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Title song "Faceshopping" by SOPHIE
Satie's "Gymnopedie No. 1" arranged by Zoë Blade: www.zoeblade.com/
Other Zoë Blade tracks used:
"Stalker" "Tranquility Bass" "Jukko" "Acid Serum" "Serum Pads" "Beginnings" "Dead Inside"
Other music:
"Fruit Cocktail" by Foxhunt
"Frontier" by DOCTOR VOX
"All I Need" by Valesco
"Catalyst" by TheDiabolicalWaffle
Assistant producer: Theryn Meyer
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Hello girls, let's talk about bone structure 💀
So does your skull shape make you a stacy?
we've missed you natalie!
does your new bone structure effect the mouth feel of things?
The intro felt like a really well done mini trailer for an HBO original series.
Thank you for the informative video 💖
"Maybe lesbians are just straight up chilling"
No , we're worrying about the extinction of the bees
Thank you. It is worrying, right?
I love that farming/beekeeping is now a part of lesbian culture.
random ravenclaw honestly yes
I'm a bi woman but yeah me too
@@nerveagent1905 Oh. I thought it was a "it's hip to fuck bees" reference. Lol
"Maybe lesbians are just straight up chilling"
As you can see she was in fact not straight up chilling
Yeah this was so on point. I was wondering am I not normal for not caring how I look. Oh wait there we go I'm a lesbian. It's okay everyone no fucks given here. Just a Lesbian.
Wow she left a like
nOw thAts whAt I call Foreshadowing!
not straight
definitely not chilling
maybe up?
As a (probably) lesbian, yes I am straight up chilling
the “do i want to attract women? i guess? i don’t really think about it. isn’t it safer to just secretly fall in love with them while quietly dying inside?” part really hits different now
Holy shit that is so funny
i’m new here haha, can anyone explain?
@@starryskies8445 me tooooooo
@@starryskies8445 looking back after the video "shame" lol
@@MD-mh7bp i have, thanks xd this is indeed golden
That “James Charles I know you’re having a rough month right now” line is genius every time I rewatch this vid it’s still true
Literally was *just* thinking that as I was rewatching this video
I was looking for this comment lmfao
I literally SHRIEKED laughing at the "hi sistercels" ad pitch on PewdiePie. And its a few rapid-fire lines completely in English that are like, 80% meaningless outside of RUclips culture but are so brilliant.
lmao yes
HELPPP 😭
Men are 95% unaware that makeup exists if red lipstick is not present
Hey! Sometimes I notice they have that black stuff around their eyes.
I know it exists, you can smell it, it's like Liquid Latex combined with damp tree.
And it's EVERYWHERE.
Can confirm. The remaining 5% is the aforementioned black stuff for eyes, and sometimes particularly attention-catching fingernail polish/nail extensions.
Let me tell you guys a secret: we are born with sparkly eyelids and „that black stuff“ around our eyes. Our parents were just really good at hiding that 😉
idk dude i've always found it pretty easy to distinguish authentic human skin from plasticky powdery shit. the trick is to know that real skin is comprised of more than 1 colour and it doesn't look like spray paint
The production value of that intro felt above RUclips imo
Jerry Aspinge thought it was Flume producing it until I saw “SOPHIE” pop up. Still just as good.
The intro alone is Netflix original levels of great
That's just her MO, really.
Editing and sounds are just beyond! And like pretty much everything else. Incredible job, Natalie!
@@Doktormustache i see unintended pun
I'm a 38 years old gay cis man and we have the same skin care routine. minus the skin care products. i just stare at my face and start crying eventually.
Look into George MacDonald.
fuckin relatable
Honestly, body dysmorphia in men is so understated. Especially amongst gay men because the beauty standards for gay dating are often extremely toxic and unrealistic
@@tshred666as a gay black guy we do suffer from dysphoria but I don’t think it’s that extreme tbh.
@@ralphnoumsi7794 dysphoria and dysmorphia aren’t the same thing.
14:45 When I was in all-girls boarding school there was a tremendous black market for 'makeup' & other little luxuries that were prohibited by the strict rules. If you stole perfume samples from a magazine in a doctor's waiting room, or owned even a single bottle of nail polish of your own, you were a queen. And girls would risk severe punishments & humiliation for just 1 day with the chance of getting to wear (forbidden) pink-tinted chapstick. Beauty helped us feel humanised again, our only "attainable" piece of familiar girlhood
That sounds like a prison
@@chickenskink1 it wasn't an incarceration, or legally punitive, but some bording schools are extremely strict. If you're under 18, your human rights are almost never protected & there's very little, if anything, you can do about it. Bording schools like that don't allow you to write letters, use a phone, computer, or have any means of contacting anyone on the outside, so there's no way to get help or communicate with anyone who could help you: the school will use their punishments & restrictions to retaliate against you if you try to help yourself or your friends. I'm not equating beauty or makeup to a human right, it's just that beauty was one pice of comfort & humanity we clung to when so much of the rest of our personal agency & autonomy was denied. Gay & trans kids are also sent to those schools too in order to make them "become" their "correct" selves if you know what they mean. They did those things to several of my friends, forcing them to live as someone other than who they are.
@@highclass_lady That sounds so hard, I'm sorry
“I’m not gonna judge another woman for the way she copes with a society that pressures women to be beautiful, while simultaneously belittling them for caring about it.”
GOD. DAMN!
Phos!
preach the poet Women definitely don’t get as much societal acceptance if they aren’t pretty
Scarlett Sladek yee!
@@preachthepoet2442 Have you ever met a woman?
@@anonymousposter6461 wtf kinda question bis that
"Isn't it safer to just... secretly fall in love with them while quietly dying inside?"
Now that's a lesbian mood
I'm a gay man who does this :/
this is such a specifically lesbian thing omg
Lmao feels
I might not be a lesbian (or a woman), but there are few moods I relate to as much as this one.
it's the mood of everyone who hasn't found the person they want to die in front of
I love how "James Charles, I know you're having a hard month" can apply to any month you watch this video
At around 15:50 she says ‘if all the men died tomorrow (F) I’d still wear makeup’ and I just had this vision of a male presenting person who didn’t know they would eventually identify as a transgender woman, being left after the men have all died and just being like “... oh.”
I’d read that book
that could make for an epic black comedy concept
Lol
Give it 10 years and that will be the premise of some manga or light novel.
oh my that was so beau
"a society that pressures women to be beautiful while simultaneously belittling them for caring about it."
Wow. so much truth in this video.
“You painted a naked woman because you enjoyed looking at her, put a mirror in her hand and you called the painting “Vanity,” thus morally condemning the woman whose nakedness you had depicted for you own pleasure.”
― John Berger, Ways of Seeing
@@rollinnollin546 I too think Her Majesty Contra's Autogynophilia video is rather underrated.
@humankinda how
@humankinda What they wrote wasn't necessarily about self admiration or narcissism. Our culture values and admires beauty thus rewards those who look beautiful. Of course that creates a climate in which people became very driven by looks. So, it's hypocritical when the "painter" turns around and acts disgusted, surprised and judgemental especially towards women, even though they nurtured this madness. A healthy amount of self admiration, pride and desire to pursue beauty are quite natural. In the moment, however they're definitely out of control.
@humankinda It's hypocritical because the painter put the woman whose beauty he enjoyed in that position. He placed a mirror in her hands, and judged whether she was beautiful enough to be in the painting. And then belittled her for doing as he said. It's a type of slavery, if you ask me.
"I guess I'd rather think about the Aesthetics than the Apocalypse. And that's the Darkness." God damn, the Contrapoints Cinematic Universe is expanding.
Marvin!
Noobmaster69 is a patron. The crossover with Marvel is inevitable
hahaha it stroked me too
That Grad Students and makeup hit preeettty fucking hard for me. I worked so hard to get my skin beautiful after a lifetime of hormonal acne and scarring and then I thought "Yes my reward is feeling like I *CAN* wear marvelous bold cool makeup without drawing attention to my topographical map skin! But also I was a STEM grad student...and a cis woman... Most of my makeup efforts happened at home at night in my spare time. Because I did a time course biology experiment for my degree (I too rolled out of the PhD with a masters) and I was sleeping in 2 hour chunks, trying to teach and generally lookin' fully diseased with my no makeup face. An old white male professor decided a COMPLIMENT was "well we couldn't trust women in the department back in my day they were all after MRS degrees coming into the lab in full makeup? AND DRESSES? Not you ladies, you're focused on your work" (Mind, when I started as an undergrad researcher I came in in my heels STOCKINGS and 50's retro fantasy looks with hairdos and enough Dermablend to cover the world) My *female* PI asked if I was going to my poster presentation session "like that" (wearing very light makeup - nude lip, mascara, a little subtle sparkle shadow). Famously at the New Orleans hosted Neuroscience conference a male PI went on a rant about how none of the women were "fuckable" coz they let themselves go/didnt wear makeup/glam. Theres...literally no way to win in STEM when it comes to femme - other WOMEN will keep you in check lest you disgrace the gender in front of the men, and the MEN will try to keep you in check either as that low key "no makeup makeup" or throw a fit because you don't look fuckable to them. So I just do whatever the fuck I want now.
What a rollercoaster ride of sexism
Conveniently not acknowledging the awful sexism - the heels, stockings and 50s retro look sounds incredible
It’s like the mean bitch at Harvard in legally blonde who hated Elle woods and stole her boyfriend from Elle. She could not stand that Elle wore pink and was very very femme even though she is at a very conservative school Harvard law that is extremely masculine historically so the women force themselves to fit the masculine standard and threaten any extra fem energy. Also a lot of women are envious of pretty fem women in a lot of spaces.
This really hit me in the gut because I felt that “there is no way to win” for so long in my young adult life. It feels like such a key experience for women, so the best way to go about it is just say “fuck it” and do whatever you want (as long as you’re not hurting anyone) because either way you’re gonna get dragged for it
Wow, that’s terrible that your PIs were like that. Where did you do your PhD? I did mine in the UK (also in biology, biomed specifically) and I never experienced anything like that. I didn’t tend to wear make up in the lab, nor did most of the other women (who made up at least 60-70% of the two labs I was in most of the time I was there), but at least for me that was mostly due to not wanting to get up early to put it on and not really caring about looking nice just for the lab. Whenever I did a presentation or went to a conference I’d always put on full face make up and no one would have an issue. I guess there’s such a wide range of experiences in academia, it really depends on the culture of the specific lab you’re in.
“This woman that used to walk the streets had all this makeup and hair, high heel shoes. I thought she was so beautiful. And everybody used to say, ‘Oh, she ain’t nothin’ but trash.’ And I used to say, ‘Well that’s what I’m gonna be when I grow up-trash!’ And that’s kinda how I look,” Dolly Parton explained. “But I like to think I’m a little more than that.”
My reactions:
1. Based on that I don‘t know if I‘d guessed her aesthetic, but okay, kind of great for her.
2. Wait, were that lesbian vibes?
Lesbian vibes? The woman wrote Jolene!
Dolly Parton >>>> everyone else
@@bar04zso? Jolene is still a foundational queer text!
@@phastinemoon Exactly!
The queen of aesthetics saying she has no style is just objectively wrong.
her style is denial
That's just your parasocial delusions talking
@@davidshi451 yeah that statement felt offensive. Come ON, NAT YOU'RE AESTHETIC QUEEN.
ok bro
MrGombaonfire
I reject the notion of objectivity, but I do get what you mean...
This is like the first episode of Contrapoints season 3
Do pre-transition vids count as a season? Or are they their own series? Good content still, but admittedly a different style. And at the very least they are required viewing just for The Golden One and how much of a sadboy Roosh V is.
Newport's Revenge YEAH
@@ScorpionViper1001 the first season is from her first listed video to gender dysphoria, second season is from terfs to gender critical, and here is the beginning of a glorious third season. Seasons one and two are both stylistically different and thematically, and perhaps this one will differ too. We definitely saw a theme in this one that we have never have before (aging).
@@professorhochmuth5104 *Spock Imitation* Logical.
Will there be a movie
9:48 I hate how not wearing makeup is seen as "presenting masculine" or even "not like other girls"-ism. Not wearing makeup is a complete non-action. I am simply waking up half an hour later, or using that time for some other thing i enjoy more than makeup. This does not make me masculine, nor is it a comment on other women's choices.
real
Ik that irritates me so much. Plus the idea that all women would participate in feminine beauty activities without pressure not to? Like i think its a default to not wear makeup and fake nails- it takes a whole lot of effort to be default. Not dissing women who enjoy that- but it shouldn’t be considered standard to do so? Not to say I don’t try to look nice, but the standards for womens “effort “ are absurd if makeup is just a normal thing.
As a software engineer, femininity is absolutely the greatest threat to my career. If I so much as open my mouth about parenthood, I fear I'll end up like that woman in the middle of a giant pregnancy discrimination lawsuit with Google because she so much as gave birth as a bread-winner.
Seeing your content has helped me discover the shape of my guilty insecurities.
Dropping out of a pHD course to become a camgirl is the greatest concept imaginable
Praxis
was the "pHD" instead of "PhD" a pun? i like to think so
fuslfjkshfldshsldughlkaghldfkahlgkdsh peen-high-definition
the “isn’t it safer to just secretly fall in love with them while quietly dying inside?” hits different after the newest video, sis was really going through it :(
FUCKING SAME. 💔
Both because of her sad journey but also *_my entire life_*
Also my gay ass
SHAME
foreshadowing
......Contra was extremely gay......
For me, the main reason I didn’t do makeup is the shame I had towards the attempt to persue beauty. I was so utterly convinced of my ugliness that I believed there was nothing I could do about it, and any makeup or pretty clothing would just further draw attention to my appearance. For the longest time I couldn’t even look at a mirror. Luckily I’m a lot better now.
I don't think I had these pressures as bad as a man, but I remember experiencing something similar growing up. I was so self-conscious and had such poor self-esteem about my appearance that ironically I didn't do anything to try and improve my appearance, to attempt to look good. I remember thinking that people would just see it as me trying to hard, that it would just draw attention to something I couldn't truly fix. I just wanted to shrink away, as I couldn't imagine there was anything worth seeing. I think I live with a lot of anxiety still, but luckily it's not at all crippling like it used to be and I'm quite comfortable with how I look nowadays. It's certainly interesting how our perceived sense of ugliness can both drive an endless pursuit to be beautiful, or just paralyze us to abandon any prospect of beauty altogether
I remember when I started internalising how me dressing “feminine” will send a message that i’m slutty and therefore not serious about academia and it’s my fault if I get insulted or SAd ….
"Why is my neck two decades older than the rest of my skin?" As a 47-year-old woman, I felt this on a spiritual level.
Extended water fasting.
the beauty community: in flames
ContraPoints: ...so here's my skincare routine
Honestly those gurus don't deserve much attention. Drama only add to their revenue, all that were likely business moves. (Yes, including Tati of course.)
There're so much more things people should know about cosmetic like this video, child labour of mining MICA (an mineral used everywhere) or unethical hair trading. Refinery29 has a series named Shady about these topics, it's really insightful definitely recommend.
@@justalostlocal I love shady! It's one of my favorite series. Definitely agree about beauty gurus, the only unproblematic one is Nikkietutorials lmao
as an uninterested passerby, @contrapoints is doing something right in regards to 'passing'. if that word is a touchy thing for a cishet (im fucking new to this ok) to say my apologies, just trying to get a point across.
space cadet i read that in her voice! 😂
This comment is mood after the recent video.
"A Few Millimeters Of Bone" sounds like the saddest porno in history.
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Hahaha good one
The Trash Child What a dirty mind! 😂😂😂
@@shittykittyification Their name is "The Trash Child"... what exactly do you expect?
Lol
aS a CiS wOmAN, ContraPoints' videos have always helped me come to terms with my femininity. As a kid I thought I had to care about looks or intelligence, and my intelligence got me the attention I wanted, so I hated dressing or behaving feminine. I got really self-conscious and anxious for a while because I didn't feel comfortable with the person I was turning into physically, and it took me forever to realize that being both feminine and intelligent are things that can co-exist. It's videos and people like Natalie that helped me realize this. I've gained a lot of confidence and appreciation for my looks in recent years, as well as drawer of glittery bright makeup, and crazily enough I'm not any stupider for it.
I have the same issue. Weirdly it was the movie Legally Blonde that made me start to think maybe I could be both.
Yay for all of us pretty sparkly wicked smart babes. People tried making ass-assumptions about me, from both sides. I just... Stopped caring once I realised that it's not as important as I made it to be.
This is amazing. My 83-year-old father called me tonight, he was amazed that people get upset about those who are trans. He actually said, "who cares if a man IDENTIFIES as a woman or if a woman IDENTIFIES as a man? None of it is our business and we need to respect other people's choices." I actually cried. How is my father, who was born during the Great Depression, light years ahead of most "woke" people in modern society 😭 I am so lucky ❤️
That being said, he does not think being trans is a choice. He is just trying to articulate that we need to respect people for who they are. Sometimes people do not have a choice. When my father was 12, he contracted meningitis and has been deaf ever since. For the most part, I act as his translator. People misunderstand him all the time...
Being trans really isn't a choice for most people, though. I mean, I guess it is, but that's like saying taking anti depressants is a choice.
@@citizeninsane8518 for someone his age, it’s a good start tho!
@@citizeninsane8518 I mean the thing is, taking antidepressants is a choice. Some people choose to take them, some people choose not to. Some people don't have the choice in the first place, they may not be able to afford it or they may be forced into taking it. Having a choice is actually a privilege.
@@adjjal My point was that having depression is not a choice, taking anti depressants is; likewise, having gender dysphoria is not a choice, transitioning is.
@@citizeninsane8518 oh okay my bad I def misinterpreted the point of your comment, thanks for clearing it up
“I just stare at my own face for 10 minutes and contemplate the futility of my struggle against the ravages of time.”
Too real, girl. Too real.
For men with male pattern baldness, like me, its the temples specifically, especially if your previously full head of hair was the one thing you liked about your body, again me. But otherwise, same.
If you skip this step your makeup will run all day it is truth
I don't get it. I am over fifty and I always wanted my face to show my life, and it does. Why would anyone want a one-size-fits-all instant face where life left no traces? Kind regards to all of you!
every time natalie nods to the lesbians i feel so acknowledged. i *am* just chillin
Amber Cragg I once heard a woman at a bar yell, “I’m a lesbian! I buy my pants two sizes too big and grow into ‘em!”
mood
Haha same
omg a real leasbian!?!
... sooo
what are your opinions on strange aeons, personally love her.
AMBER CRAGG???!!! HI!!!
I'm a grad student who doesn't wear makeup, and of course I want to be beautiful. I don't not wear make up because I'm "not like other girls" or because I think makeup, or women who wear makeup are shallow. I don't have a lot of time for make up and I'm not very good at it, so when I do put it on I end up feeling way more self conscious than when I'm not wearing any. But I do put efffot into feeling beautiful in other ways, such as the way I do my hair, my clothes, plucking my eyebrows, skincare. I hate that everyone thinks not wearing makeup is a political statement. It's not! And when people say I don't care about how I look it really feels shitty. I feel like women are under so much more pressure to think about how we look. Oh you wear makeup: shallow. Oh you don't wear makeup: slob who doesn't care about how she presents herself. But men put on a nice shirt and wow, they put the effort in to look nice!!
same..
Ty for saying this
Yeah. Makeup doesn't suit my face because I have very awkwardly shaped sharp lips and hooded eyes.
Yes!! I had this same thought. I'm a grad student (English dept) and I don't wear make up and often have internalized guilt and self hated about not wearing it. Like, I don't have time and I have depression or whatever, so I can't bring myself to put make up on in the morning even tho I used to wear it as a teen. Then I beat myself up and compare myself to beautiful women who wear it to fuel my self hate and depression which then fuels me to not try at all with my appearance (I stopped grooming myself in any way other than showering during the pandemic). Obviously this is a bad spiral and I'm working on it but I don't like the idea that my not wearing make up is some kind of political stance that someone can read on my face when to me, it's not even a choice lol
hey, she said it specifically about the grad students she used to study with who actually thought that makeup was silly and girls who put on eyelashes and stuff like that were kind of frivolous, not about not putting on makeup
when she said "it's hard being a six" the very first thing I thought was "oh no. I thought I was a six. if she's a six, this distorts my entire worldview of the numerical ranking system of beauty," and I now have to find out where I land on the scale of 1 to Natalie and i'm mildly pissed about it
It’s subjective. We’re all a ten to somebody
Looking at your icon, I’d estimate you’re definitely in 6+ territory.
Also, frankly -FUCK THE NUMERICAL SCALE! We should start ranking ourselves on a scale from “grape” to “Leo Tolstoy novel”
Oh to be like Natalie. I WISH I was that kind of six tbh
@@R-H-Bcopium overdose
I'm a lesbian. Five minutes before I watched this I was obsessing about whether my highlighter makes my face look oily. Not straight chillin' here. *applies lip gloss*
girl i feel you
"They're biological sequins" Natalie my god I love you 😂
Fish have biological sequins if you think about it
@@sleepinbelle9627 So that's where the term serving fish comes from! Blessed be the lobster queen it all makes sense
@@sleepinbelle9627 Just because you're technically correct, doesn't mean that's right.
I had a moment of euphoria this morning, I mastered a messy bun with "no makeup" and a loose shirt. All of my work over the years to seem like a YA protagonist was peaking, it was so amazing. I actually felt so pretty for once, I was riding the high... Until I went out in public lol. It looks like us lesbians are NOT chilling haha
What happened in public?
I know the feeling, I know I shouldn't care about this and I've tried to dress more gender nonconforming to feel like a more authentic queer woman or more feminist but. But it doesn't take away the self-consciousness or wanting to feel beautiful and it doesn't magically change my style preferences to make them less femme. I'd bet a lot of lesbians and bi/pan girls struggle with even figuring out what "our authentic style" is especially if we happen to be in a situation where we want to "signal" to others.
What Contra said about how her desires to feel beautiful and to look feminine are either identical or so intertwined that it's really hard to untangle them *really* resonated with me. I love butch women, I think they're handsome/lovely and attractive and all, but whenever **I** tried to cut my hair and dress more like a lumberjack I found I just couldn't bring that same energy for myself for whatever reason. I don't even pretend to go along with the idea that masculine women are ugly anymore because I just don't agree AND it's wrong. But for me, it was just. Different. I felt ugly and eventually I had to stop and go back to growing my hair out and wearing dresses if I felt like it.
And, like, if I ask myself "okay but why do you want to serve peak femme, because that's what you rEalLY like or because you've been taught by society that "good" women should be feminine and also terrorized by stereotypes of all queer women as masculine *and therefore ugly and unlovable* so that's why you hate the way you look the more butch you dress" and I honestly can't answer it. The advice about not beating yourself up over this and just focusing on developing your own style regardless of beauty standards has been really helpful though, more than a thousand hours of wallowing in guilt about it. But I'd bet a lot of us wlw struggle with similar issues and it's nice to talk about it.
@@margaretgibbs6673 as an afab nonbinary person this hit hard. Beauty and femininity are so tied in my mind and yet being called a woman/people saying that I exude ‘female/feminine energy’ gives me awful dysphoria
I am transmasc. But i am also a goth. And... in the midnight i am sitting at the mirror and make my face look like a face of vampire or a corpse. And i feel fine until i start to think i look a bit feminine. Aaand.. hi, dysphoria. But then i look again at my make-up and i am like "fuck, i am a gothic prince. A handsome and masculine gothic prince"
“I think I’d just rather think about *The Aesthetic* than *The Apocalypse* , and that’s *The Darkness* “
Nice ContraPoints references there
And it also incorporates a reference to this video, because the person saying that is a beauty
Would the solution to The Darkness be to *Believe In A Thing Called Love* ?
Don t forget the *mouth feel*
Arcyo but isn’t that what The Darkness itself believes in?
"I have no style" she says, coated in 50,000 sequins
600,000*
@@babydollface damn took the words out of my thumbs
They’re *biological sequins.*
@@communistcatcometh9892 she is explaining her experience with a subject and giving options for those who want it. Where is it implied that you personally need to do anything ?
@@lavitorroja2632 I'm sorry, I fail to see how my hypothetical application of her standards to the general public was insinuating she was asking anyone to do anything.
I’m bulgarian so it’s v nice to see you reference our rose fields when discussing your face mist, thank you mother ❤️
Hey Nathalie, your videos were like an incubator that helped me crack the egg of my identity.
I recently came out as a woman to my friends and loved ones, seeked help and ressources from lgbtqia+ associations.
Your testimonies and insights really do resonate with our comminity and strengthened our perceptions and reflections on some subjects.
Just wanted to say thank you, keep being fierce and I hope i'll have what it takes to shine in my own story.
Love,
A woman named Kevin.
i hope youre having a lovely day wherever you are
I hope you are having a smooth journey into a person you feel most comfortable as! Sending good vibes!
You better believe I dropped everything for this. It was 110% worth it because I was met with ASMR sequins.
Yes
Same. Didn't even have time to put my pants back on.
@Momonari indeed. I would die for her.
Nice profile🌞
Are you the bartender that was serving our banquet? I wondered where you went. The broken glasses and china haven't been swept off the floor...we got kids here.
RIP SOPHIE, you'll always be groundbreaking
This video was how I found out about her music :(
RIP ❤️
I'll miss her so much
❤️
😭
The portion about women in male dominant field needing to present more masculine is so real it hit my like a truck. I'm a navy vet going into a stem field. Being in the military I was having an issue expressing my feminity in a way that didn't leave me feeling like some sort of eye candy for these macho men. Especially considering that I was a closet lesbian at the time. Around a year into my enlistment a friend introduced me to EGL fashion. Dressing so loudly feminine without being sexualized was really affirming for me. Now people including those in my family mock me for it. I don't care. Now I aspire to be the gritty tough engineer woman by day, and a lace monster by night.
oh my god, im a massive SOPHIE stan and just started getting into contrapoints. this video started and my heart instantly dropped 😭😭😭😭 faceshopping was always my favourite song of hers. im still so upset and in denial by it all, but im grateful she was able to share with the world as much of her revolutionary art as she did. thank you contra for having probably gotten hundreds of people into her through this intro. :((
I'am a 53 years old latin american straight man (I live in Panamá, sorry for my english)...really out of touch with gender and transgender isues. trying to catch up with the times, your channel popped up. All your videos are a challenge for a mind set like mine. You are right about beauty. For some guilty reason I prefer your post-surgery videos, just because of your looks. I think we humans are defenseless against beauty, regardless the gender. And yes you are beautiful....deal with it. Your work has changed my point of view. Thank you ContraPoints for this new feeling...I'm not death after all.
Kudos to you for taking the time to become more aware. It’s really admirable!!
You are very well spoken for a non-English speaker! I'm not in the same situation as you exactly, but very similar. I am a young white straight man living in rural America (some call it the "bible belt" because of Christianity and other religions' influences on people in this area of the United States) and it's likely that my parents, my neighbors, and most of my family will never ever meet a trans person or talk with anyone (online or in real life) who really understands these issues at all.
ContraPoints/Natalie is a very beautiful woman, and not just in her appearance. Her work to educate her audience about this topic is very needed in the world, and in my opinion it is very admirable and beautiful how much time she has put into delivering this information in an easily digestible way that outsiders can understand. I know she has said in this video that it was never really her dream to run a channel like this, and it affects her negatively at points, but I really hope she understands how much she has done to educate people like you and I who are so disconnected from these issues in our daily lives.
Aplaudo tu deseo de enseñarte! Por conversaciones con mi madre, sé que es difícil adaptar y fácil frustrarse. Pero es tan necesario porque creo en mi corazón que aunque el mundo va a acabar pronto, hemos conseguido mucho en términos de cuestiones sociales. Soy hombre queer y hace veinte años es probable que muriera al mano mía u otra. Pero ahora puedo vivir y prosperar y contribuir a la sociedad (asisto la universidad y estudio química para hacer paneles solares más eficaces).
PS yo visitaba a Panama hace muchos años y no me acuerdo mucho, pero recuerdo un océano que extendía al infinito
Es muy admirable de tu parte que te expongas a estas cuestiones! Personalmente les dije a mis padres, que tienen tu edad, que soy trans hace ya varios meses, y vi de primera mano lo dificil y frustrante que puede ser para ellos comprender estas cuestiones de las que nunca se les hablo mucho a lo largo de su vida. Asi que la verdad que te felicito y espero que andes bien :)
wholesome!
You have style Natalie
"I have no style"
FACTS DONT CARE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS
she has no style
she has no grace
this one has an altered face
Ha
@@ChungusLover-re7wh damn ittttttt beat me to it.
Also DK SAYS TRANS RIGHTS
SHE HAS NO STYLE
SHE HAS NO GRACE
THIS TRANS
HAS A PRETTY FACE
@@tanngrisnr5076 *THIS TRANS GIRL
pls
This video is such a blessing to me because i'm a really feminine girl and sometimes i struggle with a heavy feeling of shame for loving makeup and fashion, i question my own legitimacy as a feminist and feel so guilty for caring so much about my appearance even if it's ultimately something empowering to me
As someone who is kind of coming to terms with my femininity and still finding ways to make it work for me, and makeup as part of that.
You may express your femininity however you want: makeup and fashion? Enjoy and express your interests as a proclamation of what brings you joy :)
Are they signifiers of femininity and therefore somewhat correlated to patriarchy? Yes! BUT.
We, (nbs, women, men, really, anyone and everyone!) should apropriate it back. Makeup is fun! Fashion is fun! Remember: you only feel bad about exploring because society is a cesspool!
I had my FFS in 2005, the year I turned 47. One side benefit to FFS is that when one gets older, bone structure become more apparent. So when I look in the mirror now, I see an older lady and not old dude. P.S. You are beautiful and I didn't clock you right away when I started playing The Hunger-my first exposure to ContraPoints. So yay for U.
"If I'm not in bed I'm running late for something"
I can relate Natalie
There’s so, so much of this that hit home for me, but the moment that took the air out of my lungs was seeing the spectrum outline between makeup levels and reaction from society.
I’ve been a cis white female in the games industry for about twelve years now, and after my first few years I decided to perform a sort of homegrown study (daily diary over several months) to determine the optimal glam level to avoid negative repercussions at work and reached the EXACT same conclusions you did: Faux natural makeup to avoid being deemed ill, paired with presenting more masculine in dress to avoid accusations of enticement. Be appealing, but not repugnant or “too cocky” (in a producer’s words) I spent way, way too many years of my life mitigating my appearance to satisfy the tiny, feeble egos of my colleagues.
Even now, after deciding to enjoy wearing eyeliner fit to kill a bystander if I feel like it, I’m hyper-aware that presenting as overtly feminine or glam will have any mistake or misstep I make that day as the Smurfette of the office conflated with being vapid, stupid, and unqualified.
I’m lucky enough to work with more evolved colleagues now, but the fear hasn’t gone away. Every time I commit to a cat eye in the morning, because I feel like it goddammit, I look in the mirror knowing I can’t fuck anything up lest that eyeliner become a red flag by which other women are judged by later.
HVolnWhatnow agreed. As someone who is a counsellor for addictions support groups of mainly men I mute my appearance on purpose so as not to be « distractingly feminine » or « too pretty ». ffs
@Al S You are an animal as well, or did you think you were excluded from all this and all the evolutionary forces which made you.
When women are old they will be judged on their character, many don't like the final conclusion.
@Al S Have you considered that the male sex drive has to be that strong in order to tolerate women.
@Al S Funnily enough that's a Louis CK joke because its kind of true, children are smelly and gross.
Where the desire and motivation has become muted, you see a rejection, the grass eaters of japan, and now mgtow in the west, conscious or not, the Pence rule is now the only smart play.
Positive epilogue for anyone that read the comment thread this far (sorry for how it turned out) : I used to be one of those "not like other girls" internalized misogynists in a bad way.
Coping mechanism to survive in nerd/geek culture in tandem with the nuanced take on gender politics from 80's cartoons and early Comedy Central "women be like..." standup routines? Probably. In the Ellen Ripley and Sarah Connor pop culture model, my takeaway was that the only awesome women were those with coded masculine traits, and so despite my actual preferences I denied myself presenting as feminine/glam until very recently. I don't consider it a burden but a victory, realizing that women that present themselves that way have just as much brains and value as anyone else, which is what actual feminism is to me now that I stopped wanting to put other women down.
As a female in agricultural engineering, I have a slightly different perspective to bring to the beauty scene. Though I am an academic (working on my masters in engineering), I also am in a pretty hands-on job that requires me to be ready to go into the shop, get hydraulic oil and grime on myself, do some welding, or a manner of activities that require me to be dressed & prepped in a very practical way. Having done farm work for the majority of my life, wearing my hair or nails long is not an option, and any use of make-up would really get gross while sweating all day. While sometimes I would like to be considered beautiful, and look nice, it honestly would take a lot more effort and patience than I can muster. I admire people who are good at the art of beauty, but I would probably just be really awkward at it. It’s not necessarily a “not like other girls” thing, it is just that I’ve never acquired any skill in it because of my work, my environment, and also laziness/lack of investment.
I find this comment really interesting because I feel like partially it ties in to the experiences a lot of Trans women have, the feeling of being out of depth and not believing in our ability or thinking we have no aptitude to be good at the art of beauty. We often feel this way because of how intimidating it can be, we weren't raised in a way that pushed learning about makeup and beauty like most cis women, and even if we had interest in beauty for ourselves or to be seen more as women it brings up a risk of social backlash that stopped us in our tracks.
It's nice to see that other women, not just Trans women, also have similar thoughts or fears. Trying to enter the world of beauty with little or no experience is scary and intimidating.
@ Lil_Lilith
Thanks for such a lovely comment and for your added insights. I’d never thought about how my experience here is actually quite similar to that of trans women. I really appreciate the perspective
your somment is super interesting, i love hearing about other people's experiences ! though i believe she said it specifically about the grad students she used to study with who actually thought that makeup was silly and girls who put on eyelashes and stuff like that were kind of frivolous, not about not putting on makeup
I watched this the night before and the day after my first plastic surgery. It's a wonderful space to not feel alone during the whole thing.
❤❤❤
Natalie,
I’m a cis male. I’ve always been firm in my masculinity, HOWEVER...
Since discovering your videos I’ve been able to more fully realize the nuance and fluidity of what it means for me to be a man. I continue and likely will continue to identify with my gender assigned from birth, but you inspire me to break from the rigidity of my gender expression. I’m much more willing to be flamboyant and cross the lines between what is deemed feminine and masculine by society. I’ve also gained more courage to directly confront my sexuality. Thanks, at least in part to you providing a bit of a second sexual awakening for me- a renaissance if you will.
You’re looking more gorgeous than ever. Thank you for inspiring me.
- A young man whom you’ve awakened in new ways.
I truly hope she reads this. I agree. My life has changed because of Natalie.
I love this!! Many cis men think letting themselves being feminine isn’t masculine. I know these words contradict themselves, but being feminine can be masculine! Letting yourself not be afraid to do what you want whether it’s painting your nails or wearing makeup or whatever, to me makes you more masculine. Not being afraid is amazing!
Live your best life!!!!! ❤️
Glad to see any person being awakened to the widest possibilities of self-expression!
Yesssss! Everyone has feminine and masculine qualities - neither should be shot down for either sex!
I had a similar experience but from a straight female perspective. I had a bit of a crush on Natalie back in pre transition days. I am a straight female and thought I would never even consider dating a trans person.
Then the transition starts... I am a bit... very confused about myself now but much more understanding about the experiences of trans people.
As a lesbian, my life is a constant back and forth between wanting to feel cute and desperately not wanting men to think i look cute. I am not in fact chilling but i love that you think we are
Yeah as a gay man it's the opposite for me. All my straight girlfriends have crushes on me while guys don't notice me.
This. Also a lesbian and When I try to feminize or make up or do my hair or other shit, I invariably get attention from men because they think I dressed up for them, and that they’re entitled to me. They’re entitled to grade me. They’re entitled to take my “trying” as an invitation. It’s pretty fucking annoying.
@@Cordy712 people are allowed to judge your appearance and men are allowed to find you attractive. You're the one who seems entitled.
@@JulianY2K12 I'd love to be entitled to that kind of peace. It would be amazing
@@JulianY2K12 You missed her whole point.
“Style is an individual aesthetic as opposed to the collective aesthetic of beauty standards.”
A very inspirational video!
My heart still breaks whenever I hear the opening intro. I must say I'm very pleased that you immortalised Sophie's song with this equally penetrating piece of art.
Listen Natalie, you can raise the bar on absolute hotness as far as you want, but im still going to come to your fountain for your killer sense of humor and insanely on point introspective honesty.
Yes
I second this motion! Hear! Hear!
Personality and the persona are the most beautiful qualities of a humanoid
"It's hard being a 6." I never related more.
"it's hard being a 6" and nobody understand.
Try being a 3 lmaoo
@@justsomeone7265 Well that's easy. You get to accept your 3ness and move on. I constantly have to deal with thinking that I actually look good and then realizing that I don't. It's a roller coaster of emotions and it makes you feel sick.
I'm a ciswoman an I've been 6'2" since 12
Does being a 7 count?
I'm a cis woman and I've been called a "male pedophile" online before. I guess because I like wearing frilly dresses, but I hate make up, because my skin is so sensitive.
Good to know the "gender critical" community is as good at clocking trans people as ever!
@@timothymclean women who don't wear make up that dress up? Impossible, must be trans. Like the logic 😂
Omg im a cis girl and wear makeup every so often, love dresses and suits but fucking DESPISE nailpolish. And because of this and me defending trans people online they believe im trans 😂
"we can always tell"
What the fuck does "male pedophile" mean in this context?
😂
For me, not wearing makeup isn't a "not like other girls" moment, it's that that shit is *expensive* and I want to have money for my real hobbies dammit. Also because it offends a certain class of older cishet woman if you go to work without "putting in effort about your appearance" and I want to make their lives as discordant as possible.
[Just for the future if you ever did want cheap but good makeup: Colourpop is the best, it's vegan and crulety free 🙌✨]
"If I'm out of bed it's because I'm running late for something..."
Too real. Too relatable.
Can contrapoints get a Netflix show? Like this is the best show on the internet
justsomeone @netflix are you there???
@netflix i would pay serious money
Oh my god, I love this idea. Also, could you imagine the backlash from a certain group of assholes on the internet?
And continue the capitalist game? Did you learn nothing?
@@humblesentiments1553 as if youtube existed in a communist utopia?
As a trans guy I never felt beautiful living as a girl, so wore make-up thinking that should make me feel beautiful. It really didn't. The first time I felt good about my appearance was when I looked in the mirror and thought "I look like a boy". Before even realizing I was trans, that was when I felt good about myself. At this point looking good and looking masculine are practically the same thing to me. If it helps me pass, it means I'm beautiful. It's kinda weird how beauty is so directly linked to gender, but it's just kind of important to me when I'm still getting misgendered daily. It still sucks, but at least I can say to myself I look good and I did all I could to pass. Idk, it's late and I love your vids and I had thoughts.
After watching Natalie for years, this still holds up as my favorite. The natural flow of social commentary, hilarious jokes, callbacks, and vulnerability is just perfect
Ok this is the best viral marketing campaign for detective pikachu I've seen yet.
I'm only nine minutes into the video and can't wait to find out what this comment means.
Edit: I loved it.
I developed an aesthetic/style that makes me happy and only I can judge.
Now my wardrobe is cravats, 18th century waistcoats, and aeropostale t-shirts.
I'm a fucking disaster, and I love it.
Sounds freakin cool
Damn that's cool.. sounds expensive though
Love it, mine is tanks and a high waisted short and a wind breaker off my shoulders.
**sees profile picture**
Just one word:
ICONIC
do you
do you not wear pants
Thank You for presenting all of this in such a relatable manner. I will be 50 in November and am 5months into my transition. So much is so daunting and I feel like I am often very hard on myself. I think handling it all with humor helps tremendously and appreciate the reminder.
A fellow Glamazon. (Yeah, I'm 6'2", but heels make me feel better about it.)
hope things are getting easier ❤
@@thebarkcrystal! Things have definitely settled down a little and I’m feeling somewhat more comfortable. ♥️
Fwiw - I’m a hopeless sucker for tall women.
Just a few inches over me, and I’m all “All I wanna be/ Is someone who gets to see/ A Giant WOMAN 🎶”
Wlw there: don't worry. Other than (stupid, specifically. Not all) cis straight men care you're tall. Tall woman rule!
Girl, I'm cis and almost as tall. I started wearing super high heels as an act of defiance after being bullied... and never stopped. Tall girls club ❤
Why is no one talking about how the intro to this is literally the first yassification meme in its modern iteration I’ve ever seen 2 YEARS before the trend
How can a political commentary channel be so aesthetic
@@cameronrhanna You say it like that's a bad thing...
Natalie: “Fighting fascism was an idea I came up with while I was a male alcoholic.” LOL
The comedic timing is always on point in these videos. I wish more teachers and mentor figures taught in such a sarcastic and honest way like Natalie does.
The content is always so engaging and I awlays find I learn/retain more from her than I do from straight info dumps like SciShow (and SciShow is one of my favorite channels for information).
That intro with the skull, Natalie post-ffs, the mask removal and SOPHIE blasting over the top is still one of the most iconic things on RUclips.
Abby really stole the whole taking-off-mask ffs bit from this, huh?😂
My religion is Contra elegantly dragging her exquisite nails across a field of biological sequins
BUOLOGICAL SEQUUINNSSS
1000th like 🤓
Every Contrapoints video feels just a little more personal, natural, and the jokes become more subtle and hilarious.
I watch your videos all the time, literally over and over. The best content I've found on RUclips, by far. Entertaining, thought-provoking, hilarious, solemn, my mind reshapes just a little every time. I love your channel, gorge, you are wonderful!
same, that’s how i put myself to sleep
that intro alone just absolutely blew me away. i know i want to study art in college (not sure what kind yet) and every element of that moment just came together to absolutely blow my mind
"And now I'm smoother than a cisgender boiled egg!"
"Depending on what happens in 2020 I'll think of grabbing a brick myself."
Uh... Natalie... can we get an update on this sentiment?
My thoughts
What the fuck are we suppose to throw the brick at? The virus?
@@lmao2302 Maybe the folks who keep making stupid decisions that are going to make the virus spread further and kill more people?
@@lmao2302 Maybe the folks who are attacking and killing workers for enforcing social distancing rules? Or bosses who are forcing their employees to work without protection? Or the landlords who are threatening to evict people for having been laid off? Or the state officials who are reopening the economy to early? Or the people who still think the virus isn't actually a big deal?
This was exactly how I felt at the time she uploaded this, and I'm just waiting for a target for my bricks now.
Can I have a sappy moment please!?
That thing you said about style being a way which we can cultivate our own personal aesthetic has really resonated with me recently. While I consider myself a decently attractive person, there’s nothing particularly outstanding about my appearance. I’m also a tall and large framed man and a little chubby. No one is stopping to ask my number at the gym or the grocery store or whatever. Yet when I dress up in nice clothes and put effort in my hair and wear jewelry, people tend to notice me more and give me compliments. I’ve realized that I don’t need to have sharp cheekbones or full lips to be considered beautiful because I am in control of my own beauty with my fashion rather than my body. When I wear expensive suits and gold jewelry I feel like a king. I relate it somewhat to drag because I don’t wear these pieces to work or when I’m running errands, but when I go out to dinner or meet up with friends, I like to make a spectacle of myself and I like the attention it gets me. I’ve studied fashion my whole life and I know what to pair with what. I know the canvas I was born with and I do my best to dress it appropriately. I’ve struggled with my image my whole life. Being a gay man in a conservative state and being expected to adhere to the “straight guy” norms hasn’t been the easiest way to live. I feel like for the first time in my life I’ve started to feel beautiful and desirable and it all started with what you said about style. I guess I would like to say thank you Natalie. Thank you for opening my eyes to what I needed to hear for so many years. I am beautiful because I make myself beautiful. Society does not decide if I’m beautiful, I do. To quote lady Gaga.
“Look at me now, I feel on top of the world in my fashion”
returning to this video years later, the point about style was honestly pretty groundbreaking for me. I've tried to pursue that since my first viewing and I think I feel pretty confident that I've succeeded years later. so thank you for that 💚
My favourite thing about Contrapoints videos is she puts together fragments of thoughts I've had for awhile into a whole coherent idea
maybe I'm a bit lost but thsi didn't feel so coherent to me
Omg yesss! That's ut
i know, right?
I'm so glad I'm not the only one
she protec
she attac
bust most importantly
*she hecking bacc*
Bert eeee 😚
Bert says trans rights
*heccing
God, I get this so much. I'm a woman working as an electrical engineer, and there's this dissonance between still wanting to be beautiful and feminine, but taken seriously too. So I don't wear make-up (except when I go out, but not when I go to work), but I do spend hundreds of euros on facial creams and treatments. Because you have to be beautiful; beautiful women are actually at an advantage in the workspace; people just like you more when you're beautiful. But it has to seem effortless. Tons of make-up: no, they'll see how much effort you put in. But they don't see how many hours and how much money I spend to make my skin, hair and body look as beautiful as possible.
After 20 years of stealth life, I've kinda gone down the rabbit hole again. And I'm so glad I found you whilst stumbling through RUclips's recesses - not that you live in the recesses... just that, metaphors are limited... well, *my* metaphors are limited... but I'm working on them... anyway - because you're analyses are so balanced and inclusive, and you're helping me find my way through complicated thoughts and feelings. Just a quick thank you for sharing in way that makes me laugh out loud as much as it makes me ponder.
natalie making a crack about skipping sunscreen just to spike the blood pressure of skincare youtube is such a power move
😂 I know I loved it
Hyram has entered the chat 😂
I'm 63. I didn't start wearing makeup until I was over 60 and got tired of the signs of aging on my face, especially the constant dark circles. Contra, dearest, I didn't acknowledge that I was a beautiful young woman until about five years ago when I saw an old photo from when I was 20. So give it around 30 years, and you'll see how hot you are right now. There something positive about aging for you. xxx
@VexedOutVegan right on! I'm 54, & I let the self-criticism + the idea that caring = vanity = shallow suck all the fun out of my young beauty + power. I was so desperate to be taken seriously that I denied myself a lot of free joy. what a waste! enjoy yourself x x
this is deppressing as fuck
so this is as good as i get
all is left for me is decay
@@urban7ratYep carpe diem
I'm in my late 30's, but as early as my mid-to-late 20's, I looked at images (even the "bad" ones) of my in HS and I was shocked that I thought I was so average looking. In fact, for some of us, you will constantly see pictures from 10-5 years ago and think this. The trick, is either not caring or thinking that of yourself at the time instead of some future where you are basically self hating who you are now by comparing the false-ugliness of today with the true-not-ugliness of yesterday.
Ctwo First I’m 41 and realising this. I’m so pleased you commented. I feel the same way but hadn’t spoken to anyone about it to know if others thought the same thing about themselves. I have just gotten into skincare as well. I’d been too unwell and in too much pain since I was 23 to even care about it. Now that I’m slowly recovering I have the energy to take better care of myself. All the best 😊
"Depending on what happens in 2020 I just might grab a brick myself"
Watching this in 2021 hits... different.
2:51 ‘thereby delineating a facial silhouette exhibiting that aspect that medical men call…cunty’
I SCREAMED
I’m a cis girl, and I was born with a very masculine facial structure. I know my struggle is not the same as yours, but for my entire life I’ve felt very dysphoric about my appearance. I’ve been called things like “transgender moana” and “man with a pussy” and a bunch more terms basically meant to tell me that I’m not feminine enough to be seen as a girl by others.. I’ve grown into my features a bit, and I get told some that I’m very beautiful now, but that dysphoria is still there. I want my appearance to reflect how I identify. I want to look dainty and soft and I want people to treat me how they treat other women. I also just want to be able to recognize my reflection. I really feel like I don’t recognize myself most days, and I have to cover all the mirrors in my house bc my reflection makes me have panic attacks. I tried to kill myself about a year ago because the stress got so bad. I’m in a better mental state now, but I still go to insane lengths to achieve even a bit of familiarity in the mirror... Almost starved myself to death multiple times, spent hundreds on makeup and skincare and eyelash extensions/ the works. I’ve even compromised my dreams of becoming an artist to get a career that pays well (so I can afford plastic surgery soon).... this video was just refreshing to see, Because you explain that it’s more than vanity, it’s identity and expression. People treat me like I’m a horrible and vain person for letting my appearance get to me, and so many men have belittled me about my desire to get plastic surgery. They all just assume I want male attention or something and it’s horrible. I’m so sick of it. Thank you for this video.... once again, I know our experiences aren’t exactly the same and as a trans woman you probably experience this sort of thing on a much worse scale. But I still see a lot of my struggle in yours, and the way you’ve grown into yourself and become confident is inspiring to me.
This was really impactful, tysm for sharing it! If I can point out, I think a more correct word might be dysmorphia, not dysphoria.
Hey, I wish you all the best in loving yourself, regardless of if you have cosmetic surgery, extensions and make up, both or none of that
Hiya. I hear your struggle and it seems similar to dysphoria but please dont use that term. The term dysphoria is only meant for transgender people.
caniget uhhhfries I only use that term because I was diagnosed specifically with gender dysphoria by my psychiatrist. My actual biological sex is sort of ambiguous, and is probably best described as mild intersexuality. Basically I say I’m a cis woman because I was born with mostly female presenting genitalia and developed breasts, and that matches my gender expression. However, because of the condition I was born with I’ve had hormonal issues my entire life and developed in a heavily masculine presenting way during puberty (which I went through earlier than most children). I always identified as female, but when puberty began I started looking more masculine and it caused me extreme distress. They started me on hormonal birth control when I was 12 to help suppress my abnormally high testosterone levels. I didn’t bother mentioning any of this in my OG post because I didn’t want the post to be super long or confusing. However I think biological sex is also a spectrum, and while I’m definitely leaning farther towards being a female genetically, I still am not 100%, and it’s been enough to cause issues with my gender expression. I understand though that the term can come off as insensitive when I use it as I wasn’t technically born male, so I’ll do my best to refer to it as body dysmorphia from now on if it helps prevent confusion
I want you to know that I love you, I see you, and I wish you health, wealth and happiness
"Do I wanna attract men? Yes, of course i do. Do i wanna attract women? I guess?"
I'm not sure if it's aged horribly or really well
huh how
@@nym9045 she's came out as a lesbian in her "Shame" video
15:50 timestamp ✨
As a lesbian who found ContraPoints through her Shame video, the "Isn't it safer to just secretly fall in love with [women] while quietly dying inside?" follow-up is the most lesbian thing ever.
Do I want to attract men? Sort of. Positive attention is cool. But the sapphic yearning is next level.
@@EmeraldAshesAudio quoth Sappho:
“Aphrodite HALP! I need help! Get your butt into your golden chariot and get over here before I DIE of thirst!”
Myself, I am starting to become more aware of these sorts of issues and personally I say that I love the content on this channel, it challenges the mindset I have been brought up with and I always love to open my mind to new things.
She's like the incarnation of Libra energy. And I'm loving this
The idea that beauty and Intelligence cant exist simultaneously is frustratingly common. My sister and i look very different, with me being queer i present and act very masc, while she is slightly younger and presents classically feminine with really long blond hair. Back in high school we had the same teacher in two different subjects, and while I got along with him incredibly well and he considered me a star student, he was convinced my sister didn’t care about the subject and didn’t do any work, despite her doing perfect on tests and worked harder on the reading and homework than I ever did. They eventually hashed it out, but that mental disconnect between femininity and intelligence or hard work can have real world consequences in university and the work place.
I know It's been 6 months, but YES, at college, most of my woman colleges don't wear makeup and I do wear it a lot and a lot of my teachers jumped on the conclusion I was not as invested in the class as my classmates, when I did, they only changed their mind because I'm one of the most participative students in the class, but it really was so frustrating to listen how they talked to me in such a condescending way for something so superficial
@@SharonAlice3300 I feel you. In grad school, I was a straight A student who was outrageously girly, showing up to class in make up with 1950's lavender dress with matching lace gloves. That's just my style. I am sensitive to aesthetic, but I noticed that teachers made many assumptions about me (that I am not a feminist, that I'm straight) and that at first they treated me differently than my friends. A lot of the time they seemed shocked when I started giving my insights in class, and they were not superficial or vapid. I could tell. But even after they remarked on the quality of my work, I was often sidelined when it came to opportunities for students of equal worth who presented in ways that were less feminine. I kind of had to accept that my work and efforts were not enough to be fully accepted in the Academic world. I would need to become someone else, someone who follows the bourgeois code of respectable femininity if I wanted to be taken seriously.
Yeah, that disconnect was really strong with my mom when she was younger. The way she talks about her education now saddens me because she does enjoy learning and reading and understanding, but the way her teachers treated her as a young pretty woman really convinced her it was all out of reach. And now she's pretty certain it's too late to have an education as an older person. Pretty tragic to know that treatment was a key reason for her not engaging in school as much as she wanted to
Hedy Lamarr, old Hollywood starlet, had a wonderful scientific mind - came up with ideas now used in current technology.
"Its hard being a 6"
Natalie still salty at that Dark Twisted Fantasy review from TheNeedleDrop
Demon Days of Vinyl someone i didn’t think that their audiences overlapped and yet here we are
@@dressdown00 I dont think its too weird; Fantano openly supports Natalie on Twitter all the time, and shits on Ben Shapiro quite often too.
Shouldn't kid herself, she's easily an 8
@@ThePi314Man Easily.
I actually chuckled loudly in my room reading this lol
OMG THE FACESHOPPING INTRO THIS IS GOUNG TO BE SO GOOD
struggling with my quest of a top surgery, i am once again coming back to this video. the nuance and vulnerability she is able to articulate with actual, strong concepts is really impressive, as always. i feel like she is one of the only YTbers (if not the only?) whose videos have an actual impact on my life.
nobody can say they have "no style" while serving that much sequin
She IS style.
"What do you call someone who makes videos?
A camgirl" - Iconic
I legitimately started taking skincare seriously after watching this video Natalie, so thank you. My pores, and my mum are thrilled.