Loneliness - Feeling Alone and Isolated
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ugh, I've let rejection and loneliness destroy me. I'm 29 and the loneliest I've ever been. literally and emotionally condemned to solitude.. I'm not a happy person.
I hope things improve for you very soon!Hugs.Ryan.☺️
It was about your age when I started to notice being alone more and more.. I used to get lots of girls in highschool and early 20's and it slowly dried up now that I'm 34.. Not sure what or when it changed, but I've been alone and single for 6 years now. I wont settle and am repulsed by fat, so if I don't find someone who passes the bar (which isn't very high), I'll continue to be alone.. You kinda get used to it.. I have almost no friends either after a cross country move..
i find in this world the people who do not care much and are brash and arrogant tend to have lots of friends
Yeeaah true ^.^" it's too bad, really
Yes I’ve noticed this too. Sucks
realone786 I'm arrogant, and I have nobody lol so that's not always the case.
People just love confidence in general. Sometimes arrogance and narcissism get mistaken for confidence, sadly.
I AGREE!
You have become much more comfortable in front of the camera and I found this video really insightful and relatable.
Well done man x
+Stefan Alexander Lay Ⓥ Thanks!
I'm glad you're sharing your heart with the world, being so vulnerable and transparent, to let others know they're not alone. Sending love and light your way. It takes great courage, brave soul.
Great video, Kenny. Another thing that helped me feeling isolated is the book by Pete Walker, 'Complex PTSD From Surviving to Thriving.' This book is exceptional and breaks down the complexity of insecurities and low self-esteem and why these things happen. Everyone please please read this book it is valuable. I was doubtful at first but it was very enlightening and quite a learning experience.
You hit the nail on the head with this video!! So true! I have always felt this way!! I had friends that I truly trusted and they all turned on me!! Nearly done me in!! Thanks for this video!!
I am Mr Lonely but when I see your video I FELL GOOD
lets be friends jay. we can be good supprting freinds. why not dont me mr lonely
Kenneth, despite the subjects, your videos are great to watch and listen to, I'm twice your age but learn from them. You seems to be a genuine, wise but still very young man, you seems to be a very likeable person, I wish you all the best. Greeting from Sweden
Gosh, I'm so glad I've found your channel. I can't wait to find the time to watch more of your videos. I relate on so many different levels on many of the things you discuss with us. It's so comforting to listen to you relate your experiences. It's almost like you're working things out in your head by just having someone to talk to. Your description of loneliness was right on. It always does seem to be such a "us vs. them" issue. No one understands. I find myself forcing myself to become someone I'm not just to fit in and yet it still doesn't seem to work. it just seems so difficult to find someone that wants a "real" conversation. So much of the conversation is superficial small talk. Trying to introduce a serious conversation about feelings or something else is met with a brick wall.
But you made some excellent points about breaking free and opening yourself up to other opportunities. I found this very helpful. Thanks so much. Listening to you is like having a conversation with a good friend!
+Gary Bruneel Hey Gary! It's great for me to get comments like this. I hope something I say can make a difference for you. Looking forward to seeing more comments from you in the future!
If you lived close to me, I would be your friend.
Yer i would be his friend too.
I am so socially awkward. I’ve been alone for so long I don’t even know how to approach people. Sometimes I have a hard time making eye contact. Sometimes I do like being alone but I crave to have a true friendship with someone. I have tried but they never last long which leads me to believe it’s me and this is how life is going to be.
Avoidant attachment m
I have always been a lonely guy but I don't see it as a negative thing.
After awhile you get use to it and learn how to use that.
Now, I think loneliness is a gift from the gods!!!
I love my lonelyness!!!
Because it is a time that I can focus on myself and bettering myself!!!
For example, it's all about how you see lonelyness.
And then you can use this free time to work on your goals and passion!!!
But don't misunderstand me, I am not saying that you should isolate yourself all the time.
Because sometime you will feel the need to go out and meet some people!!!
It is just being human.
And Of course I have few friends witch I see sometimes, but most of the time I am alone.
And just like you, I am not so close to my familly, we don't have so much in common to share.
But I have accepted it a long time ago and I am fine with it!!!
Anyway thanks Kenneth for this great video :)
Simon
Same as both of you
I always resonate with your videos. Such an open-hearted and articulate guy. I am sure you help many with your musings and wise reflections as we all struggle with life's challenges.
I feel like I can truly connect with how you feel. I normally don’t comment as I feel too shy too, but I love your videos and they are very relatable, all the best.
Yeah good job on this video I can relate to it a lot
I especially like the part you talked about setting the bar too low it just hit me. When I get into bouts of depression and loneliness I just want to feel something or feel wanted I do sometimes find the people that want to take advantage or turn back to people I stopped talking to who weren't good for me. definetly not a good thing to do but yeah your video gave me more motivation to look into why I do this and find ways to change this.
I think the opposite though I think society wants us to have ton of friends, go out and party and be outgoing, and not be different or introverted. I'm introverted but also like socializing occasionally it's hard to balance ....part of me likes being home a lot and other part of me wishes I had more friends or an exciting life. For now more than anything I do just need to start loving myself and accepting how my life is at this moment and learn to be ok with being lonely. I mean I don't like being lonely but it is what it is for now might as well learn to accept it and not be afraid of it.
Loneliness for me is something much deeper and more subtle than just wanting to be with people who like or love me. There are people who already do that and I could visit them any time. My loneliness is for some perfect time, place and situation that even I can't quite define. I'm lonely for my perfect, eternally youthful summertime, in my own youth world.
I don't agree that other people are like me, that I exaggerate how different I am. People who even approach the way I think and feel *are* very, very rare. You may see that as conceited, but I see it as blunt honesty. Yes, I *am* misanthropic, but I'd rather be authentically misanthropic, than be surrounded by "loving" people who don't have a clue who I am and live in fairy tale worlds of sweet nothings.
Principle. Substance. Authenticity. If these make me lonely, so be it.
Woah, I feel like you speak pretty well! Like it's very natural for you to talk about this topic. And to me you seem like a very interesting person. I love to hear about your insights on life. Also, not really having any activities in your life doesn't mean that you are a boring person. That kind of an ideal that is very prominent in today's society is pretty much false. It just tells about your exterior and is kind of shallow if you only talk about how cool it was going scubadiving yesterday for example. Having very little stimulation in your life doesn't necessarily make you a boring person. It's the rich inner life that counts.
What a poignant comment and true. Its confident of you to say so as well. I've thought it but tend to hide the fact as it's so 'cool' to be doing zany stuff. Personally I like quietness and a lot of solitude.
Agree with both of you. Being busy on the outside is over estimated. Its fine but everyone is made different. My inner life keeps me busy all the time. I avoid questions about my activities but i love talking about ideas & feeling experiences. So rich baby🌈
nice video sir
I’ve had plenty of girlfriends in the past but they all asked me out. Not one girl in all of my history has said yes to me asking her out.
This video gave me a lot of good insight!👍👍👍👍👍👍
Insightful video working out what people want: to be understood and accepted, is so accurate. And you gave a clear conclusion that we need to first understand/accept ourselves is great. A video needs to have a clear purpose, logical progression and conclusion. I think you nailed it with this video. Too many are just ramblings which are not helpful to viewers. Hope you make more like this one. God bless.
I'm really glad I found your channel! You have such great insight on subjects that not many people have tried to tackle and analyze. Very brave to place yourself in that vulnerable position that you mention, and very well organized and worded.
Thanks. c:
Thank you for your encouragement. I have lost many people around me.
You've got a great Channel as we're all in the same boat watching your channel and reading the comments I don't feel so alone because I know a lot of people are going through what I go through it's just too bad we can't get together and form a group
You know that girl that chose the bad, cool guy? Right now she wishes she chose you.
Always remember eagles fly alone at high 🔥
Dued i hate life because I'm a idiot and that I try to do anything I fail so please
Me too. Legit been through the same thing as you.
Stay positive man!
There is no more humanity left no phone calls hardly any texts people are robots
Great video btw, i really needed this
That was great and right on.
Wow I can't believe how much I can relate to you. I struggle with making friends and im also not really close with my family either. I wish I wasn't like this
How about trying to travel more, like just take a random train or bus somewhere. Maybe go to a restaurant alone with confidence. Join a club with ppl somewhere idk. Just a couple of ideas.
INFJ?
Ps I'm the same way with girls. I went through a confident stage in college for a year and felt like a man whore lol. Men are supposed to be the pursuers biologically and women are mostly not ready to be the pursuer. Be careful because women who pursue can be abusive. I'm figuring it out myself, but have adopted a mentality where I don't want a relationship right now, and am not looking. Possibly, you're conflating pursuing a woman with being a cheezy pua? Current era propaganda is messaging that men are rapists if they try to talk to a woman. Sadly, the real bad guys out there will never get the message, but it does a great deal of damage to compassionate men like yourself, and is in fact the opposite of what you should be worried about. Compassionate men benefit from acting on the world more and allowing the world to act on them less.
And yes, definitely thank you for sharing. It's truly courageous what you do.
10:50 is spot on! When you're vulnerable for yourself, not other people, your vulnerability is not an external vulnerability. Predators cannot prey on those who know their weak spots.. they thrive on the denial of weakness that is projected out.
i have exactly the same problem .what should i do ??
meriame mahou just move on
This is truthhhhhh💋💋
Continue to be yourself and don't think of it is picking up girls, think of it as meeting young ladies and finding things in common. Or meeting one special Young lady.
One of my kids told me that girls like for you to be funny and smart. If you're not funny then be honest, keep it real and try not to be nervous. Pretty soon we'll be planning your wedding day. I am invited!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wonderfully insightful aND interesting monologue,Kenneth.To quote Travis Bickle:-"I'm god's lonely man....loneliness has followed me all of my life....in bars,streets,restaurants..everywhere.." If you fancy a chat on Facebook my name is Alexander Eventhal.My Facebook friend tally..........0!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!xx
where do you live Kenny? Lets chat sometime?
Look me up vivian Mosley on google
You're the male version of me.
Hey if you ever come down to LA, let me know. Ig @batshebataupunzalikha
This killed me😂
He is READING OFF OF A SCRIPT. He is not genuine.
Emergency Appeal no he isnt.
You so suck
Hey do you have Instagram account?
Why can't I be your friend. I have no one. I'm 19 and I've never had a real friend. No one wants to do stuff with me, no one cares. Why can't us people be together and be friends and have each others backs and stick together..
Brayict Gaming let's be friends:)
You're spot on bro. No one likes me and accepts me. They all think I'm fucking weird and shit. Which imo, I truly believe I'm not. You're not the only one. I don't have any friends either. Anyways, I don't want to live like this forever with no friends and shit.
I got rejected and it broke my heart no one even wants to understand about me I’m lonely just as you I am so much fear feeling don’t accept who I am so I feel ignored to I absolutely sit alone and I am so insecure
You are so right. To be accepted by people. Rejection is heartbreaking. I got rejected when i got pregnant with my daughter. I was in a 6.5 year relationship and just like that.... I was dumped.
And number three to not feel invisible and unimportant.
OMGI just asked myself the other day do I have to change who I am to be accepted..... Which left me feeling frustrated because I am who I am why do I need to change? But when you are feeling lonely and have no friends you begin to wonder what you're doing wrong?
great video kenny, loved the way you put this across
Desi Tim haha what's wrong with you
Dude, really. fack off.
You are a great person. I wish I knew you in my life.
thank you
why not becomming hwatsapp vice or video friends to support each other
You should tell yourself not to judge yourself for being alone and balance alone time and together time in your life. If you're lonely when you're alone then how are you going to enjoy being alone at various times when you are in a couple. You need to learn to be happy with alone time and together as a couple time
Great video,you are just like me.nobody understood me,i never cared to make me understandle to others.always lonely,no friends,never understood or accepted by others,always minding my own business,afraid of insecurity,internet is my only companion.i tried to make friends in the past but it ended up in the bullying.after that i thought friendship is a relationship that if you are vulnerable and open to them,they would take advantage of you.i was alone for so long i kinda get used to it.but still i am looking for a good friend.
I dont feel a part of this world.
Nobody understands me.
Social Anxiety is terrible.
People ive met are narcs.
And yes ive been rejected many times. I dont trust people anymore... I dont have a best friend or friends. Im happier alone because people are just selfish and nasty.
Be a better version or the best version of yourself, so you remain your self, but still putting best side of you out there.I have has heaps of rejection, had friends where i thought we were, but they have all left, different friends in different places, but they have all left, no actual verbal reject, just stop returning messages, or txts, just dont see them again.
Brilliant insight my friend. I hope you are doing well these days.
I always feel alone and i hate it and love it at the same time. I wish i could figure out which one i really want.
Just came across your videos today. Very good points you made. You are helping so many people with this so keep it up. I know you know this because of your description. haha
Im the same way.
I give your video a huge thumbs up!!!👍👍👍👍👍👍
A great video Kenny!
Nice video
4:46, rejected by this girl who I thought was 'the one', we went out for about a month, I finally confessed that I really liked her and I thought she liked me too, but apparently not. Afterwards we tried being friends but it was just a terrible idea. Shortly after I lost a friendship with her best friend, who I barely talk to after she got a boyfriend. We used to talk every day for about a year. I have never been the same since. All I want is someone who will be a loyal companion, where we can help each other through this mess we call 'growing up'.
Ahahaha this truly is my main source of happinesss AHHHHHH YOUR THE BEST YOUNG FELLOW XXX
Same dude
This makes a lot of sense, my biggest problem is that i never allow myself to be vulnerable
Great video
Sorry you are lonely and sad! Perhaps consider sponsoring a child through Compassion International. It will give you a sense of purpose and compassion. You can read about these kiddos who struggle in poverty and through loss of parents and real hunger and some who are even used as child labor and sexually exploited. Praying for you!