How I try to handle/ resolve conflict: I pray first for God to give me wisdom and soften both our hearts. To lead me as I speak and help my tongue not be poison. If I feel the Holy Spirit saying “ not now” it’s important to listen as the Spirit guides.
you got married the same age as my husband and i, i was 24 turning 25 he was 28 turning 29. 9 years later we are still here. Happily married. We grew up togethere. ❤❤❤ 1. Having to tell my parents where my husband works 2. How to raise our kids, it is still very difficult even today.
This is not usual, where young people like yourselves become authentic with such matters and allow some level of vulnerability. God has set you apart for a special taks in the ministry. May He empower you with His word that you may be able to do it for His glory. Lovable people.
Thank you so much guys learning as we prep for marriage, loved the point on how honeymoon phase is different for different couples truly a point to note ❤
I just love you guys... The authenticity here is genuine. Thank you so much for sharing this intimate part of your marriage and may God continue to bless and protect your union.
I’m like Steph when it comes to conflict, I just find it hard to articulate my thoughts and feelings at the time. I end up feeling overwhelmed and so I prefer to take some time and gather my thoughts then come back and express myself. I realise that is not always the best choice because I then overthink and when I’m eventually ready to talk I filter a lot of stuff because I don’t want to make things worse.
I loved watching this. I can resonate with a lot of things said here, I think I am single in peace now because I don't have to go through these tough conversations no more 😂 the feeling of walking on egg shells because you don't wanna offend somebody's son, yoh!
❤❤ Learning so much😊. It's important to have honest conversations because there are so many expectations. And often than not, you must carry the financial burden.
I am Steph, Steph is me and it’s so hard because I dont even understand it myself but yes when I am upset I dont like to talk because I am not sure if what im feeling is what Im really feeling 😂😂😂😭
I love this conversation❤. The conflict part I am so like Steph😭❤😂🤦♀️. In all their conversations I always relate to her😅I love you guys, you're so authentic😍
The last point resonates with me so much because it's what we fight about mostly with my partner as we are so different, we don't handle conflict the same, I'm like Hungwani I wana deal with issues NOW and move on and he is like Steph my opposite.
I love this topic so much. When i met my husband we had the topic about conflict before we got married. He dealt with things like Steph and I like Hungani. The only difference I spoke same time but harshly and would later apologise. Now I know better. We both cool off and talk later but never go to bed mad at each other. If we have an argument later we will sit in the lounge until we have cooled off and spoken about the matter calmly then go to bed.
Yes within collaboration there will often be a compromise,it maybe not be known or recognized by the other partner but u who is comprising will know within yoself that u r comprising. Sometimes u may both be comprising without both even realizing that u both are compromising.
Beautiful couple indeed, great conversation, my question though is, was that not supposed to happen during courtship, where we are trying to know each other, more as spcialy the conflict resolution? I'm sorry for asking a question
It's still crazy to me how you guys moved from 300+ guests to only 59😅 it is admirable though and I loved that it wasn't because of lack of funds but just your decision. I enjoyed the video because it's also a reminder of the importance of having excellent skills of dealing with conflict because sometimes relationships are ruined because the lack of conflict management skills and communication in general.
I am steph when it comes to conflict, i run away because if i have to respond right there and then, its fire!! Husband wants us to solve it right there and then. I think its usually because the guys dont want us to go to bed grumpy because of the bed issue 😂😂😂
I resonate so much with Hungani and this is just enough proof that I made the right decision to walk away, even though it hurts. I just broke up with my partner because he was avoidant and I am solution focused. He never really got time to address my concerns and was not open to a conversation of understanding our differences. Waiting around just felt like settling. Coz time was passing by with no clarity and a lot of shutting me down when I try to voice out my concerns. Also the relationship was not allowing me to show up as myself, being loud and expressive I had to keep it down to respect his needs while mine took the backseat. I’m going through it. I know better is on the other side of this. I just hope I can run into my husband already because this dating thing is energy consuming and I’m ready to put all that energy where I am accepted authentically and there’s room for me to grow without shaming who I am currently. Thank you for sharing your story family. ❤
it hardly happens though that when we collaborate there's always gon be compromise cause collaboration is coming together towards something the same way. i understand hungani when it comes to compromise vs collaboration. it's not the same thing and when collaboration happens it's rare that one has to compromise.(this point is based on what steph said about it)
How I try to handle/ resolve conflict: I pray first for God to give me wisdom and soften both our hearts. To lead me as I speak and help my tongue not be poison. If I feel the Holy Spirit saying “ not now” it’s important to listen as the Spirit guides.
The way Hungani looks at Steph when she is talking.... guysssss
Steph is beautiful please😢❤
Too much ♥️💯
Very very too much if that's even proper English...she is beautiful ❤️
you got married the same age as my husband and i, i was 24 turning 25 he was 28 turning 29. 9 years later we are still here. Happily married. We grew up togethere. ❤❤❤
1. Having to tell my parents where my husband works
2. How to raise our kids, it is still very difficult even today.
You guys are sooooooo matured!
Your reasoning skills and emotional intelligence!🥺👌🏾❤❤
She is so beautiful
This is not usual, where young people like yourselves become authentic with such matters and allow some level of vulnerability. God has set you apart for a special taks in the ministry. May He empower you with His word that you may be able to do it for His glory. Lovable people.
They conquered him by the atterances of their Testimony.
The Insight was good. Hungani & Steph will be my guests qt my wedding...& 10 relatives 😂
steph’s skiiiiin is skining🥺❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much guys learning as we prep for marriage, loved the point on how honeymoon phase is different for different couples truly a point to note ❤
She's all shining❤.
I just love you guys... The authenticity here is genuine. Thank you so much for sharing this intimate part of your marriage and may God continue to bless and protect your union.
My favorite couple.
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Thank you for these life-changing conversations.
May God bless you guys beyond.❤
I'm glad you always keep it real guys, this was eye opening
Thank you for sharing yourselves with us. Sending all the love, wisdom and kindness❤
I’m like Steph when it comes to conflict, I just find it hard to articulate my thoughts and feelings at the time. I end up feeling overwhelmed and so I prefer to take some time and gather my thoughts then come back and express myself. I realise that is not always the best choice because I then overthink and when I’m eventually ready to talk I filter a lot of stuff because I don’t want to make things worse.
Umuhle Steph ❤️ the way Hungani looks at her 🥰
Love the part of setting a new standard. Things don't always have to be done the old way
I am Stephanie, and Stephanie is me. That listening face story, I relate 110%
Beautiful one guys! thank you for sharing.
I loved watching this. I can resonate with a lot of things said here, I think I am single in peace now because I don't have to go through these tough conversations no more 😂 the feeling of walking on egg shells because you don't wanna offend somebody's son, yoh!
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This was so helpful. Thank you so much guys ❤❤❤
Yes lm grateful that we grow in Life Steph true pa pa paaaaaam
My favourite couple,always love how you share your experiences.
You guys are making a huge difference to the young marriage society.
Its how my son enjoy your opening papapam😂😂😂 Yhooo I wish were as strong as you guys but for children we will definitely be open to new things❤
This was impactful thank you guys❤😊
Thank you for the R's ❤🎉
❤❤ Learning so much😊. It's important to have honest conversations because there are so many expectations. And often than not, you must carry the financial burden.
😂😂😂😂😂stef I am with you In that listening face cause you doubt yourself about what you want to say
This was helpful🌞🌞
I am Steph, Steph is me and it’s so hard because I dont even understand it myself but yes when I am upset I dont like to talk because I am not sure if what im feeling is what Im really feeling 😂😂😂😭
Same here😭😂🤦♀️
This was lovely ❤❤
You remind me of me and my boyfriend ❤thank you for conversation
I love this conversation❤. The conflict part I am so like Steph😭❤😂🤦♀️. In all their conversations I always relate to her😅I love you guys, you're so authentic😍
Wise sharing. You two inspire me 😍
Cannot wait!!! Thank you Hungani for going to thar husband podcast it's so insightful. ❤
Very important conversations🥰🥰
Love the 4R’s
I learn a lot from you guys ❤
I thought y’all were sitting on the sofa and I was like why are your hands up high like that isn’t it tiring 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂 bathong
Hebann😂😂😂
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The last point resonates with me so much because it's what we fight about mostly with my partner as we are so different, we don't handle conflict the same, I'm like Hungwani I wana deal with issues NOW and move on and he is like Steph my opposite.
I love this topic so much. When i met my husband we had the topic about conflict before we got married. He dealt with things like Steph and I like Hungani. The only difference I spoke same time but harshly and would later apologise. Now I know better. We both cool off and talk later but never go to bed mad at each other. If we have an argument later we will sit in the lounge until we have cooled off and spoken about the matter calmly then go to bed.
Yes within collaboration there will often be a compromise,it maybe not be known or recognized by the other partner but u who is comprising will know within yoself that u r comprising. Sometimes u may both be comprising without both even realizing that u both are compromising.
Beautiful couple indeed, great conversation, my question though is, was that not supposed to happen during courtship, where we are trying to know each other, more as spcialy the conflict resolution? I'm sorry for asking a question
love this so much
It's still crazy to me how you guys moved from 300+ guests to only 59😅 it is admirable though and I loved that it wasn't because of lack of funds but just your decision.
I enjoyed the video because it's also a reminder of the importance of having excellent skills of dealing with conflict because sometimes relationships are ruined because the lack of conflict management skills and communication in general.
Enjoyed the conversation.
You are both beautiful
I am steph when it comes to conflict, i run away because if i have to respond right there and then, its fire!! Husband wants us to solve it right there and then. I think its usually because the guys dont want us to go to bed grumpy because of the bed issue 😂😂😂
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❤❤love you guys be blessed
I resonate so much with Hungani and this is just enough proof that I made the right decision to walk away, even though it hurts.
I just broke up with my partner because he was avoidant and I am solution focused. He never really got time to address my concerns and was not open to a conversation of understanding our differences.
Waiting around just felt like settling. Coz time was passing by with no clarity and a lot of shutting me down when I try to voice out my concerns.
Also the relationship was not allowing me to show up as myself, being loud and expressive I had to keep it down to respect his needs while mine took the backseat.
I’m going through it. I know better is on the other side of this. I just hope I can run into my husband already because this dating thing is energy consuming and I’m ready to put all that energy where I am accepted authentically and there’s room for me to grow without shaming who I am currently.
Thank you for sharing your story family. ❤
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Look amazing you guys
My lovely couple ❤❤❤❤❤❤
it hardly happens though that when we collaborate there's always gon be compromise cause collaboration is coming together towards something the same way. i understand hungani when it comes to compromise vs collaboration. it's not the same thing and when collaboration happens it's rare that one has to compromise.(this point is based on what steph said about it)
Any specific reason for the rings on the pinky finger?
I'm so like Hungani...can we talk about this right now and find solution...😢😢 my boyfriend on the other hand want some time...
If you keep forcing then a person says: “ I don’t know what to say”😅
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