HOW TO STOP BEING MANIPULATED BY WOMEN

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  • @sadiapsychology
    @sadiapsychology  9 месяцев назад +201

    This video was brought to you by my patreon which contains over 30 exclusive videos and ability to ask me any question www.patreon.com/Sadiapsychology

    • @omesinas
      @omesinas 9 месяцев назад +8

      You have changed my whole life for the best. Thank you soo much Sadia 🙏

    • @JeromeClassen-r7g
      @JeromeClassen-r7g 9 месяцев назад +4

      Your videos have been so insightful and helpful. Thank you

    • @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl
      @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl 9 месяцев назад +5

      The reason why I hate online dating is because I don't know who I'm speaking with what or not those pictures are real as well as the person

    • @Nutritioneats
      @Nutritioneats 9 месяцев назад +2

      Hi ma Sadia you are really a gem how I wish you could l also include in your content value teachings for new parents esp the
      Mother to give proper guidance to raise a good human being men and women alike, in this way some childhood trauma can be addressed if not eliminated if parents have a sort of blueprint to glean on and not just grope in the dark by hit or miss in raising kids especially these challenging digital era

    • @hexadecimal5236
      @hexadecimal5236 9 месяцев назад +1

      3:00 Oof. You're not insulting me, you're describing me...

  • @jcnlaw
    @jcnlaw 9 месяцев назад +4646

    Experienced divorce lawyer here. So many men would save themselves from a trainwreck of a marriage and nasty divorce if they simply listened to this video and walked away from a disrespectful woman. Great video!

    • @lifeneverends7068
      @lifeneverends7068 9 месяцев назад +65

      Wow a lawyer. Such a high status person. Thank you for commenting❤

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 месяцев назад

      Men got indoctrinated into thinking that they only become truly happy through marriage. So if they don't have women lined up, they stay and try to fix the problem that doesn't want to get fixed.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 месяцев назад

      Men were taught to think that they only become truly happy through marriage. So if they don't have women lined up, they stay and try to fix the problem that doesn't want to get fixed.

    • @tessg4799
      @tessg4799 9 месяцев назад +21

      Yes 👍

    • @simy83
      @simy83 9 месяцев назад +157

      Experienced married man here . Curious which woman is not disrespectful ?

  • @MattsInspiration
    @MattsInspiration 9 месяцев назад +3903

    When you walk away from her make sure to walk towards yourself and not someone else.

    • @argyify
      @argyify 9 месяцев назад +46

      Wise advice!

    • @argyify
      @argyify 9 месяцев назад +62

      @@oneloveoneheartonedestination Don't try to replace her with the first opportunity to ease your pain, wait for the one who deserves to come!

    • @beezeal2042
      @beezeal2042 9 месяцев назад +14

      ​@oneloveoneheartonedestination soul twin? Just move on, if it hurts that's life. Just work in yourself and better things and women will eventually gravitate your way

    • @maduokafor
      @maduokafor 9 месяцев назад +10

      Solid advice here.

    • @Godschosen25
      @Godschosen25 9 месяцев назад +12

      I walked away to my car to leave I got five shots and one was in my back case still open cause her dad a powerful master mason but my body is the proof it was all close range but honestly this lady is right sometimes we see red flags and blind ourselves. Fellas always value yourself or anybody really value yourself. But God brought me back and even though I lost everything I built up until that point I'm well on my way to getting all that back plus more God gave me a major vision and it's been fruitful and will pay out major soon real soon. Success is the best revenge let GOD deal with any and everything trust with your whole soul and the higher power got you I promise you that ❤

  • @HonorEtVirtus
    @HonorEtVirtus 5 месяцев назад +338

    Never never tolerate disrespect. Always have boundaries and self respect

  • @ramirogebara8766
    @ramirogebara8766 9 месяцев назад +2204

    Women show, they don't tell. Don't listen to what she says, watch what she does.

    • @hugevagiine
      @hugevagiine 9 месяцев назад +3

      FACTS

    • @adammcallister9675
      @adammcallister9675 9 месяцев назад +161

      Never listen to a woman. Always watch.

    • @twoweeledsoto6072
      @twoweeledsoto6072 9 месяцев назад +98

      Yep! All that matters is what she does. What she says is often meaningless. What she says is what she wants to believe and portray, rarely the reality.

    • @laurivaltter
      @laurivaltter 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@twoweeledsoto6072why? why why why why why

    • @OneHandOnTheKeyboard
      @OneHandOnTheKeyboard 9 месяцев назад +3

      This right here.

  • @lawrencedolan1999
    @lawrencedolan1999 9 месяцев назад +2041

    I just walked away from a beautiful strong woman because she broke my boundaries with the way she thought she could talk to me. Once I left she begged and apologized for everything until I told her bluntly .. it's time to move on it's over. Then she became the victim. It was and still is painful but I respect myself for walking.

    • @KS3_Samela
      @KS3_Samela 9 месяцев назад +122

      Thats powerful. Thats shows you got Power. It pains, but there no Game without Pain.

    • @godsbruh
      @godsbruh 9 месяцев назад +57

      @@KS3_Samela not pain. walking away always makes u better and stronger. its a win win

    • @beloastropena7236
      @beloastropena7236 9 месяцев назад +52

      My respect for your decision

    • @memoresto3480
      @memoresto3480 9 месяцев назад +49

      I had exactly the same woman……it’s very painful but we’ve made the right decision and moved on……

    • @memoresto3480
      @memoresto3480 9 месяцев назад +27

      @@godsbruhit is painful but time heals

  • @Ted-NJ
    @Ted-NJ 4 месяца назад +43

    "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time."
    -- Maya Angelou.
    Men -- if a woman is not willing to be a fair person or personally accountable and personally responsible for her behavior,...leave immediately and walk way immediately. Do NOT tolerate any abuse or manipulation or disrespect or drama.

  • @AndrewTheFrank
    @AndrewTheFrank 9 месяцев назад +579

    One of the best things a man can be taught is that he can tell people no. Especially to those he loves and adores.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 месяцев назад +18

      I concur. Kindness is weakness ONLY if you allow it. You can always say 'no,' as long as you are polite, honest, & direct. Equally important is to have the strength to stand by your words. This means standing your ground, or walking away as appropriate.

    • @barryduff5058
      @barryduff5058 8 месяцев назад

      Amen to that

    • @NANINANI-cs6rn
      @NANINANI-cs6rn 7 месяцев назад

      @@Ace.0.0.0. you're right

    • @Niko132
      @Niko132 7 месяцев назад +6

      And to walk away. Walking away is a powerful ability

    • @makkan49
      @makkan49 2 месяца назад

      ​@@Niko132walking away is the man's biggest strength

  • @adrienblancke4826
    @adrienblancke4826 9 месяцев назад +378

    "When you value the connection more than the respect that's she's giving to you"
    Wooooaw, such a revelation for me, i can't thank you enough.

    • @zxenon555
      @zxenon555 9 месяцев назад +15

      That phrase hit me like a brick.

    • @enjoytheplays
      @enjoytheplays 9 месяцев назад +16

      Itnis so true. My Ex was A beauty. But found it odd she was showing off pics in bikini while her male coworjer were commenting on that. I asked her to stop doing that cos I don't like it. Instead off saying ok she rather argue me. I spoiled her cos i Ioved her. And sometimes man aren't perfect too we all have red flags and itnis give and take. But the fact she love getting attention was a big thing for me.

    • @TokyoTaisu
      @TokyoTaisu 8 месяцев назад +5

      @@enjoytheplays i feel you

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 месяца назад +2

      Yea, that hit me too. Right in the gut. I am divorced from a woman who I tried desperately to hold in connection because we had children together. I thought I was doing the right thing to maintain a connection and puzzled out a million ways for it to work out. Of course it never did as it was already over.

  • @grantlaurence2060
    @grantlaurence2060 2 месяца назад +12

    the best line for me: "and if she sees that you can't respect yourself and you can't leave her you've already lost her" Priceless!

  • @audio-video-stereo
    @audio-video-stereo 9 месяцев назад +239

    This is spot on. I just dumped a gal after 4 episodes of disrespect (name calling). She actually was a pretty good person other than that - but the boundary had been crossed repeatedly and it was time to move on.

    • @asdfxcvbn746
      @asdfxcvbn746 9 месяцев назад +22

      4 episodes? u should've left after the first & showed u were a beta male by letting her push past your boundaries 4 times & putting up with it. she already knew you were a doormat. imagine thinking she's a good person after calling you out of your name 4 times lol smh

    • @IwillEndureToTheEnd
      @IwillEndureToTheEnd 9 месяцев назад +5

      It took you FOUR times???

    • @memoresto3480
      @memoresto3480 9 месяцев назад

      @@asdfxcvbn746And you’ve just done the same by name calling and disrespecting that person……the irony 🤡

    • @coolnchilled2456
      @coolnchilled2456 9 месяцев назад +26

      I’m glad you gained the strength to leave brother Ik it’s hard

    • @gigabuyceps
      @gigabuyceps 8 месяцев назад +10

      It's a test U will pass next time from 1st go

  • @tallspicy
    @tallspicy 9 месяцев назад +809

    Choose better. Have criteria beyond attraction.

    • @JeffCaplan313
      @JeffCaplan313 9 месяцев назад +40

      None of them cook or clean anymore.

    • @lawrencedolan1999
      @lawrencedolan1999 9 месяцев назад +3

      Straight up!

    • @NBl-qw8cg
      @NBl-qw8cg 9 месяцев назад +3

      Love is not a choice

    • @tallspicy
      @tallspicy 9 месяцев назад +7

      @NBl-qw8cg love is both a choice and a verb. To insist otherwise shows me someone who is not in a space to self reflect and is most likely a partner who blames the other person for their own choices. You can choose who you are attracted to and partner with, but you need to want to do the work. You are not a victim

    • @andreichetan4694
      @andreichetan4694 9 месяцев назад +2

      @@JeffCaplan313thats a belief system that will hurt you in the long run. Because you”ll see and atract only that type of women.
      Where is the real proof no women is doing those things in this whole entire world?
      Take care

  • @gageharms9398
    @gageharms9398 4 месяца назад +25

    Young men don’t ever I mean EVER tell your woman anything!!!! She will use it against you she will take things you said in confidence in your lowest moments and then flip it into a weapon against you

  • @techl2843
    @techl2843 9 месяцев назад +306

    It’s been said, “charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting.”

    • @pmcclaren1
      @pmcclaren1 9 месяцев назад +61

      'but a woman who fears the LORD is to be honoured' (Proverbs 30)

    • @incomewriter2360
      @incomewriter2360 9 месяцев назад +11

      I had this happen to me last year, she was very charming (voice, smile and behaviour). Being in the position I am now (stronger) and looking back I can see her for what she really is, I thank God for protecting me from her and making me learn the lessons needed.

    • @spiegeltn
      @spiegeltn 8 месяцев назад +4

      The more the body count and abuse drugs, cigarettes and alcohol in their youth the harder they hit the wall. I've seen so many pretty women I used to know that were in the party scene back in the day that are late 30's and 40's and damn near unrecognizable now. Straight up tadpole to frog, a few are my exes.

    • @AKrst3vsk1
      @AKrst3vsk1 8 месяцев назад

      Guys just coping here, accept that she defeated you and that is over for you. Religion is just a coping mechanism, lool hahah.

    • @spiegeltn
      @spiegeltn 8 месяцев назад

      @@AKrst3vsk1 Ever read Ecclesiastes 7 or Romans 7? It is true, we all might be simply hypnotized by aliens, who's fault is that? We may never know. 🦋🦋✝✝🤡🤡👽👽💀💀

  • @wa9165
    @wa9165 8 месяцев назад +31

    Exactly what I needed to hear. Going through it as I’m writing this. When she cheated I forgive her but kept going with the same person and her excuse was I don’t have anyone else to hang out with, here I stepped back and ignored her she went into a roller coaster of emotions without addressing that she made mistake and she is willing to change, she only came when she feels down want me to tap on her shoulders. The fact is I believe in forgiveness life is too short to inflate your ego, but even that didn’t change she jumped into another man in less than month and called me to check if I had replacement ( I said I focused on myself) I don’t need to be in relationship just to continue living. She will come back either to make me feel bad or try to get me back to her, but I won’t pick up the phone anymore. I hope she heals, she was good until she wasn’t.
    Thank you Sadia for your work

  • @edwardroark7122
    @edwardroark7122 5 месяцев назад +21

    Killer video. Wish I heard it before my 2 marriages, both which ended in divorce after I finally set boundaries. As soon as I did, they turned on me like a viper and took everything with the help of ridiculously unfair divorce courts. I’m wiser now, but this video explains a lot and will help that it never happens again. Much thanks.

  • @tessg4799
    @tessg4799 9 месяцев назад +361

    Woman here. Sadia is 💯 percent right. A man with clear boundaries and who doesn't accept disrespect is seen as high value. Also, always be willing to walk away after disrepect no matter how beautiful the woman is. She will get in line if the feelings are mutual. 👍❤

    • @MattitudePlays
      @MattitudePlays 9 месяцев назад +53

      Basically, women need to be treated like children to keep them in line? 😂 Sounds a little odd, from both perspectives. Personally I agree with everything Sadia said in this video, but it seems to me like this is more a problem with women's attitudes than it is with a guy's intentions?

    • @tessg4799
      @tessg4799 9 месяцев назад +19

      @@MattitudePlays Most people push boundaries in new relationships (like children)...to see what they can get away with. Men and women both. Sadia is helping men with this advice. Sorry you see it this way. But it is just the truth.

    • @Tennis-3582
      @Tennis-3582 9 месяцев назад +4

      Wow! Well said 🎉

    • @hugevagiine
      @hugevagiine 9 месяцев назад +1

      Unless she is a narcissist she will run away when you expose the truth to her

    • @tessg4799
      @tessg4799 9 месяцев назад +24

      @DefineHatespeech The right woman will hold herself accountable and change her disrespectful behavior when she sees she has crossed a boundary. That's the point. Sadia is right... She says that having a happy relationship starts with choosing the right person in the first place. If the woman has been disrespectful and you have shown her your boundaries, but she remains disrespectful...it's time to leave...no matter how attractive or beautiful/sexy she may be.

  • @D.M.S.
    @D.M.S. 9 месяцев назад +247

    You manage to communicate a life changing information in eight minutes, that other so-called coaches can't explain in 30 minutes. That was solid.

    • @kalonjeebless
      @kalonjeebless 9 месяцев назад +4

      Absolutely

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 месяцев назад +4

      Simply put- don't reward bad behavior. If a person crosses a reasonable boundary, tell them it's not acceptable. If they do it again, it will be met with actions, not words. Then do it! This indicates you do what you say, or, you can be trusted. Not following through shows at best you are all talk, or at worst, you are a deliberate liar. Neither is a good look to wear.
      I concur with Sadia. Just be 1) polite, honest, & direct. 2) ensure that your words & actions ALIGN.
      The rest should take care of itself.

    • @Mrbfgray
      @Mrbfgray 7 месяцев назад

      No offense and it's worth reinforcing but most of this should be absurdly obvious.

    • @niallg3551
      @niallg3551 7 месяцев назад

      @@Ace.0.0.0.easy to say if you physically attractive, not if you aren’t. To allow a physically unattractive male to live by these rules is to basically consign him to a life of singledom and loneliness.

  • @CageLeone
    @CageLeone 5 месяцев назад +11

    She just perfectly explained to you , how to be single. She just told you to stand up for yourself, but that a woman will pick the person she can get away with the most.

  • @stevegungel787
    @stevegungel787 7 месяцев назад +245

    Some people will only "love you" as much as they can use you. Their loyalty ends where the benefits stop. If someone really loves you, no matter how many other people they meet, their feelings for you wouldn't change. A real lover can't be stolen.

    • @juliemorris9082
      @juliemorris9082 6 месяцев назад +2

      Yup

    • @KibyNykraft
      @KibyNykraft 6 месяцев назад +5

      Love only exists as an instinct for the survival of your clan and your kids.
      The genes serve your mind the illusion of love.

    • @realguapo_mma
      @realguapo_mma 6 месяцев назад +2

      Brada love is the instinct to procreate 😉 that's where it starts and ends

    • @tonyd.9156
      @tonyd.9156 5 месяцев назад +2

      Players only love you when they're playin'.

    • @bedroid7801
      @bedroid7801 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@KibyNykraftwell maybe I do want to feel like protecting my wife and kids

  • @Broonzied
    @Broonzied 6 месяцев назад +269

    It wasn't just the lies, it was the absolute refusal to admit the lies even in the face of incontrovertible evidence. She tried to convince me that I was paranoid and suffering from mental illness rather than admit the lies. We are no longer together.

    • @thewhitetailwizard6615
      @thewhitetailwizard6615 6 месяцев назад +14

      Heard that , 3 days ago I found out mine was having a full blown new favorite love of her life relationship with another man clear back in 2022 for 6 months while living with me and the 2 kids and telling me she loved me and made love to me 5-7 times a week .. she still won’t admit it either and called me a stalker now taking me to court for custody and to stop getting in her business and since we broke up in January she says he’s lying it’s all in the past so just let it go and I just met the man who she was with.. he told me everything and apologized 40 times. He said she told him that her and I split up at my daughters birth but still lived with me to make it easy on the kids so that’s why he can’t come over until she gets her own house …

    • @Broonzied
      @Broonzied 6 месяцев назад +6

      @@thewhitetailwizard6615 Sorry to hear that. Keep thinking about the kids and you will get through it.

    • @Nastynati-pm8dy
      @Nastynati-pm8dy 6 месяцев назад +9

      Literally just went through that for 2.5 years, finally seen the proof. Good riddance.

    • @williamcarson4863
      @williamcarson4863 6 месяцев назад +12

      That's called gaslighting Bruh

    • @tonyd.9156
      @tonyd.9156 5 месяцев назад +12

      This is classic "gaslighting" by a malignant narcissist.

  • @ronaldmcdonald9538
    @ronaldmcdonald9538 Месяц назад +3

    Now that I have lived through exactly this for the last 4 years, broken down into these 8 minutes, your words make so perfectly sense. Im just sitting here, smiling, nodding, an occasional giggle. How low my self esteem was, but now I just laugh at myself in hindsight, looking confidently in to the future, knowing I will not repeat my mistakes. Cant wrap my head around the thing youre saying with my mother and inconsistent love, but Im sure ill get to the bottom of it. Thank you!

  • @Icarus6783
    @Icarus6783 9 месяцев назад +195

    Very right. Therefore in my own instance, I saw the red flags from the onset but chose not to take them seriously, thinking it is a man's utmost duty to chase a woman until it works or try to change who she is fundamentally. Does not turn out well, and I take the majority of the blame for ignoring the red flags.

    • @mcsando1154
      @mcsando1154 9 месяцев назад +9

      1st commenter i`ve seen own it - well done!!

    • @kinggizzard8499
      @kinggizzard8499 9 месяцев назад +21

      This is exactly what I found myself doing. I even thought after the chaos was over "I saw the red flags from the start" and I marched on thinking I could fix them, and whilst the crossed lines weren't cheating or stealing etc, there was a LOT of stuff I didn't address when it happened. I let it build up. That's on me.

    • @johnrenehan7406
      @johnrenehan7406 9 месяцев назад +21

      For what it's worth , many of us have been down the same path - as long as we learn from it and run the other way next time

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 месяцев назад +23

      Yep, exactly. Men stay and try to fix a problem that doesn't want to get fixed. And women rely on that, they know they can behave as badly as they want and that he won't leave. They blame him for her behavior as a cherry on top.

    • @andrewharris373
      @andrewharris373 9 месяцев назад +14

      Wow. Victim here. I feel like I can fix everybody and everybody.... especially her. What a shell of a man I have become. I can't fix anything with a woman who is no good. It's hard fellas but you must you must leave when you are disrespected. Boundaries must be set it only gets worse

  • @saneman7177
    @saneman7177 9 месяцев назад +288

    Most guys should’ve learnt this through experience by the age of 25… one of the sad facts you have to face is often once a woman realises you can’t be manipulated she’ll completely lose interest & sometimes actually become quite unpleasant towards you.

    • @cwcountri
      @cwcountri 8 месяцев назад +8

      Lived it but a little later in years lol. That's legit

    • @MuscleBandit
      @MuscleBandit 8 месяцев назад +22

      Very true. Immature women who cN't manipulate a self respecting man are similar to the naughty kid in school who has contempt for the strict teachers who take no bs and instead the kid will gravitate toward the leanient teachers who let shit slide.
      Needless to say that a mature high value woman won't encounter these issues as they never exist to begin with.

    • @NDakovic
      @NDakovic 8 месяцев назад +8

      Theres literally no women like that. Theyre all into it, at some level or another and you have to have some allowance for it. The trick is to impress her on a higher level in order to make her manipulation productive for yourself. No, this is not a contradiction. She helps, she finds the details, she improves and makes beauty if youre on the same path. If theres no path then what are you even doing

    • @saneman7177
      @saneman7177 8 месяцев назад +6

      @@NDakovic did you make that comment using google translate?

    • @NDakovic
      @NDakovic 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@saneman7177 very appropriate response dude

  • @R2D2.69
    @R2D2.69 6 месяцев назад +40

    The real problem is that women think that if you dont allow them to get away with whatever they want you dont love them.

    • @Kit-kk9cb
      @Kit-kk9cb Месяц назад +2

      Those women are bad news. And also what's the alternative anyway? Let them do whatever they want? They'll hate you and hate themselves. Set your boundaries and hope she'll accept them. If not, move on. If she wants to be toxic, she can be toxic with the next guy.

    • @Serpicouk
      @Serpicouk 6 дней назад +1

      No that's like thinking if your father doesn't let you do whatever ever you want, he doesn't love you. She understands that you can be both firm and loving from her parents. It's just a manipulative tactic she uses to get what she wants.

  • @josepablolunasanchez1283
    @josepablolunasanchez1283 9 месяцев назад +131

    Once I had a girlfriend who had kids. My childhood was so wholesome that I tried to pass that to the kids too. So they had great family moments. But apparently she felt jealous of her own kids because I dedicated time to them, so she broke with me. Did I beg her to come back? No.
    She met a guy who scammed her, so he took the money and left her a big debt. She told my brother it was a mistake to break with me. But by that time, I was already marred. Once I break, I do not look back. There is a reason why we broke and going back will not make it work. I always to my best and if that ends up being not good or not enough, not my problem. Breaking is the best solution for both.

    • @Pitty212on
      @Pitty212on 9 месяцев назад

      see, you already failed at step 1. Having a gf with kids. IGNORE THESE SINGLE MOTHERS. They are single for a reason. They will never love like they love their kids.

    • @tonny9168
      @tonny9168 8 месяцев назад +7

      You are not as good as you think. No high-value man will marry a single mother. No matter how good she is.

    • @josepablolunasanchez1283
      @josepablolunasanchez1283 8 месяцев назад

      @@tonny9168 You got it wrong. High value is a matter of values and behavior supporting these values.
      The good thing is that I do not need to prove anyone anything. Thinking is difficult, this is why people judge.
      She was not a single mother. She was divorced. She met her man at the church, but some years after marrying he started to get drunk, spend the salary at the bar and came up empty handed, and one day she discovers he had an affair. Her only option was to get divorced, find a job and be the provider at home.
      Her father always kept her away from men, but since this man was from the church, he did not oppose the marriage. That husband was her first man in her life. I know her mother and father, who verified the story.
      Do you see how bad you judged her? Many people depict church men as simps. This was the opposite case. She thought a man from the church would have the proper values to form a family. But he did not. Church men are just like other men in the street,.

    • @mwaxsol
      @mwaxsol 8 месяцев назад

      @@tonny9168 maybe you overwatch this new craze of men obsessed with relationships the way women are but they hide behind "manhood coach",alpha e.t.c, because even hard sciences have general laws , theories, postulates but you seem to think that what your relationship 'gurus' tell you are absolutes

    • @12akul
      @12akul 6 месяцев назад

      @@tonny9168 Not true. Some are single mothers because the dad left. Incel behaviour🚩

  • @N0obusMaximus
    @N0obusMaximus 9 месяцев назад +261

    When I was a kid, my mom would slap me almost every day. One day, when I was almost as tall as her, I stood my ground and put up my fists to defend myself. She backed off and never tried to hit me again. If you show weakness, you will be taken advantage of. If you show strength, you will be respected.

    • @incorrigiblycuriousD61
      @incorrigiblycuriousD61 9 месяцев назад +27

      Damn dude, that never should have happened!

    • @tikihutdweller5944
      @tikihutdweller5944 8 месяцев назад +8

      When I was a kid, my mother used to sit me out on the back porch and feed me with a slingshot every day. Then one day I became big enough to buy my own......

    • @sash7551
      @sash7551 8 месяцев назад +17

      Sorry you had an abusive mother that is very traumatic

    • @uchennakingsley1354
      @uchennakingsley1354 8 месяцев назад

      Samething happened to Me Max ✓

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 месяцев назад +5

      @@tikihutdweller5944 Buy your own what? Slingshot, mother, food, back porch ? Inquiring minds must know!

  • @RobbiJamesVogt
    @RobbiJamesVogt Месяц назад +4

    My woman loves my boundaries. Took me a long time and a lot of work on myself to realize my self worth

    • @JJ-vp3bd
      @JJ-vp3bd Месяц назад

      What did you say your boundaries are

    • @RobbiJamesVogt
      @RobbiJamesVogt Месяц назад

      @ my boundaries - don’t disrespect me and I will respect you

  • @markberger5739
    @markberger5739 8 месяцев назад +391

    " women don't lie - they simply don't tell the truth!???"
    & Bait N Switch!

    • @Kyousei.
      @Kyousei. 7 месяцев назад +16

      I think it's to be understood in the following way: they do not necessarily try to deceive you on purpose, but they are themselves unaware of what they believe in. Thus not telling the truth.

    • @markberger5739
      @markberger5739 7 месяцев назад +6

      @@Kyousei. For many of them it's a career plan - half a dozen divorces & live it up forever. - Why do you think they favour the rich guys or the high flyers?

    • @AlexTule
      @AlexTule 7 месяцев назад +24

      @@Kyousei. That is just justification for lying. If they know the difference between good and bad and choose to hide the truth to protect themselves, their feelings, etc, that is lying. Plain and simple.

    • @bellagatto9670
      @bellagatto9670 7 месяцев назад +3

      If you can't rely on what she says, that it's "technically not a lie" is a distinction without a difference. Leave her.

    • @JoaoFigueiredo-sc7fi
      @JoaoFigueiredo-sc7fi 6 месяцев назад +3

      Proceeds to show how they lie....

  • @MeneerHerculePoirot
    @MeneerHerculePoirot 9 месяцев назад +759

    "You'd be surprised at how plain most women are without makeup." - My Dad

    • @TokyoTaisu
      @TokyoTaisu 8 месяцев назад +25

      Wise dad

    • @nedcramdon1306
      @nedcramdon1306 8 месяцев назад +11

      Smoke and crazy-ass bullshitery!

    • @nedcramdon1306
      @nedcramdon1306 8 месяцев назад +4

      Two t's?

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 7 месяцев назад +3

      Wise mad

    • @yankee2666
      @yankee2666 7 месяцев назад +8

      Your dead was wrong. He just never got used to women not wearing make-up. The women I've been with looked much better without it.

  • @stoicismphilosophy178
    @stoicismphilosophy178 22 дня назад +5

    "You become strong when you no longer rely on external things to make you happy."

  • @zeb.3d
    @zeb.3d 9 месяцев назад +109

    I believe many men who struggle with asserting themselves with women might have been raised by narcissistic mothers. In such environments, any attempt to establish personal boundaries during childhood was likely met with punishment, ingraining a pattern of behavior that persists into adulthood. Asserting oneself could have made things worse, leading to a learned helplessness in standing up for oneself. While I may be projecting my experiences to some extent, I'm convinced that distancing oneself from such a toxic influence and focusing on personal growth is crucial. Embracing your autonomy and worth is, in my view, one of the most transformative steps you can take.

    • @giannibravo347
      @giannibravo347 8 месяцев назад +8

      💯 agree.

    • @edobwoy
      @edobwoy 8 месяцев назад +6

      Not always the case. Some men may not look attractive physically. Whether it is height, facial looks etc so it will have some impact on their confidence

    • @angrygopnik2317
      @angrygopnik2317 8 месяцев назад +5

      literally my childhood experience...learning to unlearn learned patterns and behaviors now in my adulthood

    • @arifq123
      @arifq123 8 месяцев назад +3

      Very perceptive comment.

    • @NDakovic
      @NDakovic 8 месяцев назад

      Dude you can literally not be a parent who doesnt set boundries. No child can set a boundry, its your job and obligation as a parent to do that for them. Makes little to no sense in context you said it. You set your boundries with ur buddies, gfs etc and with ur parents eventually when ur an adult

  • @peteferguson6164
    @peteferguson6164 8 месяцев назад +1132

    When she says women never lie! That is a lie in itself.🤣🤣🤣

    • @TokyoTaisu
      @TokyoTaisu 8 месяцев назад +21

      ikr

    • @kratosgod-ci4tq
      @kratosgod-ci4tq 8 месяцев назад +219

      You didn't understand what she said brother. What she meant was, women always showcase their red flags, it's us men that choose to ignore it.

    • @stretch4168
      @stretch4168 8 месяцев назад

      ​So if my wife tells me she was with Hailey and I then discover that she was with Paul what do you call that? A red flag?​@@kratosgod-ci4tq

    • @6bt_str86
      @6bt_str86 8 месяцев назад +15

      This ☝🏾

    • @vilkers2211
      @vilkers2211 8 месяцев назад +73

      @@kratosgod-ci4tq Hiding the truth is also a lie

  • @BOT-dv9lz
    @BOT-dv9lz 24 дня назад +1

    This video is gold in my eyes.
    She just explained my entire life, why and how i ended up "rock bottom". I am taking these steps, its superhard but works. The bad people leave, and the good ones you let into your life and you love and build your self independently.
    Love yourself first....

  • @HunkyMan777
    @HunkyMan777 9 месяцев назад +106

    Intelligence and depth of character is far more sexy than looks. There are so many beautiful women out there with ugly hearts

  • @deeveeoh
    @deeveeoh 8 месяцев назад +84

    This video confirmed it for me - there's no point in even bothering 🫠

    • @starpooper1681
      @starpooper1681 5 месяцев назад +5

      I came to the same conclusion.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 месяца назад +1

      I don't know if that's true. It is certainly something I am contemplating. But I don't think that was her message. After all, life = death and yet we still keep trying. So love may = no point, but if you keep trying to fix yourself then it might happen.
      Just don't chase it. She has to find you.

    • @AlucardVD__
      @AlucardVD__ 2 месяца назад +1

      Maaaann....😂

  • @DevonSanderssinger
    @DevonSanderssinger 2 месяца назад +2

    This video was so therapeutic. @ 6:25 explained me so perfectly that I had to subscribe to you. My mother suffered from schizophrenia so I’ve never had consistent love from a mother figure so I always chase after the wrong women due to having low self esteem and it never works out. This helped me a lot mentally

  • @nuudelz3711
    @nuudelz3711 7 месяцев назад +163

    She sounds so much like the last women I dated, she was also a psych. Very self centred and felt she needed to explain everything to me. Also turned out to be a serial cheater while telling me I was crazy.

    • @Eric92000
      @Eric92000 7 месяцев назад +9

      Gosh... You've dated the best one😂. To me sounds a bit like rhetoric to explain how women, even bad ones, are still not doing harm, as they "showed" you how nasty they might be... Imagine how men would be treated if they doing the same... 🙄

    • @TheSpaceHobo
      @TheSpaceHobo 6 месяцев назад +10

      In my experience looking at close friends and family who dated psychologists, most of those chicks were crazy who needed some hardcore treatment growing up and now are projecting the issue they had into every patient.
      I know I shouldn't generalize but man, 2 borderline chicks, one with extreme anxiety and heavy put dependant, and two others who focus so much on childhood trauma due to a cheating parent.

    • @DRLEGEND82
      @DRLEGEND82 6 месяцев назад

      Fax

    • @getl0st
      @getl0st 6 месяцев назад +8

      I'm sure never cheated on you, she was just exploring her Sexuality with other people...

    • @derrickmangram7441
      @derrickmangram7441 6 месяцев назад

      Damn Crazy 😮

  • @princemlambo8270
    @princemlambo8270 7 месяцев назад +131

    Woooow. I have been a weak man. Thanks for awakening the beast in me

  • @johnv5926
    @johnv5926 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thanks! I wish I had this information 25 years ago.

  • @NoName-jq7tj
    @NoName-jq7tj 9 месяцев назад +51

    This is true. Many years ago I ignored red flags consistently from women & the damage to me was devastating. It destroyed an already shattered self esteem. Now I have zero tolerance to them.

    • @slydoskibelieveinc.7748
      @slydoskibelieveinc.7748 9 месяцев назад +4

      Now you will be treated as the King of your Castle

    • @NoName-jq7tj
      @NoName-jq7tj 9 месяцев назад +6

      @@slydoskibelieveinc.7748 You have to have self respect & follow your own path. What I’ve experienced is that the more beautiful the woman the more headaches she causes. The sheer self canteredness is excessive.

    • @AlphaSigmaRichMan
      @AlphaSigmaRichMan 8 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@NoName-jq7tj no, it's opposite in my case she was very ugly, still I loved her by heart. Im handsome, rich guy. Still got over confident & cheated me, despite she had proposed me 😢😮

    • @AndrewDaniele87
      @AndrewDaniele87 7 месяцев назад +2

      Same happened with me, on the positive note, they broke us and we rebuilt ourselves better than we were before. I'm actually glad I went through that experience, it's almost like they slapped it out of us lol (she wasn't physical though)

  • @Ziggle-ky9kv
    @Ziggle-ky9kv 6 месяцев назад +4128

    There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

    • @schnarf5
      @schnarf5 6 месяцев назад +9

      Playbooks? Ugh so over it

    • @Medjed-pi5pw
      @Medjed-pi5pw 6 месяцев назад +7

      Pretty sure it's a scam and how is the author?

    • @veracity5977
      @veracity5977 6 месяцев назад +13

      how much did you pay for those thumbs up

    • @nolackin60617
      @nolackin60617 6 месяцев назад +1

      🤔

    • @shaneryan9076
      @shaneryan9076 5 месяцев назад +7

      fake, these comments are everywhere

  • @AugustusTiberius-tq1gw
    @AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 6 месяцев назад +15

    My X realized that I wasn't putting up with her BS. My X attempted to control, manipulate and gaslightt. Soon after, my X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. I blocked her from my cellphone and I dodged the bullet. Got back my swagger and salvation

  • @sumanjeetmitra3264
    @sumanjeetmitra3264 7 месяцев назад +46

    You have to be willing to lose who you love in order to protect who you are 🤞

    • @ALINUED
      @ALINUED 7 месяцев назад

      true that, its either that or you going to find yourself in pieces with zero self-esteem-confidence at the end.

    • @Andrew-sj9tr
      @Andrew-sj9tr 3 месяца назад +2

      Amen!!! What a good quote

  • @danmaertens7872
    @danmaertens7872 9 месяцев назад +41

    “If you want to know someone’s mind listen to what they say, if you want to know someone’s heart, watch what they do.”

  • @kanteannightmare
    @kanteannightmare 5 месяцев назад +18

    You don't love someone you don't respect. Without respect they are just someone you use to satisfy yourself with...

    • @neechee5150
      @neechee5150 Месяц назад

      That reciprocal of that truth is that the one who does not give out common respect and decency until it is not deserved do not/can not truly love themselves.

  • @chetking1116
    @chetking1116 9 месяцев назад +175

    I'm chosing to walk away from her again and respect myself. Thank you.

    • @boomshine7
      @boomshine7 9 месяцев назад +10

      again? that means you didn't do a good job the first time

    • @laurivaltter
      @laurivaltter 9 месяцев назад +4

      ​@@boomshine7i gave another chance aswell and broke myself 😭😭😭😭😭

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 8 месяцев назад +8

      @@laurivaltter We all make mistakes. In school, first you get lesson, then you get the test. In life, first you get the test, then you get the lesson. And the test will be repeated until the lesson is learned.
      I am confident you learned the lesson, and you not be tested again.
      Here's to a brighter tomorrow.

    • @Pfor_Podi
      @Pfor_Podi 8 месяцев назад

      ​@@boomshine7 it's ok..at least now he is free and he was able to rise up from his weak mindset

    • @chaucerparks2042
      @chaucerparks2042 6 месяцев назад

      YOU AREN'T ALONE FAM..

  • @sindust150
    @sindust150 7 месяцев назад +352

    If she is talking she is lying 🤥

    • @mymontyboy
      @mymontyboy 6 месяцев назад +9

      😂

    • @williambozarth6517
      @williambozarth6517 6 месяцев назад +9

      amen brother

    • @BillyTurner-vb3hf
      @BillyTurner-vb3hf 6 месяцев назад +7

      Was it eve that committed the first sin

    • @jeffheesakkers6541
      @jeffheesakkers6541 5 месяцев назад

      Nope she is saying the truth really

    • @MiMysmelfandI
      @MiMysmelfandI 5 месяцев назад +10

      Whatever she’s accusing you of is what she just did to you behind your back.

  • @sanjayverma4068
    @sanjayverma4068 6 месяцев назад +6

    This is an absolutely fantastic video. A must see for every man. An eye opener.
    Many times men do not even realise what is happening to them. By giving an inch every time, they give a mile and don’t even realise it.

  • @reubenmurphy7053
    @reubenmurphy7053 6 месяцев назад +39

    It's not just low self-esteem. It can also be that you have such a great impact on a woman but you don't recognize you can't heal her from certain issues like trauma

  • @rubytech
    @rubytech 9 месяцев назад +20

    As someone who’s been blessed to attract beautiful women whether through the physical, demeanor or being an artist I’m definitely going to share this vid to my male inner circle as it contains irrefutable truth. Sometimes we “Win” in locking her down as a girlfriend but “Lose” due to the motives behind her choosing us.

    • @facelessandnameless
      @facelessandnameless 9 месяцев назад +2

      That last sentence. I can relate so much to that haha

    • @svtk5104
      @svtk5104 7 месяцев назад +3

      last thing was very wise!

    • @rubytech
      @rubytech 7 месяцев назад +1

      @@facelessandnameless ikr lol

    • @rubytech
      @rubytech 7 месяцев назад

      @@svtk5104 much appreciated 🙏🏾

  • @VuongHoangChinh
    @VuongHoangChinh Месяц назад +2038

    Good video, but there's nothing specific here. I recommend everyone to find the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation; you'll be shocked by the attraction techniques it contain about manipulation.

    • @Tutorials-for-IT
      @Tutorials-for-IT Месяц назад

      Can you hint at where to look?)

    • @em1n3mfen
      @em1n3mfen Месяц назад

      This is a bot. Don't be fooled. Many youtube videos linked to manipulation have similar comments from different accounts created on the same day. Also has fake likes to make it rise on the comments.

    • @woodysutton4159
      @woodysutton4159 26 дней назад

      Where can I find this book.

    • @em1n3mfen
      @em1n3mfen 25 дней назад +1

      @@Tutorials-for-IT The account and the book are fake! The same comment is on many "manipulation" videos by acccounts created on the same date this year!

    • @em1n3mfen
      @em1n3mfen 25 дней назад +1

      @@woodysutton4159 The account and the book are fake! The same comment is on many "manipulation" videos by acccounts created on the same date this year!

  • @dwcushman1
    @dwcushman1 6 месяцев назад +15

    As a clinical outpatient therapist who works with equal numbers of men and women, I commend you for speaking candidly but also wisely on this topic. While there are certainly many toxic men out there the reverse is equally true but is not spoken about as often. Women will oftentimes find social acceptance for their toxic behavior which serves to reinforce the pattern.

  • @lovengine
    @lovengine 9 месяцев назад +206

    Guys, go your own way. No woman, no problem.

    • @easter_sunday
      @easter_sunday 9 месяцев назад +14

      True.

    • @MalcolmLoomis
      @MalcolmLoomis 9 месяцев назад +11

      I agree 💪

    • @elcheleloco
      @elcheleloco 9 месяцев назад +20

      that aint what she's saying, she's saying real strong men should have boundaries and selfrespect

    • @lovengine
      @lovengine 9 месяцев назад +4

      @@elcheleloco What is your definition of a "real strong man" ? Are you a "real strong man"?

    • @benanders4412
      @benanders4412 9 месяцев назад +15

      @@elcheleloco That's not going to help you with the modern Western woman when she calls her pimp. {the government}

  • @Mysterr77
    @Mysterr77 2 месяца назад +1108

    It's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden psychology ebook called the manipulation enigma

    • @michaelblag
      @michaelblag 2 месяца назад

      Seeing how much people have praised this book recently, I'm hopeful it will help me with my intentions

    • @Tipo74
      @Tipo74 Месяц назад +1

      👀 Too similar to borlist and shirlist spammers. Also all accounts less than 12 month old. Suspect

  • @jimmybazza6824
    @jimmybazza6824 9 месяцев назад +16

    Great short vid, lots of truth!
    I 100% ignored multiple red flags in my past relationship in the beginning & throughout. Can almost certainly say my trauma as a child led me to not set boundaries from the get go. In doing so i definitely clung onto the connection rather than leaving the relationship, respecting & putting my health & wellness 1st. I can now say I've learned a very valuable tough leesson &
    I wont be ignoring any red flags in my future relationship.
    Thankyou!

  • @Robbelution
    @Robbelution 9 месяцев назад +38

    I wish I had heard your content 4 years ago. Thank you for sharing, it’s really made a difference in my life hearing this.

  • @KeenDietrich
    @KeenDietrich 4 месяца назад +10

    I can't believe this was free. No course. No sell. Just watch this 100 times and melt this in your nerves and instincts

  • @NoMoneyOut
    @NoMoneyOut 9 месяцев назад +104

    I went silent and now I avoid them... too manipulative, even to complete strangers.
    I liken that to pure evil.

    • @nightmareTomek
      @nightmareTomek 9 месяцев назад

      Manipulation is accomplished through lying. So when Sadia said in the beginning that women never lie, she was lying.

    • @user-cf6yp7qg1h
      @user-cf6yp7qg1h 9 месяцев назад +4

      BillKlacks is cool too?

  • @ryv6659
    @ryv6659 9 месяцев назад +25

    Lessons I unfortunately had to learn the hard way. This is 100% spot on.

  • @BlackBearDogTrading
    @BlackBearDogTrading 2 месяца назад +6

    I have a completely different view about this: if a woman values and respects herself to begin with she doesn't need to play these games. She acts with honor and integrity. She has no need to manipulate, lie or cheat. She knows her worth.

    • @neechee5150
      @neechee5150 Месяц назад

      Absolutely true!!!! A woman who needs to be constantly reminded (boundaries) that she should respect you and treat you well is just like a person who wants to rob a home but does not have the courage to break the lock. As soon as the opportunity comes they will sneak and and rob the people/place. There is a saying that if a lock is the only thing that keeps you honest you really were never honest in the first place. You are a thief in waiting. So it is with women. Conditional character is not character. Conditional ethics are not ethics, Conditional empathy is not empathy. Conditional basic respect to treat others as you would have them treat you is not respect. Conditional kindness is not kindness. Conditional morals are not morals.

  • @Kingvegetanbigjohn404
    @Kingvegetanbigjohn404 9 месяцев назад +38

    2:46 That makes soo much sense value the respect over the connection she is giving you. Currently going through a divorce and trying to understand 😢 thanks Sadia

    • @mandoman7626
      @mandoman7626 8 месяцев назад

      Stay strong! Also going thru one as well

    • @grizzlymcgill4117
      @grizzlymcgill4117 2 месяца назад

      keep improving yourself man. choose a manageable uncomfortable process every day to follow to build self-esteem and resilience, speak your worst thoughts into your phone's voice recorder and listen to them on repeat to deconstruct the narratives and lies about yourself and the situations you encounter. stay consistent even if you feel like you are going to die. you will emerge as a beast.

  • @alanguages
    @alanguages 9 месяцев назад +31

    Effectively, actions speaks LOUDER than words.

    • @obaroaluya3762
      @obaroaluya3762 8 месяцев назад

      By action, mean body language. Demeanors is a better tell tale sign

  • @gbcardo4544
    @gbcardo4544 2 месяца назад +2

    I can appreciate a woman's perspective. I have sisters, so I try to understand, knowing women's shortcomings. I was never intimate with my sisters, so this is the area where I feel like I am walking in the dark. My father raised me to be tough, so I'm not one to allow my boundaries to be crossed. However, since I have been single a long time, I noticed I am easily impressed by a woman's beauty. This was very helpful. Thank you.

  • @Remedii2life
    @Remedii2life 9 месяцев назад +12

    There is so much truth to this. I grew up that way. Because I never received that unconditional love I accepted whatever I could get from women in realtionships. So this lead to being lied to and accepting it. This lead to being cheated on ect. It took time for me to learn my childhood tramas and see that I was allowing all of this which made me bitter. Boundaries are so important for a realtionship and yourself.

  • @davideboiardi
    @davideboiardi 6 месяцев назад +20

    The only love you need in life is your own. You don't need anyone to validate you or love you to make you feel better. Tell yourself that you love yourself. That's all you need.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 месяца назад

      Reminds of that line (Johnny Cash cover of Hurt), "What have I become, my sweetest friend?" A soliloquy to love yourself despite your imperfections. As you say, only then is there space in the room for someone else.

  • @jamesferguson536
    @jamesferguson536 4 месяца назад +4

    My GF was disrespectful. I chose to buy a property I could retire to that she wasn't enthusiastic about. Then during the pandemic when I was told to WFH, I moved to that property, 200 miles away from where I was living. This has been an effective way to withdraw from the relationship.

  • @richardjohnson4052
    @richardjohnson4052 6 месяцев назад +48

    I worked in the divorce court for 30 years. My Supervisor told me, "You know how to tell if a woman is lying? Her lips are moving."
    Every woman who worked there would deal with a female customer and come to me and report, "people like that make me ashamed to be a woman."

  • @raddadization
    @raddadization 7 месяцев назад +15

    it's amazing what communication and boundaries will do. I told my newish gf that i was doing all the work in the relationship. When I got home she had cleaned my house, did my laundry, and made dinner.

    • @antonioarmando1938
      @antonioarmando1938 4 месяца назад +3

      The problem is that it is not natural or maintainable. You had to take action for her to adopt the behaviour.
      This to me is redflag. It is a play and deceiving.

  • @HelloHru-b3c
    @HelloHru-b3c 4 дня назад +1

    As a man who has gone through this. She’s right on point.

  • @novaheads
    @novaheads 9 месяцев назад +451

    If she’s breathing she’s lying

    • @Saloneboy90s
      @Saloneboy90s 9 месяцев назад +11

      😂

    • @beavinator420
      @beavinator420 8 месяцев назад +31

      They hold their breath and tell lies too

    • @azharkalyani4273
      @azharkalyani4273 8 месяцев назад +3

      Hahahah😂

    • @deloredan
      @deloredan 8 месяцев назад +2

      Yesssssss

    • @Hellhounds808
      @Hellhounds808 8 месяцев назад +16

      This is the truest statement on the internet. Period. If a woman is speaking. She’s lying. He’ll. They lie in their sleep

  • @Truthspreader70
    @Truthspreader70 8 месяцев назад +35

    My ex walked all over me for 25 years because I didn't stand up for myself. Definitely, will not happen again with my new relationship. Learn to say no and stand strong with your boundaries

  • @ThunderBoy2500
    @ThunderBoy2500 2 дня назад +1

    ⁠agreed … honestly I’ve been through too many shit test to understand that it’s just another form of rejection . My tolerance is low for those who don’t have the ability to reciprocate , it often ends with resentment . I’m comfortable in my peace respectfully .

  • @swirlcrop
    @swirlcrop 9 месяцев назад +82

    This woman is so interesting. She doesn't seem to have the anger so many people who talk about the opposite sex have, whether it's the men talking about women or the women talking about men.

    • @armandoramirez875
      @armandoramirez875 9 месяцев назад +1

      Couldn’t agree more

    • @sloebone7399
      @sloebone7399 9 месяцев назад +30

      She’s selling something and she knows her target audience.

    • @sluurr6171
      @sluurr6171 9 месяцев назад +8

      ​@sloebone7399 💯 but she's good at it and she knows it! 😅

    • @NB-yu4lj
      @NB-yu4lj 9 месяцев назад

      Her anger does come out against men

    • @Pitty212on
      @Pitty212on 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@sloebone7399 she is selling the truth. At least you know it's correct.

  • @gglehteswhtemnAdChrstns
    @gglehteswhtemnAdChrstns 7 месяцев назад +10

    The best advice and video I’ve ever seen. I watched it 20 or more times to memorise it. It describes the whole demise of marriage in my life. She picked early on that my mother was abusive and that’s all she needed.

    • @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x
      @MichaelPrudhomme-u7x 4 месяца назад +1

      I'm Gen X and the dark side of feminism killed us young boys. I think Millennial Moms tried harder but only ended up doing the double dance of helicopter parenting while blowing the trumpet of "girl boss." Maybe Gen Z or whatever comes next will bring women full circle back to the true female power of nurturing. Dunno.
      As they often say, it's going to get worse before it gets better. I have noticed that men are waking up to the diseased game of modernity. Walking away (setting these boundaries) will continue to low sex lives and low birth rates but it's at least half up to us to fix what's broken.

  • @brycecampbell4845
    @brycecampbell4845 4 месяца назад +13

    A woman that disrespects me once. Will not do it again 2nd time. Because I will be gone. And I just proved it about 2 weeks ago. I won't put up with disrespect. Ever.

  • @edbradley6815
    @edbradley6815 9 месяцев назад +114

    It appears after watching numerous videos like these women are simply children. They need somebody to give them boundaries and otherwise hold them accountable because they are incapable of doing it themselves. Why would anyone get with a person like that?

    • @HashDogg06
      @HashDogg06 9 месяцев назад +34

      On the other end of the spectrum after setting boundaries, you get told that you are a control freak just like all men & then she continues to stab you in the back to her friends about how controlling you are making them all have an unjustified bad opinion of you. It's a lose-lose situation.

    • @orionp.9476
      @orionp.9476 9 месяцев назад +4

      yeah just be homosexual, problem solved Bradley.

    • @mikkischuk3634
      @mikkischuk3634 8 месяцев назад +2

      To clean your house and cook your meal

    • @uchennakingsley1354
      @uchennakingsley1354 8 месяцев назад

      As mundane as might come across., this is exactly it - and Sons too We like Sons 💪🏾 ​@@mikkischuk3634

    • @parrymylogicthen290
      @parrymylogicthen290 8 месяцев назад

      😂 I guess you took the easy way out huh? ​@@orionp.9476

  • @armandsant1143
    @armandsant1143 7 месяцев назад +8

    I’m dealing with this past week and yesterday I appreciate it to stand up and infuse great self respect. I have been watching your videos and I have found a fuel source I needed to make a breakthrough in my life at 42. Best regards!! I am open minded to navigate with a current toxic partner that I now don’t trust and cope and arm myself with confidence I need to stand my ground and expect to heal myself for over 8 years of wasted time it’s so stomache wrenching at the thought how far evil has grown being together for so long that the disrespect is out of control like getting out the car and being yelled at and people in the parking lot looking at me so humiliating and I just built callouses and powered through until i recently said enough

    • @dubsmith7
      @dubsmith7 6 месяцев назад

      You described the last 5 years of my life. After 25 years in a seemingly, mostly happy relationship. It has become painfully apparent that there is no respect, empathy or recognition of my contribution to our family. It's a strange mix of emotion, loss, heartache and yet an excitement to grow and perhaps someday get the relationship that will value and deserve.

  • @neilcooper287
    @neilcooper287 5 месяцев назад +116

    Every single manipulation tactic all but implies the use of the lying tactic and the gaslighting tactic. I actually dislike it a little calling out gaslighting as a manipulation tactic as it's actually an effect. All manipulation tactics will contribute to it by nature of what manipulation is. Some tactics however certainly take the gaslighting effect to a whole different level. Blatant lies that are so bad they insult your intelligence is one of them. That kind of shit will make you feel like you are in the twilight zone after a while. Here are some of the reasons they do this: To test their control. To feel superior and/or entertainment. This proves to themselves how much control they have over you. In the end, you will give up and you will not leave (trauma bonded). In the process of getting to the giving up stage, you will go through some pretty nasty emotional states ending in massive amounts of cognitive dissonance to swallow all of that. Cognitive dissonance is a trauma defense mechanism where you essentially lie to yourself in various ways so that you can bring back some semblance of equilibrium to the insanity you find yourself unable to escape from. As part of the ‘backing you into an emotional corner’ tactic. This is a tactic where you are manipulated into being emotionally unstable inevitably leading to you losing your shit. This gives the narcissist a big dopamine burst, they feel powerful and superior having so deftly controlled you and manipulated into this emotional state. To finish the little game they play, they make sure to point out how unhinged and unstable you are and suggest that perhaps you need help or medication. Of course, you will internalize all that shame and guilt and the million other raging emotions they have created and swallow all that essentially allowing them to scapegoat their blame and accountability onto you. Bring on some more cognitive dissonance and gaslighting effects. To condition you to expect less respect, and ultimately put up with more abuse. You will tire of the inevitable circular argument trying to convince the narcissist of the blatantly obvious lie and eventually find yourself challenging them less and less as you subconsciously accept the fact that if you do it will just make your life and emotional state more miserable and you will be denied the satisfaction of any kind of ‘win’ even if it is easy to disprove. This is part of the domination process and makes sure all the power in the relationship ends up with them by the end. To turn your mind to mush as the gaslighting effect takes hold more and more over time. This makes you even easier to control. Many times while easy to disprove it requires some kind of concession of some obvious truth that the narcissist can just doggedly refuse to agree with or remember (‘the intentional forgetting’ tactic and the ‘feigned confusion or ignorance’ tactics are often employed for this). So, in fact, it is not so easy to prove when the narcissist refuses to correctly remember what happened 10 min ago or accept sound logic or reasoning. You will just turn blue in the face trying. Of course, in some cases it is indisputable. A phone log or something. My experience is when this kind of stuff happens it wasn’t their intention typically, although sometimes it was. But in these scenarios, you will typically get some sort of angry ‘invalidating’ tactic, with some good old ‘manufactured rage’ and ‘intimidation’ tactics to ‘put you on the defensive’ and get you more susceptible to further manipulation. Maybe something like: “Get over yourself already” followed up by some ‘blame-shifting’ tactics with some good old ‘guilt’ and ‘shame’ tactics, like “Why the hell are you spying on my phone records anyway? What kind of relationship is this? I don’t have any privacy? I don’t know if I can do this anymore! You have major jealousy issues! You need help!” You will walk away as the loser either way. There are resistance tactics that can be used but this is a very difficult tactic to deal with and it is one of their favorites. I won’t get into the counter-tactics here though. The only way to really win in a relationship with a narcissist is to leave them and go no contact. Moreover, Catching a cheating spouse might be difficult, and knowing what local laws say you can and cannot do might be even more difficult. To simplify the process, consider hiring a private investigator to do the sleuthing for you I genuinely appreciate how incredible you are and your work! Thank you for a job well done Metaspyhub@gmail. com,,

    • @nehemirador5333
      @nehemirador5333 5 месяцев назад +9

      I aint reading all that

    • @wallypido-mp5tl
      @wallypido-mp5tl 5 месяцев назад +7

      Wow this is so interesting... Please continue to counter tactics

    • @firefadez9315
      @firefadez9315 5 месяцев назад +4

      Every victim needs to read this

    • @JerryAllen1919
      @JerryAllen1919 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@nehemirador5333 Me neither 😂

  • @PeteSinHouston
    @PeteSinHouston 6 месяцев назад +8

    Avoid any woman that plays games and acts like a child which is exactly what she is describing here. If a woman is cheating - don’t take it personal - it simply means they’re not ready to be a grownup.
    The world is difficult enough as it is - the last thing you want in your life is to make it more-so.

    • @Andrew-sj9tr
      @Andrew-sj9tr 3 месяца назад

      That’s a good way to look at it. They aren’t worthy of you if they are cheating

  • @mirciupop
    @mirciupop 9 месяцев назад +11

    Hiding the truth is called lying!
    That is one of my boundaries..🤷‍♂️

  • @1rober2
    @1rober2 4 месяца назад +1

    I was sent to live with my grandparents from 3,5 to four years. And you are so right. I have been accepting disrespectful behavior from women.
    But I have learnt the hard way and do not tolerate trespassing in my kingdom anymore.

  • @colcooper9928
    @colcooper9928 9 месяцев назад +5

    It all comes down to self awareness. Then comes self respect and compassion. Our world is but a mere reflection of who we are...stay strong!

  • @wisemanj2934
    @wisemanj2934 7 месяцев назад +6

    Sadia. Thank you. I am a nurse and worked psychiatry too. Your insights are really valuable. I am in the middle of a crisis at the moment and I find it hard to just abandon ship. Over the years I embarked on a health journey to become the most fit person and the more mentally strong I could ever been. There is not a day that pass without me achieving religiously that goal. I see the manipulation, the emotional blackmail very clearly now. How every little sentences I say becomes the start of an argument for my partner, I see how the tables flips around and I am called disrespectful while having to hear many insults and tearing me down comments at the same time. I have a hard time creating the consequence of the boundaries. My boundaries are known, basically dont bring me problems without a dialogue about finding solutions, dont disrupt my peace just to lash out and be overly critical of everything. Etc. Inside of my heart I just want to leave and I feel like I cant. The old me got into a relationship with her but now I am in a different place I can see who truly put the work. Everytime I mention I want out of this toxicity I get the "oh now we see your true colors, thats why you didnt last with your exes etc" comments. Yeah, well. Besides looking really intimidating now, this part of my life prevents me from blooming into a smiling laughing happy or at least peaceful person. I developed anger issues, I react loudly now I am this "I am going to burn the whole world before you come burning me once again" mode.

  • @Cedric-g7e
    @Cedric-g7e 13 дней назад +1

    When you have something she haven't received from you yet, cause when she doesn't want you she will always tell the truth to you no matter how you take it

  • @EbayvideosR
    @EbayvideosR 9 месяцев назад +22

    Very good video. I had my first gf at 41 and she was older but never told me her real age. She always compared me to different men and flirted all the time with other guys.
    Although I was a weak man, I wasn’t aware of how weak I’m actually am and how immature I was as a person.
    I kept telling her to dump me because she can do much better. She even told me she had to lower her standards to go out with me a few times.
    Although I ended it out of love for her, I couldn’t stop thinking about her and wanted her back. After 7 months of begging, she said told me I can take her out providing I pay her £225 for her beauty treatment. Gave her the money and she blew out on purpose, telling me she never had any intention of meeting me or giving me another chance.
    After being hurt so bad, I decided to retire from women completely until I’ve finished working on myself. Women are very dangerous and manipulative

    • @RatnaDewiWithin
      @RatnaDewiWithin 9 месяцев назад +10

      Ouch I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. I think it's a good choice to do your own inner work. Not all women are manipulative and dangerous though. There are good respectful women out there. But we attract anything that mirrors to us our own shadows, so own that for yourself, so you can work on these parts of yourself and heal. You'll see that you will most likely attract other women in your life, women that will not treat you bad. I wish that for you.

    • @EbayvideosR
      @EbayvideosR 9 месяцев назад +5

      @@RatnaDewiWithin My Hospital consultant told me I’d have to find an understanding woman who would tolerate my misfortunes and that’s going to be a very tough task. That was when I was 35. Now I’m 43, I feel the boat has sailed, especially after the Jennifer experience, which was mostly my fault for being a low value man. I wasn’t expecting to attract a beautiful woman like her but women have a great sense of smell and she knew I was weak, but didn’t realise I was hard work.

    • @Faxtron
      @Faxtron 9 месяцев назад

      Man you have to be awake and learn the truth by know the power of the red pilled man. You need to convert your self in a real man, an alpha man with balls of steel. Find videos to learn the power of the red pill you need it.

    • @mrmysterious6006
      @mrmysterious6006 9 месяцев назад +3

      With all due respect this is beyond being weak.
      Downright stupid to be frank.
      I hope you have learnt your lesson.
      I sure have.
      My ex was a highly educated woman and I was just your average guy back then.
      Things didn't work out as she kept crossing my boundaries with disrespect.
      She was begging me for 3 months to take her back.
      Once I leave there is no turning back.
      Make

    • @EbayvideosR
      @EbayvideosR 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@mrmysterious6006 I do agree with you about being beyond weak, which was why I retired from women completely.
      When your like me, women will only use and abuse me. It’s not worth it.
      I’ve realised from this experience that it takes time to heal a broken heart and that heart can be easily broken again. If you feel your not good enough, walk away and allow another woman/man to take over.
      The reason why I wanted to see her was to find out why she refused to end it when I asked her to? Why was she possessive when she never liked me in the first place? Why accuse me of pursuing her when it was her that didn’t let go of me? Why ask me to give her chance at valentines after she hit me and verbally abused me for 3 hours?
      Nothing made sense
      Valentines incident was my fault because I asked her to be my woman and then told her to find someone else that would suit her needs as I didn’t feel I was going to be good enough for her.
      I didn’t know how to be affectionate and tried to copy what the opposite couple were doing, but she humiliated me. This was when the overthinking began.

  • @andrewschultz5101
    @andrewschultz5101 7 месяцев назад +5

    It is truly shocking how well you can lay this out. I needed this advice 15 years ago, thank you!

    • @lovelygreenbonsai
      @lovelygreenbonsai 5 месяцев назад +1

      15 years ago you wouldn't be listening to it with the same ears bro, trust me. Life experience is only thing which makes us open for the truth. In my case it was a big pain when my ex wife left me.
      I was doing all for her and she was disrespecting me. And she was disrespecting me only because I didn't respect myself.

  • @jasona8613
    @jasona8613 13 дней назад

    Just 2 minutes into her video, she speaks absolute truth. Thank you!

  • @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl
    @AbdullahSahrai-gl6fl 9 месяцев назад +12

    Yes I have been there
    That's why I hate online dating
    Face to face

  • @swemariner
    @swemariner 9 месяцев назад +47

    Facts hitting hard thank you Sadia! 47 year old lad out here

  • @navimann2651
    @navimann2651 22 дня назад +1

    You couldnt be more correct on this . SPOT ON

  • @dhruvbhatia7
    @dhruvbhatia7 9 месяцев назад +15

    This is true and have known this for the last 2 years after having dated more than a few bad apples. However it is virtually impossible to meet a woman nowadays who doesn't do at least one of these things sometimes

    • @MagoCelta
      @MagoCelta 9 месяцев назад +1

      Your looking in the wrong places.

    • @niallg3551
      @niallg3551 7 месяцев назад

      @@MagoCelta Where should he look then?

    • @bellagatto9670
      @bellagatto9670 7 месяцев назад

      @@niallg3551 not at -church, work, gym, bars/clubs, school, online dating apps- . I think all of those have been eliminated. What's left? Who knows?
      By design, I think.

  • @matthewpepler9673
    @matthewpepler9673 9 месяцев назад +13

    Thank you Sadia 🙏 I didn't receive the consistent love you were talking about as a child and have been working with this for a while now. In you breaking down the mechanics of this, I feel a clarity presenting that unifies all the work I've been doing and streamlines it for understanding and implementation! Deep Gratitude!

  • @ohmynester
    @ohmynester 17 дней назад

    This is the most honest, I ever heard from a woman.
    Looking back, I made so many terrible mistakes.
    As a man, a woman is suppose to honor you, regardless of standing.
    You just have to find that woman. If you want a better specimen, improve your lot in life.

  • @evieni1465
    @evieni1465 9 месяцев назад +12

    How do you know if a woman is lying? Her mouth is moving.

  • @muzilubisi2251
    @muzilubisi2251 9 месяцев назад +10

    Omitting key details is lying, this is something I can't tolerate. When it comes to those behaviours that are contrary to the kind of person she is, I can agree that we tend to ignore things until they become too much.

  • @Username-ze1ux
    @Username-ze1ux 5 месяцев назад +39

    “Women never lie”…I’ve heard enough internet BS for today…and it’s only 4:00 in the morning

    • @kingket4
      @kingket4 3 месяца назад +4

      Have you watched the vid? If you haven’t woman shows her red flags in her actions.

    • @Andrew-sj9tr
      @Andrew-sj9tr 3 месяца назад +1

      Lmao

  • @PassionateSpirit88
    @PassionateSpirit88 9 месяцев назад +23

    Simply they have too many options and also no consequences for cheating...sums it up

  • @akmb5184
    @akmb5184 9 месяцев назад +10

    « Women never ever ever lie »
    For sure..

    • @sam_p792
      @sam_p792 9 месяцев назад

      😂😂😂

    • @nuudelz3711
      @nuudelz3711 7 месяцев назад

      Followed up by the just don’t tell you the truth. I can’t believe that was said. This is good content to stir up incels that’s about all

  • @TheOpinionatedBoy
    @TheOpinionatedBoy Месяц назад

    The world would be in such a better place if even 10% of the global population got to know and actually listened to what Sadia has to say. Mental health would be lowered as well. I admire her strength as a woman, and respect her passion to want to help others in their relationships. There aren't enough people like Sadia on this earth. Thank you Sadia. You are making the world a better place.