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  • @ContraPoints
    @ContraPoints  5 лет назад +53086

    【IMAGINE HOW A WOMAN FEELS】

  • @sycastells1212
    @sycastells1212 4 года назад +10963

    Nothing says "hypermasculine" like a man who feels the need to explain why baking doesn't make him a woman.

    • @havocgr1976
      @havocgr1976 4 года назад +448

      Imagine all the millions of chefs in the world explaining themselves lol

    • @alyosha917
      @alyosha917 4 года назад +37

      To be fair I think he's poking fun at himself there lol

    • @mattz.9677
      @mattz.9677 4 года назад +83

      Roosh V is a grifter who doesn't even believe half the stuff he pushes. If he could make money off it, he would swallow the Blue Pill

    • @gnolo
      @gnolo 4 года назад +161

      There is nothing hypermasculine in a man feeling the need for using the word hypermasculine to describe himself

    • @sycastells1212
      @sycastells1212 4 года назад +1

      True.

  • @eman22017
    @eman22017 3 года назад +4597

    Steps to being masculine:
    1. Identify as a man.
    2. Live your life the way you want.

  • @krjames203
    @krjames203 6 месяцев назад +579

    I love the irony of how the phrase “Imagine how a woman feels” is used in that opening text.
    My assumption going in was that it meant “Imagine a woman’s inner experience.”
    But no, it turned out to mean, “Imagine the external, physical presence of a woman.”
    Which seems to be a major part of the problem for incels (and other sexists).
    They know all too well how they respond to the outward appearance of women.
    But actually taking the time to imagine real women’s experiences is more than they’re interested in doing.

    • @zermanman9891
      @zermanman9891 5 месяцев назад +11

      There’s nothing wrong with women. Nobody would hate women if they were a chad. So the problem is not with women but with our genetics.

    • @gamernerd299
      @gamernerd299 4 месяца назад +18

      As a former cell, its meant to pick at isolationist catastrophizing. Physical touch is something I'd imagine most people need, and these guys are really alone, so that pain of it's lack is amplified.

    • @Yeatismygloriousking
      @Yeatismygloriousking 4 месяца назад +3

      Bro his post had nothing to do with that it ain’t that deep 😭 incels can be sexist but you can’t draw anything of the sort from his post

    • @lucasgibson2131
      @lucasgibson2131 4 месяца назад +4

      @@Yeatismygloriouskingit was a metaphor bud

    • @lucasgibson2131
      @lucasgibson2131 4 месяца назад +4

      @@Yeatismygloriouskingand a good one

  • @mushahidhussain1516
    @mushahidhussain1516 Год назад +1988

    I don’t know how to say this, but you literally saved my life few years ago. I had commented at that time and really used your link to block incel forums. I deleted that comment sometime ago but I just wanted to tell you again that you really really changed my life, specially by sharing your experience, it made it relatable. Love you and have a great life ahead. I hope you read this and it makes your day.

    • @jasminepandit9861
      @jasminepandit9861 Год назад +114

      I don’t know about her, but I read this and it made mine :) So happy that you’re doing better now and I hope you have a great life ahead as well!

    • @amyfinlayson7101
      @amyfinlayson7101 Год назад +20

    • @funkypunkypine
      @funkypunkypine Год назад +27

      It made my day, too! Much love to you, whoever you are. ❤

    • @hana-a-cha
      @hana-a-cha Год назад +66

      Hey, good job! It's great Natalie could be your entering point, but recovering and changing your life is entirely your doing, I really hope you recognize it and give yourself a whole lotta credit for this. Best wishes to you, brother 👍

    • @AbuBased731
      @AbuBased731 Год назад +6

      [Sand]Çel=It's ØvER lol

  • @planetofthegapes
    @planetofthegapes 3 года назад +7444

    I'm not a baker, I'm a wheat architect.

    • @moamenmoataz6135
      @moamenmoataz6135 3 года назад +268

      lmao i'm a flour operations specialist

    • @fancydragon221
      @fancydragon221 3 года назад +217

      I am the muffin man

    • @rainbrowz
      @rainbrowz 3 года назад +34

      okay, this one got me 😂

    • @einkaya
      @einkaya 3 года назад +89

      I am not a baker, I am a gluten expert

    • @mikek9297
      @mikek9297 3 года назад +12

      Baking is more science than art tho. A great past time for anally retented.

  • @genevieve6446
    @genevieve6446 5 лет назад +2897

    woman brain: baker
    galaxy brain: b r e a d s c i e n t i s t

    • @LlamassU__
      @LlamassU__ 5 лет назад +14

      Top 10 ways to get laid as a chef

    • @m0thdm
      @m0thdm 5 лет назад +4

      GALAXY BRAIN

    • @stephaniebrady31
      @stephaniebrady31 5 лет назад +15

      I'm a woman, and a scientist.
      Does that make me an actual FEMOID?!?!?! 😵
      HAHAHA 😆

    • @poldmalone1084
      @poldmalone1084 3 года назад

      @@stephaniebrady31 no! That word is a horrible word and it’s so painful that people actually use it!

    • @walterl322
      @walterl322 3 года назад +6

      Imagine being so insecure in your gender that you have to justify your hobbies and prove that they're masculine hobbies...

  • @nikolasgiannakidis2881
    @nikolasgiannakidis2881 Год назад +1581

    "These pricks care enough about my pussy to be an asshole about my dick" has to be THE most poetic and confusingly surreal sentence I've heard in my life! Well done

    • @errrkt
      @errrkt 11 месяцев назад +16

      tru! it was epic the first time i watched. 4 years on, still a banger.

    • @nikolasgiannakidis2881
      @nikolasgiannakidis2881 11 месяцев назад +10

      @@errrkt yeah guess I'm kinda new to the channel. It's been a delight so far

    • @tortis6342
      @tortis6342 10 месяцев назад +6

      @@nikolasgiannakidis2881 Yesssss. Come to the Contra-side.

    • @mygills3050
      @mygills3050 8 месяцев назад

      @@errrkt burger

    • @eddybrevet6816
      @eddybrevet6816 3 месяца назад

      @@mygills3050 after England gained some sense a quit following our advice and again made prostitution legal, they don’t hv this problem anymore

  • @buttermypickle5054
    @buttermypickle5054 Год назад +2883

    As a former incel I wish I could just go back and save myself from the pain I caused myself. I almost died because of that godawful community and my social skills are DogShit now but at least my goal in life isn’t dying anymore

    • @alas6260
      @alas6260 Год назад +243

      Traitorcel

    • @buttermypickle5054
      @buttermypickle5054 Год назад +10

      @@alas6260 if not wanting to die makes me a traitor than so be it. I hope you realize that you can be better than this. The incel community doesn’t give a Fuck about you! Please leave them I beg you it’s not too late to be a better man. Your pain is valid my friend don’t yet any shallow men hating woman tell you otherwise.

    • @quesadilla9957
      @quesadilla9957 Год назад +411

      I’m glad you’ve come back to reality and away from hatred. It must be hard trying to communicate with others after so much loathing, but you’ll get there sooner or later.

    • @user-mv6yv9ec1b
      @user-mv6yv9ec1b Год назад +69

      @@buttermypickle5054
      No woman is gonna offer you sympathy bro

    • @buttermypickle5054
      @buttermypickle5054 Год назад +454

      @@user-mv6yv9ec1b bruh my mom literally saw me almost self delete myself and I survived and she was worried for me what crack are you smoking?

  • @AslanW
    @AslanW 4 года назад +4646

    "I'm not insecure in my manliness, I just like to bake bread because of *s c i e n c e* which is *m a n l y"*

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 4 года назад +99

      These idiots actually think they created science 😂

    • @miaj8680
      @miaj8680 4 года назад +83

      @@A_Caat How much bread have you eaten?

    • @cossin281
      @cossin281 4 года назад +36

      I think you mean *strikes pose* TRANSCENDENTALLY MALE

    • @FirstLast-qf1df
      @FirstLast-qf1df 4 года назад +4

      The guy in this video is so insecure about his manliness that he dresses up as a woman

    • @yucheung5853
      @yucheung5853 4 года назад

      Hab keinen bock mir einen Namen aus zu denken dioooooooo!!!!!

  • @Katzunowo
    @Katzunowo 5 лет назад +35050

    I lost my mind at the guy trying to justify liking baking by making it appear like some sort of masculine science
    He definitely has a case of the fragile masculinity

    • @reddddd4090
      @reddddd4090 5 лет назад +309

      i was thinking about subscribing to this girl and then i saw ur comment and now i def am. Love ur voice, art style, and vids, keep it up kat

    • @The_Jovian
      @The_Jovian 5 лет назад +664

      I honestly thought it was a joke at first

    • @timesweeper9778
      @timesweeper9778 5 лет назад +74

      Oh hi Katsun. Didn't expect to see you here.

    • @howsjames1
      @howsjames1 5 лет назад +984

      I do a lot of camping and foraging and male fragility is soooo bad. My favorite example is that no man will call it 'sewing', they have to call it 'repairing' or else they'll spontaneously grow a vagina even though sewing is one of the first things you learn when you start spending time in the woods.

    • @treeforged9097
      @treeforged9097 5 лет назад +60

      We all know how much you people like mocking fragile people.

  • @reignelover7222
    @reignelover7222 10 месяцев назад +278

    I always like to rewatch this vid every so often. The part where she talks about purposefully going on harmful forums, and the rationale behind it reminds me a lot of my own time when i was struggling with an ED and lurked in online forums as well. It's the same thing; people posting themselves, KNOWING that everyone is only going to say harmful things, with no intent of actually helping you. It's an incredibly toxic environment, but in a twisted way its almost addictive. I haven't visited these forums in almost a year, but it also took me physically blocking these sites and pages to get me to stop.

    • @dkupke
      @dkupke 9 месяцев назад +10

      It’s an abusive relationship

    • @KNR6292
      @KNR6292 7 месяцев назад +10

      Its made worse after you know its no good for you, but youre stuck in a cycle of leaving and coming back

    • @TheLucidDreamer12
      @TheLucidDreamer12 3 месяца назад +2

      ​@@dkupkeit's worse than that. One of the things that separates incels from other hate groups is that the method of convincing people to join is not scapegoating, but vindication. For not an insignificant part of the population, the narrative incels try to sell was their real experience or witnessed happening to someone close to them. This makes it that much harder to quit because it isn't convincing someone to hate something they didn't already hate before. Rather, it's promising forgiveness and solace, a modern-day version of church indulgences

    • @dkupke
      @dkupke 2 месяца назад

      @@TheLucidDreamer12 I see definite parallels to the door to door campaigns some by shady congregations like the LDS church or the Jehova’s witnesses. They are deliberately annoying to draw a negative response from people so the poor saps that get roped into it can limp back to the congregation to get love bombed. It’s manipulative af. I’ve also read of men who were in that dark place but happened to have the luck to strike up a relationship-and “the community” turns on them with a vengeance. The worst thing you can do is stray outside the bubble.

    • @lisaharris452
      @lisaharris452 2 месяца назад +2

      @@TheLucidDreamer12 Interesting point. Thanks.

  • @isabell3462
    @isabell3462 10 месяцев назад +82

    Abigail really imagined a woman so hard she realized she was one. Iconic

  • @heliopolitan444
    @heliopolitan444 5 лет назад +12213

    *Imagine believing that having sex is the pinnacle of human existance.*

    • @chickennuggets3186
      @chickennuggets3186 5 лет назад +1059

      @@toserveman9317 do you believe sex is the pinnacle of human existence? that's kinda...

    • @petersmythe6462
      @petersmythe6462 5 лет назад +660

      From an evolutionary standpoint, reproduction kinda is.

    • @chickennuggets3186
      @chickennuggets3186 5 лет назад +338

      To Serve Man oooh okay, so what you're saying that the importance of sex not only comes from orgasms but also the love/attraction to your partner that is inherent in many sexual relationships? If thats so then i understand your point, love, and the sex that usually goes with it, is a very important part of life, but i still think it shouldn't be considered the ultimate goal, I honestly believe there's greater things than romantic/erotic love, maybe you don't, and that's fine too, but i think you shouldn't let it consume you to the point it negatively affects you mental/physical health

    • @chickennuggets3186
      @chickennuggets3186 5 лет назад +234

      Peter Smythe i mean, sure, but that's the difference between humans and animals, we developed more complex goals than the ones nature gave us

    • @r.j.grayson6899
      @r.j.grayson6899 5 лет назад +141

      @@petersmythe6462 forgetting that evolution also bends to those who can adapt to survive to procreate. We can look objectively at animals and their ancestors and go "they didn't adapt to meet their needs; they died off because of this, that or a combination of reasons."
      Humans can do the same. Not everyone will get to have sex. It has never been garaunteed. It definitely isn't a "right" designated by society. Some will adapt and change as needed. Others won't.

  • @EloquentTroll
    @EloquentTroll 4 года назад +7320

    Pick Up Artists and Garbage Men should really trade names.

  • @shachi50
    @shachi50 Год назад +872

    Im not saying this for pat on the back but just to let it out. This video made me realize a few things about myself, I was slowly leaning towards a few beliefs of incels over time through isolation. I opened my eyes to how I was treating myself and loved my ones around me, I was disgusted and ashamed of myself and decided to turn my life around. I’ve been working out, eating healthy, and seeing a therapist and I may not be where I want to be in my life but I’m so much happier than I used to be. I’m becoming more confident in myself as a man and my looks, I take care of myself like I should. Im not always on top of my game, but I’m taking a step in the right direction. When you want & strive to be better than you were, you can and will achieve greatness.

    • @smeesquatch
      @smeesquatch Год назад +61

      You should be very proud of yourself! It takes an incredibly strong person to look themself in the mirror and decide to pull themselves out of the dark hole they're in. It won't always be linear progress but you're already doing so much better than you were. I wish you all the best, you deserve to live a happy, full and confident life!

    • @alfsleftnut9224
      @alfsleftnut9224 Год назад +48

      Same here. I've realized that there are specific women who have treated me poorly in my life, but they are not represenatie of all women. I, just like you have also lost a lot of weight, I am down to a weight where I am only slightly overweight. I've gotten and held a good job. I just find it very hard not to hate my self still.

    • @emilia885
      @emilia885 Год назад +21

      thats really fantastic dude :) you deserve to be happy, and I'm happy for you. you clearly have a very strong character and willpower, I hope you are proud of that

    • @nope_118
      @nope_118 Год назад +15

      @@alfsleftnut9224 Congratulation! you have taken the first steps. It wont always be easy and as the comment above says healing is not linear but you are doing great and I hope your journey will continue on well!

    • @ei9310
      @ei9310 Год назад +8

      This comment made me really happy and inspired to try more too

  • @helenamirian908
    @helenamirian908 Год назад +2085

    As a retired-from-sex lesbian who is now happily married to the sea, I identify with a lot of this and again, I thank you, Natalie, for your brilliance.

    • @MondeSerenaWilliams
      @MondeSerenaWilliams Год назад +49

      Wow. I want to be like you.

    • @lif6737
      @lif6737 Год назад +43

      Now that’s a goal

    • @Ozzie_Mandias
      @Ozzie_Mandias Год назад +40

      So your a stateless pirate?

    • @indigo478
      @indigo478 Год назад +1

      I’m a straight man but I’d also like to fuck the sea

    • @sandobando9390
      @sandobando9390 Год назад

      i absolutely hate lesbians they aint good people

  • @brycelavender2255
    @brycelavender2255 3 года назад +1969

    I bake
    But I no women
    I big man
    Bake science
    Men like science

    • @citizeninsane8518
      @citizeninsane8518 3 года назад +3

      reminds me of Contrapoint's intro in her video about men

    • @mfrebel7831
      @mfrebel7831 3 года назад

      Brillant!!

    • @cocopus
      @cocopus 3 года назад

      its really easy to put people down

    • @MiketheNerdRanger
      @MiketheNerdRanger 2 года назад +3

      I like cookies

    • @jymbo1969
      @jymbo1969 2 года назад +5

      @@cocopus he put himself down.

  • @lancem3443
    @lancem3443 4 года назад +5125

    My favorite thing about incels is that they think they know everything about women despite rarely ever talking to one

    • @culturalcatholic4235
      @culturalcatholic4235 4 года назад +389

      *never talking to one

    • @claudioestrella1160
      @claudioestrella1160 4 года назад +39

      The very definition of incel means you try to have be in a intimate relationship, to do that you need to talk to woman.

    • @brandidavis4425
      @brandidavis4425 4 года назад +341

      Oh, but don't you know? All that pseudoscience they read makes them eXpErTs

    • @ettinakitten5047
      @ettinakitten5047 3 года назад +274

      @@claudioestrella1160 Sending unsolicited dick pics and messaging girls with "hey" from your blank account doesn't really constitute meaningful conversation.

    • @claudioestrella1160
      @claudioestrella1160 3 года назад +20

      @@ettinakitten5047 all incels do that?

  • @ZeranZeran
    @ZeranZeran Год назад +428

    "Whatever hurts is true" - is a quote that has been burned into my brain because of you, and I mean that in the best way possible.
    Was never an incel, but this video seriously opened my eyes and made me consider a lot of things about myself, and why others are the way they are. Thank you.

    • @barnaliadhikary9421
      @barnaliadhikary9421 7 месяцев назад +8

      Whatever hurts...not necessarily have to be true... It's a blatant generalization

    • @sandenson
      @sandenson 6 месяцев назад +9

      ​@@barnaliadhikary9421 It's a different perspective you can use to remind yourself that you're often your worst enemy.

    • @garmisra7841
      @garmisra7841 6 месяцев назад +11

      That's the negativity bias, not objectively true. We always feel like it is true ifnit hits nard and makes us uncomfortable and it's so that truth often does that. But there's a difference between the discomfort of learning something about ourselves with actual growth and the discomfort of self flagellation and fatalism.

  • @johngleason1776
    @johngleason1776 Год назад +526

    It's been years since I got out of this mindset and I always think about how different my life would have been if I never discovered Contrapoints when I was younger and kept going down this rabbit hole. Would I even be alive today if it wasn't for her videos? I honestly can't say.

  • @horricule451
    @horricule451 5 лет назад +7530

    The fact that Roosh feels like he needs to reaffirm his masculinity just because he baked bread is downright absurd

    • @wratched
      @wratched 5 лет назад +498

      What's ironic about that is there are few more stereotypically alpha professions than head chef. As a profession it's widely known to be over-represented by psychopaths, almost as much as surgeons.

    • @riley8385
      @riley8385 5 лет назад +206

      That's insecurity for ya.

    • @JRexRegis
      @JRexRegis 5 лет назад +280

      not to mention, he'd be a pretty masculine guy if he got rid of his fucking attitude, because that shit isn't "alpha" at all. The fact that he can grow a beard that thick and his facial features alone would make him attractive, but every person on this panet will be instantly turned off because of his god damn personality.
      I mean hell, if they want to follow traditional masculinity as their worldview, more power to them, but it's like they forgot that the stereotypical Man "back in the day" was supposed to be emotionally strong enough to endure his family's hardships, but also kind and caring towards his wife and children, and would cherish them above all else, even his own life.
      and he certainly didn't need to reaffirm his masculinity every time he did something "girly", because doing that is probably the most "beta" thing a man could ever do.

    • @riley8385
      @riley8385 5 лет назад +123

      Eh, I disagree. The man "back in the day" was exactly like Roosh. And I don't mean that as a compliment.
      Yes, what you described was the *image* they tried to present, but the true face was and has always been of insecurity and toxic masculinity.

    • @hexum7
      @hexum7 5 лет назад +63

      Horricule I like to approach my flower arraigning hobby as a exercise in creating a mathematical model of reality.
      Errrg!

  • @Azure_Aether
    @Azure_Aether 3 года назад +15454

    Watching a grown man have to justify baking as a hobby to himself was the most insecure thing I think I have ever seen.

    • @Eris_Norregard
      @Eris_Norregard 3 года назад +853

      For me, the most insecure thing I've seen until now was my friend, a 6'3" man with a beard, typically dressed in biker boots and leather jacket, who started feeling unsure about his masculinity because among all the heavy metal bands he liked he also found out he likes David Bowie. Just let that sink in.
      Then I saw this piece about baking science and I have to admit, it takes the cake.

    • @MissPoplarLeaf
      @MissPoplarLeaf 3 года назад +246

      @@Eris_Norregard Literally takes the cake, because it's about baking! 😆

    • @alexandriatrenier7366
      @alexandriatrenier7366 3 года назад +282

      And it’s horrible that he feels like that. Men who bake shouldn’t be shamed

    • @John_Malka-tits
      @John_Malka-tits 3 года назад +53

      Yes men are insecure, pick on them more if it makes you feel better.

    • @MensHominis
      @MensHominis 3 года назад +299

      @@John_Malka-tits - how would you come up with that interpretation of the comments above, are you intentionally taking the worst twist possible? The video might be for you.
      I mean, hell, I am insecure about looking too soft as a man quite often (though I know it's irrelevant), but do you really think it's about mockery of male insecurity when we laugh about insecurity about bakery? The dude is a damn pick-up artist!

  • @fizzymilk2246
    @fizzymilk2246 Год назад +755

    I genuinely love the way you talk about these issues objectively instead of taking the low-hanging fruit and making fun of these communities. This might be the first time I've heard someone take down the incel viewpoint with sympathy, and it takes so much more effort that way. I know most people would've made a shitty 10 minute clickbait vehicle laughing at these assholes, including me

    • @manteca5699
      @manteca5699 Год назад +53

      Even with how this great this video is, there is still a lot of people in the comments who just missed the point and are doing just that, making fun off. As she said in other videos, like the one about cancelling, attacking someone won't change their opinion, it'll just make it worse, and for that imo it is so important to try to understand and disuade instead of to ridiculize and demonize a group.

    • @deanfirnatine7814
      @deanfirnatine7814 Год назад +21

      The media tell us to hate them and have zero sympathy for them so we should do what our media over lords say right? Props to her for actually looking deeper and with some empathy.

    • @sabsain2399
      @sabsain2399 Год назад

      @@deanfirnatine7814 well, incels fxcking suck and their opinions, ideologies and ideas brew venom and hatred and it's their fault for being like that. So yeah, fxck them. And no, I've seen more people align with incels and misogynists than people that disagree with them

    • @Electro_Katarina
      @Electro_Katarina Год назад +2

      Agreed! Also great profile picture!

    • @fizzymilk2246
      @fizzymilk2246 Год назад +1

      @@Electro_Katarina ty :)

  • @Gormathius
    @Gormathius Год назад +58

    Jesus that opening is a great way to find out how innocent you are. That took "imagine how a woman feels" in a completely different direction from what I expected, even knowing the topic is incels.

  • @arthomancy
    @arthomancy 5 лет назад +8242

    incel's perceptions of chads & women feels like they watched a couple of those stereotypical high school dramas & proceeded to base their entire worldview on it

    • @lumen8341
      @lumen8341 5 лет назад +454

      I mean, in a lot of cases that's pretty much where it started :/

    • @blackmagnetictape
      @blackmagnetictape 5 лет назад +222

      not to mention the whole incel mental narrative is point for point seen in a lot of songs too (teenage dirtbag by wheetus, anyone?)

    • @merrittanimation7721
      @merrittanimation7721 5 лет назад +22

      That's what I was thinking

    • @pattykrabbies
      @pattykrabbies 5 лет назад +6

      Jesus...

    • @pattykrabbies
      @pattykrabbies 5 лет назад +28

      blackmagnetictape aw dang that song was catchy :/

  • @devchatterjee9642
    @devchatterjee9642 5 лет назад +3106

    I'm sorry as an indian guy I cracked up when i heard the word "chadpreet". the creativity lawl.

    • @notsafeformiranda4271
      @notsafeformiranda4271 5 лет назад +70

      Dude all of this is so funny I understand

    • @OmotolaALawal
      @OmotolaALawal 5 лет назад +323

      I died at RICECEL and CURRYCEL wtf😂😂😂😂. i honestly Expected "Tyrone" and "Chang"....but not Chadpreet. Khan would have been better.

    • @james35813
      @james35813 5 лет назад +67

      The fact that the other two are real names had me floored lol

    • @cargoloyalty9978
      @cargoloyalty9978 5 лет назад +46

      I Call Bullshit I kinda wish Tyrone started with a Cha like the others. They really let the ball slip on that one.

    • @AnisaThePunk300
      @AnisaThePunk300 5 лет назад +83

      no literally im half indian and that was so funny to me...i feel like i never see SE asians referenced specifically in online discourse and that took me out

  • @femboy_fatale69420
    @femboy_fatale69420 Год назад +50

    as a young trans guy, I'm just realizing that I have a similar sort of self-destructive habit, seeking out brutally honest feedback about whether or not I pass. I always get pissed off when people I know tell me I look like a guy because I know they're lying to me and I hate it. I just want them to tell me I look like a little girl and get that satisfaction no matter how much it hurts. If there were a forum like that for trans men I might have found, I probably would have fallen down that rabbit hole too.
    Thanks for talking about this, and great video as always ContraPoints

  • @misterblueskyyy
    @misterblueskyyy Год назад +58

    I've come back to this video again and again for years. This is what gave me valuable tools against lifelong self loathing- which I have spread to other people as much as I possibly can- that I had never heard the like of before. It's also what got me to wake up and recognize my own dysphoria. Five years later, I'm a man. And I'm more myself and more alive than I ever thought I could be.
    I can't thank you enough.

    • @painunending4610
      @painunending4610 2 месяца назад +1

      You were never an incel

    • @thebubbleking5317
      @thebubbleking5317 11 дней назад

      Yoooo trans brother!! Congrats on your discovery and welcome to the club ~ or happy one year anniversary to the club, either one :)

  • @sadstarfish7
    @sadstarfish7 5 лет назад +2401

    You can like baking as a guy. Remember the people laughing at you aren't getting the brownies.

    • @pernishkatehaswaytoomanypl8273
      @pernishkatehaswaytoomanypl8273 5 лет назад +85

      Yeah I've noticed there's so many guy-chefs on the TV

    • @ASBlueful
      @ASBlueful 5 лет назад +177

      It's really strange. Men can naturally become famous chefs, cooks and culinary authors, but women, who are normally associated with cooking, cannot as easily achieve these things.

    • @amhk5918
      @amhk5918 5 лет назад +181

      @@ASBlueful it's almost as if society just expects women to be able to cook and when they are really good it's just another girl who can cook.

    • @ASBlueful
      @ASBlueful 5 лет назад +114

      @Anon Ymous I sincerely hope that you are being sarcastic.

    • @corneliahanimann2173
      @corneliahanimann2173 5 лет назад +58

      @@ASBlueful well let's hope he never meets a woman that is better at anything than him because then he'd be sooooooo pissed

  • @hunsinger
    @hunsinger 3 года назад +5515

    I think the double meaning of the phrase "imagine how a woman feels" fits this video so perfectly.

    • @MissVindicat
      @MissVindicat 3 года назад +124

      Incel: "Don’t fuck with me."

    • @AbhNormal
      @AbhNormal 3 года назад +43

      Apologies I am big dumb. What's the double meaning?

    • @hunsinger
      @hunsinger 3 года назад +701

      @@AbhNormal The incels are using "feels" in a literal and physical sense. They can't empathize with a woman's "feelings" because they view women as sex objects, not human beings.

    • @AbhNormal
      @AbhNormal 3 года назад +166

      @@hunsinger ah ok. Gotcha👍 That really is disturbing and depressing at the same time

    • @youtubesucks2755
      @youtubesucks2755 3 года назад +34

      @@hunsinger You still don't understand what incel means. Just go to a forum and see for yourself how they feel about themselves. They view everybody as sex objects not just women, which includes them also. And they judge themselves the harshest.

  • @jennah9612
    @jennah9612 6 месяцев назад +32

    “I used to live as a man, and I’m not proud of that” had me cackling

    • @user-ec4yw5hj3r
      @user-ec4yw5hj3r 2 месяца назад +2

      yeah cause it really sucks when youre not a tall handsome male

    • @chillout8320
      @chillout8320 17 дней назад

      Literally had to switch teams

  • @magetaaaaaa
    @magetaaaaaa Год назад +229

    This is one of the worst, but the problem is much larger than this one particular community. A while back I wanted to understand OCD better so I headed over to the OCD subreddit... My god, the suicide posts, the hopelessness. It's the same thing - a belief that nothing can change, that their disability cripples them for life and there are no options left etc... If you were diagnosed and wound up there you could easily be poisoned by the mindset there. To put things in perspective there is another support subreddit for quitting caffeine. You see people there talking about taking months to recover, about getting their emotions back etc... I've never heard anyone talk about caffeine withdrawal like that before. It just goes to show that even something that isn't a big deal to most people can be made to look like the end of the world when you wind up on these forums. I am largely against support forums for this reason - you'll only see the worst of the worst and there is no therapist or neutral mediator steering healthy conversation - it's just a bunch of miserable people feeding off of each others skewed and distorted ideas.
    Someone on another RUclips video made a chilling comment - if you've spent a lot of time in very angry or polarizing places on the internet, there's a very good chance that your ideas and thoughts aren't really yours anymore. Months away will change and reset you. It is very easy to get lost in that kind of stuff.

    • @dmd91101
      @dmd91101 Год назад +15

      I've found a similar environment in chronic illness support forums. There's the positive side where you find people who understand what you go through, but there's also so much hopelessness and fear and helplessness and people who wish they were dead. I had to get away from that before I started living my life to its full potential despite the limitations of my illness.

    • @noheterotho179
      @noheterotho179 Год назад

      I mean, OCD is a mental illness that can be debilitating so it seems a bit irresponsible to compare it to incels, if a guy with incel ideology never enters a forum and is left untreated, he'll either grow out of it or just be bitter. If someone with ocd Is left untreated, they'll likely try to kill themselves.
      Getting help for OCD is so much harder than getting help for being an incel because if you tell someone you view women poorly, they'll correct you and explain why you're wrong. If you tell people your symptoms of OCD, they might very well treat you like a monster or freak, because not only is mental illness still stigmatised, a huge symptom of OCD, is your mind floods you with horrible thoughts, not 'I'm not good enough' kind of thoughts but 'I can't hold a kitchen knife or I'm afraid I'll stab my sister', now that person would never stab their sister but the illness in their minds is trying to convince them that they are capable of it. If you told the average neurotypical person that you struggled with that thought, what's the likelihood they'll be educated enough on ocd to understand that ocd often floods you with violent and hateful thoughts but they don't reflect on the person themselves? I've seen people online try to talk honestly about OCD and be told they're monsters and that their thoughts are all true reflections of themselves, even though that's literally the opposite of the truth of the illness. Now imagine getting that same hate and fear, but from your closest friends and family
      I'm personally very lucky, I'm able to imagine a very happy life for myself with my OCD and all, so I'm far from a doomer, but I think it's so unfair to judge others by myself. Just because I'm lucky enough to have a support system and access to therapy, doesn't mean everyone is, and I'm in no place to tell someone worse off than me that they should feel better and their life isn't that bad. Especially when a lot of doomerism around OCD isn't about the actual illness itself, it's about the social stigma around it. Having to hide an essential part of who you are out of gear your friends will think you're a monster is.. Well, not good for you mentally.
      Not attacking you or anything , I just thought your comparison was kind of poorly thought out. It's like being surprised and horrified that a support group for depression talks in depth about suicide attempts, in order to heal from something awful, you need to actually say what that awful thing. Thanks for hearing me out!

    • @TikoVerhelst
      @TikoVerhelst 7 месяцев назад +10

      I've come across this in the most innocent communities.
      For example the language learning community. Most people don't know this, but people learning a language/languages can sometimes form into, well, a community. And not just a bunch of turtorials about learning Japanese.
      But, oh man, the moment you're in, the moment you're like deep in, that's when stuff turns nasty. After you've taken your "Japanese for beginners" course online, that's when you'll fall into a world of insecure people all bullying each other.
      We have the six levels (A1, A2, B1, B2, C1, C2) and we can't be obsessed about skulls, but we will be obsessed about the amount of words you know and the level you think you have. (There are exams, but people will often not take those and just guess the level they are at.)
      And the term that everything evolves around is "native speaker". That's our version of Chad or getting a woman. With people in the community often having thoughts like "I'll never be a native speaker. They'll always be able to clock me." As a lot of people want to learn a language and speak it so well that native speakers don't notice that language is not their native language. (Basically passing.)
      A LOT of people are positive in the community. With videos like "how to start speaking to native speakers" which contradict this whole idea by saying "even YOU can talk to native speakers". Which is why I think this community hasn't become as toxic as some others yet. But man, that community can send you down some dark paths. Forcing yourself to memorize useless thousands of words of vocabulary for no real reason. Just because some internet stranger told you "you'll only be a native speaker if you know 10 000 words. Otherwise you'll never be a native speaker."
      I think every community centered around getting good at something, like music art or learning a language, has to deal with this problem.

    • @Badartist888
      @Badartist888 6 месяцев назад +7

      I find this on a lot of autistic places. Simply suggesting you can work on social skills and anxiety gets me labeled as "ablest" and "hating myself". Like I don't want to improve myself for others. I just want to be able to go to the shop without having a panic attack. And thanks to working on things for years... I can.

  • @smellyface101
    @smellyface101 5 лет назад +3293

    "Ultra masculine bread scientist"
    I'm dying. Roosh can't be a real person, he is a caricature, a parody of a human being.

    • @ShiningDialga
      @ShiningDialga 5 лет назад +258

      misanthropicbyday It shows you what an insecure simp he really is, when he has to justify something as neutral and inane as a love for baking with a reason why it makes him ultra masculine.

    • @LeoMidori
      @LeoMidori 5 лет назад +93

      Scary how many of these unanimated cartoon characters are becoming real sources of trust and information in current society. Or at least a misguided subset of it.

    • @redsands1001
      @redsands1001 5 лет назад +32

      I mean it could be a ploy. In my experience ladies have liked that I bake bread and pastries and can cook an elaborate meal. I think they appreciate the skill and effort. Of course I am dead inside in regards to romance so I'm at least a good friend to have

    • @wezzuh2482
      @wezzuh2482 5 лет назад +72

      yeah, and where did he get the idea that cooking is somehow never associated with the masculine?
      Many famous chefs have a notoriously masculine aura such as Gordon Ramsay, or even just taking RUclips's home cook as an example; Binging with Babish.

    • @XRXaholic
      @XRXaholic 5 лет назад +110

      "I garden. I'm not a woman though. Gardening is like science and men like science. I'm a flower scientist"

  • @stellarwulf
    @stellarwulf 3 года назад +4787

    You ever think humanity in general has an unhealthy obsession with romantic relationships specifically?

    • @bullymaguire2061
      @bullymaguire2061 3 года назад +121

      This is just like capitalism.
      A few men have all the money, all the power. The rest are, well... Angry.
      Similarly, a few chads have all the women, all the sex.
      I predict something similar to a worker's revolution.
      Only in this case it will be sexually frustrated men.

    • @atashgallagher1631
      @atashgallagher1631 3 года назад +393

      @@bullymaguire2061 the only way men are seizing the means of production is if they all spontaneously become gay.

    • @kaddhaficel2674
      @kaddhaficel2674 3 года назад +24

      "Unhealthy" lmao wtf ?

    • @codemonster8443
      @codemonster8443 3 года назад +22

      @@bullymaguire2061 At least you got the troll face php or I would be genuinely worried

    • @kaddhaficel2674
      @kaddhaficel2674 3 года назад +8

      @Symone Ham these people aint obessed with relationships its just dat they aint attractive enought to get casual sex, so havin a gf is the only way to get pussy, if some doesnt seem happy it means dat the sex aint good or dat the sex is becoming do secondary dat its gettin boring.
      Theres women chasin relationships but for dem its more about self-esteem, some foid almost need a bf to breathe but i believe its a minority

  • @IAmNumber4000
    @IAmNumber4000 Год назад +167

    Every once in a while the “Yes, I am outing myself as a baker. I am _not a WOMAN,_ as you can see” Bread Scientist quote enters my head and I can’t stop thinking about it 😂

  • @Violet-McGriddle
    @Violet-McGriddle 3 месяца назад +19

    Few things have helped me in my transition more than Natalie saying that her brutal self-criticism began to affect how she saw other trans women. I immediately recognized i was starting to do the same and my life has been so much better since I started working on loving myself

  • @Sleepy12ftPanda
    @Sleepy12ftPanda 5 лет назад +1866

    (hears "110 pounds of recreational equipment")
    Brain: *T h a t ' s a l o t o f d i l d o s.*

    • @Silverwind87
      @Silverwind87 5 лет назад +84

      *THAT'S A LOTTA DAMAGE*

    • @frogwart70
      @frogwart70 5 лет назад +37

      IDK those sex machines can weigh an awful lot...I hear.

    • @Silverwind87
      @Silverwind87 5 лет назад +20

      Chesh The Cat It could just be a 110 pound sex robot.

    • @breetoldyouso
      @breetoldyouso 5 лет назад +8

      best comment tbh

    • @gekkobear1650
      @gekkobear1650 5 лет назад +9

      Or a few lead dildos

  • @nisjdhsi
    @nisjdhsi 4 года назад +2253

    Dude, most people think that being able to cook well is attractive

    • @cottage-core_
      @cottage-core_ 4 года назад +268

      It is, quite literally, pretty hot

    • @ASMRyouVEGANyet
      @ASMRyouVEGANyet 4 года назад +259

      When a guy can't cook I automatically lose interest. I imagine myself having to do all the work. As much as I love to cook and in very good at it, I don't want it to become a chore. In a relationship you should share the cooking.

    • @normiesaredegeneratesthatn3331
      @normiesaredegeneratesthatn3331 4 года назад +13

      @@ASMRyouVEGANyet You want a beta male as a partner? Fuck off.

    • @cottage-core_
      @cottage-core_ 4 года назад +304

      @@normiesaredegeneratesthatn3331 Sir, you sound like you can't even make boxed mac n cheese.

    • @cottage-core_
      @cottage-core_ 4 года назад +166

      @@normiesaredegeneratesthatn3331 Cool. Get a hobby, honey.

  • @Maldanil
    @Maldanil Год назад +54

    I think this made me realise I'm sort of a gay black-pilled incel without being part of that community. I never once had the idea to hate someone for my misfortune though (although the gay community is super superficial and definitely needs to change). I do feel like because of my looks AND personality I will never be able to find a partner. I think most incels just deal with depression, social anxiety and body dysmorphia which is horrible. I wish help was more accessible and effective.

    • @lovroleutar8511
      @lovroleutar8511 5 месяцев назад +4

      There is no help for bad genetics. That is the brutal truth of life.

    • @steelheartii6525
      @steelheartii6525 2 месяца назад +8

      Dude, just try to get some help first - friends, a new hobby, a therapist maybe. If u feel happier, the relationship part will sort itself out, promise!

    • @battlemage-yx6zw
      @battlemage-yx6zw 15 дней назад +2

      ​@@lovroleutar8511Did we just watch the same video?

    • @thebubbleking5317
      @thebubbleking5317 11 дней назад +2

      hey man, I'm one year late but good on you for realizing where your thoughts are drifting to! I was told by a therapist that the first and hardest step of really starting to take life by the wheel is figuring out the core issue. proud of you dude :)
      And agreed, as a trans guy the lgbtq community as a whole just has too much infighting. We've gotta learn to work together
      edit: yoooooooo I see that Viktor profile picture !!!!

  • @pokelover02
    @pokelover02 Год назад +458

    TW:
    I was there when Elliot Rodger killed those people. I was 19. A month before that, I’d been raped. After the shooting, I watched Elliot’s videos and realized there are men out there who will rape you, and if they can’t rape you, they’ll kill you. It really fucked me up. It’s been almost 10 years now and I’m still dealing with symptoms of CPTSD. For a while, I had suicidal thoughts, but a dear friend told me that I’m valuable. To anyone reading this, just know you are valuable for simply existing ❤

    • @kataevellei415
      @kataevellei415 Год назад +45

      Holy shit. I sincerely hope you are better now, at least a little.

    • @anon3233
      @anon3233 Год назад +24

      I feel sad and sorry for you, hope you are in a better place.

    • @Sir_Bucket
      @Sir_Bucket Год назад +19

      Hope things are better for you now, take of yourself, and enjoy life as much as you can

    • @invisibleman4827
      @invisibleman4827 Год назад +38

      I'm really sorry that happened to you. As a male S.A survivor myself (albeit 20 odd years ago) I want you to know you're not alone, and there are good people on your side 🫂

    • @Wraiven22
      @Wraiven22 Год назад +16

      So sorry you went through this… can’t imagine how strong you’ve had to be. So glad you’re still here with us ❤

  • @ILoveLLawlietxD
    @ILoveLLawlietxD 5 лет назад +2124

    I'm a woman but...i can't bake bread-
    /spontaneously grows a massive beard, voice drops by 8 octaves/

    • @jimjimmy8900
      @jimjimmy8900 5 лет назад +51

      @Spanakoptia07 tf you're on about

    • @naiknaik8812
      @naiknaik8812 5 лет назад +4

      @Spanakoptia07 I think they were joking
      I wish

    • @naiknaik8812
      @naiknaik8812 5 лет назад +1

      @Solve Everything not you obviously

    • @huckthatdish
      @huckthatdish 5 лет назад +12

      Dyodoleu I am a man who bakes bread. But don’t worry I’m a bread scientist.

    • @lara_mage
      @lara_mage 5 лет назад +3

      @Spanakoptia07 u serious?

  • @ThreeArrows
    @ThreeArrows 5 лет назад +7764

    "Rope fuel"
    ...maybe the whole internet-thing wasnt such a good idea afterall.

    • @jaojao1768
      @jaojao1768 5 лет назад +78

      Three Arrows could you debunk either the Coudenhove-Kalergi or the Rothschild conspiracy theories?

    • @yellowbeard1
      @yellowbeard1 5 лет назад +39

      Sir Jaojao I’ll be honest I’ve heard of Rothschild conspiracy theories but not the other one. I’m sure if Three Arrows does a video on it the video will be great

    • @AgentDougieJones
      @AgentDougieJones 5 лет назад +65

      Internet confirmed for worst thing humanity created

    • @mrbadguysan
      @mrbadguysan 5 лет назад +66

      I was still concussed by "roastie".
      Love your work, by the way.

    • @sk8p0nk
      @sk8p0nk 5 лет назад +44

      The enternet is great because I use it for entertainment and education and not for digging into a bunch of morbid bullshit.🎈

  • @pathseeker8921
    @pathseeker8921 Год назад +135

    As a trans woman, you are one of the few people who can actually be credible when talking about what heterosexual relationships are like from both ends of the spectrum. Great video!

  • @dionelcarreno1832
    @dionelcarreno1832 Год назад +41

    I have always said that what separates a depressed boy from an incel is the environment where he develops. To this day. I still fit in the "incel" category, but what has kept me mentally "sane" is staying away from those types of toxic and harmful environments, focusing my life on seeking my own happiness and feeling comfortable with myself, while time seeking therapy when I needed it most. Life is extremely difficult when you feel like it's you against everything else, but not all truths hurt and you're never really alone. we must remain hopeful.
    Great video, immediate subscription!

    • @rhapsodyoffire5801
      @rhapsodyoffire5801 7 месяцев назад +3

      Now I'm thinking about, if weren't for the female figures in my family i would definitely be into incel forums being extremely misogynistic

    • @insirable3127
      @insirable3127 3 месяца назад

      Only looks and height matter. You will never experience love, so cope or rope.

    • @mirceapuran6404
      @mirceapuran6404 2 месяца назад

      @@insirable3127 nice try ya death cultist

    • @thebubbleking5317
      @thebubbleking5317 11 дней назад

      Hey man, hope you're doing well! Good on you for finding your own happiness :) it's hard but I hope it's been worth it in the last year

  • @kevinlechuga_
    @kevinlechuga_ 4 года назад +2675

    To this day “never heard a song in his entire life” haunts me. Why do Chads reject the gift of music

    • @tyiffpeijc8702
      @tyiffpeijc8702 3 года назад +128

      I didn't understand that. What is that referring to? Is it actually a thing that "chads" don't like music?

    • @sebastianswan7975
      @sebastianswan7975 3 года назад +102

      Never heard music is a metaphor, instead of hearing, they're living in their own music. That's what they mean.

    • @tyiffpeijc8702
      @tyiffpeijc8702 3 года назад +80

      @@sebastianswan7975 Oh, huh. I never heard that metaphor before. Thanks for explaining
      ​ @• •••• Your snarkiness is really attractive. Good to know when people have genuine questions, you'll be there to answer honestly. Get bent.

    • @tyiffpeijc8702
      @tyiffpeijc8702 3 года назад +46

      @@deepstariaenigmatica2601 lmao

    • @ganondorfchampin
      @ganondorfchampin 3 года назад +152

      The original Chad is a joke, it's not supposed to be a desirable person. It's based on an older meme called virgin walk, which is the virgin as presented on the left. The Chad on the right is actually making fun of the entire red pill ideology by taking everything about the virgin and making it as far from it as possible, pretending it's something desirable when it's just silly. The reason Chad has never listened to music in his life is just because the virgin is listening to music in the virgin walk.

  • @amanda4716
    @amanda4716 3 года назад +2881

    Something about the phrase "Chads of color" is incredibly funny to me

    • @squashfei8907
      @squashfei8907 3 года назад +367

      COC

    • @jennali9800
      @jennali9800 3 года назад +242

      It combines a somewhat stiff-sounding, 'politically correct' phrase "people of color", with a memey, informal, and non-politically-correct word Chad. The contrast is funny.

    • @rainydot5442
      @rainydot5442 3 года назад +121

      @@squashfei8907
      hehe cock

    • @vickerandflips8061
      @vickerandflips8061 3 года назад +19

      Some mgtow will see this thread and adopt this phrase

    • @SeanStrife
      @SeanStrife 3 года назад +11

      @@vickerandflips8061 ...fuck.

  • @ajakakakak
    @ajakakakak 9 месяцев назад +17

    That beginning I couldn’t help but say “okay calm down wattpad”

  • @steve93pa
    @steve93pa 9 месяцев назад +82

    Okay, I did not think I was going to stay and watch the whole 35 minutes but the way you began without the whole "your mere existence as a man is a red flag" vibe you get from most content creators (even the ones who claim they want to help you address your problems) is what made me stay. Your video didn't make me feel belittled, mocked, coddled, intimidated or anything, really; you just put the truth out there, as it is. I really like how you showed the steps on the downward spiral. I guess I'm at step 5 and while I don't think I'll go beyond it, some content creators who lack your objectivity were definitely helping me down towards step 6. Thankfully, this video helped me realize I do have friends but the way I'm going, isolating myself and all, I feel they won't stick around for much longer. I have to stop that and possibly change my thoughts about a lot of stuff. I guess I have a lot of work to do so thanks for this. Maybe I'll come back to this when I'm in a better space and hopefully say something different.

    • @Daneelro
      @Daneelro 8 месяцев назад +14

      It's good that Contrapoints made you stop at Step 5, but you need to climb back over the previous steps.
      Don't blame content creators for your downward spiral. The content you watch is your choice (or the choice of an algorithm you let make the content choices for you), and the way you understand and interpret the content you watch doesn't depend on the presenter alone but also on your biases and cognitive limitations. When people descend into cult-like communities like incels, they take on ideas that serve as thought-blockers. Contrapoints is effective because she purposefully steers around those thought-blockers. But other people who fail to do that while criticising the cult aren't the reason for your demise, the cult - which issues the thought-blockers and the toxic and irrational ideas those blockers are meant to conserve - is.
      Say, you vision things into content like a "your mere existence as a man is a red flag vibe". Identifying that vibe is something you must have been pre-conditioned to by certain content you watched previously. I'm a man who has seen several videos analysing and criticising the incel movement from several different content creators, and I never got such a vibe from anyone, it strikes me as bizarre. This certainly looks like one of those thought-blockers; this one apparently built on cultivating & enhancing a sense of male fragility.

    • @gustavsjokvist2668
      @gustavsjokvist2668 6 месяцев назад +1

      I Dr K/healthy gamer is a good resource for incels, it's genuine advice but without the nihilism

    • @Badartist888
      @Badartist888 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@gustavsjokvist2668 He is better than a lot of options and has some good advice, but I still get a weird vibe from him. I'm waiting for the inevitable scandal that comes when I get that vibe.

    • @morbidhime
      @morbidhime Месяц назад

      hope you're doing well rn mate

    • @thebubbleking5317
      @thebubbleking5317 11 дней назад

      Hey man, proud of you for realizing where you are on the ladder! Here's to getting back down to step zero, if not today then one day in the future 🍻

  • @carolinelim5557
    @carolinelim5557 5 лет назад +643

    I really hope Roosh starts taking up more "feminine" hobbies so we can see what excuses he comes up with..
    "So I've decided to out myself as someone who knits...but you know, knitting does involve a complex branch of mathematics to create unique patterns and algorithms with wool, and as men are more mathematically minded"

    • @headoverheels88
      @headoverheels88 5 лет назад +36

      "Bread Science"

    • @senorPachuChay
      @senorPachuChay 5 лет назад +15

      Bread *Scientist

    • @sumanoskae
      @sumanoskae 5 лет назад +76

      "So I've recently started frequenting gay bars... but you know, riding dick in squatting reverse cowgirl is a physically demanding activity that requires healthy muscle mass and endurance in order to maintain rhythm; men are really more suited to it than women." - Roosh, circa 2018

    • @SSelkie3
      @SSelkie3 5 лет назад +3

      @@sumanoskae this is probably the best one so far

    • @AegixDrakan
      @AegixDrakan 5 лет назад +2

      That part of the video, and this thread, are pure gold. XD

  • @matthewmurnane8742
    @matthewmurnane8742 3 года назад +2813

    I though I was an incel. I got roped into the MGTOW community but thankfully i escaped before it was too late. Now I’m just Matthew :)

    • @sleepycowboy18
      @sleepycowboy18 3 года назад +218

      Hey congrats man!

    • @oka5969
      @oka5969 3 года назад +30

      sorry for my stupidity, but whats mgtow? i hear it a lot but idk what it is.

    • @eggsandbananas4983
      @eggsandbananas4983 3 года назад +41

      Hell yeah Mathew, glad you saved your butt :))

    • @eggsandbananas4983
      @eggsandbananas4983 3 года назад +69

      @@oka5969 Men Go Their Own Way. Not absolutely sure what the movement is exactly about but I think it's a reaction to third wave feminism. You should look it up

    • @oka5969
      @oka5969 3 года назад +99

      @@eggsandbananas4983 yeah, just googled it..,,,.aaaaand it's stupid af lmao. Seems like some sad dudes wanting something to blame their patheticness for, from what I understood lol. Thanks for explaining!!

  • @artival22
    @artival22 11 месяцев назад +24

    I think its also important to mention that there are always trolls on incel forums who're just there to mock these people and cause additional harm by pretending theyre part of them

  • @Max16032
    @Max16032 Год назад +23

    The remarkable thing about this video is how you offer your perspective from both sides, which opens a wider picture on the matter instead of just simply vilifying its qualities. As you pointed out, the only real way to understand hatred, is to learn from it. Good job!

    • @Pistolita221
      @Pistolita221 Год назад +1

      And that they're suffering from body dysmorphia and depression.

  • @BrodytheCuber
    @BrodytheCuber 5 лет назад +9217

    I'm a first time viewer, and oh my god, I'm so impressed. Keep up what you're doing. It's original, unique, entertaining, and exactly what the world needs.

    • @DorfLingus
      @DorfLingus 5 лет назад +76

      BrodytheCuber I second this amazing amazing content

    • @AhoyImHarker
      @AhoyImHarker 5 лет назад +15

      Same!

    • @MarkTomczak
      @MarkTomczak 5 лет назад +40

      Also new here. You had my interest, madam, and now you have my Subscribe flag. *smashed*

    • @mynameisrandy
      @mynameisrandy 5 лет назад +37

      Welcome to the wonderful world of ContraPoints. Best political/social channel on RUclips that I am aware of, and it's not even close. So many funny and interesting videos. Enjoy your stay! :)

    • @sasukekuniski1959
      @sasukekuniski1959 5 лет назад

      nope

  • @leon6777
    @leon6777 4 года назад +3570

    "I am outing myself as a Baker"
    The epitome of privilege

    • @pridemoth_
      @pridemoth_ 4 года назад +57

      I once had a teacher say: "I gotta come out... As a Spiegel subscriber."
      We were all very disappointed

    • @phoebe.aur0ra
      @phoebe.aur0ra 4 года назад +100

      Lol my dad's a pastor and he was watching a very serious video about "closet christians" in the workplace, afraid to be "outed" as a christian because they believe they'll be fired.
      Edit: and he was also very serious about it... I came out about 2 years later 😂

    • @valeriapino2721
      @valeriapino2721 4 года назад +4

      Fynn Mint what was his reaction???

    • @mooshicks
      @mooshicks 4 года назад

      @@phoebe.aur0ra i too am interested in the response

    • @phoebe.aur0ra
      @phoebe.aur0ra 4 года назад +53

      @@valeriapino2721 lmao I came out as gay and enby and he still doesnt use my name, and also told me that he believes God will make me straight... Needless to say I've lost a fair amount of respect for him
      Edit: Meanwhile I still wear makeup, paint my nails, and most everyone else calls me Fynn so...

  • @brotherkurp
    @brotherkurp 4 месяца назад +10

    Girl your videos are literally a work of art, can't wait to binge the rest

  • @therayven741
    @therayven741 Год назад +16

    Love learning from your videos. Never heard of "catastrophizing" before. Definitely a problem I have. When I finally see a therapist, will be good to bring this up

  • @sessena7919
    @sessena7919 5 лет назад +2040

    Are you a siren trying to get us into the sea to devour us?

    • @mathieuleader8601
      @mathieuleader8601 5 лет назад +34

      Imagine Nat as Scylla

    • @user-yr8ge3fz8o
      @user-yr8ge3fz8o 5 лет назад +84

      it's working

    • @LoganMillett
      @LoganMillett 5 лет назад +37

      Personally I was pretty turned on by the rain

    • @SinisterGrapefruit
      @SinisterGrapefruit 5 лет назад +8

      Literally Propaganda i don't know if you're memeing but it was legit getting me there

    • @Khandrake
      @Khandrake 5 лет назад +11

      Just look at that ocean though

  • @victoriangm7774
    @victoriangm7774 3 года назад +4131

    Unrelated to incels, but as someone with anxiety this is the best explanation of catastrophizing I've ever heard.

    • @jeffmacdonald9863
      @jeffmacdonald9863 3 года назад +149

      Masochistic epistemology also hit home.

    • @morfrid4262
      @morfrid4262 2 года назад +76

      Yes, I was watching that part and was like "I've had that thought process about my job countless times.."

    • @wiwisjxkalnz
      @wiwisjxkalnz 2 года назад +7

      On point

    • @jessjose3638
      @jessjose3638 2 года назад +2

      True

    • @Koters9
      @Koters9 2 года назад +12

      Yea i always feel like a child of the apocalypse alot of the time :/ and not even an incel

  • @brysonbeaver6189
    @brysonbeaver6189 3 месяца назад +8

    I have to say I'm watching your video right now, not even done watching, just subscribed and am pausing the video to type this: Thank you. I am a 36 year old man, happily married for 7 years, but your videos have truly helped me understand so much beyond the scope of my own small corner of the world. You are an inspiration to me and your intellect is staggering, but most importantly, I believe you make a genuine effort to sincerely understand the topics you cover. Keep up the great fucking work. 😊

  • @mephisknowfeles
    @mephisknowfeles Год назад +27

    It extremely sad that many kids get caught in this conspiration theories. It's horrible and I have to say that the worst part is that I understand how this can happen. It is so frustrating to get rejected by girl after girl and finding no explanation. I have been lucky enough to have amazing female friends who made me see how having an irrational hate towards women is just stupid and fixes nothing, furthermore, they've helped me to find self-worth in my darkest moments.
    Nevertheless, several days a week I find myself asking why it is that girls who I like never seem to give a shit about me and why I get no matches in dating apps. Going from the red pill to the black pill is way easier than what u might think. This is a mental health issue and could become a crisis.

    • @mangss9602
      @mangss9602 Год назад +9

      i already can tell you are either short bad looking or both man it’s not your fault you are having trouble dating and if you’re truly black pilled you are already smart enough to know this

    • @thebubbleking5317
      @thebubbleking5317 11 дней назад

      hey man, hope you're doing well a year later! there's a real nasty comment above me, so I went ahead and reported it. my female friends are probably some of my most valuable friendships for how they lift me up, glad to see you've got them too :)

  • @uncensored008
    @uncensored008 5 лет назад +714

    "I am not a woman. I am ultra masculine as you can see" is one of the most insecure things I've heard a man say.

    • @SubZero557
      @SubZero557 5 лет назад +55

      uncensored008
      That was so fucking sad. I almost felt bad for him.

    • @gp8189
      @gp8189 5 лет назад +35

      hello I am man as you can visualize by the beard but even me, man with beard, enjoys sunsets???

    • @merrittanimation7721
      @merrittanimation7721 5 лет назад +35

      It really is. It's not as if baking or liking artwork suddenly causes the average woman to say "Welp, he seemed masculine but obviously a man who can stand cooking is obviously an unsuitable mating partner". Perhaps there are some women who do think like that but it occurs to me that they're not a majority.

    • @soundofroz6835
      @soundofroz6835 5 лет назад +10

      Yep, I was almost expecting him to pull down his pants to prove it at that stage lol

    • @theautisticguitarist7560
      @theautisticguitarist7560 5 лет назад +5

      I think it's possible that Roosh and other "Alphas" might themselves be Trans or otherwise queer in some way. I think it would help explain their obsession with but also deep confusion over masculinity.

  • @k_a_y_l_e_e
    @k_a_y_l_e_e 5 лет назад +3851

    i mean, honestly, all jokes aside--this is really, genuinely sad. i don't mean pathetic or pitiable, but just straight depressing.

    • @NZsaltz
      @NZsaltz 5 лет назад +377

      ​@leaves autumn Did you even watch the video? The point is that although some may be very ugly or just slightly below average, it's like an online self-harm chamber. Contra points (lol) out how there are short men who still get laid, and how a lot of incels are like that because they refuse to believe that people don't like their attitude. She highlights a post at one point where the incel literally denies it.

    • @alejandrobolin5224
      @alejandrobolin5224 5 лет назад +108

      First off, maybe it wasn't the intention but that last "How about an Asian guy?" claim just seems like you're saying that an asian guy is inherently unatractive, which I believe is not true, I've seen a lot of asian guys and women who are atractive, and if you're saying that because of their height, they can still be atractive even with that and they can still be tall.
      Either way, even though things like: height, face and body physique, can be very important things to a straight woman, I think is no different to how we straight males value those sorts of things as well in a woman, for me even "resigning" can be kind of harmful, not that being ugly is bad in any way, but it's pretty obvious that when you're unattractive you have to find new and different ways to get people into you. Specially, because "beauty" in some respects can be subjective, some of it is completely biological, sure, but a good chunk of it depends on the person. The problem with incels is not just the fact that they're "unatractive", hell, a whole lot of them are average looking guys, is that they create themselves an incredibly toxic environment that doesn't allow them to grow up as people. In this world there are pretty people, ugly people, average looking people, short, tall people, you name it. But at the end of the day, you should stop getting so caught up on those things and just learn to appreciate yourself as a person, you and nobody else.

    • @Mark-0O
      @Mark-0O 5 лет назад +55

      a female doesn't know what depression is, females have an easy ride in life, just look at how few homeless women there are, my government puts females at the top of the list for housing even before a homeless man, something needs to change in this world, men are 2nd class citizens, if I ever kill myself i will hang myself in the town centre to punish the government.

    • @snowiiiiie
      @snowiiiiie 5 лет назад +131

      @leaves autumn white women don't find Asian men attractive??? Lol have you ever heard of kpop fans, they're crazy over Asian guys. It's really about your attitude

    • @booloo2402
      @booloo2402 5 лет назад +36

      @leaves autumn that hasn't been my experience. Men I have seen who say they are attracted to "intelligent women and nice women" just go for the ones that just go for the ones that are just pretty nothing more. I'll just say this once and for all, looks at the end of the day don't matter, staying in the corner mumbling to your will never let you find some one would and would just be a self fulfilled prophesy. And if every woman you have met dissed you. I feel like that is on you and how you act. In other words Grow the fuck up and get over high school. Depression and self hate is very toxic I have been in that self hate phase. Its not pretty

  • @ATherapeuticEdge
    @ATherapeuticEdge Год назад +19

    You are.. just amazing. Moreover this was the most interesting and thoughtful, and darkly funny, examination of this psychological happening I've found. Thank you for what you do.
    -a Therapist

    • @akiko3688
      @akiko3688 2 месяца назад

      Therapy is worthless shame on those who take money from the less fortunate

  • @zebontheweb
    @zebontheweb 7 месяцев назад +16

    I’m not an incel. I’m also not an alpha male. I’m not queer, or rich, and I’m not stupid or ridiculously smart. I represent at least 90% of the real men, husbands and fathers in America. I don’t want to be alone… I want to love and be loved in return.

    • @danielsaan1976
      @danielsaan1976 7 месяцев назад +5

      fair

    • @thedude9941
      @thedude9941 6 месяцев назад +5

      I get this

    • @terminalius
      @terminalius 5 месяцев назад +9

      That's not possible nowadays with the rise of dating apps, you probably had a shot in the 2000s right before Tinder was made. But now, there's no chance

    • @icomefromoogaboogaland
      @icomefromoogaboogaland 5 месяцев назад +1

      You will never get that

    • @satyasyasatyasya5746
      @satyasyasatyasya5746 4 месяца назад +2

      well, if your cooking video is anything to go by, you're handsome and seem cool so? :)

  • @ZenGaijin
    @ZenGaijin 5 лет назад +1323

    A friend posted this and i think it's perfect for this video.
    "You can't hate yourself into a version of yourself you love"

    • @hacked6613
      @hacked6613 5 лет назад +19

      I guess it depends on what kind of person you are.
      I work off of negativity. I work off of telling myself that I’m not smart enough, not attractive enough, not in good enough shape, not hard-working enough, etc.
      I take this as a challenge to prove myself wrong. I know I can change all of this, so knowing I can become better motivates me.
      It depends on the person I guess, but I will grow a lot more in a room of people that hate me and talk shit about me than being in a room around people who tell me to love myself.

    • @collhem
      @collhem 5 лет назад +31

      @@hacked6613 I get that fuel more than empty platitudes. We reduce love to not allowing anything critical, but I think if we expand our understanding of self-love to include growth, we will improve and be better. You clearly ultimately and deeply love yourself and your ability to challenge yourself and grow in areas YOU desire (positive fuel). Our egos need to be balanced so we can be critical and better and empathetic and human. The point is to not bash ourselves into defeat or brush off any attempt to become better and pretend we are already and always perfect. True self-love fuels you into the version of yourself you desire.

    • @arthurgabriel7715
      @arthurgabriel7715 5 лет назад +8

      anderson being physically attractive is hardly worth the trouble. It isn’t even that important to begin with.
      Yes, beauty is power. However, a lot of other things are power as well, like being smart, having capital, physical prowess etcetera.
      Even so, having power/influence is meaningless in the grand scheme of things. Experiencing a happy life has infinite mediums, power or love are just two of them.

    • @hacked6613
      @hacked6613 5 лет назад +9

      Colleen Hemsing
      You put that quite eloquently, thanks for another viewpoint, I really appreciate it :)

    • @elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147
      @elanorpuppydoggowoofles2147 4 года назад

      anderson
      You can't just blame your face when skeletons are getting pussy!

  • @VHarlequinxQueenV
    @VHarlequinxQueenV 5 лет назад +611

    Your make up in this video is absolutely sublime

    • @sophia-helenemeesdetricht1957
      @sophia-helenemeesdetricht1957 5 лет назад +2

      I was just thinking that. Looking in my cellphone camera like "man, I have to up my game..."

    • @Jess-ds1dw
      @Jess-ds1dw 5 лет назад +6

      I know right?! The lipstick is especially on-point, and I love how the lighting colour changes change the way the makeup looks. Natalie stepped it UP.

    • @dantefloressq
      @dantefloressq 5 лет назад +11

      In each lighting change i was like OH. SHE REALLY BE LOOKING LIKE THAT. GOD IM GAY

    • @sophia-helenemeesdetricht1957
      @sophia-helenemeesdetricht1957 5 лет назад +6

      Yeah, I'm sitting here like "I'm way too gay for this..."

    • @VHarlequinxQueenV
      @VHarlequinxQueenV 5 лет назад +1

      Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way

  • @nerdyfalco408
    @nerdyfalco408 11 месяцев назад +11

    I didn't realize this video was old as shit until you mentioned it's *2018*

  • @subroy7123
    @subroy7123 5 лет назад +592

    *I AM OUTING MYSELF AS A BAKER*

    • @therealscarred2112
      @therealscarred2112 5 лет назад +26

      Sub Roy A Baker, or a *B A K I N G S C I E N T I S T* ? There’s a difference, you know. ;-)

    • @subroy7123
      @subroy7123 5 лет назад +26

      *The immortal U L T R A M A S C U L I N E S C I E N C E O F B R E A D I S M*

    • @subroy7123
      @subroy7123 5 лет назад +4

      No state can hold you now. Contra has already turned your heart. Dagon calls from the sea. *whispers* Go Ian....go!

    • @dominantpersona3326
      @dominantpersona3326 5 лет назад

      Gays cant eat at my bakery

    • @mariaquiet6211
      @mariaquiet6211 5 лет назад +1

      @Kirby the Fearsome and Terrible
      Of course Roosh is joking, once the internet forces him to confront how wrong or just plain ridiculous he is. "Silly SJWs it was all satire can't you take a joke???"
      Works every fucking time.

  • @magicmulgar7446
    @magicmulgar7446 4 года назад +2419

    I am a Chadcel. I am unable to get laid due to my unbelievable Chad energy.

  • @veronicablazer
    @veronicablazer Год назад +7

    this was a beautifully shot, eloquently said, incredibly impactful video! You delved deep into some really complex issues and into a sect of society that is difficult for so many people to understand and have productive conversations about. I consider myself an intersectional feminist & I really learned so much from this video - thank you 🤍 Also, convos / videos surrounding incels, misogyny, hatred towards non-cis & cis women, etc. often trigger a lot of sadness or anger in me but this was surprisingly calming (while still fully engaging)! think it’s bc of the screen play, your lovely voice and the factual yet vulnerable and relatable manner in which you explained everything 🥹💘
    Im a new subscriber & and already love your style, delivery, humor and layout is just perfect - thank you 🤍 oh and btw you are stunning - and your bone structure is 😍🤌🏽🔥

    • @painunending4610
      @painunending4610 2 месяца назад

      "and your bone structure is..."
      It never ends. It's everywhere and it will never go away.

  • @marctestarossa
    @marctestarossa Год назад +9

    This is the best f*in video on the topic I have ever watched

    • @marctestarossa
      @marctestarossa Год назад +5

      AND you're a gorgeous goddess among us mere mortals

  • @coolbingo385
    @coolbingo385 5 лет назад +663

    God imagine being so caught up in your own rhetoric that you have to give masculine reasons for BAKING BREAD.

    • @gloriousbeaver2000
      @gloriousbeaver2000 5 лет назад +1

      being a baker is the most manly thing you can do

    • @pubbiehive
      @pubbiehive 5 лет назад +7

      baking bread is alpha af

    • @bluchismoon
      @bluchismoon 5 лет назад

      He seems to not remember the long history of male bakers...

    • @ginsuma1402
      @ginsuma1402 5 лет назад +3

      If any of you sissies actually had a group of normal Chad male friends, you'd know something like baking some f*cking cookies is going to get you made fun of...in front of the bros you counteract it by say something like "I'm not gay or nothing but I'm baking cookies"
      Nothing to do with wanting to force masculinity into anything...it's literally so we avoid a little stupid joke like "Oh you're baking bread!! What are you Martha Stewart!!!"
      Do we think baking cookies is gay??...No is our friend gay for baking cookies???...Yes

    • @MrsBlack88
      @MrsBlack88 5 лет назад +4

      Some of the most masculine men I know (“alpha males” if you will) are incredible bakers/chefs. And frankly? That makes them all the more attractive because it increases the possibility that I get surprise brownies. Hurrah!
      (P.S. - for those of you who say OHHH bUt ItS nOt mAnLy aNd My BrOs WiLl MaKe FuN oF mEeEeE....get new friends.)

  • @cyancyborg1477
    @cyancyborg1477 5 лет назад +928

    When the RUclips algorithm actually works and you find something great.

    • @AlbinoAxolotl
      @AlbinoAxolotl 5 лет назад +33

      I know right!? I kept seeing this in my recommended and finally clicked on it. This is a great video! Thanks RUclips for recommending someone awesome!

    • @eclate23
      @eclate23 5 лет назад +20

      blessed channel of degeneracy, dark aunt of youtube, contrapoints

    • @gartgartsman478
      @gartgartsman478 5 лет назад +16

      Seriously. This channel is amazing and now I'm going to binge everyyyythhhing.

    • @alansvartr
      @alansvartr 5 лет назад +1

      @@gartgartsman478 snap.

    • @mikelmontoya2965
      @mikelmontoya2965 5 лет назад +3

      Y'all should watch every video of hers. She's amazing!!!

  • @theuserofdoom
    @theuserofdoom 6 месяцев назад +12

    I didn't realize how far down the black pill hole I'd gone until I watched this

    • @m11_m11
      @m11_m11 6 месяцев назад +1

      i hoe youre doing okay now

    • @Mew2Win
      @Mew2Win 4 месяца назад +1

      Wilkes McDermid’s ghost smiles at you

    • @dirkroxy
      @dirkroxy 4 месяца назад

      im glad you realized and i hope youre doing better now

    • @brroclliertreee6020
      @brroclliertreee6020 19 дней назад

      When the stuff she represents as absurd and insane seem fairly vanilla in my head

  • @saltini1998
    @saltini1998 Год назад +4

    You are amazing. I've laughed so much, learned so much and felt sad so much. But mostly laughed. Thank you

  • @ih8myfriends
    @ih8myfriends 4 года назад +1880

    I thought the opening line “Imagine how a woman feels...” was going to be an invitation to see the world from a woman’s perspective. That was an unpleasant moment of adjustment.

    • @christopherb501
      @christopherb501 4 года назад +33

      I know, right?

    • @christopherb501
      @christopherb501 4 года назад +105

      @@spliffrotation7238 ...you have problems, man. SERIOUS problems.

    • @ard1805
      @ard1805 4 года назад +22

      ih8myfriends
      The first bit sounded pretty good to me. Second part took a turn though...

    • @christopherb501
      @christopherb501 4 года назад +8

      @@spliffrotation7238 ruclips.net/video/_n5E7feJHw0/видео.html

    • @jessreinhardt4408
      @jessreinhardt4408 4 года назад +50

      Stran Gling-twittur-hores Hello. We’re people. People should care about each other.

  • @alexonline2340
    @alexonline2340 3 года назад +4977

    incels are the clearest sign to me that support for mental wellness, especially for men, is at an all-time crisis. this is a nightmare.

    • @useroffline9999
      @useroffline9999 3 года назад +297

      The Liberation it’s especially frustrating to see the neoliberal brand of feminism where “it’s feminist when woman does thing” (usually cis, white, conservative women) which does nothing to address intersectionality, transfeminism, or toxic masculinity.

    • @fruitygarlic3601
      @fruitygarlic3601 3 года назад +251

      The Liberation Feminism turned things upside down? When did women get that memo? I still have the same fears as my great-great-grandmother, but whatever.

    • @betterlatethannever4536
      @betterlatethannever4536 3 года назад +429

      @@theliberation9061 "You dicks" are the ones who made the system, so if you're fed up with it, then help change it instead of waiting around for women to do it for you.
      If your answer is "the world was better when half of humans had less agency, we need to go back to that" then you're doing it wrong.

    • @MrCmon113
      @MrCmon113 3 года назад +126

      @@theliberation9061
      It was even harder to get laid before feminism. The chad class was even more rigid.
      Just like capitalism is preferable to feudalism, dating is preferable to arranged and economic relationships.

    • @shanez1215
      @shanez1215 3 года назад +20

      And the pandemic made this even worse too :(

  • @presentpathtarot
    @presentpathtarot Год назад +13

    This gave me compassion for people who hate. Thanks. And you're beautiful, and I am not a nice enough person to say that unless it's true. Thanks for overcoming your self-loathing enough to talk about it.

  • @ThePokemonBeader
    @ThePokemonBeader Год назад +21

    So I decided to go back and rewatch this after about 4 years of avoiding incel related content. I will admit that the me of 4 years ago is not the me now. Perhaps it's age, or it's the fact that there are more important things going on in the world, but either way I do like to think I've gotten a lot better at understanding people.
    I wrote a comment four years ago on this video that was very aggressive, unnecessary, and frankly rather disgusting. I wanna say I'm sorry to anyone who read it and thought the worst of me. I was a very angry person in a very bad spot as far as my emotional and mental health went. I'm in a much better place now, a much more relaxed one, and I feel I'm doing a lot better now.
    That being said, I still am strongly against incels and what they say. I don't entirely sympathize with them, but I'm not outright hateful anymore towards them either. I do wish them well and hope they can get to a better spot. Everyone deserves a chance to improve and find themselves, because that's really what life is all about. Maybe not necessarily finding yourself, but remaking yourself over and over again if you have to. I honestly hope that guys stuck in this mindset can get better, because they deserve to feel better.
    Thank you

  • @marileadufresne9092
    @marileadufresne9092 5 лет назад +334

    "ultra-masculine baker i mean bread scientist" i'm dying. and that little chuckle at the end.

    • @trenvert123
      @trenvert123 5 лет назад +2

      I hope he never decides to wash a dish or heaven forbid, actually push the damn vacuum around, or he'll have to grow his beard down to the floor. Let's see a woman do that!

  • @carlcarlington7317
    @carlcarlington7317 5 лет назад +853

    i know when i'm looking for a man i always go for the ones who *never heard a song in there entire life*

  • @seekinggodseekingtruth
    @seekinggodseekingtruth 8 месяцев назад +9

    i wish i could watch contrapoints all dayyyyyyyyy
    this kind of high-status self love is like medicine for a broken heart

  • @CyranoSCW
    @CyranoSCW Год назад +17

    If you hadn’t said you were trans, I never would’ve known. You are so pretty!

    • @Ignazo1
      @Ignazo1 Год назад +16

      Still looks like a man, cope

    • @nono-wz6ou
      @nono-wz6ou Год назад +17

      ​ok "warcrimeenjoyerxxx420"

    • @miahsmith1852
      @miahsmith1852 Год назад +3

      This implies that trans women are inherently unattractive and unworthy of compliments. Backhanded

    • @beganitdidnt6535
      @beganitdidnt6535 11 месяцев назад +1

      dmn said his username
      got him@@nono-wz6ou

    • @etasjo
      @etasjo 11 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@miahsmith1852i mean we kinda are

  • @tedmills
    @tedmills 5 лет назад +297

    35 minutes on incels, I thought, really how indulgent is this going to be?...35 minutes later, holy shit this is better than a thousand bad thinkpieces. Bravo

  • @vickerandflips8061
    @vickerandflips8061 3 года назад +1815

    A man saying the words: "I am ultra masculine" is about the cringiest thing ive ever heard.

    • @vickerandflips8061
      @vickerandflips8061 2 года назад +16

      @Fat Face Bork Laser you cannot possibly be dumb enough to not get why that's cringe.

    • @aendra6495
      @aendra6495 2 года назад +51

      on the same level as calling yourself an alpha/sigma male

    • @victoriacasalenuovo7948
      @victoriacasalenuovo7948 2 года назад +1

      Watch her video about cringe culture

    • @vickerandflips8061
      @vickerandflips8061 2 года назад +1

      @Succubi Seduction you're a simp for men, it would seem.

    • @vickerandflips8061
      @vickerandflips8061 2 года назад +2

      @Succubi Seduction so you're calling men simps? Wow that sounds very misandrist. Nice try, simp.

  • @stalyirmangin6249
    @stalyirmangin6249 Год назад +3

    You are AMAZING! Thank you for making my morning. Love and solidarity coming from Scotland.

  • @oMuStiiA
    @oMuStiiA Год назад +10

    As a woman with a big head the TTTT forum is so strange, like they're trying to find excuses not to transition because they're afraid of failure so they're coming up with reasons to not even try. Like, there obviously are women with bigger heads. But they need a reason to hide from failure, and to hurt themselves while they do it.

    • @etasjo
      @etasjo Год назад +2

      cissoids will never understand

    • @icomefromoogaboogaland
      @icomefromoogaboogaland 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@etasjotransmaxxing lol

    • @etasjo
      @etasjo 11 месяцев назад

      @@icomefromoogaboogaland personally im translosing

  • @midnighthope7752
    @midnighthope7752 5 лет назад +225

    "The Manosphere exists because Rock n' Roll is dead." - ContraPoints, 2018

    • @LimeyLassen
      @LimeyLassen 5 лет назад +7

      Those damn New Wave feminists!

    • @blackearl7891
      @blackearl7891 5 лет назад +11

      Can we bring it back, we really need a new wave in rock

    • @julianmorrisco
      @julianmorrisco 5 лет назад +4

      So, so true. I was a geeky, bullied nerd. I happened to play guitar (Les Paul, not Strat but that’s not important) at a time it wasn’t cool where I grew up. 10 years later I met a beautiful, brilliant and funny woman who ended up loving my weird, economically pathetic life and we’ve been together for nearly 30 years. She still earns more than I do and we’re still in love. I do feel sorry for these pathetic excuses for human beings but I can’t abide them turning to hate as a result of their self-pity. I’m glad I’m not a millennial.

    • @lumen8341
      @lumen8341 5 лет назад

      Julian, are you sure you're not my husband? LOL. You just told our story exactly.

    • @rickagard7398
      @rickagard7398 5 лет назад +1

      The rock in the 90s and 2000s seemed more obsessed with depression than getting laid, and I kind of suspect that's why it died out. You don't really think of Kurt Cobain scoring tons of pussy.

  • @TheBibleReloaded
    @TheBibleReloaded 5 лет назад +9018

    I respect the pain Natalie is willing to go through for us. I empathize greatly.

    • @PforPanthera
      @PforPanthera 5 лет назад +67

      Oh my god it's my favorite atheists! Being back Kennith

    • @nikolademitri731
      @nikolademitri731 5 лет назад +60

      Omg, it’s my atheist dadz! Get that next Peterson chapter out, or I’m going to send you Butterflies!!!! 😘

    • @ClockLock
      @ClockLock 5 лет назад +10

      Ayyyy, good to see you guys here!

    • @9313James
      @9313James 5 лет назад +24

      My favourite couple on the internets!

    • @julymagnus493
      @julymagnus493 5 лет назад +27

      Yay! The internets favorite gay couple. All praise the cheese wizard.

  • @aaronlo6952
    @aaronlo6952 Год назад +9

    The comment section by Newest is actually WW3.

    • @narvi5779
      @narvi5779 Год назад +2

      Every single time I see lots of dislikes and I know the topic is a controversial one, I sort by new and get lost in the comments for a little while. I sometimes leave a comment saying hello to anyone sorting by new.

    • @beganitdidnt6535
      @beganitdidnt6535 Год назад +5

      @@narvi5779 yeah bc the dood in drag in this video knows what its like to be an incel
      he used to be one lol

    • @icomefromoogaboogaland
      @icomefromoogaboogaland 11 месяцев назад

      ​@@beganitdidnt6535kek

  • @mikioni
    @mikioni Год назад +19

    "Take a shower bro"
    "go outside bro"

    • @regisglass5464
      @regisglass5464 Год назад +10

      Correct, showering and socialization is necessary for good health. Please note this is something done daily.
      Always staying at home and not even washing after defecating is problematic to say the least

    • @PsudeoPsychic
      @PsudeoPsychic Год назад +17

      ​@@regisglass5464 the autistic balding 5,2 Indian janitor is rolling in women after this

    • @Pistolita221
      @Pistolita221 Год назад +2

      @@PsudeoPsychic He's an intersectional feminist, of course he's got his token minorities!! How dare you.

    • @lestath2345
      @lestath2345 18 дней назад +1

      "Don't be depressed bro"
      "go outside bro"

  • @spookyspice596
    @spookyspice596 3 года назад +2585

    Imagine being so insecure in your masculinity that you feel the need to publicly defend cooking your own food.

    • @mysticjason05
      @mysticjason05 3 года назад +135

      Um excuse me, it's bread scientist. LOL! That gets me every time.

    • @ebonydarknessdementiaraven8732
      @ebonydarknessdementiaraven8732 3 года назад +34

      bread science*

    • @wendymontie5660
      @wendymontie5660 2 года назад +28

      But, does he 'engineer a gluten-based architectural construct w/tomatoes, deli meat and mustard'? Or must he have a 'femoid' (?) come make his sammich for him? Cripes, I'll bet Roosh gets all kinds of 'tingly feelings' watching the Great British Baking Show where men (and women) of all types are just whipping out the 'Chemistry and Science' of biscuits and cakes...

    • @sgshumblecrumb6046
      @sgshumblecrumb6046 2 года назад +14

      Imagine being someone who's such a conformist, that being "outcast" makes them go on murderous rampages.

    • @user-is3yn7xr4c
      @user-is3yn7xr4c 2 года назад

      I agree! The immature western culture breeds insecurity for some white men

  • @noodle71110
    @noodle71110 5 лет назад +676

    Ultra masculine bread scientist

  • @icomefromoogaboogaland
    @icomefromoogaboogaland 10 месяцев назад +9

    "It's ovER" - saint hamudi

  • @robertmccarthy2254
    @robertmccarthy2254 Год назад +10

    i'm a 50 year old super short bald cis guy iN a wheelchair and ii'm happier tham these lads

    • @jainee4507
      @jainee4507 Год назад +12

      cope

    • @bubby632
      @bubby632 Год назад +1

      ​@@jainee4507yall love hating on people just living. So sad

    • @moggedbymilomeeks2605
      @moggedbymilomeeks2605 9 месяцев назад +1

      Giga cope gramps

    • @hellobye2824
      @hellobye2824 8 дней назад

      i'm glad for you. keep living your life happily, ignore them miserable pessimistic folks

  • @Robin-of2jt
    @Robin-of2jt 4 года назад +614

    This digital self-harm is really common in people with eating disorders, especially forms of anorexia. There's thinspo for "goals" and meager recipes and hatespo for shaming the posters into getting sicker

    • @alexturlais8558
      @alexturlais8558 4 года назад +44

      Yeah it's not unique to incels and its do harmful. Attitude cant fix everything, but it will certainly help, and online forums often just encourage a toxic mindset that makes the core issue harder to solve.

    • @RCrystal34
      @RCrystal34 4 года назад +35

      I came to the comments to see if anyone posted this. The meanspo is so similar. I definitely understood it more relating it to this.

    • @Robin-of2jt
      @Robin-of2jt 4 года назад +17

      @@RCrystal34 Thinking about it like meanspo really helped it click in my head for me too. (Also cool name)

    • @fluffygreysocks6703
      @fluffygreysocks6703 3 года назад +7

      this was exactly my thought. 2014 tumblr *shudders*

  • @lenry716
    @lenry716 5 лет назад +2136

    This sort of reminds me of Pro-Anorexia/Pro-Bulimia communities where the goal isn't recovery, but encouragement of unhealthy habits and negative body images. They bond over hating their own appearances. Even if other people tell them they look fine as they are, they don't believe it.
    I guess there's some comfort in misery.

    • @Nuclearcx
      @Nuclearcx 5 лет назад +14

      That's what a femoid would say

    • @ddumbbee
      @ddumbbee 5 лет назад +70

      it's somewhat similar to pro ana communities but now, from what I've seen, they try to hide their toxic behavior by being "positive" and by not publicly body shaming other people but they still encourage each other to reach their goals and will shame their own bodies for not being good enough.
      unless it's a post meant to "motivate" other people (often called meanspo) they will avoid shaming anyone for being fat, but the underlying self hatred and toxic behavior is still there.

    • @hazey_dazey
      @hazey_dazey 5 лет назад +80

      "misery loves company"

    • @BellaExclamationMark
      @BellaExclamationMark 5 лет назад +44

      I thought about this often during the video, eating disorders and similar things are not discussed from men's perspectives enough and it's not fair, men need mental help too men need therapy men need emotional support and that should be seen as the norm by society

    • @chseahawk
      @chseahawk 5 лет назад +44

      @Heart Of Stars that's what is so strange about these guys. The ones on the mgtow channels want to "Bring back the patriarchy " which never left and is that main cause of their mental problems. Even the women they were abused by are most likely fucked up because of patriarchy.

  • @marykay7878
    @marykay7878 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you for providing us with that much of stellar and absolutely excellent content for free!!! Many articles behind a pay wall written by renowned journalists couldnt hold a candle to your work. Stau blessed sis❤❤❤ ❤❤❤

  • @dfrank2003
    @dfrank2003 Год назад +5

    Amazing video, also “volcel if you wouldn’t” slayed me