not wanting to be married or have kids means he might be gay. I know gay men that want kids and marriage 🤷🏾♀️ I just think he didn't want her!!
Facts
Tony speaks on the collective, not the sum, meaning he generalizes regarding most of the men he knows or has come across. There's always exceptions to the rule. And he says this from time to time, but he doesn't state that in all videos because he assumes that we know he is never speaking on the exception to the rule. 🙂
He defined the gay man he was talking about; he said a man that is still in the closet and still dealing with women. Are those the gay men you are referencing? Just curious.
Me either. Same with women. I've helped raised other people's children so... no thank you. I might try marriage again,though🤷♀️.
he said he may be in the closet OR don't want her
Unless you high school sweethearts and even then I really don’t trust a man commitment energy until after 30. Men have a problem with commitments in their 20s. Friends at any age after dating Is really a no. DONT LET A MAN WASTE YOUR 20s
I wish I had sharpened up in my 20’s and made better decisions with men. Lesson learned. I definitely won’t be wasting my 30’s. I’m wide awake now.
“now you finna come out and say you like mens” 😂😂😂😂
Why people want to be friends with their ex will always be beyond me. There is absolutely no reason to be friends especially when you share no kids and even when you do, put them in a void of nothingness until it's relevant to the kids. Go make some new friends lol
Glad I came across your comment. Woman to woman, Sis to Sis...My ex tried to pull the friend card after our breakup. So I blocked my ex and his whole family. However, I let him keep in touch with my three kids (whom none are his) via their own cell phone. I really don't want to because he's not the God-fearing man for either of us but my ex husband ain't shit so it's kinda beneficial right now. Should I continue to use him for money and helping with my kids?? Should I just let go and let God and take the struggle with stride?? Your honest opinion??
@@CherryGoddess901 Hey Sis!... Woman to woman. I wouldn't take money from an ex that I want nothing to do with. Leave him where he's at and move on with your life. There's no point doing all that blocking but leaving room for him into your life (financially) plus he may look at it differently and think you want him back. I pray that God helps you in the areas you're struggling in and give you the tools to better yourself. You've got this sis!
My point excatly 💯👊🏽Thank you
@@Bgrace15 Thanks Sis for the wise encouraging words. God bless 💪🙏
The friend crap is a smokescreen
Tony has me cracking up laughing every time with the things he says in his videos....I swear I'm already goofy and he makes it worse 😂😂😂 "A woman's intuition is typically always right unless she's snortin powda" lmboooo ....please stop lol
I’m so easily amused and he makes it worse for me too😂😂🤣🤣🤣
I love it 😂😂😂😂
I believe Tony just because he says himself used to be a ‘dog’ and he knows the game!
It makes total sense. He’s a man too.
The new one can have them headaches and them sleepiness nights. Not literally I don't wish bad on nobody. but that's the only thing that will come with keeping him
Tony is right about the man telling you about cheating. It’s tight but it’s right
This young man does not know what or who he wants, but he does know what and who he does not want. Cut your losses sweetheart.
He’s confused af. Smh He knew he didn’t want her within those 3 years but strung her along for another 3 years. She was naive to make things work when he had doubts about being committed. When a person tell you the first time please believe him. Ain’t no making it work. Go on bout your business in Tony’s voice.
if a relationship is over, we can be friends, from afar!
I remember my husband cheated so I left. My mom said she wouldn’t let another woman come between me and my husband. Sad. Divorced.
You are right about that Tony! Men NEVER admit they cheated ☝🏽 even if you found them in the act.🤦🏼♀️ He will say: "That wasn't me". 🤣🤣🤣
Right! No Man admits to cheating unless it's during an argument and they're throwing low blows!#...Or you catch them.
Bro Tony you so on point being a Do girl for a man when he's not equivalent to me he ain't showing me husband qualities. I've been there and see some of my family members doing what you saying with there man. Lord help us women to wake up to these grown boys ways.
Lordt! U teaching this thang sir🔥 So many women stay in situationships because of time, not realizing the bond and respect been gone!
I want a “point blank PERIIIODDD” shirt😍💯😍
You doing wifey things but he’s not showing you he’s a husband. Come on now, that’s it right there. Smh
Many men want to continue to get access to emotional labor and women's bodies even after the relationship ends. I don't do the friend thing with men.
Keep on keeping it REAL Tony. Being a "Do Girl" is a wasted investment. 😒 Time is so precious and you can't get it back.
Definitely. Glad I woke up in time. I used to be that do girl and didn’t realize it . not anymore. I dropped out of the dating scene for now. Glad I did.
A lot of hard truths in this video 🥴 but I needed this. Thank you 🙏🏼
Haha same!
Same!!
Samee
I’m gone get my shirt! Point blank Periooddt! let’s support Tony! 🙏🏾🤗
Me too! There are several other of his sayings I want in a shirt as well. I think he should do a multi pack so I can get all of them.
I want BLOCKEDT!!! t-shirt.
@@ingridfrancetravels That one too!!!
I left in silence after being lied to about several things. Did that and got such a wonderful young man. If I didn't walk away from the situation I would never meet my man or consider him as a partner :)
“I’m from Africa, and they done brought me over here” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I don’t know about y’all but I crack up at most of his videos. Yes he drops knowledge. But he is hilarious 😆
This went LEFT 😂 I had no idea this was going to go where it did. No friendships after break up 🚫 Got it 😂
God thank you for giving me strength at my lowest ❤️👑💪🏾
I love tonys girl voice impressions😆
Same here & all the acting 😂😂😂😂😂
Oh yeah the best part of his coaching, the role play part 😆
On the playing for the other team part, these "red pill" men are not seeking for marriage because they feel it does not benefit men. He may be one of those. Other than that, staying as friends after a breakup is setting yourself up to be a safety blanket. You will be stuck while watching him go through relationship and eventually be married and have kids.
Yeah, it's a no for me. Stay blessed tribe✨
Tony I go watch your greatness video when I work out . I love it ! It’s real positive motivation. Thank u for helping me become the women I am becoming 🧐😇
This video!!!! Was AMAZINGLY HELPFUL AND EYE OPENING! there were so many similarities in the writers story to what I’ve experienced, and I’m glad Tony broke down the caveats and nuances, I needed to hear this one and I’m glad I did the right thing by “going about my business” and moving on for good this time.
It's true ladies. A man who didn't love me would not admit to cheating on me. He told me it was my assumptions so I need to correct my thinking 🤣 men will lie til the end
Correct your thinking 🤣🤣🤣the lies 🤦🏾♀️
@@winblessed1357 I swear 🤦🤷
Some men I swear will make you think it's just your imagination ,my x husband tried that and at that time I was so naive and believed him.Only to realise I was been fooled. Refused to do the friendship thing ,it was hard in the beginning as i moved to his country without no friends and family. I went on about my business and made new friends.
@@winblessed1357 yes they will tell you you don't know what you talking about and etc Jedi mind trick 😩 & why would you want to be friends with someone who couldn't even be faithful to you that's how I keep myself from falling into that trap. What type of friend is that? Friendemie
Just because he cheats but doesn’t admit to it doesn’t mean he wants you. It just means he wants to have continued access to you. He knows that by admitting to cheating he will never be able to get back with you if y’all ever run into each other in the future. A man who wants you would never cheat on you to begin with.
A man will DIE before he admit to cheating....so sad.....as Eddie Murphy said "wasn't me" 😂😂
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It's refreshing to see a stand up guy in this day and age💯. It's only the power of God that will keep a man or anyone of us on the straight & narrow. These are perilous times. We all have a free will, either we're take heed to the warnings, or volunteerly be caught up in deceit and destruction. I pray you're strength Mr. Gaskins and the souls that are desiring to be whole 🙏🏼
These dudes out here need a whooping like literally. Because its like for one are we in this relationship or we not? Make up your mind. And nah i don't do no friends with benefits because we ain't friends period. There ain't no way a woman and a man can be friends without no feelings attach. Especially from a break up men sometimes make me wanna hit em. Because they either play too much or they just get on my nerves.
I would like to be the first one in line to hand out a whooping!!!
@@mymakersdaughter6041 😂😂😂😂 I agree I bet most women be wanting to stand in line next. These men today in 2021 are not gone make it
@@lavenderwhiteroses8508 Yes!! I recently dealt with a 55 yr old one. Seriously🤦🏾♀️! I’m exhausted😩!!!
@@mymakersdaughter6041 me too 🤦🏽♀️. I thought dating someone older would be better than dating guys my age who are out here just wanting hook ups. They’re no different.
@@deliteful1991 Not at all☹️
I left y’all 👛 in my room😂🤣😅! I’m going to send Tony an extra set of earphones, because I need him to have them on hand when called for.
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You right about that TG they will lie to not hurt you 💯💯💯💯
Love the emails from my age group. We need your advice most - breaking the cycle 👍🏽
i agree!
Wish i had some Gaskins in my 20's, 30's& 40's !!! The truth about Men's ways was never obvious to me-- thank God I always kept focus on my talents and career or these baby men would of left me with nothing!
If a man wants to be friends after the relationship is done is common.
Simply when they call, ask are we getting married any other answer than, YES, a DATE and RING hang up, shut down the QUEEN and he’ll be gone anyway. Because men are smooth as wormwood, you may have to do it every time he calls.
If by some chance he’s called you on it, keep that QUEEN LOCKED IN THE CASTLE until the wedding day!
My experience not something I read or heard!
Truth Tony! I've been best friends with my male friend for almost 23 years and would never mess that up. We don't make any passes at each other cuz we value our friendship heavy!! Don't mess with friends💯
Tony did a video on men and women being friends. The man is just waiting for his shot! 23yrs and counting
@@trinap.8904 I seen it and we are no longer friends, cuz he may be gay and cut me off smh
Depends on age too. A 49 year man, married 3x and says he dont want to get married. May just have to believe him. Nothing to do with being gay or if the woman is not the one.
You still have to GO. Marriage is required by God. Believe him and get going.
@@TiffanyFG yup, I did. Lucky it was only 4 months.
Tony I’m pissed ! How you forget our purse ( the iPhone charger cord) ?! 🤣😭👏🏾I live for that “Got To Go “ moment! This letter was soooo good !
Wow. This facts this man speaking!
Well I’m still friends with my ex after 10 years together. I wasn’t in love with him and as far as I know he wasn’t either. Sometimes two are better as friends then they are together. He’s happy with his significant other and I’m happy for him as well. I believe it’s all about maturity and understanding in my opinion. It’s not an issue for me but i can see why it would be for others. But hey, that’s just my prospective. Not all minds believe and think alike and that’s ok as well..
That’s what my ex did, he text me instead telling me to my face, I packed up the same day and left, crying the whole time, but proud that I too don’t need you✌🏾
Tony is right. This man has her as a place holder. She needs to walk away. Her ex has a new girlfriend. She's at risk of becoming a friend with benefits if this man decides to cheat on his girlfriend with her. He's going to use his love for you to get back in.
I am so sorry for the barrage of comments but I really, really love it when you say, "point blank, period." Please trademark that little phrase right there. The T shirts will be cool.
Men Don't know age 25, 30, 45, 50........
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Help us bro. I wanna do the right thing and I am 💯
Look at God. Amen. 🎉
Block, blocked
Charge it to the game.. At this point the whole friendship is irrelevant none existing
My feelings hurt . I was a placeholder 😭😭😭😂
Me too.
Me too
We all had to learn. Don’t feel bad. I’ve been there too😔. But we’re strong women. We’ll pull through.
I was as well 🤣🥺
Yep had to kiss a few frogs 🐸 before the real deal
I’m literally crying over here 😂😂😂😂
Yay first to comment, have a blessed day all!!!🙏❤
Blessings to you too 💚💚💚
Your thumbnail picture looks amazing !!
@@joyaparris1427 Thanks!
Shes so young but don't waste your 20s 30s w this guy... no way he out there playing around and doesn't want commitment LEAVE HIM WHAT A GIRLFRIEND