Every single one of them. The worst being Blame Shifting and Gaslighting. And this coming from the mother of my children. This kept me stuck in a state of cognitive dissonance for years as I thought everything was my fault. I took all the blame for her cheated and monkey branching to that person. And I still kept wanting her back because I lacked any self respect or self worth. Now I’m doing the work and she could kick rocks.
This happened to me, the blame was shifted when I found out he monkey branched when it was blamed as lack of communication, when he was the one who was stonewalling and ignoring anything I wanted to communicate. Yet the moment I was over constantly being unheard and gave him the same energy, that was the only thing he noticed. It’s fucked up this whole time months after we seperated that he still wanted to make it work, until the moment I found out about her, he was upset about ME being upset. The manipulation is unreal and I hate that I catch myself apologizing for him being upset for the disrespect he caused like all of the emotional neglect was valid and my blame.
Paz your videos and program has helped me so much. Makes me open up my eyes more about NOT taking an EX back. My healing journey hasn’t been easy but having guidance definitely helps.
@@silkiar6297 Thank you my dear friend! I’m glad to hear it has been helpful, cuz the healing journey is NEVER easy, but it can be very PRODUCTIVE. The pain is inevitable, but the suffering is optional, my aim is to help you not suffer and become the best version of yourself during that process, sending love and healing 🙏🏽🤍
Well, after watching this, I’m more convinced than ever that she cheated, honestly. I’ll never have 100% confirmation, but the signs are all there. I never believed her story about meeting him two weeks after the breakup, or that she’s only just getting to know him. But the audacity to gaslight, manipulate, and disrespect me like this is unbelievable.
@CeceliaMorgan uff, that's tough. Honestly, I've had a few breakups in my life, but my last one was very traumatic-I've never felt anything like it. Something was different. I can't imagine the amount of pain you're probably going through right now. Is it still fresh? I could understand if you never trust again-that's exactly how I would feel.
Hey Bro, sorry to hear this but you are probably right. She cheated on you. Same happened to me. She had lined up a replacement months ahead of dumping me. In her case she was the active pursuer and just wanted extra sex, the beta male "candidate" however wanted a relationship so groomed her over 3 months and she pulled the switch first of the year. She immediately went on vacation with this POS right after the breakup then showed up at my apartment right after! Your gut will never lie. She cheated. I knew this in my heart and confronted her and she lied to my face repeatedly but the truth always comes out. Stay strong, you will get through this.
Going through this rn. Everything seemed normal but all the signs were there and I caught her and I got her to admit it. Too bad I broke up with her and gaslight tf outta her. One week later I’m already over her.
She fit 18/21….She’s a serial cheater and she monkey branched/cheated for the last time in October of 2023. She left me and destroyed our marriage of 25 years!! I was so blinded by my love for her and the preservation of my family that I played the fool many times. I believed her feeble apologies and hoped she would change. It’s a feeling I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy! Terrible,hurtful and agonizing!
Thanks a million for this particular video! But I must say - all of yours are tremendously helpful and I find myself nodding constantly - yes yes yes!! 😀
@@wacubby I’m glad the truth resonate with you, my dear friend! That means that you are aligned and on the right track! if you feel that you need some extra help feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix Use the coupon code HEAL to get 50% OFF! (48 hours time-limit)
Watch her phone patterns.Woman move in silence but they all slip up. If your gut is telling you something isn’t right it probably isn’t. Break up with her quick and do not give an explanation. It’s hard to do and everyones situation is different but you’ll come out on top. Remember “Women Move In Silence”
So i just got blindsided again for about the 7th or 8th time in 3 years. Every time is the same, always monkey branching, and eventually comes back. The patterns and cycles are EXACTLY the same EVERY time. We had a one year anniversary last week, and that year was the first time she actually decided to ask me to be her official boyfriend and be in a committed relationship. She could never label the relationship all the times before. Anyhow, almost all of these have happened to me over these different times, but #17 just blew my mind since this just happened a few days ago. This is the text i got the day after she dropped the bomb and told me we were done: "Last thing I want is for us to have any animosity towards each other. I respect you a lot and hope we can keep things civil between us. You know I'm a private person.. I'd like to keep the intimate parts of our relationship private & between us. I really don't want all of (my town) and (her town) to know details of our relationship and why we decided to end it. I hope we can stay respectful to each other"
all the items you listed came true Paz! i kissed her a few times while i was with the man she was with and she kept telling me "your kiss is still magic"! until i found out that she was sleeping with the man she was with now while we were together! i went to her house in that anger and almost killed her! but i couldn't! we cut all ties after that! now she lives in that groom's house with that man!
He is with new supply and DMd me on 25th. I ignored him. Day before yesterday he blocked me then he and his new supply posted a picture of them together as the their profile pics and were throwing love bombs at each other. They were putting on a show. I either dented his ego or they planned it. They are by the way, both Narcs. I know he will reach out again, so I blocked him. I told him when he contacted last time that he found the one, leave me alone. He said the one right now. Meanwhile, I see him liking and hitting up other women. But you can’t tell the new supply because they will think you want them. Meanwhile, she looks like a clown participating in his profile picture games. Karma!!
Paz you have honesty given me the best knowledge and tools to use to educate not just myself but others wow you are the wow factor you say it exactly how it is no bull s#it you have saved me honest to God X Thank you ❤
@@AmandaRoseGotsch thank you so much for letting me know that! You saved yourself by doing the work. I just guided you to the right place. ! Sending you huge hug 🤍🤍
Hi Paz, l wish you would stop saying how you were able to move on and heal and that anyone that follows your advise or program can do it as well. Let me tell you that you only had to get over a girlfriend that cheated on you. I have to get over my wife cheating and now that she is gone, l have my son to look at every day, who constantly reminds me of her. Try and heal from that.
Kinda lost count but I think it was 10? Hope he doesn’t reflect on what I said and doesn’t change with the new guy so his new fling fails and the new guy ends up miserable he deserves worse than cheaters that absolute garbage human being
@@TonyTruthRx unfortunately it’s not a one size fits all… it depends on the individual… I need to know your partner personal background to tell you the root cause of her behavior after a proper character analysis.
@@PazGoldmanOfficial even when I confronted her, she still denied everything. I tried to work it out and she still tried to gaslight me. So glad she’s out of my life now
@@PazGoldmanOfficial I want to get him back U told in video Not to run behind him He is not for me Bec he told he do not want me And not accepting any women he is having But I know he is talking to one women day and night very close I was asking from one month He told no women For ur torture I am accepting i have Leave me Move. Like this he is speaking
I wanted to add a comment my ex was breadcrumbing me giving me hope that we were going to get back together and he already had a girlfriend that he was introduced to while I was with him but anyways of course he cheated on her with me because I wanted to get back together with him he kept telling me that he wanted me back but he couldn't get back with me because he got into some shit with her and no she's not pregnant but I asked him what kind of situation he never wanted to talk about it he would get mad and he would say I don't want to tell you my business with my girlfriend all I can tell you it's getting old and if you just be patient we will have a a chance but one day I walked in on him while he was talking to her on the phone and I said babe twice and he got very upset she heard me and she was calling and calling while we were arguing and he got upset and he never wants to see me again.
Can u answer my query plz We were in relationship from 3years it was very serious But last 6 months it wasbt good We stopped talking But two months back he meet me He was happy Its been three months He is very close With one of his old contact Spending more time He told he dnt want me Thousand times i asked About his relationship with another women He is telling no women I dnt want u he told Again ge texting me when and then Like how are u M not getting whats thw reality
They won't confess they are more interested in someone else, but happily keep you as a back up to fill in when needed. But they don't want you for the long haul and may one day just dump you when they find the one.
@Beautymattersa I am sorry to tell you, but I think your ex has a high infectious disease called "the grass is greener syndrome." He is probably bread crumbing you, so you stay as a backup and at the same time looking elsewhere for other women, or he even has somebody else already. Your only choice is now no contact. Save your dignity, girl. Stay strong 💪
@@Champman543 Thank you so much for your reply He is talking to one girl Day and night But not accepting Taking god promises He is not like that M overthinking But he dbt want me He told he wants to marry me from 3 years now After a gap a asked for marriage He is telling I cant marry u My mom said know to u After 3years he is telling this He blocked he is telling M torturing him By asking about girl He is going with hell torture bec of my questions about his new relationship So he blocked Again unblocked And telling not to torture be Normal M not getting 😢😢😢😢
Went through every single one of these with my ex after i found out she was a cheating POS!! If i can give you all 1 piece of advice, LEAVE!!! If you find out they're cheating on you, leave don't give him any chance to talk to you and reel you back in. Pack your shit and bounce!!
Blame shifting and total no accountability! U opened my eyes haha
I’m glad you can see better now!
Every single one of them. The worst being Blame Shifting and Gaslighting. And this coming from the mother of my children. This kept me stuck in a state of cognitive dissonance for years as I thought everything was my fault. I took all the blame for her cheated and monkey branching to that person. And I still kept wanting her back because I lacked any self respect or self worth. Now I’m doing the work and she could kick rocks.
@@jonjoshua5624 👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽👊🏽
We in the same boat my guy. The messed up part I’m still married to her.
This happened to me, the blame was shifted when I found out he monkey branched when it was blamed as lack of communication, when he was the one who was stonewalling and ignoring anything I wanted to communicate. Yet the moment I was over constantly being unheard and gave him the same energy, that was the only thing he noticed. It’s fucked up this whole time months after we seperated that he still wanted to make it work, until the moment I found out about her, he was upset about ME being upset. The manipulation is unreal and I hate that I catch myself apologizing for him being upset for the disrespect he caused like all of the emotional neglect was valid and my blame.
Paz your videos and program has helped me so much. Makes me open up my eyes more about NOT taking an EX back. My healing journey hasn’t been easy but having guidance definitely helps.
@@silkiar6297 Thank you my dear friend! I’m glad to hear it has been helpful, cuz the healing journey is NEVER easy, but it can be very PRODUCTIVE.
The pain is inevitable, but the suffering is optional, my aim is to help you not suffer and become the best version of yourself during that process, sending love and healing 🙏🏽🤍
Your videos are spot on, brother
Very helpful , truthful,
Thank you for putting in the effort to Help your brothers
Well, after watching this, I’m more convinced than ever that she cheated, honestly. I’ll never have 100% confirmation, but the signs are all there. I never believed her story about meeting him two weeks after the breakup, or that she’s only just getting to know him. But the audacity to gaslight, manipulate, and disrespect me like this is unbelievable.
Classic, if she’s dating someone 2 weeks later sorry to say she was with him for at least a month. At least
Try finding out he's good enough at manipulation that he was with her over 2 yrs before me finding out.
@CeceliaMorgan uff, that's tough. Honestly, I've had a few breakups in my life, but my last one was very traumatic-I've never felt anything like it. Something was different. I can't imagine the amount of pain you're probably going through right now. Is it still fresh? I could understand if you never trust again-that's exactly how I would feel.
Hey Bro, sorry to hear this but you are probably right. She cheated on you. Same happened to me. She had lined up a replacement months ahead of dumping me. In her case she was the active pursuer and just wanted extra sex, the beta male "candidate" however wanted a relationship so groomed her over 3 months and she pulled the switch first of the year. She immediately went on vacation with this POS right after the breakup then showed up at my apartment right after! Your gut will never lie. She cheated. I knew this in my heart and confronted her and she lied to my face repeatedly but the truth always comes out. Stay strong, you will get through this.
Going through this rn. Everything seemed normal but all the signs were there and I caught her and I got her to admit it. Too bad I broke up with her and gaslight tf outta her. One week later I’m already over her.
She fit 18/21….She’s a serial cheater and she monkey branched/cheated for the last time in October of 2023. She left me and destroyed our marriage of 25 years!! I was so blinded by my love for her and the preservation of my family that I played the fool many times. I believed her feeble apologies and hoped she would change. It’s a feeling I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy! Terrible,hurtful and agonizing!
@@JuanPardo-bw7xw not alone bro
Coach Paz spitting FACTS! 💯 Thanks for putting this out there to help all of us in the same boat coach. Appreciate you!
@@CPBRENNAN23 Much love my brother! 👊🏽 thank you so much for your acknowledgment. Appreciate you.!
@@PazGoldmanOfficial 😎 ✊ 🫡
Thanks a million for this particular video! But I must say - all of yours are tremendously helpful and I find myself nodding constantly - yes yes yes!! 😀
@@wacubby I’m glad the truth resonate with you, my dear friend! That means that you are aligned and on the right track!
if you feel that you need some extra help feel free to check out my Online Healing Coaching Program ➡️ pazgoldman.com/theriseofthephoenix
Use the coupon code HEAL to get 50% OFF! (48 hours time-limit)
Thank you Paz! This has given me true closer and peace ❤🙏🏼
@@Lkay4867 YES !!! So happy to hear that!!!
Thank You for your wisdom. It has helped me a lot.
@@brucesienko7428 I’m so glad to hear that!!! 🙏🏽🤍much love!
Everything you said was accurate in my situation 😢
Gaslighting...thats what they do.
@@toostrong2209 yeah! It’s in there!
They are truly f**ked up isn’t it
@@comfortzone5618 Yup… this is common amongst them all!
Watch her phone patterns.Woman move in silence but they all slip up. If your gut is telling you something isn’t right it probably isn’t. Break up with her quick and do not give an explanation. It’s hard to do and everyones situation is different but you’ll come out on top. Remember “Women Move In Silence”
So i just got blindsided again for about the 7th or 8th time in 3 years. Every time is the same, always monkey branching, and eventually comes back. The patterns and cycles are EXACTLY the same EVERY time. We had a one year anniversary last week, and that year was the first time she actually decided to ask me to be her official boyfriend and be in a committed relationship. She could never label the relationship all the times before. Anyhow, almost all of these have happened to me over these different times, but #17 just blew my mind since this just happened a few days ago. This is the text i got the day after she dropped the bomb and told me we were done: "Last thing I want is for us to have any animosity towards each other. I respect you a lot and hope we can keep things civil between us. You know I'm a private person.. I'd like to keep the intimate parts of our relationship private & between us. I really don't want all of (my town) and (her town) to know details of our relationship and why we decided to end it. I hope we can stay respectful to each other"
all the items you listed came true Paz! i kissed her a few times while i was with the man she was with and she kept telling me "your kiss is still magic"! until i found out that she was sleeping with the man she was with now while we were together! i went to her house in that anger and almost killed her! but i couldn't! we cut all ties after that! now she lives in that groom's house with that man!
80% of that 😂 even if I'm suffering so much now I feel sorry for her
He is with new supply and DMd me on 25th. I ignored him. Day before yesterday he blocked me then he and his new supply posted a picture of them together as the their profile pics and were throwing love bombs at each other. They were putting on a show. I either dented his ego or they planned it. They are by the way, both Narcs. I know he will reach out again, so I blocked him. I told him when he contacted last time that he found the one, leave me alone. He said the one right now. Meanwhile, I see him liking and hitting up other women. But you can’t tell the new supply because they will think you want them. Meanwhile, she looks like a clown participating in his profile picture games. Karma!!
Paz you have honesty given me the best knowledge and tools to use to educate not just myself but others wow you are the wow factor you say it exactly how it is no bull s#it you have saved me honest to God X Thank you ❤
@@AmandaRoseGotsch thank you so much for letting me know that!
You saved yourself by doing the work. I just guided you to the right place. !
Sending you huge hug 🤍🤍
100%
Omg its like same my ex done to me
🙌
@@GuidedByAngels 🙏🏽🤍😇
@@PazGoldmanOfficial binge watching your videos tonight 😆
@@GuidedByAngels Do you have popcorn 🍿? 😂
@@GuidedByAngels if you have any specific question, please let me know 🙏🏽
@@PazGoldmanOfficial 😆
How can i call you coach, i just wanted to told my story with my exes 😭
@@FairuzSaleh email me 👌🏽👌🏽
Hi Paz, l wish you would stop saying how you were able to move on and heal and that anyone that follows your advise or program can do it as well. Let me tell you that you only had to get over a girlfriend that cheated on you. I have to get over my wife cheating and now that she is gone, l have my son to look at every day, who constantly reminds me of her. Try and heal from that.
I hope you asked forgiveness from Jesus as he doesnt cause hurtful things to happen. Satan does.
Kinda lost count but I think it was 10? Hope he doesn’t reflect on what I said and doesn’t change with the new guy so his new fling fails and the new guy ends up miserable he deserves worse than cheaters that absolute garbage human being
Do you think they are actively doing these things in a conscious way or it is just their default setting and these tactics are natural for them?
@@TonyTruthRx unfortunately it’s not a one size fits all… it depends on the individual… I need to know your partner personal background to tell you the root cause of her behavior after a proper character analysis.
My ex did EVERY SINGLE ONE of these things. Even after I had proof.
@@BasedLeifEriksson That’s 💩
@@PazGoldmanOfficial even when I confronted her, she still denied everything. I tried to work it out and she still tried to gaslight me. So glad she’s out of my life now
Hi
I neee one help
@@Beautymattersa how can I help you my dear?
@@PazGoldmanOfficial
I want to get him back
U told in video
Not to run behind him
He is not for me
Bec he told he do not want me
And not accepting any women he is having
But I know he is talking to one women day and night very close
I was asking from one month
He told no women
For ur torture
I am accepting i have
Leave me
Move. Like this he is speaking
@Beautymattersa don’t take him back or you will regret that… this is my opinion
Jesus does not work like that.
I wanted to add a comment my ex was breadcrumbing me giving me hope that we were going to get back together and he already had a girlfriend that he was introduced to while I was with him but anyways of course he cheated on her with me because I wanted to get back together with him he kept telling me that he wanted me back but he couldn't get back with me because he got into some shit with her and no she's not pregnant but I asked him what kind of situation he never wanted to talk about it he would get mad and he would say I don't want to tell you my business with my girlfriend all I can tell you it's getting old and if you just be patient we will have a a chance but one day I walked in on him while he was talking to her on the phone and I said babe twice and he got very upset she heard me and she was calling and calling while we were arguing and he got upset and he never wants to see me again.
Can u answer my query plz
We were in relationship from 3years it was very serious
But last 6 months it wasbt good
We stopped talking
But two months back he meet me
He was happy
Its been three months
He is very close
With one of his old contact
Spending more time
He told he dnt want me
Thousand times i asked
About his relationship with another women
He is telling no women
I dnt want u he told
Again ge texting me when and then
Like how are u
M not getting whats thw reality
Paz plz do reply me
M in need of ur help 😢
They won't confess they are more interested in someone else, but happily keep you as a back up to fill in when needed. But they don't want you for the long haul and may one day just dump you when they find the one.
@Beautymattersa I am sorry to tell you, but I think your ex has a high infectious disease called "the grass is greener syndrome." He is probably bread crumbing you, so you stay as a backup and at the same time looking elsewhere for other women, or he even has somebody else already.
Your only choice is now no contact. Save your dignity, girl.
Stay strong 💪
@@Champman543
Thank you so much for your reply
He is talking to one girl
Day and night
But not accepting
Taking god promises
He is not like that
M overthinking
But he dbt want me
He told he wants to marry me from
3 years now
After a gap a asked for marriage
He is telling I cant marry u
My mom said know to u
After 3years he is telling this
He blocked he is telling
M torturing him
By asking about girl
He is going with hell torture bec of my questions about his new relationship
So he blocked
Again unblocked
And telling not to torture be Normal
M not getting 😢😢😢😢
@@Beautymattersa I answered your question here :
ruclips.net/user/livekpQ_Kg-Ywf8?feature=share
Went through every single one of these with my ex after i found out she was a cheating POS!! If i can give you all 1 piece of advice, LEAVE!!! If you find out they're cheating on you, leave don't give him any chance to talk to you and reel you back in. Pack your shit and bounce!!
My ex told me that it’s must be sign cause Jesus sent her the rebound lol 😂😂😂