Emotional neglect
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- Опубликовано: 11 сен 2024
- Emotional neglect is NOT normal, don’t let anyone make u think it is-don’t let your experience with this type of person mar you 🫶🏼 #carolynsilva #silvacarolyn #philosophy #mindset #advice #conflict #argument #conflictresolution #debate #relationships #dating #breakup #boyfriend #girlfriend
After years of emotional neglect from family and partners alike, I’m experiencing emotional safety and co-regulation in a friendship and it’s the most liberating yet tear jerking thing I’ve experienced. I never thought it was actually possible, let alone a regular thing. It’s definitely my standard from here on out.
This gives me hope after reading the comments from people who saw the video and still don’t understand 😥 I hate that people act like you’re an asshole simply for not wanting to be neglected.
"It's hard to heal an absence of something."
Well said.
Excluding the times when people are genuinely have forgotten to respond, ghosting people should be called out for what it is -- disrespect and a kind of emotional and/or relational neglect.
Being in relationship successfully requires personal responsibility as mutual, relational responsibility from both partners.
As someone who's always been told to regulate when I needed my partner to coregulate with me, this video is so validating. ❤
Wow really well articulated and to the point, fast delivery for my adhd brain and logical...thank you ma'am for validating the experience of many of us who've been through this 🙏
I feel you on this. That in between space of balanced emotional support is the interdependence space. I was recently seeing a man who did not have the ability to create a healthy “us” space or what I call interdependence. To me, healthy interdependence means that I still have family and friends that I will go to for emotional support and solving problems. I am still an individual that’s gonna foster my own identity and ways to continue to regulate myself and personal self growth. And I’m also gonna be a partner who is responsive to the needs of my partner. And for issues within the relationship, I think need to be dealt directly within the relationship. Too much advice from third-party people might actually make things worse. So if I bring an issue up to my partner about us and he’s gonna blow me off postpone, avoid it. Been there done that and I’m not doing that again because all it does is create insecurity, disconnection, and dissatisfaction and I decided to leave before all of that can turn into resentment because I don’t want to live that way. I didn’t want to resent him. I just wanted to move on with my life.
So true, especially the part about it’s very hard to heal an absence of something, and that you can’t really prove that it’s there.
So insightful, thanks!
Wow this was eye opening. Thank you for this video.
They say that while not regulating their own emotions
Your advice and the way you explain are excellent! Helpful.
Yeah wrong person for me , i give and give and got mental emotional verbal spiritual psychological abuse...it was so hard to heal but I'm okay now without him ...but i need to compromise for the kids loving myself and having friends and family who supports me so that i can be happy in my life at least I'm not alone
As a man if I were saying these same things towards a woman she would be lamenting about, "emotional labor."
They call it emotional labor specifically because of the issues she's bringing up here. Men do have this issue of emotional support and act selfish towards offering vulnerability and support more times than women. Therefore they feel like they're picking up the brunt of the one sided emotional support where it starts to feel like a chore; instead of the fulfilling emotional and mutual support that would make them more than willing to support you and it would feel like a genuine emphatic attempt towards a partner that fulfill their emotional needs as well.
Is every man like that? No but people nowadays are growing more distant in relationships and men are taught by degenerate red pillers that if the show emotion or support towards their women, they will see us as weak and choose another man. Yes these are the air headed insta bimbos with only fans they lust after and have zero principles can be like that. And men still keep going for the low hanging fruits and those are the types of women you see in these podcasts. When they actually bring a woman worth her mettle, they start belittling her while she speaks wisdom and intellectually spanks these losers.
Us men not terminally online together with our women who also aren't hooked to internet culure aren't like that.
I don't want to downplay what happened, but you have to know this:
You got to tell a man what you expect him to do!
If he cares about you, he wants to solve the problem. He wants to act.
For most men, listening to others about their feelings does not constitute to productive problem solving. They are never even taught how to handle the situation. So "OK" is a perfectly valid response.
Your feelings, you need to do something about it. I cannot change your feelings. *You* need to tell *me* how to help.
Bro you sound either very young or just completely immature. It's common wisdom that in any relationship, when someone needs support, you should be present and listen. The fact you expect to be tutored as an adult what you can do what we learn even as children; empathy and show up for someone speaks volumes.
Showing emotional support and be able to listen to then give your input is something we just develop naturally.
Unless you're neurodivergent then i apologize if I'm coming off too hard.
@@Thiago_Alves_Souzamy bf is neurodivergent. It’s frustrating being with him with that asshole mindset the girl in the video talks about when I’m focused on emotional intelligence & regulation. I wasn’t taught this as a kid & just like with trauma it’s YOUR OWN job to learn, feel, & heal as an adult. I can’t blame my parents all my life for my issues.
@StefanoDaGiaumost males? Any data on that or you talking terminally online, cluster B or neurodivergent men?
I'm from Brazil one of the most masculine countries in the world and I saw grown men be emotionally available left and right growing up including my own father and other male figures?
Do you have any data of pools of billions of men studied where most fail to recognize emotional responses in women etc? Why are you making such extraordinary claim you know it's not true just to not feel inadequate as a man?
Be responsible and address your own inadequacies and don't try to drag the rest of us with you. I'm not your shield. I make sure to be so available to my wife as much as she is for me.
I have the most fulfilling relationship which I didn't even thought possible before I met her!
@@moonlightxcvyou at least recognize your own issues and also understand that your parents weren't teachers to you as they should've been. And you understand where their failure ends and your self responsibility begins.
Kudos be proud
I have no emotion or empathy for people anymore
Then stay away from them. We don’t need more a-holes like the one she’s talking about.
Thank you for your service 😅
this is why mental health memes, out of context, are so poisonous and damaging.
This was well said
Yep yep yep!
Just Senseless, looks like instigating idk and don't care
She is only looking for attention. Don't lose time here.