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  • @sanroqueboy6012
    @sanroqueboy6012 Год назад +107

    Man I've never been this gutted my whole life. Left me at the lowest point in my life, having family and financial problems and she dipped. Came back a year later telling me she still loves me, then a month and a half later she's with someone new. Now she is all over social media posting her new guy, doing things I've always wanted to do with her but cant, because im in medical school. Dedicating songs to him that I used to sing to her and shit... Have no choice but to be happy for her, but I'm hoping one day someone better comes along in the Lord's due time. 🙏

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +2

      😕

    • @TheBlackWomanosphere
      @TheBlackWomanosphere Год назад +31

      She’s for the streets. Never let anyone play you in your face. Let it go and move on! Trust me she will regret treating you like that…let success be your revenge ❤

    • @sanroqueboy6012
      @sanroqueboy6012 Год назад +16

      @@TheBlackWomanosphere thank you for your words. I appreciate it, thats what I needed to hear. I know that bird will come back around once I finally get that "Dr." next to my name in 2 years time, but I'll be probably in Bali with my wife to-be. 😂🙏

    • @sanjmalik6282
      @sanjmalik6282 Год назад +11

      ​@@sanroqueboy6012 Your better off without her believe me. She didn't know your value because she wasn't a quality woman. Work hard become a Dr and find the woman who appreciates you.

    • @sanroqueboy6012
      @sanroqueboy6012 Год назад +5

      @@sanjmalik6282 Some days, I wish she could've been more patient since I won't be stuck in medical school forever. But most days, I'm grateful that she showed her true colors as soon as she left. I really wanted to share with her my achievements and success, but she herself proved to me she was never deserving at all. Thank you for this, Sanj.🤞 I appreciate you! May God bless us all.

  • @mmosley8492
    @mmosley8492 8 месяцев назад +26

    Majority rebounds are usually all about sex, they not looking for it to last, they just really having fun because it's something new

    • @504S
      @504S 7 месяцев назад +2

      This one is very True

  • @kimberleyann51
    @kimberleyann51 Год назад +84

    My ex dropped me so fast. He was online in 24 hours. Even his ex wife is shocked how fast he moved on. In my opinion, if it was that fast, it was happening during the relationship.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +14

      Absolutely

    • @Jake_Boone
      @Jake_Boone Год назад +8

      Oh, for sure. It's tragic. My ex-wife asked for a divorce back in April. 5 days later, she was in an apt. 1 month later, she was already telling our 12 year old son about someone she was talking to. I would later find out she was talking to this person she met online when she was atill in the house.. Phone records indicated she started phone calls about a day or 2 after she asked for divorce. When I confronted her during mediation, she said she cheated. She denied it, saying it wasn't cheating because she had already asked for divorce. It was unbelievable. I would also find out during last summer that he was 19. She's gonna be 37 this July. I have been having a hard time with not viewing the whole thing as grooming.

    • @Jake_Boone
      @Jake_Boone Год назад +5

      Typo...I said she cheated. Also, I believe 💯 that she was already talking to this kid before she asked for the divorce. I have never been more aware of certain behaviors as I am now.

    • @kimberleyann51
      @kimberleyann51 Год назад +3

      @@Jake_Boone terrible!!!

    • @leeruiz5558
      @leeruiz5558 Год назад +3

      The best thing you can do is focus on yourself and allow yourself time to heal. You can’t make someone want to be with you. And if they come back it will be when their ready.

  • @ju2359
    @ju2359 Месяц назад +4

    My ex got with this guy after 3 months after our 2 1/2 yr relationship. I tried getting back with her after the 4 months. She told me she was with this guy but she still broke up with him and started something with me. But after 2 months she went back with him. She told me she loves ne but likes him. She likes what he is doing for her. I’m healing right now.

  • @elharrop
    @elharrop Год назад +74

    It's highly unlikely your ex is going to tell the rebound that they still have feelings for you or that they are healing in any way. They're not going to say anything that reduces the chance of them having sex with this person, lets face it. They will probably lie about how long you've been broken up and totally minimise the relationship altogether.

    • @sheliasmith2884
      @sheliasmith2884 Год назад +22

      Right they will lie and play the victim.

    • @shawny979
      @shawny979 Год назад +7

      So True.

    • @sanny78622
      @sanny78622 10 месяцев назад

      Mine is using him to get over me and supposedly he talks with her about all her problems - she has outsourced dealing with everything to him - he set up a new life for her in a foreign country with him right of the bat, he listens to her all the time, buys her everything, pays for everything etc. No care in the world, that she just got out of the longest relationship of her life.

    • @anthonymullen9250
      @anthonymullen9250 3 месяца назад

      Yes I agree with this the ex will stay quiet about their previous long term attachment partner so as not to frighten the new rebound off. If they do know about it the breakup then the new rebound has antisocial personality traits and is grabbing at the opportunity of the exes loss generally to take sexual advantage of them in their vulnerability

    • @NashvilleBoss
      @NashvilleBoss 9 дней назад

      People ain't shit

  • @user-kl9th4dm2y
    @user-kl9th4dm2y 4 месяца назад +13

    More than 60% of conventional, traditional NON-rebound relationships don't even go the distance (see divorce rate). So, a rebound relationship basically stands no chance of survival. If your ex jumped into one of these, work on yourself and let it go through its cycle. It when begin to crumble after 6 months to a year if not sooner. Then your ex will either monkey branch again or start breadcrumbing you depending on how their perception of you changed over that time. You either take them back or have moved on. If your ex is in a rebound, you are in a win/win situation. It may not feel like it, embrace the stated facts and believe.

    • @DianaVanessaful
      @DianaVanessaful 25 дней назад

      How is it possible that my ex is still with the rebound 2 yrs and a half after leaving me? He came back a few times and pretended he was single so we got close again, but as soon as i found out he was still with her i ghosted him 6 months ago.. but yeah even tho he was pursuing me again their relationship is going strong.. they’re still together for 2 yrs now, it’s not fair! I was with him for 7yrs and we were friends before our relationship

    • @user-kl9th4dm2y
      @user-kl9th4dm2y 24 дня назад

      @@DianaVanessaful He may have come back to you just make sure you're still an option and then returned to the new one. I wouldn't let him back again until he's truly single and says he's committed-maybe don't take him back at all and try to move on. Good luck

  • @patriciaquaglia1795
    @patriciaquaglia1795 Месяц назад +4

    Right we’ve been told that time heals. If you’re not unpacking that bag, you don’t heal.

  • @erinoostenbroek6490
    @erinoostenbroek6490 Год назад +18

    My ex husband left me and his daughter for a whore who left her family as well for him. I had to sell our house and restart my life again with a child who has her heart broken by her father.
    I now have met a wonderful kind man and his son and this wonderful man has shown infinite strength, love and support for myself and my daughter and I feel honoured to have him and his son in my life ❤

    • @nicolapetersen1633
      @nicolapetersen1633 5 месяцев назад +1

      This is wonderful wishing you nothing but the best. These cheaters do not care about the chaos and destruction they cause.
      Please be assured Karma is real!

    • @kerrymillar1267
      @kerrymillar1267 Месяц назад

      Women who get involved with men with young children are broken. Glad to hear you’re much happier now.

  • @laurenmountain-ledoux6901
    @laurenmountain-ledoux6901 Год назад +12

    My ex reached out to me before meeting the rebound (I was NC.). He continued to reach out at the very beginning of the rebound, I again continued NC but always responded politely. He stopped reaching out for a maximum for 28 days, they moved in together, I I have said nothing to him about it, now, he’s reaching out more frequently and has started mentioning meeting up. His rebound doesn’t know anything…

  • @sanjmalik6282
    @sanjmalik6282 Год назад +31

    The best rebound video, all the reasons you mentioned happened to the ex narc. His rebound is based on lust when I discarded him and he fell for the first thing that showed him interest. Idolised her for about few weeks then the cracks started to show. She found out he ìs abusive and he found out she is a gold digger. Match made in hell. She thought 🤣 he had left me for her and had found a treasure only to find she had bagged trash.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +6

      Oh wow. You really incorporated it all lol

    • @sheliasmith2884
      @sheliasmith2884 Год назад +7

      Isn't it funny how they will leave a jewel for a piece of trash it was destined to fail honey rejoice.

    • @sanjmalik6282
      @sanjmalik6282 Год назад +4

      @@sheliasmith2884 Thank you.

    • @sanny78622
      @sanny78622 10 месяцев назад +5

      I sort of feel like this could be same with my ex...I never knew she wanted somebody to buy her everything and pay for everything like he is doing now the first week they were together. And he sure has to have narcissistic tendencies from what I know of him (threatened to kill himself because of her before, even though she was in a relationship with me and he known her for a few weeks only and now is totally love bombing her from the day one) .... I thought she was the one, but maybe I just dodged a massive bullet....

  • @bossbruda
    @bossbruda Год назад +25

    If the ex shows once or twice during no contact while in the rebound, that they want contact with u and u decline the friendship politely, they will come back, time is crucial😄

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +7

      Yessir!

    • @83aquastar
      @83aquastar 6 месяцев назад +2

      I needed this! My ex told me, after we had started chatting friendly (which sometimes ventured into flirty/spicy), that he was seeing someone but it wasn’t serious. I dont care that he’s saying it’s not serious; the “I’m seeing someone” part is what made me tell him I’ll leave him be. Going on two weeks no-contact with the only interaction being a laugh react from him on a Facebook comment.

  • @teresalopez5683
    @teresalopez5683 Год назад +4

    Another awesome video.Thanks and stay blessed always 🙏 ❤️

  • @Shippendales
    @Shippendales Год назад +3

    Courtney is the man. Great video as always.

  • @108Isabel
    @108Isabel Год назад +23

    My ex left me so fast for someone else and they got engaged so fast in less than 2 months. His posting his photos to hurt me and I have a feeling it wont last but I'm trying to move on I know I deserve better ❤. I just feel bad he always gave me bare minimum and for the rebound he goes 100% 😢

    • @CallierCalye
      @CallierCalye Год назад +3

      Crazy the same exact shit happened to me this year, it was 3 months tho she got engaged crushed me I wrote a whole album bout it, hope you’re healing well tho

    • @isrj1111
      @isrj1111 10 месяцев назад +4

      Exactly same happened with me too. Shocked that she got engaged with new guy in a MONTH!

    • @CallierCalye
      @CallierCalye 10 месяцев назад +1

      @@isrj1111 damn so this some common shit basically

    • @isrj1111
      @isrj1111 10 месяцев назад

      @@CallierCalye She was fearful avoidant attachment style. Pretty common for them. Pretty brutal and heartless

    • @yoursassyg1rl
      @yoursassyg1rl 5 месяцев назад +1

      Happened to me too. Typical covert narc.

  • @graymoon378
    @graymoon378 26 дней назад

    Bro, you are so right! I followed you for sometime and have actually delve deeply into attachment theory. You said something that was so deeply accurate. After two years an ex who I was deeply in love with and she was deeply in love with me, broke up with herfiancé. This occurred exactly at the two year mark. And I truly believed that their relationship after our relationship was extremely rocky.

  • @paulsell2438
    @paulsell2438 Год назад +8

    My ex ended it because I was needy and didn't give her the space she needed...the rebound is already there. Time to focus on the man in the mirror.

    • @Focus293
      @Focus293 Год назад

      I can relate. Stay strong.

    • @paulwilliams7700
      @paulwilliams7700 5 месяцев назад +1

      Never blame yourself. This is 100% about her lack of character

  • @jeaneengant6771
    @jeaneengant6771 Год назад +5

    She can have him.. it’s cool

  • @shaynalee
    @shaynalee 6 месяцев назад +6

    My ex proposed to his rebound in 8 months. They are now married. But I was the one who broke it off as I got tired of being the only one responsible financially.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  6 месяцев назад +2

      Finances are a big cause of resentment in relationships

    • @brandon9638
      @brandon9638 5 месяцев назад +1

      I'm sorry this happen to you. But know that just because they're married, doesn't mean they're happy. If it hasn't already, that spark will fizzle out in due time and he or she will eventually cheat. This is the pitfall of marriage. Most spouses fall victim to complacency, they get too comfortable. At that point, the marriage becomes monotonous and boring. This compels one to seek excitement elsewhere.

    • @TheDevineFempress
      @TheDevineFempress 2 месяца назад

      He found a richer dumber woman

  • @pinion666
    @pinion666 Год назад

    Preach with love.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад

      Always!

    • @pinion666
      @pinion666 Год назад

      @@IamCoachCourt I keep watching you and many others, it's been 6 months. I'm still in my rumination stage, no c9ntact and stone walling, because we work in same department. She monkey branched and I'm in monk mode, I can't wait till it passess into oblivion... hard when you work with.... but I do like their attachment style... dissmiss and avoid.... I have a feeling il be making a list for her of all the coaches I watched and saying to her you got six months min to be alone. But I am hopping I made it where when her nostalgia kicks in..... itl be hard for her to approach... but hoping she won't. With all that I learned and the social gossip at work... I don't wanna talk to her. Her soul is bad medicine.

  • @monicaasimo7936
    @monicaasimo7936 Год назад +3

    Count yourself lucky that she has shown you her character now just imagine what she would do while your out saving lives . She doesn't deserve you.

    • @t-pain3343
      @t-pain3343 9 месяцев назад

      If someone shows you who they really are, believe them

  • @kenjohnson8519
    @kenjohnson8519 Год назад +2

    Was in a relationship for 10 years 5 months ago I was talking to my girlfriend all day when I was at work got home to find out that she moved all her stuff out called her up we got into a argument so I'll let it die down for three weeks after the three weeks I when to her house and found out that someone was living there with her

  • @Maki-qw8he
    @Maki-qw8he Год назад +8

    As someone who was in a rebound relationship (I found out she still loved her ex 2 months in) it was extremely toxic and ruined my self esteem, she constantly compared me to him, wanted eggz all the time (I didnt give in cuz i had work very early in the morning, she legit got mad all the time) uh yeah

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +2

      Sorry you had to experience someone who wasn’t healed

    • @Maki-qw8he
      @Maki-qw8he Год назад +2

      @@IamCoachCourt nah its all good mate. It happens to the best of us.

  • @ericawillis6836
    @ericawillis6836 4 месяца назад +1

    My ex was in a rebound within 30 dys and his rebound was out her relationship the same mth they were each other rebound currently still together going on 4ths now.

  • @jeaneengant6771
    @jeaneengant6771 Год назад

    4 yrs.. then find out he’s was cheating with an ex.. but she understands him.. as she and he said.. she’s ok with him seeing other women and when he want to see her.. so now he don’t want in a committed relationship

  • @MSK.7
    @MSK.7 10 месяцев назад

    What if they are having a rebound with someone they new from 15 years ago? How does that work? X

  • @Flufero23
    @Flufero23 Месяц назад +2

    My ex fearful avoidant monkey branched after our four year relationship. He still has deep feelings for me.(He told me so). The new love knows nothing about me. Can you imagine??

    • @Bluepearl187
      @Bluepearl187 Месяц назад

      This also happened to me but she knew he was with me since they are coworkers. He’s already cheated on her and they’ve only been together for 2 months. He has also told me that he still loves me. He’s also FA.

  • @DianaVanessaful
    @DianaVanessaful 25 дней назад

    How is it possible that my ex is still with the rebound 2 yrs and a half after leaving me? He came back a fews times and pretended he was single so we got close again, but as soon as i found out he was still with her i ghosted him 6 months ago.. but yeah even tho he was pursuing me again their relationship is going strong.. they’re still together for 2 yrs now, it’s not fair! I was with him for 7yrs and we were friends before our relationship

  • @lmfisher650
    @lmfisher650 6 месяцев назад

    What if your husband moved towns but also in with the coworker he monkey branched to within 15wks of separation from you? What are the chances? It seems rather permanent to me. It seems like he would try to make it work. He hasn't done any healing or being by himself all while I'm heartbroken. They are travelling together and everything which is what he wanted to do but I was up until recently, chronically ill. He is doing all this with her. It is because she was ready to go and i was trying to get better. She is definately desperate for a bf and because they showed each other attention, they went for each other after emotionally cheating. She knew about me and stole him from me without remorse. I also think he is going through a midlife crisis and wanted excitement, validation, ego boost, instant gratification etc. They were shagging within weeks of me leaving. He dumped me though. Will he ever come back to me? Will he realise how important i was being his wife?

  • @anaaviles6552
    @anaaviles6552 6 месяцев назад +4

    The saddest is when they keep the rebound in shadows after 6 months. It’s like having a mistress that your friends and family disapprove. Don’t want to be in her place 😢

  • @Indigo-blue1978
    @Indigo-blue1978 6 месяцев назад +3

    My wife became very difficult and argumentative towards me. To a point I ended it because she wouldn't talk to me properly. She then used me ending it against me constantly. Making it look like I'd forced her I kept telling her she had the choice and she could talk to me
    I feel it was her way of consenting herself into a new relationship.
    It wasn't long after I started seeing things that told me she was doing stuff and hiding it.
    Three or four months later I asked her she at first argued then confessed she was seeing someone but then went onto saying she hadn't slept with anyone while we lived together
    That tells me he was around but that nothing had happened.
    Monkey branch for sure.
    Makes logical sense she battled to cause the break....at the time I didn't see this.
    Her family have cut me out completely.
    That was june/July.
    Since then she's been kinder. She goes on about how she's so strong and a warrior in front of the kids when I'm around.
    She acts all happy and cheerful.
    It appears that she's trying to keep me on side and actually keeping us both seperate from one another.
    We had a photo taken with the children at Christmas I put it on show in her house. She moved it out the way.
    She spends time with me and the kids texting and twisting her phone away from my vision so I can't see.
    I've reached a point where the pain has pretty much gone now.
    She can do as she pleases...I just feel sad for my children they cry when I leave and attack my wife kicking and punching her
    I tell her you do know how this is affecting the kids.
    She looks at me blankly she knows....but her head is in bed with another man regardless of the carnage this causes to our three children
    It's the devil's work and shame on the man who walks in and tries to break up a family also

    • @dt3947
      @dt3947 3 месяца назад

      Literally the same situation brother. Best thing to do is walk away and let it play out. Misery loves company and it’s unfortunate for the kids, but they’ll truly know what their mother is like.

  • @jayc342009
    @jayc342009 Год назад +7

    hi coach what is your opinion on someone who hops from relationship to relationship never taking a break?

    • @xeanvalenzuela8451
      @xeanvalenzuela8451 Год назад +1

      Exactly my x. He was already planning his exit. I don't know maybe multiple relationships at a time why he had a replacement already before he broke up with me. But I'm glad he did broke up with me because I still holding on even though I'm hurt already because he said he is afraid of abandonment yet he was the one who abandoned me. I was traumatized but at the same time I am glad we broke up.

    • @helenaasousa
      @helenaasousa 7 месяцев назад +1

      ⁠@@xeanvalenzuela8451 I know your pain, it’s so hard to face, burns like hell. But you answered your question in what you said. He told you he fears abandonment. This type of behavior is called Monkey Branching, amongst other things. Look it up. You’ll probably gain some deeper insight into the root of it. Be grateful that you’re not that type of person. It shows immense strength on your part. Sending you hugs & much love. It takes time, but the more you stay away, the more you’ll become the best you, & really be ok hanging with yourself, bc ur cool like that! ❣️

  • @sanny78622
    @sanny78622 10 месяцев назад

    Yep, that sucker didn't mind she was in a relationship with me 5 yrs ago, he then threatened to kill himself if she left him (she came back to me, nothing happened), now that we broke up after 8yrs together, she jumped straight back into his familiar arms, supposedly he is now reformed - yeah reformed my ass, he didn't waste a minute to lure her to him when she was the most vulnerable she has ever been and made her move in with him 3 weeks after the break up and bought her an entire new wardrobe and then another two or three weeks later they got engaged - she asked him supposedly..lmao... like what? I am crushed ofc despite being the one who ended the relationship, that I wanted to save, but couldn't and now she is doing this and that guy? It's like which one of them is more desperate? who over invests like this into somebody they've known for a few weeks? It's crazy... she's like a totally different person now... I can't believe what a person that I've known since high school and been with for 8 years could do....

  • @Samantha-bc2uu
    @Samantha-bc2uu 5 месяцев назад

    😢My ex is on and off with his rebound. Why??He came back during no contact and let me.know he still loves me but was still with the rebound, but he also.said he will not contact me again.

  • @teresalopez5683
    @teresalopez5683 Год назад +2

    Still waiting for my husband's rebound relationship to end. I'm working on myself to stay busy. My husband is a DA. Very stubborn 😣

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад

      😣

    • @Focus293
      @Focus293 Год назад +1

      You're still married to him? Is that healthy?

    • @teresalopez5683
      @teresalopez5683 Год назад

      Yes.Im working on myself n not yet ready to divorce him.

    • @teresalopez5683
      @teresalopez5683 Год назад

      @@Focus293 Yes. I'm gonna still keep going on working on myself n staying focused on my purpose 💯

    • @Focus293
      @Focus293 Год назад +1

      @@teresalopez5683 Alright but don't let yourself stay in a toxic situation for too long. It'll do more damage to you.

  • @edwardsanchez1542
    @edwardsanchez1542 Год назад +1

    You say a rebound relationship last or definitely hits problems at two years. What do you feel is the minimum amount of time. I'm guessing my opinion is three to six months. My ex jumped into a relationship fairly quickly with a coworker of hers. He is separated with two kids and his separation was fairly recent as well. I was like wow this guy really? Anyhow the main question is what do you feel is the minimum amount of time a rebound relationship goes?

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  11 месяцев назад +1

      I’ve seen 2-3 months

    • @jaysteele4872
      @jaysteele4872 8 месяцев назад +1

      My ex wife monkey branched to a guy who has a load of baggage and apparently fell in love with him within 4 weeks, we had been together 18 years. Their relationship lasted 3 months. I'm now finally in a great head space and preparing for our divorce and I think the reality of it all has now hit her after the limerance for him wore off. Stay strong people, this stuff really hurts but it does get better and if they chose someone over you then they don't deserve your love

  • @catchyouby2477
    @catchyouby2477 Год назад +4

    My ex wife has been with her rebound a year now.

    • @24soczysta
      @24soczysta 9 месяцев назад +1

      Well guess what in my opinion still not enough time. I know for you it might feel like it's forever but it's not. My brother got into a rebound relationship right after his ex fiance cheated on him. It lasted almost 2 years. He broke up with his rebound about a month ago and he's not planning to be with anyone soon. I told him he needs to heal himself first. Deep down in my heart I know he's still hurting.

  • @lmfisher650
    @lmfisher650 6 месяцев назад +1

    I might add that within the first few days of him telling me he wanted to 'see other people' and us separating, he was on tinder. It's like he can't be alone. He needed to get into a relationship instantly and now he is moving in with the coworker he monkey branched to. She was staying in my bed for weeks after i left and he is staying at her place while they are currently moving him out of our marital home. He is moving 60km away to the next town where he works at the job I GOT HIM.

    • @nicolapetersen1633
      @nicolapetersen1633 5 месяцев назад +1

      It's always a co-worker lol

    • @TheDevineFempress
      @TheDevineFempress 2 месяца назад +1

      You helped the trash take it self out…stuff like that never prospers be glad he showed you who he was

    • @lmfisher650
      @lmfisher650 2 месяца назад

      @@TheDevineFempress 3 months after this original comment, I'm happy in a new relationship with a long term friend.

  • @gregepps1669
    @gregepps1669 Год назад +1

    I have a question and I hope you can help me.
    My ex girlfriend was married 26 years prior to our relationship. She was divorced a year before we started dating. I was her first relationship after the divorce. We dated for a year and half.
    Five months after breaking up with me, she started dating her current boyfriend.
    So... would you consider me the rebound or her current boyfriend the rebound??

    • @beckymusgrove4784
      @beckymusgrove4784 Год назад

      I can relate to your situation. Mine’s a little different, but similar in that I realized that my ex hadn’t fully processed, taken responsibility for, or healed from his divorce before me. We dated for over 1.5 years, and he abruptly broke up with me on the phone when he was very emotionally shutdown with very little conversation. I’ve realized he’s very avoidant and possibly has some narcissistic traits as well.
      Within two months of us breaking up, he jumped into another relationship, and five months later got engaged. His son was also killed three months after we broke up. He’s running from his pain, not dealing with anything, and pretending everything is great.
      I think rebound relationships are determined by someone’s emotional state rather than by time. I absolutely think my ex used me to distract himself, even though it had been longer, and this new relationship is absolutely a rebound, because he didn’t deal with the end of our relationship. In fact, he now has his marriage/divorce, our relationship, and his son’s death, all piled up. So it’s even worse now. Some people can just jump from one rebound to another if they never deal with the end of their relationships, regardless of the time in between. Obviously the chances of them healing are greater with more time, but not necessarily.

    • @Focus293
      @Focus293 Год назад

      I think both of you are the rebounds. It's possible for someone to rebound with multiple partners just to try to get over that one ex which in her case is her ex husband.

    • @beckymusgrove4784
      @beckymusgrove4784 Год назад +2

      @@Focus293 with each rebound, you have more relationships you’re trying to get over-not necessarily just the original one. Because you continue to add more baggage and unresolved pain you’re avoiding and running from.

    • @Focus293
      @Focus293 Год назад +1

      @@beckymusgrove4784 that's a hard life to live

    • @gregepps1669
      @gregepps1669 Год назад

      @@beckymusgrove4784 WOW!! Our stories are very similar!! She broke up with via text message. The crazy she is LCSW, so should know how to use her words. LOL LOL
      We've broken up for 14 months. We broke up on 10/21. We kept in contact for a couple months after our break. However in Dec, we had a huge argument and we said horrible things to each other. I immediately apologize for the things I said.
      We didn't communicate for several months after the major argument. We reestablished communications in April 2022 and she informed that she was dating but we could be friends. Like an idiot, I agreed to be her friend.
      Shortly after I informed her that I couldn't be her friend. But I will be in contact with her to return her stuff that she left at my house.
      In July 2022, I tried calling her regarding her stuff but she blocked me. I emailed her but she wouldn't reply. So...from July to Sep I tried contacting her but she wouldn't respond.
      In Nov, I sent her a Happy Thanksgiving card. She replied to the card three weeks later via emailed. In the email she thank me for the card. Then we started to email each back and forth.
      On Christmas Day, she text me Merry Christmas. Remember she had me blocked since July.
      In Jan 2023, she sent email regarding her stuff. I replied with, "If you wouldn't to contact me regarding your belongings call me. I'm no longer will be communicating with you via. Don't worry I will never call you while you her dating another man, but feel free to call me!!"
      I sent that reply almost two months and she hasn't replied back. LOL LOL
      Just ridiculous, but it's all good. I'm dating again. I wish her the best.

  • @shawny979
    @shawny979 Год назад +5

    My Ex broke up with me and jumped into a Rebound within a month. Says he's in love with her and wanted to see where it goes. Okay, dummy.
    Is that even normal behavior?

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +4

      😂 it’s pretty common

    • @kmh79831
      @kmh79831 Год назад +3

      Mine said the same thing when I found out he was cheating on me with her. He justified it by saying he "was leaving me" when he decided to start cheating. Anyways he wound up leaving me and my kids after 15 years. Less than two months later he said he missed me and couldn't trust her.

    • @pppaaattt8401
      @pppaaattt8401 Год назад +2

      @@kmh79831 He is playing games. If you take him back he will either go back and forth or do it again with someone else. Please start to heal than decide when your mind is clear 👍🏼🙏🏼❤️

  • @zeldsfan
    @zeldsfan 7 месяцев назад +1

    My ex is heavily traumatized and monkey branched onto him because he is the closest she can find that resembles her initial abuser from when she was a child. I literally got thrown away for something like that. That rebound aint gonna life long

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  7 месяцев назад

      How long did she live with her parents and had to tolerate it? think about that

    • @zeldsfan
      @zeldsfan 7 месяцев назад

      @@IamCoachCourt the abuser was a guy she moved to, stayed there for 2 years and came back after

  • @nickh7724
    @nickh7724 Год назад +1

    What if your ex friendzone you. You stupidly agreed to be friends during that time months after the breakup and leading you on they found someone new?
    “I never agreed to friends”, but she never mentioned it or gave me any reason to know I was there. She cried when I told her if you have a boyfriend I’m out and begged me for days to stay. Two months no contact now. If she sees me as a friend I think there is no way out.

    • @LG-ly7pw
      @LG-ly7pw Год назад +2

      Shes manipulating you. Crying? She’s wants everything her way. You’ve cut her off- leave her alone. She sits with the decisions she’s made. Don’t make the break up easy for them

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +1

      Posted a video

    • @tyron10898
      @tyron10898 Год назад +1

      Went through a similar situation. My ex broke up with me and wanted to remain friends. I agreed to this thinking it would help rekindle our relationship. 2 weeks post breakup she is in a new relationship and posting him all over social media (but couldn't post me when I was with her). When I found out she has a new man, I blocked and removed her on all social media. She reached out to me and called me childish for blocking her and I can't face the fact that she has a new man and has a connection with him. I told her a friendship isn't on the cards for me, she has a new man, and we have history, so I'm not meddling in someones relationship, and I am moving on. I blocked her again and never looked back. It's been tough, but since cutting her off in totality I have realized a lot about her, and myself, and I'm glad she showed me her true colors, because I was blinded while being with her.

  • @VictoriaHannah-xx1qe
    @VictoriaHannah-xx1qe Месяц назад

    My ex boyfriend new relationship he said he happy

  • @t-pain3343
    @t-pain3343 9 месяцев назад

    My ex wife rebounded while we were married with our 22F babysitter.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  9 месяцев назад

      Whoa

    • @t-pain3343
      @t-pain3343 9 месяцев назад

      @@IamCoachCourt yea. Wife, 35F cheated on me with a guy last December and at the same time with this junior in college. I filed. The 22GF lives in my old house. Good riddance. I posted my story on the surviving infidelity sub on Reddit. Everyone came back with midlife crises. That’s what I’m going with.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  9 месяцев назад

      @@t-pain3343 absolutely a crisis

  • @ladyvirgo9514
    @ladyvirgo9514 9 месяцев назад

    My husband of 12 years has been shacked up with the secretary from his work since May...dumb ass isn't even divorced. Im certain he is a covert Narcissist

  • @TChalla-yg8bl
    @TChalla-yg8bl 6 месяцев назад +1

    im a rebound dumpee and she went into another relationship😂 figure that one out

  • @franceskospahi7371
    @franceskospahi7371 Год назад +1

    Me and my ex we broke up 1 month ago and she jumped after a week to someone who doesn't live in same country.. But she still texting me and flirt a bit with me what that mean

    • @benithacalloway8286
      @benithacalloway8286 Год назад +8

      She don’t want to feel the pain of leaving you. It calls dumper remorse. She’s bread crumbing you to get your approval to feel at ease. Don’t fall for it. 😢

    • @sheliasmith2884
      @sheliasmith2884 Год назад +2

      Let her be because we all know that those relationships don't work do you and be grateful you dodged a bullet.

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Год назад +3

      What she said

    • @franceskospahi7371
      @franceskospahi7371 Год назад +1

      She said she is confused about that guy she was so happy in first 2 weeks talking to that guy after she said to me i am down bc he is to far and she is losing me bc me i go no contact to her... She keep sending me some videos what that guy sends to her is this immature or what.?

    • @Focus293
      @Focus293 Год назад

      ​@@franceskospahi7371 stop talking to her

  • @marcuselliottsr
    @marcuselliottsr 9 месяцев назад +2

    I pray its a train weck. Not wishing bad, but yeah😂

    • @zandrai320
      @zandrai320 7 месяцев назад +4

      Fighting with myself everyday to not feel the same way 😂 we broke up and he was with someone else real quick. I treated that man like gold. So yeah I hope they crash and burn. She knew about me also.

    • @marcuselliottsr
      @marcuselliottsr 7 месяцев назад +1

      @zandrai7929 yeah these monkey branchers real in these streets. They didn't just run into each other. Yeah you can't do dirt and think you won't fall into the mud.

  • @Rico-RR
    @Rico-RR Месяц назад

    Guys, DO NOT take a girl back after she has been with another guy in any capacity.
    DO NOT DO IT ‼️
    If there was another guy in the picture after you, GHOST HER

    • @IamCoachCourt
      @IamCoachCourt  Месяц назад

      I don’t disagree Rico

    • @janetblanck5807
      @janetblanck5807 28 дней назад

      And women, do not take a man back after he has been with another woman! Once a cheater always a cheater.