HEMORRHAGING, STITCHING, & WHAT TO EXPECT // What No One Tells You About After Birth
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Welcome to episode #4 of my girl talk series! Today we are chatting about all the gory and beautiful details of the events that happen following the brith of your baby.
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Lolol birth**** not brith 😂 Comment below your experience! Was it it good or bad? What happened that you weren’t expecting? Let’s share our stories and support one another 🧡🧡
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I had the same "connection experience" with my kids! When my son was born, he was our first child and everything, but he was an emergency C-section. I was so drugged I couldn't even hold him for almost a whole day. My husband was WAAYYY more connected to our son, but when our daughter was born 15 months later I couldn't let any family or anyone else hold her. Somehow I just bonded better with her...the mom guilt over this is VERY present and real! My son is the sweetest, most helpful child I've ever met; he loves me and always wants to spend time with "Mama". I love them both so much, but I had to really work to establish that connection with my son, when it came right away with my daughter.
Mom brain, that’s real too 😜
Allover it was a grear experience. I just wasn't expecting to go from 4 cm to 10 in 1,5 hours. The nurses were also shocked, especially because it was my first pregnancy.
I had a high risk pregnancy and ended up having an emergency c-section. My husband got to hold our daughter for the first hour because I was put under for my c-section. However I would go through it all over again to have my amazing little girl.
Hey Delilah! Maternal child nurse here 👋 the reason your nurses were so adamant about you peeing after birth when you were experiencing post partum hemorrhage is because a full bladder will take up more space and prevent de uterus from contracting back to it’s original size and position, hence the bleeding! Loved the video as always xox
I had a similar experience with my daughter as far as connecting. People talk about it being a magical moment, but it wasn't for me. My iron was so low, so I was mentally out of it. I remember thinking she was cute, but there were no rainbows lol. But that's okay! Mommas will connect with their babies later, even if it's not immediately. It's not anything to worry or stress about. :)
@@MsZoedog66 Yes! I had anemia during and after pregnancy, and I never knew that it could make a person so mentally out of it until I experienced it very badly myself. It is a hard thing to deal with.
Same here. I'd been awake for about 40 hours by the time my son was born. When they put him on me, I kept saying "oh my God" (bc wow I just gave birth) and moaning in pain from them pushing on me to get the placenta out + stitching me up and ignoring me when I told them I could feel them stitching me. The pressure to feel bonded to your baby right after birth is unnecessarily stressful, there's so much going on in that moment.
My story: at my 38 week appointment, I measured 37 weeks when every time before I measured on track. My stomach was noticeably smaller to me and I was leaking the slightest amount of watery clear fluid once in a while. One morning around 38-39 weeks I woke up on my back and my stomach just looked so small and I could almost see my sons body due to my stomach sinking in around him. So we went to Labor and delivery to get checked. They did a swab for amniotic fluid and it was negative so we got sent home. Fast forward to when I was in labor and my OB went to break my water and there was NO WATER. I should have trusted my gut and I have no idea why they didn’t do an ultrasound to check my fluid levels but i wish I would have requested one. We’re lucky our son survived for 2 weeks without fluid. It caused the cord to wrap around his neck and during labor every contraction made his heart rate drop to 45-50. I was sleep deprived, terrified and so out of it. I barely said one word my whole 9 hour labor and I don’t remember a lot. My epidural was a breeze except it only worked on one side for the most of it. But it didn’t hurt to have it put in. My mind was so set on doing what I had to do to get through it and bring my baby into the world alive. I pushed him out in 5 minutes and he was healthy but his skin was extremely peely for a few weeks due to no fluid in the womb. 2 days after birth I was losing a lot of blood clots so we went to ER. He did a pelvic exam and sent us home. WHY WOULD THEY NOT DO AN ULTRASOUND TO LOOK FOR RETAINED PLACENTA?! 5 weeks after he was born I hemorrhaged and lost a huge chunk of tissue which presumed to be retained placenta. This taught me not to trust the doctors all the time... next time I will know better.
I am so sorry you had to go through this nightmare!! Thank you for sharing. You are an amazingly brave woman!
I am so sorry you had this experience. This is so scary! I am so glad you and your baby are okay.
Omg! So glad you and baby are okay
Where was this? In the states?
That's soooo aggravating and I'm so sorry! Doctors often ignore pregnant women's concerns because "that's pregnancy, everyone's is different, body changes, blah blah blah." The amount of times I forced myself to not curse out my doctor for not taking me seriously.....
I am not a mother or even married.. but I love watching these! :)
same here!
Same, but thanks to her videos I want a husband and babies soooo badly! Unfortunately, I am single, introverted and don't know what to do. 🙄
Same. Fingers crossed my SO and I will get married soon. But for me I watch them because I desperately want to be a mother and these videos help keep my mind off it not “being my time”. If that makes any sense.
Same here lol
Same
Hi, can you make a video about the struggles of first time parents. And how the first year with Eloise was? Mental health and all.🧡
Please!!!! Need to know I'm not alone in the struggle
Jenni G ladies, we are not alone. I just gave birth to my baby girl, she’s 6 weeks old. From the get go, I’m not one to ask for help so not knowing what to do and not acknowledging that I need help has made it very difficult for me. But it really does get better and then challenging again but I go back to the fact that difficult times are not permanent and that my baby will not always need me for everything.
I'm not even close to being prego (I'm only 16!), but I am very interested in becoming a midwife or l&d nurse! I find this perspective very thought-provoking!
Omg me too! A lot of people think I’m crazy for having so much interest in this already, but I find this entire field really empowering. Best of luck to you and your future career path:)
@@soph4508 awwww... thank you! you, too!
I think that would be a very rewarding career!
YES FOR GIRL TALK🙈💗
That uterus massage and stomach pushing is awful I felt like a ketchup packet! I’m convinced my doc passed my baby right away to me to distract me from everything that was going on down under because it was a mess 😂 and that was my first baby last fall and I’m getting ready to do it all again this fall hahaa.
The ketchup packet is the greatest analogy I have heard 😂 the doctor did the same thing for me & kept telling me to “look at the baby!” to distract me but nothing can from that kind of pain
That's the best analogy. Dude, but its hot, liquidy ketchup. Yea, that was too detailed...
Giving birth next month! I am so excited and as much as I hear about other people's stories, I just take them at face value and don't allow anything to freak myself out. My birth will be my own and just because something happened to someone else doesn't mean that it will happen to me. I will always listen for information and I just find birth so fascinating and interesting, but I continue to keep positive, stress-free thoughts because any worrying or stressing isn't going to help me or baby. Our bodies are made to do this as women, and I am just grateful for the chance to experience it. I am hoping for a natural, unmedicated birth but I'm also keeping my expectations very open and I will take things as they come and make the best decision in the moment. More than anything me and my baby girl are a team and we will do this together. I am so excited to finally meet my girl 💕
I've had 2 completely different birthing experiences, first was an emergency c-section with the baby having to go to nicu, second birth was a vaginal one with the baby coming right into my arms and staying with me ever since. It was exactly what I needed to recover from that first birth, it was a healing experience to deliver a baby naturally in a calm environment with nurses and communication and not in some sterile operation room. I always feel guilty for not having felt an instant connection to my firstborn as I have with my second, but it's just what it is.
The only thing I could have done without after the vaginal birth was getting stitches, that was terrible 🙈 also I can't remember getting a uterus massage or any contractions while breastfeeding.. but every birth and every body is different.
Thanks for telling us all about your experiences 💕
Yes, same about stitches! I went through my whole natural birth with no pain killers whatsoever. But for stitches they had to give me two shots of numbing pain killers and gas, and I could still feel everything... It felt like it took hours. Absolutely the worst part of my after birth experience.
@@Owca2512 I feel you ♡ but did it heal well during postpartum?
@@StarsOut27 I am almost 5 month postpartum and the wound is healed but it is not very even which can cause discomfort. I know from other surgeries I have had they it may take even more than a year for a scar to smooth out so I still hope it is gonna get better. I am from Poland and unfortunately a lot (some sources say even 80%) of women have stitches because they get incision 😕
@@Owca2512 oh hey neighbour I'm from Germany!🙋🏼♀️ 80% is quite a lot! I think here in Germany the rate is much lower. I've heard that the healing process is easier if it's not cut. I'm almost 9 months postpartum and it's healed pretty good I think. Hope you'll feel better soon ♡
I hear you on the traumatic experiences. My first birth was a vaginal stillbirth, and second living baby was an an emergency c section.
I am glad you were able to have a successful VBAC!
Would Zach do his perspective on how the births went for him? Lexie Thiery recently did one and I loved it. There aren't enough videos out there for men on the man's perspective
I’m in my first trimester and it feels so good to hear you talk about birth honestly and positively. Thank you for being you!! Love from Lethbridge, AB 💛💛💛
Could you do a video about “mom guilt” and how your personal mental health has changed after becoming a mom as well as after your second birth experience? Did you deal with baby blue, postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, or episodes of rage/postpartum anger? Do you have any advice for couples adjusting to being parents for the first time or going from one child to two? I think it would be cool if you and Zach (sorry if I spelled his name wrong) could touch on this and give your advice to other couples!
I never wanted to be a mama, but watching your girl talk videos made me rethink and sort of want to be a mom. It’s inspiring, and I really adore your honesty.
Mine was very traumatic. My son didn't breathe for four minutes at birth and we had to watch him be resuscitated which was harrowing. Thankfully he was okay. For myself, I tore to the 2nd degree and lost too much blood to the point where I needed two blood transfusions. It was a slow recovery and I had complications as well as an infection. I'm just glad to be passed that really hard time now one year later
Could we get Zach’s thoughts about your labor and delivery experience?
Yesss
i love these girltalk videos!!! the honest truth of this stuff is great
Thank you for using this platform to educate women on this topic! There is so much stuff like this that is not discussed but its so important. I plan on having kids one day (like a while since I don't even have a bf lol) and this type of video is helpful. Its so important for me to be prepared and educated.
Loved watching this! It always lights me up to see insightful and honest information being shared about birth in such an open way. It's the ENTIRE reason why I started my channel about birth, there just is not enough accessible information out there for birthing people. I love seeing this content mixed in with your motherhood stuff, please keep sharing! xo.
The uterus massages hurt worse for me than actually giving birth. It was the worst pain I have ever felt. I wish I would have known that before giving birth but also thankful I didn’t haha. Ignorance is bliss sometimes :)
Oh gosh I feel so bad for the ugly look I gave the nurse when she did the first massage. However, at least it was just an ugly look, kinda wanted to slap her hand away 🤷♀️
Same with my first...it was horrible! Wasn't that bad with my second thankfully!
I love your energy and look on things. Also great content, this is what women wants to hear, real and honest ♥️
Delayed cord clamping is very beneficial. The placenta can contain up to a third of the baby's blood. Delaying allows that blood to go back to baby, providing higher blood volume and stem cells that can help repair any injury which sometimes occurs during the birth process.
Just came over from your birth story and wow, thank you so much for sharing this. I'm due any day now with my first baby and I just wish people would share more about everything that happens! So much of my pregnancy has been a mystery till it happens.
I wish someone had told me about that stomach pushing before I had my baby! 😫
Delilah, could you make a video on how you plan to discipline your children as a christian mother? Especially can you talk about wether you think spanking is right or wrong according to the Bible?
A woman’s ability to give birth is something truly special! Not matter how it happens, home birth, hospital, natural, epidural, c-section, doctor, midwife, etc. When I gave birth I loved my OB so it was a positive experience overall. I had to be induced since little man did not want to come out and I wasn’t even close to a 1 at 41 weeks, but I wouldn’t change having an inducement or epidural at all! My husband is an ER doc and has delivered babies before so he assisted and it was awesome! We didn’t find out the gender so hearing my husband yell, “it is a boy” just totally filled my heart. I didn’t get to hold him though for more than a few seconds due to the fact he tested positive for e Coli and has to be IV’d and hooked up right away. We stayed in the hospital with him for ten days for recovery but he pulled through like a champ and is a happy and healthy 6 month old (who never sleeps haha)
Yes!! I'm due in September and have wanted to know all about after birth. I feel like no one talks about it. Only the whole birthing process. Thank you so much Delilah! ❤️❤️
It took me 3 to 4 MONTHS to feel that special connection. I mean I loved my child, but this special overwhelming motherlove came very late for me. It is not unusual and it was scary at the same time. So if anybody of the community feels like that: There is NO shame in your feelings! It will come and it will be the best feeling in the world. I promise you never knew that you are capable of so strong emotions! You are valid! Everything is gonna be alright.
I had my baby at a birthing center. And it was absolutely incredible! The only thing was I had a hard time delivering the placenta. I was so weak from a fast birth that I just couldn't push it out. They had to give me a shot of pitocin to help my uterus but I eventually got it out! All the while I was loving on my sweet babe! 🥰
I was shocked at the amount of blood that continued to flow out of me after birth! Once I had a bath about 4 hours after birth and a normal meal I felt much more like myself. Still the most amazing experience of my life!
I had my first baby in February and it was a pretty traumatic experience. I ended up having an emergency c-section after being in labor for 23 hours and pushing for over 3 of those hours. my baby was rushed to the NICU, thank the Lord he was completely healthy so I was able to see and hold him for the first time soon after but oh man was I completely out of it from all of the pain medication as well as the exhaustion from laboring for so long! My after-birth memories feel kinda fuzzy but I remember just being in awe and amazement when I met my son for the first time I literally gasped “where did you come from?!” lol. I feel you on the massage, that was sooo painful and the cramping while breastfeeding lasted weeks for me! I’m praying for a better birthing experience next time around, my goal is to have an unmedicated vaginal birth like you but in a birthing center. Thanks for sharing your story!
Oh my gosh YES, I wish someone had told me about the uterine massage. I had that too, shockingly painful. 😫
I am due in two weeks with my first baby - a girl! This was super helpful to hear about your birth experiences. It sounds like they are all different and I am excited/nervous to go through mine! I am hoping for an unmedicated vaginal birth, but we will see how it goes!
I had my 1st baby 13 hours before Theo was born. Since this was your second time around you were a lot more knowledgeable on everything baby then I was. It was a lot of fun to indirectly be pregnant pales with you. Your videos helped and are helping me so much with raising my little boy. It just helps to know that I’m not alone in all of this even when our experiences have been very different.
When it comes to my birth story. I honestly can’t remember almost any of the directly after stuff. I have a protection mechanism that my brain does, where it blocks out a lot of the traumatic experiences I have faced. So that mixed with utter exhaustion and loss of blood and everything. I don’t remember a lot. My husband and mom have had to fill me in on the missing details. And listening to your story helped me remember small details as well. 🤗
I didn’t have that instant connection with my baby either. I hardly even remember holding him before they told me to go clean up. It felt like less than 5 minutes. My husband said it was about 15. So I didn’t get the bonding time I wanted. But I did get more after being transferred to my next room. The next morning I just remember nurses and specialist coming one after another to check on things and to ask us questions and inform us on many different things. I was over whelmed for a majority of my hospitality stay. There was calm times when they were not coming in. But during those times I had a hard time relaxing due to trying to remember all that they had asked me. Though I will say there was one question I kept getting asked about. It was some kind of shot to fight against stds I think. Usually given to young women that have multiple partners. I kept telling them I didn’t think I’d need it. Finally after getting fed up with them asking. I said “What do you think HUSBAND?” The nurse mouth “Okay” while slowly backing away. They didn’t ask any more. Lol! In her defense they had different nurses ask me almost every time I was asked. I was just over repeated myself at the time. 👪
Love love love girl talk. Although I’m not a mom yet, and don’t plan on being one for a few years, you are by far the most informative, and REAL mom I’ve come across on RUclips. Love you so much. ❤️
Thank you for your words on breastfeeding right after birth! I love hearing someone advocate for the importance of immediate and on-demand breastfeeding in regards to establishing and maintaining milk supply. 💕
Never had personal experience but I did fundal massage in nursing school while in L&D rotation. I’m in the USA.
My first was a girl. Carried to 40 weeks. She was breech so I was told I had to do a cesarean birth. I hadn’t even given that a thought. I was completely convinced I would go all natural. I was so nervous but in the end I was happy with the way it all happened. I am due with my 2nd baby the end of July. It’s a boy! Totally different pregnancy but because I want to get my tubes tied I’m opting for another cesarean. I have a small want to try for a VBAC but I know it’s riskier with how close my births have been and I wouldn’t be able to get the tube procedure done.
It's funny how different everyone's experience can be. For me the pushing on the stomach was very mild and didn't bother me much at all, but I could hardly walk at ALL for like 2 weeks afterwards! Thank goodness my husband was laid off because he had to get the baby and pass him to me for nursing because I couldn't hold him and stand up / sit down.
Have never been pregnant and no plans to get pregnant anytime soon, but I watch every. single. one. of these videos (and all your others, who am I kidding?!🤷♀️)
I hemorrhaged after both of my births and had to be put under in the OR for stitches both times. I definitely was not prepared for all of the blood loss. I even had to have a blood transfusion the first birth. Even with all of that going on, I still remember my births as absolutely magical.
My husband and I were going to start trying in March. I had been on prenatals for 3 months...then with covid we thought it best to wait. It's hard to wait! I will be 34 in a few months and clock is ticking. I love your videos Delilah! I can live vicariously through your stories! Love the nitty gritty stuff. I would rather know everything even if it's a bit scary and gross lol.
Same for us! It's very hard but a good time to cut down on my 5 cups of coffee a day 😳☕ Good luck :)
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who didn't feel an instant connection with my son. I had a c-section and everything felt so surreal to me. It was only on day 2/3 when they finally left him with me for the night that I felt that connection. I was scared to death and felt so guilty for not 'recognising' (if that makes sense) the little one that I'd been carrying this whole time. It's like meeting a penpal in person for the first time even though you've been chatting for 9 months, it's still new ;D
Thank you for this girly pillow talk!!! It's great that more and more RUclipsrs nowadays talk about what happens after birth and not only during labour. 💪😊
i am almost 25 now and we're planning to marry and have children in the next years. who knows what will happen.. but i love to hear as many different stories as i can so i will hopefully not be scared :) love from germany
OH. MY. GOSH. The uterus massage. I had NO idea either. The first time the nurse pushed on my stomach to do that, everything gushed out BUT ALSO there was queefing and I was like what the heck just happened?! I had an epidural so I looked at my husband thinking he farted and when I realized it was me, I burst into laughter and couldn’t stop and even made the nurse start laughing too 🤣
I had to be stitched up for half an hour after giving birth 😬 Thankfully I had my daughter to distract me. The doctor still to this day won't tell me how many stitches I had, but I'm sure it was a ton. My only request the entire time was that I wanted to see the placenta. I'm not exaggerating when I say that the doctor, resident, and nurses fought over who got to show me. Apparently it's not very common where I live to request to see it 🤷🏼♀️
Contractions afterwards... definitely painful and annoying after the delivery of my baby girl, and also the uterus massage was a surprise to me as well! Giving Birth is crazy but to think of it as a memory now it was so beautiful to experience ❤️
I know this is just one perspective but it’s so reassuring to hear someone else’s experience, especially from Canada as a majority of these videos I find are US based. I’m 27 weeks today and I’m loving pregnancy, but I can’t wait to meet my little baby soon!
I’m due In October and love that you make such information filled videos on each part of motherhood! I can’t wait to be a mom and love having your channel as an amazing guiding light!
I absolutely love this series! Makes everything feel so natural (which it is) and it makes me so happy and ready for what’s to come with my own buba. Thankyou for always being raw and genuine 💓
I gave birth twice. Each time it was a completely diffent experience. Each child is different as well :) connection? It all depends on the hormones, sometimes it takes half a year to come, sometimes you Just have to work on it. Don't feel guilty if it doesn't come right away. It's all hormes that we cannot control... Just love the baby.
these videos are amazing !!! I love how real you are !! We need to hear this more !! Please keep pushing out this honest content !
I’m due in july (ftm) and I’m living for your videos to keep me level headed. Our birthing class instructor even recommended your videos 🥰
After giving birth first thing they asked me was to take a shower. Was so painful to leave the bed and all the blood was on the floor. I started to shower and I cried so bad because my stitches were hurting and I was alone no help from midwifes or others. I asked for a peri bottle and they said I should have brought mine. So i had no way to put my water in my down there and this made me feel so uncomfortable. Pee hurted so bad that I regret even doing it. I felt like they had no much respect for me pushing me every second to breastfeed even so I only wanted to rest for a bit. And also were a bit rude, like they did not care that I was in pain so I was very happy to leave the hospital and go home after 30 hours or so.
I felt connected to my baby but not straight after birth, I felt like I needed my own mum so , took me couple of mins to get used to my baby and give him all the attentions he needed ❤
How awful for you, I'm sorry your experience was negative! Hopefully if you have a second you find a new hospital with caring staff. I had a c-section but my nurses were angels for my 4 night hospital stay. I'm actually looking forward to being taken care of so well after baby #2.
@@no_nap_club I really hope that will go well next time 😊
I had 2 epidurals at close to 8 cm. My first birth I had an episiotomy, mainly because my doctor was impatient for me to find the right muscles to push. I bled A LOT and had hours of uterus massage, but got to enjoy over an hour of skin to skin with my baby. My second birth was very quick. I only pushed for 2 contractions and had no tearing. I hardly bled and had no uterus massage. Unfortunately my baby had respiratory distress and I had no skin to skin with her. There was good and bad with both experiences, but my least favorite part was the episiotomy. That cut and stitches hurt every time I moved or walked for weeks!
I didn’t have any contractions when giving birth and I didn’t have any while breastfeeding. So I never really felt contraction pain but I had a c section and the pain after was hell.
I know this is really off topic but your hair looks so good! I love that length fringe on you! Honestly you are my hair inspiration lol
I totally relate with your story with the not instant connection after birth. I had that with my first one and I felt so guilty. With my second one I was not expecting to feel that connection instantly and that was much more relaxing. Thank for your honesty ☺️
I was the same with my baby boy I did not feel that instant love and connection, I had heard that this might happened but I still felt bad, luckily the bond grew stronger as the days passed.
I researched so much before giving birth about what to expect and the only thing I was surprised by was the shakes! Nobody ever mentioned getting the uncontrollable shakes after birth.
Thank you for sharing your stories with us 😀 I’ve only gave birth once and the afterbirth traumatised me i just wasn’t expecting any of it! I was getting sick from the shakes afterwards and My nurses kept trying to get me to pee too and I couldn’t pee they gave me a few hours and I ended up having to get a catheter put in fairly roughly by a not so friendly nurse.. I was so upset it made it difficult to do anything with my baby.. they left it in me for four days so I was in hospital a lot longer than I imagined I would be.. the baby blues hit hard in there and it was a lonely time.. my baby kept me strong though and the connection was and is so huge ❤️
I hemorrhaged right after giving birth as well and I can’t be sure but I really think it was because my bladder was so full. So yes, I think it’s important to pee after!
They do the stomach pushing in Australia too! I remember it was such an uncomfortable feeling and they did it a few times to see if anything else needed to be “squished out”. 🤭 P.S. I love hearing birth/post birth experiences! Even 8 months after having a baby 🤩
My water broke at 35 weeks 6 days but I didn’t start having contractions. So I went to the hospital and the doctor waited one day to see if I start contracting but I didn’t so I got induced at noon. The contractions slowly started and then they got worse and worse. Breathing through them was really helpful. At 5:30 I got induced again and at 6:59 my baby girl was born. Active Labour was 24 minutes so it was really quick. She was so blue and was barely breathing. After a few minutes of me holding her they took her from me to get her oxygen. I didn’t tear at all so no stitches and everything else was also fine. I got wheeled into my room and after my husband left to go home I got to spend a few hours with my baby in the nicu. At like 2 am I walked back to my room all by myself. I’m so glad that my baby is healthy and that my first birth was so quick and without anything bad happening to me 😂 that’s why I’m so terrified about my second one maybe it’s worse and longer the second time around😂 love from Austria ❤️
I know a lot mothers and their story's and also watched many videos about birth but many of these facts I never heard before. So thank you so much!
We just started trying for our first and your videos are helping me feel prepared for the future. You share so much and your videos are incredibly open and informative! Thank you so much for being real with us 💕💕
You're so inspiring, because of your honesty, humility and connecting manner
Loved it again
My baby was breech 😔 at 36w 6d I was in active labor and 4 cm dilated , I wasn’t in pain at all other than what felt like mild period cramps but bc he was breech it was c-section for me 😟 definitely not what I wanted but after two miscarriages I was just happy to have him in my arms safe no matter how he came
I have had 1 birth center birth and 2 homebirths, each unmedicated. Each so unique💜 breastfed each babe directly after birth, that also helps stop the bleeding.
I had a 3 hours of pushing followed by a CS for my first baby, second baby spontaneous labor and a failed VBAC, then thirs baby went into labor a week before my scheduled CS and labored for a few hours while waiting for the CS. None of the births went as planned really or what i would have imagined. My kids were all turned posterior and wouldn't descend were the issue. My c sections were tough. I think many moms aren't prepared for the possibility of a c section when they give birth and are blindsighted by it, i know i was. Every c section i had issues getting the spinal placed and getting pain under control, llq blood pressure, etc. Honestly not good memories associated with any of my 3 births. I've always felt that my body just wasn't made to birth children the way some other woman can. But i am glad my children are all healthy.
You talking about the massage and me remembering my massage and the PAAAAIIIIINNNNN oh my it was so hard but I’m glad they did it anyway because I remember a lot of blood coming out. And also I remember almost pushing the nurse away lol 😂 I said sorry so much after that
The fact you gave the uterus massage only 9 and not a, let's say 15, blows my mind! Ugh I remember all the pains so clearly and its been 19 months since my daughter was born. Contactions after breastfeeding? Ouchhhh! You trully are a superhuman! Also, lovely earrings :)
Thanks so much for sharing! You have such a comforting way of sharing tough subjects.
So amazing and crazy how each pregnancy, labor and after birth can be so different. I'm currently 26w with my second hoping to be able to enjoy the afterbirth more!
My daughter had a little difficulties coming out and had to go to the NICU. Looking back it obviously could have been much worse but at the time it was really scary and everything was quite a blur.
I think the worst part is definitely the massage along with trying to move from bed to wheelchair with legs that are dead from the epidural. 😅
Hi new to watching, have four and praying fore number 5 every labor and delivery was different as my children my 1st came out not breathing and swallowed fluids spent 5 days in nicu 3rd I bleed alot and received shots in my legs to stop the bleeding but I am bleessed to have 4 beautiful healthy girls
This is a really good description of afterbirth. We had different deliveries and I thankfully didn't hemorrhage, but it still was so similar somehow. I really liked how you described everything.
I found your channel 3 days ago and I love your videos watched so many already.. thank you
I had a lot of hemorrhaging after the birth of my daughter. They had to give me multiple medications and they put in this balloon that basically inflates inside your uterus to help control the bleeding. And wow did that hurt! It was like really severe contractions, but constant instead of coming and going. My little girl also had to be wisked away after about a minute on my chest because she wasn’t breathing super well or pinking up enough. So because of those two things together I didn’t really get that bonding moment. I was more just afraid and kind of out of it from the blood loss. But then later on i was nursing her in the middle of the night and I just got this huge rush of like... WOW I love this tiny human! So don’t worry or feel bad if it takes a while to feel that.
I love this! Haven't had a baby yet but I hope to one day! And I love watching videos like these to help me prepare for the possibilities of what can happen, though I'm sure you can never really prepare!
I’m so glad you posted this! 😄 I had two home births and now am having a hospital birth so I’m very curious to know what that time is like in a hospital.
In the US they do massage the uterus if you have a hospital birth, they don't for home births though :)
Within the first 5 hours after having my daughter, we were on the road and back home an hour and 45mins away and asleep in our own bed after a 26 hour labor! 😅Gotta love a birth center birth!🙌🏻
It took a while to bond with my son. I had just been through a lot during my pregnancy. I didnt feel that special connection as soon as he was born.. but almost close to a month later.. I just felt this rush of emotions and the "bonding" is that weird..?? IDK. Not that I dont love him.. not that I didnt. I just couldn't bond with my baby so soon..
I’m due with baby #2 tomorrow, so loving this refresher! Drrrrrreadinggg those uterus massages ☹️
I’ve had two kids and I still love watching your videos like this!
I had an absolutely awful labour 😂 I was 14 days overdue! I got to 2 centimetres, my waters broke and my little girl pooped while in the womb 😶 I had to get a test done where they scraped the top of her head to test her oxygen levels (before she was born!). I had to get 2 epidurals, the first was put in wrong, second went fine! My baby and I both had temperatures, so I had wires hanging out of everywhere 😭 After 20 mins, they c sectioned me 😆 I love my little girl and would do it all again ❤
My only experience with this was 87 hours of induced labor. Only about 5 hours of hard labor though. All of it was unmedicated. I was so exhausted by the end of it that I'm not sure if there was a magical moment when they gave me my daughter. I have to say that considering that I was pushing a miniature human out of me it did not feel as hard as I thought it would. I did tear, which was fine. I would have rather torn than gotten an episiotomy. Made postpartum rather painful for a few weeks. The uterus massage was a surprise to me as well. It was just one extra thing in a long line of poking and prodding. After that long in the hospital I was just ready to go home where I could relax much easier.
My arms felt so limp after she was born that I could not even really pull her up to my face. I remember being surprised that she did not have as much gunk on her as I thought she would. Her little face just looked so surprised at the sudden change of scenery! lol
I had severe (temporary thankfully) nerve damage that I didn't expect! I couldn't lift my right foot and my left leg was numb. So many extra doctors in my room constantly because of that.
Peeing helps the uterus to contract and stop the bleeding😉 after my 3rd, I had some pretty heavy bleeding and my first thought was "I need to pee!" I know what you mean by being TIRED after loosing lots of blood. It's an indescribable exhaustion.
Yay! I'm so excited for this video!!!
My hospital experience was good and bad. I had a fourth degree tear and I lost a lot of blood. My partner said he was surprised they didn’t give me blood. The birthing experience was amazing though and afterwards being with my daughter was incredible. My tear didn’t heal up for five months and they had to go back in. The hospital stay some of the nurses didn’t know what they were doing one of them set off the alarm with my daughter. Some of the nurses were rude to myself and also to other employees in front of me. I tried not to ask them for anything and told them I was okay or didn’t need anything, because I wanted to do it by myself. The only thing I did ask for was help with breastfeeding, because we were having trouble. They just made me feel badly for asking, when I didn’t know what I was doing. I continued trying to feed my daughter, but my supply wasn’t enough, so I ended up formula feeding her. I just want to people to realize that if for some reason you can’t breastfeed, don’t feel like you’re aren’t good enough. As long as your baby is being fed and you give it your best shot, that’s what truly matters. Hopefully, if I have another child, it will be a better experience.
You are the best youtuber! I love your channel so much!
Thank you for this!! I am pregnant with #2 but I had an emergency c-section with my first. I am hoping for a vbac this time and I was VERY uneducated on everything birth related last time because I didn't want to scare myself. I knew almost everything about babies but little about birth. But this time around, I want to be as prepared as possible! I didn't even take a birthing class last time but I definitely will be this time! Even if it is a virtual one with all this going on 😅
thanks for sharing your story!!! Not even married but I love preparing myself for the potential future!🧡
this was so good! yone topic that i'm actually super interested about is how sex was after birth. did it feel super different down there? was it painful? thank you for making these! as someone who is very excited to have a child when the time comes, these are so informative.
I had a 3A tear (so vaginal to anus) and needed 10 stitches. I also hemeraged and lost 2L of blood and needed 2 blood transfusions -- it was my first birth. I'm due with my second in October and I'm so scared of it happening again!
Hope you've had a positive birth experience this time round, and are recovering well and enjoying getting to know your baby!
The one thing I was really shocked by afterbirth was the fever/sweating. Why doesn’t anyone mention it?! It’s like the shaking during labour, the things people don’t mention become scary to a woman in labour. I thought I was developing an infection, but no, just shedding excess water by soaking through hospital sheets 🥵
''I'm worried about the whole peeing thing xD'' LOL THAT WAS MY QUESTION I nearly spat out my pepsi when I heard my question ahaha. Weak bladder questions xD I need all the knowledge I can obtain about this subject lol