How Do I Manage My Loneliness?
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Eckhart shares a personal story to illustrate how feelings of loneliness become transformed through acceptance.
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Sometimes when things are falling apart they may actually be falling into place.
The worst is feeling lonely when you’re surrounded by people.
I would rather go live on a mountain alone with my dog then continue feeling unsupported and lonely with the people I’m around.
Finding true love begins with Loving yourself. You must know that you are whole, complete and do not need another human being to complete you.
Then you will recognize and attract people who are vibrating at the same frequency.
Your life is a mirror. You will only attract that which you are on the inside.
Love attracts love.
Two halves will never make a whole.
You attract your soulmate by becoming your soulmate.
I accepted my loneliness years ago. The thought of being in a relationship makes me feel exhausted. It doesn't bother me at all anymore I love it.
I've spent so long on my own now that it seems more natural and comfortable than being around people. I'm not sure that's a good thing but for now, that's the way it is. I sleep well without worry, I enjoy my breakfast and my little roll-ups(tobacco) with my cups of tea and coffee (mostly decaf), I walk, I exercise, I have TV, I have RUclips, I can sit quietly and enjoy peace and quiet, I have music if I want it. These things fill my day. Life isn't very happy, but it can be content, and who knows what's around the corner?
Nice young man seeking out the truth in himself. It's always encouraging to see that.
I don’t even need to hear what he says I just see him and I feel calm
Solitude can only happen when you are alone. Most people get lonely when they are with others.
To overcome my loneliness, I remind myself that the stars in the sky love me.
Belinda Elisa me too.. asl bb? Just kidding ;)
I would look for an answer that doesn't involve telling oneself fairy stories, whether religious or made up yourself.
Really cool answer Belinda. That's original. It's poetic. I have a slightly different take. "The stars in the sky are a beautiful reflection of the One who loves me. He is the One who created the stars. He is the One that loves you and I more than we could ever imagine." Take care and be blessed, my friend.
I'm glad Eckhart now says yin and yang and not necessarily physical male and female. In The Power Of Now he talks about how we need partnership with the opposite sex to be complete. Partnership which completes the yin/yang balance - much better and more liberal and realistic since gender and sexuality are so diverse.
on motorways the white lines love me....they told me so
The pain body definitely arrives when you're on Facebook. break the addiction!
Get off FB.. stop feeding illuminati programs 🤗😅👍😀
The guy in the intro: “trying to be like you, doing nothing.” 😂♥️
If you feel lonely during quarantine turn off the TV and social media and go within. Commune with yourself and the spirits and the angels. They are all listening and are the best friends you could ever wish for. They know you inside and out.
Eckhart's ability to show us how to gently laugh at ourselves in the midst of mental turmoil is brilliant. Thank you so much for drawing me out of the tyranny of my mind!
Thats exactly what happened to me: the Life has created the circumstances of an unbearable suffering and I was forced to look into it instead of running away and finding distraction. I came to the realisation that the old way of living simply doesn't work anymore and I had 2 choices: to stop living or start a new living. Like this my journey began 2 years ago. I passed the tough time of rollercoaster because I was very motivated to reduce suffering and I was open to all kind of experiences that Life brought to me.
Avoiding the suffering creates more suffering.
SuperNashum k
Loneliness is our natural motivator to move us toward what we need. If we get sidetracked using electronic media, we will never move in the direction we need to go to find companionship. We just need to put down the phone and get out into places where people still socialize. There are still a few.
Eckharts laugh gets me everytime. I love it because it's so unique. Nobody else has a laugh like him. I love his humor.
I came here because I was suffering. Glad to know I'm on the right path
i have no friends. it's a desolating experience.
I'm with you
I hear you. Some (including my inner voice) would say that I have to be a friend to have a friend. And yet while the opportunities for friendships exist, maintaining them can be excruciating for me. And the realization that I could alleviate the pain makes the situation even more desolate. I am considering a pet (cat, dog, rabbit) to force (in a way I would not mind) me to become social.
Suffering is a catalyst for change. ..no doubt
He is so right in all that he said here. Suffering makes you seek freedom, truly.
social media is probably a big part of the problem. It's designed to be addictive ..people are glued to their phones ..
I’ve been single for 5 years, no sex, no hug or a kiss from the opposite sex. I sometimes think i must be crazy because it doesn’t bother me one bit. EveryI know says there’s something wrong.
Stop medicating your loneliness with social media.
Some Random Fellow Why?
Matthew Davis you need human contact
Some Random Fellow ty💗
You are incorrect, social media can be of immense value, it all depends how you, personally decide to use the media, we are not passive victims of media, we are present and active directors of it. That is the difference.
Distraction solves loneliness
Facebook is useful for finding out events or selling things, but I just have no desire to express my thoughts or feelings to another human without being physically present.
I’ve been alone for yrs now mostly because of my poor health. A spinal tumor, then a bone disease I’ve had since my teens plus fibro. I’m quite gimpy. I had 2 dogs & 2 cats, but over the yrs they’ve passed. Now I have 1 cat. I’m ok, but sometimes I wish I knew others, maybe some ppl dealing w/ their own health issues.
One of the best indications of a true spiritual guide is that he says over and over, " there is nothing I can teach you that you don't already know".
There's no worse feeling than not being able to say what you think to the people around you. I know that feeling all too well. It's better to just be alone for a while and learn to accept it. Then, maybe, you can come back with more courage to be yourself and let people reject you. I think that fear of rejection is what really makes people feel alone. You end up faking a persona so that people will not reject you, and then the people that like you like your persona, not you. Or at least that's how you end up feeling about it. Maybe they do like the real you underneath, but then if that's true, you end up feeling that they are violating you because you haven't shown that to them on purpose. Then you push back even harder with the walls of persona so that eventually the walls are so thick and so high that no one can get in no matter how loving and accepting they are of the real, authentic, vulnerable you that they see underneath.
People go to unimaginable lengths to create personas that they think people will like. Some latch onto your persona with theirs and you both fake it, but some people end up liking the real you that you think you keep hidden, and you never are really able to separate the wheat from the chaff. Then everybody seems like an enemy that doesn't really know you, and you end up blaming them for not seeing past the walls of your persona that YOU built. I should speak for myself though. This is me. I am incapable of relationships at this moment in life. I must work on myself 100%
AWESOME writing! (maybe, you can come back with more courage to be yourself and let people reject you.) THAT is where I am! Thank you for illuminating this in such a tangible manner! MUAH'S!😘
10:30 - If you watch closely, Eckhart waits for the audience to laugh, leans to the side and lets out a cheeky fart. Nobody notices. Except me 🤔
Eckhart truly is the master of The Power Of Now, as well as The Power Of Wind. 💨
Good work 🙂
Zylon FPV OMG your right I heard it.
LOL
Hahaha 😂 it seems like it
I can imagine plenty of beans are served at these events.
Zylon FPV damn somebody got that intense attention towards everything!
Lmao.
I Love how he says something like, when you are alone and then you start to suffer so you engage in a relationship. That is fine for a while and then you are experience suffering again then you find something else, etc. It is so true. We look for new relationships, jobs, homes, friends, and so on - Being aware enough to look within at that moment and find the real source of suffering
Eckhart Tolle reminds me of Yoda
Just thought of it too. Legend
Reminds me of Yoda, Eckhart Tolle does.
😂😂👍👍💚💚 Lol
Closing Facebook: best thing I ever did. Your true friends are foregrounded, the dross falls away, and you are left with the riches waiting in yourself.
I don't feel lonely often but when I do, being around people solves the problem every time. I love people but don't enjoy them very often. Don't enjoy small talk much.
Eckhart is naturally funny.
Genius guy he is
He is naturally funny because he is completely in tune with the source of life itself. We are all naturally perfect. beautiful , when in that state that he describes. The humour is coming from the source of life itself :)
Beautiful so clear. Soooo spot on
Beautiful so clear sooo spot on.
Samuel White
I've been with myself all my life and that is lonely people need people
wow powerful advice. Loneliness converts to solitude with present moment. Such genius. What you are seeking is within you
I have been living in my head for years! I don't how to get out!
Aloneness and silence are two aspects of one experience, two sides of the same coin. If one wants to experience silence one has to go into one´s total aloneness. It is there.
We are born alone, we die alone. Between these two realities we create a thousand and one illusions of being together - all kinds of relationships, friends and enemies, loves and hates, nations, races, religions. We create all kinds of hallucinations just to avoid one fact: that we are alone. But whatsoever we do, the truth cannot be changed. It is so, and rather than trying to escape from it, the best way is to rejoice in it.
Rejoicing in your own aloneness is what meditation is all about. The meditator is one who dives deep into one´s aloneness, knowing that we are born alone, we will be dying alone, and deep down we are living alone. So why not experience what this aloneness is? It is our very nature, our very being.
- Osho
We are not born alone, we are born of others, and sadly we only die alone if we stand in isolation, accepting connections is one way of unplugging loneliness, to me loneliness is a parking bay for the mind, when you're done parking you'll back out and drive off again.
You are speaking on the level of form , a mind based consciousness, while Ramesh (quoting Osho) is speaking about the essence of Being. Two different level of consciousness; not to say that both cannot be integrated; the essence of being can always be there , whether in a parking bay or driving off into a sunrise or a sunset or whatever...
poppy cee ...I AGREE WITH YOU 100%. I cannot tolerate people that say this all the time that we are born alone and die Alone. We are born with our loving parents and our first embrace is through their loving touch and held in safety. If we die Alone, it can be for many different reasons, but we shouldn't have die Alone. We are meant to love and be loved. It's horrible being alone. We all need to change it if this has crossed our path.
Powerful.
Rita Lucia. Not all parents are loving........some people grow up with hating parents.
It is indeed easier to move from a place of unhappiness to awakening, than it is to move from a place of happiness to consciousness. Most of us get motivation from pain. My case at least. 🙏
Follow what makes you feel happy, follow what makes you feel inspired, follow what grounds you and brings you joy. All else follows.
I have traveled the world alone and felt this extreme, extreme disconnect. What solved this for me was taking myself to film from my home country, taking warm showers, a teddy bear and being held by a companion.
Eckhart is so funny and honest.
Accepting your loneliness is the fastest way to overcome it.
Is it really that bad to be lonely or are not happy with yourself?
What is inside of you that your running away from. The only cure is through it. How do get rid of fear by steping to it. Id invite you to Accept your self and how u feel. Notice any judgment or resistance to it. Keep feeling it one step at a time eventually it will pass. Only if u stay consistent. Head up champ you got this 👊
True, about suffering, I am going through a very unhappy part of my life.
I can totally relate to all that this man was saying. I have gone through a LOT of emotional sufferings brought on my childlike trust in people. At 69 yrs old, I decided to start a new life where people are generally happy - not so much a dog-eat-dog society as was my experience living in Nth. America. No friends or relatives. Although there are many activities that I could do and groups to belong to, I am no longer motivated to do those because I am enjoying and loving my solitude. It’ll probably turn my brain into tofu, but that’s ok, too. I have life’s life to its fullest.
Well it's who we are inside which will determine if we can be with ourselves. The prisoner throws a temper when they are asked to go in solitary confinement while the Monk gets excited to go in Solitary Confinement. When you feel Lonely i would say take this time to value the time with yourself so you can go back in the world as a better version of yourself.
“The only way that you can find what you are seeking is within you, in the present moment” ❤️
shut up
And the Awakened One said unto him: "Go forth and get laid, but remaineth in presence, always."
This is one of the best explanations of our root feelings and life. I am gradually becoming led to look at the Buddhist thinking. Having visited Thailand 2 times , on day 2 of visit 1 , I already knew I had found something beyond all my previous life experience. Not just a 'holiday' but something that was missing always in my life. An awakening ....
I have balked at awakening, at truly giving up ego, for decades. As my life has wasted away, God (I am Christian) has ramped up my suffering horribly (loss of mental and physical health, homelessness, divorce, estrangement from children). I feel like I am one of the actors at the end of the classic movie, "Papillon," and that I must eventually choose decisively between risking death to obtain spiritual freedom or slinking back to the dungeon of spiritual sleep. The suffering is the prodding of the universe to grow, and the price we pay for refusing to grow.
I think we travel so much as we are natural outsiders questioning the big concepts or trying to do more heart work... and yes India and Nepal are destinations for deeper thinkers and humanitarians.. ive been single 22 years and i find on the road is the most fun and company I get, i come back to a "first world country" like Australia and I feel so lonely. I also have a charity in Nepal and bc of covid Im locked down.. as an introvert there is some peace and cleaner skies but i miss my wandering and Himalayan tribe ...
Why am I watching this, one of the happiest moments of my life was when I didn't see another person for weeks.
OMG the wisest quote is how the dog is sweetest friend as they pass no judgement, great teaching,
happend to me ,that in order to be free of a certain amount of suffering that was causing me huge health problems ,i had really to let go . and there is no book or spiritual teacher telling you ,how to do it. you must figure it out yourself .cause its unique way for every being here. and to decide to let go i had to reach a very very low point . was like a death . my desicion was : take me away home ,or let me live a good life. :) but that was like diyng inside . other fears reach me in the last years and probably when i will hit the ground again ....i WILL KNOW...IT'S TIME TO RISE AGAIN .
I understand what he is saying that you don't need anything but yourself. But my god is it hard to have been so alone for so long...I am not really handling it all that well.
tortuga We all don’t,after you had many Dissapointments it gets better,until you understand 2 ☹️ people don’t bring Happiness!They are 2x as unhappy,so first take care off you!
When I am alone for a few days there is no chattering of people in my ears when I go to bed. After a while I sense that there is a feeling of some stranger in the room. It turns out this stranger is the body and the human being connected to it. That means that through this isolated space it becomes possible to sense your own human nature as something apart from yourself - yourself being absolute awareness (the all seeing eye, the ultimate observer, the formless consciousness, the I behind the event horizon). So strictly speaking you are not alone. Getting settled in spirituality might take time. Easily 10 years and majoring will go on ask long as we life in this body. It would also be nice to live a normal life but that is not for us to decide. Some say that awakening is grace, you could also say it is a compulsion. Anyway if you grow in wisdom you will become more and more comfortable with being alone.
Klarissa It is strange to feel that way,the being thinks ho is that stranger??I feel whole wenn ich lachen muss about funny Things or I’m in tune with Nature!If I feel lonely I go in the Forest and all the Movies an TV,make me feel bad,the Peace I usually have,is gone!As I lissen to E.Tolles Videos, I fall asleep some times,it’s like he is in the Room with me!!There is so match Peace in the Room,the same as in Nature!!
I'm pretty sure the poor, the disenfranchised, those being abused by super powerful forces (corporations, governments...) need more than themselves.
fluffleSings I’ve had 13 years stuck at home having been pensioned off with ongoing physical health problems. There’s only so much time being alone in my flat that is tolerable. I lost my partner the year I retired.
Please don’t tell me to go and join a book club or the like. If I was well enough to do that I’d be well enough to work! I have spinal arthritis, and after 30 years as a teacher I am now more or less alone. I have days when I relish being alone and having space, but I also have many days when I’m far too isolated and things are out of balance. I don’t believe human beings were made to be alone for long periods of time, caused by circumstances beyond their control. There are a lot of people - particularly the old - who find themselves alone and lonely. We should be as mindful of our need to belong and to interact, as we are of our need to spend some time alone.
Great question from this young man..loneliness is good to talk about.
The reason you feel lonely is that you're not giving enough attention to your (self) => Your (self) is the one feeling lonely while your attention is away in the past or the future. Totally unrelated to other people & relationship.
Yesterday at work,very briefly I had feeling of absolute joy,calmness and serenity then it left, it was the best feeling I have ever experienced. If this s what Eckhart means.
If you're reading this, know that you are capable of all the good things in life!
Since life is an illusion. I am blessed to be loved by many for I am love and I wish to continue to row my boat gently down the stream with someone who is also rowing their own boat gently down the stream... For in the end life is but a dream!
With a light heart and an impish smile, Eckhart always uncovers the method (or plan) behind the madness we ourselves create of our living conditions.
Eckhart Tolle is a brilliant man... he inspires me a lot, although i'm busy with spiritual exercise already.
Thank you Mr. Tolle!
my suffering is starting to teach me things, positives and negitives and my automatic response, my suffering exposes my compultions. slowly through life i am becomming less and less compulsive, opening time for something to emerge from within. i see my suffering as a proscess, almost like im trusting in my suffering to lead me out and teach me things along the way.
I can't deal with anymore of these "loneliness is OK if you just accept it" speeches. Medical science shows again and again that chronic loneliness is tightly linked with many biomedical risks. Seeking out and enjoying solitude--that's "a great thing." Loneliness--especially if it's chronic--is not.
One of the few sane comments.
If not enough suffering for yourself, then suffering of others...humans, animals, Earth. Through seeing the immense suffering of animals via humans and our factory farming, animal testing is enough for me to suffer for them emotionally. I am motivated to help liberate animals via being a present human being conscious of animals pain. Naturally others have come to me to ask about transitioning to a plant based diet and then that brought me to getting educated on nutrition/animals/environment.
Youre such a beautiful human being!
God bless you
HUG--->Caroline
I know you didn't mean to speak to me. But you did. You kind of confirm what I've suspected for a long time. I know that in my darkest night, I'll think of what you've said and draw hope from it.
How can I try to put into words to describe this video? This pep talk from Tolle is a remainder that external seeking without good footing in our being can cause suffering.
My life is too easy to end my loneliness and end my failure. Fighting my suffering was the only thing that motivated me to achieve the impossible.
being aware of aloneness made me realize solitutude, thank you again Eckhart
Not sure why but I can't hear at all when Eckhart talks. With Mooji I hear everything with every part of my being.
Love and peace to all beings.
Eckhart is amazing, he snuck an Eckfart at 10:34
I have been medicating my loneliness (no friends fantastic sis that makes up for it) with social media It's helped me research the things I want to do to the fullest
Great video! 9:25 One of the best ET gems: "The only place you can find what you're seeking is within you in the present moment.....Are you motivated enough to have that intensity of presence?" BOOM! Took him a bit to settle into truth, but ET never disappoints! Thank you!
jabba0975 jj dive deep
That sentence is meaningless. At least it's non-objective.
As very often his answer takes form meanwhile. He just trusts that it will come and it does. Did he ever say I don't know? It seems logical to sometimes say I don't know. But I guess he always has "the now" up his sleeve.
Eckhart is right. This guy has it too easy. Travelling alone for 2 years sounds very lonely and unstructured.
"intensity of presence, is important to cut through the mind."
Fear is the belief that happiness can be taken away or deprived by an external circumstance/judgement - death being the reason we chose to think so originally
I just learned that to keep seeing myself for who I am and it's a narrow road out here!
I just love Eckhart. Thanks for this message.
Life always gives what you need...
WALK
“To be away from home and yet to feel oneself everywhere at home…”
- Charles Baudelaire on the Flâneur
The way you walk is your walk.
From a great distance, you can recognise your mum or brother by the shape of their walk, a mile away.
Your walk is your DNA in motion.
Your walk is your spirit saddling your body like a horse and taking it for a ride.
When you meet someone for the first time and they walk towards you,
you witness their vulnerability though the nakedness of space -
you see their whole body unconsciously attempt to own the earth in the face of impossibility.
It's why when you see someone with a swagger, or a
rehearsed
dance
move,
it gives you a sense of sorrow.
These are moves for an earth unowned, a life unlived.
But it's why a walking conversation with a good friend is one of
the loveliest things possible.
And you are never alone.
Not alone at all.
If you want to summon the familiarity of your spirit, all you have to do is
walk the earth.
Even if it's down to the shops.
Eckhart is so funny I roar with hearty laughter when he describes the human condition. Yet when we are in the condition, that causes all our suffering!! Suppose that's why he says "be the witness"
I notice in many Eckhart talks, the audience was women predominantly. This is amazing, it seems that more women love spirituality than men.
minares minares I think women are more open and aware,but Mann will follow!Its amazing how Women are gifted!We suffer more,maby that’s way we are more open?
feminine/gynergy is spirtually passive and receives spirituality more easily. Masculinity must strive and work through giving to achieve this same connection to spirituality. I believe all valid spiritual teachings acknowledge this.
There is no passive and active spirituality. Women are emphatic, intuitive, they are processing emotions better. So men need women as an advisors in life and in work. Also as an maternal figure in the world. Everyone needs a women. But men are more competetive, want to prove something in this world but women don't have that need because they know who they are. They are living day to day life knowing who they are. It is not that woman is a passive, she just doesn't have a need to prove something because she is enough, sure who she is in this world, nature. She has emotional, sexual power and gives new life. So I am not surprised that women are in bigger numbers at this kind of events at all!
Rosi Szanyi thats what I was thinking. Its not a women vs men issue. I think its because of suffering. From suffering comes awareness
Guys do a bad job of taking care of themselves, facing their sensitive side, being vulnerable, reaching out for help, etc. etc Women outlive men, on average 7-8 years.....Women are smart enough to take care of themselves
Loneliness and being alone are two different things.
I don't feel lonely when I meditate. But he's right. I still have the human side with me.
So much wisdom! He is a modern-day Buddha
God Bless you Eckhart you changed my life
Don’t Be lonely.. Enjoy the solitude
M. Heureux knows... clearly he does know... he'd better turn off his devices. I suppose they comfort us, along the level of comfort-food, make us feel safe and accompanied. Books aren't much different. And here am I, tuning in on my mac. M. Heureux: - Happy New Year, to all of us, and thank you.
Eli Nannestad how do you know his name? What is the first name.?
Sonya, M.Hereux was written on the guy's shirt.
Thank you Eckhart. This helped me a lot. And also brought joy and laughter into my day. Many blessings. 🙏
When I'm alone and feeling down, I turn to my favourite thought, " from the moment we are conceived, to long after we pass, everything we do we do for others, good and bad, on exceptions. The choice is yours, it helps me see things from a wider perspective.
Chris Topher Sorry you sound Conditiont,like a record Player!If you don’t like ET don’t listen to him!!
Love his authenticity 🧚♀️
His a lovely French man and the accent so beautiful. You won’t be lonely with me 😇😇😇😇😻😻😻🐈🐈
He is German and not French 🙏🏻
Paw Prints Jersey Be carefull off Germans!!Cold in the Heart,and he seems to enyou doing nothing!That means you go and bring the Money to live an,good Luck!!!
M V Eckardt is german. And the young good looking guy is french
Rosi Szanyi Wow! Racism! You do not seem to be german...
HAHAHA!!!! X Hello handsome X
“ How can you be lonely when the entire universe is inside of you ?!? “ ~
Intensity of prescence is required ...and motivation ....that's it ....☺
His answer had so many nuggets of wisdom!
Loneliness is sooooo painful 😔
Do not use social media..or do not give it importance...
5:45 There is the human part of you - that is the form - and the being part of you - that is the essence
Social media is immensely powerful, it is a huge potential for good-it is now fashionable to criticize social media and talk about 'brainwashing'-it was far worse when we were passive recipients of broadcast media! Now we have a true, two-way communication dynamic, this is cause for great joy.
Michael Gorman absolutely! I lived that other age.. the difference is enormous.. of course, some idiots try to spoil the fun and it seems like they try to see how far they can go with it, like naugthy children.. and of course they also have followers....
I think it is not very good because by definition social media is only for the mind not being. We are bound only by past and future and never the true moment for ourselves
Who is watching the Social Media watchers??
social media is designed to make u addicted to it and is evil. it can be okay for people with good self control
Right, now anybody blathering on and on mindlessly to the tune of hundreds of millions is a cause for joy.
I respect it very much that mister Tolle is impartial about religions . Yes unity in impartiality . Only the power of now , nonviolence , peace and love .
You are never alone. Thats the biggest illusion in this world.