My limiting beliefs are that I don't have what it takes, that there's nothing special about me/I'm unlovable, and that I'm a quitter who can't commit or finish what I start. I think that it actually allows me to continue that behavior and give me an "easy" way out when things become difficult. Yesterday, I found myself 5-4-3-2-1-ing out of control, all day. I hadn't realized how negative I've been for so long. This was an eye-opener. Thank you.
I have this same issue. Funny about the 5-4-3-2--ing all day; I've been doing it all week and holy crap! Negative Nancy here and it's affecting my three children. :(
"I'll never get there" really hit my hard. I feel like I'll never get anywhere in life and that my goals are too unrealistic. This series is really helping me
My limiting belief about myself is that I am just not good enough to be successful. And mind you, its not because I believe I'm not capable enough or intelligent enough or even strong enough; it is because of history - it is because every time I feel empowered and I feel like the tides are finally turning in my favor and my hard work and tenacity is finally going to propel me closer to where I want to be, something knocks me down and knocks me out. I get back up, but I'm even more damaged than I was before and it is then that much more difficult to believe that things are going to change and I am going to make my life better.
Thank you, my life is going the exaxt same way. Actually currently dealing with yet another knock down and trying to find the resilience to get up again :( It is good to hear that others experience the same.
Believe that you are strong enough to get back up and keep going. We all have something called a 'failure quotient', which is the amount of times we are willing to fail before we give up. The difference between highly successful people and everyone else is that thier failure quotient is much higher. They understand that failures do not define them. Failures are how we learn to do better next time. Good luck!
@Tonia Simbari I have been experiencing exactly the same...I feel this disconnect between knowing intellectually I have whatever it takes, yet emotionally feeling the opposite because for decades I have been constantly working hard and failing yet again and it gets harder and harder to believe this time will be different
My limiting belief is "I'm tired" - I let stress wear me down. When my to-do list overwhelms, or it is something I don't what to do - I default to being tired.
Hi Mel, It was about 3 or 4 months ago that I caught my limiting belief. It was - I am not good enough. The funny thing is I motivate everyone around me, but myself. I couldn’t move forward, take compliments, appreciation gracefully because of this limiting belief…to name a few problems. I never felt like I deserve it, was ready for it, and when I did accomplish something, I couldn’t enjoy it. It was not enough, because I was not. But few months back when I caught myself, I did this - I set alarms for 4 times in a day on my phone, and I named them "I am enough". And even though I didn’t believe it in the beginning, I still read it and said it to myself 4 times a day (sometimes in the middle of a meeting). I did start noticing a difference. My work load hadn't reduced, but I was not in panic anymore. I was speaking up, confronting - even while I was completely shaking from within. I have made more connections in these 4 months than in the year before that.
Now a few months after, I wouldn’t say that I have completely stopped trash talking myself, however, I catch myself. Thanks to you. I saw your video about the "Imposter Syndrome" and that is what triggered this. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
While in yoga this morning I was noticing that everyone else was WAY more flexible than me. I noticed the negative self talk happening, and just said to myself, "I am doing the best I can!". And kept on enjoying the class! My almost 14 year old told me that she had a default thought pattern happen last night as we were preparing to play a family trivia game. She noticed that she was thinking to herself, "There is no point in playing as I am just going to lose anyway. It is going to waste my time." After noticing this, she ironically, wanted to play! And actually did pretty well. Better than she thought! :)
My limiting belief is that I don’t deserve good things in my life...I self sabotage like a pro...but just writing this feels like a step in the right direction! Thanks Mel for all this and for everyone else who commented. It feels good to not be doing this alone.
As I view ALL the beautiful folks that respond and share into this feed. I am moved, thank you Mel, Chris, & Folks! What I hear is in the "Spot of Inwardness" is that there is a aspiring Constant. For me there is the self lies, not present tense, not LIVING-UP. There is at times a wondering belief of what "could" be opposed to an overwhelming feeling of what "should" be. There is at times a internal grappling, a fight or flight. When to be a passenger, when to take the wheel and drive?!?
For re-watchers: 3:23 Recap from Day 2 4:50 Start of today's training (cost of negative beliefs) 23:47 Participant question 1: What if you feel fear in your body before you recognize it mentally? 26:07 Participant question 2: What if you can't visualize? 28:36 Participant question 3: What if I can't identify a limiting belief? 30:39 Participant question 4: How did we all get limiting beliefs?
I watched this with my kids. My 9 year old son says, " She is right Mummy, I do feel that way sometimes." time to break the cycle.... think I am too much, annoying, an outsider, don't belong, that I can't really change or maintain anything for any period of time....... my themes are doing less with more intention, slowing down, and being present with my kids... so much gratitude for you Mel!
My limiting beliefs: I do not feel like I am good enough and deserving of love. I will never grow up and be a successful adult. All I do is worry about what people think. I stems from a childhood of mental and physical abuse and family not intervening so I feel like I dont matter. This is so hard to share b/c I put on such a good show! But if I continue to live a fake life, I will never achieve what I want. I want to have a meaningful and impactful life. I dont want to repeat but evolve. These beliefs hold me back from losing weight/being healthy, building a business as an entrepreneur and getting out of this financial hell hole. I am so grateful for this experience! It's nice to feel "not alone and hopeful."
Meredith Kalisz Baldwin you are not alone. You sound like me and it’s as if we lived the same life. Mel is awesome and I think her training will really help us. Stay strong.
Same here. Never felt worthy to be protected. Became alienated from the world and myself. Developed codependency and debilitating imposter syndrome. Spend years constantly triggered, dissociated and basically in a regressed state (fawn+freeze trauma-responses, structural dissociation, low HRV, low standards, zero boundaries, etc). Slowly reclaiming my life and body through cptsd-therapy and trauma-sensitive yoga. Check out Janina Fisher, Pete Walker, Bessel van der Kolk and David Emerson/Elizabeth Hopper books, Plus yoga with Adriene. Maybe join #cptsdchat with Athena Moberg here on YT? She's awesome. Also, there is a great cptsd group on FB led by Tanja Windegger. Also, Lisa A. Romano, Meredith Miller, Jerry Wise, Richard Grannon. Here on YT. Mel is amazingly wonderful too, of course :) Hope it helps. Safe hugs and many blessings!
I am the same! I developed such a strong fake life that I have a good life but its empty of passion and joy-- but by changing and growing its going to affect other people like my spouse and sons...my disassociating needs to stop but its not easy!!
@@andreevatheory thank you so much for this info. i was considering emdr but i want to look into this too. i love yoga with adriene ! this is going to be a great and progressive year! blessings to you too!!
Thank you Mel for this amazing course! I am changing my life one incremental step at a time. I identify my limiting belief as I am not enough. Especially that I'm not consistent enough or dedicated enough to follow through and accomplish what I want. I am striving to be a writer, manga artist and right now I'm focusing on being a day trader. I don't often post anything on social media, or on you tube for that matter. But I want it to be known that you have changed me life for the better Mel and you touch and inspire peoples lives everyday and I'm very appreciative and everything you teach. I love all of your videos and I'm excited to be apart of this course. I know it's not a race but my limiting beliefs remind me I'm about a week behind but I still want you to know that I am so glad that you exist and that you have made it your journey to deliver life changing content to people like me, struggling to overcome both daily struggles and lifetime obstacles. This particular lesson reminds me of Marissa Peers teachings on feeling we're not enough. I love that multiple motivational, inspiring figures are tackling this illness of " I am not enough" and with resources and courses like this I really do feel optimistic for the future of us and everyone after us. I also wanted to say I love that you brought your husband Christopher Robbins on. I saved Soul Degree as a favorite and will be reading his blog later. I also bought "The Book of Awakening" by Mark Nepo. It's described as spiritual first aid-kit which sounds like something I might need! You two are like two sides of the same coin. Mel approaches self-worth from a scientific, psychological perspective. Chris approaches from a spiritual, philosophical perspective. You two are a power couple! But mostly I just want to express my appreciation for everything you do Mel. And for everyone taking this course with me! We have an exciting journey ahead of of us and this year will be our best year yet!
My limited belief is that I am not confident enough to do what I really want to do. This really hurts me because I know I am capable of so much, but part of me is not confident to reach for those goals and dreams I aspire!
I feel the same way - I was offered an opportunity and I jumped at it before I even had time to tell myself I wasn't good enough or couldn't hack it. Im doing it today from 4pm and im just gonna smile and go for it like ive been doing it for years . . .
I literally have a plethora of limiting beliefs. I’m getting overwhelmed just thinking about it. I’m not enough, I don’t deserve success, I’m not capable, I can’t handle it, I’m going to fail, I’m not a good person, life will always be hard, and the list could go on.
My limiting belief stems from childhood. My father was abusive verbally, mentally, and sexually with me for the majority of my childhood. I grew up being told I'm stupid, ugly, only good for "one thing" and that no one is ever going to want to be my friend and I'm not going to amount to anything. Because of those messages, I didn't do a lot of things that most people would do. I did poorly at school because I thought I was stupid anyway, I didn't get my drivers licence until I was 35 because I was so dependent on others to do things for me because I didn't think I was smart enough to support myself. I was promiscuous and put myself in a lot of dangerous situations because I thought that was how I could make people like me. I have come a long way in the past 6 or so years (I'm now 41). I have a very accepting and loving husband and 3 amazing sons but my default is still to doubt my abilities and question why people are paying attention to me, what do they want from me because they couldn't possibly actually want to be my friend. I graduated from a two-year business administration program and a paralegal diploma program both with honours and I still doubt my intelligence.
I can identify with most of that. Im 45 and about to graduate with two degrees (one in Law) and I doubt my intelligence too. Sometimes I feel like a fraud. Rationally I know thats not true which makes it frustrating as these beliefs hold me back. Until now.
I am so sorry for your past and how awful things were... BUT my goodness! You are so worthy and strong to share this and be a part of this program!! Keep going...I will pray you are lifted in love and blessings!!
Dear Chris, you are great husband, dad and man. The same prejudices about women/men are present in Bosnia and Herzegovina, where I live. But let me tell you something: you are doing so amazing and getting everything done in ease (although you may not notice that) that you feel like you need to do more. You just have so much to give! Many people would complain all day long about the shit they've been through but not you. Your kids will grow up to be great people. Father figure is so important and not just in these two plain words. You and Mel... The cutest couple. Thank you both. 💜💖
Oh my cat is also sitting next to me 😺 My negative beliefs: I am not good enough. I will be alone if I change too much. I am not lovable. I am not strong enough to be independent in this world. I think the last one is because of childhood trauma. My parents didn’t give me a safe childhood. So I’m not showing myself to the world completely to stay safe. What did this cost me? I used to think that I’m stupid, so I didn’t finish my law degree. Now I’m not writing my bachelor thesis in history because I’m afraid of change and that I cannot be independent. I’m holding myself back from losing weight, because its safer to hide behind the weight. I can use it as an excuse. I didn’t call friends back because I didn’t wanted them to see me in those situations. I ghosted those friends. I stayed in an bad relationship because of this. I’m doing a lot of other things to not face these facts. Volunteering, writing for an journal where I don’t get paid 🙈. I‘m campaigning for a candidate in my city. Also completely for free. I taught myself to use indesign and photoshop. I’m creating a newsletter, sharepics and flyers with indesign. I’m super busy with things that are fun but I don’t earn anything with doing that. And being busy prevents me from facing the shit that hurts. Oh I see, Im basically showing myself that I’m worthless by doing work for free and of course I can’t be financially independent by doing that.
You are describing me. I used to volunteer a lot to hide and get the love I needed by helping others get out of their pain. But here I'm with a lot of pain in my heart. I stop volunteering because I realized that that what is happening and decided to face it
Thank you Mel and Christopher for being so vulnerable and real. Your willingness to share your own experiences, thoughts and feelings makes this journey feel so inclusive for all of us.
I am a happy, positive woman with a high self-worth. I choose to live my life as a victor not a victim. I am good enough, I am a great person and I deserve everything I can do and have achieved. I know I can achieve what I want. Once I set a goal - I go all in with complete belief that I will succeed. Even with fear, anxiety and stress at times - I tackle it and move on. I don't let negative thoughts take hold.
OMG Cristopher!!!!!!!! You just nailed it for me ... so many defaults/limiting beliefs were swirling around my head, wanting attention but you called it! "I'm not good enough." And then when you went on to say that it was limiting you in that if you're not good enough, the why even do it! Bingo! THAT'S what's been holding me back from building my business to the top! I kept getting stuck wondering Why I wasn't doing it when so many people I know have!!! Thank you for sharing so openly and for being so vulnerable with us ... you just helped me Huge!!!!!
Wow, what a video! Chris I want to say that you are strong and brave man. And Mel, this is one of the most emotional, strong and beautiful video of yours. You and Chris as a couple look so lovely and suitable. Much love from Serbia
OMG! Your dates nights once a week this year, are going to be amazing! Your conversation today touched my soul. Both of you made true, honest examples that we can all use. Thank you for being more than enough and thank you for showing such class and quality that both of you carry. I was going to say, "I don't have enough time", but this one moment changed my thinking. Thank you!
I literally cried watching this video ! I just discovered Mel .. and I did in a very tough period of my life and I'm so thankful for that ! Christoph's part was very emotional, and deep.. the amount of connection, courage and vulnerability made this video a wholehearted experience that I will carry with me for a long time ❤️ Thank you for this piece of heaven
My limiting belief that I'm a bad person....and cost me tons of setbacks and hurts,,,yet I am so positive that all of these garbage inside my head will all vanish one step at a time,,,,Huge thanks Madame Mel Robbins! Love from Philippines, Mabuhay!
Love this passion and desire of the need of sharing what you have experienced- I have the same for my biz- to help and inspire women over 50 to 'get goin' and to live and have joy again. Not just 'be a mum' a 'wife' ... but be ME. Pull out that woman that is hiding inside.
Great Video Mel and your group. The two limiting beliefs that are outstanding for me, after my focus here are 1. Living alone - independently has become a habit has isolated me in the way that I can do it myself, I don't need anybody, I can do this with no hassle or upset which has left me in an area of not trusting others for their help, so I am so busy prioritizing my to do's, get the important things out of the way before I focus on what I really would be loving to do. Weird right, I am in a survival mode, not wanting conflict and upset. That tells me a lot. The other is being shy; I was really shy as a kid, just for the same reason for survival as a child which limited friendships, didn't know what to expect the minute I opened my mouth. As my life progressed I have overcome being totally shy, much more open now and speak my mind sometimes when it's safe...lol. I am looking forward to creating a deliberate belief. I am so thankful your girl asked the question, "What the hell is wrong with all of us that we think these limiting beliefs to begin with?" Like your theory. Your theory sent me on a search of my habits thank God for that, now I am into the list and this is a very good thing for me. Thank you for your discernment and goodness, Cheers Sharon Gilraine
Thank you! I’ve spent years working on my limiting beliefs and until today never got to the root one. I always thought it was that I’m not good enough but it’s not. It’s I don’t matter/ I’m invisible. Didn’t see it until I found the pattern in my excuses. Thank you thank you thank you! I can change this. Just did. I let myself be seen on purpose. What would I do if I really mattered? My new question of the day! I’m in tears just thinking about how powerful this is going to be in my life! My visualizations just totally changed in an instant. So many obstacles just disappeared.
Life changing! Ive been doing the mindset reset and at the same time listening to the audio boom for the 5 second rule and I have to say thank you! It has opened my eyes to just how often I allow myself to talk myself out of doing the things I want. I’ve been using the 5 second rule to get myself out of be earlier which has been a goal for over a year! Last night I told myself that before I left the house in the morning I would send my resume into a new job, something I’ve talked myself out of doing so many times because I have a decent job already, secure and safe. The thought of putting myself out there and being vulnerable scares the hell out of me! I almost repeated the cycle this morning but instead I 5 4 3 2 1 and sent the resume in anyway. I realized the fact that I have a secure job already IS the reason it’s SAFE to put myself out there and just see what happens! Ultimately the end decision is up to me. Weather or not I get the job doesn’t matter, the simple fact I took action was enough! Thank you for the tools and inspiration :)
My limiting beliefs... is that I am not good enough... that people do not value my opinion or what I have to offer... I have tons of evidence that this is absolutely not true.... but it still sticks
My limiting beliefs: I am not cool enough for people to like and want to be friends with. I struggle with making new friendships and worry about getting people to like me. I think this stems from being bullied throughout primary and secondary school and having no close friends until I was 15 years old. I am not good enough and I will never be a success so why bother trying. I have a fear of failure, which stops me from taking action to help me reach my goals in life. I think this stems from losing my Mam when I was 16 years old. She was the one person who always provided me with support, advice and encouraged me to succeed. Mindset Reset is already teaching me how to talk to myself in a more positive way and to see that there is no truth in my above limiting beliefs. I am visualising every day and I am loving this program. Thank you Mel Robbins and team!
Men need it too!!! How cool is he that he can be honest and emotional...He will reach many lives...Thank you...i wish my husband would go to one of these types of retreats...
OMG - I have to share 3 things with you... 1. Thank you SSSOOO much to both you and Chris (and the team!) for being so honest and vulnerable and open (I know that that is a HUGE thing). It really is so gratefully appreciated. 2. My negative thoughts are ALL around “why not” rather than “why yes” and is sooo frustrating to me as I know that I have the capability to change my thinking pattern on this (and I consciously try) but everyday I feel as though I am starting back at the beginning of the story again and it is a constant “effort” to try and stop that imposter syndrome. And finally 3. I am a very intuitive person (I’m a personal and professional life coach), and I often “feel” a connection when I am speaking to someone (I get VERY strong vibes, goosebumps etc) however, this is usually when I am physically (as opposed to virtually) with the person... when you were helping Lyndsey with her struggle with not being able to visualise, I had a MAJOR vibe happening when (I knew you were going to do what you did before you did) you gave the scenario to portray a situation from a 3rd party aspect and that you turned back to the camera and pointed to her to tell her how great her dream house etc etc is. I can’t explain it further other than I have this great “connection” with you and think that the work that you do, the HARD work you do, and the effort you put into your work is simply fantastic - I would love to hear more about Chris’ business aimed for men too as I really do feel that this is a fabulous project too. You two guys are awesome - thanks for wanting to be a part of all of our lives but particularly thank you for being a part of mine 💕 Looking forward to finding out “how” to change my limiting belief ❣️
My biggest limiting belief is that nothing ever works for me. It’s a huge one, because it keeps me from trying, or even believing any training or advice.
Tony Meade you are playing a role of a victim. And you know this role very well so you play it repeatedly , and subconsciously you preset the actions to fail to prove yourself about failure. I had this - and its gone now! Just realize where you start playing a victim and turn it to “creator”
Thanks for allowing me to discover you Mel. You keep talking about signs, this is one for me. My limiting beliefs are; I am simply not smart enough, not anything enough to succeed in my business, not a good enough person, not fat learning enough, basically not anything enough. Total insecurity about myself constantly. I feel like I always have to put up a fake face and it burns me out physically and emotionally. It’s costing me happiness, success, fun, energy, it keeps me from finding solutions.
Oh my goodness, watching these videos while waiting for Best Decade Ever to begin, and I totally want to save the money to send my son-in-law to a Soul Degree Retweet. He is perfect for it! Thank you for sharing Chris in this video. ❣
Mel, you just cannot be a bad person and have that kind of warm relationships in your family. Thank you, your team and your family members for complete honesty with which you share your experience. It's brutal and helpful.
Wow, that quote (19mins) should give EVERYONE hope!! I’ll be writing that down and popping on my vision board... but will find which term/belief system (e.g. dharma, seed of unconscious etc) I resonate with 🙏🏻 So great to have Chris join you Mel because you don’t change. You don’t fake it. You are real on screen whether your hubby is there or not, and that’s beautiful to see!
Keep going! I've found the first video from Mel on 30 December, 2017. I can remember that was the first time in my life when I could understand a video better on original voice and without subtitle on my native language. But I couldn't understand everything. I year passed and I still watch her videos and just realized, I can undestand them completely! Maybe not every single word, but I can totally get what she is talking about. :)
My limiting belief- "I'm not good enough" whether it be in relationships or professional. I can't measure up to anyone expectations, especially those I care about the most. Its costing me peace and transparency in my most valued relationships.
Hi Chris, I admire your courage to admit to your limiting beliefs in front of such a big audience. That´s a great help and inspiration for other men who struggle with exactly the same mindset. Thank you for being so honest!
I just had the biggest breakthrough my limiting belief is "I will never get there because I am not capable or smart enough and because I am turning 50 this year I'm running out of time" Thank you so, so much Mel for helping me discover this. I just want to cry, because I never could figure out what was holding me back. Now that I know I can do the work to change these stupid ass beliefs that I know aren't true.
I feel so messed up I can't even figure out what my limiting beliefs are. I definitely seem to sabotage most things in my life, feel trapped with anxiety and worry to the point of costing me my happiness. But, most people don't even know this about me and I probably come across as being happy! I know this is where I am suppose to be right now, because I don't want to repeat this way of thinking anymore...I'm ready to evolve. Thank you Mel for putting this together for all of us
#mindsetreset. Limiting beliefs....I am stuck in a hole preventing me from knowing who I am and who I want to be .... taking a lot of effort to hit comment button and have this go into the world...
Mel, what you said regarding receiving (unintentionally) negative messages from our primary caregivers is spot on (I read a couple of books on how the brain works and human behaviour, incl. codependency) and it's wonderful to know as it explains so much and re-iterates that it's NOT our fault, and that we are NOT not good enough. I have had this told (again, possibly unintentionally, sometimes physically, always dysfunctionally) to me over my childhood and youth often by older males and it's hard to shake it despite being aware of it, sometimes so acutely I can not remember something an older man asks me, no matter how well I know the answer. I blame my godawful maths teacher for THAT one, who loved to make me get up in front of my 40 fellow pupils, all at a delicate age, and shame me (I blushed the brightest so I suppose I was the most fun). But at least I know WHY know and that really helps, so I can tell myself; NO, you are NOT stupid or useless, your brain has gone into survival mode, is all. Guess what; my memory has improved over time, slowly I am becoming more happy and confident. Now I just was to find a job I enjoy doing! Because I deserve it!!
I often think that I am bugging the person I am serving. This is keeping me to stepping into the great service I can offer those I service. As a health coach it is preventing me from helping others to regain their health. I need to change my setting. One of my goals this year is to really own being a health coach! I am starting to see results even after just a short time ... THANK YOU Mel for your service in my life!
Mel, I appreciate the candor and sincerity with which Chris spoke about his limiting belief. My limiting belief is being able to fund a dream project. Mel and Chris are supportive to each other. Keep it up.
My limiting beliefs... Because I didn’t finish college, I won’t ever be successful. Because I’m a stay at home mom, I’m holding myself back from creating a career. Because I gained weight, I’m not worthy or attractive. I want to own a business, but I’m lost on where to start.
Lou long that’s what’s I’m hoping for. I starting eating clean and working out last week and I’ve stay consistent so far!! I know when I was thin I had incredible confidence. I agree if I start with my fitness everything else will follow.
My limiting beliefs stem from my childhood and life experiences. My limited beliefs include: I'm not good enough, strong enough or healthy enough and I'm certainly not lovable because I let people down. I was adopted as a toddler, revolted as a teen and went through postpartum depression and a professional burnout. The fear of going back there and messages from my family (you have weak health, don't over do it, you're gonna burn yourself out again, etc...) keep me in the past and prevent me from enjoying all the successes and the wonderful things I do for my children, my spouse, my colleagues and friends. It's just never enough....I am now, and over the last year, just starting to realize my true worth and setting boundaries and letting go of toxic people to concentrate on the positive and constructive. I quit that job that made me sick, I went to back and got my university degree like I always wanted to, I model for my children that they can overcome any life's challenges and that they are unconditionally loved, that they are enough. I now have a great job and wonderful supportive colleagues and friends and am looking forward to yet another promotion. Thank you for explaining the difference between default and deliberate modes to remind me, in those moments of self doubt and default thoughts that I am so much more than the sum of my experiences, that they have taught me to be who I am today and that I can embrace success, rather than fear it, because I am enough.
I'm 64 and recently retired with a lot of responsibility now stripped away (divorced for 20 years; no longer working 24/7; kids moved out, etc.) so that I finally have time to do the things I've always wanted to do more of - be creative, help others, do fun things I've been wanting to do. Instead, my anxiety, etc., has increased and I find it's hard to get motivated here on my own. I default to soothing or distracting behaviors like watching animal rescue videos, reading books about changing habits, listening to audio books, etc. Do you find that others in my age group have similar issues?
I have similar issues as well... I just turned 66! Anxiety definitely gets in my way and everything seems overwhelming. I try to focus on one thing, but then get overwhelmed from the big picture of all I want to accomplish and do and I almost get paralyzed, and then just watch something like HGTV!!
@@karendabney3892 I keep coming back to something I read in an article called "6 Degrees of Delay": "Brain scans show that the amygdala...is larger in people who tend to procrastinate. Scientists believe this overactive area cranks up so much anxiety...that the quickest way to get relief seems to be to put it off. Avoidance of a stressful task isn't necessarily because you're lazy. It's what's called 'short-term mood repair'". I think I often choose to do the calming (reading), heartwarming (watching animal vids), and satisfying (yes, I also watch HGTV - love the reveals! ;) things to avoid the anxiety and the loneliness that can sometimes come over me. I totally get your "big picture" comment, as well. I got "A"s in college, raised two great boys, supervised other teachers, took care of my mom and grandma, did hospice volunteer work, etc. etc., but always felt overwhelmed and then binge-worked at the last minute. I've Googled "paralyzed with anxiety" more than once! I'd just like to beat this "thing" and make the most of this next chapter in life! Hugs to you...
i just turned 65 in December. However, i retired early at 62 because it was difficult to get back in the workforce after the 2008 market crash, that I gave up looking for work. Unfortunately, living on SS benefits is just not enough, and I don't have enough savings to live on..so I have to get my mind set to go back to work! After all these years of not working, I've lived the retired way, lounging around and taking it easy and being lazy! My plan is to work part time, even at a local supermarket (which in NYC the minimum wage is now $15 per hour!), so that I can get motivated, before I look for a full time job in another field, as an administrative assistant. But, with all my experience, I now have doubts about myself, because of my age, the years of not working and the competition I will face as I start looking for work.
My limiting belief has costed me in past is being shy, being afraid of expressing myself, afraid of being understood and afraid of speaking my beliefs and opinions. And what they've costed now the repeating cycles of all these and also costed me from living my life and experiencing long-lasting friendships and relationships.
I'm an producer/songwriter and my limiting belief is that I won't stack up to the competition, or that I won't be able to break through the "noise" of all the other people trying to achieve the same thing.
I’ve been taking a holistic health coaching course and one concept I’ve really latched onto is to stop putting energy and focus on eliminating the “bad” foods/habits and instead put our energy into ushering in the “good” foods/habits. The more we focus on loading up our day with good foods and good habits, then the unwanted things will naturally fall by the wayside with ease. I am ready to do this for my mindset. I am thoroughly enjoying this mindset reset. Thank You Mel!
My negative belief is that I can indeed accomplish things, but am not able to keep them (like loosing weight, staying fit). I can’t wrap my head around how to get rid of that….
Me too, Isabel! I always thought I was afraid to FAIL, but I'm afraid to SUCCEED, because with success comes responsibility, and I don't think I can handle it. And so I end up procrastinating. I cannot wait to get rid of this limiting belief!
The maintenance is definitely the hardest part, keeping house neat, drawing, keeping a diary etc etc. I keep trying new methods but things get busy and I let personal things slip.
4 года назад
For as long as I can remember, the biggest limiting factor in my life is me. Some people might think “That’s great! That means you can change it.” In my mind, I might as well be handcuffed and imprisoned. I can’t change my thinking and I can’t stop believing that I’m not worthy of the things I want. I see other people turning their dreams into reality and it just makes me feel even worse. I’d give anything to change but I just don’t know how. Even watching priceless videos like this one doesn’t solve the problem because I just can’t seem to ever apply what I’ve learned. Deep down, I just don’t believe I can do it. Even when I get myself to start doing anything different, I’m always thinking in my head “This will never last” and what do you know? It doesn’t. I feel like it’s hopeless.
I've been there and further, I realised I set up or triggered the "catastrophe" myself.
4 года назад+1
That sounds exactly like something I think a lot. Every time something really good happens in my life, I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’m always thinking “Great, what’s going to come along now to screw everything up!” It’s like I’m more comfortable being miserable and negative than I ever am when I’m feeling happy. How screwed up is that?
Hello Mel, I love you so much btw, I've been watching so many of your vids the last few days, a lot of "Coffee Talks", thank you for everything, you've helped me soooo much...This video here's concept is very powerful, it's so true and amazing to realize that we indeed do have a negative default pattern constantly hanging over our head. It was wonderful to hear your husband too (you have a wonderful husband, such a beautiful sensitive man!). As I realize these limiting beliefs are suffocating us, I just find myself a mind trick for it: what is the reversal of this affirmation? "I'll never get there=I'm already there!" I'm not good enough= I am plenty enough! Nobody loves me= I am sooo loved" And then taking a deep breath !! What a relief and a revelation!! Love you Mel!
This is such a great video about really identifying how limiting beliefs impact us. My difficulty is that I have many limiting beliefs. I could probably list at least 10 if not more. How do I know which limiting belief to start with to begin these exercises? Perhaps they all have a common theme? What would be a good actionable step I can to take to hone in on specific limiting beliefs so that I can start turning them around? Thank you!
Hi Steph, I felt exactly the same as you when Mel first asked us to identify ONE, but then when I looked at ALL my thoughts it came down to just "not enough" ie not smart (enough), not attractive (enough), not disciplined (enough), etc. Hope that helps, even though I know you were asking MEL and not me, haha! :)
@@beel8365 Thank you for your reply! I was putting it out there to Mel and anybody else who could help me address this! That makes so much sense. I think most of my limiting beliefs come down to the handful that you indicated. Man, this is confronting, isn't it? Thanks, again. :)
I can completely relate. My limiting belief is that I should be ashamed of myself, I'm not safe, and I'm not a good enough person to be allowed to pursue my interests in a way free way. I can even feel it feeling "unsafe" to put this out there in cyberspace. What it's taken from me: a feeling of calm, acceptance, embracing opportunities, feeling confident and pride in myself and my skills. Sure, afraid to be wrong but perhaps even more afraid to get it right and get attention for getting something right. What it takes from me today: really a feeling of grounded calmness and direction. It's like theres a part of me that wants to move forward and I can feel the tension between that part and the limiting part. That tension feels so familiar to me. What it could take in the future: repeating more of the same as opposed to opening to something new, exciting, enlivening - I hope! My fear is that not having it would result in being blindsided, judged, rejected, and shamed - all in one fell swoop! Can anyone relate to me?
I've been dreaming about being some version of a life coach. I can relate because I tell myself I wouldn't be able to get clients. Who wants advice from me? Funny thing about that is I met a mentor through a non profit and she saw something in me that might be able to help her! Thank you for being brave enough to share. It gave me a place to get this out of my head and accept this is a limiting belief of my mine.
Hi Mel. As you, 50 is around the corner for me. You've addressed the thoughts I've constantly have for myself. I would never change the time I've had being home with my kids, but I think I wasn't good enough for the family. I have regrets on not being able to pursue my passions in what I wanted to have as a career, but I would never want to change my past on being the foundation for my kids. Now I need to find me, but I've limited myself on believing I can do it now. I got a lot to work on.
A big cheer for Chris, you are amazingly brave to just open up on camera. Well done you are fantastic. My limiting belief is also I am not enough, or not good enough.
My limiting belief is I feel stuck in being a stay at home mom. Totally my choice but now I’m ready to go out and work and make a mark but I feel stuck. How will I be able to balance raising my children and work and find family time and time for my husband and me time.
Thank you so much Mel for being a Blessing !! I started a business 6 months ago , had the excitement but also knew something was either wrong or missing with myself , because I felt stressed and overwhelmed. I am a wife, mother and alot in between. A couple days ago, I came upon your #MindSetReset program and feel more alive . Yesterday was able to put a new client on the calendar for a meeting , because I'm feeling alive because of your guidance and instruction. Thank you, I love you 💕
Thank you so much for this. I feel Christopher so much because that’s exactly how I’ve felt all of my life. So much to give and share in this world but holding back because of these limiting beliefs 💚
Not good enough, not confident, fear of failure....stuck in a dead end relationship ....I could go on...I have so much pain in the body. Making a decision is so challenging to me .I believe I can have a good life I have great ideas I just have a hard time visualizing . I try , then stuff comes up! Thanks for this mel ❤
I've identified two main limiting beliefs (LB) that are stopping me from living my fullest potential. LB: "I need a partner to feel complete. If I'm single, I will be lonely and sad." This belief has gotten myself involved in relationships where I'm never fully happy, not setting boundaries because I keep thinking I'd rather put up with the bad stuff than being alone. New beliefs: I am enough and complete on my own. I am a safe, happy, full individual. I am loved. There are many people around me that care about me. I am brave enough to be on my own and fully capable end toxic relationships that no longer serve me. I am fully capable of living on my own. I've done it before. Love is everywhere. I can find love from many different sources. Life/God/The Universe loves me and that's enough. I enjoy doing things on my own. Being on my own is fun and liberating. Being on my own allows me to do the things I love. No matter what I do, I'm safe because the Universe has my back.
LB: "I am not creative." I always have a hard time coming up with ideas because I compare myself to others and think that my ideas are not good enough. New beliefs: I've created my whole life. I am creative and unique. I've won many awards for my creativity. I always find the right creative solution. My mind is unlimited. I am living my full creative potential. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR TEACHINGS MEL!! These are things that I already knew but it's great to have a reminder.
A Hey, and I completely appreciate Your comment, telling me that. I had shared my thought somewhat casually, so it is a beautiful thing to see, that it has had an impact in Your life. Your comment also gave me a lot of good feels! ❤️ Thank You, dear A! You had a huge positive impact on my life right now. ☺️ Hugs 🤗 to You! Let’s keep growing and moving forward!
I’m Spanish and raised Catholic: I had enough guilt in my life. I’ve been fighting against those feelings that stopped me from evolving for ages. And yet, my limiting beliefs are I’m not purposeful enough; that was what pushed me to join the #MindsetReset project. I have the feeling that together we’re going to build something big. My sharing with all of you, guys is: no matter what people think of us, what they do to us, we are who we are and this is the right path to get it.
Imposter syndrome can be so big. One thing I always try to remind myself is that when I have imposter syndrome, it's usually because I am upleveling. We can't stand on that next step unless we put our foot out first, right?
I am SO glad I found you, Mel Robbins. I just started taking this course. Thank you so much for doing this for all of us. The negative thoughts are so powerful. More powerful than positive thoughts. I feel like I'm caught in the grip of those negative auto pilot thoughts. I'm trying to change that with your help. This so hard to do. But I'm trying. #mindset #reset
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My limiting beliefs are that I don't have what it takes, that there's nothing special about me/I'm unlovable, and that I'm a quitter who can't commit or finish what I start. I think that it actually allows me to continue that behavior and give me an "easy" way out when things become difficult. Yesterday, I found myself 5-4-3-2-1-ing out of control, all day. I hadn't realized how negative I've been for so long. This was an eye-opener. Thank you.
Dawn Turitto that is exactly what I could of written about myself! Let’s stop!
Dawn Turitto I can totally relate. You’re not alone!
Same.
I feel the same way.
I have this same issue. Funny about the 5-4-3-2--ing all day; I've been doing it all week and holy crap! Negative Nancy here and it's affecting my three children. :(
"I'll never get there" really hit my hard. I feel like I'll never get anywhere in life and that my goals are too unrealistic. This series is really helping me
My limiting belief about myself is that I am just not good enough to be successful. And mind you, its not because I believe I'm not capable enough or intelligent enough or even strong enough; it is because of history - it is because every time I feel empowered and I feel like the tides are finally turning in my favor and my hard work and tenacity is finally going to propel me closer to where I want to be, something knocks me down and knocks me out. I get back up, but I'm even more damaged than I was before and it is then that much more difficult to believe that things are going to change and I am going to make my life better.
Tonia Simbari I so related to your post!
Tonia I totally relate to your post as well
Thank you, my life is going the exaxt same way. Actually currently dealing with yet another knock down and trying to find the resilience to get up again :( It is good to hear that others experience the same.
Believe that you are strong enough to get back up and keep going. We all have something called a 'failure quotient', which is the amount of times we are willing to fail before we give up. The difference between highly successful people and everyone else is that thier failure quotient is much higher. They understand that failures do not define them. Failures are how we learn to do better next time. Good luck!
@Tonia Simbari I have been experiencing exactly the same...I feel this disconnect between knowing intellectually I have whatever it takes, yet emotionally feeling the opposite because for decades I have been constantly working hard and failing yet again and it gets harder and harder to believe this time will be different
My limiting belief is "I'm tired" - I let stress wear me down. When my to-do list overwhelms, or it is something I don't what to do - I default to being tired.
I felt that...im constantly tired...hope you are doing well
Hi Mel,
It was about 3 or 4 months ago that I caught my limiting belief. It was - I am not good enough. The funny thing is I motivate everyone around me, but myself. I couldn’t move forward, take compliments, appreciation gracefully because of this limiting belief…to name a few problems. I never felt like I deserve it, was ready for it, and when I did accomplish something, I couldn’t enjoy it. It was not enough, because I was not.
But few months back when I caught myself, I did this - I set alarms for 4 times in a day on my phone, and I named them "I am enough". And even though I didn’t believe it in the beginning, I still read it and said it to myself 4 times a day (sometimes in the middle of a meeting). I did start noticing a difference. My work load hadn't reduced, but I was not in panic anymore. I was speaking up, confronting - even while I was completely shaking from within. I have made more connections in these 4 months than in the year before that.
Now a few months after, I wouldn’t say that I have completely stopped trash talking myself, however, I catch myself. Thanks to you. I saw your video about the "Imposter Syndrome" and that is what triggered this. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
That's Marisa peers technique , you forgot to give her credit. She's the one who made the "I am enough phrase" famous
While in yoga this morning I was noticing that everyone else was WAY more flexible than me. I noticed the negative self talk happening, and just said to myself, "I am doing the best I can!". And kept on enjoying the class! My almost 14 year old told me that she had a default thought pattern happen last night as we were preparing to play a family trivia game. She noticed that she was thinking to herself, "There is no point in playing as I am just going to lose anyway. It is going to waste my time." After noticing this, she ironically, wanted to play! And actually did pretty well. Better than she thought! :)
My limiting belief is that I don’t deserve good things in my life...I self sabotage like a pro...but just writing this feels like a step in the right direction! Thanks Mel for all this and for everyone else who commented. It feels good to not be doing this alone.
I am not important
As I view ALL the beautiful folks that respond and share into this feed. I am moved, thank you Mel, Chris, & Folks!
What I hear is in the "Spot of Inwardness" is that there is a aspiring Constant.
For me there is the self lies, not present tense, not LIVING-UP. There is at times a wondering belief of what "could" be opposed to an overwhelming feeling of what "should" be. There is at times a internal grappling, a fight or flight. When to be a passenger, when to take the wheel and drive?!?
For re-watchers:
3:23 Recap from Day 2
4:50 Start of today's training (cost of negative beliefs)
23:47 Participant question 1: What if you feel fear in your body before you recognize it mentally?
26:07 Participant question 2: What if you can't visualize?
28:36 Participant question 3: What if I can't identify a limiting belief?
30:39 Participant question 4: How did we all get limiting beliefs?
Thank you ♥
I feel I don’t do enough , get sad and stop myself from proceeding with my dreams
I cannot thank you enough Mel for being so so open and vulnerable. I would have never thought you have that limiting belief.
I watched this with my kids. My 9 year old son says, " She is right Mummy, I do feel that way sometimes." time to break the cycle.... think I am too much, annoying, an outsider, don't belong, that I can't really change or maintain anything for any period of time....... my themes are doing less with more intention, slowing down, and being present with my kids... so much gratitude for you Mel!
Feel the same. We got this
How are you now?
Chris, I'm crying..... I can see and FEEL how genuine you are, as well as you Mel.. Thank you -
My limiting beliefs: I do not feel like I am good enough and deserving of love. I will never grow up and be a successful adult. All I do is worry about what people think. I stems from a childhood of mental and physical abuse and family not intervening so I feel like I dont matter. This is so hard to share b/c I put on such a good show! But if I continue to live a fake life, I will never achieve what I want. I want to have a meaningful and impactful life. I dont want to repeat but evolve. These beliefs hold me back from losing weight/being healthy, building a business as an entrepreneur and getting out of this financial hell hole. I am so grateful for this experience! It's nice to feel "not alone and hopeful."
Meredith Kalisz Baldwin you are not alone. You sound like me and it’s as if we lived the same life. Mel is awesome and I think her training will really help us. Stay strong.
Same here. Never felt worthy to be protected. Became alienated from the world and myself.
Developed codependency and debilitating imposter syndrome. Spend years constantly triggered, dissociated and basically in a regressed state (fawn+freeze trauma-responses, structural dissociation, low HRV, low standards, zero boundaries, etc).
Slowly reclaiming my life and body through cptsd-therapy and trauma-sensitive yoga.
Check out Janina Fisher, Pete Walker, Bessel van der Kolk and David Emerson/Elizabeth Hopper books, Plus yoga with Adriene.
Maybe join #cptsdchat with Athena Moberg here on YT? She's awesome. Also, there is a great cptsd group on FB led by Tanja Windegger.
Also, Lisa A. Romano, Meredith Miller, Jerry Wise, Richard Grannon. Here on YT.
Mel is amazingly wonderful too, of course :)
Hope it helps. Safe hugs and many blessings!
I am the same! I developed such a strong fake life that I have a good life but its empty of passion and joy-- but by changing and growing its going to affect other people like my spouse and sons...my disassociating needs to stop but its not easy!!
@@lisabliss5617 you too! i agree i think is gonna be great!! we made it this far! 2019 is our year to clear the negative clutter!!
@@andreevatheory thank you so much for this info. i was considering emdr but i want to look into this too. i love yoga with adriene ! this is going to be a great and progressive year! blessings to you too!!
Thank you Mel for this amazing course! I am changing my life one incremental step at a time. I identify my limiting belief as I am not enough. Especially that I'm not consistent enough or dedicated enough to follow through and accomplish what I want. I am striving to be a writer, manga artist and right now I'm focusing on being a day trader. I don't often post anything on social media, or on you tube for that matter. But I want it to be known that you have changed me life for the better Mel and you touch and inspire peoples lives everyday and I'm very appreciative and everything you teach. I love all of your videos and I'm excited to be apart of this course. I know it's not a race but my limiting beliefs remind me I'm about a week behind but I still want you to know that I am so glad that you exist and that you have made it your journey to deliver life changing content to people like me, struggling to overcome both daily struggles and lifetime obstacles.
This particular lesson reminds me of Marissa Peers teachings on feeling we're not enough. I love that multiple motivational, inspiring figures are tackling this illness of " I am not enough" and with resources and courses like this I really do feel optimistic for the future of us and everyone after us.
I also wanted to say I love that you brought your husband Christopher Robbins on. I saved Soul Degree as a favorite and will be reading his blog later. I also bought "The Book of Awakening" by Mark Nepo. It's described as spiritual first aid-kit which sounds like something I might need! You two are like two sides of the same coin. Mel approaches self-worth from a scientific, psychological perspective. Chris approaches from a spiritual, philosophical perspective. You two are a power couple!
But mostly I just want to express my appreciation for everything you do Mel. And for everyone taking this course with me! We have an exciting journey ahead of of us and this year will be our best year yet!
My limited belief is that I am not confident enough to do what I really want to do. This really hurts me because I know I am capable of so much, but part of me is not confident to reach for those goals and dreams I aspire!
Carlos Tapia me too :(
I feel the same, feeling in doubt with what I feel I need I to do, I need to believe in myself
Me too! :/
I feel the same way - I was offered an opportunity and I jumped at it before I even had time to tell myself I wasn't good enough or couldn't hack it. Im doing it today from 4pm and im just gonna smile and go for it like ive been doing it for years . . .
Your husband is very touching. Thank you for showing us REAL humans. Xxx
I literally have a plethora of limiting beliefs. I’m getting overwhelmed just thinking about it. I’m not enough, I don’t deserve success, I’m not capable, I can’t handle it, I’m going to fail, I’m not a good person, life will always be hard, and the list could go on.
You are not a bad person Mel, you are helping so many people and a bad person wouldn't do that ! ❤️
My limiting belief stems from childhood. My father was abusive verbally, mentally, and sexually with me for the majority of my childhood. I grew up being told I'm stupid, ugly, only good for "one thing" and that no one is ever going to want to be my friend and I'm not going to amount to anything.
Because of those messages, I didn't do a lot of things that most people would do. I did poorly at school because I thought I was stupid anyway, I didn't get my drivers licence until I was 35 because I was so dependent on others to do things for me because I didn't think I was smart enough to support myself. I was promiscuous and put myself in a lot of dangerous situations because I thought that was how I could make people like me.
I have come a long way in the past 6 or so years (I'm now 41). I have a very accepting and loving husband and 3 amazing sons but my default is still to doubt my abilities and question why people are paying attention to me, what do they want from me because they couldn't possibly actually want to be my friend.
I graduated from a two-year business administration program and a paralegal diploma program both with honours and I still doubt my intelligence.
You seem like a strong and cool person, don't give up! :)
I can identify with most of that. Im 45 and about to graduate with two degrees (one in Law) and I doubt my intelligence too. Sometimes I feel like a fraud. Rationally I know thats not true which makes it frustrating as these beliefs hold me back. Until now.
You’re an inspiration to us all. Keep fighting the good fight. ♥️
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I am so sorry for your past and how awful things were... BUT my goodness! You are so worthy and strong to share this and be a part of this program!! Keep going...I will pray you are lifted in love and blessings!!
Dear Chris, you are great husband, dad and man. The same prejudices about women/men are present in Bosnia and Herzegovina, where I live. But let me tell you something: you are doing so amazing and getting everything done in ease (although you may not notice that) that you feel like you need to do more. You just have so much to give! Many people would complain all day long about the shit they've been through but not you. Your kids will grow up to be great people. Father figure is so important and not just in these two plain words. You and Mel... The cutest couple. Thank you both. 💜💖
Oh my cat is also sitting next to me 😺 My negative beliefs: I am not good enough. I will be alone if I change too much. I am not lovable. I am not strong enough to be independent in this world. I think the last one is because of childhood trauma. My parents didn’t give me a safe childhood. So I’m not showing myself to the world completely to stay safe. What did this cost me? I used to think that I’m stupid, so I didn’t finish my law degree. Now I’m not writing my bachelor thesis in history because I’m afraid of change and that I cannot be independent. I’m holding myself back from losing weight, because its safer to hide behind the weight. I can use it as an excuse. I didn’t call friends back because I didn’t wanted them to see me in those situations. I ghosted those friends. I stayed in an bad relationship because of this. I’m doing a lot of other things to not face these facts. Volunteering, writing for an journal where I don’t get paid 🙈. I‘m campaigning for a candidate in my city. Also completely for free. I taught myself to use indesign and photoshop. I’m creating a newsletter, sharepics and flyers with indesign. I’m super busy with things that are fun but I don’t earn anything with doing that. And being busy prevents me from facing the shit that hurts. Oh I see, Im basically showing myself that I’m worthless by doing work for free and of course I can’t be financially independent by doing that.
You are describing me. I used to volunteer a lot to hide and get the love I needed by helping others get out of their pain. But here I'm with a lot of pain in my heart. I stop volunteering because I realized that that what is happening and decided to face it
I feel I'm not loveable and experiences have proven it.
Veronica De La Rosa thats what I‘m going to do. I want to put all that work into myself.
Robert Iredale Have you asked? Feeling is not knowing. And maybe you didn’t surround yourself with the right people.
Thank you Mel and Christopher for being so vulnerable and real. Your willingness to share your own experiences, thoughts and feelings makes this journey feel so inclusive for all of us.
I am a happy, positive woman with a high self-worth. I choose to live my life as a victor not a victim. I am good enough, I am a great person and I deserve everything I can do and have achieved. I know I can achieve what I want. Once I set a goal - I go all in with complete belief that I will succeed. Even with fear, anxiety and stress at times - I tackle it and move on. I don't let negative thoughts take hold.
OMG Cristopher!!!!!!!! You just nailed it for me ... so many defaults/limiting beliefs were swirling around my head, wanting attention but you called it! "I'm not good enough." And then when you went on to say that it was limiting you in that if you're not good enough, the why even do it! Bingo! THAT'S what's been holding me back from building my business to the top! I kept getting stuck wondering Why I wasn't doing it when so many people I know have!!! Thank you for sharing so openly and for being so vulnerable with us ... you just helped me Huge!!!!!
Wow, what a video! Chris I want to say that you are strong and brave man. And Mel, this is one of the most emotional, strong and beautiful video of yours. You and Chris as a couple look so lovely and suitable.
Much love from Serbia
You helping the thousands of us is making you a good person
OMG! Your dates nights once a week this year, are going to be amazing! Your conversation today touched my soul. Both of you made true, honest examples that we can all use. Thank you for being more than enough and thank you for showing such class and quality that both of you carry. I was going to say, "I don't have enough time", but this one moment changed my thinking. Thank you!
Yessss!!!! You all are precious.
I literally cried watching this video ! I just discovered Mel .. and I did in a very tough period of my life and I'm so thankful for that ! Christoph's part was very emotional, and deep.. the amount of connection, courage and vulnerability made this video a wholehearted experience that I will carry with me for a long time ❤️ Thank you for this piece of heaven
Mel, I love this. Your husband is precious! What a great couple. ❤️❤️
God bless you for providing this for us.
My limiting belief that I'm a bad person....and cost me tons of setbacks and hurts,,,yet I am so positive that all of these garbage inside my head will all vanish one step at a time,,,,Huge thanks Madame Mel Robbins! Love from Philippines, Mabuhay!
Love this passion and desire of the need of sharing what you have experienced- I have the same for my biz- to help and inspire women over 50 to 'get goin' and to live and have joy again. Not just 'be a mum' a 'wife' ... but be ME. Pull out that woman that is hiding inside.
Great Video Mel and your group. The two limiting beliefs that are outstanding for me, after my focus here are 1. Living alone - independently has become a habit has isolated me in the way that I can do it myself, I don't need anybody, I can do this with no hassle or upset which has left me in an area of not trusting others for their help, so I am so busy prioritizing my to do's, get the important things out of the way before I focus on what I really would be loving to do. Weird right, I am in a survival mode, not wanting conflict and upset. That tells me a lot. The other is being shy; I was really shy as a kid, just for the same reason for survival as a child which limited friendships, didn't know what to expect the minute I opened my mouth. As my life progressed I have overcome being totally shy, much more open now and speak my mind sometimes when it's safe...lol. I am looking forward to creating a deliberate belief. I am so thankful your girl asked the question, "What the hell is wrong with all of us that we think these limiting beliefs to begin with?" Like your theory. Your theory sent me on a search of my habits thank God for that, now I am into the list and this is a very good thing for me. Thank you for your discernment and goodness, Cheers Sharon Gilraine
Thank you! I’ve spent years working on my limiting beliefs and until today never got to the root one. I always thought it was that I’m not good enough but it’s not. It’s I don’t matter/ I’m invisible. Didn’t see it until I found the pattern in my excuses. Thank you thank you thank you! I can change this. Just did. I let myself be seen on purpose. What would I do if I really mattered? My new question of the day! I’m in tears just thinking about how powerful this is going to be in my life! My visualizations just totally changed in an instant. So many obstacles just disappeared.
I had the same thought when I was younger and even wrote a poem about being invisible 😂😀
Life changing! Ive been doing the mindset reset and at the same time listening to the audio boom for the 5 second rule and I have to say thank you! It has opened my eyes to just how often I allow myself to talk myself out of doing the things I want. I’ve been using the 5 second rule to get myself out of be earlier which has been a goal for over a year! Last night I told myself that before I left the house in the morning I would send my resume into a new job, something I’ve talked myself out of doing so many times because I have a decent job already, secure and safe. The thought of putting myself out there and being vulnerable scares the hell out of me! I almost repeated the cycle this morning but instead I 5 4 3 2 1 and sent the resume in anyway. I realized the fact that I have a secure job already IS the reason it’s SAFE to put myself out there and just see what happens! Ultimately the end decision is up to me. Weather or not I get the job doesn’t matter, the simple fact I took action was enough! Thank you for the tools and inspiration :)
My limiting beliefs... is that I am not good enough... that people do not value my opinion or what I have to offer... I have tons of evidence that this is absolutely not true.... but it still sticks
Me too!
Why is it so easy to adopt that feeling?
Experience can hurt! I've heard both sides of this too.
same here.
I feel you...
My limiting beliefs:
I am not cool enough for people to like and want to be friends with. I struggle with making new friendships and worry about getting people to like me. I think this stems from being bullied throughout primary and secondary school and having no close friends until I was 15 years old.
I am not good enough and I will never be a success so why bother trying. I have a fear of failure, which stops me from taking action to help me reach my goals in life. I think this stems from losing my Mam when I was 16 years old. She was the one person who always provided me with support, advice and encouraged me to succeed.
Mindset Reset is already teaching me how to talk to myself in a more positive way and to see that there is no truth in my above limiting beliefs. I am visualising every day and I am loving this program. Thank you Mel Robbins and team!
Men need it too!!!
How cool is he that he can be honest and emotional...He will reach many lives...Thank you...i wish my husband would go to one of these types of retreats...
OMG - I have to share 3 things with you... 1. Thank you SSSOOO much to both you and Chris (and the team!) for being so honest and vulnerable and open (I know that that is a HUGE thing). It really is so gratefully appreciated. 2. My negative thoughts are ALL around “why not” rather than “why yes” and is sooo frustrating to me as I know that I have the capability to change my thinking pattern on this (and I consciously try) but everyday I feel as though I am starting back at the beginning of the story again and it is a constant “effort” to try and stop that imposter syndrome. And finally 3. I am a very intuitive person (I’m a personal and professional life coach), and I often “feel” a connection when I am speaking to someone (I get VERY strong vibes, goosebumps etc) however, this is usually when I am physically (as opposed to virtually) with the person... when you were helping Lyndsey with her struggle with not being able to visualise, I had a MAJOR vibe happening when (I knew you were going to do what you did before you did) you gave the scenario to portray a situation from a 3rd party aspect and that you turned back to the camera and pointed to her to tell her how great her dream house etc etc is. I can’t explain it further other than I have this great “connection” with you and think that the work that you do, the HARD work you do, and the effort you put into your work is simply fantastic - I would love to hear more about Chris’ business aimed for men too as I really do feel that this is a fabulous project too. You two guys are awesome - thanks for wanting to be a part of all of our lives but particularly thank you for being a part of mine 💕 Looking forward to finding out “how” to change my limiting belief ❣️
My biggest limiting belief is that nothing ever works for me. It’s a huge one, because it keeps me from trying, or even believing any training or advice.
This is the same for me.
Tony Meade you are playing a role of a victim. And you know this role very well so you play it repeatedly , and subconsciously you preset the actions to fail to prove yourself about failure. I had this - and its gone now!
Just realize where you start playing a victim and turn it to “creator”
Thanks for allowing me to discover you Mel. You keep talking about signs, this is one for me. My limiting beliefs are; I am simply not smart enough, not anything enough to succeed in my business, not a good enough person, not fat learning enough, basically not anything enough. Total insecurity about myself constantly. I feel like I always have to put up a fake face and it burns me out physically and emotionally. It’s costing me happiness, success, fun, energy, it keeps me from finding solutions.
What am I not doing because of it; growing my business, accepting my potential, visualizing what I want, dreaming, seeing myself succeed.
Oh my goodness, watching these videos while waiting for Best Decade Ever to begin, and I totally want to save the money to send my son-in-law to a Soul Degree Retweet. He is perfect for it! Thank you for sharing Chris in this video. ❣
Mel, you just cannot be a bad person and have that kind of warm relationships in your family. Thank you, your team and your family members for complete honesty with which you share your experience. It's brutal and helpful.
You are an amazing person... you GIVE so much!
Just got here in 2021, never too late....couldnt hold back the tears...I love Mel Robbins...seriously
My limiting belief: Making feelings a reality. I feel alone, I believe I am. I feel unloved, I believe I am.
Wow, that quote (19mins) should give EVERYONE hope!! I’ll be writing that down and popping on my vision board... but will find which term/belief system (e.g. dharma, seed of unconscious etc) I resonate with 🙏🏻 So great to have Chris join you Mel because you don’t change. You don’t fake it. You are real on screen whether your hubby is there or not, and that’s beautiful to see!
This program is so good to me not only because im gonna change my life but also because im practicing my english listening! Thank u!
Keep going! I've found the first video from Mel on 30 December, 2017. I can remember that was the first time in my life when I could understand a video better on original voice and without subtitle on my native language. But I couldn't understand everything. I year passed and I still watch her videos and just realized, I can undestand them completely! Maybe not every single word, but I can totally get what she is talking about. :)
@@evasebok6662 yes, the way she speaks is really easy to understand. 😀😘
Melanie, I am ADORING this journey with all these people. You are creating such a gift. You and your whole team! LOVE IT!
My limiting belief- "I'm not good enough" whether it be in relationships or professional. I can't measure up to anyone expectations, especially those I care about the most. Its costing me peace and transparency in my most valued relationships.
Thank you Chris. I know I'm watching this 2 years on....still really moving you can show us that inner torment. Right there with you.
Mel and team, this was so powerful! God bless you and thanks!
Hi Chris, I admire your courage to admit to your limiting beliefs in front of such a big audience.
That´s a great help and inspiration for other men who struggle with exactly the same mindset.
Thank you for being so honest!
thanks christopher robbins that was really helpful 🙏🏽👊🏽
I just had the biggest breakthrough my limiting belief is "I will never get there because I am not capable or smart enough and because I am turning 50 this year I'm running out of time" Thank you so, so much Mel for helping me discover this. I just want to cry, because I never could figure out what was holding me back. Now that I know I can do the work to change these stupid ass beliefs that I know aren't true.
Your husband is a great person.Behind every successful woman stands a man like a rock. Need to find his blog :)
I hear you Chris! Bless your courageous efforts!! The world needs men who can help men become the men they're created to be!!!
I don't know about limiting beliefs but I find myself thinking this a lot, "It doesn't matter"' "What's the point" and "What difference does it make".
I have those too and I end up in despair.
I feel so messed up I can't even figure out what my limiting beliefs are. I definitely seem to sabotage most things in my life, feel trapped with anxiety and worry to the point of costing me my happiness. But, most people don't even know this about me and I probably come across as being happy! I know this is where I am suppose to be right now, because I don't want to repeat this way of thinking anymore...I'm ready to evolve. Thank you Mel for putting this together for all of us
#mindsetreset. Limiting beliefs....I am stuck in a hole preventing me from knowing who I am and who I want to be .... taking a lot of effort to hit comment button and have this go into the world...
Mel, what you said regarding receiving (unintentionally) negative messages from our primary caregivers is spot on (I read a couple of books on how the brain works and human behaviour, incl. codependency) and it's wonderful to know as it explains so much and re-iterates that it's NOT our fault, and that we are NOT not good enough. I have had this told (again, possibly unintentionally, sometimes physically, always dysfunctionally) to me over my childhood and youth often by older males and it's hard to shake it despite being aware of it, sometimes so acutely I can not remember something an older man asks me, no matter how well I know the answer. I blame my godawful maths teacher for THAT one, who loved to make me get up in front of my 40 fellow pupils, all at a delicate age, and shame me (I blushed the brightest so I suppose I was the most fun). But at least I know WHY know and that really helps, so I can tell myself; NO, you are NOT stupid or useless, your brain has gone into survival mode, is all. Guess what; my memory has improved over time, slowly I am becoming more happy and confident. Now I just was to find a job I enjoy doing! Because I deserve it!!
"That kind of stuff happens to other people, not me. Nobody wants to hear me."😒 This has cost me NOT walking towards obvious successes.
I often think that I am bugging the person I am serving. This is keeping me to stepping into the great service I can offer those I service. As a health coach it is preventing me from helping others to regain their health. I need to change my setting. One of my goals this year is to really own being a health coach! I am starting to see results even after just a short time ... THANK YOU Mel for your service in my life!
My limiting belief is I am a failure and a disappointment. I try so hard and always feel I fell short.
Mel, I appreciate the candor and sincerity with which Chris spoke about his limiting belief. My limiting belief is being able to fund a dream project. Mel and Chris are supportive to each other. Keep it up.
My limiting beliefs... Because I didn’t finish college, I won’t ever be successful. Because I’m a stay at home mom, I’m holding myself back from creating a career. Because I gained weight, I’m not worthy or attractive. I want to own a business, but I’m lost on where to start.
Same here. But I feel it's now or never... the pain of staying the same is now outweighing my fear of change. We just gotta change our mindset!!!😁
Maybe start small...with an attainable fitness goal. That'll give you confidence and while you exercise you can think about the next step..
Lou long that’s what’s I’m hoping for. I starting eating clean and working out last week and I’ve stay consistent so far!! I know when I was thin I had incredible confidence. I agree if I start with my fitness everything else will follow.
You are a stay at home mom, doing the most important job there is. I commend you, you are wonderful and amazing...God Bless!
Thank you Pamela!
This one brought tears to my eyes.... hits home hard. Loved you and your husbands honesty... vulnerability
I am not talented. I never finish things .I am very scattered. I am too quiet. I am ashamed of who I am ..it's cost me an awful lot ...years and years
My limiting beliefs stem from my childhood and life experiences. My limited beliefs include: I'm not good enough, strong enough or healthy enough and I'm certainly not lovable because I let people down. I was adopted as a toddler, revolted as a teen and went through postpartum depression and a professional burnout. The fear of going back there and messages from my family (you have weak health, don't over do it, you're gonna burn yourself out again, etc...) keep me in the past and prevent me from enjoying all the successes and the wonderful things I do for my children, my spouse, my colleagues and friends. It's just never enough....I am now, and over the last year, just starting to realize my true worth and setting boundaries and letting go of toxic people to concentrate on the positive and constructive. I quit that job that made me sick, I went to back and got my university degree like I always wanted to, I model for my children that they can overcome any life's challenges and that they are unconditionally loved, that they are enough. I now have a great job and wonderful supportive colleagues and friends and am looking forward to yet another promotion.
Thank you for explaining the difference between default and deliberate modes to remind me, in those moments of self doubt and default thoughts that I am so much more than the sum of my experiences, that they have taught me to be who I am today and that I can embrace success, rather than fear it, because I am enough.
My limiting belief is "who do I think I am to expect massive success?!". It has kept me playing small.
Me too !!
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i love the genuine honesty in this video. Thank you Mel and Chris.
I'm 64 and recently retired with a lot of responsibility now stripped away (divorced for 20 years; no longer working 24/7; kids moved out, etc.) so that I finally have time to do the things I've always wanted to do more of - be creative, help others, do fun things I've been wanting to do. Instead, my anxiety, etc., has increased and I find it's hard to get motivated here on my own. I default to soothing or distracting behaviors like watching animal rescue videos, reading books about changing habits, listening to audio books, etc. Do you find that others in my age group have similar issues?
I have similar issues as well... I just turned 66! Anxiety definitely gets in my way and everything seems overwhelming. I try to focus on one thing, but then get overwhelmed from the big picture of all I want to accomplish and do and I almost get paralyzed, and then just watch something like HGTV!!
@@karendabney3892 I keep coming back to something I read in an article called "6 Degrees of Delay": "Brain scans show that the amygdala...is larger in people who tend to procrastinate. Scientists believe this overactive area cranks up so much anxiety...that the quickest way to get relief seems to be to put it off. Avoidance of a stressful task isn't necessarily because you're lazy. It's what's called 'short-term mood repair'". I think I often choose to do the calming (reading), heartwarming (watching animal vids), and satisfying (yes, I also watch HGTV - love the reveals! ;) things to avoid the anxiety and the loneliness that can sometimes come over me. I totally get your "big picture" comment, as well. I got "A"s in college, raised two great boys, supervised other teachers, took care of my mom and grandma, did hospice volunteer work, etc. etc., but always felt overwhelmed and then binge-worked at the last minute. I've Googled "paralyzed with anxiety" more than once! I'd just like to beat this "thing" and make the most of this next chapter in life! Hugs to you...
i just turned 65 in December. However, i retired early at 62 because it was difficult to get back in the workforce after the 2008 market crash, that I gave up looking for work. Unfortunately, living on SS benefits is just not enough, and I don't have enough savings to live on..so I have to get my mind set to go back to work! After all these years of not working, I've lived the retired way, lounging around and taking it easy and being lazy!
My plan is to work part time, even at a local supermarket (which in NYC the minimum wage is now $15 per hour!), so that I can get motivated, before I look for a full time job in another field, as an administrative assistant. But, with all my experience, I now have doubts about myself, because of my age, the years of not working and the competition I will face as I start looking for work.
My limiting belief has costed me in past is being shy, being afraid of expressing myself, afraid of being understood and afraid of speaking my beliefs and opinions. And what they've costed now the repeating cycles of all these and also costed me from living my life and experiencing long-lasting friendships and relationships.
I'm an producer/songwriter and my limiting belief is that I won't stack up to the competition, or that I won't be able to break through the "noise" of all the other people trying to achieve the same thing.
Same here
Me too . But I'd like to be a songwriter.
I’ve been taking a holistic health coaching course and one concept I’ve really latched onto is to stop putting energy and focus on eliminating the “bad” foods/habits and instead put our energy into ushering in the “good” foods/habits. The more we focus on loading up our day with good foods and good habits, then the unwanted things will naturally fall by the wayside with ease. I am ready to do this for my mindset. I am thoroughly enjoying this mindset reset. Thank You Mel!
My negative belief is that I can indeed accomplish things, but am not able to keep them (like loosing weight, staying fit). I can’t wrap my head around how to get rid of that….
Me too, Isabel! I always thought I was afraid to FAIL, but I'm afraid to SUCCEED, because with success comes responsibility, and I don't think I can handle it. And so I end up procrastinating. I cannot wait to get rid of this limiting belief!
The maintenance is definitely the hardest part, keeping house neat, drawing, keeping a diary etc etc. I keep trying new methods but things get busy and I let personal things slip.
For as long as I can remember, the biggest limiting factor in my life is me. Some people might think “That’s great! That means you can change it.” In my mind, I might as well be handcuffed and imprisoned. I can’t change my thinking and I can’t stop believing that I’m not worthy of the things I want. I see other people turning their dreams into reality and it just makes me feel even worse. I’d give anything to change but I just don’t know how. Even watching priceless videos like this one doesn’t solve the problem because I just can’t seem to ever apply what I’ve learned. Deep down, I just don’t believe I can do it. Even when I get myself to start doing anything different, I’m always thinking in my head “This will never last” and what do you know? It doesn’t. I feel like it’s hopeless.
Hi Mel, when my life is going well there is always a catastrophe coming to destroy it!
I've been there and further, I realised I set up or triggered the "catastrophe" myself.
That sounds exactly like something I think a lot. Every time something really good happens in my life, I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I’m always thinking “Great, what’s going to come along now to screw everything up!” It’s like I’m more comfortable being miserable and negative than I ever am when I’m feeling happy. How screwed up is that?
Hello Mel, I love you so much btw, I've been watching so many of your vids the last few days, a lot of "Coffee Talks", thank you for everything, you've helped me soooo much...This video here's concept is very powerful, it's so true and amazing to realize that we indeed do have a negative default pattern constantly hanging over our head. It was wonderful to hear your husband too (you have a wonderful husband, such a beautiful sensitive man!). As I realize these limiting beliefs are suffocating us, I just find myself a mind trick for it: what is the reversal of this affirmation?
"I'll never get there=I'm already there!"
I'm not good enough= I am plenty enough!
Nobody loves me= I am sooo loved"
And then taking a deep breath !! What a relief and a revelation!! Love you Mel!
This is such a great video about really identifying how limiting beliefs impact us. My difficulty is that I have many limiting beliefs. I could probably list at least 10 if not more. How do I know which limiting belief to start with to begin these exercises? Perhaps they all have a common theme? What would be a good actionable step I can to take to hone in on specific limiting beliefs so that I can start turning them around? Thank you!
Hi Steph, I felt exactly the same as you when Mel first asked us to identify ONE, but then when I looked at ALL my thoughts it came down to just "not enough" ie not smart (enough), not attractive (enough), not disciplined (enough), etc. Hope that helps, even though I know you were asking MEL and not me, haha! :)
@@beel8365 Thank you for your reply! I was putting it out there to Mel and anybody else who could help me address this! That makes so much sense. I think most of my limiting beliefs come down to the handful that you indicated. Man, this is confronting, isn't it? Thanks, again. :)
@@Staygoldponyboy44 You're welcome. Yes it IS, but gosh it's freeing to identify the source and to know we can overcome it! I'm rooting for you!!
Theres a common thread to them. Where does it stem from?
I love how in touch with his emotions Chris is. Very honest.
My limiting belief is that I am not going to be good enough or what I do won't be good enough.
I can completely relate. My limiting belief is that I should be ashamed of myself, I'm not safe, and I'm not a good enough person to be allowed to pursue my interests in a way free way. I can even feel it feeling "unsafe" to put this out there in cyberspace. What it's taken from me: a feeling of calm, acceptance, embracing opportunities, feeling confident and pride in myself and my skills. Sure, afraid to be wrong but perhaps even more afraid to get it right and get attention for getting something right. What it takes from me today: really a feeling of grounded calmness and direction. It's like theres a part of me that wants to move forward and I can feel the tension between that part and the limiting part. That tension feels so familiar to me. What it could take in the future: repeating more of the same as opposed to opening to something new, exciting, enlivening - I hope! My fear is that not having it would result in being blindsided, judged, rejected, and shamed - all in one fell swoop! Can anyone relate to me?
I'm a life coach and my limiting belief is that I'm not educated or smart enough to do it. I consistently feel my clients are beyond my capability.
I've been dreaming about being some version of a life coach. I can relate because I tell myself I wouldn't be able to get clients. Who wants advice from me? Funny thing about that is I met a mentor through a non profit and she saw something in me that might be able to help her!
Thank you for being brave enough to share. It gave me a place to get this out of my head and accept this is a limiting belief of my mine.
Becky Bunnell I swear. This is my issue EXACTLY. 💜💜💜
I hear you! What’s crazy is that I AM certified and I take consistent continuing education classes but I just feel like it’s not enough.
Becky Bunnell are you on Facebook or Instagram?
I do, my IG handle is @ieatsmyspinach...not as a business though, I work for a company that offers life coaching, so I don’t work independently.
Thank you so much for being so honest and vulnerable! You are a GREAT person and I respect and admire you!
My limiting belief - I'm not expert enough to be successful in blogging/selling items I make/teaching others. I'm afraid of what others think.
This is me....
Hi Mel. As you, 50 is around the corner for me. You've addressed the thoughts I've constantly have for myself. I would never change the time I've had being home with my kids, but I think I wasn't good enough for the family. I have regrets on not being able to pursue my passions in what I wanted to have as a career, but I would never want to change my past on being the foundation for my kids. Now I need to find me, but I've limited myself on believing I can do it now. I got a lot to work on.
I loved Mel and Chris , what a beautiful couple.
A big cheer for Chris, you are amazingly brave to just open up on camera. Well done you are fantastic. My limiting belief is also I am not enough, or not good enough.
My limiting belief is I feel stuck in being a stay at home mom. Totally my choice but now I’m ready to go out and work and make a mark but I feel stuck. How will I be able to balance raising my children and work and find family time and time for my husband and me time.
If you want it bad enough, if your WHY is beg enough - you can find a way! Go for it, I believe in you... :-)
Thank you so much Mel for being a Blessing !! I started a business 6 months ago , had the excitement but also knew something was either wrong or missing with myself , because I felt stressed and overwhelmed. I am a wife, mother and alot in between. A couple days ago, I came upon your #MindSetReset program and feel more alive . Yesterday was able to put a new client on the calendar for a meeting , because I'm feeling alive because of your guidance and instruction. Thank you, I love you 💕
My limiting belief is that I am lazy, not smart enough, not brave enough. Just not enough.
Thank you so much for this. I feel Christopher so much because that’s exactly how I’ve felt all of my life. So much to give and share in this world but holding back because of these limiting beliefs 💚
My limiting belief is people hate me on sight.
Not good enough, not confident, fear of failure....stuck in a dead end relationship ....I could go on...I have so much pain in the body. Making a decision is so challenging to me .I believe I can have a good life I have great ideas I just have a hard time visualizing . I try , then stuff comes up! Thanks for this mel ❤
OMG, there are 10 person, who dislike this video. I feel sorry for them, because they need it the most.
I've identified two main limiting beliefs (LB) that are stopping me from living my fullest potential.
LB: "I need a partner to feel complete. If I'm single, I will be lonely and sad." This belief has gotten myself involved in relationships where I'm never fully happy, not setting boundaries because I keep thinking I'd rather put up with the bad stuff than being alone.
New beliefs:
I am enough and complete on my own.
I am a safe, happy, full individual.
I am loved. There are many people around me that care about me.
I am brave enough to be on my own and fully capable end toxic relationships that no longer serve me.
I am fully capable of living on my own. I've done it before.
Love is everywhere. I can find love from many different sources. Life/God/The Universe loves me and that's enough.
I enjoy doing things on my own.
Being on my own is fun and liberating.
Being on my own allows me to do the things I love.
No matter what I do, I'm safe because the Universe has my back.
LB: "I am not creative."
I always have a hard time coming up with ideas because I compare myself to others and think that my ideas are not good enough.
New beliefs:
I've created my whole life.
I am creative and unique.
I've won many awards for my creativity.
I always find the right creative solution.
My mind is unlimited.
I am living my full creative potential.
THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR ALL YOUR TEACHINGS MEL!! These are things that I already knew but it's great to have a reminder.
„What are they going to think?“ is my limiting belief.
Thank you for your comment, I was able to identify mine (which is the same as yours) thanks to you !
A Hey, and I completely appreciate Your comment, telling me that. I had shared my thought somewhat casually, so it is a beautiful thing to see, that it has had an impact in Your life. Your comment also gave me a lot of good feels! ❤️ Thank You, dear A! You had a huge positive impact on my life right now. ☺️ Hugs 🤗 to You! Let’s keep growing and moving forward!
I’m Spanish and raised Catholic: I had enough guilt in my life. I’ve been fighting against those feelings that stopped me from evolving for ages. And yet, my limiting beliefs are I’m not purposeful enough; that was what pushed me to join the #MindsetReset project. I have the feeling that together we’re going to build something big. My sharing with all of you, guys is: no matter what people think of us, what they do to us, we are who we are and this is the right path to get it.
My limiting belief is imposter syndrome for sure.
Imposter syndrome can be so big. One thing I always try to remind myself is that when I have imposter syndrome, it's usually because I am upleveling. We can't stand on that next step unless we put our foot out first, right?
I am SO glad I found you, Mel Robbins. I just started taking this course. Thank you so much for doing this for all of us. The negative thoughts are so powerful. More powerful than positive thoughts. I feel like I'm caught in the grip of those negative auto pilot thoughts. I'm trying to change that with your help. This so hard to do. But I'm trying. #mindset #reset