Father Knows: Being Unaligned
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- Опубликовано: 15 май 2023
- Welcome back to Father Knows Something! Real People. Real Stories. Real Dad advice with a dash of ADHD, and maybe a couple of millennials chiming in from time to time to add their takes.
This weeks episode has Jerry Morgan, Justin and Justin's Dad, Jason, analyzing a wide range of stories involving people being unaligned. While this can be a simple thing to work-through, it can also be nearly impossible. Please give advice in the RUclips comments!
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There is no way Jason could be anyone other than Justin’s father. They have the EXACT same energy.
They even sound super similar! If I wasn’t watching I probably would have thought it was Justin
They also sit the same way.
Also they look the same 😭
Before I put 2 and 2 together, I said "who is this man, he's like Justin"
I see why Morgan and Justin are so compatible, their dads are so much alike lol
That's so sweet what Jerry said about your partner being your best friend, and being excited when you see their car parked at home that you get to see them again. 🥰 Big agreement.
I love the wise uncle vibe of Jason
The way Jason and Justin say "Yeah" in the exact same way is unbelievable.
The brother with the weed for sure has something deeper going on. Either self medicating undiagnosed neurodivergency, an unresolved trauma, self destruction etc 🥺 poor guy. Glad he has family that loves him
If sister reads this, don't focus on the weed. Instead help him find his passion or heal his pain DONT bring up his weed consumption AT ALL once he finds that drive he'll naturally become less dependent ❤
Right. It's definitely not the cannabis. It's something going on in his life. A lot of people smoke weed daily and go to work, school, have healthy lives, and do well in life. Blaming cannabis makes no sense. If anything, it's probably helping him get through whatever he's struggling with.
I was just going to say that! I have chronic issues with cannabis myself but it’s very much so a self medication. If he can’t stop smoking I’d say see if he can do some work healing himself rn while he smokes. And if he is going to Madrid I know it might not be easy but he will need to ween off the consumption. Addiction to weed is often a sign of dopamine deficiency! This sometimes happens for people with adhd (like me) or other neurodivergents. I use a supplement called Mucuna powder / Mucuna pruriens / velvet bean / kappakucha powder (all thing same thing but many names for it as it’s an old old medicine.) this helps your body naturally create the dopamine needed and helps you start producing it more in general (don’t quote me on the last bit tho). It helps me significantly! But honestly it’s that my brain needs something in general for dopamine production and that I’m processing trauma and have a lot of symptoms because of that. The weed is secondary! To actually heal someone in that position you need to focus on healing and the rest will balance out in many cases. I know when I’m able to paint I reduce my consumption drastically because I need less numbing, but still need some medicine. Just food for thought, im hoping the sister sees this for an inside perspective
i see a lot of people into marijuana fall off the deep end like this. i myself as a teen, and i didn’t realize the significant effect it had on me until i got clean. in the moment, i felt like nothing was wrong and i wasn’t doing anything wrong but just smoking some weed. i would get angry and people telling me i smoked too much because who cares? i was a teenager in high school and i was passing all my classes. however, i slowly began to recognize weed was numbing my emotions. i decided to do a “temporary” detox, and that is when the flood of emotions overwhelmed me. i was using weed to numb out my feelings of depression, anxiety, and childhood trauma. it was overwhelming, and many times i thought if i just had some weed i would be okay. that’s when it really clicked that i had a problem. i looked for help, i got therapy. my grades became even better. i went from passing with A, B, and Cs to straight As from junior year all to my now senior year of college. i feel so much more confident, so much more ambitious for my future, and so much more motivated and healed. i no longer mask those emotions because i have learned to work through them and allow myself to feel the hard emotions. the point of this rant is, a lot of people have this type of numbing relationship with marijuana. they do not realize it until they get clean. so if you think this isn’t you by any chance, please just try it for 3-4 months, and see if you still feel the same and can use it recreationally.
Justin & Jason look exactly the same. I love Jason’s takes 👏🏻 I see where Justin gets his caring side, & why he’s such a kind man. Good Job to his parents♥️
I didn't notice the first time around, but Jason has a great voice for a podcast/radio.
Oh my gosh the studio is so cute!
Wow I feel like a veteran having been here since the first episode! Glad to have Dad Jason back! At his last episode I was in my old apartment and now I'm in a better one, doing chores, like I was doing back then, over a year ago!!! ❤
Lovely episode!
Morgan, and the crew, please look more into BetterHelp. There have been people that share their stories about how their therapists stood them up, or told them their sexuality is not valid, etc etc
Yeah and there is a lot of RUclips creators that are sponsored by them.
They steal profiles too! I know therapist that are listed by better help that DO NOT work for the company! Bait & switch.
The husband that cancels no way in hell I would not go get that dog, I would literally be like “well I communicated plenty with you and you told me to do what I want so I’m getting that dog. You should have spoken up sooner not the day before.” Like he already gave her the green light for all these things that’s his problem lol
LOVING the new set up! And so excited to see Jason back!
i love love love the new set omg it’s so cute !! ☺️🩷
The love language thing is really interesting. In my experience, it's a continual process to discuss how we give and receive love over and over, to check in with each other and make sure each person feels appreciated in the way they receive it best.
Agree. Me and my bf made it a habit to ask each other if we want anything from the other in terms of fulfilling our love languages. Over time communication improved by keeping this question in mind and never assuming the other feels loved or heard by default - because we actually asked for feedback.
Can you please please please put story stamps on FKS podcast description box like you do for THT? I listen to you guys when I go to sleep and it’s hard to know where I left off without seeing the time stamps of the show. But love you guys and love this podcast!!
Jason is like looking at Justin in the future! So trippy I love it!! I am loving having parents on here with Jerry! 🩷👏🏼
I would also guess that people who get married without living together first are more likely to be part of a religion or culture where divorce is less of an option
Yup! My old church would kick you out if you got divorced for “unapproved reasons “ and the religious school I went to fired a teacher for getting divorced. The divorce rate was quite low but not because people were happy!
I was so geeked to see Jason was back- double the fathers is just so cool and it’s really neat to see how him and Jerry interact especially since they have such different yet fascinatingly complimentary energy. I often save episodes to listen to later in the week or in bad days when I really need an upbeat listen but as soon as I saw Jason in thumbnail I just couldn’t wait!
One note- the audio or microphone levels are not great for this episode. Morgan sounds so loud and Jason is kind of quieter and deeper voiced in general (such a great radio or ASMR voice) which might be part of the issue but Morgan is sounding quite a bit louder than Jerry as well and I’ve had issues having to fiddle with my volume a bunch, cringing when it’s too loud and then having to go back and replay a few of Jason’s lines. I’m maybe overly sensitive as an autistic listener with auditory processing issues but I’ve never had any issues with the audio and volume on past episodes or when listening to THT so just sharing this to be helpful, I hope. Love all of you. ❤
Thank you , this is a new studio and new equipment, so I’m not surprised for the need of a little “Tweaking”
On the story about trying to get a dog, but the partner canceling last minute gives be bad vibes. What happens when they're trying for a kid??? If he gonna "pull out" on the idea but end up way to late, and she'll be stuck pregnant with a guy who in reality never wanted one? But was to chicken to tell her before they start trying????
Hi! That's my story! We have 2 kids, he didn't back out on those lol
About the research! I don’t know about the church thing. But, what I understood is that couples who start living together before marriage for convenience or just kind of “slip” into it DO have a higher rate of divorce. BUT couples who talk about living together before marriage and actually plan it are less likely to get divorced.
Girl with the brother… Its amazing that you love your brother and want to help him. There is nothing you are going to be able to do to get him to stop. All you can do is love him through it. I think pushing him is just going to make him more dependent and he’s going to lean into his usage. Whereas making sure he has a stable support system, that’s going to let him know he has the support to change his life. It’s also just a phase and it will pass. I wouldn’t worry too much or complain too much at him. Just love him.
The studio looks amazing, guys! Love it.
1:05 Jerry, for the sign thing that you want in the future, maybe you can get a tv 📺 like u have in your intro song and put the same father knows something ☺️
SUPER unpopular opinion, but (about the first story) you do not need to live with someone before you're married to them. In fact, I don't encourage it. There are logical reasons outside of religious reasons for not moving in premaritally. You can still stay at each other's places, but having your own place is so useful. Both parties will be able to have control over their space, have a place to retreat, still see how their partner likes to live, and it also makes things WAY easier if you do break up. Coming from a secular versus religious standpoint, what's the point in getting married if you already live together? You're just getting the government involved in your relationship. If you're not religious, it isn't symbolic, and nothing changes except some jewelry and taxes. If that's your only reason to get married, then why don't you do it when you move in together to start saving money tax wise? If he's respecting his family, culture, and traditions, who are you to say he is wrong or hurting you? You're asking him to forsake his beliefs for what? More convenient sex and less say on how the rooms are laid out? Marriage was made for religious practices or economic expanses by allying families - hence asking father's for permission. Nowadays, you ask fathers or both parents for their blessing, not permission, and marriage is supposed to be symbolic of the next step in your relationship. If you've already done everything, no real reason to get married. Marriage is supposed to be a life-long commitment. If you're doubting your relationship because he doesn't want to move in yet, then the one who is immature is you - and I doubt your marriage would survive. Everyone, do yourself a favor, if they have religious or political beliefs that differ then yours and neither plan on bending, they aren't for you. Pick another out of the near 8 billion people.
The studio looks very nice! Props to yall for that!
Not the bottle opener on the bottom of Jason’s sandal 🤣
Absolutely love the studio!😍😍
Okay this set is so pretty!!! I love it
The new set up is beautiful!
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I'm not even full through the episode but not only is Jerry amazing Justin's dad is so awesome too pls have him on more I love this! Justin give your dad a big hug he's awesome! ❤
Great episode everybody!! ❤️❤️
I love the new backdrop! Looks so comfy and cozy 🥰
When I was with my ex (we were on and off for 7 years, starting dating in high school) I became my own guardian at 16, was home schooled and worked full time to support myself. I got my own apartment and my ex would come over stay nights etc….he cheated on me all the time but his TRUE TRUE COLORS didn’t come out til he moved in with me when I turned 18, he then became physically abusive on top of his already emotional/verbal abuse…you don’t truly know someone unless you live with them and at least for a year or two cause it can be good for a few months and once you guys get in a groove all the shit comes to light (if there’s any)
🥹 jerry saying he missed Justin 💗
Jason’s voice reminds me so much of Justin’s voice 😂
I kind of disagree with the 1st take, yes OP does have to weigh it out and decide what she wants but I think it's not about being 'man enough'. I think I'd need to know details about cultural and ethnic background before considering more because there seems to be missing details.
About the guy who cancel plans last minute. I'm not going to defend him but maybe the OP should try to find out why is he doing it. Well maybe I'm being too empathetic to him because in my relationship I'm often the one that spoils fun for my boyfriend. I'm the kind of person that have to think a lot before making decisions, and deal with major health issues atm, while my bf very often jumps straight into planning. He just asks me "What do you think about a trip?", and when I say "well maybe..." the next thing I know he will be in planning mode and then come to me in a few days ready to book evrything. I'm exhausted most of the time because of my poor health, and sometimes I don't want to think about anything, even though I know it hurts him. So maybe OP should ask if her partner is not stressed about something and thats why he is pushing away any major decisions
what a gorgeous studio
Love the new introooooo
I love the furniture!
Jerry is like the dad always wanted but never did 🤍
OMG. I AM IN DECA. IT FEELS LIKE AN HONOR TO HAVE DECA MENTIONED. My DECA state competition is tomorrow ❤
BESTIE COME QUICK!! NEW FKS JUST DROPPED!!!!
Love Jason😂😂 go one an extended business trip and never come back😂☠️
1st Story Starts 2:23
Justin looks just like his dad 😭
Love love love the studio!!!!!
It's random and may have been asked in the past : sorry but may I please know where you got those couches ? They look so comfy !!
Ooo the intro!!!!!!
Dating for 2 years doesn’t feel like long at all, in my opinion
Justin and his dad are freaking twins!!! they sound exactly alike lol
Those seats look Soooo comfy!! Want!
we need the time stamps on these episodes pls!!!
Nose goes.. Justin?
With the first 2 stories. I feel an angle was missed. These guys in their mid 20's have probably had their families inside their heads their whole life and it isn't as simple as them just talking to their parents.
I feel that both of them are in need of therapy to help them break their train of thought in regards to their parents.
If they can't change then definitely their partner need to consider their position but I think a little grace is needed
They did give them a lot of grace and did actually suggest counciling. And you said it yourself - those guys are in their mid 20s. Adults. Supposedly in adult relationships with adult women. The fact that men are given "grace" to act like children well into their 20s is sad and the problem. "Grace" in this context is kid gloves. They are adults. They can be spoken to and treated like adults and, yes, if they can't handle that, they should go to therapy. But that's their responsibility as adults, not the responsibility of other people in their lives or, in particular, their adult partner's responsibility to continue to treat them like children.
🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 DOUBLE DADs!!!
On the cohab stats
Correlation =/= causal.
Cultures that stigmatise "living in sin" also stigmatise divorce.
Divorce rate is not a measure of how healthy relationships are
Can we have time stamps PLEASE
Thank you so much.
For the lady whose husband keeps pulling the rug from under her feet...my partner used to do this. You know what I did...started doing wtf I wanted anyway 😅 made it clear I was happy to do these things on my own (including getting a dog) and he soon caught up.
When jerry said he’d pick a daisy on the grassy knoll I did have an unfortunate mental picture of a cia agent picking flowers before goofing on jfk 💀
Hey guys😄
I just wanted to let you know I did I game time thing from two hot takes and they didn’t take my discount, I don’t know if you got any payment from thar
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Oh shit I’m early 😳let me get my popcorn lol
Story 3: I would have gotten the dog anyways. Too damn bad for the hubby
Damn Jasons voice is amazing 🤤
Story 3: OOOOH HEEEELLLL FUCKING NO! If he told me LAST MINUTE after I told the woman I wanted the dog and going to come get it and he’s like we shouldn’t get one I’ll tell him TOO DAMN LATE! It’s either I divorced you and get the dog or you change your mind and want a dog REAL damn quick! Animals will come before my partner sorry not sorry🤷🏻♀️
The reason why people who cohabitate before marriage have a higher divorce rate is because religious fundamentalists chose to stay in terrible marriages instead of divorcing.
Im really dissapointed in the way they talked about the weed story. The fact that not even once did they look at it as an addiction is shocking to me. Do they not see this kid is at a point where he consumed so much of this substance that his brain is not functioning properly? He us stuck, anxious depressed etc maybe he had these before and now they are exhacerbated. Im not saying it should be banned or whatever but with an addict you cant ask them to use moderation. This kiddo is at the very least on the verge of having his brain fried. This is not smth a vacation is gonna fix...
For the first story, I come from a faith that you are not to live together. I was totally aligned with that. My ex pressured me into moving in with him because he felt the same as OP. My ex knew how I felt about wanting to be with him, but that my hesitation didn’t come from being a “girl” or from my parents disapproval, it came from my love for God and my entire faith.
My faith comes before anything and anyone, but it never meant that my ex wasn’t the one for me. (In my mind, he totally was.)
After we lived together for 3 years, he eventually left me to sleep with others. (we were together for 11 years total) after forcing me to break my faith- I expressed how I felt about it all, but of course, he didn’t care. It’s been 2 years and to this day I regret it.
In my opinion, this couple is unequally yoked.
Ouch poor guy.wanted to respect his family’s values, traditions, opinions. And im returned got called a boy with out dated beliefs lol
Man society these days really is trying to detach families
SO EARLY😊
Ive also heard alot about betterhelp not actually being helpful. I dont know if they currently sponsor you but i have seen others comment. Ive seen other yt drop them