I’m crying laughing over how long it was taking you guys to figure out it wasn’t ACTUALLY a raccoon and was just a nickname for his trashy, critter-like friend 💀🤣🤣
Exactly. I don't think he was being dramatic about it either. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. After what she said, I would not trust her around the dog. She could fake being attacked or hurt the dog so he would movw in with her. He dodged a bullett.
ngl, i keep fish, and if someone said "it's me or the fish," i would go with the fish, lol. i think it's less a matter of op being overdramatic and picking an animal over a human being, and more a matter of op's partner disrespecting his bond with his pet. like, if someone i dated decided they hated my (human) friend without any valid reason and said "it's me or them," i would break up with them. any ultimatium of that variety just seems very manipulative. not to mention that rehoming a dog after 10 years would be incredibly traumatic for the dog. like, he's already 11, let him enjoy his last few years in peace ffs
I've told everyone in my life if I move Bob is coming with me. Bob is my parrot, who's photo I use, was my first pet I got as an adult and nows he's 13 I adore him and will tell anyone to pound sand about it.
So if you date a person who has a pet, that pet is a part of them tell them to get ride of that pet you are trying to change them. Its a red flag so end it.
Not only that, but Bruce is a senior dog at this point. Even if he had behavioral problems as a young dog, he’s probably unlikely to do much more than nap all day at this point. How cruel can you be to ask someone to abandon a pet after over a decade?
It's the same as dating someone with kids. If she wasn't prepared to be a dog owner she shouldn't have pursued furthering the relationship. The nerve to even think that he would just abandon his dog 🙄
It’s the assuming he would get rid of Bruce without communicating her true feelings for 3 years that gets me. If you are planning on marriage- being respectful and honest with your partner is so important. she never thought to herself, “hey maybe I can accept my partners companion “ Pits were bred as nursery dogs,if she cared she might find out more to help her ease her own issues. Or at least express how she felt so she didn’t waste 3 years of both their lives? My cat sat with me through my major depressive episode and I doubt I would still be here without her. there’s no way I would give her away, I will play with her, love her, and give her the best golden years of her life a meager thanks for all her love and compassion.
Thank you for pointing this out. I’m currently at the part where Sofia is reading the Reddit comments, and somehow No one is commenting about how it’s a MAJOR Red Flag that she told him to get rid of his dog !!?? Like I know my husband probably loves me more than our dog (I think lol) but I would NEVER ask him to choose between the two of us for any reason. That’s insane and cruel for no reason.
My dog never left me in the lowest of the lows. Elizabeth Taylor the pug survived living in a garage with me and we stayed with each other during seizures. Dogs are a love we don't deserve
I think the thing about the dog story is that a dog is a dependant. Like a child, it relies entirely on you for their mental and physical well-being. A partner does not. A partner can depend on you for some things, but ultimately, they are in control of and capable of providing for themself. When you take on a partner you are agreeing to support them. But when you take on a dog, you are agreeing to sustain them and care for them and be their sole means of survival until the day they pass. If you’re not willing to take in that responsibility for the life span of an animal, you should not have that animal. And if something in your life is a threat to that animal, even your partner, then as the sole caretaker of it, it’s your responsibility to seperate that dependant from the threat. Any person or partner who does not understand the commitment of having an animal is not someone I would want to have any dependants with, be they pets or children.
I adopted three street dogs when they were puppies (which, side note, would absolutely not get rehomed in a country where there are likely hundreds of thousands in the streets and where there us a massive stigma against them) and raised them as domestic house pets for 5 years and then my EX expected me to abandon them because he could no longer get a visa in the country we lived in. He had also raised them, mind you. I absolutely used the dependent argument that you have said here, almost verbatim. They are my family, I am their world. He is a big boy and can take care of himself. When he got upset and said indignantly, "You love the dogs more than you love me and you'll choose the dogs over me?" He was even more indignant when I said they need me and yeah, I do love and choose them, you can take care of yourself." (Yeah, not really, but at 33 years old, it was about time he learned!) He had been pretty mean to them at times too, which we used to fight about constantly because, of course, I would protect them. One of my dogs also bit him when he was shouting at me 😅. The dogs and I are now much happier and life is much more peaceful.
Pets are nothing like children and they're absolutely fine being rehomed. I got my cat when she was already 9 years old, she's 13 now and as happy as can be. I feed like 25 feral cats and she has it so good compared to them, being rehomed as a pet - from one safe warm home with food to another safe warm home with food is 100% okay. It would be harmful to a child because they're human beings with complex psyches who are undergoing rapid development that will shape how their mind works for 80+ years, but not to pets who basically just live to eat and poop for a few years. Rehoming is fine, stop pretending pets are kids.
@@swhitson9633 I think people are just recognizing that pets are a responsibility, that giving up something you care for is painful, and people shouldn't be forced to be or do things to please others. Or more importantly being something they're not or doing what goes against their values.
@swhitson9633 except they arent. Being rehomed can be very traumatic for pets. many pets exhibit ptsd from being rehomed. because they feel abandoned by their original owners. yeah they eventually warm up to their new owner but it can still have an affect on their behavior and personality
Sophia kind of looks like Candace form Phineas and Ferb actually Edit: also Riley’s stone cold serious face when he says ‘a dog can never be too cuddly. She’s the problem’ 💀
OMG! My mom got a dog from our local prison quite a few years ago where they had a whole prisoners train pets program. His name was Hank and he was jacked. lol All the prisoners loved him and he was affectionately named Hank the Tank.
I have been with my partner for 14 years, and we both love our cats at least as much as we love each other. They are our family. If he didn't love them as much as he loves me, I wouldn't still be with him.
I’m a behavioral therapist and the whole dog treat thing that Riley suggested is 100% how we would do it! It’s called fading reinforcement. It sounds like how the girl did it with her cat (randomly giving it some of the time) is also another method we’d use to fade reinforcement. It can feel a little mean but they’ll eventually stop expecting a treat and just come when they’re called
I'm always gonna be team keeping the animal and ditching the partner. Honestly, the next time OP dates someone, ask about their animal preferences. My floof dog did the egg challenge and he was gentle. He just gets overly excited about our cats because he desperately wants them as friends 😅 I feel so bad, but his barking is so damn deep lmao
@@double-you5130 That's not why lmao. Communication and actually being compatible are the reasons why. In fact, if someone wanted me to choose between my children and them who do you think I'll pick?
For the first story, my pets are like my children. I have ended friendships or relationships over my pets with zero regret. They will always, always, always come first.
That dog is definitely protective over his owner. They saved each other. If anybody tried to get in between that and called my dog a stupid animal because they don't like dogs, I'm definitely Choosing My Dog over somebody else. That dog will love me no matter what and always be there for me until the day that they die. Can't say the same for humans
I get the guy from the first story. You can’t just get rid of your pet because you accidentally picked a partner who doesnt like it. You are that animal’s whole world, their family. Especially with how long he and the dog were together. Gf should have just waited out the years for Bruce to pass on if she rly wanted to stay together.
"Dogs don't know English". When they live with you for 10 years, they know what words mean for sure. They also know your body language inside out. OP said towards the start that Bruce was sometimes overly affectionate but inherently knew not to give that affection always to the girlfriend. Dogs pick up on how you feel about them for sure. And maybe she wasn't abusive when OP was around, but what about when he wasn't? Dogs are incredibly loyal and forgiving, so it may not be immediately noticeable. I have seen the press regarding pitbulls and the horrible videos of attacks, but in my personal experience, they have always been the most loving and affectionate dogs you could meet, that if anything, would lick you to death. I've met at least 10 pitbulls and maybe more "pitbull-type". When I was a preteen, I had no friends and was bullied (and also my divorced Dad used to leave me waiting for hours on end and not show up when he said he would)....I was so lonely. However, I had a staffordshire bull terrier who used to play games with me for hours, I taught her whole routines. She was so smart; she used to sit and listen to me read outloud to her and be paying attention like she was actually listening the whole time, sitting on the bed and watching me read. So I understand OP 100%. Also, being a pitbull, Bruce would not easily be rehomed. He could end up with an owner who does not understand his energy and strength or is not that committed. Then Bruce could end up in a kill shelter when he's not walked enough and too much work for his new owner. Or it could result in him being adopted by someone who wants a pitbull for the wrong reasons. Yeah...rehome the girlfriend. My own personal bias can't understand how she could still dislike the dog after three years of building a relationship. Also, a good partner loves to see their partner be passionate about things and even when you don't yourself automatically like the thing, you like it because it's important to them. Tin foil hat maybe, but I can't help but feel gf is some sort of jealous narcissist who doesn't want to share OP and who can't handle that someone else in OPs life is loved by him. I just don't understand her distain after such a long time otherwise. I'd get it if she'd had a traumatic experience with dogs, but it doesn't seem that way, unless she feels her family loved her childhood dogs more than her... Ok, I'll take the hat off now 😅
Dude wasn’t overreacting about the dog. Dogs love you unconditionally. He’s had that dog for 10 years and dogs, especially big ones, don’t typically live very long. To abandon an animal in old age “for a partner” is absolutely ridiculous. The dog would spend the rest of his life in a depressed state and if you have any heart at all, you have to live with that. The dudes chick pulled the bait and switch. She’s been with him for three years and hasn’t made a big deal like this about the dog at all! I’m pretty damn sure that if when they first started dating and she laid out she didn’t like dogs or “if we ever get serious, I won’t live with your dog,” or even if she was dismissive and didn’t interact with the dog, he probably would have gotten rid of the girlfriend and thus, the convos about a future and kids would never have happened because she wouldn’t have gotten a chance to be close to him. She played into it for three years without issue until they were going to move in together and she says that to him like she hasn’t always known her man with his dog either. Anyone shitting on him that he overreacted and his “poor girlfriend” is dumb. He was blindsided by her feelings about his dog. It’s not even that she wasn’t a big dog person and just let him be the caretaker and she just existed around the dog… she is literally expecting this man to throw the dog away for her when the dog was there long before she was. Sure, she may outlive the dog (typically) but I would throw any man away that expected me to get rid of my dog. For the commenters saying that he doesn’t respect her and she would be in danger moving in with him, I counter that he would be screwed being with her if she expects something that extreme. She may not prefer animals, but knowing her man has always had this one and she didn’t want to be willing to live with it is a huge red flag. The compromise could have been that he didn’t get another dog after Bruce dies or ANY future dog he owns is solely his and she won’t look after it, pick up after it, walk it or love it. Either way, kinda vile and bold of her to think she could tell a man she knows is very attached to his animal that it’s not a family member and not going to live with them. Throw the woman away. She has no compassion, foresight or ability to compromise
It’s funny to me that people think animals are less than because they don’t speak the same language that we do to be able to communicate what they feel. That dog had more love for him than his own partner did because the dog fully accepted her and she was eager to get rid of him.
Bruh, my last dog came before every single soul in my life aside from my children. She was only a hair behind them. She was my soul dog. Keeper of secrets, catcher of tears. So so much more than a dog. They do connect with you on a soul level and you can't convince me otherwise. Plus I never have to worry if a dog is faking their feelings. They either love or hate you
NEVER stay with someone that says your pre-relationship dog is a deal breaker. It's like how you should never stay with someone if they want to get rid of your previous relationship children (like wanting you to be an absent parent or sending them to boarding school). A dog is a commitment. A pet is basically a dependent. What does it say to them when they think you should get rid of a commitment because you "can't like dog as much as you like your SO". If you don't want dogs, cats, or already existing children in your long term relationship. DON'T DATE ANYONE THAT HAS PETS OR CHILDREN. It's so simple. If anyone is willing to get rid of a dependent for a relationship thats red flags on both sides and i guess that means they were made for each other.
I had a pit bull I rescued her at 5 yrs old and had her for an additional 7 years before she passed before Christmas of 2023 she was the sweetest thing in the world wouldn’t hurt a fly and I got her for me right after we got together cuz I didn’t like being home alone when my partner worked my partner had reservations when it came to dogs and he’s more of a cat person but he learned to love her as his own took them 2 years to figure each other out but they eventually became good friends she was like a child to me when she passed I was devastated but I feel like my partner was even more devastated he filled her food dish and gave her water a lot of the time during the last few months of her life cuz I’ve been pregnant but he continued to do it after she passed it has taken him a while to come to terms with her being gone and it’s been hard on me but we loved her till the very end and I’m so happy we had that time with her and he was able to bond with her aswell as her accepting him
I go into hypothetical holes late at night sometimes, and losing one of my cats is a common one. I’d cry on the toilet at 3 am looking at my 3 year old cat HAHA. How dare she even talk about his dog that way, let alone expect him to willingly give away his family??
I scrolled through all kinds of comments to find this one. I had to know if anyone else was thinking what I was thinking. If you’re the asshole, so am I.
Really? I don’t see it. Like whatsoever lol that would never work, they have completely different world views Riley has conservative values and Sophia is definitely much more progressive. Plus even that aside, they have no romantic chemistry whatsoever like the episodes with just the two of them are my least favorite because they completely lack on screen chemistry their banter seems forced and I get the feeling Sophia isn’t the most fond of Riley in general lol more like frenemies than two people I’d ship in any way
I'm totally behind OP in the first story. I have a pitbull/rottweiler that I found abandoned in the desert when he was a puppy 11 years ago and he grew up to be a 110 pound teddy bear and one of the best dogs I've ever had. Some folks love their dogs just as much as other folks who love their kids and would do anything for their animals. So discrediting the meaningfulness of someones furbaby by giving the it's them or me ultimatum, you're gonna find out real quick that your hierarchy isn't what you thought it was.
Yeah. Golden Retrievers have what's called a "soft mouth", which means that they can hold things gently in their mouths and not hurt or break them. I've heard of Goldens that would retrieve eggs for people who have chickens and were trained to put the eggs gently in a basket
Love love LOVE Sophia always, but the energy she displayed regarding felonies made my soul smile! Sincerely, a “2 undisclosed felonies” person, that is also so so so much more 😘
I don’t normally comment but after Sofia saying that she’s “boycotting McDonald’s and Starbucks” I fell in love with her and immediately subscribed ♥️🍉 it’s really hard these days to see people like that
16:19 No “buts” !! It’s never okay and is a MAJOR RED FLAG is a partner is asking you to choose between them or your pet!!! How did y’all not loudly point this out?? It’s absolutely insane and cruel for the GF to even suggest to OP that he ABANDONED his elderly dog! It’s so insensitive and she clearly doesn’t really love him - if she did, she would have either learned how to get along with the dog for however many years he has left, or she would’ve told him a long time ago that she’s not comfortable with dogs and said goodbye then It’s NOT OKAY that she ASSUMED he would one day abandon his dog for her!!?? That’s legit insanity
It's absolutely not immature to choose a dog over a partner, what's immature is her lying about her feelings about the dog. You don't just ask someone to abandon someone or something that got them through such a dark time, that's a completely unempathetic thing to do. To me it sounds like those commentors saying that guy is immature for choosing the dog or saying he's a danger to her referring to her and women in general as "females" give off a very incel type vibe
One of my small dogs has been attacked twice over his twelve years: once by a pitbull that jumped out of a car to get to him (dog owner's mother said the dog had a history of this) , and another by a blue heeler that broke free from it's owner (same dog attacked another dog later that day) while we were on a walk. Both times were terrifying. Both times could have been avoided if the owners trained their dogs better. I don't blame breeds, I blame owners for not training them properly.
I 100% blame the owners for not securing the animal … ‘Today's pit bull is a descendant of the original English bull-baiting dog-a dog that was bred to bite and hold bulls, bears and other large animals around the face and head.’ Pit bulls were literally bred to attack animals .. and people are shocked that they attack animals and humans at much much much higher numbers then any other dog breed… Millions of other dogs are also not trained properly… and yet they don’t attack and kill like pitties do … People are so delusional when they don’t understand dogs can turn / be in a bad mood any day … People need to respect and under them more .. and if they chose to have a pittie never leeave them unattended and make sure they always are secure on property
@@barbarella.artist many dog professionals actually don’t even think the statistics are accurate. 1) any dog that is vaguely pit bull looking gets counted as a pit bull on most counts 2) many dog breeds don’t get counted simply because no one reports their bites, if you get bit by a Pomeranian for example you probably aren’t going to the hospital and 3) pit bulls are also a HUGE choice for people who don’t treat their dogs right and try to make them “scary” without actual defense training because of the bad reputation which means the numbers are skewed due to more of them being abused. Pit bulls are actually one of the most tolerant dog breeds consistently in testing, you know one of the worst? Golden retrievers. Basically it’s all BS to blame the dog when it’s not the dog
Oyr dog Molly sadly passed in September 2023, and honestly I was absolutely broken. We rescued her when my son was one years old. She was part of our wedding, our second pregnancy, house moves, me losing family members ect. She was always by my side, no matter what! I have gone through such a long grieving process, I kept listening for her little tapping feet in the house, snoring in the nighttime, and our kids were absolutely heartbroken when we told them. A dog, is never just a dog. They're like another child, a loving companion, and our house didnt feel like a home for a long time after. If I was in that sutiuation and someone had told me, that it was Molly or them. It would always have been Molly. OP is way better off.
When my boyfriend and I were planning on moving we were constantly thinking about how to take our two buns with us. Our pets are our family. My daughter loves our cat and wants her when she's upset.
Went to a CiCi’s pizza (pizza buffet) and got a sweet tea. Took the biggest sip of my life. They didn’t use sugar…. Some ding dong used salt vs sugar. RILEY: sweet tea - boil 6 tea bags in a full sauce pan. Pour over two cups of ice and two cups of sugar, mix-taste-adjust as needed
My best friend in HS is allergic to cats and also generally dislikes them. He met the woman of his dreams after college and she LOVES cats. Had 6 of them in a 2 bedroom house. They compromised and he asked her to remove at least half of the cats and he takes stronger allergy meds and asked that she not get anymore cats when the last one passes. Idk much more than that but they have been together for about 5 years now I believe?
My sister accidentally drank water with a centipede floating in it because it was dark and she was half asleep. She said she felt it tickle her lip but didn't think anything of it at the time.
It also says a lot of the loyalty of the person though, if you think about it. "I've had my dog longer than you, and he's helped me through my darkest day." How much would that say if he did just dump the dog? That no matter how many hurdles, and no matter how much you bond, if something better comes along, he'll be gone.
She had 3 YEARS to discuss her dislike of dogs with him, and the fact that she didn’t and just assumed he’d get rid of Bruce at all, never mind that it had been a whole decade of companionship, is wild to me. If you come into a relationship and your partner has a pet you shouldn’t ask them to choose you over their dog/cat etc.
Today I was taking a drink of my energy drink, which was sitting on the coffee table. My teeth came together, and I felt a crunch. I felt something on my tongue and pulled it off. It was a scab attached to cat hair. I looked down, and my cat had been scratching herself on the coffee table and a bunch of scabs flew everywhere. I almost threw up.
I am with OP #1. I adopted a pittie when I was going through extreme depression. She was the reason I kept going and didn’t give up. My dog literally gave me a reason to live when nothing else did. We saved each other. I would never have picked someone over her. Although I think OP was a bit dramatic and sounds like he needs more tools to control his temper.
The snail story, happened to me but with a small gecko, which is a common house pest in my country. I made tea with it and it taste kinda weird, opened the pot and found a boiled gecko. Throwing up the whole day
I have three cats and two dogs and if someone gave me an ultimatum in choosing them or my animals, I'd choose my animals. They've been in my life longer than any partner.
I had my cats for 5 years before I found out I was allergic to them which was so weird, I never had a rash from them in the 5 years I've had them and suddenly I broke out into a really bad rash all over my body after transferring to a different building for my job. Still don't know what triggered my rash but found out I'm 2+ on a 1-4 allergy scale for cats and also allergic to grass, dust, mold, every fucking tree outside but luckily no food allergy lol. Now I tend to get hives after cuddling my cats but I can't live without them so I take two non drowsy allergy pills to deal with the aftermath. My arms have yet to clear up on hives since my initial flare up but my cats keep me mentally stable and that's more important to me lol
Kinda sad tho because hes had his dog so long, the dog is 11 years old and wont live a whole lot of years more. The gf already love OP enough to deal with it for 3 years so why couldnt they just deal with it for a few more years?
The people saying OP's a terrible person for choosing the dog over her are awful- She's making him give a nearly senior dog away so suddenly after pretending to like it- To be honest, if my partner isn't on board with me having a dog they're not worth having in my life.
If someone that says they love you and asks you to choose between them and any animal or any person you loved then they don't love you! (asking you to choose for no reason)
Not even surprised that she didn’t like Bruce. And I don’t even fully blame OP. She made it clear that she didn’t like dog, but she pretended to be okay with Bruce.
As a "horse person" many of my friends have left/divorced their partners for giving them the ultimatum of "It's me or the horse." It's the horse every time...every single time...every single time.
When I started dating my hubs, we had been together about 6-8 months, he asked “If your dogs didn’t like me, we wouldn’t be dating would we?” Nope! Btw, he asked this with my German shorthair in his lap!
As someone who's typically not a dog person (I love them just not to own, I like cats they're more independent and I travel a lot, also heart issues so struggle to be able to take care of exercise needs, not to mention I'm allergic but worth it tbh) BUT who has a very sweet baby girl Chloe (lab mix) who's like my own personal (unregistered) emotion support dog who is always there for me and loves cuddles and chest compressions (she's a natural at calming me and helping with my heart it's honestly amazing for an untrained dog) I would not give her up for anything at all. She is my baby I don't care if I've been with someone 10 years, they give me a choice they're gone, obviously we're not made for eachother and we'll be unhappy in the long run, and I have a strict rule against ultimatums, I'm fully willing to compromise on anything at all but a X or X you have no say and there's no other options or room for talking it out, you're gone end of story Chloes only crime is she gets way too excited to see people and will try to smother you in cuddles and kisses for the first 10 mins. Unless she actually hurt someone she stays. She's made my bpd 100X more berable to live with and keeps me from overworking my heart, so similar situation to this guy, he saved his life and is a huge part of him and probably helps him cope outside of just his dad passing. Even outside of the dog, she faked liking the dog for THREE YEARS, it she's able to fake that you have to wonder what else she's hiding/faking. That would break my trust immediately and I wouldn't be able to come back from that For clarification before some ask because labs are high energy, I throw the ball (her favorite thing, i have one of those things for it you can use to whip it FAR, we live in the country and can throw it past our tree line) and I can do walks around the yard just can't run, and my grandpa helps a lot with taking her on runs (I live with them because of my medical issues and can't afford a place with doctors appointments all the time)
I have 2 brothers and they both have had 2 pitbulls but my 2nd oldest brother lost one of his pitbulls. He passed from choking on a toy. It got stuck in his throat and we buried him in our parents back yard. That was 3 years ago. Then he just had 1 pitbull then maybe like 7 or 8 months later he got an another pitbull and the other main pitbull lives with Addison’s disease. Now with my oldest brother he had 2 pitbulls now he has just one, the other died from cancer. Pitbulls are a very lovable breed I don’t know why people hate/dislike them it’s always the owners not breed. The owners just need to train their dogs better and become better pet owners. Any dog can be aggressive if they don’t get trained right.
Story 1: The second she made that comment about the dog, the relationship would be over. No discussion, no apologies, she's already shown her true colours.How the hell do you date someone with a pet then have the audacity to say something like that? Also these people calling him the AH, wtf is wrong with you? I dont care if she was apologising, she was the AH for allowing the relationship to go ahead when clearly they don't agree on the dog front. Seriously good for you OP! Thank you for backing your pup. Unfortunately there are too many people in this world who view their animals as disposable and get rid at the drop of a hat. They're family at the end of the day and one day you will find someone who loves their furry friends as much as you do.
Ops gf in the first story is absolutely the ah. Not only does she know the history of op and the dog, the fact that the dog saved ops life and helped him through some seriously difficult times, and how much the dog has meant to op the whole time shed been in a relationship with op. Nor did she ever have the conversation prior with op about her feelings about dogs and what she would want the future to look like. But you also have to consider, Bruce is at least 10 now, a very large bully breed, and also has a history of previous aggression in the shelter (thankfully op was able to work through that with Bruce, and it sounds like he is an absolutely delightful dog, but shelters can be very frightening and overwhelming places for some dogs. If he was put back in a shelter, an entirely new environment, and no longer had the comfort and trust of someone he knew it is possible he could show aggression to strangers again. Even if in a normal home environment he's very friendly, it sounds like op had to build a lot of trust and confidence to get Bruce to that point). If op had to give up the dog and he ended up back in a shelter all those things are going against him, it would be incredibly difficult for him to get adopted again. There's a real chance that if he went to a shelter again he would be put to sleep, shelters are facing a lot of overcrowding as is, they unfortunately get forced into scenarios where they have to turn away or are unable to help all of the animals they see. To ask op to give up his dog that hes had for a decade that clearly means the world to him, with a serious chance the dog could wind up put to sleep as a result, is horrible. It's a massive red flag, people were saying he needs to be mature and think about her feelings what about ops feelings? She should have made it clear from the very start she wasnt a fan of dogs, including Bruce, it likely never wouldve gotten this far if she had. People can absolutely love dogs as much as they love people. Theres a reason people refer to their pets as family, theres a reason his friend recommended op get a dog when he was at such a low, theres a reason op refers to Bruce as his person. That dog saved his life. The bond the two of them have should not be minimized just because it's not a human relationship. Op literally described this dog as being like a brother to him, you cant tell me that relationship is less important just because its a dog. And based on what the girlfriend was asking and the fact that she didnt think it was a big deal, shows me perfectly clearly that she doesnt have ops best interests at heart, nor does she care about his feelings.
That 14-year-old won't listen any better when told to stay away from the horse. Her parents need to teach her better about taking responsibility for her own actions.
Sophia, idk if this helps with your fake dream guy cat allergy scenario but there's an easy way to overcome a cat allergy! If you can find a farm that has chickens and a barn cat, buy their eggs and either you eat the eggs or feed the eggs to your cat. This should reduce/eliminate your allergy. It works because when the chickens are around cats they produce antibodies against the protein that causes cat allergies so by consuming the eggs you or your cat now have these antibodies, kind of like how a vaccine works.
I’m crying laughing over how long it was taking you guys to figure out it wasn’t ACTUALLY a raccoon and was just a nickname for his trashy, critter-like friend 💀🤣🤣
Ngl, I thought they were actually talking about an actual raccoon lmfao
@@thequag1493me too until they started describing very human activities 😆
And she read that he was a human!!! Hahaha
Yes in like the first sentence! 😂@@bernieheartdragon1888
😅 Same!!!
OPs gf shouldn’t have lied about liking the dog. This could have all been avoided from the beginning.
Pick me behavior
Exactly. I don't think he was being dramatic about it either. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. After what she said, I would not trust her around the dog. She could fake being attacked or hurt the dog so he would movw in with her. He dodged a bullett.
I personally wouldnt want to be with someone that hid a lie like that for 3 effing years
ngl, i keep fish, and if someone said "it's me or the fish," i would go with the fish, lol. i think it's less a matter of op being overdramatic and picking an animal over a human being, and more a matter of op's partner disrespecting his bond with his pet. like, if someone i dated decided they hated my (human) friend without any valid reason and said "it's me or them," i would break up with them. any ultimatium of that variety just seems very manipulative.
not to mention that rehoming a dog after 10 years would be incredibly traumatic for the dog. like, he's already 11, let him enjoy his last few years in peace ffs
I've told everyone in my life if I move Bob is coming with me. Bob is my parrot, who's photo I use, was my first pet I got as an adult and nows he's 13 I adore him and will tell anyone to pound sand about it.
This!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So if you date a person who has a pet, that pet is a part of them tell them to get ride of that pet you are trying to change them. Its a red flag so end it.
Not only that, but Bruce is a senior dog at this point. Even if he had behavioral problems as a young dog, he’s probably unlikely to do much more than nap all day at this point. How cruel can you be to ask someone to abandon a pet after over a decade?
It's the same as dating someone with kids. If she wasn't prepared to be a dog owner she shouldn't have pursued furthering the relationship. The nerve to even think that he would just abandon his dog 🙄
It’s the assuming he would get rid of Bruce without communicating her true feelings for 3 years that gets me. If you are planning on marriage- being respectful and honest with your partner is so important. she never thought to herself, “hey maybe I can accept my partners companion “ Pits were bred as nursery dogs,if she cared she might find out more to help her ease her own issues. Or at least express how she felt so she didn’t waste 3 years of both their lives? My cat sat with me through my major depressive episode and I doubt I would still be here without her. there’s no way I would give her away, I will play with her, love her, and give her the best golden years of her life a meager thanks for all her love and compassion.
Who knows what she would have been capable of, I would have never trust her with the dog ever again
Thank you for pointing this out. I’m currently at the part where Sofia is reading the Reddit comments, and somehow No one is commenting about how it’s a MAJOR Red Flag that she told him to get rid of his dog !!??
Like I know my husband probably loves me more than our dog (I think lol) but I would NEVER ask him to choose between the two of us for any reason. That’s insane and cruel for no reason.
My dog never left me in the lowest of the lows. Elizabeth Taylor the pug survived living in a garage with me and we stayed with each other during seizures.
Dogs are a love we don't deserve
I think the thing about the dog story is that a dog is a dependant. Like a child, it relies entirely on you for their mental and physical well-being. A partner does not. A partner can depend on you for some things, but ultimately, they are in control of and capable of providing for themself.
When you take on a partner you are agreeing to support them. But when you take on a dog, you are agreeing to sustain them and care for them and be their sole means of survival until the day they pass. If you’re not willing to take in that responsibility for the life span of an animal, you should not have that animal. And if something in your life is a threat to that animal, even your partner, then as the sole caretaker of it, it’s your responsibility to seperate that dependant from the threat. Any person or partner who does not understand the commitment of having an animal is not someone I would want to have any dependants with, be they pets or children.
I adopted three street dogs when they were puppies (which, side note, would absolutely not get rehomed in a country where there are likely hundreds of thousands in the streets and where there us a massive stigma against them) and raised them as domestic house pets for 5 years and then my EX expected me to abandon them because he could no longer get a visa in the country we lived in. He had also raised them, mind you. I absolutely used the dependent argument that you have said here, almost verbatim.
They are my family, I am their world. He is a big boy and can take care of himself.
When he got upset and said indignantly, "You love the dogs more than you love me and you'll choose the dogs over me?"
He was even more indignant when I said they need me and yeah, I do love and choose them, you can take care of yourself." (Yeah, not really, but at 33 years old, it was about time he learned!)
He had been pretty mean to them at times too, which we used to fight about constantly because, of course, I would protect them. One of my dogs also bit him when he was shouting at me 😅.
The dogs and I are now much happier and life is much more peaceful.
Exactly this
Pets are nothing like children and they're absolutely fine being rehomed. I got my cat when she was already 9 years old, she's 13 now and as happy as can be. I feed like 25 feral cats and she has it so good compared to them, being rehomed as a pet - from one safe warm home with food to another safe warm home with food is 100% okay. It would be harmful to a child because they're human beings with complex psyches who are undergoing rapid development that will shape how their mind works for 80+ years, but not to pets who basically just live to eat and poop for a few years. Rehoming is fine, stop pretending pets are kids.
@@swhitson9633 I think people are just recognizing that pets are a responsibility, that giving up something you care for is painful, and people shouldn't be forced to be or do things to please others. Or more importantly being something they're not or doing what goes against their values.
@swhitson9633 except they arent. Being rehomed can be very traumatic for pets. many pets exhibit ptsd from being rehomed. because they feel abandoned by their original owners. yeah they eventually warm up to their new owner but it can still have an affect on their behavior and personality
Sophia kind of looks like Candace form Phineas and Ferb actually
Edit: also Riley’s stone cold serious face when he says ‘a dog can never be too cuddly. She’s the problem’ 💀
She does. And is adorable.
"MOOOOOOOM! Sam and John are making a Reddit sequence!"
If I had a nickel for every time I heard this I’d have two nickels 😆
@Dantible
When op described his dog being "jacked" had me picturing the dog on Tom and Jerry cartoon😅😂
OMG! My mom got a dog from our local prison quite a few years ago where they had a whole prisoners train pets program. His name was Hank and he was jacked. lol All the prisoners loved him and he was affectionately named Hank the Tank.
I love how Sofia skipped over the line about the Raccoon being divorced. 😂
It's tge fact that she lied all this time about liking the dog. I didn't trust people who don't like pets.
I have been with my partner for 14 years, and we both love our cats at least as much as we love each other. They are our family. If he didn't love them as much as he loves me, I wouldn't still be with him.
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I’m a behavioral therapist and the whole dog treat thing that Riley suggested is 100% how we would do it! It’s called fading reinforcement. It sounds like how the girl did it with her cat (randomly giving it some of the time) is also another method we’d use to fade reinforcement. It can feel a little mean but they’ll eventually stop expecting a treat and just come when they’re called
I'm always gonna be team keeping the animal and ditching the partner. Honestly, the next time OP dates someone, ask about their animal preferences.
My floof dog did the egg challenge and he was gentle. He just gets overly excited about our cats because he desperately wants them as friends 😅 I feel so bad, but his barking is so damn deep lmao
and that's why relationships are failing and birth rates going down because of childishness like this
@@double-you5130 That's not why lmao. Communication and actually being compatible are the reasons why. In fact, if someone wanted me to choose between my children and them who do you think I'll pick?
@@karafadely5754 children are not the same as animals
Your dog: IF NOT FRIEND THEN WHY FRIEND SHAPED
@@double-you5130No children are not the same as animals, but my fur babies are like my children lol
Omg I cannot believe Riley and Sophia didn't realize it was a HUMAN 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 dying 😅
For the first story, my pets are like my children. I have ended friendships or relationships over my pets with zero regret. They will always, always, always come first.
That dog is definitely protective over his owner. They saved each other. If anybody tried to get in between that and called my dog a stupid animal because they don't like dogs, I'm definitely Choosing My Dog over somebody else. That dog will love me no matter what and always be there for me until the day that they die. Can't say the same for humans
Everyone keeps thinking it’s because she said a mean thing about the dog, it’s because she gave him the ultimatum of her or his dog! Lol
exactly! kinda pissed me off they didn’t say a single thing about that when in past stories they’ve said you’re the asshole if you give an ultimatum
I get the guy from the first story. You can’t just get rid of your pet because you accidentally picked a partner who doesnt like it. You are that animal’s whole world, their family. Especially with how long he and the dog were together. Gf should have just waited out the years for Bruce to pass on if she rly wanted to stay together.
"Dogs don't know English". When they live with you for 10 years, they know what words mean for sure. They also know your body language inside out. OP said towards the start that Bruce was sometimes overly affectionate but inherently knew not to give that affection always to the girlfriend. Dogs pick up on how you feel about them for sure.
And maybe she wasn't abusive when OP was around, but what about when he wasn't? Dogs are incredibly loyal and forgiving, so it may not be immediately noticeable.
I have seen the press regarding pitbulls and the horrible videos of attacks, but in my personal experience, they have always been the most loving and affectionate dogs you could meet, that if anything, would lick you to death. I've met at least 10 pitbulls and maybe more "pitbull-type". When I was a preteen, I had no friends and was bullied (and also my divorced Dad used to leave me waiting for hours on end and not show up when he said he would)....I was so lonely. However, I had a staffordshire bull terrier who used to play games with me for hours, I taught her whole routines. She was so smart; she used to sit and listen to me read outloud to her and be paying attention like she was actually listening the whole time, sitting on the bed and watching me read.
So I understand OP 100%. Also, being a pitbull, Bruce would not easily be rehomed. He could end up with an owner who does not understand his energy and strength or is not that committed. Then Bruce could end up in a kill shelter when he's not walked enough and too much work for his new owner. Or it could result in him being adopted by someone who wants a pitbull for the wrong reasons.
Yeah...rehome the girlfriend.
My own personal bias can't understand how she could still dislike the dog after three years of building a relationship. Also, a good partner loves to see their partner be passionate about things and even when you don't yourself automatically like the thing, you like it because it's important to them. Tin foil hat maybe, but I can't help but feel gf is some sort of jealous narcissist who doesn't want to share OP and who can't handle that someone else in OPs life is loved by him. I just don't understand her distain after such a long time otherwise. I'd get it if she'd had a traumatic experience with dogs, but it doesn't seem that way, unless she feels her family loved her childhood dogs more than her... Ok, I'll take the hat off now 😅
Your story about your dog made me tear up. What a sweet pup.
Dude wasn’t overreacting about the dog. Dogs love you unconditionally. He’s had that dog for 10 years and dogs, especially big ones, don’t typically live very long. To abandon an animal in old age “for a partner” is absolutely ridiculous. The dog would spend the rest of his life in a depressed state and if you have any heart at all, you have to live with that.
The dudes chick pulled the bait and switch. She’s been with him for three years and hasn’t made a big deal like this about the dog at all! I’m pretty damn sure that if when they first started dating and she laid out she didn’t like dogs or “if we ever get serious, I won’t live with your dog,” or even if she was dismissive and didn’t interact with the dog, he probably would have gotten rid of the girlfriend and thus, the convos about a future and kids would never have happened because she wouldn’t have gotten a chance to be close to him. She played into it for three years without issue until they were going to move in together and she says that to him like she hasn’t always known her man with his dog either.
Anyone shitting on him that he overreacted and his “poor girlfriend” is dumb. He was blindsided by her feelings about his dog. It’s not even that she wasn’t a big dog person and just let him be the caretaker and she just existed around the dog… she is literally expecting this man to throw the dog away for her when the dog was there long before she was. Sure, she may outlive the dog (typically) but I would throw any man away that expected me to get rid of my dog.
For the commenters saying that he doesn’t respect her and she would be in danger moving in with him, I counter that he would be screwed being with her if she expects something that extreme. She may not prefer animals, but knowing her man has always had this one and she didn’t want to be willing to live with it is a huge red flag. The compromise could have been that he didn’t get another dog after Bruce dies or ANY future dog he owns is solely his and she won’t look after it, pick up after it, walk it or love it.
Either way, kinda vile and bold of her to think she could tell a man she knows is very attached to his animal that it’s not a family member and not going to live with them.
Throw the woman away. She has no compassion, foresight or ability to compromise
It’s funny to me that people think animals are less than because they don’t speak the same language that we do to be able to communicate what they feel.
That dog had more love for him than his own partner did because the dog fully accepted her and she was eager to get rid of him.
Ditto!
Thissss!!!!! Yes he didn’t overreact at all that chick is gaslighting and manipulative
Bruh, my last dog came before every single soul in my life aside from my children. She was only a hair behind them. She was my soul dog. Keeper of secrets, catcher of tears. So so much more than a dog. They do connect with you on a soul level and you can't convince me otherwise. Plus I never have to worry if a dog is faking their feelings. They either love or hate you
Getting rid of something emotionally dependent of you and that has known you as their world for a relationship: nope
The OKOP army being called Tea bags goes clear back to spill that Tea.
NEVER stay with someone that says your pre-relationship dog is a deal breaker. It's like how you should never stay with someone if they want to get rid of your previous relationship children (like wanting you to be an absent parent or sending them to boarding school). A dog is a commitment. A pet is basically a dependent. What does it say to them when they think you should get rid of a commitment because you "can't like dog as much as you like your SO".
If you don't want dogs, cats, or already existing children in your long term relationship. DON'T DATE ANYONE THAT HAS PETS OR CHILDREN. It's so simple. If anyone is willing to get rid of a dependent for a relationship thats red flags on both sides and i guess that means they were made for each other.
My husband loves our dog more than the majority people in his life (if not more than me 😂). I knew what I was getting into when we met. 🐾
Riley calling Sophia a horse girl is so funny, I love their interactions
I had a pit bull I rescued her at 5 yrs old and had her for an additional 7 years before she passed before Christmas of 2023 she was the sweetest thing in the world wouldn’t hurt a fly and I got her for me right after we got together cuz I didn’t like being home alone when my partner worked my partner had reservations when it came to dogs and he’s more of a cat person but he learned to love her as his own took them 2 years to figure each other out but they eventually became good friends she was like a child to me when she passed I was devastated but I feel like my partner was even more devastated he filled her food dish and gave her water a lot of the time during the last few months of her life cuz I’ve been pregnant but he continued to do it after she passed it has taken him a while to come to terms with her being gone and it’s been hard on me but we loved her till the very end and I’m so happy we had that time with her and he was able to bond with her aswell as her accepting him
"You can't get sweet tea out here"
Just get some black tea, sugar, & use water, BAM lol
Always choose the animal.😊
I go into hypothetical holes late at night sometimes, and losing one of my cats is a common one. I’d cry on the toilet at 3 am looking at my 3 year old cat HAHA. How dare she even talk about his dog that way, let alone expect him to willingly give away his family??
Not me yelling at the screen ITS A PERSON 🤣 wondering how long they’d take to work it out 😂❤️
I love my dog more than anyone... including my grown son!
My mom is like that too lol she's the best mom ever. Being a dog person is a green flag
I truly hope you're joking
In my dream world Sophia and Riley ended up together and they make the cutest couple ever 😂 AITA for rooting for you guys 😊
I scrolled through all kinds of comments to find this one. I had to know if anyone else was thinking what I was thinking. If you’re the asshole, so am I.
I'm so glad I'm not alone
Really? I don’t see it. Like whatsoever lol that would never work, they have completely different world views Riley has conservative values and Sophia is definitely much more progressive. Plus even that aside, they have no romantic chemistry whatsoever like the episodes with just the two of them are my least favorite because they completely lack on screen chemistry their banter seems forced and I get the feeling Sophia isn’t the most fond of Riley in general lol more like frenemies than two people I’d ship in any way
Also in my dream work we don't have to share the same opinion it's okay to think different I like seeing them together in an episode.
I'm totally behind OP in the first story. I have a pitbull/rottweiler that I found abandoned in the desert when he was a puppy 11 years ago and he grew up to be a 110 pound teddy bear and one of the best dogs I've ever had. Some folks love their dogs just as much as other folks who love their kids and would do anything for their animals. So discrediting the meaningfulness of someones furbaby by giving the it's them or me ultimatum, you're gonna find out real quick that your hierarchy isn't what you thought it was.
I once had a “friend “ prank call me talking shite about my dog. When they confessed it was them and a prank I told them to kick rocks
I love Sophia more than ever now! Thanks queen! 🍉💖👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Them not realizing the raccoon was a person😂😂
Yeah. Golden Retrievers have what's called a "soft mouth", which means that they can hold things gently in their mouths and not hurt or break them. I've heard of Goldens that would retrieve eggs for people who have chickens and were trained to put the eggs gently in a basket
The raccoon story has me dying 😭😂☠️
Love love LOVE Sophia always, but the energy she displayed regarding felonies made my soul smile!
Sincerely, a “2 undisclosed felonies” person, that is also so so so much more 😘
So glad sophia is now a regular ❤
I don’t normally comment but after Sofia saying that she’s “boycotting McDonald’s and Starbucks” I fell in love with her and immediately subscribed ♥️🍉 it’s really hard these days to see people like that
I'm very impressed on how Sofia and her brother😏, are very socially aware. Good on both of you...and your parents.
16:19 No “buts” !! It’s never okay and is a MAJOR RED FLAG is a partner is asking you to choose between them or your pet!!! How did y’all not loudly point this out?? It’s absolutely insane and cruel for the GF to even suggest to OP that he ABANDONED his elderly dog! It’s so insensitive and she clearly doesn’t really love him - if she did, she would have either learned how to get along with the dog for however many years he has left, or she would’ve told him a long time ago that she’s not comfortable with dogs and said goodbye then
It’s NOT OKAY that she ASSUMED he would one day abandon his dog for her!!?? That’s legit insanity
Back at the beginning lol. Dogs really do be choosing their owners, not the other way around.
The amount of time that it took for you to realize that the racoon was a guy was WILD hahah
Don't you remember the OKOP army, we're called "teabags" remember "teabags".
I’m laughing so hard about the racoon story 😂😂😂😂😂
It's absolutely not immature to choose a dog over a partner, what's immature is her lying about her feelings about the dog. You don't just ask someone to abandon someone or something that got them through such a dark time, that's a completely unempathetic thing to do. To me it sounds like those commentors saying that guy is immature for choosing the dog or saying he's a danger to her referring to her and women in general as "females" give off a very incel type vibe
0:20 I LOVE MYSTERY INCOPRATED SO MUCHCHCHCH
I would in a heart beat leave someone if I couldn't have my dog.
My dad got our dog Jimbo when I was 8 years old and he died when I was 39 I'm pretty sure that dog live some over time 😅
One of my small dogs has been attacked twice over his twelve years: once by a pitbull that jumped out of a car to get to him (dog owner's mother said the dog had a history of this) , and another by a blue heeler that broke free from it's owner (same dog attacked another dog later that day) while we were on a walk. Both times were terrifying. Both times could have been avoided if the owners trained their dogs better. I don't blame breeds, I blame owners for not training them properly.
I 100% blame the owners for not securing the animal …
‘Today's pit bull is a descendant of the original English bull-baiting dog-a dog that was bred to bite and hold bulls, bears and other large animals around the face and head.’
Pit bulls were literally bred to attack animals .. and people are shocked that they attack animals and humans at much much much higher numbers then any other dog breed…
Millions of other dogs are also not trained properly… and yet they don’t attack and kill like pitties do …
People are so delusional when they don’t understand dogs can turn / be in a bad mood any day …
People need to respect and under them more .. and if they chose to have a pittie never leeave them unattended and make sure they always are secure on property
@@barbarella.artist many dog professionals actually don’t even think the statistics are accurate. 1) any dog that is vaguely pit bull looking gets counted as a pit bull on most counts 2) many dog breeds don’t get counted simply because no one reports their bites, if you get bit by a Pomeranian for example you probably aren’t going to the hospital and 3) pit bulls are also a HUGE choice for people who don’t treat their dogs right and try to make them “scary” without actual defense training because of the bad reputation which means the numbers are skewed due to more of them being abused.
Pit bulls are actually one of the most tolerant dog breeds consistently in testing, you know one of the worst? Golden retrievers. Basically it’s all BS to blame the dog when it’s not the dog
Oyr dog Molly sadly passed in September 2023, and honestly I was absolutely broken. We rescued her when my son was one years old. She was part of our wedding, our second pregnancy, house moves, me losing family members ect. She was always by my side, no matter what! I have gone through such a long grieving process, I kept listening for her little tapping feet in the house, snoring in the nighttime, and our kids were absolutely heartbroken when we told them.
A dog, is never just a dog. They're like another child, a loving companion, and our house didnt feel like a home for a long time after. If I was in that sutiuation and someone had told me, that it was Molly or them. It would always have been Molly. OP is way better off.
When my boyfriend and I were planning on moving we were constantly thinking about how to take our two buns with us. Our pets are our family. My daughter loves our cat and wants her when she's upset.
No more Riley and Sophia doing shows with just the two of them, they are too talky talky😂
Never noticed their flirtatious banter, until today🤣
Riley & Sophia episodes are my favourite 😊
Went to a CiCi’s pizza (pizza buffet) and got a sweet tea. Took the biggest sip of my life. They didn’t use sugar…. Some ding dong used salt vs sugar.
RILEY: sweet tea - boil 6 tea bags in a full sauce pan. Pour over two cups of ice and two cups of sugar, mix-taste-adjust as needed
🦝🦝😂I am dying laughing wondering how long it is going to take you to realize Raccoon is what she named the best friend.😂😂🦝
If the racoon person wants to stay, then he should start cleaning!
Riley said "Cool beans" way too fast. It was kind of perfect👌🏻 lmao. Love Sophia. Girl power ❤😂🎉
My best friend in HS is allergic to cats and also generally dislikes them. He met the woman of his dreams after college and she LOVES cats. Had 6 of them in a 2 bedroom house. They compromised and he asked her to remove at least half of the cats and he takes stronger allergy meds and asked that she not get anymore cats when the last one passes. Idk much more than that but they have been together for about 5 years now I believe?
My sister accidentally drank water with a centipede floating in it because it was dark and she was half asleep. She said she felt it tickle her lip but didn't think anything of it at the time.
It also says a lot of the loyalty of the person though, if you think about it. "I've had my dog longer than you, and he's helped me through my darkest day." How much would that say if he did just dump the dog? That no matter how many hurdles, and no matter how much you bond, if something better comes along, he'll be gone.
If someone can fake loving your pet for three years, then they're capable of faking love for you. Trust the true colors when they're displayed.
She had 3 YEARS to discuss her dislike of dogs with him, and the fact that she didn’t and just assumed he’d get rid of Bruce at all, never mind that it had been a whole decade of companionship, is wild to me. If you come into a relationship and your partner has a pet you shouldn’t ask them to choose you over their dog/cat etc.
Riley, you can definitely get sweet tea at the store
Today I was taking a drink of my energy drink, which was sitting on the coffee table. My teeth came together, and I felt a crunch. I felt something on my tongue and pulled it off. It was a scab attached to cat hair. I looked down, and my cat had been scratching herself on the coffee table and a bunch of scabs flew everywhere. I almost threw up.
If someone told me to pick my rabbits or them I’d tell them to kick rocks 🤣
I am with OP #1. I adopted a pittie when I was going through extreme depression. She was the reason I kept going and didn’t give up. My dog literally gave me a reason to live when nothing else did. We saved each other. I would never have picked someone over her. Although I think OP was a bit dramatic and sounds like he needs more tools to control his temper.
If anyone said to me that "it's either me or *whatever's mentioned*", you bet that I would never choose them
The snail story, happened to me but with a small gecko, which is a common house pest in my country. I made tea with it and it taste kinda weird, opened the pot and found a boiled gecko. Throwing up the whole day
I have three cats and two dogs and if someone gave me an ultimatum in choosing them or my animals, I'd choose my animals. They've been in my life longer than any partner.
Also it's inhumane to re-home a dog after 10 years. That's so cruel.
Very G rated. I liked that because I was able to share this one with my kid. 🎉❤
24:32 🎉 😂 it took longer than expected
if a dog is no threat you shouldn’t be giving someone an ultimatum over it
Sofia, you go girl! ❤
I had my cats for 5 years before I found out I was allergic to them which was so weird, I never had a rash from them in the 5 years I've had them and suddenly I broke out into a really bad rash all over my body after transferring to a different building for my job. Still don't know what triggered my rash but found out I'm 2+ on a 1-4 allergy scale for cats and also allergic to grass, dust, mold, every fucking tree outside but luckily no food allergy lol. Now I tend to get hives after cuddling my cats but I can't live without them so I take two non drowsy allergy pills to deal with the aftermath. My arms have yet to clear up on hives since my initial flare up but my cats keep me mentally stable and that's more important to me lol
Wait, it's the raccoon a person??? It sounds like it might be a person....
Kinda sad tho because hes had his dog so long, the dog is 11 years old and wont live a whole lot of years more. The gf already love OP enough to deal with it for 3 years so why couldnt they just deal with it for a few more years?
The people saying OP's a terrible person for choosing the dog over her are awful- She's making him give a nearly senior dog away so suddenly after pretending to like it- To be honest, if my partner isn't on board with me having a dog they're not worth having in my life.
My brother has a raccoon! I call him my nephew 😂
The raccoon!!! 😂😂 all I can think of is Raccacoonie from Everything, Everywhere, All at Once
Weirdest thing I almost drank was a cup of tobacco spit my brother left on the counter. I thought it was Dr. Pepper until it got up to my nose.
Yessss so happy to hear Sophia boycotts Starbucks
An animal I have a personal relationship is worth way more than some random human
If someone that says they love you and asks you to choose between them and any animal or any person you loved then they don't love you! (asking you to choose for no reason)
Also, after seeing the pic of Bruce, HE LOOKS PRECIOUS to me
Not even surprised that she didn’t like Bruce. And I don’t even fully blame OP. She made it clear that she didn’t like dog, but she pretended to be okay with Bruce.
The gift horse is from the Trojan horse. 😂
As a "horse person" many of my friends have left/divorced their partners for giving them the ultimatum of "It's me or the horse." It's the horse every time...every single time...every single time.
When I started dating my hubs, we had been together about 6-8 months, he asked “If your dogs didn’t like me, we wouldn’t be dating would we?” Nope! Btw, he asked this with my German shorthair in his lap!
As someone who's typically not a dog person (I love them just not to own, I like cats they're more independent and I travel a lot, also heart issues so struggle to be able to take care of exercise needs, not to mention I'm allergic but worth it tbh) BUT who has a very sweet baby girl Chloe (lab mix) who's like my own personal (unregistered) emotion support dog who is always there for me and loves cuddles and chest compressions (she's a natural at calming me and helping with my heart it's honestly amazing for an untrained dog) I would not give her up for anything at all. She is my baby I don't care if I've been with someone 10 years, they give me a choice they're gone, obviously we're not made for eachother and we'll be unhappy in the long run, and I have a strict rule against ultimatums, I'm fully willing to compromise on anything at all but a X or X you have no say and there's no other options or room for talking it out, you're gone end of story
Chloes only crime is she gets way too excited to see people and will try to smother you in cuddles and kisses for the first 10 mins. Unless she actually hurt someone she stays. She's made my bpd 100X more berable to live with and keeps me from overworking my heart, so similar situation to this guy, he saved his life and is a huge part of him and probably helps him cope outside of just his dad passing.
Even outside of the dog, she faked liking the dog for THREE YEARS, it she's able to fake that you have to wonder what else she's hiding/faking. That would break my trust immediately and I wouldn't be able to come back from that
For clarification before some ask because labs are high energy, I throw the ball (her favorite thing, i have one of those things for it you can use to whip it FAR, we live in the country and can throw it past our tree line) and I can do walks around the yard just can't run, and my grandpa helps a lot with taking her on runs (I live with them because of my medical issues and can't afford a place with doctors appointments all the time)
I have 2 brothers and they both have had 2 pitbulls but my 2nd oldest brother lost one of his pitbulls. He passed from choking on a toy. It got stuck in his throat and we buried him in our parents back yard. That was 3 years ago. Then he just had 1 pitbull then maybe like 7 or 8 months later he got an another pitbull and the other main pitbull lives with Addison’s disease. Now with my oldest brother he had 2 pitbulls now he has just one, the other died from cancer. Pitbulls are a very lovable breed I don’t know why people hate/dislike them it’s always the owners not breed. The owners just need to train their dogs better and become better pet owners. Any dog can be aggressive if they don’t get trained right.
Story 1: The second she made that comment about the dog, the relationship would be over. No discussion, no apologies, she's already shown her true colours.How the hell do you date someone with a pet then have the audacity to say something like that? Also these people calling him the AH, wtf is wrong with you? I dont care if she was apologising, she was the AH for allowing the relationship to go ahead when clearly they don't agree on the dog front. Seriously good for you OP! Thank you for backing your pup. Unfortunately there are too many people in this world who view their animals as disposable and get rid at the drop of a hat. They're family at the end of the day and one day you will find someone who loves their furry friends as much as you do.
I think the whole “would you pick a person or animal” question reductive. If someone knew and loved you they’d never intentionally make you choose.
Ops gf in the first story is absolutely the ah. Not only does she know the history of op and the dog, the fact that the dog saved ops life and helped him through some seriously difficult times, and how much the dog has meant to op the whole time shed been in a relationship with op. Nor did she ever have the conversation prior with op about her feelings about dogs and what she would want the future to look like. But you also have to consider, Bruce is at least 10 now, a very large bully breed, and also has a history of previous aggression in the shelter (thankfully op was able to work through that with Bruce, and it sounds like he is an absolutely delightful dog, but shelters can be very frightening and overwhelming places for some dogs. If he was put back in a shelter, an entirely new environment, and no longer had the comfort and trust of someone he knew it is possible he could show aggression to strangers again. Even if in a normal home environment he's very friendly, it sounds like op had to build a lot of trust and confidence to get Bruce to that point). If op had to give up the dog and he ended up back in a shelter all those things are going against him, it would be incredibly difficult for him to get adopted again. There's a real chance that if he went to a shelter again he would be put to sleep, shelters are facing a lot of overcrowding as is, they unfortunately get forced into scenarios where they have to turn away or are unable to help all of the animals they see. To ask op to give up his dog that hes had for a decade that clearly means the world to him, with a serious chance the dog could wind up put to sleep as a result, is horrible. It's a massive red flag, people were saying he needs to be mature and think about her feelings what about ops feelings? She should have made it clear from the very start she wasnt a fan of dogs, including Bruce, it likely never wouldve gotten this far if she had.
People can absolutely love dogs as much as they love people. Theres a reason people refer to their pets as family, theres a reason his friend recommended op get a dog when he was at such a low, theres a reason op refers to Bruce as his person. That dog saved his life. The bond the two of them have should not be minimized just because it's not a human relationship. Op literally described this dog as being like a brother to him, you cant tell me that relationship is less important just because its a dog. And based on what the girlfriend was asking and the fact that she didnt think it was a big deal, shows me perfectly clearly that she doesnt have ops best interests at heart, nor does she care about his feelings.
That 14-year-old won't listen any better when told to stay away from the horse. Her parents need to teach her better about taking responsibility for her own actions.
Sophia, idk if this helps with your fake dream guy cat allergy scenario but there's an easy way to overcome a cat allergy! If you can find a farm that has chickens and a barn cat, buy their eggs and either you eat the eggs or feed the eggs to your cat. This should reduce/eliminate your allergy. It works because when the chickens are around cats they produce antibodies against the protein that causes cat allergies so by consuming the eggs you or your cat now have these antibodies, kind of like how a vaccine works.