The most stressed-out generation
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2021
- Today’s youth can be said to be one of the most stressed out generations - having to juggle studies and social media pressure amid the Covid-19 pandemic. The issue was thrown in the spotlight after an incident at River Valley High School on July 19.
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From personal experience, I felt that the school counsellors and teachers weren't well equipped with how to deal with mental health issues in teens. There were many times my depression was dismissed as being a "problem child", "attention seeking" or "this kid just has an attitude problem".
Outside of school, good therapists and counsellors are also few and far between in Singapore. Either that or they are just freaking expensive.
Ultimately, you really only have yourself to rely on. We are fortunate to live in an era where we can get mental health advice from online (RUclips has been a very good resource for me). Sending strength to whoever is going through a hard time in their life. You CAN get through this.
When you pay enough. Everyone can put up a fake smile and listen to your problems. The school counsellors and teacher are pay to teach. Not doctors that charge high fee and listen. Well if you pay them enough. They even make you feel you are "superman" hero. But when bills come. You can feel zero in your pocket. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Ur problem still same even got worse.
Not mention some families don’t understand the importance of mental health pushing aside as “having a weak mentality” until things get to a point of no return
@@trendyching6533 return for what ? 🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪🤪. Thr bills is high.
It's all about counselling KPI. This is harsh truth about living in a factory system designed by government.
All these statistics are funneled up to MOE/MOH just for references but nothing will be done about it.
Ministers are just puppet leaders, the real information control/swept under carpet lies in those staying in various ministries.
Nothing can be changed when the social-structure of SG is already cast in stone post-LKY era.
that is real life
real life is the worst nightmare
everything will end soon
The thing is, a lot of students don’t ask adults for help not bc they distrust seniors and parents, but because they don’t want to be seen as a disappointment. Mental illnesses like anxiety, depression, are seen as a liability and weakness. Many students don’t want to appear ‘weak’, or make their parents disappointed, so they hide it. At least, that’s what I did for a long time. I genuinely wanted to commit suicide for a month. Had a letter all written and everything. Then did a complete 180 and threw the letter away. I blame my teenage hormones.
But my point is, sometimes the reason for a student to not confide in other adults is because they think it’s ‘bad’ and it makes them a ‘disgrace’ to their family.
Now you are all grow up. Earning money. Good right ????? Maybe it is money issue. Parents that time give you tution. $500 per month also asking themselves why just let you fail and then themselves go europe tour. Why not you study hard and they can save money and tour the world ? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Real facts. Parents also want to enjoy. 👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍.
@@tankman20064 ?????????????????????????
@@sitimaizurah6382 just ignore him
they just go like "NO you dumba**. stop faking it". bro y'all read the news right? this ain't fake. only those very specific attention-seekers on tiktok do that (most are genuine but it's those bodohs who make mental health a joke)
I really agree with the fact that there is a lack of confidentiality because my school had a health check and it was done behind a partition but everyone could hear the health problems I had, such as slanted shoulders because the nurse was talking so loud, I'm not kidding. Till now, I feel great anger towards the nurse and embarrassment from that incident.
only slanted shoulder? well just think there's people whom doesn't have shoulder...
definitely - my school had a 'safe talk' where 'everything stays in the room', and someone confessed that they were lgbtq+, but their parents didn't know bc they were religious. the student got outed to their parents by the principal via phone call a few days later.
@@whatsmypassword4979 DO NOT put down someones pain just because someone else might have it worse. All pain is valid.
@@ninac2956 bruh-
@@ninac2956 Omg that's so sad and that just shows that you can't open up because no talk in school is ever safe
Jamie - if you’re reading this - thank you for your courage, your story shines light to the fact that mental health issues are very real, and give strength to others experiencing the same that they are not alone. Keep on staying strong, and keep doing the important work you’re doing.
Why does it always take a major event to occur, before the issue is brought up. Mental health issues has been on going for so long…, it’s crazy how only now the minister’s are stepping in and taking additional measures and actions Now.
I’m honestly saddened by the RV incident but also thankful.
Facts
TRUE
Pressure from parents, bullying from peers, an economy that's degrading, competing with foreign talent and machines for jobs that don't pay enough, while the cost of living rises and owning a house becomes impossible
How can this generation not be depressed, our parents generation tell us how lucky we have it while owning all the assets we'll pay rent for
Owning a HDB leasehold is still quite affordable. Doing own business, being competitive and having value to others and anybody can be prosperous in SG
Tell them to go hk.
@@tankman20064 what has this got to do with hk ?
3:21 - MOE regularly reviews the number of counsellors as well as teacher counsellors.
So? I've been there.... the school counsellors don't seemed to be trained/ well trained in dealing with students with mental health issues. In the end, it's just them gathering information from me and calling my parents and tell them everything.
That's more than 10 years ago. It's sad to see that Singapore have only now came to a realization, that we are indeed not "well equipped" in this area.
Trained ? Who foot their bills ? Aiyo. Everyone only have 24 hours. Who have 25 hours. Got to pay them well ok just to listen to ur problem. If you pay them just to sit down listen and no need to do any other work. I also sit. Relax sia. Just listen you complain. Bluff you are ok. Collect money. End of the day go shopping. "NO problem" !!!!!👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍😝😝😝😝😝. Where got stress ? My mind is free
@Moses Huzaimi it call singlish. 🤣🤣🤪🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
There is excessive stress in Sg schools because branded schools have this bad habit of failing students in exams…constantly… this is partly why the kids are having mental health issues. Forcing teens to spend excessive hours on extra curricular activities is detrimental.. teens need to veg out and rest. It is true that many parents make it worse but it is also true that many chilled parents are shocked that their kids are suicidal… Drs should NOT be able to give teens SSRI anti-depressanta so freely.
they what? as far as I know they don’t fail people constantly
It is a pity the society has become more affluent but the mental health of the people are getting worse. Parents work hard thinking of improving the lives of their family so that their children will not feel lacking in material things like the parents have gone through when they were younger. But in the end, parents get burned out and always busy. If they are not busy they probably feel tired by the end of the day. Children feel very lonely and seek attention from the social media. It is a vicious cycle as what they experience on social media may not be desirable. Really hope all can go back to the basics and understand nothing can replace the parents time with their children. Love to a child doesn't imply having a lot of material things and IT gadgets. But time spend with them doing simple things and being there when they just have a bad day or feel down or stretched, could be much more appreciated by them. Many parents con themselves into believing that they spend quality time with their children. Quality time can only come if you spend substantial amount of time with them. Quality time doesn't exist when you are in a rush. Your children may just put on a false front because when they see their parents so busy working so hard and so tired at the end of the day, they will just pretend they are ok when they are actually not. Quality time is also not just spending 2 solid hours each week. It is spending time everyday and observing how your children feel and doing simple things to make them feel you are there and you are always there for them.
Some families are closely knitted, some are fragmented. What we can do is to make aware the help available to anyone should they need it. Family ties and support is still the best core strength. But when it is not available, at least someone we can trust to help and listen is available. It may not necessarily be a relative, friend or someone close to you.
Parenting and building up a family today requires knowledge and skills ..
Perhaps we should include this as a subject jn school.
The price of success :)
I noticed many young ppl is questioning the purpose of life, career, study.
Unlike previous generation, or young pple in developing countries, their purpose of life is to make money, to live a better life.
In an affluent society like SG, most of the young ppl has tasted the best food, best restaurants, comfortable home with air conditioning...best make-up, hairstyles, branded clothes, shoes...
It leaves very little to be desired....it has come to a stage: so WHAT ?
100% agree. I was one of these kids. I’m 21 now and materially rich, but emotionally/relationally empty. Low resilience, poor emotional regulation etc. You really nailed it with this comment.
As a senior citizen, I have gone through a lot. I want to advise the younger generations to aspire to be responsible and loving parents. Regardless of what era or environment, growing up is extremely challenging. Parents have the responsibility to ensure the children have a safe home to return to. Parents have to show love unconditionally to their children that they know they can rely on their parents to back them all the time.
Strawberry gen.
@@tankman20064 I don’t know how old you are but how do you like it when the younger generation call you a ‘boomer’? Every person is unique so don’t generalise unless you don’t mind to be treated likewise.
@@CalvinK300 still never grow up. Go India. Strawberry. Ask them go call helpline in India.
@@tankman20064 ah… that explains your thinking.
@@tankman20064 backward thinking from you.
One of the main problems for youth is the lack of a trusted source. It’s well known among school communities that if one goes to a trusted teacher or councillor with sensitive information, it’s never private or confidential, regardless of what is said otherwise. Moreover, on the topic of mental health issues and the symptoms of it, schools go through superficial strategies with students year after year, with no effective care for students who actually suffer the disorders the wax poetic about. The way in which mental health issues are talked about in school is presented in such a way which distances students from the prospect of it, often behind thinly veiled prejudice and personal stigmas from the teachers. e.g. “Depression is very common among teens,…… if you have a friend who feels this way, contact a trusted adult….” when in reality, teenagers who display these symptoms are often brushed of as being “difficult” and “lazy”, as teachers who encouraged students to look out for these symptoms turn a blind eye to students calling for help. In other cases, teachers choose to be frank about their distaste with the mentally ill, often speaking about how “some people” emphasis on “some”, will not amount to much seeing as they’re too lazy to do such and such.
Another prevalent issue is with the language used in schools on the daily, when students groan about how “depressed” they are, or how they had “panic attacks” and would like to “die already” in a boasting manner. While I’m not implying that all the youths who claim these things are exaggerating, this is just a clear example of how the avoidance of talking about mental health and illnesses has impacted the students, as the severity of these issues have been watered down so much to the point that it’s joked about. In my personal experience, friends who were experiencing clear symptoms of mental illnesses failed to reach out, partly due to the fact that they were afraid of their experiences being invalidated, and dumbed down to “teenage angst”. Actual victims of these mental illnesses feel invalidated, since people like to joke that they have “depression”, for instance, not understanding that they have to be medically diagnosed for it.
Trust the people. Do you trust ur HR and tell them you got issues ? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Tomorrow you be jobless.
I never trust any adults with my problems because they brush it off as wanting attention. When they realise I don’t talk about my problems they than force me to talk about when I don’t want to, it’s like a ‘the more you force me, the more I don’t wanna talk about’ kind of thing which than they proceed to force me into a corner & a emotional breakdown. I have anxiety problems yes main cause trauma caused by family. Everyone thinks that I’m fine yes I’m fine most of the time when I’m alone with my music, in that state of always listening to music I am calm, I am emotionally stable but when I’m deprived of that 1 source of calm I get very moody & my family thinks that I’m always angry when I talk to them when I’m not I just don’t want them to disturb me. I don’t get panic attacks but I do get anxiety attacks & mental breakdowns especially when I’m in tight spaces or forced into a corner. My family always asks why I don’t talk to them but instead asks my friends for help, it’s not that I don’t want to go to my family for help but to me when I go to my family I feel like they wouldn’t understand me like my friends because there is a difference, family asks questions but never really help me find solutions, family never really cared about my well-being compared to my cousins, I’m always the problem child compared to my cousins the one who gets beaten up the most, my friends on the other hand never force me to talk about topic that make me uncomfortable unless I want to, they understand me more & would give opinions about my problems whether it’s my fault or not, my friends care if I’m sick or healthy mentally & physically even when they sound like they don’t care, being with my friends makes me feel like I have purpose being alive, I’m not compared to anyone when I’m with my cousins. And friends know how to apologise when they are wrong unlike family. And being with family sometimes makes those voices that makes question about the reason why I’m still alive come back.
tbh i don't fully agree with judging someone for saying those things unless they're clearly trying to mock people who are actually struggling and/or have been known to be insensitive about these matters.
yes, some people may exaggerate or use the wrong terms and end up sounding ignorant, but they are trying to express that they need some care and concern nonetheless. some people also find diagnosis difficult because family members/friends are dismissive or they don't have access to resources or cost/insurance poses an obstacle. professionals in the field can also be dismissive or misdiagnose people etc etc - yes, not all are this way but sometimes having one or more bad experiences can throw someone off trying again.
not having a diagnosis doesn't make your symptoms less valid, as long as people don't say they're diagnosed when they're not, there's no problem with trying to put a name to what they're experiencing.
a lot of youths who complain about these things casually really are having a hard time and personally as someone who does this and recently started seeing a psychologist, i try to make light of it because i really don't feel close enough to anyone in my life to have an in depth conversation with it, just saying it and trying to pretend it's not weighing so heavily on me helps me get it off my chest. i do have both panic and anxiety attacks but whenever i ask my parents for help they brush it off and say it's not a big deal, while if i bring it up to my friends i at least get sympathy; it feels less lonely when your friends say they understand or relate. of course, sometimes people get carried away and start to forget that they should eventually get help and start trying to glamourise their mental illness and that's not very good. some people may start comparing their pain with others' : also not good. but my point still stands, it's one way of coping, albeit not the best.
i totally agree with your first paragraph tho. people who have adhd, autism, depression or anxiety can have significant issues with executive functioning and motivation on the academic front, which in turn may lead to peers or parents or adults guilting them and reducing their self esteem, impling that they are "lazy", "ungrateful", "disobedient" etc. it also doesn't help that people whose symptoms or traits manifest in an obvious manner may be more easily singled out and judged. furthermore, some youths may be undiagnosed for these conditions or others bc they've masked their symotoms well due to having to fit in or just seem too normal and not "abnormal" (with a bad connotation because mental illness/disorders are usually defined by deficits + some people don't display or excatly fit the deficits) enough for psychs to bother with a diagnosis (i mean, there's a whole trend of "gifted kids" who seemed fine until they crahsed and burned as they got older only to find out they had mental illness or were neurodivergent yet no one thought to see if they needed help with adapting to indepence); it's extra difficult for those under the radar to keep going once they've hit a particularly hard obstacle and something has been affecting them for awhile yet they can't name it, much less work on it.
@@orangeworm that’s very true!! i don’t fully consider the issue that some people have difficulties getting diagnosed and i fully agree with you. it’s just very apparent sometimes when someone is using terminology in a malicious manner :( will clarify more about this if the subject ever comes up again. thanks for the insight!
kudos to the girl who come out in the video. i think she is very brave to appear in this video to create awareness of mental health issues. this is real issue that sometimes we brush aside.
Yeah dude, imagine a boy came out. Probably most of the viewers will not even take this seriously
@@maeniquin1209 What's the difference if it's a boy or girl who speaks? They are still facing the same issue
Singapore need to educate the young generation that is ok to be not ok. And stop portraying everything will be fine. In the real world things, will never be fine.
Yeah, my school addressed it to everyone through parents gateway
Huh ? Don't quite understand. Ok to be not ok, but in real world things will never be fine ?
Starts from the home. Which the gahmen can also educate and advise not dictate.
@@smallgouphakka7346 maybe what he meant is that life will never be perfect, but we just need to look for a beauty in every thing or situation that we are in.
@@queencleopatra1619 Agree. Thanks.
I’m 20, and I’m graduating in 8 months from a Top UK Uni. I studied both primary and secondary school in Singapore and it’s definitely one of the most stressful times of my lives. At age 11 before PSLE I already begun self-harming due to the excessive toll that PSLE took on me and the pressure the education system exerted on students to excel academically at only a tender age.
What’s worse is that mental health is still pervasively stigmatized across SG with most individuals perpetuating sad victim-blaming narratives with a lack of clear focus on getting help and seeking therapy.
I genuinely can’t begin to imagine how this pain would translate into the current generation of primary school kids doing their PSLE in a COVID-19 era on top of the collateral physiological stress of living in a time where the economy has been badly ruptured by the pandemic.
Yahoo. Welcome to work life. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. You will regret and say you rather go back to school. At least you pay your teacher to teach. Outside is they pay you to work. Unable to work. 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁. Door is open to outside. Envy you still studying. Like a customer just complain. No problem.
@@tankman20064 you envy I still studying ah?
Me too. I enjoy studying in University. Who said I didn’t? 🤣🤣🤣 can you even comprehend basic English?
I’m studying and also employed at a top major software development company in central London + I own my tech start-up, generating 6 digits per annum. So yeah I envy myself too 🤣🤣🤣
You’re comical, illiterate and absolutely bonkers.
No one was talking about “HATING” school, for the record - I LOVED University. So I’m not sure who and what you’re airing your frustrations to?
Oh wait, you’re just another miserable Low income boomer in Singapore who probably gets paid a single digit per hour 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I’m so sorry Chin Ying Loong that your job is so miserable that you have to hate on other people’s successes and employment history.
good point and what you say predicted what happened to me irl last year except for self harming it was just my mental health deteriorating and it is still due to parent pressure
I'm the same age. F the society. Screw social media. I do what I want, I don't ever force myself to study, I don't ever force my self to do something I Don't want.
Why not? As long as 10 to 20 years down the road, you can be sure you don't regret it when you look back...
Go India. 😜😜😜😜😜😜😜. Then you will know what is begger.
Strawberry gen. Go India
Unless ur a genius or have rich parents to back u up, not studying your will genuinely have detrimental effects on ur future. There's always things that we dread to do but we still have to force ourselves for the sake of the future, and... If u don't have gud enough grades for a good career then you're gonna have quite the sum of financial problems down the road.
@Jack Matrix "happy" poor lah.
Sometimes it feels like children are born into families where parents just throw them to the school to take care of them. Anything goes wrong, it's the education system, it's the government, & someone else needs to do something to take care of our child.
Society forces us through Primary, secondary, tertiary & university education. But since when did they force us into education about compassion, kindness, leadership, parenting, counseling, communication, marriage building, etc...
All of these essential moral skills are important to the wellbeing of our society but yet they take the back seat in our education. They are just merely inserted into some casual civics classes and talked about on a discussion basis only.
Then generations down the road we begin to ask ourselves why are these things happening. If you don't know how to parent your kids & build a strong kinship foundation, it's no surprise that he/she may go astray or suffer unnecessary mental issues.
Went to a school counselor once, was made to sign an agreement stating 3 things that if confided to them, they would have to inform my parents and school. 1)self harm 2) harm to others 3)pregnancy. I get that its a requirement for their job but once I saw that contract, almost all trust was lost. I needed someone to understand me but all I saw was someone who doesn’t care and was just doing their job. I never returned, turned out alright, but some others may not have such a good outcome.
Thanks for sharing your story Jamie, your an absolute angel. Hope you will be blessed and be strong. It’s never easy to be in your shoes but coming out to share these need lots of courage. I hope those young ppl who are listening to your story would be able to pull through in this wonderful world of social media. 🙏🏼💝
Culture today celebrates, and focuses too much on the ideal, and ignoring what is. In the pursuit of moving forward, sometimes you need to first take a few steps backwards.
Society and the system today are not willing to do that because they don't understand the value of the people that helped them get there in the first place.
It's like going to a restaurant, continuously ordering as much food as your craving desires without bothering to clear the table of the existing mess.
Thank you for sharing your story, Jamie. I agreed with some of the points that you stated in the video. I remembered after school, I took the same bus as the school counsellor, she was really unprofessional and told the problems that the students faced to her friend....it is true that counsellors really do not know how to handle mental health issues and dismissed it as attention seeking etc.
6:50 Helplines for those who need support and may these people have all the happiness in life.
I just wanna give the girl a big hug
The girl is so strong to share her story to better others' lives. Wishing her the best.
All of this. I feel it 😢❤ Sending love to our youth, our future.
In my school I'm really grateful that they started to educate Us on Mental health and we have a good counsellor as well (from my personal experience) I can tell the teachers really put in effort to inform us more on mental health and how to Cope with it etc. My school counselor dearly cares about us and I'm very grateful for that very day she noticed I wasn't acting the same and ever since then she started having counselling sessions with me and she even had the effort to Get a physciatrist to diagnose me. I really do hope that more schools would do this or I am fortunate that I'm in a school that cares about your mental well being
Able to reveal which school?
as late as i think this is, it’s a good thing that the ministry of education has finally acknowledged and addressed the problems with our mental health support system in our schools, namely confidentiality. it is literally because there is next to no confidentiality whatsoever, that it’s not effective. there are things we don’t want others to know after all.
hopefully the new changes proposed will be effective and helpful once they are implemented because i for one, have had enough of hearing about the shitty current system. this is the right place to start fixing the problems in the support system, but it’s really sad that someone’s life had to be sacrificed for the problem to be recognised at all…
From what I read and felt over these few days.
"True Self-Expression and being worthy internally " is some of the key challenges
Independent Thinking without being pressured to fit into a specific box or criteria to determine one's self-worth.
*Saying the above statement seems easy but to take action and implement it takes effort which I personally still working on.
Some action that works for me.
- Do small charity (e.g. Buy a packet of tissue or buy a bread for a homeless/needy person) - This help creates a human bond and thought process of taking an action.
*Always seek medical/licensed professional.
- At times, walking away form the existing professional and seek for a new professional will provide fresh perspective and progress.
Do discuss and seek out the best possible way for help.
Remember, the perspective of a person that needed help now vs another person.
The thought process and perspective is very sudden and fearful of everything.
"Happiness is everywhere" and "Just think positively" is some of the non-helpful phrase when a person fell into darkness.
Some may say that the youth of today have it better than adults due to the technological conveniences but I would like to disagree with this statement as the youth of today are very stressed because mental health issues are stigmatised by society. I have adhd, ocd and anxiety and no one apart from my family and psychologist and psychiatrist knows because I never open up about it as even my closest friends are looking down on mental health issues and they don't even know the suffering we face.
Nowadays many young people in their 20s & 30s are facing a huge amount of stress in their studies, career & on social media. I do feel anxious when things didn’t go the way I want them to be. I do feel stressed about my career. I am currently 37.
i feel you... i feel the same... ;(
@@KC.L I have been going through anxiety since my teens till adult years, I understand how you feel. 😢
Need to eat. Need to work. Parents never tell you ? No food. Then is true stress. Yours is nothing
@@MsLilac88 stay strong sis, ignore that chin yin long wierdo.
@@MsLilac88 37? Still wondering? Ask urself what is the purpose of life, who created u and why? Im 33. Been there done that. I know exactly what u mean how u feel, hey theres more to life than whatever it is now that ur thinking so please carry on search the truth whats life all about when u found the answer, u will feel relieved. 🙂
Social media is so messed up .
Thank you Jamie for staying. For helping those who need to hear from you. Bless you young lady!
Thank you for sharing your story.
Don't stress childrens anymore with more work, tution, social media.. Peer pressure also is a serious thing, even on social media
Thanks for sharing your story Jamie.
Not only the younger generations are stressed, but the old generations are also stressed and depressed.
Nobody is talking about the weather in Singapore. It is getting more and more warm which discourages us to visit nature that can relax us. Warmer weather also naturally makes people more aggressive and bad tempered. Imagine it is a cooling day everyday. Mood will be much better.
Me squatting next to a tree to look for the insects: Screw you hot weather you are nothing to me
It more like COVID and work that's keeping me in my house for days without coming out ._.
My mom thinks I have having an attitude problem and I am really lazy when in reality I am burnt out from schoolwork, projects, exams etc
Hang in there, I know what it's like to feel burnt out from stuff and it's okay to just take a break from work even if you feel the pressure to keep pushing yourself. It's a bit cliche but I feel like it's better to deal with the burnout and/or mental issues first before starting on work because then you'll be in a better head space to actually do the work.
I know this won't take away the impact that your mom's words have on you or the pressure you feel whenever she may or may not choose to voice out such opinions but at the end of the day, she's not the one with the burnout. You're the one who is feeling it so her opinions on how you should be acting is secondary to your wellbeing
Sometimes people just don't understand because they're not feeling it alongside you, just take care of yourself and prioritise your well-being
parents are obsessed with school, grades, their kids future, enrichment classes etc. teens? they think if they need help, they go to social media or worse still....just goggle them. I think if anyone of them have a problem they should just be brave and talk to their teachers, parents and relatives
although i’m not that high up yet but i can alrdy feel the stress
i’m 12 this yr and i’m sure many of u know that it is when we have out PSLE
next week i’m already having my psle oral and that’s just the start. A lot of teachers care about our mental well being i’m sure but they just can’t rlly help much honestly.
for example there was one period where i was feeling quite stressed and was pulled out to talk by a few of my teachers but they didn’t help much and ultimately i had to figure out a way to help myself out of it
another example was when my teacher thought me and my friend were having friendship “issues” and spoke to that friend about it. but honestly, there was never any problems in the first place and she just made the situation worse. now im trying to amend things with her but it’s still awkward at times.
so yes, i understand that the teachers r just trying to help but in some cases it’s rlly not needed.
Do onto others as you would like others to do onto you. Each different generation will have their own unique set of challenges and opportunities. We are all schism to the same cell. Collectively, SG population is coming together to influence and support each other for the good. That is a healthy sign of a compassionate society. Advocating competition incessantly forces a society to develop contempt (complaining) and eventually, compassion will become a foreign notion to their dwellers. Let's dig deep into ourselves and examine the type of environment we had created for each other and step into the shoes of those who suffered. There is always a cause for an effect to be observed and experienced. The voices of those whom speak to damage needs to be drowned by the voices of those who builds.
I would say is our Pioneer and Merdeka Generation. Everything so uncertain and hygiene was a big challenge at that time. Especially for women and children
Where the education system has provided some form of easing stress through lessening of exams in primary and secondary school, no one can deny that we do still have high expectations set for ourselves and where good results are celebrated and less than satisfying results become a source of insulting and looking down on others. Young individuals these days including myself lack the mental strength to overcome these challenges and while we shouldn't blame others for our shortcomings, we must remember that the world evolves and so do people. People behave differently and one should see things from a different perspective and not constantly refer to the times of the past. Hope everyone takes care of themselves and each other. Its a small thing but it goes a long way.
I would love to be Jamie friend, and give her encouragement when needed
Thank you for sharing
Not just young ppl. But those adults face at work. This situation also not happen at school but at working place.
Sometimes I just wonder if I'm actually depressed or not.. sometimes I'm cheerful, and the next I'm in my own room crying ;-; Thanks for your story, if you are reading this ^ᴗ^
You might want to talk to someone! Find somebody who’ll listen to you! 💗 :D
By someone , I mean someone you trust, of course
Opening up team sports is a good start. Stop wrapping up basketball hoops and padlock sports courts. Let the young play, let people do sports with their friends and peers.
Mental health is so important.
parents would need to allow their children to participate in sports too. Kiasu parents see sports as “useless” and time should be spent on more studying
Straits Times statement (re “The most stressed-out generation”) is an over generalisation. As a netizen commented below, it is a case of different generation, different issues. Of course this generation has its stress. So did the previous generations; the generations that come after will also have their own stresses. Without making light of this generation’s stresses, I think there is no need for ST to go into hyperbole when highlighting the mental health issue.
To be honest, in my opinion, the generation that had the most stresses were the ones that witnessed the first two World Wars, especially those that lived through them. Not only were there wars, but hygiene conditions were relatively appalling in Singapore for the majority, and then the challenges that came with being kicked out of the Malayan Federation. My greatest respect for our forefathers.
The stress which our forefathers experienced was not created by them.
The global factors at that time was very harsh and challenging.
however, the stress which this generation
Is currently under going are mostly self induced. By the parents' expectation of their child and pushing them to finish more home work even at the cost of the child not having a proper rest.
It’s all connected. Inter-generational trauma is widespread. Parents’ worries, anxieties, beliefs, and capacity for emotional support impact children deeply. The drive to achieve increasing standards of living, the pressure to excel at academics for a “better future”, not feeling seen and heard, the growing complexities of social relationships... these are just a few factors that can create stress on our bodies and mental well-being.
Social media plays a part as youths only see the goods of influencers or their friends and lead them to think that they are the only ones who are not good enough.
In my opinion school is one of the largest stressing factors. The pressure to get good grade or be told ur not going to go anywhere.
i realy dont like it when adults or teachers say things like ‘oh yall strawberry generation everything also cry cry cry’ its like theyre telling us that our feelings dont matter that we should not cry AT ALL and its so annoying especially when they compare our generation with their generation like thats two different generations they always say what they walk 737383827 km to school dont complain they go school everyday dont complain well ya because your syllabus is much easier??? i really cant sia why cant they just sit down and relate to us instead of saying pointless things like this
Thank you for sharing ❤ you stay strong
From my personal stand point as a 20 year old I don’t really like to speak about my own problems when I’m forced to talk about it, in which I hurt myself emotionally but not physically. To my family they don’t really understand the importance of mental health. After all I’ve been forced into a mental breakdown by my own family.
Sigh....
sometimes, the closest people will hurt you the most, knowingly or unknowingly
and then the parents blame it on the phone.
Insane edu standards , kids have lost their childhood due to insensible decisions from our Bureaucrats.
It's the parents who are setting the insane standards. The education system offers various pathways for people of all levels of capabilities; all of them can lead to the highest levels of academic achievement.
@@wemf2 Dream on. You are still hooked on the opium of unnecessary achievements that translate to mostly nothing at the corporate front. Unless standards are rationalised, behaviors won't.
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Go India and learn to be child labour first.
@@wemf2 Wrong. Cant blame parents only. There are people without parents, or single parent, their parents dont expect anything. Its the SCHOOL SUBJECTS there are so many to learn... Might end up with jobs not even related with what have been studied all along...
I tried to seek help from school counselors, parents and grandparents but they were unpleasant experiences and now I don’t dare asking people for help
I'm sorry you have to go through such hard situations, stay strong. We believe in you
@@isaacwong5966 thanks for the support :)
I also went through that.. i know how it feels…
they can try to improve the counseling and better equip people all they want but they still won't be able to change the fact that grades mean everything in the end and once you slip you're already gone in this world
Different causes, same issues. Over the different eras and such, there will be different causes that always end up in youths being stressed out. The Plauge, ebola, SARS, WW2, now Covid-19 and the internet. We can't change the fact that as we grow up, we will face in one way or another stress. However, we can still limit that stress but sharing your story, making someones day, any small thing helps.
The main issue is that parents are not supported their own children enough.
Some due to lack of awareness. Some due to need of more support. But many due to their own issues stopping them from helping their children.
So no matter how much MOE build up school support and support for parents ... Not going to the core of the issue.
Not sure who needs to hear this, but if things are rough for you right now, hang in there. This storm will pass. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Baby steps, my dear. As long as you don’t quit, you will reach the summit. Remember, baby steps are all it takes. Take a brief moment to rest, refuel, and come back stronger. You can do this. And when you reach the top, you’ll be glad you didn’t stop. Slowly, but surely, you’ll get there. Don’t give up. You can do this. ❤️
No i practically given up i cant spend my savings have been having depression for 5 years and also am just in secondary school. They made us sec 1 go counselling checkup so i just put on a fake smile and did it randomly they had no clue there are no escapes from this its the parents not the child nor the system
Everyone is so busy putting on a face that they are OK, when underneath everyone you know, is fighting their own challenges in life.
Summary, it's OK to not be OK! A lot more people are not OK than they even let on.
Do sway clear of social media as it is a perfect portrayal of 99% imperfect human beings!
That’s why our generation z suffers a lot, especially from strict expectations, high expensive costs etc. The government also doesn’t even do anything to address the issues. They are the definition of all talk but no action.
It's so general problem in Gen-z around the World.
There is stigma around mental health. It’s already so tough to get a job in SG due to competition from foreigners, once you declare you have a mental condition companies avoid hiring you.
Of course. The companies have other safety to think for. They are running a business
@@tankman20064 1. There are many forms of mental conditions that can be managed with medication & therapy.
2. Making someone hide their mental condition in order to avoid being discrimnated & in order to get a job is even more dangerous as nobody will be aware of their needs or watch out for danger signs which may have adverse results.
For Republic Poly, students exchange exam questions. This is toxic, peers with friends have access to extra resources ahead from others with lesser friend. Other who have no friend, also lost in academic, add on unnecessary stress and unfairness to students with integrity. Nothing can be done still, after constant complaint of this matter...
The purpose is to get good grade, yet it is determined by capability to cheat. What is the purpose of studying, if others can cheat...
And then when we tell our parents something, they tell us to deal with it ourselfs.
Depend on what things. Is it ur girlfriend issues ? Ur father thinking maybe say " why not date him better ?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Problem solve.
@@tankman20064 just typical school issues, but ya.. your scenario that one all parents standard answer 😂
Seek help, there are good help out there. You are not alone. Do not bottle up your problem. When feeling down and low, seek help, keep our focus on the brighter side of life. The more we hide in our problems, the worst it becomes. When we feel low and down, it is ok to reach out to people who we can trust. Always exploring solutions, for every problem there are a solution, just that we cannot see it when we are overly hitted by our problems. Have many talks with counselor or therapist or good elderly person. Help is out there, you are not alone. Refocus, not letting your problems overwhelmed you, break it in small pieces, tackle problems bit by bit, more manageable. It is not possible to eat your breakfast+lunch+dinner at one sitting, so is problem solving, refocus, reframe your thinking, solving in smaller chunk. Day by day, you progressively changed your mindset, to live better than yesterday. Never look down on yourself. Believe you are unique, everyone have their purpose in life. To bless others and yourself. Keep fighting! Living a stronger life each day. Never give up on yourself.
Since young, seeking help from professionals mean waste of money and you are problematic by your parents. How youngster seek helps when they’re been told to suck it up and endure because this is how the world works ? Social media kill their mental health where’s everyone hide behind the screen to bring them down.
Wish I go back to the days where there is no smart device.
this is such a worrying trend...15 years ago my peers and I seemed pretty ok in school, we had the usual teenage troubles of grades and crush woes but no one was self harming and suicidal tendencies weren't so commonplace. wonder what has changed since then?
Facebook and wifi lor.
Hdb prices have gone to hell.
I have no friends to talk to . I felt so alone. I let it die and then I realized that i have no choice but to carry on living.
Ik were just strangers on the Internet, but stay strong fam, we believe in you.
Me too. I learnt to adapt and rely on myself
youngsters nowadays are always putting a fake front just to be like by people, these are somethings that the generation of our parents may not understand. body issues, mental health, social issues are just some of the struggles that my generation is facing now
I have one question-
How do I convince a friend to see a trusted adult so that they can seek proper help instead of just telling me all of their problems. Cause, I’m unqualified and most of the time I have no clue how to respond sometimes. And the stuff they tell me are pretty serious like child abuse- But honestly I’m not entirely sure if they are actually telling the truth-
Weak family tie usually is usually the issue. Covid bring stress seems to be a common reason. If family relationship are strong, covid cb is gonna be a good thing but if relationships are not then it will be a struggle. Counsellors sometimes are there to do their job, they cannot be the solution to all. I have experience Counsellors who are there to Just finished their set objectives and not getting to the root of issues.
Home is the shelter. Family is the beginning of all human Life. If this is harmed or damaged at the very beginning, everything else that comes out of it is naturally weak and susceptible to harm.
Nope. Peer approval is more important to them now .
Different times, different issues.
It's good that people are spreading awareness of mental health but if they could just be a little bit more open to learning about how students in the past cope with such stress while studying, then this would be a good thing for them and the whole society. They need to ask questions like, "Were the students during the Golden Age of Islam facing such mental stress?" or "How are they able to study and live their daily lives much better than us?" or even "What kind of lives are they living that us Singaporeans aren't?".
just let students have more sleep
Honestly its really funny that they only bring it up now
After the axe incident, I am not suprised.
My sister has depression and when she cuts my father gets angry at her and tells her to kill herself, I do too but I never tell him anything anymore because he’ll always blame me for the problems I was facing, he was also always abusive , if I tell any Teachers they would tell my dad and I’m pretty sure I’ll be dead if he finds out
I'm really sorry you're in this situation, we believe in you. Never give up!
What you're going through sounds terrible... Hope you'll find a way out someday somehow
@Wang Dafu I'll try, tyy
Jamie if you see this i really think you’re amazing
Is not an issues about youth (yes they are more vulnerable) but as a whole for all Singaporean. The longer the plandemic prolong. More people will develop more and more on suicidal tendacy and losing hope in the future.
This is not just cases in SG but globally. The daily spinning on negative Covid19 media news, death and count is making it worse.
it took so many incidents for them to finally realise?
@@worldExplorer__ ah sure hi!
Also young people will never be able to afford to own a home or retire. No surprise that rates of depression and anxiety are skyrocketing.
Disagree. HDB leasehold still affordable. Speaking as a mid 20s father
should learn from Finland
👍 school and prison system
When I was at Secondary School 32 years ago, our generation is going towards the technology generation, from pagers to Nokia handphone, from DOS to Windows OS, from Online Pacific Webmail to Smartphone apps...I was in stressful to go through, but was happy. As now the technology generation, the young ones are stressed out with more smart people around them, with social media, with high egos, with Words that comments. Why the needs to care about? I hope that the young ones should have to do more and care about family matters, rather then outsiders, because family members are always by your side and will support and love you. Family's Blood is Red, and DNA will not change forever.
These youngsters are feeling very empty in their hearts because they are spiritually empty. All they feel is darkness from within. They dunno what they living for. They dun have a sense of purpose in their lives.
Spiritually, we are very very lost and empty. Most people don't even know what is spirituality in the first place. They learnt from media that it has to do with spirits, ghosts and what not.
But spirituality is the inner light within us. If that light is gone, everything is dark. Outwardly we may have everything material wealth can buy, but inwardly, it's a barren desert. That desert is very excruciatingly haunting. You just feel complete emptiness. You dunno what you are living, what you are living for. Whether you are a student or a adult, that emptiness is the same. And it's killing people from the inside.
I have always felt that Singapore is like a beautiful but empty vase. Beautiful on the outside, but empty from the inside. What is that emptiness feeling? Why are people feeling it? It's the inner source of light. This light can be found that spiritual practice like meditation. This light we cannot see with our eyes, but we can feel it very distinctively. This light maybe invisible to our eyes, but it is very real. The inner emptiness is just as real. We cannot see it, but we can feel it very distinctively.
This kind of knowledge is very very unknown to most people because we are a very materialistic society, Such thing as spirituality has no place in our society. You can deny its existence, but you will have to face it when the time comes, that inner emptiness is the clearest sign of its lacking.
When people meditate well, they will feel a sense of fulfillment, positive energy, or peacefulness. That is the presence of inner light. Because when you consciously breathe during meditation, you are actually breathing spiritual light. This light will fill you up and make you feel good. But people always like to say it is a phycological experience. They don't understand and they dunno what they are talking about.
The goal of meditation is enLIGHTenment, isn't it? It has to do something with LIGHT. This light is not an imaginary thing. This light is real. Enlightenment is not a buddhist thing. It's a universal quest. You may not aim for enlightenment to practice meditation. But just understand what meditation can offer to a person.
Spirituality is not a religion although spiritual people do believe in the existence of God. Religions are the branches, Spirituality is the trunk and God is the root. However some people who are religious may not know what is true spirituality. That is why there are religious conflicts. A truly religious person who is also spiritual will see all other religions as part of the Universal Truth.
Publicly, Singapore chose to be secular for whatever reasons there may be. As a result, we close ourselves from learning things beyond our scopes of understanding.
Real Spirituality gives people a deeper sense of the purpose life and self worth. It teaches people to be humble, kind, peaceful. These are the things we cannot learn in our conventional schools because even the teachers dunno such things because they never learn it before.
When LKY was going through some depression after his wife passed away, he found peace through meditation. At one point, he even suggested that schools could offer meditation to students if teachers can teach it. He also suggested that world leaders, before they make any big decisions, should also meditate first. Why he said that? Because meditation gives light and light gives wisdom.
How many more kids are we going to sacrifice to the alter of economic progress?
as if they care. they don't lol. it's only cuz of the river valley incident that they are forced to say that they care for u while they don't. I was having a panic attack in class and the teacher just ignored it. s
i like the webarebear on the bed :)
How to contact this lady?I need her help.
I can't say whether suicide is right or wrong, but just know that it is a permanent solution to temporary problems.
*Christ almighty how the hell are we gonna make it past adulthood?*
We Indians know what is stress of our education
Sleeping tablet must or not must ???????????????
The generation are more surrounded by the commerce culture- the me culture . Read a bit more history and a bit more about others - what other people have been going through despite the war and hunger.
This is what pap wants you to believe and they will help you.
How can parents be better equipped when they are always working their ass off for the kids.
And how can kids even cope with their problems when everyone was trained to get a good grade, get a job and pressured to be the best in academics and you are made to feel like a freaking failure when you suck as acedemics. The whole world says that academics is not everything, but when you're a student، your made to feel that way. Constantly being compared with people.
The problem lies more than just being equipped with better counsellors and stress cooping techniques. Half of those kids don't even wanna be in school.
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chin ying loong , i see u in every reply
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