Dating apps are not always the answer for lonely people especially introverts. I fear going on dates because I have failed a few times on dating apps. Most people don’t understand introverts very much even on dating apps.
@@teflondon6407 heard that shit all the time. Same old story, same results. It's gotten to the point where I just stop trying. But I wanna keep my head up.
I don't know your age but I completely agree and can tell you for a fact the world was (in my experience) a much friendlier place when I was young. I get very lonely too but don't really enjoy most social interactions. If people can put down their phones long enough to have one that is.
Yes, when I was in school, I was a class clown and had "friends" but it was make me laugh or don't talk to me...if I ever said anything that was serious, like good information, they always checked with someone else like I was too stupid to actually know anything.
That's how humans work, I've recently discovered. Face it, don't you also approach someone else when you want something from them? It doesn't have to be anything materialistic. It can be their looks, personality, humor, etc. When a friend starts becoming less interesting or boring, it's normal to not want to hang out with them as much.
You’re cute, just start simple convos with people. It might be a little awkward but u needa get uncomfortable to grow cuz I think you’d be fine if you put yourself out there
I am lonely too, I can't make friends, I can't connect with people , have social anxiety and other issues. Mostly spend my time at home on the internet.
Masooma, that is a contradiction, if you understood how our mind works, which can be based on our thoughts, some people who have commented on this page are not friendly, who feel insecure and basically is no one elses fault, it's also your lifestyle that may determine if you feel lonely or isolated and yet because of the way we think, we blame other people. The guy in this video thinks he is lonely, has no friends, so other people may be in the same position, understandibly, we can all feel that way, but some people feel trapped.
It’s not ironic. Most people who post on Facebook DO have real life friends although they may have many casual acquaintances on there too that they don’t personally really spend time with. Look at all those pictures they post. It’s BECAUSE they have friends or at least a few friends which is why they have pictures to post in the first place. The lonely people of Facebook are those looking at other people’s pages because they have nothing to post on their own which is why people like you are saying how it’s ironic . Just because people have Facebook accounts does not mean they have friends and those are the ones that are lonely and are then used to describe how ironic it is when it’s not really ironic at all . Part of the reason why I do not use Facebook is because I have no friends and also too many people use it as a bragging platform . The narcissism is truly sickening.
It's because "social" media gives you te illusion you're being social, sacrificing REAL social interaction. Every "Friend" I make online dissapears in really short time.
My thoughts are with you Wayne.I have no one in my life that i can call a friend.Always been lonely so just wanted you to know that there are others in this world who are in the same situation.Be strong friend.
It’s a terrible thing.. ended a 12 year FAKE friendship last year.. found out she was secretly jealous and spreading my business to anyone who listened..
@@m.shevonmason4232 Did she try to isolate you by talking badly about others to you to give you a bad impression of them and then talk about you to those same people collectively? Did she ever start drama with your other friends or at least try and then turn around and not allow you to be around her friends or try to humiliate you in front of them by talking down to you or sharing confidential information or bringing up things from your past that you'd rather forget? Did she intentionally give you bad advice on things such as dating or dealing with guys? Was there ever a situation where she tried to get you to not attend school or quit school because she didn't finish? Did you guys ever drink or use recreational drugs together? Did she consume a lot of your time? Ask for help constantly but then when you needed help there was always an excuse? Ever have her point out what you did wrong and you responded fairly or with and apology while if you did the same to her she'd fly off the handle and somehow frame it in a way to say it's your fault? Ever had her try and get you to do things for her that could possibly get you into trouble or ruin another important relationship in your life? Has she ever tried to fuck your boyfriend or on the flip side accuse you of trying to fuck hers so she would never allow you to be around him whether they're together or not? Has she ever lied to you?(obviously) Has she wasted your time by telling you she has an event going on and when you showed up you found out it never existed? Did it always seem like if something good was happening to anyone she would say something negative and down play it no matter who it was? Did she often act like someone was jealous or "hating on her" although there was no reason to and more often than not the person she's describing wasn't even paying any attention to her at all? Has she always complained about the people who were simply trying to help her? - Terrible isn't it... I had all of these same experience with a person I called a friend for 13 years. I was too forgiving of his misdeeds and as a result he eventually walked away because he started to see that I was slowly growing tired of all that stuff. A sociopath he is so much so that he's become delusional. But life has been good since his departure. One thing I can say is I have the ability to love a person for who they are. He can not because he doesn't even love himself. He follows the crowd and what's popular but then loves to argue with others just so he feels like he know more than them. He is very much like a girl, that bitchy friend every girl seems to have and for a guy that's really really bad. It's bad either way of course but I guess you get the point. It's painful surely but it's crazy how you realize how wholesome life is all of a sudden when you don't have to deal with that disgusting shit anymore.
Carol Makgalemela ...mine started from many years of abuse by my spouse....yes verbal , emotional or mental abuse can lead to this condition. You are not alone friend.
I would suggest that is why you feel lonely...its not being surrounded by many or not is make lonely. Its bing surrounded by many and still can't express a feeling - that is lonely truly.
You see this is exactly what pisses me off, they ALL say such things to us, you are so amazing, you are so great, you are probably the most loved and respected guy around yet no one or almost no one wants to do much with you unless they are just maybe bored.
I can relate. I'm a 64-year-old grandmother with 3 grown daughters and have never really had any real friends to hang out with. It feels embarrassing to say that. The only people who ever choose to hang out with me just to chat or have fun are my sister and sometimes my aunt. I look like a normal person and am physically attractive even at 64, well-groomed and well-spoken. Upon first glance, no one would suspect that I am a person that doesn't have friends, but I have never been able to make and keep friends who aren't blood relatives. I have tried to make friends, but it goes nowhere even though I'm a kind person, show interest and am loving and caring. These are qualities others have told me I possess. But they prefer to hang out with other people. I have read so many self-help books and been to therapy, but nothing changes. I don't think like 99% of people I've met and feel like I don't belong in humanity. I feel very sad about it. I have resigned myself to being without friends for the rest of my life and just try my best to do things I enjoy (mostly solitary activities) and accept myself as I am. I also do random acts of kindness, and that gives me comfort in knowing I have contributed something positive to this world. I wish that all here who experience loneliness will find comfort, peace and one day soon true friendships if that's what they long for. Much love.
Bella Bong I though I was by myself. I’ve never had real friends either my entire life. I’m 51, and even my one sister isn’t close, too much jealousy and envy, and she’s married! I love her, but we have no relationship unless she needs something. Most of my life women pretend to be my friends but secretly hate/never liked me, only wanted me around for their benefit. I’m attractive and get attention, but I am ALWAYS kind and considerate to everyone. Had 1 BFF for many years, then she died of BC 8 years ago, so chronic loneliness every since. My kids are grown and I’m single, so I have NO ONE. I just do everything alone and enjoy my life.. I love life even though it seems the world and people don’t accept or want me.. I hope you meet a new REAL friend, and enjoy a true friendship.. Be blessed!
Bella Bong sadly... I can relate to this. But, I also don’t fit in with my family either; so that makes it more depressing. I’ve just accepted that I’m alone; and such is life...🤷🏾♀️
I learnt the biggest lessen in my life in 2014. Never put all your eggs in one basket. My best friend of 16 years had a disagreement and stopped talking to each other. I used to think at the time, It's okay I don't need other friends, I got her and we are eternal. and here I am 2016 looking back and regretting that decision, wondering if I'll ever find that connection again. Social media makes it worse, seeing people with friends, a constant reminder of how easily the world would go on without you. You create a shell to protect you, and make you feel cosy, telling yourself you don't need anyone, only realising later on your clawing to get out. I feel you, and it's damn tough.
I did the same thing. But with my girlfriend. My two friends didn't trust her and they gave me a choice. Either her or them. I loved her so I chose her. 1 year later she left me for another guy
Be the best version of yourself*. Visualize the ideal you, what would you look like? Would you be more social? Would you work harder? would you be more fit? Personally, if I were to "be myself" as in do whatever I feel like doing, then I'd just sit at home all day and get nothing done. However, despite not wanting to wake up in the morning and go to the gym, despite not wanting to go outside during the day and meet new people, I still force myself to do these things because I know it will allow me to achieve my ideal self. The strongest version of myself.
Makenna Bobenna It takes time and effort, learn to be patient and be smart, know when to pull out and see that they're your type. Often, if you're quite different from the crowd the niche group of friends will be harder to find obviously.
True . I feel different and I still have no friends. I socialize with others but only make acquaintances. I do have one good friend but she is busy a lot.
Pineapple I hope you will find that friend some day. A real friend makes life better... i hope you will find that friend some day. I was just surfing the internet and find this video and then go in comments and saw a lot of...stuf. True friends do exist, for everybody, don't lose your hope!
All this negativity, breeds negativity. There’s lots of great people out there. It’s about attitude. There’s plenty of ways to meet good decent people. One doesn’t find them at pubs or clubs etc. join a library, they hold book clubs etc. join a church, there’s many wonderful people in churches. Go help out a homeless person, think outside of yourself and look around for people that are in need. You could also volunteer in you’re spare time.
I was a loner my entire life. You remind me of my son. He's 30 now and found a wife. Has a daughter. They are very happy together. But his loneliness has bothered me so much. Frankly I have worried about him his whole life. My parents were miserable people. Who never cared that I had this problem. I'm glad you are building a life. I can see how big your heart is. And how sad this has been for you. Please never give up. You are important and loved.
I can't imagine how my parents would feel if they know this kind of state that I am in. I guess they will worry about it like how you feel about your son. Bless you and your family and hopefully we can be happy ever in the rest of our lives
:'( I know this is generic advice I don't do myself, but have you tried joining any clubs? Most people I know made their best friends there. I am too awkward and lazy to do this though
You guys are saying you are so lonely, you know that you can find people with the same interests as you on the Internet. If you are lonely it's just good to discuss with people on the Internet. Maybe people think thats for losers but it feels good for me. Try reddit.
Haha felt that, always see friends walking into Starbucks laughing as they order their drink or these couples while I’m all alone in a corner waiting for my drink and want to leave ASAP
Same with me. Idk what's wrong with me. I open myself, I am nice to them but yet all I get is insults and get ignored. I guess this world is truly ruled by looks.
Brother, take it from an old dog. I'm 49 years old and I've always been a lone wolf. I didn't necessarily plan it that way, it's just the way my life has unfolded. Ironically, I don't WANT to be alone, but somehow, it always turns out that way. I'm recently coming off of a 5-year relationship with someone I intended to marry, but everything went to shit three weeks ago when I discovered her being unfaithful. So here I am again. Alone, but not by choice.
Have you considered that maybe she finally realized that she may not have wanted to be engaged for another 5 years or a roommate with benefits for another 5 years?
29, have no friends. Thing that has improved my life greatly is learning how to own it. Instead of telling myself that there is something wrong with me, I simply remind myself that I have no friends because I don't need anybody to lean on. I'm strong and independent enough on my own, which is something to take pride in.
Totally agree with this, and Kenneth seems very intelligent, I would totally hang out with him, I lved hanging out with geeks and nerds in college, and I "may have" fit into this category :)
G do you feel like people are judging you because I do. That's why I spend most of my time alone. I feel I'm not good enough for anyone. I googled that feeling to see what it meant and it said it was a symptom of depression. That in reality everyone had doubts about themselves and some people seek out relationships to lose themselves in that other person which on turn is bad for the relationship. So maybe being alone means being strong and sure. I don't know. Who knows anything anymore?
You should really try nofap. I know it gets a lot of shit, but just search on youtube the benefits of nofap. Just try it for a week and I promise you will feel the difference. You really have nothing to lose I recommend this video ruclips.net/video/hbIaP6dZzDA/видео.html
Would you please go please stop using the word suffer? Everytime you say or write that word you self prophesy it. Every time you call yourself a sufferer you are a sufferer. Social anxiety can be overcome quite easily in fact however suffering can't. You need to see yourself as stronger than that and stronger than whatever your issue is. You need to realize your worth more than that and I have a very hard time with that because my mother never shut up about how good enough I was not even though I excelled at everything I tried. Whatever the problem may be social anxiety stuttering thinking you look ugly they are all just reasons to keep you where you are. You need to break that bubble and breathe some fresh air. It's not easy and it will be damn difficult but once you do you will wonder where life has been all your life! :-)
You envy going to parties? Parties are so overrated... I miss deep meaningful conversations with people I like and respect. Taking a calm hike in nature, that sort of stuff.
Parties nowadays and for the last decade have been all about doing drugs, drinking yourself to waste, and smashing. Nothing special in these STD infested orgys
I cried. I am the same. I agree with everything you said. I'm basically like you, trying to not feel so bad because every time I think about the fact that I don't have friends, I cry so much.
Im truly sorry DeepFriedL, this also sounds like depression, obviously, you are not on your own here, Im sure a lot of us feel for you, see your doctor and get help. I wish I was there for you
Dear Deep, a lot of people around the world going through same problems. I m lonely so I joined yoga, Gym nd like to meet under privileged children nd elderly people too. I like to visit spiritual places nd explore different aspects of life. Love u
DeepFriedLemonWedges you are not alone. No need to cry about it just try your best to get out there and meet new people. I'm struggling with depression and anxiety I've withdrawn from my brothers because they think I'm weird I lost my good friends they don't even want to talk to me. I've been struggling for over 5 years now the doctors are horrible they just prescribe you with medication thinking it will work but instead you just get hooked to them and can't come off the medications. I've tried talking to my parents about this but they don't seem to understand fully they just say eat and go to the gym I've tried that but still have these harsh symptoms. But I still try to cope with life and make little goals everyday for myself like go to the swimming pools and go for a walk by myself. People think mental illness is a joke but really it's not a joke millions of people suffer each day from mental illness.
im currently 3 years alone, know the feel and feeling it actually but im not wasting it, learnt german and english and got fit as fuck, but for what? thats the thing.
Tudor Renegade in order to not be lonely we have to accept ourselves including our weaknesses and strengths... if people cant accept us then forget them, but at least we tried... also sometimes its less of a case of what they can do for us but what we can do for them, how we can help alleviate their loneliness for them to do the same, i think social skills and pyschology come into this too.
@David Sharma It’s not about being modern, it’s about the convenience of having access to these tools and technology. But we humans are so stupid and so irresponsible. We come up with reasons to convince ourselves that it’s normal and OK. But some who think a lot would naturally wonder.
I'm in my mid 40's and your video hits home. I have no friend because I am an introvert. Man, I can relate to your high school story and Facebook story.thanks for the video
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I perfectly feel you. I'm 25 and I have no friends. I've been struggling to have at least one but it isn't that easy.
not in this world aha the best and only true friend i had and have found was a guy we were friend form 18 years old to 21 years odl and he decided to cut ties with me im now 23 years old and i feel disconnected from most people who make friends easily ect i feel so lonely i feel like i will never find someone that will be able or try to understand me and in a most genuine way :((((
Michał Lewandowski..That doesnt mean anything man...just because guys hit on her, doesnt mean they value her company. Many men use women and visa versa
You are meant to be a leader.. that's why you don't fit into any groups... think about eagles, they fly alone. You are meant to do great things.. God bless.
andrew ortiz , to become a christian all you have to do is fake most of the things you do in your life and pretend to love god . yes its that simple . learn how to lie with a straight face and brag to people of how much you help others . oh and always try to have a smile that looks real , people love a nice smile :) .
I understand! I was completely alone on Thanksgiving. It was the saddest day I had experience in a very long time. I had never felt so lonely. I went to volunteer that morning to help serve people… And I came home around 10 or 11 AM. And I to watch the Facebook and everyone with their families and friends and making memories… And my memory was me crying… Literally all day long. Feeling like I was completely alone having just gotten over a break up. Just sitting here with my dog. So I went to the store and bought a box of cards. I came home and hand wrotesomething on every single one of them and put them in each door on the third floor of my apartment building.
Charity Garcia I know it's hard...i really know. But you are a strong person and i am sure you are also a kind one. I suggest something: go volunterring (i probably wrote that wrong).
I'm in my 50's and I can so relate to this. I've never been able to make and keep friends and while I've reached the stage of accepting that I'm just going to grow old, with my books+ TV for company, I still feel sad that I have no one to talk to when I have a worry or just to go with a coffee with and chat like everyone around me. 🤔
@@chicagomike How sad it is that so many of us lead such lonely lives.. So many of us on the planet yet we find it so difficult to bond with others.. 🤔
It's actually that simple, if you're alone it's mostly your own decision. How in the world do people expect to get friends when you're alone all day in your room
Just a random dude there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I agree you can choose to be alone, most introverts do it to ‘recharge’ after a social or crazy time/events that has happened. However, loneliness is different, you could be in a room full of people you know or at a party and it’s this voice or thought at the back of your head saying “your not worth the trouble, your lucky your in this position don’t push your luck, you aren’t worth being friends with, etc” you ask a lonely person what it’s like it feels like this. Just my opinion on this whole topic.
I love you already Kenneth!💘💞💖I'm a loner also, my mom died 2007, since then I'm alone! I hope that you have found someone since you uploaded this video ...GOD bless you Kenneth ...HE loves you with His Divine Heart!💖💞💝
@Tine Fanny Ly Mogensen Jesus truly IS the best friend we can have. And did you ever consider the possibility that *not everybody who is lonely is a "weirdo"? Certainly, there are always weirdos out there, but how many of us are simply misunderstood, or smarter than the average person? And shame on you for making fun of anyone who's mother died.
I can so relate with the Facebook thing. It drives me mad that people from my high school are still hanging together and didn't keep in touch with me after we left school.
Julie, Facebook is NOT real. People put their best faces on--beneath this happy face is very frequently a sad soul. Please do NOT pay any attention to the people on Facebook. I have heard of people going to for example, the Grand Canyon in the US. My friend saw someone take a selfie to upload to facebook and said that the guy did not even bother to look at where he really was. He was more concerned with his image than the beautiful sight that lay before him in the present moment. Now Julie, that person is so sad and insecure...can you see that...don't feel mad or sad...these are people who enjoy impressing everyone else, except their true selves. ROFL
I thought I was the only one that has felt this way for so long. I'm lonely because people treat me like I'm in invisible. I try to reach out but rarely is it reciprocated. Thank you for making this video.
I relate to you Briana, Ive found that in the past I buy somebody a drink in the pub and they don't get you one back, and I thought I bet they didn't come in the pub with any money
Me too. I hate when colleagues ask me every Friday ‘so any weekend plans?’ And I have none. Nothing. And then I have to return the question and hear about how they are meeting with various groups of friends and do things together.
I can relate to most of your feelings. I am alone in life, too. All of the 'friends' I had got married and now seem to have absolutely no time for friends because every waking moment outside of their employment is spent with their significant others. life is so lonely and boring. It's such a deep pain knowing other people are out living their lives with others and enjoying fun experiences surrounded by people who care about them.. While I sit here alone. Making friends as an adult is difficult. I feel like most people already have their established social circles and, from what I've found, it's damn near impossible to squeeze into those circles.
probably once you pass the 25 years old mark its really difficult im 23 and struggling a lot for 3 years trying to establish some kind of friendship. I used all that time to learn useful stuff and get fitt but for what.
I see it like that: I rather have REAL friends or I rather be lonely. Since I do not find REAL friends, I rather stay lonely, being able to do at least what I wanna do without gettin restricted by those superficial "friends". Important thing is not to get frustrated or cynical. Stay open for friends, but do your stuff, like a lonely wolf.
my husband told me don't get too attached. im a loyal and a loving person to friends..when my friends got new cooler friends,they isolated me. it sucks coz i was always there for them.i still feel lonely at times. im jst focusing with my family right now
Sounds like they weren't friends in the 1st place. I think it's best not to be around people like that because they will lower your self-worth which would stop you attracting the good friends that you deserve.
I think all the "modern technology" has a lot to do with our loneliness. It wasn't nearly as bad back in the days before cell phones. It was much better back then. People actually talked to each other face to face or on the land line phone. People sat out on their front porch and talked to their neighbors. This technology has made the world become cold. Everyone is looking down at their stupid "smart" phones and not at each other.
Social media intentionally or not really just gives all of us a reason to not call or see someone in person to connect, Theres people i have added on Snapchat who I met once two years ago and still see their story, like there’s less of a drive to get to know a friend/acquaintance’s life when u see how they think or what they do. i still try to meet up with people, not on social for a few weeks
Social media is the worst thing that could happen to us human beings. I decided to delete completely everything. It’s is a competition and appearances, especially Instagram.
I agree,because if people weren't posting where they were every second..and whom their with,we wouldn't feel so much pressure to have a good time.Also if your not invited to things then the paranoia starts and relationships change.
@@mml1426 exactly. I've just deleted instagram. Seeing people "having a fun time" with friends and "living a perfect life" made me depressed. I'm done with that bs.
I can completely relate. I constantly think something is wrong w me. People going out and hvng fun and I'm at home alone. I feel like I'm not able to connect w people for some reason but I'm constantly praying for just 1 genuine/platonic friendship. If I ddnt hv a gf, I'm not sure what kind of life I'd have.
I totally understand that nobody asks how you are. When people say hi to me at the workplace, i feel kind of speechless at times. i'm really quiet due to shyness that very few people say hello to me. i only really spend time with my mum. I feel so lonely but I try to stay upbeat that I wont always be like this, but your video really relates with me. I hope you are doing ok.
Spongey PegasiTM When they do that it's just that they have nothing better else to do. Remember this, what someone does and says only speaks about themselves, not you. In other words they're making themselves look like the real retards. But just for every person gossiping about you there's a dozen more going about their day like nothing happened and will forget the next day.
That's what hurts me too. I only ever spend time with my parents and it's really sad. I watch all the other kids go and do stuff with their friends but I have nobody.
it's no secret that the smarter the person is, usually the more lonely he/she is, because to be honest, most/majority of people can't understand him/her, and vice versa, people who are smarter usually can't relate & connect to most people, whom are often simple-minded ("Ignorance is bliss", sadly true).
I disagree with your comment here Niki, It sounds as if you have completely isolated yourself from the real world. I used to teach computing to school pupils doing their Duke of Edinburgh Award and made friends with them, so it's also a case of who you know, you see smart people as weakish, people who may not like sport usually excel at learning to play a musical instrument and has therefore been proven to enable you make new friends which I did, so how can you not relate to other people, I take it you don't understand yourself as a human being then. If somebody can't understand me, Im not the weaker one, Im only human, not another person, Ive been called arrogant by a mate of mine and he called himself a thicko, I said you're feeling emotional, but he was drunk at the time, no mate of mine, that's reality.
@Niki ... You are absolutely spot on ! Most people who claim to be your friend , end up using you or betraying you.....Don't need people like that ! I find that the vast majority of people are not remotely on my level (not bragging) and simply can't comprehend me. Soo many dumbed down people out there now....don't want anything to do with any of them ! .....I may be 'alone' but I'm not lonely ! ....... Clearly Wayne doesn't understand either.....he's misread what you said.
I'm sorry but no. 1. There are different kinds of "smarts" you can be academically smart or emotionally smart or whatever.2. most people that are popular at my school get really good grades and are really smart. I honestly think that's a bit of a myth.
Sorry I know you trying to make yourself feel better but this is so inaccurate. Plenty of smart people have great social lives. My friend goes to Harvard and when I visit so many brilliant people are there having fun with other people. It's all about who you involve yourself with, what community you live in, etc.
I'm so sorry, my heart breaks for you. I was like that before, then I started saying hi to everyone and made some good friends. Believe it or not lots of people are lonely.
I am also very lonely: 1. I keep the lights and fan in the next room switched on to make myself believe that there's someone else too living in my appartment. But loneliness makes me realise quite quickly that its a lie. 2. I like to listen to the crackling sound of cockroaches chewing away at the cardboard of carton boxes kept in my room at night since it gives me the impression of atleast another living being co-inhabiting my appartment with me. 3. I yearn for someone to ring my doorbell too when I hear it ring in my neighbour's house. 4. I usually say "I love you" out aloud in my mind because I have no one to say that to. 5. I feel terrible being lonely and don't want to to do anything at all. 6. I sob as I write this feeling pity at my helplessness. 7. Contrary to other lonely people out there who cannot make any friends, I have many school and college friends but I cannot show up in front of them as I am ashamed of myself.
Oh my God, Rohan Bora! Now why would you have me sobbing right along with you? I just can't stop my tears from flowing because I thought I was lonely but now I'm at a loss for words after reading your comment.Rohan please know that someone is always praying for you,and wish you were here near me.my dearest I am lonely too but I feel for you,and hope that ater you read all the comments on this post it will bring you some comfort knowing you're not alone in this, we're too many to be counted.god Bless your sweet heart,and just say a prayer for me as I'll always be saying one for you.much blessings.
I have literally never heard anyone else speak about this issue which I have also had for so many years. I feel exactly the same as you and if I ever do get slightly close with anyone it never lasts...i'm so lost, I feel how you feel, Thanks for sharing!!! I feel the tiniest bit less alone.
We are all out here and we are real people. You know that you're a real person behind your keyboard and the rest of us are as well. These aren't just words on the screen that we say to somebody. The people who are not friendship or they have shown themselves in one post! What part of the country do you live in? I would certainly like to be your friend and I don't see any reason why we couldn't chat online and then talk on the phone. Every now and then I want to pick up the phone and tell somebody something that happened or a weird fact I learned or anything just to pick up the phone and say hey how you doing? My real name is Elizabeth I use the wheelchair outside the house because they don't have any feeling in my feet and I fall. But I love to do fun things I can make you laugh just by the way I talk I don't tell jokes but everybody laughs when we talk which is right now just my mother who hates me. Yep she finally told me the other day well I don't love you! I don't care I've let her run my life and it's time for me to have my own life! My email address for anyone who wants it that's not a bully and for you is tuniee88 at yahoo.com. I hope to hear from you!
I do.. We share so many of the same traits.. Anxiety, Depression, a constant gnawing fear of being rejected by others and the pressure to be someone we're not.. (to fit in)..
MrShaiya96 it doesn’t matter if you’re pretty or ugly. Do you know if you’re pretty more often than not people only care about your looks..not your personality and your quirks, what matters to you and the details of your life. Beauty can be a curse
@@msgirly6827 I dont know what "issues" have to do with loneliness. Clearly different things. My statement is either correct or it's not. Facts dont care about your feelings, little girl
FAcebook is fake, people only post those 'happy, smiley pics' on facebook. The best friend in the world is yourself! You will never feel lonely again, even when in room alone :)
I think that when we started taking selfies for every little thing, we started caring about what people thought, started comparing ourselves, naturally became more fake. Because now you're soliciting your images.
We introverts are a minority, and the pressure is so high on us. We're labelled all type of names, and it feels weird! Atleast, I got 2 guys (they're unrelated and don't know each other).When I meet any of them even after many years, it feels like we last spoke an hour ago. We all live in the same town ironically. It's crazy how it is so!
Z Mundo Nothing to feel bad about. Don’t put yourself down. One suggestion is to look for activities you enjoy doing and you’ll likely hook up with others who enjoy the same thing. Discuss common interests. Join a club, hiking group, a Meetup etc. so many options. It’s best with small groups, easier to talk one on one.
I agree, it's so easy to put yourself down and feel this way, we are human beings, we can be sociable and adapt, not everyone thinks that way, when you do lose friends, it's not our fault, it;s life, but don't misjudge yourself
@Shirley Jackson not all of them, there are not many nice people but they exitst. But this world is generally unfair and sucks most of the time. But that's supposed to make you stronger
You are probaly lonely, but watching Kenneth videoes lying to yourself that your are not. That is why you are wathing this, Sam Sneed. To feel better about yourself. Its sad. You waych him for 5 years, then make a comment talking abou him being sad when hes honest? Com on Sam you are the really lonely one here. (people like) you are depressing
I feel u, bruh. That loneliness that comes from that...sometimes unbearable. I really wish I could just not give a f**k, but I just can't let go and let the demons out. People say to me, "let go", "say what's on your mind", "stop caring what others think". I pray to God to break this yoke, this stronghold on my life, and to give me purpose. A reason to hold on just a little bit longer...and then, just a little bit longer, and then a little but longer. I've made it to 32 years, still lonely, still self conscious, still looking strong on the outside, yet emotionally needy on the inside. But I'm still here.
Even if it seems you have nothing and no one to comfort you. If all you have is Jesus. Than you literally have everything you need. He is the essence of the word love and will fill you up with fresh new joy each morning. Every great person in the bible was alone with God at one stage in their journey, but that's when He put his Super into their natural and did anointed things with their life. Stay strong 💪 your time is coming
27 , no friends, only work and little family around, thank hell for the internet! lol im a normal guy, not a sociopath or a loser or anything (i think lol), people just stress me out and make me feel bad about myself ... glad im seemingly not alone!
I feel he same way.. I’ve had friends in high school but it’s like I’m never around them anymore and I moved to another state and I’m having no luck making any friends.. I only have acquaintances tbh. It sucks. Seems like I’m bored everyday and I hate watching other people go out and it seems like they rub their moments in your face in a way... I wish I had more friends to go out with. I don’t just call anybody my friend because people can be mean and I’ve had people who have left me or treated me like shit for no reason at all~ people in general piss me off sometimes. I’d rather be alone most the time watching a movie or doing my hobbies.. but I still wish I had more friends ):
Your not alone, I'm almost 50 yrs old and have lived in the same town all my life and I have not one friend in this town. I completely understand what ur saying.
I did have the quinticential best friend and "group of friends" growing up. I just turned 35 on Dec 28th and I spent my birthday alone at home, spent Christmas at home alone, spent New Years, you guessed it, home alone. My "best friend" didn't even call me. The truth is that everyone else is busy having families, they all moved away and had kids. I live alone in the Mountains and have 4 cats, my allegiance is to them, they are my children. I'm not ashamed at all to say that. Where I live is so rural there are only less than 200 people population and they are all old and disabled. I was never into the bar scene, I don't sleep around, and I like to stay home. My days consist of yoga, meditation and watching movies and cooking meals, and cleaning. Staying busy helps very much. I only go into town to shop and I always hope to meet people but no one ever talks to me
Besides work, I'd go home and on my days off I'd probably not speak to a single person for two or three days. It was a bit lonely, but peaceful. When I decided to go part time and start dance training due to a lifelong desire to learn dancing...the satanic network unleashed itself on me. Instead of just subtly shadowing me and harassing me at work, the network began to openly taunt and terrorize me. In a way this was good, because instead of just having a feeling of being isolated and disliked...i figured out that the devil and his millions had it in for me...so...God protected me by setting me apart a bit. So...I'm probably Elijah and the Female Witness...anyway, see you in Jerusalem!
My advice would be to get the heck out of there. Sure you are acquired to the lifestyle, but if you potentially want to live your best life you should get out of your comfort zone and start fresh somewhere else. You don’t want to be on your deathbed a long time from now regretting the things that you didn’t get to experience just because you would rather stay in the same place with your cats! Take risks
The thing that hurts me the most is that nooooo one makes the effort to get in contact with me and I feel fucking shit about myself and think there is something wrong with me. I feel your pain mate like you wouldn't believe
It takes so much courage to talk about these issues. Thank you for your bravery! You have truly helped me feel less alone. I know that we will get through this. I'm thinking of making my own RUclips channel to help people like us, but I don't know how yet
people doesn't like me. I try to be myself but I annoy everyone. I'm 22, I feel lonely, my classmates are joined or married and they're always talking how great their lives are going, that's so sad. I have no one, I have never be in a true relationship or friendship. I just want to talk to someone...
Im not sure how to say this but i wish i can bring all the lonely people together and meet up in a park some where and have alot of fun,text me and lets find out how we can make alot of friends.i have 6 grand kids girls your age, they all would. Like to make a friend. Lets work something out.text me or call me 6467961396 anyone who read this and would like to talk call me.any age group. Thank you joan.
Yeah I had that exactly the same problem, I when I wanted to make friends at school I would stagger to keep it working & I would get on their nerves but I never did it intentionally, I'm 38 now, I'm married with 2 daughters but growing up in my teenage years was really hard & I found it tricky to mix with people without getting on their nerves.
Same. But I kind of don't care. I'm an introvert, I have social anxiety, I enjoy being alone. It does get to me sometimes that I don't have a group of besties and whatnot. But I was always the fat girl that was always there for everyone to give a shoulder to cry on and that was it. I always was genuine towards the people I considered friends, but it then turned out they didn't see me as one. So over time those ''friendships'' just ended. I'd rather be by myself than have fake friends. Sadly, that's my only experience. What makes me most sad is that I still get friendly and am genuine with people today. But it seems one sided. I have my family. I have my bf. That's all I need.
I feel you girl. I'm always friendly to people as well but I guess that's not enough to be cool with someone. Oh well. I'm starting to learn to just love myself and be my own friend :)
I didn't mention loneliness anywhere. And I said I enjoy being alone. Like, I don't understand what you're talking about and even if I did what you say, in all honesty, you could shove that comment where the sun don't shine. Have a nice day.
It's better to be alone. The people who are alone, are wise. It means you don't relate to people who are fake..It means you are not apart of this world. You should embrace it because I prefer to be alone.
Phemzyx hey im the same, dont worry about it... i used to have friends going back to secondary/primary school but i dont usually make friends with people until i can trust them, otherwise i supress myself and supress myself some more till they move on.. basically i dont trust people to be understanding, i remember the last thing i ever said in a math class and i shouted the wrong amser and then someone did the retarded hand sign (you what i mean) and that shut me up for good, so yeah i dont trust people... they told me exactly what i needed to hear.. that people are full of it... and basically the more difficulties you have the more you look like a twat to the rest of society. sometimes i feel like when someone actually speaks to me the universe has exploded in my mind (but in a good way), like just them speaking to me is better than even my own life. pretty f:****d up right...
Definitely just go. Try to connect with people. If it doesn’t work or is awkward, at least you did your part and tried 💕 I know because I’ve been there.
Do NOT play the friends game, be yourself and enjoy the company of people, just go to the gatherings and listen what other people have to say, even if u think people act stupid, cause they will, lol, lol, do not judge people and just listen and you will see how fun it can be.
I'm right there with you, Ken. I'm in my early 40s and man does it suck not having anyone. It's because I'm socially awkward and feel like my self worth is very low. I don't know exactly how or why it happened but that's the one main thing holding me back but it's hard to shake it even after all these years. Man, it sucks.😔 It's kind of strange though that I'm going through slight depression right now dealing with this very issue and this video popped up and I never did any searches for this type of thing.🤔 Anyway, I hope you find the friendship your soul is craving. No one should be alone.
Brother... This World is a bunch of Fools.... To be very frank, we don't need anyone to make ourselves Happy... Better to stop Self-Pity... It's your advantage to concentrate on your Career... Work hard on your Skills... Be a Millionaire... Then , notice the sudden change in your Surroundings... It's not just words... I've applied this in my life and this worked... People who used to ignore me , now they do talk to me... I'm not being Rude... but, let's stop fooling ourselves.... It's time to wake up and make the correct decisions for our Lives... I don't give a Damn to what people think of me... I try not to hurt anyone... I stammer and stutter at times... due to which people make fun of me... but, I don't just give a Damn... Move on.... If someone doesn't like me, I don't care.. I'm not here to impress anyone... This attitude has transformed me immensely. ... This might help people around... U R awesome, my friend/s
shadab anwar , exactly , the governmentt love those type of people , lots of extra tax dollars , i like their tax dollars also , someone has to work so that the poor can get funding :) thank you from me a poor person .
Yep, the best advice here. Move on and Don't care what people say about you they are not in your lifestyle...better achieve your own goal (millionare, freedom, happiness, minimalist)
Moving on and not caring is great, but you will most likely need friends to be truly happy. Sure you can book yourself a nice vacation, but what good is that if you have no one to go with?
Facebook is like porn, makes you think everyone is having fun but you and doesn't represent reality at all. If you're lonely, start driving for Uber. You'll get so much conversation you'll want to be alone again. In my experience, people are best in small doses.
Abby Normal driving for Uber isn’t the same thing as having satisfying friendships. In fact, even though I’m lonely , I hated it when riders tried to make conversation because I knew it was mostly for their own amusement, not because they were genuinely interested . It felt like a chore to me to answer personal questions about myself which I didn’t like revealing unless I knew for certain there was a genuine connection for potential friendship . Which was pretty much never .
I don’t think you realise how many people are exactly like you. Most friends I had growing up turned out not to be friends at all. I never particularly enjoyed social events such as parties etc. I think photos people put on social media are false. I know I’ve put stuff up so my life looks fabulous. It isn’t. You need to find people more like yourself, with similar interests. Sometimes just one person in your life is enough. I have my husband. He’s my best friend. All the others are just acquaintances who pass through my life. Stay strong. You’re a smart and interesting person. Just like yourself more.
All of the RUclips comments are filled with people who are going through the same thing. Let's all socialize in the comment section including the guy in the video. Plus a lot of you people that are commenting are genuine I wished I had more people like you rather than being friends with someone that will take advantage and blames you for being too kind where literally its them for for being a coward to own that he or she was in wrong to mistreat you. My friends let's socialize on the comment section.
Great idea Grezzer. I’m so lonely and isolated. I used to have many friends. Your not alone. People don’t need to make friends now bc they have there phone addictions...
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There should be a social gathering only for lonely people.
Dating apps are not always the answer for lonely people especially introverts. I fear going on dates because I have failed a few times on dating apps. Most people don’t understand introverts very much even on dating apps.
@@teflondon6407 heard that shit all the time. Same old story, same results. It's gotten to the point where I just stop trying. But I wanna keep my head up.
Lol I'd love that, would be cool. Wish I had that in high school
I am an introvert i never know how to hang out with acquaintances and to actually make friends
I just moved into a new city that has a low population so its hard
You're alone, but you're not alone in your friendless state. There are millions of us out there.
BoiseG what if they are too far away to meet
BoiseG good to know
LuchoGFly I'm shy too, it's hard. I think shy people are usually very nice though
LuchoGFly have you researched ways to stop stuttering? I wonder if there is anything in you tube.
BoiseG correct my friend. Oh sorry I didn't mean that ....as I have no friends lol 😀
The more I get to know people, the more I come to the realization that being alone is not so bad after all.
Unfortunately, I have to admit: *I couldn't possibly agree more!*_
being alone better than hang out with wrong people
I don't know your age but I completely agree and can tell
you for a fact the world was (in my experience) a much friendlier
place when I was young.
I get very lonely too but don't really enjoy most social interactions.
If people can put down their phones long enough to have one that is.
Seems like you lack faith that there are good people around, who would make good friends.
You sir, are exactly right 👌🏾👊🏾. lol
I mean their not all bad , just watch out for the ones that breathe and shit😚
How sad it is to think that we live in such a big planet with millions of people but still feel lonely
Because some lives are more important than others
Tbf the the internet hasn't helped, if there were no internet I bet there wouldn't be no where near as many lonely people as there are now
Billions*
@@DARKMADNESS666???
@@gavinburns9516 *YES* 💯
I get attention almost only when someone want something from me.
Same
That’s how it is sometimes my dude, sorry to hear that
Yes, when I was in school, I was a class clown and had "friends" but it was make me laugh or don't talk to me...if I ever said anything that was serious, like good information, they always checked with someone else like I was too stupid to actually know anything.
That's how humans work, I've recently discovered. Face it, don't you also approach someone else when you want something from them? It doesn't have to be anything materialistic. It can be their looks, personality, humor, etc. When a friend starts becoming less interesting or boring, it's normal to not want to hang out with them as much.
They must have been jealous MastaSmack,
I love listening to him cause I can see that I'm not the only one.
Yes I am not the only one
@p u Thank you very much for your comment!
Hello Samio - I hear you
Yeah same here in New Zealand.
You’re cute, just start simple convos with people. It might be a little awkward but u needa get uncomfortable to grow cuz I think you’d be fine if you put yourself out there
Dude i had so many friends growing up. Now that i am grown i realised they were all fake friends. I'd rather be by myself than have fake friends.
So true.. I had a similar experience
Well you say that because you have friends and experienced having friends and had good times, learned how to socialise.. but he didn't experience that
Jahlive Polosa
Many friends, especially ones made in school tends to downsize their friendships when they marry and have kids.
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Yo bro hit me up
I feel lonely even around my own family.
It's the worst feeling ever
DocZero same.
narcissist?
why ?
DocZero Hey bud I’m here for you
anthony same thing I wanna know. People love throwing that word around...🤦🏾♀️
I am lonely too, I can't make friends, I can't connect with people , have social anxiety and other issues. Mostly spend my time at home on the internet.
Haha, same.
Same here
me tooo
Same here
Tomatoe Eater You are not alone x
The irony of social media; Humans are so connected, yet so lonely...
Masooma, that is a contradiction, if you understood how our mind works, which can be based on our thoughts, some people who have commented on this page are not friendly, who feel insecure and basically is no one elses fault, it's also your lifestyle that may determine if you feel lonely or isolated and yet because of the way we think, we blame other people. The guy in this video thinks he is lonely, has no friends, so other people may be in the same position, understandibly, we can all feel that way, but some people feel trapped.
It’s not ironic. Most people who post on Facebook DO have real life friends although they may have many casual acquaintances on there too that they don’t personally really spend time with. Look at all those pictures they post. It’s BECAUSE they have friends or at least a few friends which is why they have pictures to post in the first place.
The lonely people of Facebook are those looking at other people’s pages because they have nothing to post on their own which is why people like you are saying how it’s ironic . Just because people have Facebook accounts does not mean they have friends and those are the ones that are lonely and are then used to describe how ironic it is when it’s not really ironic at all . Part of the reason why I do not use Facebook is because I have no friends and also too many people use it as a bragging platform . The narcissism is truly sickening.
It's because "social" media gives you te illusion you're being social, sacrificing REAL social interaction. Every "Friend" I make online dissapears in really short time.
Yes indeed
*PSSHHH*
**sips**
Ah, back then were much simpler times.
I'm 51 yrs old, my parents were my social network, dad passed in 08, mom 012. So now I talk to my dog.
we love you wayne,you are not alone ,god is with you all the time
I hope you are happy and have blessed life☺
Damn
hey bro , Have Courage and Strength , just hang in there bro ....
My thoughts are with you Wayne.I have no one
in my life that i can call a friend.Always been lonely so just wanted you to know that there are others in this world who are in the same situation.Be strong friend.
Just imagine having a best friend and realizing he was never a friend at all...
Exactly...
that happens !!!!
I think we all been there
It’s a terrible thing.. ended a 12 year FAKE friendship last year.. found out she was secretly jealous and spreading my business to anyone who listened..
@@m.shevonmason4232 Did she try to isolate you by talking badly about others to you to give you a bad impression of them and then talk about you to those same people collectively? Did she ever start drama with your other friends or at least try and then turn around and not allow you to be around her friends or try to humiliate you in front of them by talking down to you or sharing confidential information or bringing up things from your past that you'd rather forget? Did she intentionally give you bad advice on things such as dating or dealing with guys? Was there ever a situation where she tried to get you to not attend school or quit school because she didn't finish? Did you guys ever drink or use recreational drugs together? Did she consume a lot of your time? Ask for help constantly but then when you needed help there was always an excuse? Ever have her point out what you did wrong and you responded fairly or with and apology while if you did the same to her she'd fly off the handle and somehow frame it in a way to say it's your fault? Ever had her try and get you to do things for her that could possibly get you into trouble or ruin another important relationship in your life? Has she ever tried to fuck your boyfriend or on the flip side accuse you of trying to fuck hers so she would never allow you to be around him whether they're together or not? Has she ever lied to you?(obviously) Has she wasted your time by telling you she has an event going on and when you showed up you found out it never existed? Did it always seem like if something good was happening to anyone she would say something negative and down play it no matter who it was? Did she often act like someone was jealous or "hating on her" although there was no reason to and more often than not the person she's describing wasn't even paying any attention to her at all? Has she always complained about the people who were simply trying to help her? - Terrible isn't it... I had all of these same experience with a person I called a friend for 13 years. I was too forgiving of his misdeeds and as a result he eventually walked away because he started to see that I was slowly growing tired of all that stuff. A sociopath he is so much so that he's become delusional. But life has been good since his departure. One thing I can say is I have the ability to love a person for who they are. He can not because he doesn't even love himself. He follows the crowd and what's popular but then loves to argue with others just so he feels like he know more than them. He is very much like a girl, that bitchy friend every girl seems to have and for a guy that's really really bad. It's bad either way of course but I guess you get the point. It's painful surely but it's crazy how you realize how wholesome life is all of a sudden when you don't have to deal with that disgusting shit anymore.
I'm 40 and never been able to make lasting relationships. I've never belonged anywhere. I wish i had the courage like you to say it out loud.
Same here but just older. I think it was easier for me having enemies since childhood . This lifetime is a nightmare I want to wake up from soon
alex wintermeyer I dont even belong in my own family!
I understand, my anxiety comes from the negative words my father used to say to me. I can't seem to shake them , despite being a Christian.
Carol Makgalemela ...mine started from many years of abuse by my spouse....yes verbal , emotional or mental abuse can lead to this condition. You are not alone friend.
Same here. 37 and I'm not sure where I belong. It's funny, I have 200+ Facebook friends, but I am not sure which of them are truly my friend.
The problem is that you can't tell anyone how you feel
I always do. On an unrelated note, everyone thinks I'm an asshole.
I would suggest that is why you feel lonely...its not being surrounded by many or not is make lonely. Its bing surrounded by many and still can't express a feeling - that is lonely truly.
And there answer will always be then make friends
@@nerdrage6970 me too
Nobody really care otherpeople's problems...
I just spend 8 minutes listening to you. You have something to give others, you are a precious human being.
You see this is exactly what pisses me off, they ALL say such things to us, you are so amazing, you are so great, you are probably the most loved and respected guy around yet no one or almost no one wants to do much with you unless they are just maybe bored.
Atle Skorstad Yes he is lovely
I can relate. I'm a 64-year-old grandmother with 3 grown daughters and have never really had any real friends to hang out with. It feels embarrassing to say that. The only people who ever choose to hang out with me just to chat or have fun are my sister and sometimes my aunt. I look like a normal person and am physically attractive even at 64, well-groomed and well-spoken. Upon first glance, no one would suspect that I am a person that doesn't have friends, but I have never been able to make and keep friends who aren't blood relatives. I have tried to make friends, but it goes nowhere even though I'm a kind person, show interest and am loving and caring. These are qualities others have told me I possess. But they prefer to hang out with other people. I have read so many self-help books and been to therapy, but nothing changes. I don't think like 99% of people I've met and feel like I don't belong in humanity. I feel very sad about it. I have resigned myself to being without friends for the rest of my life and just try my best to do things I enjoy (mostly solitary activities) and accept myself as I am. I also do random acts of kindness, and that gives me comfort in knowing I have contributed something positive to this world. I wish that all here who experience loneliness will find comfort, peace and one day soon true friendships if that's what they long for. Much love.
Bella Bong I though I was by myself. I’ve never had real friends either my entire life. I’m 51, and even my one sister isn’t close, too much jealousy and envy, and she’s married! I love her, but we have no relationship unless she needs something. Most of my life women pretend to be my friends but secretly hate/never liked me, only wanted me around for their benefit. I’m attractive and get attention, but I am ALWAYS kind and considerate to everyone. Had 1 BFF for many years, then she died of BC 8 years ago, so chronic loneliness every since. My kids are grown and I’m single, so I have NO ONE. I just do everything alone and enjoy my life.. I love life even though it seems the world and people don’t accept or want me.. I hope you meet a new REAL friend, and enjoy a true friendship.. Be blessed!
Both of you sound like an amazing human beings, lovely and caring, it seems like people wanna befriend jerks.
Don't be embarrassed, you are not alone in this statd
Happy Poop it’s the obvious man, people with so many friends are usually assholes and fake that’s why they are attracted to each other.
Bella Bong sadly... I can relate to this. But, I also don’t fit in with my family either; so that makes it more depressing. I’ve just accepted that I’m alone; and such is life...🤷🏾♀️
I learnt the biggest lessen in my life in 2014. Never put all your eggs in one basket. My best friend of 16 years had a disagreement and stopped talking to each other. I used to think at the time, It's okay I don't need other friends, I got her and we are eternal. and here I am 2016 looking back and regretting that decision, wondering if I'll ever find that connection again. Social media makes it worse, seeing people with friends, a constant reminder of how easily the world would go on without you. You create a shell to protect you, and make you feel cosy, telling yourself you don't need anyone, only realising later on your clawing to get out. I feel you, and it's damn tough.
That makes it three of us :(
:-(
I had the same problem too with my best friend. Loneliness is tough, no doubt about it
I did the same thing. But with my girlfriend. My two friends didn't trust her and they gave me a choice. Either her or them. I loved her so I chose her. 1 year later she left me for another guy
true
"be yourself" is overrated. I go out and be myself and I have no friends.. what does that tell you ??
Be the best version of yourself*. Visualize the ideal you, what would you look like? Would you be more social? Would you work harder? would you be more fit? Personally, if I were to "be myself" as in do whatever I feel like doing, then I'd just sit at home all day and get nothing done. However, despite not wanting to wake up in the morning and go to the gym, despite not wanting to go outside during the day and meet new people, I still force myself to do these things because I know it will allow me to achieve my ideal self. The strongest version of myself.
I think you need to the opposite quite frankly, don't be yourself
Makenna Bobenna It takes time and effort, learn to be patient and be smart, know when to pull out and see that they're your type. Often, if you're quite different from the crowd the niche group of friends will be harder to find obviously.
Makenna Bobenna The world is fake AF.
True . I feel different and I still have no friends. I socialize with others but only make acquaintances. I do have one good friend but she is busy a lot.
Finally, there is another person in this material world like...me.
Charlotte C me too, wanna hangout? Where u from?
Same here
@@noorbhatia1200 What's your interests?
Same
Lord!Saameee
Loneliness can be painful but it makes you appreciate connection on a deeper level than others
everyone is selfish in 2017. I cannot make friends either. I cannot trust anyone these days.
Pineapple I hope you will find that friend some day. A real friend makes life better... i hope you will find that friend some day. I was just surfing the internet and find this video and then go in comments and saw a lot of...stuf. True friends do exist, for everybody, don't lose your hope!
And in 2018 as well
For me to also bro
All this negativity, breeds negativity. There’s lots of great people out there. It’s about attitude. There’s plenty of ways to meet good decent people. One doesn’t find them at pubs or clubs etc. join a library, they hold book clubs etc. join a church, there’s many wonderful people in churches. Go help out a homeless person, think outside of yourself and look around for people that are in need. You could also volunteer in you’re spare time.
@@myroom4640 This is a great way to be taken advantage of by a perpetrator.
I was a loner my entire life. You remind me of my son. He's 30 now and found a wife. Has a daughter. They are very happy together. But his loneliness has bothered me so much. Frankly I have worried about him his whole life. My parents were miserable people. Who never cared that I had this problem. I'm glad you are building a life. I can see how big your heart is. And how sad this has been for you. Please never give up. You are important and loved.
Margaret Norvell I’m just suprised they lived to their 30s.
Good input sir
I can't imagine how my parents would feel if they know this kind of state that I am in. I guess they will worry about it like how you feel about your son. Bless you and your family and hopefully we can be happy ever in the rest of our lives
I’m that girl. I am such a loser but not only b/c I’m single
holy cow how did you find the courage to talk to the camera and share with total strangers how you feel - 👏🌞 amazing sir
Because he wants to help others I guess.
Man with all that technology how can you not connected
I also feel lonely especially going to Starbucks and seeing people that have friends.And I am always drinking coffee by my self.I know how you feel.
:'( I know this is generic advice I don't do myself, but have you tried joining any clubs? Most people I know made their best friends there. I am too awkward and lazy to do this though
oh boy this is me every single night lmaoo haha ur not alone stay strong and always find a reason to leave ur house
You guys are saying you are so lonely, you know that you can find people with the same interests as you on the Internet. If you are lonely it's just good to discuss with people on the Internet. Maybe people think thats for losers but it feels good for me. Try reddit.
Haha felt that, always see friends walking into Starbucks laughing as they order their drink or these couples while I’m all alone in a corner waiting for my drink and want to leave ASAP
@@rae9766 but what do you think of my idea?
I feel alone many times. My loneliness comes from giving much love and not getting any back 😔
Same with me. Idk what's wrong with me. I open myself, I am nice to them but yet all I get is insults and get ignored. I guess this world is truly ruled by looks.
@@sajivdoley6949 true words. "This world is ruled by looks". You get respected most of the times by the way you look and your social status.
@@ahmadistanbouli6136 the sad truth
Ahmad Istanbouli ...me too friend
@@angiem7130 💔💔
Brother, take it from an old dog. I'm 49 years old and I've always been a lone wolf. I didn't necessarily plan it that way, it's just the way my life has unfolded. Ironically, I don't WANT to be alone, but somehow, it always turns out that way. I'm recently coming off of a 5-year relationship with someone I intended to marry, but everything went to shit three weeks ago when I discovered her being unfaithful. So here I am again. Alone, but not by choice.
Keep your chin up 👍
Me too. That's life.
Just go MGTOW
thats fucked up
Have you considered that maybe she finally realized that she may not have wanted to be engaged for another 5 years or a roommate with benefits for another 5 years?
I'd rather have 0 friends than to have even a single fake friend.
Montu shah I’d rather have a single real friend then zero friends
Absolutely. The pleasure of your own company is luxury.
I have view friends, yes I cant stand fake people
@@batmane7591 *than
So right!!!! 👍
29, have no friends. Thing that has improved my life greatly is learning how to own it. Instead of telling myself that there is something wrong with me, I simply remind myself that I have no friends because I don't need anybody to lean on. I'm strong and independent enough on my own, which is something to take pride in.
Thats delusional, in this world its not about what you know, its whom you know
@@aladinmofo9555 Well best start with yourself. The most successful people knew themselves better than they knew anybody else.
No man, you need love. Peace♥
How are you now?
I felt this whole video
Me too!!!
damn right, me too
Yeah
Very hard being lonley in ethiopia all peopels are together only me lonley
Same tbh
I've read somewhere that intelligent people have fewer friends so I must be a genius cause I haven't got one.
This is true,plus you are mentally a stronger person.
Totally agree with this, and Kenneth seems very intelligent, I would totally hang out with him, I lved hanging out with geeks and nerds in college, and I "may have" fit into this category :)
Me too.
Whosoever is delighted in solitude is either a wild beast or a god.
Blackout043 lol same I've always been told that I'm intelligent and not had friends since I was 10. Makes sense now!😜✨
I hate being alone and living alone as I suffering with social anxiety disorder and hard to fit in meet and talk to people
Don’t worry about it, you can fix your social anxiety by testing yourself in situations that make you feel uncomfortable,
I think it is possible to cure HIV than social anxiety for me
G do you feel like people are judging you because I do. That's why I spend most of my time alone. I feel I'm not good enough for anyone. I googled that feeling to see what it meant and it said it was a symptom of depression. That in reality everyone had doubts about themselves and some people seek out relationships to lose themselves in that other person which on turn is bad for the relationship. So maybe being alone means being strong and sure. I don't know. Who knows anything anymore?
You should really try nofap. I know it gets a lot of shit, but just search on youtube the benefits of nofap. Just try it for a week and I promise you will feel the difference. You really have nothing to lose
I recommend this video ruclips.net/video/hbIaP6dZzDA/видео.html
Would you please go please stop using the word suffer? Everytime you say or write that word you self prophesy it. Every time you call yourself a sufferer you are a sufferer. Social anxiety can be overcome quite easily in fact however suffering can't. You need to see yourself as stronger than that and stronger than whatever your issue is. You need to realize your worth more than that and I have a very hard time with that because my mother never shut up about how good enough I was not even though I excelled at everything I tried. Whatever the problem may be social anxiety stuttering thinking you look ugly they are all just reasons to keep you where you are. You need to break that bubble and breathe some fresh air. It's not easy and it will be damn difficult but once you do you will wonder where life has been all your life! :-)
You envy going to parties? Parties are so overrated...
I miss deep meaningful conversations with people I like and respect. Taking a calm hike in nature, that sort of stuff.
Nalis Solus Maybe you are going to wrong type of parties then xd
@@taikajorma7276 this, parties are wicked for a while
Parties nowadays and for the last decade have been all about doing drugs, drinking yourself to waste, and smashing. Nothing special in these STD infested orgys
@You don’t give a shit about my name wtf is your problem man :/ ?
With all the changes in the world now feels like former system before corona was fake or not real
I cried. I am the same. I agree with everything you said. I'm basically like you, trying to not feel so bad because every time I think about the fact that I don't have friends, I cry so much.
Same.
Im truly sorry DeepFriedL, this also sounds like depression, obviously, you are not on your own here, Im sure a lot of us feel for you, see your doctor and get help. I wish I was there for you
Dear Deep, a lot of people around the world going through same problems.
I m lonely so I joined yoga, Gym nd like to meet under privileged children nd elderly people too. I like to visit spiritual places nd explore different aspects of life. Love u
Friends will make you cry even more, you're not missing out on anything.
DeepFriedLemonWedges you are not alone. No need to cry about it just try your best to get out there and meet new people. I'm struggling with depression and anxiety I've withdrawn from my brothers because they think I'm weird I lost my good friends they don't even want to talk to me. I've been struggling for over 5 years now the doctors are horrible they just prescribe you with medication thinking it will work but instead you just get hooked to them and can't come off the medications. I've tried talking to my parents about this but they don't seem to understand fully they just say eat and go to the gym I've tried that but still have these harsh symptoms. But I still try to cope with life and make little goals everyday for myself like go to the swimming pools and go for a walk by myself. People think mental illness is a joke but really it's not a joke millions of people suffer each day from mental illness.
I had my lonely wasted years. Loneliness is horrible and it can be dangerous.
im currently 3 years alone, know the feel and feeling it actually but im not wasting it, learnt german and english and got fit as fuck, but for what? thats the thing.
No man, you did good ! You will be better prepared for the future.
Tudor Renegade me too. feel free if you need to chat
Tudor Renegade in order to not be lonely we have to accept ourselves including our weaknesses and strengths... if people cant accept us then forget them, but at least we tried... also sometimes its less of a case of what they can do for us but what we can do for them, how we can help alleviate their loneliness for them to do the same, i think social skills and pyschology come into this too.
Tudor Renegade perhaps all we need is good social skills and the rest will follow...
Friendless people are strong people.
that's truee
@xrcrx ftfghjg that's not how it works anyways
Good !!! Nothing better than to FEED his pathology and narcissism.
I guess I'm Hercules, then. ;)
No, that's dumb.
Phones and technology. I bet if they didn’t exists, a lot more people would seek out real life friends.
So true
@David Sharma It’s not about being modern, it’s about the convenience of having access to these tools and technology. But we humans are so stupid and so irresponsible. We come up with reasons to convince ourselves that it’s normal and OK. But some who think a lot would naturally wonder.
Technology has separated man from nature. People are more connected to technology than humanity. Therein lies the problem.
So true 🙋
@@leighharwood916 hit the nail right on the head
I am lonely too. I wish there was a place that all lonely people could meet each other and they could make friends.
Hi😇🌹💌💌💌
I'm in San Francisco
If you can't say some thing nice just shut up.
This was for tin Fanny lv mogesen. Shut up.
Tine Fanny Ly Mogensen Kilumba
I'm in my mid 40's and your video hits home. I have no friend because I am an introvert. Man, I can relate to your high school story and Facebook story.thanks for the video
I perfectly feel you. I'm 25 and I have no friends. I've been struggling to have at least one but it isn't that easy.
Your honesty is so beautiful and inspiring.. wish I had the courage to be like you.
Don't worry!! I'm the same way, I'm 24 and ever since I was in high school., I had no friends!!! 0!!!!! No friendsss
Nancy Rivas heyy you're not alone
same
not in this world aha the best and only true friend i had and have found was a guy we were friend form 18 years old to 21 years odl and he decided to cut ties with me im now 23 years old and i feel disconnected from most people who make friends easily ect i feel so lonely i feel like i will never find someone that will be able or try to understand me and in a most genuine way :((((
@@Carmy0118 I'm also 23 I don't have any friends
I know how you feel Kenneth, I don't have any friends either, you're not alone
Me too
Fee there is a world out there u have the world at ur feet go for it I am ur friend and I don't even know u God bless x
Fee there is a world out there u have the world at ur feet go for it I am ur friend and I don't even know u God bless x
@@sangeetasrivastav4704 find God, learn his word.
You are not alone. I go through this too.
I don't believe it you're too pretty
She is pretty but maybe she's an introvert though?
she can just stand in the club, and wait for guys to hit on her
Michał Lewandowski..That doesnt mean anything man...just because guys hit on her, doesnt mean they value her company. Many men use women and visa versa
Michał Lewandowski that’s pretty ignorant dude
First step to prevent loneliness: quit Facebook
💯
@@fahadashrafofficial 🔥🔥😀
I quit Facebook and even though I still am mobile addict but I think I kind of am improving my social life.
At least I am making acquittances
@@fahadashrafofficial nice. Well done bro 🤘
Quit 2 weeks ago and going strong.
You are meant to be a leader.. that's why you don't fit into any groups... think about eagles, they fly alone. You are meant to do great things.. God bless.
Excellent advice, so true.
Joyful For His Glory Is this why I find it hard to work with a team?
How can I become a Christian??
leaders have a group of followers. if you have no followers then your not a leader, your a loaner.
andrew ortiz , to become a christian all you have to do is fake most of the things you do in your life and pretend to love god . yes its that simple . learn how to lie with a straight face and brag to people of how much you help others . oh and always try to have a smile that looks real , people love a nice smile :) .
I understand! I was completely alone on Thanksgiving. It was the saddest day I had experience in a very long time. I had never felt so lonely. I went to volunteer that morning to help serve people… And I came home around 10 or 11 AM. And I to watch the Facebook and everyone with their families and friends and making memories… And my memory was me crying… Literally all day long. Feeling like I was completely alone having just gotten over a break up. Just sitting here with my dog. So I went to the store and bought a box of cards. I came home and hand wrotesomething on every single one of them and put them in each door on the third floor of my apartment building.
Just don't get pumped and dumped.
Charity Garcia I know it's hard...i really know. But you are a strong person and i am sure you are also a kind one. I suggest something: go volunterring (i probably wrote that wrong).
Good. Sweet tears of emotional pain and eternal vengeful suffering. Keep it up you NASTY NARCISSIST.
You envious bitch.
😥😭 I can understand your pain of spending holidays alone
I'm in my 50's and I can so relate to this. I've never been able
to make and keep friends and while I've reached the stage of
accepting that I'm just going to grow old, with my books+
TV for company, I still feel sad that I have no one to talk to
when I have a worry or just to go with a coffee with and chat
like everyone around me. 🤔
Same bro, similar age.
I can relate.
Same here. In my early 60s oh well.
@@chicagomike How sad it is that so many of us lead such
lonely lives.. So many of us on the planet yet we find it so
difficult to bond with others.. 🤔
I am very similar
"well just go out there broooooo put yourself out therrrrrre it's easyyyyyyy" - the internet
It's actually that simple, if you're alone it's mostly your own decision. How in the world do people expect to get friends when you're alone all day in your room
Just a random dude there is a difference between being alone and being lonely. I agree you can choose to be alone, most introverts do it to ‘recharge’ after a social or crazy time/events that has happened. However, loneliness is different, you could be in a room full of people you know or at a party and it’s this voice or thought at the back of your head saying “your not worth the trouble, your lucky your in this position don’t push your luck, you aren’t worth being friends with, etc” you ask a lonely person what it’s like it feels like this. Just my opinion on this whole topic.
I love you already Kenneth!💘💞💖I'm a loner also, my mom died 2007, since then I'm alone! I hope that you have found someone since you uploaded this video ...GOD bless you Kenneth ...HE loves you with His Divine Heart!💖💞💝
AMEN, Jesus is the bestest friend we can ever have!
@Tine Fanny Ly Mogensen Jesus truly IS the best friend we can have. And did you ever consider the possibility that *not everybody who is lonely is a "weirdo"? Certainly, there are always weirdos out there, but how many of us are simply misunderstood, or smarter than the average person? And shame on you for making fun of anyone who's mother died.
I can so relate with the Facebook thing. It drives me mad that people from my high school are still hanging together and didn't keep in touch with me after we left school.
Julie Macmillan Lee Same here
Julie, Facebook is NOT real. People put their best faces on--beneath this happy face is very frequently a sad soul. Please do NOT pay any attention to the people on Facebook. I have heard of people going to for example, the Grand Canyon in the US. My friend saw someone take a selfie to upload to facebook and said that the guy did not even bother to look at where he really was. He was more concerned with his image than the beautiful sight that lay before him in the present moment. Now Julie, that person is so sad and insecure...can you see that...don't feel mad or sad...these are people who enjoy impressing everyone else, except their true selves. ROFL
I thought I was the only one that has felt this way for so long. I'm lonely because people treat me like I'm in invisible. I try to reach out but rarely is it reciprocated. Thank you for making this video.
I relate to you Briana, Ive found that in the past I buy somebody a drink in the pub and they don't get you one back, and I thought I bet they didn't come in the pub with any money
What's your email ?
Me too. I hate when colleagues ask me every Friday ‘so any weekend plans?’ And I have none. Nothing. And then I have to return the question and hear about how they are meeting with various groups of friends and do things together.
I can relate to most of your feelings. I am alone in life, too. All of the 'friends' I had got married and now seem to have absolutely no time for friends because every waking moment outside of their employment is spent with their significant others. life is so lonely and boring. It's such a deep pain knowing other people are out living their lives with others and enjoying fun experiences surrounded by people who care about them.. While I sit here alone. Making friends as an adult is difficult. I feel like most people already have their established social circles and, from what I've found, it's damn near impossible to squeeze into those circles.
that's true 2/3 couples 40+ I know are now divorced with a whole host of baggage and problems.
probably once you pass the 25 years old mark its really difficult im 23 and struggling a lot for 3 years trying to establish some kind of friendship. I used all that time to learn useful stuff and get fitt but for what.
Hi Callie
I know how you feel!
***** feeling it mate, all support
So true, feeling loneliness sucks so much
I see it like that: I rather have REAL friends or I rather be lonely. Since I do not find REAL friends, I rather stay lonely, being able to do at least what I wanna do without gettin restricted by those superficial "friends". Important thing is not to get frustrated or cynical. Stay open for friends, but do your stuff, like a lonely wolf.
my husband told me don't get too attached. im a loyal and a loving person to friends..when my friends got new cooler friends,they isolated me. it sucks coz i was always there for them.i still feel lonely at times. im jst focusing with my family right now
Sounds like they weren't friends in the 1st place. I think it's best not to be around people like that because they will lower your self-worth which would stop you attracting the good friends that you deserve.
Story of my life...
I feel the exact same way as you and it's quite strange in a world full of bodies to feel empty n lonely.
I think all the "modern technology" has a lot to do with our loneliness. It wasn't nearly as bad back in the days before cell phones. It was much better back then. People actually talked to each other face to face or on the land line phone. People sat out on their front porch and talked to their neighbors. This technology has made the world become cold. Everyone is looking down at their stupid "smart" phones and not at each other.
Technology made us closer but isolated in the same time
Social media intentionally or not really just gives all of us a reason to not call or see someone in person to connect, Theres people i have added on Snapchat who I met once two years ago and still see their story, like there’s less of a drive to get to know a friend/acquaintance’s life when u see how they think or what they do. i still try to meet up with people, not on social for a few weeks
Social media is the worst thing that could happen to us human beings. I decided to delete completely everything. It’s is a competition and appearances, especially Instagram.
So true I stay on the internet
I agree,because if people weren't posting where they were every second..and whom their with,we wouldn't feel so much pressure to have a good time.Also if your not invited to things then the paranoia starts and relationships change.
@@mml1426 exactly. I've just deleted instagram. Seeing people "having a fun time" with friends and "living a perfect life" made me depressed. I'm done with that bs.
I am going through a lot at the moment. It was really comforting for me to see that I was not the only one.
At some point in life we all go trough this
No FU, even an animal can feel lonely, as dogs and cats may suffer with separation anxiety, humans can.
I can completely relate. I constantly think something is wrong w me. People going out and hvng fun and I'm at home alone. I feel like I'm not able to connect w people for some reason but I'm constantly praying for just 1 genuine/platonic friendship. If I ddnt hv a gf, I'm not sure what kind of life I'd have.
You are not the only one.
I totally relate 💯
Everybody in this section should be friends just try to contact each other and you will not be alone.
I feel you. I’ve never had a real friend in my life, on top of being severely bullied. Loneliness is part of my dna at this point.
:( Feel ya! Sending love!
Same
I totally understand that nobody asks how you are. When people say hi to me at the workplace, i feel kind of speechless at times. i'm really quiet due to shyness that very few people say hello to me. i only really spend time with my mum. I feel so lonely but I try to stay upbeat that I wont always be like this, but your video really relates with me. I hope you are doing ok.
Spongey PegasiTM When they do that it's just that they have nothing better else to do. Remember this, what someone does and says only speaks about themselves, not you. In other words they're making themselves look like the real retards. But just for every person gossiping about you there's a dozen more going about their day like nothing happened and will forget the next day.
That's what hurts me too. I only ever spend time with my parents and it's really sad. I watch all the other kids go and do stuff with their friends but I have nobody.
it's no secret that the smarter the person is, usually the more lonely he/she is, because to be honest, most/majority of people can't understand him/her, and vice versa, people who are smarter usually can't relate & connect to most people, whom are often simple-minded ("Ignorance is bliss", sadly true).
I disagree with your comment here Niki, It sounds as if you have completely isolated yourself from the real world. I used to teach computing to school pupils doing their Duke of Edinburgh Award and made friends with them, so it's also a case of who you know, you see smart people as weakish, people who may not like sport usually excel at learning to play a musical instrument and has therefore been proven to enable you make new friends which I did, so how can you not relate to other people, I take it you don't understand yourself as a human being then. If somebody can't understand me, Im not the weaker one, Im only human, not another person, Ive been called arrogant by a mate of mine and he called himself a thicko, I said you're feeling emotional, but he was drunk at the time, no mate of mine, that's reality.
@Niki ... You are absolutely spot on ! Most people who claim to be your friend , end up using you or betraying you.....Don't need people like that ! I find that the vast majority of people are not remotely on my level (not bragging) and simply can't comprehend me. Soo many dumbed down people out there now....don't want anything to do with any of them ! .....I may be 'alone' but I'm not lonely ! ....... Clearly Wayne doesn't understand either.....he's misread what you said.
I'm sorry but no. 1. There are different kinds of "smarts" you can be academically smart or emotionally smart or whatever.2. most people that are popular at my school get really good grades and are really smart. I honestly think that's a bit of a myth.
Sorry I know you trying to make yourself feel better but this is so inaccurate. Plenty of smart people have great social lives. My friend goes to Harvard and when I visit so many brilliant people are there having fun with other people. It's all about who you involve yourself with, what community you live in, etc.
There's smart and arrogant..it's the arrogant that repels people.
Loneliness is killing me 😢 I don’t have any friends wither.
I'm so sorry, my heart breaks for you. I was like that before, then I started saying hi to everyone and made some good friends. Believe it or not lots of people are lonely.
Oh My goodness...I don't want to know that so many people are lonely...come talk!!!...
I am also very lonely:
1. I keep the lights and fan in the next room switched on to make myself believe that there's someone else too living in my appartment. But loneliness makes me realise quite quickly that its a lie.
2. I like to listen to the crackling sound of cockroaches chewing away at the cardboard of carton boxes kept in my room at night since it gives me the impression of atleast another living being co-inhabiting my appartment with me.
3. I yearn for someone to ring my doorbell too when I hear it ring in my neighbour's house.
4. I usually say "I love you" out aloud in my mind because I have no one to say that to.
5. I feel terrible being lonely and don't want to to do anything at all.
6. I sob as I write this feeling pity at my helplessness.
7. Contrary to other lonely people out there who cannot make any friends, I have many school and college friends but I cannot show up in front of them as I am ashamed of myself.
Hi r you looking for a relationship with a good man 😇💭💌💌💞
Wow...that's unbelievable
Let me know if you would like to talk, from Mouse in Ireland ☘️🐭
Oh my God, Rohan Bora! Now why would you have me sobbing right along with you? I just can't stop my tears from flowing because I thought I was lonely but now I'm at a loss for words after reading your comment.Rohan please know that someone is always praying for you,and wish you were here near me.my dearest I am lonely too but I feel for you,and hope that ater you read all the comments on this post it will bring you some comfort knowing you're not alone in this, we're too many to be counted.god Bless your sweet heart,and just say a prayer for me as I'll always be saying one for you.much blessings.
Hang in there buddy
I have literally never heard anyone else speak about this issue which I have also had for so many years. I feel exactly the same as you and if I ever do get slightly close with anyone it never lasts...i'm so lost, I feel how you feel, Thanks for sharing!!! I feel the tiniest bit less alone.
We are all out here and we are real people. You know that you're a real person behind your keyboard and the rest of us are as well. These aren't just words on the screen that we say to somebody. The people who are not friendship or they have shown themselves in one post! What part of the country do you live in? I would certainly like to be your friend and I don't see any reason why we couldn't chat online and then talk on the phone. Every now and then I want to pick up the phone and tell somebody something that happened or a weird fact I learned or anything just to pick up the phone and say hey how you doing? My real name is Elizabeth I use the wheelchair outside the house because they don't have any feeling in my feet and I fall. But I love to do fun things I can make you laugh just by the way I talk I don't tell jokes but everybody laughs when we talk which is right now just my mother who hates me. Yep she finally told me the other day well I don't love you! I don't care I've let her run my life and it's time for me to have my own life! My email address for anyone who wants it that's not a bully and for you is tuniee88 at yahoo.com. I hope to hear from you!
I have LOTS of friends.....and they're all imaginary!
😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
LOL, LOL, LOL, 😄😄😄😄😄😂😂😂
That made me laugh!!!!!!
So ironic 😂😂😂😂😂
Who else here wishes they could be Kenneth's friend? I'd love to see your input
I would. I would offer to have a game of chess with him if I made him a drink.
@@onenessseeker5683 Yay! Great answer
Definetly want to be your friend?
I do.. We share so many of the same traits.. Anxiety, Depression, a
constant gnawing fear of being rejected by others and the pressure
to be someone we're not.. (to fit in)..
@@ramblingrose1540 whats your name?
I am also very lonely. The last time I had close friends I was in my early teens. Today I'm 41 😢
Lies. Women cant be lonely. Especially if you really look like that profile picture.
MrShaiya96 it doesn’t matter if you’re pretty or ugly. Do you know if you’re pretty more often than not people only care about your looks..not your personality and your quirks, what matters to you and the details of your life. Beauty can be a curse
@@MrShaiya96 classic incel response. Because you are the only one who has issues in life right? Boohoo you. Such bs.
@@msgirly6827 I dont know what "issues" have to do with loneliness. Clearly different things. My statement is either correct or it's not. Facts dont care about your feelings, little girl
@@msgirly6827 secondly, why should you care about Cindy's problem any more so? Boohoo her too right?
I can relate to you so much :( I wish you all the best of luck!
FAcebook is fake, people only post those 'happy, smiley pics' on facebook. The best friend in the world is yourself! You will never feel lonely again, even when in room alone :)
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TheBrokenBMW How you know
I think that when we started taking selfies for every little thing, we started caring about what people thought, started comparing ourselves, naturally became more fake. Because now you're soliciting your images.
I meant to say soliciting your experiences.
i literally smile in none of my pics lol. i could be with a group of my mates in a pic but there will be no smile.
I CONSTANTLY LOOK AT MY PHONE EVERY 2 SECONDS JUST TO GET A NOTIFICATION FROM SOMEONE....i AM LONELY TOO
LosBeOnIt hey im lonely too. wanna be friends? also i have aspergers.. i have poor social skills but that shouldnt detair anyone.
I have as in Ireland. How are things for you
Claire Coffey good :-)
LosBeOnIt let's be friends
hi , im lonely too, lets be friends please
God bless you Kenny!!!
Feel you brother, im 17 with no friends
16 no friends
19 no friends
19 no friends
23 and never had one
17 no friends cause theres no one I like
Ken, you seem like a great guy that anyone would be proud to hang out with and call a friend.
We introverts are a minority, and the pressure is so high on us. We're labelled all type of names, and it feels weird!
Atleast, I got 2 guys (they're unrelated and don't know each other).When I meet any of them even after many years, it feels like we last spoke an hour ago. We all live in the same town ironically. It's crazy how it is so!
....Remembers sitting at a lunch table alone as a 3rd grader...and realizing I was different than other people...eyes water up.
Hi 😇💌💌
I thought I am the only one who never have friend, I feel embarrassed that I don't know how to make friends...
Z Mundo Nothing to feel bad about. Don’t put yourself down. One suggestion is to look for activities you enjoy doing and you’ll likely hook up with others who enjoy the same thing. Discuss common interests. Join a club, hiking group, a Meetup etc. so many options. It’s best with small groups, easier to talk one on one.
I agree, it's so easy to put yourself down and feel this way, we are human beings, we can be sociable and adapt, not everyone thinks that way, when you do lose friends, it's not our fault, it;s life, but don't misjudge yourself
I don’t have any friends, on purpose.
Same
@Shirley Jackson not all of them, there are not many nice people but they exitst. But this world is generally unfair and sucks most of the time. But that's supposed to make you stronger
you are very clever person.
@Shirley Jackson bad n good people everywhere fuck them
@Tine Fanny Ly Mogensen I only see one ugly person here.
The most depressing thing about this video is that his life has barely changed in the last 5 years
How do you know bro?
Do you know him?
@@robertoramoshernandez2355 Watch his recent videos
You are probaly lonely, but watching Kenneth videoes lying to yourself that your are not. That is why you are wathing this, Sam Sneed. To feel better about yourself. Its sad. You waych him for 5 years, then make a comment talking abou him being sad when hes honest? Com on Sam you are the really lonely one here. (people like) you are depressing
@@TheDjdjyou Do you think I really feel any better
I feel u, bruh. That loneliness that comes from that...sometimes unbearable. I really wish I could just not give a f**k, but I just can't let go and let the demons out. People say to me, "let go", "say what's on your mind", "stop caring what others think". I pray to God to break this yoke, this stronghold on my life, and to give me purpose. A reason to hold on just a little bit longer...and then, just a little bit longer, and then a little but longer. I've made it to 32 years, still lonely, still self conscious, still looking strong on the outside, yet emotionally needy on the inside. But I'm still here.
Bri J. I
Be who you are and continue to do good. The right people will come to you and stay. Never give up on your self
Even if it seems you have nothing and no one to comfort you. If all you have is Jesus. Than you literally have everything you need. He is the essence of the word love and will fill you up with fresh new joy each morning. Every great person in the bible was alone with God at one stage in their journey, but that's when He put his Super into their natural and did anointed things with their life. Stay strong 💪 your time is coming
We love you and God does too. Listen to Dan Mohler, he helps me.
Bri J. that was too real. i felt every word u said. but i dont always look strong.
27 , no friends, only work and little family around, thank hell for the internet! lol im a normal guy, not a sociopath or a loser or anything (i think lol), people just stress me out and make me feel bad about myself ... glad im seemingly not alone!
I feel he same way.. I’ve had friends in high school but it’s like I’m never around them anymore and I moved to another state and I’m having no luck making any friends.. I only have acquaintances tbh. It sucks. Seems like I’m bored everyday and I hate watching other people go out and it seems like they rub their moments in your face in a way... I wish I had more friends to go out with. I don’t just call anybody my friend because people can be mean and I’ve had people who have left me or treated me like shit for no reason at all~ people in general piss me off sometimes. I’d rather be alone most the time watching a movie or doing my hobbies.. but I still wish I had more friends ):
Your not alone, I'm almost 50 yrs old and have lived in the same town all my life and I have not one friend in this town. I completely understand what ur saying.
I did have the quinticential best friend and "group of friends" growing up. I just turned 35 on Dec 28th and I spent my birthday alone at home, spent Christmas at home alone, spent New Years, you guessed it, home alone. My "best friend" didn't even call me. The truth is that everyone else is busy having families, they all moved away and had kids.
I live alone in the Mountains and have 4 cats, my allegiance is to them, they are my children. I'm not ashamed at all to say that. Where I live is so rural there are only less than 200 people population and they are all old and disabled. I was never into the bar scene, I don't sleep around, and I like to stay home. My days consist of yoga, meditation and watching movies and cooking meals, and cleaning. Staying busy helps very much.
I only go into town to shop and I always hope to meet people but no one ever talks to me
Besides work, I'd go home and on my days off I'd probably not speak to a single person for two or three days. It was a bit lonely, but peaceful. When I decided to go part time and start dance training due to a lifelong desire to learn dancing...the satanic network unleashed itself on me. Instead of just subtly shadowing me and harassing me at work, the network began to openly taunt and terrorize me. In a way this was good, because instead of just having a feeling of being isolated and disliked...i figured out that the devil and his millions had it in for me...so...God protected me by setting me apart a bit. So...I'm probably Elijah and the Female Witness...anyway, see you in Jerusalem!
@ targeted you can meet a lot of friends in a psych ward
My advice would be to get the heck out of there. Sure you are acquired to the lifestyle, but if you potentially want to live your best life you should get out of your comfort zone and start fresh somewhere else. You don’t want to be on your deathbed a long time from now regretting the things that you didn’t get to experience just because you would rather stay in the same place with your cats! Take risks
The thing that hurts me the most is that nooooo one makes the effort to get in contact with me and I feel fucking shit about myself and think there is something wrong with me. I feel your pain mate like you wouldn't believe
It takes so much courage to talk about these issues. Thank you for your bravery! You have truly helped me feel less alone. I know that we will get through this. I'm thinking of making my own RUclips channel to help people like us, but I don't know how yet
Loneliness can be so unbearable. I'll be your friend!
As sad as it may be, it's always refreshing to know that I am not alone being a loner
people doesn't like me. I try to be myself but I annoy everyone. I'm 22, I feel lonely, my classmates are joined or married and they're always talking how great their lives are going, that's so sad. I have no one, I have never be in a true relationship or friendship. I just want to talk to someone...
and nobody here is offering a chat talk ...
Im not sure how to say this but i wish i can bring all the lonely people together and meet up in a park some where and have alot of fun,text me and lets find out how we can make alot of friends.i have 6 grand kids girls your age, they all would. Like to make a friend. Lets work something out.text me or call me 6467961396 anyone who read this and would like to talk call me.any age group. Thank you joan.
I wish had friends
Yeah I had that exactly the same problem, I when I wanted to make friends at school I would stagger to keep it working & I would get on their nerves but I never did it intentionally, I'm 38 now, I'm married with 2 daughters but growing up in my teenage years was really hard & I found it tricky to mix with people without getting on their nerves.
Those ppl are fuking liars everyone have problems .
Same. But I kind of don't care. I'm an introvert, I have social anxiety, I enjoy being alone. It does get to me sometimes that I don't have a group of besties and whatnot. But I was always the fat girl that was always there for everyone to give a shoulder to cry on and that was it. I always was genuine towards the people I considered friends, but it then turned out they didn't see me as one. So over time those ''friendships'' just ended. I'd rather be by myself than have fake friends. Sadly, that's my only experience. What makes me most sad is that I still get friendly and am genuine with people today. But it seems one sided. I have my family. I have my bf. That's all I need.
I feel you girl. I'm always friendly to people as well but I guess that's not enough to be cool with someone. Oh well. I'm starting to learn to just love myself and be my own friend :)
You can be alone, but not necessarily on your own, it's just the way these words are used.
Ilona L. Exactyme!!
Stop finding excuses for your loneliness.
I didn't mention loneliness anywhere. And I said I enjoy being alone. Like, I don't understand what you're talking about and even if I did what you say, in all honesty, you could shove that comment where the sun don't shine. Have a nice day.
It's better to be alone. The people who are alone, are wise. It means you don't relate to people who are fake..It means you are not apart of this world. You should embrace it because I prefer to be alone.
honesty can be such a beautiful thing. Love how authentic you sound.
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I haven't got any friends either. I can relate to your video :)
same, life sucks without friends, didnt have friends since 2003 and im 13 so yah so my whole life without friends walking alone in school
Phemzyx hey im the same, dont worry about it... i used to have friends going back to secondary/primary school but i dont usually make friends with people until i can trust them, otherwise i supress myself and supress myself some more till they move on.. basically i dont trust people to be understanding, i remember the last thing i ever said in a math class and i shouted the wrong amser and then someone did the retarded hand sign (you what i mean) and that shut me up for good, so yeah i dont trust people... they told me exactly what i needed to hear.. that people are full of it... and basically the more difficulties you have the more you look like a twat to the rest of society. sometimes i feel like when someone actually speaks to me the universe has exploded in my mind (but in a good way), like just them speaking to me is better than even my own life. pretty f:****d up right...
Lizzie at least you have one thing... the internet..
Swap numbers and we are friends. It’s that easy to makr friends😅😍
im sure u have a friend
Whenever someone invites me to some social activity i literally panic. I want friends, but i dont want to play the friend game.
Definitely just go. Try to connect with people. If it doesn’t work or is awkward, at least you did your part and tried 💕 I know because I’ve been there.
@@vivianphillips768 i totally agree with you go !!
Go just go. ..try you never know . I get it its the teust factor we feel trusting ppl is hard to do but its part of life.
Do NOT play the friends game, be yourself and enjoy the company of people, just go to the gatherings and listen what other people have to say, even if u think people act stupid, cause they will, lol, lol, do not judge people and just listen and you will see how fun it can be.
That’s exactly what it is too, a game.
I'm right there with you, Ken. I'm in my early 40s and man does it suck not having anyone. It's because I'm socially awkward and feel like my self worth is very low. I don't know exactly how or why it happened but that's the one main thing holding me back but it's hard to shake it even after all these years. Man, it sucks.😔
It's kind of strange though that I'm going through slight depression right now dealing with this very issue and this video popped up and I never did any searches for this type of thing.🤔
Anyway, I hope you find the friendship your soul is craving. No one should be alone.
Brother... This World is a bunch of Fools.... To be very frank, we don't need anyone to make ourselves Happy...
Better to stop Self-Pity... It's your advantage to concentrate on your Career... Work hard on your Skills... Be a Millionaire... Then , notice the sudden change in your Surroundings...
It's not just words... I've applied this in my life and this worked... People who used to ignore me , now they do talk to me... I'm not being Rude... but, let's stop fooling ourselves.... It's time to wake up and make the correct decisions for our Lives... I don't give a Damn to what people think of me... I try not to hurt anyone... I stammer and stutter at times... due to which people make fun of me... but, I don't just give a Damn... Move on....
If someone doesn't like me, I don't care..
I'm not here to impress anyone... This attitude has transformed me immensely. ... This might help people around... U R awesome, my
friend/s
shadab anwar , exactly , the governmentt love those type of people , lots of extra tax dollars , i like their tax dollars also , someone has to work so that the poor can get funding :) thank you from me a poor person .
Shadab Anwar good advice man thank you
Yep, the best advice here. Move on and Don't care what people say about you they are not in your lifestyle...better achieve your own goal (millionare, freedom, happiness, minimalist)
Moving on and not caring is great, but you will most likely need friends to be truly happy. Sure you can book yourself a nice vacation, but what good is that if you have no one to go with?
Shadab Anwar thanks bro
Facebook is like porn, makes you think everyone is having fun but you and doesn't represent reality at all. If you're lonely, start driving for Uber. You'll get so much conversation you'll want to be alone again. In my experience, people are best in small doses.
Perfect.
Abby Normal shoot I'm a truck driver and i get too much conversation when I'm stopping to get fuel lol
Abby Normal, Amen!!!!
Abby Normal driving for Uber isn’t the same thing as having satisfying friendships. In fact, even though I’m lonely , I hated it when riders tried to make conversation because I knew it was mostly for their own amusement, not because they were genuinely interested . It felt like a chore to me to answer personal questions about myself which I didn’t like revealing unless I knew for certain there was a genuine connection for potential friendship . Which was pretty much never .
SleeplessinOC A lot of people mistake apathy and boredom for loneliness.
I don’t think you realise how many people are exactly like you. Most friends I had growing up turned out not to be friends at all. I never particularly enjoyed social events such as parties etc. I think photos people put on social media are false. I know I’ve put stuff up so my life looks fabulous. It isn’t. You need to find people more like yourself, with similar interests. Sometimes just one person in your life is enough. I have my husband. He’s my best friend. All the others are just acquaintances who pass through my life. Stay strong. You’re a smart and interesting person. Just like yourself more.
All of the RUclips comments are filled with people who are going through the same thing. Let's all socialize in the comment section including the guy in the video. Plus a lot of you people that are commenting are genuine I wished I had more people like you rather than being friends with someone that will take advantage and blames you for being too kind where literally its them for for being a coward to own that he or she was in wrong to mistreat you. My friends let's socialize on the comment section.
Grezzer Your ideea is good my friend. If this was facebook you could create an messenger group or something.
Grezzer agreed
am in. i dont have friends
Grezzer I want to #Hug u Bro
Great idea Grezzer. I’m so lonely and isolated. I used to have many friends. Your not alone.
People don’t need to make friends now bc they have there phone addictions...
Someday you will value solitude (not loneliness). Seriously, solitude is a strong foundation for personal growth.
J Johnson and it’s a strong foundation for ones demise.
Maybe... but I m 38 and still feel quite far from enjoying solitude.