It's all an illusion . they are miserable and fake all bs. That relationship will stay toxic. Dont be jealous or envious of it no matter what it looks like. U focus on you. The Right person will.come into YOUR life if u work on you❤
dude all the other dating people on RUclips don't say this. But this is the absolute reality, as a man you can never take a girl back if there was another guy after you. Thanks for including that fact in your coaching.
What if you dated young. Then spent a lifetime apart with other people and lives. And things come full circle and you reconnect decades later? Neither has the option to go back to an ex.
You made a good point about an ex not grieving. All the rebound relationship does is postpone grieving and replacing it with euphoria. But grief always comes a knocking months or years, it has a good memory.
This is so true. My girl monkey-branched from another guy to me and I thought "But she'd never do that to me because it's true love and yadayada" and after the honeymoon phase ended I started to get a bit insecure about her commitment and things slowly turned toxic and lo and behold if she didn't do the exact same thing to me 4 years later. Monkey branched to another guy. Oof. So you're absolutely correct rebound/monkey branch relationships are doomed to fail even if it takes years and years it will catch up eventually like it did with me.
Guys it never works,I never thought he will ever come back,we were together for ten years we break up within four months of no contact he marry her,it's was very hard for me but God helped me to heal after three months he came back regretting and asking for a second chance but I damn I deserve better
My brother dated his rebound for 7 years, 2 kids and then they moved in together and got married. The second most toxic marriage or relationship I have ever seen or heard of. They fight physically, swear, shout, it’s all money
Spot on. My ex-husband rebounded quickly and has stayed for years in this relationship. He told our eldest child he did not understand why he was having so much trouble with his girlfriend. He expects relationships, life in general, to be easy. Otherwise he runs away. He just moved to South Korea (from Spain) for work. He monkey branches and believes grass is greener on the other side of the fence. He is childish and very immature.
I was my ex's rebound. We stayed together for 7 years. It turned toxic. She started talking to another guy the week after she broke up with me. We'll see how long it lasts.
My high school sweetheart, married 20 yrs, cheated in 2015 and ran back to me 2 months later. 2022, cheated again and filed for divorce. I went no contact and gave it to her. Her dad passed last week and she reached out after over 2 yrs wanting me to be there for her bc no one else knew her like after I did. I declined.
My ex-husband (married 23 years) in plain words told me he’s moving in with his rebound to forget about me , and to emotionally hurt .. what a wicked human being can do something so evil !! I’m glad I made the decision of never going back ! But still hurts .
Wow same thing happened to me AFTER 23 years of marriage, he moved in with her, I filed for divorce, bye never take him back, her problem now. Broke my heart, open my eyes.
My ex of 4 yrs dumped me and started dating her rebound the same week. They got engaged after 4 months and are set to be married in July only 3 months later!! So they will have been together 7 months before tying the knot. On top of that they both travel for work so have only been together equivalent of like 13 weekends before getting engaged. It's crazy fast. On top of that this guy has never lived on his own. 32 yrs old and lives with mom and dad still. Troubled history too. She is racing to the alter.
This marriage is going to be such a disaster OMG.! Clearly, your ex have attachment issues and this new guy. He is a mama’s boy who has not fully developed into a real man… Just wish them well and move on with your life My Brother she is for the streets .
@@PazGoldmanOfficial everyone I tell the story to says I dodged a bullet. Literally everyone. My kids who are 14 and 10 both were shocked at how quickly she got engaged. She was desperate to get married and she took the first guy who would give her a ring. I remember she would tell me I could find any man off the street to give me a ring in 6 months. I would tell her is that how you really want to judge your husband?. Well I guess she found her guy LOL.... She is still in the honeymoon and infatuation stage making these decisions! Lol This guy also doesn't even know how many women he has slept with because the body count is so high. This guy will wind up cheating on her at some point. I guess they're only saving grace is the fact that they were childhood friends. They have not been best friends but the families know each other and they've known each other for a long time but again it's not like they were hanging out or talking on the phone or keeping up with each other. They were more of just acquaintances at this point in life and she had always had a crush on him but he would never have given her the time of day when he was in high school. But now that he's 32 and his heyday is behind him he has no other options and so she thinks she has a catch LOL
Brother i don't know if i should be sorry for you or congratulate you that she left you I mean it's clearly a very unhealthy behaviour of her and it's almost destined to fail
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Stupid girl will be calling you very soon after the new guy isn't all that. Remember, silence and patience are your biggest allies
@@Symply_Jus_ti_nah you’re welcome, my dear friend you’re the right place at the right time you will find all the answers that you’re seeking here and if you have any questions you wanna ask me please feel free to reach out!
Thank you sir.I was healing with your videos.Im so thankful sir!My ex wife cheating me and be in rebound...sayed hated words for me and now she is dumped.I dont want her back newer!😂Im so much beter whitout her.This woman dont looked me in eyes anymore.She is no have eyes for that....and still hated me so much...i dont know what???Her eyes is full of hate and disapoinment.😂
watching this video a lot from my last relationship makes sense now! i was a rebound person and felt it all the time but couldn´t explain it to myself. in the end the person who at the beginning love bombed me, dumped me. he did to me what his ex did to him and he never grieved, he even kept a friendship with her. she is using him in different ways, keeping him warm and he doesn´t see it, he would do anything for her. he occused me of being jealous, but i didn´t even know that they still had an active friendship relationship. i tought they were meeting like 3x a year, but it was much more and he never told me about this meetings. what was so interesting (i see it now, but back than i didn´wanted to admit that something is wrong), i felt that many things in this relationship don´t really relate to me, he probably did the same things he did with her, uncosciously...and that sucks really....
Define what you mean by a rebound relationship, what is the time period after the breakup for example? Otherwise, virtually every relationship is a rebound relationship, the exception being the first relationship.
I believe a relationship qualifies as rebound when you enter into it without truly and deeply having emotionally and mentally processed your previous breakup. You still have unresolved feelings for your ex and you want to be with them, but if it is not possible, you’re moving on and subconsciously using this new relationship to fix your grief and previous failure. The new healthy relationship can begin after you have mentally and emotionally moved on. Not many people can do that, especially if the failed relationship was very important, and you basically just named the dark side of modern dating where you sleep and live with people before the true commitment of marriage - this way we end up dragging pieces of our exes into every new relationship making every new relationship essentially a rebound.
@@nataliadtut Great explanation. I think I'm a rebound for my BF because he maintains contact with his ex GF. She's been in the shadows the entire relationship and our relationship has been push/pull, on/off the entire time. We're currently in breakup mode and it may stick this time.
@@albertland86 oh man I'm sorry to hear that. I bet it's tough. I'm one year post divorce and still feels very painful. Where you together a long time?
My ex of 9 years dumped me for a dude that I thought was my friend for 25 years. Now I have a badder chic and I wish them nothing but the best but fuck em both. They could have each other. My life is honestly better without them. Thanks coach Paz
I would strongly relativize your opinion: It all completely depends on the relationship: how old you two are, how long the relationship last how deep the relationship was what caused the breakup what kind of breakup it was and so in. I'm wondering what are you citing here: is it a research, a study, a survey? In SOME cases breakup CAN be a catalyst for development with the same partner, in a lot of cases the rebound is to avoid developement. I think everone
It is always about the QUALITY of a relationship. The most interesting would be to see whether life-long couples (40/50+ years) ever had breauk ups and how they played out and were solved by them.
Paz great video...what about a narc that was grooming this monkeybranch used her to make me jealous but may have already emotionally left the relationship...they already feel they grieved the relationship....
My cheating monkeybrancher ex and his rebound are still together 1 year later. They look pretty happy and I feel like they will last as they were friends prior. I guess some times things work out even if it was messy in the beginning. However, this video still gives me some solace though for the unfairness feelings.
Ex husband cheated and abandoned me for a younger woman he was seeing while we were married. Is that considered a rebound? He’s still with her, told me he’s in love with her but also told me he still loves me. I’m feeling better because i noticed I don’t react to his advances anymore. I can’t wait for our marital house to be sold because I’d like to move overseas after that. I’ll be staying a continent away from him in case he wants to come back LOL
I was in a 5.5 year relationship. She immediately left me for this toxic guy nobody likes. They've been together for 4 years. Meanwhile no contact. They never married and hear she is miserable.
A very rare exception if she is telling truth. Also possible it is an extension of the 1 year + toxic saving face scenario. Either way, it can happen, but very rare
Is it not a rebound if she felt like she checked out emotionally of the relationship months before officially breakup? We were together for 3.5 years and were long distance for the last year, it put a strain on our relationship, and she said she fell out of love but still has love for me. 2 months after our breakup she is hanging out with and talking to a new guy, she said she wants to be happy and wants to move on but obviously has some feelings for me those don't just go away. We had a really great relationship, and she said she will always remember it fondly and is sad it didn't work out. They are 'not-serious' but she said they might become serious... which just means they will.
@@whiggygirl @5heyD She did something cute for his birthday the other day, so it's safe to say they are together... Honestly it probably doesn't matter for us to know if our exes are in a rebound or not. Whether we know or not doesn't change the fact that they are not in a relationship with us and they clearly have chosen to speak with and hang out with someone else. We are just clinging onto hope that this relationship they are in won't last and they will come crawling back to us because 'it was so great.' But do we really deserve that? To be their second choice after seeing the grass isn't greener? We really don't. As much as we liked them, as much as we think they are such a good person and how much we loved our relationship with them, we deserve someone that will choose us. It's hard to let go but it's so much easier to be happy when you finally have. I will be honest and say I haven't fully let go and, I am not going to lie, a part of me does wish for her to reach out to me again. But I am in a much better place in accepting things how they are now than I was even 3 weeks ago. To let them go is the way to be free of the anxiety of wondering what is going on with their life, what they are thinking, and what will happen in the future. If something happens in the future it will happen, but waiting for it isn't the way to live life. I am hoping to eventually get to that point that I don't care anymore.
You are such an adorable soul And I really appreciate your help...of course I'm still wounded after being cheated on after three years... will there be A video on what part I had to do with him cheating?... I haven't been able to figure it out!!❤
Thank you so much, my dear friend for your kind words. I really appreciate it and I will make a video on this for you. One thing that I want you to understand is that the fact that you’ve been cheated on doesn’t say anything about you and it says everything about your ex partner ways of dealing with challenges
What does it mean when the ex has the new woman call him a pet name that I gave him? I thought it was odd that she would agree to call him a name that I made up for him.
I got divorced with my ex wife . 6 month later she wanted to come back- I opened my heart , went right back on dating app found dude . We have a 2 year old. Hahsha never opened up the idea take them back
How about if she knew this guy for years as a coworker she used to talk about him saying that he was just a softy and get his heartbroken all the time but she’d never be with somebody like that and that’s who she’s with now
He stepped up in life when he made me his rebound, but 2 years down the road and he's quietly been in contact with his ex GF. I'm about to hand him back off to her but not sure she wants him back either. Good riddance!
I wouldn’t. If they been with someone else after being with me, this is over forever there’s no turning back. They had the chance to fix it with the in the relationship container and they chose not to. It will be foolish to give them a second chance because they will probably do this again and if they don’t do this again already fucked up.
@@PazGoldmanOfficial coach what if the rebound is long distance and they never met? In that case if she breaks up with her rebound before they even met once and come back to me do i take her? Because technically she hasn't done anything physical with him
Why would an ex keep blocking and unblocking me after getting with someone a month after our relationship and after 7 months she unblocked me and i have been unblocked for 2-3 months and is still with the person .. i dont get it?
My ex left me because he created an affair and got the girl pregnant. But this is not something he confessed while leaving me. Instead, After the break up was keeping contact with me and could not understand why he even left me, appearing that he was missing me. After a year, I found out the reason from a common friend… he is now a dad!!
thanks for your great videos. your documentary was so pure. My ex left me after 6 years and I caught him cheating. We were in the middle of renovating the house. He left and never came back. After 5 months she became pregnant and he will become a father in 3 months. She has destroyed a marriage before. I find it so difficult to process as we had been trying to get pregnant for 2 years. Do you still call it a rebowed relationship if they have a child?
I wouldn’t call it anything because of this point I wish that you didn’t care about this which tells me that you need to do some more work on yourself… What do you do to better yourself these days?
@@PazGoldmanOfficialBut she can’t help it. Her body tells her soul and she just lives life feeling it cause it’s a deep scar bro right. So she has to live with it everyday but girlfriend remind yourself of what kind of people these people attract. You said she had ruined another marriage mmmm hunny better believe she gonna do this one (your ex) dirty too. Always remind yourself that and learn the reasons as to why so that that can make you feel better. Take care of you and make sure you are there for yourself and can talk yourself out of it to make you feel better. But make no mistake I promise just watch. They both fucked up and Karma gonna come. Just watch girl just watch. And keep telling yourself…
Learn forex trading. Look it up on google and go down the path of being financially free. Desire to want to grow better also in the career area hunny giiiiirrrrll THATS where you REALLY want live a life of feel good.
I dated a girl for 2.5 years now she broked up with me and went in relationship with her friend...is this an rebound relationship? And the reason she gave me for breakup is that i am toxic and useless.....but she still talks with mee.
What if the rebound is their “first” long term relationship. They got engaged in one year then from what I’ve been hearing she just works and complains (2022-January 2024 is the time frame of complaints) She writes about how much she loves and misses me behind his back but no one believes me. All he does is play video games while she complains.
do you consider it rebound when they are seeing each for 2 yrs before the break up? we broke up 2 months ago and they still seeing each other... weve been together for 5 years.
We were married 7 years my ex rebounded and broke up with that guy after 7 months.. She was alone for 6 months and after 6 months of being alone she went back to her rebound.. Will it last the second time?
I doubt it. That relationship is obviously not functional if they've already broken up once and then now she's going back again. Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and is probably emotionally unavailable
@Sevoflurane2014 Thanks for the comment 👍 Apparently they broke up because he is incredibly boring. My ex and I are both very social and outgoing people.
It won’t last, my ex husband just did the same . The rebound is easy , is a low hanging fruit they don’t see their brokenness, and their BS , little to no investment just easy .
@@anacfonseca8292 my GF of 4 yrs rebounded the same week we broke up. Engaged in 4 months. Married in 6 months after our breakup. Lol... No way that lasts. They are both morons. What high value man agrees to not only DATE a girl fresh out of a 4 yr relationship but in only 4 months decides to marry this girl and in 6 months actually does it???? Dumbasses deserve each other.
What about if he’s not divorced just separated and he’s with her for a year. Will this situation turn toxic? Oh and this is his second girlfriend he’s ever had. Yeah it’s all F UP😮
She's definitely bullshiting. Me ex also got into a rebound and she contacted 3 times complaining to me about her new bf and other times she tell's me how perfect he is and how much better he is than me. It's all mind games
after 1+ year she ended up cheating on me with her phantom ex and seems she was anger at me without communicating with me. This is FA sex addict women realized after infidelity before that i had no clue bc she was masking everything very well.
Oh my god the vacation goes to shit is so real my ex and his new guy went on a road trip and it went to shit at the end of the day because that guy would not stop arguing with mutual friends and guy it so fucking mad lmaooooooo I hope my ex is secretly keeping a tally of that
Hi Can u answer my query plz We were in relationship from 3years it was very serious But last 6 months it wasbt good We stopped talking But two months back he meet me He was happy Its been three months He is very close With one of his old contact Spending more time He told he dnt want me Thousand times i asked About his relationship with another women He is telling no women I dnt want u he told Again ge texting me when and then Like how are u M not getting whats thw reality
Ex of 4 years broke things off with me in October and immediately started hooking up with her abusive ex who she had nightmares about for months. fast forward to now and she’s pregnant with his kid and theyre engaged. shit happens fast apparently lol
Sorry to hear that. Hopefully you'll recover fast, sounds very painful, but let's be honest her relationship with this dude will be terrible, probably you will see it as a gift someday that she left you...
My acc was public but iv put it on private now.. and hers is public so its not asif she trying to make me jealous.. did she unblock because shes over it now?
Me and my ex were together for 1 and half years. I think she’s a Da, we were a little toxic but I loved her and did everything for her. We broke up for 2 weeks when I found out she was hanging out with some guy I thought was a friend. I then found out they hooked up and I acted out. It’s been 2 months no contact. I want her back but I won’t take her back. But she looks so happy and unbothered with the new guy. Does she even feel bad?? Will she regret it? Since I broke up with her is it really a rebound for her?
@@filoboyryanthey are still together, look happy together. Slowly getting over it but still lingers. Never reached out and over heard that she talked very badly of me it’s crazy cause she’s the one that messed up. Don’t wait on a call sometimes they just don’t care and I think rebounds can work
Not really, they are heavy into being blinded by honeymoon phase, it’s all sunshine and rainbows and greener grass for a bit, and so it’s actually more aligned with the point he made in another video about them going for someone exact opposite of you or that doesn’t make sense that they would go for them. Once honeymoon and novelty starts to wear off (could be as early as a couple months or as long as 1 year) and the flaws start revealing themselves, they start comparison. Also the retrospective bias of looking at things in the past with fondness and filtering out the bad things is starting to kick in for maximum lead up to doubt and reconciliation attempt. I’ve seen it happen with an ex of mine who went into a rebound. Sometimes they don’t ever come back though too, just depends on a lot of factors.
It's all an illusion . they are miserable and fake all bs. That relationship will stay toxic. Dont be jealous or envious of it no matter what it looks like. U focus on you. The Right person will.come into YOUR life if u work on you❤
trueee sis
Still hurts tho 😢
Yes it does still hurt
@creyeytions I know my friend… but this too shall pass , stay strong 💪🏽🙏🏽🤍
Thanks Jen 🙏🏼🇦🇺
dude all the other dating people on RUclips don't say this. But this is the absolute reality, as a man you can never take a girl back if there was another guy after you. Thanks for including that fact in your coaching.
wb if they left for a woman?
@@epicperspective same applies
As a woman I will not take a man back after he’s been with another woman. That’s a wrap!
@@alliecat6342 I’m with you. The thought of diseases and the whole nine yards is enough for me to never want to take him back…
What if you dated young. Then spent a lifetime apart with other people and lives. And things come full circle and you reconnect decades later? Neither has the option to go back to an ex.
You made a good point about an ex not grieving. All the rebound relationship does is postpone grieving and replacing it with euphoria. But grief always comes a knocking months or years, it has a good memory.
This is so true. My girl monkey-branched from another guy to me and I thought "But she'd never do that to me because it's true love and yadayada" and after the honeymoon phase ended I started to get a bit insecure about her commitment and things slowly turned toxic and lo and behold if she didn't do the exact same thing to me 4 years later. Monkey branched to another guy. Oof. So you're absolutely correct rebound/monkey branch relationships are doomed to fail even if it takes years and years it will catch up eventually like it did with me.
Guys it never works,I never thought he will ever come back,we were together for ten years we break up within four months of no contact he marry her,it's was very hard for me but God helped me to heal after three months he came back regretting and asking for a second chance but I damn I deserve better
My brother dated his rebound for 7 years, 2 kids and then they moved in together and got married. The second most toxic marriage or relationship I have ever seen or heard of. They fight physically, swear, shout, it’s all money
Damn lol
We pray for them
lol 😂
God blessed them… people are so fucking stupid sometimes
@@PazGoldmanOfficial So true
@@PazGoldmanOfficial They are sinners
Spot on. My ex-husband rebounded quickly and has stayed for years in this relationship. He told our eldest child he did not understand why he was having so much trouble with his girlfriend. He expects relationships, life in general, to be easy. Otherwise he runs away. He just moved to South Korea (from Spain) for work. He monkey branches and believes grass is greener on the other side of the fence. He is childish and very immature.
Sounds like you’re very lucky not to have him anymore in your life!
Sounds like a narcissist.
I was my ex's rebound. We stayed together for 7 years. It turned toxic. She started talking to another guy the week after she broke up with me. We'll see how long it lasts.
My high school sweetheart, married 20 yrs, cheated in 2015 and ran back to me 2 months later. 2022, cheated again and filed for divorce. I went no contact and gave it to her. Her dad passed last week and she reached out after over 2 yrs wanting me to be there for her bc no one else knew her like after I did. I declined.
My ex-husband (married 23 years) in plain words told me he’s moving in with his rebound to forget about me , and to emotionally hurt .. what a wicked human being can do something so evil !! I’m glad I made the decision of never going back ! But still hurts .
I’m curious did you ever have the option to get back with your ex Just curious
Wow same thing happened to me AFTER 23 years of marriage, he moved in with her, I filed for divorce, bye never take him back, her problem now. Broke my heart, open my eyes.
@@anacfonseca8292 never take them back, it would be worse, I know my value and respect also called self-esteem.
My ex of 4 yrs dumped me and started dating her rebound the same week. They got engaged after 4 months and are set to be married in July only 3 months later!! So they will have been together 7 months before tying the knot. On top of that they both travel for work so have only been together equivalent of like 13 weekends before getting engaged. It's crazy fast. On top of that this guy has never lived on his own. 32 yrs old and lives with mom and dad still. Troubled history too. She is racing to the alter.
This marriage is going to be such a disaster OMG.!
Clearly, your ex have attachment issues and this new guy. He is a mama’s boy who has not fully developed into a real man…
Just wish them well and move on with your life My Brother she is for the streets .
@@PazGoldmanOfficial everyone I tell the story to says I dodged a bullet. Literally everyone. My kids who are 14 and 10 both were shocked at how quickly she got engaged. She was desperate to get married and she took the first guy who would give her a ring. I remember she would tell me I could find any man off the street to give me a ring in 6 months. I would tell her is that how you really want to judge your husband?. Well I guess she found her guy LOL.... She is still in the honeymoon and infatuation stage making these decisions! Lol
This guy also doesn't even know how many women he has slept with because the body count is so high. This guy will wind up cheating on her at some point. I guess they're only saving grace is the fact that they were childhood friends. They have not been best friends but the families know each other and they've known each other for a long time but again it's not like they were hanging out or talking on the phone or keeping up with each other. They were more of just acquaintances at this point in life and she had always had a crush on him but he would never have given her the time of day when he was in high school. But now that he's 32 and his heyday is behind him he has no other options and so she thinks she has a catch LOL
Brother i don't know if i should be sorry for you or congratulate you that she left you
I mean it's clearly a very unhealthy behaviour of her and it's almost destined to fail
Stupid girl will be calling you very soon after the new guy isn't all that. Remember, silence and patience are your biggest allies
My ex did the same and never got married. She's just rushing because of the wall. Time will bring a whirlwind of problems.
Best videos no BS straight honesty,no sugar coating ❤❤love ❤❤
Your channel came to me the moment i started thinking about what my ex did to me...thank you 😂😂😂
@@Symply_Jus_ti_nah you’re welcome, my dear friend you’re the right place at the right time you will find all the answers that you’re seeking here and if you have any questions you wanna ask me please feel free to reach out!
Thank you sir.I was healing with your videos.Im so thankful sir!My ex wife cheating me and be in rebound...sayed hated words for me and now she is dumped.I dont want her back newer!😂Im so much beter whitout her.This woman dont looked me in eyes anymore.She is no have eyes for that....and still hated me so much...i dont know what???Her eyes is full of hate and disapoinment.😂
watching this video a lot from my last relationship makes sense now! i was a rebound person and felt it all the time but couldn´t explain it to myself. in the end the person who at the beginning love bombed me, dumped me. he did to me what his ex did to him and he never grieved, he even kept a friendship with her. she is using him in different ways, keeping him warm and he doesn´t see it, he would do anything for her. he occused me of being jealous, but i didn´t even know that they still had an active friendship relationship. i tought they were meeting like 3x a year, but it was much more and he never told me about this meetings. what was so interesting (i see it now, but back than i didn´wanted to admit that something is wrong), i felt that many things in this relationship don´t really relate to me, he probably did the same things he did with her, uncosciously...and that sucks really....
Define what you mean by a rebound relationship, what is the time period after the breakup for example? Otherwise, virtually every relationship is a rebound relationship, the exception being the first relationship.
I believe a relationship qualifies as rebound when you enter into it without truly and deeply having emotionally and mentally processed your previous breakup. You still have unresolved feelings for your ex and you want to be with them, but if it is not possible, you’re moving on and subconsciously using this new relationship to fix your grief and previous failure.
The new healthy relationship can begin after you have mentally and emotionally moved on. Not many people can do that, especially if the failed relationship was very important, and you basically just named the dark side of modern dating where you sleep and live with people before the true commitment of marriage - this way we end up dragging pieces of our exes into every new relationship making every new relationship essentially a rebound.
@@nataliadtut Great explanation. I think I'm a rebound for my BF because he maintains contact with his ex GF. She's been in the shadows the entire relationship and our relationship has been push/pull, on/off the entire time. We're currently in breakup mode and it may stick this time.
@@a.d.b535 yeah, that does not sound good. People who genuinely want to move on and create a new life with a new person cut their ex off completely.
So happy I found your channel
@@FeminineVibez Always here for you my dear friend 🙏🏽
If you have any question or video suggestion, please let me know !
My ex divorced in September 2022 then we met in May 2023 and May 2024 he cheated and discarded me. But I think he was just using me financially.
He was an idiot for having done that to you
My ex just left me to go back to her ex husband an our relationship was great no fighting no argument im thinking she never loved me😢
@@albertland86 oh man I'm sorry to hear that. I bet it's tough. I'm one year post divorce and still feels very painful. Where you together a long time?
@@albertland86 I’m guessing you were the rebound so she was using you to get over him and then realized she still loved him.
@@Emilyathome no 6 months to be honest I always kept my guard up on l was over it fast
@@Emilyathome like someone told me awhile back that she'll be back im not going back
My ex of 9 years dumped me for a dude that I thought was my friend for 25 years. Now I have a badder chic and I wish them nothing but the best but fuck em both. They could have each other. My life is honestly better without them. Thanks coach Paz
I would strongly relativize your opinion:
It all completely depends on the relationship:
how old you two are,
how long the relationship last
how deep the relationship was
what caused the breakup
what kind of breakup it was
and so in.
I'm wondering what are you citing here: is it a research, a study, a survey?
In SOME cases breakup CAN be a catalyst for development with the same partner, in a lot of cases the rebound is to avoid developement.
I think everone
@@robertbenedek4463 Yes, it’s based on massive research, surveys, studies and personal experience.
It is always about the QUALITY of a relationship.
The most interesting would be to see whether life-long couples (40/50+ years) ever had breauk ups and how they played out and were solved by them.
Y’all are going deep man
Paz great video...what about a narc that was grooming this monkeybranch used her to make me jealous but may have already emotionally left the relationship...they already feel they grieved the relationship....
wow one of the best videos i've seen on your ex dating someone new right after a breakup
Thanks so much man! This was soo helpful ♡
Glad to hear it my friend!
Thank you🙏🏽
If you have any questions or suggestions for future videos please let me know, I got you 💪🏽
@@PazGoldmanOfficial I do have a question but I was wondering if I can email it to you?
Yes sure! paz@pazgoldman.com
My cheating monkeybrancher ex and his rebound are still together 1 year later. They look pretty happy and I feel like they will last as they were friends prior. I guess some times things work out even if it was messy in the beginning. However, this video still gives me some solace though for the unfairness feelings.
Its been 1 year... the story isnt done
@mattconway8851 haha who really knows! But each day I heal just a little more and feel more strong
Ex husband cheated and abandoned me for a younger woman he was seeing while we were married. Is that considered a rebound? He’s still with her, told me he’s in love with her but also told me he still loves me. I’m feeling better because i noticed I don’t react to his advances anymore. I can’t wait for our marital house to be sold because I’d like to move overseas after that. I’ll be staying a continent away from him in case he wants to come back LOL
I was in a 5.5 year relationship. She immediately left me for this toxic guy nobody likes. They've been together for 4 years. Meanwhile no contact. They never married and hear she is miserable.
I'm not sure I believe this because my ex wife is with her rebound for 5 years 2 months now and claims everything is great.
A very rare exception if she is telling truth. Also possible it is an extension of the 1 year + toxic saving face scenario. Either way, it can happen, but very rare
You could spend 10 years with someone and it could still flop,it's a ticking time bomb regardless.
Is it not a rebound if she felt like she checked out emotionally of the relationship months before officially breakup? We were together for 3.5 years and were long distance for the last year, it put a strain on our relationship, and she said she fell out of love but still has love for me. 2 months after our breakup she is hanging out with and talking to a new guy, she said she wants to be happy and wants to move on but obviously has some feelings for me those don't just go away. We had a really great relationship, and she said she will always remember it fondly and is sad it didn't work out. They are 'not-serious' but she said they might become serious... which just means they will.
@@tdizzle123 also would like to know, as my ex said similar
In similar situation
@@whiggygirl @5heyD She did something cute for his birthday the other day, so it's safe to say they are together... Honestly it probably doesn't matter for us to know if our exes are in a rebound or not. Whether we know or not doesn't change the fact that they are not in a relationship with us and they clearly have chosen to speak with and hang out with someone else. We are just clinging onto hope that this relationship they are in won't last and they will come crawling back to us because 'it was so great.' But do we really deserve that? To be their second choice after seeing the grass isn't greener? We really don't. As much as we liked them, as much as we think they are such a good person and how much we loved our relationship with them, we deserve someone that will choose us. It's hard to let go but it's so much easier to be happy when you finally have. I will be honest and say I haven't fully let go and, I am not going to lie, a part of me does wish for her to reach out to me again. But I am in a much better place in accepting things how they are now than I was even 3 weeks ago. To let them go is the way to be free of the anxiety of wondering what is going on with their life, what they are thinking, and what will happen in the future. If something happens in the future it will happen, but waiting for it isn't the way to live life. I am hoping to eventually get to that point that I don't care anymore.
@@tdizzle123 Same,mine was long distance for a while too and she gave up on everything,wouldve married her if she stuck with me.
My ex bf left me for a younger woman and had 3 kids with her. I believe they’re still together 15 yrs later.
Are they happy? Time means nothing plus if he leaves it’s 3 kids worth of child support and she gets half the house 🤪 so he is kind of stuck
You don’t think he going through hell with 3 kids. Hell no. That’s to many kids. I’d be dead tired.
You are such an adorable soul And I really appreciate your help...of course I'm still wounded after being cheated on after three years... will there be A video on what part I had to do with him cheating?... I haven't been able to figure it out!!❤
Thank you so much, my dear friend for your kind words. I really appreciate it and I will make a video on this for you.
One thing that I want you to understand is that the fact that you’ve been cheated on doesn’t say anything about you and it says everything about your ex partner ways of dealing with challenges
What does it mean when the ex has the new woman call him a pet name that I gave him? I thought it was odd that she would agree to call him a name that I made up for him.
Man , you are great , your videos are very helpful ! Does this apply to monkey branching as well , right ?
I think yes
Thank you! 🙏🏽 Yes it does!
@@PazGoldmanOfficial okk THANKS
@@PazGoldmanOfficial Thank you paz ! Keep up the good work ! 🙏
Thank you so much! I will 🙏🏽
I got divorced with my ex wife . 6 month later she wanted to come back- I opened my heart , went right back on dating app found dude . We have a 2 year old. Hahsha never opened up the idea take them back
How about if she knew this guy for years as a coworker she used to talk about him saying that he was just a softy and get his heartbroken all the time but she’d never be with somebody like that and that’s who she’s with now
He said he wanted a fresh start.
He stepped up in life when he made me his rebound, but 2 years down the road and he's quietly been in contact with his ex GF. I'm about to hand him back off to her but not sure she wants him back either. Good riddance!
What about a marriage ? Will you get them a second chance even if they been with a rebound ?
I wouldn’t. If they been with someone else after being with me, this is over forever there’s no turning back.
They had the chance to fix it with the in the relationship container and they chose not to. It will be foolish to give them a second chance because they will probably do this again and if they don’t do this again already fucked up.
No!
@@PazGoldmanOfficial coach what if the rebound is long distance and they never met? In that case if she breaks up with her rebound before they even met once and come back to me do i take her? Because technically she hasn't done anything physical with him
Never took her back,she know what doing...dont doubt about that ..she repeat that again if you take her back...
What if my ex girlfriend is on a rebound but we never did stop to see each other and still having sex?
She using and plying you bro
Cause she not suppose to be doing that. That tells you how what she is.
Why would an ex keep blocking and unblocking me after getting with someone a month after our relationship and after 7 months she unblocked me and i have been unblocked for 2-3 months and is still with the person .. i dont get it?
Because when you blocked she can’t see you! Now she’s watching you. Hopefully in 7 months you’ve levelled up, start posting feel good stuff
I agree with remy ⬆️
She is taking interest in you again, but anyway it doesn’t matter, MOVE ON.
She is not worth your time and effort. She's probably curious and maybe hopes you'll reach out, mainly for boosting her ego
My ex left me because he created an affair and got the girl pregnant. But this is not something he confessed while leaving me. Instead, After the break up was keeping contact with me and could not understand why he even left me, appearing that he was missing me. After a year, I found out the reason from a common friend… he is now a dad!!
thanks for your great videos. your documentary was so pure. My ex left me after 6 years and I caught him cheating. We were in the middle of renovating the house. He left and never came back. After 5 months she became pregnant and he will become a father in 3 months. She has destroyed a marriage before. I find it so difficult to process as we had been trying to get pregnant for 2 years. Do you still call it a rebowed relationship if they have a child?
I wouldn’t call it anything because of this point I wish that you didn’t care about this which tells me that you need to do some more work on yourself…
What do you do to better yourself these days?
@@PazGoldmanOfficialBut she can’t help it. Her body tells her soul and she just lives life feeling it cause it’s a deep scar bro right. So she has to live with it everyday but girlfriend remind yourself of what kind of people these people attract. You said she had ruined another marriage mmmm hunny better believe she gonna do this one (your ex) dirty too. Always remind yourself that and learn the reasons as to why so that that can make you feel better. Take care of you and make sure you are there for yourself and can talk yourself out of it to make you feel better. But make no mistake I promise just watch. They both fucked up and Karma gonna come. Just watch girl just watch. And keep telling yourself…
Learn forex trading. Look it up on google and go down the path of being financially free. Desire to want to grow better also in the career area hunny giiiiirrrrll THATS where you REALLY want live a life of feel good.
Every vacation with her was shit.
I dated a girl for 2.5 years now she broked up with me and went in relationship with her friend...is this an rebound relationship? And the reason she gave me for breakup is that i am toxic and useless.....but she still talks with mee.
What if the rebound is their “first” long term relationship. They got engaged in one year then from what I’ve been hearing she just works and complains (2022-January 2024 is the time frame of complaints)
She writes about how much she loves and misses me behind his back but no one believes me. All he does is play video games while she complains.
do you consider it rebound when they are seeing each for 2 yrs before the break up? we broke up 2 months ago and they still seeing each other... weve been together for 5 years.
We were married 7 years my ex rebounded and broke up with that guy after 7 months.. She was alone for 6 months and after 6 months of being alone she went back to her rebound.. Will it last the second time?
I doubt it. That relationship is obviously not functional if they've already broken up once and then now she's going back again. Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and is probably emotionally unavailable
@Sevoflurane2014 Thanks for the comment 👍 Apparently they broke up because he is incredibly boring. My ex and I are both very social and outgoing people.
It won’t last, my ex husband just did the same . The rebound is easy , is a low hanging fruit they don’t see their brokenness, and their BS , little to no investment just easy .
@@anacfonseca8292 my GF of 4 yrs rebounded the same week we broke up. Engaged in 4 months. Married in 6 months after our breakup. Lol... No way that lasts. They are both morons. What high value man agrees to not only DATE a girl fresh out of a 4 yr relationship but in only 4 months decides to marry this girl and in 6 months actually does it???? Dumbasses deserve each other.
What if she got into relationship with her longtime best friend after 1 week of break up? will that make any difference?
@@alv2724 Not at all. It will still fail or turn toxic
My case was similar to yours. They are still together. I'd encourage you to heal past this so that you won't get hurt as much.
What about if he’s not divorced just separated and he’s with her for a year. Will this situation turn toxic? Oh and this is his second girlfriend he’s ever had. Yeah it’s all F UP😮
My ex been with her rebound for a year, she confessing how much she loves her on their 1st anniversary. No chance of her coming back
@@nickyj2657 Congrats....move on.
She's definitely bullshiting. Me ex also got into a rebound and she contacted 3 times complaining to me about her new bf and other times she tell's me how perfect he is and how much better he is than me. It's all mind games
after 1+ year she ended up cheating on me with her phantom ex and seems she was anger at me without communicating with me. This is FA sex addict women realized after infidelity before that i had no clue bc she was masking everything very well.
Is this the same for when their in an affair?
Oh my god the vacation goes to shit is so real my ex and his new guy went on a road trip and it went to shit at the end of the day because that guy would not stop arguing with mutual friends and guy it so fucking mad lmaooooooo I hope my ex is secretly keeping a tally of that
Hi
Can u answer my query plz
We were in relationship from 3years it was very serious
But last 6 months it wasbt good
We stopped talking
But two months back he meet me
He was happy
Its been three months
He is very close
With one of his old contact
Spending more time
He told he dnt want me
Thousand times i asked
About his relationship with another women
He is telling no women
I dnt want u he told
Again ge texting me when and then
Like how are u
M not getting whats thw reality
Ex of 4 years broke things off with me in October and immediately started hooking up with her abusive ex who she had nightmares about for months. fast forward to now and she’s pregnant with his kid and theyre engaged. shit happens fast apparently lol
This is so sad to hear… also it’s going to be the most unhealthy relationship ever… wish her well, she going to need some prayers
Sorry to hear that. Hopefully you'll recover fast, sounds very painful, but let's be honest her relationship with this dude will be terrible, probably you will see it as a gift someday that she left you...
My acc was public but iv put it on private now.. and hers is public so its not asif she trying to make me jealous.. did she unblock because shes over it now?
No, she’s mentally unstable and she doesn’t really know what she wants, let her go move on and let her figure out her life…
I sent you an email I need your help my friend
Me and my ex were together for 1 and half years. I think she’s a Da, we were a little toxic but I loved her and did everything for her.
We broke up for 2 weeks when I found out she was hanging out with some guy I thought was a friend. I then found out they hooked up and I acted out. It’s been 2 months no contact. I want her back but I won’t take her back. But she looks so happy and unbothered with the new guy. Does she even feel bad?? Will she regret it? Since I broke up with her is it really a rebound for her?
I feel you man
Any update?
@@filoboyryanthey are still together, look happy together. Slowly getting over it but still lingers. Never reached out and over heard that she talked very badly of me it’s crazy cause she’s the one that messed up. Don’t wait on a call sometimes they just don’t care and I think rebounds can work
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Its not impossible at all. I know a number of rebound relationships that are now happily married.
Stop peddling misinformation.
This is nonsense. Click bait. You make so many assumptions and generalizations. Ridiculous.
I would think that comparison would begin immediately and not 6 months down the road.
Not really, they are heavy into being blinded by honeymoon phase, it’s all sunshine and rainbows and greener grass for a bit, and so it’s actually more aligned with the point he made in another video about them going for someone exact opposite of you or that doesn’t make sense that they would go for them. Once honeymoon and novelty starts to wear off (could be as early as a couple months or as long as 1 year) and the flaws start revealing themselves, they start comparison. Also the retrospective bias of looking at things in the past with fondness and filtering out the bad things is starting to kick in for maximum lead up to doubt and reconciliation attempt. I’ve seen it happen with an ex of mine who went into a rebound. Sometimes they don’t ever come back though too, just depends on a lot of factors.
55 days and next relationship is still a rebound relationship.
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