CONVO | Emotional intelligence carried my marriage - Hungani Ndlovu | ThatHusbandPodcast

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  • Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2024

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  • @The_Dream_Space
    @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +4

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  • @fifs4sa
    @fifs4sa 7 месяцев назад +47

    I pray that this podcast reaches my husband and I pray that he will be one of the husbands in the book. God knows how to get it to him. This channel heals the wife too. 😢

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +6

      This message is so loaded. We praying that same prayer for you. From our lips to his ears ❤️

    • @ConfusedBird-jb3ec
      @ConfusedBird-jb3ec 2 месяца назад +2

      It will be open a d better if u tell him and I hope he understands too.i beleive it will help both of your marraige

  • @yolisalisanqari
    @yolisalisanqari 7 месяцев назад +23

    ❤❤We need such husbands in our our communities, especially black communities. Thank you Dream space😊

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад

      Amen and amen! Thanks so much sis! 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @Alvinslife37
    @Alvinslife37 7 месяцев назад +15

    The "what if?" and "the could I have done to stop this?" games are ones that I played for years after my wife's first miscarriage. I remember the depth of the helplessness. I almost drowned.

  • @thabomahlagare9001
    @thabomahlagare9001 7 месяцев назад +22

    Guys? I'm 5 to balling up here at the office listening to this. This is a podcast I never knew I needed. Yho. Learning gents. Learning.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +2

      Yeah this episode was quite emotional I feel you man! Let’s keep learning. Thanks so much watching 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @pelmapule6602
    @pelmapule6602 9 дней назад +1

    Emotional right now....I'm raising my boys alone and I'm forever worried about the missing puzzle in their lives and what's gonna become of them career wise, husband's and more hey😢😢ain't easy but worth it

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193
    @nompumelelochirwa6193 7 месяцев назад +14

    Yoh😮‍💨 the part about kids who grow up with both parents present versus kids who grow up in single parent households 🙌🏽

    • @lillymillion
      @lillymillion 7 месяцев назад +1

      That thing rocked me to the core, explained soooo much of my own personal dynamic. I had never heard of it before

    • @nompumelelochirwa6193
      @nompumelelochirwa6193 7 месяцев назад +3

      I’m so encouraged to break the cycle in my own generation

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +7

      I think we need a whole episode dedicated to this thing! We’ll make it happen!

    • @palesantebele836
      @palesantebele836 2 месяца назад

      A

  • @Break1n9out
    @Break1n9out 6 месяцев назад +9

    🎉🎉🎉Shout out to Matthews👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽I wish more dad's can be like him

  • @meneer_jay
    @meneer_jay 2 месяца назад +4

    I have always wanted to hear from a young husband. I am a 26 year old husband to be. I am looking forward to this experience and I am not even scared. Your conversation are very interesting and fruitful.

  • @lillymillion
    @lillymillion 7 месяцев назад +7

    “A lotta gems in this episode” - accurate!

  • @116ntobeko
    @116ntobeko 7 месяцев назад +10

    We in here like we getting paid🎉🎉🎉

  • @leratoramokgopa5908
    @leratoramokgopa5908 2 месяца назад +2

    If someone doesnt want to hold your hand it doesnt mean they dont want to, they just don't have the capacity ❤

  • @ONTLAMETSEMOSENOGI
    @ONTLAMETSEMOSENOGI 2 месяца назад +5

    please invite Khuli Chana

  • @nthabi_royaltymasango4915
    @nthabi_royaltymasango4915 7 месяцев назад +6

    Came here from church reality channel, OMG this conversation 😮 wholesome, well done guys this is sooooo good, i stand in awe for such intentional, present loving husband of our day, our kids are definitely In good hands, may this channel grow to its Greatest potential, love love it, God bless🙌❤️🙏

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад

      Shout outs to you for stopping by and supporting what we trying to do this side 🙌🏾🙏🏾 Thank you for the well wishes we recieve it all. The support has been amazing so far

  • @ChurchRealityCheck
    @ChurchRealityCheck 7 месяцев назад +11

    Good one

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +1

      Brooooo!! thank you so much and thanks for sharing on you platform as well. Much love famo!

    • @ChurchRealityCheck
      @ChurchRealityCheck 7 месяцев назад

      Awesome leadership... When you see Mr Pule pls tell him I'm looking for him

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +1

      No stress, send me a text on IG @BlaqueNubon

    • @ChurchRealityCheck
      @ChurchRealityCheck 7 месяцев назад

      @@The_Dream_Space done

    • @maphanganomcebo4584
      @maphanganomcebo4584 7 месяцев назад +1

      Here because of your comment on this video . Ricky 🎉

  • @pelmapule6602
    @pelmapule6602 9 дней назад

    I feel I'm listening to 50yrs old man geez u guys are both amazing, so much Wisdom ahhhha, may you inspire a lot of men out there even older than you

  • @rudgezakhele518
    @rudgezakhele518 2 месяца назад +2

    I love this podcast love the quality ofguests that are always invited.

  • @kelesitse6618
    @kelesitse6618 7 месяцев назад +8

    I am wrecked by this interview because FOUNDATIONS, man. 😭

  • @ntandomlonyeni6598
    @ntandomlonyeni6598 6 месяцев назад +3

    This podcast has really opened my eyes like these things that you guys are talking about here are the reason why the rate of divorce is soo high coz im from a family of two parents and you not so i have my own expectations and so does my husband so we not hearing nor do we understand each other..Coz emotionaly we dont understand each other our reasoning too.
    Thank you so very much for this.
    I pray doors of favour may be opened for this podcast ,we need it the next generations needs it.

  • @langaguliwe2366
    @langaguliwe2366 2 месяца назад +1

    The reference to the Kobe case is a classic case about Nature vs nurture . Athleticism at his level is fully attributable to nature .

  • @mercymsezeni838
    @mercymsezeni838 7 месяцев назад +7

    "Two-parent kids are more stable and move with a confidence single-parent kids don't have." Tjoe!!!

    • @smondsnomonde6051
      @smondsnomonde6051 7 месяцев назад +1

      Isn't offensive for the single-parent raised?

    • @mercymsezeni838
      @mercymsezeni838 6 месяцев назад +7

      @@smondsnomonde6051 This statement isn't meant to disqualify or undermine the work that single parents do, but it's the truth. Studies show the stability that comes with having both parents. A child needs both parents and it's unfortunate that it's not a reality for every child.
      I was raised in a single home and I can totally relate with lacking self-confidence and security.

    • @keotshepileplaatjies8424
      @keotshepileplaatjies8424 2 месяца назад +1

      ​@@mercymsezeni838I beg to differ, yes God intended for kids to be raised by both parents but as for stability and confidence... That is case based. I know more broken kids who come from complete families. Toxic present and married parents will only result in broken kids.

  • @mbulelomaliza3236
    @mbulelomaliza3236 7 месяцев назад +5

    Much appreciated…thanks Gents for the conversation. #thathusband

    • @davidkobedi9615
      @davidkobedi9615 7 месяцев назад +2

      The leadership is here 👏🏾 👏🏾 👏🏾

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +2

      Leadership!!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

  • @TamaraCanham
    @TamaraCanham 7 месяцев назад +7

    Great episode! We need a space like this especially in the society we live in.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад

      100% true! Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

  • @nompumelelochirwa6193
    @nompumelelochirwa6193 7 месяцев назад +2

    “Sometimes it’s not about reaching out once to one person” 🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад

      It’s hard but it’s true. We got to Reach out!

  • @LiFace-gf1hv
    @LiFace-gf1hv 7 месяцев назад +5

    What a beautiful episode. I appreciate the level of honesty. 🙏🏾

  • @jeansophia2092
    @jeansophia2092 2 месяца назад +2

    I was raised by a single mother and i am with a man who was raised by two parents and parents still married. I have been holding on to the relationship because I want our daughter to have both parents in the same home unlike me. I kept up with lot of emotional abuse from him. I live very unhappy cause of that and i am starting to see that our daughter can see through my sadness and is not fair for her. I think i would rather have her raised by two parents in seperate home than in one home.

    • @phumzilekhumalo5552
      @phumzilekhumalo5552 6 дней назад +1

      I am a daughter who was raised by both parents but I witnessed my father abuse my mom physically and emotionally. The trauma is irreversible. As a girl you start forming wrong ideas about love and about who you are. There’s a lot I wish we didn’t have to see as kids.

  • @similedlamini5425
    @similedlamini5425 7 месяцев назад +2

    This is beautiful. We need more podcasts like this.

  • @Princekendy.
    @Princekendy. 7 месяцев назад +3

    This is so informative wow 🙌

  • @ntsieseeiso2414
    @ntsieseeiso2414 6 месяцев назад +1

    What a fresh podcast thank you so much brother, keep doing the great work lovely to hear from the other gender blessings to you and brothers all over the world.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  6 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks so much for watching!! Do check out our latest episode. We post every wednesday at 11:30

  • @datijerge3051
    @datijerge3051 Месяц назад

    This is deep, thank you for this! God bless you sirs.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  Месяц назад

      You're so welcome. Thanks so much for watching

  • @leratoramokgopa5908
    @leratoramokgopa5908 2 месяца назад

    This is so wholesome ❤

  • @BiancaLeesa
    @BiancaLeesa 7 месяцев назад +9

    I wasnt gonna comment cause I'm just a gal in Sada 😂. But you said that you held your daughter and thought you understood why your father left, oooh man that hit home cause my father has never been there and I've always wondered why, but I've held onto the victim title, the child who was left title so dearly that it made no sense to reach out, even now i feel the same but i see what you mean, men are never given the platform to process. No matter how much the woman carries the whole junk, it's sad how men are never given a chance to process. I hope one day I'm gracious, kind and willing to ask him to start over and mend what never existed which is our relationship.
    Thank you, okay back to my little corner 🙃

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  6 месяцев назад +3

      It's very much a tight rope. I think the older we get the more open we may be to understanding our parents as people and individuals with their own make up and histories not just as our parents. It excuses nothing and will not reverse anything but sometimes helps in realising most of their poor decisions have nothing to do with us but everything to do with them and how they see themselves and that ripple effect, thats where true accountability lies. But whether they are willing to go there to have that KIND of conversation is another story . I hope one day you are able to have the chat. And thanks so much for watching and sharing your thoughts too 🙏🏾

    • @MothoKeLerato
      @MothoKeLerato 3 месяца назад

      What a beautiful and thoughtful response ​@@The_Dream_Space

  • @zodumoxhavulani7289
    @zodumoxhavulani7289 7 месяцев назад +4

    Emotional intelligence is the key ☺️great conversation guys🙏

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад

      You said it!! Thanks so much for watching 🙏🏾

  • @longstoryshort5463
    @longstoryshort5463 15 дней назад

    The miscarriage stats are about 20% of known pregnancies and likely much higher because many women miscarry before realizing pregnancy had occurred. I just want to clear that up so as to give women a little bit of hope as 80% is a scarily high number. 20% is still very high, so many women experienced and will experience this devastating outcome, so we need to talk about this more. I absolutely love the openness and vulnerability of this guest. Thank you so much for sharing, and may God richly bless your family.

  • @nkatekomayimele5141
    @nkatekomayimele5141 7 месяцев назад +5

    This was so wholesome and very very needed. Thank you to both of you for your vulnerability and rawness 😍😍

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +2

      Thank you so much for watching. These conversations are so important. Much Love!

  • @nonkululekongobese5207
    @nonkululekongobese5207 2 месяца назад +2

    Can we have Pastor Kabelo Mabalane...

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  2 месяца назад

      Definitely someone who is already on our wishlist 🙏🏾

  • @innocentiaradebe9314
    @innocentiaradebe9314 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you❤❤

  • @tumisithole8858
    @tumisithole8858 4 месяца назад

    22:32 this is point on!!

  • @AbongileDombo-ov7cw
    @AbongileDombo-ov7cw 7 месяцев назад +3

    ❤❤❤🔥

  • @Princekendy.
    @Princekendy. 7 месяцев назад +1

    🔥🔥

  • @nolwazindlovu2320
    @nolwazindlovu2320 7 месяцев назад +6

    Yikes, triggering but in a good way, hardly ever hear the side of the man when it comes to processing a miscarriage.

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  7 месяцев назад +2

      Totally understand it can be triggering but it’s unfortunate their stories and experiences don’t get as much attention. Thanks for watching 🙏🏾

  • @Break1n9out
    @Break1n9out 6 месяцев назад

    I am sorry to share this opinion of mine but the awkward laughs were throwing me off because I've experienced having a miscarriage it's a next level moment you become something only God can understand...

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  6 месяцев назад +5

      Thanks for the feedback and sorry for your loss as well. It’s an an undeniable trauma to deal with
      There was natural laughter in the general conversation where it flowed organically and was in the context of what was being said at the time.
      However have to disagree with you in that there was not a point where the actual miscarriage Hungani and his wife experienced was laughed at, made light of or joked about. That would be insensitive and inappropriate.

  • @tumisithole8858
    @tumisithole8858 4 месяца назад

    How can i get the book?
    Im a woman😂

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  4 месяца назад

      😂 you are more than welcome to engage. We will definitely be making an announcement when it’s out

  • @privilegendlovu4662
    @privilegendlovu4662 5 месяцев назад +2

    But the host talks too much more than the guest

    • @The_Dream_Space
      @The_Dream_Space  5 месяцев назад +1

      We will continue to grow. Thanks for watching!

    • @kelekgakatsi1440
      @kelekgakatsi1440 2 месяца назад +2

      I must confess I actually like that. I feel that makes it a conversation and less of an interview. Watching it feels like I'm listening in while two men are sharing some deep thoughts and feelings

  • @jimmabuela906
    @jimmabuela906 6 месяцев назад

    That's 20 years black and white comparison is every reductionist view, have to stop glorifying white,three are a lot of black great marriages out there.if you don't have the evidence don't talk about it. Talking down on black people is every exhausting.