Your happiness starts now! I loved recording today’s episode, and I hope you enjoyed watching it too. If you did, it would be amazing if you dropped a like and subscribed for more episodes like this in the future.
Whatever advice you gave to reach true happiness is something that is temporary..... true happiness is something that can be achieved to embrace the truth in the first place.... when you accept The one ( Alloh) who created the whole word including all living things and universe..... then you will start to have true happiness..... Ashhadu Anna ilaha Illaloh va Ashhadu anna Muhammadin Abdu Huva Rasulluoh. This is what makes you feel happy in this temporary world.
I’d just like to say that at the age of 59, I believe you have helped me more than any form of therapy I have EVER received, Mel. I am here to say Thank you. 😅❤
I found you through a young woman who struck up a conversation with me in a parking lot. Didnt know her, never saw her again, but she gave me the gift of Mel Robbins.
for years my family and friends where all so cold.for years I was the only one looking for them and paying for everyone. When I lost my job and got sick last year I had no more money. I realize no one calls me or looks for me. I’ve felt so lonely and have no one in my life. At this point I realize I rather be alone then w people who never cared except when I pay dinners etc. at this point I rather stay home by myself. I feel equally lonely except I don’t have to spend so much money 😆
I have been looking for a work from home job and have no luck. I am a social person but lately I just became recluse because of the recent death of my Mother. Friday I have interview for a social service director job in a nursing home .. I have been scared thinking I can’t do this job… but thinking about being around co workers and elderly makes me happy 🤞🤞🤞you made me realize I need people … I need a tribe ❤
I luv u Mel. You make so much sense. Luv your ocean analogy. I've been struggling too long to not drown in the hurricane. I need to learn when to get out of the turbulent ocean (negative people) & visit the beach on more calm days to play & just enjoy the sunset. I AM happy. And I AM lonely. Now accepting new friend applications. 😊
I completely agree about talking to strangers. I was hone retired depressed watching Netflix. Now im a rideshare driver having short interactions all day and im back in the stream of life. Although im missing deeper connections
I can’t wait to hear this again! Binging on your advice all weekend. You made a great point at the end about how older people & people in their 70’s are often happy & I’m telling everyone to please please take care of your health when you are young so you can enjoy like as you age. You want to enjoy retired life & not be in wheelchair or need a caregiver, etc ❤ Thank you for all you do. You are the best.
I appreciate 🙏 💛 you so much! I've been rescuing kitty cats my entire life, walked away from a record producer to save my cat sanctuary years ago, now years later still rescuing homeless cats in need but my pocket book isn't as big as my heart and need to get happy creating life that can support all these rescues, challenging, gotta have faith
You always know what I need to hear and post it at the right time! ❤ It’s 8:07AM and you’ll be so proud of me- I 5-4-3-2-1 and got out of bed on the first alarm!! 🚀 I put the phone away from me and my mom called me to wake me up. It was super tempting to crawl back into bed but I resisted and now giving myself a high five in the mirror 😄✋🏼🪞 Thank you Mel for sharing your gifts with us and helping enrich our lives with your podcast. Going to go watch/listen to the episode now 😁🎧🫶🏻
I’d be the perfect guest in your show. Menopause, quit my dream job because of emotions, struggling in a non emotive relationship, no creative outlet. I volunteer a lot which I think is the only thing keeping me from not constantly lying in the couch!
I love talking to strangers..lol. I just flew home alone from Florida which is fine but not for me. Talking to that stranger next to me gave me enough joy to get on that plane and do it on my own. Was so strange! So you are absolutely right
Living in the present. Look around and see beauty, your health, what you have. I love gardening, volunteering, sewing quilts for foster children Giving joy without expecting anything All this and more bring me gratitude peace and happiness
Thank you for this video! You have helped me realize that I actually am profoundly lonely! I have been in denial for the last 4 years. I’m in my car sitting out in my driveway watching this podcast, I’m going to go through my front door and announce very loudly to my astounded family that I AM PROFOUNDLY LONELY! 😅😅😅
Did you do this? If so, what was the result? I live alone and my friends are all across the country far away. I know loneliness. BUT I have developed a plan to remedy this over the next 3 years. Now I have something to look forward to and it makes me happy and thus way less lonely. Good luck. I love you and I'm grateful to you for sharing.
One Christmas Day in my early 20's I experienced true happiness. I felt a moment of contentment and security. Appreciative of everything I had and having family gathered around me. It changed the next evening when I was at work and got robbed at gunpoint. I have had foreboding joy ever since. I get to the point of almost being happy and stop just short of it for fear of losing it again. I see it and I want it, but I don't allow myself to get there. I have a block when it comes to that feeling.
I talk to stangers all the time and they talk to me. My mom was also a stranger talker. I have deep conversations with strangers too not just small talk too. Like really deep valuble convos. They ompart wisdom or i do. Or i comosorate or give empathy or understanding. It is amazing. Covid definitely took that from me and i missed it so much. I missed thise small inter actions and convos. I actually still had acouple at a distance it was fewer. But i did have a deep conversation in a parking lot with a stranger for a good long time. At the end she thanked meand said it was so nice to be able to talk to somone about it. Definitely never discount y Those moments. I also spent a day with a friend who had a pet pass away. Me and my son tahged along on what would have been a very difficult day and brought a little sunshine while she tried to make it a not so sad day for her kids. I often am not good with making plans so someone inviting us to do life with them in some way is one of my favorite things. Connection does not have to be fancy.
I remember telling my mum at age 20 that I don’t know what happiness feels like. I now know I had undiagnosed ADHD & a boatload of anxiety. I can’t relax or switch my brain off & I surround myself with the chaos that feels familiar which I need to stop doing. I faked it so well that everyone around me always called me a “happy person” but even I don’t recognise me in “happy-looking” photos.
This is what I need today! It is 107 degrees outside, my plants or surviving, grasshoppers are eating them away. I feel depressed about everything. Motivation is a problem for me. ADHD. But, you always make me feel better! Thank you❣️
Mel, your podcast became a part of my daily routine. I am looking forward to every episode. Thank you for being so relatable and humble in your strength💕
Mel, you will never know how amazing you are! All your messages are exceptional, but this one has brought me to tears. How do you know just what we need to hear? Thank you, be blessed, be safe.
Today I started diving into your podcasts, and it's like a book you can't put down. It's now 1:30 in the morning and I have to shut down. Thanks so much for covering such resonating topics!! I love your voice, your delivery, your warmness, your sincerity ....... just thank you, thank you, thank you !!! I'll be back with you tomorrow✌🏽🌴😊🌊
Excellent Mel, I sure can relate to the loneliness living alone and working and having little time for friends and family. I couldn't agree more with you that I need to reach out and make the time to have fun...life is too short and its passing me by I sure need to take your advise to reach out and take control of what brings me happiness....Thank you Mel for all the wonderful support you give to others ... keep up with the great work!
53 years... going cold turkey these holidays... no more family time anytime with any of them... it was a long process, i had some hangers on, at times i hung on, but now i chose to go no contact completely. I'm SO HAPPY, HEALTHY AND FINALLY EXPANDING MY LIFE AND FRIENDSHIPS ❤❤ break away, be free, live life, and be open to loving healthy relationships, settle for nothing less. We all need a trusted social circle. This year Christmas is at MY HOUSE, my guests are new and old friends... for decades, my family never once set foot in my home... they all felt my expensive high end rentals weren't nice enough for them... i built my own new house, still not good enough. Get the picture!?
I love you Mel you have pulled me out of one of the deepest darkest holes in my life and you have got to know you’re freaking awesome but for someone like me you are a life changer I never knew I could care about someone so much and never have met them. Thank you ❤️😊
Just doing things, reading gym career etc does not lead to real happiness Get out of your comfort zone and do something impulsive And volunteering not only brings joy to others but it’s warm fuzzies to you, makes you feel good When people feel lost, unhappy they have not found their purpose
Exactly! the reason why we do not feel happy is because we live in not safe and warm environment! 100% the reason why people get depressed. NO LOVE or close relationships in their life especially when there is no family anymore. At the end of our lives the only thing we take with us (what stays in our heart) are those warm, loving relationship. Nothing else!
This was my first Mel Robbins pod cast and I loved it. I was feeling rather down on myself this morning but I feel so much better now after listening. I just needed a bit of inspiration. Thank you for giving me a pep in my step, Mel!
Thank you again Mel. Another great podcast. I have recently reached out to my "kids" 23 and 25 which has been great to give me and hopefully them a sense of connection. I will make some plans to connect with my friends for a night of fun playing Beatsaber. Where it always good for a laugh and gets us moving as well which I feel is also important at our age 54. Something I always try to remember is "We don't stop playing when we grow old. We grow old when we stop playing." I love your show keep up the great work.
Thank you for everything that you do Mel, I love your podcast and always get excited once a new episode goes live. This podcast makes me feel warm and fuzzy, I'm so grateful for you and everything you teach me and everybody. Can't wait for the next one :)
When I listen to you, Ms. Mel, it makes me reflect. I realize that I should prioritize listening more rather than always being the one listened to, especially when it comes to my concerns and stresses in life. It feels like a friend explaining things to me in the persona of Ms. Mel, saying, "Listen, this is how it is.".Thank you!. from now on listening to you is my new theraphy.
I didn't realize how unhappy I was in my life until I met someone at business conference recently who emotionally woke me up after our first conversation. It was enlightening. Now that the conference is over and I am missing her, I am using the feeling she gave and applying it to everything I do now. It's been working. I just needed that spark I guess. I love your videos Mel. This one came at the right time for me! Thanks!
That's just how I'm feeling..ever day....I'm not happy in marriage...I'm not happy when I'm "home". I have to break away from the negativity and toxicity that I am faced with any time I'm home I want to be on my own..when I'm home..I am constantly being watched and asked what I'm doing. Telling me the better way to do things. Constantly being reprimanded...all this from my husband..... 40 years together...37 married years. I honestly don't see myself getting any happiness warmth and comfort where I am now
I really related to the part about loneliness being responsible for unhappiness. I haven't been feeling truly happy since the end of my relationship 6y ago (after 25y together) 😔 I found myself completely isolated and built a whole new social network. I've never met so many people and new friends than in the past years. I stopped being a freelance translator (working alone) and joined a company to have colleagues (but I do work from home). And yet nobody can fill the void he left 😢 I truly believed we would grow old together and although we had our issues I never expected he would leave and file for divorce. I've been on a journey of self-improvement but as Mel says it's pretty heavy. I miss the simplicity of my former life. Having a partner at home, someone who knows you best and is there for you. I thought I had it. I was wrong. I know you're supposed to be happy on your own but I can't seem to reach that peaceful state. I live with sorrow in my heart...
Take care @Marlene Things will get better, even if slowly. Maybe he left to give space to someone who would like to be with you. You never know. Be strong, and enjoy little things as much as you can to warm up your heart. Take care.
Hello there, ❤ I went through this 14years ago. After 24 years of marriage, an unexpected divorce. It can be a tough road to recovery/discovery, but I will tell you if you take the time to do these 3 things you will recover. 1) Grieve - Grieving is necessary as you have lost your best friend along with the life you once knew. 2) Acceptance- Accept that you are loved, and worthy of a beautiful life that you now get to create for YOU! 3) Lastly- Time - Give yourself time to be gracious and compassionate to yourself as you navigate through this uncharted territory of self discovery. Open yourself up to new experiences. Remember the good times without ruminating wishing that things were the same. Create new memories for this new journey you are now embarking upon. Some days you will feel like it, and some days you won’t feel like it. That’s perfectly normal. But in time, your broken heart, will begin to feel like a new heart that you get to keep happy. Trust me. …. You can rise out of this just like the butterfly🦋. It may seem dark right now, but just allow the process and before you know it, you will break forth, spread your wings and fly!🦋🦋🦋❤ I hope this helps - sending love and huge hugs!
P.s thank you for the tips on talking to strangers. I lost my job in London so been alone all day but been too anxious to put the bins out let alone start a new job. But I need to asap due to debt. God I am depressing you. Thank you again for doing what you do Mel. I have lots to listen to 🙏❤️
Rachel, I so relate to you! ❤ Feeling stuck in my head... Number 1 goal this year for me, is to double down on fun!!! So real! Thank you, Mel!!! So many beautiful analogies... ❤
For me, my peace started when I left where I was living. I now have zero friends where I live but here's what happened--it allowed me to focus on me, my life (that I wanted) and focus on the important things like making sure I was calm, healthy, strong. This is the first time in my entire life that I can say, "I love my life" and it's not because things are easy but it's because I'm calm. I have peace. And, that brings me joy. I just started making friends in my local area but I am guarded to only allow those in my circle who are good for me and my children.
So the value of the happiness is that it shows you the fluidity of consciousness. That's one of the key values, just the fact that you get to change states and change into very radically different states. That's a huge eye-opening experience. Do not underestimate the value of that. That alone right there will change your whole life. To be able to pop out of your life and look back upon it as though it was all an imagined hallucination. That's what it happens to be imagining right now. The next second who knows what it could imagine. It can imagine anything it wants but it just so happens that it keeps imagining something consistent so that we can get a sense of reality.
Oh, my goodness! This really spoke to me, especially the part about being intentional about fun while doing the deep work. Last year, I decided to roll up my sleeves and work on my mental health. It dawned on me last year while doing the 12-week year that my "fun" category was nonexistent. I have been SO serious during this healing journey. I am going to focus on fun!
Exactly!! Great reading your comment. Thank you ❤ I have just realised I need to include more fun whilst doing the deep work Hope your fun continues friend❤❤❤ ❤
Connecting with the joy of looking at happy things. This will make you fall in love with life. The happiness of when I walk out of my house, I look at trees, cars, the sun, the clouds, the desert, where I live. Even my own body. When I look at my own body I just get joy out of looking at the happiness of my own body. My body is a work of art. I can connect with that um. Just that alone is enough to create an amazingly fulfilling life.
Uff Mel, I have discovered you recently just when I am going through a really really deep transformation in few areas in my life, being the most important and the leading one, PERSONAL GROWTH. Your podcast is being a true gift because you explain everything in the most possible clear way. Thank you ❤❤
Real happiness is seeking comfort and solace in God. We must appreciate what we have and count our blessings on a daily basis. You will never be truly happy without the remembrance of God Almighty.
I've never felt "happy" about my life...Never been content with the status of things. I've never been in love, never got into the career I wanted, been a loner for a lot of years....Happiness is inside, but if you feel empty inside, how's that possible?
Love you Mel Robbins you are so real so relatable.Would love to meet you one day.Thankyou for all the obvious common sense advice that we all just take for granted
Wonderful podcast! I’ve long told my children-“everything is temporary, the bad stuff and the good stuff, so really take in and enjoy the good stuff and let it carry you through the bad stuff knowing that’s temporary too” so I suppose finding the happiness in the good stuff the everyday stuff walking barefoot in the pasture, sitting and observing the birds, squirrels, even our chickens-being in a perfect spring day or day on the beach and the perfume of the flowers or salty air. Thanks for the reminder to cultivate the WARM relationships-that is the primary take away for me and the family! Thanks Mel
I don’t have friends around, my only childhood friend that I love, suffers from social anxiety so she is not join me anywhere and the few real friendships I have, all of the live abroad. Nevertheless, I ll follow the 3 steps and stay more in contact with my joy, my friends (on the distance) and my present moment ❤ Thank you Mel!
WE THINK A lot alike. Being about to share common interests I like listening to music writing poems also social media. It's also easy to just compliments their efforts on social media. I appreciate you. You always have a level head on your shoulders. THANK YOU.
I am watching your happiness video and at this moment, had to stop and tell you about this amazing ah hah experience I had when you mentioned the ocean, its motions and the stillness of the beach. This brought me back to when my children were toddlers and I would take them to the bay near our home. Those were the happiest times of my life. I am now 80 years old, a grandma who also is in a loving relationship, active physically and mentally, have everything to be happy about and still have dark days with bouts of being stuck in sadness. This broadcast and the one on how to phase out unmeaningful friendships, sparked an awareness that has been dormant. I love you and thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping us understand the simple things that we can do to help us heal.❤
Ive been doing things for myself, rewards for my accomplishments, and going to do fun things. Giving myself goals, one time someone wanted me to hang out, i get the ick feeling from him. I stood up and said i was on my way, i wanted to do this, it was a promise to myself. I had the best time.
Love this, Mel! I am fortunate enough to be a naturally happy person (well, you know...most of the time). And listening to this episode gives me more insight into why I am this way. All the things you suggest...I already do them all. I have always made connection and "warm relationships" a priority in my life. I also talk to strangers all the time, everywhere I go. In fact, being a career waitress is all about talking to strangers and making connections. I love it! And when you talked about eating nuts, one at a time...ha ha...I do that too! That is a more recent development. I used to eat nuts, popcorn, whatever, by the handful. But a number of years ago, I started eating much more mindfully, and challenged myself to eat these things one at a time. And it makes a huge difference in how I experience the taste and textures. My life is not perfect, and neither am I. But I do feel so much gratitude for my - most of the time -naturally happy disposition. I want everyone to have this! Listening to this episode gives me hope that more people can begin to cultivate it by practicing the things you suggest. And I love all the beach and ocean analogies. Who doesn't love the beach????
Thank you for this video Mel! You're so in my head right now lol You touched on so many things, issues I have in my life right now and your insight is so helpful and comforting. I wish I could find a life coach like you. ❤
This happened about a decade ago but the trip was so impactful that I'll never forget it. I'll go to my death contemplating it. I haven't shared this trip online before so here we go. The trip is atypical because it's a positive one, whereas most Salvia trip reports tend to be quite dramatically negative. This trip profoundly increased my overall positivity and outlook on life since that day. It's also the reason why until very recently I haven't done any psychedelics at all, I felt I've had enough for a lifetime after this. This was Salvia 60x or 80x, I can't remember which but it was powerful stuff. I smoked it a few times prior, about 10 times altogether, but I always took very gentle hits and what seemed to happen was that reality shifted into something else for a brief moment, and then back again. For example, one time I smoked it around a table with some friends, and suddenly the entire scene transformed into something where we were all on some kind of beach near the ocean, I looked to the right at one of my friends and he was wearing one of those old marine captain hats, and he kinda winked at me like a cartoon character. Then reality morphed back to normal as quickly as it transformed. I had a couple of this kind of trips with short but still potent changes in perception. The last time I smoked it, it was different. I was alone this time, and I had enough for 2-3 strong hits. I packed my pipe to the brim and lit up my torch lighter, really dedicated that this time I'll feel something stronger than just a little tease of an effect. So I somehow managed to take about 3 gigantic hits and put the pipe down. What happened next is hard to convey into words, because words don't do it justice and never will. A very powerful voice, which seemed to be coming from the back, and the power of which seemed to make the entire world vibrate with enormous force, basically said to me, "hi, I'm Salvia". I don't think it happened in spoken language but I could understand everything being said with crystal clarity. It felt like telepathic download. There was absolutely no ambiguity in what was being said and even though the transmission was an alien experience to me and I struggled to get to grips with it, I still understood everything with extreme lucidity. The voice said something like this. "Well, you know, every single thing has a spirit. At the core of everything is a specific spirit whose natural expression is that certain thing." This "voice" then went on to provide me with a very specific example (I know all this because after the trip I wrote all of it down). It said, "if you eat an orange, the taste that you feel in your mouth, is the communication with the spirit of the orange!" This was very specific, I thought. Then the voice went on to say "well, you just smoked me, and I'm the spirit of Salvia, so this is what communication with me is like!" What happened after this is impossible to describe and I only really have a very shaky mental picture of it because my ego simply cannot even formulate or begin to formulate any kind of description that would fit the experience or uncover even the surface layers of just how unbelievably alien it felt. What happened was I felt as if two enormous hands lifted me from my body, and I went up, up, up through the stratosphere, through the layers of the multiverse, through some kind of membrane and some type of superdimensional, non-euclidean hyperbolic weirdness of hard to describe proportions, until I basically landed in nothing, and there was nothing but love and nothing there. Love and nothing was the content of this place, and there wasn't even me, I didn't exist there, I just somehow was part of this love and this nothing. And what's more is it lasted forever, as far as I can tell. I don't know how I ever got back to my body, because from what I could tell, this was forever and this is just how things are and always were - there's love, infinite love of unconditional and deeply profound nature, and there's absolutely nothing, and those are the only two things that exist. I know this sounds paradoxical because how can "nothing" exist as a thing but that's how it felt. It was infinite nothing and infinite love in every direction. When I did get back to my body, it felt like I was slowly descending back into my body and I remember I had some kind of an energetic parachute that attached to my front rather than my back, and was made of what I can describe as two enormous rings on each side of me that extended through another reality back into our own. If you've ever played MDK games, it was kind of like that parachute, except it was glowing red, and it was on the front of me, and there were only two circles instead of four. I remember specifically looking at how the two rings at the far ends poked through some kind of membrane that separated this world and the one I just came from. This experience radically transformed my life. It permanently erased my depression and inspired me to be extremely creative. I've never taken Salvia since because I'm afraid it might modulate my life in a different way, or that I might experience the horrors that I keep reading about Salvia. I'm not sure it's worth the risk. That's my trip report. Regardless or not if you believe in the spirit world and the spirits or everything described here, you have to at least agree that the orange analogy is spot on. I've never thought before that the spirit of orange might express itself to you through the experience of eating it. Next time you taste an orange, remember you're communicating with its spirit. :)
They looked forward to that happiness with joy, but without haste, not pining for it, but seeming to have a foretaste of it in their hearts, of which they talked to one another. But when they looked at me with their sweet eyes full of love, when I felt that in their presence my heart, too, became as innocent and just as theirs, the feeling of the fullness of life took my breath away, and I worshipped them in silence. Their children were the children of all, for they all made up one family.
Your happiness starts now! I loved recording today’s episode, and I hope you enjoyed watching it too. If you did, it would be amazing if you dropped a like and subscribed for more episodes like this in the future.
As always, Mel, great content. Insightful and easily digestible, delivered with your trademark ascerbic wit. How's that for high word density? ❤
Hi Mel! I have subscribed.
Thank you for this ❤️
Whatever advice you gave to reach true happiness is something that is temporary..... true happiness is something that can be achieved to embrace the truth in the first place.... when you accept The one ( Alloh) who created the whole word including all living things and universe..... then you will start to have true happiness.....
Ashhadu Anna ilaha Illaloh va Ashhadu anna Muhammadin Abdu Huva Rasulluoh.
This is what makes you feel happy in this temporary world.
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I’d just like to say that at the age of 59, I believe you have helped me more than any form of therapy I have EVER received, Mel. I am here to say Thank you. 😅❤
Agree ..100 % !! THX
I found you through a young woman who struck up a conversation with me in a parking lot. Didnt know her, never saw her again, but she gave me the gift of Mel Robbins.
I feel happy when I am listening and constantly learning from Mel Robbins’s podcasts 💕
for years my family and friends where all so cold.for years I was the only one looking for them and paying for everyone. When I lost my job and got sick last year I had no more money. I realize no one calls me or looks for me. I’ve felt so lonely and have no one in my life. At this point I realize I rather be alone then w people who never cared except when I pay dinners etc. at this point I rather stay home by myself. I feel equally lonely except I don’t have to spend so much money 😆
I have been looking for a work from home job and have no luck. I am a social person but lately I just became recluse because of the recent death of my Mother. Friday I have interview for a social service director job in a nursing home .. I have been scared thinking I can’t do this job… but thinking about being around co workers and elderly makes me happy 🤞🤞🤞you made me realize I need people … I need a tribe ❤
Happiness is FREE! Love the sweater....you look like a happy cheerleader! Our happy cheerleader!
I luv u Mel. You make so much sense. Luv your ocean analogy. I've been struggling too long to not drown in the hurricane. I need to learn when to get out of the turbulent ocean (negative people) & visit the beach on more calm days to play & just enjoy the sunset. I AM happy. And I AM lonely. Now accepting new friend applications. 😊
I completely agree about talking to strangers. I was hone retired depressed watching Netflix. Now im a rideshare driver having short interactions all day and im back in the stream of life. Although im missing deeper connections
I can’t wait to hear this again! Binging on your advice all weekend. You made a great point at the end about how older people & people in their 70’s are often happy & I’m telling everyone to please please take care of your health when you are young so you can enjoy like as you age. You want to enjoy retired life & not be in wheelchair or need a caregiver, etc ❤ Thank you for all you do. You are the best.
I appreciate 🙏 💛 you so much! I've been rescuing kitty cats my entire life, walked away from a record producer to save my cat sanctuary years ago, now years later still rescuing homeless cats in need but my pocket book isn't as big as my heart and need to get happy creating life that can support all these rescues, challenging, gotta have faith
You always know what I need to hear and post it at the right time! ❤ It’s 8:07AM and you’ll be so proud of me- I 5-4-3-2-1 and got out of bed on the first alarm!! 🚀 I put the phone away from me and my mom called me to wake me up. It was super tempting to crawl back into bed but I resisted and now giving myself a high five in the mirror 😄✋🏼🪞 Thank you Mel for sharing your gifts with us and helping enrich our lives with your podcast. Going to go watch/listen to the episode now 😁🎧🫶🏻
Well done 🥳
I’d be the perfect guest in your show. Menopause, quit my dream job because of emotions, struggling in a non emotive relationship, no creative outlet. I volunteer a lot which I think is the only thing keeping me from not constantly lying in the couch!
I love talking to strangers..lol. I just flew home alone from Florida which is fine but not for me. Talking to that stranger next to me gave me enough joy to get on that plane and do it on my own. Was so strange! So you are absolutely right
Living in the present. Look around and see beauty, your health, what you have. I love gardening, volunteering, sewing quilts for foster children Giving joy without expecting anything All this and more bring me gratitude peace and happiness
Thank you for this video! You have helped me realize that I actually am profoundly lonely! I have been in denial for the last 4 years. I’m in my car sitting out in my driveway watching this podcast, I’m going to go through my front door and announce very loudly to my astounded family that I AM PROFOUNDLY LONELY! 😅😅😅
Did you do this? If so, what was the result? I live alone and my friends are all across the country far away. I know loneliness. BUT I have developed a plan to remedy this over the next 3 years. Now I have something to look forward to and it makes me happy and thus way less lonely. Good luck. I love you and I'm grateful to you for sharing.
One Christmas Day in my early 20's I experienced true happiness. I felt a moment of contentment and security. Appreciative of everything I had and having family gathered around me. It changed the next evening when I was at work and got robbed at gunpoint. I have had foreboding joy ever since. I get to the point of almost being happy and stop just short of it for fear of losing it again. I see it and I want it, but I don't allow myself to get there. I have a block when it comes to that feeling.
I talk to stangers all the time and they talk to me. My mom was also a stranger talker. I have deep conversations with strangers too not just small talk too. Like really deep valuble convos. They ompart wisdom or i do. Or i comosorate or give empathy or understanding. It is amazing. Covid definitely took that from me and i missed it so much. I missed thise small inter actions and convos. I actually still had acouple at a distance it was fewer. But i did have a deep conversation in a parking lot with a stranger for a good long time. At the end she thanked meand said it was so nice to be able to talk to somone about it. Definitely never discount y
Those moments. I also spent a day with a friend who had a pet pass away. Me and my son tahged along on what would have been a very difficult day and brought a little sunshine while she tried to make it a not so sad day for her kids. I often am not good with making plans so someone inviting us to do life with them in some way is one of my favorite things. Connection does not have to be fancy.
I remember telling my mum at age 20 that I don’t know what happiness feels like.
I now know I had undiagnosed ADHD & a boatload of anxiety. I can’t relax or switch my brain off & I surround myself with the chaos that feels familiar which I need to stop doing.
I faked it so well that everyone around me always called me a “happy person” but even I don’t recognise me in “happy-looking” photos.
This is what I need today! It is 107 degrees outside, my plants or surviving, grasshoppers are eating them away. I feel depressed about everything. Motivation is a problem for me. ADHD. But, you always make me feel better! Thank you❣️
Grasshoppers are eating my garden as well….Maybe happiness is chocolate covered grasshoppers. 😂
“Happy is what we make it. Always has been and always will be.”
Mel, your podcast became a part of my daily routine. I am looking forward to every episode.
Thank you for being so relatable and humble in your strength💕
Mel, you will never know how amazing you are! All your messages are exceptional, but this one has brought me to tears. How do you know just what we need to hear? Thank you, be blessed, be safe.
Today I started diving into your podcasts, and it's like a book you can't put down. It's now 1:30 in the morning and I have to shut down. Thanks so much for covering such resonating topics!! I love your voice, your delivery, your warmness, your sincerity ....... just thank you, thank you, thank you !!! I'll be back with you tomorrow✌🏽🌴😊🌊
Excellent Mel, I sure can relate to the loneliness living alone and working and having little time for friends and family. I couldn't agree more with you that I need to reach out and make the time to have fun...life is too short and its passing me by I sure need to take your advise to reach out and take control of what brings me happiness....Thank you Mel for all the wonderful support you give to others ... keep up with the great work!
This woman is literally changing my life, I’m so grateful you Mel! 🙏🏾❤️
53 years... going cold turkey these holidays... no more family time anytime with any of them... it was a long process, i had some hangers on, at times i hung on, but now i chose to go no contact completely. I'm SO HAPPY, HEALTHY AND FINALLY EXPANDING MY LIFE AND FRIENDSHIPS ❤❤ break away, be free, live life, and be open to loving healthy relationships, settle for nothing less. We all need a trusted social circle. This year Christmas is at MY HOUSE, my guests are new and old friends... for decades, my family never once set foot in my home... they all felt my expensive high end rentals weren't nice enough for them... i built my own new house, still not good enough. Get the picture!?
I love you Mel you have pulled me out of one of the deepest darkest holes in my life and you have got to know you’re freaking awesome but for someone like me you are a life changer I never knew I could care about someone so much and never have met them. Thank you ❤️😊
Just doing things, reading gym career etc does not lead to real happiness Get out of your comfort zone and do something impulsive And volunteering not only brings joy to others but it’s warm fuzzies to you, makes you feel good When people feel lost, unhappy they have not found their purpose
Being fully present, not yesterday , not tomorrow.
Have fun- do fun things- warm relationships
= inner happiness❤
Exactly! the reason why we do not feel happy is because we live in not safe and warm environment! 100% the reason why people get depressed. NO LOVE or close relationships in their life especially when there is no family anymore. At the end of our lives the only thing we take with us (what stays in our heart) are those warm, loving relationship. Nothing else!
I love you 😘
Nicely said
This was my first Mel Robbins pod cast and I loved it. I was feeling rather down on myself this morning but I feel so much better now after listening. I just needed a bit of inspiration. Thank you for giving me a pep in my step, Mel!
Thank you again Mel. Another great podcast. I have recently reached out to my "kids" 23 and 25 which has been great to give me and hopefully them a sense of connection. I will make some plans to connect with my friends for a night of fun playing Beatsaber. Where it always good for a laugh and gets us moving as well which I feel is also important at our age 54. Something I always try to remember is "We don't stop playing when we grow old. We grow old when we stop playing." I love your show keep up the great work.
Thank you for everything that you do Mel, I love your podcast and always get excited once a new episode goes live. This podcast makes me feel warm and fuzzy, I'm so grateful for you and everything you teach me and everybody. Can't wait for the next one :)
When I listen to you, Ms. Mel, it makes me reflect. I realize that I should prioritize listening more rather than always being the one listened to, especially when it comes to my concerns and stresses in life. It feels like a friend explaining things to me in the persona of Ms. Mel, saying, "Listen, this is how it is.".Thank you!. from now on listening to you is my new theraphy.
I didn't realize how unhappy I was in my life until I met someone at business conference recently who emotionally woke me up after our first conversation. It was enlightening. Now that the conference is over and I am missing her, I am using the feeling she gave and applying it to everything I do now. It's been working. I just needed that spark I guess.
I love your videos Mel. This one came at the right time for me! Thanks!
You are Amazing Mel Robbins♥️♥️♥️
Thank you Mel.
I really appreciate the valuable advices you give use every time I open RUclips
Thank you, Mel!
Great program Mel. Thanks
Thank you so much for the happiness you brought to my life!! Love you!!❤
Outstanding..podcast!!
Excellent!
Thank you Mel!!!❤️
I’ve always thought that happiness is situational. Finding joy can be found within, regardless of what is happening in life. Good or bad.
That's just how I'm feeling..ever day....I'm not happy in marriage...I'm not happy when I'm "home".
I have to break away from the negativity and toxicity that I am faced with any time I'm home
I want to be on my own..when I'm home..I am constantly being watched and asked what I'm doing. Telling me the better way to do things. Constantly being reprimanded...all this from my husband..... 40 years together...37 married years.
I honestly don't see myself getting any happiness warmth and comfort where I am now
Thinking of you
I really related to the part about loneliness being responsible for unhappiness. I haven't been feeling truly happy since the end of my relationship 6y ago (after 25y together) 😔 I found myself completely isolated and built a whole new social network. I've never met so many people and new friends than in the past years. I stopped being a freelance translator (working alone) and joined a company to have colleagues (but I do work from home). And yet nobody can fill the void he left 😢 I truly believed we would grow old together and although we had our issues I never expected he would leave and file for divorce. I've been on a journey of self-improvement but as Mel says it's pretty heavy. I miss the simplicity of my former life. Having a partner at home, someone who knows you best and is there for you. I thought I had it. I was wrong. I know you're supposed to be happy on your own but I can't seem to reach that peaceful state. I live with sorrow in my heart...
Take care @Marlene
Things will get better, even if slowly. Maybe he left to give space to someone who would like to be with you. You never know. Be strong, and enjoy little things as much as you can to warm up your heart. Take care.
Be kind to yourself. Day by day - take care.
Marlene, sorry for your loss, hope you're doing better. Try listening to Joel osteen, he's very uplifting. Good luck. 💞
Hello there, ❤
I went through this 14years ago. After 24 years of marriage, an unexpected divorce. It can be a tough road to recovery/discovery, but I will tell you if you take the time to do these 3 things you will recover.
1) Grieve - Grieving is necessary as you have lost your best friend along with the life you once knew.
2) Acceptance- Accept that you are loved, and worthy of a beautiful life that you now get to create for YOU!
3) Lastly- Time - Give yourself time to be gracious and compassionate to yourself as you navigate through this uncharted territory of self discovery. Open yourself up to new experiences. Remember the good times without ruminating wishing that things were the same. Create new memories for this new journey you are now embarking upon.
Some days you will feel like it, and some days you won’t feel like it. That’s perfectly normal. But in time, your broken heart, will begin to feel like a new heart that you get to keep happy. Trust me. …. You can rise out of this just like the butterfly🦋. It may seem dark right now, but just allow the process and before you know it, you will break forth, spread your wings and fly!🦋🦋🦋❤
I hope this helps - sending love and huge hugs!
Mel, I appreciate you so much. .. the timing of this episode is so Right On Time. My mood turned to shit this afternoon. Let's get happy, Mel!! 🥳☺️
P.s thank you for the tips on talking to strangers. I lost my job in London so been alone all day but been too anxious to put the bins out let alone start a new job. But I need to asap due to debt. God I am depressing you. Thank you again for doing what you do Mel. I have lots to listen to 🙏❤️
Rachel, I so relate to you! ❤ Feeling stuck in my head... Number 1 goal this year for me, is to double down on fun!!! So real! Thank you, Mel!!! So many beautiful analogies... ❤
You hit it spot on everytime with me.
That warm fuzzy column, and cold column... absolutely fantastic
Good job Mel, thanks a lot for your videos. Take care
You do the good work, altruistic, authentic & inspiring. It’s the real stuff.
For me, my peace started when I left where I was living. I now have zero friends where I live but here's what happened--it allowed me to focus on me, my life (that I wanted) and focus on the important things like making sure I was calm, healthy, strong. This is the first time in my entire life that I can say, "I love my life" and it's not because things are easy but it's because I'm calm. I have peace. And, that brings me joy. I just started making friends in my local area but I am guarded to only allow those in my circle who are good for me and my children.
You give me hope! Thank you.
Exactly what I told my friend. If you do what's right for your kids, it'll usually be right for you.
Good for you! Keep on going 👍
Peace and health are two most important virtues in life. Very good you carefully choose friends for you and your kids. Well done 😘
I am going to do the same. Thank you for sharing. God bless.
Hi Mel! I'm looking forward to this! 🎉
Wow! This is really hitting home for me. I didn’t realize that “negative energy or cold relationships” can cause physical stress.
So the value of the happiness is that it shows you the fluidity of consciousness. That's one of the key values, just the fact that you get to change states and change into very radically different states. That's a huge eye-opening experience. Do not underestimate the value of that. That alone right there will change your whole life. To be able to pop out of your life and look back upon it as though it was all an imagined hallucination.
That's what it happens to be imagining right now. The next second who knows what it could imagine. It can imagine anything it wants but it just so happens that it keeps imagining something consistent so that we can get a sense of reality.
Oh, my goodness! This really spoke to me, especially the part about being intentional about fun while doing the deep work. Last year, I decided to roll up my sleeves and work on my mental health. It dawned on me last year while doing the 12-week year that my "fun" category was nonexistent. I have been SO serious during this healing journey. I am going to focus on fun!
Me too! Thanks for sharing!💖
Exactly!! Great reading your comment. Thank you ❤
I have just realised I need to include more fun whilst doing the deep work
Hope your fun continues friend❤❤❤ ❤
This ONE really moved me!
I find happiness in nature and the beauty in things around me. Also, little things make me happy, such as exercising and music.
This is what I was listening too ❤
Connecting with the joy of looking at happy things. This will make you fall in love with life. The happiness of when I walk out of my house, I look at trees, cars, the sun, the clouds, the desert, where I live. Even my own body. When I look at my own body I just get joy out of looking at the happiness of my own body. My body is a work of art. I can connect with that um. Just that alone is enough to create an amazingly fulfilling life.
Thank you! You are so right! About everything!
Uff Mel, I have discovered you recently just when I am going through a really really deep transformation in few areas in my life, being the most important and the leading one, PERSONAL GROWTH. Your podcast is being a true gift because you explain everything in the most possible clear way. Thank you ❤❤
Real happiness is seeking comfort and solace in God. We must appreciate what we have and count our blessings on a daily basis. You will never be truly happy without the remembrance of God Almighty.
Which God ?
Amen!!
I've never felt "happy" about my life...Never been content with the status of things. I've never been in love, never got into the career I wanted, been a loner for a lot of years....Happiness is inside, but if you feel empty inside, how's that possible?
Thank you for your words
Love you Mel Robbins you are so real so relatable.Would love to meet you one day.Thankyou for all the obvious common sense advice that we all just take for granted
I was looking for any podcast in English to improve my listening and i found you now i'am improving my life thank you so much.❤
Thank you so much mel,love from the Philippines ❤❤❤
I cried 😢😢😢 I love you Mel
Thank you so much ❤🍀🫶🏻☀️🙏🏻
Thank you so much mel for sharing I love you too
Wonderful podcast! I’ve long told my children-“everything is temporary, the bad stuff and the good stuff, so really take in and enjoy the good stuff and let it carry you through the bad stuff knowing that’s temporary too” so I suppose finding the happiness in the good stuff the everyday stuff walking barefoot in the pasture, sitting and observing the birds, squirrels, even our chickens-being in a perfect spring day or day on the beach and the perfume of the flowers or salty air. Thanks for the reminder to cultivate the WARM relationships-that is the primary take away for me and the family! Thanks Mel
I don’t have friends around, my only childhood friend that I love, suffers from social anxiety so she is not join me anywhere and the few real friendships I have, all of the live abroad. Nevertheless, I ll follow the 3 steps and stay more in contact with my joy, my friends (on the distance) and my present moment ❤ Thank you Mel!
WE THINK A lot alike. Being about to share common interests I like listening to music writing poems also social media. It's also easy to just compliments their efforts on social media. I appreciate you. You always have a level head on your shoulders. THANK YOU.
Very good thanks. Perfect
Yes, Enjoy the Moment ❤Amen.
Love Ur jumper let’s go have fun 💃🕺🤸♂️🤸🏿♀️🏄🏻♂️I go swimming 2/3 times weekly & sauna
What an absolutely beautiful honest and open person you are Mel. This has been lovely and very inspiring listening to you. Thank you very much.
I so related to Rachel, I'm listening Mel.
Mel thank you so much! I needed this today. I want to make sure I’m that warm and fuzzy for my husband and friends
I am watching your happiness video and at this moment, had to stop and tell you about this amazing ah hah experience I had when you mentioned the ocean, its motions and the stillness of the beach. This brought me back to when my children were toddlers and I would take them to the bay near our home. Those were the happiest times of my life. I am now 80 years old, a grandma who also is in a loving relationship, active physically and mentally, have everything to be happy about and still have dark days with bouts of being stuck in sadness. This broadcast and the one on how to phase out unmeaningful friendships, sparked an awareness that has been dormant. I love you and thank you for sharing your wisdom and helping us understand the simple things that we can do to help us heal.❤
I have added Your awakening. As my one more thing…😊. I am That … I am happy Just being present
Thanks Mel!
Ive been doing things for myself, rewards for my accomplishments, and going to do fun things. Giving myself goals, one time someone wanted me to hang out, i get the ick feeling from him. I stood up and said i was on my way, i wanted to do this, it was a promise to myself. I had the best time.
Have a blessed night wenesday guys 🎉
Love this, Mel! I am fortunate enough to be a naturally happy person (well, you know...most of the time). And listening to this episode gives me more insight into why I am this way. All the things you suggest...I already do them all. I have always made connection and "warm relationships" a priority in my life. I also talk to strangers all the time, everywhere I go. In fact, being a career waitress is all about talking to strangers and making connections. I love it! And when you talked about eating nuts, one at a time...ha ha...I do that too! That is a more recent development. I used to eat nuts, popcorn, whatever, by the handful. But a number of years ago, I started eating much more mindfully, and challenged myself to eat these things one at a time. And it makes a huge difference in how I experience the taste and textures. My life is not perfect, and neither am I. But I do feel so much gratitude for my - most of the time -naturally happy disposition. I want everyone to have this! Listening to this episode gives me hope that more people can begin to cultivate it by practicing the things you suggest. And I love all the beach and ocean analogies. Who doesn't love the beach????
Thank you for this video Mel! You're so in my head right now lol You touched on so many things, issues I have in my life right now and your insight is so helpful and comforting. I wish I could find a life coach like you. ❤
Listened to this twice now. Thanks ❤❤
This happened about a decade ago but the trip was so impactful that I'll never forget it. I'll go to my death contemplating it. I haven't shared this trip online before so here we go. The trip is atypical because it's a positive one, whereas most Salvia trip reports tend to be quite dramatically negative. This trip profoundly increased my overall positivity and outlook on life since that day. It's also the reason why until very recently I haven't done any psychedelics at all, I felt I've had enough for a lifetime after this.
This was Salvia 60x or 80x, I can't remember which but it was powerful stuff. I smoked it a few times prior, about 10 times altogether, but I always took very gentle hits and what seemed to happen was that reality shifted into something else for a brief moment, and then back again. For example, one time I smoked it around a table with some friends, and suddenly the entire scene transformed into something where we were all on some kind of beach near the ocean, I looked to the right at one of my friends and he was wearing one of those old marine captain hats, and he kinda winked at me like a cartoon character. Then reality morphed back to normal as quickly as it transformed. I had a couple of this kind of trips with short but still potent changes in perception.
The last time I smoked it, it was different. I was alone this time, and I had enough for 2-3 strong hits. I packed my pipe to the brim and lit up my torch lighter, really dedicated that this time I'll feel something stronger than just a little tease of an effect. So I somehow managed to take about 3 gigantic hits and put the pipe down.
What happened next is hard to convey into words, because words don't do it justice and never will. A very powerful voice, which seemed to be coming from the back, and the power of which seemed to make the entire world vibrate with enormous force, basically said to me, "hi, I'm Salvia". I don't think it happened in spoken language but I could understand everything being said with crystal clarity. It felt like telepathic download. There was absolutely no ambiguity in what was being said and even though the transmission was an alien experience to me and I struggled to get to grips with it, I still understood everything with extreme lucidity. The voice said something like this. "Well, you know, every single thing has a spirit. At the core of everything is a specific spirit whose natural expression is that certain thing." This "voice" then went on to provide me with a very specific example (I know all this because after the trip I wrote all of it down). It said, "if you eat an orange, the taste that you feel in your mouth, is the communication with the spirit of the orange!" This was very specific, I thought. Then the voice went on to say "well, you just smoked me, and I'm the spirit of Salvia, so this is what communication with me is like!"
What happened after this is impossible to describe and I only really have a very shaky mental picture of it because my ego simply cannot even formulate or begin to formulate any kind of description that would fit the experience or uncover even the surface layers of just how unbelievably alien it felt. What happened was I felt as if two enormous hands lifted me from my body, and I went up, up, up through the stratosphere, through the layers of the multiverse, through some kind of membrane and some type of superdimensional, non-euclidean hyperbolic weirdness of hard to describe proportions, until I basically landed in nothing, and there was nothing but love and nothing there. Love and nothing was the content of this place, and there wasn't even me, I didn't exist there, I just somehow was part of this love and this nothing. And what's more is it lasted forever, as far as I can tell. I don't know how I ever got back to my body, because from what I could tell, this was forever and this is just how things are and always were - there's love, infinite love of unconditional and deeply profound nature, and there's absolutely nothing, and those are the only two things that exist. I know this sounds paradoxical because how can "nothing" exist as a thing but that's how it felt. It was infinite nothing and infinite love in every direction. When I did get back to my body, it felt like I was slowly descending back into my body and I remember I had some kind of an energetic parachute that attached to my front rather than my back, and was made of what I can describe as two enormous rings on each side of me that extended through another reality back into our own. If you've ever played MDK games, it was kind of like that parachute, except it was glowing red, and it was on the front of me, and there were only two circles instead of four. I remember specifically looking at how the two rings at the far ends poked through some kind of membrane that separated this world and the one I just came from.
This experience radically transformed my life. It permanently erased my depression and inspired me to be extremely creative. I've never taken Salvia since because I'm afraid it might modulate my life in a different way, or that I might experience the horrors that I keep reading about Salvia. I'm not sure it's worth the risk.
That's my trip report. Regardless or not if you believe in the spirit world and the spirits or everything described here, you have to at least agree that the orange analogy is spot on. I've never thought before that the spirit of orange might express itself to you through the experience of eating it. Next time you taste an orange, remember you're communicating with its spirit. :)
Thank you Mel. What an amazing podcast. So insightful ❤
Formula for happiness...
BE >DO > HAVE
I have family coni to town to celebrate my nieces birthday this weekend and iam so excited
Always, always GRATEFUL for your work, teachings, sharng and humor Mel! Thank you for this important podcast!! ♥to you/yours!!
deep deep, deep deep, deep deep, down inside am happy just trying to help others!
Thank you for sharing this video, I really needed to hear this. God Bless You for Being Mel!!!❤👍
They looked forward to that happiness with joy, but without haste, not pining for it, but seeming to have a foretaste of it in their hearts, of which they talked to one another. But when they looked at me with their sweet eyes full of love, when I felt that in their presence my heart, too, became as innocent and just as theirs, the feeling of the fullness of life took my breath away, and I worshipped them in silence. Their children were the children of all, for they all made up one family.
That did me a lot of good. 🎉 Thank you for this. 👍. I think I just heard a lot of truth. 😁 Please keep it up.